Have any of you ever gotten a fix-er-upper gf who you managed to get into shape and into the gym?
My gf is on the right side of being fat for now, but her mom is unironically obese, and i want to stimulate her to actually work out before her genes catch up with her. Have any of you successfully gotten your gf to do this?
The only thing I want to stimulate are her nipples so I can drink fresh milk from that cow.
Do not speak in riddles
No, I've had the full circle wife. She was 5'7 107 lbs when I met her. Repeated impregnation and the fact that I've always had whatever brain damage it is that makes someone a chubby chaser (but I simply repressed it hard for a long time) meant that she fattened up to about 185 pounds. I enjoyed this quite a bit, but I'm also not demented enough to not care about my wife's health. Once we had our 4th kid and decided we were done I pushed her to start lifting and watching what she ate. She'll never be a 107 lb waif ever again, but she's down to about 135 and is much more IST and happy than she was as a fat mom. Sometimes I wish she was chunkier again when we're fricking but I also refuse to be the reason my kids get to experience their mother dying of a heart attack at age 50 or something, and I already expect I'll probably outlive her because my family has great genes for longevity and zero history of cancers, heart problems, etc. but I don't want to outlive her and be lonely and miserable for DECADES.
So yeah. She's less of a fixer-upper and more like a nice house that fell into disrepair and I'm helping do major renovations instead of my demented impulse to hold a booze fueled orgy, smash the windows and spray painting graffiti on the walls.
Admirable but you should not have let it gotten that far
>dying of a heart attack at age 50 or something
This is literally a meme, the CDC put out a thing like last month saying BMI was not correlated to hearth health. You destroyed your chubby frickbunny breeder-body wife's softness for nothing, enjoy the skin and bones you gullible fool.
>I've always had whatever brain damage it is that makes someone a chubby chaser
It's always sad to me when a man denies who he truly is. You're going to struggle with and repress this all your life, and for what? You don't get a second ride on the roller coaster of existence. Just make sure she does her cardio and her heart health will be fine.
/fit/izens are so easily swayed by meme health and junk data, I swear to god.
>BMI was not correlated to hearth health
BELIEVE THE SCIENCE CHUD
>https://www.hsph.harvard.edu/news/hsph-in-the-news/bmi-a-poor-metric-for-measuring-peoples-health-say-experts/
2022 seems to have been the watershed moment for this--as it turns out you can't just pinch someone's waist with calipers, generate a number from that, and then maaagically know everything about their health. Who could have guessed.
But yes, keep running in terror from beautiful slampigs, anon. More for me.
holy frick, thanks anon
Slampigs are love, slampigs are life.
Frick anyone on IST who tells you that you can't like what you like. Any man who mindlessly follows the commands of other men and obeys their tastes, rather than his own, is a coward.
Dangerously based. I'm architecting my gf, the results are promising.
Nice. How far along is she anon?
One of my favorite things is to take my chubby slampig gf out to a restaurant, people are always disgusted at the contrast between her plump dump truck ass and my fitness. Love spooking the normies that way.
i'm glad you're able to enjoy yourself but i would absolutely kill myself if i looked like this and it blows my mind that people want to frick it.
more for you i guess.
YWNBAW
I'm fine with guys that like thin women since it means more chubby available but I can't wonder if this has some sort of impact, like chubby wanting to go thin, I wish there were more chubbys.
I hate myself for being turned on by this. my gf is in great shape, she does low and high intensity cardio and squats but deep down this is the ideal body I crave
Something we have been focusing on is core strength, i'm convinced childbirth isn't shit if you have actual muscles to push a baby out with and don't do it high on drugs where you can't feel anything and the baby is drugged up too and disoriented from trying to get out. gf is in, will have to see
>I hate myself for being turned on by this.
You must learn to make peace with yourself anon, otherwise you'll be a salty self hating repressed mess for the rest of your life. Accept who you are and understand that as long as you practice your kink as safely as you can, there's nothing wrong with having a kink.
>deep down this is the ideal body I crave
as IST's many "wall" threads say, all you really have to do is wait. Women's bodies are designed to take on fat over time, sooner or later she'll chub up. Just be accepting and open, and maybe consider being honest with her that you'd enjoy her a bit softer. Things will work out.
