No idea, but I had a girlfriend who got fat when she used to be skinny. She came home in a bad mood one day and I said “you can be fat or you can be a b***h, but I can’t deal with both” she moved out that same week while I was at work. I snoop on her social media occasionally and she has gotten even fatter, so I dodge a bullet there lol
well, my gf did it, but she didn't start because of me i think, but she did continue because of me. But i just got "lucky" in that sense, you have to have a lot of willpower to do it, and in this case, be quite obcessed with validation.
>people don't change.
Not true >and you can't change people.
VERY true >will change without your influence
This is strangely true because those closest to us never seem to respond well to guidance or mentoring that might work coming from a more distant figure.
No. I don't date fat girls, nor do I think outside pressure can reform them. It has to come from within.
You're right. People don't change, but a person CAN grow. You give a person a rope and it's up to them to climb it or hang themselves on it. There's two things you can do encourage growth and support growth when it starts. Those two things and prayer.
No idea, but I had a girlfriend who got fat when she used to be skinny. She came home in a bad mood one day and I said “you can be fat or you can be a b***h, but I can’t deal with both” she moved out that same week while I was at work. I snoop on her social media occasionally and she has gotten even fatter, so I dodge a bullet there lol
>be a little chubby >gf is fat >decide to start working out >get reasonably fit because i'm taking it seriously, not hard just takes token effort >she stays fat >insists on talking about how healthy 'we' are
I love this woman but damn
>How she was
About 190lbs when I met her, she had hugeee breasts just a few sizes below a titcow egirl. She lost her weight by basically just having an eating disorder. She went down 45lbs to 145ish within a year.
>How she is now
She's still chubby and has a fupa which is hopefully not loose skin. She absolutely hates her stomach, but she's overall better looking. Before, girls would stop us in public to praise her hair and style and my family would be like "Damn, her poor back!". Now, girls and guys flirt with her if I'm not around, and my family respectfully thinks she's out of my league (ya right). She looks amazing with the proper clothes and belly hiding techniques. Like a few stages into a bimbofication. She didn't learn to eat well, so she still grabs fast food everyday, but also works out nearly every day. She's been maintaining her weight but that's not good enough for her.
>What she wants to be
All she mostly cares about is a flat stomach and a fat ass. She's working on both, the ass is coming up but the tummy isn't changing much yet.
>What I want her to be
Basically a goth bimbo without the plastic. I want her to reach her goals and then some. Light abs, bubble butt, and huge breasts again. Her boobs are growing out again a bit. She's almost 20.
>She absolutely hates her stomach, but she's overall better looking
With my gf too, she has gotten to a point that she is not even chubby anymore she is just slim but she still has fat on her belly ofc but it's mostly a flat belly but she stillll hates her belly and i don't get it. i think it's just a girl thing, doesn't matter how hot they are.
Yeah, we're blessed to be with someone who cares their appearance. I don't think body dysmorphia is good for the long-term, but when the counter is fat pride that's just sad. Aesthetics and Health are good for me, and whatever is good for you should be good for your girl.
>She's still chubby and has a fupa which is hopefully not loose skin
It is unfortunately probably loose skin, I have the same thing after loosing a similar amount of weight. Taking collagen helped a bit but not much 🙁
They say it takes about 2 years for the skin to settle and shrink again, so hopefully she gets lucky
>She absolutely hates her stomach, but she's overall better looking
With my gf too, she has gotten to a point that she is not even chubby anymore she is just slim but she still has fat on her belly ofc but it's mostly a flat belly but she stillll hates her belly and i don't get it. i think it's just a girl thing, doesn't matter how hot they are.
It's really hard not to be upset over it. Look at any picture a guy posts of a girl he likes on here and she'll have a flat tummy. You put in all the work and lose the weight and even if the rest if your body looks great all I can see is how fat my tummy is still and remnants of a fupa and I feel like I'm back at 200ibs instantly. What was the point? My body is ruined permanently, why did I even bother
Aaah, sorry. Ignore me I'm depressed. I lost the weight and then my bf left me. I could say its just a coincidence but it's happened twice now. First guy cheated on me with a fatter girl.
It's difficult not to start wondering if I was better off fat. Fitting into a size s always feels good though
I have a chubby azn gf atm. She is about 30(133 lbs)pounds overweight and has agreed to come to the gym with me as she said she was always intimidated to go alone. What would be a good routine to make her thicc?
If she's anything like me and has never done any kind of exercise in her life before just get her started on like max. 3 or 4 basic lifts. I was really overwhelmed with all the different options at the gym when I first went and it was oddly demotivating. Start her baby mode and work up from there
https://i.imgur.com/7bd9NVs.jpg
Health above all, anon. A healthy woman is always the most attractive to sane and reasonable men. The obese are monstrosities.
dont worry pretty if anything thats a sign that you are intelligent and worked hard to be free from the trap that is fatness in todays society. Skin does reshape you just have to be patient, plus cheating is the most unmanly thing someone can do so ur exs are gays who dont deserve ur attention unironically better you got freed from them
Thanks, it means a lot, really. I don't want to end up like my mother
I had the talk with my girlfriend that I would like her to lose weight and a big argument ensued after that. I stopped initiating sex too. She does pilates and the like, but she’s not losing weight. Meanwhile, everyone here is saying to lead by example, which I’m trying to do by living an active lifestyle and watching my weight, but to no avail.
I will admit that she lost a little weight after our argument, but then she plateaued shortly after. I’m a loyal bf, but I’d be lying if I didn’t have fantasies of being with some of the IST chicks that are abundant in my city. What do bros?
You gotta find out where she's going wrong in her diet. Focus on diet first then figure out the exercise stuff
4 weeks ago
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>3 or 4 basic lifts
alright thats a good idea, I wasnt gonna push her too hard or anything. Just to get a hold of her health really, thanks man.
4 weeks ago
Anonymous
Also, if she's like me, she's gonna struggle to lift even just the bar on its own without any added weights. It's really demoralising so just let her know it's normal...
4 weeks ago
Anonymous
OP here. Fortunately my gf is actually pretty frickin stronk. She's a bartender and stacks kegs on her own. I've actually tried to l low key encourage her to try powerlifting or strongwoman because I think she'd be an absolute natural snu snu cave goddess if she went for it and it'd come much easier to her than trying to be lithe. I just want her to be healthy and happy bros.
dont worry pretty if anything thats a sign that you are intelligent and worked hard to be free from the trap that is fatness in todays society. Skin does reshape you just have to be patient, plus cheating is the most unmanly thing someone can do so ur exs are gays who dont deserve ur attention unironically better you got freed from them
>cheating is the most unmanly thing someone can do
Since society has decided to abolish morality and that it's okay to be animals, this is what we get.
4 weeks ago
Anonymous
Morality will never be abolished since it comes from God and not men. If someone cheats it's not because of society, it's because that person has no moral compass, which is also false since he does, this is why they cheat in secret. They know it's wrong, so they know morality but choose to ignore it.
"And this is the condemnation, that the light has come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed."
4 weeks ago
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>Morality will never be abolished since it comes from God and not men.
absolutely based
4 weeks ago
Anonymous
Brainlet take. Knowing you will get in trouble for something if you get caught is not the same as knowing something ks wrong. People perform righteousness in secret when it can get them in trouble too.
4 weeks ago
Anonymous
god spoke, see
Brainlet take. Knowing you will get in trouble for something if you get caught is not the same as knowing something ks wrong. People perform righteousness in secret when it can get them in trouble too.
My wife was kinda plump when we started dating. At some in that first year she started asking me what "my type" was, told her skinny chicks with faint abs. She got a bit self-conscious and b***hy for a week or so but then she asked me to help her look better.
Started coming to the gym and muay thai with me, started counting calories, basically started doing everything right. She got lucky enough with her genetics that she looked good plump but she looks incredible now. I love her so much bros.
I tried the same with my ex. She asked me if she gets chubby, I told her the truth and asked her to work out with me.
