yes and no
it's better for your mind but it can also isolate you from your peers because they're also dependent on social media. So I would say it depends how well can interconnect to people offline is probably the decider of how beneficial it is. (yes IST is also social media)
you can become isolated/left out from your friend group for just having a different chat client. People don't mean to it's not like some conscious effort they just do it anyways. They can't keep track of what conversations you're privy to or not unless they're trying to avoid to.
I have no idea what point you're trying make I have all my friends contact information and sms them for like stuff we do in public but most of our non-in-person communication is through discord and social media.
I've disabled Instagram and Discord notifications and started reading manga on the subway instead of browing Instagram/Reddit. I agree with what said, as I also find it's good for my mental health, it does make me feel isolated.
Overall, I'd say go for it, cut it out.
>I've disabled Instagram and Discord notifications
These are probably the worst of your problems
Instagram is the only social media I didn't shut down, and that's simply because my feed is nothing but guys lifting heavy weights and qt3.14 Japanese girls
If instagram is making you angry you're probably doing it wrong >Reddit
Absolutely frick this off tho. At the very least NEVER look at the front page, just stick to niche non-political subs
Wouldn't the people you'd most want to be friends with avoid social media though?
I understand using things like LinkedIn for work, but there's no excuse for Twitter unless you're freelance.
I went a step further a few months ago and deleted my steam friends as well. Once you get past the initial social withdrawal and loneliness, you reach a new height and start focusing on yourself... I still do miss them sometimes though, wish that feeling would go away
Keep at it king... From the monks of olde to the philosophers, everyone will say solitude is fertile ground for growth and maturity.
Here's a fitting quote from The Book of Disquiet by Fernando Pessoa
"Freedom is the possibility of isolation. You are free if you can withdraw from people, not having to seek them out for the sake of money, company, love, glory or curiosity, none of which can thrive in silence and solitude. If you can't live alone, you were born a slave. You may have all the splendours of the mind and the soul, in which case you're a noble slave, or an intelligent servant, but you're not free."
Thank you, dude, that quote is incredibly uplifting. It really did a lot of good for both my mental and physical health, but i don't blame you for keeping a few friends around, it truly does suck at the beginning.
I wish you the best in all of your future endeavors.
>In 1st Corinthians 7:7 Paul says it is better to stay chaste and alone, unless you are ravaged by desire, in which case you should marry.
Jesus was a fricking moron and you should feel bad for worshipping possibly the weakest "man" to ever live
2 years ago
Anonymous
You keep doing your sport sex and fornication if you want, i will do my own thing.
2 years ago
Anonymous
>sport sex
tell me more
2 years ago
Anonymous
I'm not promiscuous
HOWEVER, I know for a fact that only a moron rushes into marriage
This isn't 0BC where everbody dies at 30 years old anymore, you're committing 50+ years if you intend to marry for life
Big problem if you frick it up, especially since christcucks created the modern divorce system where women remove their ex-husband's testicles via his wallet
2 years ago
Anonymous
i didn't say anything about rushing into a marriage
2 years ago
Anonymous
>i didn't say anything about rushing into a marriage
you are ravaged by desire, in which case you should marry.
If you're "ravaged by desire" you should jerk off or see a hooker, not marry the first moist hole who can satisfy you
2 years ago
Anonymous
>not marry the first moist hole who can satisfy you
i didn't say hurry into a marriage
2 years ago
Anonymous
>have your kids at 40 goy so they’re all moronic and autistic!
2 years ago
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Sounds pretty ok to me
2 years ago
Anonymous
Shalom. Still seething about being cast out of the temple I see.
Is this actually hard for you guys? I grew up KNOWING that no one gave a damn about me, other than family. Sheesh, I guess I'm way ahead of you homosexuals.
Worse is coming to the realization that you don't actually give a shit about anyone else either. You may have an attachment to an aspect of a person, but once that aspect is gone, you'll drop that person. You won't even feel bad, the most you'll feel is a yearning for that aspect of them that you lost. When you realize that you don't care about anyone, that's when you'll feel truly alone.
