/fit saved my life and this is my story. Get in here anons and share how /fit improved your life.
I'm 29 and this is my first visit back on /fit in a loooong time. I came here as a depressed, skinnyfat german virgin who did bad at university and was a total loser. Got bullied and overlooked and disrespected all the time.
Now i have a succesfull career that saw me work for the Olympic Games amongst other things, I have travelled the world for 6 years having success with women and picking up surfing as my passion, I learned martial arts to a degree and noone bullies me anymore, I live in Australia close to the beach and surf a lot and am building an amazing life here, I have a qt3.14 (you guys still use that word?) girlfriend that supports me in every way and surfs with me. We are planning to start a family soon. I never really got jacked but i'm ottermode now with a sixpack, better for surfing anyway. When i look back at who i was first coming here it's a world of difference in any way.
First of all, i just want to say i love you guys for having had my back when i was at my lowest. Browsing /fit was the one thing that got me going when i was depressed, we're all gonna make it bra! And i did. I have everything i wanted now. And it all started with a good, consistent workout routine and my bros hyping me up on this site.
If i can give one piece of advice to everyone looking to fix their life: it's all about those babysteps. Changes won't happen over night. Don't burn yourself out trying to fix every aspect of your life at once. As long as you did one single thing better than you did yesterday, you're good. Take it easy. Smoke a joint sometimes and relax. You will get there. One step at a time. Identify where you're lacking. And then slowly build momentum. I know you can do this guys. We're all gonna make it bra. Thanks for everything guys. Love you.
I'm in my 30s, live at home, haven't worked in almost a decade, and spent the day jerking off and playing video games. I have a useless bachelor's degree, an attractive FWB, and $700k in my portfolio because some bets paid off. I simply cannot find a single goal that seems worthwhile other than lifting and sex.
I hope I find something that breathes life back into me.
I hope you will find something that breathes that spark of joy and excitement about life back into your life bra. Don't give up, you'll find it.
how do you support yourself then
go to an Orthodox church
Based positive poster. Not sure if this place has helped or hurt me more. I am 28 years old now. Learning about "alpha" and "beta" behaviors back in 2010 was helpful when I first started talking to women. Also lots of redpills on women have allowed me to dodge some bullets. However I for some reason thought squats and deadlifts were the only lifts that mattered back in highschool which made me a t-rex back then.
Now I am making 90k, own a home, and I am single
Maaaan i remember discovering the alpha vs beta dichotomy for the first time and my world shattered mate, i realized i had been beta as frick all my life and needed to change that. I took it way too seriously too, and became a giant butthole for some years. Funny enough that made me wildly succesfull in my career overtaking most everyone because i found out people respect someone with a spine and give them important tasks but i also do feel sorry for all the people i put down and humiliated over the years. I still think it's better to be feared than loved at work but in private life i tone it down a lot now. Also Australia is basically alpaca as frick the country so yeah. Congrats on being a home owner anon, not easy to pull off. Hoping you find the woman of your dreams soon bra.
Oh and also yeah don't listen to the lifting advice on /fit too much, squats and deads are sick af but too many guys blow their lower back doing these and that will just frick your life beyond comprehension, also meet any old dude who was jacked as frick vs an old dude who was slim & sporty, look at how they can move and you'll see why lifting heavy and getting jacked might not be the smartest thing long term. I just focus on longevity nowadays mate i want to become 100 and i want to be able to surf until i am 80.
Most of that alpha/beta and redpill bullshit is so moronic to follow. End of the day I had the most success when I stopped caring so much about all that shit.
Started taking my sports and fitness seriously and got mad respect from peeps who can recognise real hard work.
There was major difference in my confidence and attitude towards life when I was 110kg fatass playing vidya scraping by between work/some social sports and drinking on the weekends.
Vs now at 95kg playing competitive sport bball/volleyball and having people stop and watch you play because they wanna see you throwdown 2hand dunks over casuals or get your chest above the volleyball net on a quick set and burry the ball into the ground on their side.
Lifting hasn't changed my life like others because I'm only on my 10th week and still twinkish. I also did a bunch of shiit before that to improve my life. Currently still struggling to find some meaning in life
OP here. You are at the point i was at about 8 or 9 years ago. The fact alone that you chose to take destiny in your own hand and work towards becoming a better version of yourself speaks volumes about your character. I am proud of you anon, you are already way ahead of the nay sayers, and i know you can and will make it just like I did. 10 weeks is an amount of time that proves you are not a quitter. Go to any gym in the middle of march and see how many new year resolutioners are still around. Frick all. You got this bra. I know you will look back at yourself in some years and realize this is where it all began. I'm proud of you. And i know you will find that one thing that gives you purpose in life.
I appreciate your reply anon. I wish I had a dad that would talk to me like that.
You cannot get a supportive dad, no matter what you do anon. Accepting and letting go of things that are out of your control is one of the major lessons in life for a young man like you. What you can do however is be the dad you wish you had for your own child. And i know you will be this dad for him, her or them. Because you are a winner and not a loser.
my life's been pretty good pretty much the entire time but I'm glad you guys are on the comeup
Cheers bradda. Hope you have a good day, and allow me to give you some small piece of advice: it doesn't matter wether you start from the bottom or the top, improvement always feels great. Have a good day.
Then how'd you end up here?
I like chatting with you guys about shared interests
IST has helped me in a big way, but not the way it's helped others. I've never had problems with my physique, I've always looked pretty good. But I've always been quick to give up, or quick to despair even over little things.
