>"want to hear from someone? message them!"
The inverse is painful too, when no one reaches out to you, but a here's a you for you anon.
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I'm on my journey anons, everything I eat is tracked, my TDEE and macros are figured out, now the only thing left to do is to work it. I'm trying to frame it as I only have the one thing to do and that helps.
yeah that’s normal. most people are only interested in themselves and if you don’t show the same interest, they won’t reciprocate. most people will forget about you if you “forget” about them
I would follow these principles if I wanted to become a spineless, opinionless man. I refuse to change for anyone and would rather die trying to make the world adhere to me than adhere to it.
>Losing your values is becoming a better person
You are the example of the man who never grew a spine and never saw his will enacted upon the world. You are the man who has been made conciliatory, submissive and weak by the feminine frame in which your formative years evolved. There is no satisfaction in a compromise, there is no victory in a stalemate, there is no domination in a mutually beneficial agreement.
You sound like a guy that's been totally domesticated and tamed by a woman, or even worse, by the feminine zeitgeist of modern society.
Shape the world according to your will. With your words, actions and perseverance you can literally mould the world to fit your vision. Every great man in history has done so.
Either that or admit you are a follower, a sheep, a goyim, and stop dispensing out this two bit so-called "wisdom" to your natural superiors. It's really that simple.
And there's obvious nuance in my response. Yes, self improvement is always possible, yes mistakes are always made. But once you've settled into a true, genuine and rightful view of the world, to think that you could so easily be swayed to change yourself in that regard betrays a deep lack of self confidence and self criticism - quite literally, a lower state of awareness and consciousness, a less evolved and distinguished identity.
Check yourself before saying such nonsense or I'll be happy to.
>stop texting first >suddenly no contact with anyone
This one gets me. People at work always want to get coffee/chat but no one ever wants to make time for me on their own time
Frick I had one of those last week, made me feel hopeful. It was a vague feeling, but strong and warm. To think someone could feel that way about me feels odd, but they must be out there.
Yeah it fricking sucks man. I try a bit harder to keep in contact with people these days. I truly value those who keep me in their thoughts a few times a week among the myriad of things they must deal with in their lives. At least you tried man, don't become discouraged.
>meme going around back in the myspace days to delete all your friends and whoever adds you back is your true friend >I fell for it, deleted everyone >literally NO ONE added me back
I'm in my grindset/israeli phase now. Took a job on Saturday as a weekend bartender. Should be an extra $200/week equalling an extra $800/month on top of my existing job. Could be more as it is located in the Beverly Hills of my city. Need to find a way to make money through the Internet. I'd even do OF if I was IST enough. Maybe another year. IDGAF any more. Give me shekels. I've played with the idea of making meme of the week shirts. That Chinese beaver seems to be popular now. I got fricked in 2021 and now there is nothing but money.
the time you’re spending as a bartender could be spent learning a new skill of advancing your career from where it’s at. hopefully you weighed those options but regardless, get those shekels rabbi
I work for boomer corp. There is no progression. I either use it as a resume builder or wait until I have my hands around their necks and squeeze and choke every penny out. The bartending is to help me learn to socialize with normies. Learn how they talk and learn my own way of communicating with them. If the position pays more as time goes on then I can't complain.
Bartending is based I do it for my sole income after working corporate for a while. Far more enjoyable environment and helps a lot with social skills / confidence.
As a guy who used to struggle with girls I'm gonna say this. Getting in shape and looking good will help but it's not a guarantee for attracting girls. At most it'll get your foot in the door. If you're still unable to spike her emotions after that point she will quickly lose interest.
Women are emotional creatures, they need you to make them feel butterflies. Attraction isn't a race of who's the best looking for them, it's who makes them feel the attraction.
Female attraction boils down to this. Does this guy give me emotional spikes? That's it. Why do you think there's so many guys who don't have shit going for them but they're able to get hot girls? It's because these guys figured a way to give them emotional spikes
How to give them emotional spikes. There's positive and negative some girls react more to negative and others react more to positive. It's a good rule of thumb to be more positive and fun to start off and you can do some negative ones once in a while
Examples:
Generally you want to be the fun guy who's a good time
You can convey this with social proof, competence, health, resources and resilience.
All of these examples lend themselves to the guy who is fun to be around. A fun guy who is the life of the party will have social proof (friends that vouge for him being cool, people who are excited to see him)
Competence is essentially your ability to move through social interactions. Think of it as being smooth, knowing the right thing to say, and most importantly saying it correctly.
Most of you have the health aspect down but that's something the girl wants to discover for herself, it's not something you show off to her.
Resources ties back into social proof but also your finances. Again dont show off your money if you have a lot, let her discover it for herself.
Resilience is basically how you handle stress. Can you be a sturdy foundation in the midst of a chaotic mess? Can you remain calm when you don't want to?
You most likely already have one or two of these things, you just gotta find your way of conveying them to the girl in a fun and natural way. Takes some time sure but after talking with girls for a few weeks it'll all start to make sense.
>can you remain calm?
Yes. Of course. What I cannot do is tolerate the same emotional homosexualry over the most miniscule things. >my tik toks are important to me and i'm upset you think adding phonk music was cringe
This shit is common
>specific
dunno bout that but anything you can do to not be boring, show her that you’re funny, show her you can befriend anybody, show her that you’re adventurous. go out drinking and challenge a random dude to a drinking contest, and win. go out on a date and make whoever you interact with laugh in some way or make them feel good with compliments. take her to a carnival and win her a prize and try your ass off at a ball toss, show her you really wanna win for her. idk homie, it all depends, but just do anything you can to make sure YOURE NOT BORING and that you are sociable
Also make sure that she knows you know she’s beautiful. compliment her. kiss her hand. treat her like a lady even if she’s a tinder bawd, they all want romance and the ones who know they don’t deserve it honestly appreciate it more.
dedicate 9-12 hours over 2 days and watch some romantic comedies/actual romance movies and try to emulate that shit. they all have the same plots in the end of the day. they all wanna be treated like princesses and the center of your universe, at least in the beginning. don’t be boring, be attentive, make her the priority of the date, not you getting your dick wet.
im phonegayging but if i get a chance i could write novels on some of this shit because i’ve unironically had a lot of female friends and they all express the same shit. they will never directly tell you what they want/expect because to them, you figuring it out is part of the game, but i feel like i’ve figured it out a bit. hopefully it helps a bit. they want their lives to be a romance movie where the guy is successful funny not boring adventurous etc etc
Yeah, frick this. I'd rather continue gymcelling in the hopes I get attractive enough for a woman to throw themselves at me and they're at least somewhat frickable so I can lose my 29 year old virginity.
Something I have always lacked is the ability to talk about myself, my accomplishments and things I have done. Especially IRL with people I don't know.
It is very easy to come off as boring, and I have never learnt this skill (among other social skills).
Any bros found anything that helped besides going to the bar and getting drunk?
I've started writing things down as i think of them, such as my qualities and things i've done.... almost like im preparing for a job interview.
Unironically my note taking is how i managed to get a GF, as i saw something interesting to try or do, anything kind of romantic or sweet i saw other couples do or i thought of myself I would write them down.
I managed to get a girl interested through kindness, and i went through most of my list/notes with her and even lived with her for a time.
What did me in was that I stopped trying to find new things(to keep her entertained), and I think my "negative ones" were the wrong type caused by my lack of social skills and being an introvert.
I've recently hit the bottom of both fitness and wealth, lets see if I can get them back while I work on the social stuff.
https://i.imgur.com/VEzgwa0.jpg
Going to keep the details vague since this shit can easily dox me
>spend 5 years making myself competitive for a certain program in college. >500+ hours of volunteering, in humid 95 degree heat without AC >study 12 hours a day just to keep a 4.0 GPA because shit teachers didn't realize the workload they put on students >had barely any time for friends, and lost them all. >managed to become first rank out of 800 kids, score 1500+ on the SAT. >worked on a few other aces up my sleeve, but are personally identifiable >write a frickton of application letters and attended tons of virtual tours that took up the entire summer >applied during the BLM summer of love >got rejected from nearly every program, later find out it was heavily influenced by the political climate >get accepted into one college program >thank frick, now I don't have to do as much anymore >still work hard academically and do some rare extracurriculars >make a lot of new friends and engineer tons of friend groups >win awards and go above and beyond program requirements >sing praises of the program to everyone, >last step is the interview. >prepare well for the interview, and it seemed to go quite well >get called up a few weeks later. I'm dismissed from the program, with no way to get back in >An interviewer decides of all of the program, they wanted to shitcan only me. >feel betrayed, especially since I knew a lot of the other people in the program were shady as frick or explicitly never wanted to be in the field >back to where I started, this time I have to meet an even harder standard >nearly all friendships died around the same time. They started to move on to other friends or just without me.
I don't know bros, all I got left is lifting and my hobbies. I worked my ass off for 5 years to avoid being stuck here. During those years it was like everything in my life hinged on getting into the program, and it was ripped away in the span of an hour. Everything I sacrificed amounted to nothing.
that's some sudoku fuel, you've got the skills and the drive, brother. Keep pushing that rock.
got a bad haircut and now i look like utter shit
i had long curly hair that women loved but i got it cut for some reason and now i look like a british chav (pic rel)
Go back to whomever cut your hair and ask them to fix it.
"Hey, after walking out I realized I'm not happy with this, can you fix XYZ?"
If they won't for free then go somewhere else or just shave it all off.
A double jack neat
Fricking hate myself. Ex came back into my life after she dumped her bf back in December. Have stayed in love with her for the past 2.5 years since she left and would love it if she wanted me back. I know it won’t happen though and I’ve been trying the past 2.5 years to get over her, but nothing works
Its a meme that hookers are clean. Theyre not. A lot of them have stds. Even the high class expensive ones.
You either kissed the hooker or gave her an oral. Both are insanely disgusting, anon.
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I actually had a lot of those types of nightmares when I was on trazodone. Do you take sleeping medication?
I kissed her but she also gave me unprotected oral and sex, I didn't tongue her vegana
You either kissed the hooker or gave her an oral. Both are insanely disgusting, anon.
https://i.imgur.com/N84dnPi.jpg
i had my first body horror nightmare.
the geckos were infected and slithered into your ears.
in the end the entire planet was a mass of flesh amd started sending flesh clumps to other planets.
I actually had a lot of those types of nightmares when I was on trazodone. Do you take sleeping medication?
Our relationship was so intense that i have fond memories of almost of all our day interactions in 2022 and early 23 when i was the one breaking up with her. it was an emotional roller coaster and I sitll haven't recovered since then and i don't know if I ever will.
I haven't even had sex since then and even though im seeing a new girl for the last 4 months I'm still celibate because I tried turning to God for my sins but it's a really hard battle. Btw the new girl is very good character but low energy and mid af
Matthew 6:24 you cannot serve two masters.
If you're going to be celibate and follow God don't worry about getting laid with a hotter girl.
Also you should have healed any emotional issues you had before getting another girlfriend
>Italy , white....
Had a a shit atmosphere at work....because of the managers.
Thinking about sitting them for a talk tomorrow because shit ain't right... work drama and shit....am I really loving doing this things? like for christ sake I could just switch place but I dont know....I don't want to quit yet...
Also bought a scarf can't wait to get it delivered to me 😀
my god....
i had my first body horror nightmare.
the geckos were infected and slithered into your ears.
in the end the entire planet was a mass of flesh amd started sending flesh clumps to other planets.
counting down the months until my move. full week of exercise and lifting weights now after illness and want to start focusing on getting my body fat% down as i lose the last 10 pounds to get to 22 BMI because i am definitely already a skinny fat. it might take a while but i can do it, i have 5 months before i have a lot more opportunities and will do my best until then. don’t feel sad that you aren’t there, feel happy you can get there.
Started banging this fat ugly chick originally just to lose my virginity and get some experience but I think I'm catching feelings. She can be pretty cute and keeps calling me a demigod when naked. I don't know what to do. I never expected this becoming anything serious.
That's your pair bonding receptors acting up anon. You gotta burn those off with casual sex and hookups or else you might accidentally start a nuclear family
Smashed a slam pig this week. Was my first entrance back into the game in over a year, but left feeling empty. Just want love bros. Other than that, everything is going great. Making good money and getting my degree soon. Just feels like something is missing.
Not great Ive been in top form age 14-26 and I got super sick not even covid my lungs felt like hell and now I cant even do a 20 min work out im 20lbs overweight and I have 6 months till i try to summit mtShasta and I might have to cancel feel like killing myself because Ill never be fit again
This is gonna be really pathetic and sound weird, but I don’t know who else to talk to about this. I promise this is not meant to be a coomer post. Please don’t make fun of me.
The recent news about this woman has actually been a pretty strong hit to my self esteem. It’s not because she’s a woman that’s cooler and more accomplished than me, it’s because I know neither she nor any other woman of that caliber would ever be interested in me or want me around.
I regularly struggle with self-esteem issues, especially around girls, but I’m very self-destructive about it. I have a bad habit of watching footage of female powerlifters, bodybuilders, or women who are heavily accomplished in some way, and then either jerking off to it or letting it crush my attitude for the rest of the day, usually both.
I know there are men out there who are into being demeaned and pathetic, but I swear that I’m not. I wish I wasn’t like this. I wish I could just be happy for other peoples accomplishments and not compare myself to them so much. Truthfully, I’m very attracted to these kinds of women, and I have this feeling that even if they were “better” than me, if they liked me, then I would just feel alright. But I want to stop letting this shit get into my head and rot my brain and my spirit.
Stop fapping or at the very least limit it to once a week. If you're fapping more than once a week you have too much time on your hands which is most likely the biggest contributor to your low self esteem.
To raise your self esteem pick something you've always wanted to do and don't put it down until you succeed at it
I wanted to talk to this woman today, flirt and all, but what kept me from doing it was other people being present at the same place as us. They were alone with phones in their hands, so our conversation would have been heard.
Apart from being IST so people can think I can get away with doing this, what other things would you recommend I do to make this "fear" disappear?
Stop jerking off, for a while to the things you normally do, or stop jerking off for a while period. Try to distance yourself from women's powerlifting and bodybuilding content as well. Forget about it.
You guys are right, the fapping is definitely part of it. I have been letting myself indulge in it a lot recently, and it's hard to let go of the temporary pleasure for long-term peace.
>I know neither she nor any other woman of that caliber would ever be interested in me or want me around.
Literal self-sabotage, stop being a homosexual. If getting pussy is your only goal in life then you have already failed. You've already identified the problem, do something about it instead of feeling sorry for yourself.
>If getting pussy is your only goal in life then you have already failed.
Pussy is not the only goal in my life. If it were, I would've already gotten it. There is a difference between simply getting pussy and achieving and maintaining a long-lasting, fulfilling relationship.
https://i.imgur.com/TE4Wgaf.jpg
Become the kind of guy those women would want around.
Get off your couch and do something for once. Pick up a book and read, do some math, go to college.
Be something, someone.
I need to mention some details I neglected in my original post. I began seriously lifting and pushing myself to do difficult things about a year ago in order to do exactly what you and others are describing. I've even picked up long-distance rucking, and am currently working towards a goal of 40 miles with 45lbs. I took my studies more seriously and have recently graduated with a BS in Biology and am currently preparing for the DAT. To put it simply, my life would appear to be "together," but the feelings and frustrations I described in my original post keep coming back occasionally. I just want it to stop. I want to feel secure and to stop beating myself up.
https://i.imgur.com/aTpP2ge.jpg
>The recent news about this woman
what woman? img search is making it look like this is just some pic from clickbait links. >I know there are men out there who are into being demeaned and pathetic, but I swear that I’m not. I wish I wasn’t like this. I wish I could just be happy for other peoples accomplishments and not compare myself to them so much. Truthfully, I’m very attracted to these kinds of women, and I have this feeling that even if they were “better” than me, if they liked me, then I would just feel alright. But I want to stop letting this shit get into my head and rot my brain and my spirit. >Anyone have any advice or suggestions?
you need to learn to love yourself. you only compare yourself to others constantly because you feel uncomfortable with who you are and never learned to love yourself. because you have no self love you can't motivate yourself or imagine yourself succeeding or being good at anything and this creates a self reinforcing downward spiral. this mental state is hell and has probably been strongly imprinted on you from childhood because your parents' love for you was conditional so you will be resistant to breaking out of it but you have to.
Yes, this is exactly what I'm talking about. I wouldn't say my parents love was conditional but I definitely had to perform and meet expectations growing up. My parents have always been there for me but I rarely heard clear words of encouragement or praise when I accomplished something.
I was also picked on a lot by girls growing up. I had weird friends when I was young and I always got roped in with them as some kind of freak when I was never really like them. Consequently, they'd call me ugly, gag, talk to me like I was stupid, etc. It really affected me. If you combine that with the myriad of dates I've been on that never actually led to a real relationship then you can see why I feel that getting the kind of high caliber woman I truly want is so unattainable to me.
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Ran out of characters, so here's the rest. I understand I need to develop self-love and be easier on myself, but I don't exactly know how, and I guess there's not one clear-cut answer. I've already been working on improving my fitness and I'm progressing in nearly all aspects of my life, but these emotions never seem to stop rearing their ugly head. It's hard for me to see the light at the end of the tunnel and feel like my efforts are worth it. Building a relationship with a woman I love and want is one of the final missing pieces, but it feels so out of reach for me. I know it's not the end-all-be-all of life, but it's something important to me.
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Her name is Madison Marsh, she's an F-35 pilot that was recently crowned Miss America. I was just using her as an example, but she's a good one because I really wanted to be a pilot of some kind when I was younger but can't due to my hearing disability. I am planning on applying for the U.S. Army HPSP after I take the DAT and hoping I can get a hearing waiver, but I see women like her and can almost hear them saying "Hey loser! Look what you could've been doing if you weren't born the way you were! Look at how much of a frickup you are! You'll never be like me!" or some bullshit like that.