>i'm convinced childbirth isn't shit if you have actual muscles to push a baby out with
Huh. I mean, consult a physician on this, I'm not sure if that's how it works. Also, it's always a horrible mess of blood and pain regardless of fitness level. You'll want to read and learn about it as much as possible if you want to have kids, consult the literature.
Slampigs can't wipe their ass properly because of all the fat
cool link to no substance article
cope harder
have a nice day quicker, the grease buildup on your heart isn't working well enough
You are profoundly moronic. BMI has been considered a terrible metric for years. Body fat percentage is a different matter. You can have a high BMI and not have a high body fat percentage. A fatty is still a fatty.
>CDC
>CDC says that the absolutely awful metric of BMI isn’t related to heart disease
>taking in this information and coming to the conclusion that it’s ok to be fat and that high levels of body fat don’t increase the risk of diabetes / metabolic disease, which goes hand in hand with cardiovascular disease.
No. Mine dumped me when I said I was concerned about her weight
Wife started hitting the gym a few months after I did. We're mid-late 30s. Physically she looks the best she ever has, but the wall is just brutal for white women. Unless she really starts busting her ass she's gonna look pretty rough in a couple years.
Meanwhile, for the first time in our relationship, I'm the attractive one, and she's pissed as hell all the time now. Before I got fit, she was the hot one without putting in any effort, since I was a lazy skinnyfat desk jockey.
OP, for the most part, women aren't really capable of overall self-improvement. Find a better woman. I know I need to.
Think the idea here is to marry women in their 20s when you’re in your 30s
No shit, bro. The number of things I was fricking up in my life before, say, age 35 far outnumbers the things I was doing right. I sure as hell wish I could go back and do it over again.
I'm still on the fence about divorcing her. She is putting some effort in now, far more than she ever put in for the first 10 fricking years of our marriage, that I just put up with cause I was a beta cuck simp b***h. But the effort sure as hell isn't outpacing the wall, and she's pretty fricking bitter about it to begin with.
Anyway enough b***hing about my shit marriage. OP, yeah, it can be done, but getting a better woman to begin with is far and away the better way to go.
every girl I've broken up with ends up going to the gym and getting incredible physiques. The second to last managed to get bigger breasts and an even fatter ass while being nice and dense. The second one won a body building competition.
I fricking hate my life.
wtf is some people's problems with doing things out of spite rather than out of pure intention?
Like if a family member, or loved one tells you and cares so much about you and your health, or tries to help you...suddenly it's poison and you don't want to do it...
But then they flip a hateful switch, cut all contact and think they're so fricking badass going on this ''i gotta take care of me'' self-preservation mode where they end up doing exactly what people who loved them advice, but they get off on the idea of ''wow i'm so alone, i did it by myself, nobody cared so i had to do it for myself''.
Like wtf is your problem bro? you'd rather sabotage your relationships with people just so you can prove a point and come off as a spiteful person in the end?
It's weird honestly...what triggers that in people? That urge to push people away and then spite them instead of seeing their behavior for what it is : caring about your mentally ill ass' health?
There must be a psychological explanation...like getting off on abandonment or being ''betrayed'' or something, painting other people as bad guys in the story, throwing them under the bus.
Im not sure, I never forced them or told them they needed to lose weight or get more in shape, I was happy with who they were. I would bring them along a couple times just to share with them something I was very passionate about. I don't bother with my current woman, she seems uninterested in it, despite being a doctor and knowing how important it is.
Spite is a powerful motivator. Take me for example. Two years ago I was pushing 300 pounds at 6'2. I'd lost my fortitude and succumbed to weakness. I was miserable, embarrassed, self loathing, but none of that was enough to motivate me. Then my sister lost about 60 pounds. To many people they'd be like "oh I was inspired to follow her lead" or something. I fricking hate my sister. Won't go into detail but she's a piece of shit. She is one of the most worthless people I've ever observed.
