How can I be satisfied for a moment? I achieved all my lofty goals for the last 3 years but now all I can think about is how I dont have a GF. But I remember when I had a GF I often missed my alone time.
Unironically get high. I'm usually a worry or ruminator...never present. A toke brings you to the here and now. Don't get blitzed like a space cadet, just mellow. Get creative, go for a bike ride or walk, garden or work on a project, change your oil in your car, or meditate. Anything that brings you to the present. Call a friend, call your mum, bookstore browse, volunteer, people watch alfresco in a nice cafe. Y
well do you have any other goals set for yourself? You need something to give yourself purpose
How can I be satisfied for a moment? I achieved all my lofty goals for the last 3 years but now all I can think about is how I dont have a GF. But I remember when I had a GF I often missed my alone time.
Why can't I just be content for a moment?
Sounds like you hit all your big goals and now with nothing actionable to do your putting pressure on yourself to achieve something that mostly comes down to luck like getting a GF
A GF can't make you whole, a GF is meant to enhance your life when it's already going good for you, take pride in the fact you set goals and reached them in the first place.
Being whole and having an improvement in life are 2 totally different things, anon. Admittedly poor analogy, but that's like saying having a car is going to make you whole. It won't make you self-actualized or living life how you really want to, it'll just make some things a little easier to do.
A GF is not going to fix all the problems you have. She might fix a couple, might help you deal with a few problems, and actually cause new problems to arise. But being whole as a person has to come from you.
That would be accurate anon, though having a partner in life is usually a major aspiration that people have. But you can hit self-actualization/respect for yourself well before that.
Just add some more stuff to do. Add cardio dont just lift weights. You are doing things for physical health,now do the same for mental. Start meditating,write diary,starr socialisi ng erc. Make some new goals and achieve them. Dont know what new goals to set? Think. Everything starts with idea.
Do you engage in sex or masturbation outside of pro-creation? Do you ever lie, cheat, steal, or deceive even just a little bit? Also try getting off screens. Also go to church. Think about all the things that were considered to lead to unhappiness 100 years ago but seem to be acceptable now, and stop doing those. Also be assertive and express anger to people that are responsible for causing the anger. Lack of motivation isn't extreme sadness, it's often the consequence of repeatedly repressed anger.
Quit using the internet. Im miserable if I spend more than 30 min on IST or Twitter. Its like putting ur brain in a washing machinę and expecting it to work. Your mind (subconscious) dictates how you feel based on its current state. You will feel lifeless and done after tunnel visioning terabytes worth of random content into it but dont believe me.
Honestly, look at your phone less. Go sit and be bored with your thoughts for 30 minutes.
It also takes a few weeks to a month or two to recognize changes you're feeling. And getting through it takes practice. You have to do reps of feeling joy and being happy about something starting small. Your emotional muscles are DYEL right now.
Coming to terms with knowing my current relationship's probably not gonna last and wondering wether to look for someone to at least have back up comfort/regular physical contact with or focus on myself a bit first, on the upside I seem to be getting the hang of meditation a bit more since last time, even if I have to use earplugs so my breath is louder
Corny as it is I have a ''smile more'' note next to my PC to remind me of the little things
I dont even care about the price anymore. This shits breaks your mind. My only worry is that there are no gyno specialized surgeons in my country and I dont know if a regular surgeon could do it without fricking my shit up
$10k???
Where the frick are you? Travel for surgery. Not even abroad. Surgery in California costs WAY more than in a place like Arizona, New Mexico, or Wisconsin.
Dont get your hopes up homie. I did it, they took the glands out but i'm stuck with big deflated nips. Still can't wear tank tops or tight shirts. The only thing that I got going for me is that at least I can be at peace with myself knowing I did everything I could. Still worth it tho
Was laid off recently and have the 3rd round of interviews for this one company tomorrow. I have nothing to complain about nor do I need any advice, but I could use some good luck wishes. I must get a job BEFORE I start burning through the savings.
I'm kind of grateful for the layoff in a weird way - I broke up with the gf the right before I got the notice, and my searches and interviews have kept me busy and didn't allow me to wallow in the usual post-breakup bullshit.
We sex havers truly suffer the most, truecels could never
>lift six days a week >quit drinking >melancholy never ends
What do I do? What else can I even do at this point? I can barely get out of bed
Just thug it out. Do shit despite whatever mood you're in. Also check your hormones including vitamin D. Our state of mind is so dependent or our gut biome, lymphatic flow, and hormonal balance, it's not even funny. >What do I do?
In your case specifically either start drinking again or wait till your hormones catch up with your brave decision to quit.
Whiskey on the rocks. Finally got back into the gym today and am starting a new calorie counting plan on the lose it app to get my weight down. 33 @ 5'8 and weigh 216 lbs. I'm doing it as much for myself but in reality I'm also doing it for dating purposes.
I tried dating again at the end of last year after my ex fiance fell out of love and left me, and partially at the beginning of this one. I'm not thrilled with the results that the apps. It's been mostly broken women. I'm hoping to get the results I want by autumn this year and be able to pull women that don't have to be perfect physically but at least look like pic related.
Bro I don't wanna get you down but women that look like that still demand high tier dudes because dudes will frick them for their big ass tiddies so they think that's the tier they deserve for dating.
When you say high tier are you referring to rich? I'm hoping that by getting fit, shedding fat, and updating my wardrobe I have a better chance if the halo effect will give me a boost from it.
I’m so glad I never let myself get this fat holy frick. Thank the stars for making me realize that I was fat with only 30lbs to lose. It must be so hard to lose all that weight as a woman and then even IST fat dudes don’t even want you. What a fricking cursed existence I almost walked into. Whew thanks for your sobering post anon. Every woman should be aware of this looming fate.
I've been really diving deep into psychology and spiritualism these past couple months, I've really liked the ideas of Integral Theory and the evolution of consciousness and am going to move onto learning about Mind Body Dualism next.
But I feel like as I start getting into higher levels of consciousness and empathy it has become next to impossible for me to regard our society with any level of compassion. Really starting to feel like the NPC meme is real unironically, it just baffles me that there are orders of magnitude more people who are completely unconscious and ignorant of second order consequences than people who actively work to become more worldly and more capable of approaching their emotions and behaviors from an objective position.
It's making me quite weary just thinking about it.
Anon, I'm the biggest occultgay you'll ever meet, so let me say it clearly: you're memeing yourself into treating spirituality as a way to express your internalized elitism. You're no more special than anyone else, no better. The only thing you'll get out of continuing your research at this point is an ever increasing sense of alienation and contwmpt for everything and everyone around you, which will inevitably make you miserable in the end. Stop for now and go work on your own self for a while and tey to explore what makes you feel that way and consider new perspectives that could prove you wrong. Only when your foundation is solid and you have a pretty solid grasp of who, what and why you are go back to your spiritual pursuits.
I'm not that anon but it's rare to find a non/x/-tier schizo occultgay, any book recs or resources you can share? It's an interesting field but it's hard to sift through all the bullshit.
Occultism is just an umbrella term for a bunch of non-mainstream spiritual pursuits, and there are as many branches as there are religions they branched out of. If you're interested in western traditions it's always a good idea to read up some of the moore esoteric works from the greek philosophers like Plato's Phaedrus and Republic as a primer for the kind of mindset involved before reading the Kybalion and Hermes Trimegistus's Corpus Hermeticum and The Emerald Tablet (NOT to be confused with the book of the same name about Ancient Aliens shit). That is more or less the basic work that founded most of the western and islamic esoteric and occultist traditions, and whichever part of it resonates the most with you you can pursue further on your own through some research. I could give you some names but there's honestly so much stuff that's in opposition to each other it's a bit pointless to try nanmedropping them to a beginner.
Personally I'm also quite interest in eastern esoterica, specially Buddhist traditions from the Vajrayāna tradition. Fortunately there it's much easier to conduct surface level research and find your own way into study and practice.
I'll admit I've had issues with ego in the past but my point was after learning to separate myself from my ego I notice just how many people haven't, or deliberately choose to indulge their egos despite how it affects others around them.
I wasn't trying to make myself sound elitist, moreso asking how I can become more compassionate despite these observations I've made.
Interesting. The more I connect to spirit, the more I connect with entities in other realms (it is surprising who is "hanging around" - thoughts are certainly transmitted through the ether).
Agreed on NPCs, it makes it harder to connect with people beyond competitive sports, viral videos and shitty food and alcohol.
Any books you care to recommend?
Saw today that my x has a new boyfriend, i fuxked her a few months ago. So it was Weird that she had anoyther guy. We did break up almost 8 months ago. So we were just fricking around with each other. But my reaction isnt what i expected. Like i’m happy for her, and wish her the best
I'm going to sound pretentious and condescending but I'm done with hooking up and one night stands.
It makes me feel numb and dead inside. It's just friction at this point.
I've having a difficult time achieving erections, and cumming. It's just making these women feel horrible about themselves.
I kissed my last hook up while having sex, she looked at me like she was in love, yet I felt nothing for her.
The only thing that has a semblance of excitement for me is seeing them naked for the first time and touching their bodies. But that feeling is so fleeting.
I feel broken. I just want to feel love and warmth. Something real and authentic. I need passion and romance. I want someone who'll say, I am yours and you are mine.
I'm just not sure if there are any viable women left out there.
Everyone is just concerned of projecting coolness, of being fun, flirty, funny, and never taking anything too serious.
I know I'm rambling. I'm sorry. It's just too tiring.
However every month you go without finding an actual quality love to replace it with you just wind up going back to frick randos more.
Playerbros, how do you go from getting the number/social media to arranging a date and going back to your apartment? I don't have trouble approaching women and asking them out but I need tips for sealing the deal over so to speak. Help a brother out please.
> >hey baby gurl are you into archaeology? >her response (no, yeah, why) >because I have a large bone for you to examine >her response >what are you doing (tomorrow/friday/sunday) >her response > No. You're going out with me (insert date location/activity)
That is literally how ive gotten every single date.
>is a manprostitute who just hooks up with people nonstop >lol there’s no viable women left out there, they are all prostitutes, but not me, I deserve the best lol
I'll have diet coke, but put it in a wine glass. I'm mostly focused on Lent beginning tomorrow (tonight, really), gonna have to make an effort to stay focused on good things; and that means not going on IST lmao, so this will be my last shitposting session for a while. My plan is to fast until Saturday, got a lot of books lined up to keep me busy; and the weather is beautiful, so I'll be able to get a nice walk in every day. I think I'll hit the gym too, get a few lifts in, hit the sauna. Man, it's gonna be a long week, I'm super excited, this will be my longest fast ever by a solid margin.
I had 4 exams in the past two weeks. I failed two of them, but I didn't study so I only have myself to blame. I got C's on the other two, but I studied my ass off for both of them over a week in advance and felt so confident when I took them. So I'm very pissed that my hard work amounts to a mediocre product.
I'm fricking moronic and this has been my entire college experience. I hate school.
I can relate with the feelings of failure. It's growth, all the best have failed in one way or another on their paths. At least you are taking responsibility. Perhaps arrange a meeting with an academic student assistant on campus and see whether they can assist you with study planning your semester's course work and readings and scheduling etc. I did this with someone at my uni, could be the game changer you need.
It sucks that I can’t meet anyone my age when I go outside. When the weather is nice, like today, I go outside and bike long distances. Recently, I’ve been pretty lonely so I thought to myself maybe I can find someone to ride with or chat when I’m taking a break. Nope. I covered thirty miles of residential neighborhoods to semiurban neighborhoods. Every person I came across was either elderly, people in their 30s with children, or the occasional dog walker. Barely any whites around (this is nyc). I really think I’m doomed to never have close friends or a girlfriend again.
Been 1.5 months since I broke up with gf and today I missed her more than usual. I broke up because: >no common interests >she has zero interest in exercise and diet (gaining weight slowly) >crippling student debt with no real job and plan >adhd, bpd, which makes it hard to have deep conversations and connect with her >weed addiction >different view about marriage (she wants, I don't)
So in the end it was probably better for both of us to go separate ways but she also had many green flags: >virgin before meeting me >attractive and high sex drive >have no doubt about her loyalty, she really loved me
So on these boring lonely weekends I feel stupid and sad for feeling like I kicked away something that was good in my life. I wanted to find a gymfu with similar interests that I can connect better with, I don't care if she isn't a virgin, because like I said, I am not looking for marriage. I like to think we made the right decision but on these long lonely weekends i don't know...
Rum and coke please.
Bros I'm addicted to escorts. Idk how to stop the sex addiction, I limit myself to $500 a month but my love for money out ways the itch for poon.
How do sex havers get self control. It's like being a coomer but with a woman. It's an itch I can't stop scratching.
Pic related, I'm not even kidding it's how I feel evertime I meet a new girl. I can't get enough of NEW.
Help me
You have to experience love in your life. Once you do your idea if sex completely changes. It’s no longer some animalistic hunger. It’s blissful. Hard to describe. But you’re wedded to the person whom you love. You don’t think about big breasts ans big asses. You think about the emotional connection.
Funnily enough, thats what i was about to share.
Not that often tho, i probably went to see an escort 3 times last year, but everytime was a different one.
The excitement or little stress spike i have when she opens the door for me to come in is what i also like. Will she actually be the person in the photo or is it fake ? Will it be good ? Hey ive walked past this building a lot of times, what are appartments like in it ?
Obviously theres been a few times where a cutie was advertised and a fat older asian chick opened the door and i told her " ? Is this a joke ?" and walked off, but it feels so good to meet a complete stranger and get butt naked right in front of her with literally zero remorse or care for whether she considers me an idiot or not.
I like the fact that we have zero connections : shes a nobody, im a nobody. Theres never a risk shes going to tell my friends. Thats sort of reassuring and somewhat setting me free for an hour..
I always go for half hours (h/h).
They're usually $100 less and you don't always last the full hour anyway.
I lost my wizard hat in Dec. Literally went from 0 at the age of 30 + 2, to 7 in the span of 4 months
I have lived with a constant feeling of dread for so long I can't recall when it started, but yesterday a bit before I went to bed it elevated itself to a panic attack and a stronger than usual urge to end it all. I wasn't in pain or sad or anything, I was just scared but I don't even know what of. I got some awful sleep and woke up this morning hoping it would be gone but it is not. I hate my job but I am so emotionally uncomfortable right now I am happy I have work in the morning so I can distract myself with coworkers and mundane tasks. Usually when I'm stressed I just rub one out and feel better afterward but this is something different.
Strangely I was not abused as a child, I kinda just turned out this way.
>Look at front page of site they listed >$600 for an hour with this thing
holy moly. Is she paying me?
Damn I was fricking tripping I thought you meant you thought you were 177 years old, that would've been pretty funny kek.
I'm the Carl wheezer anon, I use leolist and verified profiles.
Girls varrie from $180 h/h to $250 h/h for a good one (h/h is half hour for you non-prostitute connoisseurs)
I always go for half hours (h/h).
They're usually $100 less and you don't always last the full hour anyway.
I lost my wizard hat in Dec. Literally went from 0 at the age of 30 + 2, to 7 in the span of 4 months
Half an hour is honestly crazy. I'm assuming it's at least counting half an hour of sex time, without the chatting, driking, foreplay bits?
It varies on the girl. Sex is most of it. What annoys me is some girls allow kissing, others allow DATY (eating pussy), while the average don't.
The one I like lets me do anything, hard to find
I had the same problem anon, it was almost monthly for about 15 months. One of my worst nights I slept with one, not satisfied, and starting trying to organize another and had No2 within an hour. I fell into it because I was about to turn 24 and was a virgin, so decided to solve that 'problem' but ended up addicted, I'm just glad I got addicted to pussy rather than hard drugs. I just wanted to get some practice so when I fricked someone I didn't pay for I wouldn't be useless.
What happened is I got uncomfortable with how much I spent, I was keeping track.
Then I actually became friends with one of the last girls I hired, so I'm shooting her porn now, I'm treating it as covering the expense I made.
Further still I still have the problem to a lesser degree but I go to a massage parlour now to keep the costs down, beautiful ethiopian/australian girl that I get along well with.
I did finally have sex without paying for it, and it went extremely poorly, not because of the addiction, actually for an entirely separate reason beyond my control. But just hanging out in bed talking to that girl was the highlight of my year, I just wish I could have fricked her properly. Much like actually losing my virginity I got/still am attached, but more so out of a missed connection/what if sense than a I'm in love with her sense.
get me some of that armagnac
well, today's my birthday. and it's not happy anymore, i've only got a few years left in my 20s
my life's not really where i want it to be, i am often lonely and i wish i had a more vibrant social life
with that said, i feel like i have been moving in a more positive direction these last few months, and i've been absolutely crushing it in the gym, so here's hoping anons.
The only upside to being lonely is grinding away at hobbies and learning to be okay with your own company. Most people past 30 end up addicted to something and distracted from their own thoughts.
this is gonna sound crazy as I'm 29
I thought I was 177 for years now
I might be 173 or something idk
I never double checked 177, I was happy with it, but a (seemingly) faulty tape measure put me at 173 the other day. I will double check tmr but I literally just realised I never had my height checked, at all, by an official source, in a decade at least lol
nah, these threads get a pass. it's like a tavern where we can all leave our battle axes at the door and wipe the sweat off our brow and sit down an commiserate before anonymously baiting each other into seething in other threads
Fellas, I don't think I'm ever going to mature. I can progress intellectually, I can think clearly and handle my responsibilities, get shit done, but I'm emotionally a child. On top of it, I'm both gullible and paranoid. I've focused on my physical health for a long time, but I still hate my body, it feels like a prison I am confined inside. Therapy bounces right off me. I end up thinking "They hurt me? Why? I love them." and can't get past it.
You're gonna say I'm too young to be worrying about this, and maybe you're right. I'm nineteen. I do not have much of a life. I never went to school. Dad was an addict. Beat the shit out of me. Never have made real friends, never dated. Most of my free time I spend outside, swim a lot, walk a lot. Pretty much have nothing going on. I go to the city to try to meet people, do the basic outcast 101 stuff like going to classes so I can interact with people in a structured environment. Not that it does any good.
>I never went to school
were you homeschooled? or did you never finish hs? >stuff like going to classes so I can interact with people
you mean like going to a random campus and pretending you're a student?
Do you still live with your parents anon?
Anyways, I was raised in a shithole household with abusive parents too (BPD violent single mother). Don't worry about feeling immature, or rather it's okay to worry but it's natural that you're like that because you like life experiences.
What worked for me was, getting a job where I was forced to interact with people (it unfricks your social skills). Then moving into a place of my own (to get out of the shit environment that was my house). Then things will start to pick up, you can enroll into college or finish HS or whatever. I'll try to answer any questions if you have any
I guess technically I was homeschooled. Didn't learn anything. Classes, I mean like dojos or exercise classes. Dance classes. Beginner spanish. Random skills. The idea is just to be in an environment with other people where interaction is socially acceptable. I live with my uncle now. I live too far from the city to get a job with lots of other people. I hate the city and don't want to move there. I am teaching myself stuff to catch up on what I missed, I'm pretty well caught up in math and I know a lot about biology. Terrible on history though. I can't think of any questions, I'm just very tired.
Literally any service worker job has plenty of other people. The closer it is to school, the better chances of qts. Think about how many losers and morons get gfs just by working at fricking walmart or mcdonalds. It's shitty work for shitty pay but you're young enough that it's still acceptable.
Anon, I don't think most people really have their shit together when they're in the mid to late 20s. You're still barely an adult, it's OK to feel lost. Your main priority right now should be to find a stable income source, assuming you already don't have anything thtmat you feel reasonably safe in. Your lack of education can also be a problem going forward, but it's not impossible to fix that, plus that environment will naturally brjng you close to people tou can meet and make friiends with. My advice would be to look into a job you can do part time and use the rest of your time to catch up and eventually try to get into some community college or trade school. It's probably gonna suck for a few years, but that can be the kind of thing that will set you up for life, and even if you end up disliking the trade you work in it'll give you enough income to look into something else, plus it'll give you access to new people, environments and possibilities you just don't have right now.
I'm good on money at least. I've been working for the last couple years and barely spend anything. My uncle doesn't make me pay rent. I really do not want to move to the city.
[...] >but I'm emotionally a child >19
Dawg your brain is still developing for the next 6 years. I'm 27 and I'm WAY different mentally and emotionally than when I was 24 even, much less 21, 19, etc. You have the right attitude towards maturing so you will do it without noticing how far you've come. That's where reflection is valuable. Trust me bro you have a LOT of time and a LOT WILL change in your life.
You're gonna say I'm too young to be worrying about this, and maybe you're right. I'm nineteen. I do not have much of a life. I never went to school. Dad was an addict. Beat the shit out of me. Never have made real friends, never dated. Most of my free time I spend outside, swim a lot, walk a lot. Pretty much have nothing going on. I go to the city to try to meet people, do the basic outcast 101 stuff like going to classes so I can interact with people in a structured environment. Not that it does any good.
>but I'm emotionally a child >19
Dawg your brain is still developing for the next 6 years. I'm 27 and I'm WAY different mentally and emotionally than when I was 24 even, much less 21, 19, etc. You have the right attitude towards maturing so you will do it without noticing how far you've come. That's where reflection is valuable. Trust me bro you have a LOT of time and a LOT WILL change in your life.
It's hitting me that I don't think I've made a woman horny in years. Which is only weird to think about when I consider how often I've gotten intensely horny at random women.
