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I am very happy actually. First time I post in a feels thread saying I am happy
happy for you
this too shall pass friend
coke please.
I don't /feel/ much lately. Doc switched me from SSRI to agomelatine. Before any moron says anything I felt nothing before SSRI, in fact it had zero effects. In the meantime I guess I'll just continue failing all my classes.
I went on a binge of australian and kiwi shows on youtube about spinal cord injuries and brain damage. Lord knows I'm never diving again, I'm never driving a homosexual bike and I'm bying a helmet for my bicycle. I'm done being cool, I never was anyway. I'm grateful I can walk, shit, piss and be independent.
i dreamed that i had sex with my ex gf... i miss her so much
I keep dreaming about witnessing aircraft crashes...what does it mean
I’m doing better than I was recently, finally starting to get over the girl that ditched me. It’s hard but time helps.
I have a weird feeling I don’t know how to defeat though. I know exactly what my fitness goals are (40-mile ruck with 45lbs, a fast 2-mile time, 1/2/3/4, will evolve when I get there) but I have this…fear? I guess? I don’t know how to explain it. There’s this inner anxious feeling of dread that I can’t achieve the goals I have or that I’ll find out that I was wasting time or something. I don’t know how to explain it or how to get over it. Any advice would be great.
Anyone? ;-; I know it’s a vague problem but hopefully there’s at least one person who knows what I mean.
As long as you are going to the gym it's a goal that's achievable. You're not giving up, that only happens when you don't go anymore. That's all the reassurance you need really. You also shouldn't be focussed so much on the long-term goals as you should on the short-term. Just going up 5lbs or doing an extra rep is an achievement worthy of praise. Every time you lift is another win, regardless of the outcome. Stay positive.
You won't know if you can't reach your goals without trying to get there.
I think you'll reach them and then find yourself having to set new goals. 1/2/3/4 will come faster than you think, simply completing a ruck of a set distance/weight is not the same as completing it under X time, etc.
Try setting goals for both short term development and long term ability - e.g. "I want to be able to do a 5pl8 deadlift concurrent with being able to run a 12 minute 2 mile" as well as "I want to develop my lower body mobility to the point of being able to do a nut-to-ground split without needing a warmup."
Aren't you just projecting a feeling of wasting your time/fooling yourself with your ex there?
Physically shite, but that's nothing new.10-12 hour days in fast paced food service will do that, at least it keeps me moving around.
Mentally pretty good for this time of year, usually in the depths of seasonal moodiness by now; but this year has been fairly good for much mental state.
Remember that a good outlook on life is always gonna be important anons, regardless of whatever nonsense might be going on in the world/your life. WAGMI
/fit/, I'm really not sure what to make of what happened Wednesday. A little background:
>start a new job as a data analyst at a tradie company
>boss wants us to ride around with some of the techs to get an idea of what they do
>meet this 1 tech: a 40+yo 5'4" (tops) Hispanic who is hyper af.
>don't think much of it and let him crack jokes/explain his job
>then during 1 of his jokes, he extends his arm out and touches me
>i'm 6'3" and look like i lift. he mentioned it several times
>at first i think he's being in good spirits
>he does it again later on and i immediately knew he was trying to size me up
>just in case i was being paranoid, he does it to the building manager
>say hi to him on occasion if he's in the office
>ff this past wednesday:
>boss want me to go get Hispanic for something when Hispanic is in the office
>i go get him, go to boss, and realize i need something in my office
>Hispanic passes me, looks at me, and then tries to grapple with me
>i don't think anything of it but eventually i realize he's actually trying
>like, this motherfricker is going balls out and sweating
>i'm confused af not trying to hurt him (i've done boxing and bjj) because we're in a fricking office
>dude just isn't quitting despite not making me flinch
>hold him tight and tell him we're gonna let go on 3
>he lets go, tries to butter me up like "lol it's just a prank, bro"
>go into the boss's office and this little frick goes at me again
>boss is just sitting there and i'm very much not trying to cause damage in his office
>i'm not even trying to fight back and the Hispanic is grabbing me by the leg trying to lift me up
once again, i grab onto him and he stops
>once agin, he says that "lol it's just a joke"
IDK what to do. I'm not even upset over the whole alpha/beta shit or even threatened physically. I'm more or less disgusted with the fact this c**t tried to pull this shit at an office. Do I just play wrassle with him or do I go full autism rage mode next time and frick him up?
Wait till he does it in view of a few people and just put him on his back? Preferably into a puddle so y'all can crack wetback jokes
I have been around this type of person and I can confirm this spiclet is on some kind of stimulant. Either coke or adderall. Manlet with little man syndrome + adderall/coke is a horrible mix.
Idk much else to tell you to help you here, but in my experience the only way to make him frick off was hurting him. Like, showing him a fraction of what you’re capable of. But that’s not a sure fire way, with the drugs involved. And could even hurt his ego worse and make it happen more.
Since it’s the work place it’s extra tricky.
His goal btw is to cope and stroke his own ego and feel bigger than he is by making you submit in one form or another. This can include something as simple as you telling him to cut this shit out, at which point he responds with a shit eating grin saying something along the lines of “chill out bro it’s not even that serious I didn’t realize you were such a b***h” and then struts like he defeated a giant.
I guess next time it happens you can submit him, tell him you’ll only let go if he promises to stop. Then if he starts again you straight up threaten to break his body. It’s better than having this continue until shit in the office gets broken and you get blamed for being the bigger guy.
He knows what he’s doing btw, he’s the little guy so all and any blame will be placed on you because everyone’s mindset, even after watching him start shit will be “why would this be the 5’4” guys fault that makes no sense why would he pick a fight with someone twice his size? And besides you’re bigger you should have been able to control it better.” It’s moronic. Hate people like this. Ruined the guy I used to know who I mentioned entire life over being this way and other ways. Everything was a pissing contest, and if you don’t put an end to this now it will branch beyond just grappling.
Any stories to share, anon?
Too many. He was
as well which should sum up how this moron behaved. I’ve posted some of the stories on IST a few times. The gist of them
>childhood acquaintance, became friends as adults
>found out the girl I hooked up with was supposed to be his valentines date a year before we reconnected and became friends, and she flaked on him to skip a date and hookup with me, went to his head behaved like a pissy cuck and would belittle any chance he got everything was a pissing contest, as if what I did was malicious or intentional. 99.9% chance she would have flaked on him regardless, I’ve spoken to her about it and she didn’t even recall having a planned date with him
>he stopped the grappling shit when I ragdolled him in front of other people
>would still try to sucker punch me if I was talking to other friends at a party to attempt to make me flinch or react, got genuinely sad when he would put every ounce of might into a punch to my shoulder or body and I wouldn’t even react or hesitate in my speech and ignore him like he wasn’t there, eventually gave up on physical shit when he learned there was simply no match between us
>tons of shit talk, sarcasm was a no go with this moron because he would (either truly stupidly) or intentionally misinterpret it as a serious statement then run and tell everyone you said “XYZ” thing and meant it no matter how undeniable your sarcastic tonality was
>would demand I paid him random sums of money I simply did not owe him and make up reasons why I owed it to him, could be $5 could be $50, would seethe and throw entire fits if I told him he was nuts if he thought I was giving him my money for no reason
Theres a lot Ive mentioned in detail, a lot more stories I could right, these do not scratch the surface not even near the worst of it. I’m not trying to write longer than this max character count post though. Bottom line
is correct. Needs to end immediately or it gets worse and worse
This. I’ve been around people like this and you need to put them in their place, one way or another. I had a roommate that was 5’6 and 100lbs soaking wet that would constantly try to grab my nips and other gay shit like that and he didn’t stop until I slapped him in the back of the head hard enough to make him stumble.
Dude seems like an old gay testing the waters, and you're playing along. It's never acceptable to play grab ass in a even semi professional environment.
I tried to kill myself last night.
Rode out to a bridge in my city, climbed over the railing, and tried to jump, but I couldn't.
It was 4am so no one saw me, but I felt so defeated. Still do.
Keep on keeping on mate
What do you lack?
Pussy
I met a nice girl who likes me and the only thing I feel is insecurity. Of course, part of this is because the last time I found a "nice girl" she was actually a c**t and I was blinding myself to it, so I'm naturally suspicious of my own judgement. The other part is that I'm too self-sacrificing and put the women I like ahead of myself, something that I'm desperately trying to stop doing. I'm also a worthless neet so insecurity reasonably surfaces when I meet someone who has her shit together. I really need to get a job but this will take at least three to six months. I'm also beginning to suspect that she's whimsical and narcissistic, but then again that describes every woman I've ever met. I should at least not let myself get invested on it. Once I catch feeling its hard for me to control them and "hold frame".
Here you go my man:
In life i mean. What pushed you towards wanting to take your own life? Something or someone? Or both?
It's myself that drove me to it.
I live in a foreign country, broke up with my fiance to pursue a future here, and have so far stumbled and ended up succumbing to mental illness.
I love my work and the people at it, but it's not reciprocated and I try to reach out for help but nobody answers.
Both of my parents wer bipolar, and I'm at the age where those effects set in, I don't want to be this and I can't get help I'm scared and hurt.
>I don't want to be this and I can't get help I'm scared and hurt.
Find a space and time where you feel relaxed, not thinking about your problems, and afterwards do exactly that and get to work on solving your issues. You First have to be in a strong state of mind and then face these issues head on. Maybe a shrink can be of some help, even just lamenting to someone can do wonders, even if the shrink doesn't 'get it' (none of them do), they're paid to listen to your story and that helps regardless of what they say. Just don't let them recommend you pills.
Kalimotxo thanks. Real Coke from a can mixed 50/50 with the cheapest red wine you have, and sloshed around in a plastic bag the traditional way
Mate, I feel you. Do you have affordable medical support in the country you're living in? How are you trying to reach out? Which country? Please reply. I've had bipolar since I was a teenager but it never really affected me until recently, where I'm working completely alone and isolated on farm 7 days a week surrounded by huge machines that could kill me instantly. Going to a doctor was both the hardest and easiest thing I've done in life. Taking xanax as a kid didn't work out, but zoloft recently has completely removed the suicidal depression and I see life through new eyes. I'm here to talk if you want dude, email or steam or by phone
I live in Japan, probably the worst country for a foreigner with mental health issues.
I thought I'd be fine, I never had issues like this until the past several months when the symptoms started.
My brother I have a dear friend who killed himself and just the thought of the pain he suffered makes me cry to this day. Please don’t do it. I was also miserably depressed, feeling hopeless and worthless like him. But I endured the long night and now I am happily married with a family. You must endure for us my brother. There is always hope in this world even if for a moment it can’t be seen. It was destined for you to turn around that night.
Bruh, there's no reason to feel defeated. You fricking won last night.
We all know you wouldn’t do it, pussy. Attention prostitutes like you are worse than the b***hes that actually have the balls to kill themselves
attention whoring is posting shit like that in response to someone declaring plainly that he almost took his own life
enjoy your (You) moron
I rather would rather stayed a virgin than have sex with a girl that didn’t love.
The only way I’ve felt anything will having sex with her was closing my eyes and pretending she was a girl who legitimately liked me.
Same shit different day. Still jobless. Still fat. Sleeps been crappy last couple days but not as bad as it was a year ago, still up at 5am or earlier just less rested with some sinus gunk.
Im contemplating going into the navy. I have a year to get fit since I just turned 28. If I can get in good enough shape I kind of wanna try for SWCC but I would have to excel in the fitness standards enough that waivers get heavily pushed for me for that considering my age, the fact I would need the mandatory eye surgery and prior knee injuries. If I can’t do that I’ll probably try for electrician.
I think worst case I do whichever job, have a job for 4 years get to do some traveling, meet new people make some lifelong buddies, maybe even meet a woman, then after 4 years I find something else maybe just do electrical shit, maybe something else. I should have enough saved from the 4 years to figure out what I’m doing next, maybe go into coast guard, maybe buy a house. Idk. It depends on where I am after the 4 years if I do this, I would be 33 when that time comes.
Just JACKED OFF
HELL YEAH BROTHER POST THE LOAD
Where can I get a miniature Primm Slim?
I’m starting an experimental treatment for cat autoimmune disease. If I don’t see you in the next thread, I’ll see you in the next life
Holy shit, a talking cat
I'm fat, former hs wrestler. Lost about 25lbs so far and starting to get some actually decent muscles again but I get discouraged a lot. Angry that I let myself get like this, sad that I wasted a lot of years being a lazy shit. Got a kid now and I'm doing it for him, I want him to have better role models than I did and know that he doesn't have to make the same mistakes I did. Just feeling down bros, Thanks for listening
I just want a masc BF and it feels like that's impossible
Are you cute?