She got b***hy, sex stoped down due to not feeling attractive anymore and it seemed to be easier to cheat on me with a guy who find her „atractive the way she was“ then working out with me…
I hate women
damn those genetics are unfortunate. total qt 3.14 face on the left but horrendous body... absolute goblin face on the right, body is on the cusp of being savable
My ex-wife went from skinny when we met, to chubby after I proposed, to skinny again in the months leading up to the wedding. Then as soon as the wedding ended she gained about 70 lbs over the course of a year and was fat throughout the marriage. Its been a year since our divorce and she's skinny again.
Most women let themselves go when they're in a stable LTR. They'll only lose weight for their wedding day, because women are narcissists and they mainly only care about how they look in the wedding photos, or if they're trying to cheat and get a guy on the side.
Compare this story to all the ones of anons whose gfs or wives have gotten healthier habits and bodies that reflect their behavior
Either this anon was tolerating things in himself he should not have tolerated and thus had no grounds to not tolerate her unhealthy behavior - OR he did everything right and she was an unreasonable food addict despite him praising her good choices and stating his disapproval of her bad choices clearly.
I'll leave it up to other anons to judge if no reply.
If you're still here and want to elaborate, go ahead. I don't mean to insult you - it sucks you got divorced and you probably know how much of her gaining so much weight was her own nature vs your own faults as a husband.
I agree most women, and men, gain weight in ltrs
> tfw been with wife for almost 8 years > Me a former IST and ISTgay > her a con kid that heavily browsed /cgl/ > both super fit when we met in 2016 > relationships and life happens, slowly stop lifting > eat well so no drastic weight gain > 8 years later, wife is now built like Fugtrup's Mei with cowbreasts > realize I like her body more now than ever > become an architect > make an effort starting last year to just keep active for health and not care about weight > continue to lift 2-3x a week and run 2x a week for general health, not caring about aesthetics > she swims 2x a week for her own health > just enjoy life and each other, becoming more attracted to each other every day
She's a 34G/32H, has a belly, a perfect fupa innie pussy, and will dress up in outfits for me. She sat on my face dressed as Velma.
I am enraptured by her, obsessed with her. Waking up next to her is one of the biggest joys in my life. Her family loves me more than my own family does. We support each other, uplift each other.
It is great.
Do you think I'm stupid enough to post pics of my wife on here?
https://i.imgur.com/3T24Xe1.jpg
>She sat on my face dressed as Velma.
https://i.imgur.com/2VA5L6I.png
>She sat on my face dressed as Velma
I am blessed beyond what I deserve.
So your wife is just a fat prostitute.
She's my prostitute 🙂
https://i.imgur.com/O6gJsGa.jpg
>built like Fugtrup's Mei with cowbreasts
HUMMINA HUMMINA HUMMINA HUMMINA HUMMINA HUMMINA HUMMINA HUMMINA HUMMINA HUMMINA HUMMINA HUMMINA
not exactly a 1:1 but damn close. mind you the more recent chubby versions theyve done
a woman that you love and care for, that you openly communicate with, her slow weight gain over the course of years is one of the sexiest things you will ever bear witness to.
and working out for general health is less stressful
I'm naturally broad-shouldered and mildly skinnyfat. Never measured my test, but it's probably normal levels.
bench 210 idgaf about aesthetics anymore
>Do you think I'm stupid enough to post pics of my wife on here?
she's a fat cow you homosexual nobody actually wants to see her outside of the subreddit you are raiding from
She's my titcow built like a venusian sculpture. shit is so cash
You may be mad, but I'm still getting laid 3-4x a week
Look man, I love fat pussy too, but until you bench three plates it's best to just not even tell anyone what you bench like it's a flex or something.
4 weeks ago
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yeah, you're right. fair enough
>Her family loves me more than my own family does.
My wife's family is relatively lower middle class, her dad was a mailman his whole career and her mom has no education or work experience to speak of. Both of them without actually knowing much about me treated me like I was a destined loser.
Her brother was a bar tender in NYC at the time, his first assessment of me to my wife was "yeah I don't really like him at all" and her sister was the "smart one" because she was going to college and was by my estimate not remarkably intelligent but definitely studious - her assessment was that I was a "know it all" mainly because someone brought up a historical topic and I contradicted something she said which was provably false.
Anyway, fast forward 15 years and her brother is still a bar tender only he's also taken to wearing dresses, makeup, and high heels recently, and her sister gained about 120lbs and is now a fat loser making 60k in the HR department of some shitty company while I have a seven figure net worth and my wife is a stay at home mom to our 4 kids. I'm waiting for the day one of them comes groveling for money and I tell them to frick off.
her family was low income originally. Dad was a coastie that transferred to public works and worked his way up so they're all down to earth. My family is just too vanilla/by the book so my neurodivergent ass just didn't mesh.
ANON. PLEASE, WHERE CAN I MEET WOMEN LIKE THAT??? ONLY ONES I MET BUILT NEARLY LIKE THIS ARE TAKEN
We met at a con, which is the funniest part. Mutual friend ran a specific part of it and got me in for free. wasn't planning on trying to meet women, but we met first night, casually chilled thoughout the weekend, talked about Mass Effect for 2hrs over lunch. Shit is cash I've never been happier.
married brahs will probably agree, you'll know when you've found your person. You'll want nothing but the best for them.
4 weeks ago
Anonymous
You got it going man, congrats
How old were you at the con?
>Do you think I'm stupid enough to post pics of my wife on here?
she's a fat cow you homosexual nobody actually wants to see her outside of the subreddit you are raiding from
>Her family loves me more than my own family does.
My wife's family is relatively lower middle class, her dad was a mailman his whole career and her mom has no education or work experience to speak of. Both of them without actually knowing much about me treated me like I was a destined loser.
Her brother was a bar tender in NYC at the time, his first assessment of me to my wife was "yeah I don't really like him at all" and her sister was the "smart one" because she was going to college and was by my estimate not remarkably intelligent but definitely studious - her assessment was that I was a "know it all" mainly because someone brought up a historical topic and I contradicted something she said which was provably false.
Anyway, fast forward 15 years and her brother is still a bar tender only he's also taken to wearing dresses, makeup, and high heels recently, and her sister gained about 120lbs and is now a fat loser making 60k in the HR department of some shitty company while I have a seven figure net worth and my wife is a stay at home mom to our 4 kids. I'm waiting for the day one of them comes groveling for money and I tell them to frick off.
Just hope she stays built like fugtrup Mei. The problem with fat women is even with god tier genetics if they keep it up they get too fat eventually. It happened with my gf, she has god tier fat distribution genetics and most of it goes to her ass and breasts, when we started dating she was 30BMI and had the fugtrup mei look since she has god tier fat distribution genetics and most of it goes to her ass thighs and breasts. She ballooned up to nearly 45BMI and lost her curves.
Shes dropping weight and is at 40BMI now but honestly if she wasnt I dont think I'd stay with her. Other than being a lot less attractive being with a girl that heavy is like physically difficult sex wise. It made me really depressed especially since I started getting IST as she ballooned up but she didnt want to follow suit.
>How fat are we talking?
If she's really fat she will not change. Mine always stayed around 5'6" 180. During the pandemic she got up to 210 but dropped back down very quickly. If you're with a really big girl who's been big for a long time, she will not change.
>Gauge her 'values' early in the relationship
Covertly determine her 'values' when it comes to fitness. If she just doesn't care, you can't ever make her care. Mine always desperately wanted to be 130-140 lbs, but didn't have the knowledge or motivation to actually do it.
>Are you leading by example?
If you're working on your fitness, it shouldn't take her more than a year of when you start taking it seriously for her to start. If you wait and wait and she never follows your lead, she's lazy and won't change.
>Are you taking care of her?
Women are weak and cannot thrive unless they have a man creating a safe and stable environment for them. If you live together, do you help with finances, chores, etc. Do you keep the arguments to a minimum. Overall, keep her stress levels low so she can pursue fitness.
It's a long game, but with the right person it can be done.
>How fat
Was 160 when we got together. Bloated up a couple years ago when super depressed at her job. Just lost 20lb in a month by eating better and following a program I made her.
>example
I train every day and offer loving support without making her feel like a piece of shit.
>taking care
We don't argue. I've started cooking almost all of our meals as a couple so that I can keep slop to a minimum. It makes her happy because less work for her. Makes me happy because no slop.