It's literally the best thing you can do for mental health in this age
Also cut out western news
Every bit of news by western outlets is tainted by bias and designed to make you angry for clicks
Yes, i don't have any friends, i cut the contact with those that i had (+ family), i faked my own death and changed my last name alongside growing the beard, so no one would recognize me
It has been amazing for my mental health, i care only about myself. Some explained it above, once you go thru the first stage of sadness it's better each day until you get enlightenment
Not like it matters with the great reset coming, i've realized that it's all lost anyway, sooner or later it would happen regardless
Yes. Social media is the world's foremost turbo-juden agent. This shitty site (love you guys, no homo) is the only thing that I have left that's reminiscent of social media.
Best decision i ever made.
No more phone-addict posture.
No separation anxiety from forgetting phone at home.
No fomo.
No fricks given.
Watching people scroll would make me feel bad if I gave a shit. It's like looking at heroin addicts, but at least heroin makes you feel awesome for a little bit.
Lose the social media, anon. Take the heroin pill. And lift like you're good at it.
I found that online dating is much easier if you have semi-active social media. Especially Instagram.
Facebook/Instagram is the modern equivalent of social proof.
>I found that online dating is much easier if you have semi-active social media. Especially Instagram.
I don't know about that
In my country if a woman links to her instagram or twitter in her tinder profile there's a high chance she's a literal prostitute
SM can be very good the moment you feel to enlarge your social circles, in my own experience the work very well in that regard.
But those are not real friends, mind you, they're mostly acquaintances and background noise.
How to define a friend in the digital age? Someone you want to keep in touch with regardless the surrounding social circle, in short someone you'd be okay exchanging phone numbers, which brings us to the next step.
WA chats are sufficient to keep in touch with friends and organize real life going outs, SM serve precisely the purpose of creating a grey area where this step isn't required, which leads us to our final assessment: would you accept someone as an SM contact but wouldn't give him/her your number?
If the answer is "no" it means you don't trust that person enough and his or her presence only make sense in that specific SM bubble.
Same goes the other way around obviously.
SM are like drugs, they can be a shortcut to expand your POV greatly, but if you get hooked on them you may end up living in a bubble that doesn't exist in the real world, which is always dangerous.
TL;DR: SM acquaintances are background noise, you can certainly do without them and at some point you probably should.
I'll tell you the simple answer to this, most anons won't listen anyway. I think everyone should use social media sparingly, do not scroll through looking at every single post of everyone you know, do not compare your life to any post whatsoever, and never forget that no one is special, including yourself. Use social media to keep up with homies and stupid memes. That's it. If you're using it for any other purpose then you're mentally ill or will eventually become mentally ill. Think of social media as alcohol. It's fine in moderation. But too much can literally kill you
Anyone have books of how to deal with solitude or be comfortable with it? I want to let go that feeling o wanted to know about people or talk with people.
I can't relate to you mortals at all. If that's not his dead wife that's causing him such pain then he is but a worm to me. If you feel this image you should definitely get off of the social networks and go become a real life man.
Best way to deal with this shit is joining a class of fricking anything you like. Being alone will make you crazy m8. I thought that was the solution for me at 30 years old till i joined classes to learn how to swim and cook. Make some contacts, friends and im actually doing far better than before when i was trying to isolate the world.
I genuinely hate seeing pictures of my own face which I was why I don't have any social media or dating apps, even though I'm lonely and horny as frick
First and foremost you should work on your self-image. Your perception of yourself seems warped by your low self esteem. I don't know you so this may be entirely wrong, but it seems like you'd benefit from some meditation of some sort.
Absolutely, just stay in contact with your friends and peers in some fashion as previous anon mentioned. Isolation can be just as bad as over exposure.
I found that cutting out Twitter and Facebook did me a lot of good and stay with friends on telegram or discord.
100%. Ever since getting banned on IG, I’m far less addicted to my phone than my wife. I prefer reading or shitposting on this Siberia Ice Sculpting forum
I got banned on IG for calling someone a Black person kek. I had felt addicted to it and I wanted out but didn’t know how. It was al back in 2017, and even though my wife has been pestering me to make a new one, frick that. Social media is a cancer. I have none, so from there I’ve learned who my real friends are; I have 3 and that’s that. Everyone else has disappeared and I prefer it that way.
So social media only increases depression if you go into with depressive symptoms and use it “passively” ie looking and comparing yourself to others. If your a normie with high self esteem and use social media to keep up to date with friends and “active” use it is not detrimental at all.
