Feels Bar

It´s Sunday, the feels bar is open. What can I get you anon? Something on your mind?

  1. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    *farts*

  2. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    Turn that fucking gay music off or I'll fuck you up

  3. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    >meet girl online out of state
    >hooking up isn't an option obviously. Horny but not that horny.
    >start texting back and forth
    >eventually evolves into sexting.
    >trading nudes and ourselves getting off to each other.
    >no climatic ending that's it. Haven't heard from her since.
    >still feel rather empty inside.
    I'm still a khv in my mid 20s, but this is still my first real sexual experience with a woman. I though it would have been more fulfilling to be completely honest.

    Have any of you anons read the novel 'Whatever' ?There's that scene in the book where the protagonist and his incel colleague, Tisserand, go to the club right around new years/Christmas in attempts to finally get Tisserand laid. After multiple failed attempts the protagonist, thoroughly shitfaced at this point, tell Tisserand that even if he could get laid, which will probably never happen anyway, he'd still be haunted by the spectre of young nubile love that he never experienced in his youth.

    I still have fantasies about girls I went to highschool and college with, but never pursued. I'm worried I'll end up like Tisserand. Even if I do become sexually active now, am I doomed to feel longing for young love I never experienced?

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      In my experience, yes. Lost my virginity at 23 and dated that girl for 2 years, she thought we were gonna get married. She was 29-30 at the time and i could never cope with the fact she had sex and relationships before me, while I never had anyone else and never would if I had married her.
      I feel like I wasted a good woman but at the same time I know it would have plagued me forever, so it was a tragic but right choice. Idk if I would jump to marry even a virgin though. Idk man growing up rejected and alone does something to a man, I don't wanna drag you but I don't know if it's salvageable. I think unless I do a deep soul journey breakthrough, I'll always feel this lack.

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        I think at this point the best thing that could happen to me is that I could find a girl in the same position as me with similar emotional baggage, but I don't have my hopes up.

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          There are no girls in our position. Their baggage is different. It's a string of broken hearts and bad experiences that you'll pay for.

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        >growing up rejected does something to a man
        Fucking this, holy shit. I don't know what it is, but I KNOW something is broken. I know I could never accept love from anyone. Every time I think about a woman actually truly loving me, I can only ever imagine pushing her away. Even my family. I keep a distance and I don't know how to close it. Every time I tried when I was younger, they'd do something to hurt me. Now I'm at the point where my body subconsciously rejects all warmth.

        I need a fucking restart.

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          [...]
          Yep describes me perfectly too. People have really come around to me the last few years but it’s really hard to let them in for too long or get too close and not purposefully just try and fade into the background, sabotaging yourself to be some sort of supporting background character rather than someone with actual friends and girlfriends and a life of your own, even though the opportunity is present. After a decade plus of being almost completely alone, being alone has just subconsciously become my default state and anything beyond that feels weird and alien, even though being alone sucks. I now always seem to just revert back to this state like a plane set to autopilot, I can’t even control it anymore.

          it's called learned helplessness my bros.

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            No it's not, learned helplessness is when somebody gets so much support that they never experience failure and therefore never learn skills like accepting defeat gracefully, or self reliance, or troubleshooting.

            The two anons above have some kind of avoidant behaviour based on past trauma which is the OPPOSITE of the clingy, codependent behaviour you'd expect in someone who has learned helplessness

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          [...]
          Yep describes me perfectly too. People have really come around to me the last few years but it’s really hard to let them in for too long or get too close and not purposefully just try and fade into the background, sabotaging yourself to be some sort of supporting background character rather than someone with actual friends and girlfriends and a life of your own, even though the opportunity is present. After a decade plus of being almost completely alone, being alone has just subconsciously become my default state and anything beyond that feels weird and alien, even though being alone sucks. I now always seem to just revert back to this state like a plane set to autopilot, I can’t even control it anymore.

          reading these hurt
          i felt like i typed them

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          Yeah it's hard to get out of this mindset. I know I'm objectively way above average, but emotionally I cannot understand how anybody could ever love me.
          I recently dated a girl for a few weeks for the first time and she just went cold from one second to the next. She didn't even acknowledge anything changed. It's like she suddenly realized I am who I am not evidently not worth her time. Doesn't really help my outlook

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        >growing up rejected does something to a man
        Fucking this, holy shit. I don't know what it is, but I KNOW something is broken. I know I could never accept love from anyone. Every time I think about a woman actually truly loving me, I can only ever imagine pushing her away. Even my family. I keep a distance and I don't know how to close it. Every time I tried when I was younger, they'd do something to hurt me. Now I'm at the point where my body subconsciously rejects all warmth.

        I need a fucking restart.

        Yep describes me perfectly too. People have really come around to me the last few years but it’s really hard to let them in for too long or get too close and not purposefully just try and fade into the background, sabotaging yourself to be some sort of supporting background character rather than someone with actual friends and girlfriends and a life of your own, even though the opportunity is present. After a decade plus of being almost completely alone, being alone has just subconsciously become my default state and anything beyond that feels weird and alien, even though being alone sucks. I now always seem to just revert back to this state like a plane set to autopilot, I can’t even control it anymore.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Seen the movie twice, it's great. But whether you get over your past is up to you. I don't see why you couldn't. Will it matter how bad things were before if you set your life in the right direction and live well? Some guys are so ugly and incel they never even get a chance, appreciate what you have.

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        Your gift is too great for me

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        >But whether you get over your past is up to you. I don't see why you couldn't
        >Will it matter how bad things were before if you set your life in the right direction and live well?
        >Some guys are so ugly and incel they never even get a chance, appreciate what you have.
        Ironically enough if I didn't have such proclivities towards pessimism and fatalism I wouldn't have ended up in the position I'm in now. At least, that's what I've concluded after meditating long and hard about the state of my life anyway. Hard to feel outgoing or ambitious in the romance department when you're constantly anticipating the worst. It's made me neurotic and overly risk adverse and reclusive and now I'm paying the price.

        Thanks anon for the reminder. I guess I'll just have to force myself to be optimistic through sheer force of will if need be.

        Also, Your gift is too great for me.

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        Your gift is too great for me

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        Anonymous
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        Anonymous

        I have immunity dog

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        Your gift is too great for me.

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        Anonymous

        Your gift is too great for me

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        Anonymous

        Your gift is too great for me

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        Anonymous

        Your gift is too great for me

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        Anonymous

        Your gift is too great for me

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        Anonymous

        Your gift is too great for me

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        Anonymous

        Your gift is to great for me

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        Anonymous

        Your gift is too great for me

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      >am I doomed to feel longing for young love I never experienced?

      In my experience, yes. Lost my virginity at 23 and dated that girl for 2 years, she thought we were gonna get married. She was 29-30 at the time and i could never cope with the fact she had sex and relationships before me, while I never had anyone else and never would if I had married her.
      I feel like I wasted a good woman but at the same time I know it would have plagued me forever, so it was a tragic but right choice. Idk if I would jump to marry even a virgin though. Idk man growing up rejected and alone does something to a man, I don't wanna drag you but I don't know if it's salvageable. I think unless I do a deep soul journey breakthrough, I'll always feel this lack.

      How come gays like you don't realize how rare that shit is? Most couples in HS don't really give a shit they just want to fuck. This autismo idea that the only true love you can experience is when you're a teenager is retarded. Go meet girls and fall in love.

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        That's the point though. Learn and get it over with while young, to be more mature afterwards.
        She'll always be special for me even if I marry another woman, and that makes me think if through our relationship she had someone like that in her past. Knowing this, I'll always wonder if the person I'm with has someone like that in their past. Maybe people like me are just bound to never be happy by being overly neurotic. It is what it is.
        Like I said, it's just a lacking that can never be made up for. I just feel fundamentally different, like I wasn't built for this.
        I can't even do therapy for this. I tried and the therapist just called me a misogynist machismo and I stopped going. It's not taken seriously.
        The thing is, it's going to get worse. You can try self improvement and all that but it's a statistical fact that people don't make friends in adulthood. Especially someone who couldn't make friends in their teens. It's just downhill from here.

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          you need to get another therapist. They arent all the same. Shop around.

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          they're not supposed to insult you are they?

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          The way you're describing this is making me think of another autismo anon who posted a very similar thought process.
          Go look for a virgin then you absolute sperg. inb4 ALL WOMEN ARE WHORES FROM AGE 14 etc., huge cope, there's decent girls who are still virgins in their 20s. It's on you to look for them if you really want what you're describing. Thing is though you're so stuck in your pathetic fantasy you'll never see it fulfilled.

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        >How come gays like you don't realize how rare that shit is? Most couples in HS don't really give a shit they just want to fuck
        I think it's more of the point that 'young love', whatever you define that as, optimistically as a transcendental romantic ideal or the pessimistically shallow temporary relationship due to hormonal fluctuation, serves as a type of 'right of passage' for many people. Whether the relationship last or not is irrelevant to incels. The fact is normies get to experience it and they don't. It's more about the fact that their past romantic/sexual unsuccess demonstrate their repeated failures and culminated losses.

