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  1. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    The years of struggle are paying off. Everything is falling into place. I don't even know how things could get any better from here and I never expected I could be the person I am today. Thanks for being there for me at my lowest IST

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Care to elaborate? Proud of you.

      > You are NOT important.
      >NO ONE CARES about your personal problems. The only problems others care about are what keeps them from doing the job or what affects them.
      >You are valued in proportion to your usefulness.
      >Your reward for doing a good job Is more work.
      >You say “I don’t want to. Reasons”, but you know “You have to. Reasons. It needs to be done.”
      >Why not do today what you could put off until tomorrow? It might come back to bite you if you put it off until later.
      >No matter how much you try to dismiss this as cynicism, you know this is true.

      Is this good advice or bad advice?

      It's true but unnecessarily cold. Life's not as harsh as many make it out to be.

      Found out my gf was texting a man in order to bait him into responding purely so she could “tell his wife”. This was at the encouragement of her friend that was doing the same thing .

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >Care to elaborate? Proud of you.
        4 years ago I was a complete loser with social anxiety so bad I couldn't go to the grocery store without sweating through my clothes and nearly fainting. I dropped out of uni because I couldn't attend classes and the just the idea of going on a date with a female seemed to ridiculous it made me laugh.
        This year I completely my new degree with exemplary grades which culminated in me giving a 60 minute presentation of my thesis in front of 25 people consisting of professors and research assistants. I got new hobbies, new friends and am currently dating a qt for the first time. I'm also fitter than any person I know.
        I'm planning on writing out my entire journey in one of these threads soon as a way for me to have some closure on my shitty past and maybe even help some struggling anon see light at the end of the dark

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          my guy. well done

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          YOU LOVE TO SEE IT

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Oh and I'm trans btw, CompSci degree you see.
          You don't just think that a neet could climb out of the neethole and get great grades in a uni program unless they were programming in their programming socks did you?

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            You’re not really trans. You just like drag.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >I was a complete loser with social anxiety so bad I couldn't go to the grocery store without sweating through my clothes and nearly fainting. I dropped out of uni because I couldn't attend classes and the just the idea of going on a date with a female seemed to ridiculous it made me laugh.
          Any quick advice for someone who's currently stuck in that situation, ISTbro?

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous
            • 2 weeks ago
              Anonymous

              >dude just stop caring!
              Not helpful advice. I'm literally stuck in this situation because I stopped caring about myself in the first place. Dumb frog poster.

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                Other people. You should stop caring about other people, I think they meant. It's a shit advice though, yes

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Hey bro, I wasn't quite as bad as him, I still wasn't too bad in social situations, but I had to drop from uni due to generalised anxiety and depression about future.

            How old are you? Around 21-22 I started maturing and giving less of a shit about everything.. enough that I felt ok enough to apply to uni again. Sometimes we just need time to mature before we can tackle the adult world, it's normal man.

            I recommend having a goal at all times, for me it was fitness. Just about kept my head above the suicide line thanks to the gym. Then I started martial arts, which grew my character and inner strength and perseverance. If you can go toe to toe with professional fighters who want to take your head off an break your limbs, you can do pretty much anything IMO.

            So my TLDR is
            >always have a goal, gym is a great one
            >understand we sometimes need more time to mature
            >consider taking up a martial art
            >keep in touch with friends, social support circle is very important
            >if you fail 6 times, get back up 7
            >keep running at that wall of anxiety and depression, if it knocks you down, get right back up and start running at it again

            Overall I dropped out from uni 4 different times, I had many many nights I spent crying into my computer monitor wishing I could be normal. You're not alone.

            • 2 weeks ago
              Anonymous

              What martial art?

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Good for you man. I hope things work out with the girl and you can stay fit while managing work and woman. You're an example for this aspie to follow.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          How old are you exincel-kun?

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        and you're still with her? This is like Gone Girl level of sociopath, moron you're in danger...

        Anon, get the fuck out of there

        I don't understand what's wrong with that tbh. Someone explain please

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          you don't understand how engaging in histrionic trickster behavior typical in manipulative entrapment methods used by narcissist to induce guilt and conflict is wrong?
          This person is like fomenting machiavellian schemes and machinations to break apart marriages and you can't picture quite yet the level of evil glee and malice which must consume this woman? What's next? ruining someone's career by entrapping them into a conflict in a professional setting, such as a service situation?
          "Exposing'' people on the internet with similar entrapment tactics pertaining to simple matters of opinion, and effectively ruining their lives and the lives of the people around them, their family?
          Separating children from their families?
          This is not a good behavior to demonstrate. At all. This is histrionic, trickster, malevolent energy at work and it is very covert. OP is lucky he found out about it.

          OP Get the fuck out. This person showed you she is not afraid to use legal tactics against people, especially married men. You are wasting your time with her, but you dodged a bullet. Be glad you found out. She would do some serious damage if she wanted to. And for what? ''Just to see if something might have happened...''

          I mean essentially she just displayed that she has the skill and forethought to gather entrapment evidence such as evidence of adultery to show court, although this may fall under the definition of entrapment, she may just ask ''a friend''. Just like she did with her friend...I mean ''for her friend.''
          See where I'm getting at? She might have been the friend to get a court decision in her favor, on grounds of infidelity.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >I don't understand
          Are you stupid or something? Trying to create drama and break up a marriage for no reason and you don't see a problem? Kick rocks fool.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      All downhill from here. Cheers.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      nice

      Met a girl who I felt a genuine connection with for only like the 2nd time in my entire life. We hung out 4 straight nights and are both clearly into each other. But she lives at the beach for the summer 1.5hrs away so I can’t see her again for at least 2 weeks. Full of excitement but also nervous she won’t still be into me the next time we meet up. I don’t even care about fucking. She’s just cool and I wanna spend time with her which will make it even more excruciating if it doesn’t work out.

      hope it works out anon

      I’m moving for career opportunity soon.

      All my friends and family are here, and I’m worried the world will fall apart on me and make my reason for moving pointless. I know I need to do this to be independent and grow, but it’s really scaring me.

      And I keep letting my past make me think I’m a bad person unworthy and/or incapable of new genuine connections. I’m scared of that mindset sabotaging my potential.

      Thanks for listening bros.

      One of my best friends recently moved across the county to NYC for work without even ever being there before and he's loving it. If you're young. now's the time.

      Think of your forefather's who got on a ship and came to the states with nothing but the clothes on their back. All good things in life require risk.

      I really fucking hate my job. It's sucking the life out of me

      quit

  2. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    > You are NOT important.
    >NO ONE CARES about your personal problems. The only problems others care about are what keeps them from doing the job or what affects them.
    >You are valued in proportion to your usefulness.
    >Your reward for doing a good job Is more work.
    >You say “I don’t want to. Reasons”, but you know “You have to. Reasons. It needs to be done.”
    >Why not do today what you could put off until tomorrow? It might come back to bite you if you put it off until later.
    >No matter how much you try to dismiss this as cynicism, you know this is true.

    Is this good advice or bad advice?

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >>Why not do today what you could put off until tomorrow? It might come back to bite you if you put it off until later.
      This one is pretty good. The others are shit.
      Like, why would I care if I'm not important? I have öy own shit to take care of.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      It's almost all true. But that doesn't make it right. I think, if you look for people that care and care for others, sometimes you can make happy memories and good times. Just becuase others don't care doesn't mean its wrong to want them to care, or that you won't be happier by being a more caring person.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Every candle has been red for a while in my life.
      I just need an upstroke. just something to make the wheel start moving.
      but it never comes.
      my life is crashing and no central bank will print me out of this hole.

      yes, it is all true

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Good advice delivered poorly

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I think Bill said it better

  3. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Found out my gf was texting a man in order to bait him into responding purely so she could “tell his wife”. This was at the encouragement of her friend that was doing the same thing .

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      and you're still with her? This is like Gone Girl level of sociopath, moron you're in danger...

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Technically it was her friend texting the married guy, but it was my gf that took her phone, text him on her behalf then came up with “telling his wife” as a plan. All in front of me.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Bro that's not a red flag it's a fucking flare

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Anon, get the fuck out of there

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Dump her ass

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Press eject homie. You're next.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      GET OUT NOW moron holy fuck this is a red flag are you retarded or are her boobs just too big to pass up?

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      My ex gf made out with a moron because her best friend was getting married and she told him she wanted to "be sure" that she was marrying the right man. So she wanted to test out how far she could go but she was too scared to try anything so she made my gf at the time "go first". Lmao instantly dumped her sorry ass.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        femoids make no sense

  4. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Met a girl who I felt a genuine connection with for only like the 2nd time in my entire life. We hung out 4 straight nights and are both clearly into each other. But she lives at the beach for the summer 1.5hrs away so I can’t see her again for at least 2 weeks. Full of excitement but also nervous she won’t still be into me the next time we meet up. I don’t even care about fucking. She’s just cool and I wanna spend time with her which will make it even more excruciating if it doesn’t work out.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >I don’t even care about fucking
      This is how I know it won’t work out. You’re ultra low test and she’ll be able to tell when you text her some gay shit like “hey good morning beautiful :-)”

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        That’s just immature mindset. I obviously want to bang her eventually but I don’t care if takes a while cause I wouldn’t want a potential long term gf to be some cumdump that puts out to any guy she hangs out with a few times. Hookup culture has broken peoples brains.

  5. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    2 weeks of nofap without abstinence and I don't feel like doing it or watching porn. I went from being a total coomer to losing interest in doing it in just a couple of days

    One day I busted a nut and the other day I felt like total garbage and said enough is enough. It also helps to do it for someone or something. I met a group of people and I was like "this shit is making me really retarded, I need to stop if I want to keep these people as friends" and then I focus on that, the people that are important to you.

