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it's gait not gate you fricking esl
I think for OP it's gayt
ha ha! got his ass
>OP status: obliterated
>it's gait
many people have this gate though. especially after getting married.
>have bad social experiences as a kid
>brain rewires to hate social interaction
>can work at it but your brain wil always be wired hate social interactions
>it’s over, life ruined
then normalgays who never dealt with that who live comfortable in their 20s and beyond tell you shit like “it’s easy bro just do [this]” never having experienced that mental termoil, so i ask you how the frick is that fair? i need results and i needed them 20 years ago.
Id like help with this too. Anon I can share that anxiety around new people where you'd typically expect the worst and respond poorly and scared goes away at high levels of test, but I'm talking like 200+/wk not some reasonable trt level like 120mg/wk. I can also report that going months or even years at high test doesn't make a difference when you go back down, I went from being comfortable in social scenarios right back to being terrified of them
I'm on trt and whenever I got my weekly shot I stop caring all together and can't be bothered to engage in 90% of conversations
Consider going off weekly. I used to do that and do biweekly and am way happier with it. I'm actually looking to switch to 3 times a week
yep. Normies simply don't know how fricked up childhood for certain types of people can be
I was a bully in school, had a great childhood relatively speaking, was always comfortable speaking my mind and talking with people. Then I worked a job in my mid 20s where I was treated like complete and absolute shit. Few of the guys there would just say nasty shit to my face and I didn't even know how to deal with it, it was like totally foreign to me because no one has ever treated me that way so I shut down. Really fricked me up. Just adding this to show that it can happen at any time of life
Karma. Get rekt.
>Be kid who gets away with being a c**t because parents don't think their little angel could never do anything wrong
>be adult
>Learn that being a c**t makes people not like you
>"Must be the other people who are c**ts"
Lmao way off target my nig. When I was a country people liked me. When I mellowed out and tried being nice to everyone and laid back they didnt
Lots of people have trauma but not everyone chooses to spend their youth and young adulthood behind a screen all day everyday.
Dude I think I can speak on this better than many people here. Had normal social life as kid, then randomly got outcasted when 2nd grade began so bad I went home crying my mom spoke to the teacher who had to force the other kids to be nicer to me (and they did after that all acted like friends but it was fake). Probably because I had glasses and had to wear an eye patch.
Mostly normal life outside of school neighborhood friends played some sports. Parents split, lose contact with neighborhood friends, taken out of sports, not allowed to go outside or make new friends mom only wanted me to be friends with severely autistic (the butthole insufferable type, not the chill type who are just a little awkward) or downie kids so she could virtue signal.
So no friends. Worked hard to improve self so in college I’d make up for what I missed out on in highschool. Built great fizeek, pushed self to do uncomfortable stuff like join clubs at college etc. eventually made a friend group.
Spent my 20s with many friends and different circles. A lot of parties and hang outs and club nights. Had smaller chill circles who stayed in mostly and just hung out. I had times where it was not uncomfortable, I would say I’ve improved immensely.
And I had to just accept like 1.5 years ago in my late 20s I genuinely do not care for it. I can’t articulate this how I would like, but I feel happiest alone. I CAN have friends now but I don’t care to do that. I can’t help it’s because I was ruined by going ages 8-20 with no friends and getting used to being alone. Like shit bro, so long as I have a PC and access to the outdoors I don’t need friends and I feel fine. And that’s not normal we’re supposed to be social animals.
Normies are fricking morons. They cannot think outside their own existence
>Well my dad makes a lot of money and buys me whatever I want so someone my same age w/ roommates & drives a used car a loser and isnt trying hard enough
Yeah I'd be ok not having friends if I could even go to family gatherings, or restaurants and shit without looking like a sperg. I hope I hide it well, I'm not a bad looking guy, but every time I'm around people my brains screaming run run get out and it makes me have a real hard time with people, like my wife's family for example. I was golfing the other day and a group of four let me pass them and I was so fricking self conscious and awkward. I missed a putt by like two inches and they jokingly were like hey we didn't see it and we're just being nice dudes but in my mind I was like oh shit I'm being watched they're going to find something wrong with me and comment on it or talk about it
I understand everything you said perfectly, except the part where you have a wife, how did you manage that?
