Has anyone here been able to convince their girlfriends/wives to start working out? My wife has gotten skinnyfat to the point where it doesn't bother me too much yet but I know she'll balloon up if nothing changes. She just had to throw out a bunch of her jeans because none of them fit her anymore, so she knows she's gaining weight but if I suggest she needs to workout with me she just laughs it off and refuses. Is it possible to actually motivate her or do I just become an architect
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She threw out those jeans because she never plans on being that thin again. Leave her fat ass.
It's because you suggest like a beta.
Whenever my wife has a few kilos I wish her to lose (which happens every few years, she loves to eat), I just sit her down and tell her that I want her to lose X kilos.
She will b***h and moan, find whatever reason to complain, but she will do it. Because she won't refuse a reasonable request from her husband obviously.
So she starts counting her calories and weighing her food, do a bit more cardio at the gym, and then she'll lose the fat.
And the cycle starts anew. That's it.
Don't suggest anything. Tell her.
If she's a good wife, she will do it.
Don't suggest divorce to people you incel.
I'll suggest whatever I want, cuck.
Sure, keep suggesting.
And keep getting nothing.
Stand up for yourself a bit my man. No wonder your woman doesn't respect your wishes. Stop playing games and pussyfooting around.
if your wife repected you in the first place you wouldnt have to remind her to stay hot you cuck...you act all alpha but you need to sit down with your wife and remind her to try to look her best for you. Youre either a beta or you married the wrong chick and i respect you at least having the balls to fulfill your oath, but if you constantly need to do that with a gf fricking break up with her
You sound like a virgin. To someone that doesn't spend her day in front of a mirror (we don't even have a scale), a few pounds and a bit of back thigh cellulite can sneak up without you being aware, or unconsciously trying to ignore it, just like men when they barely start to lose hair.
Having someone else look at you and tell you things is always useful.
I don't understand why your post is so angry.
>She threw out those jeans because she never plans on being that thin again.
kek, its true
been able to convince my what haha
Epic win
You don’t. Next time wife a fitness chick if you care that much.
I've never even been able to convince a girl to be my girlfriend, let alone to start working out.
Dread game is your friend. Keep maintaining your own figure, start going to the gym late at night and don't tell her where you're going. Stop fricking her and stop simping for her. She'll get the hint.
>grandma walked a lot
>she got older and started having knee pain
>doctor told her to stop walking so much
>health declined
>got her a treadmill a few years later to get her walking again
>took a few months but she started doing it regularly
>now grandma has good health again
they've got to want to do it or have been fit at least once in their life. if not, use subtle psychological manipulation.
When I would make my lunch in the morning before going to work I started packing her one too. I played it up as a kind husband loving gesture, but it was mainly because she was gaining weight from eating too much junk for lunch while at work. I started doing that about a year ago, she's at a much better weight and doesn't eat fast food anymore.
That's an attractive woman who I would have sex with, if you catch my drift.
>That's an attractive woman who I would have sex with, if you catch my drift.
What did he mean by this?
I don't think there is much hope.
My wife was a cardio bunny and athlete, got kinda lazy after college, then picked it back up when I started lifting.
Point is, she was always into it.
I got my mother into fitness at like age 75 with excellent results because she wanted to maintain her mobility.
I think the only way to make it work is to give them a reason. My wife enjoyed running, so that was the reason. My mother wanted to stay healthy, so that was her reason. Surprisingly few women can maintain motivation if their goal is just to be skinny or look better - too easy to lie to the mirror.
Oh, and never go architect.
You get as fit as you can, that way you can bail if you need to.
Lol who styles these photos, no way is she able to lift those
Once I got a good enough body, my wife wanted to keep up with me. Jealousy I guess.
All those people in the thread talking about doing things so that she "gets the hint", or doing things and pretending it's kindness when it's actually a whole strategy, why do you act like teenagers?
When you're in a committed relationship with someone, you shouldn't play cringe games with her, you're honest and ask her to do things, and she asks you to do things, and everything is just fine.
I believe that you don't dare to be honest with your girl and instead treat the relationship like a wrestling match or a chess game, and it's sad. That's not what a committed relationship should be.
Basic communication is a cornerstone of a functional union.