I'm a masc guy who wants a masc bf. It is impossible to find another masc openly gay guy
I feel this, I'm bi with a preference for women but I'd love to find a masculine guy to explore the other part of myself with, unfortunately I'm in the Bongistan equivalent of Portland and surrounded purely by disgusting gays
Probably for the best. Flamboyant gays annoy the frick out of me. All I want is a gym bro to compliment and feel my muscles and maybe tug on my wiener. I am in the middle of nowhere Midwest America. Everyone else is 3 hours away
Have you guys ever met someone who was constantly trying to manipulate and scheme, socially? I used to know a guy who for lack of better wording just came off as someone who read and studied 48 laws of power and that’s as his entire personality. 100% sure that’s what it was, he read that book and believed it was some magical way to win socially. He did a lot of the scummier things in that book like taking credit for things other people accomplished. Didn’t matter how absurd it was
>You bench 315 while he has at most curled 15lbs once a month, he interjects the conversation to cut you off to tell everyone it’s because he helped/encouraged/gave you advice (despite having a 150lb bench himself)
>you get a job promotion make good money, much more than anyone in your friend group, same shit finds some moronic non logic to claim credit for it like “oh well I have anon advice” or “yep, you couldn’t have done it without me” despite that he was uninvolved in anyway
That’s one small example. But legit nearly every “law” in that book this dimwit put into practice and no one wanted to be around him and he would wonder why. He was an insufferable c**t.
I even mentioned the book to test him to confirm my suspicions and he got all awkward and told me it’s a waste of time and to not bother reading it, which to me says all I need to know.
I do believe books like that can be pretty helpful socially but not when your whole being and personality is derived from that book. Some of the advice in them suck, and the good is better used sparingly, and even then it’s not any magic guide to life and people can clearly see what you’re doing especially when you’re doing that shit nonstop lmao
48 laws of power is a goated book. Stop being a pussy and play the game
>stop being a pussy just continue interacting with absolute bums who seek to leach off you bro it’s the game that’s just life you have to play it bro it doesn’t matter if people like this bring zero value to your life and just take you’re a bad person if you don’t play this game
No, I don’t think I do have to play. You “lose” when you allow others to dictate what “the game” is and the rules of it. The only way to win is to not play. Play your own game instead. Or stay oddly offended about this idc.
Trust me I know man, but thanks.
>No, I don’t think I do have to play. You “lose” when you allow others to dictate what “the game” is and the rules of it. The only way to win is to not play. Play your own game instead. Or stay oddly offended about this idc.
You're the one typing dissertations about this 1 guy. If you know he's playing 48 laws of power, then you should know how to counter and win.
48 laws of power is great for the workplace and social scenarios.
>48L anon says ,"you couldn't have done it without me"
>you say "Yeah thanks for the help"
Who cares if it's a fricking lie. You've validated his ego, and now he's in your back pocket. You can use him to level up your social standings, push tasks on to him, or keep him along as a partner.
One of my favorite things to do is let people think they are helping me. Feign like you need their help, have them help you, then you attach their name to your work when you send it in. That way, they feel validated for helping you, they get credit for their work, and you didn't have to do anything as they did all the work.
You see you're problem is that you're a homosexual with no spine. You want to be told that you're the winner, that you did it all on your own. If you actually read 48 laws of power you'd know that concealing your powerlevel and letting others think they have the upperhand is a key part of the book. Let others think you need them, and that youre weak then when the time comes you strike when they are most vulnerable and upstage them
>writes me a fricking thesis seemingly personally offended over this
Okay.
>no you see the problem is you just want to be told you’re the winner and and and
Uh huh. And tell us anon, is the winner in the room with us right now?
What part of my very clear implications that I not only don’t care to do this homosexual rigarmaroo “muh epic psycho manipulation” back and forth, but also that there’s no real benefit or thing to even gain from it with the individual I mentioned was unclear to you? The moron sits around smoking pot all day. There are far better more worthwhile people for me to spend time with which is what I have been doing. Idk what else to say when what I’ve said is clear. You’re just oddly offended on his behalf. Maybe question why that is. The dude was a parasite with nothing to give in return.
me a fricking thesis seemingly personally offended over this
The difference is you're complaining about someone. I'm actually trying to teach you something.
>Uh huh. And tell us anon, is the winner in the room with us right now?
Not you, since you're obviously butt hurt by his actions
I've spent too much time on you and you're also not providing anything worth my time. Keep losing to this "pot smoking loser", only shows how pathetic you are that you're beneath a guy like that
Your “teachings” are unappreciated and not wanted.
>I-I’ve wasted far too much of my time on you!
Yeah that’ll show me. You got me! I can’t believe you’re going to use your precious time not on me how will I ever cope.
>keep losing
I would say I won. Cut him off, last I hung around him his terminally ill gf kept making sexual passes at me in front of his face. That can’t feel very good.
>n-nnoooooo you lost! You’re just like me! You’re a loser! You have to play the game!
You would be a BPD womans field day from all I’ve gathered from your insistent b***hing lmfao. But please project and cope harder buddy
>his terminally ill gf kept making sexual passes at me
Did you smash??
Frick no I have three FWB and one girl I’m dating seriously why would I
You could have had 4 FWBS, dingus
>one girl I’m dating
Does she know and/or care?
>Does she know and/or care?
Do I?
The only boundaries people like this recognise are physical space. Literally cut them out of your life, block their number, blank them in the street. Anything less is ammunition to them, and trying to understand them or reason with them.is like nailing jelly to a wall
Yeah a few people like that. As the others have said just cut them off. People like that aren’t valuable or worth your time, there’s often little to no benefit keeping them around, and if there was they wouldn’t need to behave these ways. They would backstab you over a nickel. My cousin did this shit a lot and everyone in the family has cut him off.
I read through the chain and the anon saying you MUST keep people like that’s round is 50/50 just like the guy you mentioned and like you pointed out feels insulted over your post because you hit a nerve, or he’s some bumbling moron who thinks he’s playing some game and isn’t really amounting to much in life by focusing on what matters. The people who follow that book as some sort of life changing guide and not just a tool to use here and there are as stupid as mid 30s women with a collection of mental masturbation self help books all saying the same gibberish reworded.
Another weekend of internal turmoil as I have to resist the constant urge to enjoy a tasty but non healthy meal! Yay! 2 more days where I also sit on my ass doing nothing because I have to let my muscles rest.tm! Yay!
Frick the weekends. I'd rather work and focus on my diet but then my gf would complain that I'm not spending enough time with her. Here's to another 3 days of telling her I don't want pizza or fast food and working out 7 days a week isn't going to kill me
I'm going out for diner tonight with the only female that pays attention to me: my sis. While the eternal tfw no gf is sad my sister is based so I'm sure it will be nice.
Just had an incredible Friday morning workout, going to spend time with my family and start readin g "The Castle" after a long work week. Taking my nephews and mom out for pancakes tomorrow. My life's direction is taking shape and I love to see that happening, but I'm really missing a romantic partner though I'm still unsure if I even deserve one.
You guys type too much in this thread. Go make some friends irl. You shouldn't need to vent this much online
Its been 5 days after my breakup with my prostitute gf. And this time i wont go back to her whatever circumstance is. Except she reaching first its finally over. Still think of her everyday and miss her. But i cannot take her whoris and lying also cheating behaviour anymore and must stand this pain im feeling right now. I hope it will vanish for good and i can have peace of mind. Any advice for this situation?
We are here because we dont have any friend in real life. And you too are here Black person
Stay away. Don't answer calls. Don't return texts. Take a picture of rotting garbage. That's her new phone icon when she calls again. Change her name to "Cheating b***h" so you're reminded when she texts you.
(Don't want to outright block because she'll be able to tell. You want that phone to just always ring for her until it goes to voicemail. She needs to know she isn't blocked, you just don't care anymore.)
It's for the absolute best, fren. I wasted 5 good damn years of my life with such a woman. One who'd worm her way back any time I moved on or found someone new....
How do you outlift not knowing anyone at 30?
Choccy milk please.
Iced coffee. I feel like i need to rethink my workout or lifestyle. My hamstrings steel feel sore, and i need to do squats today. This has been a recurring problem. (Tuesday deadlifts, Friday squats). Maybe i should do less sets, but i'm already only doing two sets. I just don't get why these stupid muscles don't heal.
The last 3 year years has honestly been the worst period in my life. My life was literally ripped apart so dramatically that it blackpilled me and i was a depressed alcoholic nihilist up until about a month ago when God randomly woke me up for reasons I cant explain. Now our current update patch of simulation world is an unhinged dystopian nightmare, but oddly I've never felt genunely better, happier, mentally evolved, or more connected to Jesus Christ and the universe as a whole in my entire life as I do right now. It's even a little odd to me, but I'm beyond thankful for it. I hope the same happens to you anons.
>"For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life." - John 3:16
God bless you anon. Oddly enough, I started finding God at the peak of my life, and have come to fully accept his grace when I hit rock bottom (now). It's hard to explain, it truly is. But I'm a better man for it now, or at least I try to be. The divine faculties which allowed Christ to rise from the dead and absolve us from our sins, a part of that lives within you. We must make good use of it.
How does that work? I tried going to church, reading the Bible, praying and nothing happened. I understand the kind of experience you're talking about because I've met christians who went through the same but it's like I personally can't experience it. It's not like I keep constantly thinking about it btw. When I'm at church, praying or studying the Bible I'm completely in the moment. It's only after weeks that I realize I've gone nowhere in spiritual terms.
Behold, the mystery of faith lmao. But in all seriousness you're already halfway there. It took me more than year to go from flirting with "maybe there is a God idk" to praying every day. That "grace" you speak of is not a singular moment, nor is it the same for everyone. What you're expecting to feel based on the accounts of other Christians may not be what you'll get in your version of faith. Keep on praying, brother. And if I may be so brash, join a Catholic or Orthodox sect, not a Protestant one.
I'm catholic. Frankly, Novus Ordo feels spiritually dead. Its like everyone is just going through the motions. No sense of community in the church either. I keep my distance from sspx because it seems like the kind of thing that attracts the wrong people for the wrong reasons. Also because it's a clearly schismatic and heretical movement. I wondered if I should give a chance to ortholarping but it seems like the kind of thing you've to be born into, otherwise you become some incel perpetually rambling about Patriach Chudwel and obscure ecumenical decisions from the third century instead of focusing on being a good Christian.
There's also the fact that everyone who goes there in my country is eastern european, middle eastern or greek so I would stick out like a sore thumb.
I agree with you on Novus Ordo. In my country, Catholicism has become so culturally ingrained that mass is just an obligation. One minute they're wishing their neighbors peace, the next they're honking and cursing at the car in front of them in traffic lol. Idk how the Muslims do it where it can be as big and ingrained in their culture yet still enforce the actial traditions. I'll give it to the Protestants for having more of a sense of community in their "mass", even the crazier denominations.
Go to a Diocesan Latin Mass my friend. There’s probably a website listing ones near you depending on what country you’re in. I can help if necessary.
>t. regular latin mass goer
t-1 day until i fly almost 17,000 km with the hope of getting some pussy.
God help me why do I have to do this?
Wife hunting? Where you going to look?
Vodka.
I fricking loved her and she hurt me so much yet I still love her. My heart hurts and my bones are cold. I wish for warmer weather and warmer people. Why will no woman love me? I'm yelled at all the time. Everyone does what they want without a care. I can't even eat fatty food, the only taste part of food, because my cholesterol is high, in my 30s. What sort of life is this where I have to work nonstop, I work for money, health, love and I get nothing for it? I swear, this is a culture of work or slavery which I would be okay with if anyone would just love me. My heart hurts and I cry with the devil.
Found an amazoness snu snu bride. I'll see her three weeks from now. She's taller than me and strong as frick. Help me homies. I wanna dominate her with my skeleton dyel ass. I'm somewhat strong after working out religiously for six months but still skinny as frick. Which things should I train/use to dominate her?
moscow mule. Dreamt about her last night for what felt like hours. Woke up and remembered every second. Those dreams are always the best and worst.
had another dream where I meet a girl:
>im at my nans house who died a few months back (big house, airy, thrice as big in dreamworld)
>go into front room
>girl sitting there watching Tasting History with that guy
>I compliment her and watch it with her
>pay off some guys that owe her money (?)