    This is it bros, I feel confident that I'm going to leave my addiction behind.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Proud of you bro. You're headed towards good things

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I did the exact same thing in a way, I stopped watching porn about 6 months ago, I kept masturbating but i used my imagination but a few weeks ago i decided to stop. First few days were uncomfortable but the urges quickly vanished, Im a bit dissapointed I didnt quit sooner, but at least I stopped.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I'm currently trying to improve myself. I'm currently on day 10 of NoFap, practicing guitar for an hour a day, doing pushups twice a day, and trying to go walking/running once every 2 days. I'm also trying to eat calories low enough to cut.

      This is all in preparation for university, which one is uncertain though. I hope to meet a nice girl there, so in the meantime I plan to make positive changes in my life while I have nothing going on. If I meet a girl who loves me back, she deserves one ripped mother fucker boyfriend.

      Great work. I have experienced similar effects, and the cravings are getting weaker and weaker. It's great not feeling shame in the post nut clarity. And its better feeling happy more often.

      >Care to elaborate? Proud of you.
      4 years ago I was a complete loser with social anxiety so bad I couldn't go to the grocery store without sweating through my clothes and nearly fainting. I dropped out of uni because I couldn't attend classes and the just the idea of going on a date with a female seemed to ridiculous it made me laugh.
      This year I completely my new degree with exemplary grades which culminated in me giving a 60 minute presentation of my thesis in front of 25 people consisting of professors and research assistants. I got new hobbies, new friends and am currently dating a qt for the first time. I'm also fitter than any person I know.
      I'm planning on writing out my entire journey in one of these threads soon as a way for me to have some closure on my shitty past and maybe even help some struggling anon see light at the end of the dark

      Absolutely incredible work. People like you make me proud to be human.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Can I become part of your normie tomodachis?

  6. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I’m moving for career opportunity soon.

    All my friends and family are here, and I’m worried the world will fall apart on me and make my reason for moving pointless. I know I need to do this to be independent and grow, but it’s really scaring me.

    And I keep letting my past make me think I’m a bad person unworthy and/or incapable of new genuine connections. I’m scared of that mindset sabotaging my potential.

    Thanks for listening bros.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      i like being alone, but that has been my entire life. It's comfy, and you can meet people cooler than who might be in your tiny spot on this world online.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      not worth it usually. unless there are no similar opportunities where you currently are. t. guy who has moved across the country for work. make good money but should have just lived where i wanted and saved

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I just did this last month anon, only 4 hour drive away from home, but still a huge change. To be honest with you it was one of the best decisions I have ever made. The job is great, and the pay is good. You can keep in touch with friends and family really easy nowadays so don't worry about that. You'll meet new people through work as well. Don't be scared anon, WAGMI

  7. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    If a cute coworker that has shown interest in me asks me "whats new with you" what's a good response if I don't have much going on in life? She already knows I like to go out on hikes over the weekend, I'm coming back to work after a brief hiatus for personal reasons.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      i don't talk to people irl but my guess is
      "not much really. (talk about your routine for a moment). How about you?"

  8. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    i’m bored of women and feel indifferent. had a lot of casual fun this year but it’s unfulfilling. i was trying to date but instead i just met women who wanted to fuck, and i went along with it because it’s sex i didn’t have to work for. i guess the feeling is a blessing in a way. i just wanna focus on myself and the gym, and i’m annoyed by the women who are currently in my life hitting me up

  9. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I really fucking hate my job. It's sucking the life out of me

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      What do you do?

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Tech support

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Depending on how long you've been doing it you might be able to hop up into a different IT job, don't forget about certs or anything either.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I have a degreea nd had to take a class that made me learn python and C++. If that helps

            • 2 weeks ago
              Anonymous

              Having a degree and helpdesk experience gives you a leg up for higher level IT jobs. Try applying to some of those, look for Jr Sysadmin or Network Admin jobs. If nothing works out after a while consider getting your CCNA. That would certainly help your job search.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Work on getting a new job

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      There's nothing better than peace of mind. If this job is killing you it's time to leave. I stuck it out at one for 7 years because I felt I needed to stay for others. Nearly mad me go insane. It's not worth it dude

  10. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    It's weird, I am getting either no looks when I cross women on the street or deeply intense stares

    It's encouraging but confusing at the same time

  11. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    its going okay. sold my old car. I want to eat cheaper and healthier, made a Hispanicy chilli lentil soup, and put a pork shoulder in it to stew. When i opened the pack, the shoulder had two little black "cyst" ish looking spots in the fat, cut it out, but my appetite is killed. i didn't inspect it very thoroughly.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Personally I don't eat food that already appears spoiled so I would have thrown it away as bad as it sounds. If you want to meal prep then there are tons of channels on youtube. I found chef jack ovens recently and he has some nice recipes.

      I really fucking hate my job. It's sucking the life out of me

      leave asap and look for something that has soul in your eyes. I know it sounds easy to do but a soulcrushing job is not something someone should stick to for a prolonged amount of time. It'll affect your dayli routine too since you are too focused on the next day and you probably dread going to work which means you never get to rest.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        some animals have little spots like this in them naturally because of their dirty living conditions right? the meatt smelled fine overall and i dont htink it was spoiled. I just hope there wasn't more like t hat deeper.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          it probably wasn't anything bad and if you cook it well (aka don't eat it raw or medium) you'll be fine I think.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      it just sounds like a bit of blood vessel, you are fine

  12. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I realized that all of my life I have been coasting along as if I were in a dream. Suddenly, facing the trials of the last few days, I have come alive.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      What trials anon

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Wait till you get to level 3 man, shit gets real.

  13. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I got the coof, and so I have been absent from the gym for over a week.
    I still cannot taste or smell anything.
    I will probably still go this weekend, so you'd better hope masks do something, as that's all the precautions I will be taking.

  14. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I went swimming today and when I looked into the mirror with wet hair I noticed how bad it's already gotten. I suspect I have the hairline of my dad (which means thinner hair overall especially at the top of my head but still hair without having real bald spots).
    I don't like it.
    On the upside I like swimming but I have lots of trouble getting into freestyle.
    I'm still a wizard and there's no real reason this will change soon. I still like my job.
    Things could be worse.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      may be worth going to the dermatologist and getting a prescription for finasteride. it may not improve things, but at least it’ll probably keep what you have. there’s a chance for some sexual side effects, but i think it’s worth a try anon.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        You can avoid the sides on 0.25mg, same effects 1/4 dose.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Get tongkat ali for the fin dick and you are fine. If you want more fluid like before just get phygem or whatever as well.

  15. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I think I'm finally coming to terms with the fact that I'll never feel fullfilled or accomplished

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >fulfilled
      You're quite literally programmed to be never fulfilled. Doing things in hopes of dulling the pain won't lead anywhere

  16. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >get pushed into trying online dating by a friend
    >go into it expecting a revolving door of bullshit and get exactly that so far
    >whole lot of obese women, not just fat, obese, like my profiles
    >5 matches with good/okay people based on profile
    >ghosted
    >ghosted
    >ghosted
    >one liked me first and actually messages me back, lives 250 miles away lmao
    >ghosted

    Now here's the best one
    >match with a girl, she seems kind of trashy based on pics but looks alright and sent me a super like
    >actually message a decent amount, ask her out but she says she's busy with work for the next couple of weeks
    >look her up online to see if she left anything out of profile
    >single mother of two twins

    Fucking kill me now. I kind of want to see where this goes just to get experience dating because I have literally none at 23, but also really don't want to because I know it's gonna lead absolutely nowhere.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Well you got pushed into online dating by an irl friend, so here's me, an online friend, pushing you into irl dating. Not only is the gender ratio of outside better than apps (1:1 compared to 3:1) but also less chance of getting ghosted. You'll get rejected a bunch, but remember that everyone you swiped right on that you didn't match with also rejected you. At least this way you'll feel like you did something.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        I wanted to do dating in person, but I have no social circle at all aside from maybe four people, only two of which I see regularly. Honestly thinking about cold approaching women whenever I take my dog to the park now.

        dating apps are chad only

        Had that in my head going in, but expecting this kind of stuff to happen and actually having it happen are two different things. Was also told by an older female friend (the one that pushed me into this) that I was actually really good looking with a great smile and would have at least some success. She also wants me to date her daughter and said out of all the people she could pick for a son-in-law it'd be me, so I figured maybe something good could come of trying it at least.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >Had that in my head going in, but expecting this kind of stuff to happen and actually having it happen are two different things. Was also told by an older female friend (the one that pushed me into this) that I was actually really good looking with a great smile and would have at least some success. She also wants me to date her daughter and said out of all the people she could pick for a son-in-law it'd be me, so I figured maybe something good could come of trying it at least.
          If that's actually true (be objective) you should look into getting a professional photographer to take some dating shots. They will be able to get you good shots with the proper lens width and then edit them to make you look as flattering as possible: ex

          https://www.tinderphotography.ca/

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            It is true, but idk if I'm actually attractive in all honesty. I went through pretty much my entire childhood being treated like human garbage and called ugly by a lot of people, and just turned into a recluse by middle school, was home schooled throughout highschool. Told the friend that got me into online dating about it and she thinks that all of that fucked me up a little because I can't look in the mirror or at a photo of myself and objectively comment on my appearance/attractiveness.

            Might look into the idea of getting professional photos done, thanks.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >I have no social circle at all aside from maybe four people, only two of which I see regularly.
          Work on this. Get to know more people, men and women, even women you don't find attractive but can stand being around. Also
          >Was also told by an older female friend (the one that pushed me into this) that I was actually really good looking with a great smile and would have at least some success. She also wants me to date her daughter and said out of all the people she could pick for a son-in-law it'd be me
          Why would she send you out into online dating instead of just trying to get her daughter hitched, unless you said no already?

