>get girl over to my house
>she knows i'm inexperienced and is still down to frick
>have been worried that my erections might not be strong enough so I did some stretching and exercise, took supps, the works
>hard as a brick just looking at her naked
>okay, so far so good. thanks for not betraying me, penis
>she sucks me off for several minutes
>feels great but I can't cum
>she gets tired of sucking
>put condom on and go inside her
good for a minute or so but I'm feeling nothing, eventually get soft
>she says "it's happened before" and that I "got distracted" we both play it off but she ghosts me afterwards
>can't say I really blame her
>delete all my porn and block porn addresses in my hostfile since I figured that could be the problem
>relay experience to friend who sleeps with a lot of women
>he blames the condom and says it happened to him the first few times he had sex
Not too bothered by the fact that I lost her, but I am very bothered by the experience. So, what was it? Was I just too nervous and I gotta conquer that on my own? Do I gorilla grip my shit when I'm jacking it? Did I get some really shitty condoms that don't feel very good? Do condoms just suck? Should I go to a doctor?
Also, general penis health thread.
Get a comprehensive STI test anon. Condoms do not cover the full genital Area so skin to skin contact can still spread diseases. Secondly, people can still have an STI and be asymptomatic.
Did you receive unprotected oral sex?
stfu. stay on topic dummy
If she put out easy for you she puts out easy for others moron. You seem young so you should learn to be smart if your going to stick your dick any anyone.
You should be scared.
I have herpes from raw dogging bawds I can confirm this
Also do any other anons have hsv-2? How does it affect you guys?
> do any other anons have hsv-2? How does it affect you guys?
At least i can take pills for it, gyno on the other hand requires surgery/suicide
You have it?
I've not messed with the meds much, I meant more about finding other partners, I can't raw dog random sloots anymore without a conversation first
What does gyno have to do with anything?
i wasn't even aware that "protected" oral sex was a thing, so no. And yeah, I figured I should probably go to a doctor for an STI test anyway, but i meant more specifically going to the doctor for the erection problems
it's off topic but it's still helpful advice related to penis health, so I don't mind
this happened to me with the first woman i ever fricked but I didn't like her that much so I didn't think too much of it
Good man. Talk to your doctor, and try to get a gf as it’s a hell of a lot safer.
if a girl tells me she only gives bj with condom im sending her home
a new report by the CDC states ‘one third of americans use comdoms,’ which means two thirds of americans are still pretty cool.
there are no good condoms for sensation
nothing compares to raw.
raw Fleshlights feel better than real condom sex.
Did exactly read but I had similar situation
>used to watch a lot of porn
>finally manage to get a date
> for some reason think it's OK to jerk off all day long, thinking that she won't want to frick
>at the date
>she wants to frick
>I haven't told her I'm a virgin
>cannot get my dick hard
>end up just eating her out and going to sleep
And that's how I technically lost my virginity at 22.
If you know you can get sex IRL, it makes doing no porn very easy, just frick eveeytime you have the urge and things will balance themselves out
>Was I just too nervous and I gotta conquer that on my own?
yes
>Do condoms just suck?
yes
Did you pull your foreskin back before putting on the condom?
Once had a 8/10 fit blonde with curly hair but couldn't stay hard. We agreed to meet sometime the next week (to try again). Ghosted. Fricking sucks, really wanted to have something with her. AAAAAAAAAHHH
Lol
It wasn't porn, it was anxiety.
>be coomer for 2 decades
>still have no ED
But I don't death grip my dick.
Also
>spend night at 18 yo girl's home
>her parents are out
>we gonna frick
>ask her when her parents will be back
>Oh, IDK anon, they could get home at night or 6 am in the morning
>can't stop thinking of her father catching us with my pants down
>keep running escape plans in my head
>frick her being half hard
>can't even second round
It was horrible. I'm never fricking 18 yo girls in their parent's bed.
low test
I mean, I guess that makes sense. Seems to me like you just have a higher libido than me
"chin up buddy it happens" is a good thing to hear, seems to be exactly what all of my pussy acquiring friends say, which at the very least puts me at ease and makes me feel like there's nothing wrong with me. still frustrating, though, and I'd like to fix the issue
Despite what the media shows sex in a committed relationship is a lot better because you’re more comfortable with the person. With some people it’s just harder to get that, and with others you might never get it. That’s just one of the things people refer to as “chemistry”.