Well my gf was really overweight when we started dating but has now lost over 70lbs and has around 50 lbs to go for normal weight. She tracks everything she eats and goes to gym 4 times a week, often with me. She likes to watch patty and aspires to have a body like she has some day. I guess my own weight loss story and her wish to be healthy and have healthy children made her do it. I never pushed her or told her to lose weight. I just told her how life is just better in literally every way if you are normal weight.
Today she is kinda based and anti fat acceptance. We often make fun of fat coper losers and feel better about ourselves haha
>Has anyone on IST ever had a gf go from fat to healthy?
Yeah. My last ex went from small fat(with good proportions) to skinny. My current gf is small fat too and she just started losing weight, she's been going to the gym since before we met but she never watched her portions.
The irony is im an architect and I purposely date smallfat women because its the lower end of my prefferences(im attracted to much bigger) but date smaller girls to avoid social stigma and compatibility factors, but I guess my IST lifestyle always rubs off on them and they end up losing weight.
I just want a fat ass and belly to play with bros... its not fair
>"upper middle class" >"have a rep to uphold"
As a lower high class fellow I can tell you nobody gives a shit about your rep. In every class you meet judgemental people. Just go on living YOUR life to others standards, that'll make you happy
>but seriously, why the hell does it matter if you aren't looking to marry anyway?
Well thats exactly what im saying. Ive hooked up with bigger girls but I only go for smaller girls for LTRs..
>"upper middle class" >"have a rep to uphold"
As a lower high class fellow I can tell you nobody gives a shit about your rep. In every class you meet judgemental people. Just go on living YOUR life to others standards, that'll make you happy
I think you guys are putting too much emphasis on the stigma part from my comment. The reason I dont date really big girls is like 10% social stigma and 90% incompatible lifestyle and not wanting one to be the mother of my kids. If you guys dont get that you need to stop thinking with your dicks.
My main girl (Girlfriend for all intents and purposes, as we love each other, she’s just cool with me fricking the occasional bar bawd when it happens) went to a clinic that convinced her she had an “ED”, and because women largely are incapable of non-herd thinking she put on like 40lbs in the span of 6 months, and I basically stopped fricking her.
It will be an arduous journey you will not see results from immediately. Think of a ship pulling a tugboat with a 100ft rope: it takes a while for the boat to change direction.
YOU have to lead by example as well as convince her it’s her idea + something she wants. A good portion of it is operant conditioning, rewarding good behavior with positive praise + attention “you look so cute today” when she’s eating healthy vs a slightly gross look then totally ignoring her when she’s eating slop.
Find a superficial goal she has ergo wanting to look like a certain celebrity, mogging other women(VERY important to all women, more so than men), fitting into a certain dress, whatever. “Hey, it’s actually easier to do than you think. Just come to the gym with me and eat yummy food I teach you how to make with me and you got it” it’s important to make it a shared experience between you two.
There will be TONS of resistance on her part, but literally follow the above steps and remember at the end of the day she’s mentally just a young teenager.
Its never worth it, its like buying a shit house with shit foundations even if you dress up the house, the shit foundations are still there, even the fact that they *were* a fat person means that they can become one again, at a significantly higher incidence.
My GF is chubby and says she wants to lose the weight. I told her I'm not giving her a kid if she remains this weight. Which is the truth, a large part of me wants to just break up with her but she's a good partner.
But part of me thinks "She's only being so good because she's fat right now." Which may be the truth. Only time will tell, she's def on a time limit because ever since I started to get my shit together I get way more attention now.
been there bro. your resentment for her will only grow larger as she very likely continues to refuse to change. if weight's a dealbreaker of an issue I would seriously mention it, if she says no then you've got your answer.
Thanks. I would rather be single than be a resentful butthole. Other women will treat me well, and it doesn't mean she has to lose at life. Some guy out there won't care if she's fat.
> it doesn't mean she has to lose at life. Some guy out there won't care if she's fat.
It doesn’t matter if she loses at life or not, it’s not your job to take care of her. You’re not married, so leave if it’s not working. Otherwise you wind up being her slave in the end.
> to just break up with her but she's a good partner
Ultimate cope for staying. If she’s a
fat ass who doesn’t take care of herself she’s not a good partner.
>She's only being so good because she's fat right now.
Nah.
She'll be happier, have more energy, and generally everything that makes for a good loving partner will improve with better health.
Fun's usually a better motivator than fear (at least I find), so you could try making it fun for her instead of just telling her you'll drop her fat ass.
I have a chubby azn gf atm. She is about 30(133 lbs)pounds overweight and has agreed to come to the gym with me as she said she was always intimidated to go alone. What would be a good routine to make her thicc?
When I met my wife, she was a little overweight. She saw I was daily gym user and joined me at the gym. She got very fit and was sexy as hell. After we got married she wound up taking a high paying but high stress job. She quit going to the gym because she didn't have the energy and she started stress eating. She put on about 40lbs from that. She put on another 20lbs when she got pregnant. She's being a stay at home mom right now and has started working out daily again and only eats home made meals and has been dropping the weight pretty fast. We both agree the money isn't that important and she needs to find a low stress job when she goes back to work.
I had the talk with my girlfriend that I would like her to lose weight and a big argument ensued after that. I stopped initiating sex too. She does pilates and the like, but she’s not losing weight. Meanwhile, everyone here is saying to lead by example, which I’m trying to do by living an active lifestyle and watching my weight, but to no avail.
I will admit that she lost a little weight after our argument, but then she plateaued shortly after. I’m a loyal bf, but I’d be lying if I didn’t have fantasies of being with some of the IST chicks that are abundant in my city. What do bros?
I'm about to have the "You're fat" talk with my GF during dinner next week. My life is about to change a lot, like out of the country making way more a lot - so this is her year to upgrade and work hard. Not just with her weight, but with her finances as well. If she doesn't, then we can say we gave it enough time.
>Has anyone on IST ever had a gf go from fat to healthy? If so, how did you/they do it. What's your story?
When I met my wife in college she was on the school's track team and I was on the wrestling team. We both gained weight after graduating because we weren't specifically training for anything anymore every day like we had been before, and we had to work. A few years after that we sat down to talk about actually getting married, and came to the conclusion that most of our spats came from the fact we didn't give a shit about our bodies like we did back in college. Spent a year encouraging each other back into shape then got married.
We should sin tax sweets like we do cigarettes. If that damn Hershey bar was $8 more people would rethink if they need it so bad. Both Ben and Jerry should be publicly executed for what they've done to our country.
Worst part is wanting to look out for her health without being a control freak. I've set a bad example on eating too many times but am way more active than she is. Everytime I see her eating crap (like these 66% sat fat sweets she's eating as breakfast :/) I'm torn.
Frick off with your nanny state bullshit. If I want to enjoy a chocolate bar as part of an otherwise healthy diet, I shouldn't be penalised because some fatty doesn't know how to exercise a bit of fricking restraint.
Let's sin tax meat, coffee and milk as well, since they cause unhealthy habits in people and cause disease when not consumed in moderation. >b-b-but that's different!
No it's not.
Being obese is a life-time curse. It fricks up your skin, even after you lose weight. Look at the picture you shared. You can see that the stomach skin is messed up. Her breasts are probably super saggy (from fat to fit girls get saggy breasts). Same for her arms, she will never have the nice small arms that non-fat girls have. And most of the times, it fricks up your belly button shape too.
Put here on YAYO pine pollen immediately, it will help her not only focus and enjoy working out more, it will also healp her hormoines which she needs help because she's FAT lol
https://yayo.supply?sca_ref=4239927.HxaFQzEUS4
im 30 years old and pretty fit(not to brag or anything)
My strategy: find a cute 18-21 year old chubby girl (cute chubby get them BEFORE they become "fat"), frick her for a few months, she will love you and treat you so well bros
Unfortunately slampigs are for fun but not serious relationships
this probably won't work. so many chubby girls just go on to become fat. their metabolisms are on cheat mode when they're young, less so by the time they reach 25+. Think about how many people from your high school are now fat, if it's anything like mine it's a lot.
