My wife (28 now) used to look hot and skinny the first few years we were together. Weighed 60kgs cute as hell. After her pregnancy (5 years ago) she kept gaing weight. Now she weighs 120kg got extremely fat and started refusing to shower because muh anxiety. She grows some facial hair now and refuses to exercise or clean.
What can i do. If she drasticly loses weight will she be left with flappy skin or will it shrink back down. Im begging. Any spousal success stories?
sounds like mental health problems. take her to a professional. she can't possibly be happy with herself either at this point
Basically therapy.
The internet is a dangerous place for women right now. It's extremely easy to get sucked into the "HAES" and "you don't have to change anything about yourself" bullshit that exists out there. When miserable about yourself, often the hardest thing to do (pull yourself up, workout, put effort into yourself) is the right direction, but its so much easier to just get brain rot from influencers and blame the world for feeling bad about yourself.
I don't know if this counts as a success story, but I've been with my fiance for about 12 years now and she's stayed extremely skinny. We met in college, after college depression made her gain about 30-40lbs, but then got to therapy, made a career move, and dropped back down to college weight and happier than ever. Meanwhile I have a good friend who gained weight, absolutely competent and in a high-ranking position but she swallowed the HAES BS hook line and sinker, and now she has an insufferable personality around being fat instead of who she used to be and everyone is distancing themselves from her. It's important to be supportive and don't let your wife's mindset go down that poisonous route.
Cheers
Yeah already send her to therapy. 10 sessions a year. Just got her birth control out which i have long thought hqs been the source of problems. so hopefully her hormones rebalance themselves too
>Just got her birth control out
yeah, this is no joke. I hate condoms as much as the next guy, but my wife is so much happier and horny off the pill. Doctors need to be more open with how birth control can mess with a woman's well being
Yeah. Surprised they just gove it out so readily after the last few years of bullshit. My mind has been opened to how much it is just profiteering with little actual regard for the people or society they frick up
My wife and I just do anal and 69 now.
In that order?
>fat frick was on birth control
Why. Were you actually having sex with that thing?
That was my first thought too
Don’t do this. I got my gf to take her IUD out and and she slowly stopped having sex with me. Then she started getting a little pudgey belly and broke up with me
Lmao this happened to me when she put the IUD in. That stuff completely fricks them up
he said after she took it out
It fricks them up both ways. Got even crazier after she took it out. Women are slaves to their hormones
When I first got my iud in, it was like I was pms free for the first year then hormones slowly kicked in. It's devastating to experience than clarity then lose it
>have the whale have a heart attack asap
I see what you did there anon
She needs to try other types of birth control. She may have to try several different pills before she finds one that doesn't affect her libido or weight, but I'm sure it exists. I would recommend staying away from the tricyclic ones, never heard anything good about them.
Also be careful with IUDs, patches, and shot forms of birth control.
>hopefully
Divorce.
I’ll save you a couple years of suffering before you become her emotional scapegoat. Your wife is developing a victim complex as we speak and who is the closest person to blame?
Therapy first
Then a physical
Then squats
>Now she weighs 120kg
>refusing to shower
>She grows some facial hair now
>refuses to exercise or clean
This post made me happy I am single.
Imagine the smell.
Imagine being locked into that by law. Imagine the only way of escaping is laying alimony/child support for years and years. Lol. Lmao
Similar op. She was very active did lots of sports, now she's like 85kg. She also smokes and drinks like fish. Please help anon
>What can i do.
Inject all her food with seed oils to speed up the demise probably. She is definitely never going to get her shit back together, that's for sure.
Yeah my wife plumped up when she developed adult asthma and just stopped all physical activity for a couple years while she was in denial. About a year ago I had to take her to a doctor and get her started on several treatments for asthma, migraines, and heavy periods. Once that was all stabilized we started going to the gym together. You’re not going to make progress unless you address what started this change to begin with.
That said throw her fat ass in the shower.
Any nudes?
How do you do it? Still have sex with a stinky obese cow?
Just grim. Grim.
Most of these women are depressed and have stopped caring due to modern society mentally screwing them over.
You married a woman and she nested. Pretty typical woman behavior. One aspect of this is testing you to make sure you're still a worthy mate which involves fricking with you by not showering and doing shit like that. Humans in general are compelled by a lot of subconscious shit, but women in particular are basically passengers in their own existence. They consciously get to watch their emotional wiring dictate everything in their existence and then hijack the rational part of them to justify what the primitive little cave girl in them is doing. Your wife probably loves you, but her biology is compelling her to frick with you. It isn't even conscious.
When you're out in public with her, it's humiliating to you whether you accept it or not. She's "trying" to embarrass you. This is because nature has drilled an algorithm into women for the purpose of filtering men. Men hunt, women need to filter. Nature gave us both different methods for achieving this for reproductive purposes. For women, it's constantly attacking the things that make women attracted to men. The men that resist the onslaughts are the men women are attracted to, but the tests always continue.