        That's the point though. Learn and get it over with while young, to be more mature afterwards.
        She'll always be special for me even if I marry another woman, and that makes me think if through our relationship she had someone like that in her past. Knowing this, I'll always wonder if the person I'm with has someone like that in their past. Maybe people like me are just bound to never be happy by being overly neurotic. It is what it is.
        Like I said, it's just a lacking that can never be made up for. I just feel fundamentally different, like I wasn't built for this.
        I can't even do therapy for this. I tried and the therapist just called me a misogynist machismo and I stopped going. It's not taken seriously.
        The thing is, it's going to get worse. You can try self improvement and all that but it's a statistical fact that people don't make friends in adulthood. Especially someone who couldn't make friends in their teens. It's just downhill from here.

        yeah I think types like you and me would have been better off in a cliché story of childhood friends growing up and become romantically interested in each other and end up marrying. We're the swans of people, to mate for life with an individual would be a far better fate. Knowing we are each of our respective partners 'one and only' would ease our anguish a great deal. Also your therapist sounds like a cunt. Get a new one.

        >this is still my first real sexual experience with a woman.
        No it isn't, gay, you weren't even in the same room together.

        well sending erotic vids of ourselves to each other certainly wasn't platonic so I don't know how else to describe it other than "sexual". So go fuck yourself you retarded knuckle dragging ape.

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          >well sending erotic vids of ourselves to each other certainly wasn't platonic so I don't know how else to describe it other than "sexual". So go fuck yourself you retarded knuckle dragging ape.
          Nah you called it 'real' sexual, and it's not that.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      There's always someone out there richer than you, taller than you, more jacked than you, has a bigger dick, has more friends, more confident, got laid earlier, had more sexual partners, whatever.

      Whether you let that knowledge diminish your appreciation of your own achievements is up to you, not sure why you would choose to take such a self sabotaging, pessimistic outlook though.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      >this is still my first real sexual experience with a woman.
      No it isn't, gay, you weren't even in the same room together.

  4. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    >tfw the only time I ever feel fulfilled with purpose is when I'm at the gym

  5. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    Fuck off gay. That's what's on my mind

  6. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    >meet only girl I’ve ever enjoyed being around despite dating other thots for over 7 years
    >can’t tell if I fucked things up or she did
    >talked daily, tells me she loves me and will take me away from the shithole we both came from
    >someone b&e’s my apartment, stabs me, causes 20k damage, I end up spending weeks recovering but didn’t want to tell her because she’s in a different province and I didn’t want her to worry
    >she stops texting me a week later because I’m 99% comatose and can barely respond, I assume someone else started giving her attention anyways and I’m not chasing some f*moid that doesn’t prioritize me the same way I prioritize her
    >feel healthier, text her threee weeks later hoping she’d come back from her shift so I can see her, I was stupid enough to write up an endearing text deluding myself into thinking I’m still existent in her reality
    >she ended up moving across the country for her masters without saying anything because “I stopped reaching out” and she “needed me”
    >pretty sure I was getting lead on the whole time, I let someone waste my year like a retard

    I get like two hours of sleep a night, take Xanax to fall back asleep, high dose anti schizo drugs, and 1500mg lyrica a day just to function and keep zombified. I don’t even care about the girl, I don’t understand the logic or how someone can treat another that way. I’m not a victim, I don’t mean this about me. This is the state of the world we live in. With proper community and values none of this would ever happen. Thank you for existing you autistic freaks, without my kin to type this fucking cringe shit to idk what I’d do. Never add females off /soc/, this should be common sense though. Honestly unless it’s the prospective mother of your child I wouldn’t even entertain their existence. I don’t think true love exists. Can someone please remoralize me jfc I sound like a gay

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      You need actual therapy, man, not this shit board. There's nothing wrong with getting legit clinical help.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      >/soc/
      100% she's the one that broke in and stabbed you. Don't listen to

      You need actual therapy, man, not this shit board. There's nothing wrong with getting legit clinical help.

      . Follow her across the country and sabotage her degree. Make her as mentally unstable as you can be at your greatest.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      If you went silent and she did LITERALLY nothing, you dodged a bullet.

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        why? Don't we unfortunately have to pursue because of societal expectations?

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      >/soc/
      You're a fucking retard.
      Anyway, the fact that she didn't reach out meant she never gave a fuck. Cope and move on at whatever pace you can. Take it as a lesson to never get attached to one of them; they're the ones who need to become attached to you.

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        If you went silent and she did LITERALLY nothing, you dodged a bullet.

        You’re both right, thank you for affirming my course of action.

        why? Don't we unfortunately have to pursue because of societal expectations?

        No. She’s the first one I ever “pursued” and even though I half assed it so idk if I’d even call it pursuing. Every other ones just did what I said. This one did too but then when she got naked in bed with me and said “I only fuck long term boyfriends…” I told her to get up and get in the car and drove her back. I don’t fuck with retards. Well apparently I do because I went back. Women want toxicity, your life is much better without it.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      >tells me she loves me and will take me away from the shithole we both came from
      She lost interest because you're a beta male pussy. You should be taking her away for a better life

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        >calls me beta
        >let me take you away like a simp
        I hadn’t asked her to date yet moron. Why the fuck would I beg to follow her acrosss the country to where she’s doing her masters? She had no choice

  7. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    iam annoyed as always working week is starting again.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Look for another job or with better working hours. Or skill up and work less hours and still get paid more.

  8. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    Its been 9 months since she broke my heart

  9. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    Kinda horney but I don't want to fuck someone and never talk to them again like on dating apps. I'm gonna be patient and keep working on my stuff.

    Maybe cuffing season is affecting me idk.

  10. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    I met a chick on Instagram but turned out to be one of those romance cons. Wasted a whole day talking to “her”. It was literally perfect bros, of course it was too good to be true.

  11. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'm 28 years old and a virgin and it's completely on me, I blame no one else
    I am scared to live my life

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Start living, you should be more afraid of living a wasted life devoid of meaning.

  12. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    >Started a new job
    >Feel a bit out of my depth
    >work from home
    >local gym closed
    I earn decent money, got a fiance, can bench 330 but i just feel....lost. I struggle to eat in the mornings, i feel lachrymose. I know we're supposed to enjoy the journey and all that shit but i just don't. I see guys younger than me buying their own homes or making a killing in crypto or stocks and retiring and i worry that i'm just going to be an average wage slave for the rest of my life working some stupid ass job that I don't really give a fuck about

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      if guys like you are lost then I really wonder just how fucked I am

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        I mean, I know i shouldn't. When compared to a lot of the world my life is super comfortable
        But... i dunno
        I dunno, maybe being alone all day is fucking with me. It's like borderline depression or midlife crisis or whatever

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      I mean, I know i shouldn't. When compared to a lot of the world my life is super comfortable
      But... i dunno
      I dunno, maybe being alone all day is fucking with me. It's like borderline depression or midlife crisis or whatever

      You need to get out of the house. WFH will deteriorate your mental health.

      It's your lizard brain telling you you need to be around other people.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      i am one of these people and i would rather trade with you. money doesn't fix anything. relationships are what matter most. i can afford to go on any vacation or eat anywhere in the world i want but i have no one to share it with. cherish what you have.

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        brah you've forgotten what it's like to be poor

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          to be honest ive never been poor. never really had to struggle for anything i had. of course there were times when money was tight when i was a kid but i never had to skip a meal or anything. im about to graduate college and im a multi-millionaire but nobody to share it with. still khv. no friends. i am pretty IST though so i have that going for me.

          i have all the money i need in my entire life but i can't do anything with it. wtf is the point? im not going to blow it on rolexes and lambos. i have no interest in that stuff. i live in a tiny cramped apartment and i am perfectly fine. would like to get a bigger place and a dog one day but other than that i have no need for material things.

          to be honest it almost makes it worse - a handful of times a year i get approached by somewhat attractive women and im too autistic to do anything about it. its a fucking disease.

          sorry for ranting this is honestly the first time ive ever posted my feelings on an internet forum and it feels sorta weird to air this stuff that im too embarrassed to say to anyone irl.

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          also before anyone calls me trust fund baby i just got incredibly lucky. my success isn't replicable.

  13. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'm cutting right now and I'm scared there won't be any abs underneath even though I can feel them when I flex

  14. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    Had a wonderful summer with my gf but she had to leave for her studies at the end of august and something happened one night and I decided to break it up. I blocked her everywhere and she made new accounts trying to reach me and she would call me for 10 days straight 3 times a day and send me emails that she can’t take it anymore and that she wants to talk to me.

    We talked 2 days ago and she told me she is willing to come back just to make things right. She was crying through the phone. I told her that I can’t trust her and that she broke what we had. She told me that she is willing to do whatever I want her to do. And I told her that she is selfish and she only says that because I ignored her and that the same things will happen.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      >I told her that I can’t trust her and that she broke what we had
      by choosing to get an education??? bro what did you think was going to happen

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        The college experience is being a slut these days

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      https://i.imgur.com/z1G3NHk.jpg

      >meet girl online out of state
      >hooking up isn't an option obviously. Horny but not that horny.
      >start texting back and forth
      >eventually evolves into sexting.
      >trading nudes and ourselves getting off to each other.
      >no climatic ending that's it. Haven't heard from her since.
      >still feel rather empty inside.
      I'm still a khv in my mid 20s, but this is still my first real sexual experience with a woman. I though it would have been more fulfilling to be completely honest.

      Have any of you anons read the novel 'Whatever' ?There's that scene in the book where the protagonist and his incel colleague, Tisserand, go to the club right around new years/Christmas in attempts to finally get Tisserand laid. After multiple failed attempts the protagonist, thoroughly shitfaced at this point, tell Tisserand that even if he could get laid, which will probably never happen anyway, he'd still be haunted by the spectre of young nubile love that he never experienced in his youth.