There are women who will get up and do it. And there are women who don’t. It’s luck of the draw. I say this in every thread about getting your woman skinny again and these threads keep coming up. At this point I think these threads are here to get you guys in a relationship to fall out of the relationship.
Mine got from skinny to nearly obese to normal over a decade. I think she had a wakeup call a summer at the beach with friends (she was the only fat female). She acknowledged her food addiction, went to a dietitian, started a food intake journal, started eating vegetables and salad as a starter for each meal, chose between cheese or chocolate, went hardcore into pilates and in 6-9 months she was normal. She still is insecure about her physique and has body dysmorphia, though.
Knowledge about nutrition and macros is fundamental. Knowledge about cooking vegetables right as well. Learned helplessness, cognitive distortion and fat acceptance are b***hes.
>be me khv >manged to get gf at 33 >she's fat short but virgin >sex is horrible because of all the fat rolls >unhealthy fat style as frick >sick of the current situation >start taking her on walk at night >sending her pics of cute dresses that would fit her if she was slimmer >start cooking my meal and hers >grocery is mostly fresh foods and no sugary treats >positive feedback when she do something healthy >got her dietary supplements >sex improved >intimacy very much improved
That was how it started
Now she lost 10 kg in a little over a year.
Basically females are like a dog, if they aren't doing what you want it's because you're bad trainer
And on hindsight, if someone really love someone they would try to be their best version for them, and making her glimpsing at me liking pics of IST girls probably helped.
In conclusion, make her happy to adopt a better lifestyle.
I know she will never be as fit as a cardiobunny, but I know she will never be a lardwhale again.
Yes and then I dumped her anyway
Not because she was fit or anything, she was a moron for 3 years and I was over it
Basically invited her to work out/run with me every time I went and eventually she did. Didn't help her personality
>meet at 13 and 14 y.o. >both the same flavor of total moron, internet shitposting cynics >also means we're both fat kids >constantly interacting with each other for the next five years of school, oscillate from hating each other to being buddies, can't really avoid interaction because it's a 400 kid k-12 with graduating classes of 30 and we like all the same shit >keep up in college >she has a shittier time than me, drinks like a fish >she gets fatter >start fricking >make her go on BC so I can nut inside >she gets even fatter >get real serious >spend five years being pieces of shit together, just sitting around in a basement slugging back 40s, smoking weed, playing vidja, watching garbage cartoons >parents get me a job and tell me to gtfo the basement >we move into our own place >she does the grocery budget, all the cooking >we start losing weight because less money for trash >I decide to stop being fat >go from 240 to 170 in 6 months >she's half heartedly attempting 235 to 210 in the same time frame >get married >start trying for kids >nothing doing >her gyno tells her it's because she's a fat frick >she drops down to 170 over the next half a year >I knock her up >she keeps going down after our son in born (did put some pudge back on during pregnancy) >155, running every other day, lifting >I (accidentally this time) knock her up again >son II >back at the grind, she's jogging (albeit shittily) 8 weeks out from an emergency C section >hoping to get down to 130 >she has long term goals of being able to outrace and still pick up the boys until they're in middle school >short term goals of us being able to frick with me standing up and holding her against a wall
WAGMI, including our wives.
My ex-gf was skinny but never exercised. She b***hed about the effort even when we went for a short walk. My current gf is chubby and not as pretty. With my ex we got comments about how good we looked as a couple, much less so now. But, my current gf likes exercise, we can go on walks, cycle rides and canoeing together, and she used to go running by herself. She's a bit more self-conscious of her body now and has gone up a dress-size since we started dating (not sure what's causing the weight-gain, maybe her diet). When we were in Japan, she tried to by a samue but the store said they didn't have anything in her size and it made her cry, she said she was aware of how big she was compared to other giirls we saw while we were there. I certainly don't want her getting any bigger, but as she enjoys exercise and is a little self-conscious about her weight so there's certainly grounds for improvement. If she lost a few pounds she could easily have a bombshell hourglass figure. Sorry for the blogpost.
I am sure you handled the situation well,
in moments like the one where she cries because reality hits her, the best thing you could do is say something like "i love you, come here, cry it all out" and later when she is stable again, you could ask her if you should help her losing weight. If she is a reasonable enough human she wont scream at you and think about it. She sounds good for you, Anon.
>She sounds good for you, Anon.
Thanks anon. Ultimately, she loves me completely and unconditionally, so she deserves the best I can give her, and I'm willing to compromise on a few things in exchange for that.
Regarding that situation, I handled it as you said, it was about 6 months ago.
I hope this can happen. Last time I visited my home town, my highschool crush was giving off signs of interest. I would have tried to smash if she hadn't gotten fat, and I hope she'll have gotten into better shape by the next time I visit. It's petty, but I want to dick her down good so she sees that she would have been better off dating me all those years ago.
Not fat exactly but I helped my wife lose babyweight and what I found to be effective was controlling but not totally eliminating the treats she likes (girls aren't virgin autists who can give up everything they like with willpower) and leading from the front. I made the meal plan and ate it with her. When she exercised, it was always with me. I made sure to keep her morale up and nip quitter mentality (he loves me whatever I look like/it's too hard to stay in shape with a baby, etc) early. People are fat because of their habits, and they don't change them overnight or by themselves unless they're an adult male virgin NEET, typically.
Tl;dr make sure she feels good about it and it will probably work
I was fat and still fat when I met her. It’s just that I lost a lot of weight and was really good looking despite being still being obese. She was already beautiful and it was really obvious she would be model tier if she lost weight. Honestly, I was fit before she started losing weight but what seemed to help her was me getting a home gym. So I guess she was just embarrassed to be at the gym. Still a little chubby but has lost of ton weight, fricking gorgeous too, we’re definitely going to have some beautiful kids.
I got a little fat after pregnancy. I’m losing the weight. My husband doesn’t care though. I absolutely despise the extra weight I don’t know how anyone can handle the sensory experience of being fat. It is uncomfortable I wish I could just cut it all off. I hate how long it takes to lose. I would have never overate if I knew how horrible it feels to exist in a fat body. I was skinny my entire life before this. It must feel even worse being a fat man because you guys are not even meant to be even a little bit round.
>I absolutely despise the extra weight I don’t know how anyone can handle the sensory experience of being fat. It is uncomfortable I wish I could just cut it all off
that's full on fat dysphoria, but that's apparently good for you if you can healthily get back to a healthy weight >It must feel even worse being a fat man because you guys are not even meant to be even a little bit round.
shit sucks but you get used to it if you've been pudgy since primary school (can't blame me mum either, we were in a shithole country and I had the food tism)
I'll never understand dudes who settle for fatties. Fricked a fat b***h once and never again. Jacking off is infinitely more enjoyable than being with a girl you aren't even attracted to.
Yeah I helped my ex go from 170 to 120 and she then she dropped out of school and started working at a strip club without telling me. After I found out about it and dumped her she spiraled and started doing hard drugs and shit. Idk where she is now. Could be dead for all I know.
No idea, but I had a girlfriend who got fat when she used to be skinny. She came home in a bad mood one day and I said “you can be fat or you can be a b***h, but I can’t deal with both” she moved out that same week while I was at work. I snoop on her social media occasionally and she has gotten even fatter, so I dodge a bullet there lol
lel
Kek these roasties really think they have you locked down once you move in together.
>you can be fat or you can be a b***h, but I can’t deal with both
BASED
100% guarantee that she didn’t learn a fricking thing and is being a fat b***h somewhere making some guys life miserable.
>I snoop on her social media occasionally
embarrassing tbh senpai
if real I kneel kek, same thing happened w my ex but i just broke up when i realized she would never be fit and prob would be obese if we were married
I'm just in awe at how clearly men are able to express their emotions.
>“you can be fat or you can be a b***h, but I can’t deal with both”
BASED
>you can be fat or you can be a b***h, but I can’t deal with both
oh im laffin
Giggling
baste
>“you can be fat or you can be a b***h, but I can’t deal with both”
Someone's getting updoots out of you.
go back
Go back, homosexual
Let a man get his karma
> you can be fat or you can be a b***h, but I can’t deal with both
Incredibly based
>“you can be fat or you can be a b***h, but I can’t deal with both”
Much love from Kazakhstan
people don't change.
and you can't change people.
the very small amount of people that actually give a shit will change without your influence.