I dunno, that tells me I'm not worth a damn to them, and should double down on my improvement efforts if I want to be making them horny. But at the same time, I kinda don't care and know I should just double down on shit anyway.
It's just weird to think about women being/getting horny since it almost feels foreign to me, even as a non-virgin. Maybe I have the tism.
The other week >sitting outside bar having a smoke with a grill from my course >it was raining earlier so the seating was wet >she's been looking deep into my eyes >finish cigarettes >'Damn anon, I'm so wet' >she goes bright red >'I.. I mean from the bench haha'
Is making girls spill their spaghetti a sign of making it?
>Sick, so I can't go to the gym >Stuffed with meds, so I can't drink on the one day where it's socially acceptable to start before 1pm
Frick me sideways, I'll take a goddamn protein shake, I guess. Haven't had one of those since...yesterday...
Sitting here only hours away from my final thesis presentation. I haven't done anything bc of procrastination. Fear of presentations. At least the thesis is already done and graded.
I just want it all to end and start working ffs. No more energy for college stuff.
Girl I met last night is texting me calling me innocent. Is it already over? I helped her sneak into a venue I was working at and we're now texting back and forth. Gonna invite her out to do cocaine but don't know how to say it in a classy way.
>Girl I met last night is texting me calling me innocent >Gonna invite her out to do cocaine
Anon, the frick kind of mixed signals have you been giving her?
Mom decided to airdrop a bunch of pics and vids from my HS oneitis living her best life in a foreign country after graduating from nurse school. "Hey anon, look how great she's doing, she looks so happy literally glowing". Looks like she's been there a while but wouldn't make sense to have moved there since she just invested some 7 years into graduation and her local license isn't accepted there from what I know, so probably just a long vacation, maybe with some of the other girls she graduated with.
Anyway, it's not like I was ever over her even after many years of not having seen her, in fact I probably spent all this time until 2022 briefly thinking thinking about her at least once a day, but I felt like I was starting to leave it completely behind me. Even started actually liking other girls beyond just trying shit out becauseI thoight they were hot (had some things here and there but I always ended up losing interest because they weren't like her, even if some of them were honestly great girls in their own right), but as soon as I recognized her in the pics I felt my stomach sink and got shivers. Objectively speaking she used to be quite a bit cuter back when we were teens than she does now, se went from a pretty teen to an average young woman and personality wise she's probably a completely different person, but frick did I feel like I fell in love with her all over again.
I honestly hate this. I had become obsessed with an omage of her I had on my mind and let that get in the way of actual good things in my life. But now that I was getting close to closing that chapter of my life she popped up because my mom thought I'dappreciate it, I guess? I don't think she meant anything by it, but still.
I'm still digesting how I feel about her, about myself, about how this made me feel, etc. Don't know where I'll end up but at least it has already made me realize I fricked up my own life back then and have a lot to catch up to.
Long distance friend is going to visit my country in 2 months. She wants to see me, but I got mixed feelings about this.
Just for context: we met on chatroulette a decade ago when we were 14. We kept talking regularly for 5 years and then 1-2 times a year for the next 5 years . Back then, she was kinda into me but didnt like the fact that I was a virgin (i'm not anymore) and she didnt want to be my first. We watched other grow as a person for 10 years, so there is definitly a bond betweens us. BUT I know she's a prostitute, borderline nymphomaniac.
Part of me wants to frick her because I want to wrap things up nicely, finishing a long awaited quest . Also I'm stuck in a 3 years long dryspell and getting pussy delivered to my house is a blessing ngl. But I also know that she's a total train wreck of a bawd and I'm not sure I'm down to risk an std for a 5.
I approach women from time to time, but I don't go out often cuz I don't have friends around me anymore. I don't have a lot of money either. Considering the life paths I have before me, the odds of getting a gf in the next years is bleak
She started having sex at 13 with random people, got a a couple bfs through out her life. Can spend 4 days without fricking anybody. She's probably in the triple digits now. Hooker tier
A lot of (most) sex addicts were sexually abused, molested, or violently raped. Some even received MORE abuse while chasing sex addiction (go to meet a stranger to frick, it’s not who you thought, they do things you didn’t agree to but you can’t involve police/say no/make them stop). Best treatment treats it like an addiction, and even then many don’t want to get better, or can’t commit to a program. They’ve gotta want to get better.
Possible, but never got into any detail of that sort. The only thing I know for sure that wasn't legit was some shady chemsex in her late teens in a rave.
Was extremely tired working 12 hour shifts each day and lifting right after work, also going through breakup.
On Tuesday I was so tired I almost skipped leg day later that day.
We got a call for some poor bastard who fell into a trench at a construction site and a small excavator fell on top of him, pinning his lower body against the wall. Took us 40 minutes to free him and we rushed him to the hospital. I'm not sure if he made it, I will check with my coworkers tomorrow.
Even if he did make it, guy's pelvis and legs were bent sideways, He probably won't ever walk again.
I decided to use my legs today, cause I was grateful I have them still.
Also reconciled with ex-girlfriend, we'll see how it goes.
>going through breakup
me too bro, can you give some more details? >Also reconciled with ex-girlfriend, we'll see how it goes.
bro...
We dated for 9 months and long story short there was just a imbalance in terms of love for each other, I loved her more than she loved me.
So we mutually broke up and I didn't speak to her for about two weeks until I showed up to a friend's house for drinks last night and she was there. In another room we hugged and kissed, she said how much she missed me the past two weeks and that she wanted to try things again. So we talked today and we did.
This was my first breakup, I don't even know if you would call it that despite how short it was.
Regardless, I realized that everytime you think of your ex, it's like a hit of heroin. Whether it be thinking about them, checking their location, or stalking their social media, those are hits and you're just delaying the withdrawal symptoms further.
Cut off contact completely, do not look at their location, delete social media for a bit, work on yourself. She will either realize how bad she fricked up because you just exited their life, or you exited their life.
Either way it's a win-win, you will find your love someday.
>9 months >2 weeks of breakup
Thanks for taking the time to reply, in my experience every long relationship has at least one of these kind of "small" breakups. It'll rekindle your love for each other for a while.
When you break up for real, you'll know.
t. knower
Those days when I'm tired and don't feel like going and am brainstorming excuses often end up being KILLER workouts with new PRs and/or insane pumps.
Hopefully buddy survived, that's brutal.
Should I hire a professional photographer to take like, 3-5 good pics for dating apps? Now that I'm writing it I realize it's kinda pathetic but also kind of a good idea? The guys who catfish with model tier guys use professional photos of models so...
Professional photos are too jarring / try-hard for dating apps. The best photo is if someone else takes a phone pic of you under ideal lighting, preferably sitting at a 3/4 view. You can fake the "someone else" and mount your phone on a tripod or something.
How bad is it that I don't know how to drive nor own a car/bike? I hadn't considered it before but now I realized that after setting up a date or whatever instead of being able to say "Yeah, I'll pick you up" or "Let's go back to my apartment" I'm gonna have to say "Um yeah let's meet at X spot just take the bus haha".
Bros... was it over before it even began...?
It doesn't make it entirely "it's over" tier, but it is going to seriously limit your options. Culturally it's less/more important depending on where you're from.
>car
I'm not completely homeless-tier broke but I can't afford one at the moment >bike
I could afford a chead one but I've seen too many bike crashes on /gif/ and it never ends well, and they're more easily stolen I think.
Also at the moment I live very close to my job (within walking distance) so it's not like I need a ride and buying one just for hypothetical dates seems very lame...
Got arm-mogged today. Dude had a cute gf and bigger biceps. Can't wait for my biceps/upper arm to be as thick as my elbow/upper forearms. On the right path but feels bad for the time being.
My girlfriend is going crazy. She is 31. She's is saying that I don't fricker her enough. I don't make her feel as a woman, she says. But she also says that she want me to propose to her. I just don't fricking get it. I told her that she should join me in the gym (she got chubby during the pandemic) and she acted as I had spat on her face. She is so furious. The worst thing is that we just moved as a couple to a new town. We work for the same company... If we break up I will have to see her quite literally everyday. What the frick should I do bros?
start cooking for her all the time and make it healthy in a stealthy manner (women dont suspects steaks or pork chops to be weightloss food). Frick her more, think of other women if you need to. You must make the situation seem okay. That will buy you time to search for another job in your field. That's the best i could do, godspeed anon.
>You must make the situation seem okay. That will buy you time to search for another job in your field.
Based and made me laugh.
My gf broke up with me like 3 months after I got her a job at my current job (yeah I know). Seeing her everyday or whatever doesn't really bother me, the real issue here is that you live with her in a new town no less so I'm guessing you don't have any friends or whatever there?
>She's is saying that I don't fricker her enough. I don't make her feel as a woman, she says. But she also says that she want me to propose to her. I just don't fricking get it.
These aren't opposites. She wants to be with you ans wants to marry, ut she also wants to cum. Simplest solution is to frick her better, I guess.
> told her that she should join me in the gym (she got chubby during the pandemic) and she acted as I had spat on her face.
Is her appearance the reason you're not fricking her? This is always be a topic you should approach with care, but it should be doable as long as you talk aboit it with hineaty and WITHOUT SHAMING HER. For the love of God don't treat it like it's her fault, she'll go into defensive mode and completely shut off the idea.
Thanks for the advice bros.
>You must make the situation seem okay. That will buy you time to search for another job in your field.
Based and made me laugh.
My gf broke up with me like 3 months after I got her a job at my current job (yeah I know). Seeing her everyday or whatever doesn't really bother me, the real issue here is that you live with her in a new town no less so I'm guessing you don't have any friends or whatever there?
That's exactly what's happening. she is more social than me so she already has at least 2 girlfriends she can hang out with. Right now she is making me sleep in the guest room. She left 6 hours ago and she says she's having drinks with one of her friends. I honestly don't think she is cheating on me. But yes, she got pretty hurt when I told her that we both let ourselves go during the pandemic and that I want to exercise with her.
I am feeling so lonely. I don't want to talk to my friends about this. We have been together with my gf for 6 years. I would feel so ashamed talking about this situation with my friends let alone my parents who love her. I... Am feeling very lonely.
>Right now she is making me sleep in the guest room.
Bro what the frick, have some self respect, you know you're worth more than that. >I honestly don't think she is cheating on me
She'll use the fact that you told her she's fat (implicitly) to deal with the guilt of cheating (ie. in her mind "it was your fault") >I don't want to talk to my friends about this. We have been together with my gf for 6 years.
I was with my gf for almost 6 years too (5 and 8 months), what got me through the initial loneliness was talking to my friends, they're your friends not hers, frick her. And frick your parents if they don't side with you. Don't let them guilt trip you.
She is cheating on you. >he called me fat! >he doesn’t frick me enough! >he's literally making me feel ugly >well HE can sleep in the guest room while I go out drinking for hours! See how that makes him feel!
>She's is saying that I don't fricker her enough. I don't make her feel as a woman, she says. But she also says that she want me to propose to her. I just don't fricking get it.
These aren't opposites. She wants to be with you ans wants to marry, ut she also wants to cum. Simplest solution is to frick her better, I guess.
> told her that she should join me in the gym (she got chubby during the pandemic) and she acted as I had spat on her face.
Is her appearance the reason you're not fricking her? This is always be a topic you should approach with care, but it should be doable as long as you talk aboit it with hineaty and WITHOUT SHAMING HER. For the love of God don't treat it like it's her fault, she'll go into defensive mode and completely shut off the idea.
Can I get a double shot of red stag in a diet Dr. Pepper?
I feel like I’ve made a tremendous amount of work on my body, considering where I started anyway. I’ve lost a lot of fat, I’ve gained a lot of muscle, considering I had none. Yet, I still just feel like a fat frick. I made it down from obese to overweight, I’m almost at my goal, I haven’t weighed this little since I was maybe 15 years old. But I’m still just a fatty. Is that all I’ll ever be? Even if I get down to all the right numbers in BMI and body fat, what if I’m still just a fatty? My family still sees me as a fatty, my friends still see me as a fatty, and while I know I’ve made progress I still see a fatty too.
You said it yourself, you literally are overweight still so you are correct in feeling like a fatty. Keep working and the weight will keep coming off. Eventually they'll be telling you you're too thin. In my experience even though weight loss is a gradual process the mind shift from "I don't like how I look, too much fat" to "I see it now, I actually have faith" happened in like a day. For me, it took having visible abs (though not chiseled) and veiny arms (including bicep), so around 12% bf. I had to lose more weight than I thought to get there, but it was worth it. Trust the process.
Yeah… I was thinking that i probably need to shoot lower than I originally thought. I’ve been having small goals and big goals for myself, first was 20lbs, then 10lbs, then another 10lbs, and at the beginning I would’ve thought I just needed to drop another 10lbs and then not be overweight, therefore made it. Now I think it might be another 20lbs before I’m done, but I guess what I’m saying is I’m wondering if I’ll ever feel done. If 20lbs from now I’ll realize I need to cut another 10lbs.
That happened to me as well. It was demoralizing realizing that I hit my original goal weight and realizing I still needed to keep going, but it was definitely worth it looking back. I found that it worked better to not set a "lose x lbs" goal but rather just "lose at least x lbs each week" and be done when my bf% is where I want it and I was satisfied with the progress. This shit takes forever but there's no way around it.
How did you manage weight loss slowing down? It’s definitely slowed down a hell of a lot as I’ve gotten closer and closer to a “healthy weight“. Of course, like I said, I think I probably need to lose another 20 pounds before I’ll actually look like a normal human being, But I’ve been hitting a lot more stalls lately. It’s been a lot slower. Of course, I understood that the closer I got to a normal body, fat percentage, or a low body, fat percentage for that matter, the harder it would be. But what else can I do? How can I keep my sanity and not feel like one of those weird fat Tumblr b***hes that saying maybe she’s just meant to be this fat forever?
Your TDEE decreases as you lose weight, so you need to progressively reduce your calories. Otherwise you just get closer to eating at your new maintenance. If you're not losing weight at your current calories, drop it by 500cal again. I had to drop mine a few times to keep up a steady rate of weight loss. Eventually I was only eating 1300cal per day. Think about it, your body has 40 less pounds of cells to feed, it doesn't need as much to keep it going.
1 month ago
Anonymous
Bro you're nearly 140lbs? How tall are you what the frick?
1 month ago
Anonymous
6'0. Back up to 151lbs now from just water and a months worth of gains. Lowest was 144lbs. Had to cut it short even though I wasn't completely shredded because I needed to focus on building muscle. I went from skinnyfat to just skinny.
1 month ago
Anonymous
What was your heaviest? I'm 196lbs at 6'1
1 month ago
Anonymous
183lbs. I had a 37" waist and roughly 22%bf, maybe higher it was just an online calculation. Took 26 weeks at 1.25lbs/week, but I probably could have stopped at 150lbs. Depends on your goal but yea looks like you got some months left. Just take it a week at a time and keep that scale dropping bro, you've already made good progress you can do it.
1 month ago
Anonymous
How did you know? But yeah I think I need to make some real adjustments. Gotta remember to be keeping my macros in the right spot, go over and see where my wiggle room is to adjust more.
The ligther you get, the less calories you burn. Drinking zero calorie energy drink could help with appetite and energy level if you're willing to drop the calories even lower. Besides that You could do run errands on foot anywhere in a 30 min walking radius maybe? Shit, even chewing chios tears for 45 minutes could make a difference. You can't use the same strat from when you where BIG big. You only got some slight pudge now, you're on the right track. Keep the good work, I believe in you
T. cutted 7 pounds in the past 14 days
That would be one of the greatest tricks I’ve learned, 0 cal caffeine. I’ve been working on learning to drink, coffee, black, but in the meantime, total war is 0 cal, can keep me going all day, and I don’t feel hungry at all during the day. Able to make it until dinner time, which also means my stomach is shrinking more and more overtime, so I can’t just pig out on my one meal. I guess yeah I do get shit for “uh ohhh skipping meals! Skipping meals isn’t healthy! Ruh roh!” And it’s not very smiles upon when I replace two meals with caffeine. But hey, I know what I need to do to get where I need to be.
1 month ago
Anonymous
>How did you know?
The scale tells you. If it didn't go down enough over the course of a week, pay attention to the next week. If it still hasn't gone down enough, reduce the calories as needed according to the formula 500cal = 1lb/week to get back to the original rate of loss. I kind of got ahead of the curve by recalculating my TDEE every month or so and dropping my calories that way.
Easiest way to calculate macros is:
1. Determine your calorie limit.
2. Determine protein intake based on 0.8-1.0g per lb of target body weight. The lower your total calories, the larger % of your diet this will be. This is good because protein is the best at keeping you satiated.
3. Determine fat based on it taking up 20-30% of your calories. I went with 20% because it's the most calorically dense and I wanted to maximize the volume of food I ate to combat hunger.
4. Fill in the remaining calories with carbs.
I don't do caffeine but hey if it works for you that's great.
1 month ago
Anonymous
Oh I meant how’d you know my actual weight start and current, but I do greatly appreciate the extra advice man.
The ligther you get, the less calories you burn. Drinking zero calorie energy drink could help with appetite and energy level if you're willing to drop the calories even lower. Besides that You could do run errands on foot anywhere in a 30 min walking radius maybe? Shit, even chewing chios tears for 45 minutes could make a difference. You can't use the same strat from when you where BIG big. You only got some slight pudge now, you're on the right track. Keep the good work, I believe in you
Stuck in a job I hate that pays ok, want to leave but have no skills. I'm considering school but idk if it's work it to start over at another job.
What do?
I was the same and held a job like that for 9 years, it eats away at your soul and dreams until you become a soulless husk that you can tell gave up on life.
I say take the risk, believe in yourself and see how far you can go.
WHAT THE FRICK IS WRONG WITH ME
I had the chance to easily end my relationship and not only did I let it pass me bye I talked her down from the cliff
I don't know what's wrong with me, I feel miserable in my relationship 85% of the time. Often times she really feels like a burden to me, and I don't have the emotional capacity to care for her needs
The other 15% is good, but I don't even think it's insanely amazing. But I do genuinely love and care for her, I want to protect her, and when she cries I get tender for her. She was straight up asking me with tears in her eyes if I even wanted to be with her, it's like I wanted to say no all the way up until the words came out of her mouth and then I backed down and had to reassure her.
Four years we've been together, she's my life now and it's so fricking hard to imagine life without her, even imagining it to be better than it is now. I guess the worst part is she hasn't even done anything wrong, she has her problems as all do but she loves me, I just don't like her the way I feel like I should. But then I feel crazy and like I should just try and throw away my feelings and just continue on with her and learn to enjoy it because I'm scared I won't ever get anything better
She basically wants more emotional support than I'm capable of giving, we watch a movie and then something reminds her of a shitty experience so she has to then go and tell a long story, she has a bad day at work it's a long phone call where she complains (which is basically every day), the weekends I look forward to relaxing and not doing much and she uses that time to basically let go of all the remaining emotions she didn't already let go of during the week because understandably she expects the person who is supposed to love her to support her. She doesn't give me the alone time I require. And we have very different expectations and views as to how we treat each other.
I also simply just don't find her that interesting to talk to, I've gone very back and forth on this, as to whether your gf should be someone you should want to talk deeply to, I know it's common on here to say well just get a good trad girl who cooks who cares if she's boring, easy advice to give but not always simple. Especially when I've been with a girl before who I found interesting and could have deeper talks with so I know what it's like and know how meaningful it can make the relationship feel
Do you want the next couple years to be like this? the rest of your life? I want to say that she should make effort into keeping her everyday turmoil to herself, but i doubt any man on earth had any success in telling a woman to keep her emotions to herself. You should cut her out, even tho it's the hardest thing to do. If I remember correctly, you said that you were scared to seek a new woman, expecting to find lesser women. I'd say take the chance, you can't live like for the rest of your life. Sending strenght to you Anon
Thanks for the advice and nice words. I think I'm just always afraid of change and too busy to confront her about my feelings.
>your gf should be someone you should want to talk deeply to
My ex was someone like that, my conclusion after 6 years of relationship is this, these are the most important qualities a partner should have: >you find her physically attractive >she loves you and is loyal >she isn't annoying to be around
That's it, muh deep talks are a meme. If I want to have a deep talk I talk to my friends or if I need intellectual stimulation I grab a book. Your gf should satisfy very clear needs, which are affection and sexual needs and be as pleasant as possible to be around. Don't fall for the "smart" gf meme.
I do agree but I think there's a fine line, you shouldn't have an extreme in either direction. I don't want a girl who challenges me about every opinion I have and turns every exchange into a deep philosophical talk, but I also don't think you should deprive yourself of being able to express some of your thoughts or opinions because you feel they won't get adequately considered. >sexual needs
That's another thing, we haven't had sex in like over a month. Although I'm not placing the blame solely on her, my libido has been shot recently (likely due to stress/confusion over relationship), but I'm certainly not the only guilty party. I'm just stuck and not knowing if the problem is me or if we really just aren't good for each other, we're very much opposites in many ways, it's "opposites attract" type relationship which I'm discovering might not be a good thing. Frick I just don't know
>haven’t fricked in a month >anon is sleeping in a separate room per her demand >she went out for drinks alone tonight
You dumbass she’s cheating on you. Probably in your bed.
