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im bored af today
was supposed to hang out with my gf who came back after a week long trip, but due to circumstances we'll see each other tomorrow
been sexless for almost two weeks. idk what to do, I don't wanna keep getting drunk with my friends, it's ruinning my fitness
still worked out and generally did productive shit today but I kinda realize how much I depend on her to have fun. it's obvious tho man needs pussy but still
>my gf who came back after a week long trip
anon i...
it was a family trip I doubt she fricked a Black person or something
she might as well have but I have no reason not to trust her so I'll asume she didn't
>but I have no reason not to trust her so I'll asume she didn't
anon i...
is she white and does her family own a dog. if so I have some bad news
LEARNING TO FLY BUT I AINT GOT WINGS
Talked to my wife about her not finding me attractive. She says she doesn't find anyone attractive, and part of that is because of her anti-anxiety medication completely annihilating her sex drive. She also attributes it to us being in our 30s and being "old", but I've consistently told her that's horseshit because 32 is not that fricking old. We have an appointment with her mental health provider in October but I am seriously thinking we need to bump it up if she's going to be so commited to being this asexual, aromantic slug who thinks life is already over.
my best advice is for you to make her jealous somehow with a woman prettier than here, trust me. her sex drive will come back full force.
You are going to your wife's shrink?? What a homosexual. You probably don't even have kids. Does she even financially contribute to the household? She's wasting your time. As a muslim you guys are equal to wiener sucking gays
lol, lmao
Nice job inviting the state into your marriage. Tell me, when you see a police officer do you lick his boot too?
>she went from dating a skinny fat manlet to an uglier skinny fat manlet
What's up bar bros.
I have been in a bit of a lull and maybe even a depression. Things are going well for me. Money isn't a problem. I'm healthy. Gym seshs have been great, but frankly I hate my job and feel hopeless some days.
Working on music really brings my spirits up and lately have been completing music and writing things I'm happy with. Here's something I've been working on. If you guys listen let me know if you like.
https://vocaroo.com/1brlNRLu5038
I'll have a glass of milk bartender.
Sounds really gay. Maybe lift more and get promoted at your work then you wont be such a gay
catchpa: PAYPR
I thought it was decent. Good actually, it sounds like something I could listen to whilst very stoned and feel those strange mildly psychedelic effects of the marijuana provide me with bizarre interpretations of the sound, and also pick up more on the individual undertones of each instrument and background noise
based
work on your social life anon. also if you only have $20k, you shouldn't be donating $1k right now at this point in your life.
why are you guys such dicks. anon posts his song which he's stoked about and all you do is insult a trooper that is down. is your life really that shit that you have to bring others to your level? why even come into these threads?
>doesn’t want to be called gay
Why even come into these threads?
It's hard to start on the social life from essentially scratch again. I might ask my friend if he knows some girls he could introduce me to, he's the druggie burnout type so maybe. I don't have a proper concept of money thanks to how I was raised, my foolish self spent 2.5k over the course of a 1.5 years on camprostitutes, and I loathe it in myself.
I kinda wanna do something drastic with my life, like move into a trailer park or something, anything to break the monotony and be independent. If I kept my now job, I could have another 15k or so by end of year.
I don't think you're doing bad anon, you've got some degree of self sufficiency and have managed to support yourself in the past, you can do it again. I'm scared to make the jump into moving out even though I might be able to on paper. I need a car of my own first though.
Hey anon, I liked your song. Very trippy and psychedelic.
Pretty nice anon, why not upload it on SC, Spotify and such?
mostly because i am autistic and deal with perfectionism. i have "it's never good enough" syndrome.
I also have this issue but on a smaller scale with more menial tasks.
I take forever to cook because I want to do it right.
I got frustrated with my lawnmower and ended up mowing my lawn like 2x over.
I was staining a deck with a friend and it took like 8 hours vs the projected 4 because I just couldn’t bring myself to half ass things.
It is making it difficult to keep a job.
>https://vocaroo.com/1brlNRLu5038
I would listen to more of this, do you have more?
thanks for listening anon. i will have more soon. will release this soon. will drop again in the future with bandcamp.
