Office crush made me jizz my pants again. I’m starting to think she did it on purpose to see if she could. No woman drops a pen in the elevator that obviously. I hate nofap so fricking much. Had to change into khaki shorts for the rest of the day which ruined my sales presentation
Man no matter what i do my teeth and gums are all fricked up
Changed diet and all
Am cutting too as skinnyfat
Cut out so much sugar besides natural fructose
Do you floss? I used to have the same issue, started flossing daily and completely reversed aches and appearance within a month. Since getting them back to good health I probably floss once or twice a week and the dentist never has any complaints.
waterpik is a godsend also you probably have periodontitis if you havent been to a dental hygenist to do root planning yet or dont get regular professional cleanings.
It will get worse and you cant fix it on your own if thats what the culprit is
While I haven't graduated (so this isn't official medical advice), I am two years into getting my doctorate of dental medicine and aspire to be a periodontist. Could you maybe describe what's going on a little more? All fricked up isn't a lot to go on.
There are a few things that might be going on that I would investigate IF I WAS YOU
> Are you regularly brushing, flossing, using mouthwash?
This is the most important. Your home care is the most vital part of treatment. > Are you brushing too hard? > Are you using a stiff, abrasive toothbrush?
If you suspect this, try brushing with just two fingers holding the brush. You should be using a toothbrush that says soft on its package. > Are your gums swollen, painful, bleeding, or pustulent? Is your gumline receding?
You may be experiencing gingivitis or its more chronic and severe form periodontist.
While gingivitis can be resolved in as little as 10-20 days with good home care, periodontitis will not resolve on its own.
You may need scaling + root planing or other forms of periodontal therapy.
ABOVE ALL
You should seek help from an oral healthcare professional. The faster you act the better your outcome may be. Waiting can lead to boneless, recession, mobility/loss of teeth, and even systemic health issues. I am sorry you are dealing with this. If this wasn't IST and you were local I'd give you my card to come into clinic.
I don't want to go to the gym any more.
I want to have friends to go out with, a social life to look forward to, and people I genuinely enjoy spending time with.
I only work out to distract myself from how shit my life is outside of work.
anyone else got some sort of adhd, probaly mild autism and who knows what? >gets social anxious / stuck in their head when not outside for a couple of days >generally feels like you dont belong, sorta
that sort of thing? lifting helps, but only a couple days after that my brain keeps doing this bullshit
Im so happy at my new gym bros, it's so much better than my old gym. Really feels great, I can do whatever I want at this gym, I was limited at my old one.
>I thought only fatties go to PF.
NTA but depends on the area. Where I live (rich, northern) there’s not a lot obesity so you’ll only see a 1-2 fat housewives and like 80% slim dyels.
i miss my ex from 3 years ago. we've only been together for a year and a half. i've had another gf since, for over 2 years. but i still thought of that former ex every single day. i know that we won't ever get back together, and i know that she's going to get engaged any second now. i just need to find a way to let it go bros. 3 fricking years and it still hurts.
i've been with girls for those 3 years, and like i said i've had another gf for an even longer period during that time. so it's not really the case. i think something is fricked with my head, because i literally thought about this girl every single day for the last 3 years, and i'm sure she hasn't given me much thought at all.
i know anon, i thought about an ex over 10 years in that time i had 2 other girls but what ultimately got her out of my mind was seeing her getting married. you need a wake up call that that girl is gone, finito
>i've had another gf since, for over 2 years.
i should say that the more recent ex was better than the ex i miss, in almost every single parameter. but i never stopped loving the old ex. shit's fricked.
Frick I hope I don't end up like this.
It's been only two months and I miss her like a motherfricker but i just hope that the pain will go away in another 2-3 months
I have to keep myself busy all day with work, gym to not feel depressed.
Would also love to know this. They're paying me through dental school and I am getting activated as an O3 in two years. Anyone have advice from the officer's side? I'm excited but really not sure what to expect. Going to be a huge change in my life. I've barely left my region of the US because I've been doing school nonstop. Owe them 4 years active duty as a dentist. Anon, I do know that we have some of the best base locations compared to the other branches which is a plus. Deployment looks like it could be a really cool experience or a fricking awful one.
>freedom to lift impinged upon early this year >both shoulders >keep lifting just doing what hurts the least and adding extra exercises to fix it >avoid dips the whole year because those hurt the most >decide to try them again last week >go real slow and pause at the bottom >no pain >check myself in the mirror >I'm way deeper than I've ever gone on dips >my feet touch the floor with bent legs
Looks like I fixed my shoulder mobility. Feels good.
This is the best feeling, anon. Make sure you are keeping up with exercising and stretching your rotator cuffs.
I think about killing myself every day
I am sorry. Things will get better. What is wrong? I will listen if you need to talk about it.
https://i.imgur.com/HQAoHGq.jpg
Ex of 7 years reached out the other day (been broken up 6 months) saying she was thinking about me and wanted to say hi.
I begged her to take me back for 3 months before I finally got some self love and left her alone.
Her reaching out pissed me off, because I felt like she was just using me for attention for whatever reason...I don't even want to frick her anymore unless she literally begs me for it.
Ended up telling her that I don't want small talk with her, and I'll only talk if it's something important. She said she understood, and hasn't replied since. I haven't blocked her because I want her to know that I'm consciously choosing to not engage with her. FRICK HER.
Funnily enough, the ex's text came through while I was waiting in a new girl's driveway to take her on a date. I think that made me stronger in my response.
Don't ever go back anon. Left a good thing I had going a few years ago to give another ex (situationship) a chance and it was the worst decision of my life. Got fricking dragged through the mud for it. I'm a fricking moron. Been single for 6 years now.
>lose 10kg in 9 months >be happy about current physique for a couple weeks >start feeling small and consider bulking up again
How do I get over my body dysmorphia?
I still struggle with it. Learn to love the process. Understand our bodies are always growing and changing and aesthetics wont always be our strong point at all times. You are a work in progress always, but you can be an awesome work in progress. > The perfect is the enemy of the good.
Dont enlist. The Navy treats the enlisted like utter shit. Black mold in your barracks, no hot water, group punishments because SN frickface decided to do something stupid, only do it if there's nothing else going on in your life
https://i.imgur.com/HsgJOAS.jpg
Would also love to know this. They're paying me through dental school and I am getting activated as an O3 in two years. Anyone have advice from the officer's side? I'm excited but really not sure what to expect. Going to be a huge change in my life. I've barely left my region of the US because I've been doing school nonstop. Owe them 4 years active duty as a dentist. Anon, I do know that we have some of the best base locations compared to the other branches which is a plus. Deployment looks like it could be a really cool experience or a fricking awful one.
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This is the best feeling, anon. Make sure you are keeping up with exercising and stretching your rotator cuffs.
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I am sorry. Things will get better. What is wrong? I will listen if you need to talk about it.
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Don't ever go back anon. Left a good thing I had going a few years ago to give another ex (situationship) a chance and it was the worst decision of my life. Got fricking dragged through the mud for it. I'm a fricking moron. Been single for 6 years now.
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I still struggle with it. Learn to love the process. Understand our bodies are always growing and changing and aesthetics wont always be our strong point at all times. You are a work in progress always, but you can be an awesome work in progress. > The perfect is the enemy of the good.
You'll be fine, just dont be a dick to those below you
I'm fat
No job
No friends
Arrogant
Egotistical
Think about a married woman every night >want to become veterinarian >want cow friends >poor and moronic because looser
>freedom to lift impinged upon early this year >both shoulders >keep lifting just doing what hurts the least and adding extra exercises to fix it >avoid dips the whole year because those hurt the most >decide to try them again last week >go real slow and pause at the bottom >no pain >check myself in the mirror >I'm way deeper than I've ever gone on dips >my feet touch the floor with bent legs
Looks like I fixed my shoulder mobility. Feels good.
Ex of 7 years reached out the other day (been broken up 6 months) saying she was thinking about me and wanted to say hi.
I begged her to take me back for 3 months before I finally got some self love and left her alone.
Her reaching out pissed me off, because I felt like she was just using me for attention for whatever reason...I don't even want to frick her anymore unless she literally begs me for it.
Ended up telling her that I don't want small talk with her, and I'll only talk if it's something important. She said she understood, and hasn't replied since. I haven't blocked her because I want her to know that I'm consciously choosing to not engage with her. FRICK HER.
Funnily enough, the ex's text came through while I was waiting in a new girl's driveway to take her on a date. I think that made me stronger in my response.
>I begged her to take me back for 3 months before I finally got some self love and left her alone.
I was about to call you a huge homosexual anon, good
>I haven't blocked her because I want her to know that I'm consciously choosing to not engage
you WILL drunk text her and you WILL regret it after
No u
My guy, you’ve got it all wrong; she got exactly what she wanted: You proved to her that you’re not over her in the slightest by more or less telling her you were still unable to even engage in small talk with her..
Of course I'm not over her. We dated for seven fricking years and it's been six months, do you expect me to be a fricking robot? I literally didn't want to small talk with her though. She was asking me about new music I'm listening to and shit like that. Do you just give every woman all the attention that they want? I guess I could have just left her on read but that seems non-confrontational to me.
I guess I just misunderstood your aim. If you wanted to look like you still weren’t over her (this giving her that confidence boost and inflated sense of self worth) then I suppose I should have been saying congratulations, because you achieved your goal.
Leaving her on read or just being as non-committal as possible would’ve had the opposite effect. So good thing you didn’t do that.
Yeah I wanted to clearly draw a boundary about the way I wanted to be communicated with. Ignoring her would have been the best way to say that for sure.
I still keep in touch with my ex and we have passionate sex whenever she's around, like very couple of months. it feels so amazing
on a completely unrelated note, I also can't seem to get over my depression and self-doubt and I struggle with meeting new people. I wonder what could be causing that
My guy, you’ve got it all wrong; she got exactly what she wanted: You proved to her that you’re not over her in the slightest by more or less telling her you were still unable to even engage in small talk with her..
This seems like female-brained cope. Explicitly telling someone you don't want to talk to them is way more straightforward than small talk with an ex for no reason.
>Ended up telling her that I don't want small talk with her, and I'll only talk if it's something important. She said she understood, and hasn't replied since. I haven't blocked her because I want her to know that I'm consciously choosing to not engage with her. FRICK HER.
ngmi
These past two weeks every time I run I’ve felt slow and incapable of going any real distance. My numbers are actually okay and normal it just feels shitty, like I’m not getting the usual high.
I am 25 and have never had a conversation with a female for more than 5 minutes. I read a story about a guy born in a monastery and lived his whole life there as a monk and he had never seen a woman his entire life l. I feel like I’m pretty close to that in some way.