Its maddening and makes me feel guilty because there are millions out there, including many I personally know, who have it worse than me. I really don't have any room to complain, but it's just this one stupid thing that always brings me down.
https://i.imgur.com/6O4aib3.jpg
I guess that’s true, and the dubs confirm it. I’d rather be able to see women as something other than my enemies though. I know that sounds cucked but men and women are meant to be together and need each other, society has just completely erased that concept out of peoples minds.
i think we are similar in ways. you have to learn to actively combat your internal negative self reinforcement. that voice that tells you negative things is part of you but it was put there by other people and bad experiences; you can get rid of it and let that space be occupied by a realistic, positive vision of yourself that knows what you are capable of, is proud of what you have achieved, and is at peace with your flaws. this article is short but i have found it is one of the best on this problem and the strategies to combat negative reinforcement have helped me: https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/the-3-simple-steps-to-stopping-negative-self-talk/ . you seem to be doing great and have a grasp on what it is you are doing to improve yourself and your life and what you want to do, your problems are mental blocks that as i said in my previous post seem to be the kind that are deep rooted, from childhood or early adolescence, and don't make sense and are frustrating to deal with as an adult. your perceptions of yourself, other people, and how you interact are warped even if you don't think they are. you place other people up on a pedestal above you and never miss an opportunity to put yourself down, even if you don't think you are doing that. all this does is hurt and isolate you and as with negative self reinforcement just creates a toxic feedback loop. i don't know what your experiences might have been that imprinted these behaviors but they are often things we try to bury or repress. a book that has helped me with examining these patterns in myself is "no more mr. nice guy" by dr. robert glover: https://www.amazon.com/No-More-Mr-Nice-Guy/dp/0762415339/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1705980723&sr=8-1 . if youa re put off by the title don't be, it's really a very insightful book that gets at all aspects of life. sorry it took so long to reply fren, i am here for you.
Stop fapping or at the very least limit it to once a week. If you're fapping more than once a week you have too much time on your hands which is most likely the biggest contributor to your low self esteem.
To raise your self esteem pick something you've always wanted to do and don't put it down until you succeed at it
>I know neither she nor any other woman of that caliber would ever be interested in me or want me around.
Literal self-sabotage, stop being a homosexual. If getting pussy is your only goal in life then you have already failed. You've already identified the problem, do something about it instead of feeling sorry for yourself.
>The recent news about this woman
what woman? img search is making it look like this is just some pic from clickbait links. >I know there are men out there who are into being demeaned and pathetic, but I swear that I’m not. I wish I wasn’t like this. I wish I could just be happy for other peoples accomplishments and not compare myself to them so much. Truthfully, I’m very attracted to these kinds of women, and I have this feeling that even if they were “better” than me, if they liked me, then I would just feel alright. But I want to stop letting this shit get into my head and rot my brain and my spirit. >Anyone have any advice or suggestions?
you need to learn to love yourself. you only compare yourself to others constantly because you feel uncomfortable with who you are and never learned to love yourself. because you have no self love you can't motivate yourself or imagine yourself succeeding or being good at anything and this creates a self reinforcing downward spiral. this mental state is hell and has probably been strongly imprinted on you from childhood because your parents' love for you was conditional so you will be resistant to breaking out of it but you have to.
Got it, thanks.
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You guys are right, the fapping is definitely part of it. I have been letting myself indulge in it a lot recently, and it's hard to let go of the temporary pleasure for long-term peace.
[...] >If getting pussy is your only goal in life then you have already failed.
Pussy is not the only goal in my life. If it were, I would've already gotten it. There is a difference between simply getting pussy and achieving and maintaining a long-lasting, fulfilling relationship.
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I need to mention some details I neglected in my original post. I began seriously lifting and pushing myself to do difficult things about a year ago in order to do exactly what you and others are describing. I've even picked up long-distance rucking, and am currently working towards a goal of 40 miles with 45lbs. I took my studies more seriously and have recently graduated with a BS in Biology and am currently preparing for the DAT. To put it simply, my life would appear to be "together," but the feelings and frustrations I described in my original post keep coming back occasionally. I just want it to stop. I want to feel secure and to stop beating myself up.
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Yes, this is exactly what I'm talking about. I wouldn't say my parents love was conditional but I definitely had to perform and meet expectations growing up. My parents have always been there for me but I rarely heard clear words of encouragement or praise when I accomplished something.
I was also picked on a lot by girls growing up. I had weird friends when I was young and I always got roped in with them as some kind of freak when I was never really like them. Consequently, they'd call me ugly, gag, talk to me like I was stupid, etc. It really affected me. If you combine that with the myriad of dates I've been on that never actually led to a real relationship then you can see why I feel that getting the kind of high caliber woman I truly want is so unattainable to me.
Ran out of characters, so here's the rest. I understand I need to develop self-love and be easier on myself, but I don't exactly know how, and I guess there's not one clear-cut answer. I've already been working on improving my fitness and I'm progressing in nearly all aspects of my life, but these emotions never seem to stop rearing their ugly head. It's hard for me to see the light at the end of the tunnel and feel like my efforts are worth it. Building a relationship with a woman I love and want is one of the final missing pieces, but it feels so out of reach for me. I know it's not the end-all-be-all of life, but it's something important to me.
who is she btw? never heard of her
Her name is Madison Marsh, she's an F-35 pilot that was recently crowned Miss America. I was just using her as an example, but she's a good one because I really wanted to be a pilot of some kind when I was younger but can't due to my hearing disability. I am planning on applying for the U.S. Army HPSP after I take the DAT and hoping I can get a hearing waiver, but I see women like her and can almost hear them saying "Hey loser! Look what you could've been doing if you weren't born the way you were! Look at how much of a frickup you are! You'll never be like me!" or some bullshit like that.
Its maddening and makes me feel guilty because there are millions out there, including many I personally know, who have it worse than me. I really don't have any room to complain, but it's just this one stupid thing that always brings me down.
I guess that’s true, and the dubs confirm it. I’d rather be able to see women as something other than my enemies though. I know that sounds cucked but men and women are meant to be together and need each other, society has just completely erased that concept out of peoples minds.
I wanted to talk to this woman today, flirt and all, but what kept me from doing it was other people being present at the same place as us. They were alone with phones in their hands, so our conversation would have been heard.
Apart from being IST so people can think I can get away with doing this, what other things would you recommend I do to make this "fear" disappear?
Stop jerking off, for a while to the things you normally do, or stop jerking off for a while period. Try to distance yourself from women's powerlifting and bodybuilding content as well. Forget about it.
Become the kind of guy those women would want around.
Get off your couch and do something for once. Pick up a book and read, do some math, go to college.
Be something, someone.
Speaking from experience, fighter pilots are almost exclusively socially inept chuds. Think the cross country kids that were not complete morons but you wouldn’t wanna hang out with em. All the roasties were given that job for affirmative action and they’re genuinely fricking bad at it with few albeit existing exceptions.
I keep obsessing over a thot I met on tinder and have 1 date with once (no ons), she ghosted after a while even if she was saying we should hang out again
Had to tell this girl I'd been seeing that I don't see us going further than fwb. She wanted a relationship so she said we should stop seeing each other if i feel that way. Feels bad upsetting her but she just wasn't the one for me. For the best for both of us in the long run.
I had a dream I was in some kind of hippie commune and they showed me this drug they made/were using but it was super hardcore and they were babysitting me the first time I took it. At some point the camp we were in was attacked and we had to pack up at night and were refugees but I never saw what we were running from. I remember that the women were polyamorous and we all shared girls.
I dunno I have been having really wild dreams since I have been sober and taking vitamins.
I'm turning 26 this year and got my quarter life crisis.
I know it's not too late to start but man, I dread the future because I'm going to make the mistakes most people did when they were younger at my age. I've never been to uni and only got my hs diploma at 22. I'm not dumb, I had a minor health problem and was forced to attend a special ED school with blind people, autists, etc. I'm not one of them but everyone in that school got disability bucks. They don't pressure you, you can stay there forever but I got anxious and only started applying myself around 20.
I'm just angry at how my family robbed me of my youth. I don't care if I can live comfortably as a NEET we weren't mean to live this way.
If they die and I had to get a job I wouldn't mind, frick them tbh >treasure your parents
You don't know what I've been through, I only treasure the financial stability they provide. I hate to say it but I'm on my cringe Machiavellan prince pace rn, It's not me thinking I'm the MC, I'm just angry at the world fr (real).
Bro I got held back too for eye problems. I had to get 2 surges to stop regression. Still can't get license at 27. My family was dog shit. Abusive and poor. Couldn't pay for health and never cared about a thing.
I say use the financial stability to get a job and pursue a career. Many places will pay for you to further educate yourself for a related degree. It's what I'm doing at a bank.
Ngl dude. I hate life and I'm very alone, so my advice might not be the best. The security of parents would've made my life easier and probably happier at least.
Your advice is exactly what I'm trying to do, I can go to uni rn but not having worked a day in my life and living as a neet is fricking me up and I need to get over that. I know it looks like I'm just a privileged lazy neet to people who meet me because they see my family and think I was born with a silver spoon. The truth is, those families always have some drama behind the image they project and It's tiresome going to birthdays and family reunions where they act passive aggressive. I'm traumatized (not only mentally) but It is what is it and I have to get over it. I try not to be ungrateful because I've never been forced to work and in fact I could get a job through nepotism but it's a pride thing for me to try to make it on my own. That's why I said I wouldn't mind if they die and I'm forced to work at a call center or something. As grateful as I am, it doesn't get rid of the loneliness. thanks for the relatable post and good luck.
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>be me, ended 8-year relationship in 2021, under a rock since >2022-2023, add women on /soc/ based off their posts >most suck, some still talk and meetup are so-so >Nov 2023, add girl I thought was a fake/castfish post because her selfie seemed too good to be a ISTner >turns out she's the real deal >talking daily, let her know Day 1 I was interested in her, she mentions about her abusive relationship she ended last September >throughout Dec/Jan, she starts teasing me about seeing me or I see her >start making plans to fly to her soon, ask her if it'll be dates >she agrees that they will be dates and my chance, but we won't be exclusive unless the dates go well >still talking, few weeks before planned flight >noticed our conversations are waning and finally she pulled back saying they're no longer dates and doesn't want to see me anymore because she doesn't want me to be "disappointed" that the outlook will end in her not interested in me >tell her that's not her problem if that outlook happens, I still want to see her no matter what >she rejects it, has me cancel the flights >bought her gifts and shipped to her few days ago >wrote a 4-page cringe handwritten letter on how happy I am to have met her and hope we remain friends
I am certain everyone in this thread, anyone I tell this to will think I am the most pathetic guy in the world, but she actually helped me from thinking about my ex fiance. I don't know guys, I made my shot and take the L with pride.
You and Daigo(the guy in your image) are based. I read his self help book lol
Is it possible to be desirable if you are bellow 6'? I am a turbo manlet (5'9½) and I already readed an ocean of texts and messages about how disgusting short guys are
Beat some coworkers in poker on Friday. Ended up not going out for the rest of the week thanks to single digit temps. Would like to try to find someone to spend valentine's day with, but I don't even know where to begin at this point. I feel like I waited too long. Working out twice a day and dieting and trying to learn an instrument and play in an orchestra on top of 40 hour week just doesn't give me any time to actually meet people.
>work with stacy coworker >known her for a while and became friends >she asks about my love life a lot (she has a bf) >tell her i recently broke up with a fling >”oh well onto the next one right?” >obviously >”oh really you got a new one already?” >asks if i’m the type of guy to juggle multiple women >jokes about sex when i mention i go on a date >later find out she was going through a rough patch with her bf >hear from a coworker she often mentions me
I'm gronkmaxxing and it's given me purpose again after transferring. Six months ago I was pretty depressed and wandering aimless through life, but since I decided to try out for the football team here and start 'Project Gronk" I'm considerably happier. Find purpose anons, no matter how stupid it sounds.
Doing pretty good. Pulling 40hrs a week as an intern, also getting a second job. New car, ran a 10km today. Reading a lot.
Realizing that a simp is literally the male version of a bawd. Like if you create a structure of values describing the positive masculine, a simp would be one probable archetype resulting from a neglect of duties. And even if it’s hard to draw criticism of a simp according to standards in the media, or even the Christian church, it’s really a terrible and disgusting state to find yourself in.
Having a hard time breaking out of that groove though- it seems hard to do for it’s own sake. A lot of manosphere books and podcasts appear to pursue either false or compensatory ends. I think to really transcend from the bipolar dysfunction of repressing instincts and then overcompensating, you need to have a family or some kind of responsibility that compels you to act with purpose.
you motherfrickers ever had that weird dream where your sister gets into you bed naked? like b***h what the frick, WHAT DO YOU MEAN JUST CLOSE MY EYES?
How do you actually get to meet people, if not through work/school?
I recently landed a government job (pretty good pay, have to do pretty much frickall), and I had to move across the country. I lived alone before, and moved a few times, and I never had problems making friends and meeting girls through college, work, other friends and such. Now, it has been almost 6 months since I've moved, and I haven't made a friend yet.
I actually get along pretty well with the people at my office, but pretty much everyone in the building 50+ yo, these are not the kind of people I can hang out with. I could download Tinder to meet girls, but I really suck at online dating, because I never had to, and just the thought makes my stomach turn.
I’m genuinely considering getting back into college just for a few months so I can meet new people.
Yeah, I realise that it's kinda homosexual to complain about a good paying job with little responsabilities because ">tfw no gf and no friends", but I don't know, dude. I thought my life would get way better, but it hasn't.
Maybe look to socialize in other departments if u have to go into an office. There could be other avenues like hiking for charity type shit. My work had one of those.
>gf will send me hundreds of texts during the day >20-30 new texts any time I look at phone >just ranting about whatever things not even having an actual conversation >after about 6-7pm it stops >if I try to text her no response, maybe she’ll reply an hour later usually no reply until the next day at most >if I don’t text her the next day I won’t hear from her for the next few days at all
It seems how it seems but she doesn’t seem like that, like a hoe. I literally can’t tell with this girl I cannot get an angle on her
I asked her the other day she said she didn’t even notice. We talked about it I figured okay so no big deal. Then a fight ensured immediately after about (not joking) I don’t even know what. That was yesterday. Today it’s the same shot, she blew me up all day. It’s almost 10 and she stopped texting me around 6pm. I won’t even text her because I don’t feel like being ignored again
I asked her the other day she said she didn’t even notice. We talked about it I figured okay so no big deal. Then a fight ensured immediately after about (not joking) I don’t even know what. That was yesterday. Today it’s the same shot, she blew me up all day. It’s almost 10 and she stopped texting me around 6pm. I won’t even text her because I don’t feel like being ignored again
Oh and I know for a fact she’s not sleepmaxxing she goes to sleep late
>gf will send me hundreds of texts during the day >20-30 new texts any time I look at phone >just ranting about whatever things not even having an actual conversation >after about 6-7pm it stops >if I try to text her no response, maybe she’ll reply an hour later usually no reply until the next day at most >if I don’t text her the next day I won’t hear from her for the next few days at all
It seems how it seems but she doesn’t seem like that, like a hoe. I literally can’t tell with this girl I cannot get an angle on her
Hidden microphone/camera
Don't reveal that you used one, even if it's nothing/actually what you fear. Keep it secret.
>gf will send me hundreds of texts during the day >20-30 new texts any time I look at phone >just ranting about whatever things not even having an actual conversation >after about 6-7pm it stops >if I try to text her no response, maybe she’ll reply an hour later usually no reply until the next day at most >if I don’t text her the next day I won’t hear from her for the next few days at all
It seems how it seems but she doesn’t seem like that, like a hoe. I literally can’t tell with this girl I cannot get an angle on her
Actually wait hold on I'm moronic
If you don't live together then just camp out in her neighbourhood one night and stakeout her house.
>be me, ended 8-year relationship in 2021, under a rock since >2022-2023, add women on /soc/ based off their posts >most suck, some still talk and meetup are so-so >Nov 2023, add girl I thought was a fake/castfish post because her selfie seemed too good to be a ISTner >turns out she's the real deal >talking daily, let her know Day 1 I was interested in her, she mentions about her abusive relationship she ended last September >throughout Dec/Jan, she starts teasing me about seeing me or I see her >start making plans to fly to her soon, ask her if it'll be dates >she agrees that they will be dates and my chance, but we won't be exclusive unless the dates go well >still talking, few weeks before planned flight >noticed our conversations are waning and finally she pulled back saying they're no longer dates and doesn't want to see me anymore because she doesn't want me to be "disappointed" that the outlook will end in her not interested in me >tell her that's not her problem if that outlook happens, I still want to see her no matter what >she rejects it, has me cancel the flights >bought her gifts and shipped to her few days ago >wrote a 4-page cringe handwritten letter on how happy I am to have met her and hope we remain friends
I am certain everyone in this thread, anyone I tell this to will think I am the most pathetic guy in the world, but she actually helped me from thinking about my ex fiance. I don't know guys, I made my shot and take the L with pride.
friend, I get it.
I met a women who changed my life with just one night together and following conversation, and then due to circumstances outside my control I never got to see her again. Texted still sure, but I was going through it a bit at the time and I would have felt better seeing her. All I can say now is be glad for the moment you had, be happy you grew, close the book on her but leave a corner folded, you never know.
>2013-2014 lose like 150lbs
Miraculously no loose skin but I was super skinny. Meal every day was 1-2 eggs for breakfast, skip lunch, dinner was like 250-500 calories of any combo of the following: chicken, rice, potatoes, fruit, instant ramen. I also walked a ton. >2014-2016 start lifting while working on self in other ways like forcing self to talk to people and try things that scared me
Made great gains because channeled autism, started becoming very comfortable socially had a blossoming social life and even started dating >2017 start getting depressed again but keep pushing >2018-2019 fall off my horse
Stopped lifting, got fat again, because I became fat I re developed social anxiety and became socially inept again >2020-2022 same shit even worse >2023 start trying to make changes
Wasted the year, only changes are lessening the depression enough that I don’t have to think about doing basic chores and house work I just do them, also get sunlight each day and generally more active >2024
That’s it. I can’t take this bros. This is the year I get back and idgaf what I have to do to make it happen. Whether I have to starve myself or do my old year king crash diet idgaf. I’ve hit my old peak weight. I’m not coming back here after tonight until the end of this year. If I don’t end up 200lbs by December I’m going to kill myself.
are you going to be a help desk wagie? i can offer advice. unless you’re just another code monkey larping as IT, then you’re stuck with the indians >t. formerly help desk now a cyber threat intelligence analyst
are you going to be a help desk wagie? i can offer advice. unless you’re just another code monkey larping as IT, then you’re stuck with the indians >t. formerly help desk now a cyber threat intelligence analyst
Not that anon but I started as a hell desker, now I do network admin shit for a contractor. IT is the bomb, and yes I gatekeep to keep out the code monkey grifters.