Can I have a water? Today I had this urge in the back of my mind to go splurge and buy some weed, but I stayed sober and am donating like a grand to a charitable cause, albeit since my mother asked me to.
I don't know if I'm doing good or not. The good
>20k or so spread out across bank and crypto
>nearly finished my degree
>have an ok job while looking for better ones
>jacked by normie standards
the bad
>still dyel af, mediocre in any serious gym since I took two years off due to covid and then training martial arts instead
>3rd rate uni
>lack of friends and girls, at 22, never done it, never even really hung out with people at all, lack social life holistically
I wanna move out so things improve but I've never had such a degree of independence or even responsibility before. I'm looking forward to getting high on my birthday and not much else. I did reach out to an old friend through social media
we’re similar
i made social gains today though
i know most people suck but finding the good social cool people and getting them to actually like you feels really amazing
when i get high i start realizing how people actually are and i find out a lot of people are just like me, very socially inept, and the main reason why is because they don’t actually talk enough or have anything to offer. they don’t have any fun stories to share and they’re not that funny. i dont have any stories to tell because ive sat in my room alone doing nothing for 5 years but at least im a little funny and not hideous
just here to share some weeb music, i'll have a rum and coke
Is there a littleb***h contest for people who want to stop being little b***hes in addition to wanting to lose the weight? Could really use some of that in my life.
>be 27
>move back in with parents
>supposed to be for just a month now been here 3
>they ask very little of me and yet I can barely get things done, takes hours for stuff that should take minutes and if I don’t take breaks I just get slower and slower
>work isn’t going great either even though it’s a role I’ve always wanted
>maybe not cut out for IT
>today dad took over the cooking, which really consisted of just making 2 steaks
>finally psych myself up to go do it, he already is most of the way done
>angry and disappointed that I took so long to get it done
>can’t even bring myself to eat the steak, that’s how much of a little b***h I am
>drove out and now hiking a trail by myself whilst posting here
At least when I was by myself I only had myself to disappoint. I know I need to get the frick out for both myself and them but I’m constantly demoralized, shit I haven’t even applied for a license renewal and I was supposed to do that within 30 days of moving to a new state. I’m going to take the demoralization energy and use it to fast for the fatty contest though, at least that’s going alright in my life. But it’s not enough, I need something else to hold onto while I make these changes, as I’m an incompetent who can’t do anything on his own in life, clearly
Are you me?
>27
>moved in with my family again after a rough breakup and period of intense alcoholism
>have been struggling to get through the day
>all of my problems are first world problems and I chalk it up to me being a little b***h
>I’m so fricking hard on myself about every little thing it’s a daily struggle just to get out of bed
>I fricking hate it and often consider suicide even though I’m not doing terrible
>just feels like it’s going nowhere
I’m trying very hard to give this a serious go before I check the frick out and honestly everything is so god damned difficult that my patience are wearing thin.
These last couple days have been okay.
I’ve been doing things.
It started with little things, but it’s changing for the better and I can feel it.
All I can say it do it.
Whatever it is that you’re thinking of, especially if it takes less than five minutes.
I’m not talking about an heroing or anything, but take a shower.
Go for a walk.
Get a trash bag and clean all the trash out of your room.
Vacuum.
Do some dishes, whatever.
As someone who felt the exact same as you, just do things.
Your will is like a muscle and the more you use it the easier things get, and you do get somewhat of a dopamine rush from being productive.
If you see something and think “hey that’s out of place” fix it.
Just do something.
And stay off the internet as much as possible.
I was constantly refreshing the same few apps and scrolling endlessly, it was sucking up hours of my day.
This shit ruins your attention span and encourages complacency.
With all that time, do something.
Now I kinda check here periodically and it’s the only thing I frick with because it’s slow, and I didn’t want to go cold turkey.
But if you’re spending hours here every day, seriously limit yourself.
Oh, and get some headphones.
You’d be amazed at how much better you feel doing chores and listening to music compared to sitting and scrolling endlessly.
It’s wild, my man.