I’ve had something similar to happen to me 3-4 times where the condom just destroys all sensation and I end up just pounding away for 30-45 minutes until it gets boring. I wouldn’t sweat this too much OP, and next time focus on getting actually comfortable with the person first. Enjoy the foreplay, don’t overthink it, etc etc
Also, men are very visual, esp ones who have spent their whole lives watching porn. That can be a bad thing but it’s also a fact of life. I’ve been with girls before you want to have sex in the dark and make out the entire time but sometimes you gotta switch positions and go doggy for awhile, or in the spooning position… otherwise it can get… distracting? That’s probably not the best word but I hope that makes sense
yeah dude.. it happens. I'm an autist w OCD issues and I struggle being on bottom..
It's literally like driving. I have to be in control. And sometimes that time putting the condom on just pulls me out of it. I see nothing wrong w taking blue chew as an insurance policy.
And if I'm being honest, sometimes I'd rather just be eating out.
Story doesnt work because you dont mention your age
Assuming you’re in your early 20s, you’ve been jerking it to internet porn for around a decade now. You’ve programmed your brain and dick to climax to the grip of your hand, to a certain rhythm with your hand aswell as to electronic stimuli in the form of porn. I had this same problem when I finally got laid at 23. My girlfriend blew me for 45 minutes before giving up and I didn’t cum either the first time we had veganal sex. I’d also lose erections the first few times periodically as well. My guess is the girl probably ghosted you because she doesn’t think you find her attractive. Guys not cumming is the quickest way to kill a girl’s self esteem. How did I fix this issue? I was able to fix this by stopping watching porn and jerking off and by having sex on a consistent basis, basically everyday. By about the third attempt I was able to cum from sex with my girlfriend. Sex with real women is not as pleasurable as jerking off with a Fleshlight and porn. If you don’t currently have a girlfriend then at least quit porn and only jerk off to thoughts of girls you know in real life if you really must jerk off.
I'm aware of the mechanisms going on, here. for a time my rule was "only solo stuff" to remediate this but this event signals to me that it might not be enough
it was kind of a pain in the ass to put the thing on. This could easily be it. When I bought the condoms I couldn't see any sort of measurements on any of them which I thought was weird since they always joked about that in movies.
All I’m saying is, if you manage to have sex on a consistent basis this should sort itself out. ED and all. Anybody who tells you to go get dick pills from a doctor instead of fixing the route cause is a pharmashill. I don’t think it’s the condoms either although they do suck. The ED is a combination of performance anxiety as well as a lack of stimuli. Make sure your physical health is in order too to maximize bloodflow.
Measure your dick and get MySize condoms.
Also, you could order some Cialis or Levitra or the like and test them out (start with a tenth of a pill, that might already be enough to last two or three days) until you got used to the girl.
would you ever date a woman with cold sores on her mouth or should I run?
1 in 4 people have some sort of HSV 1/2, most people are asymptomatic and have no idea they have an STD.
Both variations of the virus can infect your genitals but you may only have a flare up once or twice per year depending on the strength of your immune system.
Have you considered you weren’t fully aroused by her? sometimes it’s just not enough foreplay or that you weren’t that into her.
I had this happen to me and I thought I had performance anxiety but it was actually that the condoms were too tight and were cutting off circulation to my dick. So make sure they aren’t too tight, it shouldn’t be hard at all to put them on.
unironically happened to me
extreme anxiety, porn addiction, thick condom, the works
had to fake my orgasm the first couple times
eventually i found a thin condom so i could actually feel and (probably more importantly) actually got comfortable with the girl and now im finishing like normal
chin up buddy it happens
Took me YEARS and dozens of hoors to get off with a condom on OP. Don't feel bad. Get good at making the ladies coom and they won't care too much if you don't get yours. Learn how to eat pussy if you're worried about your wee wee performance.
I actually offered to eat her out and she said no. She said she doesn't like getting oral but I don't believe her. That made me more worried about stds
>She said she doesn't like getting oral
My dream girl. Marriage material.
Sorry schizo moron, but if the worlds finest still have these viruses it’s probably ubiquitous in all populations.
I'd like to thank you all for the input before the thread dies, everything you all said was very insightful
The dick does not respond to stress well. Meditate, quit porn and take Cialis next time.