Its not easy..i got banned from HTB discord last week,for being "transphobic". Every other guy is lgbt/trans freak.
My friend works as marketing agent,he went few months ago to Netherlqnds to meet with some IT people and when he went to their company place,one of thw workers was a guy dressed in female clothes,had full beard and actuall breasts(plastic surgery).. kinda scary imo,im studying to get job in IT sector but jeez,so many lunatics there.
My gf would be great if she lost the weight. She has expressed expressed her desire to lose weight but she hasn't made any moves herself.
I'm afraid that if we start working out together, she will lose interest. She's also 31. She treats me well though. But dating younger and more attractive doesn't always mean they will be amenable, or a good mother.
Idk, I have no qualms with dumping her, unless she shows promise in the gym. Guess I'm just wondering if I'm being a c**t, and even if I am I shouldn't feel shame for wanting a more appealing partner.
Frick me man. Do I really want to deal with a shit frick stupid 23 year old woman. Yes she will look good but they are only good at getting fricked and arguing.
Look ,if she is fat and lazy now,imagine how more fat w
she will get after giving birth to your five children.
Now imagine having 25 year old petite wife..
I was a really active dreamer last night and a lot of my dreams were extremely realistic that i woke up getting them confused with real life recalling.
I'm only getting IST cause I broke up with my gf pretty recently but now the momentum is dying down and I have a lack of energy but I still miss her so much every day. This sucks.
Why is your momentum dying? Are you not making noticeable gains? the gains you’re making should be enough to inspire you enough to go forward, and this is coming from an autist with the motivation of a bag of rocks, but when i look in the mirror every morning and see that i am sculpting my body in ways i never thought possible and seeing the changes week by week, i feel like a completely useless homosexual if i don’t go 100% in all my workouts
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Not that anon but I started as a hell desker, now I do network admin shit for a contractor. IT is the bomb, and yes I gatekeep to keep out the code monkey grifters.
nice anon. i larped as my companies network admin after i got my ccna. i got my sec+ and cysa+ before finally getting into a SOC and then moving into the threat intel department. IT is so fricking easy for the autists who grew up on the internet. surprised i haven’t encountered fellow anons in my career
Wife says she wants a divorce, so I said okay. She don't want to be here no more then whatever, she reaches out a few times. I don't really respond much. Finally asks me to talk, and I say okay.
Tells me the whole "it's me not you" bullshit. So I tell her I agree, and point out all the ways she was a shit wife and partner, but tell her I loved her anyways. Then say I want to go and hang up. Every woman that we both know, including those in my family thinks I'm the biggest butthole in the world, because how much it hurt her.
If you're gonna do that patronizing bullshit, don't expect people to beg to argue that it was really them/me that sucked.
Just going to the gym and going home now, home is a lot quieter and my bills are way down. But it don't feel like home anymore.
Sorry bartender just being a pussy, I'll have a whiteclaw and some grapejuice with my tampon.
>Tells me the whole "it's me not you" bullshit. So I tell her I agree, and point out all the ways she was a shit wife and partner, but tell her I loved her anyways
lmao
based power move
BASED as frick man
Just know that there's a guy on the other side of the world whom you've never met who fully supports all your decisions. You are in the right. My man.
BASED bro I’m using that should the chance ever arise and I know it’s not me. I support you man, you’re not just 100% in the right here and the victim, but you made what I think may be the best possible move.
Isn’t it horrifying if not just plain funny how it’s always >every woman thinks in the worlds biggest butthole
It doesn’t even matter how bad the woman was to you. It doesn’t matter how you react or respond, they’ll always view you as the bad guy. And I’m saying this as a man who has both witnessed this many times and experienced it first hand himself. The situation could literally be, for a not at all random example >Socially inept virgin puts forth massive effort to improve life, fixing any and all flaws >gets first GF >she immediately starts telling all people he knows he beats her and cheats on her and is manipulative and emotionally abusive, all while doing those things to him and all the people she tells know and have witnessed her do it >all the women she tells side with her anyways >guy leaves >gets shamed by these people >has people telling everyone he’s some social mastermind elite sociopath/psychopath >is literally just a sperg who works out and wants to enjoy his life
It’s like they can only view things by self inserting as the role they most identify with but can only identify based on physical characteristics like gender. I swear if you told these b***hes about a female Ted Bundy named “Tina Bundy” they’d side with her
Haven’t gotten laid since June at a wedding. Been working a lot and also studying for PE Exam. Also have a severely damaged self esteem since I had surgery and lost all of my gains. Don’t really have the confidence, time, or interest to get back on the apps. My ex gf who broke up with me when I was at probably my lowest point texted me the other day out of the blue. I didn’t respond beyond the first message.
Seltzer water with lemon, please.
This is the only place where I can communicate with and relate to others. I'm an outcast at work, with acquaintances, even my own family. I'm barely a person.
To keep it ISTness related, I'm shooting for 200lbs on bench this week
Fellas whenever I go to the bar I just get whiskey on the rocks. Is Whiskey considered "hard" liquor or what? I don't drink often, but I'm here because I'm in a slump. Still going to the gym, going tomorrow and going to put myself back on 1/2/3/4 goal of 2024. Only thing is I'm going to start adding accessories because I'm starting to look like a T-Rex with unflattering upper body physique.
>in a long distance relationship for the last 4 years >lately she's been ignoring me because I haven't proposed to her yet >think I have feelings for a girl at work
wtf do i do
41 old. Still pay and have sex with teenage hooker. They still think im in my 20-30 age range because i look youthful and have my hair. Also im in shape. But all this empty sex without love slowly killing me inside and make me feel empty. Depressed. Have relationship with 24 old hooker that is also crushing my mental health.
I live a worthless life now and stressing about the future. What will you do if you are me? I plan to break it up and leave her for good.
Im a neet who live off my saving but it will burn out in maybe 1-2 year if i continue living my life like this without any change.
Do i have a midlife crisis right now? Have no motivation doing or achieve anything right now. I feel hopeless maybe because of my sin. And maybe i am longing for a family with wife and children at my age right now. But i know im not ready to have them yet. Frick it
Bros... I'm so fricked. Improving myself everyday. Exercise healthy foods. Vitamins. Ointments creams. Fricking anything. I stoll fall asleep thinking how lonely and miserable life is. Fricked. I have such strong emotions and feelings but they don't matter. Not to anyone never have. I f9nt connect and I'm never understood clearly it's fricking weird. No mater how much I try I never connect and I can't change things or peoples hearts. Pain!
I'm breaking records for my cardio. I smashed my 5k time. I can consistently do it in24 minutes down from 30. My heart rate sleeping is 48 usually now. Based. Cool. Wow. My lifts are slightly up. Cutting now doing good job.
I get this more than you could understand. I still cope with it every day, and likely will for the rest of my life. I think one of the most important things you could possibly do for yourself is look past the self pity, and seek inner peace. I know it's dumb and hammy and generic, but that's what I've been trying to do and it's working. Kind of. Do the best in the world for yourself, and do quadruply so for the people around you, at any cost. Even if you get nothing but scorn and hatred for your efforts, they are appreciated, though perhaps you can't see it. Knowing that you've done your absolute best, and you went as hard as you could, and you took all the chances in the world. Live without regrets, no matter what. Even if it doesn't get you anywhere, you took your shot, and that's enough to be satisfied with life.
At least, that's how it is for me
I've got a 4/10 sorta girl who's into me and clearly wants to see me more. Should I go for it?
I wouldn't even consider it at all but my oneitis straight up told me she likes somebody. I didn't tell her I like her or anything, she doesn't even go to the same university as me. (It was a moronic hope, I know).
Should I go for the uggo who actually likes me? I know I'm not exactly a 10/10 myself but I feel absolutely nothing for her, it would only be for the experience. I'm not attracted at all. Maybe it'd be funny for a little while, since she changes her opinions on stuff to match mine the moment I open my mouth. >t. virgin
Practice gf. Your going to ruin her opinion of men, but if it's not you it will be someone else.
Alright, I'm gonna go for it. I'll try and ignore how she's a self-proclaimed feminist who dresses up like a goth with black lipstick.
Those are usually seen as red flags, right? Well I'm a straight up esoteric neo-nazi, I'll outschizo her. I'll also keep looking for someone I actually like on the side.
>went on date with girl >can tell she’s losing interest after >feel more lonely than I do when I have nothing >Co worker gives me a heated bag thing for winter >It warms my fingers but also for some reason feels pleasant to hold like a tingly feeling in my spine >remember it’s how it feels to hold someone >realize my body thinks it’s holding someone >continue to handle the bag until it loses heat because it’s something to feel
At least it wasn't an ex dream. Swear to god every time I start feeling fine I have some very feels good dream where she comes to haunt me, frick this gay shit.
How do I tell my gf to brush her teeth without sounding mean? Sometimes when she stays over she goes straight into her day and I can smell her morning breath all day
am i still a loser even with barely any progress? i've been trying so hard for so long but just can't seem to get there. it's tough but i'm still moving i guess
I remember someone posting a picture saying that Alcohol was the best pre workout as it raises core temp and is a vasodilator among other things.
Cant find the picture anymore but got banned from my gym for doing shots between sets.
Swallowed a bottle of acetomonaphine/caffeine/codeine tablets yesterday morning. Decided i didnt want to die about 30 minutes after i took them. Been in the hospital since and im starting to regret getting help already. Nothing has changed.
anon you need to find hobbies that amuse the mind. I encourage you to find subtle ways to ruin those who have wronged you.
I remember someone posting a picture saying that Alcohol was the best pre workout as it raises core temp and is a vasodilator among other things.
Cant find the picture anymore but got banned from my gym for doing shots between sets.
Just buy a full balaclava and cheap clothes and slash their tyres and pour paint stripper on stuff like at 3am. Scroll through tbharchive for ideas. Park your car a good mile away so its reg doesn't show up on camera. Trash the clothes afterwards. Repeat very, very infrequently, (like a few months break, preferably it'd be like 6 months to a full year) but enough to scare them.
This is why whenever I hear about guys weary of their "toxic" exes or bpd prostitutes, I don't really respect them. Being annoying and showing up at your house at 3am and threatening suicide isn't "crazy".
Stealthily pouring boiling salt water on her front lawn to spell Black person, breeding termites and letting them loose on her property, sharing her phone number with random strangers on IST and the sharty, throwing rocks on the tracks when she takes the train in Fortnite, now THAT'S what you call crazy.
Outbpd the bpd. Outcrazy the crazy. Any man can do this, you just have to let go.
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I'm sure you could fake a death certificate and get her utilities turned off.
I don't know if I'm suffering from body dysmorphia or not. Ive lost 35lbs since Sept and completely turned my body around, I want to get into bodybuilding and get big but be lean..and I'm ready for my first bulk as I've been cutting this entire time, but I still feel not lean and like I've got another 10-15lbs to lose.
>dated a girl two months (oct-dec) >she went back to her home country for holidays >I thought she’d leave 2-3 weeks >it’s been 6 weeks >now she says she’s staying another 3 weeks or so
She called me out on my texts being as sweet or consistent, but she’s been away longer than we’ve been together. Didn’t even text me today. Oh well.
>never followed egirls or the like >spoke to an anon about a specific one he seemed to be obsessed with >kept saying stuff that made me think i could save her >dream about her being my gf that night >wake up and remember I would be just another simp
What a horrible feeling, why do so many guys put themselves through this?
How the frick can I date Michelle Jenneke or at least a woman that looks like her? God I love tall athletic women but I am cursed by being a 5'9 manlet, it's so unfair bros...
I joined a track and field club just for her. She seems like such a lovely gal
>t.30 y/o that didn't make it and not good with women
Take care of yourself physically and mentally. Wear proper clothes that fit, get a good haircut, and be social. That's it. I'm a 6'4 dude and have tons of friends 5'8-6ft that pull hot chicks. Chicks are attracted to confidence and if you have a pussy mindset, they'll see it.
My guys I want to believe you but I think the ship has sailed a while ago. I used to be able to pull sometimes 6-7/10 in my early 20s with the dawn of dating apps but I've been on and off the past 5 years and can't pull anything, even with premium/boost, doesn't matter the dating apps. I only get fatties and bottom of the barrel women. I'm not a hot guy and don't lift that much because I mostly play hockey and soccer with friends, can run a 5k in <23min and generally have my life together (good family, good health, great job, great house, great friends)
I used to go to nice bars but now I don't have anyone to go with since they all have girlfriends and kids. I sometimes go alone to try to rekindle with my youth but I am noticing that the only ones that go alone at a bar (especially a nice one) are losers, creeps and extremely awkward/desperate dudes
The funny thing is, I could probably somewhat meet Michelle Jenneke even though I'm in Canada. My coach and good friend trains high level national athletes at the track and could bullshit something like needing her for a seminar or whatnot. Doesn't really matter as autism/assburger can't be cured and I'll forever be resigned to date chad's past cum dumpster (if I'm lucky) or the worst genetic abberation in existence
Take care of yourself physically and mentally. Wear proper clothes that fit, get a good haircut, and be social. That's it. I'm a 6'4 dude and have tons of friends 5'8-6ft that pull hot chicks. Chicks are attracted to confidence and if you have a pussy mindset, they'll see it.
>cuddling watching a movie with girl I've been seeing for about a month now >she pulls out a condom and hands it to me giggling >tell her I think it's best if we both get STD screenings before getting intimate >doesn't say anything >some 30 minutes later she says she has to go and leaves without saying bye >apparently I'm being burned at the stake in some group chat and I'm literally bawdshaming hitler prude edition
She has AIDS, doesn't she?
I did kiss her a few times so I might have mouth herpes now
Anon.... she giving you a condom is a green flag that she isn't a bawd, in fact. The worst part is that you've poisoned the well and it'll be harder to date other girls she knows from now on.
If I were you, I'd invent an excuse or straight up say you were unprepared or nervous of underperforming, (had a lot on my mind lately not feeling horny or some dumb shit) she thought you invited her specifically to have sex.
And yes, b***hes will roast you in their group chat, all of their complains of locker room talk is projection because they say the nastiest shit when they are together
>Anon.... she giving you a condom is a green flag that she isn't a bawd, in fact.
Anything other than a virgin or a married woman is a bawd. That's how it works.
>she giving you a condom is a green flag that she isn't a bawd,
lmao no it’s not, moron. >yeah ive fricked 70 guys but i “made” them wear condoms, im trad teehee”
Do you wonder where you would be if your parents pushed you to do anything? I was lucky and got into a decent uni on scholarship but I had zero direction and was just smart enough to ace tests. My parents didn't even look at my report cards. I wonder if I could have been good at a sport or done academic competitions etc...
I just realized I turn 22 this year
I finally started mma which is a dream I had since I was 16
I talked to my dad and he call me out for spinning my wheels.
I dropped out of college got a job paid off my loan but now I have 0 idea what to do with my life
>varicocele >childhood testicular torsion on the other nut >see something online about varicoceles being a major factor in male fertility problems >realize I might be infertile >if I am, gf wants a sperm donor when we try for kids, will not consider IVF or adoption >go to fertility clinic >nut into a cup thinking about impregnating my gf with triplets on our future honeymoon >cry for 10 minutes before leaving the room
I get the results tomorrow. What do I do if I'm infertile? I will not accept letting my gf be impregnated by another man.
>if I am, gf wants a sperm donor when we try for kids, will not consider IVF
That would absolutely be grounds for divorce if it were me, full stop. But this anon is correct
stop making up problems that you don't know exist yet
>His gf immediately demands a sperm donor before the results even come in, instead of suggesting adoption when you can't conceive normally after years of trying
HAHAHAHA imagine not seeing it as a red flag the size of a football court. Enjoy being cucked in the future moron
I had the Heihachi dream again last night. I could electric wind god fist and it was the coolest thing ever. Felt like a god of martial arts fighting off ninjas with my bro.
>dreamt about my abusive ex again
How the frick do I move on from her? It's been a year already >"just find someone new lmao"
not that easy to just connect with someone new when the old connection is already so strong
Shit man literally the same. In my dream i was talking with my ex and some chad pulled a chair next to her and sat down with his feet on her lap. I got pissed off and tried to snap his legs leg press style but my punch was too weak and i almost killed myself out of shame. Do you know any exercises that will allow me to karate chop the legs of any gigachad?
I think I might kill myself if I can't retire by 30. I hate my job so much.
I have a plan all written up, apartment prices, management fees, etc. but every day reality looks bleaker
I had a solid white hair in my beard the other day and my sisters made fun of it calling me an old man.
Checked today, they've multiplied to a few dozen.
I fricking hate working so much
I know it's difficult to think of destabilizing what you at least are comfortable with, but do start browsing for alternatives. A pay/hours cut may be fully worth your sanity.
im waiting for my daughter to be born and do not at all feel prepared for being a father
fatherhood is a give it your all, figure it out on the fly and learn by doing kind of thing right?
ive splurged on a decent home office and gym to minimize my time out of the house/at least give me a chance to stay on top of things but i still feel overwhelmed just thinking about it all
>waiting for my daughter to be born and do not at all feel prepared for being a father
Nobody is the first time, anon. It's a journey. Relax, keep your head leveld and enjoy the ride.
In the last 30 days I've been suicidal to the point my ex called the cops on me to make sure I didn't do it. >2 friends dead in the last two years >this December I got laid off and ex broke up with me soon after >got my first paycheck from new job today and the realization of just how much I've lost is setting in.
