talk with strangers about topics you are capable of discussing in great detail,for example current events,or sports,dating whatever you can talk about for a long time,you'll become more capable overtime.
>you are capable of discussing in great detail
This is autism. It's a better skill to talk about subjects that you're not interested in and being a good listener.
I dont meant talk and go on and on while giving them little space to talk,I mean just having something that you can to them about and keep the conversation flowing for up to 3-5 minutes atleast. Its so simple.
initially don't treat any girl you meet there as a potential romantic partner, just treat them as another person you can be friendly with. in that case, if you drop the spaghetti, it would be no different than dropping in front of any other guy. once you've got a friend group you can start thinking about dating.
if you're worried about embarrassing yourself: >a) people are a lot more forgiving and less judgmental of that kind of thing than you think >b) you don't have to go back to the club if you feel too embarrassed to
but really, i think you're overthinking it. you'll find that once you put yourself into social situations, the rest will come naturally. when you talk to people, fish for common interests by asking what their hobbies are, what they watch, what they're interested in. once you establish some commonality, you'll have no problem at all.
just, uhh, hide your powerlevel if that's a problem y'know. no nazi stuff
I can't even imagine what talking to strangers is like >your hobbies
I've been lifting and running for more than a year and I have nothing to show for it, I like reading but despise philosophy and romance books. >establish some commonality
Every single time I probe someone for a talking topic I blank out and lose interest when they don't reciprocate which usually happens within 5 lines. "Are you watching anything good recently?" "Yeah I'm watching X." "Cool, what's it about?" "It's about X character doing Y" "cool...." conversation ends
I've tried so many times to just talk to people and everyone around me does it so naturally. I've read psychology self help books on this but when you're autistic AND low IQ like me it doesn't pan out
Watch this show and see the basic interactions the main character has. That's 90% of social interactions with people you don't know.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mr_Inbetween
You just need to be generally affable and easy going. People love that. Also see Titus Pull in HBOs Rome.
So here's what I do. When I'm in public, or in transit, and i see someone with an aspect of interest (like them having a nice umbrella, or enjoying the best of the song they're listening to), I immediately act on my feeling of curiosity and don't allow my self to have thoughts like "what if they think I'm weird or I'm saying something wrong). From there a quick interaction, or something a longer conversation starts. I usually do this with women since the people I otherwise talk to in my daily life are mostly dudes excluding family. But I still wish to just start conversations the normal way like just greeting the person I'm sitting next to and asking how they're 'really' feeling. Of course i probably won't do this if they're using headphones and don't seem in the mood to talk.
Being on IST ruins you.
Because every board is tailored to your specific interests >today I want to talk about fitness, I'll go to IST >I feel like talking about vidya today, I'll make a thread on IST
But then when you interact with people irl and they don't share your interests you have no idea what to talk about
nah
I voice chat on various Discord servers.
a start but you need a way to train all the in-person stuff like eye contact
talk with strangers about topics you are capable of discussing in great detail,for example current events,or sports,dating whatever you can talk about for a long time,you'll become more capable overtime.
>you are capable of discussing in great detail
This is autism. It's a better skill to talk about subjects that you're not interested in and being a good listener.
I dont meant talk and go on and on while giving them little space to talk,I mean just having something that you can to them about and keep the conversation flowing for up to 3-5 minutes atleast. Its so simple.
join sporting clubs and go to their social nights
jumping into the deep end in groups, what happens if there are women and you drop your spaghetti
initially don't treat any girl you meet there as a potential romantic partner, just treat them as another person you can be friendly with. in that case, if you drop the spaghetti, it would be no different than dropping in front of any other guy. once you've got a friend group you can start thinking about dating.
if you're worried about embarrassing yourself:
>a) people are a lot more forgiving and less judgmental of that kind of thing than you think
>b) you don't have to go back to the club if you feel too embarrassed to
but really, i think you're overthinking it. you'll find that once you put yourself into social situations, the rest will come naturally. when you talk to people, fish for common interests by asking what their hobbies are, what they watch, what they're interested in. once you establish some commonality, you'll have no problem at all.
just, uhh, hide your powerlevel if that's a problem y'know. no nazi stuff
I can't even imagine what talking to strangers is like
>your hobbies
I've been lifting and running for more than a year and I have nothing to show for it, I like reading but despise philosophy and romance books.
>establish some commonality
Every single time I probe someone for a talking topic I blank out and lose interest when they don't reciprocate which usually happens within 5 lines. "Are you watching anything good recently?" "Yeah I'm watching X." "Cool, what's it about?" "It's about X character doing Y" "cool...." conversation ends
I've tried so many times to just talk to people and everyone around me does it so naturally. I've read psychology self help books on this but when you're autistic AND low IQ like me it doesn't pan out
Watch this show and see the basic interactions the main character has. That's 90% of social interactions with people you don't know.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mr_Inbetween
You just need to be generally affable and easy going. People love that. Also see Titus Pull in HBOs Rome.
I'll put my faith in you and check these out. God I'm so lonely
>pic
That hit me hard
Improv comedy. Acting classes. Tennis a couple times a week. Just going out and striking up conversations with strangers.
Holy frick, that was literally me on high school
Manga? Looks relatable
filename, ch3
Read jung and confront your shadow idk it should be natural if you are not ashamed of yourself
How do you get to Carnegie Hall
TALK TO MY BOYS ON DISCORD
So here's what I do. When I'm in public, or in transit, and i see someone with an aspect of interest (like them having a nice umbrella, or enjoying the best of the song they're listening to), I immediately act on my feeling of curiosity and don't allow my self to have thoughts like "what if they think I'm weird or I'm saying something wrong). From there a quick interaction, or something a longer conversation starts. I usually do this with women since the people I otherwise talk to in my daily life are mostly dudes excluding family. But I still wish to just start conversations the normal way like just greeting the person I'm sitting next to and asking how they're 'really' feeling. Of course i probably won't do this if they're using headphones and don't seem in the mood to talk.
Being on IST ruins you.
Because every board is tailored to your specific interests
>today I want to talk about fitness, I'll go to IST
>I feel like talking about vidya today, I'll make a thread on IST
But then when you interact with people irl and they don't share your interests you have no idea what to talk about
join social community in MeetUp.
I joined the expat, hiking and the SWE community
>sexpat, piking, SexWorkerEnthusiast community
I'm ugly so being social isn't an option for me