Same thing happened to me, fixed it by taking kamagra next time. Is it cialis better? I dont want to be dependent on the stuff, but I also dont want to have multiple failures that will make problem even bigger, so I fixed it with pharma while I am rewiring brain and living healthier (no porn, cardio, no smoking, less alcohol etc)
Arousal, anxiety and condoms are the major culprits behind not being rock hard and giving it your all. I normally am nervous the first time with a woman and it goes okay. I often finger her slowly while playing with her clit and feel her pelvic floor squeezing my fingers so she’s plenty aroused herself. I can get inside her half mast but she will sometimes push it out. But then we try again and I’m super hard because I’m more confident and comfortable, it’s like a night and day difference for both of us. Just have a one track mind about making sure you have a good time and don’t worry about anything else. It typically comes easier that way
You were anxious and not used to it and the condom got a bit in the way. I had the same thing in early twenties. Don't think its just the condom. Don't focus on ONS, focus on finding a girl that likes you and that you like. You need to become comfortable with girls first and the only way to do so is with someone that you will see more often. Otherwise you will keep experiencing shit like this and will think something is wrong with you.
As many others said it was a combination of anxiety and the condom. It's a paradox, the more excited you get the more likely this happens. You have to be an excitement midwit sometimes.
Another reason to look for a gf over hookup. No condom, and more understanding if you can't get it up.
>Another reason to look for a gf over hookup. No condom.
Tell that to my moronic ex, who ignored my warning that not renewing her contraceptive, thus downgrading me to fricking the bag after 4+ years, would cause relationship-killing sexual frustration.
Spoilers: it caused relationship-killing sexual frustration.
My hand > sex with condom, simple as.
I fricked every gf ive ever had raw dog thousands of times, never a single scare cause i pull out and blast their face or boobs ? Do mfs rly just nut without control? Maybe i got death grip
Checked, my good man.
Ever had your spermcount checked?
Relying solely on the pullout method thousands of times across multiple women without any resulting pregnancies could indicate infertility. It's not a reliable contraceptive in itself due to the fact that precum holds sperm.
I think thats more of a wives tell my friend, I always get head before too, so the precum gets sucked up? Im in great health, very horny and i shoot fricking buckets. But i guess sperm count could be fricked ? Either way id count it as a blessing then as im not trying to get a child by any means lol. All the girls also said their friends had never gotten a pregnancy scare from precum and laughed at the idea.s40kv
What are the Chances of Getting Pregnant from Precum? The common answer is your chances are very low. However, there are rare cases where living sperm can be present in the precum and conception subsequently possible.
Are you willing to risk unwanted pregnancy and potentially 18+ years of child support based on what you posted?
>So, what was it
>all my porn
I have the opposite problem that I cum fricking literally in 1 second
You have a broken brain and a broken penis. You'll never be a manly man. You'll probably never amount to much of anything unless you completely change your life from the ground up and rethink all your assumptions. You are doomed to the treadmill of desire and obtaining your goals will only deepen your pain instead of alleviating it.
Also lol ur dik is brok
I've always had this issue and it's all in your unconscious mind. I've fricked 50 women and the only times I bust easily is when I truly didn't give a frick (or she had huge cans). I didn't care either because it was a one night stand with a mediocre woman or a long term girlfriend I was very comfortable around.
The worst situation is when I actually like the girl and I'm not that comfortable around her yet.
cont. I read recently it's actually related to being pee-shy. If you struggle to pee at the urinal with a man next to you, you likely also struggle to shoot loads with a woman. Probably some kind of trauma adaptation
nervousness for sure, I had the same problem multiple times with one night stands. never had the problem with gfs since im more at ease
and i would also recommend not watching porn
works on my machine
very normal. first time i was 16 and was so worried about pre ejac i spent all day fapping (20times) to ensure i last. i was so desensitized to the condemi felt nothing. back in the day when they had gimmick extra room in the tip "so you feel it more" fricking terrible eventual realized ultra thin was the only was i could feel anything. anyways long story short felt nothing when flaccid within minutes. no big deal anon. was the condom. also istead of cumming to quick i dident at all. also cosider the nerves. now i do my wife i get so tiered i cant hold it anymore and just bust cuz im getting tiered and old.but that all said in my early 20s i was a fricking demon, it also took me a year of fricking the same woman - she was mid but it was all i had at the time before i could teach myself when and when not to cum . before it was just going and going with no end in sight. fun but not ideal with no closure in sight.
