I just don't have energy anymore bros. I'm 31 and have frick all motivation to do anything execpt go to work, lift, scroll shit on my phone.
What the frick do I do?
I just don't have energy anymore bros.
I just don't have energy anymore bros. I'm 31 and have frick all motivation to do anything execpt go to work, lift, scroll shit on my phone.
What the frick do I do?
That's the bread and butter of life.
What would you want to be doing? If you really want to do it, just do it. Put forth less effort at work, don't let it drain you or get to you, unless you're maintaining vital infrastructure, you're an emergency responder, or you provide care at a hospital, your shitty job doesnt fricking matter beyond making money and providing health insurance.
If you cant possibly sacrifice anything, then you dont want whatever it is you want bad enough. In which case, stop fixating on it and learn to enjoy the life you have.
Today might be the day you kick the bucket. Why arent you having fun to spite the world?
I don't even know what I want to be doing. If I could just stand up walk outside and go have fun I would.
enlighten me on the habits you think I lack
>enlighten me on the habits you think I lack
he will tell you the generic redpill shit
>take a cold shower bro!
>talk to girls bro!
>bro just get a haircut
is all genes
You lack the habits of skateboarding every day and using racial slurs. I guarantee it.
racial slurs yes, skateboarding no.
finding interesting stuff is where I struggle. Only things that really interests me recently is history and lifting but I read about them when I'm meant to be working. i just don't have focus any more. feels like a fricking void.
You sound depressed, bro. You might need a therapist.
What the frick is a therapist gonna tell me?
Sleep is ok actually, 7 hours minimum a night, mostly 8.
Share your secrets
>What the frick is a therapist gonna tell me?
Something you haven't heard before. What do you have to lose by trying?
>Share your secrets
Time. I just needed time to figure out the bullshit and feeling of empty meaninglessness of life.
Over time things resonated with me; I read the Bible and found my way back to Christ but I still don't claim attachment to any church. I took up guitar lessons, which made me realize that I want to play piano more than anything so now I've been learning piano. I got rid of my desk and PC setup and put in a home gym because I hate traveling to the gym and waiting for equipment but I like working out more than video games. Shit like that. But you can't just expect to copy my activities, you have to find what you intrinsically want deep down, and that takes time.
>What the frick is a therapist gonna tell me?
nta but for me he figured out I had undiagnosed adhd, referred me to a doctor, I got my boatload of tests, diagnosis, vyvanse and it was like I was born anew.
That was 5 years ago and still going great, just getting that one pill (and behavioural therapy to fix bad habits) from a random conversation with a shrink fixed my life.
So you never know what might happen, won't hurt to try if you have nothing else.
I am not him, but I find stuff that is interesting, do it, and keep doing it.
Nothing to do with generic redpill shit, since I am a neet shut in incel who just enjoys his things.
You lack the right habits to trigger neurochemical production and you lack the right social context to trigger competitive urges
Enlightened response
Yeah I’m 30 and my life is far beyond over. I was with my ex gf since 2020 but she went for phd abroad last year and I decided to break it off in Oct 22. She wanted me back months later but I saw her IG yesterday and she went on a trip with a Spanish guy. She didn’t post him but I digged around and I’m 90% sure she is getting fricked.
The funny thing is that she called me a week ago that she will delay her flight in her hometown until July because she will go to a ‘seminar’ and the translation I guess she is trying to have me as an option.
I feel used while I was the chad a months ago blocking her from everywhere. She was even spamming my emails to call her and I regret that I did. Also last night I came from a 6 hour shift and I don’t know why I checked her insta. Will fricking an uglier chick than her make me feel better? ( I have one option)
>girl keeps wanting to get back with you
>requesting you to keep in touch and talk
>you break it off, ignore her for months
>eventually she moves on and dates another guy
>WTF this b***h didn't put her entire life away for me to decide to change my mind, in her best years to find a mate
bro, hopefully, no one waits for you in life. Suddenly you change your mind after you realize you can't pull women you like anymore, decide to go back tail first to her like a dejected loser and have the gall to be offended when she tried to oppose breaking up for a year, you say?
Just be honest, you wanted to frick other women, you broke it off thinking consequence free, I will juggle her on back burner if I ever need her again...And guess what you are the one that got burned.
Why are so so negative? The only reason I felt shitty is because I HAD to break up with her because of her bpd. I’m unironically a sensitive person when shit like this happen. When we met one month ago I asked her if she did anything with anyone and she said no and gave me the green light for the summer and now she goes road trip with another guy? I did everything for her but her bpd was unbearable. I had a another for LTR for 6 years before her and I miss her less than this one lol
Brah she mad ugly but with a good body I think
>Will fricking an uglier chick than her make me feel better?
Nah. But it will fulfill your need for "revenge."
Just tell her you're not looking to be an "option" and see how she responds. Don't over think, you'll just end up filling in gaps yourself and projecting how you THINK she is being onto her.
I think she just gave up and went with the other guy. I was soft last week that she called me so that’s maybe why
Man I didn’t sleep last night I don’t know why I have so much scarcity in me. How do I combat this?
Actually thought-provoking, especially the competitive urhe thing. Never thought about it that way.
I used to spend time with people who didn't do shit and were miserable all the time, so I couldn't even talk about things I did because it made them feel worse, which was a bummer for me too.
any other competition things to do?
Bowling is fun, leagues aside from super competitive ones tend to be casual and not care about your skill level and it's a good way to meet people.
Just do it. No, that's not scrolling, but anything else.
I have been feeling like that for the last 1-3 years.
Found it was too much ISTning and not enough doing.
Check your sleep. I did. It turned out my sleep was garbage.
I felt existentially depressed from 31 to 34 but eventually I found myself. Give it time bro.
Get your test levels checked- you may need TRT.
Or you can dig deep and find that motivation within you to make positive changes in your life.
Checking test levels probably isn't a bad idea.
If I knew what changes I needed to make it'd do it. I already lift heavy, eat well, sleep well. Not interested in memes like cold showers.
unironically go into nature. A hike, cycling, or anything in nature immediately improves my happiness for days after.
This helps too. Sometimes we just have to learn and understand things over time.
I'm going to take the dog for a run in the woods. Will report back.
godspeed. Bring water for the dog if it's hot/no streams
It's cool there were streams.
That provided a mild improvement.
now find similar things to do, and try them out. Something might click for you.
touch grass
Stop scrolling shit on your phone, at all. BOOM done.
How are you not so horny and love starved that your brain is forcing you to find a mate? are you autistic
But anon I have a wife
Not him but maybe I am. I just don't care for women. Monkmode I guess
>thread topic about not having motivation
>yet again another person hijacking it to whine and complain about his girlfriend
I hate this board.
Where should I whine? IST is the most high iq board and gives actual advice
>take hat off head
>place it over face
>get all your whining out your system without bothering the rest of us
>depressed
diet issue
What should I be eating then?
Raypeat.com
>you have to eat a meme diet to be happy
no thanks
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