I wish you luck.
That's encouraging to hear man, though, the alcoholism doesnt sound like a first world problem necessarily. That's a problem that has claimed lives, so if you come out the other side having overcome it or able to keep it under control, you will be stronger for it. Former addicts of any kind are some of the strongest people I know. I hope you continue making mental health gainz.
>your will is like a muscle
That checks out given what I've seen in some other people, just, I think I've been training it all wrong to where even small shit strains it. But I've gotten a bit of my sanity back with that walk and I'm ready to cut out some things that are major time sinks, and will try to always be doing something. Even if its just for this weekend, but if I can do it for a day, maybe I can do it on the next day, and so forth...baby steps.
You're right in that I havent done too bad from the outside looking in but strip away all of that from me and I get upset over fricking steak of all things. Feels like I'm a god damn 12 year old. But, I've calmed down and ready to take another stab at the world.
>I'm scared to make the jump into moving out even though I might be able to on paper. I need a car of my own first though.
This is hypocritical of me to say as I'm scared to move out too but no way out but through. Start with the job first rather than the location, unless you find a remote job. The reason I moved the first time was for my first real job and NEEDING to move as opposed to wanting really accelerated my self sufficiency gains. You can use the internet to learn everything you need to know regarding apartment hunting, insurance, taxes, car stuff, etc. And now you have chat GPT to break it down even further for you if theres some detail you get stuck on. Definitely get the car sorted first as shit will be a LOT harder without it. Having said all that, I dread having to apartment hunt, last time I just took the first okayish one I found
Thanks anon.
I’ve only been giving a shit for a couple days this go around so I’m no expert haha.
I appreciate the kind words in reference to struggling with addiction.
I feel like it’s a choice for sure, I absolutely cannot stand it when people act like it’s some out of this world autonomous shit that they have absolutely no control of, so I’m particularly hard on myself about the choices I’ve made.
And sometimes continue to make.
I’m actually starting to take technology seriously as an addiction and it’s blowing my mind how similar it is to other struggles.
This week is good, though.
I don’t believe in a lot but if you’re thinking of doing something lazy next week, I’m sending good vibes your way.
Remember this post.
Water, please.
I need to figure out a job/way of making money. It's stressful. I have some leads, some more longer term than the others. I wish I weren't banned on IST for some reason, then again there's a lot of LARP going on there too.
>ban
Just unplug your router for 5 mins or if that doesn’t work use your phone as a hotspot. Don’t let the Black personjannies win.
I'm just baffled what it was. I rarely visited it. Mostly asking questions about how to unfrick my life tbh.
what actually is tech consulting? as somewhat of an aside, people on the chan talk about these jobs where they help boomers figure out how to print files and open emails and shit and i have no idea how they get them.
even if you're good, you're considerably less likely to get a job as a man ditto as a white man. your best options are small business or recruiter. try to find a recruiter which garnishes the least amount of wage and/or will negotiate max salary for you
I remember posting when I got my first consulting payment to the old entrepreneur general but now IST is is just 100 threads about gambling on some coin no one's ever heard of
I wish they'd make a crypto containment board or split off the business/career part somehow
frick off crypto is fun
You got any possible entrepeneurial ventures that someone like me could do? I want to escape the wage cage sooner rather than later to enjoy shallow pleasures indefinitely, and I think I have quite a bit of Nightcrawler in me
>can do ok visual art (illustration/digital painting, maybe segway into graphic design?)
>programming
>general IT stuff
And I guess that's it for hard skills
For my path the answer is a bit boring.
Get into a tech consulting firm, work at for 5 years and hit senior level, go off on your own and consult directly
For consulting specifically, a lot of people who want to freelance try to skip the 5 years working part, but it's pretty important, both for getting past clients'
>this guy's an actual consulting business, not a rando playing at freelancing cause he can't get work
filter, as well as to learn your business (preferably the work experience is from a consulting shop, be it programming, IT, whatever)
After that email clients, use Upwork (it's terrible, but in my field one or two "real" jobs show up each week, so that's one or two potential new clients I don't have to go out and look for), and cut whatever your old employer charged in half
Then once you get a job give 5 star white-glove hotel level service.