      I still have fantasies about girls I went to highschool and college with, but never pursued. I'm worried I'll end up like Tisserand. Even if I do become sexually active now, am I doomed to feel longing for young love I never experienced?

      The duality of man.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      You sound like a whiny psycho. If you really love her you could've accepted her doing something for herself or at least ended it properly not like some jealous teenage gay

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      What happened though? We can't tell whether you're a sperg or if she's a cunt.

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        She dm’d a guy from our country that she is in that country aswell because he knew him from the tennis lessons. This happened before she left and she told me about it by herself.

        I confronted her about it and told her why would she send a dm to another guy. She told me that she just knew him and she wanted to help. And that happened at 2 in the morning after she left my house, I mean who the fucks sends dms after sex?? We ended up fighting the next day and she got violent because I name called her some words. A day later was all good

        Fast forward that guy started asking her for favours when she got there and one day she sent him her location to give him some adapter or some shit and the other guy tried to get in and she told him that she had to study and he left. Then the other guy started to make fun of her or not respecting her because she was naive.

        Anyway the night I was talking about: everything was good and at around 12 midnight she told me that she was going to see a star fall that happens once a year and she will call me. Her phone dies and 2 hours later she calls me and told me that her friend send her message to come with her and her phone died. I didn’t believe her and told her to send me screenshots. She got mad that I don’t trust her but there were no screenshots.

        The other guy is fucking ugly btw but still she craved the attention

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          I see where you're coming from. Doesn't sound like she's worth it, good on you for cutting her off.

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            She just called me and cried through the phone and she is threatening me to come back to find a way to get back together. Is that shut bpd?

            • 5 months ago
              Anonymous

              Seems it

              My Advice anon ? Run, BPD Girls are never worth it.

              They think getting a diagnosis gives them a blank cheque to treat loved ones like shit

              >Source ?
              I wasted my life with one for 2 years do not do it.

              Tell her to get fucked, block her, cut her out of your life, get to the gym , go get drunk with some mates and DO NOT CONTACT HER

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                fuck bro...

                Not necessarily BPD. Text her that you're through with her, screenshot it and any other nutty messages she's sent you, and then block her and go zero contact, no more shit.
                Screenshots are for if she assaults you and then tries to play the victim.

                i blocked her from ig 3 times and she makes new account, she sent me email from 3 diff emails and he univercity official email. She told me i threw the relationship in the thrash can for no reason and she told me i '' once masseaged me ex' . She is a lunatic.

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                Just ignore when she sends from the new account then instead of blocking, same shit.

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                can't she told me she will come

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                Lock the door.
                Truth of the matter is you enjoy that she wants you this badly otherwise you would cut contact.

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                >Truth of the matter is you enjoy that she wants you this badly otherwise you would cut contact.

                I admire her determination and consistency tbh, that's what i like

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                Honestly man, this is a FPS I wrote about her ages ago

                This is an example of the shit she did , I keep this saved for FPS Thread but also if I can save one man from ending up with a BPD then I will

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                What the fuck did you see in her?

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                By that point ? Nothing , but she had convinced me I was love of her life , we were meant to be , she then manipliated me to moving down to be with her , thus taking me away from my support group (friends , family etc ) Im a pretty out going person so when I started to make friends down there that wasnt her or her freinds , she made me feel awful to the point where I seriously used to think about falling in front of the train I took to work

                BPD people (men and woman ) all sing from the same hymn sheet , they isolate and seclude you after making you feel like a king/queen , they do this knowingly and its always your fault never theirs.

                BPD isnt like depression or anxiety , its not a mental illness than can be treated and you can live a life with it. Its terminal , best thing you can do is cut yourself from them before they drag you down

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                If she was fat, how were you attracted to her to begin with? Why did you get with her to start with?

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                At the start she wasn't , she was pretty good looking at the time we met (though my fag housemate at uni , hope that cunt ends up with aids)

                We used to talk alot when she came to visit , which at that point I was just used to the old cum and dump from lasses on a rugby night out , so having someone who seemed interesting in me for my interests was attractive

                it was all and act though, they literally create a persona when they first meet you to get you to lower your guard

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                Damn well that sucks. You pick up a better gf afterwards?

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                I did but unfortunately Im the anon who posted this

                Lime Vodka and Soda water & im Feeling rudderless

                I want to get into history / museum shit but im currently debating whether or not to try do a masters in the US , or look to join the Royal Navy, Currently working in what I convinced myself was a "stop-gap " job , a job I did for a few years ,

                My GF is looking to move to another city next year for her career, so will probably break up when that happens so might do it then , so got time to think

                Fitness is going well, down 5kg , going to get to my goal weight by Christmas , something to keep me going

                so it will likely end soon ,which is a shame cos she has definitely helped me get rid of some left over leaches

                Oh yeah if youve dated a BPD cunt , they infect you with their toxic views & mindsets so you need to address those afterwards

                I think if me and my current GF break up , it will suck but it wont be as devastating as the one wit the BPD

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                Why don't you break up with gf rn if you're thinking it'll happen anyway when she moves? Just a waste of time go stay together then.

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                I think cos im hoping im wrong and we dont break up

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                Talk to her about it now you dunce, it'll be a longdistance thing if she moves.

                Is it though? how far do you take that nihilistic sentiment? We're all going to die so why bother trying to be happy

                Because he can go look for another girl.

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                Is it though? how far do you take that nihilistic sentiment? We're all going to die so why bother trying to be happy

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                ìm the OP with the current state gf BUT you literally remind me my first gf of 5 years i had back in 2015 to 2020. You are literally me

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                Anon, there a dozens of us , ive had conversations with BPD survivors (men and women ) and fuck me they are like a plague , all our stories are the same

                Talk to her about it now you dunce, it'll be a longdistance thing if she moves.

                [...]
                Because he can go look for another girl.

                Not a bad shout , shes away till wednesday so ill talk to her thursday

            • 5 months ago
              Anonymous

              Not necessarily BPD. Text her that you're through with her, screenshot it and any other nutty messages she's sent you, and then block her and go zero contact, no more shit.
              Screenshots are for if she assaults you and then tries to play the victim.

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                Screenshots are also good for looking at when you miss her , cos you read them when you miss her , realize what a schizo she is and then you feel better for not texting her

            • 5 months ago
              Anonymous

              Seems it

              My Advice anon ? Run, BPD Girls are never worth it.

              They think getting a diagnosis gives them a blank cheque to treat loved ones like shit

              >Source ?
              I wasted my life with one for 2 years do not do it.

              Tell her to get fucked, block her, cut her out of your life, get to the gym , go get drunk with some mates and DO NOT CONTACT HER

              my buddies wife is genuine BPD. diagnosed and medicated
              he's miserable every day of his life
              but he has kids and she threatens self harm if he leaves
              so
              he's miserable every day of his life

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          Even if she sent screenshots I don't think the relationship could have worked with this level of mistrust and general insecurity on both parts.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Lmao, if you let her go to college, it's over. They will turn her into a man and then she is going to fuck everyone. Then she will break up with you so she can "live her life". The. 15 years from now she will call you up, and try to settle with you lmao

  15. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    where the FUCK do i meet cute women irl bros, concerts are easy mode to find women but you cant hear shit half the time, you need to be drunk to enjoy it and last time i tried chatting up a girl there it was going great until she said she was fucking 17, I really need a relationship its been far too fucking long

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      at work
      I happen to work in a 90% women company with a relatively high turnover rate
      I'm flirting nonstop even just for the sake of it

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        fugg not an option for me unfortunately, my one and only gf i also met through work but that didn't pan out great, what do you do btw

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          I'm an accountant of sorts for a temp/recruiting/whatever agency
          I don't even know why it's mostly women that try getting into this business, very cut-throat if you're on the front lines
          but us administrative/accounting/controlling folks are safe, replacing one of us is a nightmare

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            christ sounds hellish to be frank, but good on you for making the most of the carousel of women that come in

            • 5 months ago
              Anonymous

              being a recruiter is absolutely hell on earth I see the people that do it and I pity them
              you eat shit from clients, candidates, salesmen, bosses, everyone shits on your head and pressures you because you didn't fill an unfillable position because the sales people overpromise since they're not the ones that have to deliver
              do NOT get into recruiting, ever

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        High risk considering the drama and the chance of losing your job if it doesn't work out

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          kek they didn't even fire people who actually stole from the company
          worst they can do is pay you to leave

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      For the last two weeks I've been trying to clean up the apartment of my grandma, that had a stroke and now lives in a nursing home. She is a hoarder and from the personal letters I've found so far she is a greater cunt than I thought. Let's hope it won't take much longer

      I keep telling you about going to museums, botanical gardens, sports clubs, libraries. Go to the park, take yoga or cooking courses. They are often reading real books in cafés. Just present you're lost and need to go to a specific museum that is in a complete different part of town.
      >Oh anon you're way off
      >Oh nooo. do you know any other cool place I could go to?
      Go from here

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        You keeping the letters Anon? Sorry you're going through that , finding out your family arnt the people you thought they were is never fun

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          It's her flat, but i have to go through everything because she sometimes stores important documents in between all her trash. I don't read them, but i can't come but notice that she was schizo type from all the scribbles with all the insults on them... We were never close, so I don't really care about her. What bugs me is the deterioration of the mind. She supposedly once was a nice woman.

          it's a retirement community

          No it's not a retirement home, dingus. She can't walk, she can't eat on her own and can't really talk. She is hemiplegic. So when I say nursing home, it's because she needs to be nursed. What kind of comment was that anyway?