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >Work on this
            Trying to, which is one of the reasons I'm entertaining getting to know the chick with two kids that matched with me even just to be friends.
            >Why would she send you out into online dating instead of just trying to get her daughter hitched, unless you said no already?
            She pushed me into it because she could tell how much being completely alone at 23 sucked. I was very much interested in her daughter and even told her as such, but her daughter
            >from Ohio, lives in California for college
            >has a boyfriend, but according to her mother their relationship is shit and constantly on the verge of ending
            >is 6 years older than me, which for age gaps is hitting my max limit
            She introduced the two of us just after Christmas while her daughter was visiting and we went to the shooting range and got dinner. Hit it off really well and had a great time but she had her boyfriend at the time and went back to California shortly after. She's been trying to get her to move back in general and so we could date since then but I've given up hope on that happening.

            • 2 weeks ago
              Anonymous

              Yeah maybe a miss on the daughter. Still, 23 is young. You have a lot of time on your side to be choosy, as long as you find enough women to be choosy with. Best of luck anon

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          bro if an old lady tells you you're handsome ignore it, they get no love, they'll tell any 20 year old that.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      dating apps are chad only

  17. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I’m fucking bored and lonely, also a rest day.
    Body is getting into ottermode but got a long way to go in my bulk and I’m tired and feel like I’m not reaping any rewards but number go up
    This whole next year feels like it’ll be nothing but work, gym, and getting certs
    I don’t have any creative outlets and I’m tired of vidya. I also don’t coom or watch porn anymore. TV is garbage. What else is there?

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      i mean, you are here posting of 4ch, so that must give some form of fun. the work and certs are to earn financial freedom, the gym is to secure your heatlh so you can enjoy that freedom, and now its up to you to choose. Just explore and look up random things in different fields, you will find something eventually. Maths, coding, drawing, playing music, ect. just dip your toes and explore around,.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        I honestly need to get off this shithole. But you do present some fair points. I’m just drained after my job, gymceling, and cooking food.

  18. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    An amazing wheyfu I dated awhile back tested me so I let the relationship go because she was demanding a lot of commitment despite having done sketchy shit and showing off her coochie for cash when she was younger.
    After 2 years, I think I only appreciate her more, esp after going on a date with the type of girl I "thought" I wanted but felt nothing making out with her (she was tattoo'd though which is blegh). Wheyfu and I had a really good vibe and could watch anime or chinese factory accident gore videos and laugh and cook together.
    Kind of want to hit up wheyfu again, or try to do something to meet other wheyfus because normal girls or dumb as hell and have no discipline or soul. Shit's fucked lads.

    At least I'm getting close to the end of my cut.

  19. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >be me
    >join wrestling club to improve strength and play a sport and learn to fight
    >be 5’9 115 pounds
    >only two other people in my weight class
    >both are girls
    >both are hot
    >I get on the mat to learn moves and practice form for a few weeks
    >after a month I match up with the blonde girls to spar
    >she’s walking me through the different moves for takedowns, escapes, reversals, pins, etc
    >I have to grab her ass and pussy and tits for the positions
    >I’m hard as fuck, huge boner in my spandex
    >girl puts her hand on my crotch to get the grip she needs and feels my huge boner
    >she looks back bright red and pissed
    >she gets more and more pissed as we keep practicing, visibly shaking with anger
    >I mutter an apology and she says “shut up” and continues walking me through the positions
    >we get up into top neutral position
    >she absolutely kicks my ass when the whistle blows
    >we get back up and she kicks my ass 6 more times
    >I’m bleeding all over the mat, she’s calling me a moron under her breath
    >we go for one more round, she pins me in a position that presses her faces against my boner while her ass is in my face
    >after 7 intense rounds of physical contact with a hot female I can’t hold it anymore
    >I blow ropes into my pants against her face
    >she feels my cock unloading against her face, stays totally still
    >we get up slowly, she’s got a strange smile on her face, like she knows something I don’t
    >I waddle into the locker room, shower off, change, grab an ice pack for my bleeding face and head to my car
    >she’s talking to the other girl, they keep looking at me
    >they follow me out to my car, I’m sweating in fear now
    >blonde shoves me into the asphalt, kicks me in the stomach
    >she bends down, leans in close and calls me a freak that got his ass beat by a woman
    >her friend laughs
    >blonde takes eyeliner from her purse and gently writes her phone number on my arm with a flirty smile, says “call me”

    What the fuck do I do now?

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      nice larp

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Do the dinosaur

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      This sounds like it was written by the same degenerate who posted some made up story about catching his sister fucking his dog. have a nice day you gay

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        How can you tell are you some kind of government psychological linguistics analyst

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          lmao I was right
          I just took so much preworkout I can mold spacetime as I please and watch as you type your pathetic posts

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Based you should actually apply for a government job or something

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      funny story. Anons always hate because its fake, but without creative writers the internet would be very boring.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        I hate it because it gave me an erection.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Fake but this reminds me of my old roommate who really wanted to be a dominatrix despite being a 5'4" small Asian girl and would constantly wrestle with me to "establish dominance" despite the fact that she'd lose every time and I'd pin her down and molest her until she apologized and admitted she was a bottom. God, she sure liked acting like she hated it but the fact that she'd try over and over again made me think she secretly loved it. Good times.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Call her. Do you even femdom?

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I want to believe

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      and then you woke up.

  20. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Vodka tonic please. The past months have just been getting harder and harder for me, mentally. I started lifting about 8 months ago, and I have built up my physique to a decent point, not great by IST standards but good enough that I look better than almost all men on the street. I didn't start lifting with hopes of girls swooning themselves over me, but I had hoped that getting fit will finally give me the confidence and self esteem I need to actually pursue a relationship, but it hasn't, in fact I feel like it has made everything worse than before. Because now I realize no matter how much I improve myself phsically, all the roadblocks are in my head, and I have no clue how to get over them. I don't have any irl friends to push me and go to clubs/bars so I am all on my own. I can't even say hi to the girl I like. I'm not the ugliest guy in a room, not short, not balding, not poor, so I really have 0 excuses for why I am like this, but I've been this way since I was a kid. I have no clue how to communicate like a normal person, the only way I learned how to speak to other people is by copying what I've heard from others, and when I hear men talking to girls and flirting I just think there's no possible way I can talk like that even if I force myself. I think I gave it a good shot in life but there are some things you just can't fix. Every day is just getting darker and darker and the loneliness is becoming harder to cope with. Anyway, sorry for wall of text

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >vodka tonic
      why would someone ever drink this?
      two drinks that taste like shit on there own aren't going to make a nice drink when mixed.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        No, but it tastes better than vodka on its own, plus its low calories

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          why not at least have a better tasting spirit than vodka

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Any suggestions?

            • 2 weeks ago
              Anonymous

              gin and tonic is much nicer in my opinion

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                Gin and tonic is a bit nicer but vodka is cheaper and has less calories and if your only purpose in drinking is to get wasted then taste doesn't really matter

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                Why not go for vodka and powerade zero?

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                There's no powerade zero where I live

  21. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I hate my fucking life.

    I live a life many would kill for. I am basically my own boss and answer to no one but myself. No shitty manager, I go to gym when I want and go where I want.
    I have a girlfriend, I have a solid income, I am 'free'. But something inside isn't fulfilled. I avoid social situations when my friends invite me for drinks. I just can't make the effort to see people.

    I started a steroid cycle and hitting the gym 5 days a week and I fucking love it. But only so many hours can be spent lifting.

    I am stuck in the past. In 2014 I felt so free even though I had little money and worked part time. I had more friends, more life in me, I met an amazing woman at the time but shit happened and it fell apart. The lift I had in 2014 ended so quickly I never had chance to process it until it was gone.

    It's like a nostalgia everything back then was so comfy and perfect. I will never get it back and it fucking kills me inside everyday.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      what do you do? looking for any employees?

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Everyone want's to be an internet celebrity with their shitty social media. Basically a video editor for them - pay is good when you network into the bigger channels who actually make money on these platforms.

        My journey to work involves me rolling out of bed onto my PC.

  22. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I hate humans. Especially men. They're disgusting shit who only wants to fuck and use u.

    Only reason y I stay fit is to fuck them up. Really hard. I wanna see them suffer.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Please no.

  23. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I think I’m about to walk out of my jobs lads. It’s how good and confident I feel these days.

  24. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I only want love
    Everyone on Earth seems to get it
    Yet I can't
    And I also think I met my actual twin soul the other week but she's already taken.
    Honestly I washed myself away from any earthly desire, I might aswell die if I have to accept I will be alone, literally the only thing I need to be happy

  25. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I’m going to meet my GF in a few hours to break up with her.

    Found out she had been thinking about a guy she met 3 years ago and ‘he’s just some guy I got on with, nothing happened’

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      How it went?

  26. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I lost all interest in women (I’m 33). I want to fuck them but then I think about how boring it is to talk to them, how generic they are and how predictable their behavior is and then I just think how convenient it is to masturbate.

    Is this even normal?

  27. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    All I want to do is work out chest bi tri. I don't want to do legs ever. I'm not kidding. It's getting bad bros, I want to skip leg day every time.

  28. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    My relationship with my dad keeps getting worse everyday. I'm a weak fat mess with no gf that doesn't have his life together and he despises me for it.
    I don't know how I am supposed to feel about my father. I don't even have good memories with him because he is barely at hone and when he is or when we spend time together on those rare occasions he has always belittled me. Despite that I still want his approval.
    He's the one shitting on me for having no skills but he was never around to teach me them and anytime I failed to do something he just forced me to leave.
    Refused to let me get a job when I was 14 and he still watches my finances like a fucking hawk getting mad at the ways I spend my own money.
    Told me I need to hit the gym for 2 hours a day 7 days a week and got mad when I told him that's unreasonable.
    Anytime he tells me to do something I just lose all fucking motivation to do it because now he's expecting results I won't reach.