>your gf should be someone you should want to talk deeply to
My ex was someone like that, my conclusion after 6 years of relationship is this, these are the most important qualities a partner should have: >you find her physically attractive >she loves you and is loyal >she isn't annoying to be around
That's it, muh deep talks are a meme. If I want to have a deep talk I talk to my friends or if I need intellectual stimulation I grab a book. Your gf should satisfy very clear needs, which are affection and sexual needs and be as pleasant as possible to be around. Don't fall for the "smart" gf meme.
you have to pull the plug or you will be miserable for the rest of your damn life. I was in a situation very similar to yours and was a total pussy afraid to move on, thinking ''i'm never going to find anyone better''. It hurt like hell for a month, then gradually became easier, my lifts skyrocketed and I took some time off dating and then met the most amazing girl that I can be 100% myself with. Every time I come home to see her my mood gets better, idk what it is but we haven't had a fight in years. Sometimes you gotta take the leap man, my turning point with my ex was when my mother saw me one day and said ''you look miserable'', thats when I knew.
I've split with my former girlfriend, saw her a few months ago, had sex etc. But like a month after she has a new bf. She did have a lot of red flags, from being SA'ed when she was younger. But i still miss her, i've been on dates after and i feel nothing? Like we did break up 6-7 months ago, but why would she spent time with me, when i can figure out, that the new guy was in the picture after our break up, she would have sex with me
Cut ties and move on. She just wants to string you along as a backup. Don't be the backup.
You will feel something for someone else. Don't let the circumstances fool you otherwise.
1 month ago
Anonymous
Yeah but we cut out contact, first time she hasn't contacted me in so long, but then i saw her pop up on social media, after she unblocked me. So why unblock me, if it's not for me to see she has a new bf
1 month ago
Anonymous
To string you along. I just said. She's going to take your wish for the old days and turn it into your leash. The old days are gone. She's not your goal anymore. Stop talking to her, block her, and take a break from social media for a couple months if you're getting this desperate.
1 month ago
Anonymous
Yeah i get that, but i'm not contacting her or anything. Just think it was fricking weird, but i get it know. She's not my problem anymore, even tho i have missed her etc.
But drawing and painting is uber painful, even taking regular breaks it's still stressful on my back and arms.
I've been skipping workouts the past week just to get a few pieces done...
I sometimes wonder if it's even possible to have the time; a day job, art practice, producing finished pieces, and exercise...
I've tried to balance it but have never succeeded.
I hate school
I hate waking up at 6 am for it
I just want to play vidya all day again.
Like when I neeted for about half a year. But I must to keep my self esteem high enough to date again.
But when I was at rock bottom neeting alcoholic
I met the literal physical manifestation of my dream girl 10/10 high iq and shared everything in common
But I felt like such a sack of shit so
I self sabotaged
I am reminded of that every time
I wake up at 6 am
Which is what keeps me going .
I think I might be deeply depressed but I don’t really feel anything at all. Lifting weights and running are the only things I can focus on. I can’t read anything, I can’t listen to music except when working out, I can’t play video games, I have no sex drive at all, I can’t communicate with people, I just avoid contact. I am about to have my Masters degree in a week and I couldn’t give less of a shit. Literally the only emotion I feel is guilt and and shame for being so distant from my family and friends.
I lost my job in late 2022 and need to find another one, but there is no real motivation even with the fear of going broke. I am at the lowest point in my life, but I feel completely numb and the last month or two is one it started really going downhill.
i'd rather take a load of buckshot to the face to be honest
i hate growing older, i had a terrible childhood and lived like shit in my teens because i didn't care if i lived or died and now i'm paying the price nearing my 40s and i hate it
yeah it's my fault but frick it's a miserable experience and i can't undo it
>Give blood >Decide to break diet and get a small pizza and single pint of ice cream >Rest of protein from tuna for the day >Wake up >up 6lbs on the scale
Like, is there a fricking reason for this? Is it water weight? I am so salty rn because it took 2 weeks to get below 190 and I just know it will take a week for this 6lbs to finally shed off.
It's water anon, don't think too hard about it. I'm in a similar position but for a different reason, last Wednesday I injured both my feet with open wounds and they obviously got a lot inflammation whille my bidy is fighting infection and teying to heal. I bloated the frick up, gaining something like a pound of water weight every day until sunday. Today I woke up a bit leaner than before and the wounds are looking nice for a change, so at least the infection was dealt with already. Scarring will still take a long time thou.
Starts last summer >newish qt coworker says we should have coffee after work >talk all night going into depth about ourselves >keep texting since then >texts me when she can't sleep and trying on outfits >took her on a few dates. Every time there was extreme weather which made them an adventure >she is single one week and then casually drops 'I'm out with my sister and boyfriend :)" >immediately stop texting her and socializing outside what I have to do for work >time passes >see her on dating app
>Be me >Be Mexican >my mother was a prostitute, father was drug dealer in their time
My brother shot himself on Christmas.
I’m more mad about it than anything.
I “lost the love of my life” at age 19 for atrocities I commited. She’s okay and she’s happy. I was a monster at the time.
I got kicked out at age 14. My mom told me she never loved me when I was 2. (2nd hand info)My dad died when I was almost 22.
I know this reads like jumbled brain salad speak but I’m high and just talking about myself.
Im so sorry to hear that anon. >shitty background >monstrous past >yet seems to be aware of it and actually vents it out instead of keeping on being an evil being
Hey man, every angel has a past and every sinner has a future. Being aware of your own mistakes and trying to be a better person is the first step.
Im not giving any life lesson, you seem to have had it hard enough bro : im just saying i hope you can become the GOOD mexican we all want to meet when we come visit your sunny country, not another lowlife gang member.
Stay strong pal, try to make many friends...youll find some who will actually be a family to you.
Take care
At least this weekend I got to be out of the house all day both days doing and getting paid for my hobby. But I don’t even really find enjoyment or happiness from the hobbies, it’s pretty much just a way to pass time so I’m not sitting in my room alone. But now it’s Monday and it’s back to the humiliating monotony of my pathetic job, go home, watch tv, do nothing. Every week I hope that it will be the lucky week when something kills me.
What's your hobby and your job if you don't mind me asking? Are you in a position to get the training to switch jobs to something you find more enjoyable? I'm guessing the main problem is no friends no gf?
I finally got a job and I hate it. I can’t just quit I was sick of being broke and neet. But frick it took me 2 years just right get this job. It pays above min wage but still $4 less than I need to support myself. It’s just fricked bros. I definitely feel better in some ways mentally speaking but if I’m being honest I hate it. I hate driving so much. I hate the areas this job sends me to to work it’s all bougie rich peoples houses. I get so anxious driving on the highway. I have to leave at 7am to get there an hour early to start at 9am because if I leave any later I’ll be late due to the traffic and school zones. It’s an anxiety issue mainly but it puts me in a horrible and run down mood.
I hate seeing these rich people and their families just knowing those kids will never know struggle, and I don’t even just mean in an envious way it’s 50/50 envy and pitty. These frickers get to drive brand new Rolls Royces’ at age 16, but they’re also going to miss out on the lessons and shit most normal people have gone through. The owners of the houses frick idk where to start. They look at me like I’m cattle. If they get mad they speak like I’m a slave it blows my fricking mind how comfortable these fat and scrawny c**ts are talking any kind of crazy way to someone. Like they’re the type of people you know have never been punched before. I grew up poor, token whitey in the hood. It’s just common sense to me to treat people with a certain level of respect knowing you don’t know what they have going on how close they are to snapping or if they have nothing to lose. That’s an alien concept to these people they think they’re untouchable.
Yeah yeah I’m b***hing yeah yeah yeah I know shoulda been born to richer parents yadda yadda. I’m thankful for the stuff I’ve learned and things I’ve had to do like start working at age 13. But seeing this shit pisses me off.
Already decided if I get the chance I’m fricking someone’s wife.
Bro I also grew up in the hood so I get the frustration and resentment when dealing with silverspoongays, frick them. I say keep grinding till you can get a new job where you don't have to deal with these types. Try to turn that emotion into something positive for you, use it as fuel.
I know man but it’s almost demoralizing. It’s definitely motivating in some weird way, but at the same time demoralizing. I hope that if I can ever get rich like that, have frick you money, that I can remain humble and not change and ensure my children learn the same lessons I’ve had to learn. Like, they’re gonna have to work to buy their first car and it will be whatever used price of shit they can afford like I did for example. I’d like to be in a position that if I have kids I know they’ll be taken care of and never starve and not grow up in shitty areas, but I also don’t want them growing up clueless to how 90% of the world is and becoming some entitled c**t adult who’s never known struggle or difficulty. And that’s IF I ever get that kind of money.
These houses are mansions/estates/villas/bungalow btw, marble flooring and all. I’ve never seen anything like it irl.
Start looking for better jobs that are closer to home.
You're in a good position now because when you're interviewing, you don't NEED the job, so you have a lot more control. You can tell them you're currently working and earning $(your wage+4) but are looking for a better oppotunity. You can keep doing this and frogjumping up the wage ladder if you care to.
Also - ask your boss about starting 1-2hr earlier and going home 1-2hr earlier.
Good for you for getting back on track though bruv. It's going to be hard and you're going to want to quit and go back to what's cozy (NEETing) but deep down you know that's not the answer. You will get mentally and emotionally stronger through perseverance.
WAGMI
I’m already looking for better jobs but in all honesty I would take a $1 pay cut to go work at cvs down the street from me just to avoid driving so much and dealing with this bullshit. With the intention of it just being temporary until I find something else close that pays even more, of course.
I did ask the boss about starting earlier and he said yes & no. It depends on where I gotta go for the day. If any of the clients are a business/office then I can go there at 6am and hit up the houses later in the day (the rich frickers are on their own time, understandably). He still wants me to be done by 5pm anyways to get more clients handled so it’s pointless to do that on most days, I’m 1099 so any OT is normal pay too or else I’d be doing that. I hate it, but it’s a job. I was so depressed and anxious as a neet, it’s better than that shit. But bad in its own ways. Just a new dick assfricking me in a different way I suppose.
Start looking for better jobs that are closer to home.
You're in a good position now because when you're interviewing, you don't NEED the job, so you have a lot more control. You can tell them you're currently working and earning $(your wage+4) but are looking for a better oppotunity. You can keep doing this and frogjumping up the wage ladder if you care to.
Also - ask your boss about starting 1-2hr earlier and going home 1-2hr earlier.
Good for you for getting back on track though bruv. It's going to be hard and you're going to want to quit and go back to what's cozy (NEETing) but deep down you know that's not the answer. You will get mentally and emotionally stronger through perseverance.
>be me, drinking and watching movies with the guys (Barbie is kino btw, look deeper into it's take on modern feminist theory and some of its failings) >conversation leads to sex and porn somehow >homie sitting next to me pulls out phone and shows me years worth of porn videos saved on there, says there's gigs of it >I laugh, take his phone and wave it around the room, we all laugh but have a short talk about porn usage and it being a supplement for real sex >I'm a KHHV coomer, a couple guys there get buns on the regular, the others not so much >feel like shit afterwards because of how hypocritical I am for mocking him and that I'm part of the wider problem of sexless men and degeneracy >Idontwanttobehornyanymore.jpg
Yeah, it's hypocritical. But that's just being human anon. You've found something in your life that's at odds with how you believe things should be. You can change what you believe in or how you're living. Both are valid ways if solving this. You can also just keep living like you are, this might be a hot take but I think it's only natural we'll end up living contradictory lives, it's just something you won't be able to run away from; although in your particular case being a KHV coomer isn't really healthy, so maybe try to work on that.
I'm on the same boat, nearing 26 as a KHV and the way things are going I'll probably end up a wizard. In the past I was really hardcore about trying to quit porn at all cost and while taking it out of your life is certainly beneficial I was way, way too harsh on myself because of it, to the point of constant self-loathing. I had no sexual or romantic life to speak of and as a man of course I had desires that would go unfulfilled. Porn, no matter how bad it is, was my only way of having those experiences, even if indirectly. If you're addicted try to get that under control and get your life in order, but remember that porn consumption is a symptom of your issues, not their source. What you really need to do is bring those life experiences you're lacking into your reality, and the rest will be a lot easier to address.
Sure, I know just telling you to go get some relationships is worthless advice on its own, but just try to kinder to yourself. You're emotionally sick, and shaming yourself won't fix that.
I think i fricked up lads, got called about a potential jobinterview, i lost my last job, because my contract was up and there was layoffs, i think i sounded to desperate on the phone kek. They'll call tomorrow to tell me if i got the interview or not
>slept on my side last night >semi woke up to my arm numb from sleeping on it >in my mostly asleep state it felt like I was holding my ex >the conscious part of my brain knew it was fake, but it felt so realistic >stroked her hair and kissed her forehead for a few minutes until I rolled back onto my back to sleep for real
Just hit the 1 year mark but I still miss her.
>twink from Yoga class was hitting on me for most of last Friday >got my number and is messaging me flirty stuff >my wiener is rock hard just thinking about it
God please help me
I never thought I might lay my hand on a man... But that pretty blonde hair and the bubble butt are killing me.
I'm getting better about managing it but sometimes I still feel haunted by the piece of shit horndog teenager I was in the past, not only was I heavily unconscious in general at the time with extremely poor emotional control but I was so horny for my female friends at the time that while we did fool around a bit it inevitably turned the relationship toxic and it imploded by the end of hs
There was one incident in particular where I got really handsy with one of them, and while she reciprocated (not going all the way though) she was really pissed off at me the next day and literally recoiled from me. Obviously I apologized and it wouldn't even be the last time we fooled around but I still get these high anxiety moments where I think my punishment is coming right around the corner despite not having spoken to her in 5 years. I do have OCD and expect danger from a lot of places but this one in particular always hits especially hard.
I wish I could leave this state entirely and start fresh somewhere new but I can't afford it, I might just need to get a therapist until then.
Is it better than a woman seems to not care much about you leaving her or for her to seem sad and upset?
Genuinely cannot tell if this is what I suspected and she dgaf or she is worthwhile and is respecting my wishes. All she said was >Ok. Whatever you want
I don’t mean to sound like a hoe but idk I would have wished she’d have begged or something instead of indifference. Not for the ego stroke but as a confirmation she liked me. And that’s why I left her, she didn’t seem to be all that into me. Only when she was bored.
Diet coke please.
Mom just called, they had to put down one of our dogs today. He was 17 but in good health, then I guess just became rapidly ill over the last few days until he couldn’t get up anymore. We’ve had him since I was in 7th grade which is over half of my life.
I’m already in what I think is a depressive episode and I just feel numb.
Anon that dog lived 17 years most dogs I’ve known of lived to be around 10 at most. The oldest dog I knew lives to be 14. That’s a long life for a dog. I know it hurts, I know this doesn’t help a lot, but you should be happy to have known him and grateful he got 17 years of being loved and part of a pack (family). I know this doesn’t help much, but take some time to mourn and then try to cherish the memories because 17 years truly is amazing for a dog, even one of those small rat dogs 17 is a long time.
Yeah, you shouldn't drink heavy when you're grieving. This is something only time can heal, but after a week or two, you'll need to get outside and keep doing the things you know are healthy. Don't make grief a long-standing habit.
That always sucks anon, no matter how you try to tackle it. A little over 1 year ago I lost both my canaries within one month of each other, and my cat got really close to dying as well, although he managed to recover and is doing well now. One of them was old and sickly and started to get worse over the course of a week until he finally died while I was trying to rush it to the vet, the other was young and full of energy until he just dropped dead one day. It's going to hurt no matter what, but tey to find solace in the good memories you've had with your dog, and don't try to just pretend it's not bothering you. Cry your eyes out if you meed to, just make sure to process everything you're feeling and give yourself the chance to mourn.
>allow myself to get close with girl at work >she seems to align herself with whatever I say >she laughs at all my jokes >she treats other guys with a sort of mild disdain >huh, maybe I'm just a chad now...
>the air is different today >she snaps at me over a trivial joke >about to reflexively apologise >then a matrix-like calm comes over me
>this feels exactly like the inciting incident to the last turbulent relationship I entertained, doesn't it
>stay the course, laugh about her over-reaction >immediately start the slow procedure of backing away from the friendship
Sad that it has to be this way, and annoyed at myself for handwaving her extreme mood swings at work, but happy with myself for not getting sucked in
Sorry, i wasnt clear but I had no intention of doing either, I've not been single for years. I just wanted a friend, but I guess the female attention was a bonus
>handwaving her extreme mood swings at work
So that was common or first time she snaps at you?
She is frequently on the verge of losing her shit, so I've been trying to help her out, but starting to realise that she is probably the problem. >ngmi attitude >anti-social comments >crazy levels of frustration over small things
I've had this kind of friendship in the past, and I always want to help them. But you can't help them.
If a girl turns down your offer of a date but still asks to hang out as friends, is there ever a chance of it moving into romantic territory? >plz no cuckposters responding. Serious answers only.
No, anon, sorry.
If you ask a girl out and she says no, it's over. You can't convince somebody to be attracted to you.
She could at some point randomly see you in a new light, but to wait around for that or try to influence the likelihood of that is a really bad use of your finite time on earth.
Just let it go. You can hang out if you've got nothing better to do, but don't blow off anything real for somebody who doesn't want to be with you.
Thanks dog. That's what a lot of people have been trying to tell me, but I had trouble believing them. Now that a random internet Anon told me the same I'm more inclined to believe for some reason.
I would consider hanging out as friends because girl-friends are pretty based, but don't expect anything romantically. Just don't paid for her shit don't be a moron
I have a few female friends (well, two I'd consider "close"), and while I'd always appreciate more I'm just not ready to see this girl as only a friend.
I would consider hanging out as friends because girl-friends are pretty based, but don't expect anything romantically. Just don't paid for her shit don't be a moron
Nta but I actually heavily disagree. I had female friends, many of them, from 18-23 and honestly I always hated it. They were fun at first, cool even but they became very annoying fast. It’s all the cons of having a girlfriend with none of the pros. Some of these girls were dykes, some the masculine variety some the feminine type, others were mentally healthy (straight), etc etc. All the same shit. I’ve even been friends with my bros GFs and it’s the same shit. They just get on my nerves they have very little to talk about that’s of any interest to me. The one I liked the most was this latina dike, she was cool and funny, hot too, but even she was a little annoying. Granted she and her GF kissed me on a night out and we cuddled together a few times, but still she was the most bro like of them all.
I would only have female friends if I could spoon and cuddle them. I don’t even care if sex is involved, I would need to at least cuddle with them. Otherwise they’re just this weak annoying creature who I have to watch out for and who wants to yap my ears off nonstop.
bros I need to find a way out of wagecucking. I am already saving like a mad man for the last 6 years. anyone here actually escaped the maze with actual work/savings, not asking about gambling/crypto scams. just the sheer thought of having to work for another 30 years drives me insane.
I’m right there with you man. I’m this angry homosexual
I know man but it’s almost demoralizing. It’s definitely motivating in some weird way, but at the same time demoralizing. I hope that if I can ever get rich like that, have frick you money, that I can remain humble and not change and ensure my children learn the same lessons I’ve had to learn. Like, they’re gonna have to work to buy their first car and it will be whatever used price of shit they can afford like I did for example. I’d like to be in a position that if I have kids I know they’ll be taken care of and never starve and not grow up in shitty areas, but I also don’t want them growing up clueless to how 90% of the world is and becoming some entitled c**t adult who’s never known struggle or difficulty. And that’s IF I ever get that kind of money.
These houses are mansions/estates/villas/bungalow btw, marble flooring and all. I’ve never seen anything like it irl.
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I’m already looking for better jobs but in all honesty I would take a $1 pay cut to go work at cvs down the street from me just to avoid driving so much and dealing with this bullshit. With the intention of it just being temporary until I find something else close that pays even more, of course.
I did ask the boss about starting earlier and he said yes & no. It depends on where I gotta go for the day. If any of the clients are a business/office then I can go there at 6am and hit up the houses later in the day (the rich frickers are on their own time, understandably). He still wants me to be done by 5pm anyways to get more clients handled so it’s pointless to do that on most days, I’m 1099 so any OT is normal pay too or else I’d be doing that. I hate it, but it’s a job. I was so depressed and anxious as a neet, it’s better than that shit. But bad in its own ways. Just a new dick assfricking me in a different way I suppose.
I finally got a job and I hate it. I can’t just quit I was sick of being broke and neet. But frick it took me 2 years just right get this job. It pays above min wage but still $4 less than I need to support myself. It’s just fricked bros. I definitely feel better in some ways mentally speaking but if I’m being honest I hate it. I hate driving so much. I hate the areas this job sends me to to work it’s all bougie rich peoples houses. I get so anxious driving on the highway. I have to leave at 7am to get there an hour early to start at 9am because if I leave any later I’ll be late due to the traffic and school zones. It’s an anxiety issue mainly but it puts me in a horrible and run down mood.
I hate seeing these rich people and their families just knowing those kids will never know struggle, and I don’t even just mean in an envious way it’s 50/50 envy and pitty. These frickers get to drive brand new Rolls Royces’ at age 16, but they’re also going to miss out on the lessons and shit most normal people have gone through. The owners of the houses frick idk where to start. They look at me like I’m cattle. If they get mad they speak like I’m a slave it blows my fricking mind how comfortable these fat and scrawny c**ts are talking any kind of crazy way to someone. Like they’re the type of people you know have never been punched before. I grew up poor, token whitey in the hood. It’s just common sense to me to treat people with a certain level of respect knowing you don’t know what they have going on how close they are to snapping or if they have nothing to lose. That’s an alien concept to these people they think they’re untouchable.
Yeah yeah I’m b***hing yeah yeah yeah I know shoulda been born to richer parents yadda yadda. I’m thankful for the stuff I’ve learned and things I’ve had to do like start working at age 13. But seeing this shit pisses me off.
