how to cultivate anger? i tried meditation a few years ago and lost my ability to feel angry. maybe it's just apathy in general, but it's hard to motivate self with no fuel. i just feel flat all of the time, but my baseline is pretty high. i feel content staring at a wall.
Emotionally im flat when I present myself to the world but inside I’m just so fricking angry, like ulcer inducing rage. I’m not trying to “cultivate” it and idk where it is even coming from since I’m not an edgy /misc/tard who thinks the west has fallen anymore and my life is okay. I’m just so fricking angry all the time and when I snap it’s catastrophic. I honestly don’t know why you want to cultivate anger anon, I constantly feel like my head is pounding and like I’m grinding my teeth.
u sound like a pussy
>I’m just so fricking angry all the time and when I snap it’s catastrophic
Not like that, it’s just not good for relationships or my professional life to get in fights all the time you fricking homosexual. I don’t think I’m some dark or mysterious guy. I’m just an average Joe with anger issues.
Im kinda like this. I just dont know how to vent anger without somehow always being in the wrong
>dont be angry and just let shit go
>get taken advantage of by others
>use anger when people keep shit testing me or just piling onto my frustration
>wtf bro you should have just let people keep fricking with you why did unload on them like that?
Look up emotional regulation.
You need to learn how to let that anger pass over you so you can stop blunting your other emotions trying to avoid getting upset.
I do pretty good then lose my shit at someone and spend the next 3 days ruminating either about how right I was or lamenting being a dickhead, usually both.
You must have some trauma or lingering emotional issues, i felt the same when i was betrayed by some friends, i felt like i was angry for months at a time, i woke up angry i went to sleep angry i was going gorcery shopping angry, my emotions were ranging from depressed to violenty angry at nothing, it felt like if i ever snapped i'll do something really bad or atleast that's how it felt, but i was flat emotionally from outside perspective.
now i got over those issues though.
Before your lift, close your eyes and tense up, flex, clench, and let your thoughts boil. Channel your most helpless moment in life. When no gf, when your mom was beat, when your friend betrayed you, you were fired, etc. Use that feeling of helplessness to do anything to give you rage and lash out against your own inability.
For all the nofap shit, it definitely will let you direct your anger a bit more because you can't just release tension.
But anyway, I get mad at myself more than anything and my own weakness. For me it's my own inability to live life to the fullest in the past, and my inability to make a difference. Kind of like this
But don't go around like some autistic anger filled moron. You have to direct anger to be productive (lifts, work, etc.), otherwise you are just that gay butthole everyone hates, which actually gets you nowhere.
For what? I am apathetic 99% of the time but when I lift I can bring it out and get some more reps.
Only time I was constantly angry was in my teens, and that was stressful, almost worse then being constantly paranoid+anxious.
I don't miss those days.
A lot of people say it's unhealthy, but anger is the only emotion that's ever been able to motivate me too.
You need to remember specific situations that pissed you off... or create new ones. For me, I always think back to times when I've been rudely rejected by a girl, been cheated on, been made fun of, fights I've lost, or been treated like shit by my toxic parents/siblings/friends. But continually tapping these memories, you eventually get over them.
So create new ones. Be naive. Go out and get rejected again. Put your trust in a shitty friend. Have a quick conversation with someone toxic and remind yourself why people suck. Go browse Reddit and find some moronic opinions. Look at how full of shit humans and this entire world are. Search for ragefuel. Think about how you deserve better in life but you can't get it because things like work, women, medical issues, being autistic/sheltered, etc, are holding you back unfairly.
In most cases, you'll either be successful, which is a win, or you'll lose and become angrier, which is also a win.
Taking steroids will help. Getting enough sleep, eating well, not smoking weed, will help stop you from feeling lethargic/sad.
Stop sitting inside and jerking off. Go outside and see women in real life, increase your libido, and then when you get rejected you can later use it to cultivate anger. I had a phase over covid where I stopped pursuing women, and I lost my anger. I needed to witness actual rejection to get my anger back. So try cultivating your anger from real-life memories instead of rational thought and logic. Because anger isn't really rational in the first place.
Also, try to avoid getting in fights or misbehaving in the workplace, but don't take shit from anyone otherwise.
Also, let your anger out whenever you get the urge. If you get mad about something, punch your pillows, scream, say "frick you you god damn c**t". Don't keep it inside of you, let it out and express your anger.
Just be cautious and don't get carried away with things. Don't go to jail and don't get fired. Nothing else really matters.
Also, don't forget the power of music. Listen to death metal or drill music in the gym to get pumped up and feeling like you want to kill someone.
>In most cases, you'll either be successful, which is a win, or you'll lose and become angrier, which is also a win.
Jej
Also, I wonder if just being bigger wouldn't solve the issue on some level. Get scary enough that most won't dare to call you out if you get snippy
Mike Tyson and Eddie Hall used a hypnotist.
>lost my ability to feel angry
Sounds like you have literally nothing going on in life. Like 0 friends, live alone, no gf, dont see family much, all you do is buy groceries type of life. The only way you can not have 0 issues to be angry about is to be completely alone
sounds like depression
think about all the girls who ever rejected you
everyone who ever tried to bully you
every time someone made a joke at your expense
every time someone laughed at you
every time someone thought they were better than you
every time some tried to take advantage of you
every time you were weak and couldnt defend yourself
every time someone made you feel unwelcome
every time you see someone with something you want, but you dont have it, and all you can do is watch from the sidelines
every time someone tried to set you back, or set you up for failure so that they could get ahead
every time you remember that nobody gives a frick about you and your problems
you are alone, and youre going to have to save yourself
your friends are unreliable, you cant call on anyone
do whatever you need to succeed, dont look for claps and cheers
and never let your enemies win
I don’t know how to cultivate it, I’ve always had anger. But my advice is that anger is useful only if you are able control it and remain outwardly calm. Seething rage is literal moron mode.
focus on pain response exciting you and triggering intense aggression until it becomes a natural reaction. I don't know how much is innate but I think it can be trained. try doing stuff like getting some fillings done at the dentist with no anaesthetic for practice. I never tell them when they frick it up or wait too long so I can tank the pure nerve pain and channel that intense feeling into focused energy. usually get a weird tingle up my spine that feels nice and my vision blurs for a moment.
>Cultivate anger
Play video games.