    I don't know how I am supposed to feel. He is correct. I am fat and fucking stupid.
    But all my life he has been calling me this and telling me to fix it and even if I somehow fix my life he will most likely still shit on me so using my dad's wishes as a motivation just seems like a bad idea.

    Feeling a mix of wanting to be dead and bashing his skull in so he would shut the fuck up.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      For one, lose weight anyways fatty. You don't even have to go to the gym, just eat less. Two, if you're able to, cut him out of your life as much as you can. Make it so he can't monitor your finances, if he keeps trying to shit on you, tell him to actually help by properly getting involved in your life like a father should beyond shitting on you, or to fuck off.

      Don't let your father and his expectations have any bearing on what you do at this point, because he has clearly failed as a father, and a failure of a father is not someone to seek approval from. Fix yourself for you, a better you, and not him. Maybe make a good friend or two and ask them for help and motivation, because you will be far more afraid of quitting and letting someone down that's a good person who actually cares about you, than someone who isn't.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        I have lost 10kg compared to last summer. I think I'm about another 10kg away from hitting normal weight ranges.
        He just tells me I'm lying. This man wants me to go only do abs exercises because he believes in spot reduction. And no I can't cut him off, my current job doesn't pay well enough for that.
        We have the same goals, but it feels so crushing when it is him telling me it. He asks me for progress twice a week and everytime it results in a 30 minute rant telling me the same shit over and over again.
        I know my motivation to improve should solely be for the sake of improving myself, but his constant belittlement really does have an effect on me while I don't want it to.
        It's just tiresome and I hardly get to vent about it, so thanks.
        I need to find a way to consistantly keep myself motivated, but not sure where to start with that.

        he probably went through the same thing and hates himself for wasting his youth so he is trying to get you to not do what he did

        get some exercise, touch grass, stop eating

        Actually not the case at all. All things considered he was pretty chad with his only regret being drinking in college.
        I believe he wants the best for me, he just has the shortest fucking temper on Earth.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >Actually not the case at all. All things considered he was pretty chad with his only regret being drinking in college.
          >I believe he wants the best for me, he just has the shortest fucking temper on Earth.
          how about this, get to the point where you could beat the shit out of him and he is physically intimidated by you and if he tries to berate you then put him in his place

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I'm pretty sure that's his goal

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      he probably went through the same thing and hates himself for wasting his youth so he is trying to get you to not do what he did

      get some exercise, touch grass, stop eating

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      join the army or something

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      well dude he's not wrong, sounds like you're in the shitter and he's trying to get you out.

  29. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    What to do anons, I feel nothing, I have zero motivation. I don't look forward to or enjoy anything. I used to workout 6 times a week, I was counting macros and calories. I barely go to the gym I don't care. Even if I am there. Every other day is cheat day. I loved vidya, music, collecting, reading shit. Now it's nothing. Terrible state of living. Is this because of SSRI? I even managed to get a girlfriend, but I don't care.
    WHAT HAPPENED I JUST WANT TO FEEL AGAIN.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      you just need a nap

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      post body

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Take a week off, eat like shit, drink whatever you want, go to sleep at any time you want. Live your life for 1 week like if you don't care about being IST but don't let negative thoughts invade your mind, take this week as a vacation, not as a way to cope with your sadness.

      This is your body telling you that it is exhausted, let it rest, enjoy doing whatever you want and try again next week

  30. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    It is not the weekend, op.

  31. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Was dating a literal 10/10 for a few months, then she dumped me because she "was not ready for a serious relationship". I've come to realize it was because I was not being assertive enough, which itself was a result of me being afraid of losing her since I felt like I had punched so far above my weight and didn't want to fuck it up.

    It hurts because I did not believe someone with those kinds of model-tier looks could actually be a decent person whose not obsessed with social media. Worse still, she had a genuinely good and caring soul.

    I guess the flip-side is that I now know that I can actually attract "those girls" so hopefully that will not make me afraid of losing the next one and actually be more assertive, I guess.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      How did you meet?

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Very random, we were sitting next to each other on a 4 hour train ride and I just thought "I'm going to hate myself for ever if I don't go for it".

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          OMG, THAT'S THE PLOT FOR BEFORE SUNRISE! HECKIN' KINORINO

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      > someone with those kinds of model-tier looks could actually be a decent person whose not obsessed with social media
      jesus, congrats on finding one like that. I gotta approach more in real life

      Your standards are probably forever ruined now

  32. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I met my girlfriend around 2 years ago and it's been a steady and good time with her. She's basically my best friend in the sense that I don't really see my other "friends" who live in my hometown 40 minutes away. I live in a really nice area, have a great job (28y/o) and can afford doing most things that I want/eating out etc. My gf (26) still lives with her very strange parents who want an iron grip on her. They also live in the straight up ghetto that I absolutely hate driving to so I usually force her to come drive to me. She works as a front desk admin and doesn't really have any marketable skills to further her career. She is a cutie sometimes but her body is that lean flabby that just doesn't really excite me anymore since I find myself constantly thinking about other girls.

    I'm at a crossroads because recently I had my birthday and realized I'm very close to 30. On one hand, she's someone who gives me company and I do enjoy hanging out with her a lot. On the other, I don't see any future since she is so unwilling to change herself like moving out of the parents house (she uses the excuse that she wants to save and buy a house on her $20/h income, in California). I just want someone who can at least match my career/income and has a non-flabby body. Unfortunately I know most girls are not gonna have the personality that she does which I feel like I will deeply regret breaking up with her and then just being alone for a long time. I also know that she is immensely in love with me and it will absolutely devastate her if we were to break up

    If anyone could chime in and help me see the light I would appreciate it

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      You can't change people. She will not change for you. If you aren't happy and don't see a future, you already know what you have to do. All the rest of the text was you explaining why you shouldn't do what you want to. I ignored that part and you should to.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Why not ask her to move in with you? Or if she wants the house, find one that you can pay for together. Worst case she says no and you're back here asking "what next"

  33. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >got all these girls on my instagram, snapchat, and phone numbers
    >completely unmotivated to message them, maybe it's a fear of my cozy single life being put to an end, but there are like 4 or 5 girls I could be messaging right now

    What is wrong with me?

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Age? I was like this too in my early twenties but now at 25 I genuinely want a relationship, and I don't view it as "losing my freedom", rather I view it as building something meaningful with the right person.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        I'm 28. I've only been on one date since covid started. I do want to get into a relationship though, I just haven't been in one yet and maybe that's where the fear comes from. It also doesn't help I've only had (relatively) unhealthy intimate moments with women, I posted

        Fake but this reminds me of my old roommate who really wanted to be a dominatrix despite being a 5'4" small Asian girl and would constantly wrestle with me to "establish dominance" despite the fact that she'd lose every time and I'd pin her down and molest her until she apologized and admitted she was a bottom. God, she sure liked acting like she hated it but the fact that she'd try over and over again made me think she secretly loved it. Good times.

        and had a drunken ONS with another friend, and I still talk to both of these girls (though the crazy asian girl is now a continent away).

        just anxiety and overthinking it. just send off whatever comes to your mind first and then forget about it and go on with whatever you're doing right now

        Yeah, I'm definitely overthinking stuff

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Just remember, you don't have to be in any relationship that you don't like. If it feels off, indicate how you would like the relationship to be. Be honest about what you want. If she cannot or will not meet you there, on to the next one. A relationship should be a positive experience.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      just anxiety and overthinking it. just send off whatever comes to your mind first and then forget about it and go on with whatever you're doing right now

  34. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >Life in white only country
    >see nigress on dating app, says location is my country
    >get curious, swipe right
    >match, chat for a short time, she doesn't actually live here, she's from Nigeria
    >she gives me her phone number, this is a first for me, after months of using the app

    if only I wasn't deeply disgusted by the idea of having a moron son, things could be so much easier

  35. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Second time my ex cheated on her current bf with me. Second bf, that is. I should not be doing this.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >I should not be doing this
      Your ex GF should not be doing this, she's the one in a relationship. If it weren't you she'd probably simply cheat with someone else (which she might be doing anyway). She has no morals.
      You do have the option of giving him a heads up though, save him from losing months of his life to someone he wouldn't stay with if he knew she doesn't respect him at all.

      https://i.imgur.com/3JJnoLL.jpg

      My relationship with my dad keeps getting worse everyday. I'm a weak fat mess with no gf that doesn't have his life together and he despises me for it.
      I don't know how I am supposed to feel about my father. I don't even have good memories with him because he is barely at hone and when he is or when we spend time together on those rare occasions he has always belittled me. Despite that I still want his approval.
      He's the one shitting on me for having no skills but he was never around to teach me them and anytime I failed to do something he just forced me to leave.
      Refused to let me get a job when I was 14 and he still watches my finances like a fucking hawk getting mad at the ways I spend my own money.
      Told me I need to hit the gym for 2 hours a day 7 days a week and got mad when I told him that's unreasonable.
      Anytime he tells me to do something I just lose all fucking motivation to do it because now he's expecting results I won't reach.

      I don't know how I am supposed to feel. He is correct. I am fat and fucking stupid.
      But all my life he has been calling me this and telling me to fix it and even if I somehow fix my life he will most likely still shit on me so using my dad's wishes as a motivation just seems like a bad idea.

      Feeling a mix of wanting to be dead and bashing his skull in so he would shut the fuck up.

      I have lost 10kg compared to last summer. I think I'm about another 10kg away from hitting normal weight ranges.
      He just tells me I'm lying. This man wants me to go only do abs exercises because he believes in spot reduction. And no I can't cut him off, my current job doesn't pay well enough for that.
      We have the same goals, but it feels so crushing when it is him telling me it. He asks me for progress twice a week and everytime it results in a 30 minute rant telling me the same shit over and over again.
      I know my motivation to improve should solely be for the sake of improving myself, but his constant belittlement really does have an effect on me while I don't want it to.
      It's just tiresome and I hardly get to vent about it, so thanks.
      I need to find a way to consistantly keep myself motivated, but not sure where to start with that.
      [...]
      Actually not the case at all. All things considered he was pretty chad with his only regret being drinking in college.
      I believe he wants the best for me, he just has the shortest fucking temper on Earth.