Sitting around listening to my family praise her efforts, to her telling them her secret formula of not eating so much to lose weight, I was seeing red. How the frick could I be beaten by my moronic shitbag sister at anything??? After I saw the weight she lost that's when I started my diet and exercise. Now I'm 6'2 190 and benching 240 for reps. I got on the best shape I've ever been in purely out of spite for her.
this is...abominable in a way i deeply understand. KEK
imagine getting this angry about what other people do
nta but I really do get it, first arranged marriage(my parents are friends with her parents) failed in the engagement phase because although I was very direct and upfront about it before we got engaged and she agreed to it, I was encouraging and reminding her for education, health and family responsibilities (to use her free time to start practicing cooking with her mom or YouTube especially iron rich foods and meat because she’s clinically underweight and anemic, and/OR sign up for college And to start helping her younger sister to start learning English and making friends by taking her to the park (the kid speaks just French, their family is from France and the parents mistakenly thought that because I speak french that Canadians speak french but basically nobody speaks French outside of Quebec.) she’s made 0 progress and I’d ask her what’s up and what’s getting in the way, or does she want help with signing up for a classes, or is it a money issue and stuff and she’d always just say she’s trying and i don’t understand how hard it is — take the younger sister for a walk to the park, register online for college Or go on YouTube and put high iron recipes and then buy the groceries needed and try it out, it’s as easy as it sounds. Id be happy for her if she finally stopped being an unhealthy neet but also somewhat annoyed because she couldn’t have done that before when we we’re in peak marriagibility months?
>arranged marriage
she didn't put in effort because she didn't want to be with you anon
I agree with you and even if you’re wrong practically speaking you’re still right (walks like a duck, talks like a duck, than it’s a duck)
im greatful in that respect that it was an arranged marriage engagement that failed — because it hurts the ego less to think “she wasn’t really interested from the start because she didnt feel like she had a choice” and my confidence stayed in tact which helped me to find a wonderful young woman on my own and have a natural mutual attraction before we involved her parents and my parents.
>eternal undergrad big-tittied goth finally got her phd but she hit the wall at warp speed and her personal life is in shambles
>crazy BPD b***h kept being a crazy BPD b***h
>most put-together ex turned lesbo and is dating a ftm troony. also got fat somewhere along the way, but I think she's lost it now.
I love ruining women.
lol is being with you really that much of a toll on womens' mental health?
not who you're replying to, but the modern world takes a heavy toll on women
you can only shield them so much, and actually disciplining them is against the law
if they don't have inherently strong character and a decent group of friends, they WILL eventually succumb
how is the personal life of the first girl in shambles?
career completely stagnated, phd did jack shit for her
boomer parents went from old to decrepit
ovaries dried up so she's probably checked out of the serious dating market by now
psychotic younger brother moved back to the family property (it's a big country house but the dude's absolutely bananas and already beat the living shit out of her once, broken bones and all) and is mooching off the old folks HARD
basically she blew her last truly fertile years fooling around with me AND wasted a lot of time when she should have been focusing 110% on her phd
yes
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My wife got on a workout kick for maybe a month, was doing some meme stair-climber workout (she bought the stair climber) she also bought a treadmill.. but she gave up after a month max.
I'd even bought her some resistance bands which she never touched, and I just took them over and love them.
maybe she should try a real sport (actually no, you're gonna get cucked)
you should threaten to beat her for wasting time and money and giving up
Why is fit so populated with extreme homosexuals? You don't deserve your smokeshow of a girlfriend, give her to me.
I’m trying, got a GF who is great in every other aspect but she put on weight over Covid lockdown and has not shifted it. She eats very well but is incredibly sedentary.
She has started training for a long charity hike but that’s hardly doing anything. It’s a losing game, if I tell her she needs to lose weight I become an butthole.
Don’t know what to do lads.
Dude you described my situation perfectly. Like my GF a lot, but she gained 50lbs during/after Covid (some other stuff went on that contributed, but nothing dramatic). It’s made her a lot less attractive so I’m not really initiating sex which bugs the hell out of her (and me for the obvious reason). Not sure how she’s unaware that her weight is the major problem or if she’s in denial or what. I guess ending things is the simplest answer but we really get along aside from this issue. I think I’ll just put my cards on the table and see what happens. If it’s going to end at least it will end honestly.
Just let her catch you watching porn with skinny girls in it.
this is why you have to explicitly state when you make them your gf:
>I expect you to be [insert euphemism for 'not fat'] and I hold myself to the same high standard
>I expect you to make a good-faith effort to sexually satisfy me, and I will do the same for you
>I will try and talk to you about it if you're slipping (I expect you to do the same conversely)
>I will support you if your efforts to improve, but if there are no results our relationship will have to end
Bro you treat getting a gf like a contract lawyer. Or an autist, which is why most of IST can’t get lmao 1 gf
you two are speaking from the perspective of someone trying to get laid, not someone trying to find a wife
decent women aren't put off by this
grow a backbone and raise your standards
a high-quality relationship has many expectations in place, and not explicitly discussing them is insane
if your potential gf throws a tantrum at the idea that you want her not to be fat, do you really think she's going to be the type of person to add value to your life beyond her use as a wet hole?