I didn't even make that much in the first job, 2k a month or so. I'm making less than 1k/month now and I can't afford to support myself anymore so I'll be moving back in with mom
I really don't know what to do anymore, I can't even be fricked to touch the weights and I got a sweet upgrade to my home gym recently. Every single day I get drunk, get my gun, and I argue with myself or find some distraction until I fall asleep. Part of me knows this is the greatest struggle in my life which is why I need to double down and press forward, but the other part wishes I'd have just followed through and blown my brains out.
I don't believe it anymore. My life was fricking perfect and everything started going to hell. First friend was my roommate, he got run over by a car while walking home. I sensed something was wrong and called the PD, found out that way. He worked so close to home I walked up there to check on him but didn't find anything except for my keys prior to the call (I was letting him use my car). It was hard but I had lots of friends and my gf around. Coming from the deep South, we drove all the way to West Virginia for his funeral, I don't think I've ever been more tired in my life. We had an open casket but you could just tell they reconstructed his head, he was an off color. I touched his chest and it felt like slapping cold meat at the supermarket. My gf held head while I cried like a fool for days. I thought I had made it through and could just move on as normal Then the second one shot himself this October. Then the relationship troubles started, then I lost my job, and then she decided to cut things off on Christmas Eve of all fricking days. Now I do overnight stocking. My fingers bleed just about every day and I'm in consistent pain for less then half of the pay I used to get. Frustration and hate drive me through each day now. When we do communicate, she won't even shred a bit of emotion, it seems like she doesn't care, like she was tired of it way before I could have realized. Its the best relationship I've ever been in. The same woman who was my rock through some of the greatest pains of my life has left this gaping void in my daily existence wherein I break my fricking back for dogshit pay. And of course I'm already mentally unstable, and all of this kickstarted a series of paranoid delusions which further isolate me from others. I can't fricking take it anymore. I work my job for nothing, I have nobody to come home to, the loneliness and frustration I experience on a daily basis are crushing.
I'm a little drunk. By walking home, I mean he was walking across the street to get to my car to drive home. I found my keys in the street when I was walking up there to check on him. He died in the deep south but his family buried him in Virginia.
I'm a little drunk. By walking home, I mean he was walking across the street to get to my car to drive home. I found my keys in the street when I was walking up there to check on him. He died in the deep south but his family buried him in Virginia.
Frick. That’s one hell of a pit you’re in anon. But it’s always darkest before dawn. While friends can never be replaced, everything else you mentioned can be. Just get through this hard stint and you’ll be happy you didn’t go through with it
I'm sorry for your loss. The pain eventually blunts and you become more adept in responding to it. Stay healthy and alive and you will find yourself through the tunnel.
Cheapest beer on tap.
I really feel that anything a man does that is outside the scope of what a woman wants makes you a bad guy to everyone within their circles.
Got some friends, 1 of them is my gym bud. 2 of them are married and 1 is in a long term relationship. They do couples things and I understand that it isn't my place to be there when they do.
Get asked to come with them, 1 of the women has a friend they want to introduce me to.
Pretty enough, but has a clear limp and after some talking has some health issues. As we are talking really think highly of her, seems like a genuine and good woman. Don't even try to frick her regardless of hints being given because I know that regardless of how nice and sweet she is, I don't see myself on a relationship with her.
Had she been some hoe I would've but like I said she seemed like a good woman.
End the night and go about my way. A couple days later she reaches out, and I tell her honestly that I don't see a relationship and didn't want to lead her on or anything. She asks if its her health problems and I tell her honestly yes. That I would like to meet someone and have a family but marrying someone with hereditary health issues like she has is something that I wouldn't want to do.
Idk lads I think that is a perfectly reasonable boundary.
Well my buds wives are all pissed, now my gym bud is pissed because he thought that I was "a better man then that." That I was shallow or some shit.
Friend, one thing I learned in life is to never be honest because it just creates problems like these. I would have said that I am currently not ready for a relationship because of job/ex/whatever bullshit reason. I don't know how you can salvage this but focus on yourself and stop caring about what people think
>an escort i've been fricking said I would benefit from a fwb or gf
damn, the sex isn't bad on either side and she waasn't saying it to be mean. She just very pointedly said you'll grow as a person if you have this experience without money involved.
that's genuinely pretty nice of her
while it probably won't hurt her revenue since there are plenty of men willing to frick her, she'll have to deal with some fatso instead of you from now on
>Be me shy mf because of bullying and being fat >actually started to run to lose fat, lost 30kg >girls say i'm good looking and hit on me but i just think that i'm worthless and ugly as frick >on my 20s still with low self steem >finally grow a pair and talk to a girl i liked since 17 >she messages me back >seems interested in me >wants to go out with me
we are planning on going out tomorrow i'm feeling happy as frick right now.
Thanks Gym you gave me enough confidence
GL bro, it will be good experience
>break up with gf months ago >went to her house >told her i just wanted to see my
doggos >says no >literally cried on the doorstep because im a beta b***h >calls cops on me and gets me trespassed >months go by, no contact >texts me the other day >”hi you can come see the dogs” >buy toys and dog food for them >show up >new ring camera and bluetooth door lock >ring doorbell and wait >lets me in from the other room >doggos go crazy, all over me >spend probably minutes playing with and hugging the dogs >tears start dripping down my face, doggo lays in my lap >hug him and say goodbye >leave >bittersweet, finally got to see my doggos but dont know when ill see them again
yeah im an autistic homosexual with an unhealthy emotional attachment to animals but i don’t care. i guess today was a good day
doggos always member u
maybe you can take them out over the weekend sometimes, like to a dog park or beach
tell ex gf it will be good for them, and she will have an empty house for whatever
>was she offering
I think the sentiment was genuine but if it was an offer I’m not sure, I tried asking but her answer was mixed between dirty talk and teasing.
>Be me shy mf because of bullying and being fat >actually started to run to lose fat, lost 30kg >girls say i'm good looking and hit on me but i just think that i'm worthless and ugly as frick >on my 20s still with low self steem >finally grow a pair and talk to a girl i liked since 17 >she messages me back >seems interested in me >wants to go out with me
we are planning on going out tomorrow i'm feeling happy as frick right now.
I went to this sub now that it reopened and all the foreveralone women have had sex at some point lmao, they just call it "pitty sex" and don't consider it real
>was busy all weekend, leave house before 8a and getting home after 5p >then get home and watch the recorded nfl playoff games >no time at all for two days to browse this shithole board full of endless hating each other, racism, misogyny, political shit, barely ever see a single positive thing posted ever >feel much better
Yeah frick this place
>move to new area back in September, complete fresh start out of grad school (I'm 24). Decent size area but not a college town >Absolutely struggle to meet anyone >Get some dating apps to meet people and learn more about places >Had maybe 1 date a month, all gone terribly >Look at clubs >Join a running club, not many other options at all on websites/Facebook >I'm the only one below 35, most are 50+ old widows and divorcees in the group >Do the winter running race series for the town >Win the male 20-24 group by default since I'm the only one that did all 4 races (in a 250k metro area) >Try out some bars >Literally everyone is in a group, not crazy enough to introduce myself to a table of people
I'm gonna sign up for a climbing class I think, besides that I'm at a complete loss for where to meet people, i think the loneliness is starting to eat at me quite a bit
Can any political homosexual tell me if I’m accurate, as someone who until a few years ago mostly ignored politics? >Dumbfrick liberals want to essentially just make moves and choices that are one big virtue signal >they vote these morons in who then ruin their states >flooded with minorities and illegals and immigrants, housing prices go up as does crime and shit >they then flee their state and en masse move to non fricked up states just to b***h about how things are there and make them same mistake over again and ruin that state too
Is this accurate?
yeah that pretty accurate. they just want to be worshipped by poors and nonwhites while remaining in their gated communities but once pablo and jamal start getting enough first time minority homeowner money and move in next door, they cant handle the cultural enrichment they told everyone that we (white people) needed. they stand proudly atop of their shit hill for a few years before realizing that it’s a pile of shit and then just rinse and repeat since they can sell their 2 bedroom condo in Black personland for 1m and move to a conservative state, buy up newly built mcmansions and redo it all over again 10 years later. the only thing they actually gain from any of this is the white savior smugness and “muh food culture and muh music”. >t. watched it happen to rural florida
It’s fricking bullshit I’ve partially grown interested in all this because I now realize it actually affects me that I’m at the age I’m trying to move out and I can’t afford to do it. (Florida). I look at how housing prices have changed over the last 20 years and it’s insane. It was never cheap in my lifetime but it was very possible before.
Many of the places I’d enjoy moving to are either already largely liberal run or currently heading that way.
I hate these people so much it’s unreal. Another reason I’ve begun to open my eyes to it is that these liberals 100% are trying to virtue signal, they initiate political conversations with the sole goal being to take some holier than thou moral high ground stand point where they can shake anyone who doesn’t 100% align with them. Literally had this moron tell me word for word >If you didn’t vote Biden you’re my enemy you’re a piece of shit. Biden actually cares about people like us
Meanwhile under that sleepy homosexuals reign the borders been allowing so many illegals from Africa china South America and even the Middle East in each day and shipping them off to “sanctuary cities”, what the frick does anything think happens next? They get some footing in those areas and then they leave to other states when they realize “oh I can move to [insert state that has rental prices for about $1000/mnth on average]” theyll flood those places and then they’ll vote democrat because of the obvious reason. It’s fricked up. It’s like this country is crumbling and there’s no fixing it
All because some selfish buttholes wanted to be able to do the political equivalent of a middle aged Facebook moms virtue signal with her work friends of sharing an “I donated to the animal shelter” post for all to see. All these people I know who would bring these discussion up were either boomers who already financially made it or people my age whose parents pay their rent/gave them their house
>>If you didn’t vote Biden you’re my enemy you’re a piece of shit. Biden actually cares about people like us
Politics got more polarizing after OWS, to the point where left-leaning people refuse to be friends with anyone on the right. Shit went full bonkers and I think it's largely because as society gets less religious, the new ties that bind us are political ones. People today treat people with different opposing political views like they used to treat people in other religions a hundred years ago, all the way to calling people heretics. I notice it's more of a problem for people on the left than it is people on the right, who ironically end up being more open-minded and friendlier towards people with different views. Gone are the days of "agree to disagree," because "your opposition is violence." Just look at what happened to JK Rowling for making some innocuous comments about women's sports and prisons.
yeah that pretty accurate. they just want to be worshipped by poors and nonwhites while remaining in their gated communities but once pablo and jamal start getting enough first time minority homeowner money and move in next door, they cant handle the cultural enrichment they told everyone that we (white people) needed. they stand proudly atop of their shit hill for a few years before realizing that it’s a pile of shit and then just rinse and repeat since they can sell their 2 bedroom condo in Black personland for 1m and move to a conservative state, buy up newly built mcmansions and redo it all over again 10 years later. the only thing they actually gain from any of this is the white savior smugness and “muh food culture and muh music”. >t. watched it happen to rural florida
>seeing girl, we both like each other and enjoy spending time together. Things are healthy >gets to like 4 months in, she starts talking more about wanting to see more of me and mentioning bf gf things >have to decide whether or not to take it further
I just told her yesterday that I don't want a relationship. She was upset and said she doesn't want to see me anymore then because she doesn't want to get more feelings and waste time with someone that doesn't see a future with her
I'm sad. Here are the reasons I didn't take it further >she indulges in drugs occasionally, and used to a lot when she was younger >has a lot of male friends >I didn't feel a strong romantic connecting although I enjoyed her company
But even with those reasons, her behaviour was perfectly good and fine towards me throughout.
>gets to like 4 months
Deranged to me that people can "date" for this long and not be calling each other bf/gf. Thank Christ I don't have to date in the modern era.
>I just came to a woman giving positive affirmations >not even joi, just a woman saying nice things about the listener
This is the lowest I've ever been. I'm in tears. How did I get to this point?
>be skeleton autistic frick most of my life >got IST >frick 5 women over the summer, one becoming a fwb who ended up getting a bf >try to calm down, find a nice christian girl >I do but she wants kids and marriage yesterday, says no sex until marriage (not a virgin) >I decline, as I do not want kids >2 months after 'no sex until marriage' and less than week after telling her I would just be wasting her time, she wants to bang >warn her it would be a bad idea for her as Mr. Right could come along while she's banging Mr. Abs >we bang, it was good, did stuff she's never had done to her and she loved it >now she's feeling guilty, probably won't be a fwb >want to use my physique to sleep with women and not hurt them >urge to try Tinder is rising
She brought it up after initiating the first kiss and makeout session on the first date. She grinded on me til I got a boner, hopped off and told me that. Immediate turn off, should've told her to frick off right there but I was confused.
>break up with gf months ago >went to her house >told her i just wanted to see my
doggos >says no >literally cried on the doorstep because im a beta b***h >calls cops on me and gets me trespassed >months go by, no contact >texts me the other day >”hi you can come see the dogs” >buy toys and dog food for them >show up >new ring camera and bluetooth door lock >ring doorbell and wait >lets me in from the other room >doggos go crazy, all over me >spend probably minutes playing with and hugging the dogs >tears start dripping down my face, doggo lays in my lap >hug him and say goodbye >leave >bittersweet, finally got to see my doggos but dont know when ill see them again
yeah im an autistic homosexual with an unhealthy emotional attachment to animals but i don’t care. i guess today was a good day
god damn i must be moronic. cant even greentext properly. i spent probably 45 minutes with my doggos and it was the best 45 minutes i’ve had in the last 5 months or so
relationship ended poorly. im also back living with my parents in less than ideal conditions for the time being + work 50-60 hours a week. taking them wouldnt work so it was best for them to stay with her anyways i guess. im assuming she was just waiting until she was over me and fricking some other dude before she let me even go over there. i saw a pair of boots near the front door that weren’t mine but whatever, i don’t really care about her anymore. just my doggos. i feel like a little b***h writing all that out and complaining about dogs since i’ve had people tell me im overreacting but i don’t care.
my dream last night consisted of me being assigned to work at a Publix and failing to log in to the work terminal while an armed guard was threatening to shoot me if i did not begin my shift. i eventually, somehow, made my way to a bar and got groped by a short, obese woman and then i woke up.
Getting sick of spinning my wheels on dating apps, and resent having to downplay many of my interests, hobbies, and personality traits in the interest of casting a wide net while women can lean into them and still amass potential suitors; one of my friends makes reference to 'paid dating sites' which his brother used successfully and is now married, do these even still exist and is anyone not well into oh-shit-biological-clock-ticking age using them? The idea of basically admitting to giving up fully on ever meeting someone the 'normal way' pains me, although arguably that happened the first time I ever downloaded an app
in essence, >tfw no gf
started talking to a girl a week ago. it looked like we hit it off good. I slept over a few times and made out with her. but now it just feels awkward as shit. we haven't hanged out since then. only been talking through text. idk. idk if I should keep trying, and maybe I'll win her over or to just stop. sucks.
at the gym today, there was a lane of open treadmills to my left, and this girl went to the one right next to mine, not one over. then when i was slowing down, it felt like she panicked because she was spam hitting buttons before finally hitting stop. i didn't get a good look at her because i took off my glasses for the run and i'm blind without them. anyway that's it, that's the most female interaction i've had in weeks, outside of customer service.
nice job. she was probably mirin. try to go at the same time the next few days and maybe you’ll run into her again and then you’ll know for sure. proud of you buddy
at the gym today, there was a lane of open treadmills to my left, and this girl went to the one right next to mine, not one over. then when i was slowing down, it felt like she panicked because she was spam hitting buttons before finally hitting stop. i didn't get a good look at her because i took off my glasses for the run and i'm blind without them. anyway that's it, that's the most female interaction i've had in weeks, outside of customer service.
How do I become a sexy bad boy that women want? I want to be a good gentleman who wants marriage and a good partner but apparently that’s not enough from a primal point of view. Sorry for the language barrier, I’m from Europe
NGL anons, every time someone posts about meeting a new girl, or dating a new chick, or finally banging the girl they've been talking to a while, theres a sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach that they're talking about my ex. im still not over her
>no gf for over a year >been fricking a lot of hoes but none gf material >finally chat up 10/10 >make plans to go out >she flakes >double text like a simp
i feel like a moron but i suppose it was never meant to be if she's the type to flake in the first place
Its one of those things that seems so wonderful and ethereal, until you do it and its like "yah, got that off the list I guess". Basically, you're not actually missing out on anything important
Still can't find a job, countless rejections have been wearing me down. The only thing I can think of is to start my own business, but I don't know what that could be. I feel trapped but I won't give up.
Going to keep the details vague since this shit can easily dox me
>spend 5 years making myself competitive for a certain program in college. >500+ hours of volunteering, in humid 95 degree heat without AC >study 12 hours a day just to keep a 4.0 GPA because shit teachers didn't realize the workload they put on students >had barely any time for friends, and lost them all. >managed to become first rank out of 800 kids, score 1500+ on the SAT. >worked on a few other aces up my sleeve, but are personally identifiable >write a frickton of application letters and attended tons of virtual tours that took up the entire summer >applied during the BLM summer of love >got rejected from nearly every program, later find out it was heavily influenced by the political climate >get accepted into one college program >thank frick, now I don't have to do as much anymore >still work hard academically and do some rare extracurriculars >make a lot of new friends and engineer tons of friend groups >win awards and go above and beyond program requirements >sing praises of the program to everyone, >last step is the interview. >prepare well for the interview, and it seemed to go quite well >get called up a few weeks later. I'm dismissed from the program, with no way to get back in >An interviewer decides of all of the program, they wanted to shitcan only me. >feel betrayed, especially since I knew a lot of the other people in the program were shady as frick or explicitly never wanted to be in the field >back to where I started, this time I have to meet an even harder standard >nearly all friendships died around the same time. They started to move on to other friends or just without me.
I don't know bros, all I got left is lifting and my hobbies. I worked my ass off for 5 years to avoid being stuck here. During those years it was like everything in my life hinged on getting into the program, and it was ripped away in the span of an hour. Everything I sacrificed amounted to nothing.