>oneitis ex gf hits me up after 8months of being broken up last week >we have good talks and we talk again 2 days later all is going well >i dont hit her up so i can give her some space to process everything cause the breakup was quite bad >try call her last night >im blocked
its fricking brutal and i texted her on a different number just saying “ill leave you alone but why you block me for? im just confused” which is whatever yeah its not an attractive thing to do but im just genuinely confused and upset cause we were having such good convos with chemistry
ngl all the angry feelings of the breakup has come back because of this and i walk around looking like i want to murder someone
but that label means nothing to me because she was the only ex that i actually really loved
i was hoping and praying she would eventually hit me up and when she did i got too excited i guess
its fricking brutal i can only wait to see if she’ll reply to the message i sent her from the other number but chances are itll get blocked too
>stop being a homosexual >don't put all your eggs in one basket >don't make your happiness dependent on factors you can't control >don't talk to your exes for any reason whatsoever
I can see quite some lessons that you could've learned, I suggest you do a bit more self reflection
>lose 10kg in 9 months >be happy about current physique for a couple weeks >start feeling small and consider bulking up again
How do I get over my body dysmorphia?
broke my ankle and have been doing nothing for a month, overall gains are down but my bad ankle leg is literally turning into a noodle.
I don't have much going on for me at this time in my life so i lift, run and often go for walks but i can't do that anymore so i'm not doing too well, i let negativity take hold of me too easily.
and seeing my body deteriorate just adds so much salt to the wound
That sucks so fricking much. Not only being not able to do what you love, but seeing your progress whither before your eyes. Just remember that making your gains back is 10 times easier than getting them the first time.
I twisted my ankle really badly recently as well. Luckily nothing broken, just some stretched or slightly torn ligaments and I hope I can get back to working legs at the gym in 2-3 weeks and running + kickboxing in 4 weeks. Overdid upper body workouts and fricked my shoulder mildly as well now lol. And my biggest non IST hobby, playing piano, involves press the pedal with my right foot which isn't really possible right now either.
How do I get over the halo effect? Girls giving me attention, even touching me feels weird. Almost like they're fricking with me, and laughing behind my back.
>Losing weight I carried for years because no gf >More active, healthier, generally not happy but not depressed af anymore >Side effect is Penis is visibly bigger both flaccid and erect
Unsure what to feel. Happy because my insecurities are fading. Sad that I'm still too moronic to socially engage in basic life activities.
I feel like life is passing me by and as though I’m watching the worlds most boring movie. My days are spent fielding for cheap dopamine and instant gratification. Often I’ll try to make changes and fix things just to fail within a month and then get right back to comfortable stagnation. Except it’s not truly comfortable, it’s harrowing. My drug of choice is distraction. And the crash is a brutal one felt in the soul.
I have a rough idea of who is like to be, but then I wonder if I get there, then what? What’s the point? I get jacked and ripped and make some money, maybe meet a girl or just get hurt and used again anyways so I resort to using my new status to just frick multiple b***hes, maybe I have some hobbies(distractions).. not much has truly changed. What’s the point?
Vodka, Fever Tree tonic water, water, ice, lime; the alchemist will mix his own.
Pepe of Kek is my name
Using memes to fuel my gains
Every time I’m on a cut I feel like Nietzsche’s übermensch, but it gets easier every time. I can see how it’s said those who have achieved enlightenment can be sustained by the mere whiff of good offered food.
They love life because its mysterious, even though theres so much waste and suffering
Come, let's away to prison.
We two alone will sing like birds i' th' cage.
When thou dost ask me blessing, I'll kneel down
And ask of thee forgiveness. So we'll live,
And pray, and sing, and tell old tales, and laugh
At gilded butterflies, and hear poor rogues
Talk of court news; and we'll talk with them too-
Who loses and who wins; who's in, who's out-
And take upon 's the mystery of things,
As if we were God's spies; and we'll wear out,
In a wall'd prison, packs and sects of great ones
That ebb and flow by th' moon.
These are things you can fix. I don’t feel this way about my life. Do you have goals? I have things I’m aiming at and looking forward to. I want to buy a motorcycle and do touring at some point, maybe even retire early, work hard enough to achieve these things. I’m generally working my ass off right now and it is not fun, but far from boring. Surely you could up with some items to write down that might get you excited for what’s to come, right?
you dont understand, retiring early solves literally all your problems. when you retire early, you'll totally spend the rest of your life being so fulfilled and excited the whole time
i cant get a job since 3 years ago. not even trolling, at 32 and trying to get a wagie job is hard as shit in my third world country. Tried for gym coach and nothing, tried construction and nothing. Last time the interviewer told me they looking for young people after seeing my age in the CV. Im gonna start selling chocolates and cookies on the metro, i would look funny being big and selling that shit but better than nothing.
>i cant get a job since 3 years ago. not even trolling, at 32 and trying to get a wagie job is hard as shit in my third world country.
It's harder nowadays. Just keep trying but don't try not to sell yourself short. Keeping some form of dignity is healthy at least imo. What country are in from?
I’m in a similar situation except I’m in the US. I have no clue why I’m having so much trouble grabbing even a retail min wage job. I have 7 years of retail/customer service experience for fricks sake. It’s never been this difficult. Even urgently hiring places with massive turnover rates won’t hire me.
I had an overnight security gig put me through the entire interview process except the last step which was a final face to face interview and they ghosted me, the guy no showed. Then they texted me asking me to rate how that last interview went, ghosted me again when I asked wtf they were playing at or if they didn’t wanna proceed with me. I inquired if it was cancelled or what multiple times and nothing. That’s the closest I’ve gotten since last October.
I’m pretty frustrated.
I’m trying so hard to fix my life and it seems now that I’m finally trying, nothings happening. It’s insanely frustrating that I’m not even able to get a min wage sub livable pay job in retail as if it’s some highly exclusive opportunity when I seriously don’t even want to take a wagecuck retail position in the first place. I hate it but I’m ignoring my discomfort since it’s better than no job NEET. But to no effect. They’re saying they don’t even want me, some over qualified, to be a slave, essentially.
>i cant get a job since 3 years ago. not even trolling, at 32 and trying to get a wagie job is hard as shit in my third world country.
It's harder nowadays. Just keep trying but don't try not to sell yourself short. Keeping some form of dignity is healthy at least imo. What country are in from?
That's rough man. Sorry your going through this but know that others are facing the same issue, especially in the States. The good times seem to have come to an end. However, like I said don't sell yourself short and try to maintain some form of self-respect. Also if you can please try to get a career going instead of casing middling-employment.
>respect. Also if you can please try to get a career going instead of casing middling-employment.
That’s part of why this is so incredibly frustrating to me. This is the first step in me getting a career going.
I want to start building an online business or a few, have some decent ideas I think I make work and do well. And I also want to go back to school for another two years. I can’t do either of those without having some income and also a structured routine for a while. Like if I went back to school now, I’d flunk out immediately because I’ve had no routine and need to rebuild that discipline. Then I’d also need money for the online businesses. $1500 is all I need as an initial investment.
Literally just depends on me landing one of these jobs.
I'm 27 and I have a similar fear, because of my NEET years I have some gaps in my CV.
I'm studying for an IT degree which I hope will give me a chance for a good job, but I fear the gaps in my CV it will be very hard. I keep hearing that there's a shortage of IT guys in my country so I hope that I get at least an internship in the near future.
>With AI being primed to replace most IT jobs
are you out of touch with what has been going on?
go look up what github copilot does
IT jobs are having the time of their lives with AI
I use to feel really regretful for my years spent in highschool and college, because during that time I missed out on a lot socially since I struggled with shyness. I felt like I wasted time and missed opportunities I'll never get back.
But I started thinking this belief is only there because I was operating under the assumption that highschool/college should be the apex of one's life. The "these are the best years of your life man!!!" boomer advice that we hear so much. When in reality, it shouldn't be. You should, and must go further. You can still meet interesting people and have interesting experiences post highschool/college.
People saying life ends at 25, or 30, or whatever, are just there to demoralize you because they themselves have become stuck in complacency. We're all going to make it.
If you're 25 or a bit older it's not too late. Just have to come up with a plan and give it real effort. One can achieve so much in 1 year.
You can set yourself up for your early 30's by getting jacked, getting a good paying job and putting some effort into your appearance. A lot of early twenties b***hes go for +27 year old dudes.
This lad, boomers peak at highschool and their entire lives are spent dealing with the mistakes they made from these years, all the hedonism and ecstasy they look back on favorably before their choices force them into a banal life.
>I felt like I wasted time and missed opportunities I'll never get back.
I'll tell you something
I was popular back in HS, well liked, got really friendly with the girls and the guys
the friendships are great, but I never found a girl worth a damn in HS
so it's not all "omg missed it all", sometimes it's just not fricking there, it was never there
so yea, be assured that the "life ends at 30" is total fricking bullshit
sometimes shit just starts later
I guess you can say that friendships are always worth it, but missing out on them is not the end of the world as longas you get friends along the way
If you're 25 or a bit older it's not too late. Just have to come up with a plan and give it real effort. One can achieve so much in 1 year.
You can set yourself up for your early 30's by getting jacked, getting a good paying job and putting some effort into your appearance. A lot of early twenties b***hes go for +27 year old dudes.
This lad, boomers peak at highschool and their entire lives are spent dealing with the mistakes they made from these years, all the hedonism and ecstasy they look back on favorably before their choices force them into a banal life.
>I felt like I wasted time and missed opportunities I'll never get back.
I'll tell you something
I was popular back in HS, well liked, got really friendly with the girls and the guys
the friendships are great, but I never found a girl worth a damn in HS
so it's not all "omg missed it all", sometimes it's just not fricking there, it was never there
so yea, be assured that the "life ends at 30" is total fricking bullshit
sometimes shit just starts later
I guess you can say that friendships are always worth it, but missing out on them is not the end of the world as longas you get friends along the way
looking at it another way, imagine stagnating for like, 70 years. cope to end all copes for boomers to call this normal. so yes i agree with you.
No one "peaks in high school" you absolute fricking morons. You act like they mean they do well in high school then just never do anything the rest of their lives. When in reality, these people usually end up completely normal. They get a normal job, get married, have a house, kids, do everything normally. Keep coping.
Broke up with my gf of 3 years.
I feel like I'll never get another woman like her.... It's been two months and I miss her a lot.
I went on a date with a girl today thinking if I talk to another woman maybe I'll feel better but I don't.
I'm good I guess. The girl I'm in love with misses her ex and is trying to get back to him, but hes ignoring her really hard and she's is not taking it very well. Sucks that she's suffering for this guy and I can't do nothing for her since she doesn't let me.