I mean I act, think and do exactly like you described and I of course ended up as a late 20s kissless virgin because of it who never got even close to having a gf, meanwhile you have a wife lol congrats I guess
I find it very easy to interact with people one on one. I think groups stress me more than anything. I was married to a woman previously, virgin until me, we were married for like ten years then split. Imagine me figuring out how to date in my 30s after not having been on a first date since I was 19. Anyways I grinded kind of like what you said when you forced yourself to join groups and clubs and shit. I went on dates constantly, one week I had I think 4 or 5 lined up and I used them all as learning experiences until I found my new wife
That's your second wife?? Fricking hell lol, apparently similar thinking can result in both a guy who goes on endless dates and gets 2 wives one after another and on the other hand a kissless virgin who never went on a single date in his life kek
gay
Fake it till you make it. Took me 10 years of pretending and sports (competitive sports are goat for this) but now I cannot perceive that I was bullied in school anymore. There's more in common between me and the bully now than there's between me and who I was. Actually scratch that, preying on the weak is some mentally insane behavior, I still can't understand people who actually do it. But I do get the desire to see how far I can push other people into submission. Never acted on it though, seems like a stupid game. And I am now secure in social interaction.
i know it can be worked on, and “fake it till ya make it” unironically is great for enforcing a mindset, such as getting rid of anxiety. but it’s very hard. the brain’s like small muscles that wont grow, you can blast them with autistically perfect exercise and good rest and fuel but then you measure in a few months time and you’ve barely added a cm.
what i’m getting at is that the brain can and will adapt as an adult, but the core is rotten. at least from my experience and understanding of this brain chemistry / reward pathway shit. i have a severe stutter since i was a child. i dont even know how or when it started (also dont want to blogpost more than i am but basically authority figures always roared in my face the moment i did something wrong).
so i am now nearly 28, chronically shy and socially anxious. i catch my shoulders tensing just speaking to family, the people i am most comfortable around. on bad days i could go into full blown cold-sweat-panic-mode just ordering food or asking randos for directions. i barely manage one on one phone calls - piss easy office work has made me a stressed husk of my former self. like how the frick do i practise approaching and speaking to people when at best my brain goes blank and i just go “uhm excuse me, lost my train of thought haha”, and at worst i look like a mental patient red in the face unable to even make a sound. it’s fricking embarrassing and embarrassment is the closest feeling to actual pain the brain can feel. every interaction is embarrassing. it’s a vicious snowball effect. would you have bothered learning to drive if anything you did electro shocked you? sure you could learn how to drive it just like other people but you’d be so scared to do basic things what’s the point? how could i ever be a parent? how can i ever risk a child turning out even remotely like me? i’d say i wouldnt wish this on my worst enemy but i’m a vindictive c**t.
oh man, it's like i'm reading my autobiography
at least i can cope knowing someone else understands what this feels like
I reccomend "Lars and the Real Girl" and 6g of psilocybin mushrooms and to think long and hard about your inaction during the duration. You can buy spores on sporeworks and a growbag with substrate and they will flush in 1 month.
stop being a gay drug addict
It's impossible to be addicted to mushrooms. You're a born-in-captivity bugman who was raised inside a box, you travel in a box, you look at a box all day. You never had an actual rite of passage like all tribal humans before you. You had no bullet ants. You had no vision quest. You're an overgrown child. A shamanic experience and self examination is exactly what you need to break out of your homosexual mind prison of self absorbed inaction. Sorry, but this should have happened over 10 years ago. Now try to catch up.
this post but unironically, too bad your are screaming into the void for these guys
nuking ur brain moronic is actually really deep and meaningful and cool and everyone should do it so we’re all gay morons together.
t. crab bucket george carlin
u guys claim to hate boomers and do all the exact same shit
You're a fricking b***h to type out all of that. I bet you think you're the smartest person in the room at any given moment, don't you, homosexual?