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            >No it's not a retirement home, dingus.
            NTA. It's a Sopranos quote.

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        it's a retirement community

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          Listen to him, he knows everything.

  16. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    Going through a divorce but it's only been 2 weeks since the papers were served to her. Last night she was all dolled up and my kids mentioned she was going to stay in a hotel, obviously she's getting fucked and I shouldn't care at this point but don't act like the divorce makes you sad if you can go fuck around that quick after almost 9 years together!

    Posted this in /adv too but what the hell.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      she is sad though.

      And you are sad too.

      You are two sad people, hurting each other.

      The cycle of sadness.

      Break the cycle

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      maybe she is sad. maybe she's hoping that this will help her cope. How do you say which one's healthier? Staying at home and fixating on all that you've lost or trying to force yourself out there

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Some women are just like that. Have a co-worker that was with her bf for 9 or 10 years and they had a couple of fights and then apparently just randomly dumped him. The way she spoke about it seemed like it was nothing, you wouldn't even think she had loved him at all. As opposed to two of my best friends who were together for 10 and still talk about each other, still go to lunch and hang out. They still love each other, just not romantically anymore. Some women apparently just stop loving someone completely, it's wild. Love from Kazakhstan.

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        For that first one it probably happened over a long period of time and the pointless fights was just the final push.

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        >The way she spoke about it seemed like it was nothing, you wouldn't even think she had loved him at all.
        From what I learned, if a woman acts completely emotionless and indifferent in break-ups, she checked out of the relationship a long time ago and you won't know it until she dumps you. She did all her crying and went through scenarios without you.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Listen to me retard. I want you to repeat after me
      >I WILL NOT INVITE THE STATE INTO MY PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS. REPEAT, I WILL NOT INVITE THE STATE INTO MY PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS.

      Fucking boot lickers I swear

  17. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    I started sneezing for some reason when I went outside. Now I'm a little lightheaded. Might have to delay my workout until tonight.

  18. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    Lime Vodka and Soda water & im Feeling rudderless

    I want to get into history / museum shit but im currently debating whether or not to try do a masters in the US , or look to join the Royal Navy, Currently working in what I convinced myself was a "stop-gap " job , a job I did for a few years ,

    My GF is looking to move to another city next year for her career, so will probably break up when that happens so might do it then , so got time to think

    Fitness is going well, down 5kg , going to get to my goal weight by Christmas , something to keep me going

  19. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    Ive lost 13-14kgs in 6 months and gained back some old gains from the past that had atrophied. Turns out i have a chad jawline even at 22%bf. The difference in how people treat and greet me is insane, things that never happened before getting leaner. Amazing how just a change in appearance makes that much difference. Last night i got drunk and just walked up to a girl and chatted with her for an hour even tho im autistic and said many retarded things she wanted the d, but whiskey dick fucked it up.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      i keep reading that people treat you differently, but when i lost weight i didn't perceive any difference, which is why i think ended up gaining it back

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        I think these people just get more confident from the weight loss more so than actually being treated better.

  20. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    >Start talking to a girl at the end of my school semester
    >I think she is into me and we start flerting
    >It's the last week of school so we don't have time to hangout but we keep talking for 1-2 hours everyday during our vacation
    >Agree to go see top gun Maverick together
    >Day before we go she cancels it and stops answering my texts
    I don't really know how to handle situations like this, never dated any girls in my 17 years of existence but recently I was talking to a lot of girl to get comfortable with them, I am a fit 6'5 155lbs, school is back tomorrow and I am probably gonna see her around and I can't get her out of my head

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      son, you need them gainz. 6'5 and 155 is teeny

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      >movies
      Lmao, she probably got an invite to a party or a Chad invited her over

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      >17
      summer out

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      lmao bro just forget about her. Girls your age are retarded. Just find another chick

  21. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    I am so sedentary and I hate that when I try to not be sedentary my knees are like "Yeah your fucking legs aren't flexible so we're going to pull your kneecap out of alignment, fuck you."

  22. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    i want my pain inflicted on to others

  23. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    I can't help but think video-games aren't good for you. It's gotta be worse than gambling for children.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Just finished reading Masters of Doom and they address this topic
      TLDR:bullshit

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        >Made in 2003
        >Created Oculus & Reddit.
        I'm not reading that cursed book.

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          he didn't create either of those things?

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            The book inspired both of those creations. I'm afraid it might inspire me to do something DRASTIC like take a shower.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Before Mircotransactions ? Id disagree massively

      Now, after Microtransactions ? yeah I think you're right

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        There are more gaming addicts than alcoholics, gaamblers & junkies combined.

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          Now, is it a problem with the medium (i.e games are addictive)
          or
          is it a symptom of the problem (i.e. life is shit and people enjoy escaping from it)

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            Probably the enjoyment of escapism, mixed with the reward loops that games provide. Plus, easy access & generally a cheap point of entry. I think it probably amplifies whatever issue you're having, and this being a clown-world, everyone is suffering, looking for an accessible route out of reality to hit those dopamine levers.

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous
  24. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    My joints are fucked. They're becoming weak and painful, my finger bones are growing for some reason. My knees were always shitty but now it's too painful to train legs. I can't squat, I can deadlift but feels risky. Got an appointment in two weeks.
    I've been lifting for 4 years with a covid break and not much success. I made it past 1/2/3/4 but I could never go further and I'm not sure I ever will. I've got only the worst scenario in my head because joint diseases are the worst to deal with.
    Not sure how to feel. It's just how it is. I only feel that I've failed.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      eat more

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        I am overweight

        Age?

        27

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          Lose weight jackass, age got nothing to do with it.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Age?

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Lyme

  25. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    >match with a girl on tinder
    >agree on a date on wedensday evening next week
    >looked at the weather forecast and it said it'll rain
    >tell her and suggest some indoor-activities since just going to a restaurant is boring
    >she asked me "what kind of indoor activities?" with a grinning emoji
    >"there is indoor blacklight mini golf, bowling, karting or we could go to the cinema"
    >she has not responded since

    she meant sex, right? fuck...
    like how is that a reason to ghost someone?

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      it's not and you just learnt an important lesson about her personality. You saved yourself some time.
      She could have just as easily made a joke about riding your dick or something. Haha sense of humor, everyone has a good time

      Ghosting you, means she's a jerk

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        is suggesting indoor activities like that cringe or childish? I just want to make my dates more interesting and fun...

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          Fuck no. You like what you like. If she's only interested in dick, thats her problem

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            thank you, anon.
            I hope I'll find the right one soon.

            • 5 months ago
              Anonymous

              I'm an old fag and i've learnt that changing your personality and shit just to get laid is useless (unless you're just out to get laid in which case it's fine)

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          Dude, 90% chance it had nothing to do with what you said.

          That's the game nowadays. People are flaky.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      If she means sex that's also a pretty boring person.

      it's not and you just learnt an important lesson about her personality. You saved yourself some time.
      She could have just as easily made a joke about riding your dick or something. Haha sense of humor, everyone has a good time

      Ghosting you, means she's a jerk

      she could have easily made it obvious and not expected you to read her mind if that was her intention, but if she doesn't want to do anything fun means she sucks

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      What kind of child invites a woman to mini golf or the cinema lmao

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        dont be mean, Im really trying

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          It's okay, I keep trying to get them to go to the aquarium with me. They all say they would love to go, but then they never do

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          Keep it simple and low key anon, just meet at a cafe for coffee or something.

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        that's exactly the kind of shit I asked my GF out to and we're coming up on 7 years in november. Just fucked her a few hours ago, feels pretty good. Her being horny and wanting that dick on the first date and him just suggesting an innocent activity is all on her. Man wanted to make her work for it and she wasn't gonna put in the effort. Probably saved himself an STD test if anything.

  26. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    There are people in this thread that are addicted to the internet.

  27. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    >tfw manlet but IST as fuck (5'4ft)
    >already 28y old khv but I'm not autistic or weird just scared of women because I grew up an orphan I believe
    >16year old green eyed blondy joins our gym two weeks ago
    >see her daily, future super stacy material
    >chatted me up today in the gym asking me how long I've been training
    >asks me if I have any tips for leg day (I have very good legs)
    >give her some tips and show her some machines
    >"we should train sometimes together haha"
    >I blush and say haha yeah for sure
    >head home
    >tfw thinking about waiting 2 more years and make a move

    How crazy of a mentally ill predator am I? She probably is still too young to understand that she is way above my league, too unexperienced.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      https://i.imgur.com/R3D8Cao.jpg

      >be me
      >see cute waitress chick at diner
      >literally cannot take my eyes off her ass the whole time
      >chat her up and get her # before I leave
      >"by the way anon, you should know, I'm 17"
      >mfw
      >aoc is 18
      should I just play it cool and date platonically until she's 18? idk not looking to become a sex offender...

      post nut clarity will help you anon
      (this is a fucking crime and getting sent to jail and branded a sex offender for the rest of your life all for 30 seconds of nookie is fucking retarded)

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        I'm from Europe so stuff here is a bit different starting with 16 but I'm not fucking her at this age lol. Here the law is the second she hits 18 she is a free bird.

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        yeah but what if she's cool with just keeping in touch until she turns 18 tho...

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          Is she a really awesome person? Like you've never met anyone like her before in your life? then maybe

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            idk all i have to go off of is a 2 minute convo in the coffee shop
            how would i even know unless we go on a (platonic) date

            • 5 months ago
              Anonymous

              then why are you obsessing?