Already decided if I get the chance I’m fricking someone’s wife.
. I hate it. I can’t even let the thoughts about this being my life for the next 30-50 years (idk, depends if our overlords decide to raise the age of retirement like they hope to) in because they drive me insane.
I’ve been trying to take mental notes and do research on my clients. I won’t say too much but one dude has a patent on a device used in literally everything from your vacuum to your car. That’s the type of shit I need to come up with. Some small stupid ass device that’s better than any alternative and everyone uses.
What I will say, is if you think you’ve figured something out do the following before you quit your job: have 1-2 years savings (I know, it could take a while) and get to a point where whatever you leave the job to do is making you money but can only make more if you had more time to dedicate to it. For example if I were to get into trading in my free time and I determined that the only way for it to make me more is if instead of 3-4 hours after work I was doing 6-10 hours every day of it, then I’d take the risk. Keeping in mind there’s 1-2 years of savings as a safety net.
Trading is a shitty example but I trust you understand what I mean.
I can’t take it either man. I want to be my own boss, I want to know the reason I’m pushing myself and stressing is purely for my own bank account and not a small percentage of the money I made some rich ass homosexual dickcheese mcdoogleson shlomo dickface who at most attends a meeting every week spending maybe 2 hours a day reviewing data that some other shmuck organized for him.
But I got nothing. I wish I could turn my hobbies into a business. 120k net profit and I’d be happy. Not rich, but comfortable.
Right now while I live at home I’m able to save about $1000/mnth. Because I’m not paying any rent. So that’s decent. I won’t be able to get my own place any time soon though because I would be lucky to even find roommates where my rent was $1000 in my area. Essentially, if I found a room, or somehow found a studio for $1000, I would need a second job to be able to save some when all is said and done.
To live on my own and still be able to save $100 a month I would need a job making like $23/hr. And you know what? If I could get 2 jobs within driving distance I would gladly work both if it meant I could do that. Shit, I would gladly work 80 hours a week if it meant not only being able to live on my own but also still saving enough that I could build my savings at a reasonable rate so I could entertain the idea of getting into a better field (meaning a pay cut and using $500ish from savings each month for a few years).
It’s not hopeless but I feel stuck. I want to get an electro na apprenticeship btw. If I can get $20k-$30k saved this year and get an apprenticeship starting next year I would enthusiastically do that, use some of those savings until they start paying me $23/hr in the 3rd year. And that’s just assuming I don’t have consistent weekly OT.
>Right now while I live at home I’m able to save about $1000/mnth. Because I’m not paying any rent.
okey thats literally me. I guess we both share the same anger. I got to around 85k, its not all lost but I feel like I need to make very big steps in terms of investement at the end of the year which will probably decide if I make it or not. Your situation doesnt sound that hopeless either. We will both make it.
Atm I have less than $10k. I have a ways to go. I got lost and rambled but you can see the frustration we share. I’m stressing about pulling off the bare minimum to just get some crappy apartment and be self sufficient. Yet I want to do more than wagecuck for the rest of my life. I’d like to own a business or two. Like I realize work is necessary it’s just how our world is, so may as well work for my own damn self. I just don’t know where to start. The electric na thing I mentioned is just because there’s a livable wage at the end of it with the possibility to start a business.
I really feel like I have to patent some niche item to make it big. Frick, if I could do that and it was making me frick you money I would unironcially sell the patent after 5-10 years for fairly cheap so long as I can get 10% of earnings so I didn’t have to continue working and just retire and use that money to do whatever the frick.
My gf showed me lots of pictures of herself from 4-6 years ago and honestly she used to be much hotter. I wish she could just realize that on her own and start eating healthier and going to the gym but with women it's never that easy
I get anxious approaching my birthday, not because of getting older but the idea of inviting people to celebrate makes me deeply uncomfortable for reasons I don't entirely understand. I vowed to myself this year I'd organize something and just making that promise and writing up a draft invite list resulted in me shutting down for about 4-5 weeks, lost gains in that time. I had friends but not really anyone close I think, so my brain was going >"invite a bunch of people, more than you normally would, and figure out who you want to keep around and who wants to stay around"
but I just keep hesitating pulling the trigger on organizing a venue and inviting people.
Starting to think I have anxiety, which is pretty far from what I feel my personality/mental health is, but I don't know what else is causing this.
*have friends.
and what I mean by close is like I'm not seeing or texting them constantly, idk I just feel like I'm not engaging people enough. I started working out for health reasons and also to get hot privileges, because I feel like I am ignored a lot. Not in a incel/I fricking hate everyone way more like a >if I just do this then I will get some more attention
Today is my birthday but I've never organized a birthday party because no one would come. I just invite my 2-3 close friends and go to a bar or watch a movie or something.
i had my birthday last week, the only one who did something major for me the last couple of years was my x girlfriend, this time it didn't feel special or anything
The only time I've "celebrated" my birthday was either when I was a child and my parents organised everything, or the two years when my girlfriend threw surprise parties for me.
Most of the times these days nobody even realises I've had a birthday until I tell them.
Same. On my last birthday back in December my gf ghosted me. I don’t celebrate them because I’ll just be sad otherwise. No one cares about me. I’m just another cog. A cattle meant to be milked of time and money. I would feel happier if people could just grow a spine and admit “yeah lmao I don’t care about you anon.” what hurts is how they’ll all claim to care, but when push comes to shove it’s radio silence.
In my adult life the one birthday I had was with some crappy friends and it was because they felt bad that they didn’t know and I accidentally let it slip when they asked why I was headed home early after hanging for a few hours. Even then, I was ignored the entire night while they all got blasted and interacted with each other. It was some kind of effort I suppose though, even if mostly an excuse for them all to get drunk again…
Yeah… call me crazy but I would assume if a woman loves, values, cares about, and just generally appreciates me and being in my life she would spend the day with me or slop me off or frick at minimum maybe send me some pics unprompted or at the very least send a text saying happy birthday… but like I said, no one really cares about me. Just what I can do for them. And I’m sure I would be the bad guy if I snapped and started using these people the same way they use me. I’m sure I’d be worse than the bad guy in that instance.
>i lift, i kind of assume everyone here does (i know thats not true)
yeah but some anons have home gyms and never go out unless it's for groceries >i autistically dont talk to anyone at the gym and blare music through my earbuds and grunt loudly.
used to be like that, I suggest enrolling in some class (I took up boxing), you'll meet cool people and feel like part of a community, maybe even meet girls
nta but I asked something similar in QTDDTOT so thanks for answering I suppose, thinking of joining boxing/running club to at least meet people my age since all the social help/mental help things here seem to be for older/middle aged people or people that are way worse off mentally than me
I think I posted this before but if you join a class/club make sure to force yourself to be social, always greet everyone personally with a handshake or whatever, engage with your training partners, ask them for help with techniques and such and try not to miss classes.
I joined 3 months ago and am already a regular on good terms with most people and almost all know me by name.
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Do you hang out with any outside of the classes? if it's a multiple times a week thing I don't suppose you'd have to but part of the reason I want to join is to try and make friends
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Not really, one of the younger guys (15) asked me to show him how to lift so I spent a few days showing him a basic routine and techniques and I asked out one of the girls so maybe what you're asking will come true in the future? But if not, just hanging around in class is fun enough, give it a try
Everything is going more or less ok apart from my social life. Basically no friends and turbo virgin at 24 in the summer. Not autistic, a lot of anxiety. University will be over soon and I have made no connections. I have wasted so much of my prime years. I feel awful and I want some kind of revenge.
Although this Friday in class i'll approach this girl that I've ran into a couple of times. Wish me luck or some
I've been having freak outs in the last days over my romantic loneliness. I get sinked in thoughts of self loathing whenever I think how I never ever had a partner. Today was a national celebration and all I saw were couples, young or older with kids, having fun. And I was once again wandering around alone. I feel like a leper and like I'm castrated and emasculated it drives me nuts. I've learned to love the advantages of being single but everything has its limits.
My dieting and other aspects of my life have gone to shit because of I can't handle all this. I basically lift just to lash out at this point. I think it's starting to become too difficult to deal with since I'm heading into my 30s.
I can only hope I'm gonna find someone before summer because I know I'm not gonna make it through it again all alone.
I guess im struggling with the same things as you guys. Work, money, girls. But struggling is not a negative in any way. Just like steel needs to be folded and melted until its strong, we also need to put ourselves under pressure for things to go our way. Theres no need for going over the details. Im probably on the same page as any of you.
I mean I have a similiar outlook on life and daily struggles as long as they bring me one step closer. For a lot of people however its just a struggle without anything to gain out of it, that in itself is the frustrating part.
Can we make it a rule that people post their age alongside their problems? It helps me tailor my response from when somebody says >wah I'll never find a gf I've been single all my life
As a 16 year old, versus a 50 year old
I don't get why so many people and modern society in general thinks happiness is about feeling good and being comfortable all the time.
Every time I have a break for a longer period, after exams usually, I start to feel like shit very quickly. Even though I exercise a lot, have a good diet, etc. and am not neglecting any responsibilities. As soon as I get back into being productive, even mildly stressed, I feel great. This idea that you just need to give a person a comfy room, some snacks and shield them from any harm and they will be happy is so obnoxiously childish. Even worse, the people who think we should just stuff sad people full of chemicals while they continue living their shitty lives
I have fire withing me that burns every day, especially at night and none of my current outputs (job, gym, martial arts, chasing women) can extinguish this fire.
The only thing that can consume this fire is the mission of a single man to build an empire of his own. A business, a legacy and a strong family. I need to start soon, i am 28 and the starting years have already approached. God give me the creative spark I need to begin my journey. I have been moulded by my experiences and I am now ready for this mission to begin.
All the best to my IST bros. Keep on fighting the good fight, dont let the darkness overcome you.
I am getting a fire to organize and get all domestic and organize a kitchen that I can come back to day after day. Fully stocked. No more minor grocery trips every other day.
I don't get why so many people and modern society in general thinks happiness is about feeling good and being comfortable all the time.
Every time I have a break for a longer period, after exams usually, I start to feel like shit very quickly. Even though I exercise a lot, have a good diet, etc. and am not neglecting any responsibilities. As soon as I get back into being productive, even mildly stressed, I feel great. This idea that you just need to give a person a comfy room, some snacks and shield them from any harm and they will be happy is so obnoxiously childish. Even worse, the people who think we should just stuff sad people full of chemicals while they continue living their shitty lives
I find I do my best work when I am pissed off, it sends me into overdrive. But, people also hate that about me. "Whats wrong?"
I mean I have a similiar outlook on life and daily struggles as long as they bring me one step closer. For a lot of people however its just a struggle without anything to gain out of it, that in itself is the frustrating part.
I find myself since covid going backwards financially. I lost a lot of money because no way in hell should I inherited so much money when I was at home with nothing to do. I ended up losing more money than I got to the stock market, and then on top of that I owed the IRS. I've relaxed now and stopped taking so much risk to make it, and in the next couple years much of my debts will have rolled off.. But I still feel like my pay hasn't caught up with inflation.
Professional photos are too jarring / try-hard for dating apps. The best photo is if someone else takes a phone pic of you under ideal lighting, preferably sitting at a 3/4 view. You can fake the "someone else" and mount your phone on a tripod or something.
Girls actually tend to like my photo where I was teaching another girl how to shoot manual with a dslr camera. Its me shirtless at a beach with hickeys on my chest if they stare hard enough. I'm not amazing looking but its shot with "soul" that females appreciate.
same but the issue for me is the only way its being quenched is not really possible for me cause I wanna get into politics and make systematic change in my country but cause of a lot of factor outside my control like my ethnicity and not having really good connections cause of the former, I probably can't go that far or will never be given a real opportunity to change things no matter how hard I try.
so I'm just sitting here being sad all the time cause I'm trying my hardest to make a change but can't achieve anything significant to quench that desire while those who were given all the opportunity to do so squander it or don't care to do anything mainly the latter.
Haven't had sex with my wife in 6 months.
I got tired of always being the one to initiate so I stopped and here we are 6 months later and she hasn't brought it up or tried to initiate once.
lol this happened to me in college. I broke up with a girl, and then I think she tried to "win me back" by fricking my brains out for a few weeks. I still didn't get back together with her haha
>gf a bit chubby since forever >got told by a doc last year she needs to lose 10 lbs >year goes by, she made 0 efforts >she tels me she actually gained 10 lbs instead >it's noticable
should i just break up with her, she even said she doesn't believe in bmi and tha gyms are not for her
while i didn't mind her starting weight it was the biggest i could find attractive, i hoped she's lose some but instead it's a downward spiral now
it's so fricking over bros
i hate sales jobs so much bros...but they pay more than anything, i wanna get into security, but my parents keep saying "we didnt pay for years of education so you can be some guard" and "there is no future in the business".
I don't really drink but I think now's the time to just unload. The girl I'm in love with has PTSD from being harassed by her ex and by other men all throughout her life since she has a high appeal. The constant harassment turned her into a misogynist and the only reason I managed to snag her was because I was her best friend since 7th grade. I confessed my attraction to her during 10th grade prom and we've been together ever since.
Unfortunately, by 11th grade her mental health took a turn for the worse, with therapeutic sessions and drugs having little to no help. She also has threatened and attempted to kill herself multiple times. In spite of this, I still love her since what made me like her was the fact that in her good days, she can appreciate the simplest things. Even the mere color of the sky or anything cute can make her smile shine the brightest.
I chose to take Bachelor of Marine Transportation inside an academy and due to stringent schedule and regulations, I haven't been able to provide her with updates and support since as a cadet, we were only allowed to go home for Christmas Leave or during long weekends if there was any. I've taken to smuggling a cellphone so I can keep tabs with her but I couldn't use it every day since being caught with one can lead to harsh punishment such as deferment of 1 year or possible termination.
Ffw today and I just got off in February from a 1 month shipboard training program. This caused a buildup of academic tasks, in addition to having to prepare for midterms and write a research paper all on top of that which is why I couldn't communicate with her. I admit I'm not perfect and we've had our fair share of arguments but I think by this point its time to call it quits.
I've lost sense of who I am due to this relationship, and have let more than a couple bridges burn for the sake of her. I've been warned by friends to let this shit go time and time again but I believe that Love is a decision and over time, I can fix her or make improvements but just as everything, too much of one thing is bad. Last week, she once again brought up an argument that we've had for the last 3 years and honestly by this point I think that even if we were to continue this relationship, the lack of trust would be compounded by the hectic schedule of a seafarer, especially since I'll be having my sea-year leave in a couple of months.
I think I need to find myself, shore up foundations of who I want to be and build better boundaries so that my partner can be happy. Time wouldn't make me love her any less, but I hope it would let me handle what happened better. If someday in the future we can commit ourselves to each other once again then I wouldn't be against it as long as both of us has become better as a person
I started balding, and hair was the only thing holding me back from being a legit 2/10
I wanna quit everything, it's pointless, i'll die a virgin now. Why lift?
>horny girl has to drag me to bed because I missed half the signals and messed up every chance
At least I got laid at the end, she thought I was playing hard-to-get...
How are you even meant to act when a girl is into you? Like, she compliments your body, grabs your arms and chest
>be fat and depressed >start lifting and eating healthier >lose weight and become less depressed >injure myself lifting >next day find out i have a hemorhoid >can't lift because pain >can't sit because pain >can't eat away the pain because fat >lay in bed depressed all day
Getting back to eating right
Getting back consistent with gym
Tackling something mental health wise and trying to reach out to friends rather than going with alcohol or women.
Text a girl at 1am on the weekend and never got it open, start thinking I was an unlovable frick up and was about to move on and how of course she would never reply.
Get a text back and instantly feel better.
My brain annoys me but besides that it feels good to be back.
at the end of the day some girls are just cute and nice enough that all the effort is worth it for them
weeding the bad ones is hard, but once you find a nice one then you are relieved you never gave up
by 25 they are pretty much sorted out and you can see for a mile the ones that are too entitled to be worth giving your affection to
Anybody else looking forward to their eternal sleep? I'm just so tired of this world and life. Can't wait for that sweet eternal rest. Would be even nicer if I could just go to sleep and never wake up again, no suffering just eternal non-existence.
don't lose hope anon. it will get worse, grimer, more hopeless. you won't find any sense on breathing to keep going. you now wish for death. there'll come a time when you won't even want that.
Come on, JIDF; if you feel that bad about life, go join your friends in the IDF in Gaza. Maybe they can hand you a dead man’s Ak, shoot you & get credit for killing HAMAS. Everybody wins!
So is the dopamine detox just a meme or is there actual merit to it?
I get you can rewire your brain to allocate dopamine more appropriately through strengthening discipline but I want to know more about this kind of thing
Proud of you bro. Did you throw “Uber eats and doordash” on your resume like I suggested?
I actually realized it’s an amazing hack to avoid gaps because they cannot verify it, even if you flat out lie and don’t do those apps there’s no way for them to prove it no supervisor to contact nothing.
thans bro
we actually don't have any of them here, but i have worked on a friends website just to keep me busy and have something for the gap in resume, So i could add SoMe and website on it
I don't know what to drink for this feel. I'm open for suggestions.
My relationship with my GF is in the shitter. Has been for a while. It also bled over to my family relations, but I've managed to start fixing those. All I hear is that I'm not good enough, not loving enough, not man enough, not good looking enough, I don't love her, nobody has ever loved me, she's the only one who ever loved me and so on. The longer we're together, the worse all this seems to get. There's good moments in between, but it always spirals back into a mess.
I tried all I fricking could. Hell, I even paid our mortgage for a while and took a tattoo of her name. Now she was fricking some dude she's had a crush on for a while (with permission; we both do this sometimes) but instead of something fun, she now threw this as a weapon into my face when I took initiative to fix my family relations.
fml. In general I do well. I earn in the top 5% of my country, I'm fit, good looking, dress well and so on. This thing keeps on eating the frick out of my soul. I don't know what the frick to do.
You really should just dump her if you can at this point >with permission; we both do this sometimes
Still doesn't make it healthy in the slightest, if yall were having 3somes it would be different but this only serves to drive a wedge further in your relationship
Just cut her loose, she seems extremely toxic and manipulative in general
>All I hear is that I'm not good enough, not loving enough, not man enough, not good looking enough...
I was like you, I sincerely though that women do it on purpose. They dont. She is a little girl who is unhappy. Her dad, you, is responsible for her being happy, you are not doing it properly, so she is upset at you and this is her pre breakup soul scream for you to wake up. You think she wakes up to hurt you and herself? She would rather love you to death and be happy
What she is saying is not literal. She is saying that RIGHT NOW in THIS MOMENT she FEELS unloved, uncared and unprotected. Because of your behaviour and leadership. If I would posses your body and kidnap her on spontaneous mysterious romantic date in a motel, her tune would change 180 degrees for a few days
>The longer we're together, the worse all this seems to get
Yeah, you keep acting like weak cold neurotic child. Reread your messages when you first met her and remember your first dates. You acted differently. So you tricked her in the end
>Hell, I even paid our mortgage for a while and took a tattoo of her name
I can buy you a rolex right now, but you are not going to lovingly suck my wiener and then think about me in your bed, would you? You are not making her feel like loved woman
>Now she was fricking some dude she's had a crush on for a while
Yeah, he is more manly that you are
>with permission; we both do this sometimes
Women never respect weak degenerates bound by lust. Respect is love. You fricked it up
>she now threw this as a weapon into my face
Yeah honey, I dont care about you to make you feel loved and fulfiled, but go frick another guy I dont care. It wasnt a weapon, its a reflection of your actions as a man. Women are mirrors
>I don't know what the frick to do
She is not loyal. You are not a man. Wait for a break up, use the pain to understand how dysfunctional you are and do better with the next one
Go to places you enjoy or have interest in. Pay attention to the demographic. Go on different days at different times. Eventually find a place with women. I don’t give this out a lot because I still need to get lean to use it but
The manga section of a bookstore, comic shops. Anime and shit is becoming more and more mainstream. Hot b***hes are into it now. Most men you find at these places are geeks. Look better, be slightly better socially than them and just in the IRL comparison it could make you look multiple points on your X/10 more attractive. You have something to talk about as an “in”, easy way to gauge interest, it’s a good idea.
Conventions too. >Yo it’s [character]! Your cosplay is so great! >thanks I worked so hard on it I’m glad someone recognized it >ask how she made it, what materials various parts are made from, progress this into talking about the anime, cut it short grab number hit her up another time
(pro tip: just text her your name then and there and then never hit her up, let her hit you up. If she doesn’t nothing is lost. If she does then she’s approaching from a submissive position and will have some level of investment, fearing rejection)
i dont read books, manga, or the news anymore. havent kept up with tv shows, movies, anime, music etc since i finished uni 5 years ago. i wake up, lift, eat, work, run, eat, sleep, and repeat every single day of the week. i cant even begin to remember the last time i had a conversation with a "friend" or properly spoke to my family, let alone hit on a woman, so all ive got in life is work, savings, and a piece of shit car that im too cheap to upgrade. this is what complete and utter stagnation looks like friendos
How can I be satisfied for a moment? I achieved all my lofty goals for the last 3 years but now all I can think about is how I dont have a GF. But I remember when I had a GF I often missed my alone time.
Why can't I just be content for a moment?