Trying very hard to swallow this pill lately anon. Feels bad tbh.
well, my gf did it, but she didn't start because of me i think, but she did continue because of me. But i just got "lucky" in that sense, you have to have a lot of willpower to do it, and in this case, be quite obcessed with validation.
>people don't change.
Not true
>and you can't change people.
VERY true
>will change without your influence
This is strangely true because those closest to us never seem to respond well to guidance or mentoring that might work coming from a more distant figure.
In short OP is stuck with a big fat fattie.
it is true if you want happiness. don't waste time or energy trying to change people.
You're right. People don't change, but a person CAN grow. You give a person a rope and it's up to them to climb it or hang themselves on it. There's two things you can do encourage growth and support growth when it starts. Those two things and prayer.
>people can grow.
You said if, Anon. See
for details.
Yea that b***h grew all right, mostly around her thighs and ass
can grow fat
>people don't change.
addendum: big experiences or trauma can change people, but not much outside of these edge cases
>be a little chubby
>gf is fat
>decide to start working out
>get reasonably fit because i'm taking it seriously, not hard just takes token effort
>she stays fat
>insists on talking about how healthy 'we' are
I love this woman but damn
>How she was
About 190lbs when I met her, she had hugeee breasts just a few sizes below a titcow egirl. She lost her weight by basically just having an eating disorder. She went down 45lbs to 145ish within a year.
>How she is now
She's still chubby and has a fupa which is hopefully not loose skin. She absolutely hates her stomach, but she's overall better looking. Before, girls would stop us in public to praise her hair and style and my family would be like "Damn, her poor back!". Now, girls and guys flirt with her if I'm not around, and my family respectfully thinks she's out of my league (ya right). She looks amazing with the proper clothes and belly hiding techniques. Like a few stages into a bimbofication. She didn't learn to eat well, so she still grabs fast food everyday, but also works out nearly every day. She's been maintaining her weight but that's not good enough for her.
>What she wants to be
All she mostly cares about is a flat stomach and a fat ass. She's working on both, the ass is coming up but the tummy isn't changing much yet.
>What I want her to be
Basically a goth bimbo without the plastic. I want her to reach her goals and then some. Light abs, bubble butt, and huge breasts again. Her boobs are growing out again a bit. She's almost 20.
Good for her and good for you anon. Wishing you two the best.
>She absolutely hates her stomach, but she's overall better looking
With my gf too, she has gotten to a point that she is not even chubby anymore she is just slim but she still has fat on her belly ofc but it's mostly a flat belly but she stillll hates her belly and i don't get it. i think it's just a girl thing, doesn't matter how hot they are.
Yeah, we're blessed to be with someone who cares their appearance. I don't think body dysmorphia is good for the long-term, but when the counter is fat pride that's just sad. Aesthetics and Health are good for me, and whatever is good for you should be good for your girl.
>She's still chubby and has a fupa which is hopefully not loose skin
It is unfortunately probably loose skin, I have the same thing after loosing a similar amount of weight. Taking collagen helped a bit but not much 🙁
They say it takes about 2 years for the skin to settle and shrink again, so hopefully she gets lucky
It's really hard not to be upset over it. Look at any picture a guy posts of a girl he likes on here and she'll have a flat tummy. You put in all the work and lose the weight and even if the rest if your body looks great all I can see is how fat my tummy is still and remnants of a fupa and I feel like I'm back at 200ibs instantly. What was the point? My body is ruined permanently, why did I even bother
>a bloo bloo why did I even both
Do you seriously not see how not being 200 fat fricking pounds is a worse way to live?
Aaah, sorry. Ignore me I'm depressed. I lost the weight and then my bf left me. I could say its just a coincidence but it's happened twice now. First guy cheated on me with a fatter girl.
It's difficult not to start wondering if I was better off fat. Fitting into a size s always feels good though
Not to be m'lady or anything, but sorry to hear you're a victim of feminism backfiring. Hope you find a stable man some day.
Thanks, me too
If she's anything like me and has never done any kind of exercise in her life before just get her started on like max. 3 or 4 basic lifts. I was really overwhelmed with all the different options at the gym when I first went and it was oddly demotivating. Start her baby mode and work up from there
Thanks, it means a lot, really. I don't want to end up like my mother
You gotta find out where she's going wrong in her diet. Focus on diet first then figure out the exercise stuff
>3 or 4 basic lifts
alright thats a good idea, I wasnt gonna push her too hard or anything. Just to get a hold of her health really, thanks man.
Also, if she's like me, she's gonna struggle to lift even just the bar on its own without any added weights. It's really demoralising so just let her know it's normal...
OP here. Fortunately my gf is actually pretty frickin stronk. She's a bartender and stacks kegs on her own. I've actually tried to l low key encourage her to try powerlifting or strongwoman because I think she'd be an absolute natural snu snu cave goddess if she went for it and it'd come much easier to her than trying to be lithe. I just want her to be healthy and happy bros.
Health above all, anon. A healthy woman is always the most attractive to sane and reasonable men. The obese are monstrosities.
Man this hog would be stunning if she even got to like 160. Face has so much potential.
dont worry pretty if anything thats a sign that you are intelligent and worked hard to be free from the trap that is fatness in todays society. Skin does reshape you just have to be patient, plus cheating is the most unmanly thing someone can do so ur exs are gays who dont deserve ur attention unironically better you got freed from them
>cheating is the most unmanly thing someone can do
Since society has decided to abolish morality and that it's okay to be animals, this is what we get.
Morality will never be abolished since it comes from God and not men. If someone cheats it's not because of society, it's because that person has no moral compass, which is also false since he does, this is why they cheat in secret. They know it's wrong, so they know morality but choose to ignore it.
"And this is the condemnation, that the light has come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed."
>Morality will never be abolished since it comes from God and not men.
absolutely based
Brainlet take. Knowing you will get in trouble for something if you get caught is not the same as knowing something ks wrong. People perform righteousness in secret when it can get them in trouble too.
god spoke, see
Lift homosexual. She will be approached for someone better if you don't wake up.
There is no one better than me. And she's just a girl. I lift for no one else but the Lord.
My wife was kinda plump when we started dating. At some in that first year she started asking me what "my type" was, told her skinny chicks with faint abs. She got a bit self-conscious and b***hy for a week or so but then she asked me to help her look better.
Started coming to the gym and muay thai with me, started counting calories, basically started doing everything right. She got lucky enough with her genetics that she looked good plump but she looks incredible now. I love her so much bros.
Based husband. Treat her right and make sure you mog people for her.
I tried the same with my ex. She asked me if she gets chubby, I told her the truth and asked her to work out with me.
She got b***hy, sex stoped down due to not feeling attractive anymore and it seemed to be easier to cheat on me with a guy who find her „atractive the way she was“ then working out with me…
I hate women
You benefited in the end
hard work against comfort, she chose comfort...most do but the one who doesnt wife her up
u dodged a bullet. she would 90 % have ended up cheating on you anyway.
godspeed friend
I'm gonna pull this on my gf soon. She's gotten chubby and she doesn't exercise. Maybe it'll strike the right chord.
Post a photo.
No. I don't date fat girls, nor do I think outside pressure can reform them. It has to come from within.
her face sucks, and thats why she showed side profile in the right picture. Fatness is a disease which stays with you till the end
I think she's cute anon.
Being morbidly a beast is never a good thing for long term aesthetics though, I agree.
Oh God what the hell is wrong with me why do I love the belly on left.
Just imagine the horrific smell anon, that should do the trick.
>Just imagine the horrific smell anon, that should do the trick.
oh god now I'm more turned on than before
You may be beyond help
hahahahaha "morbidly a beast"
damn those genetics are unfortunate. total qt 3.14 face on the left but horrendous body... absolute goblin face on the right, body is on the cusp of being savable
I loved her as she was and then she lost 100lbs
My current gf went from fat to healthy. She just went to the gym, did a lot of cardio i think, andd i think she decrease her calory intake by a lot.
My ex-wife went from skinny when we met, to chubby after I proposed, to skinny again in the months leading up to the wedding. Then as soon as the wedding ended she gained about 70 lbs over the course of a year and was fat throughout the marriage. Its been a year since our divorce and she's skinny again.