>verification not required
Digits and your gains belong to me.
where the hell is this coming from, man?
just dont worry about it bro :^)
Your homosexualry, homosexual.
please dont steal my gains, anon
digits and when you die, you reincarnate into al sneed
I just pretended I was the main character in my own movie and nothing bad could happen and all I had to do was play the role and act. This got me laid but chicks smelled I wasn't authentic and my relationships only lasted like 6 weeks each for a few years. Eventually I got over my insecurities and opened up when I found a girl who did so first. I reccomend the movie role strategy to anybody who lives in his head too much and has trouble taking action.
What movie would we compare your life to? Or rather which character from what movie?
I pretended to be ryan gosling in crazy stupid love. Insouciant, witty.
>just do something that is virtually impossible if you're an autist
Great advice, bro.
Pretending to be characters is easy for autists. You think everybody in a d&d group or at the warhammer club or larping at the renn fair is normal?
stopped caring about this gay shit after I turned 25 and had my job and my place
Replace the jacket with leather, the bottle for a jug, and Nikes for Addidas and this is my work outfit. Genuinely reconsidering my wardrobe rn.
Frick normalgays. Why would you ever care what they think? The only time I ever care about conversation is if I need to be professional at work. Outside of that, if some normie tries to start a conversation with me at the gym when I'm gacked out on pre-workout, caffeine, and lifting heavy shit, I love when they get my full autism with no mask.
>I was bullied too anon, but I just learned to be confident and not care about what other people think :^)
This is scientifically wrong. The brain is malleable and if you’re truly motivated you can rewire it by being conscious of negative thoughts and actively thinking positively. It’s not easy, and because you’re such a defeatist homosexual you’ll probably never achieve it, but it is possible. I did it.
Yeah, I'm sure you had it soo hard growing up, homosexual.
I did, homosexual. I was friendless as bullied as anyone. The reality that you could change but aren’t is more painful than your narrative that life is out of your hands. It’s the ultimate cope.
i have been looking into this and i agree, it is fricking hard though
Is it possible to rewire my brain to be more racist. If let's say, I'm already the most racist man on the planet?
those normies are prey.
>have bad social experiences as a kid
You could have chosen to not be a homosexual and not let it influence you
>hurr you should have known better when you were like 10 years old
yeah feel it bro, it's not that I can't socialize or be somewhat charismatic when I'm in a social situation, I just don't care to put myself in a position where I have to interact. absolutely no desire in my mind to do shit with others that I could otherwise do alone; feels like I should be lonely but... I'm not
Yeah I'm not even the bottom of the bag but I just prefer to be alone so I can't be fooled, bullied, threatened or that I don't miss some cue or whatever. And I just generally have a hostile attitude towards the world because I expect hostility, like almost every single other person has more or better friends so they are automatically a threat but if I keep to myself they don't have much on me. I fit the paranoid personality pretty much if I had to choose one and I can sometimes be really hostile towards other humans if I think it helps me being left alone.
Someone said something about how you can slowly rewire your brain and it's true but after certain age it takes longer when the pieces are mostly set in place. They are not set in stone but they don't move as much.
It's just always better being alone because when you are alone people can't directly humiliate you, even if yes, they speak behind your back and you have no control over it, it is what it is. In theory there's no reason I wouldn't date more often and hang around friends more often or have more friends, but that is just in theory.
Also I'm over 30yo and I remember when I was 15yo people would tell that the bad feels will fade away once you turn 18yo or once you get your first real job or once you get your first real girlfriend or once you turn 20yo, 25yo, 30yo... no, they don't.
>it takes longer when the pieces are mostly set in place
college, fulltime job help to solidify everything. add an aging wife and its done.
I am that guy and at this point I cope that I prefer it that way.
Nice to know that I'm never the center of attention, constant peace with no one bothering me ever. Even if someone does recognize me that person forgets that I exist 5 seconds later so it's good
But this does make you the center of attention in a different way. You're the creepiest guy in the room and that makes everyone subconsciously acknowladge you all the time.