Women do all sorts of shit like this and it's why they're perpetually miserable in general because they're constantly trying to make themselves unhappier because that's how they find better and better males. They stop dressing as nice, they get fat, they stop wearing makeup, they put themselves in shady situations to see how you react, and so on. It's why women come off as so annoying to guys because they do this shit and they can't seem to control it. Marriage fricks it all up because when women get like this, you're supposed to throw them out. The act of being thrown out demonstrates you are a man with options and that resets them.
OP, I bet you're a guy that's pretty good in bed or has dated some hot chicks. Women tend to do the "make myself ugly" route when a guy is good in bed or has dated hot women because it's one of the big things they can take from you. They can force you to frick an ugly girl to break you. The ugly girl in this case being them...When you aren't even worth it, they'll just stay hot and put themselves in situations where there is a good probability of cheating on you just to get you into jealousy mode which they also find unattractive (but go out of their way to try to provoke it). Women are pretty easily solvable, but the reward for solving them besides a lot of pussy on tap is a major blackpill on existence itself.
> Women are pretty easily solvable, but the reward for solving them besides a lot of pussy on tap is a major blackpill on existence itself.
Yup
take your meds schizo what in the frick are you going off about
So what do we do now gay? My wife is still fat
You can start by not calling people who have the answers you seek a gay. good luck to you.
Go out to a female thing - botanical garden or something girly like that and take your wife with you. She is understimulated and literally neglecting herself. She may have anxiety and that is legit so if you're at the store get some lavender or chamomile tea. Also take over cooking some of the meals because we both know you're going to be better at making something nutritious than her.
This happens to a lot of people. My partner went through the same thing, now I'm the fatter one comparatively.
For better or for worse, sickness or health you are together,
>She is understimulated
She is quite young and I'm sure her hormones are all messed up because of her lifestyle
Your goal isn't to make her skinny.
It's to make her not be as depressed. Yes she is less attractive rn, but there is a reason "self care" days are advertised as much as they are.
New places, new experiences, new stuff to do. Don't put pressure on her being fat, she knows it, going from hot to fat is something she is constantly reminded of. Focus on getting her to be mentally healthy.
Does your wife have any female friends?
Do you think you think you could organize a double date?
This will motivate her to actually get out of the house and look presentable.
Also small reminder that therapy is good, but it is no replacement for genuine care from a spouse.
In some of your responses it seems like you're a little focused on her being depressed effects you. Try thinking of how she feels.
She is young and with a young child? Maybe there are young mother support groups she can go to. I imagine she feels isolated if her friends or peers didn't have a child yet.
Also, have you considered maybe some extra curriculars for your son/daughter? This way your wife can have a mental break and the child can have fun or learn a skill.
The YMCA has a lot of fun programs.
>just take over the housework 🙂
>just take her on a vacation teehee
these were written by women
>vacation
show me where I said anything about a vacation.
Fricking autismo
Yeah and what happens when she decides she doesn’t even want new places or experiences? Your entire plan falls apart moron.
Only way is to autism your way out of depression via Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, lay out her distortions on paper, challenger her automatic thoughts and for her behavior to stop being a permanent emotional disgrace.
She decides to be depressed, if she wants to waste her best years being useless and a shit mother it’s time to give her an awakening if she doesn’t want to do a damn thing about it.
OP best thing you can do for her is buy a CBT book by David Burns, get her the handbook, next time she b***hes lay the book on her lap and tell her everything is in there, you’d benefit from reading it yourself it also teaches you how to deal with cases like her and work through arguments.
Don’t coddle her or reward shit behavior. This is more serious than both of you realize.
Is your child in junior kindergarden or senior kindergarden?
If anon lifts a fricking finger without HER committing to anything he will only condition a parasite. They need to talk and after she makes a commitment to change THEN anon can do these things.
You only enable shit behavior if you serve them in silver platter without being explicit you are only doing it for them to make an effort as well. If she never fricking bothers to change and anon stops these gestures then she will now flip it on him how he doesn’t care anymore and wallow further in self pity.
Don’t give an inch if they don’t want to try at all.
>So what do we do now gay? My wife is still fat
Get involved or even get a total control of the grocery list. This is very important. You WILL completely change want your family eat and you WILL take the leadership of it.
Eat more meat. Mostly meat. Eggs and milk. Potatoes, fruits and rice for carbs.
NO SEED OILS
Makes sure you tell your wife "we are disgusting fat fricks and I'm fricking tired if it"
This.
Women are dominated by fear and anxiety of their partner leaving so they perform constant shit tests. They do the things they think would make you leave to "make sure" you won't. They just invent new and more tests to constantly make sure. Not sure how to solve it.
T. Wife had baby, gained weight, mentions wanting to lose weight, I agree I want to lose weight too. Constant suggestions of takeout, or trash tier frozen fried foods and chinese food. Tries to convince me to work out less, making me work harder and harder for sex.
femcels wrote these posts
>consciously get to watch their emotional wiring dictate everything in their existence and then hijack the rational part of them to justify what the primitive little cave girl in them is doing
I got to baby making age and there is a deep satisfaction that now exists with being full that didn't exist when I was younger. I only eat one meal a day so it didn't have a major impact on me, but I lowkey suspect it plays a huge role in obesity in women
>My wife (28 now) used to
>Weighed 60kgs
>Now she weighs 120kg
>She grows some facial hair now and refuses to exercise or clean.