Plenty of studies show this. Basically it just enhances whatever you go into it with, and if you have to ask that already hints that yes, you should stop using it
Definitely. Relationships suffer with social media, personal mental health suffers, it wastes tons of time, evokes constant emotions and messes with your dopamine. Comparison is the thief of happiness. I think there's merit in learning from YouTube videos and educational content and connecting with people who you value for what they offer to your personal growth and vice versa though, but it's easy to lose sight of it when you consume algorithm aggregated content all the time. Not to mention the data it collects on you that can easily be sold or stolen.
It can feel isolating because not everyone can get rid of social media like that but it's ultimately worth it to reclaim time you can use to pursue real happiness. Don't live someone else's dream.
When my mind is not doing so well I always end up deleting all social media. I isolate myself from other people when I'm feeling psychotic because I can embarass myself.
very good
yes and no
it's better for your mind but it can also isolate you from your peers because they're also dependent on social media. So I would say it depends how well can interconnect to people offline is probably the decider of how beneficial it is. (yes IST is also social media)
Obviously
Nonsense, the idea that you get isolated from your peers is a myth
you can become isolated/left out from your friend group for just having a different chat client. People don't mean to it's not like some conscious effort they just do it anyways. They can't keep track of what conversations you're privy to or not unless they're trying to avoid to.
social media friends aren't real friends either way, it's the easiest type of relationship to maintain and doesn't mean squat
Id go 1 step further and say social media isnt social at all
Exactly
If you don’t know someone by on a text/phonecall basis, they are not your friend
I have no idea what point you're trying make I have all my friends contact information and sms them for like stuff we do in public but most of our non-in-person communication is through discord and social media.
I've disabled Instagram and Discord notifications and started reading manga on the subway instead of browing Instagram/Reddit. I agree with what said, as I also find it's good for my mental health, it does make me feel isolated.
Overall, I'd say go for it, cut it out.
>disabling notifications
this is literally nothing
It's not nothing to me,especially since I stopped going on instagram.
Why do you even have instagram?
because there was a time in my life I felt I needed to have it. It's not been all bad, I used it to chat with my former GF in the beginning.
It doesn't make me as sad as traditional social media does tho.
>I've disabled Instagram and Discord notifications
These are probably the worst of your problems
Instagram is the only social media I didn't shut down, and that's simply because my feed is nothing but guys lifting heavy weights and qt3.14 Japanese girls
If instagram is making you angry you're probably doing it wrong
>Reddit
Absolutely frick this off tho. At the very least NEVER look at the front page, just stick to niche non-political subs
I usually go on fat-related subs. Keeps me motivated, alongside the /fph/ threads on here.
Manga is escapism. Is the same shit social media gives you
Wouldn't the people you'd most want to be friends with avoid social media though?
I understand using things like LinkedIn for work, but there's no excuse for Twitter unless you're freelance.
i cut out all social media and burnt a lot of bridges. I only use IST and steam now. I have 10 "friends" on steam. Feels good honestly.
I went a step further a few months ago and deleted my steam friends as well. Once you get past the initial social withdrawal and loneliness, you reach a new height and start focusing on yourself... I still do miss them sometimes though, wish that feeling would go away
Keep at it king... From the monks of olde to the philosophers, everyone will say solitude is fertile ground for growth and maturity.
Here's a fitting quote from The Book of Disquiet by Fernando Pessoa
"Freedom is the possibility of isolation. You are free if you can withdraw from people, not having to seek them out for the sake of money, company, love, glory or curiosity, none of which can thrive in silence and solitude. If you can't live alone, you were born a slave. You may have all the splendours of the mind and the soul, in which case you're a noble slave, or an intelligent servant, but you're not free."
Hopefully i can reach your level at some point.
Thank you, dude, that quote is incredibly uplifting. It really did a lot of good for both my mental and physical health, but i don't blame you for keeping a few friends around, it truly does suck at the beginning.
I wish you the best in all of your future endeavors.
No problem man. May i suggest parts of the Bible too?
In 1st Corinthians 7:7 Paul says it is better to stay chaste and alone, unless you are ravaged by desire, in which case you should marry.
>In 1st Corinthians 7:7 Paul says it is better to stay chaste and alone, unless you are ravaged by desire, in which case you should marry.