I haven't had to look for clients in a year, my previous ones come back with more than enough, and I typically take a week off each month
I can't speak for art, or producing content, drop-shipping, etc. for that matter. Though from what I've read they're all pretty saturated
Get me a lemon Spindrift. Quitting weed and lifting has been awesome but unless you're regularly pulling women for casual sex then it becomes a curse. I'm way hornier than before and I can't get women over dating apps.
I’ve been wondering what’s up with that.
I kinda just fricked off on a t break and my dick has had a mind of it’s own.
I’ve just been walking around in my kitchen laughing at having a hulk strength HS boner lmao
>oneitis has been giving me the side eye
>Be told to be curious and creative growing up
>Grow up, graduate
>Constantly grapple with the fact that if I'm not doing something (whether it be a hobby or something outside the core of work and study) that shows immediate value or results it just gets looked at condescendingly as a waste of time by my parents
>Still applying to jobs, parents are slightly confused why I haven't gotten any calls
I feel like I'm trapped in a mental box where I can't move without stressing to the point of inaction and my curiosity and interest in exploring new things is on life support because they don't bring monetary value or status, so I feel a sense of futility in wanting to do them.
>24
>jacked asf from training for 6 years
>now only jailbait and 18-20 are interested
>niece in law flashed me her breasts and laid on my shoulder while watching a movie
The last girl I texted that was older than me treated me like the next dude she wanted to marry an didn't want to frick until much later; so I ditched her. Everyone assumes i'm older like 28, that somehow isn't a bad thing like I thought it would be, i dunno i'm rambling. I don't think older women are worth going after for any reason.
>18-20
Congrats, the only quality females are interested in you. Maybe 18-22 at most.
I was fed this meme that older women are easier to frick, and it has been the exact opposite experience for me.
Why would you want to frick them?
>I was fed this meme that older women are easier to frick
They used to be, but online dating has ruined things. Frick even single moms are a pain now. I just date younger and it's better all around.
Your winning son, just mind the whole not going to prison thing. Ain't no pussy in the world worth that.
I can’t seem to find the energy to work out after a 10+ hour day at work. It’s killing me. Any advice?
Make it a habit, you’re energy will be sapped sometimes. Condense your workouts to make it easier to get through after a hard day. When I’m busy like that I alternate cardio and weightlifting to make working out easier.
What do you mean?
>water
i am 25yo, completely aimless, dropped out of college once already, have no friends, and my family doesn't love me. i have completely failed and feel like most of my life, even from my earliest memories, has been stressful and painful. it's getting harder to remember things in general but most of what i can remember is negative. my father is getting ready to retire and move him and my mom to another state and he is using this to set up getting rid of me for good. he will probably frame it as not letting me move with them but he knows i have nowhere to go and even though i work can't afford to live in the area where my current job is. trying to talk to him is impossible. my job already treats me poorly and won't give me a raise and if i transferred to another place i would have to start again from the bottom position and would take a pay cut. i don't know what to do. i don't know if it's possible to try and start my entire life over from complete scratch and be an entirely new person or if it's too late. i'm already incredibly tired of life.
>25
>too late
homosexual. Go see a psychiatrist and therapist, tell mom and dad your feelings, and stop wasting your time on negative thoughts or else you're gonna wake up 10 years later in the exact same place.
If he’s in the US he likely doesn’t have insurance (after 25 you are removed from your parents’) and is pretty fricked unless he wants to baker act himself and have that on his permanent record only to get two weeks of help and then turned back to the streets.
I really wish it were as simple as “get therapy lol”
US healthcare is a complete joke.
>t. 26 y/o who wasted his early 20’s self medicating until his kidneys failed and is now physically healthy but mentally a complete wreck with no support system
no idea what the baker act is but medicare covers basic therapy. it may be bottom of the barrel therapy but its covered. so are basic medications. might be a shitty process if he isn't applied though.