LMAO at your existence, how can men these day still for the whole marriage shit?
Honestly just going East Asian is the only way to do it if you can. My wife is Korean and she has already lost her pregnancy weight after only 4 months. Her mom even nagged her about it.
a fat is preferable to a bug
at least a fat facsimiles human connection
White woman cope. Wife is Chinese is more based than any dog fricker could ever be.
Dog eater > dog fricker
racemixers don't get to have opinions
you'll be the first to go in the upcoming race war
Who said anything about race mixing?
I'm Chinese like my wife is.
Dumbass white dicklet thinks everything is about him and his pathetic "race".
Ok, for once you're actually based Chang.
Nice going.
nice bait, we all know chinese people cant comprehend basic things like
>getting run over car
>bad
>putting arm in industrial machine
>bad
>eating wild bat after sitting in a disgusting wet market
>bad
well that last part is kind of based, absolutely shit on the entire earth. i think the last time one single nation did that was what, the chernobyl nuclear meltdown?
I'm not that anon but I'm black so I'm not sure you should even give a shit. White women are disgusting but you'll simp for one until she gets fat and divorce rapes you. Have fun.
I'm not that anon either but all men should simp for women of their own race and stop falling for dumbshit race baiting tactics from literal communists and israelites.
You're the only one here race baiting. White women are dogpilled and black women that are attractive are exclusively lesbians. Don't waste my time.
You're legitimately mentally ill if this is what you genuinely believe every single word you wrote.
No he's a pavement ape gorilla Black person ooo ooo aaa aaa shit covered monkey dicklet wants a banana
White woman cope
nta but i love white women
t. white boy with a 20cm pp that white girls love
Based. No truer words have been spoken since Malcom X.
Truly a cursed post. Satan is about.
Cut off your arm and feed it to your parents while licking their shit, Xaio cuck
ok browncel nice larp kek
Why would I be celibate if I'm married? Fricked my slim Chinese wife just last night after she finished doing yoga. Very nice.
>LMAO at your existence, how can men these day still for the whole marriage shit?
Because it's not always like this. Grow up.
yeah... just throw her out at this point. She will get loose skin if she loses all the extra weight. She is obviously a mental case of some sort too. You will not not save the situation, but you could save yourself
>Just uproot your existence and life you built, better luck next time
reminder that the best relationship advice is to ignore relationship advice, the advisor cannot know all the cards you have been dealt
She is really lazy during sex too. She lays back and wants me to please her. With my mouth if you know what I mean. But the smell makes me gag.
STOP! J-just please stop... even reading that made me gag
Then before sex, ask her if she wants to shower before or after you.
She gets upset and angry at me when I suggest a shower. She is even stopping me change the bed sheets, she said clean sheets irritate her skin now.
Yeah my wife pulls this stupid shit all the time.
>hey lets make an obvious improvement
>no I’m worried about irrelevant thing X
>okay well let’s just try it and see
>make improvements
>I don’t like Y thing about it we could have done it differently
I wish I was just a gay some days
Being gay is the biggest blessing.
Have a buddy who is gay. They both moved to a super rural area, got 100+k salaries, lived minimally for 10 years, purchased 10 rentals, moved back to friends and family, and live off the passive income. They take extravagant trips constantly. India, Carribean, Japan, China. He would autistically play mmo's while working with boomers and alcoholic natives. They frick each other 1-3 times a day, smoke weed all the time, and now he does game dev on a passion project doing pixel art.
I'm definitely straight, but inshallah, if there was a god he would have made me gay.
You don't do enough drugs if you aren't gay yet
Did you pee on the sheets? That's a male piss pattern, homie
>doesn't see the pee stream going to the sheets
OP, why the frick are you with this disgusting creature still? The fatness should have been the last straw, never mind the total lack of hygiene and the frickin beard this c**t is cultivating. Seriously man, it's time to cut your losses on this one. Can't be good for your kid either having a disgusting mother
get a divorce and tell her it's because she's fat
dumbest post itt
>He fell for the white women meme
There's nothing you can do. You either love that whale or you get divorce raped. Maybe both if you're really lucky. Next time find a foreign woman that openly fat shames, cooks healthy food so she wouldn't get fat, and exercises regularly.
>started refusing to shower because muh anxiety
lolwut
Let me guess she blames her insulin resistance on PCOS, she has to go low carb m8 only way to unfrick herself. She doesn’t even need a complex routine just make her take a 20-30 min walk after every meal.
She won’t be able to handle IF don’t even bother, best to wait until she feels mobile enough from the adjusted diet and walks.
If that doesn’t work I’m sorry for your marriage, she can look into cognitive behavioral therapy but honestly these types of women just don’t want to fricking do anything except continue killing themselves and destroying those around them. They are addicted to your and their pity. Boogie tier.
Ok, look, I'm not an expert on psychology (so take someone else's suggestions for that part of the problem) but I have very relevant experience and knowledge: My wife has had serious problems keeping her weight down all her life (she gains weight really easy) until she realized a simple fact: its not how much you eat, it's WHAT you eat. We have a saying in our house: no matter how much broccoli you eat, you'll never get fat from it. That is to say, if you eat healthy (non fattening, etc) food, you can just go wild and as much as you want, and you will stay perfectly thin and healthy.