If you are fricking on your knees or really extending your quads, it takes a lot of blood away from your junk.
This is a good way to slow yourself down but, too much, and it is easy to go soft.
Have similar experiences. First few one night stands I could barely get hard and never finish. Even went to get a health exam and got viagra prescribed. Now with a long time gf and plenty of experience there's zero issue. It was all just nerves from lack of experience, it can frick you over pretty bad even if you feel ok in the moment.
I don't orgasm anymore and I don't know what to do about it. The sensation lasts for half a second and is less pleasurable than scratching an itch.
Been years since I had what I consider a real orgasm
I'm screwed (lol) if I ever actually get laid. I'm such an anxious frick
IMO it’s a mix of porn and a tight condom. I started using magnums and they work great
I never have problems getting hard with a girl.. but condoms still frick me up occasionally. Last night I put a condom to frick then my girl had to get something from the bathroom I Iost my erection just waiting 1min and I had to take it off and put on another. Then the same thing happened this morning.i don't care though. It's normal just a bit of waste
I find if you go a little bit soft wearing a condom you're fricked because you won't be able to get fully hard again wearing it because it's constricting your fricking dick.
You have to stay rock hard the entire time so if you're having shitty nervous sex with a fat b***h with a loose cavernous pussy... that's a recipe for disaster.
If you're not wearing a condom it doesn't matter if you lose it for a sec, you just put her in a better position and frick her hard.
So basically you have to actually be feeling something and enjoying sex to stay hard... this should be the goal anyway not to please the bawd.
And try and have 2-3 condoms so you can put on another if you lose it
Don't do this again, find yourself a good woman to marry and then have sex, don't be a degenerate like others on IST.
you felt nothing?
she must be super loose man
also don't frick chicks if you don't have an emotional connection, the sex isn't good
as a virgin I had 3 opportunities to have sex. That is 3 times naked with woman who were asking me to frick them and I couldn't get it up and because of nervousness and anxiety ruined the mood and fumbled the ball.
I lost my virginity to a hooker and had no problem getting it up because there was no pressure, she had a job to do and she did it. Ever since then I have never had an issue with ED; even while wasted drunk or immediately after cumming I still get hard.
I just had sex for the first time with a girl and busted in 30 seconds, how do I possibly recover?
Everyone should have Cialis on hand. Take it and don't look back. Especially if you meet girls on a night out drinking/doing drugs.
5mg the day of and you are all set. No shame, no side effects, buy them online cheap.
>buy them online cheap
Where can you get them cheap without a script?
I have the same problem with my girl.
Years (decade +) of porn have ruined my arousal and boners. They're super fickle and come and go quickly. Can't maintain one for shit although it'll pop up randomly when hugging or spooning. She says she can only cum from penetration and I haven't been able to do so, nervous + performance anxiety and a fickle erection have fricked me up so far. It's also been over 4 years since I've actually had sex, I've had chicks in my bed since but never had sex due to the same issues.
I'm also in a country where Viagra and Cialis are locked behind a prescription wall. Is it worth it to get a prescription? I'm already in the process of quitting porn, been trying to for 2 years and still relapse occasionally.
I really like this girl and don't want to ruin her self esteem by making her think she's unattractive.
I'm 22 years old if that helps, don't get morning wood and it takes me over an hour of straight jack hammering to even cum when having a toss. Appreciate any tips or insight
>be me
>did nofap for 2weeks before meeting my gf thinking i would last for several hours
>cuddle and finger her
>my turn comes
>oh yeah imma record this for an hour.idea.png
>she starts blowing me like never before
>instantly come after 20 seconds on her fricking mouth
>a day later,she reminds me lasting 20 seconds kek
since then i've started edging for an hour and kegel exercises and the results are awesome.
i will get to test my progress on her soon this or next week
I don't think you can blame porn and masturbation, it's probably more a mental thing
I used to fap in the shower watching porn on my phone before dates and then still coom twice during sexo
Only time I ever had a hard time cooming was when I had the flu
literally just anxiety. it makes you numb. every time I sleep with a girl for the first time I'm numb from anxiety and can't cum. i frick them for an like an hour and then pretend to cum. and then it goes away the next time and i can cum. condoms do suck too though.