WHAT DO YOU MEAN RELATIONSHIP ANF MENTAL HRALTH THREADS ARE THE PINNACLE OF FITNESS THAT TFW WHEN I HAVE NO GIRL GF (MALE WITH BOY PUSSY MADE OF butthole)
social problems are the only ones without a clear path
you don't see anyone complaining about their plumbing because everyone knows how to fricking fix it
I'm ugly and actually autistic, it is what it is. However, at the same time, I'm reminded of Sisyphus. If this is my boulder, frick it, I'll push it. If for no other reason than to spite God, the demiurge, the universe, mother nature, what have you.
Whoever's responsible for this shit can suck on my salty, sweaty nuts.
>god says exist
He does, the why of it is the mystery.
Does He actually love us, or does He want us to suffer? Either way I'm not gonna let His moronic design of genetics break me.
I'm so used to doing things by myself like go to the movies, museums, etc because I'm friendless. I'm traveling next year out of the country for the first time and I'm excited but I hate how I'm most likely gonna have to do it solo. Not going to give up though... I'll try one of those moronic meetup groups and see what happens
>start new degree last november >program includes a turbo qt who also look like she lifts >immediately sense some attraction during orientation, BUT the two times
we had the chance to interact she sperged out once and I made a drunk ass of myself other time >we both end up in completely distinct social groups after orientation week >see her almost every day at lectures, but never interact because we just sit/talk with our respective friend group >constantly catch her throwing me looks or sometimes outright staring until I notice >once she completely sperged out again while asking me for some minute shit in a lecture >saw her around town recently and she threw me a big smile
I'm 99% sure she is interested, but have 0 natural opportunities of talking to her. I feel like I missed my opportunity and she's the kind of chick who wouldn't lack for options. I'm hoping I run into her at the gym (she likely goes to a different one tho) or some random party. Any other avenues you lads can suggest?
There were a bunch of orientation events in the first week, including a pub crawl. I got drunk with the bros while she held back a bit. At the end when only a few of us were left she sat down next to me and initiated a conversation. I was in the middle of a drinking game and half ignored, half drunkenly blabbered to her and she left a few minutes later when I was at the bar getting a refill for the drinking game.
I made a bunch of friends that night, but likely blew my shot in that moment.
She legit turns around 90+ degrees in the middle of a lecture routinely. It almost seems deliberately obvious at some points. I'm also not ugly or socially moronic enough to buy into your demoralization
>I'm also not ugly or socially moronic enough to buy into your demoralization
I'm not trying to demoralize you bro.
I am ugly and socially moronic, so I'm merely projecting my own experience.
Just go and talk to her you absolute sperg, literally hey I'm anon I see you in calls all the time what's your name. If your past that point just go and say hi, talk about how's she's liking the class and what she is going to school for. Make small talk you homosexual, you don't wait for opportunities you make them.
Thanks anon. Just Sprite for me. I haven't drink any alcohol for 3 days and I have been a drinker for years now. over 5 years. I am having bad depressive episodes and my mental health could be a little better. Every emotion is erratic. I will give it 2 weeks and if there are no improvements then I will check in psychiatry institution to heal up there. Besides that, I work every day and make that cash. I chose that job because it prevents me from drinking. I go to the gym nearly on daily basis and learning to play the piano. I can't wait to show you guys what I will record. All in all, shit is well. Perhaps I am just a little lonely too. The girls in gym have skimpy outfits so it does bring me a smile.
>lil sis haves a first bf who is pretty attractive >She wants him to get a job and marry her. >Yes, moronic i know. > Dudes nopes the frick out. > She goes full alpha widow and only looks at guys who are at least an 8. > She doesnt prostitute out and self improves.. but still is superficial AF > few years pass by > finally becomes atractive enough for a chad to gives her attention > She fricking acts as a moron teenager because a chad said 2 words at her. at fricking 27 years old. > chad pumps and dumps. > She says that she learned her lesson and is no longer superficial. > but at the same time says that she will keep chasing chads > "its a risk im willing to take" > she is fricking 28 years old and doesnt have a bf. > Spends hours looking at female advice about dating and doing mild exercise that doesnt change her body. > still thinks she has time because "a lot of women married when they were old"
i tried to red pill her when she had 23 years old and she had plenty of time to get herself a good enough guy.
Im still trying to rp her now that she doesnt have much time at all.
She will end up like a bitter roastie like so many others women who fell for the feminist propaganda.
How can we help our sisters or daughters in modern times, anons?
>How can we help our sisters or daughters in modern times, anons?
Short of converting to Islam and making sure they're born in muslim countries, you can't.
>> Spends hours looking at female advice about dating and doing mild exercise that doesnt change her body.
oh man she sounds pathetic. that god guys especially on fit arent reading hours of dating advice and mild exercise
>tfw paramedic >work schedule annihilates social life >low social standing drives women away like the plague >develop terrible habits to deal with the shit you see >get paid like trash >pretty obvious I'm gonna have to get serious work done on my shoulders and knees before I'm 50
going blue collar was a huge mistake
dude i used to be a paramedic. get out before the job literally kills you. not before hollowing you out into a mere husk of a person, of course. cant have it easy, now
I'm a paramedic too, I started teaching BLS EMT classes on the side and now I'm just slaying all the new EMT girls. We are all gonna make it just keep at it bro.
idk man most emt girls look like bricks in my experience. theres a few cuties in there everyone in a while that are just trying to get their medschool creds though.
dude i used to be a paramedic. get out before the job literally kills you. not before hollowing you out into a mere husk of a person, of course. cant have it easy, now
I'm a paramedic too, I started teaching BLS EMT classes on the side and now I'm just slaying all the new EMT girls. We are all gonna make it just keep at it bro.
Was a paramedic for 10 years, still am one. My highest recommendation to any paramedic or aspiring paramedic is to drop what they're doing and go be a nurse. EMS will beat you into the ground for local government pay. Firefighting is equally fake and gay.
t. Now a RN.
Off work for a couple weeks and absolutely 0 motivation
Just cutting (poorly, bingeing and then way under eating to make up for it), and working out
Not talking to girls, not working on any projects
Just thinking about my ex and feeling tired from the cut
>Just thinking about my ex
do you want to be this guy
https://i.imgur.com/HQAoHGq.jpg
Ex of 7 years reached out the other day (been broken up 6 months) saying she was thinking about me and wanted to say hi.
I begged her to take me back for 3 months before I finally got some self love and left her alone.
Her reaching out pissed me off, because I felt like she was just using me for attention for whatever reason...I don't even want to frick her anymore unless she literally begs me for it.
Ended up telling her that I don't want small talk with her, and I'll only talk if it's something important. She said she understood, and hasn't replied since. I haven't blocked her because I want her to know that I'm consciously choosing to not engage with her. FRICK HER.
Funnily enough, the ex's text came through while I was waiting in a new girl's driveway to take her on a date. I think that made me stronger in my response.
Why are you quoting me what did I do wrong
t. insecure frog poster
Eh I empathize with ya frog poster. I'm not gonna do the "unless she begs for it" or "I want her to know I'm choosing to not talk to her" games. It just doesn't seem healthy for either side
I'm 6 months out too and I get the not turning off feelings like a robot though.
I'm of the mind that if it's easy to move past a relationship you weren't dedicated/shouldn't have been in that relationship in the first place.
In my case I'm not going to go back to her, I'm angry that she ruined our relationship.
But it's annoying, cause if she reached out and said she got help/medication for her anxiety/adhd/depression/whatever she had then we'd be fricking golden
But that won't happen, she's too afraid to get help and even if she did she'd be too afraid to reach out and risk getting hurt for what she wanted, which is why I broke up with her.
So it's tough to date, which I've tried, cause every girl gets compared to the hypothetical of "my ex but mentally stable", but I won't go back to the ex cause she'll never do the work to be stable.
So for now anyway I do nothing, I'm hoping after the cut the extra energy and the extra time passed will get the ball rolling
Wasted the last 15 years of my life being an alcoholic. Really havent amounted to shit just do my job, go home and drink. Quitting drinking to see how this goes, what I was doing definitely wasnt working.
not going to lie lads, im down pretty bad
I dont think its good for a healthy 23 year old to have no sex
not even going to lie, im jumping on the first girl I get the chance with, no matter what
>start taking a married buddy of mine to the gym >he keeps saying "dude, that girl kept looking at you, you should ask her out", "she's cute right? go talk to her"
He's never been to a commercial gym before, just apartment gyms, so I don't think he understands the stigma against trying to ask girls out when they're in the middle of a set.
Guys in relationships like to pretend to be total womanizers by constantly berating you about chicks and telling you what to do. The same guys who never asked anybody out, got any numbers or did any amount of dating before lucking out with a chick suddenly play dating coach whenever you are out. And the same guys will revert to never taking any initiative once their relationship ends.
A friend of mine got into a relationship last year and has gotten into a habit of aggressively trying to play wingman (with his gf) when we're out. Which usually amounts me and my other friend having to awkwardly reject chicks we aren't interested in because they just go up to random chicks and tell them we are super into them but to shy to approach. Or actively sabotaging actual attempts of us to hit on chicks by inserting themselves into the situation.
Best dating advice is given by women or gay guys
Had me until here. I don’t know the frick you are talking about. Best dating advice is from your own experience and learning from frickups. Best women advice is from based Dads
>have ADHD >see and ask psychiatrist for meds >psychiatrist said that they may just make me go from procrastinator to extreme procrastinator >that’s what ended up happening
it’s over. all they’ve helped with is suppressing my appetite and making me less impulsive with bad food so I’ve lost some weight but I am still the same loser
>work is now requiring us to work 50 hours a week from 6-4 >I'm an electrician so at best I'm making $1500 in chump change per week >need to study for km jman's test but have 0 desire to do so >see other jmen and it looks like an even worse hell >was sober for 2 months straight bu relapsed this past weekend >feel absolutely depressed and can't stop thinking dark thoughts >don't even have enough trust in my company to stick to their word, let alone trust anyone to do something correct >only other job experience is like 2 years of IT >nobody is gonna hire my dumb loser ass without a bachelor degree
I don't even want someone to kill me because I'm to numb to everything at this point.
Why do i even try? I was banished from lifting heavy by God. He gave me tiny forearms, everytime i try to put more on even a barbell curl, my wrists feel like broken and hurt so much i Can barely move them for 2 weeks.
I have lost passion for going to the gym. I just don’t want to go anymore. I just want to walk up, eat a small breakfast and take a long walk and get my day started.
How did you get the passion back bros? I used to be so fricking amped to go the gym and get a pump.
I've been in the gym for years. Discipline is to accomplish something. I'm strong. In shape. My lack of passion comes from being like what the frick is the point. I can go once or twice a week and maintain this strength that is more than 85% of the people walking earth.