So try to find some foods she really likes, really tasty, and reaplace the cakes, chips, meats, and dairy products with that. She doesn't have to go hungry to lose weight and be thin.
...continuing my chain of thought:
She like fruit smoothies? Bring her 1 at every meal. Surgar it with dates and bananas, not sugar. Fruit salads? Bring her a giant freakin bowl of fresh cut fruits (no cream topping). She likes Chili, find a recipe with great tasting spices and sauce that doesn't contain any meat or cream. Burrito? Well that one is easy! Whole-wheat tortilla stuffed with chili,
brown rice, fresh cut veggies, salad & salsa. You get the idea. Eat lots, but eat healthy!
Consuming lots of fructose will make you fat. This is a bad idea.
nice stealth vegan bait m8
>she weighs 120kg got extremely fat
>She grows some facial hair now
Sounds like PCOS. She should see a gynecologist.
This is why you shouldn't get married. Hope you signed a pre-nup, dumbass, or else you're stuck with this fricking ogre.
>This is why you shouldn't get married
Stop pretending it's even an option for you
Found the woman.
She has PCOS from being fat. Being a lard ass causes hormone imbalances.
Never forget: You don't have to be a husband to be a good father.
>refusing to shower because muh anxiety
.... what? irrational fear of drowning in falling water?
These stories make me scared to get married.
Gonna try getting her a dedicated personal trainer.
>homies are falling for the marriage meme in 2023
Stop pretending you have the option.
Looks like we found the coping guys with fat wives
Keep cooming and coping that you're living your best life.
holy projection
>holy projection
back to plebbit, please
So let me get this straight. When you get married
- you lock yourself into a relationship with one person
- can't frick anyone else
- she is guaranteed to get old and ugly
- she will very likely become more and more obnoxious
- she will very likely become fat
- there's a chance she'll take all your shit
- her bad habits will drag down your good habits
And the benefit to the whole thing is: Nothing.
If you get married then you truly must be an 80 IQ peon. I cannot wrap my hand around this.
>I cannot wrap my hand around this.
Fricking lmao even your autocorrect betrays your status as an incel.
better incel than be locked to a 120kg smelly woman AND KIDS
>- you lock yourself into a relationship with one person
Sleeping around is meaningless and when you grow up you'll understand
>- can't frick anyone else
See above
>- she is guaranteed to get old and ugly
You are also guaranteed to get old. See above. She doesn't need to get fat. Find a partner that values her health through steady exercise and clean eating
>- she will very likely become more and more obnoxious
If she was obnoxious on day one you should have noticed. She didn't change. You just had rose colored glasses
>- she will very likely become fat
You said this already. See above.
>- there's a chance she'll take all your shit
Date someone that's financially on your level so there's no inequality in the relationship where you'd have that fear. Alimony is to protect the quality of life after marriage. If you were at the same level there's nothing to pay.
>- her bad habits will drag down your good habits
Don't date people with bad habits
>handpick woman that is smart, employed, thin, nice, pretty, the whole 9 yards
>marry her
>she decides to quit her job and stay at home cuz woman, and it's not like you can force her to work
>discovers HAES, feminism and all the rest of the new age bullshit through internet or through friends
>things take their natural course, and she becomes fat, obnoxious and combative
>despite her changing completely, you are still just as bound to her as you were in the beginning
And that's how your neat little plan goes straight into the shitter.
>Sleeping around is meaningless
True. But you know what's worse than living a meaningless existence where you sleep around? Living a meaningless existence where you're shackled to a nagging hambeast.
Is your grandmother fat and obnoxious?
>t.dude with low-T genetics whose father was a b***hboy
every time
the anti-marriage incel will never tell you about his father
> high test high genetic marry women who turn into hambeasts that boss them around
I feel so bad for you people. The amount of copes required to justify how you aren't a glorified slave to a b***h and the government.
daddy was a weak man, wasn't he?
nobody with a strong father is vitriolic about marriage.
only weak boys spawned of weak fathers who are terrified of living the misery their tired old man lived.
you could have broken the cycle
instead you have chosen weakness in the hope you could dress it up as rebellion
OK how do I break the cycle then? My dad was a b***h CONSOOOMER who bought every gizmo he saw and turned tbe house into a hoarder shithole.
Ask yourself the hard to answer question. Force yourself to answer them and you will find the way to this hill you need to climb
>le poetic stoic "I so smart" generic autistic response
Did that. Now I'm aware of why I suck. I literally have no solution to this problem other than to beat the shit out of my dad. No, idc that he's old. So what are actual, feasible things I can do?
He has no answers. Marriagegays go back to the familiar "happy wife happy life" mentally whenever they get pushed on anything too hard.
Man, it's all about your own self worth. You see marriage as bad because your dad accepted shit that he shouldn't have. Get to the point where you like yourself and will stand up for yourself when shit doesn't make sense then suddenly relationships won't have disastrous affects on you because up have the spine to leave. Your vitriol stinks of fear
The point is why would you ever want to deal with that in the first place? If it's some vague notion of "being a real man" then it's moronic manipulation.