Because you pursue your wants instead of your needs
Unironically get high. I'm usually a worry or ruminator...never present. A toke brings you to the here and now. Don't get blitzed like a space cadet, just mellow. Get creative, go for a bike ride or walk, garden or work on a project, change your oil in your car, or meditate. Anything that brings you to the present. Call a friend, call your mum, bookstore browse, volunteer, people watch alfresco in a nice cafe. Y
>lift six days a week
>quit drinking
>melancholy never ends
What do I do? What else can I even do at this point? I can barely get out of bed
well do you have any other goals set for yourself? You need something to give yourself purpose
Sounds like you hit all your big goals and now with nothing actionable to do your putting pressure on yourself to achieve something that mostly comes down to luck like getting a GF
A GF can't make you whole, a GF is meant to enhance your life when it's already going good for you, take pride in the fact you set goals and reached them in the first place.
>A GF can't make you whole, a GF
>a supporting person can't greatly improve your life
frick off
Being whole and having an improvement in life are 2 totally different things, anon. Admittedly poor analogy, but that's like saying having a car is going to make you whole. It won't make you self-actualized or living life how you really want to, it'll just make some things a little easier to do.
A GF is not going to fix all the problems you have. She might fix a couple, might help you deal with a few problems, and actually cause new problems to arise. But being whole as a person has to come from you.
That would be accurate anon, though having a partner in life is usually a major aspiration that people have. But you can hit self-actualization/respect for yourself well before that.
Bupropion. Not an SSRI, has no side effects, makes you horny as frick and stopped me ruminating all day.
Same here. Lifting just helps me quiet my brain for a moment. Otherwise I'm just going through the motions. I feel like I'm just wasting time.
Just add some more stuff to do. Add cardio dont just lift weights. You are doing things for physical health,now do the same for mental. Start meditating,write diary,starr socialisi ng erc. Make some new goals and achieve them. Dont know what new goals to set? Think. Everything starts with idea.
Do you engage in sex or masturbation outside of pro-creation? Do you ever lie, cheat, steal, or deceive even just a little bit? Also try getting off screens. Also go to church. Think about all the things that were considered to lead to unhappiness 100 years ago but seem to be acceptable now, and stop doing those. Also be assertive and express anger to people that are responsible for causing the anger. Lack of motivation isn't extreme sadness, it's often the consequence of repeatedly repressed anger.
Quit using the internet. Im miserable if I spend more than 30 min on IST or Twitter. Its like putting ur brain in a washing machinę and expecting it to work. Your mind (subconscious) dictates how you feel based on its current state. You will feel lifeless and done after tunnel visioning terabytes worth of random content into it but dont believe me.
why are you on IST right now then?
Because im weak
fair. Well i'm here to tell you if you don't get off right now then youre a big gay and i fricked your mom.
Honestly, look at your phone less. Go sit and be bored with your thoughts for 30 minutes.
It also takes a few weeks to a month or two to recognize changes you're feeling. And getting through it takes practice. You have to do reps of feeling joy and being happy about something starting small. Your emotional muscles are DYEL right now.
Remember to enjoy the present a bit more, take care guys.
Coming to terms with knowing my current relationship's probably not gonna last and wondering wether to look for someone to at least have back up comfort/regular physical contact with or focus on myself a bit first, on the upside I seem to be getting the hang of meditation a bit more since last time, even if I have to use earplugs so my breath is louder
Corny as it is I have a ''smile more'' note next to my PC to remind me of the little things
Just water please
Also frick gynecomastia. Cant wait to get the fricking surgery
I have stage 1 myself but after seeing that the surgery would cost 5-10k I'll accept having puffy nipples for the rest of my life
If you can't save 5-10k in 6 months how the frick can you afford the internet?
Because I have more important things to put that money towards instead of a cosmetic surgery for a very mild condition
Translation: I'm poor and lazy and stupid
>trying to poke someone in a feels bar like an xbox live motherfricker
nta but I never understood your type, truly pathetic
Get a job
Suicide might be your best option at this point my man.
Also nta. I just really hate you.
>If you can't save 5-10k in 6 months how the frick can you afford the internet?
were you mid aneurysm when typing that
I dont even care about the price anymore. This shits breaks your mind. My only worry is that there are no gyno specialized surgeons in my country and I dont know if a regular surgeon could do it without fricking my shit up
$10k???
Where the frick are you? Travel for surgery. Not even abroad. Surgery in California costs WAY more than in a place like Arizona, New Mexico, or Wisconsin.
I got it for free in Poland
Dont get your hopes up homie. I did it, they took the glands out but i'm stuck with big deflated nips. Still can't wear tank tops or tight shirts. The only thing that I got going for me is that at least I can be at peace with myself knowing I did everything I could. Still worth it tho
Show us the nips please, Anon. Need to see what they look like post-surgery, for other overweight Anons considering the procedure.
I haven't had sex in like 2 weeks, I'm going insane.
Was laid off recently and have the 3rd round of interviews for this one company tomorrow. I have nothing to complain about nor do I need any advice, but I could use some good luck wishes. I must get a job BEFORE I start burning through the savings.
I'm kind of grateful for the layoff in a weird way - I broke up with the gf the right before I got the notice, and my searches and interviews have kept me busy and didn't allow me to wallow in the usual post-breakup bullshit.
We sex havers truly suffer the most, truecels could never
Just thug it out. Do shit despite whatever mood you're in. Also check your hormones including vitamin D. Our state of mind is so dependent or our gut biome, lymphatic flow, and hormonal balance, it's not even funny.
>What do I do?
In your case specifically either start drinking again or wait till your hormones catch up with your brave decision to quit.
I’m not drinking again. I’ll have an NA beer on the shower after the gym but that’s as far as I go now. 76 days sober
>I have nothing to complain about nor do I need any advice, but I could use some good luck wishes.
Go get it chief
Good luck anon
Whiskey on the rocks. Finally got back into the gym today and am starting a new calorie counting plan on the lose it app to get my weight down. 33 @ 5'8 and weigh 216 lbs. I'm doing it as much for myself but in reality I'm also doing it for dating purposes.
I tried dating again at the end of last year after my ex fiance fell out of love and left me, and partially at the beginning of this one. I'm not thrilled with the results that the apps. It's been mostly broken women. I'm hoping to get the results I want by autumn this year and be able to pull women that don't have to be perfect physically but at least look like pic related.
Bro I don't wanna get you down but women that look like that still demand high tier dudes because dudes will frick them for their big ass tiddies so they think that's the tier they deserve for dating.
When you say high tier are you referring to rich? I'm hoping that by getting fit, shedding fat, and updating my wardrobe I have a better chance if the halo effect will give me a boost from it.
I’m so glad I never let myself get this fat holy frick. Thank the stars for making me realize that I was fat with only 30lbs to lose. It must be so hard to lose all that weight as a woman and then even IST fat dudes don’t even want you. What a fricking cursed existence I almost walked into. Whew thanks for your sobering post anon. Every woman should be aware of this looming fate.
Need to channel all my horny energy into work for the next several hours. If I don't do at least 2 major things by tonight, I'm fricked for the week
I've been really diving deep into psychology and spiritualism these past couple months, I've really liked the ideas of Integral Theory and the evolution of consciousness and am going to move onto learning about Mind Body Dualism next.
But I feel like as I start getting into higher levels of consciousness and empathy it has become next to impossible for me to regard our society with any level of compassion. Really starting to feel like the NPC meme is real unironically, it just baffles me that there are orders of magnitude more people who are completely unconscious and ignorant of second order consequences than people who actively work to become more worldly and more capable of approaching their emotions and behaviors from an objective position.
It's making me quite weary just thinking about it.
Anon, I'm the biggest occultgay you'll ever meet, so let me say it clearly: you're memeing yourself into treating spirituality as a way to express your internalized elitism. You're no more special than anyone else, no better. The only thing you'll get out of continuing your research at this point is an ever increasing sense of alienation and contwmpt for everything and everyone around you, which will inevitably make you miserable in the end. Stop for now and go work on your own self for a while and tey to explore what makes you feel that way and consider new perspectives that could prove you wrong. Only when your foundation is solid and you have a pretty solid grasp of who, what and why you are go back to your spiritual pursuits.
I'm not that anon but it's rare to find a non/x/-tier schizo occultgay, any book recs or resources you can share? It's an interesting field but it's hard to sift through all the bullshit.
Occultism is just an umbrella term for a bunch of non-mainstream spiritual pursuits, and there are as many branches as there are religions they branched out of. If you're interested in western traditions it's always a good idea to read up some of the moore esoteric works from the greek philosophers like Plato's Phaedrus and Republic as a primer for the kind of mindset involved before reading the Kybalion and Hermes Trimegistus's Corpus Hermeticum and The Emerald Tablet (NOT to be confused with the book of the same name about Ancient Aliens shit). That is more or less the basic work that founded most of the western and islamic esoteric and occultist traditions, and whichever part of it resonates the most with you you can pursue further on your own through some research. I could give you some names but there's honestly so much stuff that's in opposition to each other it's a bit pointless to try nanmedropping them to a beginner.
Personally I'm also quite interest in eastern esoterica, specially Buddhist traditions from the Vajrayāna tradition. Fortunately there it's much easier to conduct surface level research and find your own way into study and practice.
I'll admit I've had issues with ego in the past but my point was after learning to separate myself from my ego I notice just how many people haven't, or deliberately choose to indulge their egos despite how it affects others around them.
I wasn't trying to make myself sound elitist, moreso asking how I can become more compassionate despite these observations I've made.
Interesting. The more I connect to spirit, the more I connect with entities in other realms (it is surprising who is "hanging around" - thoughts are certainly transmitted through the ether).
Agreed on NPCs, it makes it harder to connect with people beyond competitive sports, viral videos and shitty food and alcohol.
Any books you care to recommend?
Saw today that my x has a new boyfriend, i fuxked her a few months ago. So it was Weird that she had anoyther guy. We did break up almost 8 months ago. So we were just fricking around with each other. But my reaction isnt what i expected. Like i’m happy for her, and wish her the best
I'm going to sound pretentious and condescending but I'm done with hooking up and one night stands.
It makes me feel numb and dead inside. It's just friction at this point.
I've having a difficult time achieving erections, and cumming. It's just making these women feel horrible about themselves.
I kissed my last hook up while having sex, she looked at me like she was in love, yet I felt nothing for her.
The only thing that has a semblance of excitement for me is seeing them naked for the first time and touching their bodies. But that feeling is so fleeting.
I feel broken. I just want to feel love and warmth. Something real and authentic. I need passion and romance. I want someone who'll say, I am yours and you are mine.
I'm just not sure if there are any viable women left out there.
Everyone is just concerned of projecting coolness, of being fun, flirty, funny, and never taking anything too serious.
I know I'm rambling. I'm sorry. It's just too tiring.
I said that too a couple years ago.
However every month you go without finding an actual quality love to replace it with you just wind up going back to frick randos more.
Playerbros, how do you go from getting the number/social media to arranging a date and going back to your apartment? I don't have trouble approaching women and asking them out but I need tips for sealing the deal over so to speak. Help a brother out please.
Just ask them out. Be straight forward.
>
>hey baby gurl are you into archaeology?
>her response (no, yeah, why)
>because I have a large bone for you to examine
>her response
>what are you doing (tomorrow/friday/sunday)
>her response
> No. You're going out with me (insert date location/activity)
That is literally how ive gotten every single date.
>I've having a difficult time achieving erections, and cumming
you're just low T lmao
It seems you are ready to move up with connections beyond the carnal. What will you plan to do from here?
>is a manprostitute who just hooks up with people nonstop
>lol there’s no viable women left out there, they are all prostitutes, but not me, I deserve the best lol
I'll have diet coke, but put it in a wine glass. I'm mostly focused on Lent beginning tomorrow (tonight, really), gonna have to make an effort to stay focused on good things; and that means not going on IST lmao, so this will be my last shitposting session for a while. My plan is to fast until Saturday, got a lot of books lined up to keep me busy; and the weather is beautiful, so I'll be able to get a nice walk in every day. I think I'll hit the gym too, get a few lifts in, hit the sauna. Man, it's gonna be a long week, I'm super excited, this will be my longest fast ever by a solid margin.
My dad is dying of cancer. I've gotta go visit and sit with him at the hospital today. Give me a stiff drink if you will barkeep.
That sucks anon. Go be there for your old man.
That’s rough, anon. Take it one day at a time. People get old and sick. You have to appreciate them when you have them
I'm really sorry bro. My father passed away this time last year. Cherish what remaining time you have with him and make things right
You're a good son man. We all gotta see our parents out of this life one day and the better they did their job the harder it is.
Bummer. My papa died a couple years ago and I feel like I let him down. Spend time with him, hes the only dad you get.
Be strong man
My dad is a cancer survivor. I'm lucky to still have him around. Be strong, anon.
I had 4 exams in the past two weeks. I failed two of them, but I didn't study so I only have myself to blame. I got C's on the other two, but I studied my ass off for both of them over a week in advance and felt so confident when I took them. So I'm very pissed that my hard work amounts to a mediocre product.
I'm fricking moronic and this has been my entire college experience. I hate school.
I can relate with the feelings of failure. It's growth, all the best have failed in one way or another on their paths. At least you are taking responsibility. Perhaps arrange a meeting with an academic student assistant on campus and see whether they can assist you with study planning your semester's course work and readings and scheduling etc. I did this with someone at my uni, could be the game changer you need.
It sucks that I can’t meet anyone my age when I go outside. When the weather is nice, like today, I go outside and bike long distances. Recently, I’ve been pretty lonely so I thought to myself maybe I can find someone to ride with or chat when I’m taking a break. Nope. I covered thirty miles of residential neighborhoods to semiurban neighborhoods. Every person I came across was either elderly, people in their 30s with children, or the occasional dog walker. Barely any whites around (this is nyc). I really think I’m doomed to never have close friends or a girlfriend again.
Been 1.5 months since I broke up with gf and today I missed her more than usual. I broke up because:
>no common interests
>she has zero interest in exercise and diet (gaining weight slowly)
>crippling student debt with no real job and plan
>adhd, bpd, which makes it hard to have deep conversations and connect with her
>weed addiction
>different view about marriage (she wants, I don't)
So in the end it was probably better for both of us to go separate ways but she also had many green flags:
>virgin before meeting me
>attractive and high sex drive
>have no doubt about her loyalty, she really loved me
So on these boring lonely weekends I feel stupid and sad for feeling like I kicked away something that was good in my life. I wanted to find a gymfu with similar interests that I can connect better with, I don't care if she isn't a virgin, because like I said, I am not looking for marriage. I like to think we made the right decision but on these long lonely weekends i don't know...
You'll regret it until you meet someone, unless you never meet someone.
Women move on fast though, 3 hours and they have 99 likes on tinder
>bpd
>virgin before meeting me
Should we tell him?
Rum and coke please.
Bros I'm addicted to escorts. Idk how to stop the sex addiction, I limit myself to $500 a month but my love for money out ways the itch for poon.
How do sex havers get self control. It's like being a coomer but with a woman. It's an itch I can't stop scratching.
Pic related, I'm not even kidding it's how I feel evertime I meet a new girl. I can't get enough of NEW.
Help me
I'm not even joking, it's funny yes but I'm actually serious
You have to experience love in your life. Once you do your idea if sex completely changes. It’s no longer some animalistic hunger. It’s blissful. Hard to describe. But you’re wedded to the person whom you love. You don’t think about big breasts ans big asses. You think about the emotional connection.
It's all I ever wanted from a girl but never had. Its hollow but when I stopped thinking about it, it became like a drug
You sign up for TER? Thinking about making an account but opsec
I use leolist homie
>opsec
Every prostitute where I live is chill and doesn't care that I radiate florescent green in the dark
Do you allow prostitutes to screen you or do you just skip them. Seems to be the new meta.
I skip screening but the hottest I've seen do screen
Funnily enough, thats what i was about to share.
Not that often tho, i probably went to see an escort 3 times last year, but everytime was a different one.
The excitement or little stress spike i have when she opens the door for me to come in is what i also like. Will she actually be the person in the photo or is it fake ? Will it be good ? Hey ive walked past this building a lot of times, what are appartments like in it ?
Obviously theres been a few times where a cutie was advertised and a fat older asian chick opened the door and i told her " ? Is this a joke ?" and walked off, but it feels so good to meet a complete stranger and get butt naked right in front of her with literally zero remorse or care for whether she considers me an idiot or not.
I like the fact that we have zero connections : shes a nobody, im a nobody. Theres never a risk shes going to tell my friends. Thats sort of reassuring and somewhat setting me free for an hour..
I always go for half hours (h/h).
They're usually $100 less and you don't always last the full hour anyway.
I lost my wizard hat in Dec. Literally went from 0 at the age of 30 + 2, to 7 in the span of 4 months
What does $500 gives you ? An hour for 2x intercourse ? Any recommended sites which dont have much fake/spam offers/profiles?
https://threadreaderapp.com/thread/1350299509633347586.html
Interesting read for a noob like me, thanks anon
I have lived with a constant feeling of dread for so long I can't recall when it started, but yesterday a bit before I went to bed it elevated itself to a panic attack and a stronger than usual urge to end it all. I wasn't in pain or sad or anything, I was just scared but I don't even know what of. I got some awful sleep and woke up this morning hoping it would be gone but it is not. I hate my job but I am so emotionally uncomfortable right now I am happy I have work in the morning so I can distract myself with coworkers and mundane tasks. Usually when I'm stressed I just rub one out and feel better afterward but this is something different.
Strangely I was not abused as a child, I kinda just turned out this way.
>Look at front page of site they listed
>$600 for an hour with this thing
holy moly. Is she paying me?
lmao
$600 AN HOUR FOR THAT?! Jesus Christ inflation is just awful.
I'm the Carl wheezer anon, I use leolist and verified profiles.
Girls varrie from $180 h/h to $250 h/h for a good one (h/h is half hour for you non-prostitute connoisseurs)
Half an hour is honestly crazy. I'm assuming it's at least counting half an hour of sex time, without the chatting, driking, foreplay bits?
It varies on the girl. Sex is most of it. What annoys me is some girls allow kissing, others allow DATY (eating pussy), while the average don't.
The one I like lets me do anything, hard to find
I had the same problem anon, it was almost monthly for about 15 months. One of my worst nights I slept with one, not satisfied, and starting trying to organize another and had No2 within an hour. I fell into it because I was about to turn 24 and was a virgin, so decided to solve that 'problem' but ended up addicted, I'm just glad I got addicted to pussy rather than hard drugs. I just wanted to get some practice so when I fricked someone I didn't pay for I wouldn't be useless.
What happened is I got uncomfortable with how much I spent, I was keeping track.
Then I actually became friends with one of the last girls I hired, so I'm shooting her porn now, I'm treating it as covering the expense I made.
Further still I still have the problem to a lesser degree but I go to a massage parlour now to keep the costs down, beautiful ethiopian/australian girl that I get along well with.
I did finally have sex without paying for it, and it went extremely poorly, not because of the addiction, actually for an entirely separate reason beyond my control. But just hanging out in bed talking to that girl was the highlight of my year, I just wish I could have fricked her properly. Much like actually losing my virginity I got/still am attached, but more so out of a missed connection/what if sense than a I'm in love with her sense.
get me some of that armagnac
well, today's my birthday. and it's not happy anymore, i've only got a few years left in my 20s
my life's not really where i want it to be, i am often lonely and i wish i had a more vibrant social life
with that said, i feel like i have been moving in a more positive direction these last few months, and i've been absolutely crushing it in the gym, so here's hoping anons.
Happy Birthday Anon.
The only upside to being lonely is grinding away at hobbies and learning to be okay with your own company. Most people past 30 end up addicted to something and distracted from their own thoughts.
Whether I take love seriously or not, I still will be lucky if I ever convince some poor girl to take a chance on me
this is gonna sound crazy as I'm 29
I thought I was 177 for years now
I might be 173 or something idk
I never double checked 177, I was happy with it, but a (seemingly) faulty tape measure put me at 173 the other day. I will double check tmr but I literally just realised I never had my height checked, at all, by an official source, in a decade at least lol
Damn I was fricking tripping I thought you meant you thought you were 177 years old, that would've been pretty funny kek.
>Are they... VENTING AND SHARING ADVICE?!?!?!
>NOOOOOOOOOO THEY SHOULD BE POSTING IN MY PORN THREAD REEEEEEEEEEEEE
stay malding doompostBlack person
nah, these threads get a pass. it's like a tavern where we can all leave our battle axes at the door and wipe the sweat off our brow and sit down an commiserate before anonymously baiting each other into seething in other threads
Fellas, I don't think I'm ever going to mature. I can progress intellectually, I can think clearly and handle my responsibilities, get shit done, but I'm emotionally a child. On top of it, I'm both gullible and paranoid. I've focused on my physical health for a long time, but I still hate my body, it feels like a prison I am confined inside. Therapy bounces right off me. I end up thinking "They hurt me? Why? I love them." and can't get past it.
How old are you, anon? What's yoir life like in general, professionally, relationships, use of personal time, etc.?
You're gonna say I'm too young to be worrying about this, and maybe you're right. I'm nineteen. I do not have much of a life. I never went to school. Dad was an addict. Beat the shit out of me. Never have made real friends, never dated. Most of my free time I spend outside, swim a lot, walk a lot. Pretty much have nothing going on. I go to the city to try to meet people, do the basic outcast 101 stuff like going to classes so I can interact with people in a structured environment. Not that it does any good.
>I never went to school
were you homeschooled? or did you never finish hs?
>stuff like going to classes so I can interact with people
you mean like going to a random campus and pretending you're a student?
Do you still live with your parents anon?