>complete wreck with no support system
my parents were clueless, it honestly pisses me off every day that i was turbo fricked from the beginning. so sorry to hear that anon i feel you.
i'd recommend getting some wagie job and being ruthless about repairing yourself when youre not working. you're where you're at, accept it will take time, and make it happen. that's the advice im giving myself anyway
There’s a very huge margin where if you make more than x amount of dollars you cannot take advantage of Medicare.
You pretty much have to be completely homeless, which sucks.
It’s how the system was designed, specifically to frick over the people it’s aimed to help.
Damn that's crazy. Well I tried to help anon-sama. Hope he finds some help and his parents don't boomer him to death.
For instance if you get a wagie job, they will not give you heathcare and you will no longer qualify for government assistance.
If you do enroll through the government assistance, the premiums are higher than getting your own private plan.
It’s fricking insane and I’ve spent a long time on the phone about it.
Even the people that run the government enrollment centers think it’s fricking bananas.
What happened to your kidneys?
I drank a handle of liquor every single day for seven years straight coupled with an incredibly well funded painkiller and other drug addiction.
Eventually I died standing up because my kidneys failed.
My blood toxicology report looked like a pharmaceutical invoice checklist.
They broke every single one of my ribs with compressions before I came back around.
Apparently I was dead for quite a long time, doctors had absolutely no hope for me.
It’s truly a miracle that I am here, and I now have more than a quarter million of medical debt.
I had insurance at the time.
Everything came back except my kidneys, and I spent eight months on dialysis.
Apparently you’re really not supposed to get off of dialysis.
I was like the only young person there, and all the nurses made a huge deal about dusting off the discharge paperwork.
That was only the start of my troubles.
After that I stopped caring and continued to drink heavily for the next six years, completely destroying my life socially and financially.
Within the last year I’ve decided to make an effort.
Damn, at least you have the chance to bounce back now. It sounds like hell. Certainly a unique experience, to say the least.
Were there any signs or symptoms you noticed before your kidneys gave out? Also, how was your liver?
Goddamn why do people treat children like accessories?
It sounds like that kinda thing that suddenly turns a man religious. God really wanted you to be here gay. Find God, and preferably the Muslim one because alcohol is haram and you need that
There is nothing on the other side.
After the first time I popped on over every single friend I had that was of any sort of religious inclination really drilled me hoping that I’d experienced some kind of divine intervention, and I really did my best to not be a total edgelord gay about it.
It’s like one long blink.
No light, no voices, no consciousness.
Just one long blink.
Although I will get a little gay and admit that when my best friend came into the hospital and held my hand when I was in a coma, my ekg started to pick up.
Everybody cried.
26
Literal simple google search
>After
I retract my statement
i've been in and out of psychologists and psychiatrists my entire life. my parents would take me to one or the school system would send me to one, i would go for a while, my parents would be mad at me for talking to one, and then they would discontinue the appointments and the cycle would repeat. i can't talk to them at all. they are not mentally well people themselves and do not listen to me. it doesn't matter what the conversation is it always ends up being totally one sided because they have already decided what they are going to say, like i'm not talking at all and they're lecturing me. i already know what it's like, i'm mentally still in the same place i was when i was 15. i see no way to change, i am completely stuck and can't imagine myself succeeding or imagine setting or achieving real goals. i am mentally broken and can't act on my own will.
if this isn't a joke how did you get your life started at 25? what do you do?
i am in the us. i am sorry you went through something as traumatic as kidney failure and alcoholism.
as stated i have a job and can't live where i am on what i make and transferring to another location would reset me to making almost nothing. i don't resent anyone, my parents clearly have always hated me though. your useless "advice" reminds me of the kind of garbage my parents say whenever i try to talk to them. they didn't raise me and mistreated me and act like how my life turned out is somehow my fault. i hope you don't have kids.
Then go be homeless, dude. Being an amine shut in probably prepared you for it, right? You totally weren't coddled.
>i am mentally broken and can't act on my own will
You're gonna do great on the street.s, kid. Alternatively, MOVE to someplace where you can afford to live, and do shit work like the rest of the human race, and make the best of the curse of flesh. Or keep expecting your family, who obviously hate you and you feel the same, to do something to keep your ass out of a gutter. Better to run, than curse the road.