Recognizing and fixing what's causing the fear is progress that should happen regardless of a relationship. They can be incredibly fulfilling but not if you're building on shitty foundation
Why do you keep dancing around answers like you're larping as Jordan Peterson
Idk man, why wouldn't I have custom tailored responses to you anonymous image board? A real thinker. Post your actual shit if you want explicit advice, but in general look at the areas in life where you're discontent and make plans for meaningful change, even if that means you'll experience discomfort. ie hate your job and hate life? Leave that job and do something different, even if you'll make less. It's about small changes that prioritize you. What bad habits has your pussy father imparted on to you?
You're nowhere near as smart as you think you are.
Lmao I don't think I'm smart. I'm happy and have a good life. I'd like it if the rest of you sad c**ts got to be happy too
It's funny. They all complain about being sad pathetic suicidal loaners. You tell them the route and they still deny it. Assuming you're another older anon like myself that's been through the bullshit already.
Said it before but pussy will not fill the hole in your soul. Simply can not.
>Post your actual shit if you want explicit advice
Frick it. I'm
>have 0 motivation to do anything beyond what is required of me for society/normies
>dream goals? live on a house on a lake with good internet, gym, and a woman to frick on occasion. no job. no contributions
>no seriously. that's it
>want to believe in higher deeper connections but 80% of the world is face value shallow
>want friends but remember above point so i don't even bother ntm the amount of toxic people i've let come into my life and use me
>the fricking millisecond i start thinking of something higher i realize how absolutely fricked i am
>i constantly think people are fricking with me and not sure if it's just a projection of myself onto them or if i've been fricked enough times to where it's really that bad
I don't have all the answers, but what are you doing to meaningfully move towards your lakehouse, besides saving money for it? Make the reasons tangible, when possible. Why is it easier for you to drop all people than just the shit ones? It might not leave many, but so what? That last point is likely the biggest thing to address, but I found that stuff easier to address when I had a direction in life because it was easy to see when people were slowing down my progress towards what I wanted. Just know that sick people attract sick people, and the quality of people you attract when you have direction are better than when you accept stagnation
So how do I get direction?
>lakehouse
If I'm being honest it is hiding from the world. How do I find purpose?
>inb4 find God
Was Catholic for 18 years. Gave me more problems than fixed.
>So how do I get direction?
Bit of a shit answer, but experiencing enough life to recognize what's particularly motivating to you. What normally get you moving? Curiosity, power, recognition, achievement, family, incentives, fear, religion, etc. Fifure that out then utilize that to help you get or keep what you want. Purpose is when motivation and meets goals.
I said it before, I know exactly what is driving me to the mindset I have now. I know what is driving me towards the other mindset. OK. Now what? What do I do? Is there a fricking chart of if X then Y? Because at this point I'm more inclined to agree with the other anon you're a sperg trying to be Peterson.
>OK. Now what? What do I do? Is there a fricking chart of if X then Y?
nta but if you expect concrete actions or a chart you are the actual sperg here. Nobody will be able to give you this, your life is irreducible and no one can exactly put themselves into your shoes and plan/act according to your specific goals and sympathies so stop asking for it.
If you are asking for childlike levels of minute directions getting a Peterson-level response is just correct.
Frick it. I'm doing drugs until I OD. Addy and shroomd until I die.
State your shit explicitly. I can't help with 'I know my mindset' cause idk yours. In general, cognitive reframing and setting up consequences and rewards that are independent of your control. The idea is to set up positive feedback loops that work with your motivations
>work with your motivations
Black person... how many times have I said I have no motivations. Where do I go to get some? I'd literally pay to give a frick about something.
Then work with goals in lieu of motivation, but you're going to have to be the one to look of various common motivation and actually do stuff that will let you know if they suit you or not. There's no tip or trick, you have to work and find out what suits you. Think back to literally any time you given a little more effort than required and start there
And I have no goals. Again, beyond the shit I mentioned which I know are copes. So how do I find good goals worth achieving?
Work with the shit goals first while you figure out your motivation then figure out end goals. Shit goals>>>no goals
Jesus Christ, you're a basic b***h with dogshit advice. Just post body already.
>I can't
>I can't
>I don't
>I won't
>no no no no
You will have no success until you find the minimum avenue you're willing to go down. You're the common factor
>no body
Anon, the only thing you did was convince me why a therapist would put me on pills and why I never ever open up to normies. Ever. It's really not hard to fit in, I just feel nothing. Sorry basic basic b***h advice didn't work. I mean, if it worked for you, good on you. You do understand my struggle, right? You're not another normie who's never had depression, right?
Frick.
You.
>You're not another normie who's never had depression, right?
Couldn't be more wrong. I took a health insurance plan out on myself for my family that had a year period between when it would cover suicide, and then gave myself a year to try or die. It really is that simple, but sad brain makes everything harder. Motivation is just a trick to find the easier path to go down to get Some positive progress
So what motivates you?