I know it's just for laffs, but stuff like picrel that I've found on nu-IST has helped me immensely for some reason, and I'm now pretty in a constant state of either frick it we ball or we're so back. And boy does it feel good.
Cheers
(me)
posting another one
wagmi
Another japanese proverb:
"First, you must defeat yourself"
Op here, that was also my biggest takeaway from /fit - yeah i'm ottermode now whatever the real lesson is to consistently chip away at anything that stands in your way, frick all the little set backs, frick all the nay sayers, frick all the problems, the things going wrong, the people putting you down. FRICK IT WE BALL get out there and get that shit done. You can whine like a b***h when you're dead. Right now it's about getting it fricking done. Hell yeah bro i already know you got this.
Based. What the frick else are you going to do except improve, dwelling on anything negative is literally pointless, at best it is anxiety.
For real. As a terminal loner with zero friends it's nice to have a place where dudes can BS about fitness and jazz load volume maximization. Not as good as real lifting buds but a decent bro substitute.
Musclebound high school chad took my onitis' virginity in 2012 so I started lifting weights and going on IST and finally 11 years later I took a zoomer's virginity which in my mind has exorcised the shame of the original failure
Oh yeah and gained a 6 figure career and degrees and fully paid house in between but who cares about that, if you never experience taking a woman's virginity what point is there to living
>Oh yeah and gained a 6 figure career and degrees and fully paid house in between but who cares about that,
you care about it, thats why you posted it to brag on here despite being completely unrelated to the rest of your post.
it was commentary that an virgin-taker automatically mogs the non-virginity taker haver, irrespective of any accomplishments of the latter
>comment is about taking virginities and literally nothing else
>OH BY THE WAY, I HAVE A SIX FIGURE CAREER AND ALSO PAID OFF A HOUSE ALREADY BECAUSE I'M RICH, JUST SO YOU KNOW BTW
Anon, i am glad you achieved the things that are important to you. But allow me to say that holding onto grudges from your formative years well into adulthood and overcompensating will do you more harm than good. Take away a lesson from your experiences and adjust accordingly, that's what winners do. But to fixate all your life on one thing that went not like how you had wished it to go in your teens instead of accepting it for what it is and gaining inner peace is a destructive and dark path to go down on. I sincerely hope one day you will be able to overcome this trauma and find true happiness within yourself, and not from holding sexual power over young, impressable easily manipulated women.
Ok
How do I meet virgins? Seems kinda difficult tbh, zoomers lose their virginity super young.
Used to play world of warcraft for 16 hours a day and weighed 230 lbs. Now I'm 170 and still want to just play world of warcraft all day BUT SHITS GOTTA CHANGE
You will get there anon. I believe in you. One step at a time.
didn't read because of reddit spacing and no greentext
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Alright bros i'll need to head out now, need to see a doctor for a thing that's bothered me for a while now. You guys take care and never forget: it only takes one small change at a time to achieve great things and if you had seen me when i first came here and saw me now you'd realize you also can achieve the life of your dreams. See you again maybe in a few years fit. Thanks for everything. We're all gonna make it.
My life got good (got married, bought house, found enjoyable job, overcame mental illness) while I was a morbid obeast and that's why I decided that I ought to live past 45 and dropped the weight.
this did not happen for me
Life is going to shit, I am worse socially then ever, I have hobbies but no one to enjoy them with. I am too autistic to talk to girls, my gym bro ditched me, I don't know what I'm doing with my life, I hate talking to people I know, I have a job I hate, my car is having problems, everything is expensive and I have nothing in the future to look forward to. Almost every night I pray to God that he takes me in my sleep. I am too pussy to kill myself, but I feel like a mistake on this earth. I feel like I am destined to fail and be mocked by others behind my back. No amount of lifting or small improvements can fix something fundamentally broken. I will kill myself someday, but I need to get a gun first
same bro
Come to church fren. You say you pray to God anyways so whats one more step. Jeremiah 29:11: "For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Ignore all the nihilist/existentialist/absurdist rot here, it will kill you from the inside
I wouldn't say it was IST specifically, but Zyzz played a big part of it.
I still live with my mom and I've never had a gf, but I like my job, I enjoy my hobbies and look forward to the next time I can go snowboarding or scuba diving. I've got a windsurfing lesson this weekend, first time.
I'm 28 now but I still don't feel like I've peaked
wagmi
Based pilled, and you didn't even become a roid troony, even more based.
My words of success for zoomers.
Get off social media. Stop chasing your next dopamine rush by having some random "like" your post, and stop"liking" females posts, being a total coomin simp loser.
SHUT IT DOWN.
Schedule. Bed early, 9pm, rise at 5am. Spend the first 2 hours prepping food, planning the day, what goals you need to achieve. You wake up and do it, you do not go online, on your cell, or turn on the fricking news.
You don't obsess with "mogging" and the only person in the world you are "competing" with, is yourself. Have you achieved some more things this week? Have you learned something? Did your lists get a little better?
Then you're better than the person you were last week, and that's all that matters.
You are not here to larp, fake, or pretend to be someone else, but to become who you want to be, you are here to take small steps as who you fundamentally are is changeable, and over time you will become that person.
You would not turn up in another city and nobody knows you and be confined to some box of who you are, people that don't allow you to grow and change (usually bad friends) who simply hold you back.
Do not be the loser in his room online all day following onlyfans girls, posting videos and pics of them, posting pathetic look at this guy etc. threads. I can assure you, it's a waste of time and life.
CHRIST IS LORD AND KING.
Might've just ruined my life
Is this herpes?
I had protected sex at a massage parlor