It was different. Kinda liked it. Would listen to on a Playlist
>move to some place you can afford to live
Yup it’s bait
>my parents didn't teach me a trade!
>I'm on a fitness board, but can't do manual labor!
>I haven't even got my driver's license and I'm 26!
There comes a point where you have to take responsibility for yourself. If you're making shit wages where you live and can't afford to live alone, your options are move, be homeless or get roommates.
Crying about it here won't help you.
Alternatively you could think about the ~~*people*~~ who have landed us, as a country, in this situation, and realize your parents are part of that, and then act as you wish. Either way, grow the frick up.
Yes grandpa you’re the greatest generation.
Okay now, I think it’s time for bed, let’s be careful getting there.
I'm 25 and just getting started. A better future is possible? Splendid.
>state and he is using this to set up getting rid of me for good
You entitled little shit, how long should your parents take care of you? Get a job flipping burgers and deal with the humiliation of being a mid 20s no skills wage cuck until you figure out wtf you want to do with your life. Get rid of that resentment, dude. You're an adult. If you can't afford where you live now, fricking move. It's what ppl did for centuries when places got too crowded, and it's what calihomosexuals (you sound like one) are doing now as they flee their suburbia shitscapes, to migrate and destroy the next state over.
Double vodka, stolis hundo. Thanks.
Bros, it's felt like there's something wrong with me since middle school and I expected grow out of it but now I'm late 20s unemployed and can't even feel or remember things anymore. The anxiety is so bad. I'm in therapy but it feels like trying to scoop all the water out of the ocean with a spoon. I think shit happened when I was a kid with my parents that I can't even remember and now every time I try to talk to people I feel so much shame and panic that I can't get a job or make a friend or talk to women or anything. Even the way I think of other people or try to think about the world or my life feels completely distorted by my own fricked up lens of perceiving life. I don't see any way out. Like I was just cursed from the start. Idk. Shit feels truly hopeless. Every second there's this feeling under my skin like I'm not good enough and something is just plain wrong and I can't get out of my own head for a second to even figure out a little what it is. I don't want to die because I'm holding out hope but I don't want to live anymore either it's just to painful and exhausting. Idk why I'm even posting this and I know it's just a b***hfest but idk what to do man.
Get your hormone levels checked. Dead serious. I had similar issues, found out my test levels were extremely low and were a massive contribution to those feelings. therapy is worthless unless it provides a solution.
I've decided that he called me because he missed me. Can't think of any other reason so it's my headcanon now
You gays can't change my mind
Woman homosexual or daddy issues, get out.
Glad you are willing to be positive however.
That dudes twiggy alien hand startled she shit out of me.
I’ll bite though, why are you posting this old skinny lady?
She’s like the polar opposite of high test hnngs.
At least you went.
I walked into my gym, it was fricking packed and my social anxiety kicked in so I just abesimpson.gif’d my way right back out.
I’ll pat myself on the back for the walk and try again earlier tomorrow.
Gonna walk my dog for a real long time in the middle of the night and do like 100 pull ups in sets of 5 changing grips.
ive been lifting for 11 years and and only bench like 145lbs. never lifted consistently for a long period and ate perfect until recently. started in the gym like 115lbs and now im 150lbs. i wanna post progress pic to make other people feel better but it seems like half of this board and the entire website are gay homosexuals now. you guys go on ahead without me, i wasn't meant to make it. i think the love of my life i just asked out a few days ago isnt interested or maybe was just super thrown off by me asking, it might be over.
You’re gonna get the only good thread on this board banned by being a sperg and posting this old skinny hag.
You’re probably hurting our test levels.
My sister is feeding her now 1 year old son (my nephew) basically only veggies, fruit, and tofu, and previously milk formula that had a bunch of seed oils in it. I'm upset at her because while she isn't strictly vegan, she and her husband seem to think that meat isn't necessary for the boy and that he will make his own decisions when he gets older. they are jeopardizing his potential imo and it bothers the frick out of me.
when we had a family lunch, there was a chicken dish and it was so damn obvious he wanted to try it but my sister is like "oh nopeeee here's some dairy-free yogurt!". btw I have given my opinion on the matter and they both give me that condescending smile and look saying "haha okay, well we know your the expert aren't you? when you have a baby you can do it however you want".
