I'm riddled with anxiety and I'm not even sure why it's so high right now. Is there anything i can do about it permanently or is my fate to become alcoholic?
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I'm riddled with anxiety and I'm not even sure why it's so high right now. Is there anything i can do about it permanently or is my fate to become alcoholic?
Been on this journey since I was 19, almost 10 years now. This is all I’ve learned which actually helps but you must be diligent, and this is assuming you’re like me and the anxiety seemingly happens for no real reason like you just seem to have a high baseline of anxiety. Whether that’s true or childhood experiences have made us this way idfk man
>Meditation
I know it sounds like generic meme advice but it helps. You have to do it daily and it may take a while to feel like it works but it does.
Turn off all nosies, sit down on your bed or the floor, no distraction no one around you, turn lights off if you want. Just focus on quieting your mind for 20 minutes. Even just 15 minutes daily would help. I use this to chill tf out and to figure out why I’m so anxious and overwhelmed and just recognizing the why and what I have to do/currently worry about puts me at ease. Try to keep in mind: your life isn’t in danger, you’ll cross bridges you come to them, worrying about the future doesn’t help you in the now or prevent the future it’s just ruins the present.
>sunlight
Daily. 10 minutes direct sun exposure as in outside north through a window. I sometimes do my meditation out in the sun. 10 mins is the minimum try for 20-30.
>nature
As often as you can, go be out around nature. Idk the logic but I swear it resets us. We are an animal species. We are not meant to live surrounded by fricking concrete and buildings with 1 million people all on top of each other. Being away from all the concrete and shit, surrounded by trees and dirt ground and lakes and plants and wildlife fixes the mind.
>walk
Go on a walk daily. Keep in mind, some of these can be knocked out all at the same time. Even a 20 minute walk a day helps, but further is better.
>diet
I shouldn’t have to elaborate. Eliminate processed junk. Drink plenty of water, also only drink water. Maybe drink some raw goats milk but I mean no soda no coffee no energy drinks.
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>sobriety
Yes, even coffee counts. Just because it’s socially accepted and widely abused/most have an addiction and no one bats and eye about it doesn’t mean it isn’t bad. Especially for some people. No weed, no stims (caffeine, nicotine) no nothing. Be sober. No don’t become a fricking alcoholic.
>list
Make a list of any obligations or unmet goals. List the top 25 you have. Then choose the top 5 most important, whether that’s because they’re a necessity like getting a job or they’re something you just think would make your life improve. Primarily focus on those top 5. Rank the top 3 from those 5, put most of your focus on those and work on the other two as you have free time. Rotate goals into the top 5 and top 3 as you accomplish them. Focus on anything outside of the top 5 if you’ve given enough time per week to the 5 already and still have free time.
Just knowing you’re doing what you should be puts your mind at ease. For example myself
>broke fat unemployed rotting inside all day
Anxious mess daily panic attacks
>have shitty job but it’s some income, paying off CC debt building savings, losing weight eating the right way working out daily, spend time outside as often as I can
Mind at ease. Still anxious to do more, but anxiety easily 30% better after couple months of this no more panic attacks, the anxiety is more of an eagerness to go faster.
Just an example for you about myself. I theorize that me getting lean again, like at least just looking like a normal human in a shirt, 50% of my total anxiety will be gone. What I mean is our minds seem to know when we’re fricking up even if we don’t realize it or put 2&2 together about the anxiety correlating to these issues. So even if youre fricking up in smaller ways but many of them, or a few big ways, your mind understands it’s not right so your body and mind freaks the frick out when you arent at least working on fixing
Thanks anon. I know my subconscious is quite intelligent but idk why it's freaking out lately. I'll try to meditate, the other stuff I'm already doing more or less.
Propranolol also works alright, magnesium also calms me down. But i still feel like my GABAs are way overactive for no reason at all.
I forgot to mention it but nofap. 100% quit porn, but nofap is not permanent. May be pointless for you idk you or how often you jack off or care to. But if you do it excessively, and to porn, it will add to this issue. Something about the prolactin spike and I think it affects gaba too
Not OP, but thanks anon I'll keep this in mind. I also started having chronic anxiety at 19 but went away after some years then came back and progressively got worse up to now. I can't imagine myself doing the things that I could do back then because of it. good luck to OP and any other anons going through this bullshit.
Dude it was moderate for me my whole life, probably just due to people being subhuman rat shit, I was making a big effort to fix things in my life ages 17-20 and around 19 I realized I could do work on the anxiety like exposure throw msyelf into uncomfortable situations. And somehow it got worse. I ended up having shitty experiences doing that which went the absolute worse case and it fricked everything up made the anxiety significantly worse. Spent a year having daily panic attacks being a shut it. Been trying to piece my life back together since. That’s what my 20s has been. Trying to be functional again.