      >I don't know how I am supposed to feel
      Try to focus more on where you want to get in life. Focus on the efforts needed to get there.
      Obviously you need to get out of your current living situation, he won't change his behaviour and it'll sap your life essence for as long as you stay there.
      Do you have any relatives you could ask if you could stay with them until you've found a better job?
      >my current job doesn't pay well enough for that
      Have you tried looking for other work?
      Do your colleagues live at their parents as well, or how do they make do with the same wage? Try asking around. Maybe you could afford splitting rent with somebody, you could ask around if anybody knows someone looking for a roommate.
      >He is correct. I am fat and fucking stupid.
      You might be fat, but that is easily fixable if you set your mind to it.
      It's hard to develop a healthy mindset if you live with a bully. Get out of there, you can worry about the rest later when you can actually feel relaxed and at peace when at home.

      >Feeling a mix of wanting to be dead and bashing his skull in so he would shut the fuck up.
      You'll be thankful you did neither if you just get out of there.
      He already sacrificed having a healthy relationship with his son, that's payment enough. You don't have to keep in touch with him if you don't want to.

  36. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >week is going great
    >work is under control
    >training is on schedule
    >got a dinner date organised
    ...
    >find out my dad has cancer
    damn it fuck

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Pray a rosary every night and dedicate it to your dad recovering.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      tell him to fast for a few days before he takes chemo, it helps it be more effective and it reduces chemo side effects but doctors can't prescribe it to patients yet because it's still only at the animal study phase

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Thanks for the advice. He's a doctor and probably up on all the research (he reads journals religiously). I think he's doing hormone therapy first.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      A son's worst fear.. cancers are very treatable these days and I wish you both the best. Life is what it is.

  37. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I fucking hate how locals don't enjoy regular psytrance anymore and have moved to dark psytrance.

  38. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I got so much stress but im also so happy that im lifting again and actually feel like im doing it right.. i tried a million self improvement things over the years and now i feel like i found the right mixture of things that do work for me… the only thing i havent quite got under control is my huge appetite.. girls actually show more interest now and smile at me more then before and i feel good in my skin but the numbers still say im mid. To bad i still feel beautiful one day and ugly as fuck another day im afraid im just not that handsome and its always been giving me huge insecurity issues but oh well i kind of gaslight myself into thinking im a pretty boy

  39. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I keep dreaming of my ex wife because I can't stop wishing she didn't have the upbringing she had which is what caused her to be the way she is that caused us to break up

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      How long has it been anon? I know that feel.

  40. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I recently started seeing this girl who's in an "open relationship" with her husband. She has a very high sex drive and he does not. Their marriage is on the point of collapse because they fuck so infrequently (maybe once every 3 months); going "open" is a last-ditch attempt to salvage their relationship. She comes over maybe once or twice a week and we hang out, cook food, have sex, read books, play scrabble, have more sex. It's comfy. At the same time it's triggered a sort of domestic instinct in me where I now think about settling down. I've been playing the field for so long I'm getting fatigued. I'm 32 now, have a decent job, security, and maybe it's time to start thinking about finding a qt and settling down buying a house having some kids. I'm slept with maybe 50-60 women (stopped counting years ago) so I've had some fun along the way. Idk though. Hearing this girl's story is so depressing, knowing that any infatuation will dwindle and diminish and father time conquers all youth.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      how does one end up fucking over 60 women?

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Be fit and sociable. Rinse and repeat for a decade plus change.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        have no standards, fuck ugly sluts

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        The guy is fucking 34 yo.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >we hang out, cook food, have sex, read books, play scrabble, have more sex.
      Last time I did that in a fwb relationship I ended up falling in love. Just moved in a couple of weeks ago. Be careful, anon, if you've got the white knight syndrome(you probably don't) you can easily fuck up here. Nothing wrong with wanting to settle, but maybe look for a new girl and start a real proper relationship..

  41. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >meet girl on dating app
    >take her on a date, sleep at her place but don't fuck
    >she invites me round to hers few nights later to fuck and cuddle
    >do so
    >now still speaking few days later

    How do I end this? Slowly ghost/stop speaking or do I send her a fucking paragraph telling her how great she is but I just need to be on my own? Fuck this shit sucks. Don't get involved with someone you don't have feelings for boys.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      sorry what are you saying

      so she was attractive enough to have sex with but you don't like her

      she is great but you don't want anything to do with her? Just say what you actually think

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        I'm saying I would smash but if she got pregnant somehow, and there is always a risk, I'd rather neck myself than be a father to a black child

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          there isn't always a risk as long as you piss between cooms and pull out

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Condoms. You fucking moron.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      sorry what are you saying

      so she was attractive enough to have sex with but you don't like her

      she is great but you don't want anything to do with her? Just say what you actually think

      Other guy wasn't me. I'm saying I wanted to have casual sex but I don't have any desire to spend time with this person, even though she is nice. And I wonder if I should ghost her or explain to her some fake reason why I don't want to see her again

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Just be honest man, better to be up front than to ghost her. Getting ghosted is rough, especially if she likes you even a bit. No need to put someone through that

  42. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >get a fwb
    >she's in an open relationship
    >her husband sees a picture of me, decides to stop the open relationship thing
    >they break up
    >keep seeing her
    >feels
    FUCK. One friend of mine told me to cut her out the very second I started to smile at her texts and I missed that point and now it's too late.
    I don't even want to be in an open relationship, I get enough sex from her. More than enough. Fuck.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >>her husband sees a picture of me, decides to stop the open relationship thing
      kek, that's a badge of honour well done

  43. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    After working 3 weeks with a 18yo qtie my other female coworker asked me if I had feelings for her and I say that I thought she was a lovely young lady...
    >"anon, everyone could tell you were both into each other, very much so"
    I never pried too much into qtie's life or flirted with her because she was the directors stepdaughter and it was her temporary summer job,and she would be gone after that.
    Apparently she has a boyfriend but she never told me,which is odd. My coworker says she was interested in me.
    I'm still happy I didn't try anything, but at the same time I feel sad that I potentially let go a very nice girl,because I shut myself off so hard, for instance:
    >"I have no free time, EVER"
    >"I don't know I've never planned any dates, I just go along"- me when she asked if I plan cute dates
    >"I would never get involved with anyone at work, that's incredibly stupid"

    BTW, she's 99% built like Camila Cabello(picrel). She came in to work with loose see-trough pants and used to bend down and squat in front of me. Idk man.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >Apparently she has a boyfriend but she never told me,which is odd
      Yeah this has happened to me too. Some girl never told me about her boyfriend, just referred to him as her "roommate" like wtf. I never gave her anything, she actually gave me stuff. No one else knew she had a bf either and they were all encouraging me to try to get with her and saying she was perfect for me, and I eventually fell for their brainwashing and ended up miserable. Worst part is I can't even match with fat girls on tinder to get mind off of her.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        exactly what I'm trying to avoid, getting fucked up over women,specially some hot 18yo

  44. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I just ate out my ex. Refused to fuck her as she was too drunk.
    I shouldn't have agreed to meet her. Fuck.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      what

      if an ex contacted me I would tell her to make us dinner and blow me and then we will see what happens

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        We hang out sometimes, mostly to complain about current relationships.
        Didn't want even an implication of rape, so stopped at fingering/oral.
        She did take a call from her bf while sitting on top of me and grinding into me. Luckily I was wearing shorts. Would not have been able to resist otherwise.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous
      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        What. I got scared. I thought she was a little more sober, but she stumbled a lot going from the couch to the bed so I pulled the plug.

  45. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >know this girl
    >she introduces me to her friend
    >her friend is shy/quiet, getting over a breakup
    >i start dating the friend
    >first girl finds out, comes over to my house, gets me drunk and fucks me
    Women are insane

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Men fuck women, not the other way around. You fucked her. You fucked her good.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      You sound like a gay

  46. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    the girl i went on a date with hasnt texted me back. its already been 5 days. I know I should move on but its really fucking with my head.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      it's over breh, you're probably like number 4 on a list right now

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      you should develop the skill of breaking it off without having some big blowout where you feel good that they were a dumb bitch

      just move on

  47. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Yesterday i found out a Chick that I have a crush on has a boyfriend, felt sad but i kept to my diet both yesterday and today.
    Gonna pray to god that I get over her, might be a bit tricky since she also a coworker

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      God saved you a headache. Don't date at work.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Then where the FUCK am I supposed to meet my future wife?

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Out. Hobbies, stuff.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        I guess you might right, maybe this is a blessing in disguise. Thanks anon

  48. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I'm staying in a college campus
    I had made friends with a group of 4 girls, 3 already left without even saying goodbye, tomorrow the last one will and she didn't come to do it either, and I even had developed a huge crush on this one.
    Fuck them, really, all women are selfish assholes, I'm done giving them dignity

  49. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >overhauled this one app for my company entirely on my own
    >saving up my vacation days to have all of December off
    >manager tells me at our 1x1 that I shouldn't take all of December off, for "we'll be needing someone to maintain the app"
    Bro come on I do the work expected of me, I don't slack off, and now you give me this? You really can't be serious right now famalam, just find someone else on the team to take care of it, it's not a difficult app at all

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Train someone else to do it dipshit you have 5 months. Tell him taking dec. is non negotiable but you’d be happy to train up someone to cover for you that month

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        I mean I have user/developer guides ready for it and they're in the repo, not sure what his deal is honestly

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Dont expect the company to waste developer time reading docs when you could just fix it in a second kek. You fucked up.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I think you misunderstood me man, I’m not saying the app is already “fucked up” as you put it, I’m saying why would they have me on all the time for maintaining it when I have dedicated docs for it
            I’m only a junior dev anyway, plenty of the senior devs know their shit and could just keep an eye on it with the docs at hand if anything goes awry

  50. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >broke up with long term gf at start of the month, was a mutual thing so doesn't hurt as much as it could have potentially
    >Absolutely crippled by boredom now, finding new stuff to do but nothing is hitting exactly
    >Have a couple of friends, all of us in grad school so hang out every couple of weeks
    >Cute girl at gym, we keep making eye contact but I know she's out of my league and don't want to gauge attraction on just glances
    Started doing cardio a lot since the breakup, it's like a weird bit of meditation for me, I'm up to doing 7 miles comfortably

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >>Cute girl at gym, we keep making eye contact but I know she's out of my league and don't want to gauge attraction on just glances
      You gotta talk to her fám. You and I both know that

  51. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I don't actually eat 1g protein per lb body mass on rest days. Am I killing my gains?