Why piss away all this time getting this tiny bit of gains. I'm gained the frick out over here. It's not like I'm playing a sport or doing body competitions.
So why not just fricking walk. Spending so much time in the gym has just gone stale on me. That's all, Jocko. .
up for three days with 275 comments and probably 50 of them are mine. It's probably the most relatable and depressing thread I've seen on IST. And it's one of the few that hasn't just devolved into endless crying about girls and sex like the feels threads do.
Yes I realize how pathetic and humiliating and autistic this is. It's part of my problem.
Just said "no" to my gf for sex and shes fricking fuming. We had an entire 2 years of our relationship where she turned me down constantly to the point where I was considering sex therapy and its part of why I got IST in the first place. She started with me but gave up somewhere along the way and shes still super obese while I'm pretty fit now. But yeah the more fit I got the more often she was "in the mood" until it wasnt a problem at all and I realized everything she told me was a lie and she just really wasnt that attracted to me before.
Well shes goes and gets a new tat meaning I cant touch her anywhere near there without causing her severe pain, is on her period, sends me a text on the drive home from the tat saying "i want my back blown out". And then when she gets home she says "let me eat first i need to think about what we have". Sits on her phone for over 30 minutes. Gets up and makes a frozen pizza. Eats it. And then says "im still hungry i need to make something else then we can do it". Then sits on her phone for another 20 minutes before saying "ill just eat again after lets go to the bedroom". And shes mad I said "no" when she made no attempt to be sexy whatsoever and is barely in the condition for sex as is.
Maybe its time to end things soon. She has no idea how much effort I put in just to be sexy to her. The more fit I get the less attracted I am to fat women and I know I can do better than her. I see hotter women than her checking me out all the time now and its exhausting trying and thinking that she'll change with me instead of being the same. The fantasy was that we both got really in shape and went from being frumpy millenials to a hot power couple but I guess that will have to stay a fantasy. At least the idea motivated me to get fit.
Shes covered in tats but i really like it. Ik IST guys talk shit about tats all the time but i think theyre hot. Its one of the things i am still attracted to even though we're at the point where people might think i have a feeder fetish.
if being overweight wasn't bad enough, her getting tats just confirms she doesn't care about her appearance in the way someone should. things will continue to go downhill
we've been together for 5 years and when we started dating I was in a very different place. No better than her at all. No money, fat as frick, lived with butthole parents. I've resolved all those things yet she's still underdeveloped.
i have autism and ADHD. i have PDA (Pathological demand avoidance) which to the outside makes it seem like extreme laziness/procrastination and it kind of is but in a way i can't help, i need to be forced, pressured, or otherwise mentally rewarded (happy chemicals) to do something, for example, if i recognise i need a haircut, i just won't get it until my hair is so long that it really annoys me, pushing me to get it begrudgingly. anyway i started taking ritalin for my ADHD but the problem is that some of the benefits of the medication like giving me discipline/motivation are completely countered by the PDA, and since i have no hobbies/interests/employment i don't even really benefit from the focus that the stimulant provides. the only beneficial change due to the ritalin is the side effect of curbing my appetite which has helped me in losing the excess 11kg i wanted to lose. having two strong parents discipline me and raise me properly could have heavily curbed my issues but i was instead raised by a bad single mother who coddled me and did everything for me even against my own will. i am hoping that getting a job will force fix a lot of my issues but i am 25 and have never had a job so it is going to be a long time. thanks for reading
>Move away from your enabling parents and fix your habits
i am trying to. i have been applying for dozens of jobs in another city and have had a few interviews so far. a lot of my bad habits would immediately get fixed from having a job and a forced structure/routine in my life (sleep schedule, designated meal times, etc.)
>As someone diagnosed with the same shit making good money
What's that, another person on fit who's rich, this time despite being diagnosed with a mental disorder? Say it isn't so. Let me guess, engineer/programmer/doctor/lawyer?
i'm not rich by any means i make 70k a year its just good money. I really don't know what you're getting at autistic people make it in tech fields all the time, i'm assuming you think i'm lying but let me tell you most of the dudes in my career field are either weird as frick or Indian immigrants and also weird as frick.
I am sorry that happened anon. That's gotta be tough. At this kind of time it is more important than ever to reach out to other people to confide in them and help with the healing process. Try to keep busy too, cause idle hands are the devil's workshop. The same goes for the head. You'll get a lot of bad mojo if you don't do things, especially things you enjoy. Try and make it a physical thing, like gardening, painting, whittling, or something else tangible. You'll feel better. Try to celebrate his life. I know I wouldn't want my best friend to feel down when I'm gone.
I know you can get through this anon. Make it for him.
Also, can we have one thread without you fricking crybaby homosexuals whinging about your ex girlfriends? SHE DOESNT WANT YOU. GET THE FRICK OVER IT. I swear to God, every fricking Bar is filled with the same pussy whipped losers crying about how their chick left them. THATS WOMEN. THATS WHAT THEY DO. If you aren't on your shit, expect to be left or cheated on. Even when you are, she's always scoping out the competition and judging whether or not she can make the leap. If a woman leaves you, realize that she was ALWAYS going to leave you just like she's going to leave this guy because there's ALWAYS a richer, more handsome, more popular, more whatever guy. She's going to keep swinging until she looks around one day ready to settle down and nobody wants to wife her.
I agree anon... These homosexuals' lives begin and end with whatever fricking woman they're thinking about. Its fricking lynchian
Literally all that every feel bar thread is, is crying about women. Every thread, every day, hundreds and hundreds of comments that are all basically the same shit.
I think it's because from what it seems like, everyone on fit is extremely successful in every aspect of their lives, the only problem anyone ever has is women. Everyone has a top career, top salary, very wealthy, own house, own cars, dozens of hobbies, lots of friends, extremely fit, endless sources of happiness, so the only thing they have to cry about is some relationship issue they are going through.
>ex gf >3 years >still miss her
thats almost every comment for the first 25 or so at least. plus this mfers are probably like 20 which makes the girly histrionics even funnier.
I think I'm ready to troon out. I've always felt like the meme "woman trapped inside of a man's body" and repressing those feelings for the sake of other people isn't really working out for me. I care so little about what other people think now, and that was really all that was holding me back. Worst case scenario, I detrans, or kms if it doesn't work out, which I was probably going to end up doing anyway.
La Croix please. >gf of 5 years >pretty bored of her, we both sit around most days (shes barely working) >I work as software dev but at least lift during days >go to smoke shop to pick up my shitty nicotine kick >smoke shop girl there is the sweetest >go in all the time to see her and buy smokes >think about her too much
yeah yeah before all the christcucks get upset, i havent done anything but im bored as shit in my relationship and goth girls get my dick hard. my current gf doesnt really have any interests similar to me, we have similar values but even our future is weird (i wanna travel, she wants to do something with her work) so idk. i havent even been that sexually attracted to her anymore, she puts out but im just not even interested. ik ik, im a piece of shit yadda yadda.
sam altman is a fricking Black person. hes a israelite and information on his father is impossible to find. im assuming this is an effort to make him seem like he didnt come up rich and handed his current position
I might have to give up ISTness journey for a few years till I finish college.
I have a particularly hard major plus some extra stuff I'm teaching myself, and I've got basically 0 time for workout anymore. My daily life is physically demanding and I lack sleep most of the time. So, waking up in the morning, my body feels beat up and fatigued. I'm not even exagerrating my lack of sleep, aside from the constant fatigue lately I'm frequently feeling confused, can't walk straight, thown off balance.
I have no choice but to give up working out. I hate it. When I had nothing going on in my life and was an obese guy, fitness gave me meaning and a way to get my life together. Unfortunately, priorities change, and now I need to focus more on my mental gains while my physical gains take a backseat for a while.
Wanted to post it here because IST has been my home since high school, now I spend more time on IST and IST.
Good luck and godspeed bros. YAGMI and hopefully I might too.
TripsDubs checked, breddy noice.
Anon, I understand, been in the same position. Even thinking of investing 1h, 3 times a week to lift, at home, mind you. Felt like wasting a lot of time and I abandoned being healthy. It was also difficult to maintain uni, job and being healthy(exercise+eating) and I gained 24kg, que my dad's death and I added 9kg, a jump from a BMI of 25 something(like really fricking close to being in a healthy range) to 35. But I've been losing weight for the past 2 months and I'm almost under 33. Slow but sure.
What I want you to take from this is to try to remain in shape and now go down the path of convenient fast foods. I'm sure you can squeeze 1 or 2 sets of pushup in 5 min, maybe crunches or situps also. And whenever you feel overwhelmed try to take a 15-30 min(if not more) walk to destress. I can't express how beneficial this was in finding solutions to solve my tasks or just calm down at the sheer overwhelmness.
And one last thing, it's never YAGMI, but WAGMI, you included.
Take care fren!
I've been doing half my workouts just to maintain my current gains but lately have been skipping even those. Now, I think I'll focus mostly on my diet just so even if I do lose my gains, I'll atleast not balloon up.
I'm burned out. I spent the last four months in 90° weather and now I'm back in a more mild climate, I miss the solar power fueling my transformation. Might start doing yoga naked in my backyard, idk. Also an old girlfriend got fat and it was depressing to see.
Why am I hungry all day every day, I'm so fricking tired of eating. I have followed every piece of advice out there over the past 5 years, including dry fasting, yet I am still plagued by feelings of hunger and increasing irritability until I eat again at any given point throughout the day.
I decided to conduct an experiment where I stop messaging people first and see who contacts me. >Day 5 of no contact haha.
People seem happy to respond but no one likes me enough to contact first.
If I died tomorrow I think the only person who would notice would be my mom. And I don't express my love for her enough feelsbadman
How do you guys cope with loneliness/being sexless when its summer and girls are wearing sexy clothes and your sister is wearing see-through panties while sunbathing
Office crush made me jizz my pants again. I’m starting to think she did it on purpose to see if she could. No woman drops a pen in the elevator that obviously. I hate nofap so fricking much. Had to change into khaki shorts for the rest of the day which ruined my sales presentation
Man no matter what i do my teeth and gums are all fricked up
Changed diet and all
Am cutting too as skinnyfat
Cut out so much sugar besides natural fructose
Frick my ass
Do you floss? I used to have the same issue, started flossing daily and completely reversed aches and appearance within a month. Since getting them back to good health I probably floss once or twice a week and the dentist never has any complaints.
Yes
Im getting a waterfloss thing honestly
Im fed up with having gum problems
need to use actual floss and look up the c shape method for flossing. waterpiks don't do shit
waterpik is a godsend also you probably have periodontitis if you havent been to a dental hygenist to do root planning yet or dont get regular professional cleanings.
It will get worse and you cant fix it on your own if thats what the culprit is
you realize fructose is just as bad for your teeth as glucose right?