>just tell a girl you want to have sex with that she's fat and needs to lose weight
jej
go try that out anon, report back
I have and it did.
Do you guys really live conflictual relationships with your woman? Can't you ask her anything without it becoming a negotiation or a conflict?
Jesus that must suck to live with someone that always has her shields up.
I have asked things that my wife doesn't want to do, including losing fat, or stop everything I consider goyslop during her pregnancy, she whines but she does it, of course she does.
And I do things she wants me to do as long as it's reasonable, even if I don't really want to do it. Sure I'll spend a week with her parents. Sure I'll drive her 3 hours away to a friend she hasn't seen in a long time. Sure I'll buy her that electric bicycle she wants.
That's how a healthy relationship is...
I mean, that's what I was told and shown anyway... Is it that surprising to you?
Replying to let you know you are heard. I've been with my wife for over a decade, everything is a conversation, can't remember the last time we were in a yelling match or some other passive aggressive game. We are blunt with each other, sometimes crass, but it works for us.
Well glad to know my wife and I are not from families of weirdos.
Our grandparents never played games with each other by trying to make the other one jealous, or "dropping hints", they just said things, had a discussion (sometimes heated), and came to a conclusion together AS A COUPLE and just went forward.
I'm not all knowing, but it seems so much healthier than having to try and manipulate someone with whom you are supposed to open your heart to.
Maybe it's because most people nowadays are not really committed in their relationships and always think of breaking up and divorcing as a possibility, so they become afraid of any direct action. I don't know.
They know their wife/gf would leave them or become unhappy. Why are with someone who doesn’t fit your non negotiable
Why would anyone become unhappy or choose a divorce over something as simple as eating better foods and working out for a few months? That doesn't make any sense.
Any spouse should do anything for their spouse as long as it's reasonable. I don't ask my wife to come with me and live in a cabin in the wilderness because it would be unreasonable, even though sometimes I want to, but the small things are always an obvious yes.
I’ve never met a woman below the age of 70 who could take the slightest criticism in stride and use it to improve herself. Modern women are indoctrinated to believe they are beautiful at any size and you are the butthole if you shatter that delusion. Divorce is always on the table no matter how inconsequential you think the situation is because modern women know nothing of duty and honor. Vows mean nothing to them. If you have yourself a woman who can you can be straight with, believe me when I say that she is a rarity. I have been married to a pretty traditional woman for over ten years now, and if I ever straight up told her to lose a few pounds I would catch grief for the rest of my life.
Thankfully not every woman is a big city rat with the latest Black person liberal college ideology.
My wife was raised in a stable family with strong traditional values and they educated her on the matter, including what it means to be a spouse and what your spousal duties are and how to keep a good marriage. She never fell for those "new values" crap. That's why she's a good wife.
Most girls in her neck of the woods are like that. If you get out of the godless cities and meet real people, you'll see how numerous they actually are. You won't find them on tinder.
I'm sorry that your marriage has communication issues. I recommend MDMA or another empathogen as a couple therapy to break those old shields that people that weren't educated on the matter never learned to let down.
>strong traditional values
such as
Great to see this on IST. Ive only been married for a little while but I function this way as well. Not worth it any other way is how I see it.
Good luck to you and your wife anon.
After reading this posts , its officially over for me...
I lost the last bits of hope I never knew I had....
>MDMA
Where to get this?
You just buy it on a darknet market like everyone else. It's like Amazon.
>That doesn't make any sense.
Preach it brother.
My wife has PCOS, and many doctors told her the same, she needs to lose weight.
Currently she's looking to get ozempic.
>Any spouse should do anything for their spouse as long as it's reasonable
Not every spouse like that, my wife won't wear lingerie for me.
>Jesus that must suck to live with someone that always has her shields up.
That's 80% of heterosexual relationships, it always turns abusive on both ends.
That's the normal thing.
We're on IST(nel), nothing about us is normal
The duality of man.
Tell me, anon, has this worked out for you?
I've been in 2 (two) relationships where I had a frank, honest "you need to lose weight" conversation
Both times it went fine; they lost the weight and ultimately appreciated me for encouraging them to get healthier
Don't waste your time dating women who respect you and don't respect themselves
If you don't grow beyond the mentality that you need to finesse and manipulate women into giving you what you want, your life is going to fricking suck
Gaslight her. Tell her she’s hot but make subtle comments about her weight. Tell her that she “looked thinner in the other outfit.” Tell her the fat you eat is the fat you wear.