Girls for example never truly forget your existence, they're always keenly aware of you and where you are in the room because you're the person they wanna be least close to.
Most of that stuff is in your head. Yes you're the awkward silent guy, but 99% of people literally don't spend a single second actively thinking about you, you're just a whatever blurry background character that they barely even know the name of.
Same with girls, they don't think "OMG there's Anon in the corner uhhhh what a creep, look Becky Anon is there look at him omg" they just gravitate to the people they know/care about and see everyone else as non entitites.
whats robotic gate
I googled it but I got nothing
the pic might be ai generated
It's probably a turd worlder trying to say robotic "gait"
when I look up "robotic gait" all I get is some "robot-assisted" physiotherapy
Gait means manner of carrying yourself, it's like the postural equivalent of countenance. Robotic should be self descriptive, but rigid, stiff, unnatural. So you could read it as unnatural way of carrying one's self
He means robotic gait but doesn't know how to spell.
>He has the same old manual lock gate guarding his property instead of a robotic one that can move on its own
Later, moron
It means you walk like a gay
think a nerdy ectomporph walk. or how husbands over age 45 walk next to their wife but also younger people doing this.
>how husbands over age 45 walk next to their wife
you see men over 45 do this and you go whatever hes old and married, but a lot of younger people walk like this too and you "dont nice them" because they are the loser dork geeks betamales etc etc.
>"dont nice them"
"***dont notice them"
I wear shoes and shirts like that but I'm not a loser so it still looks good.
>I do all the things that losers do but I'm certainly not a loser
Sure thing man. But seriously adult males should not casually wear polo shirts. They should be worn in a professional environment, sparingly. They're not flattering and just give off pedofile vibes. Opt for a nice button down instead. If you're actually fit a well fitting button down looks infinitely better than a polo shirt.
I just wear plain colored t shirts and gym shorts, and flip flops.why the frick would I wear a button down anywhere but someplace fancy, same with a polo but I don't get the distinction between the two
You're allowed to wear nice clothes outside of "fancy" establishments.
>distinction between polo shirts and button downs
Polo shirts make you look like a pedofile.
At this point...treat your life like a game of Survivor...and just make yourself useful or essential, Black person. We don't expect you to sing us songs. Just show up, do the work and deliver results. You can't make friends with words, make friends with actions. If somebody needs help moving some shit, show up. Take up charity work locally. You don't have to be fricking Shakespeare, just move the boxes of over here, anon. Thanks...you're a real friend for being there for me.
That's literally it, homie. I prefer friends with action over friends with just words that disappear into the night when things need to get done.
I wish it was like that, but in reality most people prefer "friends with words" and see you as a lifeless robot just executing tasks if you don't talk, especially women.
Even at work, it's expected of you in most group environments to small talk and chit chat not just be silent and work. If life worked like you described it all of us silent autists would be in paradise
people who prefer words are just too sheltered/privileged and have no struggles in life so they seek out entertainment in their friends.
You need to find people who need friends, not who want them. That means you're going to have to spend time with the ''needy''. Go help others. You will make quality friends if you are just consistent and you will definitely meet the right kind of woman for you. Someone ultra caring, understanding who values actions more than words towards others.
>If life worked like you described it all of us silent autists would be in paradise
There's a place called "Japan", idk if you've heard of it.
>being chronically overworked your entire life
>paradise
Lol, lmao even.
I have a friend who fits this stereotype exactly and he works for NASA at JPL
there's definitely worse things you can be
I fit most of that. Got the same hairline / glasses / jeans. Small talk with strangers does make me nervous. Thing is, I don’t actually give a frick, so instead of 1 to 2 word answers I’ll talk people’s ears off lmao.
How do I dress better? Besides just looking better by being IST. It feels like all the clothes I try on in stores don’t fit me, either literally or in the uhh other way.
>I don’t actually give a frick
>l-lmao
We're all anonymous here, anon.