Back then, wanting to finish all the sections of a hike that I had completed most sections in. I figured I see some pretty parts of the country again before I'd die. Now it's wanting a comfy life for my family and getting a vacation cabin in the nearby mountains in the next 5 years.
>doesn't explain how he transitioned from that to giving a frick
I get it. You're making fun of me and this is bait. This will be my last post.
It's a positive feedback loop. You do one small thing that feels good, which helps motivate you to the next thing that feels good. If the things are aligning with your motivations or goals, it should feel good in the end. There's obviously struggles, but you find the smallest thing you can convince yourself to do and do it. It'll build the habit and the mindset as you go along
Shut up already, you dumb Black person and post body.
Stoicism is a low IQ cope by mentally stunted man children.
Nah frick that shit
If I ever get too old to frick hot b***hes I will stay single and get a cool dog and go on adventures with him
And then your cool dog dies. What then? Do you really think fricking women your own age is defeat? Its a sign of maturity.
The best path is to have a partner for life who supports you and youd want to build a family with. Eventually you're going to die and more than likely your existing family will die before you, and your friends will either build their own families or become such losers that you dont want to stick around them.
Which sounds better to you? You sound young and naive and lacking in any sort of long term plan. You either live your life with people who provide mutual support and you die surrounded by them, or you grow old and die alone.
>The best path is to have a partner for life who supports you and youd want to build a family with.
shut it simp
If the dog dies, he gets another dog. And who said anything about getting a woman his own age? You must be some busted up prostitute who is paying the consequences.
That new dog will never be that old dog. That new bawd will never be that one girl you met 20 years ago that you'll think about every year on the same day wondering if you made the right choice. We pretend as men that there's no time limit on when we should be serious but that's probably not true. If you want a fulfilling relationship with someone that isn't just after your wallet, dating and marrying before 40 is probably important. But whatever. It's your life not mine. Just don't b***h about it when you're sad and alone. Yes you'll still be here.
It depends on your willpower.
I am fit and can get girls but even if that eventually stops, I will rock the single life. I don't care.
I choose freedom over being locked in with some landwhale. Do you think you're not gonna be lonely when you are together with a monstrous creature that you hate?
And if you manage to get rich you can get still young girls as an old man anyway
You keep going back to this idea that you "won't get girls". That's not what I'm saying at all. I assume that you'll duck strange 19 year old pussy until the day you die. They'll all be hot, wet, clean prostitutes that will do everything you want.
What I am saying is that there's no meaning in that. You have to be like 19 or something to think the meaning of life is fricking random bawds because you can manage to find a woman that's not gonna get fat and obnoxious. It says more about your taste in women honestly. Is your mother like this? Your grandmother? Did your father make this mistake? Uncles? Maybe if you dated for personality instead of just the hole you'd be able to sus out which ones are on their way to fat. Which ones are already obnoxious.
I just think women are too stupid and weak, they get manipulated by everything including their hormones. No matter how amazing she is, one day she will not be the same. Everything in the world is temporary, you can only try to get good memories and experiences while you still have the time.
I know that one day I will be old and crippled, I will suffer physical and mental pain and I will either be alone or I will know that I die in front of my loved ones.
So I am not scared of a potential future where I am alone without a wife, I know great suffering is ahead either way and there is no way to escape it.
>I just think women are too stupid and weak
Sad that zoomies got cucked out of tomboy pussy. Now they're convinced they're trans instead of just being that based girl that was strong and smart. As long as you know you'll die alone.
I'll enjoy my tomboy wife that might also be autistic considering how good she is at math and reasoning.
Been married before. There’s nothing worse than feeling alone in a marriage with someone that doesn’t want to get their shit together. It becomes a parent-child relationship. Married a second time to someone younger with their shit together and it is fabulous. I understand your sentiment not to quickly throw someone away merely because they are fat. The issue is when that person is unwilling to work to fix the problem. It goes back to understanding why people allow themselves to get complacent in the first place.
>I understand your sentiment not to quickly throw someone away merely because they are fat.
Not saying that at all. I'm saying find someone that won't get fat because the core of their personality is someone that aligns with your values. I'm saying observe her and how she approaches the world and you'll know what she's gonna look like. It's cool when you're 19 and she'll chug beer and eat pizza with you. But if you never see her exercise it's pretty easy to know what's gonna happen.
You'll never get that old because you'll have a nice day first when you can't fill the void with pussy.
I get plenty of pussy. Now go back to your landwhale
I'm not op and I'm not saying you don't get pussy. I'm sure you're drowning in it. But what I am saying is that pussy doesn't fill the void in your life. Eventually your mom and dad will be dead. Your friends will all have families of their own. Your dog will die. All you'll have is bawds that don't really care about you. That sounds really sad. You marry because you want somebody to grow old with you. Basically a best friend that you can frick and start a family with if you're so inclined. At the very least though somebody that knows you as well as you know yourself and can push you to be a better person.
Now you understand why the wealthiest of them all say choosing your partner is the most.important decision they have ever made. More than starting their billion dollar businesses.
>And the benefit to the whole thing is: Nothing.
A mother for your children is the benefit.
Single parenting is terrible for the development of children.