While I haven't graduated (so this isn't official medical advice), I am two years into getting my doctorate of dental medicine and aspire to be a periodontist. Could you maybe describe what's going on a little more? All fricked up isn't a lot to go on.
There are a few things that might be going on that I would investigate IF I WAS YOU
> Are you regularly brushing, flossing, using mouthwash?
This is the most important. Your home care is the most vital part of treatment.
> Are you brushing too hard?
> Are you using a stiff, abrasive toothbrush?
If you suspect this, try brushing with just two fingers holding the brush. You should be using a toothbrush that says soft on its package.
> Are your gums swollen, painful, bleeding, or pustulent? Is your gumline receding?
You may be experiencing gingivitis or its more chronic and severe form periodontist.
While gingivitis can be resolved in as little as 10-20 days with good home care, periodontitis will not resolve on its own.
You may need scaling + root planing or other forms of periodontal therapy.
ABOVE ALL
You should seek help from an oral healthcare professional. The faster you act the better your outcome may be. Waiting can lead to boneless, recession, mobility/loss of teeth, and even systemic health issues. I am sorry you are dealing with this. If this wasn't IST and you were local I'd give you my card to come into clinic.
I don't want to go to the gym any more.
I want to have friends to go out with, a social life to look forward to, and people I genuinely enjoy spending time with.
I only work out to distract myself from how shit my life is outside of work.
anyone else got some sort of adhd, probaly mild autism and who knows what?
>gets social anxious / stuck in their head when not outside for a couple of days
>generally feels like you dont belong, sorta
that sort of thing? lifting helps, but only a couple days after that my brain keeps doing this bullshit
100% plus overanalyze every social interaction.
Im so happy at my new gym bros, it's so much better than my old gym. Really feels great, I can do whatever I want at this gym, I was limited at my old one.
nice bro.
I'm considering upgrading my planet fitness membership so I can go to the others in the area and spread the mires.
Although w summer time, there have been a few new thots showing up to my usual spot.
Do you have nice girls there? I thought only fatties go to PF.
I usually work out at like 1am so I'm always surrounded by other depressed autists and no women.
>I thought only fatties go to PF.
NTA but depends on the area. Where I live (rich, northern) there’s not a lot obesity so you’ll only see a 1-2 fat housewives and like 80% slim dyels.
i miss my ex from 3 years ago. we've only been together for a year and a half. i've had another gf since, for over 2 years. but i still thought of that former ex every single day. i know that we won't ever get back together, and i know that she's going to get engaged any second now. i just need to find a way to let it go bros. 3 fricking years and it still hurts.
you don't m8 you miss the feeling of having a gf
i've been with girls for those 3 years, and like i said i've had another gf for an even longer period during that time. so it's not really the case. i think something is fricked with my head, because i literally thought about this girl every single day for the last 3 years, and i'm sure she hasn't given me much thought at all.
i know anon, i thought about an ex over 10 years in that time i had 2 other girls but what ultimately got her out of my mind was seeing her getting married. you need a wake up call that that girl is gone, finito
>i've had another gf since, for over 2 years.
i should say that the more recent ex was better than the ex i miss, in almost every single parameter. but i never stopped loving the old ex. shit's fricked.
Frick I hope I don't end up like this.
It's been only two months and I miss her like a motherfricker but i just hope that the pain will go away in another 2-3 months
I have to keep myself busy all day with work, gym to not feel depressed.
>the pain will go away in another 2-3 months
sweet summer child
I feel bad for your other gf to be honest. Imagine being with someone and they're still in love with their ex? oof
bros, what the navy like?
I was thinking of joining but I don't know if I'll get filtered by Basic
Would also love to know this. They're paying me through dental school and I am getting activated as an O3 in two years. Anyone have advice from the officer's side? I'm excited but really not sure what to expect. Going to be a huge change in my life. I've barely left my region of the US because I've been doing school nonstop. Owe them 4 years active duty as a dentist. Anon, I do know that we have some of the best base locations compared to the other branches which is a plus. Deployment looks like it could be a really cool experience or a fricking awful one.
This is the best feeling, anon. Make sure you are keeping up with exercising and stretching your rotator cuffs.
I am sorry. Things will get better. What is wrong? I will listen if you need to talk about it.
Don't ever go back anon. Left a good thing I had going a few years ago to give another ex (situationship) a chance and it was the worst decision of my life. Got fricking dragged through the mud for it. I'm a fricking moron. Been single for 6 years now.
I still struggle with it. Learn to love the process. Understand our bodies are always growing and changing and aesthetics wont always be our strong point at all times. You are a work in progress always, but you can be an awesome work in progress.
> The perfect is the enemy of the good.
Dont enlist. The Navy treats the enlisted like utter shit. Black mold in your barracks, no hot water, group punishments because SN frickface decided to do something stupid, only do it if there's nothing else going on in your life
You'll be fine, just dont be a dick to those below you
Got toe nail fungus
Kill me
Pics of feet
Do you really want that
I'm fat
No job
No friends
Arrogant
Egotistical
Think about a married woman every night
>want to become veterinarian
>want cow friends
>poor and moronic because looser
>freedom to lift impinged upon early this year
>both shoulders
>keep lifting just doing what hurts the least and adding extra exercises to fix it
>avoid dips the whole year because those hurt the most
>decide to try them again last week
>go real slow and pause at the bottom
>no pain
>check myself in the mirror
>I'm way deeper than I've ever gone on dips
>my feet touch the floor with bent legs
Looks like I fixed my shoulder mobility. Feels good.
I think about killing myself every day
Do you have milk from woman breast?
Ex of 7 years reached out the other day (been broken up 6 months) saying she was thinking about me and wanted to say hi.
I begged her to take me back for 3 months before I finally got some self love and left her alone.
Her reaching out pissed me off, because I felt like she was just using me for attention for whatever reason...I don't even want to frick her anymore unless she literally begs me for it.
Ended up telling her that I don't want small talk with her, and I'll only talk if it's something important. She said she understood, and hasn't replied since. I haven't blocked her because I want her to know that I'm consciously choosing to not engage with her. FRICK HER.
Funnily enough, the ex's text came through while I was waiting in a new girl's driveway to take her on a date. I think that made me stronger in my response.
>I begged her to take me back for 3 months before I finally got some self love and left her alone.
I was about to call you a huge homosexual anon, good
Thanks man, it's been a long process for me
No u
Of course I'm not over her. We dated for seven fricking years and it's been six months, do you expect me to be a fricking robot? I literally didn't want to small talk with her though. She was asking me about new music I'm listening to and shit like that. Do you just give every woman all the attention that they want? I guess I could have just left her on read but that seems non-confrontational to me.
I guess I just misunderstood your aim. If you wanted to look like you still weren’t over her (this giving her that confidence boost and inflated sense of self worth) then I suppose I should have been saying congratulations, because you achieved your goal.
Leaving her on read or just being as non-committal as possible would’ve had the opposite effect. So good thing you didn’t do that.
Yeah I wanted to clearly draw a boundary about the way I wanted to be communicated with. Ignoring her would have been the best way to say that for sure.
>do you expect me to be a fricking robot?
I'd expect you to be such a weak willed little b***h lmao
>I haven't blocked her because I want her to know that I'm consciously choosing to not engage
you WILL drunk text her and you WILL regret it after
crazy-ex-from-years-ago sex is the absolute fricking best
it its true but fricks with your brain man
I still keep in touch with my ex and we have passionate sex whenever she's around, like very couple of months. it feels so amazing
on a completely unrelated note, I also can't seem to get over my depression and self-doubt and I struggle with meeting new people. I wonder what could be causing that
>on a completely unrelated note
kek yeah right buddy
My guy, you’ve got it all wrong; she got exactly what she wanted: You proved to her that you’re not over her in the slightest by more or less telling her you were still unable to even engage in small talk with her..
This seems like female-brained cope. Explicitly telling someone you don't want to talk to them is way more straightforward than small talk with an ex for no reason.
>Ended up telling her that I don't want small talk with her, and I'll only talk if it's something important. She said she understood, and hasn't replied since. I haven't blocked her because I want her to know that I'm consciously choosing to not engage with her. FRICK HER.
ngmi
how though
Just block her dude.
I feel joy when lifting. Everything else is just an irritating haze until I can sleep.
These past two weeks every time I run I’ve felt slow and incapable of going any real distance. My numbers are actually okay and normal it just feels shitty, like I’m not getting the usual high.
I am 25 and have never had a conversation with a female for more than 5 minutes. I read a story about a guy born in a monastery and lived his whole life there as a monk and he had never seen a woman his entire life l. I feel like I’m pretty close to that in some way.
>oneitis ex gf hits me up after 8months of being broken up last week
>we have good talks and we talk again 2 days later all is going well
>i dont hit her up so i can give her some space to process everything cause the breakup was quite bad
>try call her last night
>im blocked
its fricking brutal and i texted her on a different number just saying “ill leave you alone but why you block me for? im just confused” which is whatever yeah its not an attractive thing to do but im just genuinely confused and upset cause we were having such good convos with chemistry
ngl all the angry feelings of the breakup has come back because of this and i walk around looking like i want to murder someone
let that be a lesson
dont fall in love again?
whats the lesson
dont engage with exes
but that label means nothing to me because she was the only ex that i actually really loved
i was hoping and praying she would eventually hit me up and when she did i got too excited i guess
its fricking brutal i can only wait to see if she’ll reply to the message i sent her from the other number but chances are itll get blocked too
>but that label means nothing to me because she was the only ex that i actually really loved
oh boy i heard myself say that so many times
>stop being a homosexual
>don't put all your eggs in one basket
>don't make your happiness dependent on factors you can't control
>don't talk to your exes for any reason whatsoever
I can see quite some lessons that you could've learned, I suggest you do a bit more self reflection
the lesson is have some self respect. the only thing she wants from you is occasional grovelling attention, which you gave her.
She doesn’t love you, she’s not “the one”, and you’ll be best served by no longer focusing on her.
>im blocked
that's because she was going weak, and was gonna try to get back to you
the block was for herself, not for you
>lose 10kg in 9 months
>be happy about current physique for a couple weeks
>start feeling small and consider bulking up again
How do I get over my body dysmorphia?
>How do I get over my body dysmorphia?
set goals for the weights you're lifting, rather than your size
broke my ankle and have been doing nothing for a month, overall gains are down but my bad ankle leg is literally turning into a noodle.
I don't have much going on for me at this time in my life so i lift, run and often go for walks but i can't do that anymore so i'm not doing too well, i let negativity take hold of me too easily.
and seeing my body deteriorate just adds so much salt to the wound
That sucks so fricking much. Not only being not able to do what you love, but seeing your progress whither before your eyes. Just remember that making your gains back is 10 times easier than getting them the first time.
