So I went out for coffee with a girl and it was really awkward but I asked her if she wants to hang out again 4 weeks later to do something fun. Surprisingly, she said yes. Now I don't know what to do. I am a gymbro but go climbing like 1x a week. Should I take her with me?
I am not really good so teaching her or showing off is out of the question.
>am not really good so teaching her or showing off is out of the question.
you are a fricking moron
This, please do not make this mistake OP. I once took a girl ice skating as a second date, having never ice skated myself. I could barely stand up for more than a few seconds at a time and we spent the majority of the date sitting on the edge of the rink laughing at people falling over.
>ice skating = going to a rock climbing gym
ask me how I know you get zero b***hs
and that's how i met your mother, kids
Depends on a person, If she is active then yes, if not she will get bored.
>I am not really good so teaching her or showing off is out of the question.
Hire coach or join class then.
Maybe go climbing (with ropes), it should be easier to start as total newb and may be nice bonding moment due to you supporting each other.
>If she is active then yes
She runs D1 track so she might even be fitter than me.
Stop being a moron and teach her. Do NOT hire a coach. You sound like an awkward person and it'll be less awkward if it's just the two of you. Adding another person to the mix is sabotaging yourself. The class idea is pretty good. Yes, I'm projecting and talking from experience.
Again, I can't really teach her, I am like an advanced beginner, maybe intermediate at absolute best, I go like 1x a week for fun. I never did a course on bouldering so it's all just whatever.
look up on youtube a beginners guide and just teach her that
or teach her wrong on purpose for laughs, or just teach her what you know
If it's her first time you obviously don't need to know advanced stuff. Hell, you're an intermediate and don't know them either, and that's enough to have fun. Remember that you're there first to have fun and second to train. Just give her the basic tips like maintaining hips close to the wall, using the tip of the feet, avoid bending arms, and "if you reach with your right arm, have your right feet as close to the hold as possible" and that's it.
Okay I'll ask her if she wants to do it then. How do I know if she likes me though? Bouldering is not exactly romantic, I could be deep into the friendzone by now.
If she acts warm and kind towards you, she likes you. She will laugh at your dumb jokes and smile at you. If shes cold, standoffish and is hard to engage with, shes on the fence or sees you as an orbiter and it would be better to just move on.
Also don't get all heady about it. Don't think it through, just feel it out and trust your intuition. Your thinking mind is moronic in these matters, do not trust it. You must trust the older and more base(d) parts of yourself. Feel with your balls and your heart.
>if not she will get bored.
how can u get bored in an adult playground, easiest "problems" are literal fricking ladders xD
climbing dates have always worked for me, then again I'm pretty good at it.
>4 weeks later
Why so long. If she's on any dating apps thats hundreds of other possibilities
I thought she also found our first meeting awkward and she gave all the signals that she didn't like me. I texted her out of mere desperation.
Changes nothing about what I said. A month is fricking ages
I know but she still agreed to meet up again. I wonder why.
she is also desperate
Yeah by the time this sperg gets to spill his spaghetti all over the place again she would've had the time to bed half of israelite york.
Is Anon ever NOT a moron?
How do I meet a guy who wants to climb with me? I'm scared to talk to guys at the gym
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>why
just answer the question.
East coast
im on the east coast I can take you climbing at Seneca Rock
You're talking with a man shitposting out of boredom you desperate frick.
are you a bio girl or guy?
Bio girl? I'm just female
ethnicity and and a scale of 1-10 on how cute you are.
white 4/10
I can get you into shape, I am trying to start up a fitness business
Male or female penis?
PLEASE HAVE A DICK
Where do you live?
HEY FAT b***h !
hello pajeet
Not a pajeet just horny and lonely.
Every time you feel horny do a set of push ups and sit ups. It makes me not horny anymore
I'll climb your fat rolls bby
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unironically good technique
makes me laugh how hard it is to teach some people the basics of climbing up a wall despite a few hundred millennia of it being genetically built in
biggest tip for beginners should be to climb mostly with arms straight (less bicep pump, use shoulders more) and stay low. Also just avoid slab shit as a beginner since rental shoes suck ass. Best problems for a beginner would be anything on a wall that's like 10 degrees from vertical; gym bros might be able to do some easy v2 overhang problems that are just jug ladders with some footwork
You’re that guy again lmao. You’re becoming train man.