>dream ends with me, her, my brother and my mother having dinner together
I don't feel lonely bros but I think my body is trying to tell me something that's deep down in there.
man.... they're rough.
I had one the other day where I met this girl who was completely my type and we smashed and at the end I realised it was a dream and she started crying and saying I'd killed her because I'd wake up.
My subconscious wants me to kill myself.
Whiskey neat, please.
Had my first genuine scare over my wife and daughter recently. My wife has been super hormonal and stressed the past few days, and on the way to a doctor's appointment for my one year old daughter she had a straight-up meltdown that was all directed at me. I kept telling her to pull over because she was in no condition to drive, and she refused. I was genuinely worried for my daughter's safety, so when we got to the parking lot of the hospital she told me to get out, which I did, but when I tried to go around and quickly get my daughter out of the car to make sure she was safe my wife locked the car so that I couldn't get in.
For a good few minutes all I could do was look through the window to my daughter and try to make sure she was alright, and when my wife finally unlocked the car I frantically tried to get my daughter out, but my wife pretty much shoved me out of the way and told me to get away from my little girl. I was absolutely furious and terrified, and even when my wife calmed down and I explained to her how terrified I was, my wife just brushed me off and threatened me to never get in between her and our daughter again.
I don't mean to blogpost but christ, ever since I've been so stressed it's unbearable. I haven't lifted or jogged like normal, my interactions with my wife feel super strained (at least on my end), and I feel so lost and frightened because I realized that if she wanted to, my wife could take my daughter away from me and there is almost nothing I could do about it. I hate this. I hate feeling like this. I hate feeling this helpless, and I hate feeling like I can't trust a woman I love.
i'm sorry to hear this anon, that sounds very scary. i hope you manage to work things out with your wife. put your best foot forward and be honest in all your interactions.
Forget reason and logics. Forget putting her in your shoes. Forget being neutral to not give her a grip. It's not your call. Wait until her next breakdown.
For some reason, when people aren't true to themselves with me, it often leads fo flights I can't understand. I've learned that if Anonette makes me angry, there are important things she's not telling me. If a fight with Anonita makes me depressed afterwards, chances are she's not telling me about her anxiety until she starts crying rivers. And I still can be taught it was on be. I don't care, I try my best to be true to myself.
>my wife just brushed me off and threatened me to never get in between her and our daughter again.
Leave her. Unironically get your daughter as far away from her as possible, if her """calm""" reaction to you defending your child is to threaten you, then you need to leave ASAP because if she's saying that shit to you now, then she will absolutely become abusive towards you AND your daughter when she's old enough.
Jesus what did you do to her?
Does your wife have postpartum depression/psychosis anon? And were you cheating/abusive/shitty to her while she was pregnant? Because it sounds like you're not explaining the entire picture. What triggered her meltdown? If it's postpartum depression/psychosis, you need to sit her down and let her know you're worried about her asap cause the hormonal issue can make it worse. The only reason I can assume you've not done it is because you have already tried or you know you've been in the wrong.
But all this "my little girl" shit makes it sound like you're a shitty husband and you're stressing her out/making it worse. She carried that child in her stomach for 9 months, all you did was cum, dude. Make sure she's comfortable and stable until her hormones regulate. My gf's sister lived with us for a few years and developed postpartum psychosis and her ex would antagonize her and they shit isn't a joke. Pregnancy and fricking ruin women, the hormonal changes can legitimately mess with their brain.
>She carried that child in her stomach for 9 months, all you did was cum
>No anon you arent allowed to worry about your daugher when her mother is acting irrationally because youre just the DAD, youre really irrelevant to your childs life
Who are you quoting, moron? Learn to read with context. I'm saying he's disregarding his entire wife's sacrifice to have that child if yes not acknowledging the issues it causes. Outside I wouldn't bring up him sitting her down and asking about postpartum psychosis.
God fricking damn, I would have elbowed the side window in, dragged the b***h out, and bounced her stupid head off the hood a few times
OK, that's probably am exaggeration but get the b***h whatever help she needs, up to and including the loony bin. Absolutely don't allow her to brush it off as "oh, I just had a funny five minutes, you know how us girls get tee hee. Sorry to hear you felt intimidated by it". Hold her very, very accountable.
SIX TIMES homieS, THATS HOW MANY TIMES I FOUND SOME bawd DTF ON APPS WHO ENDED UP FLAKING AND GHOSTING ME DURING THE LAST TWO WEEKS. IT'S LIKE SOME FRICKING SEX POLTERGEIST IS TRYING TO TORMENT ME WITH BLUE BALLS. FOR FRICKS SAKE, THIS IS JUST CRUEL. LIKE SLAPPING A STARVING MAN WITH A HAMBURGER. TIME NUMBER SIX HAPPENED ONLY ONE HOUR AGO BTW. SHE WANTED ME TO RAWDOG HER AND WAS GETTING HORNY THINKING ABOUT BOTH OF US HAVING A THREESOME WITH HER FRIEND.
>Why yes, I'm sexually frustrated, how could you tell?
>manlet is upset
lel
i am happy with my long term girlfriend but a girl i really like is showing interest in me. it hurts to think about
Happens to me all the time. Sleep on it a couple weeks and reassess the situation.
Does she know you have a gf? She may be enjoying flirting in the knowledge that it won't lead to anything.
I think I enjoy yoga more than resistance training.
I have a company christmas party tonight.
I have a feeling it's going to be shit, but alcohol is involved.
I don't want to drink, whenever I do I always overdo it and embarrass myself. I don't drink anymore at home, but I know that if I don't drink at all my coworkers are going to call me out on it.
Also side note; I'm going to a different party that's not from a company, is it a good way to meet people? Dating apps fricking suck.
>is a party a good way to meet people?
Yes.
>dating apps fricking suck
Yes.
haven't coomed in about 30 days now (not really counting) and will continue to do so for the next couple of months. I still don't notice that "boost in energy and motivation" that people talk about, but I'll give it more time. So far, i'm just getting more depressed.
ya if i don't fap i just get depressed. i think that's why a lot of anti-depressants kill people's sex drive.
It can take like 15 months for dopamine to return to baseline according to dopamine research I have read
What started first, your depression or your decision to do nofap?
Not touching your peepee isn't magic, anon. But that's not to say deathgrip and porn addiction is healthy either. In an ideal world you'd have a healthy sex life and little or no desire to self-pleasure, achieve that from whatever angle you will
I'm on day 3 of no PMO even though I just fricking watched a bunch of porn and tried to defeat myself with it. I have the urge so bad even though I know I'm not supposed to scratch the itch.
you realize the P stands for porn right?
you're on day 0
I'm saying I managed to resist jerking off and orgasming. If the goal is to help my brain have more dopamine receptors, it's still a success.
ngl i think the best choice would be to keep MO and get rid of P, that seems to cause the most problems.....
If you let yourself jerk off you spend less time watching porn and edging and have less stress over it too.
Best thing to do is recognize when you want to jerk off. Ask yourself "am I horny, or am I just bored". If you're horny, jerk off. If you're bored don't jerk off. If you get horny while you're bored because now you've thought about being horny, jerk off. Eventually you'll only jerk off when you're actually horny and less jerking off when you're simply bored.
For example. I liked to jerk off when I nap after work. Sometimes I could be not horny all day, but then when I hit the bed I'm thinking about watching porn.
So now I those scenarios, I ask myself
>was I horny before I laid down or am I only looking to jerk off because I'm in my bed
If I was horny at work and now horny in my bed, I'll jerk off. Why not. I was horny, I need the release
If I only wanted to watch porn because I'm in my comfortable spot or bored, then I won't jerk off
If it's causing me such an internal struggle to not jerk off, I'll jerk off. Less stress and more time saved.
Essentially what I'm saying is stop fighting your body, and learn to understand your body
Why do you *need* porn to jack off? Just use your imagination homie, close your eyes.
I don't "need" porn, but I enjoy it. I'm tired of saying I dont
I can't enjoy porn anymore. It's all fake and half the girls are basically braindead and abused. But you do you man.
Don't think too much about it. You wouldn't watch wrestling and say "it's fake". You have to purposefully let yourself ignore the logical aspects of it and enjoy it for what it's worth, a performance
>You wouldn't watch wrestling and say "it's fake".
The wiener isn't fake raping their buttholes, it's really happening to them. The thousand yard stare isn't fake, they're really dissociating and shit. If you're into it that's cool but it's not something I can watch without getting bummed out now, sorry man. If you're into it, that's cool, but it's not good for me. Dropping porn made me motivated enough to get a gf though so it's cool. I just think about our past experiences if I need to fap.
Jesus man. I'm sorry. My ex was like this and it was awful to see. Her childhood was shit. She wasn't slow, she was intelligent, sharp, charming. But she was autistic as frick, she didn't understand the world. Too sheltered. You can love her and realize you can't heal her. Some people are broken, and it sucks. Because she didn't deserve it, it shouldn't have happened, she shouldn't have been treated like that by the men she trusted.
Idk man you gotta make a decision. I helped my ex, she eventually pushed herself to get better... Not perfect. She got to a point where she doesn't think she can be in an equal relationship given everything she's been through, thinks she's a perpetual burden. But she's better than she was. She's functional. Got a job. She's more careful and wise. She knows love is real, that she's not made to be hurt. So those are victories, even if we didn't work out. It's possible, maybe, but if it's hurting you, you gotta let it go.
>I enjoy it. I'm tired of saying I dont
same here man
it's like when recovering drug addicts talk about how "life's so much better sober", nah if being high didn't feel amazing to you, you wouldn't be in your current situation so at least have some honesty about it
Just moved from a shitty home gym to a Crunch, the first commercial gym I have ever been to. The people there seem pretty young, about my age (21). GF acquisition is not my primary objective at the gym, but I really don't know any other place where I can find people my age. Currently I'm a little fat but losing a lot of weight, going to wait until I'm ~18% BF before trying anything. Any tips or thoughts? I'm 5 ft 8 in btw.
Focus on yourself.
Just water. Theres a small chance I'm mildly concussed so I'll play it safe.
>it's another session of being my parents' emotional sponge
>mom shit talks dad to me. Dad shit talks mom to me.
>efforts to help mom are in vain because she lumps each individual flaws or wrongdoings of any member of the family into a single entity, which I am a part of
>mom complains about dad's family (justified), calls me and siblings bad blood
>in my early-mid 20s so it's fine i guess, except they have been doing this since before my balls even dropped
>suddenly recall mom trauma dumping to 13yo me. cried secretly in the bathroom lmao
God bless them. They do their best, and I'm only painting a fragment of the full picture. But it just gets so tiresome sometimes. One thing I've learned though is that as a man most do not care for your struggles. They are indifferent to it at best, repulsed at worst. So why waste time sulking. Thank you for reading my blog post.
I had my mom have an emotional breakdown at thanksgiving because she claims 'her hormones". Doesn't help that my sister chose a moronic job path in college so has to go BACK to college again, and understandably is being a downer c**t.
Yeah, it's never fun to see your parents cry or freak out. You're right about that society doesn't give a shit about a man's feelings, it's something you have to figure out for yourself.
Unfortunate for your mom and sister. Women truly are just passengers of their own existence. They seem to lack that higher-order thinking that more mentally-equipped men possess. They are still loveable morons nonetheless.
Thanks. I've already read this. It was one of the first philosophy books I've read.
Read Meditations
Do you live with them? If not, unironically just don't talk to them as often. Being an emotional punchbag isn't your job.
I'm almost in your same shoes, I don't have any siblings. Hope you and your family can sort something out.
>all these stories about NPCs in posters' lives trying to dominate them physically/socially/through peer group manipulation
Is mental illness + drug use really this pervasive in Amerimeme?
Finally broke up with my gf, it's been coming for a while. We're just not compatible in so many ways and I can't keep spending all my time and energy trying to force it to work. We live together in a shared house which is a nightmare but at least we have separate rooms. I really wish it wasn't a Friday because realistically we are now going to spend the weekend together. I hope I don't end up taking her back. God grant me the strength to stick to the path.
>Nick mullen tinder chronicals
Forgot about this, always makes me smile. I think there used to be a few more pics he shared? Idk funny either way.
>broke up with gf not compatible
Can you elaborate on the lack of compatibility?
And also how do you reach a point of living with someone you aren’t compatible with, isn’t that like the first factor you consider in that decision?
I’m sorry if I seem a little rude, I know what you’re experiencing sucks, I’m just curious about this because of something similar with my ex.