So yeah that actually qualifies as child abuse. It's malnutrition and parents have unironically been jailed for that. If you love your nephew you'll call child services.
Call CPS.
jesus christ man are you okay?
Thanks.
I don’t know that I’d say that I am okay, I’m definitely very depressed.
I moved out of the house at 15 and had an incredibly interesting life.
In fact, I’ve lived through a lot of stuff that most people only dream of, fantasy or nightmare.
I worked hard and shaped my life into the exact kind of chaotic and fun time that really trips my trigger, and I lived like that for years.
Nobody could say shit to me because I was doing so great in all aspects of life.
For the most part, nobody really knew I was as fricked up as I was.
I never did anything shitty or fricked anyone over, it was just a constant good time.
It’s hard to have a bad time when you’re fisting $2000 worth of roxys per day.
I was on top of the world from 17-23.
And then I fricked up and outed myself as a complete frickup.
After that it seemed like the more I tried to explain to people that I was fine, the more it became a lie.
My life really spiraled downward when I lost my career because of it, and continued to act like everything was fine.
And then I fricked up even worse by quitting the drugs.
That just led to more drinking.
Constantly.
Shaking, seizures, withdrawals, that was the day to day for years.
Looking back I have no idea how I functioned like that other than momentum.
I still made good times and had fun, but it was always at a cost.
Alcohol is the worst fricking drug of them all.
With no career and ambition, I drank with my girlfriend for years until we ended up this horrible codependent amalgamation that loved each other more than anything but were losing the collective will to live.
I almost ruined that woman.
I never deserved her and she has physically saved my life (full code hospital trips) more times than I can count on one hand.
She never did drugs like I did, but she sure could drink.
Eventually one day we sat down and very cordially decided that it was best that we both went out separate ways.
Ten years and my best friend, gone
After living through such fantastic times and being forced to start over, the anhedonia I’m experiencing is absolutely profound.
I could have died any number of the times my heart has stopped and you could’ve written a great book about me.
But now that I’ve fricked up and had such a prolonged and public mental breakdown, I don’t think I could an hero without people saying “oh he was great… Until those last few fricking years god damn he was a sad piece of shit.”
So I’m making an effort to get it together.
I’ve already lived an awesome life, but I’m going to try to be a regular jackoff and get it together, normal style.
I do wish I had health insurance so I could get therapy.
For reference: https://torontosun.com/news/crime/mother-facing-life-in-prison-after-vegan-diet-kills-18-month-old-child
That kid needs someone to love him and if it's his uncle then that's how it's gotta be. Don't wait until the kid is dead to care. It's not a funny "lol can't believe she's feeding her baby vegan" it can legit kill the kid.
Got rejected by a stinky flat faced chink and I want to die.
Took viagra to feel something and almost went into cardiac arrest.
Sat outside hospital for 2 hours in case heart went kaput.
Going to spend the next month cutting and trying to not kms.
Hi tender, may I please have a sparkling water?
My (kind of ex) GF is scaring me.
I've always been hurt and bullied by everyone, especially my family. I can't stand to be around them anymore and, even though some have made genuine attempts to bond with me, it's really hard for me to open up to any of them because of my fear that they'll hurt me again.
Then, my GF goes and cheats. I uprooted my entire life in less than 24 hours and moved back in with my parents. She kept telling me she was going to be my wife one day. A while later, she begs for me to come back. I tell her that I'll think about it if she changes her lifestyle to fit mine and can actually commit to being an obedient wife that is an asset to me and not a liability. Meanwhile, I'm fricking some other girl on the side just so I can feel like I got 'revenge.'
