>get a good workout at the gym
>be happy
>come back home, realize I have no friends and I can only recall a handful of times I even talked to a female in a casual setting
This is just too much. I am going insane from lack of gf. Life is just not meant to be like this.
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Just make some friends.
I can only make acquaintances at best, not interesting enough to get anything more.
>just be more interesting
Can't. I can't force myself to pretend to like things i don't actually like. Normie music, TV shows, sports etc don't interest me. As well as normie behaviour that I just can't emulate no matter how hard I try.
>I am going insane from lack of gf.
>I can't force myself to pretend to like things i don't actually like. Normie music, TV shows, sports etc don't interest me.
Bro what do you think your hypothetical gf is going to be interested in
>Bro what do you think your hypothetical gf is going to be interested in
scrolling through instagram, watching shitty shows on Netflix and going shopping?
My wife isn't like that
you are not as weird as you pretend or would like to be, lurk moar
Not weird, just boring compared to a normie.
that's me too, I can't small talk and get on manual whenever I talk to a girl, I just can talk about stupid shit with my 2 friends which are my cousins
Suck it up, buttercup, and get over yourself. To be interested is to be interesting.
Then what DO you like? and then go find an group club with those and do irl meet togethers. jesus christ.
>love reading books
>search for a university book club
>doesn't exist
Now what?
Books are for nerds loser
maybe you wouldnt find an outright bookclub, but you could probably find a club with lots of people who loves reading. i wouldnt know an example but try something like a debate club or a humanities based interest group. pretty sure all those bleeding hesrt liberals love reading. i mean most schools even has a shitty anime/manga club ffs, you should be able to find a club that you enjoy or with people who share your interests.
assuming that you dont have friends, your goal rn isnt even to talk to girls, but to make friends and talk to PEOPLE, which may then include girls, and then you can learn to talk to girls more specifically once you see how other people talk to them and see whats acceptable to talk around them. thats why having a social group is important, and social groups are most easily found for young ISTizens in a uni club. theres always the anime club dude, as for philosophy, again theres the debate club. but do yourself a favour, and pick a sports club. i do judo and there are girls there who do judo, and its a great place to start to make friends because most college students who do MA are bros who themselves may be a bit awkward
this sounds like this requires professional help. you should see a fricking therapist man. but if you want to be proactive, force yourself to interact minimally with the people in the grocer, like a little "hi" when you see them to checkout or a "thank you'" with a small smile when youre done. And maybe dont always use the self checkout in the grocers.
How do you talk to wahmen IST?
I don't have any common interests with grils. Sure there are some w*men that 'lift' or play sports but they arn't qt3.14s tomboys. Is there any gril that likes shitposting, LARPing as shitty characters from tranime or greece, or reading basedkaf /x/ and philosophy books?
>shitposting, LARPing as shitty characters from tranime or greece, or reading basedkaf /x/ and philosophy books
Jesus Christ.
I have to much social anxiety to do that. I can barely go to the grocery store, what should I do? I'm exactly like OP, haven't talked to a girl in years
how do you make friends when you have no freinds having no freidns is such a huge red flag
this.
also if a girl finds out you have no friend circle, she loses all interest and thinks you're a creep
you just think you want a gf but having one would make it you as miserable, lurk moar
Stop watching porn.
This. Sort out your life first.
>smiled at cute girl who showed up at the gym at regular times that I started going at
>she no longer goes to gym at regular times
>60+ matches on tinder
>some girls literally 7+/10
>never text them
>when I do the convo dies within the first 8 messages
how do I get out of this limbo
If you want to frick them, start treating them as sexual conquests. If you don't, start treating them as possible friends.
Most importantly, start realizing girls are just guys without the dick. They aren't special, just humans. They eat, shit and sleep. If you frick up, they'll forgot it in a week. You are the main character of your life, not theirs. I can recall 100s of awkward moments from my own life, but none from others. Same goes the other way around.
>girl I never talked to asked me out in last year of highschool
>went out with her
>afterwards told myself it was a big joke and I was terrified of her so whenever she tried coming up to me i'd either pretend I don't see her or give one word answers and walk away
>she told people i'm stalking her
>almost 4 years later she still laughs when she sees me
yeah.. I think she remembers my awkward moments.
Dude, if she remembers that she must have a boring fricking life. I can't even remember what country I was in four years ago.
What a fricking loser, remembering a meaningless moment from four years ago.