Jesus was a fricking moron and you should feel bad for worshipping possibly the weakest "man" to ever live
You keep doing your sport sex and fornication if you want, i will do my own thing.
>sport sex
tell me more
I'm not promiscuous
HOWEVER, I know for a fact that only a moron rushes into marriage
This isn't 0BC where everbody dies at 30 years old anymore, you're committing 50+ years if you intend to marry for life
Big problem if you frick it up, especially since christcucks created the modern divorce system where women remove their ex-husband's testicles via his wallet
i didn't say anything about rushing into a marriage
>i didn't say anything about rushing into a marriage
you are ravaged by desire, in which case you should marry.
If you're "ravaged by desire" you should jerk off or see a hooker, not marry the first moist hole who can satisfy you
>not marry the first moist hole who can satisfy you
i didn't say hurry into a marriage
>have your kids at 40 goy so they’re all moronic and autistic!
Sounds pretty ok to me
Shalom. Still seething about being cast out of the temple I see.
most of those guys had a social life, wives, children, a craft, and a pretty established life before they went to be hermits.
Don't burn bridges. But it's also good to focus on yourself sometimes. This guy seems kinda moronic tbh
its only bad in the sense that you realize just how lonely you really are and that there is no person in this world who actually cares about you
this is probably the tallest hurdle to pass. the realization dawned on me a couple of days ago and I can't shake the sadness that comes with it.
Is this actually hard for you guys? I grew up KNOWING that no one gave a damn about me, other than family. Sheesh, I guess I'm way ahead of you homosexuals.
Worse is coming to the realization that you don't actually give a shit about anyone else either. You may have an attachment to an aspect of a person, but once that aspect is gone, you'll drop that person. You won't even feel bad, the most you'll feel is a yearning for that aspect of them that you lost. When you realize that you don't care about anyone, that's when you'll feel truly alone.
Yes, but unfortunately, more normie socializing happens on IG and tiktok than irl after 2 years of arbitrary lockdowns.
It's literally the best thing you can do for mental health in this age
Also cut out western news
Every bit of news by western outlets is tainted by bias and designed to make you angry for clicks
>implying there is a single news source in the entire world that isn’t like this
Lmao
You should include IST too if You want to cut social media
Yes, i don't have any friends, i cut the contact with those that i had (+ family), i faked my own death and changed my last name alongside growing the beard, so no one would recognize me
It has been amazing for my mental health, i care only about myself. Some explained it above, once you go thru the first stage of sadness it's better each day until you get enlightenment
Not like it matters with the great reset coming, i've realized that it's all lost anyway, sooner or later it would happen regardless
I call my friends over on telegram and we hang out irl
Don't have social media accounts
I only communicate via carrier pigeons
Damn why are some of you guys such schizo weirdos?
Keep your insta but delete the app. People will judge you to be weird if you don’t have any social media
Yes. Social media is the world's foremost turbo-juden agent. This shitty site (love you guys, no homo) is the only thing that I have left that's reminiscent of social media.
Best decision i ever made.
No more phone-addict posture.
No separation anxiety from forgetting phone at home.
No fomo.
No fricks given.
Watching people scroll would make me feel bad if I gave a shit. It's like looking at heroin addicts, but at least heroin makes you feel awesome for a little bit.
Lose the social media, anon. Take the heroin pill. And lift like you're good at it.
I found that online dating is much easier if you have semi-active social media. Especially Instagram.
Facebook/Instagram is the modern equivalent of social proof.
god i hate 2022
>I found that online dating is much easier if you have semi-active social media. Especially Instagram.
I don't know about that
In my country if a woman links to her instagram or twitter in her tinder profile there's a high chance she's a literal prostitute
SM can be very good the moment you feel to enlarge your social circles, in my own experience the work very well in that regard.
But those are not real friends, mind you, they're mostly acquaintances and background noise.
How to define a friend in the digital age? Someone you want to keep in touch with regardless the surrounding social circle, in short someone you'd be okay exchanging phone numbers, which brings us to the next step.
WA chats are sufficient to keep in touch with friends and organize real life going outs, SM serve precisely the purpose of creating a grey area where this step isn't required, which leads us to our final assessment: would you accept someone as an SM contact but wouldn't give him/her your number?