Did I dump her due to incompatibility or was I just immature and not ready to date? Idk. I resonate with “spending all energy to make it work.” I may have little experience but I do know a relationship isn’t meant to be draining and that if you have to force it to work in any way then she isn’t the right one and you’ll likely be miserable together. That much I know.
This is the only one I have on my laptop but I need to see if I can hunt the others down. Old CT clips are getting me through.
>Can you elaborate on the lack of compatibility?
We just fundamentally view the world and basically everything in it completely differently. At first I thought it was fun, sparring over things we disagreed on but since the early days I have discovered she is pretty insane when it comes to disagreeing with her on anything remotely political or social and that is a huge problem for me. I think our relationship was pushed along by the fact that we have an incredible sex life, are both (well I'm now trying to sober up) degenerate stoners and aside from the fact we are very different people, we have great chemistry on our good days. I totally understand the self doubt of figuring out if you made the right call but I truly believe it's just a mixture of whatever leftover love you have, fear of potentially being alone now you have no gf and recognition of your own failures in the relationship making it easy to start blaming yourself.
I definitely should've considered it more when making the decision but it was a time where we both desperately just needed a place.
thanks for the reply man it wasn't rude at all. We're all gonna make it
>disagree different world views
Ahh. I’ve heard of couple who do well with that but it seems kind of like common sense imho that they can’t be too different from one another. Especially the way people are with politics. I can see that being a headache. Girl I mentioned was similar in how you described but not with political things, she was insane anytime there was any disagreement, even times she flat out dun goofed and should have been scrambling to fix things. I can see how in your context that would be infuriating and lead to other problems. Just a massive source of resentment and disdain.
>incredible sex life
Ain’t that a b***h? In my experience and from what I’ve seen from others that’s always how we end up in situations like this. Sex is too good, everything feels right and good again by the end of the day or even an hour later because of it.
>I totally understand the self doubt of figuring out if you made the right call but I truly believe it's just a mixture of whatever leftover love you have, fear of potentially being alone now you have no gf and recognition of your own failures in the relationship making it easy to start blaming yourself.
I really fricking needed this. Thank you dude. You’re spot on. This is exactly where my head has been. Frick dude thank you. I needed this clarity to not make a mistake I would regret.
I’m unsure of your circumstances but I would start reaching out to friends if it means you lose the house/apartment by her moving out assuming she pays any bills. Not a bad idea to have a couch ready in advance so you can make this as seamless and low stress as possible. Again I wish I had more advice but I have super little experience dating.
WAGMI man trust
A man should never be embarrassed to break up with his girlfriend. Girlfriends are meant to be discarded. Only a wife should you feel embarrassed to leave. This is why marriage should be decided so carefully.
I still don't want a gf or any kind of romantic relationship and I'm tired of people not believing me, or trying to "hook me up", leave me alone frickers
Also still can't find a good job and only have 1 year of liquid savings left
I had a lunch date with a girl I met at uni. It went pretty well, though it was a little awkward since it was a public lunch so other people came and sat with us and there were some weird people there. After we went for a walk around campus for probably 30 or so minutes and just chatted and it was really nice. She wants to go hiking together so I think it's looking good. My only concern is that I'm a 30-year-old phd student and she's a freshman. While I would like to find a LTR, I don't know where I'm gonna be with graduation coming probably next semester, so I'm not opposed to anything short term for now. But right now we seem to get along extremely well and she seems like a nice all-around girl to the point that I'm waiting for some kind of rugpull.
Don't overthink it, just go with the flow.
Don't look for ways to sabotage this, you moron. The universe sends you wins sometimes, don't bat them away.
>obsessed with a girl I haven't spoken to in person for five months
>not likely to see her in the rest of 2023
Wish I could stop thinking about her...
Best way to forget a woman is yet another woman. Fire with fire.
>almost a week into being 32 years old
>still despondent about what a loser I am
>still do nothing to improve my life because I see no point and have no self esteem
>don’t live, just exist, every day is just getting to be able to go back to sleep at night without committing suicide
Double vodka for me.
I think I'm coming to terms with the fact I'm really burnt out at work. I have shut myself off from everyone and gone full recluse. It's just work, gym, home repeat. I get angry at the smallest inconvenience or challenge at work and worse if I slightly mess up. Weekends are just me counting the hours until I go back and trying to stay up as late as possible to not have to go to the next day. Also keep thinking about a walking disaster girl I liked for some reason. It's been a long couple months. At least I hopefully have a Japan trip planned in February as long as it doesn't get pushed back again with some bros
Same, for me the only solution is quitting and finding a better job or different industry. Waiting for a project to finish then I’m resigning.
>Water, as always.
I talent mogged my teacher and the soigay seethed.
>Feelsgoodman
Did everyone stand up and clap?
>favorite powerlifter I used to follow and have DM convos with like 8 years ago has fallen down the femcel pipeline of crystals yoga and onlyfans
She seemed so cool too. Don’t get me wrong, I always wanted to see how her pussy and butthole and breasts looked, which is cool. It’s also cool that there’s a leaked video of her riding a dildo the same shape and size as my dick.
But damn shame innit?
It’s cookiecali.
I remember she dated some powerlifter dude, Filipinothunder or whatever the frick, they went through a shitty breakup and I stopped following “ecelebs” around the same time. Stumbled upon her page again today first time since and it’s like, it seems so classic. No matter the age, 20 or mid 30s women are susceptible to falling into this pipeline and becoming a carbon copy of your generic thot. She was like 30-35 (Asian so looks 20), and still, one break up and she goes into this shit.
I checked the exes page and he’s married with a kid to an even hotter woman. Isn’t it funny how different our values and proceedings in life tend to be?
>I simped for 8 years, didn't get a titty pic, and am confused my digit 3dpd social media prostitute is a fricking moron
homie STFU with this gay shit.
At no point did I say I was confused about it. It’s amusing.
I think the correct thing off you to focus on, rather than random paragraphs on an anonymous rock breeding forum, is why my post about some eprostitute has you so emotional. I can’t answer that, because I’ve never been one to go red faced over such nonsense. But I do think it would lead to you finding happiness if you explored that, because it’s a little goofy to be this upset over something so unimportant.
You may also wanna practice reading because I can’t see you getting far with that 4th graders reading comprehension 🙂 rooting for you lil bro
> 🙂
You're not fooling anyone, soi.
>deepthroating bait
You’re fluent in gawkineese at least, newbie.
You're angry and insecure an e-thot never threw you a bone, now you're b***hing on IST while trying to take the moral high road
I can't imagine what kind of insufferable homosexual you are in real life
homie he’s being a homosexual and a coomer but he’s entirely correct. You’re mad and you’re drawing bullshit assumptions out of your ass based on non logic and getting yourself even more worked up over it. Forget that moron, I already know how you are IRL. Just an angry bitter piece of rat shit and more than likely a dothead. You are seething over a coomers IST wall of text, sitting there and with veins popping in your forehead over analyzing that shit and then seethe posting. I hate comers more than anyone but I would GLADLY hang out with that homosexual over some pissy little pussy like yourself. Do better you absolute b***h
Bruhs, my gf is pretty good. She cooks, cleans, puts in effort and is very affectionate.
My only thing is I've had some clues that she's low-key manipulative and I suspect she acts different when I'm not around.
How can I confirm this?
Not giving us a lot to go off of here, what are the clues? This is the single most important piece of information for constructing a plan to confirm if this is her true nature
It's mainly texting and with other male friends she's had in the past.
I caught her bumming money from a mutual male friend and then getting free coke from a past ex.
There was also a situation where she didn't tell this car dealer that we were dating so he'd give her car more service.
When we're together she acts like a perfectly fine loving gf, but I heavily feel like she's just a user.
Nta but 100% a hoe.
Don’t tolerate shit like this. Regardless what you think she would be fuming if you were texting female acquaintances, getting gifts from them behind her back.
When a woman enters a relationship the only man she should be entertaining is the one she calls her boyfriend/husband.
You’ve also admitted she’s manipulative in your post here
>led on a cargay so she could get extras.
That’s manipulation. It wouldn’t be crazy to assume she acts like this to you as you suspect, in fact it would be crazy to assume she’s not. What you are experiencing is gut instinct. Learn to trust it man. It’s gotten our species through hundreds of thousands years of existence on this planet.
I understand.
tbh I should have ended the relationship when I started getting sus vibes, but she acts very loving when we're together and it made me think that her actions = I'm safe.
Is there any way to catch her just so I have no doubt?
>needs to have 100% confirmation
Look bro I know exactly what you mean and how you feel. The fear is simple, you worry you’ll leave her and always question if you were right unless you catch her with a wiener in her throat.
Simply put, that isn’t it. There’s a few things to say about this.
1.) you probably won’t find proof. These women are scary good at hiding shit. Even if you got a sliver of proof she would gaslight you with this fricking insane conviction that you’re the crazy one. Such a strong conviction you would begin wondering if she actually believes what she did isn’t cheating.
2.) if you have to question whether you can trust her she isn’t the one. It’s that simple, and it requires no further thought. If you don’t intrisinctly (can’t ducking spell today you know the word) and inherently trust her to your core and just know she’s not like that, then you’d be a fool to waste time on her. You never will trust her, and staying with her is a complete waste of time.
3.) just to reiterate, she’s not the one. If you need proof and start thinking that way, thats your cue to end it if the issue of trust wasnt enough. I can promise you right now even if you got hard tangible proof like you had 5 gopros mounted on your body and snuck into her house while she was fricking another man, had it all on video, and also had a key logger on her phone and computer and had more than enough evidence, she would not admit it. She would in fact find some moronic way to twist the blame into you with no logic and stand by that. Its just done dude.
4.) you can buy an identical Apple iPhone charger which has a key logger and transmits the data up to like 15 miles away to another device for fairly cheap and she would never know. I’m saying this to give you the option of making the correct choice, which is to not invest any further and to learn to trust yourself, that’s part of being a man. You dont need proof. You need to trust gut&self respect
>male friends
No such thing and I say this as a homo. They use us just as much as straights. Women fricking suck, dood. If she ain't drooling over you she ain't it. Sorry.
Women seem to be more affected by guilt. A lot of guys deny this when they see women cheating without apparent emotional conflict, but that’s just because women are better at rationalizing stuff. For example she might have convinced herself that you’ve given her permission to do whatever or she’s otherwise justified- maybe there are poor decisions you made which allow her to do some ‘self care’, etc. If you see her making rationalizations it could imply she feels guilt for something. If you get resentful text messages at 3am on a Saturday it means she feels a lot of guilt. We love people for what we do for them, not as much vice versa
guinness and a double jameson, barkeep
we were together 5 years. broke up 2 months ago. im still a wallowing piece of shit and she is going out every friday and saturday night with her group of bawd friends. typical roasties, they all grew up rich and spoiled and have aborted more fetuses than africa.
i decided to call her the other night because im a pathetic cuck
>”what do you want, anon?”
>”idk, i just wanted to talk to you”
>hear a male voice in the background
>”in here or in the bedroom haha”
>silence for 2 seconds, felt like eternity
>”goodbye, anon”
>she hangs up
>proceeds to get railed by some bar chad for hours while she forgets about me
i wasn’t cut out of masculinity, anons. im a pussy. seriously considering an hero
I don’t get this.
The feeling like you miss an ex, even a prostitute, is normal you bonded with her. Even wanting to call her is normal (you did this because you had a sliver of hope left in you).
But when you’ve essentially be spat on… you decide to an hero? That’s what I don’t get. She’s a useless low value prostitute. Yes it sucks yes I know you’re hurt. But frick her. If not for any other reason, attain happiness in spite of this shit. Happiness doesn’t come from another person.
You’re only a cuck and weak if you continue like this. Accept it, every man has been in a similar situation at some point, being used by some useless c**t and discarded like trash. Let yourself be a sad homosexual for another month, then move on. Block and ghost she’s dead to you.
Improve. Get your physique on point. If you’re not lean right now that comes first. Get to 12%. Then focus on building mass. Build a good body, be in good shape.
Then get your money up. Idgaf how you gotta do it, whether you have to sell powdered drywall to homeless people or work 3 jobs. Get your money up.
You will run into her and realize “what the frick is wrong with me? I was sad over THAT? Lmfao”
I went through this this year and all I could do was laugh at my old self for being where you are now. Don’t let some literal walking hole win dude. When you feel like shit everyone who hates you wins.
>mandatory watching
Patrice O’Neal. Watch his comedy and podcast clips. Everything. Watch it.