Most women let themselves go when they're in a stable LTR. They'll only lose weight for their wedding day, because women are narcissists and they mainly only care about how they look in the wedding photos, or if they're trying to cheat and get a guy on the side.
Compare this story to all the ones of anons whose gfs or wives have gotten healthier habits and bodies that reflect their behavior
Either this anon was tolerating things in himself he should not have tolerated and thus had no grounds to not tolerate her unhealthy behavior - OR he did everything right and she was an unreasonable food addict despite him praising her good choices and stating his disapproval of her bad choices clearly.
I'll leave it up to other anons to judge if no reply.
If you're still here and want to elaborate, go ahead. I don't mean to insult you - it sucks you got divorced and you probably know how much of her gaining so much weight was her own nature vs your own faults as a husband.
I agree most women, and men, gain weight in ltrs
> tfw been with wife for almost 8 years
> Me a former IST and ISTgay
> her a con kid that heavily browsed /cgl/
> both super fit when we met in 2016
> relationships and life happens, slowly stop lifting
> eat well so no drastic weight gain
> 8 years later, wife is now built like Fugtrup's Mei with cowbreasts
> realize I like her body more now than ever
> become an architect
> make an effort starting last year to just keep active for health and not care about weight
> continue to lift 2-3x a week and run 2x a week for general health, not caring about aesthetics
> she swims 2x a week for her own health
> just enjoy life and each other, becoming more attracted to each other every day
She's a 34G/32H, has a belly, a perfect fupa innie pussy, and will dress up in outfits for me. She sat on my face dressed as Velma.
I am enraptured by her, obsessed with her. Waking up next to her is one of the biggest joys in my life. Her family loves me more than my own family does. We support each other, uplift each other.
It is great.
my man
Do you think I'm stupid enough to post pics of my wife on here?
I am blessed beyond what I deserve.
She's my prostitute 🙂
not exactly a 1:1 but damn close. mind you the more recent chubby versions theyve done
a woman that you love and care for, that you openly communicate with, her slow weight gain over the course of years is one of the sexiest things you will ever bear witness to.
and working out for general health is less stressful
I know you are dyel and low test kek
I'm naturally broad-shouldered and mildly skinnyfat. Never measured my test, but it's probably normal levels.
bench 210 idgaf about aesthetics anymore
She's my titcow built like a venusian sculpture. shit is so cash
You may be mad, but I'm still getting laid 3-4x a week
Look man, I love fat pussy too, but until you bench three plates it's best to just not even tell anyone what you bench like it's a flex or something.
yeah, you're right. fair enough
her family was low income originally. Dad was a coastie that transferred to public works and worked his way up so they're all down to earth. My family is just too vanilla/by the book so my neurodivergent ass just didn't mesh.
We met at a con, which is the funniest part. Mutual friend ran a specific part of it and got me in for free. wasn't planning on trying to meet women, but we met first night, casually chilled thoughout the weekend, talked about Mass Effect for 2hrs over lunch. Shit is cash I've never been happier.
married brahs will probably agree, you'll know when you've found your person. You'll want nothing but the best for them.
You got it going man, congrats
How old were you at the con?
>you've found your person
under 10 years in i take it
hahaha you are a homosexual dyel
Everyone coping so hard at this guy, truly a based individual.
Salty crabs mad that anon creampies his titcow wife's loving pussy every night
>Do you think I'm stupid enough to post pics of my wife on here?
she's a fat cow you homosexual nobody actually wants to see her outside of the subreddit you are raiding from
anon you can't post shit like this without proof
>She sat on my face dressed as Velma.
So your wife is just a fat prostitute.
>She sat on my face dressed as Velma
>built like Fugtrup's Mei with cowbreasts
HUMMINA HUMMINA HUMMINA HUMMINA HUMMINA HUMMINA HUMMINA HUMMINA HUMMINA HUMMINA HUMMINA HUMMINA
>Her family loves me more than my own family does.
My wife's family is relatively lower middle class, her dad was a mailman his whole career and her mom has no education or work experience to speak of. Both of them without actually knowing much about me treated me like I was a destined loser.
Her brother was a bar tender in NYC at the time, his first assessment of me to my wife was "yeah I don't really like him at all" and her sister was the "smart one" because she was going to college and was by my estimate not remarkably intelligent but definitely studious - her assessment was that I was a "know it all" mainly because someone brought up a historical topic and I contradicted something she said which was provably false.
Anyway, fast forward 15 years and her brother is still a bar tender only he's also taken to wearing dresses, makeup, and high heels recently, and her sister gained about 120lbs and is now a fat loser making 60k in the HR department of some shitty company while I have a seven figure net worth and my wife is a stay at home mom to our 4 kids. I'm waiting for the day one of them comes groveling for money and I tell them to frick off.
>still seething at your siblings in law about fairly mild offhand remarks spoken years ago
That's your family, moron
ANON. PLEASE, WHERE CAN I MEET WOMEN LIKE THAT??? ONLY ONES I MET BUILT NEARLY LIKE THIS ARE TAKEN
Stay winning, king.
you know having a fat wife is just a cope and not winning right or has haas propaganda brain rot gotten to you?
Happy for you dude. It's nice to see a happy ending around here.
you know he's dyel and skinny fat right?
Seething incel
Just hope she stays built like fugtrup Mei. The problem with fat women is even with god tier genetics if they keep it up they get too fat eventually. It happened with my gf, she has god tier fat distribution genetics and most of it goes to her ass and breasts, when we started dating she was 30BMI and had the fugtrup mei look since she has god tier fat distribution genetics and most of it goes to her ass thighs and breasts. She ballooned up to nearly 45BMI and lost her curves.
Shes dropping weight and is at 40BMI now but honestly if she wasnt I dont think I'd stay with her. Other than being a lot less attractive being with a girl that heavy is like physically difficult sex wise. It made me really depressed especially since I started getting IST as she ballooned up but she didnt want to follow suit.
>She sat on my face dressed as Velma.
king
>active for health and not care about weight
This doesn't make any sense. Admit you were never fit and you both look like shit.
Yes.
>How fat are we talking?
If she's really fat she will not change. Mine always stayed around 5'6" 180. During the pandemic she got up to 210 but dropped back down very quickly. If you're with a really big girl who's been big for a long time, she will not change.
>Gauge her 'values' early in the relationship
Covertly determine her 'values' when it comes to fitness. If she just doesn't care, you can't ever make her care. Mine always desperately wanted to be 130-140 lbs, but didn't have the knowledge or motivation to actually do it.
>Are you leading by example?
If you're working on your fitness, it shouldn't take her more than a year of when you start taking it seriously for her to start. If you wait and wait and she never follows your lead, she's lazy and won't change.
>Are you taking care of her?
Women are weak and cannot thrive unless they have a man creating a safe and stable environment for them. If you live together, do you help with finances, chores, etc. Do you keep the arguments to a minimum. Overall, keep her stress levels low so she can pursue fitness.
It's a long game, but with the right person it can be done.
>How fat
Was 160 when we got together. Bloated up a couple years ago when super depressed at her job. Just lost 20lb in a month by eating better and following a program I made her.
>example
I train every day and offer loving support without making her feel like a piece of shit.
>taking care
We don't argue. I've started cooking almost all of our meals as a couple so that I can keep slop to a minimum. It makes her happy because less work for her. Makes me happy because no slop.
Well my gf was really overweight when we started dating but has now lost over 70lbs and has around 50 lbs to go for normal weight. She tracks everything she eats and goes to gym 4 times a week, often with me. She likes to watch patty and aspires to have a body like she has some day. I guess my own weight loss story and her wish to be healthy and have healthy children made her do it. I never pushed her or told her to lose weight. I just told her how life is just better in literally every way if you are normal weight.
Today she is kinda based and anti fat acceptance. We often make fun of fat coper losers and feel better about ourselves haha
>Has anyone on IST ever had a gf go from fat to healthy?
Yeah. My last ex went from small fat(with good proportions) to skinny. My current gf is small fat too and she just started losing weight, she's been going to the gym since before we met but she never watched her portions.