This man has never even held hands with a woman.
Wait so I shouldn’t take girls to a notary to sign a 134 point contract on a first date?
You have never had a girlfriend. Of that I am certain.
Or, you know, just marry someone that already cares about their own health. Works out, can count calories and can cook and enjoy a balanced diet, stuff like that.
I did that and I have no regrets after 7 years of marriage.
fixer upper gfs are never worth it. unless they were skinny before and simply lost their way. lifelong fatties cannot cope with all the new attention and often go on a wiener smoking spree. ive seen it happen twice with my very own eyes. if she's a 7 or above imprisoned in the body of a fat b***h, youre playing with fire
hear hear
Fixer-upper? That's fricker pooper.
i have only seen women get fatter and fatter
great time for those architects
but i can make up a story to make you feel better
Find a girl you like. Not one you would like after fixes.
every girl I’ve ever been with married the very next guy.
Feels like I’m a mix of a good luck charm/wake up call.
i want to date someone who will do this for me
Same here. I'm yet to be in such a situation but even the idea that a woman would be willing to spend a non-insignificant amount of time and energy on exercise and dieting for no other reason but to make her body more appealing to me is a massive turnon. It tickles my sense of dominance just right.
too old and too ugly
Nope. Wife lost and gained back triple. Ex GF lost and left back in the day. If they don't want to be skinny and already have good habits, then it's too late.
I wish I had a fit bf who would help me get fit and pretty...I'm slogging along doing it by myself but I'm kinda a people pleaser so I'd put even more effort into it for my bf
ywnbaw
>start dating girl that’s thin as a twig
>mires my muscles and wants to start working out because of me
how should I go about this?
Tell her to do pushups, squats, and chin ups, all to failure, twice a day every day. Eventually these will be too easy, then it's time to get to the gym.
I dont think you can fix people. You can just set an example and they either follow it or don't.
>fix-er-upper
Do not do this. The amount of time you waste & the amount of mental taxation of getting a normie gf to your desirable shape is a fool's game.
Even IF on the off-chance she starts loving fitness & keeps at it, you now have to keep her loyal.
>Have any of you ever gotten a fix-er-upper gf who you managed to get into shape and into the gym?
Yes. It doesn't usually work out because women are fricking moronic, but it can work. You just need to ease her into it, first dietary changes. Then introduction to some walking and basic exercises. From there, you can start doing weightlifting with her. I call it Engineering as to differentiate from the opposite Architecting.
I wish. My wife is a sticc who, when she is a sticc looks okay, but she has the worlds worst genetics for fat. She has to stay a sticc.
I'm 22 and NEVER had a girlfriend. It's over... t
She's jutting her back out to keep her gut from showing. Same reason for the clothes. Oink oink fatass.
My wife was a very good woman when we married. Was dutiful as a wife, physically attractive, good mother, etc.
Our family moved to the US 4 years ago for my professional opportunity and the culture here adversely influenced her. She began to argue frequently and express her opinion on matters that do not involve a wife. She gained weight and became lazy in the household.
I took the permitted steps to correct her behavior. They had to be taken a bit far and I did think about sending her back home to separate her from US culture, but in the end it was not required.
>express her opinion on matters that do not involve a wife
lol, tell me you're a Muslim without telling me you're a Muslim
imagine being afraid of women having opinions on things, absolutely hilarious
You are correct, yes.
But our rules are not based on fear of women they are based on understanding of their nature. No society has ever been improved by allowing women "equal rights" or full latitude to participate in areas that are not in keeping with their nature.
The US made the terrible mistake of allowing them to vote in political contests and matters have been in decline ever since.
It is impossible Anon. Don’t try. You must either accept her the way she is or find a new woman. She already knows she can get you without being fit, and there is nothing you can do to motivate her to change.
Fiance was 140lb when I met her a decade ago and now she's 160lb, but she holds it pretty well (nice pear shaped body with big ass n tiddy) and I know once she's done with her medical exams which require her to study 8 hours a day in addition to working as a physician on 24 hour rotations she will focus on being healthier. She absolutely loves hiking and swimming, we as often as we can.