To quote, ask yourself what you’re really losing here. Sex? This is like losing your favorite pen. There’s millions of other even better pens. Your life still continues with very little change once it’s gone.
thanks for the words, anon. she was my first love so i imagine my going through all of this for the first time is making it much worse than it really is.
i miss her so much. her toxicity made me feel so alive, now nothing. i’m clearly lacking in self sustainability so i know that gym+work is the way to go but frick bro, how do i lift for an hour + cardio for 30 minutes while all i think about is her creaming for some other guy? it pisses me off so much and that anger immediately turns into depression once i realize it’s reality. i feel like im a fricking hole trying to claw myself out and theres just nothing to grab onto
>she was my first love so i imagine my going through all of this for the first time is making it much worse than it really is
Okay that makes more sense. Yeah dude that’s exactly it. I went through this at age 21 with my first, the girl I mentioned laughing at myself about. Now, if I dislike a woman and I know I will be all alone if I leave her it’s nothing for me to cut them off.
You’ll be okay dude. You’ll feel sad for a while, but eventually stand up on your own two feet and realize your life goes on. And gain confidence knowing you don’t need a b***h to be happy.
>feel like I’m a hole
I’ve been there. One mistake I made was hyper focusing and living in the past. Find new things to focus on, hobbies, new skills, etc. and through them accomplish shit. Sounds cliche but that’s all that helped me stand up in the hole and eventually climb out of it.
And I don’t say this to discourage, but to be realistic, you will have to get new pussy at some point. It just helps. It’s better if you can bond with a new woman. Date, or hookup, or even go to an Asian massage parlor if you must. Give yourself a few months to feel sad and start improving things though.
Also, meditate and introspection when you feel shitty about this.
thanks anon. i appreciate it
>Glass of red , give me Italy...
>mfw wanted to stay cozy at night today and after few sips went berserk on the phone at my contact list to check what's going on today
Other than that , emotionally exhausted , I really hope to get a bro night out today with no girls and so cringe as it sound but honestly , I can't remember when I watched a heavy crush and I just want my "bro's moment" to vent , to do my bro shits without the girls for a bit , like a small cozy setting of doing shit , Im praying he will not invite them today....
1 Timothy 5:23 KJV
Drink no longer water, but use a little wine for thy stomach's sake and thine often infirmities.
>don't take it out of context
Happy weekend everyone itt
>emotionally exhausted
and like what Im trying to self is , I feel like Im way too "feeling myself" and I forget to be interested , like genuine interest in the "other half" that I feel like "Damn , why didn't I ask?" type of way....its just make me frustrating to some point but Im coping with knowing I did my best , could I made it better ? yes , no doubt... but it is what is , I shouldn't be crying on a spilled milk , at least not today.
>I will probably cry it to my bros later that night
baka
also...
>no bar theme
did we get a new bartender or what ?
ok anons, if you got a gf or a wife pls tell me how meet. I don't know where to meet women for long term relationships.
how you two met*
frick im moronic.
I had endless bad dates on Tinder until eventually I found a girl who made me happy and I made her happy. And we’ve just been together ever since. Dating is like digging for gold, you have to go through a lot of rocks and dirt before you get to the good stuff. Persistence is key, just go on lots of dates with lots of girls.
how did you know when you struck gold?
We went out to a concert after dating for a few months, and she asked me if she was my girlfriend now, and I said “of course!” Before that I was pessimistic about finding love, because so many girls I had met either took advantage of me or led me on. But in a moment I realized how sweet she really was and how we always were happy when we were together.
Just do it. Treat it like a video game. Optimize your self and your profile for swipes and dates. Track the stats, read the meta, all that stuff. I’m not saying it’s fun all the time or it makes you feel warm and fuzzy to just be a vector in some machine learning algorithm. But it’s the best way to meet lots of girls that man has ever devised. It’s just that the bar has been solidified. Before girls only compared you to the locals. Now they compare you to everyone. But I really believe every average guy can become above average in the eyes of girls if they just put in the effort to be fit, dress well, have good manners, make good conversation, have their own interests they can share, things like this.
You can’t choose what era you’re born in, you just have to make the most of it. Nobody really loves online dating, that’s just how the world works now. Trust me when I say it’s worth it to find someone you really love.
>Just do it. Treat it like a video game.
It's not that I'm skeptical of it's efficacy or worry I'll get BTFO by chad or something, I just have no desire to do it.
My therapist used the words "demisexual" and "demiromantic" to describe me. They're gay words made up by tumblr homosexuals and I hate them, but I admit the concept they embody sums up my life accurately.
>Demisexual: no sexual desire without romantic attachment
>Demiromantic: no romantic attachment without philial attachment
The hottest woman on Earth could walk into my room right now and say "benis me in bagina" and I'd probably hit her with "no way gay". Likewise she could ask me on a date and the answer would still be "no way gay". However if she introduced herself and we spent the next several weeks building a friendship, then maybe I'd agree to that date.
> But in a moment I realized how sweet she really was and how we always were happy when we were together.
This is inspirational anon. I'm glad you've found happiness 🙂 I'm back in the dating world after a long hiatus. I hope I find someone like you have.
wagmi
People tell me to do online dating.
I have literally zero desire to go on a date with somebody I haven't met in person before.
Likewise I have literally zero desire to go on a first date with someone I won't go on a second date with.
My wife loves me. We have 2 beautiful kids. But I want to frick other people from time to time. I'm getting sexually interested in muscular women and twinks and my wife is neither of them.
I'm not going to cheat, but I do feel guilty knowing the things I jerk off too are not her. I've gaslit myself into thinking she'd probably hate it if I jerked off to a woman that looked like her, so jerking off to bodies that are not like hers are fair game since it's just my imagination.
I still love her and we have great sex. I just have a few kinks I've never gotten the chance to try. Part of me knows it's not worth the effort. The twink will shit on my dick and the muscle mommy won't be sexually stimulating enough. But my penis brain still wants to try it
A good nut lasts 10 seconds, but that one nut can ruin a lifetime of happiness. It’s normal to have sexual thoughts about people other than your partner. As long as you only act on these thoughts in a healthy way don’t feel guilty about them.
True. Part of me just wishes I got it out of my system before I tied the knot. I'm very happy with my life as is and I don't want to risk losing it. If I did I'd probably kms tbh, especially over something stupid like this. I'd like to somehow get her permission or simply just continue jerking off.
I just hope I don't get drunk and do something terrible stupid. Which is unlikely. Idk maybe I'm making it more of a problem than it is.
Like you said, jerking off to other people isn't a crime and is a healthy alternative to cheating
Yeah I fricked a lot before I got married and I still feel this way. Every guy wants to frick that doesn’t change just because you put a ring on someone’s finger. I think all women know guys watch porn and it doesn’t really bother them, but every woman will leave you if you cheat on them, so just stick to porn and you’ll be fine.
Thanks. Really helped me get my head back in the game
You’re welcome anon we all forget our priorities sometimes
Never know why married guys with children start being a homosexual and ruin lives other than just their own
I live by the principle that when put in a testing situation like this, it's preferable to feel regret than resentment.
Before you do anything hasty though, is it the different body type you're craving, or just sexual novelty in general? Have you tried spicing things up with your wife? I would say there's an argument to be made that cheating is justified but only when your partner can't or won't meet your needs. Try all above-board avenues first.
Dont do it anon. I am recently married, no children so far. Everybody has these thoughts I guess, but harems are for emperors in this day and age, cant afford them if youre married.
Life is great. Work is great. Really been getting some serious redpills at work recently.
>you don’t have to be a smart person to make good decisions
>you can accomplish years of personal growth and life progress in a couple months if you try
Also learned that a lot of my failures were due to cowardice in the past. Being afraid of saying no to a girl, or afraid of asking someone out who could make my life better, or afraid of applying for a dream job for fear of being rejected. Doesn’t matter now.
Main ongoing issue to is to cut increasingly addictive media out of my life. Also I need to figure out how to be less boring. I just work, read, exercise, cook, and on weekends try to get into the outdoors. But I don’t party or anything and I imagine that’d be an impediment to furthering a relationship.
Am I the only one like this or what? It has to be an epidemic and I feel insanity creeping in
>live in major metro area with plenty of people
>few friends/no real social circle to meet women. I do try and be more social
>dating apps are a disaster
>walk around busy places during the day hoping to see a pretty girl
>hardly see any pretty girls ever, maybe 1-2 per week. I approach them and the going rejection rate is staggering even as a fit lesser version of Sean Connery
>going out at bars at night alone is equally as bad
>look up social groups to join, all polluted by fat women
>only place I see pretty girls is at the gym
>blown the frick out by 1 I tried to talk to
>continue just perpetually walking around aimlessly in a rotation of busy areas under the guise of light cardio while actually just wanting to meet women
The odds of getting a date with a non whale girl as an above avg fit guy is about 1 in 30. Sex, 1 in 75-100. No matter how much I improve game
Are you doing anything to increase the likelihood of rejection? I know it sounds like a stupid question but a lot of guys are scared of the responsibility and vulnerability associated with dating so kind of set themselves up for failure. Or it is also gratifying to feel like the problem must be everyone else if you’re doing your ‘best’, that your lack of success isn’t your fault -> it’s soothing to look for excuses sometimes.
Nah it's really just that the odds are very bad for everyone who needs day game to meet women. When dating coaches stop shilling and be honest on youtube, they will admit the same thing, like 100 approaches for 5 or so dates.
I've had some success, had an 8/10 fwb/situationship for 8 months. That was probably a 1 in 1000 chance. Been with 10-12 girls (most of those met at night though). So these results are far better than the average guy, yet still insanely ineffective. 1000+ approaches over many years to get what Chad has in a month
What’s the fundamental issue here? For example:
>the majority of women in my city are overweight
>the majority of women are afflicted by mental neuroses or self-destructive attitudes which often require medication
>the majority of women have different interests than me so I find it hard to meet and connect with them emotionally
>there are not many women here
>other factors render the majority of women unavailable or unattractive to me
If you figure out what the issue is you can solve it
In my town whales are too high status for me as a fit as frick poor gay. Only big fat bearded cigar smoking Shrek Santa Clause tattooed thug gorilla guys get pussy in my small southwest shithole
I've said this a million times: being fit and attractive in the Midwest/South is a detriment to your dating life. The women are eye fricking you and are fantasizing about you, but they'll never actually date you because they know you'd require their asses to put in effort. Right down to finding something to do that isn't drinking at X place or gossip about Y thing.
Nta but elaborate or lmk if I’m accurate because I’ve suspected what you sis to be the case, living in the south.
Yo using just mean effort as in, their health and looks. But effort into the relationship, yes?
I’ve noticed many fat, out of shape, plain hideous men with no special personality or anything, are with women out of their leagues often. And as I’ve gotten closer to the individuals and observed more I’ve noticed it’s no different form an ugly guy with a gay ugly girl. The guys are living doormats and just take disrespect and accept no boundaries, sometimes even forgive cheating. I know one guy who walked in on his GF of years from highschool fricking his best friend in his bed and he forgave her, they just had a kid. For example. Guy is a fat frick, girl isn’t anything special but far out of his league. I could share 50+ similar examples form people I personally know on a close level alone. It’s everywhere I look.
Is that what you meant by effort?
1. Are you ESL or drunk? Str8 up, your spelling sux.
2. Your body immediately let's others know you have standards. A narc by normie standards. As such, it's not too crazy to think that you have standards regarding your life. Midwest/Southern women go with guys you describe because those men, at the time, seem like the best option when the woman is under 25. He is "a real man". Then they get older and suddenly realize they haven't coomed in like 7 years. They haven't really felt an attraction to the fat frick. But at least they live nice. Eventually it gets to a point where they accept their lives and become the boomer stereotypical "wife bad" or sometime in their 30s or 40s divorce the frick and take his shit. Usually turning into even bigger prostitutes than before. Ain't no freaky pussy like 40 something divorced woman pussy.
>something divorced woman
She has eluded me, zoomerbros, but the MILF hunter will prevail mark my words. I drove 100 miles I paid 100 bucks for the hotel and got stood up because her kid son did wah wah wah I got stood up. But I want that MILF man. I want her.
Do it. I'm kicking myself for leaving mine in June because my mind was fricked due a shit job. b***h was into BDSM (had a flogger), we fricked everywhere (even in her backyard), and literally made out with my anus. Add in the fact she was a DUDE WEED... I dun fricking goofed.
