i know i'm attractive but i can't pull women in person, i only fricked through dating apps, some girls from the gym follow me on instagram but idk, i need help, for example, the gym closes at 19pm on saturdays, the trainer lowered the gym door's shutters and 2 girl trainers told me "nope, sorry, you're staying with us here til monday" i went full autist and said "hahah ok see u on monday bye"
id crush your skull with a rock if i saw you irl
why
THIS IS A FITNESS BOARD YOU UGLY STUPID FRICKING israelite b***h SCUMBAG
SEND ME YOUR LOCATION SO I CAN BREAK YOUR TEETH WITH A HAMMER
the gym is a social place where you can meet lots of fun people, friends, women, etc, i think you're the incel here, socially interacting with people while exercising is great, i'm asking for advice on how to do it, i don't think too many people from /adv/ exercise, so i came here
YOU JUST DONT FRICKING GET IT DO YOU
I GOT YOUR IP
YOURE GOING TO GET A NICE SURPRISE IN YOUR MAILBOX
why are you so mean to me anon?
yeah i get what you say, when i go out with girls is like dealing with my little brother, you tease them a little bit, make them laugh and just have a good time, the problem is my stuttering, the anxiety i feel when talking to someone new causes me to block and i can't fricking talk lol, that's why i prefer social media
thank you, mate
Take kava kava extract pills. You can get them on Amazon it helps with anxiety. Like alcohol but without the impairment
those pills cost half my salary, i'm from a third world country kek, also i would like to get over ir naturally
I'm sure you can find kava juice somewhere
Sad that most people need to drug themselves thesedays just to talk to people or be carefree. Just threat your insecurities, traumas and limiting beliefs.
"Self-esteem is not about proving yourself and others that you are worthy of love, its about removing all the beliefs, memories and experiences that ever convinced you otherwise"
>i don't think too many people from /adv/ exercise, so i came here
There's a lot of crossover between the 2 boards.
that does not mean anything since IST does not lift either.
>antisemite
>dedicated to fitness
>hates women
>send location
khabib... what are you doing here?
High testosterone male, respect
>how do u know if a girl at the gym likes u
If she initiates conversation with you.
Thats it.
thanks
ignore this virgin , only 0.1% of the most ballsy women will actually approach you first. what almost all women WILL do is position themselves around you so you can "accidentally" have an excuse to start talking.
also learn choosing signals, they're as simple as extended eye contact all the way to more subtle shit like turning their wrists outwards and pupil dilation which you really have to watch for
do u think some girls act like b***hes too? i used to date a girl who was all over me but she acted so shy and angry when around me at parties
>calls others virgins
>watch her wrists and her pupils if you want to know she's down
not a dating board its your fault, do better next time moron
ok i'll try, i was thinking about seeing the 2 min shia lebaeuof video "just do it" and then go talk to the girl i like...
also, is it weird to go to a girl and ask for her instagram? a friend told me she likes me
thank you mate i didn't intend to do it i just don't know how to talkt to them
i went through a little shutter door, the girls told me to kick the door for it to open and i did it
yeah i know, but being a stutterer is hard as frick, i'm funny, i make the bros laugh at the gym, slowly i'm trying to open up to girls, today i shared bench with one and she laughed at something i said
i'm not gay i'm sure i'm kind of autistic or i might have an emotional blockage or something like that
thanks to all my IST bros for answering
It's a fricking woman, who cares what they think lmao. It's literally a dumb animal who's opinion is worthless. You just be confident and get laid. And she's a gym thot so even better
stop treating a conversation with a w*man like a conversion with a godess. its a wet hole made for your pleasure as a man. You are the God and she might get the privilege of being with you.
thank you based greek statue anon, as i talk to more people i'm getting that mindset in, also have this painting feel free to save it goes hard as frick
oh
Also stop simping these perfect fake images that people feel the need to take of themselves on social media just to gain meaningless attention, approval and validation. You dont need to outsource your self-worth or worship some 2d images that your ego thinks it needs to attain for you to feel enough.