The irony is im an architect and I purposely date smallfat women because its the lower end of my prefferences(im attracted to much bigger) but date smaller girls to avoid social stigma and compatibility factors, but I guess my IST lifestyle always rubs off on them and they end up losing weight.
I just want a fat ass and belly to play with bros... its not fair
>homosexual
I grew up upper middle class and I have a rep to uphold. No way im bringing a trashy fat b***h in tow to meet my family and friends
>"upper middle class"
>"have a rep to uphold"
As a lower high class fellow I can tell you nobody gives a shit about your rep. In every class you meet judgemental people. Just go on living YOUR life to others standards, that'll make you happy
I feel nothing but disgust towards your preferences anon.
good for her
>but seriously, why the hell does it matter if you aren't looking to marry anyway?
Well thats exactly what im saying. Ive hooked up with bigger girls but I only go for smaller girls for LTRs..
I think you guys are putting too much emphasis on the stigma part from my comment. The reason I dont date really big girls is like 10% social stigma and 90% incompatible lifestyle and not wanting one to be the mother of my kids. If you guys dont get that you need to stop thinking with your dicks.
Tirzepetide + anavar only cycle.
Ages ago, this would've been considered as the absolute goddess of beauty and fertility in God knows where frickery of a place.
Don't repeat that israelite/Black person bullshit.
Based anon spamming bbws. How are you not getting bans?
My main girl (Girlfriend for all intents and purposes, as we love each other, she’s just cool with me fricking the occasional bar bawd when it happens) went to a clinic that convinced her she had an “ED”, and because women largely are incapable of non-herd thinking she put on like 40lbs in the span of 6 months, and I basically stopped fricking her.
It will be an arduous journey you will not see results from immediately. Think of a ship pulling a tugboat with a 100ft rope: it takes a while for the boat to change direction.
YOU have to lead by example as well as convince her it’s her idea + something she wants. A good portion of it is operant conditioning, rewarding good behavior with positive praise + attention “you look so cute today” when she’s eating healthy vs a slightly gross look then totally ignoring her when she’s eating slop.
Find a superficial goal she has ergo wanting to look like a certain celebrity, mogging other women(VERY important to all women, more so than men), fitting into a certain dress, whatever. “Hey, it’s actually easier to do than you think. Just come to the gym with me and eat yummy food I teach you how to make with me and you got it” it’s important to make it a shared experience between you two.
There will be TONS of resistance on her part, but literally follow the above steps and remember at the end of the day she’s mentally just a young teenager.
T. Knower who’s GF has lost 30lbs so far
Its never worth it, its like buying a shit house with shit foundations even if you dress up the house, the shit foundations are still there, even the fact that they *were* a fat person means that they can become one again, at a significantly higher incidence.
My GF is chubby and says she wants to lose the weight. I told her I'm not giving her a kid if she remains this weight. Which is the truth, a large part of me wants to just break up with her but she's a good partner.
But part of me thinks "She's only being so good because she's fat right now." Which may be the truth. Only time will tell, she's def on a time limit because ever since I started to get my shit together I get way more attention now.
been there bro. your resentment for her will only grow larger as she very likely continues to refuse to change. if weight's a dealbreaker of an issue I would seriously mention it, if she says no then you've got your answer.
Thanks. I would rather be single than be a resentful butthole. Other women will treat me well, and it doesn't mean she has to lose at life. Some guy out there won't care if she's fat.
> it doesn't mean she has to lose at life. Some guy out there won't care if she's fat.
It doesn’t matter if she loses at life or not, it’s not your job to take care of her. You’re not married, so leave if it’s not working. Otherwise you wind up being her slave in the end.
> to just break up with her but she's a good partner
Ultimate cope for staying. If she’s a
fat ass who doesn’t take care of herself she’s not a good partner.
>She's only being so good because she's fat right now.
Nah.
She'll be happier, have more energy, and generally everything that makes for a good loving partner will improve with better health.
Fun's usually a better motivator than fear (at least I find), so you could try making it fun for her instead of just telling her you'll drop her fat ass.
I have a chubby azn gf atm. She is about 30(133 lbs)pounds overweight and has agreed to come to the gym with me as she said she was always intimidated to go alone. What would be a good routine to make her thicc?
When I met my wife, she was a little overweight. She saw I was daily gym user and joined me at the gym. She got very fit and was sexy as hell. After we got married she wound up taking a high paying but high stress job. She quit going to the gym because she didn't have the energy and she started stress eating. She put on about 40lbs from that. She put on another 20lbs when she got pregnant. She's being a stay at home mom right now and has started working out daily again and only eats home made meals and has been dropping the weight pretty fast. We both agree the money isn't that important and she needs to find a low stress job when she goes back to work.
I had the talk with my girlfriend that I would like her to lose weight and a big argument ensued after that. I stopped initiating sex too. She does pilates and the like, but she’s not losing weight. Meanwhile, everyone here is saying to lead by example, which I’m trying to do by living an active lifestyle and watching my weight, but to no avail.
I will admit that she lost a little weight after our argument, but then she plateaued shortly after. I’m a loyal bf, but I’d be lying if I didn’t have fantasies of being with some of the IST chicks that are abundant in my city. What do bros?
I'm about to have the "You're fat" talk with my GF during dinner next week. My life is about to change a lot, like out of the country making way more a lot - so this is her year to upgrade and work hard. Not just with her weight, but with her finances as well. If she doesn't, then we can say we gave it enough time.
Until then, rubber rubber rubber!
>Has anyone on IST ever had a gf go from fat to healthy? If so, how did you/they do it. What's your story?
When I met my wife in college she was on the school's track team and I was on the wrestling team. We both gained weight after graduating because we weren't specifically training for anything anymore every day like we had been before, and we had to work. A few years after that we sat down to talk about actually getting married, and came to the conclusion that most of our spats came from the fact we didn't give a shit about our bodies like we did back in college. Spent a year encouraging each other back into shape then got married.
Fiancee is 220, trying to help going to start her on the couch to 5k tomorrow
I also keep offering to cook for her, she's lazy and likes sweets
However I love her dearly and she's young; she can still change
We should sin tax sweets like we do cigarettes. If that damn Hershey bar was $8 more people would rethink if they need it so bad. Both Ben and Jerry should be publicly executed for what they've done to our country.
Worst part is wanting to look out for her health without being a control freak. I've set a bad example on eating too many times but am way more active than she is. Everytime I see her eating crap (like these 66% sat fat sweets she's eating as breakfast :/) I'm torn.
Yes, Ben Cohen and Jerry Greenfield should pay for what they've done.
Frick off with your nanny state bullshit. If I want to enjoy a chocolate bar as part of an otherwise healthy diet, I shouldn't be penalised because some fatty doesn't know how to exercise a bit of fricking restraint.
Fatty detected
Let's sin tax meat, coffee and milk as well, since they cause unhealthy habits in people and cause disease when not consumed in moderation.
>b-b-but that's different!
No it's not.
No they don't.
Fatty detected.
Eat shit and DIE, statist
It's very rare fat girls get skinny
Being obese is a life-time curse. It fricks up your skin, even after you lose weight. Look at the picture you shared. You can see that the stomach skin is messed up. Her breasts are probably super saggy (from fat to fit girls get saggy breasts). Same for her arms, she will never have the nice small arms that non-fat girls have. And most of the times, it fricks up your belly button shape too.
If you loose weight young enough your skin recovers after a few years
Put here on YAYO pine pollen immediately, it will help her not only focus and enjoy working out more, it will also healp her hormoines which she needs help because she's FAT lol
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im 30 years old and pretty fit(not to brag or anything)
My strategy: find a cute 18-21 year old chubby girl (cute chubby get them BEFORE they become "fat"), frick her for a few months, she will love you and treat you so well bros
Unfortunately slampigs are for fun but not serious relationships
Chubby girls are like fast food
this probably won't work. so many chubby girls just go on to become fat. their metabolisms are on cheat mode when they're young, less so by the time they reach 25+. Think about how many people from your high school are now fat, if it's anything like mine it's a lot.
if they aren't thin before being like 22, they never will be, unless they turn into a crazy gym lady at like 40.