Now I have to make up for the time I was in the program and build out multiple EC's with 100+ in the span of a semester, all while preparing for an admissions test. Though I'm furious at my former program, I feel weaker than I was prior, since I was always sure that if I put in the work, I'd get something close to what I worked for. This time, I'm not so sure any of my current work would matter, as it can just as easily be thrown away by some random bullshit. After 5 years, I began to look forward to waking up the next day. Now, I counsel other depressed and suicidal people with no release for my own sentiments.
I like IST because I feel its the only place I can be around likeminded nerds. Everyone on every other board is just as much of a nerdy homosexual as we all are, but I just don't click right with any of them. It seems like they have no threads about what I'm interested in, but on IST that sort of thing gets brought up tertiary to fitness all the time.
I think part of this is that people are more excited to reply when a topic is brought up than it would be on boards more suited to it, because we weren't expecting to see it and IST is just generally more friendly and High-T
Been listening to overlord ending 4 on repeat. The feels bros
>stop texting first
>suddenly no contact with anyone
okay I guess
jameson two fingers neat bartender
>"want to hear from someone? message them!"
The inverse is painful too, when no one reaches out to you, but a here's a you for you anon.
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I'm on my journey anons, everything I eat is tracked, my TDEE and macros are figured out, now the only thing left to do is to work it. I'm trying to frame it as I only have the one thing to do and that helps.
Working it should be your #1 priority, all the other autistic minmaxing shit is secondary
yeah that’s normal. most people are only interested in themselves and if you don’t show the same interest, they won’t reciprocate. most people will forget about you if you “forget” about them
I would follow these principles if I wanted to become a spineless, opinionless man. I refuse to change for anyone and would rather die trying to make the world adhere to me than adhere to it.
>The words of a man who never changed for the better
>Losing your values is becoming a better person
You are the example of the man who never grew a spine and never saw his will enacted upon the world. You are the man who has been made conciliatory, submissive and weak by the feminine frame in which your formative years evolved. There is no satisfaction in a compromise, there is no victory in a stalemate, there is no domination in a mutually beneficial agreement.
You sound like a guy that's been totally domesticated and tamed by a woman, or even worse, by the feminine zeitgeist of modern society.
Shape the world according to your will. With your words, actions and perseverance you can literally mould the world to fit your vision. Every great man in history has done so.
Either that or admit you are a follower, a sheep, a goyim, and stop dispensing out this two bit so-called "wisdom" to your natural superiors. It's really that simple.
And there's obvious nuance in my response. Yes, self improvement is always possible, yes mistakes are always made. But once you've settled into a true, genuine and rightful view of the world, to think that you could so easily be swayed to change yourself in that regard betrays a deep lack of self confidence and self criticism - quite literally, a lower state of awareness and consciousness, a less evolved and distinguished identity.
Check yourself before saying such nonsense or I'll be happy to.
>t. billions must die
Not him, but yes. Yeah.
>would rather die trying to make the world adhere to me than adhere to it.
You will
>stop texting first
>suddenly no contact with anyone
This one gets me. People at work always want to get coffee/chat but no one ever wants to make time for me on their own time
Frick I had one of those last week, made me feel hopeful. It was a vague feeling, but strong and warm. To think someone could feel that way about me feels odd, but they must be out there.
Yeah it fricking sucks man. I try a bit harder to keep in contact with people these days. I truly value those who keep me in their thoughts a few times a week among the myriad of things they must deal with in their lives. At least you tried man, don't become discouraged.
that's normal, doesn't indicate they don't care about you at all. socially pro-active people are rare.
>meme going around back in the myspace days to delete all your friends and whoever adds you back is your true friend
>I fell for it, deleted everyone
>literally NO ONE added me back
this pisses me off, then those same people start asking why you haven't been in touch if you run into them somewhere, you text first for once b***h.
frick you. ask them why instead of asooming
I was the anon last thread that had the twink pounding dream while the asian girl watched. I still feel disgusted with myself
I'm in my grindset/israeli phase now. Took a job on Saturday as a weekend bartender. Should be an extra $200/week equalling an extra $800/month on top of my existing job. Could be more as it is located in the Beverly Hills of my city. Need to find a way to make money through the Internet. I'd even do OF if I was IST enough. Maybe another year. IDGAF any more. Give me shekels. I've played with the idea of making meme of the week shirts. That Chinese beaver seems to be popular now. I got fricked in 2021 and now there is nothing but money.
the time you’re spending as a bartender could be spent learning a new skill of advancing your career from where it’s at. hopefully you weighed those options but regardless, get those shekels rabbi
I work for boomer corp. There is no progression. I either use it as a resume builder or wait until I have my hands around their necks and squeeze and choke every penny out. The bartending is to help me learn to socialize with normies. Learn how they talk and learn my own way of communicating with them. If the position pays more as time goes on then I can't complain.
I appreciate the nice words, goy.
Bartending is based I do it for my sole income after working corporate for a while. Far more enjoyable environment and helps a lot with social skills / confidence.
As a guy who used to struggle with girls I'm gonna say this. Getting in shape and looking good will help but it's not a guarantee for attracting girls. At most it'll get your foot in the door. If you're still unable to spike her emotions after that point she will quickly lose interest.
Women are emotional creatures, they need you to make them feel butterflies. Attraction isn't a race of who's the best looking for them, it's who makes them feel the attraction.
Female attraction boils down to this. Does this guy give me emotional spikes? That's it. Why do you think there's so many guys who don't have shit going for them but they're able to get hot girls? It's because these guys figured a way to give them emotional spikes
How to give them emotional spikes. There's positive and negative some girls react more to negative and others react more to positive. It's a good rule of thumb to be more positive and fun to start off and you can do some negative ones once in a while
Examples:
Generally you want to be the fun guy who's a good time
You can convey this with social proof, competence, health, resources and resilience.
All of these examples lend themselves to the guy who is fun to be around. A fun guy who is the life of the party will have social proof (friends that vouge for him being cool, people who are excited to see him)
Competence is essentially your ability to move through social interactions. Think of it as being smooth, knowing the right thing to say, and most importantly saying it correctly.
Most of you have the health aspect down but that's something the girl wants to discover for herself, it's not something you show off to her.
Resources ties back into social proof but also your finances. Again dont show off your money if you have a lot, let her discover it for herself.
Resilience is basically how you handle stress. Can you be a sturdy foundation in the midst of a chaotic mess? Can you remain calm when you don't want to?
You most likely already have one or two of these things, you just gotta find your way of conveying them to the girl in a fun and natural way. Takes some time sure but after talking with girls for a few weeks it'll all start to make sense.
>can you remain calm?
Yes. Of course. What I cannot do is tolerate the same emotional homosexualry over the most miniscule things.
>my tik toks are important to me and i'm upset you think adding phonk music was cringe
This shit is common
The question was:
>can you remain calm when you don't want to?
But nice try I guess. Also jazz is better than phonk
>completely misses the point of my post
>"heheh ftfy kind stranger :*~~"
Fricking aspies.
You're so close champ just get over the finish line
any specific examples on how to give women emotional spikes? during a date for example
>specific
dunno bout that but anything you can do to not be boring, show her that you’re funny, show her you can befriend anybody, show her that you’re adventurous. go out drinking and challenge a random dude to a drinking contest, and win. go out on a date and make whoever you interact with laugh in some way or make them feel good with compliments. take her to a carnival and win her a prize and try your ass off at a ball toss, show her you really wanna win for her. idk homie, it all depends, but just do anything you can to make sure YOURE NOT BORING and that you are sociable
Also make sure that she knows you know she’s beautiful. compliment her. kiss her hand. treat her like a lady even if she’s a tinder bawd, they all want romance and the ones who know they don’t deserve it honestly appreciate it more.
dedicate 9-12 hours over 2 days and watch some romantic comedies/actual romance movies and try to emulate that shit. they all have the same plots in the end of the day. they all wanna be treated like princesses and the center of your universe, at least in the beginning. don’t be boring, be attentive, make her the priority of the date, not you getting your dick wet.
im phonegayging but if i get a chance i could write novels on some of this shit because i’ve unironically had a lot of female friends and they all express the same shit. they will never directly tell you what they want/expect because to them, you figuring it out is part of the game, but i feel like i’ve figured it out a bit. hopefully it helps a bit. they want their lives to be a romance movie where the guy is successful funny not boring adventurous etc etc
thank you anon that helps, will be going on a 3rd date with a jp qt wish me luck
Yeah, frick this. I'd rather continue gymcelling in the hopes I get attractive enough for a woman to throw themselves at me and they're at least somewhat frickable so I can lose my 29 year old virginity.
Something I have always lacked is the ability to talk about myself, my accomplishments and things I have done. Especially IRL with people I don't know.
It is very easy to come off as boring, and I have never learnt this skill (among other social skills).
Any bros found anything that helped besides going to the bar and getting drunk?
I've started writing things down as i think of them, such as my qualities and things i've done.... almost like im preparing for a job interview.
Unironically my note taking is how i managed to get a GF, as i saw something interesting to try or do, anything kind of romantic or sweet i saw other couples do or i thought of myself I would write them down.
I managed to get a girl interested through kindness, and i went through most of my list/notes with her and even lived with her for a time.
What did me in was that I stopped trying to find new things(to keep her entertained), and I think my "negative ones" were the wrong type caused by my lack of social skills and being an introvert.
I've recently hit the bottom of both fitness and wealth, lets see if I can get them back while I work on the social stuff.
that's some sudoku fuel, you've got the skills and the drive, brother. Keep pushing that rock.
got a bad haircut and now i look like utter shit
i had long curly hair that women loved but i got it cut for some reason and now i look like a british chav (pic rel)
Go back to whomever cut your hair and ask them to fix it.
"Hey, after walking out I realized I'm not happy with this, can you fix XYZ?"
If they won't for free then go somewhere else or just shave it all off.
"Sure, hop in the chair, I'll sweep up your hair off the gloor and glue it back on your head"
Whats a gloor?
A double jack neat
Fricking hate myself. Ex came back into my life after she dumped her bf back in December. Have stayed in love with her for the past 2.5 years since she left and would love it if she wanted me back. I know it won’t happen though and I’ve been trying the past 2.5 years to get over her, but nothing works
shes a stinky b***h that poops and bleeds out of her slit. Just like the rest of them.
You will be alright anon. Don't let her suck you back in
I lost my virginity to a hooker and got lip herpes
>herpes
Deebly goncerned. My literal only fear.
I kissed her but she also gave me unprotected oral and sex, I didn't tongue her vegana
Its a meme that hookers are clean. Theyre not. A lot of them have stds. Even the high class expensive ones.
You either kissed the hooker or gave her an oral. Both are insanely disgusting, anon.
I actually had a lot of those types of nightmares when I was on trazodone. Do you take sleeping medication?
no meds but i drink lots of coffee and only sleep 5-6 hours.
i didnt even watch any zombie movies or alien crap that night.
I literally can't stop dreaming of my bpd ex gf.
Our relationship was so intense that i have fond memories of almost of all our day interactions in 2022 and early 23 when i was the one breaking up with her. it was an emotional roller coaster and I sitll haven't recovered since then and i don't know if I ever will.
I haven't even had sex since then and even though im seeing a new girl for the last 4 months I'm still celibate because I tried turning to God for my sins but it's a really hard battle. Btw the new girl is very good character but low energy and mid af
Any suggestions?
Matthew 6:24 you cannot serve two masters.
If you're going to be celibate and follow God don't worry about getting laid with a hotter girl.
Also you should have healed any emotional issues you had before getting another girlfriend
>Italy , white....
Had a a shit atmosphere at work....because of the managers.
Thinking about sitting them for a talk tomorrow because shit ain't right... work drama and shit....am I really loving doing this things? like for christ sake I could just switch place but I dont know....I don't want to quit yet...
Also bought a scarf can't wait to get it delivered to me 😀
my god....
i had my first body horror nightmare.
the geckos were infected and slithered into your ears.
in the end the entire planet was a mass of flesh amd started sending flesh clumps to other planets.
That kinda sounds cool, I can't remember the last time I had a nightmare and all my dreams are mundane.
I need more abstract horror dreams like this. My nightmares are just “you killed mom and it IS your fault”
>in the end the entire planet was a mass of flesh amd started sending flesh clumps to other planets.
ginger tea
counting down the months until my move. full week of exercise and lifting weights now after illness and want to start focusing on getting my body fat% down as i lose the last 10 pounds to get to 22 BMI because i am definitely already a skinny fat. it might take a while but i can do it, i have 5 months before i have a lot more opportunities and will do my best until then. don’t feel sad that you aren’t there, feel happy you can get there.
>girls are progressively becoming uglier and uglier in the gf dream
>mind is subconsciously telling me to settle with a 4/10
Started banging this fat ugly chick originally just to lose my virginity and get some experience but I think I'm catching feelings. She can be pretty cute and keeps calling me a demigod when naked. I don't know what to do. I never expected this becoming anything serious.
Don't do it bro, have some self respect
The tubby served her purpose, so move on the next girl, bro.
You don't need us to tell you that's a mistake. Those fuzzy feelings will fade. Her extra lbs? Those are sticking around for the long haul.
how fat?
That's your pair bonding receptors acting up anon. You gotta burn those off with casual sex and hookups or else you might accidentally start a nuclear family
Frick off Shekelstein. The nuclear family needs to be brought back
Smashed a slam pig this week. Was my first entrance back into the game in over a year, but left feeling empty. Just want love bros. Other than that, everything is going great. Making good money and getting my degree soon. Just feels like something is missing.
Not great Ive been in top form age 14-26 and I got super sick not even covid my lungs felt like hell and now I cant even do a 20 min work out im 20lbs overweight and I have 6 months till i try to summit mtShasta and I might have to cancel feel like killing myself because Ill never be fit again
You'll make it again lol, I'm nowhere near even that level and there is always room for improvement.
This is gonna be really pathetic and sound weird, but I don’t know who else to talk to about this. I promise this is not meant to be a coomer post. Please don’t make fun of me.
The recent news about this woman has actually been a pretty strong hit to my self esteem. It’s not because she’s a woman that’s cooler and more accomplished than me, it’s because I know neither she nor any other woman of that caliber would ever be interested in me or want me around.
I regularly struggle with self-esteem issues, especially around girls, but I’m very self-destructive about it. I have a bad habit of watching footage of female powerlifters, bodybuilders, or women who are heavily accomplished in some way, and then either jerking off to it or letting it crush my attitude for the rest of the day, usually both.
I know there are men out there who are into being demeaned and pathetic, but I swear that I’m not. I wish I wasn’t like this. I wish I could just be happy for other peoples accomplishments and not compare myself to them so much. Truthfully, I’m very attracted to these kinds of women, and I have this feeling that even if they were “better” than me, if they liked me, then I would just feel alright. But I want to stop letting this shit get into my head and rot my brain and my spirit.
Anyone have any advice or suggestions?
bump
Stop being a gay. Or start being one.
Got it, thanks.
You guys are right, the fapping is definitely part of it. I have been letting myself indulge in it a lot recently, and it's hard to let go of the temporary pleasure for long-term peace.
>If getting pussy is your only goal in life then you have already failed.
Pussy is not the only goal in my life. If it were, I would've already gotten it. There is a difference between simply getting pussy and achieving and maintaining a long-lasting, fulfilling relationship.
I need to mention some details I neglected in my original post. I began seriously lifting and pushing myself to do difficult things about a year ago in order to do exactly what you and others are describing. I've even picked up long-distance rucking, and am currently working towards a goal of 40 miles with 45lbs. I took my studies more seriously and have recently graduated with a BS in Biology and am currently preparing for the DAT. To put it simply, my life would appear to be "together," but the feelings and frustrations I described in my original post keep coming back occasionally. I just want it to stop. I want to feel secure and to stop beating myself up.
Yes, this is exactly what I'm talking about. I wouldn't say my parents love was conditional but I definitely had to perform and meet expectations growing up. My parents have always been there for me but I rarely heard clear words of encouragement or praise when I accomplished something.
I was also picked on a lot by girls growing up. I had weird friends when I was young and I always got roped in with them as some kind of freak when I was never really like them. Consequently, they'd call me ugly, gag, talk to me like I was stupid, etc. It really affected me. If you combine that with the myriad of dates I've been on that never actually led to a real relationship then you can see why I feel that getting the kind of high caliber woman I truly want is so unattainable to me.
i think we are similar in ways. you have to learn to actively combat your internal negative self reinforcement. that voice that tells you negative things is part of you but it was put there by other people and bad experiences; you can get rid of it and let that space be occupied by a realistic, positive vision of yourself that knows what you are capable of, is proud of what you have achieved, and is at peace with your flaws. this article is short but i have found it is one of the best on this problem and the strategies to combat negative reinforcement have helped me: https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/the-3-simple-steps-to-stopping-negative-self-talk/ . you seem to be doing great and have a grasp on what it is you are doing to improve yourself and your life and what you want to do, your problems are mental blocks that as i said in my previous post seem to be the kind that are deep rooted, from childhood or early adolescence, and don't make sense and are frustrating to deal with as an adult. your perceptions of yourself, other people, and how you interact are warped even if you don't think they are. you place other people up on a pedestal above you and never miss an opportunity to put yourself down, even if you don't think you are doing that. all this does is hurt and isolate you and as with negative self reinforcement just creates a toxic feedback loop. i don't know what your experiences might have been that imprinted these behaviors but they are often things we try to bury or repress. a book that has helped me with examining these patterns in myself is "no more mr. nice guy" by dr. robert glover: https://www.amazon.com/No-More-Mr-Nice-Guy/dp/0762415339/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1705980723&sr=8-1 . if youa re put off by the title don't be, it's really a very insightful book that gets at all aspects of life. sorry it took so long to reply fren, i am here for you.
Stop fapping or at the very least limit it to once a week. If you're fapping more than once a week you have too much time on your hands which is most likely the biggest contributor to your low self esteem.
To raise your self esteem pick something you've always wanted to do and don't put it down until you succeed at it
>I know neither she nor any other woman of that caliber would ever be interested in me or want me around.
Literal self-sabotage, stop being a homosexual. If getting pussy is your only goal in life then you have already failed. You've already identified the problem, do something about it instead of feeling sorry for yourself.