I tried propanol this year and the progress has skyrocketed. I reached a point where I need to do exposure but force myself to have no physical symptoms so in the heat of the moment I could mentally think focus on and work through the anxiety and have a whole new pattern learned, like so my mind would get that freaking tf out over nothing isn’t helping. And it worked. I don’t even need that shit anymore. I’m still pretty anxious these days but I can do stuff again. I can mentally work through it, less physical symptoms. It only gets better from here.
NTA but can someone help with meditation? I try but fail so hard. Running thoughts, cannot concentrate, internal dialog won't shut the frick up; I have a strong urge to talk all the time as well.
Just focus on a mantra. Could be as simple as “chilllll… chillllll… chillll”
nta but I've been doing this for the past 1.5 years except meditation.
I don't wanna be that guy but frick, I'm still as miserable as before.
I guess maybe my body is healthier and I'm kinda fit but I'm still always anxious, stressed-out, brainfricked lonely c**t with low self-esteem and no money.
Have you found any hobbies, which only serve the purpose to bring you joy? Stuff you do that doesn’t bring any benefit to your life or anyones, but you do and continue to get better at anyways purely because you enjoy it? Try that if you haven’t. Life is shit for most people right now. Most of us exist but don’t life. We fight to continue to exist purely so we can be a cog for some israelite and that’s it. Use your free time to do whatever you’ve always had interests in.
I think something we should all strive for, is to get to a point we make our own money. And I don’t mean frick you money as nice as that is, but enough to support yourself. So that you’re always in a position to actually have some fricking free time to yourself. If you’ll be slaving away anyways it may as well be for your own gain and so you can actually enjoy your one life. $60k net profit would be enough for most people in most places to support themself, save some, and if they wanted to occasionally frick off for a week or two pay someone they trust to run things for them. With the way things are right now I wouldn’t trust the man who doesn’t find life depressing.
>no money
Fix that dude… they say money doesn’t buy happiness but they refuse to acknowledge it’s a hell of a lot easier to find and become happy when you don’t have the anxieties of financial issues in your face nonstop.
>Have you found any hobbies, which only serve the purpose to bring you joy? Stuff you do that doesn’t bring any benefit to your life or anyones, but you do and continue to get better at anyways purely because you enjoy it?
I bought a digital piano around the time I stopped drinking and started living healthier. I play it from time to time but I always feel guilty about not using that time for something more substantial.
>I think something we should all strive for, is to get to a point we make our own money. And I don’t mean frick you money as nice as that is, but enough to support yourself.
That would be great but frankly... it's not achievable for anyone.
>Fix that dude
I'm trying to work on it. It's not like I have literally zero money, I just basically live from paycheck to paycheck. I have housing and food, that's it. It is what it is.
LOL, just chill out bro.
Seriously though, make sure to get on a fixed sleep schedule and exercise every day even if it's just a long walk.
This will make you more stress resistive and might be enough to prevent you from spiraling.
Even if it doesn't it's the best start to solving the problem you can make.
I used to have a lot of anxiety from late teens to late 20's. Now at 31 I feel like I have just used up all anxiety for a lifetime. Sleep and exercise didn't fix all of it but it helps a lot.
Don't fall for the medsisraelite though.
Benzodiazepines
Yes I've also gotten some oxazepam which I'm trying out in very low doses. But i want something i can use during work and benzos are pretty harsh.
Maybe i need a long holiday...
Maybe it's related to not having any opportunities to take control? I'm always being controlled by people and circumstances.
Carnivore diet
I take lexapro and it worked after nothing else (meditation, diet, exercise, walks, etc) did
Blast some test and all your problems will go away. Dead fricking srs. You will be enveloped with a general sense of well being.
I don't know if you guys are Christian or not and I don't care either but I'm praying for you guys.
God bless
I have the problem where I'm fine 98% of the time, but when I do freak out about anything, I go fricking ballistic. Like, mental breakdown tier.
I'm okay with my job, I don't have debt, I live in my own place (still a rentoid) and I'm losing weight/going to the gym.
The biggest thing for me is whenever I see couples, I fricking cringe internally. I'm smacked with that realization that I'm alone, and have been alone.
I'm too scared and too much of a pussy to just talk to random people, and dating apps are fricking useless; especially where I live.
Top it off when I talk to my folks and sister and they keep asking me about when I'm going to find a girl, and my dad saying that I'm running out of time to start a family.
>t. 28 year old failed normie
>The biggest thing for me is whenever I see couples, I fricking cringe internally. I'm smacked with that realization that I'm alone, and have been alone.
For what it's worth, 10-15 years from now you won't experience this feeling. I'm in my 40's and I have zero interest in women or pursuing women. That doesn't mean I don't see a hot girl and fantasize about spit shining her face with my dick, it just means I'm comfortable with being alone and don't yearn for a relationship like I did when I was a younger man.