This isn't highschool. You don't have to look a certain style. what's more important is whether or not the clothes are the proper size to your body. Not too big not too small, not too loose not too tight.
I saw too many ISTggots that try to wear a certain outfit that a model of a bodyshape that's totally different wore, which resulted in them looking like theyre wearing a bedsheet ghost costume. I saw enough of that to realize that the overall aesthetic is 80% carried by the sizing of the clothing. That's why tailoring is a thing.
New balance fresh foams are goated
just saw a guy like this at da mall and couldn't but think "that's Chud!". he looked just like chud, he was even walking in a hurry with long strides
Just dress better. Parker has some great fits on YouTube.
>great fits
not including your picrel, I hope
Have blue eyes and be 188cm. Worked for me
recessive af.
Basically pick a flamboyant persona and try to be it for like a month, be vaporwave guy, or guy who's way too into being Italian/Irish/German whatever, dress like that guy, watch that kind of media, go to those kind of events, dress like an exaggerated stereotype. By the end of the month you'll probably decide what you like and don't like about "that guy" and either tone it down or up depending on how you feel.
The thing to understand is that you need to get over this zoomer fear of being "cringe" if you want to accomplish anything. You will be cringe, it's part of life, just keep going. If you're having a good time who cares.
>The thing to understand is that you need to get over this zoomer fear of being "cringe" if you want to accomplish anything. You will be cringe, it's part of life, just keep going. If you're having a good time who cares.
Yeah, dude, being a laughing stock that nobody wants to associate with is so fricking great.
>robotic gate
I just don't like thick glasses, that's all
>outlift
Ypu don't outlift this. You learn basic social skills, get a hobby, find male friends, get a circle of male friends so that once women get to know you they are not creeped out by the weirdo with no friends, get gainful employment, and most importantly you LEARN BASIC SOCIAL SKILLS. Learn to carry on a conversation like a normal mature adult male -- and not some awkward kid who lives in his mom's basement playing vidya all day.
>basic social skills
it's incredible how difficult something so basic can be for people in their late 20s who've rotted their brain spending all their youth being an anxious shut-in. Like in my case I have almost 0 life experience so I have nothing to offer in most conversations meaning its impossible for me to keep one going which in turn makes it impossible to get exposure and fix myself on the most basic level. This compounded by the fact that im 27 and act like this and have nothing in my life makes it even more embarrassing which makes it even harder to do anything. It's just a perpetual cycle that feeds into itself.
> I have almost 0 life experience so I have nothing to offer in most conversations
You don't need to have life experience to contribute to a conversation. You just need to be able to give a genuine compliment and take genuine interest in the life of your conversation partner. Read How To Win Friends And Influence People for a starter. Then you can read How to talk to Anyone About Any Thing. There are very simple techniques that you can learn. I mean, there are dozens of other books on this topic that you can choose from. But the point is that you don't need any life experience whatsoever.
Wtf that’s me
>get excluded and bullied all throughout primary school and early high school
>become more normal late hight school
I should be ok now, but I still automatically assume everyone secretely hates me, and if I share my interests they will mock me for it.
>get excluded and bullied all throughout primary school and early high school
>become more normal late hight school
Literally proof bullying works. You were socialized.
It wasn't really because I was weird, I had a short fuse so I was very easy to provoke, I was very weak and had a stammer so I was pretty much defenseless. And on the offchance I did get a good hit or insult in, they'd run to the teacher with fake tears and the teachers would force me to say sorry to the people whose favourite pastime was fricking me over.
Now trust me I have seen cases where bullying victims 100% brought it on themselves, but before the age of 16 or 17 it's just dickheads picking on soft targets for fun.
its "gait" but yes that me
>be autist that's too confident to effectively bully
>years of neglect have made me an uncaring butthole
>still alone
I stopped wearing blue jeans and switched to khakis/tan jeans and I look soooo much better
holy frick you reek of boyfriend material.
I look like this, except I don't wear bubble jackets and my name isn't generic. If you wanna outlift me, then you probably just need a bar.
>mumbles everything he says, always has to repeat himself at leats once
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