Anyways, I was raised in a shithole household with abusive parents too (BPD violent single mother). Don't worry about feeling immature, or rather it's okay to worry but it's natural that you're like that because you like life experiences.
What worked for me was, getting a job where I was forced to interact with people (it unfricks your social skills). Then moving into a place of my own (to get out of the shit environment that was my house). Then things will start to pick up, you can enroll into college or finish HS or whatever. I'll try to answer any questions if you have any
*you lack
I guess technically I was homeschooled. Didn't learn anything. Classes, I mean like dojos or exercise classes. Dance classes. Beginner spanish. Random skills. The idea is just to be in an environment with other people where interaction is socially acceptable. I live with my uncle now. I live too far from the city to get a job with lots of other people. I hate the city and don't want to move there. I am teaching myself stuff to catch up on what I missed, I'm pretty well caught up in math and I know a lot about biology. Terrible on history though. I can't think of any questions, I'm just very tired.
Literally any service worker job has plenty of other people. The closer it is to school, the better chances of qts. Think about how many losers and morons get gfs just by working at fricking walmart or mcdonalds. It's shitty work for shitty pay but you're young enough that it's still acceptable.
Anon, I don't think most people really have their shit together when they're in the mid to late 20s. You're still barely an adult, it's OK to feel lost. Your main priority right now should be to find a stable income source, assuming you already don't have anything thtmat you feel reasonably safe in. Your lack of education can also be a problem going forward, but it's not impossible to fix that, plus that environment will naturally brjng you close to people tou can meet and make friiends with. My advice would be to look into a job you can do part time and use the rest of your time to catch up and eventually try to get into some community college or trade school. It's probably gonna suck for a few years, but that can be the kind of thing that will set you up for life, and even if you end up disliking the trade you work in it'll give you enough income to look into something else, plus it'll give you access to new people, environments and possibilities you just don't have right now.
I'm good on money at least. I've been working for the last couple years and barely spend anything. My uncle doesn't make me pay rent. I really do not want to move to the city.
Thanks. I hope I turn out alright.
>but I'm emotionally a child
>19
Dawg your brain is still developing for the next 6 years. I'm 27 and I'm WAY different mentally and emotionally than when I was 24 even, much less 21, 19, etc. You have the right attitude towards maturing so you will do it without noticing how far you've come. That's where reflection is valuable. Trust me bro you have a LOT of time and a LOT WILL change in your life.
It's hitting me that I don't think I've made a woman horny in years. Which is only weird to think about when I consider how often I've gotten intensely horny at random women.
I dunno, that tells me I'm not worth a damn to them, and should double down on my improvement efforts if I want to be making them horny. But at the same time, I kinda don't care and know I should just double down on shit anyway.
It's just weird to think about women being/getting horny since it almost feels foreign to me, even as a non-virgin. Maybe I have the tism.
The other week
>sitting outside bar having a smoke with a grill from my course
>it was raining earlier so the seating was wet
>she's been looking deep into my eyes
>finish cigarettes
>'Damn anon, I'm so wet'
>she goes bright red
>'I.. I mean from the bench haha'
Is making girls spill their spaghetti a sign of making it?
>Sick, so I can't go to the gym
>Stuffed with meds, so I can't drink on the one day where it's socially acceptable to start before 1pm
Frick me sideways, I'll take a goddamn protein shake, I guess. Haven't had one of those since...yesterday...
Sitting here only hours away from my final thesis presentation. I haven't done anything bc of procrastination. Fear of presentations. At least the thesis is already done and graded.
I just want it all to end and start working ffs. No more energy for college stuff.
It'll be FINE, if your thesis is solid you can completely fumble the presentation and still have it go through. It worked for me.
What's your thesis on, anon?
Girl I met last night is texting me calling me innocent. Is it already over? I helped her sneak into a venue I was working at and we're now texting back and forth. Gonna invite her out to do cocaine but don't know how to say it in a classy way.
>Girl I met last night is texting me calling me innocent
>Gonna invite her out to do cocaine
Anon, the frick kind of mixed signals have you been giving her?
Gllass of bleach, on ice. Thank you.
Mom decided to airdrop a bunch of pics and vids from my HS oneitis living her best life in a foreign country after graduating from nurse school. "Hey anon, look how great she's doing, she looks so happy literally glowing". Looks like she's been there a while but wouldn't make sense to have moved there since she just invested some 7 years into graduation and her local license isn't accepted there from what I know, so probably just a long vacation, maybe with some of the other girls she graduated with.
Anyway, it's not like I was ever over her even after many years of not having seen her, in fact I probably spent all this time until 2022 briefly thinking thinking about her at least once a day, but I felt like I was starting to leave it completely behind me. Even started actually liking other girls beyond just trying shit out becauseI thoight they were hot (had some things here and there but I always ended up losing interest because they weren't like her, even if some of them were honestly great girls in their own right), but as soon as I recognized her in the pics I felt my stomach sink and got shivers. Objectively speaking she used to be quite a bit cuter back when we were teens than she does now, se went from a pretty teen to an average young woman and personality wise she's probably a completely different person, but frick did I feel like I fell in love with her all over again.
I honestly hate this. I had become obsessed with an omage of her I had on my mind and let that get in the way of actual good things in my life. But now that I was getting close to closing that chapter of my life she popped up because my mom thought I'dappreciate it, I guess? I don't think she meant anything by it, but still.
I'm still digesting how I feel about her, about myself, about how this made me feel, etc. Don't know where I'll end up but at least it has already made me realize I fricked up my own life back then and have a lot to catch up to.
Long distance friend is going to visit my country in 2 months. She wants to see me, but I got mixed feelings about this.
Just for context: we met on chatroulette a decade ago when we were 14. We kept talking regularly for 5 years and then 1-2 times a year for the next 5 years . Back then, she was kinda into me but didnt like the fact that I was a virgin (i'm not anymore) and she didnt want to be my first. We watched other grow as a person for 10 years, so there is definitly a bond betweens us. BUT I know she's a prostitute, borderline nymphomaniac.
Part of me wants to frick her because I want to wrap things up nicely, finishing a long awaited quest . Also I'm stuck in a 3 years long dryspell and getting pussy delivered to my house is a blessing ngl. But I also know that she's a total train wreck of a bawd and I'm not sure I'm down to risk an std for a 5.
>Also I'm stuck in a 3 years long dryspell
Grim, I'm terrified I'll become like this, were you approaching girls or just took a break?
Regarding the girl, I'd say smash for fun and for the younger you, but use a rubber of course.
I approach women from time to time, but I don't go out often cuz I don't have friends around me anymore. I don't have a lot of money either. Considering the life paths I have before me, the odds of getting a gf in the next years is bleak
Use condoms and don't let her seen them beforehand just to be safe. How much of a trainwreck are we talking?
She started having sex at 13 with random people, got a a couple bfs through out her life. Can spend 4 days without fricking anybody. She's probably in the triple digits now. Hooker tier
That is a severe sex addict. Few recover, like hard drug addicts.
>started having sex at 13
Sounds more like she was abused as a child, pretty sure most of sexually active early-teens were.
A lot of (most) sex addicts were sexually abused, molested, or violently raped. Some even received MORE abuse while chasing sex addiction (go to meet a stranger to frick, it’s not who you thought, they do things you didn’t agree to but you can’t involve police/say no/make them stop). Best treatment treats it like an addiction, and even then many don’t want to get better, or can’t commit to a program. They’ve gotta want to get better.
Possible, but never got into any detail of that sort. The only thing I know for sure that wasn't legit was some shady chemsex in her late teens in a rave.
Get me a water please.
Was extremely tired working 12 hour shifts each day and lifting right after work, also going through breakup.
On Tuesday I was so tired I almost skipped leg day later that day.
We got a call for some poor bastard who fell into a trench at a construction site and a small excavator fell on top of him, pinning his lower body against the wall. Took us 40 minutes to free him and we rushed him to the hospital. I'm not sure if he made it, I will check with my coworkers tomorrow.
Even if he did make it, guy's pelvis and legs were bent sideways, He probably won't ever walk again.
I decided to use my legs today, cause I was grateful I have them still.
Also reconciled with ex-girlfriend, we'll see how it goes.
Godspeed anon. If you don't mind me asking what was the break up abou?
We dated for 9 months and long story short there was just a imbalance in terms of love for each other, I loved her more than she loved me.
So we mutually broke up and I didn't speak to her for about two weeks until I showed up to a friend's house for drinks last night and she was there. In another room we hugged and kissed, she said how much she missed me the past two weeks and that she wanted to try things again. So we talked today and we did.
This was my first breakup, I don't even know if you would call it that despite how short it was.
Regardless, I realized that everytime you think of your ex, it's like a hit of heroin. Whether it be thinking about them, checking their location, or stalking their social media, those are hits and you're just delaying the withdrawal symptoms further.
Cut off contact completely, do not look at their location, delete social media for a bit, work on yourself. She will either realize how bad she fricked up because you just exited their life, or you exited their life.
Either way it's a win-win, you will find your love someday.
>9 months
>2 weeks of breakup
Thanks for taking the time to reply, in my experience every long relationship has at least one of these kind of "small" breakups. It'll rekindle your love for each other for a while.
When you break up for real, you'll know.
t. knower
>going through breakup
me too bro, can you give some more details?
>Also reconciled with ex-girlfriend, we'll see how it goes.
bro...
Those days when I'm tired and don't feel like going and am brainstorming excuses often end up being KILLER workouts with new PRs and/or insane pumps.
Hopefully buddy survived, that's brutal.
Should I hire a professional photographer to take like, 3-5 good pics for dating apps? Now that I'm writing it I realize it's kinda pathetic but also kind of a good idea? The guys who catfish with model tier guys use professional photos of models so...
Professional photos are too jarring / try-hard for dating apps. The best photo is if someone else takes a phone pic of you under ideal lighting, preferably sitting at a 3/4 view. You can fake the "someone else" and mount your phone on a tripod or something.
How bad is it that I don't know how to drive nor own a car/bike? I hadn't considered it before but now I realized that after setting up a date or whatever instead of being able to say "Yeah, I'll pick you up" or "Let's go back to my apartment" I'm gonna have to say "Um yeah let's meet at X spot just take the bus haha".
Bros... was it over before it even began...?
It doesn't make it entirely "it's over" tier, but it is going to seriously limit your options. Culturally it's less/more important depending on where you're from.
Does the idea of driving give you anxiety?
>car
I'm not completely homeless-tier broke but I can't afford one at the moment
>bike
I could afford a chead one but I've seen too many bike crashes on /gif/ and it never ends well, and they're more easily stolen I think.
Also at the moment I live very close to my job (within walking distance) so it's not like I need a ride and buying one just for hypothetical dates seems very lame...
Got arm-mogged today. Dude had a cute gf and bigger biceps. Can't wait for my biceps/upper arm to be as thick as my elbow/upper forearms. On the right path but feels bad for the time being.
My girlfriend is going crazy. She is 31. She's is saying that I don't fricker her enough. I don't make her feel as a woman, she says. But she also says that she want me to propose to her. I just don't fricking get it. I told her that she should join me in the gym (she got chubby during the pandemic) and she acted as I had spat on her face. She is so furious. The worst thing is that we just moved as a couple to a new town. We work for the same company... If we break up I will have to see her quite literally everyday. What the frick should I do bros?
You put all your eggs in the same basket.
start cooking for her all the time and make it healthy in a stealthy manner (women dont suspects steaks or pork chops to be weightloss food). Frick her more, think of other women if you need to. You must make the situation seem okay. That will buy you time to search for another job in your field. That's the best i could do, godspeed anon.
>You must make the situation seem okay. That will buy you time to search for another job in your field.
Based and made me laugh.
My gf broke up with me like 3 months after I got her a job at my current job (yeah I know). Seeing her everyday or whatever doesn't really bother me, the real issue here is that you live with her in a new town no less so I'm guessing you don't have any friends or whatever there?
Thanks for the advice bros.
That's exactly what's happening. she is more social than me so she already has at least 2 girlfriends she can hang out with. Right now she is making me sleep in the guest room. She left 6 hours ago and she says she's having drinks with one of her friends. I honestly don't think she is cheating on me. But yes, she got pretty hurt when I told her that we both let ourselves go during the pandemic and that I want to exercise with her.
I am feeling so lonely. I don't want to talk to my friends about this. We have been together with my gf for 6 years. I would feel so ashamed talking about this situation with my friends let alone my parents who love her. I... Am feeling very lonely.
>Right now she is making me sleep in the guest room.
Bro what the frick, have some self respect, you know you're worth more than that.
>I honestly don't think she is cheating on me
She'll use the fact that you told her she's fat (implicitly) to deal with the guilt of cheating (ie. in her mind "it was your fault")
>I don't want to talk to my friends about this. We have been together with my gf for 6 years.
I was with my gf for almost 6 years too (5 and 8 months), what got me through the initial loneliness was talking to my friends, they're your friends not hers, frick her. And frick your parents if they don't side with you. Don't let them guilt trip you.
She is cheating on you.
>he called me fat!
>he doesn’t frick me enough!
>he's literally making me feel ugly
>well HE can sleep in the guest room while I go out drinking for hours! See how that makes him feel!
>she is making me sleep in the guest room
The relationship is already over. Lol
>She's is saying that I don't fricker her enough. I don't make her feel as a woman, she says. But she also says that she want me to propose to her. I just don't fricking get it.
These aren't opposites. She wants to be with you ans wants to marry, ut she also wants to cum. Simplest solution is to frick her better, I guess.
> told her that she should join me in the gym (she got chubby during the pandemic) and she acted as I had spat on her face.
Is her appearance the reason you're not fricking her? This is always be a topic you should approach with care, but it should be doable as long as you talk aboit it with hineaty and WITHOUT SHAMING HER. For the love of God don't treat it like it's her fault, she'll go into defensive mode and completely shut off the idea.
Can I get a double shot of red stag in a diet Dr. Pepper?
I feel like I’ve made a tremendous amount of work on my body, considering where I started anyway. I’ve lost a lot of fat, I’ve gained a lot of muscle, considering I had none. Yet, I still just feel like a fat frick. I made it down from obese to overweight, I’m almost at my goal, I haven’t weighed this little since I was maybe 15 years old. But I’m still just a fatty. Is that all I’ll ever be? Even if I get down to all the right numbers in BMI and body fat, what if I’m still just a fatty? My family still sees me as a fatty, my friends still see me as a fatty, and while I know I’ve made progress I still see a fatty too.
You said it yourself, you literally are overweight still so you are correct in feeling like a fatty. Keep working and the weight will keep coming off. Eventually they'll be telling you you're too thin. In my experience even though weight loss is a gradual process the mind shift from "I don't like how I look, too much fat" to "I see it now, I actually have faith" happened in like a day. For me, it took having visible abs (though not chiseled) and veiny arms (including bicep), so around 12% bf. I had to lose more weight than I thought to get there, but it was worth it. Trust the process.
Yeah… I was thinking that i probably need to shoot lower than I originally thought. I’ve been having small goals and big goals for myself, first was 20lbs, then 10lbs, then another 10lbs, and at the beginning I would’ve thought I just needed to drop another 10lbs and then not be overweight, therefore made it. Now I think it might be another 20lbs before I’m done, but I guess what I’m saying is I’m wondering if I’ll ever feel done. If 20lbs from now I’ll realize I need to cut another 10lbs.
That happened to me as well. It was demoralizing realizing that I hit my original goal weight and realizing I still needed to keep going, but it was definitely worth it looking back. I found that it worked better to not set a "lose x lbs" goal but rather just "lose at least x lbs each week" and be done when my bf% is where I want it and I was satisfied with the progress. This shit takes forever but there's no way around it.
How did you manage weight loss slowing down? It’s definitely slowed down a hell of a lot as I’ve gotten closer and closer to a “healthy weight“. Of course, like I said, I think I probably need to lose another 20 pounds before I’ll actually look like a normal human being, But I’ve been hitting a lot more stalls lately. It’s been a lot slower. Of course, I understood that the closer I got to a normal body, fat percentage, or a low body, fat percentage for that matter, the harder it would be. But what else can I do? How can I keep my sanity and not feel like one of those weird fat Tumblr b***hes that saying maybe she’s just meant to be this fat forever?
Your TDEE decreases as you lose weight, so you need to progressively reduce your calories. Otherwise you just get closer to eating at your new maintenance. If you're not losing weight at your current calories, drop it by 500cal again. I had to drop mine a few times to keep up a steady rate of weight loss. Eventually I was only eating 1300cal per day. Think about it, your body has 40 less pounds of cells to feed, it doesn't need as much to keep it going.
Bro you're nearly 140lbs? How tall are you what the frick?
6'0. Back up to 151lbs now from just water and a months worth of gains. Lowest was 144lbs. Had to cut it short even though I wasn't completely shredded because I needed to focus on building muscle. I went from skinnyfat to just skinny.
What was your heaviest? I'm 196lbs at 6'1
183lbs. I had a 37" waist and roughly 22%bf, maybe higher it was just an online calculation. Took 26 weeks at 1.25lbs/week, but I probably could have stopped at 150lbs. Depends on your goal but yea looks like you got some months left. Just take it a week at a time and keep that scale dropping bro, you've already made good progress you can do it.
How did you know? But yeah I think I need to make some real adjustments. Gotta remember to be keeping my macros in the right spot, go over and see where my wiggle room is to adjust more.
That would be one of the greatest tricks I’ve learned, 0 cal caffeine. I’ve been working on learning to drink, coffee, black, but in the meantime, total war is 0 cal, can keep me going all day, and I don’t feel hungry at all during the day. Able to make it until dinner time, which also means my stomach is shrinking more and more overtime, so I can’t just pig out on my one meal. I guess yeah I do get shit for “uh ohhh skipping meals! Skipping meals isn’t healthy! Ruh roh!” And it’s not very smiles upon when I replace two meals with caffeine. But hey, I know what I need to do to get where I need to be.
>How did you know?
The scale tells you. If it didn't go down enough over the course of a week, pay attention to the next week. If it still hasn't gone down enough, reduce the calories as needed according to the formula 500cal = 1lb/week to get back to the original rate of loss. I kind of got ahead of the curve by recalculating my TDEE every month or so and dropping my calories that way.
Easiest way to calculate macros is:
1. Determine your calorie limit.
2. Determine protein intake based on 0.8-1.0g per lb of target body weight. The lower your total calories, the larger % of your diet this will be. This is good because protein is the best at keeping you satiated.
3. Determine fat based on it taking up 20-30% of your calories. I went with 20% because it's the most calorically dense and I wanted to maximize the volume of food I ate to combat hunger.
4. Fill in the remaining calories with carbs.
I don't do caffeine but hey if it works for you that's great.
Oh I meant how’d you know my actual weight start and current, but I do greatly appreciate the extra advice man.
If you add muscle, your tdee will go back up.
The ligther you get, the less calories you burn. Drinking zero calorie energy drink could help with appetite and energy level if you're willing to drop the calories even lower. Besides that You could do run errands on foot anywhere in a 30 min walking radius maybe? Shit, even chewing chios tears for 45 minutes could make a difference. You can't use the same strat from when you where BIG big. You only got some slight pudge now, you're on the right track. Keep the good work, I believe in you
T. cutted 7 pounds in the past 14 days
Stuck in a job I hate that pays ok, want to leave but have no skills. I'm considering school but idk if it's work it to start over at another job.
What do?
I was the same and held a job like that for 9 years, it eats away at your soul and dreams until you become a soulless husk that you can tell gave up on life.
I say take the risk, believe in yourself and see how far you can go.
WHAT THE FRICK IS WRONG WITH ME
I had the chance to easily end my relationship and not only did I let it pass me bye I talked her down from the cliff
I don't know what's wrong with me, I feel miserable in my relationship 85% of the time. Often times she really feels like a burden to me, and I don't have the emotional capacity to care for her needs
The other 15% is good, but I don't even think it's insanely amazing. But I do genuinely love and care for her, I want to protect her, and when she cries I get tender for her. She was straight up asking me with tears in her eyes if I even wanted to be with her, it's like I wanted to say no all the way up until the words came out of her mouth and then I backed down and had to reassure her.
Four years we've been together, she's my life now and it's so fricking hard to imagine life without her, even imagining it to be better than it is now. I guess the worst part is she hasn't even done anything wrong, she has her problems as all do but she loves me, I just don't like her the way I feel like I should. But then I feel crazy and like I should just try and throw away my feelings and just continue on with her and learn to enjoy it because I'm scared I won't ever get anything better
Like what problems she has? Is it fixable?
She basically wants more emotional support than I'm capable of giving, we watch a movie and then something reminds her of a shitty experience so she has to then go and tell a long story, she has a bad day at work it's a long phone call where she complains (which is basically every day), the weekends I look forward to relaxing and not doing much and she uses that time to basically let go of all the remaining emotions she didn't already let go of during the week because understandably she expects the person who is supposed to love her to support her. She doesn't give me the alone time I require. And we have very different expectations and views as to how we treat each other.
I also simply just don't find her that interesting to talk to, I've gone very back and forth on this, as to whether your gf should be someone you should want to talk deeply to, I know it's common on here to say well just get a good trad girl who cooks who cares if she's boring, easy advice to give but not always simple. Especially when I've been with a girl before who I found interesting and could have deeper talks with so I know what it's like and know how meaningful it can make the relationship feel
Do you want the next couple years to be like this? the rest of your life? I want to say that she should make effort into keeping her everyday turmoil to herself, but i doubt any man on earth had any success in telling a woman to keep her emotions to herself. You should cut her out, even tho it's the hardest thing to do. If I remember correctly, you said that you were scared to seek a new woman, expecting to find lesser women. I'd say take the chance, you can't live like for the rest of your life. Sending strenght to you Anon
Thanks for the advice and nice words. I think I'm just always afraid of change and too busy to confront her about my feelings.