It's a combination of you are too used to porn and/or masturbation to get off, and in real life it's completely different, and you were too much inside your head analyzing shit instead of being in the moment, which makes it awkward.
Both of those things working together makes for a bad experience.
That's why you get a little drunk before undressing.
ITT: peope who don't take cialis the first time they frick a new girl, to counteract the erection anxiety
NGMI
Same shit happened to me. You might not have felt nervous but it's in your subconscious. A woman has seen you naked and you have put your Johnson inside her without her ridiculing you, you've passed the major hurdle. The next time or the time after that will be better then it will be fine from now until you get old.
t. Not a neet
>abuse the frick out of my dick 3 times a day for ten years
Can you recover from death grip?
I'm a 29 year old kissless hugless handholdless dateless virgin who has rejected sexual advances a couple times + didn't reciprocate on multiple flirtatious interactions because I'm not comfortable with my body due to being overweight. Decent face (but fat), tall (6'1 or so) and I'm white with blond hair + broad shoulders with a deep voice. I'm 295 lbs, I went down to 215 or so at one point in the past and I never thought I was attractive enough to reciprocate flirtation/sexual advances. I imagine every woman is already taken with a man who is in better shape than me or better looking.
I used to be 490 lbs and somehow I have no loose skin besides under my upper arms + between thighs. I plan on getting so lean (down to 170-180) that I can see abs in the mirror anytime I want so I can confirm I'm always lean in my brain so I can possibly start trying to get with women.
It's actually over and I feel like an hero'ing the thinner I get because I get more attention from females yet my brain doesn't allow me to reciprocate until I'm not fat. Even if I lost the weight (which I did before), I find something else wrong with me that doesn't "allow" me to flirt with women. My entire life consists of self improvement at this point with no clear goal or end.
My brain won't allow me to seek out women for the prospects of sex or even speak to them in any fashion other than simply "what's up" and "see ya" until I'm essentially top 10% of male bodies. There's no in-between.
It's over.
Get over yourself, respectfully. Not an insult, but good advice. Just get over yourself bro.
I must be weird because condoms only feel marginally worse than bare back.
Diagnosis: either mutilated or deathgrip
>God's chosen people
just stop jerking off for a few weeks, you're probably gorilla gripping your dick and can't cum otherwise. also if you take any sort of anti-depressant it kills sensation in your dick
I'm not on any medications, thank god.
yeah, I go to my doctor tomorrow in the afternoon. If she concludes that I am physically fine, I'm going to chalk it up to the lack of chemistry thing and I probably just need a gf. She's an advocate for not stuffing 30 vaccinations into a child at birth so i trust her judgement when it comes to prescriptions
That's all good, anon. Chances are it's nothing actually wrong with you physically. It's just one of those health things that people don't typically talk about. Most people tend to exaggerate everything in bed too.
>Yeah I lost my virginity, we went to bed to do le sexy sex and she said my peanus weanus was huge
You rarely hear people talk about it honestly and say yeah I couldn't get hard to start with and I couldn't work out where the hole was and she found it painful so we stopped after five minutes. The reality is that not every time is some fricking moment of pure sexual prowess. On my first time my gf found it a bit painful and I couldn't help but laugh at the face she was making. Then she cried because she was expecting some super special and romantic moment from a movie scene instead of me pissing myself laughing cuz she was making faces like she was Eddie Hall mid deadlift.
Everyone's different but the best things you can do are always to keep porn/masturbation to a minimum. Nerves are also a factor. I've never been able to use a condom even with shit like Cialis. The moment I'm close to my gf then I'm rock hard but if I put on a condom then my dick just instantly goes soft. Never been able to work out why but I just can't stay hard with one on, it's not like I've got ED because I can stay hard for easily an hour even if we're just lying in bed doing nothing. It's not really a big deal though for us because we're just happy to wait until we're ready to try for kids and just stick to non penis in vagoo stuff for now.
You'll probably find it a lot easier as well if you get a gf for long term because you'll be more comfortable with her and everything. Reduces a lot of the risk of embarrassment or whatever because you do stuff regularly so if you do struggle on a one off then it isn't a big deal.