Move on brother, you are above this behaviour.
take up group hobbies/activities/classes. Something that will force you to interact with people. Easiest way to make friends and you'll have something in common already
this is a good post. I will do this once I pay off my student loans. currently I work overtime every week to expedite payment (on track to pay back ~80K in 2 years) but its exhausting. once I pay my shit pack I will go to working overtime every other week (casual at another job so I can get the matched 401k money after 3 years) and then hopefully I can find an adult recreational soccer league or something. the only problem is I'm a citygay without a car, but the grocery store and work are both 10 minute walks away, and the gym is closer, so it's pretty cash
the major problem is that I am probably on the spectrum. I asked my parents and they thought about seeking a formal diagnosis when I was in elementary school but they didn't want to risk me not getting into the 'gifted child' track. the real life consequences seem to all be in interpersonal relationships. acquaintances I make at work, school, and sport back in the day with who I shared my number NEVER EVER reached out to me after we parted ways, so something about me must rub people the wrong way. I've never been in a relationship before and I anticipate I never will be. things that seem to come naturally with regards to interpersonal communication to others are just beyond my comprehension
sick trips, and your timestamp has quads
Talk to yourself. You are your only friend, once you realize it loneliness won't be a thing to you. He who feels lonely when alone, he spends time in bad accompany
>Young people need to learn how to be alone
A. Tarkovsky
This has been my life for the past 1.5 years, I don't know how much longer I can take before an heroing
I hope that "." wasn't meant to be there, otherwise GTFO normie
Well I haven't been lifting for 15 years so no
Same. I’m even starting to get the gay accusation jokes when I say I don’t have a gf now. Now, I regard myself a solid 4/10 subhuman. I look in the mirror and just get kinda sad that people actually see that when they look at me 24/7. The thing is my relatives always joke how I’m the best looking out of my siblings (I have 3 brothers) and everyone sees me as the sensible one (don’t do drugs, drink, party, mostly because I have 0 friends) so they always act so surprised when I say I’m alone. They all imply that I must have had a gf before (“oh, were you just too much for the last one haha) Honestly, am I getting gaslighted or what the frick? All the stacies in school just ignored me. I’ve basically had 0 attention from girls in my life. I feel like everyone is just fricking lying or something because something isn’t adding up.
Take it from an old fat guy who is browsing IST to get in shape, not for pussy but because my kids keep teasing me for being fat.
I’ve never been tall, lean, muscular or handsome.
But I’ve gotten a shitload of pussy in my life by being rich and funny.
1) I started my own business and made a ton of money. Retired now @ 37.
2) I’ve always had the natural ability to make people laugh so hard, they spit their drink before I even get to the punchline.
If you aren’t having success with good looks, try your best at either becoming wealthy, being funny or both.
How do you become funny? Sounds very vague and subjective.
you don't "become" funny
kys doomer
It's like any skill, the more time and effort you put into it the better you'll get. Yeah some people are naturally funny and didn't have to put any effort into it. Just like how some people are genetic freaks and put barely any effort to get very strong it doesn't mean other people can't get decent results from hard work as well.
Take a look at Jeff Dunham, he has opened up about how he was shit on during his school years for being unfunny. He worked on it and got better over the years and now look at him.
Hes still unfunny but I get your point
test
did it work?
you tell me
>Live alone in bachelor basement apartment
>spend most of my time alone playing warhammer
>haven't been laid in like 2 years
>Frick friends kooky younger sister again
>start fantasizing about our future together
>she fricks my other friend like a month later
>"Oh ight"
>back to alone in my basement
How was she supposed to know you are falling in love with her? You expected her to read your mind and to keep her legs closed?
>again
Yea no shit. You were acting like a beta.
I have friends and family and I feel sad and lonely whenever I'm with them. I rather be alone but they supposedly enjoy my company so I try to regularly hang out.
Hop on tinder. You should do decently well if you have a nice body and an average face.
>tfw when youll never discuss mein kampf with a qt3.14
"Mein Kampf sure is a badly written book, don't you think?"
>"I like the Dalton translation better don't you, anon?"
>"Man he [der Fuhrer] sure is so cute and funny about die juden right?"
man i wish i had a fascist tomboy gf
why live
moron
homosexual
>i'm going insane from lack of gf
there's your problem. women can sense desperation. keep working on yourself and focus on hobbies, friends, family and women will see you have something else going on in your life other than stewing about being without a gf.
Same as OP thats why I clicked on this thread but vidya and lifting and my job take up most of my time. Here it's quarter past 8 on a saturday and I'm thinking of, by myself since no friends or wingman, hitting a couple bars just to see if I get any mires or maybe see if I can strike up a conversation with a grill, possibly?
Either that or just get ready for bed for muscle recovery rest. idk should I go out or stay in?
haha yeah iktfb. even worse when you have a home gym.
the craziest thing about this is that it will last forever if you dont take steps, im 33 and work from home + live alone in a tower apartment block
>just broke up with my gf yesterday
>realize I'm going back to the nightmare realm
>home/work/gym routine
>no social skills
>absolutely uninteresting
Last month was one of the best of my life, just to end up like this
At least I got the weights
what happened with you two?
The obvious, my style is uninteresting, she was losing interest
I even tried to do and like normie stuff to have something to talk about
Last month it seemed that everything was going to work out and get better, we were in a very good tune
What hurts the most will be missing her niece, a little angel who made the day a thousand times better, I cry every time I remember that she included me in her prayers, and now she will forget me, she was the closest I could imagine having a daughter, we always played when I had time, she liked to paint the drawings I did
>post body
Make social media and post your body, basic fitness bullshit make it public. Post selfies and add the gym you go to as the location(only your best pics or PR videos)
Talk about your journey and how you love the little improvements. Real basic shit. Then at the bear minimum you may get a friend/gym partner. Be prepared to possibly coach a new person everything