I do agree but I think there's a fine line, you shouldn't have an extreme in either direction. I don't want a girl who challenges me about every opinion I have and turns every exchange into a deep philosophical talk, but I also don't think you should deprive yourself of being able to express some of your thoughts or opinions because you feel they won't get adequately considered.
>sexual needs
That's another thing, we haven't had sex in like over a month. Although I'm not placing the blame solely on her, my libido has been shot recently (likely due to stress/confusion over relationship), but I'm certainly not the only guilty party. I'm just stuck and not knowing if the problem is me or if we really just aren't good for each other, we're very much opposites in many ways, it's "opposites attract" type relationship which I'm discovering might not be a good thing. Frick I just don't know
>haven’t fricked in a month
>anon is sleeping in a separate room per her demand
>she went out for drinks alone tonight
You dumbass she’s cheating on you. Probably in your bed.
>your gf should be someone you should want to talk deeply to
My ex was someone like that, my conclusion after 6 years of relationship is this, these are the most important qualities a partner should have:
>you find her physically attractive
>she loves you and is loyal
>she isn't annoying to be around
That's it, muh deep talks are a meme. If I want to have a deep talk I talk to my friends or if I need intellectual stimulation I grab a book. Your gf should satisfy very clear needs, which are affection and sexual needs and be as pleasant as possible to be around. Don't fall for the "smart" gf meme.
you have to pull the plug or you will be miserable for the rest of your damn life. I was in a situation very similar to yours and was a total pussy afraid to move on, thinking ''i'm never going to find anyone better''. It hurt like hell for a month, then gradually became easier, my lifts skyrocketed and I took some time off dating and then met the most amazing girl that I can be 100% myself with. Every time I come home to see her my mood gets better, idk what it is but we haven't had a fight in years. Sometimes you gotta take the leap man, my turning point with my ex was when my mother saw me one day and said ''you look miserable'', thats when I knew.
I've split with my former girlfriend, saw her a few months ago, had sex etc. But like a month after she has a new bf. She did have a lot of red flags, from being SA'ed when she was younger. But i still miss her, i've been on dates after and i feel nothing? Like we did break up 6-7 months ago, but why would she spent time with me, when i can figure out, that the new guy was in the picture after our break up, she would have sex with me
lads?
Cut ties and move on. She just wants to string you along as a backup. Don't be the backup.
You will feel something for someone else. Don't let the circumstances fool you otherwise.
Yeah but we cut out contact, first time she hasn't contacted me in so long, but then i saw her pop up on social media, after she unblocked me. So why unblock me, if it's not for me to see she has a new bf
To string you along. I just said. She's going to take your wish for the old days and turn it into your leash. The old days are gone. She's not your goal anymore. Stop talking to her, block her, and take a break from social media for a couple months if you're getting this desperate.
Yeah i get that, but i'm not contacting her or anything. Just think it was fricking weird, but i get it know. She's not my problem anymore, even tho i have missed her etc.
Where's the anon that was gonna post more about his 2 year long dream
Ill have 2 vodkas and 2 jack and coke doubles i need to get this last eighth to do something or else im not gonna get fricked up.
I liek drawing and painting
But drawing and painting is uber painful, even taking regular breaks it's still stressful on my back and arms.
I've been skipping workouts the past week just to get a few pieces done...
I sometimes wonder if it's even possible to have the time; a day job, art practice, producing finished pieces, and exercise...
I've tried to balance it but have never succeeded.
Did you paint that? I really like it bro.
nah, I wish
post something yours I want to see it
I hate school
I hate waking up at 6 am for it
I just want to play vidya all day again.
Like when I neeted for about half a year. But I must to keep my self esteem high enough to date again.
But when I was at rock bottom neeting alcoholic
I met the literal physical manifestation of my dream girl 10/10 high iq and shared everything in common
But I felt like such a sack of shit so
I self sabotaged
I am reminded of that every time
I wake up at 6 am
Which is what keeps me going .
I think I might be deeply depressed but I don’t really feel anything at all. Lifting weights and running are the only things I can focus on. I can’t read anything, I can’t listen to music except when working out, I can’t play video games, I have no sex drive at all, I can’t communicate with people, I just avoid contact. I am about to have my Masters degree in a week and I couldn’t give less of a shit. Literally the only emotion I feel is guilt and and shame for being so distant from my family and friends.
I lost my job in late 2022 and need to find another one, but there is no real motivation even with the fear of going broke. I am at the lowest point in my life, but I feel completely numb and the last month or two is one it started really going downhill.
Think about nothing
I just want my peyronies to go away. Any other issue in life I can work on or deal with.
i'd rather take a load of buckshot to the face to be honest
i hate growing older, i had a terrible childhood and lived like shit in my teens because i didn't care if i lived or died and now i'm paying the price nearing my 40s and i hate it
yeah it's my fault but frick it's a miserable experience and i can't undo it
>Give blood
>Decide to break diet and get a small pizza and single pint of ice cream
>Rest of protein from tuna for the day
>Wake up
>up 6lbs on the scale
Like, is there a fricking reason for this? Is it water weight? I am so salty rn because it took 2 weeks to get below 190 and I just know it will take a week for this 6lbs to finally shed off.
It's water anon, don't think too hard about it. I'm in a similar position but for a different reason, last Wednesday I injured both my feet with open wounds and they obviously got a lot inflammation whille my bidy is fighting infection and teying to heal. I bloated the frick up, gaining something like a pound of water weight every day until sunday. Today I woke up a bit leaner than before and the wounds are looking nice for a change, so at least the infection was dealt with already. Scarring will still take a long time thou.
Starts last summer
>newish qt coworker says we should have coffee after work
>talk all night going into depth about ourselves
>keep texting since then
>texts me when she can't sleep and trying on outfits
>took her on a few dates. Every time there was extreme weather which made them an adventure
>she is single one week and then casually drops 'I'm out with my sister and boyfriend :)"
>immediately stop texting her and socializing outside what I have to do for work
>time passes
>see her on dating app
My hate is the fuel in my jet engine.
>Be me
>Be Mexican
>my mother was a prostitute, father was drug dealer in their time
My brother shot himself on Christmas.
I’m more mad about it than anything.
I “lost the love of my life” at age 19 for atrocities I commited. She’s okay and she’s happy. I was a monster at the time.
I got kicked out at age 14. My mom told me she never loved me when I was 2. (2nd hand info)My dad died when I was almost 22.
I know this reads like jumbled brain salad speak but I’m high and just talking about myself.
Im so sorry to hear that anon.
>shitty background
>monstrous past
>yet seems to be aware of it and actually vents it out instead of keeping on being an evil being
Hey man, every angel has a past and every sinner has a future. Being aware of your own mistakes and trying to be a better person is the first step.
Im not giving any life lesson, you seem to have had it hard enough bro : im just saying i hope you can become the GOOD mexican we all want to meet when we come visit your sunny country, not another lowlife gang member.
Stay strong pal, try to make many friends...youll find some who will actually be a family to you.
Take care
At least this weekend I got to be out of the house all day both days doing and getting paid for my hobby. But I don’t even really find enjoyment or happiness from the hobbies, it’s pretty much just a way to pass time so I’m not sitting in my room alone. But now it’s Monday and it’s back to the humiliating monotony of my pathetic job, go home, watch tv, do nothing. Every week I hope that it will be the lucky week when something kills me.
What's your hobby and your job if you don't mind me asking? Are you in a position to get the training to switch jobs to something you find more enjoyable? I'm guessing the main problem is no friends no gf?
I finally got a job and I hate it. I can’t just quit I was sick of being broke and neet. But frick it took me 2 years just right get this job. It pays above min wage but still $4 less than I need to support myself. It’s just fricked bros. I definitely feel better in some ways mentally speaking but if I’m being honest I hate it. I hate driving so much. I hate the areas this job sends me to to work it’s all bougie rich peoples houses. I get so anxious driving on the highway. I have to leave at 7am to get there an hour early to start at 9am because if I leave any later I’ll be late due to the traffic and school zones. It’s an anxiety issue mainly but it puts me in a horrible and run down mood.
I hate seeing these rich people and their families just knowing those kids will never know struggle, and I don’t even just mean in an envious way it’s 50/50 envy and pitty. These frickers get to drive brand new Rolls Royces’ at age 16, but they’re also going to miss out on the lessons and shit most normal people have gone through. The owners of the houses frick idk where to start. They look at me like I’m cattle. If they get mad they speak like I’m a slave it blows my fricking mind how comfortable these fat and scrawny c**ts are talking any kind of crazy way to someone. Like they’re the type of people you know have never been punched before. I grew up poor, token whitey in the hood. It’s just common sense to me to treat people with a certain level of respect knowing you don’t know what they have going on how close they are to snapping or if they have nothing to lose. That’s an alien concept to these people they think they’re untouchable.
Yeah yeah I’m b***hing yeah yeah yeah I know shoulda been born to richer parents yadda yadda. I’m thankful for the stuff I’ve learned and things I’ve had to do like start working at age 13. But seeing this shit pisses me off.
Already decided if I get the chance I’m fricking someone’s wife.
Bro I also grew up in the hood so I get the frustration and resentment when dealing with silverspoongays, frick them. I say keep grinding till you can get a new job where you don't have to deal with these types. Try to turn that emotion into something positive for you, use it as fuel.
I know man but it’s almost demoralizing. It’s definitely motivating in some weird way, but at the same time demoralizing. I hope that if I can ever get rich like that, have frick you money, that I can remain humble and not change and ensure my children learn the same lessons I’ve had to learn. Like, they’re gonna have to work to buy their first car and it will be whatever used price of shit they can afford like I did for example. I’d like to be in a position that if I have kids I know they’ll be taken care of and never starve and not grow up in shitty areas, but I also don’t want them growing up clueless to how 90% of the world is and becoming some entitled c**t adult who’s never known struggle or difficulty. And that’s IF I ever get that kind of money.
These houses are mansions/estates/villas/bungalow btw, marble flooring and all. I’ve never seen anything like it irl.
I’m already looking for better jobs but in all honesty I would take a $1 pay cut to go work at cvs down the street from me just to avoid driving so much and dealing with this bullshit. With the intention of it just being temporary until I find something else close that pays even more, of course.
I did ask the boss about starting earlier and he said yes & no. It depends on where I gotta go for the day. If any of the clients are a business/office then I can go there at 6am and hit up the houses later in the day (the rich frickers are on their own time, understandably). He still wants me to be done by 5pm anyways to get more clients handled so it’s pointless to do that on most days, I’m 1099 so any OT is normal pay too or else I’d be doing that. I hate it, but it’s a job. I was so depressed and anxious as a neet, it’s better than that shit. But bad in its own ways. Just a new dick assfricking me in a different way I suppose.
Start looking for better jobs that are closer to home.
You're in a good position now because when you're interviewing, you don't NEED the job, so you have a lot more control. You can tell them you're currently working and earning $(your wage+4) but are looking for a better oppotunity. You can keep doing this and frogjumping up the wage ladder if you care to.
Also - ask your boss about starting 1-2hr earlier and going home 1-2hr earlier.
Good for you for getting back on track though bruv. It's going to be hard and you're going to want to quit and go back to what's cozy (NEETing) but deep down you know that's not the answer. You will get mentally and emotionally stronger through perseverance.
WAGMI
>be me, drinking and watching movies with the guys (Barbie is kino btw, look deeper into it's take on modern feminist theory and some of its failings)
>conversation leads to sex and porn somehow
>homie sitting next to me pulls out phone and shows me years worth of porn videos saved on there, says there's gigs of it
>I laugh, take his phone and wave it around the room, we all laugh but have a short talk about porn usage and it being a supplement for real sex
>I'm a KHHV coomer, a couple guys there get buns on the regular, the others not so much
>feel like shit afterwards because of how hypocritical I am for mocking him and that I'm part of the wider problem of sexless men and degeneracy
>Idontwanttobehornyanymore.jpg
Didn't phrase this as a question, but I'd like other anons' input
Find God.
Yeah, it's hypocritical. But that's just being human anon. You've found something in your life that's at odds with how you believe things should be. You can change what you believe in or how you're living. Both are valid ways if solving this. You can also just keep living like you are, this might be a hot take but I think it's only natural we'll end up living contradictory lives, it's just something you won't be able to run away from; although in your particular case being a KHV coomer isn't really healthy, so maybe try to work on that.
I'm on the same boat, nearing 26 as a KHV and the way things are going I'll probably end up a wizard. In the past I was really hardcore about trying to quit porn at all cost and while taking it out of your life is certainly beneficial I was way, way too harsh on myself because of it, to the point of constant self-loathing. I had no sexual or romantic life to speak of and as a man of course I had desires that would go unfulfilled. Porn, no matter how bad it is, was my only way of having those experiences, even if indirectly. If you're addicted try to get that under control and get your life in order, but remember that porn consumption is a symptom of your issues, not their source. What you really need to do is bring those life experiences you're lacking into your reality, and the rest will be a lot easier to address.
Sure, I know just telling you to go get some relationships is worthless advice on its own, but just try to kinder to yourself. You're emotionally sick, and shaming yourself won't fix that.
Thank you, anon
I think i fricked up lads, got called about a potential jobinterview, i lost my last job, because my contract was up and there was layoffs, i think i sounded to desperate on the phone kek. They'll call tomorrow to tell me if i got the interview or not
>slept on my side last night
>semi woke up to my arm numb from sleeping on it
>in my mostly asleep state it felt like I was holding my ex
>the conscious part of my brain knew it was fake, but it felt so realistic
>stroked her hair and kissed her forehead for a few minutes until I rolled back onto my back to sleep for real
Just hit the 1 year mark but I still miss her.
>twink from Yoga class was hitting on me for most of last Friday
>got my number and is messaging me flirty stuff
>my wiener is rock hard just thinking about it
God please help me
I never thought I might lay my hand on a man... But that pretty blonde hair and the bubble butt are killing me.
You are nothing more than a homosexual
I could never get into femboys because I know twink death comes for them all
You'll regret it
Do it gay
>ignore girl
>she initiates instead of me
why are they like that?
I'm getting better about managing it but sometimes I still feel haunted by the piece of shit horndog teenager I was in the past, not only was I heavily unconscious in general at the time with extremely poor emotional control but I was so horny for my female friends at the time that while we did fool around a bit it inevitably turned the relationship toxic and it imploded by the end of hs
There was one incident in particular where I got really handsy with one of them, and while she reciprocated (not going all the way though) she was really pissed off at me the next day and literally recoiled from me. Obviously I apologized and it wouldn't even be the last time we fooled around but I still get these high anxiety moments where I think my punishment is coming right around the corner despite not having spoken to her in 5 years. I do have OCD and expect danger from a lot of places but this one in particular always hits especially hard.
I wish I could leave this state entirely and start fresh somewhere new but I can't afford it, I might just need to get a therapist until then.
Is it better than a woman seems to not care much about you leaving her or for her to seem sad and upset?
Genuinely cannot tell if this is what I suspected and she dgaf or she is worthwhile and is respecting my wishes. All she said was
>Ok. Whatever you want
I don’t mean to sound like a hoe but idk I would have wished she’d have begged or something instead of indifference. Not for the ego stroke but as a confirmation she liked me. And that’s why I left her, she didn’t seem to be all that into me. Only when she was bored.
>I don’t mean to sound like a hoe but idk I would have wished she’d have begged or something
Bro you sound needy as frick.
Diet coke please.
Mom just called, they had to put down one of our dogs today. He was 17 but in good health, then I guess just became rapidly ill over the last few days until he couldn’t get up anymore. We’ve had him since I was in 7th grade which is over half of my life.
I’m already in what I think is a depressive episode and I just feel numb.
Anon that dog lived 17 years most dogs I’ve known of lived to be around 10 at most. The oldest dog I knew lives to be 14. That’s a long life for a dog. I know it hurts, I know this doesn’t help a lot, but you should be happy to have known him and grateful he got 17 years of being loved and part of a pack (family). I know this doesn’t help much, but take some time to mourn and then try to cherish the memories because 17 years truly is amazing for a dog, even one of those small rat dogs 17 is a long time.
Yeah, you shouldn't drink heavy when you're grieving. This is something only time can heal, but after a week or two, you'll need to get outside and keep doing the things you know are healthy. Don't make grief a long-standing habit.
>depressive episode
No, you're mourning. Nothing wrong with that.
That always sucks anon, no matter how you try to tackle it. A little over 1 year ago I lost both my canaries within one month of each other, and my cat got really close to dying as well, although he managed to recover and is doing well now. One of them was old and sickly and started to get worse over the course of a week until he finally died while I was trying to rush it to the vet, the other was young and full of energy until he just dropped dead one day. It's going to hurt no matter what, but tey to find solace in the good memories you've had with your dog, and don't try to just pretend it's not bothering you. Cry your eyes out if you meed to, just make sure to process everything you're feeling and give yourself the chance to mourn.
>allow myself to get close with girl at work
>she seems to align herself with whatever I say
>she laughs at all my jokes
>she treats other guys with a sort of mild disdain
>huh, maybe I'm just a chad now...
>the air is different today
>she snaps at me over a trivial joke
>about to reflexively apologise
>then a matrix-like calm comes over me
>this feels exactly like the inciting incident to the last turbulent relationship I entertained, doesn't it
>stay the course, laugh about her over-reaction
>immediately start the slow procedure of backing away from the friendship
Sad that it has to be this way, and annoyed at myself for handwaving her extreme mood swings at work, but happy with myself for not getting sucked in
bro you're overthinking interactions with a coworker you haven't even kissed nor asked out, give that some thought.
Sorry, i wasnt clear but I had no intention of doing either, I've not been single for years. I just wanted a friend, but I guess the female attention was a bonus
She is frequently on the verge of losing her shit, so I've been trying to help her out, but starting to realise that she is probably the problem.
>ngmi attitude
>anti-social comments
>crazy levels of frustration over small things
I've had this kind of friendship in the past, and I always want to help them. But you can't help them.
>handwaving her extreme mood swings at work
So that was common or first time she snaps at you?
If a girl turns down your offer of a date but still asks to hang out as friends, is there ever a chance of it moving into romantic territory?
>plz no cuckposters responding. Serious answers only.
No, anon, sorry.
If you ask a girl out and she says no, it's over. You can't convince somebody to be attracted to you.
She could at some point randomly see you in a new light, but to wait around for that or try to influence the likelihood of that is a really bad use of your finite time on earth.
Just let it go. You can hang out if you've got nothing better to do, but don't blow off anything real for somebody who doesn't want to be with you.
Thanks dog. That's what a lot of people have been trying to tell me, but I had trouble believing them. Now that a random internet Anon told me the same I'm more inclined to believe for some reason.
I have a few female friends (well, two I'd consider "close"), and while I'd always appreciate more I'm just not ready to see this girl as only a friend.
Lifts for this feel?
>lifts for this feel
Pull ups. Get over it and move on.
I would consider hanging out as friends because girl-friends are pretty based, but don't expect anything romantically. Just don't paid for her shit don't be a moron
Nta but I actually heavily disagree. I had female friends, many of them, from 18-23 and honestly I always hated it. They were fun at first, cool even but they became very annoying fast. It’s all the cons of having a girlfriend with none of the pros. Some of these girls were dykes, some the masculine variety some the feminine type, others were mentally healthy (straight), etc etc. All the same shit. I’ve even been friends with my bros GFs and it’s the same shit. They just get on my nerves they have very little to talk about that’s of any interest to me. The one I liked the most was this latina dike, she was cool and funny, hot too, but even she was a little annoying. Granted she and her GF kissed me on a night out and we cuddled together a few times, but still she was the most bro like of them all.
I would only have female friends if I could spoon and cuddle them. I don’t even care if sex is involved, I would need to at least cuddle with them. Otherwise they’re just this weak annoying creature who I have to watch out for and who wants to yap my ears off nonstop.
bros I need to find a way out of wagecucking. I am already saving like a mad man for the last 6 years. anyone here actually escaped the maze with actual work/savings, not asking about gambling/crypto scams. just the sheer thought of having to work for another 30 years drives me insane.
I’m right there with you man. I’m this angry homosexual
. I hate it. I can’t even let the thoughts about this being my life for the next 30-50 years (idk, depends if our overlords decide to raise the age of retirement like they hope to) in because they drive me insane.
I’ve been trying to take mental notes and do research on my clients. I won’t say too much but one dude has a patent on a device used in literally everything from your vacuum to your car. That’s the type of shit I need to come up with. Some small stupid ass device that’s better than any alternative and everyone uses.
What I will say, is if you think you’ve figured something out do the following before you quit your job: have 1-2 years savings (I know, it could take a while) and get to a point where whatever you leave the job to do is making you money but can only make more if you had more time to dedicate to it. For example if I were to get into trading in my free time and I determined that the only way for it to make me more is if instead of 3-4 hours after work I was doing 6-10 hours every day of it, then I’d take the risk. Keeping in mind there’s 1-2 years of savings as a safety net.
Trading is a shitty example but I trust you understand what I mean.
I can’t take it either man. I want to be my own boss, I want to know the reason I’m pushing myself and stressing is purely for my own bank account and not a small percentage of the money I made some rich ass homosexual dickcheese mcdoogleson shlomo dickface who at most attends a meeting every week spending maybe 2 hours a day reviewing data that some other shmuck organized for him.