It depends. I think rock climbing will be the only thing you’ll get to do if you go out on a date. Depending on the girl, she may not want to do anything after that because she worked up a sweat.
If not talking is what your goal is, then sure. If you want to get to know her better, then maybe think of a date that involves more talking.
>then maybe think of a date that involves more talking
You can talk in between climbs when resting. She is very shy and reserved and it's hard to talk with her. My only other idea is Billiards. I have nothing else in mind, I am a very boring person.
What’s billiard’s? No actually you’re doing great. Rock climbing it is. Go anon, I believe in you.
>What’s billiard’s
pool. you know, sticks and hitting balls on giant green table
>I am not really good so teaching her or showing off is out of the question.
then no it's not a good idea, what the frick are you thinking
It's the only fun activity that I know besides billards. I usually like to visit a museum or something but that's really fricking boring for girls.
>I usually like to visit a museum or something but that's really fricking boring for girls.
you just need to find the right girl
my current gf suggested museum for our 2nd date herself
I am 24 years old and this is the first girl to ever hang out with me alone. I doubt this will ever happen again.
The trick to visiting a museum with a girl is to make shit up about the exhibits. Pretend you know a lot about them and make up completely baseless and exorbitant facts about things you see. Chicks dig that kind of confidence, and if she catches on just play it off and say you were messing around. Chicks dig dudes that can mess around.
It's not a good idea because I will be at your gym and I will flash your project in front of your girl
should be fun enough if she isn't fat, just tell her the safety basics like "don't climb right next to someone or one of you might fall onto the other"
Only if you know what you are doing.
>I am not really good so teaching her or showing off is out of the question.
If you can manage beginner boulders easily then sure, she'll be impressed even if you send a V0. You don't need to do a hard one, just do one she can't do.
>4 weeks later
If she does not climb, you'll be her teacher, this could be awkward but why not.
If you feel compelled to do any activity except talk and hang out during THE FIRST MONTH then your relationship is not going to last.
She is very shy and reserved and I am an awkward loser, I thought doing a fun activity would be better because the first time we met we went to a cafe and it was terribly hard to hold up a conversation.
Alright then what are you planning to do after your little bouldering date? You think shes going to magically open up? You need to be able to carry a conversation and get to know a stranger without relying on extracurricular activities, you'll have to learn this sooner than later so why not grind some EXP now?
>Alright then what are you planning to do after your little bouldering date?
Nothing, I keep the date at 90 minutes and then never contact her again unless she does it.
why are you like this
I saw some Healthygamergg video where a harvard psychiatrist talks about how attraction peaks after 90 minutes on a date and after that it's downhill.
if she's able to walk a decent distance i'd do a city walk with some fun spots pre-plotted along the route while drinking (not too much) during the first half. if you're daring, you can pour it into something nonobvious and drink in between destinations. lots of time to talk and you'll both loosen up a bit socially, just really don't drink too much or you'll make a fool out of yourself. and if you both don't drink, it's still a good way to try and end up discussing things about whatever you see along the way to your destinations. she needs to be an active person to enjoy this kind of thing though (and with comfortable footwear if you're gonna go like 10+ miles)
She runs D1 track, she does not drink alcohol. Our first meeting was cafe + an hour long walk and it still was awkward.
don't you take an interest in this person beyond her looks? you really had nothing to ask them about or try to bond over? do you run? what got her into running as passionately as she does? goals/aspirations? plans? what's a good time for them? you had an hour of their time and attention and nothing like that came to mind?
I asked her about running and training but it felt like I was interviewing her so I stopped. Us hanging out actually stretched to 3 hours but we just awkwardly talked about random shit.
don't you have any stories or jokes? maybe show a little vulnerability and talk about your experiences/how you feel about whatever. keep it lighthearted and try to legitimately enjoy yourself on your date lol
>maybe show a little vulnerability
Whip out your micropenis and have her laugh at it
speak for you are self loser. I summited Rainier with my wife on our 2nd date after getting drunk the first date and agreeing to do it.
i'd say bouldering is a good idea for any date. what's more important, choose something you are comfortable with
>it was really awkward
>Surprisingly, she said yes
that's a good sign. she might actually like you. god speed, mate
Yea, I think it’s a good idea! I’ve been on a date bouldering and we had a great time. It’s active, you can show off your strength, and it’s good bonding. Don’t listen to the naysayers, have fun and relax!