Ever since getting IST and /healthy/ I am starting to look at my friends in disgust that aren't doing the same. Every time I see them now they just want to sit around and play videos games and eat frozen food. I try to talk to them about doing anything else and they always say "I know I know I'll start soon" then I see them on discording playing runescape or some shit for like 12 hours a day. Then they say they haven't had time
Has this happened to anyone else? It shouldn't be pissing me off but it really is
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I used to play classic wow for 14 hours and lift the other 2. Lots of people balance it out.
Past a certain age a man without a plane can be a bad thing
This happen to me too
You really feel like you are doing more than them and that's true
Hopefully they enconter the way to TRULY LIVE
And what did you do? Obviously they have good qualities, which is why you have them as friends. But it feels bad thinking that you're surrounding yourself with lazy people
Mog them
But not just that I mean I started reading more lifting more drinking less and became a better version of myself when I remember that I am the one doing it I just feel sorry for the rest of them because I can Encorage them But its their decition to improve...
There are too many people who doesn't want to improve just let time speak for himself
I don't respect men who are over 15% bodyfat and aren't at 80% natty peak at the very least.
I'm also starting to get disgusted. It's even worse knowing how people used to give me shit for being a fatso when I was one but now I mog them so hard LMAO.
Bros, it's not even the Vidya gamers, there are plenty of normies whose only sense of cope is beer and sports. This is ironic since I thought sports were supposed to promote healthiness. yet it seems like the people who enjoy it the most are the unhealthiest.
Why am I getting shit on for loving video games yet it's ok to do anything else??
>Why am I getting shit on for loving video games yet it's ok to do anything else??
because weak people will use any excuse to shit on someone else so they feel better about themselves, whether it's rational or not
Playing sports is healthy. Watching sports is not.
Firstly, people see video games as a childish hobby, just the way it is. Secondly, while there can be some games that are "worthwhile"* to play, most are not, like multiplayer shooters a la Halo or Fortnight or whatever.
*worthwhile here meaning, a book is helpful to the mind, TV is usually mindless. You don't walk away from it "better", "more creative", "learning new things", etc. It can be useful for socializing, sure. But if you see it as just "1 hr spent on X is the same as 1 hr spent on Y" you're doing it wrong.
you are who you associate with
Well you’re quite an butthole arnt you
It's not butthole behavior to be disgusted by slob behaviour
You arent special, so dont judge other people.
This happened to me too and what helped was realizing we have different friends for different reasons.
There are friends you’ll call when you need help moving, or when you want to see a baseball game, or just hang and watch tv. No one is going to be exactly like you and you have to just inspire them to do better and when the time comes they’ll do it or not. Then it’s your choice to react how you will.
This. It's like women. You have some women you just have sex with, some you have for emotional support, some you can sponge off of. Or like work. Some work you do because you love it, some you do because it pays a huge amount. Or like cars. Some cars you drive because they're super fast. Others because they handle incredibly. But maybe some just because they're comfortable and luxurious.
There's a time and place for everything.
Get better friends. You can’t change your current ones. I’m sure you’ve tried as much as you can. I get it pisses you off. Don’t let it. Frick them. Don’t waste your time and brain effort letting them iss you off. How to stop ruminating on them? Wish I could tell you.
>hate smokers
>hate ranch drinkers
>simple as
Idk, I feel like discovering fitness it discovering a new way of living like this anon said
I understand where you are coming from. Now that you have climbed a hill, you are looking down at those still at the base. However, it takes a team to climb the mountain on the other side. Try not to be so bitter, encourage your friends and try to include them in your journey. Obviously you can't force someone to do what they don't want to do, nor should you try. Be encouraging, and be positive towards your bros. Invite them to the gym with you! Show them it can be fun and rewarding and not just bland, tasteless, sweaty nonsense.
trips of truth thanks man. A lot of people giving advice like "I agree!" or "you're an ass" but no one actually trying to think to the future on this
Just get a gf bro lmao, stop b***hing ur " friends "
>gets a gf
>she’s fat
>complain to IST how she doesn’t want to lose weight
>Has this happened to anyone else?