Reminded me of pic related
>2 girl trainers told me "nope, sorry, you're staying with us here til monday" i went full autist and said "hahah ok see u on monday bye"
Top fricking kek
That's basically the smoothest way to turn them down
>"hahah ok see u on monday bye"
>walks through the shutters leaving a man size hole
fricking based
Just talk to them like a normal person moron. If a girl from the gym is following you on insta it means she's surely at least cool with you smiling, waving or saying hi when you see her there.
Small talk is easy, easy as frick even.
>oh hey how you been
>how's your week
>what are you hitting today
etc etc, come on man.
Fake: girls telling OP to stay with them
Gay: OP turning down girls
If a girl talks to you first it’s pretty much guaranteed that she likes you. It’s your ball to fumble at that point.
Just go up and talk to her, stupid idiot
Having looks is nice since it gets lots of attention and pre-convo attraction, but you'll get a lot of tests from women.
You (OP) were tested - they had the ball set up on a tee for you, to see if you were a charming Chad.
It would have been an easy one to knock out of the park if you didn't go full autist. Your chances of anything with either one has been greatly reduced, because you are now essentially a non-sexual entity to them.
Slow down and think before responding when women flirt or play with you like that. You score no extra points by not taking your time and coming back at them with something good.
Buy time by making and holding eye contact, smirking, raising an eye brow, a short laugh, maybe make a subtle hand gesture before you talk... You don't have to rush out the first thing that comes to mind.
Work on conversation and flirting with everyone - women and men of all ages - so you can build up social confidence to be quick, unique, and socially calibrated, and thus be able to say great things in the moment.
It just takes time and consistent practice. Go get 'em Tiger.
why do chinks give out relationship advice on here? their population is two standard deviations below replacement lmao
seems like good advice brah, how can you tell they are chinese lmao
For some reason, small dick chinks live rent free in incels
>Buy time by making and holding eye contact, smirking, raising an eye brow, a short laugh, maybe make a subtle hand gesture before you talk...
What if I do all of these at once?
Staring at you, smiling sometimes, moving to where you are at multiple times, flaunting her body in front of you.
>how do you know if a girl at the gym likes u
She doesn't
I just assume every girl in the world wants to frick me and treat them accordingly. Fails plenty of time but it's their loss. Saves me from bullshit too. Just avoid it in environments you wanna keep safe like work
Just go to the machine she is working and ask if you could use it together. After that start greeting her when you see her at the gym. After one week after greeting her ask "how are you today?" "Which exercise are you going to do today?" Etc. Start chatting up everyday like this at the gym. After some time which is determined by how close you too get, ask her out for a coffee.
am i missing out on poontang by not having instagram or facebook?
I work in sub-saharan Africa (White American) and yesterday some coal black cutie came in the gym (I was the only one there) and sat down and stared at me for 15 minutes without saying a word, until I finished and left. It made me a bit uncomfortable. Do you think she liked me?
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Cold approaching is pointless if you want pussy, but you should do it anyways.
>Just went to the uni near my house to work in the library.
>Spotted a decent looking girl sitting by herself in the cafeteria
> asked her where the library entrance was.
>"oh sure, it's right there"
>Oh I missed it! well, btw, I think you are very pretty and I would like to get your number"
>girl lights up and displays a huge sweet smile
>" sorry but I'm in a relationship :/ "
I've cold approached 9 times, and this was the first time a girl didn't give her number, but her answer felt genuine.
I just gave her a huge ego boost and she's going to be thinking about her all day. Sure must be nice being a femoid lol
oh I forgot, the point I wanted to make.
Is every (hot)girl in a relationship?
No and if they are not they are getting railed by the closest thing to a chad they know.
SEXXXOOOOOOOOOOO
You should do cold approach for the permanent aliveness, euphoria and flowstate you get, not some meaningless wet hole that can only give you just a temporary dopamine spike and ego bumb.
Its all about becoming the source of good emotions in the environment and self-amusement. Sex is no big deal and just a bonus. You probably only get this after talking to thousands of hot girls and had sex with hundreads of them. Its all about process orientation, not outcome orientation.
how do i maintain the euphoria after you get used to it. move to LA and start cold-cucking celebrities?
>Hey where's x?