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                i'm not obsessing i'm just wondering if i should bother keeping in touch and waiting

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                Don't. She'll smell the desperation on you and she's probably going to be tempted to play you like a fiddle. If you want to help her do it, but let it be her choice and not you imposing yours.

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                i'm not the gym guy, i'm the other guy pondering the jailbait

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                She's called jailbait for a reason. Be a friend and someone she can lean on by all means, but be careful about tapping it. She probably doesn't realize all the shit tests she can pull off, which could trigger one hell of a cascade against you if something goes wrong. In other words, caution is advised.

            • 5 months ago
              Anonymous

              SHE'S 17 YEARS 364 DAYS 23 HOURS 59 MINUTES AND 59 SECONDS OLD YOU SICK FUCK

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        16 isn't illegal you fucking amerishart lmao
        Even in muttland 16 is legal in over half the states

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      >that webm
      Imagine beating the shit out of her haha

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Don't overthink it. Train with her, and if you guys vibe invite her to go out.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Don't train her. I learned the hard way. You get way too attached. In the end they will have a roid chad.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Just go ask her and see what happens. What could go wrong?

  28. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    >be me
    >see cute waitress chick at diner
    >literally cannot take my eyes off her ass the whole time
    >chat her up and get her # before I leave
    >"by the way anon, you should know, I'm 17"
    >mfw
    >aoc is 18
    should I just play it cool and date platonically until she's 18? idk not looking to become a sex offender...

  29. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    [...]

    imagine her trying to beat the shit out of you after you cheated on her cause you are high T haha

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      haha classic

  30. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    Some sort of ginger komchua
    I gotta stop drinking, I'm fucking sick of feeling like this. I can go months without it, then I drink multiple days in a row, fuck my sleep, put on weight, feel weak, feel depressed, anxious, indecisive.

    That aside, might be single real soon, need to find work. Just have to focus on recovery and getting my shit back together.

  31. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    Tempted to text my ex’s mom to check in on her and the family. My ex doesnt reply to me except to call me manipulative and abusive, yet doesnt block me. Was dating my girl for 5 years and her mom was family to me and I was like the son she never had, we all had group chats and routinely did stuff together. The dad was long gone so I was sorta the man of the family, which is probably part of the reason I miss her so much. It’s like a big part of my identity is gone. Anyways please remind me why this is an awful idea. Thanks frens.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      because it kinda makes you sound manipulative?

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        Really? I really do miss her family, genuinely loved them like my own family. But I also could see how this could be perceived as manipulative I guess. Probably just need to move on.

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          how long has the relationship been over?

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            8 months. Having a really hard time moving on. Have banged ~10 women since, hasnt really helped. I know that the ONLY way to possibly ever win her back even as a friend is to keep improving physically, mentally, and financially. And Im up 15 lbs since we broke up, have worked alot on some of my self love, and am switching careers to something high paying (100k+). But the day to day is just so hard and I cant get her out of my head.

            • 5 months ago
              Anonymous

              Play this back
              she calls you manipulative
              it's been 8 months
              You still want to win her back and now you want to message her mom

              Think how that sounds to someone on the outside

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                It is pretty cringe, I know. I want her back like crazy but I dont want to trick her or guilt her or anything, she would have to want it too. But you cant really force people to feel a way about you. Guess I really do need to move on.

  32. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    >TFW they've literally had global "mind-control" since before Y2K and everything shit in the world has been not only 100% fully preventable but they actively chose to cause much of it
    >TFW they literally force you to become a NEET then ironically meme about "filters" and bullshit as if it's "just society" and not them actively and cognizantly doing eugenics to select for retard rapist-chimpanzee genes.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      (USA and other countries have literally been rewarding rapists with wealth and power and artifically selecting for rape-genes)

  33. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    From 17-20yo I wasted my life by being extremely socially isolated and generally being a lazy sack of shit, I'm starting to turn things around recently, being productive and socializing but I think my mind has gotten irreparably damaged because of it. I wasted the prime years of life

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      bro, the prime years of your life are in front of you, don't fuck them up living in the past

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      >he thinks the prime years are being a teenager
      kek

  34. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    I had a stomachache and was shitting all morning. Decided to not go to gym since it closes early on weekends. Of course since the moment I decided that I haven't had a stomachache. Could've gone in if I didn't pussy out. At least I have some dumbells at home

  35. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    I just found out how bat-shit insane my Mom really is. Apparently when I was little, she had to be escorted to a mental institution. She was put in a straight jacket, had to wear a mask because she kept spitting at people, and had to be rolled around on a dolly strapped to it. Under observation, she started shitting on the floor, masturbating in front of the doctors, and threw her food and drinks all over the room. She also took on another personality and thought my sisters and I were her "friends". Nowadays, she just comes off as a little weird, and frustratingly stubborn. I'm in my late 20s and unsure how I would broach this subject with her. I really think she needs therapy and medication, a lot of it.

  36. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    im one bad day away from a test cycle

  37. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    good day, anons. I am invited to a beach party by my friend because he will be one of the DJs at the event, yet, I have second thoughts about going. truth be told, I'm never really a party person, I dance awkwardly on the dance floor, and I've been partying with em for multiple times now; however, it always ends up with me feeling clueless, bored, and outta place, I partied with them because it was one of the rare occasions where I get to hang out with "friends" and talk to the girl that I have a crush on. parties like this were bearable because my best bud was there, but he's in Canada now, so it'll just be me alone and other so-so normie friends.
    any tips for navigating through parties for an autist like me? or should I just turn it down?

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Fellas, do you ever get down about still looking like shit even though you're trying?
      I've been getting back into working out the past two months and I've only been consistent with one exercise for that time (plank, up to about 40 seconds if I'm doing it right). I've been doing push ups consistently for a month now.
      Idk. I'm not going to quit but I get really down seeing other people that are leaner and fitter than me because I always think of myself as that obese middle schooler or the lopsided skinny fat oddball with rounded cheeks and pointy ribs that I am right now. I always think of my chest (or lack thereof) and my flabby arms and my gut.
      How do you get through it bros? I just want to look nice without a shirt. I'm 6'2" about 184

      I wish i could help anon, I'm pretty shit at social events too. If observing my other friends when I go to parties has anything to offer, just walk up to really anyone don't be afraid to crack jokes and ask people about themselves. Where they're from, what they do, how they know the host, what they do in their free time etc. It seems to really work for my other friends. And when they answer, don't be afraid to respond honestly and confidently, I think that's what makes it click. You just have to be laidback. good luck anon

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        Keep going. Simple as.

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        I felt like you do two years ago. and I'd say you're comparing yourself with other ppl who are in the workout game longer than you are, which gives you a false expectation that leads to self-defeating, so measure your body stats like weight, bf%, chest size..etc and keep a record of them, then compare your stats on a bi-weekly or monthly basis, thats how youll makenit in the longrun. additionally, body weight workout progress slower compared to lifting weights, so get some weights or a gym membership if possible. moreover, your mood, your falappy arms and gut have something to do with your diet, you must drastically cut down on sugar, refined carb intake, as well as fastfood, diet is more important than working out when it comes to losing weight , godspeed anon.

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          >something to do with your diet, you must drastically cut down on sugar, refined carb intake, as well as fastfood, diet is more important than working out when it comes to losing weight
          so, I don't eat fast food or drink soda/pop/whatever. either water or black coffee, though I should probably be drinking more water.
          I eat mainly greek yogurt, some puffed wheat, vegetables, and usually my mother will make form of low carb/keto dish with chicken/low or no sugar/low fat ingredients. I can't eat a lot because I have a condition that fucks with my heart. My big vice is chocolate but I'm trying to ween myself off reeses cups and go strictly to no sugar stuff.
          Is it just a matter of time now or am I missing something? Thank you for the advice anon, I really appreciate it. I hope you're doing well yourself.

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            it seems you're already on the right track, you should see some results in a few months. if theres other thing to add, id say calculate your daily calories and protein consumption to make sure that you dont overeat and eat enough protein to gain muscles. perhaps look into some training program or ask other anons about it, then make one for yourself.

            • 5 months ago
              Anonymous

              >look into some training program
              I was trying to focus in calisthenics since I don't have a lot of weights (only like 70 lbs worth) or gym near me. My condition makes going from on the floor to standing hard so I was thinking a "rotisserie" full body workout but I dont know about legs. Something like:
              >plank
              >push ups
              >sit ups
              I just don't know what to add to get my biceps a little more defined and what to do for my legs.
              Lately I've been doing 3 sets and then one set until failure but just with the push ups to see how my body adjusts

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        5'11 ~183lbs
        I have recently discovered that volume > weight, perhaps we should both plan accordingly. Play to your strengths and fuck your weaknesses. Nobody has or will ever be perfect but we are bettering ourselves every day.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Deffo Anon , cant make new friends without going out there

      Are you going in a group or just you n your dj mate?

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        going in a group, but not really a close friend group, so usually we go our own ways after 20 mins

        Drink and jestermaxx and talk to whoever say whatever don't be serious

        thx fren, I'll try that

        I'd say go but remember you're there to enjoy yourself. don't focus on trying to impress anyone. If you have a good time, thats what matters

        much appreciated for the suggestion, anon, I'll stay as long as possible till the moment when I feel I don't wanna stay anymore

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          Enjoy it anon !

