You guys have learned to set healthy boundaries in your relationships right? Don't allow anyone into your core self, where you are cultivating your garden. Even loved ones will tear up your garden and leave it yellow and dehydrated, symbolically. Also, always water that which bears fruit, not weeds, when it comes to relationships, for psychological fitness.
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Tell me about the veggie patch
What does he grow?
He is making his fellow poopskins seethe by being productive and keeping them out, that's all I know.
It do what it did if you is what you is
big vegetables
for you
Looks like corn, possibly some sort of cucurbit, and the big, flat patch is likely yam.
How does one set boundaries. That requires sitting down and sincerely talking to another person about authentic self, right? I'd rather let people walk all over me that humiliate myself by talking sincerely about who I am.
>How does one set boundaries.
>"Let's do this"
>"No"
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No. If you do this no one will actually respect your boundaries. You have to explain why your boundaries exist. Usually it is related to past trauma when you were a young child. People find this extremely difficult though, because they block it out and pretend like their parents were great and they had prefect childhoods. In reality they probably got neglected or emotionally abused but they don't want to go there and address it. Many such cases.
You're not as smart as you think you are.
Nor are you
>Nor
Trying too hard, the post.
Post hand, I bet you're a fricking jeet c**t
I used the least amount of words possible with proper grammar. That triggered you? Sad. Go forgive your mom for what she did to you.
Aint seeing no hand there, Mr. Brown.
Too busy wiping the shit from your ass to post it?
There is a point where you need to consider humanity before efficiency. Being hyper efficient with use of your words for the sake of using as little of words as possible implies lack of consideration for you fellow man with your lack of casually understandable language , which undermines the core message that poses itself as a compassionate and caring one. You are on a luxembourgian ox grooming forum, speak like it. You are not a college professor and trying to sound like one betrays any sense of camaraderie and familiarity and transforms you message into that of a self absorbed prick. Sometimes you don’t go out for coffee because you want caffeine so don’t spend the least amount of money possible. Instead go to a nice cafe and order some nice coffee, chat with people. We communicate so we transfer information as easily and effortlessly as possible with consideration for others. Using as few words as possible isn’t always the best approach
stfu homosexual you know what ur problem is? you overthink things and your betamind tells you that you absolutely have to explain yourself to other people
lets be real life isnt some novel where everyone is thoughtful and understanding, if not outright virtuous; people are self-absorbed and borderline sociopathic
it's not just about saying "no" - you have to be prepared to walk away if your demands aren't satisfied... the threat is meaningless if not followed by decisive action
Unless you are asking for really weird shit like "I can't be around people with mustaches" the only people who want reasons for your boundaries are the people hoping to seize on a reason to disregard them.
This is why people who have to deal with narcisists are told not to "JADE"
Good luck telling someone malicious about your childhood trauma, they'll find every possible way to use that against you
based but I'd reword it slightly. No so much that they want to disregard your boundaries but rather violate them. They want to know that either you'll forgive them or else that them violating your boundaries could somehow be justified.
Usually women, honestly. Like with a guy friend you'd usually cut someone off before it gets to that point.
Yes, I have seen women do this to other women, and then be forgiven for violating the boundaries. You are right, typically with men, those kind of people are instantly cut out of their lives. Typically men tolerate less bullshit.
Enjoy your time living in a personal hell until you learn to set boundaries.
Enjoy having to run away from everything in order to protect your mental health
>This is why people who have to deal with narcisists are told not to "JADE"
>I don't have to explain myself you are just mentally ill
I dunno anon, that kind of shit can easily spiral to cause either mentally ill people to defend themselves because they just brand you as the mentally ill and they dont have to explain their actions.
Or leading interact between two normal people to deteriorate because somebody read a new article on the internet that says people are le bad because they have this incurable disease in their head called being a nazi, racist, bigot, narcissist, whatever hip new public enemy word is.
Not saying there is no such thing as a narcissist, but there is really nothing stopping from actual narcissists to use these tactics to bully others.
Leading to the only outcome where the person who cuts ties first "winning" but proclaiming the other side as mentally ill.
Unless there is something objective that can be use to define a narcissist, that can't be used on an innocent normal person, or can't be used be an actual narcissist.
To me, it seems it only leads to witchhunts and lots of cutting off and self isolation.
Since when did not explaining yourself mean you have to insult them instead
You still say no politely, you just dont say why
"Sorry, I'm unavailable that day" "No I can't reschedule" "Yeah its a shame, I'm sure you'll work something out, anyway gotta go bye"
>Can I borrow your phone for a quick call?
>Alright look, back when I was 6 years old, I lent my favourite toy to my older brother Sam who was the second oldest and really like tractors...
dat homie got primo za frfr. on tay k that shit got me so smacked on time slime on god
Can you say this again in normal human speak so I know wtf you are talking about
>You guys have learned to set healthy boundaries in your relationships right?
Yes, and people don't respect them, so I cut them off.
I'M A BIG BOSS WEED homie
I GROW WHEREVER I'M PLANTED
I have learned that you grow mental strength the same way you grow physical strength, by systematically exposing yourself to damage that you can heal from and adapt to. Therefore, I don't believe in sheltering anything from the stresses of life or the stresses of other people.
that is a fricking Black person
>actually being productive and trying to improve his situation
that is a black man you fricking homosexual, know your place
Pretty sure that is a Black person.
>black man
>man
You are really funny.
homierdry is a state of mind, as is humanity.
The race of the soul is more important that that of the body.
I've met many a white man with Black person souls.