I twisted my ankle really badly recently as well. Luckily nothing broken, just some stretched or slightly torn ligaments and I hope I can get back to working legs at the gym in 2-3 weeks and running + kickboxing in 4 weeks. Overdid upper body workouts and fricked my shoulder mildly as well now lol. And my biggest non IST hobby, playing piano, involves press the pedal with my right foot which isn't really possible right now either.
Missed out on a load of mirafit gear for dirt cheap last week and still haven't stopped kicking myself about it.
Answer my post. (Not this one) or your mom will frick your bully and die tonight.
How do I get over the halo effect? Girls giving me attention, even touching me feels weird. Almost like they're fricking with me, and laughing behind my back.
ADD
>Losing weight I carried for years because no gf
>More active, healthier, generally not happy but not depressed af anymore
>Side effect is Penis is visibly bigger both flaccid and erect
Unsure what to feel. Happy because my insecurities are fading. Sad that I'm still too moronic to socially engage in basic life activities.
I feel like life is passing me by and as though I’m watching the worlds most boring movie. My days are spent fielding for cheap dopamine and instant gratification. Often I’ll try to make changes and fix things just to fail within a month and then get right back to comfortable stagnation. Except it’s not truly comfortable, it’s harrowing. My drug of choice is distraction. And the crash is a brutal one felt in the soul.
I have a rough idea of who is like to be, but then I wonder if I get there, then what? What’s the point? I get jacked and ripped and make some money, maybe meet a girl or just get hurt and used again anyways so I resort to using my new status to just frick multiple b***hes, maybe I have some hobbies(distractions).. not much has truly changed. What’s the point?
That's just what life is, buddy. There is nothing else.
Vodka, Fever Tree tonic water, water, ice, lime; the alchemist will mix his own.
Pepe of Kek is my name
Using memes to fuel my gains
Every time I’m on a cut I feel like Nietzsche’s übermensch, but it gets easier every time. I can see how it’s said those who have achieved enlightenment can be sustained by the mere whiff of good offered food.
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Turning 30 in two months and I just wanna kms. I can't imagine living another 40 years like this. How do people do it? The monotony, the boredom...
>How do people do it?
family building
They love life because its mysterious, even though theres so much waste and suffering
Come, let's away to prison.
We two alone will sing like birds i' th' cage.
When thou dost ask me blessing, I'll kneel down
And ask of thee forgiveness. So we'll live,
And pray, and sing, and tell old tales, and laugh
At gilded butterflies, and hear poor rogues
Talk of court news; and we'll talk with them too-
Who loses and who wins; who's in, who's out-
And take upon 's the mystery of things,
As if we were God's spies; and we'll wear out,
In a wall'd prison, packs and sects of great ones
That ebb and flow by th' moon.
>monotony
>boredom
These are things you can fix. I don’t feel this way about my life. Do you have goals? I have things I’m aiming at and looking forward to. I want to buy a motorcycle and do touring at some point, maybe even retire early, work hard enough to achieve these things. I’m generally working my ass off right now and it is not fun, but far from boring. Surely you could up with some items to write down that might get you excited for what’s to come, right?
>retire early
For what? To live in even greater monotony and boredom?
you dont understand, retiring early solves literally all your problems. when you retire early, you'll totally spend the rest of your life being so fulfilled and excited the whole time
i cant get a job since 3 years ago. not even trolling, at 32 and trying to get a wagie job is hard as shit in my third world country. Tried for gym coach and nothing, tried construction and nothing. Last time the interviewer told me they looking for young people after seeing my age in the CV. Im gonna start selling chocolates and cookies on the metro, i would look funny being big and selling that shit but better than nothing.
>i cant get a job since 3 years ago. not even trolling, at 32 and trying to get a wagie job is hard as shit in my third world country.
It's harder nowadays. Just keep trying but don't try not to sell yourself short. Keeping some form of dignity is healthy at least imo. What country are in from?
I’m in a similar situation except I’m in the US. I have no clue why I’m having so much trouble grabbing even a retail min wage job. I have 7 years of retail/customer service experience for fricks sake. It’s never been this difficult. Even urgently hiring places with massive turnover rates won’t hire me.
I had an overnight security gig put me through the entire interview process except the last step which was a final face to face interview and they ghosted me, the guy no showed. Then they texted me asking me to rate how that last interview went, ghosted me again when I asked wtf they were playing at or if they didn’t wanna proceed with me. I inquired if it was cancelled or what multiple times and nothing. That’s the closest I’ve gotten since last October.
I’m pretty frustrated.
I’m trying so hard to fix my life and it seems now that I’m finally trying, nothings happening. It’s insanely frustrating that I’m not even able to get a min wage sub livable pay job in retail as if it’s some highly exclusive opportunity when I seriously don’t even want to take a wagecuck retail position in the first place. I hate it but I’m ignoring my discomfort since it’s better than no job NEET. But to no effect. They’re saying they don’t even want me, some over qualified, to be a slave, essentially.
The US, nta but same
That's rough man. Sorry your going through this but know that others are facing the same issue, especially in the States. The good times seem to have come to an end. However, like I said don't sell yourself short and try to maintain some form of self-respect. Also if you can please try to get a career going instead of casing middling-employment.
>respect. Also if you can please try to get a career going instead of casing middling-employment.
That’s part of why this is so incredibly frustrating to me. This is the first step in me getting a career going.
I want to start building an online business or a few, have some decent ideas I think I make work and do well. And I also want to go back to school for another two years. I can’t do either of those without having some income and also a structured routine for a while. Like if I went back to school now, I’d flunk out immediately because I’ve had no routine and need to rebuild that discipline. Then I’d also need money for the online businesses. $1500 is all I need as an initial investment.
Literally just depends on me landing one of these jobs.
Oh ok you have a plan. Seems like a good plan as well. Again, it's like this for a lot of people. Keep on trying. Best of luck though.
Thanks man. It’s difficult to stay motivated and not be discouraged, but helps knowing it’s not just me.
I'm 27 and I have a similar fear, because of my NEET years I have some gaps in my CV.
I'm studying for an IT degree which I hope will give me a chance for a good job, but I fear the gaps in my CV it will be very hard. I keep hearing that there's a shortage of IT guys in my country so I hope that I get at least an internship in the near future.
>he fell for the IT meme
>With AI being primed to replace most IT jobs
I really don't mean to be a cynical, blackpilled butthole, but wtf dude?
If nothing works out I'll get the truck license and do Eurotruck simulator in real life
Yes. I'm eastern european. All eastern europeans plan B is trucking
lol if you think ai is ready to replace anything you are actually fricking moronic and dont know shit about computers or business.
>With AI being primed to replace most IT jobs
are you out of touch with what has been going on?
go look up what github copilot does
IT jobs are having the time of their lives with AI
I use to feel really regretful for my years spent in highschool and college, because during that time I missed out on a lot socially since I struggled with shyness. I felt like I wasted time and missed opportunities I'll never get back.
But I started thinking this belief is only there because I was operating under the assumption that highschool/college should be the apex of one's life. The "these are the best years of your life man!!!" boomer advice that we hear so much. When in reality, it shouldn't be. You should, and must go further. You can still meet interesting people and have interesting experiences post highschool/college.
People saying life ends at 25, or 30, or whatever, are just there to demoralize you because they themselves have become stuck in complacency. We're all going to make it.
Good take.
If you're 25 or a bit older it's not too late. Just have to come up with a plan and give it real effort. One can achieve so much in 1 year.
You can set yourself up for your early 30's by getting jacked, getting a good paying job and putting some effort into your appearance. A lot of early twenties b***hes go for +27 year old dudes.
This lad, boomers peak at highschool and their entire lives are spent dealing with the mistakes they made from these years, all the hedonism and ecstasy they look back on favorably before their choices force them into a banal life.
>I felt like I wasted time and missed opportunities I'll never get back.
I'll tell you something
I was popular back in HS, well liked, got really friendly with the girls and the guys
the friendships are great, but I never found a girl worth a damn in HS
so it's not all "omg missed it all", sometimes it's just not fricking there, it was never there
so yea, be assured that the "life ends at 30" is total fricking bullshit
sometimes shit just starts later
I guess you can say that friendships are always worth it, but missing out on them is not the end of the world as longas you get friends along the way
looking at it another way, imagine stagnating for like, 70 years. cope to end all copes for boomers to call this normal. so yes i agree with you.
No one "peaks in high school" you absolute fricking morons. You act like they mean they do well in high school then just never do anything the rest of their lives. When in reality, these people usually end up completely normal. They get a normal job, get married, have a house, kids, do everything normally. Keep coping.
Broke up with my gf of 3 years.
I feel like I'll never get another woman like her.... It's been two months and I miss her a lot.
I went on a date with a girl today thinking if I talk to another woman maybe I'll feel better but I don't.
any words of wisdome from experienced bro's?
Talk to more women.
keep at it
don't go back
>any words of wisdome from experienced bro's?
it took me 4 years to get over my ex to the point of not caring about seeing her or thinking about her
i have disproportionaly short legs, and i hate that no matter what i do, what i eat, how much i exercise, i'd look like a frickign crash bandicoot
crash bandicoot is cool
I'm good I guess. The girl I'm in love with misses her ex and is trying to get back to him, but hes ignoring her really hard and she's is not taking it very well. Sucks that she's suffering for this guy and I can't do nothing for her since she doesn't let me.
Why does this thread exist? Hopefully for containment purposes. I've seen it pop up on IST and thank God it didn't last long.
WHAT DO YOU MEAN RELATIONSHIP ANF MENTAL HRALTH THREADS ARE THE PINNACLE OF FITNESS THAT TFW WHEN I HAVE NO GIRL GF (MALE WITH BOY PUSSY MADE OF butthole)
Did it look similar? 95-98% People whining about women?
social problems are the only ones without a clear path
you don't see anyone complaining about their plumbing because everyone knows how to fricking fix it
I'm ugly and actually autistic, it is what it is. However, at the same time, I'm reminded of Sisyphus. If this is my boulder, frick it, I'll push it. If for no other reason than to spite God, the demiurge, the universe, mother nature, what have you.
Whoever's responsible for this shit can suck on my salty, sweaty nuts.
>god says exist
>don't want to
>do it anyway
>lmao god absolutely jacked the frick off because my balls are sweating
>god says exist
He does, the why of it is the mystery.
Does He actually love us, or does He want us to suffer? Either way I'm not gonna let His moronic design of genetics break me.