>The recent news about this woman
what woman? img search is making it look like this is just some pic from clickbait links.
>I know there are men out there who are into being demeaned and pathetic, but I swear that I’m not. I wish I wasn’t like this. I wish I could just be happy for other peoples accomplishments and not compare myself to them so much. Truthfully, I’m very attracted to these kinds of women, and I have this feeling that even if they were “better” than me, if they liked me, then I would just feel alright. But I want to stop letting this shit get into my head and rot my brain and my spirit.
>Anyone have any advice or suggestions?
you need to learn to love yourself. you only compare yourself to others constantly because you feel uncomfortable with who you are and never learned to love yourself. because you have no self love you can't motivate yourself or imagine yourself succeeding or being good at anything and this creates a self reinforcing downward spiral. this mental state is hell and has probably been strongly imprinted on you from childhood because your parents' love for you was conditional so you will be resistant to breaking out of it but you have to.
Ran out of characters, so here's the rest. I understand I need to develop self-love and be easier on myself, but I don't exactly know how, and I guess there's not one clear-cut answer. I've already been working on improving my fitness and I'm progressing in nearly all aspects of my life, but these emotions never seem to stop rearing their ugly head. It's hard for me to see the light at the end of the tunnel and feel like my efforts are worth it. Building a relationship with a woman I love and want is one of the final missing pieces, but it feels so out of reach for me. I know it's not the end-all-be-all of life, but it's something important to me.
Her name is Madison Marsh, she's an F-35 pilot that was recently crowned Miss America. I was just using her as an example, but she's a good one because I really wanted to be a pilot of some kind when I was younger but can't due to my hearing disability. I am planning on applying for the U.S. Army HPSP after I take the DAT and hoping I can get a hearing waiver, but I see women like her and can almost hear them saying "Hey loser! Look what you could've been doing if you weren't born the way you were! Look at how much of a frickup you are! You'll never be like me!" or some bullshit like that.
Its maddening and makes me feel guilty because there are millions out there, including many I personally know, who have it worse than me. I really don't have any room to complain, but it's just this one stupid thing that always brings me down.
Always remember, you could kill her with your bare hands. That is the primordial truth.
I guess that’s true, and the dubs confirm it. I’d rather be able to see women as something other than my enemies though. I know that sounds cucked but men and women are meant to be together and need each other, society has just completely erased that concept out of peoples minds.
I wanted to talk to this woman today, flirt and all, but what kept me from doing it was other people being present at the same place as us. They were alone with phones in their hands, so our conversation would have been heard.
Apart from being IST so people can think I can get away with doing this, what other things would you recommend I do to make this "fear" disappear?
Stop jerking off, for a while to the things you normally do, or stop jerking off for a while period. Try to distance yourself from women's powerlifting and bodybuilding content as well. Forget about it.
Become the kind of guy those women would want around.
Get off your couch and do something for once. Pick up a book and read, do some math, go to college.
Be something, someone.
who is she btw? never heard of her
Speaking from experience, fighter pilots are almost exclusively socially inept chuds. Think the cross country kids that were not complete morons but you wouldn’t wanna hang out with em. All the roasties were given that job for affirmative action and they’re genuinely fricking bad at it with few albeit existing exceptions.
I keep obsessing over a thot I met on tinder and have 1 date with once (no ons), she ghosted after a while even if she was saying we should hang out again
Had to tell this girl I'd been seeing that I don't see us going further than fwb. She wanted a relationship so she said we should stop seeing each other if i feel that way. Feels bad upsetting her but she just wasn't the one for me. For the best for both of us in the long run.
I had a dream I was in some kind of hippie commune and they showed me this drug they made/were using but it was super hardcore and they were babysitting me the first time I took it. At some point the camp we were in was attacked and we had to pack up at night and were refugees but I never saw what we were running from. I remember that the women were polyamorous and we all shared girls.
I dunno I have been having really wild dreams since I have been sober and taking vitamins.
I'm turning 26 this year and got my quarter life crisis.
I know it's not too late to start but man, I dread the future because I'm going to make the mistakes most people did when they were younger at my age. I've never been to uni and only got my hs diploma at 22. I'm not dumb, I had a minor health problem and was forced to attend a special ED school with blind people, autists, etc. I'm not one of them but everyone in that school got disability bucks. They don't pressure you, you can stay there forever but I got anxious and only started applying myself around 20.
I'm just angry at how my family robbed me of my youth. I don't care if I can live comfortably as a NEET we weren't mean to live this way.
If they die and I had to get a job I wouldn't mind, frick them tbh
>treasure your parents
You don't know what I've been through, I only treasure the financial stability they provide. I hate to say it but I'm on my cringe Machiavellan prince pace rn, It's not me thinking I'm the MC, I'm just angry at the world fr (real).
>I only treasure the financial stability they provide
Relatable
Bro I got held back too for eye problems. I had to get 2 surges to stop regression. Still can't get license at 27. My family was dog shit. Abusive and poor. Couldn't pay for health and never cared about a thing.
I say use the financial stability to get a job and pursue a career. Many places will pay for you to further educate yourself for a related degree. It's what I'm doing at a bank.
Ngl dude. I hate life and I'm very alone, so my advice might not be the best. The security of parents would've made my life easier and probably happier at least.
Your advice is exactly what I'm trying to do, I can go to uni rn but not having worked a day in my life and living as a neet is fricking me up and I need to get over that. I know it looks like I'm just a privileged lazy neet to people who meet me because they see my family and think I was born with a silver spoon. The truth is, those families always have some drama behind the image they project and It's tiresome going to birthdays and family reunions where they act passive aggressive. I'm traumatized (not only mentally) but It is what is it and I have to get over it. I try not to be ungrateful because I've never been forced to work and in fact I could get a job through nepotism but it's a pride thing for me to try to make it on my own. That's why I said I wouldn't mind if they die and I'm forced to work at a call center or something. As grateful as I am, it doesn't get rid of the loneliness. thanks for the relatable post and good luck.
You and Daigo(the guy in your image) are based. I read his self help book lol
Is it possible to be desirable if you are bellow 6'? I am a turbo manlet (5'9½) and I already readed an ocean of texts and messages about how disgusting short guys are
>diet soda please.
Is it based or cringe to date an ugly girl just because you are horny and bored?
The alternative (for now) is league of legends ,diet and exercise until not being fat and date average and above girls.
Do you even want her? if you don't want her but she's your only option then better stop and be alone
Girlfriend cheated on me with an indian guy. Feels bad man
Beat some coworkers in poker on Friday. Ended up not going out for the rest of the week thanks to single digit temps. Would like to try to find someone to spend valentine's day with, but I don't even know where to begin at this point. I feel like I waited too long. Working out twice a day and dieting and trying to learn an instrument and play in an orchestra on top of 40 hour week just doesn't give me any time to actually meet people.
>work with stacy coworker
>known her for a while and became friends
>she asks about my love life a lot (she has a bf)
>tell her i recently broke up with a fling
>”oh well onto the next one right?”
>obviously
>”oh really you got a new one already?”
>asks if i’m the type of guy to juggle multiple women
>jokes about sex when i mention i go on a date
>later find out she was going through a rough patch with her bf
>hear from a coworker she often mentions me
i’ll take it as a lesson.
Don't shit where you eat, frog. Only thing this prostitute should have proven to you is how fricking flaky the average c**t is now.
depends on how hot she is
Nope.
>you now remember the cop who got gangbanged by her coworkers
Just wait till bf is gone. Also if i have gf i never let her work with men lol.
there are million of women outside work and even your college.
Dont shit were you eat moron.
I'm gronkmaxxing and it's given me purpose again after transferring. Six months ago I was pretty depressed and wandering aimless through life, but since I decided to try out for the football team here and start 'Project Gronk" I'm considerably happier. Find purpose anons, no matter how stupid it sounds.
Post Gronk body
Doing pretty good. Pulling 40hrs a week as an intern, also getting a second job. New car, ran a 10km today. Reading a lot.
Realizing that a simp is literally the male version of a bawd. Like if you create a structure of values describing the positive masculine, a simp would be one probable archetype resulting from a neglect of duties. And even if it’s hard to draw criticism of a simp according to standards in the media, or even the Christian church, it’s really a terrible and disgusting state to find yourself in.
Having a hard time breaking out of that groove though- it seems hard to do for it’s own sake. A lot of manosphere books and podcasts appear to pursue either false or compensatory ends. I think to really transcend from the bipolar dysfunction of repressing instincts and then overcompensating, you need to have a family or some kind of responsibility that compels you to act with purpose.
if you're just learning how to moneymaxx you need to read this book: https://www.stripe.press/poor-charlies-almanack
if you understand this book you will never be poor again.
>tfwnogf threads?
>on MY IST?
>it's more likely than you think!
you motherfrickers ever had that weird dream where your sister gets into you bed naked? like b***h what the frick, WHAT DO YOU MEAN JUST CLOSE MY EYES?
Anon I..
How do you actually get to meet people, if not through work/school?
I recently landed a government job (pretty good pay, have to do pretty much frickall), and I had to move across the country. I lived alone before, and moved a few times, and I never had problems making friends and meeting girls through college, work, other friends and such. Now, it has been almost 6 months since I've moved, and I haven't made a friend yet.
I actually get along pretty well with the people at my office, but pretty much everyone in the building 50+ yo, these are not the kind of people I can hang out with. I could download Tinder to meet girls, but I really suck at online dating, because I never had to, and just the thought makes my stomach turn.
I’m genuinely considering getting back into college just for a few months so I can meet new people.
Yeah, I realise that it's kinda homosexual to complain about a good paying job with little responsabilities because ">tfw no gf and no friends", but I don't know, dude. I thought my life would get way better, but it hasn't.
Maybe look to socialize in other departments if u have to go into an office. There could be other avenues like hiking for charity type shit. My work had one of those.
I’m thinking about taking some more classes too.
>gf will send me hundreds of texts during the day
>20-30 new texts any time I look at phone
>just ranting about whatever things not even having an actual conversation
>after about 6-7pm it stops
>if I try to text her no response, maybe she’ll reply an hour later usually no reply until the next day at most
>if I don’t text her the next day I won’t hear from her for the next few days at all
It seems how it seems but she doesn’t seem like that, like a hoe. I literally can’t tell with this girl I cannot get an angle on her
she’s sleepmaxxing possibly no screens before bed or in the morning. ask her why she stops replying homie, we don’t know her
I asked her the other day she said she didn’t even notice. We talked about it I figured okay so no big deal. Then a fight ensured immediately after about (not joking) I don’t even know what. That was yesterday. Today it’s the same shot, she blew me up all day. It’s almost 10 and she stopped texting me around 6pm. I won’t even text her because I don’t feel like being ignored again
Oh and I know for a fact she’s not sleepmaxxing she goes to sleep late
Hidden microphone/camera
Don't reveal that you used one, even if it's nothing/actually what you fear. Keep it secret.
Actually wait hold on I'm moronic
If you don't live together then just camp out in her neighbourhood one night and stakeout her house.
Feeling good, chief
>squat 1rm
>Deadlift at 80%
>Eat high proteine food
>Feel more aggressive, assertive, and less tolerant of BS
I can feel the T rising in my veins
>be me, ended 8-year relationship in 2021, under a rock since
>2022-2023, add women on /soc/ based off their posts
>most suck, some still talk and meetup are so-so
>Nov 2023, add girl I thought was a fake/castfish post because her selfie seemed too good to be a ISTner
>turns out she's the real deal
>talking daily, let her know Day 1 I was interested in her, she mentions about her abusive relationship she ended last September
>throughout Dec/Jan, she starts teasing me about seeing me or I see her
>start making plans to fly to her soon, ask her if it'll be dates
>she agrees that they will be dates and my chance, but we won't be exclusive unless the dates go well
>still talking, few weeks before planned flight
>noticed our conversations are waning and finally she pulled back saying they're no longer dates and doesn't want to see me anymore because she doesn't want me to be "disappointed" that the outlook will end in her not interested in me
>tell her that's not her problem if that outlook happens, I still want to see her no matter what
>she rejects it, has me cancel the flights
>bought her gifts and shipped to her few days ago
>wrote a 4-page cringe handwritten letter on how happy I am to have met her and hope we remain friends
I am certain everyone in this thread, anyone I tell this to will think I am the most pathetic guy in the world, but she actually helped me from thinking about my ex fiance. I don't know guys, I made my shot and take the L with pride.
as long as you have inner peace, I respect ya, fren.
friend, I get it.
I met a women who changed my life with just one night together and following conversation, and then due to circumstances outside my control I never got to see her again. Texted still sure, but I was going through it a bit at the time and I would have felt better seeing her. All I can say now is be glad for the moment you had, be happy you grew, close the book on her but leave a corner folded, you never know.
>2013-2014 lose like 150lbs
Miraculously no loose skin but I was super skinny. Meal every day was 1-2 eggs for breakfast, skip lunch, dinner was like 250-500 calories of any combo of the following: chicken, rice, potatoes, fruit, instant ramen. I also walked a ton.
>2014-2016 start lifting while working on self in other ways like forcing self to talk to people and try things that scared me
Made great gains because channeled autism, started becoming very comfortable socially had a blossoming social life and even started dating
>2017 start getting depressed again but keep pushing
>2018-2019 fall off my horse
Stopped lifting, got fat again, because I became fat I re developed social anxiety and became socially inept again
>2020-2022 same shit even worse
>2023 start trying to make changes
Wasted the year, only changes are lessening the depression enough that I don’t have to think about doing basic chores and house work I just do them, also get sunlight each day and generally more active
>2024
That’s it. I can’t take this bros. This is the year I get back and idgaf what I have to do to make it happen. Whether I have to starve myself or do my old year king crash diet idgaf. I’ve hit my old peak weight. I’m not coming back here after tonight until the end of this year. If I don’t end up 200lbs by December I’m going to kill myself.
Frick it, one last digits too may as well if I don’t post here for a year.
Holy shit
so.. im gonna work on one of the gayest environments know to man. Fricking IT.
Im gonna limit my time here. i need to at least not hate low T subhuman homosexuals.
Its gonna be hard bros.
are you going to be a help desk wagie? i can offer advice. unless you’re just another code monkey larping as IT, then you’re stuck with the indians
>t. formerly help desk now a cyber threat intelligence analyst
Not that anon but I started as a hell desker, now I do network admin shit for a contractor. IT is the bomb, and yes I gatekeep to keep out the code monkey grifters.
Its not easy..i got banned from HTB discord last week,for being "transphobic". Every other guy is lgbt/trans freak.
My friend works as marketing agent,he went few months ago to Netherlqnds to meet with some IT people and when he went to their company place,one of thw workers was a guy dressed in female clothes,had full beard and actuall breasts(plastic surgery).. kinda scary imo,im studying to get job in IT sector but jeez,so many lunatics there.
Why does this happen? Why does IT sector atrracts so many mentally ill people?
They can't get a girl so they become a girl
My gf would be great if she lost the weight. She has expressed expressed her desire to lose weight but she hasn't made any moves herself.
I'm afraid that if we start working out together, she will lose interest. She's also 31. She treats me well though. But dating younger and more attractive doesn't always mean they will be amenable, or a good mother.
Idk, I have no qualms with dumping her, unless she shows promise in the gym. Guess I'm just wondering if I'm being a c**t, and even if I am I shouldn't feel shame for wanting a more appealing partner.
At 31 she is to old to be mother. Find younger one,age from 23-25. Thank me later.
True. Frick thems the brakes really.
Frick me man. Do I really want to deal with a shit frick stupid 23 year old woman. Yes she will look good but they are only good at getting fricked and arguing.
Look ,if she is fat and lazy now,imagine how more fat w
she will get after giving birth to your five children.
Now imagine having 25 year old petite wife..
That's been me every night for the past few weeks. Thought I got over my breakups but guess not. In my dreams they look at me with disgust.
I was a really active dreamer last night and a lot of my dreams were extremely realistic that i woke up getting them confused with real life recalling.
I'm only getting IST cause I broke up with my gf pretty recently but now the momentum is dying down and I have a lack of energy but I still miss her so much every day. This sucks.
Why is your momentum dying? Are you not making noticeable gains? the gains you’re making should be enough to inspire you enough to go forward, and this is coming from an autist with the motivation of a bag of rocks, but when i look in the mirror every morning and see that i am sculpting my body in ways i never thought possible and seeing the changes week by week, i feel like a completely useless homosexual if i don’t go 100% in all my workouts
nice anon. i larped as my companies network admin after i got my ccna. i got my sec+ and cysa+ before finally getting into a SOC and then moving into the threat intel department. IT is so fricking easy for the autists who grew up on the internet. surprised i haven’t encountered fellow anons in my career
Wife says she wants a divorce, so I said okay. She don't want to be here no more then whatever, she reaches out a few times. I don't really respond much. Finally asks me to talk, and I say okay.
Tells me the whole "it's me not you" bullshit. So I tell her I agree, and point out all the ways she was a shit wife and partner, but tell her I loved her anyways. Then say I want to go and hang up. Every woman that we both know, including those in my family thinks I'm the biggest butthole in the world, because how much it hurt her.
If you're gonna do that patronizing bullshit, don't expect people to beg to argue that it was really them/me that sucked.
Just going to the gym and going home now, home is a lot quieter and my bills are way down. But it don't feel like home anymore.
Sorry bartender just being a pussy, I'll have a whiteclaw and some grapejuice with my tampon.
>Tells me the whole "it's me not you" bullshit. So I tell her I agree, and point out all the ways she was a shit wife and partner, but tell her I loved her anyways
lmao
based power move
Fricking glorious. It sucks and all, but telling her off so perfectly will feel good for the rest of your life.
BASED as frick man
Just know that there's a guy on the other side of the world whom you've never met who fully supports all your decisions. You are in the right. My man.
BASED bro I’m using that should the chance ever arise and I know it’s not me. I support you man, you’re not just 100% in the right here and the victim, but you made what I think may be the best possible move.