Yes. But I'm also working on my mental health myself so it's not just the fats, it's everyone's behavior that disgusts me
Do they happen to be behaviors that you yourself are trying to avoid doing yourself by chance? Be nicer to yourself. It's okay to have high standards of yourself, but you can't expect perfection. You are only human after all, but one just as deserving of love as any other. That worldly love starts from within. One of the better things you could do to preserve your mental health is to spend less time on the internet, there's a constant stream of negative or superficial content that's very damaging to the psyche.
NTA but you saying that is the exact reason i hate using this place and the cognitive dissonance i have.
It IS okay to put strong standards onto the people close to you. Its not okay to push them, though. Filter those who you want to follow and want to follow you back, to each their own.
I felt alone until i convinced a friend to go to the gym, but that was a rare case and he still has ways to go. I hate the people because i see myself in them (or a version if the past). Fat, ugly, losers. And i dont hold resentment or "true hate" but disgust and pity. I mean, how could you not? And the internet thing, i shouldnt be here...
how superficial can your relations be lol
Eh. The thing is I'm straight up with them about it. I tell them yall piss me off when you won't even start taking care of yourselves and acting lazy and they just say yeah. Despite what the dudes here think I would hope they would say the same shit to me if they thought I was slipping. It's not like I just think that shit behind their backs. Definitely hoping to find the right way to get them off their asses and hit the gym with me. I know it's hard that was me for years smoking weed and just gaming all night
I get it man
I love my friends but I wonder how long they're gonna be my friends
they have
>no gf
>no studies
>no work
>no gains
>no hobbies
no nothing. we were all like that when we met, but I've worked hard since. I don't want normies for friends, I like my group of losers, but it'd be cool if they had done something witht their lives, cause at this rate I'll be married with children and a proffessional job and they're still going to be living with their parents, working minimum wage dead end jobs, no gf, playing vidya all day? how the frick am I supposed to hang out with people like that, tell my children
>yep, these are my friends
I fear I might end up friendless in a couple of years from their lack of doing anything
Holy frick dude, literally the same thing as me. It's kinda a weird situation huh? Don't want to lose them but also you want to surround yourself with people that motivate you to be better
opposite for me actually,feels good to know you can outrun and overpower most people if you really wanted to. oh and I'm also a tall muscular man who also knows how to handle knives and guns so that's great.
Yeah I'm on a similar boat. Whenever I hang out with my "geek" "gamer" friends I always tell myself damn that was awful. It's impossible for them not to discuss league of legends as if it's their job to play that game which given how many hours they must be playing weekly might as well be (I never really played league looks boring). Whenever we hang out it always ends up being playing smash project m or Mario kart Wii (yes exclusively these two games) while others are checking memes on their phones. Put memes on the tv which usually just gets unfunny after 2 or 3. Watch the same "classic" dunkey videos everyone has already seen and extremely superficial uninteresting conversation
Same situation with me and my brother, right down to the RuneScape. He always tells me how he wants to be muscular and strong like me and then EVERY FRICKING TIME I offer to bring him to the gym he refuses. I even took the time to tailor a hypertrophy program I thought he would find tolerable and made it for him in Excel all neat and shit, and he never even looked at it. Fricking fat homosexual. Sometimes you just have to give up and call them a lost cause.
Man I swear RS is one of the worst vids to have happened to dudes. I know mad people helplessly addicted to that shit
I play it too but I don't let it destroy my fricking life like him and so many people do. It's sad to see man
>be 27
>was fat (still fat imo) and lost a load of weight this last year and half
>as me and my friends reach 30 they’re getting fat while i’m getting thinner/more cut
>the infamous “frickboy” of the group is getting skipped over while i’m getting mires and women walking up to me when we’re out drinking
it doesn’t piss me off, it’s not my problem, and i started lifting just because i didnt want to look in the mirror and be disgusted. the random mires from people is nice though i must say
it's called making it Bro, congrats and keep going
Do you have a gym membership with a guest pass?
Just kidnap your friend under false pretenses one day. Tell him : ''hey bro do you want to come with me to this video game store check out used consoles/do you want to go to the arcade check out the video games'' etc.
Really try and think of something that matches their hobbies.Then you tell them ''I'll come pick you up, we can get food, my treat'' etc so they're more eager.
Then you pick them up, and you say ''oh we just gotta do one thing along the way'', ''i gotta stop somewhere''. Then you head to the gym, you get your friend in with the pass. Tell him he can ''just hang out''.