However, all the while, you better be working your ass of at the gym and Keepin it tight.
She will absolutely understand what she needs to do. And you won’t be the bad guy.
The way you do things covertly and slowly reminds me of the poison of a snake.
You must not be a good husband to live with if your wife can't even know what you really mean since you don't say it and do things on a 5 year plan.
Women don't see that as being subtle, to them it's just polite.
>taking advice from virgins like this dude
shiggy diggy
You make healthy choices and healthy habits and hope she follows you. I hike every night despite being toast from my tradie job to keep my wife healthy- she has a desk job.
Why do I not have an Azn ab wife? Should have made better choices
Because racemixing is disgusting Anon.
I promote exercise all the time like an evangelist but I haven't told her that many times to straight up work out. Just a couple thousand.
I haven't really got her to work out much, but she has worked out sometimes. Maybe all the preaching has got to her to some degree, maybe she would've done it anyways. But I don't think forcing it is the path, just spamming it so when they're bored and look at themselves in the mirror, that voice pops up and says
>go work out you fat hog
and then maybe she will.
Just divorce the fat cow. Once you get IST you'll get a fit chick. Birds of a feather
Don't recommend divorce to people. Do you put no value in vows? Is your word so worthless?
Keep your vows then, hide the body and remarry.
No one has a wife/gf on IST, anon
I'm sorry friend, but you should have been more careful from the start. You had to make it clear from the beginning that you wouldn't tolerate it if she gained any weight and you should have actively tried to teach her how to eat right, exercise and stay healthy. Copious amounts of anti-fat brainwashing are a requirement.
Yes, got my girlfriend to work out by playing on her being competitive, she also now reads a lot more (and not slop) too for the same reason. Maybe you could try that but it probably depends a lot on the girl.
Recommend me a book that’s not slop pls
>her being competitive
Yes me too. Wife couldn't handle me being ripped/ "more attractive" so she upped her workout game to try to gain back the advantage.
>tfw watching my best friend's wife drag him down into her shit diet, zero discipline and poor habits netherworld
I fricking warned him that if he didn't work hard he would go to seed, but he didn't listen. Now he's 230lbs and his house looks like a fricking pigsty.
>Is it possible to actually motivate her or do I just become an architect
Yet more proof that le heckin high test architect posters are in fact coping eunuchs henpecked half to death by their fat wives.
>Has anyone here been able to convince their girlfriends/wives to start working out?
Yes. We married after she started and loved the gym. She's been consistent for the last 11 years.
>if I suggest she needs to workout with me she just laughs it off and refuses
You fricked up, get a divorce.
>mfw my fat wife is actually picking fights with me for my healthy life style and actually getting fit and mad because I'm getting thin.
Went from 101 kg to 68 kg in about a year and a half.
I can kind of relate, my wife is generally supportive of my workouts but she doesn't like me talking about them because, according to her, I get annoying when I can't shut the frick up about my workouts (which I agree, I tend to get autistic when I talk about it).
Yeah just have her meet a new coworker take than you; she'll start working out by herself.
>My wife has gotten skinnyfat
working out doesn't appeal to some women in the way it does to men, I literally cannot get my wife to step foot in a gym - but she'll do yoga, jogging and even weird stuff like boxercise and kickboxing. That should be your aim, not to get her in the gym lifting weights but increasing activity with something she enjoys.
Never try to seriously transform your girlfriend. For every women that makes a serious life-changing transformation (fitness or otherwise), there is 100 men who do it.
Trying to get a woman to accomplish such a feat is like expecting a coin flip to land on it's side. Possible, but stupidly rare. Pushing her to do it will destroy your relationship. In the rare event of success, she will leave you for someone richer and in better shape.
Either win over an already-fit chick, date an average skinny chick, or go architect.
anon, you're doing it wrong. You can't convince a wife to work out. You need to find a grill who enjoys working out, and marry her...
if you have a wife or gf and you don't have side chicks or at least one you are cucking yourself
It's over
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