Isn’t it horrifying if not just plain funny how it’s always
>every woman thinks in the worlds biggest butthole
It doesn’t even matter how bad the woman was to you. It doesn’t matter how you react or respond, they’ll always view you as the bad guy. And I’m saying this as a man who has both witnessed this many times and experienced it first hand himself. The situation could literally be, for a not at all random example
>Socially inept virgin puts forth massive effort to improve life, fixing any and all flaws
>gets first GF
>she immediately starts telling all people he knows he beats her and cheats on her and is manipulative and emotionally abusive, all while doing those things to him and all the people she tells know and have witnessed her do it
>all the women she tells side with her anyways
>guy leaves
>gets shamed by these people
>has people telling everyone he’s some social mastermind elite sociopath/psychopath
>is literally just a sperg who works out and wants to enjoy his life
It’s like they can only view things by self inserting as the role they most identify with but can only identify based on physical characteristics like gender. I swear if you told these b***hes about a female Ted Bundy named “Tina Bundy” they’d side with her
Haven’t gotten laid since June at a wedding. Been working a lot and also studying for PE Exam. Also have a severely damaged self esteem since I had surgery and lost all of my gains. Don’t really have the confidence, time, or interest to get back on the apps. My ex gf who broke up with me when I was at probably my lowest point texted me the other day out of the blue. I didn’t respond beyond the first message.
This is only based if that message was "KYS"
I wasnt trying to be based. Just remained cordial but made it clear I wasn’t interested in continuing the conversation.
Good on you, I guess. For me the temptation would be much too strong.
*Temptation to go full 4chad, I mean.
I'm going absolutely insane.
Seltzer water with lemon, please.
This is the only place where I can communicate with and relate to others. I'm an outcast at work, with acquaintances, even my own family. I'm barely a person.
To keep it ISTness related, I'm shooting for 200lbs on bench this week
Fellas whenever I go to the bar I just get whiskey on the rocks. Is Whiskey considered "hard" liquor or what? I don't drink often, but I'm here because I'm in a slump. Still going to the gym, going tomorrow and going to put myself back on 1/2/3/4 goal of 2024. Only thing is I'm going to start adding accessories because I'm starting to look like a T-Rex with unflattering upper body physique.
>in a long distance relationship for the last 4 years
>lately she's been ignoring me because I haven't proposed to her yet
>think I have feelings for a girl at work
wtf do i do
How often do you two meet?
Could the girl from work frick up your job?
41 old. Still pay and have sex with teenage hooker. They still think im in my 20-30 age range because i look youthful and have my hair. Also im in shape. But all this empty sex without love slowly killing me inside and make me feel empty. Depressed. Have relationship with 24 old hooker that is also crushing my mental health.
I live a worthless life now and stressing about the future. What will you do if you are me? I plan to break it up and leave her for good.
Im a neet who live off my saving but it will burn out in maybe 1-2 year if i continue living my life like this without any change.
Do i have a midlife crisis right now? Have no motivation doing or achieve anything right now. I feel hopeless maybe because of my sin. And maybe i am longing for a family with wife and children at my age right now. But i know im not ready to have them yet. Frick it
Bros... I'm so fricked. Improving myself everyday. Exercise healthy foods. Vitamins. Ointments creams. Fricking anything. I stoll fall asleep thinking how lonely and miserable life is. Fricked. I have such strong emotions and feelings but they don't matter. Not to anyone never have. I f9nt connect and I'm never understood clearly it's fricking weird. No mater how much I try I never connect and I can't change things or peoples hearts. Pain!
I'm breaking records for my cardio. I smashed my 5k time. I can consistently do it in24 minutes down from 30. My heart rate sleeping is 48 usually now. Based. Cool. Wow. My lifts are slightly up. Cutting now doing good job.
Get bloodwork done
Why
I get this more than you could understand. I still cope with it every day, and likely will for the rest of my life. I think one of the most important things you could possibly do for yourself is look past the self pity, and seek inner peace. I know it's dumb and hammy and generic, but that's what I've been trying to do and it's working. Kind of. Do the best in the world for yourself, and do quadruply so for the people around you, at any cost. Even if you get nothing but scorn and hatred for your efforts, they are appreciated, though perhaps you can't see it. Knowing that you've done your absolute best, and you went as hard as you could, and you took all the chances in the world. Live without regrets, no matter what. Even if it doesn't get you anywhere, you took your shot, and that's enough to be satisfied with life.
At least, that's how it is for me
I've got a 4/10 sorta girl who's into me and clearly wants to see me more. Should I go for it?
I wouldn't even consider it at all but my oneitis straight up told me she likes somebody. I didn't tell her I like her or anything, she doesn't even go to the same university as me. (It was a moronic hope, I know).
Should I go for the uggo who actually likes me? I know I'm not exactly a 10/10 myself but I feel absolutely nothing for her, it would only be for the experience. I'm not attracted at all. Maybe it'd be funny for a little while, since she changes her opinions on stuff to match mine the moment I open my mouth.
>t. virgin
Doesn’t hurt to give her a chance, a date doesn’t mean you’re marrying her. Experience is good even if it doesn’t work put
Alright, I'm gonna go for it. I'll try and ignore how she's a self-proclaimed feminist who dresses up like a goth with black lipstick.
Those are usually seen as red flags, right? Well I'm a straight up esoteric neo-nazi, I'll outschizo her. I'll also keep looking for someone I actually like on the side.
Practice gf. Your going to ruin her opinion of men, but if it's not you it will be someone else.
>went on date with girl
>can tell she’s losing interest after
>feel more lonely than I do when I have nothing
>Co worker gives me a heated bag thing for winter
>It warms my fingers but also for some reason feels pleasant to hold like a tingly feeling in my spine
>remember it’s how it feels to hold someone
>realize my body thinks it’s holding someone
>continue to handle the bag until it loses heat because it’s something to feel
Haven’t felt so low in awhile
At least it wasn't an ex dream. Swear to god every time I start feeling fine I have some very feels good dream where she comes to haunt me, frick this gay shit.
IT'S BEEN TWO YEARS PLEASE STOP THIS BULLSHIT.
How do I tell my gf to brush her teeth without sounding mean? Sometimes when she stays over she goes straight into her day and I can smell her morning breath all day
Keep some mouthwash in your bathroom or dip your dick in Aquafresh.
am i still a loser even with barely any progress? i've been trying so hard for so long but just can't seem to get there. it's tough but i'm still moving i guess
Depends on your current status. But as long as your pushing yourself every day, most reasonable people won't think you're a loser
You aren't a loser anon 🙂
I'm on year 2 on my "This year is my 1/2/3/4." My numbers so far are 5x5 below:
OHP - 95lbs
Bench - 165lbs
Squat - 235lbs
Deadlift - 285lbs
And I repeat to myself, 2024 will be my year to 1/2/3/4.
Lmao you're at least 5 years away from 1/2/3/4 with those numbers
TOO SOON BROTHER, TOO SOON, 2024 JUST BEGAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAN.
I’m natty and about 2 years in as well. That’s pretty much where I’m at exactly. Keep with itt
Jesus christ anon! Do you even try? No offense,but in 2 years of constant lifting ,all muscles twice per week,you should at least:
Bench = 100kg
Squat = 110kg
OHP = 60kg
Deadlift is for powershitters lol
>Year 10 of getting injured before I can hit 2pl8 bench
I remember someone posting a picture saying that Alcohol was the best pre workout as it raises core temp and is a vasodilator among other things.
Cant find the picture anymore but got banned from my gym for doing shots between sets.
Swallowed a bottle of acetomonaphine/caffeine/codeine tablets yesterday morning. Decided i didnt want to die about 30 minutes after i took them. Been in the hospital since and im starting to regret getting help already. Nothing has changed.
anon you need to find hobbies that amuse the mind. I encourage you to find subtle ways to ruin those who have wronged you.
taladafil would be better for what you want
I have no idea where id even start ruining anyone
time for you to lay in bed and ponder their destruction
Just buy a full balaclava and cheap clothes and slash their tyres and pour paint stripper on stuff like at 3am. Scroll through tbharchive for ideas. Park your car a good mile away so its reg doesn't show up on camera. Trash the clothes afterwards. Repeat very, very infrequently, (like a few months break, preferably it'd be like 6 months to a full year) but enough to scare them.
it really is that easy huh
This is why whenever I hear about guys weary of their "toxic" exes or bpd prostitutes, I don't really respect them. Being annoying and showing up at your house at 3am and threatening suicide isn't "crazy".
Stealthily pouring boiling salt water on her front lawn to spell Black person, breeding termites and letting them loose on her property, sharing her phone number with random strangers on IST and the sharty, throwing rocks on the tracks when she takes the train in Fortnite, now THAT'S what you call crazy.
Outbpd the bpd. Outcrazy the crazy. Any man can do this, you just have to let go.
I'm sure you could fake a death certificate and get her utilities turned off.
I don't know if I'm suffering from body dysmorphia or not. Ive lost 35lbs since Sept and completely turned my body around, I want to get into bodybuilding and get big but be lean..and I'm ready for my first bulk as I've been cutting this entire time, but I still feel not lean and like I've got another 10-15lbs to lose.
This was Sept 10th
You're definitely not lean but significantly skinnier than in this pic
>dated a girl two months (oct-dec)
>she went back to her home country for holidays
>I thought she’d leave 2-3 weeks
>it’s been 6 weeks
>now she says she’s staying another 3 weeks or so
She called me out on my texts being as sweet or consistent, but she’s been away longer than we’ve been together. Didn’t even text me today. Oh well.
>never followed egirls or the like
>spoke to an anon about a specific one he seemed to be obsessed with
>kept saying stuff that made me think i could save her
>dream about her being my gf that night
>wake up and remember I would be just another simp
What a horrible feeling, why do so many guys put themselves through this?
How the frick can I date Michelle Jenneke or at least a woman that looks like her? God I love tall athletic women but I am cursed by being a 5'9 manlet, it's so unfair bros...
I joined a track and field club just for her. She seems like such a lovely gal
>t.30 y/o that didn't make it and not good with women
I've seen countless short dudes with women you wouldn't believe. It's all up to you and your mind dude.
My guys I want to believe you but I think the ship has sailed a while ago. I used to be able to pull sometimes 6-7/10 in my early 20s with the dawn of dating apps but I've been on and off the past 5 years and can't pull anything, even with premium/boost, doesn't matter the dating apps. I only get fatties and bottom of the barrel women. I'm not a hot guy and don't lift that much because I mostly play hockey and soccer with friends, can run a 5k in <23min and generally have my life together (good family, good health, great job, great house, great friends)
I used to go to nice bars but now I don't have anyone to go with since they all have girlfriends and kids. I sometimes go alone to try to rekindle with my youth but I am noticing that the only ones that go alone at a bar (especially a nice one) are losers, creeps and extremely awkward/desperate dudes
The funny thing is, I could probably somewhat meet Michelle Jenneke even though I'm in Canada. My coach and good friend trains high level national athletes at the track and could bullshit something like needing her for a seminar or whatnot. Doesn't really matter as autism/assburger can't be cured and I'll forever be resigned to date chad's past cum dumpster (if I'm lucky) or the worst genetic abberation in existence
Playing sports is meeting people ez mode. Join a soccer or hockey or running club and you'll meet a girl ez
Take care of yourself physically and mentally. Wear proper clothes that fit, get a good haircut, and be social. That's it. I'm a 6'4 dude and have tons of friends 5'8-6ft that pull hot chicks. Chicks are attracted to confidence and if you have a pussy mindset, they'll see it.
>it's so unfair I can't get a woman who is intrinsically better than me
I never said it was unfair but I wish she were dumb enough to date me
She looks like a men? Wtf are u homosexuali?!
Hello I am proud to say I had sex with white prostitute. I am Indian male in software development
>cuddling watching a movie with girl I've been seeing for about a month now
>she pulls out a condom and hands it to me giggling
>tell her I think it's best if we both get STD screenings before getting intimate
>doesn't say anything
>some 30 minutes later she says she has to go and leaves without saying bye
>apparently I'm being burned at the stake in some group chat and I'm literally bawdshaming hitler prude edition
She has AIDS, doesn't she?
I did kiss her a few times so I might have mouth herpes now
At least GOATler would be proud of you.
Idk if u cud even salvage that. Yikes bro cringe.
Anon.... she giving you a condom is a green flag that she isn't a bawd, in fact. The worst part is that you've poisoned the well and it'll be harder to date other girls she knows from now on.
If I were you, I'd invent an excuse or straight up say you were unprepared or nervous of underperforming, (had a lot on my mind lately not feeling horny or some dumb shit) she thought you invited her specifically to have sex.
And yes, b***hes will roast you in their group chat, all of their complains of locker room talk is projection because they say the nastiest shit when they are together
>Anon.... she giving you a condom is a green flag that she isn't a bawd, in fact.
Anything other than a virgin or a married woman is a bawd. That's how it works.
True but she doesn't have aids at least
>she giving you a condom is a green flag that she isn't a bawd,
lmao no it’s not, moron.
>yeah ive fricked 70 guys but i “made” them wear condoms, im trad teehee”
Yeah that's a red flag
Total prostitute, you dodged a bullet bro
>girl hand him condom, giggling
>fumbles it
ahhhh, nothing else quite like this website
wagmi
Do you wonder where you would be if your parents pushed you to do anything? I was lucky and got into a decent uni on scholarship but I had zero direction and was just smart enough to ace tests. My parents didn't even look at my report cards. I wonder if I could have been good at a sport or done academic competitions etc...
I just realized I turn 22 this year
I finally started mma which is a dream I had since I was 16
I talked to my dad and he call me out for spinning my wheels.
I dropped out of college got a job paid off my loan but now I have 0 idea what to do with my life
Is there any phrenology tricks to detect if a girl is cluster b or not?
>varicocele
>childhood testicular torsion on the other nut
>see something online about varicoceles being a major factor in male fertility problems
>realize I might be infertile
>if I am, gf wants a sperm donor when we try for kids, will not consider IVF or adoption
>go to fertility clinic
>nut into a cup thinking about impregnating my gf with triplets on our future honeymoon
>cry for 10 minutes before leaving the room
I get the results tomorrow. What do I do if I'm infertile? I will not accept letting my gf be impregnated by another man.
stop making up problems that you don't know exist yet
>if I am, gf wants a sperm donor when we try for kids, will not consider IVF
That would absolutely be grounds for divorce if it were me, full stop. But this anon is correct
>His gf immediately demands a sperm donor before the results even come in, instead of suggesting adoption when you can't conceive normally after years of trying
HAHAHAHA imagine not seeing it as a red flag the size of a football court. Enjoy being cucked in the future moron
I think my gf is the one.
remember, there was another "the one" before your gf chose you.
I had the Heihachi dream again last night. I could electric wind god fist and it was the coolest thing ever. Felt like a god of martial arts fighting off ninjas with my bro.
>dreamt about my abusive ex again
How the frick do I move on from her? It's been a year already
>"just find someone new lmao"
not that easy to just connect with someone new when the old connection is already so strong
Shit man literally the same. In my dream i was talking with my ex and some chad pulled a chair next to her and sat down with his feet on her lap. I got pissed off and tried to snap his legs leg press style but my punch was too weak and i almost killed myself out of shame. Do you know any exercises that will allow me to karate chop the legs of any gigachad?
I think I might kill myself if I can't retire by 30. I hate my job so much.
I have a plan all written up, apartment prices, management fees, etc. but every day reality looks bleaker
I had a solid white hair in my beard the other day and my sisters made fun of it calling me an old man.
Checked today, they've multiplied to a few dozen.
I fricking hate working so much
Get a different job?
I know it's difficult to think of destabilizing what you at least are comfortable with, but do start browsing for alternatives. A pay/hours cut may be fully worth your sanity.
im waiting for my daughter to be born and do not at all feel prepared for being a father
fatherhood is a give it your all, figure it out on the fly and learn by doing kind of thing right?
ive splurged on a decent home office and gym to minimize my time out of the house/at least give me a chance to stay on top of things but i still feel overwhelmed just thinking about it all
>waiting for my daughter to be born and do not at all feel prepared for being a father
Nobody is the first time, anon. It's a journey. Relax, keep your head leveld and enjoy the ride.
In the last 30 days I've been suicidal to the point my ex called the cops on me to make sure I didn't do it.
>2 friends dead in the last two years
>this December I got laid off and ex broke up with me soon after
>got my first paycheck from new job today and the realization of just how much I've lost is setting in.
I didn't even make that much in the first job, 2k a month or so. I'm making less than 1k/month now and I can't afford to support myself anymore so I'll be moving back in with mom
I really don't know what to do anymore, I can't even be fricked to touch the weights and I got a sweet upgrade to my home gym recently. Every single day I get drunk, get my gun, and I argue with myself or find some distraction until I fall asleep. Part of me knows this is the greatest struggle in my life which is why I need to double down and press forward, but the other part wishes I'd have just followed through and blown my brains out.
You’ll get through it anon. These are just some choppy seas before you catch your white whale. Don’t you dare give up. WAGMI
I don't believe it anymore. My life was fricking perfect and everything started going to hell. First friend was my roommate, he got run over by a car while walking home. I sensed something was wrong and called the PD, found out that way. He worked so close to home I walked up there to check on him but didn't find anything except for my keys prior to the call (I was letting him use my car). It was hard but I had lots of friends and my gf around. Coming from the deep South, we drove all the way to West Virginia for his funeral, I don't think I've ever been more tired in my life. We had an open casket but you could just tell they reconstructed his head, he was an off color. I touched his chest and it felt like slapping cold meat at the supermarket. My gf held head while I cried like a fool for days. I thought I had made it through and could just move on as normal Then the second one shot himself this October. Then the relationship troubles started, then I lost my job, and then she decided to cut things off on Christmas Eve of all fricking days. Now I do overnight stocking. My fingers bleed just about every day and I'm in consistent pain for less then half of the pay I used to get. Frustration and hate drive me through each day now. When we do communicate, she won't even shred a bit of emotion, it seems like she doesn't care, like she was tired of it way before I could have realized. Its the best relationship I've ever been in. The same woman who was my rock through some of the greatest pains of my life has left this gaping void in my daily existence wherein I break my fricking back for dogshit pay. And of course I'm already mentally unstable, and all of this kickstarted a series of paranoid delusions which further isolate me from others. I can't fricking take it anymore. I work my job for nothing, I have nobody to come home to, the loneliness and frustration I experience on a daily basis are crushing.