*replies
>Btw i think you're pretty i'd like your number
Holy fricking kek, the autism is visible
I dont think telling a girl shes pretty gonna get u her number? Does that work for u guys? Unless of course you're getting tons of signals already from her, but the library guy didnt get any signals.
Library guy here.
>telling a girl shes pretty gonna get u her number
compliments make girls melt. Their looks is everything they got.
Just go out there and tell a girl she's pretty and look at her face light up, it's kind of cool. Of course it doesn't mean she'll drop her panties for you, but it definitely eases you in.
Ideally you should ask their name first and compliment something like their hair, or their freckles, instead of saying that they are straight up gorgeous.
I've told girls they wore pretty and then not made a move ever, and they definitely became nice to me.
This girl I was working with never told me she had a bf, and took compliments from me. Even came up to me and said:" oh cmon anon, I'm gonna need your help down there to do all that work" when I let her to work by herself.
Anyway, the point of approaching girls is to build courage.Not getting a gf.
Don't talk to women at the gym.
AAA you Black person. you have nothing to lose and everything to gain (copious amounts of pussy)
Always
Assume
Attraction
if you go ham on it you'll probably be ostracized from your gym so be wary
>have never experienced interest
>bro she's totally into me
Im not the guy who first mentioned wrists but guys read a book on body language or google it. Women exposing wrists and neck is a sign of submissiveness that they give to men theyre attracted to. Evolutionary psychology is an interesting topic and will help u with recognizing how to attract chicks and recognize their signals to u.
The fact they are following you on instagram already shows some pre-attraction, so you have a baseline level to work from.
As for things to small chat about, people are increasingly losing the art of small talk, it's easy you can categorize conversations into three distinct summations.
a) non-commital ice breakers.
b) relative conversations.
c) philosophical conversations.
So a non-commital icebreaker is a way of opening up dialogue, you have different paths of which some are dead ends, some are open. So a good icebreaker can be chatting about the persons day, ask them how their day was, and what did they get up to. Listen intently, they will profer information to open up other paths of conversation. (Don't feel you have to do this all at once, do little and often to reinforce your interest and friendliness.) if the conversation petre's off you can say you've got to go get something/do something and end it naturally there.
You have a common interest in the gym, so you can ask them about their work their, their job in general, their work out goals, if they are a personal trainer ask them their opinions on a certain exercise, or say you'd like to see some improvement in a particular thing and would like their advice. This is creating investment in the outcome of the conversation.
At a certain point ask them if they'd like to train with you, or observe your form on a certain exercise. look for further cues, flirtatious talk, hair flipping, physical contact.
Ask them out, make it something non-commital and instantaneous, say you'd like to go for a drink after training. Ask them more about themselves, see how you get on. Exchange numbers at the end of the date.
If she doesn't bite for the instantanous date, ask when she can do it, and try to set it for that date, or if she has left it open. Accept it.
She has a boyfriend, laugh it off and say it was worth a try.
I wish i wasnt an autist but how do you phrase it to get a girl to come out and not sound super needy? Ive been called cute and handsome by women but i cant seem to get them to not flake. Whats wrong with me
RSD Blueprint Decoded. D'uh.
If you listen it and still remain to be a incel with social anxiety, then there is no hope for you. But when you have removed all that heavy social conditioning, making friends easily and having a great social life is pretty easy. You just have kill that voice in your head that says: "thats not me man, I can not be or do that".
Imagine being this socially inept lmao
It's kind of obvious, OP; they'll act noticeably friendlier to you than anyone else
thank you bro
kek yeah chinku
>the trainer lowered the gym door's shutters
Huh? Is your gym a food court?
>2 girl trainers told me "nope, sorry, you're staying with us here til monday"
They're customer service workers, that's just basic flight attendant tier humor, not an indicator of interest
Surest sign a gym girl is into if she looks at you a lot and/or stares. She might try to initiate convo but probably not for fear of bugging you during your workout, and girls aren't wired to approach anyway.
idk how gyms are at your country but here they close at 23pm or 19pm and they close it with shutters idk how to say it properly my main language isn't english
thank you for the support