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      yes

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        rap unironically sounds like shit

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Rap is not music.

  52. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    How do I increase my energy levels? help

  53. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Girl I used to like got a bf. Her friends all made sure to let me know it too. Can't even find someone interesting without it blowing up in my face. Glad I have lifting to keep my mind busy on other things.

  54. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I can get over my wasted life and missed opportunities, but no amount of lifting cures the despair of knowing that I will be separated from my loved ones when I die.

  55. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    What percentage of women are like this?
    https://streamable.com/l7erzn

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      100% of women with big tattoos are like that

  56. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    new gf
    been together 3 months
    we practically live together, we either stay at her place or mine but we never split up and we're planning the future to keep it this way
    its been pretty good, 8.5/10

    she had made plans for the summer before the start of our relationship
    shes religious, and is specifically into a religious organization, dont know how to call it
    now she's off for a week for a trip with these people, the following week her father's group goes to the same place so she's staying there

    when she was with me she literally missed on all of their meetings but 2
    now that she's there, talking with her about it feels different
    it kinda feels like talking to a brainwashed person
    dont know how to explain it well, but she tells it like its the greatest most spiritual and meaningful experience in the world

    i am glad she's religious, am glad she has a good relationship with her father
    i was just unprepared for something like this
    most of the stuff they do doesn't seem weird, she's been sending me videos, audios and photos
    they're 20something rich kids playing games, singing songs, going for walks in the mountains and listening to locals sing hymns

    tonight i stumbled upon the wikipedia page for this organization, and was a little wierded out
    its not too bad, just the usual stuff about corruption of the top members, members hiring other members at their workplaces, some political stuff that i noticed because she specifically had told me that it wasnt political

    i thought it was a church organization but its not exactly, and they have subgroups that do different stuff
    before she met me, she was thinking about joining the subgroup that lives together in colonies, in poverty, and that stays celibate (which is weird since we had sex every day, up to 4 times a day)
    this organization is also big, it has members that go beyond the country

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      sorry i wrote so long
      point is that i kinda felt a weird, sort of brainwashed way of talking that i hadnt heard from her before
      its mostly about their talks on religion, or the sharing of other people's experience
      they talk about how their lives have improved after joining this organization
      how they helped, how people not from there are different
      and those made me feel like its a cult

      and shes wanting me to join too
      we talk about religion a lot
      i know some because my mother took me to church until i was 15
      we've actually agreed that i know more than her
      she wants me to talk to one of their priests because he "will answer my questions"

      my current "plan" is to bring her to my old church and for both of us to start going there
      i hope doing so will bring her out of the culty stuff, and into classic chatolic church stuff
      the biggest obstacle will probably be her father, since he's a member too

      if anyone's had similar experiences feel free to share and give advice

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        new gf
        been together 3 months
        we practically live together, we either stay at her place or mine but we never split up and we're planning the future to keep it this way
        its been pretty good, 8.5/10

        she had made plans for the summer before the start of our relationship
        shes religious, and is specifically into a religious organization, dont know how to call it
        now she's off for a week for a trip with these people, the following week her father's group goes to the same place so she's staying there

        when she was with me she literally missed on all of their meetings but 2
        now that she's there, talking with her about it feels different
        it kinda feels like talking to a brainwashed person
        dont know how to explain it well, but she tells it like its the greatest most spiritual and meaningful experience in the world

        i am glad she's religious, am glad she has a good relationship with her father
        i was just unprepared for something like this
        most of the stuff they do doesn't seem weird, she's been sending me videos, audios and photos
        they're 20something rich kids playing games, singing songs, going for walks in the mountains and listening to locals sing hymns

        tonight i stumbled upon the wikipedia page for this organization, and was a little wierded out
        its not too bad, just the usual stuff about corruption of the top members, members hiring other members at their workplaces, some political stuff that i noticed because she specifically had told me that it wasnt political

        i thought it was a church organization but its not exactly, and they have subgroups that do different stuff
        before she met me, she was thinking about joining the subgroup that lives together in colonies, in poverty, and that stays celibate (which is weird since we had sex every day, up to 4 times a day)
        this organization is also big, it has members that go beyond the country

        never experienced anything like that, but in general if you get a weird feeling, I'd say trust your gut

        sounds like a cult. best case it's a trad cult and she's a great wife and cares for your children well. worst case you get midsommar'd

        how old are you? if you're young, don't waste your life with a crazy girl. she sounds like the type that'd baby trap you so she can start a family for god (which aligns with the "sex 4 times a day" stuff)

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          she's been very normie-like when with me
          its her being on the trip that now has made her a bit different

          her father was in it too and they had 3 kids
          her mother wasn't part of it
          they divorced when their last kid grew up and left home

          im 28
          tbh i wouldnt mind kids
          although i wouldnt want them to join into this stuff
          she's also both very pretty and somewhat fit
          she started training with me
          in her family everyone is taller than 2 meters, shes 165cms but at least has good genes
          she's pale white, dark blonde, green eyes, smooth skin and nice jawline

          she does believe that god wills stuff in her life
          she doesnt want kids right now, but if it happens then it means god wants her to
          and shes against abortion, even for retarded children
          so it will probably happen by """mistake"""

          it doesnt seem too bad
          i'll meet her family in 2 weeks, so i'll see how it goes and re-evaluate from there

  57. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Ive been having too many drinks. I need to cut down so that I can cut down my fat. From this day forward I will only drink water and diet Dr. Pepper.

  58. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >Meet really nice girl
    >We get along really well
    >Discover shes on antidepressives, and get hints of her past which give me big fucking anxiety
    >Had this situation before where I became obsessed with last gfs past and her bodycount which mogged mine
    >Instead of coping around it for 1 year like last time I decide to break up with the current girl after a month
    And now shes gone I dont get that anxiety feeling anymore, hell I dont even think about the negatives. I miss her and I wanna fuck her, why does it work like this.

  59. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I broke up with my girlfriend last friday. It was my first relationship in about 4 years and it lasted 2 months. We stood outside her place for about ten minutes and I just let her cry into my shoulder.
    She was very understanding about it though and I want to check in on her to make sure she's doing okay but I know better.
    I broke up with her because I just couldn't find myself being interested in anything she was doing. The physical part of the relationship was great and she's probably the best girl I've had since my last ex but I found myself annoyed with getting ready to do anything when it came to going out with her.

    I have other friends and I see how upset or sad they get when their boyfriends don't show them attention for long periods of time and I didn't want this girl to deal with that. She's really sweet but I just couldn't feel it.

  60. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I don't know if I feel guilt or just fear of consequences.
    The worst part is that I just tried to make everyone happy and failed.

  61. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I like this woman and she knows it, shes very nice and all, but she has a few orbiters who kiss her ass all the time. I am way ahead of the orbiters they are friendzoned but still make me seethe. I feel like I'm going in the right direction with her, and others the wrong, like I don't make progress, or if I do its gone the next week. I'm tired bros, I'm just going to call it quits.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      She's hoping for something better to come along. Don't waste any more energy on someone who doesn't think you are good enough.

  62. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.
    We’re gonna make it

  63. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Im trying to figure out why i can't have fun with people.
    Most of the time im worrying about how im going to fuck up every interaction and make myself look like a retard.
    All the time.
    Its like i forgot how to be a human.
    What now /fit

  64. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >work in Japan at a school
    >it's expected that you eat the "school lunch" every day
    >every single other teacher does it
    >calculate it out, the school lunch is something like 1200 cals
    >also like to cook
    >feel like I can't cancel the lunch because of the social pressure
    >but also can't afford any extra calories beyond that if I'm trying to cut

    and to make matters worse
    >mother decides she's coming over for two months in the summer
    >her incredibly warped standards of what a healthy diet should consist of are the reason I need to cut in the first place
    >already know she's going to force me to eat "three meals a day" of 1000-1600 calories each like she did when I was growing up and didn't know better

    To top everything off, balancing language learning reps with fitness reps is impossible and I always end up falling off on one or the other

    I know I can make it if I just have absolute control over my diet because I did it for two years in college, but I can't figure out how to make things work around the circumstances I have now.