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Drink and jestermaxx and talk to whoever say whatever don't be serious

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      I'd say go but remember you're there to enjoy yourself. don't focus on trying to impress anyone. If you have a good time, thats what matters

  38. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    I got directly mired by a cute girl while walking today but I was daydreaming and wearing earbuds so I just ignored her by accident, by the time I replied she was far from me and I looked foolish.

  39. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    4mm5 foot 6 manlet here, started dressing nicer and think I'm going to take the tinderpill. How will it go?

  40. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    >grad school murdering social life
    >Long term relationship ended a while back and haven't really gotten anywhere besides small talk with girls
    >Hip flexor murdering my cardio but getting better via calisthenics
    Things could be worse but man I'm a bit lonely

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      You got grad school going for you man. That's not trivial.

  41. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    >visit my grandfather on his deathbed
    >the only person who was in my corner throughout my life (I never knew my father and my mother resents me and the just the regular 4chin outsider upbringing)
    >just asks me to look after my grandmother
    >no last advice or wishes
    I realized it's just me now

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      You can do it.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      He didn’t give you advice because he knows you’ll be okay without it

      YGMI, anon

  42. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    It's been a rough couple of weeks. A lot of my friends put off getting married because of covid and all decided to get married in the last month. It's nice to see old friends and family who I haven't seen in years, but seeing all the loving couples there just reminds me of how lonely I am, how I've never had that and fear I never will. Them being stacked one weekend after another for a month and a half has taken a toll. I hurt my ankle too, so I can't run or hike or lift heavy or any of the things I normally do to get my mind off of things.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      I just came from a wedding too last month. The feels were brutal.

  43. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    Eating only a quarter of my usual portions, but plateauing at 230lbs. I am cutting out homemade strawberry banana milkshakes and will be drinking milk after cardio sessions now. I just gotta be strong.

    Just get me a cold glass of water barkeep.

  44. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    Just want to say things are looking up for me boys. Got a job after being in an alcoholic slump and neeting for a couple of years. Started lifting seriously and eating right again after a 2 year hiatus and I couldn't feel better since I feel like I'm making progress no matter how small. I just want to say thank you fuckers for being here and giving me advice in my shitty state. We're all gonna make it, no matter the hurdles we face. Just keep on truckin'.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Keep on going bro, I'm proud of you!

  45. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    Chocolate protein shake

    I still can't stop fucking thinking about those two. All fucking day last five days. I cannot handle work mires when already dating.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Just keep on going with the one you're dating. Let the other two boost your ego, but go no further with it.

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        My girlfriend was very fucked up sexually because of birth control fucking her sexual drive but she's come off it so we've been plowing more often again. Last year, she gave me a hall pass for anyone but we held off because I was sure it was the BC which kept us from fucking regularly for a few years... but now I had some people I wanted to sort of fuck... I'm 28 and we've been together for 8 years. Nothing wrong with the relationship really other than the sex thing which I know is bad, but I got back into shape after these last 5 months and I am just getting eyefucked all over again and am doing that shitty thing where I wonder what it could have been like. I'll try anon.

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          Talk to your girlfriend about how you feel. You have your needs, and you're in this together with her. If she isn't meeting your needs like you're doing your part to meet hers, then you don't really have a relationship. At least break it up if you want to try fucking your coworkers.

  46. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'm struggling. I recently (about 2 months ago) stopped using meth cold turkey after my addiction spiraled out of control. I was using to cope with the death of my brother, who I lost unexpectedly last year. I was tired of crying every day, I felt completely hopeless and lost, the pain was just too much. I never once, lied, cheated, stole etc., I was just trying to hide my pain. I've been replacing bad habits with better ones, including exercise and a healthy diet. But I'm still having a really hard time dealing with a lot that life has thrown at me and my self confidence is at an all time low. It's slowly rebuilding, but between being autistic and an ex-hard drug user, it's hard to imagine a life where I have a woman who accepts and understands me. A woman I've secretly loved wanted for years recently went well out of her way to contact me and I'm just not sure what exactly to do or say to make it happen. I would marry this woman in a heartbeat and I'm really scared that I won't be able to make it happen, and be back at square one with the confidence issues. I'm trying my best and I just want to have a good life with a good woman like her, but goddamn is it nerve wracking.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      baby steps anon
      Focus on the process

  47. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    My employer pays all of my living expenses + an above average salary… but it is extremely stressful mentally and the owner treats me like trash. I’m the only employee and all my friends and family are out of state… I like the money, but, man…

    Should I quit or just do therapy?

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Not enough context. Do you have other jobs lined up? Do you need the money/experience? What field are you in?

      Think harder to solve your problems.

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        I’m an on-site property caretaker year round. The position sort of just fell in my lap with zero previous experience. Don’t need the money but certainly enjoy it. if I were to look elsewhere it would likely be a significant decrease in pay but in a field I enjoy.

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        And no other jobs lined up as I haven’t given the situation to much though tbh.. just wondering if I should stick out a sh*tty job and find more healthy ‘escapes’ for after work.. or just bail entirely lmao

  48. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    How does one know if they're actually gay.
    Asking for a friend.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Think hard about what it would actually be like to have sex with a man. From start to finish. See how it makes you feel.

  49. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    Went on a second date with someone and had sex. Realized I still haven't gotten over the person I was dating before and now I'm an emotional wreck. I feel empty and keep wondering what I could have done to be better. I kept thinking about them during the sex too

  50. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    >be me, 25
    >after a lifetime of bring a friendless loser I befriend some of the zoomers I work remote with, including the girls
    >they went out drinking yesterday and invited me
    >was about to head out when I take a look at the mirror and see my rotund body
    >im a 120kg fatass
    >losing weight steadily, about 15kg so far
    >but still a fatass
    >my buddies and buddiettes all saw me in person already and don't care at all, im the token funny fat guy after all
    Bros, please tell me the self hatred goes away as I get leaner, I could have fun yesterday but didn't, stayed at home playing videogames again.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      >self hatred goes away
      Use it. Self compassion is for the strong. We are weak. We need our self hatred to get even bigger

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Just lose more weight. Never stop, don't compromise. No excuses.

  51. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    I had a good thing going with a girl, went on five rather nice dates, but I just stopped caring emotionally and had to break it off. There was nothing really "wrong" with her so idk what happened. She was obviously hurt by it and I feel very guilty. I wish I knew why the emotions just stopped.

  52. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    >Meet qt at gym
    >Talk but no instant connection
    >Ask her if she wants to hang out
    >Feels awkward af in gym
    >Pissed at myself
    >Meet other qt an new gym
    >Talk but no instant connection
    >Don't ask her out, want to see her around, not be awkward
    >Pissed at myself for not asking her out
    I can't win bros

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Don’t ask them out on a date like that, just ask to exchange Instagrams. It’s a lot less pressure, then you can escalate later on from there.

  53. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    it's my birthday lads. had some Indian food with my parents. my one last friend lives a few states away but he still talked to me today.
    gonna buy sekiro and enjoy a pot of tea.

  54. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    Finally overcame a major drawing hurdle today and I'm very happy
    Also I took melatonin for the first time last night and it was an awesome experience, I'm extremely tempted to give it another go but I know how bad that stuff can be for you in excess so I'm limiting it

  55. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    Jack with coke. Been with my gf for 3 years but I'm still livid from the times that she absolutely made my life dating her a complete hell pissing me off for no reason. Recently, she put up a show on the group chat of her friends a few months publicly breaking up and calling me names because we had a huge fight that she misunderstood about getting a place together that I wanted to back out. She later realized she fucked up and publicly apologize to me and my friends about causing a major scene. I'm still furious about that she was willing to drop me at an instant without a care. Even though we're still together and moved in, I'm still suHispanicious about her actual feelings for me. The past few weeks, she's been gaslighting me and acting pouty and surprised when I get mad when she started trivial arguments for no reason. I've became so numb and distant to her lately to the point that I'm reaching my patience of relationships. I'm almost 30 and don't really care anymore.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      If she can break it willy nilly, then I don't think there is much of a relationship left. It's better no relationship than a bad relationship as I'm sure you know all too well.

  56. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    Life is good at the moment, so I'm thinking of ending it all before it eventually turns to shit. Go out on a happy note and all that

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      As long as you're not going to hurt anyone else you care about dude

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        Wouldn't even consider it

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          Well if that's the case and all your affairs are in order then I hope you're reincarnated somewhere nicer

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Make sure you leave all your shit to someone who will be happy with it

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Life always has it's ups and downs. Being confident that there will always be good times ahead, even if you're in a rough spot, can really help you. Trust me anon, I tried killing myself in the same mindset. Struggled with depression on and off and when I finally jumped off of a bridge I realized how much of a mistake I had made. There's always someone out there that actually cares about you and hopes you do well in life. I thought I was alone and nobody would come when I was in the hospital, but even people I thought hated me came.
      Do more of what makes you happy and more good times will come. Also try anti-depressants if you haven't already, for some people that's all you really need.

  57. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    Just alone in bed bidding my time

  58. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    >walking by the river
    >guys in orange are combing the river for the body of a missing woman who disappeared recently
    >watching them for a bit
    >decide it would be rude not to acknowledge them
    >I walk over to the nearest one
    >"I bet you'll never pull me out of that river huehuehuehueh"
    >laugh nervously, he just stiffens up and says "lets hope not"

    It was the right thing to do

  59. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    >split up with fiance of 4 and a half years
    >it was amicable, mostly due to my mental health and our want to move to different places
    >fit, 9/10, intelligent
    >we split up as I am hospitalised and sectioned under the mental health act
    >she immediately goes to our home city and fucks a mutual friend
    >she's just getting pounded by this guy while I'm stuck in the mental health ward

    Ah well. It's been 2 months. Her favourite movie was The Cat in the Hat. The amount of times I watched that fucking movie dude. I'm starting a Masters in a couple of months.