You must be 18 to post here
Start putting Cardarine / clen in her morning coffee. I'm sure she takes sugary additives in it so it should be relatively easy to mask the chemical taste.
Simple as.
>simple as
I remember you
Nice to see you again fren.
Anon you have to work on your relationship/her issues. This is the wrong board. Once the underlying root cause is solved come back and we can discuss how she can lose weight. Skin will go back but it will take time
Nah, just dump the b***h. Why the frick do you guys wanna fix a moronic landwhale?
Because married and child.
You can blame him but reality is women very often do things like that. Sometimes you can’t go because you committed
Buy one of these bad boys and use it to "incentivize" her to go in the shower.
If she's gonna be a fat unwashed cow, might as well play the part.
yee-claw!
Lift that thing up, get a swab and ponder the bacteria that lives under that monsterous flap
I told my girlfriend 3 months in that if she ever gets fat or neglects her health and looks I'm giving her a warning and then leaving her. Same goes for myself.
One year together so far.
I told me gf 2 years into dating that she was getting fat and I would work with her on it together and she get offended and we ended up breaking up because she said her health was none of my business
Based. I've said much the same to my gf, and that she has the same right to kick me to the curb if I ever let myself go, which won't happen because I'd rather just kill myself. She hates fatties even more than I do
Im so glad im into fat girls. I literally want my gf to gain weight. She wont cause shes young and active but i fantasize about when we have kids and she balloons up like most women do.
yeah man, living that life and it's been pretty nice
How do you have sex with a woman that's fat and smells without repulsion? serious question.
She doesn't stink because she is very hygienic. Nasty ass whorish flab y women you pick up at a bar stink like fish covered in shit.
You have multiple options.
1. Option 1 : create an elaborate fake account using the likeness of a handsome guy on whatever platform she uses, and begin catfishing her for a few months, being very careful not to get caught. Make sure that the conversation goes romantic first, then start making it more sexual. At some point propose that you both leave your partners for each other, etc. Get her to say some really committing things or to agree, then begin planning it.
Tell her to do a lot of compromising things to meet (book a hotel room, or go to a specific place to meet the guy). At that point, the real you magically stumbles upon all these months of messages and conversations...
You file for divorce and bring all screenshots to court of her planning to cheat on you, etc. Maybe even booking a place etc...
Make sure at some point to gift her a device like an Ipad or Android tablet where she can use her socials, and link them to receive all media etc, so you can get screens of her side of the convos etc. So nobody suspects its you.
Option 2 : You do the same but essentially pina colada her, wherein the prospect of meeting a new guy who loves her makes her attempt to lose weight. You gotta paint the man of her dreams, he's rich, handsome but is drawn to her because they share the same hobby or some shit, that's how he finds her profile and contacts her, innocently....In this scenario you try to get her to lose weight and at the same time develop guilt towards you by essentially catfishing her into thinking some guy way above her league is interested. Then, the catfish must betray her and end it with her after saying a lot of deeply relevant things about how ''he needs someone by his side who will commit for life'' or something and he thinks she might be too weak or lazy to do that (obv, she thinks he means to the relationship, but she'll also transpose that to you and her's relationship and see the parallels).
Nah i have been conditioning myself to be into fat chicks. I only allow myself to watch bbw porn. I must watch it until I cum.
It was hard at first had to get ready to cum watching normal fit girls and then swap out to a really fat chick seconds before cumming.
Now i can do it no sweat. Did the same thing years ago with black girls.
Built for bbc
tonight I ordered my fat ass wife a pizza and then fricked her hard from behind while calling her a dirty fat pig, it's a simple life full of modest pleasures, but it's alright
>If she drasticly loses weight will she be left with flappy skin or will it shrink back down.
Shrink down.
>Any spousal success stories?
Lose weight and get fit. My wife lost 35lbs (150 to 115) once I lost 75lbs (250 to 175) and started running and lifting. If you're a lot better looking than your wife, she will put in the work to prevent you from potentially leaving her.
Post reverse progress pics of your previously cute now fat wife
you fricking unwife her.
gaining 60kg is a deal breaker if I ever heard one.
this shit only happens because you allow it.
How the frick did you let her gain 60kg in a few years?
Do you go about your day policing what your partner puts in their mouth? This isn't really possible, are you employed sir?
It's not about watching every meal the hog inhales. Once she'd gained 10kg or so you'd imagine that you would start taking note of what the frick is going on. To let her gain 60kg without doing anything about it is insane. She actually sounds horrible.
Imagine being such a b***h made homie you sit there on the sidelines and watch your b***h literally double in size without saying anything. Like, I know this site is populated by losers but come on.