If the answer is "no" it means you don't trust that person enough and his or her presence only make sense in that specific SM bubble.
Same goes the other way around obviously.
SM are like drugs, they can be a shortcut to expand your POV greatly, but if you get hooked on them you may end up living in a bubble that doesn't exist in the real world, which is always dangerous.
TL;DR: SM acquaintances are background noise, you can certainly do without them and at some point you probably should.
I'll tell you the simple answer to this, most anons won't listen anyway. I think everyone should use social media sparingly, do not scroll through looking at every single post of everyone you know, do not compare your life to any post whatsoever, and never forget that no one is special, including yourself. Use social media to keep up with homies and stupid memes. That's it. If you're using it for any other purpose then you're mentally ill or will eventually become mentally ill. Think of social media as alcohol. It's fine in moderation. But too much can literally kill you
Anyone have books of how to deal with solitude or be comfortable with it? I want to let go that feeling o wanted to know about people or talk with people.
I can't relate to you mortals at all. If that's not his dead wife that's causing him such pain then he is but a worm to me. If you feel this image you should definitely get off of the social networks and go become a real life man.
This, why cry over what is not even yours. Get a wife have some kids, experience happiness
Best way to deal with this shit is joining a class of fricking anything you like. Being alone will make you crazy m8. I thought that was the solution for me at 30 years old till i joined classes to learn how to swim and cook. Make some contacts, friends and im actually doing far better than before when i was trying to isolate the world.
You're a homosexual for posting this picture. Also you need to be 18 to post here.
I only have twitter and thats to get fresh femboy/twink content.
Sex is the only reason I've considered making an instagram.
I'm single and I heard people say that an ig makes it a lot easier to get casual sex. Don't know at which extent this is true though. I'm no Chad.
Yes, switch social media for drugs. i keep a small group chat just to let my homies know i’m not dead
I haven't had any social media since myspace, and I regret having that much.
I genuinely hate seeing pictures of my own face which I was why I don't have any social media or dating apps, even though I'm lonely and horny as frick
am I gonna make it?
First and foremost you should work on your self-image. Your perception of yourself seems warped by your low self esteem. I don't know you so this may be entirely wrong, but it seems like you'd benefit from some meditation of some sort.
Absolutely, just stay in contact with your friends and peers in some fashion as previous anon mentioned. Isolation can be just as bad as over exposure.
I found that cutting out Twitter and Facebook did me a lot of good and stay with friends on telegram or discord.
No, everyone will think you’re a weirdo with an uninteresting life.
>b-but I don’t care what normies think!
Shut up homosexual. Yes you do
100%. Ever since getting banned on IG, I’m far less addicted to my phone than my wife. I prefer reading or shitposting on this Siberia Ice Sculpting forum
Twitter ban was the best thing to ever happen to me ngl.
Mfw they send Email telling me how to contest and overturn ban.
I got banned on IG for calling someone a Black person kek. I had felt addicted to it and I wanted out but didn’t know how. It was al back in 2017, and even though my wife has been pestering me to make a new one, frick that. Social media is a cancer. I have none, so from there I’ve learned who my real friends are; I have 3 and that’s that. Everyone else has disappeared and I prefer it that way.
So social media only increases depression if you go into with depressive symptoms and use it “passively” ie looking and comparing yourself to others. If your a normie with high self esteem and use social media to keep up to date with friends and “active” use it is not detrimental at all.
Plenty of studies show this. Basically it just enhances whatever you go into it with, and if you have to ask that already hints that yes, you should stop using it
Yes.
If I were you I'd only use social media if I was actively trying to network rather than using it to "keep up" with people.
Definitely. Relationships suffer with social media, personal mental health suffers, it wastes tons of time, evokes constant emotions and messes with your dopamine. Comparison is the thief of happiness. I think there's merit in learning from YouTube videos and educational content and connecting with people who you value for what they offer to your personal growth and vice versa though, but it's easy to lose sight of it when you consume algorithm aggregated content all the time. Not to mention the data it collects on you that can easily be sold or stolen.
It can feel isolating because not everyone can get rid of social media like that but it's ultimately worth it to reclaim time you can use to pursue real happiness. Don't live someone else's dream.
When my mind is not doing so well I always end up deleting all social media. I isolate myself from other people when I'm feeling psychotic because I can embarass myself.