I'm so used to doing things by myself like go to the movies, museums, etc because I'm friendless. I'm traveling next year out of the country for the first time and I'm excited but I hate how I'm most likely gonna have to do it solo. Not going to give up though... I'll try one of those moronic meetup groups and see what happens
>start new degree last november
>program includes a turbo qt who also look like she lifts
>immediately sense some attraction during orientation, BUT the two times
we had the chance to interact she sperged out once and I made a drunk ass of myself other time
>we both end up in completely distinct social groups after orientation week
>see her almost every day at lectures, but never interact because we just sit/talk with our respective friend group
>constantly catch her throwing me looks or sometimes outright staring until I notice
>once she completely sperged out again while asking me for some minute shit in a lecture
>saw her around town recently and she threw me a big smile
I'm 99% sure she is interested, but have 0 natural opportunities of talking to her. I feel like I missed my opportunity and she's the kind of chick who wouldn't lack for options. I'm hoping I run into her at the gym (she likely goes to a different one tho) or some random party. Any other avenues you lads can suggest?
Anon, why were you drunk during class? Was it just for the initial orientation day nerves?
There were a bunch of orientation events in the first week, including a pub crawl. I got drunk with the bros while she held back a bit. At the end when only a few of us were left she sat down next to me and initiated a conversation. I was in the middle of a drinking game and half ignored, half drunkenly blabbered to her and she left a few minutes later when I was at the bar getting a refill for the drinking game.
I made a bunch of friends that night, but likely blew my shot in that moment.
>Anon, why were you drunk during class?
nta, but why not?
catch her throwing me looks or sometimes outright staring until I notice
This isn't necessarily a sign of attraction.
She might be disgusted by you.
She legit turns around 90+ degrees in the middle of a lecture routinely. It almost seems deliberately obvious at some points. I'm also not ugly or socially moronic enough to buy into your demoralization
>I'm also not ugly or socially moronic enough to buy into your demoralization
I'm not trying to demoralize you bro.
I am ugly and socially moronic, so I'm merely projecting my own experience.
what the frick, just talk to her
anything will do
Just go and talk to her you absolute sperg, literally hey I'm anon I see you in calls all the time what's your name. If your past that point just go and say hi, talk about how's she's liking the class and what she is going to school for. Make small talk you homosexual, you don't wait for opportunities you make them.
Thanks anon. Just Sprite for me. I haven't drink any alcohol for 3 days and I have been a drinker for years now. over 5 years. I am having bad depressive episodes and my mental health could be a little better. Every emotion is erratic. I will give it 2 weeks and if there are no improvements then I will check in psychiatry institution to heal up there. Besides that, I work every day and make that cash. I chose that job because it prevents me from drinking. I go to the gym nearly on daily basis and learning to play the piano. I can't wait to show you guys what I will record. All in all, shit is well. Perhaps I am just a little lonely too. The girls in gym have skimpy outfits so it does bring me a smile.
>water as always
How can we help the women we actually care?
>lil sis haves a first bf who is pretty attractive
>She wants him to get a job and marry her. >Yes, moronic i know.
> Dudes nopes the frick out.
> She goes full alpha widow and only looks at guys who are at least an 8.
> She doesnt prostitute out and self improves.. but still is superficial AF
> few years pass by
> finally becomes atractive enough for a chad to gives her attention
> She fricking acts as a moron teenager because a chad said 2 words at her. at fricking 27 years old.
> chad pumps and dumps.
> She says that she learned her lesson and is no longer superficial.
> but at the same time says that she will keep chasing chads
> "its a risk im willing to take"
> she is fricking 28 years old and doesnt have a bf.
> Spends hours looking at female advice about dating and doing mild exercise that doesnt change her body.
> still thinks she has time because "a lot of women married when they were old"
i tried to red pill her when she had 23 years old and she had plenty of time to get herself a good enough guy.
Im still trying to rp her now that she doesnt have much time at all.
She will end up like a bitter roastie like so many others women who fell for the feminist propaganda.
How can we help our sisters or daughters in modern times, anons?
>How can we help our sisters or daughters in modern times, anons?
Short of converting to Islam and making sure they're born in muslim countries, you can't.
sex with sister
>> Spends hours looking at female advice about dating and doing mild exercise that doesnt change her body.
oh man she sounds pathetic. that god guys especially on fit arent reading hours of dating advice and mild exercise
I'm a blue collar cuck who is destroying his body every single day. I work hard and only make 50k a year and I'm not coping well.
Whiskey please....
Have you considered getting an IQ over 80 and working from home 😉
looks like the adult male version of Amelia's old e-girl avatar
>insulting others IQ
>posting gay anime shit
glas house my fren
>tfw paramedic
>work schedule annihilates social life
>low social standing drives women away like the plague
>develop terrible habits to deal with the shit you see
>get paid like trash
>pretty obvious I'm gonna have to get serious work done on my shoulders and knees before I'm 50
going blue collar was a huge mistake
dude i used to be a paramedic. get out before the job literally kills you. not before hollowing you out into a mere husk of a person, of course. cant have it easy, now
I'm a paramedic too, I started teaching BLS EMT classes on the side and now I'm just slaying all the new EMT girls. We are all gonna make it just keep at it bro.
idk man most emt girls look like bricks in my experience. theres a few cuties in there everyone in a while that are just trying to get their medschool creds though.
Was a paramedic for 10 years, still am one. My highest recommendation to any paramedic or aspiring paramedic is to drop what they're doing and go be a nurse. EMS will beat you into the ground for local government pay. Firefighting is equally fake and gay.
t. Now a RN.
Off work for a couple weeks and absolutely 0 motivation
Just cutting (poorly, bingeing and then way under eating to make up for it), and working out
Not talking to girls, not working on any projects
Just thinking about my ex and feeling tired from the cut
I'm gonna go wash my car
>Just thinking about my ex
do you want to be this guy
Why are you quoting me what did I do wrong
t. insecure frog poster
Eh I empathize with ya frog poster. I'm not gonna do the "unless she begs for it" or "I want her to know I'm choosing to not talk to her" games. It just doesn't seem healthy for either side
I'm 6 months out too and I get the not turning off feelings like a robot though.
I'm of the mind that if it's easy to move past a relationship you weren't dedicated/shouldn't have been in that relationship in the first place.
In my case I'm not going to go back to her, I'm angry that she ruined our relationship.
But it's annoying, cause if she reached out and said she got help/medication for her anxiety/adhd/depression/whatever she had then we'd be fricking golden
But that won't happen, she's too afraid to get help and even if she did she'd be too afraid to reach out and risk getting hurt for what she wanted, which is why I broke up with her.
So it's tough to date, which I've tried, cause every girl gets compared to the hypothetical of "my ex but mentally stable", but I won't go back to the ex cause she'll never do the work to be stable.
So for now anyway I do nothing, I'm hoping after the cut the extra energy and the extra time passed will get the ball rolling
Wasted the last 15 years of my life being an alcoholic. Really havent amounted to shit just do my job, go home and drink. Quitting drinking to see how this goes, what I was doing definitely wasnt working.
not going to lie lads, im down pretty bad
I dont think its good for a healthy 23 year old to have no sex
not even going to lie, im jumping on the first girl I get the chance with, no matter what
It's not great, but it will get better if you don't give up
>25
>no friends
>never had a job
>never even kissed a girl
but I lost 4kg over the last month so that’s nice
Same
Thinking on dropping uni too.
>start taking a married buddy of mine to the gym
>he keeps saying "dude, that girl kept looking at you, you should ask her out", "she's cute right? go talk to her"
He's never been to a commercial gym before, just apartment gyms, so I don't think he understands the stigma against trying to ask girls out when they're in the middle of a set.
Or maybe I'm just a pussy. I don't know.
Guys in relationships like to pretend to be total womanizers by constantly berating you about chicks and telling you what to do. The same guys who never asked anybody out, got any numbers or did any amount of dating before lucking out with a chick suddenly play dating coach whenever you are out. And the same guys will revert to never taking any initiative once their relationship ends.
A friend of mine got into a relationship last year and has gotten into a habit of aggressively trying to play wingman (with his gf) when we're out. Which usually amounts me and my other friend having to awkwardly reject chicks we aren't interested in because they just go up to random chicks and tell them we are super into them but to shy to approach. Or actively sabotaging actual attempts of us to hit on chicks by inserting themselves into the situation.
Best dating advice is given by women or gay guys
>Best dating advice is given by women or gay guys
Had me until here. I don’t know the frick you are talking about. Best dating advice is from your own experience and learning from frickups. Best women advice is from based Dads
Doesn't feel good
>have ADHD
>see and ask psychiatrist for meds
>psychiatrist said that they may just make me go from procrastinator to extreme procrastinator
>that’s what ended up happening
it’s over. all they’ve helped with is suppressing my appetite and making me less impulsive with bad food so I’ve lost some weight but I am still the same loser
>work is now requiring us to work 50 hours a week from 6-4
>I'm an electrician so at best I'm making $1500 in chump change per week
>need to study for km jman's test but have 0 desire to do so
>see other jmen and it looks like an even worse hell
>was sober for 2 months straight bu relapsed this past weekend
>feel absolutely depressed and can't stop thinking dark thoughts
>don't even have enough trust in my company to stick to their word, let alone trust anyone to do something correct
>only other job experience is like 2 years of IT
>nobody is gonna hire my dumb loser ass without a bachelor degree
I don't even want someone to kill me because I'm to numb to everything at this point.
Why do i even try? I was banished from lifting heavy by God. He gave me tiny forearms, everytime i try to put more on even a barbell curl, my wrists feel like broken and hurt so much i Can barely move them for 2 weeks.
Do you use an ez bar? Uses straight bar. It helped me.
I broke up with my girlfriend because we couldn't make our LDR work.
Life sucks. I still love her.
Miss my ex and am just going through the motions with other girls trying to feel something.
Bunch of us here today
No advice, but yeah it sucks
I have lost passion for going to the gym. I just don’t want to go anymore. I just want to walk up, eat a small breakfast and take a long walk and get my day started.
How did you get the passion back bros? I used to be so fricking amped to go the gym and get a pump.
Frick passion, it's about discipline. Get back in the gym and learn some discipline.
>discipline
I've been in the gym for years. Discipline is to accomplish something. I'm strong. In shape. My lack of passion comes from being like what the frick is the point. I can go once or twice a week and maintain this strength that is more than 85% of the people walking earth.
Why piss away all this time getting this tiny bit of gains. I'm gained the frick out over here. It's not like I'm playing a sport or doing body competitions.
So why not just fricking walk. Spending so much time in the gym has just gone stale on me. That's all, Jocko. .
i am autistic and was raised by a single mother. i honestly would have been better off if i was born without legs and with two good parents
There has been a loneliness thread over here
up for three days with 275 comments and probably 50 of them are mine. It's probably the most relatable and depressing thread I've seen on IST. And it's one of the few that hasn't just devolved into endless crying about girls and sex like the feels threads do.