There are women who will get up and do it. And there are women who don’t. It’s luck of the draw. I say this in every thread about getting your woman skinny again and these threads keep coming up. At this point I think these threads are here to get you guys in a relationship to fall out of the relationship.
Men, should I make mushroom soup for dinner tonight or should I just not eat
Mine got from skinny to nearly obese to normal over a decade. I think she had a wakeup call a summer at the beach with friends (she was the only fat female). She acknowledged her food addiction, went to a dietitian, started a food intake journal, started eating vegetables and salad as a starter for each meal, chose between cheese or chocolate, went hardcore into pilates and in 6-9 months she was normal. She still is insecure about her physique and has body dysmorphia, though.
Knowledge about nutrition and macros is fundamental. Knowledge about cooking vegetables right as well. Learned helplessness, cognitive distortion and fat acceptance are b***hes.
>be me khv
>manged to get gf at 33
>she's fat short but virgin
>sex is horrible because of all the fat rolls
>unhealthy fat style as frick
>sick of the current situation
>start taking her on walk at night
>sending her pics of cute dresses that would fit her if she was slimmer
>start cooking my meal and hers
>grocery is mostly fresh foods and no sugary treats
>positive feedback when she do something healthy
>got her dietary supplements
>sex improved
>intimacy very much improved
That was how it started
Now she lost 10 kg in a little over a year.
Basically females are like a dog, if they aren't doing what you want it's because you're bad trainer
And on hindsight, if someone really love someone they would try to be their best version for them, and making her glimpsing at me liking pics of IST girls probably helped.
In conclusion, make her happy to adopt a better lifestyle.
I know she will never be as fit as a cardiobunny, but I know she will never be a lardwhale again.
Yes and then I dumped her anyway
Not because she was fit or anything, she was a moron for 3 years and I was over it
Basically invited her to work out/run with me every time I went and eventually she did. Didn't help her personality
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>how did you/they do it. What's your story?
>meet at 13 and 14 y.o.
>both the same flavor of total moron, internet shitposting cynics
>also means we're both fat kids
>constantly interacting with each other for the next five years of school, oscillate from hating each other to being buddies, can't really avoid interaction because it's a 400 kid k-12 with graduating classes of 30 and we like all the same shit
>keep up in college
>she has a shittier time than me, drinks like a fish
>she gets fatter
>start fricking
>make her go on BC so I can nut inside
>she gets even fatter
>get real serious
>spend five years being pieces of shit together, just sitting around in a basement slugging back 40s, smoking weed, playing vidja, watching garbage cartoons
>parents get me a job and tell me to gtfo the basement
>we move into our own place
>she does the grocery budget, all the cooking
>we start losing weight because less money for trash
>I decide to stop being fat
>go from 240 to 170 in 6 months
>she's half heartedly attempting 235 to 210 in the same time frame
>get married
>start trying for kids
>nothing doing
>her gyno tells her it's because she's a fat frick
>she drops down to 170 over the next half a year
>I knock her up
>she keeps going down after our son in born (did put some pudge back on during pregnancy)
>155, running every other day, lifting
>I (accidentally this time) knock her up again
>son II
>back at the grind, she's jogging (albeit shittily) 8 weeks out from an emergency C section
>hoping to get down to 130
>she has long term goals of being able to outrace and still pick up the boys until they're in middle school
>short term goals of us being able to frick with me standing up and holding her against a wall
WAGMI, including our wives.
fricking inspiring (if true), anon
My ex-gf was skinny but never exercised. She b***hed about the effort even when we went for a short walk. My current gf is chubby and not as pretty. With my ex we got comments about how good we looked as a couple, much less so now. But, my current gf likes exercise, we can go on walks, cycle rides and canoeing together, and she used to go running by herself. She's a bit more self-conscious of her body now and has gone up a dress-size since we started dating (not sure what's causing the weight-gain, maybe her diet). When we were in Japan, she tried to by a samue but the store said they didn't have anything in her size and it made her cry, she said she was aware of how big she was compared to other giirls we saw while we were there. I certainly don't want her getting any bigger, but as she enjoys exercise and is a little self-conscious about her weight so there's certainly grounds for improvement. If she lost a few pounds she could easily have a bombshell hourglass figure. Sorry for the blogpost.
I am sure you handled the situation well,
in moments like the one where she cries because reality hits her, the best thing you could do is say something like "i love you, come here, cry it all out" and later when she is stable again, you could ask her if you should help her losing weight. If she is a reasonable enough human she wont scream at you and think about it. She sounds good for you, Anon.
>She sounds good for you, Anon.
Thanks anon. Ultimately, she loves me completely and unconditionally, so she deserves the best I can give her, and I'm willing to compromise on a few things in exchange for that.
Regarding that situation, I handled it as you said, it was about 6 months ago.
I hope this can happen. Last time I visited my home town, my highschool crush was giving off signs of interest. I would have tried to smash if she hadn't gotten fat, and I hope she'll have gotten into better shape by the next time I visit. It's petty, but I want to dick her down good so she sees that she would have been better off dating me all those years ago.
Thanks for reading my blog.
Not fat exactly but I helped my wife lose babyweight and what I found to be effective was controlling but not totally eliminating the treats she likes (girls aren't virgin autists who can give up everything they like with willpower) and leading from the front. I made the meal plan and ate it with her. When she exercised, it was always with me. I made sure to keep her morale up and nip quitter mentality (he loves me whatever I look like/it's too hard to stay in shape with a baby, etc) early. People are fat because of their habits, and they don't change them overnight or by themselves unless they're an adult male virgin NEET, typically.
Tl;dr make sure she feels good about it and it will probably work
I did this shit in a year 315lbs to 150lbs at my smallest
Great fricking job man
Holy shit good job anon.
Nice dick
Thanks dude
Yeah I was only eating one meal a day..
Jesus dude, I have no excuse for not seeing my abs then.
Very nice bro. Way less loose skin than I'd have imagined coming from over 300. Hell that looks like it'll tighten right up in time.
Did you fast?
Good job anon. Proud of you unironically.
Yes bro. My wife got into aerobics classes and eventually spin classes. She’s lost like 45 lbs and is hotter and hornier than she’s ever been.
She went from female bro style to straight up etsy mom.
I was fat and still fat when I met her. It’s just that I lost a lot of weight and was really good looking despite being still being obese. She was already beautiful and it was really obvious she would be model tier if she lost weight. Honestly, I was fit before she started losing weight but what seemed to help her was me getting a home gym. So I guess she was just embarrassed to be at the gym. Still a little chubby but has lost of ton weight, fricking gorgeous too, we’re definitely going to have some beautiful kids.
I got a little fat after pregnancy. I’m losing the weight. My husband doesn’t care though. I absolutely despise the extra weight I don’t know how anyone can handle the sensory experience of being fat. It is uncomfortable I wish I could just cut it all off. I hate how long it takes to lose. I would have never overate if I knew how horrible it feels to exist in a fat body. I was skinny my entire life before this. It must feel even worse being a fat man because you guys are not even meant to be even a little bit round.
>I absolutely despise the extra weight I don’t know how anyone can handle the sensory experience of being fat. It is uncomfortable I wish I could just cut it all off
that's full on fat dysphoria, but that's apparently good for you if you can healthily get back to a healthy weight
>It must feel even worse being a fat man because you guys are not even meant to be even a little bit round.
shit sucks but you get used to it if you've been pudgy since primary school (can't blame me mum either, we were in a shithole country and I had the food tism)
I'll never understand dudes who settle for fatties. Fricked a fat b***h once and never again. Jacking off is infinitely more enjoyable than being with a girl you aren't even attracted to.
How and why do women do this too themselves...
This can’t be real. How does this even happen?
Its definitely very photoshopped
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this is so fricking disgusting what the frick is wrong with you?
i wouldn't touch that shit with a 10 ft pole
Eugh. This is why I frick twinks.
homosexual
brap
Yeah I helped my ex go from 170 to 120 and she then she dropped out of school and started working at a strip club without telling me. After I found out about it and dumped her she spiraled and started doing hard drugs and shit. Idk where she is now. Could be dead for all I know.
> all these anons seething over architect anon being happy with his slampig wife