You find it hard to believe there are spineless whingy little gays who fear confrontation on every level and would rather suffer in silence for eternity than speak up? Cause I find that pretty easy to believe
Hot turn her into a gainer
This is another thread where we dab on losers who fell for the marriage trap
t. tfw no gf
>muh marriage is a scam cope
this is what cumbrains unironically think
they think every single woman is a demon hellspawn out to steal all his material possessions, his dignity and morality by way of getting fat and cheating on him with dregs of society
they operate purely on the principle of thinking marriage is just some sex contract where the man provides and the woman spreads her legs anytime he asks
they fundamentally miss the entire point of marriage and why it exists, and I can't say I blame them either because women largely don't understand it either
marriage is for family/kids, not for love, not for happiness, hell not even necessarily for fulfilment. marriage is completely sacrificial on both the part of the man and woman, working for something greater than their individual selves; for the growth of the family they started and are responsible for. to think of it like "what's in it for me" means you are not ready for marriage and frankly never will be with that attitude. i'm not just talking about the snarky sex addicts on here, I'm directing this to women at large as well that miss the point.
i blame the secularization of society on this (read: the israelites)
>marriage is for family/kids, not for love, not for happiness, hell not even necessarily for fulfilment.
Man, marriage sounds like fun. I could only imagine why 50% of them fail.
And yet that 50% figure is only a recent development because the understanding of marriage is purely material.
Take God out of the equation, you lose the purpose of marriage.
Simple as.
Dumb Black person. Women were being married off for the price of 3 cows and a couple of chickens.
Speak for yourself Black person lover. That just shows that there was an even deeper understanding to the value marriage held back then.
We've lost our ways and have been consumed with the pursuit of happiness as our core purpose to life.
>moron contradicts himself
Fricking beaners...
I'm white dummy.
You're clearly not too bright to even realize the implications of the "gotcha" statement you think you made.
Anyway, I'm going to go pick some things up and put them down.
Wish you the best in life anon, despite our differences.
>marriage is completely sacrificial on both the part of the man and woman
HAHAHHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAAHHAHAHAHAHHAAHHAHA
Gentlemen, I present to you: the ultra based sigma male cynic
This. Marriage is not about true love or some sort of happily-ever-after story. It is surely ideal to love each other and it be that that leads to marriage, but both must understand that "marriage" is more of a business contract. Hopefully, in this day and age, it is full of love and friendship, but ultimately, the only way a marriage will survive is mutual sacrifice, compromise, and similar goals in life. The couple must share that same mindset on the true purpose of marriage.
It's a contract, and like any business partnership, a contract is not meant to be broken. Usually, they last maybe only a few years, but it says right there in the text of a marriage contract it is for life.
>is more of a business contract.
Ask me how I know your future wife is going to cuck you.
Good to know my views successfully pass as a man's.
Frick off roastie.
Nah. Just conservative. But thank you
>conservative woman
Not just roast but roast that has-been kept in the back of Arby's several months after the expiration date.
Lol, definitely roast that settled down. This sure as shit wasn't your mindset for most of your 20s.
>"what's in it for me" means you are not ready for marriage
Oh but she will think this way.
And she will turn into the dictator and slave master she always was inside but she just hide that part of her.
She will have regrets once she notice your flaws and will punish every day for the fact that you're not her perfect prince charming.
frick you buddy my entire life people preached about sacrifice and all this same shit
know what happens? have a perfect marriage and then even then it’s not too good because someone dies early or someone once said something 15 years ago
Take your puritan sacrifice and shove it up your ass
>Waaah reality is hard and people die. But not my hentais, they would never betray me!
File for divorce. Go be happy and get that fat, sack of shit out of your life. File for custody, too. If she's that fricking useless, she doesn't deserve to have the child with her.
>wife (28 now)
>pregnancy (5 years ago)
Shit like this really makes me regret how badly I missed the bus. I'm 28 and never even had a gf. I know I'm going to take a 21yo woman no matter how long it takes me, but as the years go by it just feels more and more out of reach.
Strange that a post about an anon's fat, smelly, bearded, and lazy wife made you feel that. You're clearly in a better position than that poor c**t anyway. Imagine being him and being married to that
Yeah, I'm in a better position than him. That is true.
How tall is she? Also, she needs to go to her gynocologist for hormone testing, it sounds like she developed PCOS due to the pregnancy (PCOS begins due to extreme hormone fluctuations, this can occur during puberty or pregnancy and is the reason why a lot of fat women are fat). It’s not purely mental health problems but hormonal ones that do affect your mental health too.
I had undiagnosed PCOS since puberty, it wasn’t until my diagnosis at 27 that I became aware of how drastically my hormones affected my appetite/hunger (hormones control appetite/hunger), she essentially has the appetite of a full grown man.
I’ve lost 80lbs since I started being more aware of my mood and hormones attached to them. I’m now 250 lbs. as for the loose skin, there’s really only the option of letting it adjust naturally with slow and steady weight loss or through surger to remove the excess skin. However, depending on her height and genetics she could come away with minimal stretched skin or a very noticeable amount.
Sit down with her, have a talk about your concerns for her health and how she will be as a role model for your children if she lives like this and how you want there to be a healthy life style for the whole family so you can enjoy life together for longer. Her body after the weight gain is more susceptible to yeast infections wherever there are dark, warm, sweaty places and it’s just unhealthy.
jesus i have to tell my wife i love her more often, we're married for 5 years and she's as skinny as when we started dating
marriage is moronic and never works lol, every single person in my family is divorced and half got divorce raped. at the end of the day im subhuman so it don’t really matter
>every single person in my family is divorced
Sounds like a problem with your family. I certainly can´t say the same.