Yes I realize how pathetic and humiliating and autistic this is. It's part of my problem.
Just said "no" to my gf for sex and shes fricking fuming. We had an entire 2 years of our relationship where she turned me down constantly to the point where I was considering sex therapy and its part of why I got IST in the first place. She started with me but gave up somewhere along the way and shes still super obese while I'm pretty fit now. But yeah the more fit I got the more often she was "in the mood" until it wasnt a problem at all and I realized everything she told me was a lie and she just really wasnt that attracted to me before.
Well shes goes and gets a new tat meaning I cant touch her anywhere near there without causing her severe pain, is on her period, sends me a text on the drive home from the tat saying "i want my back blown out". And then when she gets home she says "let me eat first i need to think about what we have". Sits on her phone for over 30 minutes. Gets up and makes a frozen pizza. Eats it. And then says "im still hungry i need to make something else then we can do it". Then sits on her phone for another 20 minutes before saying "ill just eat again after lets go to the bedroom". And shes mad I said "no" when she made no attempt to be sexy whatsoever and is barely in the condition for sex as is.
Maybe its time to end things soon. She has no idea how much effort I put in just to be sexy to her. The more fit I get the less attracted I am to fat women and I know I can do better than her. I see hotter women than her checking me out all the time now and its exhausting trying and thinking that she'll change with me instead of being the same. The fantasy was that we both got really in shape and went from being frumpy millenials to a hot power couple but I guess that will have to stay a fantasy. At least the idea motivated me to get fit.
>shes goes and gets a new tat
its over, she is on the path of no return
Shes covered in tats but i really like it. Ik IST guys talk shit about tats all the time but i think theyre hot. Its one of the things i am still attracted to even though we're at the point where people might think i have a feeder fetish.
if being overweight wasn't bad enough, her getting tats just confirms she doesn't care about her appearance in the way someone should. things will continue to go downhill
the obese are not human
Why are you dating a creature like that
we've been together for 5 years and when we started dating I was in a very different place. No better than her at all. No money, fat as frick, lived with butthole parents. I've resolved all those things yet she's still underdeveloped.
i have autism and ADHD. i have PDA (Pathological demand avoidance) which to the outside makes it seem like extreme laziness/procrastination and it kind of is but in a way i can't help, i need to be forced, pressured, or otherwise mentally rewarded (happy chemicals) to do something, for example, if i recognise i need a haircut, i just won't get it until my hair is so long that it really annoys me, pushing me to get it begrudgingly. anyway i started taking ritalin for my ADHD but the problem is that some of the benefits of the medication like giving me discipline/motivation are completely countered by the PDA, and since i have no hobbies/interests/employment i don't even really benefit from the focus that the stimulant provides. the only beneficial change due to the ritalin is the side effect of curbing my appetite which has helped me in losing the excess 11kg i wanted to lose. having two strong parents discipline me and raise me properly could have heavily curbed my issues but i was instead raised by a bad single mother who coddled me and did everything for me even against my own will. i am hoping that getting a job will force fix a lot of my issues but i am 25 and have never had a job so it is going to be a long time. thanks for reading
As someone diagnosed with the same shit making good money and achieving goals at 26, i diagnose you with severe homosexual disorder.
Move away from your enabling parents and fix your habits. Nothing will improve when you view your life as some acceptable compromise.
>Move away from your enabling parents and fix your habits
i am trying to. i have been applying for dozens of jobs in another city and have had a few interviews so far. a lot of my bad habits would immediately get fixed from having a job and a forced structure/routine in my life (sleep schedule, designated meal times, etc.)
>As someone diagnosed with the same shit making good money
What's that, another person on fit who's rich, this time despite being diagnosed with a mental disorder? Say it isn't so. Let me guess, engineer/programmer/doctor/lawyer?
i'm not rich by any means i make 70k a year its just good money. I really don't know what you're getting at autistic people make it in tech fields all the time, i'm assuming you think i'm lying but let me tell you most of the dudes in my career field are either weird as frick or Indian immigrants and also weird as frick.
Best friend died a couple weeks ago, I feel lonely bros. I miss him so much...
I am sorry that happened anon. That's gotta be tough. At this kind of time it is more important than ever to reach out to other people to confide in them and help with the healing process. Try to keep busy too, cause idle hands are the devil's workshop. The same goes for the head. You'll get a lot of bad mojo if you don't do things, especially things you enjoy. Try and make it a physical thing, like gardening, painting, whittling, or something else tangible. You'll feel better. Try to celebrate his life. I know I wouldn't want my best friend to feel down when I'm gone.
I know you can get through this anon. Make it for him.
why/how did he die?
car accident
that's fricking horrible man
White Russian pretty please.
Also, can we have one thread without you fricking crybaby homosexuals whinging about your ex girlfriends? SHE DOESNT WANT YOU. GET THE FRICK OVER IT. I swear to God, every fricking Bar is filled with the same pussy whipped losers crying about how their chick left them. THATS WOMEN. THATS WHAT THEY DO. If you aren't on your shit, expect to be left or cheated on. Even when you are, she's always scoping out the competition and judging whether or not she can make the leap. If a woman leaves you, realize that she was ALWAYS going to leave you just like she's going to leave this guy because there's ALWAYS a richer, more handsome, more popular, more whatever guy. She's going to keep swinging until she looks around one day ready to settle down and nobody wants to wife her.
Stay on your grind and SHUT. THE. FRICK. UP.
I agree anon... These homosexuals' lives begin and end with whatever fricking woman they're thinking about. Its fricking lynchian
Literally all that every feel bar thread is, is crying about women. Every thread, every day, hundreds and hundreds of comments that are all basically the same shit.
I think it's because from what it seems like, everyone on fit is extremely successful in every aspect of their lives, the only problem anyone ever has is women. Everyone has a top career, top salary, very wealthy, own house, own cars, dozens of hobbies, lots of friends, extremely fit, endless sources of happiness, so the only thing they have to cry about is some relationship issue they are going through.
>ex gf
>3 years
>still miss her
thats almost every comment for the first 25 or so at least. plus this mfers are probably like 20 which makes the girly histrionics even funnier.
I just had a killer workout
y'all have ex'es??? wtf where my khv bros at
tfw was alone again today
KHV reporting in, i'm with you, my brother
khv but since I hate 3DPD women I don't really have an issue
I think I'm ready to troon out. I've always felt like the meme "woman trapped inside of a man's body" and repressing those feelings for the sake of other people isn't really working out for me. I care so little about what other people think now, and that was really all that was holding me back. Worst case scenario, I detrans, or kms if it doesn't work out, which I was probably going to end up doing anyway.
You feel like a woman because you're not yet a man. You need to become a man not a woman.
have you spoken to a psychiatrist? there are many reasons you could feel this way, from autism to sexual trauma, etc.
i hate gingers
i shaved and ive been getting a lot more positive attention. has my beard actually been holding back this whole time? feel like i got played
my portfolio is 70% down
you think that's bad?
JPM liabilities exceed assets on a ratio of 9:1
La Croix please.
>gf of 5 years
>pretty bored of her, we both sit around most days (shes barely working)
>I work as software dev but at least lift during days
>go to smoke shop to pick up my shitty nicotine kick
>smoke shop girl there is the sweetest
>go in all the time to see her and buy smokes
>think about her too much
yeah yeah before all the christcucks get upset, i havent done anything but im bored as shit in my relationship and goth girls get my dick hard. my current gf doesnt really have any interests similar to me, we have similar values but even our future is weird (i wanna travel, she wants to do something with her work) so idk. i havent even been that sexually attracted to her anymore, she puts out but im just not even interested. ik ik, im a piece of shit yadda yadda.
>doesnt work
>wants to do something with her work
she should try working
sam altman is a fricking Black person. hes a israelite and information on his father is impossible to find. im assuming this is an effort to make him seem like he didnt come up rich and handed his current position
I might have to give up ISTness journey for a few years till I finish college.
I have a particularly hard major plus some extra stuff I'm teaching myself, and I've got basically 0 time for workout anymore. My daily life is physically demanding and I lack sleep most of the time. So, waking up in the morning, my body feels beat up and fatigued. I'm not even exagerrating my lack of sleep, aside from the constant fatigue lately I'm frequently feeling confused, can't walk straight, thown off balance.
I have no choice but to give up working out. I hate it. When I had nothing going on in my life and was an obese guy, fitness gave me meaning and a way to get my life together. Unfortunately, priorities change, and now I need to focus more on my mental gains while my physical gains take a backseat for a while.
Wanted to post it here because IST has been my home since high school, now I spend more time on IST and IST.
Good luck and godspeed bros. YAGMI and hopefully I might too.
TripsDubs checked, breddy noice.
Anon, I understand, been in the same position. Even thinking of investing 1h, 3 times a week to lift, at home, mind you. Felt like wasting a lot of time and I abandoned being healthy. It was also difficult to maintain uni, job and being healthy(exercise+eating) and I gained 24kg, que my dad's death and I added 9kg, a jump from a BMI of 25 something(like really fricking close to being in a healthy range) to 35. But I've been losing weight for the past 2 months and I'm almost under 33. Slow but sure.
What I want you to take from this is to try to remain in shape and now go down the path of convenient fast foods. I'm sure you can squeeze 1 or 2 sets of pushup in 5 min, maybe crunches or situps also. And whenever you feel overwhelmed try to take a 15-30 min(if not more) walk to destress. I can't express how beneficial this was in finding solutions to solve my tasks or just calm down at the sheer overwhelmness.
And one last thing, it's never YAGMI, but WAGMI, you included.
Take care fren!
I've been doing half my workouts just to maintain my current gains but lately have been skipping even those. Now, I think I'll focus mostly on my diet just so even if I do lose my gains, I'll atleast not balloon up.
I'm burned out. I spent the last four months in 90° weather and now I'm back in a more mild climate, I miss the solar power fueling my transformation. Might start doing yoga naked in my backyard, idk. Also an old girlfriend got fat and it was depressing to see.
Why am I hungry all day every day, I'm so fricking tired of eating. I have followed every piece of advice out there over the past 5 years, including dry fasting, yet I am still plagued by feelings of hunger and increasing irritability until I eat again at any given point throughout the day.
Me too. I just give in and binge. It significantly improves my stress and mood.
I decided to conduct an experiment where I stop messaging people first and see who contacts me.
>Day 5 of no contact haha.
People seem happy to respond but no one likes me enough to contact first.
If I died tomorrow I think the only person who would notice would be my mom. And I don't express my love for her enough feelsbadman
How do you guys cope with loneliness/being sexless when its summer and girls are wearing sexy clothes and your sister is wearing see-through panties while sunbathing