How do I overcome insecurity, social anxiety, shyness, and lack of confidence and become the macho man God created me to be?

How do I overcome insecurity, social anxiety, shyness, and lack of confidence and become the macho man God created me to be? How do I become confident, outgoing, and social?

  1. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    LULZ loser

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Never ever

      Progressive overload. Start with small talk with service workers, work your way up to cold approaching strangers.

      Been working on it and can talk and function but I don't know how to flirt/escalate a conversation like a normal person. Was a Chipotle the other day and there was this beautiful girl behind the counter (around my age) and I didn't say much apart from the usual and kinda froze up

  2. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Progressive overload. Start with small talk with service workers, work your way up to cold approaching strangers.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      this. never heard somebody explaining it this perfectly in fitness metaphors. perfect, lol

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      larp

      drop this, go straight to the cold approach on women and weak people

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Damn this is so true I didn’t even realize I was doing this. Made a comment to some rando at the butcher today about how good their jerky is without even really thinking about it beforehand

  3. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Pin tren and drink alcohol

  4. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I've been where you are, and I'm going to be very blunt with you. If you don't want some crass, possibly rude words, ignore the rest of my post.

    Stop the ****ing self-pity.

    Your self-worth in life isn't based on what you have or what you look like. Humans aren't flowers, nobody respects you because of the shape of your god damn jawline. Nobody gives a damn if you're a genius. Nobody gives a flying f*ck if you're talented. Nobody gives a crap if you're rich.

    You're respected based on what you do with what you've been given. Do you think anyone respects Mitt Romney more than Obama because he's rich? Hell no. Do you think people respect Obama because of his good looks? Of course not. Do you think people respect Martin Luther King because he was talented? Do you think people respect Nelson Mandela for his IQ?

    Life is like poker, you're dealt a hand and you work those cards to accomplish whatever you can. Life is about tearing down obstacles, no matter what they are. Stop trying to get attention -- why the **** do you need attention from other people? Why the **** do you care what I think of you? I'm some ****ing douchebag that goes home and masterbates to midget porn just like the rest of these degenerates. I'm not special. Stop giving a **** what I, or anybody around you think. I'm nothing. This is your life, so live it how YOU want to live it.

    Life isn't about impressing other people. You don't need good looks, or money, or genius or talent to have a good life. Be kind, be compassionate, be hard working, be assertive, and be principled. Then I'll respect you. I don't give a **** about anything else.

    Now stop ****ing feeling sorry for yourself. Every time you cry you're reinforcing that there's something wrong with you. Get up off your ass and start building your life. You really want people to respect you? Work harder than everyone around you.

    Stop the self-pity and live your life. You're no worse than anyone else.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      I’m not reading that fuck you

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Is IST censoring swear words now or are you just a ginormous gay?

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      >le self-help style using ****ing epic curse words
      why is it so cringe yet so ubiquitous?

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        >why is it so cringe yet so ubiquitous?
        I don't know why it's cringe, but it's ubiquitous, because there's a real need. Many people feel inadequate and incomplete.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      >Obama's good looks
      >MLK's Talents
      >Nelson Mandela's IQ
      Holy tits, you mean a retard hack politician that married a chud, a communist and serial adulterer, and a literal anti-white communist terrorist? Vacate my fucking board you stinky spear-chucker.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      >nobody respects you because of the shape of your god damn jawline. Nobody gives a damn if you're a genius. Nobody gives a flying f*ck if you're talented. Nobody gives a crap if you're rich.
      xD

  5. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Bro this is IST, we lift weights here. Have you tried it?

  6. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    When you see the fattest, ugliest pig on the planet... give her a compliment. Hit on her even if you have no sexual attraction towards her. If you can’t talk and flirt with girls you aren’t attracted to, how do you expect to do it with girls you are attracted to? Use these beasts for practice.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      good advice except the caveat that whatever you do, do NOT fuck or validate them.
      You cannot un-fuck a hambeast and that shame will sit with you for the rest of your life as it eats away at your sense of self.
      Like they tell movie stars to never take TV roles, if you ever open yourself up to even the possibility of fucking fat chicks, that's who you become. That fat chick fucker. That becomes your 'league' now.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      >just become a lying scheming psychopath bro

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        as long as you're both having fun there's nothing psychopathic or manipulative in some playful flirtation with a stran. Have you never been around older women before? They do it constantly.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          You're telling me to go find the most unattractive ugly fat person on the entire planet, and then flirt with that poor fuck pretending I want to be anywhere near it? And that's somehow not lying or being manipulative? Literally psychopath serial killer type stuff

  7. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    stoicism
    not joking btw, google it. Literally changing my life rn after decades of what you're describing

  8. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >find edm fest
    >buy band
    >go
    >find dealer
    >what is x / press / molly
    >chip chew swish swallow
    simple as.

  9. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I've tried every single mental exercise possible to beat my social anxiety and it's still only getting worse.

    Like I can try to pump myself up in the mirror of a bathroom before going to some whatever college class, rationalize to myself in every way possible that literally no one gives a shit and do every mental and breathing exercise possible like widening myself as much as possible with my arms wide open or whatnot and exiting the bathroom telling myself there is no reason to feel this way over and over again, but the moment I touch the door knob and open the class door my heart starts beating like crazy and my head feels like it will explode as if I'm in a near death situation. By the time I sit in my chair I am already sweating like crazy and afraid of the person closest to me literally being able to hear my heart bursting out of my chest because of how much I am stressed in that moment.
    Every time the same exact thing, even though I know it's not rational. At this rate I'll die in my 30s out of nothing but pure stress and anxiety.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      this one's ez, exposure therapy.
      Don't even give yourself the opportunity to rest and think about it or hype yourself up. Constantly be in the presence of someone else interacting with them as much as you can.
      I hope you live in a dorm with roommate(s).
      Your body will adapt long before it kills you from heart explosion or whatever you think will happen.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      You care too much, all that shit you're doing in the mirror is just making you care more
      Drop all that shit and just walk through the door, don't even think about it

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        This. Just relax and be in the present moment. Don't get trapped inside the thoughts of your mind.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      get out of your own head you retard. and if that doesn't help, try getting behavioural therapy for your anxiety.