I don't understand how dating comes so easily to so many. I see so many guys in the street, in lectures or in my friend group who just happen to have a beautiful loving gfs. The kinds of guys who have trouble sticking to a proper sleep schedule, quitting cigs or doing uni work in time. Let alone sticking to a diet, working out regularly, having an ambitious career and so on.
I know there is more to attracting partners than ticking boxes, but it seems most of these people have generally fricked up lives in one way or another. And it's not like they go out of their way to meet women either. Women just appear in their life and fall for them.
Somedays I feel like there is something massively wrong with me that friends in family just politely not mention to me.
Dating is a skill. Just like when you first learn baseball you can’t make it on base, when you start talking to girls they won’t even acknowledge you. You have to practice and takes lots of losses to get good. But it’s worth it to get good. No life is complete without a beautiful and kind woman.
How to get girls to like you is not a secret. It still takes effort though. You have to do the obvious things like be clean, be trustworthy, get in good shape, dress well, know how to talk to her and know how to structure a good date. All these things are public knowledge though. You can’t expect to know how to do math without going to school right, even though you need to add numbers every day? It’s the same with dating and love. The problem is that boomers pretend you’re supposed to know all this stuff instinctively. Don’t listen to them, you need to study and practice just like anything else.
I am all those things you mentioned tho. I'm in better shape than anybody I know, dress decently, have a good career, hobbies, even plenty of friends so my social skills aren't complete garbage
>Dating is a skill. Just like when you first learn baseball you can’t make it on base, when you start talking to girls they won’t even acknowledge you. You have to practice and takes lots of losses to get good. But it’s worth it to get good. No life is complete without a beautiful and kind woman.
But that kinda is my point. All of these guys who seem like imcompetent morons with little social skills somehow manage to do this? Also I know so many guys who just stumbled their way into a relationship
>know how to structure a good date
I had a date this week where I had something fun planned, but she gave some bullshit excuse to go get a coffee instead and of course never talked to me again afterwards
>I am already le perfect guy
>that’s why I’m posting in le feels thread on reddit.com/r/tfwnogf
Really makes you think
As you have correctly mentioned, you don't need to be perfect to get a gf. In fact, get rid of any kind of mindset where you do stuff to "earn" a gf. By all means set goals in your life and achieve them through progressive checklist style milestones. But you can't level up stats until you unlock a girlfriend.
What you get wrong is thinking that "women just appear in their life". I guarantee you that each and every one of them made some kind of effort to expose themselves to more people, talk to people, build rapport, whatever. You might end up meeting a gf in unexpected circumstances but unless she's an Amazon or Uber Eats delivery driver, she's not going to come knocking on your door.
I don't really find joy in much of anything anymore, I'm just trying to find things that piss me off/annoy me the least.
I'm also not a fan of drinking anymore.
>I'm also not a fan of drinking anymore
Ouch. Looks like anhedonia. Shit's serious.
Went on a date with a girl. It was moderately fun, but it didn't feel sexual at all. She didn't even let me kiss her goodbye. Still, she said she hopes to see me again and messaged me few days later. I dunno bros. I want to lay pipe because it's Tinder but she's given me nothing to work with
That’s how tinder works. If she lets you smash immediately it’s indicative of low self esteem on her part, and by proxy low value. The value of something is what you’re willing to pay for it -> you kind of trick yourself into pursuing a relationship with a girl if she can string you along for long enough without sex. Maybe I’m wrong.
Go on more dates but use your critical thinking to decide whether you actually want to date her, or if you see any other sneaky tricks. For example subtle insults, or an outward lack of affection and rejection of advances.
>If she lets you smash immediately it’s indicative of low self esteem on her part,
There was this one girl who went on a date with me on Wednesday. She let me finger her and all but then called it a day. So I asked her out immediately on Friday and this time we smashed. She didn't even stay the night. Women logic
Obviously if she lets you finger her pussy hours after you met she won’t let you frick the next time you meet, duh! Men are so stupid.
What I mean is that she could have fricked me the first time and be done with it
Don’t try to make sense of women anon you’ll give yourself an aneurysm just roll with it
Probably bad sex or she was cheating on someone. Don't bother with trying to figure it out. You got laid and that's all that matters
I disagree, if she's letting you smash on the first date that means you're a chad in her eyes. You always hear that chad smashes on the first date, so if that's not you then you're not chad.
You should be looking to get some kind of play on the first date and a clear connection that leads into a second date. She should be the one excited to date you, rather that you being the first one to initiate the second date.
If you have to put in all the effort, and you didn't get laid, then she's not the one for you
>foreplay?
>I just stick in it and let ride for dear life
>never fails
>never fails
Everytime I attempted foreplay I had the woman erupt in outrage and she hopped on shoving it in pinning my arms down from groping her.
I tease at it like oh yeah I'm about to finger...
MOUNTED
Oh yeah Im about to kiss her dicky-
MOUNTED
Hello Rabbi
On dating apps if you're not having sex on the first night, someone else is. Why would you settle for a woman who won't frick you on the first night when she has let other guys frick on the first night?
Let's be real. This isn't a teenage love virginity story. All girls on dating apps are not virgins. So therefore it's better to find girl who wants to immediately jump your bones rather than put in the effort into a girl who wants to make you wait for it.
I know for a fact that girl that is making you wait 3 dates for sex, has had sex on the first night before with someone else.
Plot twist: im also having sex on the first date with someone else and the woman knows that and the whole female perception is distorted by the Chad harem ripples
>Woman doesn't want to put out on the first date
>sneaky tricks
Mental illness. Women have no incentive to want to have sex with random men on the first date. Why risk STDs and pregnancy from a man you don't even know?
>It's not that I'm skeptical of it's efficacy or worry I'll get BTFO by chad or something, I just have no desire to do it.
Based.
>My therapist used the words "demisexual" and "demiromantic" to describe me.
Dump your shit therapist. That's just the average normal person who isn't a bawd.
But I get what you're saying. Plenty of men and women are like this. Stop using saying apps and start getting involved in things that force human interaction. Clubs, committes, sports, etc. I started co-ed kickboxing and got laid in a month from an 8/10 qt. What are you into?
>She's the prostitute
You're a nasty fricking prostitute for being involved. Admit your sins to the man you fricked over. Then have a nice day.
If by date 3 you haven't at least made out, move on.
>be at college library
>cute girl passes me notes
>write back on the note
>time is up and I cant give it back to her
>wow she is so cute I cant wait to make her mine to make her my gf
>hold on to the note for a month
>everytime I see her in passing she is too far to hand the note
>this time I barge into her classroom and hand her the note
>"Anon, you didnt finish your phone number! Its missing a digit!"
>NANI?
>that same night she takes me out to a bar
>"b-but I c-can't d-do gluten"
>frick its so over
>"cider bar is the only gluten free bar in town! Family works here so you get a discount <3"
>"wow"
>she takes up by the resort and smooches me on the skyline cityscape horizon
>takes me to her place and bangs me on every furniture every position even standing
>"wow anon youre so strong"
>"um my sister will be home any minute you have to go!"
>"also Anon...I have to confess..I'm in an open relationship"
>OwO.jpg
>i'm the side homie?.qte
> </3.jpg
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And then she ghosted me for 3 weeks inexplicably and I have not heard from her since.
It’s okay anon, just be glad it happened. Girls will break your heart sometimes.
I rawdogged and nutted inside on her first day of her period
I got cubital tunnel syndrome,
this fricking sucks bros. I must have fricked something up when I did preacher curls or hammer curls.
Any anons have experience with this? I have pins and needles on my pinky and outer half of my ring finger.
How do I get over this?
I learned where my stage fright and social anxiety stems from. But I don’t know how to overcome it other than trying to ngaf and let people feel however they want about me as long as I do what I want.
>Be like 5 years old at a camp, field trip to pool
>3 diving boards, small, medium, and big
>at time big looked huge, already did medium and was also a swimmer on a team so pretty damn confident
>waiting in line
>3 older guys cut in front of me, at the time looked like college students but were probably 8th/9th graders
>told them I was next and they can’t cut me
>start instantly teasing and being mean to me
>start sarcastically encouraging me to prove them wrong calling me a baby
>literally feel nothing but confidence
>okay Black folk watch this
>climb 3/4ths way to top, they watch quietly then start saying I’m gonna fall and heckling me and shit just going in being super mean
>fricking look down
>all confidence is gone, shaking uncontrollably
>they start laughing at me
>climb down and cry
And that’s where it stems from. Also doesn’t help taht later that day while swimming some Black person a couple years older than me, probably 10 years old, jumped in the pool without ever having swam and did the whole over the top freaking out that black people do in the most inappropriate situations, clawed his nignails into my skin and put and arm around me neck to try and climb on top of me. Made me nearly drown until I punched him off of me and got to the she and spit up all the water I swallowed. None of the camp counselors have a shit and coddled him because he was still flailing about while I was spitting up water coughing my lungs out.
It was just a traumatic day in general and I think it had lasting effects on me but idk how to unfrick this even with this knowledge/realization
Since a lot of you guys are having girl problems I recommend reading this book. It’s super basic but it’s obvious a lot of you don’t even know the basic stuff. It covers everything you need to know really from sex differences to dating to sex and long term relationships.
Sazerac. I’m a work from home psychiatrist making bank. Got 4 more patients to chat with while I lift between appointments. Got a nice weekend lined up going out with wife’s friends then just chilling. Feeling great! Also adderall just kicked in
How'd you get into that, anon? I'm curious.
Went to med school, became a psychiatrist, COVID happened and opened up all these telepsych companies. Now I sit at home making $200/hr facetiming. I hope it lasts forever. I have a real comfy home office set up
minor crisis over not being able to bench ever again
how to fix shoulder impingement
I've fallen in love again and I feel like a sappy teenager. I'm 29.
I keep thinking of her. I wake up, I think of her, I go to sleep, I think of her. On the way to work I see her smile in the snow crystals on the trainwindow. At work I imagine smelling her perfume and I can feel a jolt going through me. I want to scream it out to the world, "I love you. I love you. I love you". I used to date girls, and I thought of them as "Something with potential, maybe it will hold maybe it won't". I spend time with her and I can only think "I don't ever want to lose you until I die". Sitting at home I get restless, just thinking about holding her in my arms again, holding her hand, kissing her hair. I need her. And I need her to need me.
Am I weird for having sex with my older cousin?
Ewww, yes that's weird.
You should be fricking your younger cousin.
My bpd is becoming worse. Again I isolated myself from the few people I talked too. Working long hours just to come home tired and study again. Day after day, I tell myself to not give up and keep fighting but I cant help wishing for all of it to stop. After winter I will have enough money to buy a motorcycle. Planning to ride it like a madman enjoy myself and then have a silly accident where it all ends. My family will be sad but hey atleast I didnt kill myself. Nor will I go to hell since it was just an accident
Lifted this morning for the first time since my double hernia repair in early November.
I feel invincible.
Slide me a sugar free pepsi, barkeep.
Gym is going ok. Progressing on bench. Had never tried in the past. 205 @ 3x5 the other night. Home life still pretty miserable. Wife is a c**t. Can't stand her.
Got a substantial raise at work though. Also expecting a year end bonus.
Talk me out of getting into a relationship with a girl I've stolen from another guy
I know what a fricking prostitute she is. The shit she did with me while still being together with her former bf made me feel bad for him and I know she'll do it again because she's just such a fricking prostitute it makes me sick
You should give her a chance maybe you’re special to her
Don’t do it, I lied to punish you so you would do better in the future.
You said it yourself dude don’t be a moron how are you even posting this shit. She’ll do the same shit to you, they always do. Just cut her off, and in the future don’t get involved with another man’s woman. You should be more than capable of getting single pussy. It’s not worth the risks, it’s not worth being the reason that guy feels like shit even if most of the blame is on her. You don’t know how unhinged the other guy is, you don’t know close to snapping he may be. Even if you actually know him well you still don’t know. It’s simply not worth it. Maybe the guy shoots and kills you and the girl, maybe he offs himself. It’s not worth a bit of pussy.
Cut her off and do better in the future. Or date her and learn your lesson for real, make amends to the guy you cucked by going through it too.
If you're aware she's an unfaithful prostitute then that should be reason enough. That said, what was her reason for sleeping with you in the first place? Was she just looking for some strange or were there deep-seated issues in her relationship that drove her to you? It doesn't justify it at all, and you should still be wary, but having some context would help a lot.
>That said, what was her reason for sleeping with you in the first place
I don't know, I'm a sperg and was fat as shit for the longest time. I have no experience with women so after losing weight she started talking to me. I wasn't interested because she had a bf and it's fricked up but damn I've been lonely all my life and getting hit on repeatedly by a cute girl made me weak.