    Where is my mommy dom shrink at?

  60. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'm 29 and I'm not sure what I really did the last few years. No job, no gf, only one friend I chat with sometimes.

    My biggest issue is money. I have money now but growing up I didn't so it took me a long time to feel like I can spend it. Using more than $25 at a time still feels stressful.

    I'm gonna work on my issues, but man, where did start going so wrong? I don't know. Damnit, inaction hits like a truck.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      if you think back what could you have changed like 5 years ago that would have changed where you are now? 10?

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        Being more proactive with solving my issues. Actually going out and making friends. Studying more, pretty good at programming and looking to see if I can get an internship now.
        Also wish I had a real bro. Just something to fall back on, something I never had.
        A girlfriend too. I wanted to be a sex god in my early 20s but honestly I think I'd prefer a relationship. Jealous of a friend who's in a 5 year one.

        Thanks anon. Maybe I'll think of more later.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      >I have money now but growing up I didn't so it took me a long time to feel like I can spend it. Using more than $25 at a time still feels stressful.

      Same here. It’s a good trait to have though. It gets harder though in your 30’s when everyone is pressuring you to take out a massive mortgage and buy a house or some other dumb trivial materialistic shit. I much rather prefer just traveling the world to mostly cheaper, but nice, countries and staying in hotels and AirBnbs.

  61. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    Not OP but currently am fatfuck status, I've been gymming for almost two weeks now with no plans on stopping. But i got bloodtest results back and my test was so low my doctor has booked me for another one to make sure it isn't that low..... Do i just an hero?

  62. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    I think I'm finally coming to terms with the fact I won't ever be loved by a girl. Been going to the gym for the past month and a half, and it's doing wonders to teach me how to be happy just doing my own thing and not worrying about dating and finding a good woman.
    If I'm ever really feeling like it, I'll probably just get it done with a hooker and not think about it anymore, otherwise I'll just focus on work, college and my hobbies to help take my mind off of worse thoughts.

  63. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    Should I fuck this single mom? I don’t want her to get attached and I’m not looking to be some kids step daddy. Im not looking for anything serious, should I just make my intentions known?

  64. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    I go into these threads to try and help Anons, but I can't really say that I can really feel anything on the level you guys do, or on what subject matter is going on. I see elements of myself in what I read here but it never goes through all the way. Then again, this attitude also keeps me from fully connecting with people in real life. I've always been very willful I guess, and it led me to all kinds of shit. My lack of wanting to cooperate with learning my native tongue when I was young (Having memories of your toddler years no matter how patchy isn't always a good thing anons), and my parent's trust in "the experts" over trying to understand me.

    Looking back, I guess I just never understood why I had to do what everyone else was doing rather than leave me alone to do what I want to do. Nobody really sat down and tried to convey why I had to do those things and their importance to me. It was just a, "He's that age, so he has to be like X now" like a fucking curriculum. I thrived when I can be myself, but when I had to break into a regiment or mold, I got really testy. Led me to getting a bullshit ADHD diagnosis, put on medication, and I was still a shitshow while everyone around me seemed to be doing just fine. I've been angry at my parents since that day for not listening to me instead of listening to the top-leading-experts they were told to listen to? At least that experience kept me clean and disinterested in drugs and other substances (Took me a long time to even have a single beer), but it also left in me the imprint that I can never truly be like other people. To be frank, I hate the term "Normie" vs. whatever the opposite term is. I think there are only people who try to understand one another, and those who look for any lazy ass excuse to dismiss them.

    I just want to try to understand people so that I can learn to better relate to them. To give them a chance I wish I had growing up.

    Thanks for reading my blog.

  65. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'm only attracted to chicks 17-23 years old. Why even bother with anything older.

  66. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    Trying to break free from porn after using a coping mechanism for loneliness throughout teenagehood. I’ve only just recently made the connection that I’m addicted to porn because it was an escape. But fucking hell my mind can’t cope for more than 30 minutes without seeing the pixels on the screen. This habit is ingrained deep in my brain now. I have no clue how to fill the time without porn if I’m not working or busy. What the fuck. I don’t know how I’m going to do this.

  67. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    I did that thing where I meet a girl that I want to get with and instead of answering her texts and ask her out/etc. I just mentalcel my way into thinking there is no way she is into me even though she was the one who gave me her number/snap/insta first and I just fumbled the bag for the upteenth time. Why the fuck am I such a retard.

  68. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    >spend years looxmaxing and lifting
    >now get mired constantly
    >even get hit on sometimes
    >still can't see anything but a horrendously ugly loser when seeing my reflection or myself in pictures
    How do I fix this?

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      As someone who was in the same situation. Its quite easy, have sex, lots of it with different women. If you find a girl to have sex with you might get bonded to her due to your low self esteem and lack of experience and you dont want to date down ideally. So go out there, fuck girls and you'll eventually start to believe in your own sexual prowess.

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        >If you find a girl to have sex with you might get bonded to her due to your low self esteem and lack of experience
        Yeah this happened to me. Got attached way too quickly and she lost all interest.
        How do I have sex with tons of women though? Dating apps are difficult for me since I don't have any decent pictures. The chick I mentioned basically threw herself at me when we were introduced at a music festival.

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          Same advice from anon before, ask any girl you know to take a few good pictures of you. There might even be a slight chance she'll get jealous and starts flirting. You don't necessarily have to have sex with tons of women by the way. Just realize that you are not necessarily bounded to her specifically, as a man you need to have options open at all times.

          perfect, thanks a lot man. good luck to you on finding the right one to settle down with.

          No problem, always ready to help a fellow coombro out.

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            Thanks. I always feel awkward asking for pictures somehow. I went to like 5 music festivals this summer and tons of parties and other random shit. Have 0 pictures from any of them so I am functionally a loser in the eyes of social media

            • 5 months ago
              Anonymous

              Same. This is my exact problem too. I have tons of photos of from traveling to all sorts of countries but absolutely 0 with me in it doing stuff.

            • 5 months ago
              Anonymous

              Same. This is my exact problem too. I have tons of photos of from traveling to all sorts of countries but absolutely 0 with me in it doing stuff.

              FWIW Selfie taking is generally not something that comes naturally and is associated with being a little bit more narcissistic than average.

              I personally hate doing them

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                Ain’t that the truth. Just bought an iPhone 13 Pro Max because it’s the current best standard for this sort of shit and the super HD camera just makes me feel even more insecure and weird about my selfies even after cumulative hours of different angles and faces. Yet everyone has them and seemingly just snaps them and uploads them at any given random moment without a second thought, while I have to scroll through endless selfie photos to find one that I feel is just passable to upload to Instagram. Not to mention filtering them a bit in FaceTune.

  69. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    >shopping for clothes online
    >look at sweater
    >realize guy I know from school is modeling it
    >absolute fucking turbochad
    Guy was always a chad, but dumb as a fucking brick and an asshole. I always assumed things didn't go that great for him but he is social media famous now. I got shit on by a bird today on my way to the grocery store. Life is such a fucking joke

  70. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    >Turned 28
    >Always been an incel
    >Suddenly have somewhat results with girls mid 20s and get laid a few times
    >Corona happens
    >On a dry spell for 2 years because I am not vaccinated, decide to spend 2 years getting as lean, big and strong as possible
    >Pretty succesful
    >Covid is gone
    >Decide to go coom-mode
    >Half a dozen flings this summer (extremely rare for me)
    >All these girls fall in love with me (or my body)
    >They are all too mentally broken hoe'd up to get as a long term relationship
    >Have a lot of access to casual sex these days
    >Just want a wife but its hard to find a woman worth settling with and I want to fuck more women because the idea of a girl who becomes my gf having more partners makes me seethe
    >Don't know what to do
    Would appreciate input from some oldfags

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Where are you meeting all these girls at? Tinder? Help a brother out man. I’m getting mired all but have no way to actually meet and talk to these women.

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        Tinder, bumble and hinge. My work and hobby's don't have a lot of women involved (single ones) so I use these instead. I live closeby 2 big university towns and after I grew my hair and beard out I became very popular with the art hoe crowd who study liberal arts.

        Get lean
        Wear edgy dark clothes
        Live closeby young women
        Have some scruff and long hair

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          Thanks anon. Congrats to you my friend.

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          what kind of pictures do you upload to these apps? i have some cool photography and stuff but nothing really with me in it doing cool shit or activities. uploading nothing but selfies seems cringe and lonely, unless im overthinking it?

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            Small tip, if you have a female friend (or a sister) ask her to take pictures of you because women are really really good at knowing what kind of pictures attract women. I have an artsy pic and a gym selfie though kek

            • 5 months ago
              Anonymous

              nice bro, thanks, do you have just those two pictures or do i need a whole catalogue of photos?

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                I have 3 pictures
                One clearly shows my face
                One clearly shows my body
                and one shows my entire face/body while in a hobby setting (book store because bitches love pretentious guys who are "smart"). Keep the amount of pictures small, you will be judged by your worst picture so make sure you have only a few solid ones.

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                perfect, thanks a lot man. good luck to you on finding the right one to settle down with.

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                Do you use apps like FaceTune to touch up your photos or add filters, or are they just 100% natural/raw?