From there on out, he will be like ''wtf do i do? you're just going to work out? and i'm gonna watch?'' ...that's when you tell him ''just frick around bro''.
>tell him to come with you, you gonna warm up
>hop on treadmill, set it at incline 15, walking 1.5 to 2mile/hour pace, easy walk but sheds calories
>instruct him to do same on his
>walk for like 5-10 mins, whilst talking about his hobbies, make it feel real comfortable relaxed.
Afterwards hop off, tell him you're gonna use machines, tell him just pick one and frick around...Treat it like a hang out, like it's play.
Tell him you'll only be 20 minutes tops (the point is to not scare him away, doing something is better than nothing).
He will just start to frick around, push some machines etc, try them just out of curiosity.
At some point, give him like a nod or compliment. ''Wow bro you're already pushing the 6th pin on that machine, nice.''
Don't try and sell him, just show him that the gym is a comfortable spot, that he just has to hang out there, spend some time there.
The more confident he gets, the more likely he'll get over the mental hurdle of actually joining. You really gotta give it a playground feel.
cont...
Anyways, don't make that gym session last. As I said, it's only a ''foot in the door'' technique. 20 mins tops and you tell him ''we can go now''.
Stop for food, maybe go somewhere nicer around the area (don't say its healthier, just say ''its the closest spot'', some people have mental hang-ups about eating healthier).
You go there, order you guys some food, you pay. ''My treat bro''. Deep down he might really like the healthier food, the flavors etc.
After that, you actually take him to the spot you mentioned before, and you just treat it like a regular hangout. Don't mention the gym trip, just let him think about it on his own.
Remember people don't like to be pushed to do something, it has to be ''their own idea''.
At that point, either he mentions it back to you, and all you do is give him sign-up info like the price etc, or you tell him your schedule and ask him if he wants to go gym and grab food next time again. Make it a little routine.
You are autistic, delusional and/or above the age of 45. What's most likely going to happen is the friend just stares at his phone for 20 minutes
No, I live in the real world, with real people, where if you take somebody somewhere and hang out with them, they put their phone away for a second and you can do things together.
You're the ones with problems in your circles. Most of my friends are only a couple hangouts at the gym away from changing their lifestyles.
stop trying to change your friends to fit your superficial ego, moron. accept them for who they are, suggest new things when appropriate and try to find some more friends if you’re that much of an autist
It's natural for a man who is maturing to outgrow people who aren't maturing at the same rate doesn't mean you should be disrespectful or condescending to them but this is likely the part where you drift apart as friends and start to make new friends more in line with your values. Remember if you feel you are the smartest man in a room you need to find a bigger room
It's good that you're improving and feeling better, but be careful you don't start sniffing your own farts.
You can be friends with someone because they're chill and fun to be around. They don't have to expand your business portfolio you autist.
As long as they aren't actively harmful (Abusive, alcoholics, drug addicts, etc.), pull your dick out of your ass and learn to chill out
did you change any of the thousand times other people told you to? no?
Genuinely curious since the thread seems split:
Do people find OP’s friends unhealthy from how he described them?
Playing video games 12 hours a day and eating frozen food
that my image of the average burgeristani millenial/zoomer
regardless, i think the friends clearly demonstrated the lack of interest in op's homosexualry, he should just stop being an obnoxious c**t
Even with a lack of interest, why wouldn't you think it's ok for a friend to try to help another friend live a healthier lifestyle as
is saying?
they clearly demonstrated they're not interested, why do you think it's okay to be an obnoxious c**t?
he tried a couple of times, he should just drop it
>anybody else feel like whatever they're doing is the only right way to live and anybody who does something different is a sack of shit?
Yeah, everybody
Surround yourself with men who are actually doing something with their lives
>F5byUTmPW
what's your routine, anon?
My discord friends are lazy as shit and all either fat as frick or skinny as frick. I’m done with them tho cuz they recently started all dogpiling on whatever thing I said, even super normal straightforward obvious stuff. I’m sure it’s because they do nothing all day and just like having a target to expend all their pent up mental energy on. Frick them I actually have hope for a life of not being a loser 24/7 and am not gobs get dragged down by their extreme laziness