  10. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I used to be outgoing and social when I was a kid and had a lot of friends growing up, but in high school and college I turned into an introverted recluse

  11. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    single out every negative thought you have and attack it with violent positive aggression as soon as it appears.

    Also look into the concept of 'frame' from red-pill. Even if you're not into that shit, frame specifically is an incredibly good piece of insight irrespective of trying to get laid or whatever.

  12. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    *blam blam blam*

    fuck im a terrible shot.

  13. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    stop being a fucking bitch you gay

    >.t aspie that was shy and had bad social anxiety till 15

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      >had bad social anxiety till 15
      that's called going through puberty you dumb retard

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        then I guess OP never went through puberty HA!

  14. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Testmaxx, you'll feel better in about two weeks

  15. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    fake it til you make it. you have to be bad at something to be decent at it, and then eventually good. just do stuff. you'll probably regret it, you'll probably (definitely) embarrass yourself. but so what, its much better to regret doing stuff than to regret not doing stuff.

  16. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    The only reason you're scared of talking to people is because you think too highly of them, drop that pussy mindset

  17. 2 months ago
    Jealous

    >How to force women to acknowledge reality and stop living the lie Helene feeds them?
    It's not me, it's them. They are stupid and evil but I am pretty cool.

  18. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >the macho man God created me to be?
    if big daddy created you to be macho you wouldn't be asking how on an incel imageboard you fag

  19. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I’m really socially awkward because I have nothing to say 90% of the time. If I do it’s some rehearsed joke I use constantly.

  20. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    You need to warm up your social skills every morning. If you live with someone such as a housemate or your parents, talk to them in the mornings even if it's small. Then say hi to people who are paid to talk to you such as waiters or cashiers at coffee shops, then make some very brief small talk about literally anything at all. Then keep repeating it and try to watch and read funny things to develop a sense of humor. Eventually in the same manner warm up your humor every day by being a bit funny, don't try too hard to be funny just do it when it fits in. Rinse and repeat endlessly until it feels normal and you aren't shy anymore.

  21. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >A very temporary short term fix so that you know what social confidence feels like.
    Phenibut FAA

    >The beginning of a longer term fix
    Start with mental house cleaning. Try this. It works surprisingly well.
    The Silva Method had a simple technique where you tell yourself "cancel, cancel" whenever you notice an unwanted thought creep in.

    - 31:45 :: Mental Housecleaning
    - 33:13 :: "Cancel, cancel."
    - 34:08 :: "Better and better."

    The rest is up to you, but getting the bad ideas you have about yourself out of your mind and keeping them out is a good first step.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      >Mental Housecleaning

  22. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >How do I become confident, outgoing, and social?
    You just have to practice. Yeah you're going to fail, just how I'm sure you probably failed a set, or picked up some DB's that were too heavy, or hurt your shoulder doing an exercise wrong. But you examine what went wrong, push through and keep going. It's not like there is some other alternative, some magic cheat code or supplement you can take to totally change your personality.

  23. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >have terrible social anxiety
    >leads to having no friends and no relationships
    >the lack of social life makes me too insecure to try to meet people
    >lack confidence because i have no social life
    >shy because of the insecurity of not having a social life
    >on top of that, not having any social life made me severely depressed and miserable and not seeing the point in any sort of life
    there's no recovering from this.

  24. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Exposure therapy anon, push your boundaries of social interaction cuntinually and you will get over the anxiety. A public speaking course, like toastmasters might also help.

  25. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Just go on TRT and all your life problems will be solved.

  26. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    reject society
    become wizard

  27. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Either stop caring or develop such good social skills that you are confident by sheer knowledge of your social success rate.
    If you're ugly you must pick the former.
    t. uglychad

  28. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    i assume you have difficulty talking to women. My service is Start by fucking escorts. They Will gladly talk to you about whatever you want and with time you will see that talking to women is easy. I was a complete mess in my 20s never had a gf and terrified to talk to them after fucking dozens of escorts i have zero difficulties talking to any women.

  29. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    He didn't create shit cos he ain't real. You have to defy your biology and become who you wish to be

  30. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >You’ll stop worrying what others think about you when you realize how seldom they do.
    >David Foster Wallace

  31. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    DO
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    LSD
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  32. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    The Macho Man Randy Savage wasn't always so macho, no, as a matter of fact, his little brother was talking about how The Macho Man used to think he wouldn't make it, yeah, he didn't think he could talk the talk, he didn't know what he could do, but then his brother told him he should talk like the best talkers he knew, YEAH, and that's how The Macho Man was born, man.

    He practiced in front of a mirror for three months, and what do you know, he became he the most arresting speaker of his generation, if not of all time.

    Practice makes perfect, fake it to you make it, become the real deal

  33. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >How do I overcome insecurity, social anxiety, shyness, and lack of confidence and become the macho man God created me to be? How do I become confident, outgoing, and social?
    BEER
    E
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    R

    BEER.

    B E E E E E R.

    (beer)

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      drinking or doing drugs makes me more nervous becuase I get self conscious about doing or saying something weird or stupid
      it's insane I know

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