  65. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    where do I meet a qt gf after uni?
    being single is better that a bad gf but it's been so long bros

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      at the gym

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        She really spent all of her aesthetics points below the waist huh

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        I have tried that over the years with mixed results

        Tried bars, rock climbing, friends friends, nothing seems to give the high volume of fairly chill single women like uni did
        I dont need a masters and if I went for one I would probably drop if I got a gf

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Pick a language and take some courses at uni

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            That is a potential route I might take
            What has been stopping me from that is the money though, uni is expensive and is paying for networking really worth it?
            I guess I want to feel like ive exhausted my options

  66. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Feel kinda lost and indifferent or whatever. I am right now on the verge to a new chapter in my Life, writing my phd thesis right now, probably without work at the end of the year as i am vaxxfree. What comes next is uncertain and I think, thats what bothering me the most, that I dont have a clue what will come next. Also was on a party last weekend where nearly everyone was in a relationship and had kids...hopefully one day will also be blessed with kids and a loving wife. WAGMI

  67. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    feels bad, man

  68. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I have to kill my wish for women because it is my source of misery. It always has been. I know I'll succeed and I know they'll come for me when I do it. But I have to kill this demon and I decided today I'll do it. Give me some vodka, please. And I'm thinking about buying caffeine pills, since I can't have a proper preworkout in my cucked country. Does anybody have an experience with caffeine pills here? (If you never took it but has something to say about it, just don't).

  69. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Is it ok to cheat on a woman was cheating on her husband with me? I didn't even do much, just made out a bit... Still feel like shit.

  70. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    here comes another "how get gf" post

    >to start, I'm not a KHV, but my only gf I met in university, dated for 5 years, then broke up
    >I don't have the confidence, charisma, or looks to approach random women irl
    >constantly being told to "live your life and you'll meet someone one day" or the exact opposite of "you'll never meet her if you don't try"
    there's a ton of hot, probably similar aged girls at my gym, but I don't want to risk being the creepy gym guy

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      The second bit of advice is true
      At the gym
      >regulars that you see every day
      Talk to them like you would any other person
      >girl that you see once
      Sometimes you feel that gut instinct of "wow I want to fuck this girl" and if that happens to you, shoot your shot, otherwise, either ignore or do the other thing I said

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >dated for 5 years, then broke up
      why
      does that still have any impact on your motivation to get a gf?

      >I don't want to risk being the creepy gym guy
      and you absolutely can be
      your reputation can be easily be ruined at the gym from one woman thinking you are weird or making her uncomfortable
      gym is definitely a tough one

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >does that still have any impact on your motivation to get a gf?
        she was a 5/10, so I feel like I don't deserve any girls hotter than that, while also not wanting to "downgrade" when I broke up with her

        I talked/flirted with a girl once and literally caused her to change her gym schedule. we'd be at the gym every day same time for ~4 months, and the day after I flirt with her, she stopped coming completely. then last week, I saw her again, but she left within 5 minutes of me getting there

        and by "flirt", I mean I asked her how many sets she had left and then said "don't worry haha, I'm not in a rush, I feel bad now" after she replied that she was "pretty much done"

        The second bit of advice is true
        At the gym
        >regulars that you see every day
        Talk to them like you would any other person
        >girl that you see once
        Sometimes you feel that gut instinct of "wow I want to fuck this girl" and if that happens to you, shoot your shot, otherwise, either ignore or do the other thing I said

        that you see every day
        there's a few people I see every single time I go (including weekends, which is bizarre, since my weekday workouts are at 3:30pm, and weekends at 9am), but I'm too scared to talk to them at this point

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >make sure no headphones in and not about to start their next set
          >"Hey, I see you in here a lot, how long have you been doing this?"

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            for the "regulars" (1 guy, 2 girls), I was just gonna open with the guy by saying "good workout? hey by the way my name's ___"

            he's spotted me a few times and we exchange pleasantries here and there, but usually 3 sentences max

            • 2 weeks ago
              Anonymous

              That's all you have to do, just go from there. You don't have to do it in one day, usually drop a few things here and there. Ask how their day went, mention anything interesting (especially if it's relevant to the gym like an injury or some sport you've started playing), and by the fact that you see each other on a regular basis you'll eventually get to know one another.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >she stopped coming completely
          it might be because of you but I really doubt it if its was as honest a conversation as you make it seem

  71. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    this girl im talking to always seems interested whenever i see her IRL and whenever she texts me it's not just generic responses she always keeps the conversation going so it seems like she's interested.
    problem is she always leaves me on delivered for a long time, sometimes over a day.
    what does this mean? is she actually interested and just not wanting to reply instantly or does she not really care and just text me like that and act interested in person for some reason?
    getting sick of constantly questioning myself over whether this girl is into me or not.
    would tell her i like her but i dont want to send her some shit asking her out or whatever and then she just leaves it for like 2 days.

  72. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Kek just asked out a grill, wish me luck bros

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      gl bro update if she responds

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        She said yes let's fucking go boys. I will ask out many more!

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          WAGMI

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Damn right we are. It's been three years since my last date. Time to make a change.

  73. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Is it possible to date if you work 7 days a week? I'll be pretty busy for about a year but I'd like to start looking for a girl in a few months. I just don't know if me working all the time would be a turn off for a woman or not.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      depends, if you make enough money, some women would be fine with you constantly working if you can provide well for them.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Nah, I'll be using all my extra money to pay a couple things off and save until I have a $20k safety blanket in the bank. Guess if I want any relationship with a woman it'll just just have to be random tinder hookups until I have more time.

  74. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    How do i find a reason for not killing me? I've been making a list for of pros and cons and there's no reason to still be a live, but i don't want my mother to suffer for my selfish decisions.
    I like nothing, i don't even live, I just exists. Have no interests in life nor goals to fulfill.

  75. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Just got a part on a tv show and am extremely nervous for various factors. Not my first time on a show with lines, I want to drop some weight before the day I show up for set but I know it won’t matter because I still will be a nobody actor with a few lines on a show that no one will notice me on.

    The pay is great and I am greatful, but for some reason I am more nervous than happy. I don’t have anyone to talk to about it because no one in my family are actors and all my acting friends would tell me how great an opportunity this is. They are absolutely correct, but I still can’t help feeling this way. I wish I had some one to talk to because this anxiety is fucking me up.

    Ugh.

  76. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I'm fat and while I'm losing weight, I'm still disgusting

    I really want a gf and ideally to get my dick wet. should I make a Tinder/Bumble now, knowing I'm going to mostly match with ugly girls, or wait a few months till I'm down to a healthy weight?

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I'd just do it now to get motivated, unless you're ripped, rich, or an actual chad already getting pussy don't bother, been on this shit for a year and have yet to match with a chick that's not a obese or a chud.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      If you're an above-average white man, then yes create one. If not, don't bother.

  77. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    i fell in love with a lesbian

  78. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Well ive lost my last friend. Theyve all drifted away bros. I dont know anybody IRL anymore.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous
  79. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I dropped out of college. I should feel like a complete loser, but I literally can't be bothered - I have never felt this good in my life. Anxiety over my degree was killing me. Not an amerifriend, so my student debt is only like $1000

    Inner peace is real, and it's fucking amazing.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Good stuff man

  80. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >every post about girls
    boring

  81. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >been seeing a real pretty girl at the gym sorta look my direction constantly
    >immediately attracted to her because she has an amazing body and ok face real pretty voice
    >goes on for a few weeks where we'd look at each other
    >notice a ring on her finger but can't stop playing this looking game with her
    >finally just grab my balls and find out
    >literally word vomit spaghetti on her but straight up ask if she's single
    >she's married
    I full on spaghetti'd all over her but I'm glad I actually did it and can now not care about her and move on.Just don't know why she'd constantly stare at me if she was married tho but I'm for sure it wasn't just in my head because we'd constantly look at each other or I'd catch her look at me.

  82. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I keep having dreams where I cheat on my gf. It's happened the last 4 nights in a row. Not sure what it means.

    I've never cheated on her before but I was at one point very unsatisfied with the relationship. I thought I resolved those issues but now I'm starting to think I never really got past them and just buried the feelings

  83. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    my mom and my brother lost a ton of weight doing keto, and they're both smug assholes about it. If she hadn't helped him, he'd still be getting $45 doordash orders twice a day while he sits on his ass and plays league of legends. I didn't get on the wagon with them and now I'm paying for it. I should have just sucked it up and tried to follow suit but my work hours made it really difficult, as well as some hangups I have about eating leftovers as a little kid. I asked her to help me with keto now too but neither of them want to go back to it, even though that's not what I'm asking, and so I've basically gotta try to do my weight loss shit on my own while they cook and eat whatever and eventually relapse and yoyo back up. I just wish someone in this house was supportive of me. Feels like I'm an afterthought in my own family.

    I know ultimately it's my fault for not going along with it the first time, but IST convinced me that keto is bad. Seeing them lower their weight so quickly and effortlessly is pretty upsetting though. Also having to eat leftovers brings back really awful memories so I go out of my way to cook fresh food. I just wish I hadn't let myself get to this point where I even need to lose weight. I was on the path to making it one time. I could have been a chad but I dropped the ball.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Anon keto IS bad for your body. You did well, just eat less.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Man everything says to eat less but I'm hitting 1300 calories or less a day at 280 pounds and burning from 200 to 400 on the treadmill on top of weightlifting and my weight is just are not going down. Busy season at work is coming to an end so I'm a little more flexible in what I'm able to do but holy shit whatever I'm doing is just not working. I need a little more concrete advice than that. I do appreciate the sentiment though. Checked.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >and my weight is just are not going down.
          That's water bro, body likes to sometime hold it until it doesn't, prepare for a day of diarrhea and piss sometime in the future

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            how long is that supposed to last?? Because I don't feel like I shit very much at all but I'm halfway through week 3 on this shit

            >I've basically gotta try to do my weight loss shit on my own

            just get to blaming them for your failure already

            my shortcomings are my own fault and I acknowledge that, and every other relevant party knows it too whether they're willing to say it to my face or not. I won't pass blame to anyone through my journey, but I also will not allow anyone else to try and share my credit when I finally do find the way to make this all work in my life's parameters.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          maybe do more cardio?