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                Never added filters but gym lighting is basically cheating, makes you look way bigger and defined. Also for face shots I would wait around the last 2 hours (golden hour) because it will give you a nice glow.

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                My brother in Christ, appreciate the advice. This has been a goldmine of help. Thank you.

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                My brother in Christ, appreciate the advice. This has been a goldmine of help. Thank you.

                2nd that.
                I guess all of this social media shit is a skill you need to learn just like everything else. And another step out of the comfort zone

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                It is a skill, I had to reluctantly and unfortunately reactivate my Instagram again after years away because it’s just so fucking standard these days and am trying to get back into the game again. This shit sucks, it’s like a full-time job to curate my social media. My friends all basically told me though I was a loser for not using Instagram in a nice way, and girls even rejected me for it, now after some work put into it I have about 600 followers, mostly from travel photography, decent engagement rates and am adding my IRL friends in slowly, hopefully this will shit the haters up. Fuck whoever made this the new standard though for dating and meeting girls. Now I got to work on the Tinder/Bumble/Hinge apps, it’s so overwhelming but hopefully it will become easier and more natural with time.

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                I was in school when instagram exploded. I had a huge group of popular friends but we were always kinda edgy and weird and instagram never established among us. All of them slowly gave in and I'm basically the last one left without one. And like you said the hard truth is it's a social necessity. Not having one makes a loser, simple as.

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                >Not having one makes a loser, simple as.

                Sadly true. Like I said, I travel a lot and have all sorts of cool pictures, stories and experiences, but no one these days seems to even give af if they can’t see it on Instagram. Like they think you’re a fraud or something. It’s totally fucked up. I gave in to peer pressure and reactivated mine two months ago. The lesson I got back then was brutal.

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                >Like I said, I travel a lot and have all sorts of cool pictures, stories and experiences, but no one these days seems to even give af if they can’t see it on Instagram
                It's so fucking bizarre. You get treated like some shizo loser by people who actually have no life, just because you don't advertise your experiences on instagram. Especially for women this is important. In large parts because they can't show you off to their friends and even worse explaining you don't have instagram instantly signals you are a low status loser embarrassing them.

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                I just figure that the lady for me isn't revolving her life around Instagram or surrounding herself with ladies that revolve around Instagram either

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                I told myself that as well. But virtually every attractive woman is involved in social media. And even if their life doesn't revolve around it, you having no social media presence is always a red flag. You can dream about that intelligent, attractive, well adjusted, perfect gf without social media but in reality you are just shooting yourself in the foot limiting your options

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                I'm not even asking for no social media, just someone who isn't an addict to it. If asked, I usually say something like, "I had one in the past, but I saw how it was making me not want to like my friends, and I want to like my friends. There's a lot of one-upping on those platforms, and shock, anger, and general vitriol is what will see you getting more clicks and likes. I mean no offense, but taking part in such a landscape just isn't where I envision myself being. I'm a little old fashioned perhaps, but I still got an E-mail and a phone number and all that."

                I said that to both chicks and dudes and if they thought I was a loser for thinking that, they didn't say it out loud. But hey, if they value my lack of general social media over me, then they weren't ever my friends. Their general response has been in agreement with why I deleted mine, especially after I told them that I started to like my friends more now that I don't need to see what they're shouting out into the void 24/7.

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                Even the chicks who don't use social media much and don't seem to mind, do mind. In their eyes it will always lower your status.

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                I never said otherwise. I'll tell them that if they want to take my picture and upload on theirs if it's important to them, I'd let them. If she cares enough about me, and I about her, we'd work together. If my lack of social media is a dealbreaker even after expressing why I don't use them anymore for each and every woman I meet, then I'll be single forever.

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                QFT. This planet is toxic af. And sadly there is no escaping the clutches of Instagram either. Even girls living in some favela tier slum in some god forsaken third world country, no matter how “traditional” and “conservative” they or their country is, have Insta and expect you too also. In fact, being an American without Insta really freaks foreign girls out especially.

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                I deleted my instagram my sophomore year of college. Was a huge mistake looking back. The app may be terrible but every woman you meet is active on there and it's one of the main channels for socializing and meeting people in this day and age. Now if I restarted it I'd have to work to get back the followers I lost which I mostly just inherited from high school. I bet if I reactivated the account it'd only have like 50 followers left so I'd look like a loner dork.

  71. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    >24, almost 25
    >live with parents
    >they are messy borderline hoarders
    >got laid off in april, can't find a job
    >5'11", 168lbs
    >not really fit
    >not really fat
    >lungs are fucked up
    >knees are fucked up
    >back is fucked up
    >shoulders are fucked up
    >cycle between Gym, PT, smoking pot, and drinking too much, then quitting and going back to the gym till it starts hurting and I have to stop again

    Might finally get sinus surgery so I can breath properly and not constantly be inhaling my own snot soon, so that's cool.

    I really want to be in better shape, but even just getting up and walking around is starting to hurt me physically. I already can't do squats, running is pain. I dunno how it gets better from here.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Find new coping mechanisms. Smoking weed and drinking habitually are deleterious to your health and mental state. Find out why you do them in the first place and work on that. Dont go to the gym to punish yourself ir youll learn to associate it with punishment and hate it. This doesnt mean dont push yourself, you should always push your limits, unless you start to notice an injury. Keep up the PT if it helps, and do some research on fixing your joints, im sure theres a lot out there. Good luck anon, its not an easy journey but its a long one. Consistency is key

  72. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'm being taken advantage of financially by my father.

    I have my father living with me who has chosen not to work for the last 8 years. I took him in because he was burdening my mother and my sisters as he is schizoaffective and parasitic.

    I am earning good money but have no savings and have 5k in credit card debt that I haven't been able to make a dent in the past two months. I'm incurring about $250/week in additional expenses to support my father. Additionally, I occasionally give money to my mother to support her and my sisters with one off costs which have been about 2.5k in past year.

    I work 10h a day and commute 3 hours each day for work. I've also moved states and prior to having my dad with me was living by myself. I've made big strides in last couple of years careerwise and have lost a fair amount of weight, but nonetheless I feel as though I'm putting in huge effort just to tread my feet financially. I try not to dwell on this but there isn't really any release beyond ignoring this burden and focusing on the gym and career.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Just because he's your father doesn't mean you should be taking care of him. He's taking advantage of you and abusing you.

  73. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    Fellas I’m happily married, but god damn I wanna fuck this girl I work with. We train bjj together as well and I’m the only dude she rolls with. It can get ‘tuck my boner in my gi pants’ kinda raunchy during training. How do I get over this insane penis led urge to destroy my entire life just to make a pass at this woman? Our working relationship is probably on the border of being unprofessional at times and I know my wife would feel betrayed if she saw how we interacted with each other. Why can’t men have a romance on the side anymore?? I just wanna clap cheeks.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Testosterone from exercise + other hormones from touching + personal relationship

      It's not you. It's human nature. Overcoming that is incredibly hard, but you're capable of it. Just recognize it for what it is. Do you actually care about her or is she just a fantasy being fueled by a certain level of intimate contact during an intense contact sport?

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        I think knowing that I’d never/can’t do anything makes it harder to get over. I see pretty much all day everyday and she is exactly the type of girl I’d go after. Its one of those “why didn’t I meet you 5 years ago” kind of things.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      have some empathy homie. You know she'd feel betrayed. imagine the rolls were reversed. Think about how it would make you feel if she was having a qausi-affair every day at work, getting all up close and sweaty with some chad in a gi.

  74. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    made up my mine that i don't mind waiting until i get really comfortable (probably when im 32 or so) that i actively seek for love
    there are girls that i'm cock sure would say yes to me in a heartbeat but i feel like i have commitment issue

  75. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    no friends, no gf, crushing social anxiety, unfulfilling job... I feel trapped. the only thing that motivates me is lifting and I am not even that good at it, barely intermediate

  76. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    I will soon break up with my girlfriend once the right situation comes around. I've been working out a lot to cope because she's a nice girl, good looking. But our world views don't align and she's trying to change me into someone I'm not. Also, I seem to be more into men. I hate to be doing it to her, but I value my own happiness over hers.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      As you should anon. Dont light yourself on fire to keep her warm. Best of luck, it aint easy but you must do the needful

  77. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    dreamed I was back in highschool again at 28, searching for this chick I fell in love with in my teens and changing out classrooms again to find her, every class she's never in it, just random normal people. My 30 year old brother was in highschool aswell, he was homeless but taking literature classes for some reason. It just felt pathetic and sad for both us, still stuck in life. Almost 30 years old and this mentally trapped in the past, did virtually nothing with my 20s.
    Just hate feeling like that, how the fuck am I ever going to find that chick. I spent my 20s trying my best to become a great artist and achieve my dreams, so it's not like I wasn't atleast trying to do something with my life, just wish there was a chick & friends there at the same time.

    I should have my liscence in a few days, then I can get a car, and a job, so it's not like I'm not progressing at all.

  78. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    > be 22 YO M
    180cm, but only 61 kgs

    tried eating whatever i can within my wagie budget: lots of eggs, chicken, some fatty and sugary foods as well.

    weighed in after 6 months and gained just 1 kg.

    mfw

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Start by dropping the sugar, then once adjusted, drop the fatty foods.

  79. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    at work wageslaving for shekels

    theyre paying me to write emails to boomers

    overall
    pretty based

  80. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    >squat rack finally arrives after a week's delay
    >not enough washers included to finish assembling

    life is pain

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