I'm a little drunk. By walking home, I mean he was walking across the street to get to my car to drive home. I found my keys in the street when I was walking up there to check on him. He died in the deep south but his family buried him in Virginia.
held my head*
Frick. That’s one hell of a pit you’re in anon. But it’s always darkest before dawn. While friends can never be replaced, everything else you mentioned can be. Just get through this hard stint and you’ll be happy you didn’t go through with it
It honestly was over as soon as you cried in front of her, no joke.
I'm sorry for your loss. The pain eventually blunts and you become more adept in responding to it. Stay healthy and alive and you will find yourself through the tunnel.
Cheapest beer on tap.
I really feel that anything a man does that is outside the scope of what a woman wants makes you a bad guy to everyone within their circles.
Got some friends, 1 of them is my gym bud. 2 of them are married and 1 is in a long term relationship. They do couples things and I understand that it isn't my place to be there when they do.
Get asked to come with them, 1 of the women has a friend they want to introduce me to.
Pretty enough, but has a clear limp and after some talking has some health issues. As we are talking really think highly of her, seems like a genuine and good woman. Don't even try to frick her regardless of hints being given because I know that regardless of how nice and sweet she is, I don't see myself on a relationship with her.
Had she been some hoe I would've but like I said she seemed like a good woman.
End the night and go about my way. A couple days later she reaches out, and I tell her honestly that I don't see a relationship and didn't want to lead her on or anything. She asks if its her health problems and I tell her honestly yes. That I would like to meet someone and have a family but marrying someone with hereditary health issues like she has is something that I wouldn't want to do.
Idk lads I think that is a perfectly reasonable boundary.
Well my buds wives are all pissed, now my gym bud is pissed because he thought that I was "a better man then that." That I was shallow or some shit.
Friend, one thing I learned in life is to never be honest because it just creates problems like these. I would have said that I am currently not ready for a relationship because of job/ex/whatever bullshit reason. I don't know how you can salvage this but focus on yourself and stop caring about what people think
Perfectly reasonable boundary.
Perfectly reasonable. The only thing I'd have changed is that I'd have left out the reason why when stating you don't see a relationship with her.
>an escort i've been fricking said I would benefit from a fwb or gf
damn, the sex isn't bad on either side and she waasn't saying it to be mean. She just very pointedly said you'll grow as a person if you have this experience without money involved.
An escort called me handsome after she sucked me off
that's genuinely pretty nice of her
while it probably won't hurt her revenue since there are plenty of men willing to frick her, she'll have to deal with some fatso instead of you from now on
Was she offering?
GL bro, it will be good experience
doggos always member u
maybe you can take them out over the weekend sometimes, like to a dog park or beach
tell ex gf it will be good for them, and she will have an empty house for whatever
>was she offering
I think the sentiment was genuine but if it was an offer I’m not sure, I tried asking but her answer was mixed between dirty talk and teasing.
>Be me shy mf because of bullying and being fat
>actually started to run to lose fat, lost 30kg
>girls say i'm good looking and hit on me but i just think that i'm worthless and ugly as frick
>on my 20s still with low self steem
>finally grow a pair and talk to a girl i liked since 17
>she messages me back
>seems interested in me
>wants to go out with me
we are planning on going out tomorrow i'm feeling happy as frick right now.
Thanks Gym you gave me enough confidence
> had a dream where I fingered a girl and she was so tight it was hard to keep the finger in
Makes no sense but still god damn
just find a femcel gf
I went to this sub now that it reopened and all the foreveralone women have had sex at some point lmao, they just call it "pitty sex" and don't consider it real
Women are delusional. They can have bukkake orgies and take tons of dick up the ass and they consider themselves virgins still.
gross. majority of men really are worthless. lol. definitely need ww3 to cull them.
would
>was busy all weekend, leave house before 8a and getting home after 5p
>then get home and watch the recorded nfl playoff games
>no time at all for two days to browse this shithole board full of endless hating each other, racism, misogyny, political shit, barely ever see a single positive thing posted ever
>feel much better
Yeah frick this place
cool, don’t let the door hit you on the way out you Black person troon liberal c**t
>move to new area back in September, complete fresh start out of grad school (I'm 24). Decent size area but not a college town
>Absolutely struggle to meet anyone
>Get some dating apps to meet people and learn more about places
>Had maybe 1 date a month, all gone terribly
>Look at clubs
>Join a running club, not many other options at all on websites/Facebook
>I'm the only one below 35, most are 50+ old widows and divorcees in the group
>Do the winter running race series for the town
>Win the male 20-24 group by default since I'm the only one that did all 4 races (in a 250k metro area)
>Try out some bars
>Literally everyone is in a group, not crazy enough to introduce myself to a table of people
I'm gonna sign up for a climbing class I think, besides that I'm at a complete loss for where to meet people, i think the loneliness is starting to eat at me quite a bit
Can any political homosexual tell me if I’m accurate, as someone who until a few years ago mostly ignored politics?
>Dumbfrick liberals want to essentially just make moves and choices that are one big virtue signal
>they vote these morons in who then ruin their states
>flooded with minorities and illegals and immigrants, housing prices go up as does crime and shit
>they then flee their state and en masse move to non fricked up states just to b***h about how things are there and make them same mistake over again and ruin that state too
Is this accurate?
Yes. We should’ve built the wall from San Diego up to the San Juan islands and kept the west coast from moving out of the shithole they created.
It’s fricking bullshit I’ve partially grown interested in all this because I now realize it actually affects me that I’m at the age I’m trying to move out and I can’t afford to do it. (Florida). I look at how housing prices have changed over the last 20 years and it’s insane. It was never cheap in my lifetime but it was very possible before.
Many of the places I’d enjoy moving to are either already largely liberal run or currently heading that way.
I hate these people so much it’s unreal. Another reason I’ve begun to open my eyes to it is that these liberals 100% are trying to virtue signal, they initiate political conversations with the sole goal being to take some holier than thou moral high ground stand point where they can shake anyone who doesn’t 100% align with them. Literally had this moron tell me word for word
>If you didn’t vote Biden you’re my enemy you’re a piece of shit. Biden actually cares about people like us
Meanwhile under that sleepy homosexuals reign the borders been allowing so many illegals from Africa china South America and even the Middle East in each day and shipping them off to “sanctuary cities”, what the frick does anything think happens next? They get some footing in those areas and then they leave to other states when they realize “oh I can move to [insert state that has rental prices for about $1000/mnth on average]” theyll flood those places and then they’ll vote democrat because of the obvious reason. It’s fricked up. It’s like this country is crumbling and there’s no fixing it
All because some selfish buttholes wanted to be able to do the political equivalent of a middle aged Facebook moms virtue signal with her work friends of sharing an “I donated to the animal shelter” post for all to see. All these people I know who would bring these discussion up were either boomers who already financially made it or people my age whose parents pay their rent/gave them their house
>>If you didn’t vote Biden you’re my enemy you’re a piece of shit. Biden actually cares about people like us
Politics got more polarizing after OWS, to the point where left-leaning people refuse to be friends with anyone on the right. Shit went full bonkers and I think it's largely because as society gets less religious, the new ties that bind us are political ones. People today treat people with different opposing political views like they used to treat people in other religions a hundred years ago, all the way to calling people heretics. I notice it's more of a problem for people on the left than it is people on the right, who ironically end up being more open-minded and friendlier towards people with different views. Gone are the days of "agree to disagree," because "your opposition is violence." Just look at what happened to JK Rowling for making some innocuous comments about women's sports and prisons.
welcome to life, son. suddenly /misc/ doesn’t seem so crazy. all of that is the israelites fault btw.
yeah that pretty accurate. they just want to be worshipped by poors and nonwhites while remaining in their gated communities but once pablo and jamal start getting enough first time minority homeowner money and move in next door, they cant handle the cultural enrichment they told everyone that we (white people) needed. they stand proudly atop of their shit hill for a few years before realizing that it’s a pile of shit and then just rinse and repeat since they can sell their 2 bedroom condo in Black personland for 1m and move to a conservative state, buy up newly built mcmansions and redo it all over again 10 years later. the only thing they actually gain from any of this is the white savior smugness and “muh food culture and muh music”.
>t. watched it happen to rural florida
pretty much, I don't know why they have to ruin everything. I think the commies won the cold war or something
> I don't know why they have to ruin everything
because if they aren’t happy, you cant be happy. libgays are crabs in a bucket
accurate
Da
>correct
>correct
>correct
>correct
i have yet to come to terms with democratic-republicanism and its connection to race.
hey im a psychopath ama
Proof?
>seeing girl, we both like each other and enjoy spending time together. Things are healthy
>gets to like 4 months in, she starts talking more about wanting to see more of me and mentioning bf gf things
>have to decide whether or not to take it further
I just told her yesterday that I don't want a relationship. She was upset and said she doesn't want to see me anymore then because she doesn't want to get more feelings and waste time with someone that doesn't see a future with her
I'm sad. Here are the reasons I didn't take it further
>she indulges in drugs occasionally, and used to a lot when she was younger
>has a lot of male friends
>I didn't feel a strong romantic connecting although I enjoyed her company
But even with those reasons, her behaviour was perfectly good and fine towards me throughout.
Did I make the right decision anons?
Why would you ever tie yourself in a relationship you don't want?
Well my not wanting a relationship was based on those reasons, not because I didn't want to continue spending spending time with her
>gets to like 4 months
Deranged to me that people can "date" for this long and not be calling each other bf/gf. Thank Christ I don't have to date in the modern era.
Thats perfectly normal u degenerate coombrain..imagine frickin girl you are seeing firsr month lmaoo vet rekt b***h
Is that a bad thing? I still remember the true love I felt in a dream a few years ago. It was better than any drug I have taken.
>I just came to a woman giving positive affirmations
>not even joi, just a woman saying nice things about the listener
This is the lowest I've ever been. I'm in tears. How did I get to this point?
>be skeleton autistic frick most of my life
>got IST
>frick 5 women over the summer, one becoming a fwb who ended up getting a bf
>try to calm down, find a nice christian girl
>I do but she wants kids and marriage yesterday, says no sex until marriage (not a virgin)
>I decline, as I do not want kids
>2 months after 'no sex until marriage' and less than week after telling her I would just be wasting her time, she wants to bang
>warn her it would be a bad idea for her as Mr. Right could come along while she's banging Mr. Abs
>we bang, it was good, did stuff she's never had done to her and she loved it
>now she's feeling guilty, probably won't be a fwb
>want to use my physique to sleep with women and not hurt them
>urge to try Tinder is rising
Thanks for letting me blogpost
>says no sex until marriage (not a virgin)
She brought it up after initiating the first kiss and makeout session on the first date. She grinded on me til I got a boner, hopped off and told me that. Immediate turn off, should've told her to frick off right there but I was confused.
Post body u frickin skinny homosexual
Maybe if you ask nicely
Suck my jobbla
>break up with gf months ago
>went to her house
>told her i just wanted to see my
doggos
>says no
>literally cried on the doorstep because im a beta b***h
>calls cops on me and gets me trespassed
>months go by, no contact
>texts me the other day
>”hi you can come see the dogs”
>buy toys and dog food for them
>show up
>new ring camera and bluetooth door lock
>ring doorbell and wait
>lets me in from the other room
>doggos go crazy, all over me
>spend probably minutes playing with and hugging the dogs
>tears start dripping down my face, doggo lays in my lap
>hug him and say goodbye
>leave
>bittersweet, finally got to see my doggos but dont know when ill see them again
yeah im an autistic homosexual with an unhealthy emotional attachment to animals but i don’t care. i guess today was a good day
god damn i must be moronic. cant even greentext properly. i spent probably 45 minutes with my doggos and it was the best 45 minutes i’ve had in the last 5 months or so
Why won’t she let you take or see the dogs anon? Shit’s that fricked for you two or something?
relationship ended poorly. im also back living with my parents in less than ideal conditions for the time being + work 50-60 hours a week. taking them wouldnt work so it was best for them to stay with her anyways i guess. im assuming she was just waiting until she was over me and fricking some other dude before she let me even go over there. i saw a pair of boots near the front door that weren’t mine but whatever, i don’t really care about her anymore. just my doggos. i feel like a little b***h writing all that out and complaining about dogs since i’ve had people tell me im overreacting but i don’t care.
howd u meet that b***h in the fisrt place
>doctor just came back with bloodwork
>have rhabdomyolsis
>told to stop lifting weights
bros...
my dream last night consisted of me being assigned to work at a Publix and failing to log in to the work terminal while an armed guard was threatening to shoot me if i did not begin my shift. i eventually, somehow, made my way to a bar and got groped by a short, obese woman and then i woke up.
today a couple of people laugh when i said I'm catholic. They are commies, so it was expected. They are a bunch of moronic npc anyway
I dont care. God gives me strenght
I'm gonna lift tomorrow for him bros
I posted this already, but
how do I reignite the fire in me, after letting myself and everyone down, failing over and over again?
Getting sick of spinning my wheels on dating apps, and resent having to downplay many of my interests, hobbies, and personality traits in the interest of casting a wide net while women can lean into them and still amass potential suitors; one of my friends makes reference to 'paid dating sites' which his brother used successfully and is now married, do these even still exist and is anyone not well into oh-shit-biological-clock-ticking age using them? The idea of basically admitting to giving up fully on ever meeting someone the 'normal way' pains me, although arguably that happened the first time I ever downloaded an app
in essence,
>tfw no gf
started talking to a girl a week ago. it looked like we hit it off good. I slept over a few times and made out with her. but now it just feels awkward as shit. we haven't hanged out since then. only been talking through text. idk. idk if I should keep trying, and maybe I'll win her over or to just stop. sucks.
is she cute anon? tell us what happened
nice job. she was probably mirin. try to go at the same time the next few days and maybe you’ll run into her again and then you’ll know for sure. proud of you buddy
at the gym today, there was a lane of open treadmills to my left, and this girl went to the one right next to mine, not one over. then when i was slowing down, it felt like she panicked because she was spam hitting buttons before finally hitting stop. i didn't get a good look at her because i took off my glasses for the run and i'm blind without them. anyway that's it, that's the most female interaction i've had in weeks, outside of customer service.
How do I become a sexy bad boy that women want? I want to be a good gentleman who wants marriage and a good partner but apparently that’s not enough from a primal point of view. Sorry for the language barrier, I’m from Europe
Become indian
I don’t want to reek of curry, I like my pizza smell so no thanks
train hips, take zinc, only talk in one-liners
NGL anons, every time someone posts about meeting a new girl, or dating a new chick, or finally banging the girl they've been talking to a while, theres a sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach that they're talking about my ex. im still not over her
>no gf for over a year
>been fricking a lot of hoes but none gf material
>finally chat up 10/10
>make plans to go out
>she flakes
>double text like a simp
i feel like a moron but i suppose it was never meant to be if she's the type to flake in the first place
ur secondd text was supposed to berate her for being a prostitute
u wohre
I'm a 29 year old kissless hugless handholdless dateless virgin. I've never seen a vegana or pair of breasts in real life.
I don't allow myself to flirt with women because I never feel good enough to do so.
It's over.
based
most women are mentally ill and do not deserve ur attention
Its one of those things that seems so wonderful and ethereal, until you do it and its like "yah, got that off the list I guess". Basically, you're not actually missing out on anything important
Repost from other thread.
Still can't find a job, countless rejections have been wearing me down. The only thing I can think of is to start my own business, but I don't know what that could be. I feel trapped but I won't give up.
Going to keep the details vague since this shit can easily dox me
>spend 5 years making myself competitive for a certain program in college.
>500+ hours of volunteering, in humid 95 degree heat without AC
>study 12 hours a day just to keep a 4.0 GPA because shit teachers didn't realize the workload they put on students
>had barely any time for friends, and lost them all.
>managed to become first rank out of 800 kids, score 1500+ on the SAT.
>worked on a few other aces up my sleeve, but are personally identifiable
>write a frickton of application letters and attended tons of virtual tours that took up the entire summer
>applied during the BLM summer of love
>got rejected from nearly every program, later find out it was heavily influenced by the political climate
>get accepted into one college program
>thank frick, now I don't have to do as much anymore
>still work hard academically and do some rare extracurriculars
>make a lot of new friends and engineer tons of friend groups
>win awards and go above and beyond program requirements
>sing praises of the program to everyone,
>last step is the interview.
>prepare well for the interview, and it seemed to go quite well
>get called up a few weeks later. I'm dismissed from the program, with no way to get back in
>An interviewer decides of all of the program, they wanted to shitcan only me.
>feel betrayed, especially since I knew a lot of the other people in the program were shady as frick or explicitly never wanted to be in the field
>back to where I started, this time I have to meet an even harder standard
>nearly all friendships died around the same time. They started to move on to other friends or just without me.
I don't know bros, all I got left is lifting and my hobbies. I worked my ass off for 5 years to avoid being stuck here. During those years it was like everything in my life hinged on getting into the program, and it was ripped away in the span of an hour. Everything I sacrificed amounted to nothing.
Now I have to make up for the time I was in the program and build out multiple EC's with 100+ in the span of a semester, all while preparing for an admissions test. Though I'm furious at my former program, I feel weaker than I was prior, since I was always sure that if I put in the work, I'd get something close to what I worked for. This time, I'm not so sure any of my current work would matter, as it can just as easily be thrown away by some random bullshit. After 5 years, I began to look forward to waking up the next day. Now, I counsel other depressed and suicidal people with no release for my own sentiments.
100+ hours*
I like IST because I feel its the only place I can be around likeminded nerds. Everyone on every other board is just as much of a nerdy homosexual as we all are, but I just don't click right with any of them. It seems like they have no threads about what I'm interested in, but on IST that sort of thing gets brought up tertiary to fitness all the time.
I think part of this is that people are more excited to reply when a topic is brought up than it would be on boards more suited to it, because we weren't expecting to see it and IST is just generally more friendly and High-T