But I got nothing. I wish I could turn my hobbies into a business. 120k net profit and I’d be happy. Not rich, but comfortable.
how hopeless is your situation? how much money can you put aside per month while being able to pay your bills.
Right now while I live at home I’m able to save about $1000/mnth. Because I’m not paying any rent. So that’s decent. I won’t be able to get my own place any time soon though because I would be lucky to even find roommates where my rent was $1000 in my area. Essentially, if I found a room, or somehow found a studio for $1000, I would need a second job to be able to save some when all is said and done.
To live on my own and still be able to save $100 a month I would need a job making like $23/hr. And you know what? If I could get 2 jobs within driving distance I would gladly work both if it meant I could do that. Shit, I would gladly work 80 hours a week if it meant not only being able to live on my own but also still saving enough that I could build my savings at a reasonable rate so I could entertain the idea of getting into a better field (meaning a pay cut and using $500ish from savings each month for a few years).
It’s not hopeless but I feel stuck. I want to get an electro na apprenticeship btw. If I can get $20k-$30k saved this year and get an apprenticeship starting next year I would enthusiastically do that, use some of those savings until they start paying me $23/hr in the 3rd year. And that’s just assuming I don’t have consistent weekly OT.
>Right now while I live at home I’m able to save about $1000/mnth. Because I’m not paying any rent.
okey thats literally me. I guess we both share the same anger. I got to around 85k, its not all lost but I feel like I need to make very big steps in terms of investement at the end of the year which will probably decide if I make it or not. Your situation doesnt sound that hopeless either. We will both make it.
Atm I have less than $10k. I have a ways to go. I got lost and rambled but you can see the frustration we share. I’m stressing about pulling off the bare minimum to just get some crappy apartment and be self sufficient. Yet I want to do more than wagecuck for the rest of my life. I’d like to own a business or two. Like I realize work is necessary it’s just how our world is, so may as well work for my own damn self. I just don’t know where to start. The electric na thing I mentioned is just because there’s a livable wage at the end of it with the possibility to start a business.
I really feel like I have to patent some niche item to make it big. Frick, if I could do that and it was making me frick you money I would unironcially sell the patent after 5-10 years for fairly cheap so long as I can get 10% of earnings so I didn’t have to continue working and just retire and use that money to do whatever the frick.
My gf showed me lots of pictures of herself from 4-6 years ago and honestly she used to be much hotter. I wish she could just realize that on her own and start eating healthier and going to the gym but with women it's never that easy
Rum/coke please.
I get anxious approaching my birthday, not because of getting older but the idea of inviting people to celebrate makes me deeply uncomfortable for reasons I don't entirely understand. I vowed to myself this year I'd organize something and just making that promise and writing up a draft invite list resulted in me shutting down for about 4-5 weeks, lost gains in that time. I had friends but not really anyone close I think, so my brain was going
>"invite a bunch of people, more than you normally would, and figure out who you want to keep around and who wants to stay around"
but I just keep hesitating pulling the trigger on organizing a venue and inviting people.
Starting to think I have anxiety, which is pretty far from what I feel my personality/mental health is, but I don't know what else is causing this.
*have friends.
and what I mean by close is like I'm not seeing or texting them constantly, idk I just feel like I'm not engaging people enough. I started working out for health reasons and also to get hot privileges, because I feel like I am ignored a lot. Not in a incel/I fricking hate everyone way more like a
>if I just do this then I will get some more attention
Today is my birthday but I've never organized a birthday party because no one would come. I just invite my 2-3 close friends and go to a bar or watch a movie or something.
happy birthday anon
thanks bros, I appreciate it.
i had my birthday last week, the only one who did something major for me the last couple of years was my x girlfriend, this time it didn't feel special or anything
It may be a bit late but happy birthday bro, hope you have a great year.
Thanks bro, better late than never. Had an amazing year, until i lost the job and my gf kek
I would come. Tab's on me, big guy. Happy birthday, anon.
The only time I've "celebrated" my birthday was either when I was a child and my parents organised everything, or the two years when my girlfriend threw surprise parties for me.
Most of the times these days nobody even realises I've had a birthday until I tell them.
Same. On my last birthday back in December my gf ghosted me. I don’t celebrate them because I’ll just be sad otherwise. No one cares about me. I’m just another cog. A cattle meant to be milked of time and money. I would feel happier if people could just grow a spine and admit “yeah lmao I don’t care about you anon.” what hurts is how they’ll all claim to care, but when push comes to shove it’s radio silence.
In my adult life the one birthday I had was with some crappy friends and it was because they felt bad that they didn’t know and I accidentally let it slip when they asked why I was headed home early after hanging for a few hours. Even then, I was ignored the entire night while they all got blasted and interacted with each other. It was some kind of effort I suppose though, even if mostly an excuse for them all to get drunk again…
>ghosted on your birthday
what a c**t. man.
Yeah… call me crazy but I would assume if a woman loves, values, cares about, and just generally appreciates me and being in my life she would spend the day with me or slop me off or frick at minimum maybe send me some pics unprompted or at the very least send a text saying happy birthday… but like I said, no one really cares about me. Just what I can do for them. And I’m sure I would be the bad guy if I snapped and started using these people the same way they use me. I’m sure I’d be worse than the bad guy in that instance.
Stay motivated everyone. 🙂
Thanks brah.
WAGMI
>wake up
>roll over to my PC
>be shit at my wfh job all day
>talk to no one at work
>play vidya
>go to bed
>repeat
living the dreams anons haha. comfy wfh!!! haha ha ha ha
go to the gym or enroll in some kind of class just to get out of your house and socialize bro
i lift, i kind of assume everyone here does (i know thats not true)
i autistically dont talk to anyone at the gym and blare music through my earbuds and grunt loudly.
>i lift, i kind of assume everyone here does (i know thats not true)
yeah but some anons have home gyms and never go out unless it's for groceries
>i autistically dont talk to anyone at the gym and blare music through my earbuds and grunt loudly.
used to be like that, I suggest enrolling in some class (I took up boxing), you'll meet cool people and feel like part of a community, maybe even meet girls
nta but I asked something similar in QTDDTOT so thanks for answering I suppose, thinking of joining boxing/running club to at least meet people my age since all the social help/mental help things here seem to be for older/middle aged people or people that are way worse off mentally than me
I think I posted this before but if you join a class/club make sure to force yourself to be social, always greet everyone personally with a handshake or whatever, engage with your training partners, ask them for help with techniques and such and try not to miss classes.
I joined 3 months ago and am already a regular on good terms with most people and almost all know me by name.
Do you hang out with any outside of the classes? if it's a multiple times a week thing I don't suppose you'd have to but part of the reason I want to join is to try and make friends
Not really, one of the younger guys (15) asked me to show him how to lift so I spent a few days showing him a basic routine and techniques and I asked out one of the girls so maybe what you're asking will come true in the future? But if not, just hanging around in class is fun enough, give it a try
Thanks anon, I will
Bailey's for me
Everything is going more or less ok apart from my social life. Basically no friends and turbo virgin at 24 in the summer. Not autistic, a lot of anxiety. University will be over soon and I have made no connections. I have wasted so much of my prime years. I feel awful and I want some kind of revenge.
Although this Friday in class i'll approach this girl that I've ran into a couple of times. Wish me luck or some
A beer with no alcohol thanks.
I've been having freak outs in the last days over my romantic loneliness. I get sinked in thoughts of self loathing whenever I think how I never ever had a partner. Today was a national celebration and all I saw were couples, young or older with kids, having fun. And I was once again wandering around alone. I feel like a leper and like I'm castrated and emasculated it drives me nuts. I've learned to love the advantages of being single but everything has its limits.
My dieting and other aspects of my life have gone to shit because of I can't handle all this. I basically lift just to lash out at this point. I think it's starting to become too difficult to deal with since I'm heading into my 30s.
I can only hope I'm gonna find someone before summer because I know I'm not gonna make it through it again all alone.
I guess im struggling with the same things as you guys. Work, money, girls. But struggling is not a negative in any way. Just like steel needs to be folded and melted until its strong, we also need to put ourselves under pressure for things to go our way. Theres no need for going over the details. Im probably on the same page as any of you.
I mean I have a similiar outlook on life and daily struggles as long as they bring me one step closer. For a lot of people however its just a struggle without anything to gain out of it, that in itself is the frustrating part.
Can we make it a rule that people post their age alongside their problems? It helps me tailor my response from when somebody says
>wah I'll never find a gf I've been single all my life
As a 16 year old, versus a 50 year old
I don't get why so many people and modern society in general thinks happiness is about feeling good and being comfortable all the time.
Every time I have a break for a longer period, after exams usually, I start to feel like shit very quickly. Even though I exercise a lot, have a good diet, etc. and am not neglecting any responsibilities. As soon as I get back into being productive, even mildly stressed, I feel great. This idea that you just need to give a person a comfy room, some snacks and shield them from any harm and they will be happy is so obnoxiously childish. Even worse, the people who think we should just stuff sad people full of chemicals while they continue living their shitty lives
You just like being productive. I'm the same way. I love relaxing but if I go too long without something to do I start to lose my mind.
I have fire withing me that burns every day, especially at night and none of my current outputs (job, gym, martial arts, chasing women) can extinguish this fire.
The only thing that can consume this fire is the mission of a single man to build an empire of his own. A business, a legacy and a strong family. I need to start soon, i am 28 and the starting years have already approached. God give me the creative spark I need to begin my journey. I have been moulded by my experiences and I am now ready for this mission to begin.
All the best to my IST bros. Keep on fighting the good fight, dont let the darkness overcome you.
I am getting a fire to organize and get all domestic and organize a kitchen that I can come back to day after day. Fully stocked. No more minor grocery trips every other day.
I find I do my best work when I am pissed off, it sends me into overdrive. But, people also hate that about me. "Whats wrong?"
I find myself since covid going backwards financially. I lost a lot of money because no way in hell should I inherited so much money when I was at home with nothing to do. I ended up losing more money than I got to the stock market, and then on top of that I owed the IRS. I've relaxed now and stopped taking so much risk to make it, and in the next couple years much of my debts will have rolled off.. But I still feel like my pay hasn't caught up with inflation.
Girls actually tend to like my photo where I was teaching another girl how to shoot manual with a dslr camera. Its me shirtless at a beach with hickeys on my chest if they stare hard enough. I'm not amazing looking but its shot with "soul" that females appreciate.
same but the issue for me is the only way its being quenched is not really possible for me cause I wanna get into politics and make systematic change in my country but cause of a lot of factor outside my control like my ethnicity and not having really good connections cause of the former, I probably can't go that far or will never be given a real opportunity to change things no matter how hard I try.
so I'm just sitting here being sad all the time cause I'm trying my hardest to make a change but can't achieve anything significant to quench that desire while those who were given all the opportunity to do so squander it or don't care to do anything mainly the latter.
Best of luck to you though.
Haven't had sex with my wife in 6 months.
I got tired of always being the one to initiate so I stopped and here we are 6 months later and she hasn't brought it up or tried to initiate once.
Pretty sure she needs her hormones checked.
had this happen with my gf
i lasted 6 months and broke up with her
then had more sex in a month than i had with her in a year
lol this happened to me in college. I broke up with a girl, and then I think she tried to "win me back" by fricking my brains out for a few weeks. I still didn't get back together with her haha
>gf a bit chubby since forever
>got told by a doc last year she needs to lose 10 lbs
>year goes by, she made 0 efforts
>she tels me she actually gained 10 lbs instead
>it's noticable
should i just break up with her, she even said she doesn't believe in bmi and tha gyms are not for her
while i didn't mind her starting weight it was the biggest i could find attractive, i hoped she's lose some but instead it's a downward spiral now
it's so fricking over bros
i hate sales jobs so much bros...but they pay more than anything, i wanna get into security, but my parents keep saying "we didnt pay for years of education so you can be some guard" and "there is no future in the business".
How do I get out of the pessimistic cycle of constant thinking that I’m useless and that I’ll have a bad ending?
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Just water for me.
I don't really drink but I think now's the time to just unload. The girl I'm in love with has PTSD from being harassed by her ex and by other men all throughout her life since she has a high appeal. The constant harassment turned her into a misogynist and the only reason I managed to snag her was because I was her best friend since 7th grade. I confessed my attraction to her during 10th grade prom and we've been together ever since.
Unfortunately, by 11th grade her mental health took a turn for the worse, with therapeutic sessions and drugs having little to no help. She also has threatened and attempted to kill herself multiple times. In spite of this, I still love her since what made me like her was the fact that in her good days, she can appreciate the simplest things. Even the mere color of the sky or anything cute can make her smile shine the brightest.
I chose to take Bachelor of Marine Transportation inside an academy and due to stringent schedule and regulations, I haven't been able to provide her with updates and support since as a cadet, we were only allowed to go home for Christmas Leave or during long weekends if there was any. I've taken to smuggling a cellphone so I can keep tabs with her but I couldn't use it every day since being caught with one can lead to harsh punishment such as deferment of 1 year or possible termination.
Ffw today and I just got off in February from a 1 month shipboard training program. This caused a buildup of academic tasks, in addition to having to prepare for midterms and write a research paper all on top of that which is why I couldn't communicate with her. I admit I'm not perfect and we've had our fair share of arguments but I think by this point its time to call it quits.
I've lost sense of who I am due to this relationship, and have let more than a couple bridges burn for the sake of her. I've been warned by friends to let this shit go time and time again but I believe that Love is a decision and over time, I can fix her or make improvements but just as everything, too much of one thing is bad. Last week, she once again brought up an argument that we've had for the last 3 years and honestly by this point I think that even if we were to continue this relationship, the lack of trust would be compounded by the hectic schedule of a seafarer, especially since I'll be having my sea-year leave in a couple of months.
I think I need to find myself, shore up foundations of who I want to be and build better boundaries so that my partner can be happy. Time wouldn't make me love her any less, but I hope it would let me handle what happened better. If someday in the future we can commit ourselves to each other once again then I wouldn't be against it as long as both of us has become better as a person
I started balding, and hair was the only thing holding me back from being a legit 2/10
I wanna quit everything, it's pointless, i'll die a virgin now. Why lift?
>horny girl has to drag me to bed because I missed half the signals and messed up every chance
At least I got laid at the end, she thought I was playing hard-to-get...
How are you even meant to act when a girl is into you? Like, she compliments your body, grabs your arms and chest
Buff bald ugly guy > haired skinnyfat ugly dude
>be fat and depressed
>start lifting and eating healthier
>lose weight and become less depressed
>injure myself lifting
>next day find out i have a hemorhoid
>can't lift because pain
>can't sit because pain
>can't eat away the pain because fat
>lay in bed depressed all day
Anon, you're supposed to work out your muscles, not your anus
redbull/vodka bartender
Getting back to eating right
Getting back consistent with gym
Tackling something mental health wise and trying to reach out to friends rather than going with alcohol or women.
Text a girl at 1am on the weekend and never got it open, start thinking I was an unlovable frick up and was about to move on and how of course she would never reply.
Get a text back and instantly feel better.
My brain annoys me but besides that it feels good to be back.
All I attract are taken or married women. Should I accept my fate and frick them all
I made it bros. I finally, unironically hate women
Story?
nothing concrete, but since you asked, I'll answer you next weekend. I don't have time now.
at the end of the day some girls are just cute and nice enough that all the effort is worth it for them
weeding the bad ones is hard, but once you find a nice one then you are relieved you never gave up
by 25 they are pretty much sorted out and you can see for a mile the ones that are too entitled to be worth giving your affection to
Anybody else looking forward to their eternal sleep? I'm just so tired of this world and life. Can't wait for that sweet eternal rest. Would be even nicer if I could just go to sleep and never wake up again, no suffering just eternal non-existence.
don't lose hope anon. it will get worse, grimer, more hopeless. you won't find any sense on breathing to keep going. you now wish for death. there'll come a time when you won't even want that.
Come on, JIDF; if you feel that bad about life, go join your friends in the IDF in Gaza. Maybe they can hand you a dead man’s Ak, shoot you & get credit for killing HAMAS. Everybody wins!
Low effort denoralization, Eygeny
So is the dopamine detox just a meme or is there actual merit to it?
I get you can rewire your brain to allocate dopamine more appropriately through strengthening discipline but I want to know more about this kind of thing
You don't need to "detox" from dopamine or "reallocate" it, nor do you need to "rewire" your brain, it's all astrology.
got a job interview tomorrow lads, i'm the one who lost his job and gf
Proud of you bro. Did you throw “Uber eats and doordash” on your resume like I suggested?
I actually realized it’s an amazing hack to avoid gaps because they cannot verify it, even if you flat out lie and don’t do those apps there’s no way for them to prove it no supervisor to contact nothing.
thans bro
we actually don't have any of them here, but i have worked on a friends website just to keep me busy and have something for the gap in resume, So i could add SoMe and website on it
I don't know what to drink for this feel. I'm open for suggestions.
My relationship with my GF is in the shitter. Has been for a while. It also bled over to my family relations, but I've managed to start fixing those. All I hear is that I'm not good enough, not loving enough, not man enough, not good looking enough, I don't love her, nobody has ever loved me, she's the only one who ever loved me and so on. The longer we're together, the worse all this seems to get. There's good moments in between, but it always spirals back into a mess.
I tried all I fricking could. Hell, I even paid our mortgage for a while and took a tattoo of her name. Now she was fricking some dude she's had a crush on for a while (with permission; we both do this sometimes) but instead of something fun, she now threw this as a weapon into my face when I took initiative to fix my family relations.
fml. In general I do well. I earn in the top 5% of my country, I'm fit, good looking, dress well and so on. This thing keeps on eating the frick out of my soul. I don't know what the frick to do.
/endrant.
You really should just dump her if you can at this point
>with permission; we both do this sometimes
Still doesn't make it healthy in the slightest, if yall were having 3somes it would be different but this only serves to drive a wedge further in your relationship
Just cut her loose, she seems extremely toxic and manipulative in general
I will give you the gift of my time
>All I hear is that I'm not good enough, not loving enough, not man enough, not good looking enough...
I was like you, I sincerely though that women do it on purpose. They dont. She is a little girl who is unhappy. Her dad, you, is responsible for her being happy, you are not doing it properly, so she is upset at you and this is her pre breakup soul scream for you to wake up. You think she wakes up to hurt you and herself? She would rather love you to death and be happy
What she is saying is not literal. She is saying that RIGHT NOW in THIS MOMENT she FEELS unloved, uncared and unprotected. Because of your behaviour and leadership. If I would posses your body and kidnap her on spontaneous mysterious romantic date in a motel, her tune would change 180 degrees for a few days
>The longer we're together, the worse all this seems to get
Yeah, you keep acting like weak cold neurotic child. Reread your messages when you first met her and remember your first dates. You acted differently. So you tricked her in the end
>Hell, I even paid our mortgage for a while and took a tattoo of her name
I can buy you a rolex right now, but you are not going to lovingly suck my wiener and then think about me in your bed, would you? You are not making her feel like loved woman
>Now she was fricking some dude she's had a crush on for a while
Yeah, he is more manly that you are
>with permission; we both do this sometimes
Women never respect weak degenerates bound by lust. Respect is love. You fricked it up
>she now threw this as a weapon into my face
Yeah honey, I dont care about you to make you feel loved and fulfiled, but go frick another guy I dont care. It wasnt a weapon, its a reflection of your actions as a man. Women are mirrors
>I don't know what the frick to do
She is not loyal. You are not a man. Wait for a break up, use the pain to understand how dysfunctional you are and do better with the next one
Just got denied a security clearance bc I smoked weed in a legal state 11 months ago. Moved to the city and everything for the job
>weed
deserved ngl
How do I meet women?
>Dating apps are shit.
>Friends I have are shit and only set me up with 2/10 landwhales
What's the strat?
Go to places you enjoy or have interest in. Pay attention to the demographic. Go on different days at different times. Eventually find a place with women. I don’t give this out a lot because I still need to get lean to use it but
The manga section of a bookstore, comic shops. Anime and shit is becoming more and more mainstream. Hot b***hes are into it now. Most men you find at these places are geeks. Look better, be slightly better socially than them and just in the IRL comparison it could make you look multiple points on your X/10 more attractive. You have something to talk about as an “in”, easy way to gauge interest, it’s a good idea.
Conventions too.
>Yo it’s [character]! Your cosplay is so great!
>thanks I worked so hard on it I’m glad someone recognized it
>ask how she made it, what materials various parts are made from, progress this into talking about the anime, cut it short grab number hit her up another time
(pro tip: just text her your name then and there and then never hit her up, let her hit you up. If she doesn’t nothing is lost. If she does then she’s approaching from a submissive position and will have some level of investment, fearing rejection)
i dont read books, manga, or the news anymore. havent kept up with tv shows, movies, anime, music etc since i finished uni 5 years ago. i wake up, lift, eat, work, run, eat, sleep, and repeat every single day of the week. i cant even begin to remember the last time i had a conversation with a "friend" or properly spoke to my family, let alone hit on a woman, so all ive got in life is work, savings, and a piece of shit car that im too cheap to upgrade. this is what complete and utter stagnation looks like friendos
I wanna poo on you guys,i really do :$
i'm afraid of the end result of my stagnation
but i'm also afraid of change
Had such a good wank I've managed to talk myself out of hiring an escort for a bit longer. My wallet thanks me.
I will continue gym tonight.
I looked at the escort website linked earlier in the thread, shit just made me sad