You and
are right. I'll ghost her
>go to ex co-workers birthday dinner
>it's fine, but everybody leaves early cus weekday
>me, her and another ex coworker (thot) stay late talking
>they start bringing up politics
>they are center right, I'm far right but I be chillin u feel me
>hit them with "women shouldn't work, men should provide for them"
>they kind of spaz but they respect my opinion
>not interested in them romantically so idgaf and say wtf I want
>none the less they say it was fun and we should all get coffee sometime
>"yeah yeah, sure!"
>text my ex coworker friend months later
>"hey what's up, let's go get coffee or somnthing
>ghosts me for maybe a month? maybe two I didn't check lol
>"well, guess she's not so tolerant, must've been that lmao"
>Today she replies:" hey sorry for the hold up! Are you free this weekend or next week?"
Pretty weird I think. She has (or had) a bf that was at her birthday party. Maybe something happened. He was one of those "firm" handshake dudes. If you don't know what that means, it means they are consciously trying to be assertive and show confidence, which in turn has the opposite effect. You are just insecure but wtv.
I'm very not attracted to her, like at all, even though she looks alright I guess.
What's going on here? I think (pretty sure) her friend was hitting on me and she was very hot but I didn't engage and then she got a bf. Idc because she was a kind of a thot anyways.
>snake in the grass thinks he isn't seen
When the negative shit hits, and it will, just know you will deserve everything that you get. You ain't fooling nobody.
>men and women friends? lolno.
My parents have started their sundowning phase and I am conflicted about it. They’re doddering, angrier, ruder, and just so unpleasant to be around. Both of them repeat themselves constantly and infantilize everyone (they described in vivid detail how to drain water from a pan to my girlfriend). It’s just worrisome. I don’t want to see them degenerate like this before my eyes; I need to get the frick out of this house. I don’t want to hate them.
Similar shit bro. I need to move the frick out.
I have the double ended dildo fricking me of my parents refusing to ever allow me any freedom or responsibility growing up, never giving me a chance to even frick up or make mistakes to give them a reason to do that in the first place. Just coddling the confidence out of me. Doing the opposite with my sister, encouraging her to do everything she wanted like party hang with friends date get a job and move out at age 23 (father even paid half her bills for a few years), letting her frick up and learn from mistakes.
And now I’m 29 still living at home, being heavily persuaded to stay and heavily shit on if I ask for advice about moving out, I guess as the designated care taker who doesn’t get to have a life, but also being made to feel like a burden for not leaving the nest, and being compared to my sister. None of this is to even mention my state has average rents in the $2000s while having low wages the same as an area like North Carolina or tennessee where rent is closer to $1000 on average.. only reason my sister is even still moved out is she met a guy who’s mom lets him rent her vacation apartment for $500.
And then on top of it I have to watch them age and it fricks with me the same ways that you mentioned. I used to wonder how my cousins just left the state and barely speak to my aunt and uncle but now I get it.
The prices are what’s getting me. I am doing certificates just so I can afford to eventually move out. All avenues for a regular joe shut them out of independence.
It’s pretty fricked. I take it you feel the same way as me about roommates too. Not much of an option to me. I want my own place. My goal right now is to have enough saved that I could be okay losing $5000-$10,000 towards making ends me for a few years until I’m making enough money to not have to touch my savings, while also never having my savings dip below $30k. Unless I can get a high enough paying job first.
The other part that’s fricking me is I can’t find a job. No one’s hiring and it’s infuriating. I feel like a mouse stuck on a glue trap which is inside a hole in the ground but I just know there’s cheese outside the hole and I could climb that hole if I could get off this fricking glue trap. I’m prepared to work 2-3 jobs do 80 hours a week if I must. But I need to get hired somewhere to do that.
I think I would be okay with a roommate, but the prices just for a room are completely stupid at the moment. 750-900 to live with some psychopath? Frick that. At least with my parents it’s not that expensive, and I have some money to put to the side. But the complete lack of privacy (my door doesn’t have a lock) is really taxing on an adult.
I guess you put my feelings into perspective. I WOULD live with a roommate, even multiple ones. If the pricing wasn’t still absurd. Normal rent for my own place is what I would be paying to have roommates and encounter all the usual roommate issues. I could deal with roommates if I was paying $400, maybe even $700. In my area it’s still one be $1000+ Though which is fricking gay. Frick face has people over constantly, has a b***hy GF who is there 24/7 and doesn’t pay rent, touches my food, makes and leaves mess, then turns around and b***hes at me because I had a couple friends over one time? I’m not dealing with that for $1000+
That’s the worst case scenario, but it’s also extremely common to hear that from people with roommates. The only thing we can do now is get some marketable skills and find a job that can sustain us. Good luck, anon. We’ll get there eventually.
That’s the thing, the vast majority of people I know with roommates only have bad stories to share. Very few have chill ones.
Oh well, as you said. Best we can do is find some skill which will, either immediately, or down the line with experience, pay enough to live on our own.
Kind of crazy that this is where most people are in life while our parents were already owning a house or saving for one, family already started, at our age..
You've posted about your family in a /feels/ thread before, right? I'll repeat my advice to you: get out of there, live your life, and frick their "disappointment".
I think what I hate most though, is never having any 100% alone time. I never have the house to myself. I have to drive to a park or something and lay down in my car to clear my head, speak aloud to myself. I can’t date or anything living like this.
It dawned on my recently that I've actually never lived alone. Kinda depressing. *walks out to garage*
Many such cases. Most people hate themselves to such a degree that they avoid being alone at all costs and instead choose to frick up their lives in an unconscious manner
Ignore the other anon. I’m fairly certain he’s the sled loathing /LULZ/ sperg who enters this thread every weekend to shit post to cope with his life, same one telling the suicidal anon to do it.
If you want change you gotta work for it. Everything is fricked up right now cost wise, but that doesn’t change that you gotta work for it. Take 2 jobs, go back to school, start a business, get some online certs, whatever you gotta do. And that’s if you even actually do want to live alone.
Why don’t you (you) me homosexual.
If you were capable of properly reading you would know that I didn’t tell the other anon to kill himself. I merely called him a pathetic attention prostitute. Guess how I know he is one? Because I’ve known several people who killed themselves and several who just made stupid claims they were going to for attention. The ones that actually did it didn’t say shit which the ones that didn’t simply cried about it for attention and if they “attempted” suicide it was via a method that is clearly not lethal. You are clearly one of the normies who hates themselves and can’t be alone hence why you even got triggered by my post
>proves my point, proceeds to scramble to grasp at straws to save face
>wahhh wahhh all my friends are dead, makes me want to edge (yeah), all my friends are dead, I think it’s time to edge (yuh) I-I’m an expert on this a-and [insert pathetic sniveling b***hing]
Lol uhhh suck my fricking dick down to the gooch and lick the crusted shit from my butthole homosexual.
I’m sorry this wasn’t cool. I don’t like when people use the dead as ammo.I take it back, even if I still disagree on the other stuff
I have to get 2 teeth extracted in 5 days and I’m scared. I fricking hate the dentist. Not mine in oarticular, just the whole practice. I’ve been scared of it my entire life. Please help bros. Does it hurt? Does it take long? They’re just normal molars, I never got wisdom teeth. 22m, 6’2, 201 lbs, white, 6 inches. Happy holidays frens. Seriously though somebody help me.
I've had a couple molars extracted due to impacted wisdom teeth jutting into the nerve and cracking the teeth from the gumline (which, incidentally, was the worst pain of my life). It's honestly more weird than painful - your oral surgeon absolutely will not do the procedure unless you are at the very least numbed, and they often recommend getting nitrous so you're out of it anyway. The worst part of the entire procedure is the next couple of days, and only because the healing process is unpleasant as frick since you're limited on what you can eat. But all in all, it's not a nightmarish experience.
stop crying homosexual
Shut up lil homie
Gimme a frickin' vodka.
I'm losing bodyfat at a steady rate, but due to my frickin' childhood obesity (basically around 23 years of being a fat frick) it's taking forever. I mean, I'm a LOT better than I was before, and I ain't gonna quit. Really just debating if I should get liposuction or some shit since it's not like I'm quitting anything, just speeding it up. But I also heard it destroys fat cells when it shouldn't and that's how people end up fatter after it.
>tfw you have epilepsy
>slowly drawing away from gf
>drawing closer to mistress
>hot coworker and I are going for drinks tonight
>other coworker has been shamelessly hitting on me, which I do the bare minimum to maintain just in case I ever want an easy bj
>slowly being overwhelmed by all these women
>only able to get to gym 2 times a week lately due to active social life with all these women
Literally drowning in pussy. Shit's annoying, but I can't stop. Please help.
>read "weekend" in thread title
>realize it's already friday
what am i doing
tfw no gf
also rolling last two digits for handstand pushups
oh shit
I am not coping well with being an expat
I feel like I am wasting my best years
I feel like my drinking rate, which I knocked down quite well first half of the year, will increase, if I cant at the very least change jobs in this country
go home bro, you need to be with your people
yeah
but my friends all got married, and I have not emotionally matured yet due to how privileged and lucky I am
this whole thing is like college 2.0, idk how well I'd do in "real life"
I wish I never did this international experience thing. its a ride you cant stop.
>idk how well I'd do in "real life"
your real life has started, remember that no matter how you feel you have started your real life. There is nothing waiting for you in the future and there is no starting your real life. If you have desires you are saving for the future you should contemplate putting them on your immediate to do list.
I know, but there is always some paper work, some work contract, some dates and times this expat life requires
I need to change jobs in 6 months for example as my company hinted they would not renew my contract and I invested too much of my time here to go back now, so I gotta find a new job before I can go on a vacation, and then settle in, and then take 5 days off max
there goes another year, my 29th age, one of the best years in my life, full of stress, for a fist load of cash. unless I can find a new job asap.
are you in the game as well anon?
Yeah I’ve been digital nomad for a couple of years, haven’t settled down anywhere yet though
Such is expat life anon
If it was easy everyone would do it
Try to stay healthy
This is 100% true
I don’t know what country you’re in anon but something tells me you need to find one in which you can settle and really be happy for yourself as opposed to jumping from country to country
maybe try one where you have ancestry? I just got back to the US from a country I spent three months living and working in (pretty much only because my dumbass company mandated RTO). It was a blast, especially when I started to get much closer with my grandpa from there, actually learn the language, meet girls and so on. Obviously I’m not in a position to speak of paperwork but that place really made me fall in love with life and people. I’m sure there’s a country out there waiting for you that can do that for you
I am at a crossroads in my life. I can see it very plainly, for the first time ever. In the next few weeks I have to decide if I want to continue being a welfare queen for the next 10 years, or if I stop and use the all the training I've received to get a comfy, fully remote job and move to the mountains. I've recently been back to the gym full speed, counting calories, macros, etc etc, getting in shape for my decision. Whichever way I go, I want to be IST while I do it. But I've gotten off course.
Standing at this crossroads I've realized this woman I've come to admire / love isn't the one to go down either path with. She's a broken person, through and through, quite possibly one of the saddest lives I've ever had the displeasure of learning about. Molested and raped for years as a child, and with multiple concussions has rendered her a bit slow. This'd all be fine, but she doesn't want kids. She's been convinced by her side of the internet to not reproduce, and no matter what I say to her she just won't even consider it. That'd be one thing on it's own, as I'm not opposed to adoption, but like I said before, she's utterly incapable. Incapable of what? Well, just about everything. Incapable of holding a job, going anywhere with lots of people, combing her hair, etc.
It's terrible. I can already see her fate the minute I let her go. Even though she was essentially tortured as a child, she still inherently trusts most everyone. Is it naiveté? Is it hope? Is it stupidity? Is it the head trauma? I don't know. But this little urchin has come into my life, admires me, admires my lifting, is amazed when I can pick her up with one hand and lift her over my head. But no matter what I do, she cries every day. Every day.
Every.
Day.
I've tried flowers, poetry, romantic getaways, long camping trips, painting, playing stardew valley, reading books about helping those with trauma process it, and a litany of other things. But no matter what, every day, there are tears
>long camping trips
did she cry on the camping trips?
yes, at night.
I'm a pretty happy guy, always have been. But after two years of this, it's starting to wear on me. Every conversation has turned into why am I not more displaying of love, why am I not a burning fire of romance for her? I've turned to ash, I think, my flames put out by salty tears dropped on account of another. A part of me wants to save this woman, this person. I just know the minute I let her go, she'll run to someone that she 'trusts', and it'll be okay for a week or two, and then she'll be taken advantage of in some way because she's just as dumb as a rock, bless her heart.