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I'm doing 30 minutes minimum cardio a day + standing at work for 7 hours a day, I'm not sure what else I can do man. Just frustrated. On the treadmill I'm doing HIIT between 3mph and 5-6mph every day after work and lifting the standard m/w/f schedule. It has to be something with my diet. I'm not aiming to be a Greek statue, I just want to bring my weight back to the low 200's.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >I've basically gotta try to do my weight loss shit on my own

      just get to blaming them for your failure already

  84. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I'm doing... Okay
    I think I've got things figured out, at least to the point where I can fake it the rest of the way.
    Slight imposter syndrome, but I can overcome that.

    I do feel bad, because going to the gym after work cuts in to the time I have with my kids, since they are probably asleep by the time I get home.
    My wife tells me that it will be worth it, because going to the gym now means I will have more years with them later, and I agree with her.
    She made nuggies from scratch, so everything is going okay.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      if you really do have such a family, gratitude for that will carry you most of the way.

  85. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Crown and Coke please and thanks. College is starting back up so I have a tiny chance of meeting someone. There's a few chicks at the gym I'd like to talk to but I don't want to seem creepy. I feel like they glance or look at me whenever they're resting but that's probably just me wanting it to be true. I tell myself to smile if make eye contact, like if we pass each other but I can't even do that. I also have no friends but that's slightly easier to live with. The loneliness is weighing heavy bros.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I know it’s absolutely petrifying, but you gotta start small. In my most pathetic moments, I always just counted to three and did whatever I was afraid to do. Start with a smile, force out a “hey!”
      Maybe they are just being friendly or maybe you’re wrong, but you’ll never know until you start talking to people. Life is short and the what-ifs really start to pile up and eat at you. I regret all the time, friends, and love I missed out in highschool and college because I was too weak to even say hey to people

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Thanks for the words of encouragement anon, I needed them. I hope life treats you well. *Verification not required.

  86. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I’m 26 and I’ve always been kind of skinny fat but have finally been hitting the gym for the last 4 months. I did about 3 months of strong lifts and I’m now doing a PPL but I’m paranoid my routine isn’t good and could be better.
    I’m stressing out about how much time I’ve wasted being a lazy loser and am stressed that my routine might not be good enough and that I’m missing something important for my progress

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      If you are trying hard in the gym (lifting heavy weights for good volume and good form for 1h+), eating correctly (high protein, calorie surplus or deficit depending on your goals) then rest assured you're doing pretty much everything in your power to progress optimally. The rest of the shit you could obsess over, such as:
      >meal timing
      >which training program is the 'most' optimal
      >rep ranges
      >exercise selection
      >supplements
      etc would account for a very small amount of your gains, probably less than 5%, given you are doing what I said above.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Thanks anon, I appreciate it. There’s just so many routines and so much info out there that it all feels overwhelming. I’m just doing some generic 6 day program I found on leddit because it had a lot of lifts I was already familiar with. Guess I just need to get over my myself and push harder each day without worrying about the minutiae

  87. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Help bros, I'm falling for a tinder chick
    >be me, 25
    >match with 19yr old 9/10 on tinder
    >go to her zoomer party, have fun, hook up
    >go on a date out town next day being cute n shit
    >talk a lot and vibe well
    >sucked in by her carefree, positive energy and her youthful beauty
    but
    >drug and alcohol problem
    >probably really high bodycount (mostly girls cuz bi)
    >infinite attention from men on snapchat and tinder
    >mega feminist
    Despite all these red flags I wouldn't mind dating her and potentially fuck me up. Getting intimate with a beautiful young girl like that is the best feeling ever. But for now I am buried under her 100+ snapchat notifications and not talking so I don't fucking know. Probably don't wanna pursue anything with a girl who's just tryna have fun cuz that will come off pretty needy and push her away.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      yolo

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >have sex with her on first date with her
      >get angry about her potential high body count
      right....

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        yeah ur right, i honestly don't really care about that, its just that she gets A LOT of attention from guys and she likes that so eh

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Best thing to do with a chick like that is not put her on a pedestal. When she backs off, let her go and do your own thing. That will set you a part from all the orbiters she has. Hang out, have fun and hook up. Do your own thing first and foremost always.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            how about a little check in a week or two later? just ask what she been up to and a litle chat? or only text her when Im tryan plan something out. Or should i not even do that and have her reach out to me when she is bored

            • 2 weeks ago
              Anonymous

              Yea only use the phone to set dates. If you haven’t heard from her in a week reach out to set a date. If she blows you off I’d move on. Do this until she starts to chase you then it will be easier to see her but you’ll have to move into the next phase of the relationship which brings its own battles. Mainly complacency

  88. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    [...]

    Water, with apple cider vinegar.
    Only three days in my new job and I've outed myself as the office autist. There was a meet & greet pizza lunch on my first day and I was too paranoid to eat Infront of everyone. Barely talked, and went to grab some protein bars from the cafeteria later that day. I was a bit more open the next couple days, and everyone seems friendly but I'm worried about fucking it up. It's a great opportunity and I don't want to appear incompetent. I'm still in training but pushing to get started on projects. How do I interact with people without looking like an inept middle schooler?
    Feeling IST though. A few weeks out from my martial arts fight. Weight is a bit low so I'm trying to hold on to muscle as best I can while training every day. Anxious as fuck.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Meant for

      https://i.imgur.com/hHMM9PU.jpg

      Come in bro, how is your day going? Anything you want to share?

      Drinks are on me

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >water with apple cider vinegar
      confirmed autist

  89. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I feel so fucking lonely and lately it's been worse, there are nights when I just lay in bed and cry.

    I can't make friends, my mind goes completely blank when I try to start a conversation with someone or when I'm already in a conversation and I can't keep it flowing because of it, so obviously the other person loses interest or thinks I don't care. When in reality, I'm trying to engage with them but I can't.

    >You're overthinking and you get anxious, just say what you want.

    I'm not, I literally can't think of anything, it's like my brain can't process any thoughts. I listen to them and try to talk about what they tell me but it feels so forced, for example:

    >Me: where do you work?
    >She/He: at the hospital
    >Me: oh, it must be exhausting to work at night.
    >Her/him: not really, I get used to it.
    >Me: I can't think of anything and I say something like "i see"

    And the conversation ends

    This shit is so fucking frustrating and it makes me so angry and sad because I've lost so many cool people because of this. It is even bringing back the suicidal thoughts I left behind years ago. I don't know what the fuck is wrong with me

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Might sound dumb but if it is a problem, practice conversational flows you default to.

      “I get used to it.”
      “Nice, you know, when I had a job like that I always felt like X was the worst part. What do you think?”

      They say something, you relate their story back to you, prompt another question, etc. most people like to talk about themselves and enjoy when you can relate. Get used to tying their details and stories into your own stories and experiences and let that prompt more conversation and questions. You also don’t always need to force more conversation - sometimes a few back and forth points is sufficient.

  90. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    slept with a colleague from grad school this morning. She seemed fine afterwards, but it feels like she's been avoiding me since I had to present my grad thesis this afternoon. Not sure how to take it, she got jealous a friend of mine gave me a hug after I presented because my friend doesn't really talk to her.

  91. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    A tasty stout pls. I come to my favourite 4chud thread with a non-fitness-related problem. I lost my vcard the other day at a party (took her's too) and I don't know how and where I can sleep with her again. She lives with her family and I have roommates. The only private place I have access to is my car, which is the place we did it the first time. I don't see any way I can pull this off smoothlike considering I have only seen her once since that night. What's the best thing to do?

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      tell your roommates to kick rocks when she comes over retard.

      That's what every person has done ever in the history of college/dorm life.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >I come to my favourite 4chud thread with a non-fitness-related problem
      whoa you came to the fit feels thread with a whine about girls problem? no way
      >i took her virginity
      LOL

  92. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Is there a way to actually overcome the fear of death? Or more specifically the 'fear of death' that manifest in physical sensations. I can rationalize why I shouldn't fear death, excluding all religious implications and external debates, strictly speaking, it's just non existence. In the time up until my birth I didn't exist, so "I", have done that before. I will not exist longer than I will exist, so why fear it. But all this abstraction doesn't stop my body from going into fight or flight mode when trying to accomplish the most mundane task, and being gripped with anxiety.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Why be afraid of it? It's literally just nothingness. No feeling, no consciousness. I don't know what to tell you if you can't understand that. You could cope and become a Christian or something but deep down you know you'd be lying to yourself.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        yeah I agree, but if someone stuck a gun to your head you'd still be scared shitless. Doesn't matter how much you rationalize it. Fear takes you whether you want it to or not, it doesn't care what your brain is saying. I feel if I could get over my fear of death, or at least some of it, my trivial anxieties would wash away.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I believe on a biological level, it makes sense to fear death. You can rationalize that consciousness didn't exist prior to birth, but people are still animals and fear the loss of autonomy and bodily functions.
      What works for me is thinking about dying without doing the things I want or need to do. That's more frightening than death.
      Live each day to the best of your ability.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >be me
      >want to kill myself every single day
      >have nothing to live for
      >pray every night to die in my sleep
      >however, when I actually think about killing myself, like having to do it myself, I get very scared
      >take the subway every day and think of the people who jump and get scared thinking about it every time the train comes by

      I don't get it really.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        That's because you don't want to die but at the same time you feels your current life is not worth living

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          But I do want to die. I have literally no reason to live, provide nothing to anyone, enjoy nothing. I think it may just be the crippling anxiety I have about EVERYTHING which is the main thing that destroyed my life, and I guess that severe anxiety transfers over to the most destructive thing you can do to yourself, suicide.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            His point still stands. You do want to live you just don't want to live with anxiety.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Unironically have you smoked dmt?

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        nope. Why?

  93. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Lads I had a really shit day yesterday but now I'm feeling based. I'm slipping back into alcoholism over the past few days but I'm putting my foot down. Not a super big slip up but enough to cause concern.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Go to AA. I don’t even think about alcohol anymore lmao I made it

  94. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    It's over anons, she's fucking gone. I don't know what to do.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      There's nothing left for you to do, except move on.

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