Have I been taking advantage of her? Am I not as good of a person as I've always presented myself to be? Am I that man? Am I the new monster in her endless tale of abuse? I don't think I am. I've never hit her, I've never yelled at her, I've always been calm when trying to help heal the reason why the tears are flowing. I've encouraged her to seek therapy, perform physical exercise, go to the gym, get a job, but all of those include meeting lots of people, which is odd, because she inherently trusts most. I just don't know what to do.
I'm left feeling like if I do the right thing and dismiss her from my life, a few years down the road I'll either see her on the news in some violent case, or I'll walk by her on the street, covered in scabs, still clutching at the corpse of her now long-dead dog.
I just don't know, but whichever way I go on this crossroad, she can't come. But she can't stay, either.
It sounds bad, and toxic or whatever, but sometimes women especially young women need to be led in such a way that it’s more like straight up manipulation. You need to decide if you can be a bad person for a good reason. Either put yourself first and let her go, or focus on what’s best for both of you by leading her down the right path through unkind methods. Lie, gaslight, speak in words she does not understand at length until she is certain you are decades ahead of her on the subject, guilt, reward, punish, praise. All these are tools to use for those that we love who have more will than sense. You’ll hate yourself, but when she begins to thrive and is no longer a millstone around your neck you will get over it.
I don't know if I have it in me to do that. I'm tired man. I'm tired. I've been working like a slave for 10 years. I understand relationships are work, but I'm tired of broken people coming to me. I line their cracks with my gold, leaving only a lead core behind.
NTA You have given her love, but it sounds like you no longer love her. The time you invested was not a waste but you now need to move on with your life. She cannot dominate your life for we cannot help others if we ourselves are broken. Her story is unfortunate, and nobody can really know where she has been, what you will probably find is if you do part ways she will find a sudden realisation of what you were to her and she will beg for you to come back. Be careful to not let her ruin you, as a man you must live your own life and you pick the responsiblities you wish to have. Without a child in the future you have nothing to invest from her apart from your own happiness, if you don't even receive that happiness you gain nothing but hurt. Take the step anon, live your life for you and allow her to go into the world, you haven't wasted your time or hurt her, you have only shown her what a real man does, and shown yourself you are capable of bringing light to even the darkest places. Good luck wagmi
Boundaries, motherfricker. Learn to say no to people. You don't need to be a martyr to be a good person.
It sounds like an unhealthy, one sided, and definitely unsustainable relationship.
Don't feel bad for admitting that things aren't working. You can't be her saviour, carer and surrogate parent as well as a lover. Probably you've been conditioned by her to feel this way - crying every day isn't normal, of course her past trauma is an element but it's also incredibly manipulative, even if she's not doing it intentionally.
You deserve better, dude. Break the news to her gently, signpost where she can get help, wish her well and move the frick on.
I had a girl just like that.
Raped molested as a kid. Became a drug addict/alcoholic. We had great connection since I too was raped as a kid and drug addict. The first few months we knew each other I quit drugs and started to be fit while she slowly got off drugs etc. Anyway in the end I made the choice to break it off. I still feel guilt to this day. She was the only person that I sincerely liked but I couldnt fix her and I had to focus on my life. In the enf you have to choose
Gf cheated on me. Found out through other guys insta post. She never told me she wasn’t interested anymore because she “didn’t want to hurt me” lol
>finally think I’ve let her go for good
>(i mean it’s been two years and i’m far more accomplished in life with constant female attention now, she shouldn’t mean anything to me right?)
>have a dream about her
This has happened like six times now
I don’t know why I can’t just move on
I don’t think I’ve felt true love for a woman since then
I'm not doing well. I don't know why I ended up like this
>Tinder bio is suppose to be unimportant
>put some effort into it anyway
>number of my matches drastically inrease
Maybe it's because I put my job in my bio, but hey, it works
you know how when you were writing your college admissions essays and the counselor would say “always have a zinger as your first line, to get their attention right away”
it’s the same thing here
only problem is high school students aren’t capable of “Call me Ishmael” or “All happy families are alike…” or any other genuine zinger that sucked you right into a classic novel
and Tinder b***hes don’t even read novels
all this to say curation is in itself a talent and we as humans tend to be too impatient to recognize that, especially when we wanna bone
Any tips?
Dating apps are pure suicide fuel for me. I'm not even ugly, just bald at 28. And while I'm IST as frick and got lucky that being bald actually looks decent on me, it's obviously not something any women prefers over a full head of hair. It seems like it's one of those instant left swipe criteria for 99% of them.
It's a numbers game. Most matches don't respond or the conversation dies early on. You just gotta press on
As for bio, just put whatever makes you stand out, like your height or your job. Say something positive about the city you live in. Put some of those silly Tinder tags. Being IST should offset being /bald/
>Being IST should offset being /bald/
It doesn't. I'm ISTter than anybody I personally know and not in a roidtroony way, I also have non lifting IST hobbies and so on. The problem is just how dating app selection works imo. To get likes/matches you need some women to REALLY like you. It doesn't matter if 100% of women find you okay, if none of them find you great. So if you have some characteristic like being fat, having a lazy eye, being bald and so on, that is universally unattractive to women you will fail to pass the threshold for essentially all women. Since there is a near endless supply of possible men, any guy that obviously does not fit their general concept of an ideal guy get immediately discarded. Obviously this is not how women operate in real life, but from my experience and what I've read online this is just how OD is.
I switched my preferences from women to men+women based on some anons advice it improves your tinder rank and I get 100 likes in a day from guys and maybe 1 from women.
I'm gonna try and take some better pictures and if that doesn't work I'm probably gonna kill myself lol
Go outside you dumb Black person. Dating apps for women is like porn for men. Complete warped fricked up view of sex, relationships. just people in general. You honestly think you’re going to find something meaningful off an app where you are swiped left or right based on if a woman wants to frick you? im not even ugly but personality matters more, especially in person. immediate text communication is not natural either so “getting to know” someone over an app is fricking moronic. only thing that could work is facetime or phone talk because you at least learn how the person thinks in the present rather than responding to a message 4 hours later after conferring with the bawd group chat
Honestly meant to respond to
but shit applies to all you dating app Black folk
You missed out. Unless you know zoom speak inside and out AND you can advertise yourself, you ain't finding dick. Even gigachads struggle. 2020 was the last year dating apps were usable.
bro just shut your fricking mouth no one gives a flying frick what you have to say
Need a special surgery, but can not afford it due to all surgeons being out of network.
Sad days.
bumping for the sake of advice, idk what to do get the money, it's 8800 and i dont have the credit to get a care card
>special surgery
post gyno breasts
not gyno
bumping for advice, its 8800 and i dont have credit for a care card
Hospitals have payment plans sometimes
I've got a cold coming right as I'm making decent gains again, always the way.
Been drinking a couple premix jd and coke cans.
Got my shifts for xmas/nye lined up, good money and I'm not fussed over any overtime, plus I've got this milf waiting to suck me off on my birthday when I go to Japan next year.
Bretty good I'd say, just need to lose like 7 or 8lbs by april and I'm golden
why is the 10/10 at work feeling me up, complimenting me on gym progress and baking me shit while she has a professional soccer player boyfriend who is also handsome
God I fricking hate this online era of everything. Of course I talk with daily and fell for a girl that works 1000km away from me in a different branch of the company.
At least before you knew that you had only what was available in the village and youd be content beacuse you knew at least they were close.
>new girl at work starts
>20, like 4’10, petite, somehow a big ass
>make you melt kind of smile
>im training her
>she’s smart, catches on fast, fun to be around
>12 hour shifts so shit gets boring
>we end up talking all 12 hours, every day
>for months
>sweet, funny, family oriented, into vidya, computers, and even fitness a bit
>she’s close to perfect
>she eventually gets a new job
>hugs me goodbye, says “you better text me”
>text her after a few days
>talk about her new job
>text daily for about a week
>daily turns into every couple days, every few weeks
>ask her how everything is, tell her i wished we talked more like we used to
>”anon, i met a guy at work and he’s really nice. he’s my boyfriend now and he isn’t comfortable with us talking so much. sorry”
I was falling in love with this girl. She thought I was cute, she’d blush when we’d talk, rub against my ceps, shit like that. I never made a move because im max autismo but I always had her laughing too, I definitely could have fricked her. She was probably expecting me to make a move. I miss her. She probably doesnt even think about me anymore. More fish in the sea, r-right lads?
Oh, I’ll just take a Long Island for now
>cute girl gave me her number on sunday
>text her wednesday and set up a date for friday
>gonna meet at a coffee shop at noon
>an hour before she texts me saying she doesn't feel well and can't make it
bros.... it was the first time in my 33 years asking a girl out....
Shit dog, I feel that.
>Does it just mean not giving a shit about things like body count and settling?
This has always mattered.
>0
Ideal but possibility to be a turbo prostitute later on.
>1-4
Best case scenario for a wife 25 or younger.
>4-8
Long term gf material. Wife material if 25+.
>8-12
Frick buddy material.
>12+
Don't even treat it like a human being. Just something you get degenerate with and toss aside like a used cum sock.
Unfortunately by the time women hit 30 it is too late. Go full gigachad mode from face, body, and income and you can still get a girl younger than 25. They like older men just as much as boys like older women. Know what you're getting yourself into and NEVER settle. Remember, if your marriage doesn't work she is entitled to half your shit.
she was 24
>meet the daughter of one of my mom's friends
>she's lesbian
>just straight up tells me that she's questioning her sexuality and wants to hook up
>frick her raw
>she ghosts me
I guess she didn't get converted.
womp womp
>get std test just to
>everything negative but test positive for HSV2 (genital herpes)
>its_over.jpg
>never had any symptoms
>never had an outbreak
>I've had jock itch but no symptoms of herpes
>only had condomless sex once three years ago
>test was a low positive at 2.29
>look up stuff online
>apparently you're not supposed to test for herpes when you don't have symptoms because false results are common (results in the 1.1 to 3.5 range have a 50% of false positives)
Wish me luck bros. From everything I've read it seems like it's a false positive but in afraid to have hope. If I test negative I'm only going raw in the woman I married. I really don't want one dumb night to ruin the rest of my life.
this room is a box, outside is just a bigger box, there's no where to go, nothing to do. same old same old years on. Everything I do, I feel like I put in 1000% effort, eat perfect diet, still had an acne breakout today, still look like shit, try to run be athletic and healthy and I just end up getting injured. do art endlessly and there's still no end in sight. Go to the club try and talk to someone, got nothing to talk about, chicks don't like me. go get another job, it just sucks. Driving everyday was the 1 thing I enjoyed and I completely destroyed my car and almost died.
still waiting for a win, just 1 win.
everyday is so awful, everyday it's the same, my brain is black as shit, my soul is beaten and tortured, I need help but nobody can help me.
>Go on date with very pretty blonde
>She has dry humor, clearly introverted
>Hit it off with her
>We leave the bar
>She says she wants to get together again
>Exchange numbers
>Start making out
>It is a surprisingly passionate and deep make out session, hear her moaning deeply
>She tells me to text her after we stop
>Text her yesterday
>No response
It's over. It's so over. I will rise from the ashes, yet still the heat burns me so.
I seriously don’t get why homies keep playing this stupid game lol
>nothing much slash already posted
I just want to dedicate this post to her , she always somehow make me feel better....
#slippersgang
>tfw my homegirl there for me
I don't know how to show her appreciation....
This is dumb. I am good enough when it comes to women, but I am clueless boys
>introduce myself to a girl at a place I hang out
>hit it off
>next few times she comes through, she comes to me and talks
>feels like it's getting flirty, stupid shit like making a handshake, notice she is touching my hands longer than necessary. occasionally compliment her, she does the same to me
>a month ago I went up to chat with her but she gave a weird look and pretty much dismissed me nonverbally
>today she comes back in, I saw her but didn't say hi because I wanted to leave her be. She didn't say hi either or anything when she left
>friend at table tells me that she literally looked right at me like 7 times
>????
I don't get it. This shouldn't be that confusing. I assumed after she had iced me out that she was just with someone else, but what's up with this weird ass cat and mouse bullshit?
I accidentally stood up one of my exes by not realizing that she wanted me to come over to her place and she was pissed off at me the next day, maybe it's a similar situation and you misinterpreted her "dismissing you nonverbally"