She keeps pressuring me to tell her that I love her, that we're a 'couple,' that I'm never going to leave her, etc and goes into hysterics every time I don't promise her whatever she wants to hear. The latest blowup was that I want to move to Nashville with my friends and I couldn't promise her that she can come live with me. She doesn't grasp that I don't trust her, and doesn't grasp that this behavior pushes me even further away from her. I have visions of her hurting me physically and sometimes I'm afraid she'll kill me if I'm dissatisfied with her and I leave. I was in the car with her yesterday and I was afraid that she was going to steer me into oncoming traffic. I'm becoming scared of her for no reason because I know she wouldn't do these things. It's my body's defense mechanism against people who hurt me. I shut down and don't let them in, and the more they try to pry at me the more closed I become. She doesn't get it and she doesn't understand me.
Cheating is like that door everyone has but it's closed. Once it's open, it's always open.
I just don't know what to do. I've expressed these exact feelings to her and all I get is "you're crazy if you think I'd hurt you, I promise I can fix it just give me more time. Now tell me you love me and you'll never leave."
I told her that she was starting to stress me out tonight and needs to leave me alone until the morning. Part of me hopes that she cheats again so that it'll be easy for me to leave.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murder_of_Travis_Alexander
You wanna have a wife that cheats? It's hard but you have to move on.
Your relationship isn't repairable and she alone is responsible for her cheating.
Cut contact, move to Nashville with your friends, and don't look back. There is hell to pay otherwise, even if she doesn't keep cheating on you despite that you're demonstrating that you're a doormat, the thought of her doing it will ruin any chance of a healthy relationship.
I could really go for a cigar tonight but there's no decent store nearby and I can't be assed to keep them myself
Got a jar of cherry moonshine I'm gonna nurse a bit, need to meditate before I get to the drinking though
She likes me but she's not gonna text me and I don't know if I wanna deal with that
Give me a chocolate milkshake, shaken, not stirred.
>be me (not you or anyone else)
>30
>work as a teacher, half substitute and sometimes on contract for a semester in a real position, no permanent placing yet
>still lifting, still eating right, still not getting proper sleep as my biggest Achilles heel
>extremely lonely and depressed, anxious, getting older and feel like I'm going to be alone forever, been involved with a variety of girls since breaking up with my only gf I've ever had in 2020 and all have wound up being unstable or bad to me (last girl went 180 from love to hate and canceled plans after two good dates because I waited a couple days to text her and didn't send any good morning texts and she expects more effort between dates, that's been pretty par for the course)
>I'm pretty handsome and tall and sometimes I think that just means I attract shallow girls
>starting to lose hair, holding at a NW1.5-2 on fin/min which just makes me feel like I have even more of a time limit
>secretly published a book, working on more books
>once in a while play some tunes at local music nights downtown
>on summer break, just makes me feel more isolated since at least during the school year I'm out interacting with colleagues and students and keeps me social during the day
No purpose to this post, just blogging.
Damn bro. Sounds like a pretty similar situation to what I'll end up in. I'm even looking for teaching work.
Shoulder has been fricked for seven months now anons.
Going insane without being able to put weight on it.
Ortho, x-rays, then months of physical therapy, then a minor surgery. Still not fixed. Going in for an MRI on two weeks. Wish me luck that I can finally get back to the real lifting and the mental health that comes with it.
Water please
Well I did it. I got fit, got low bf%, got mires but still single. I don't really like talking to people but sex is nice. I keep hearing those "hook up" apps are more like dating apps now. Maybe I'm just feeling down cause I got ghosted by this girl. Idk.
Also it's deload week.
Give me the whiskey bottle, rutgut of any kidn frick it.
>29 no gf virgin
>moving to different city
>lifting but still look fat
>fantasize daily about a girl merely giving me the time of day to talk about what she likes.
sdfsdfasdagaf
>don't know if I can focus on my goals with how bad these fantasies are getting
If the virgin part bothers you more than the nogf, you could always take the hooker pill. That’s what I did and still do, I’d still like a gf someday but I’m not as haunted by that as before, so long as I have my friends and my hobbies it’s k. Also kinda neat feeling like I no longer lift for pussy, I’m just lifting to be a better me. That said if you have the remotest hope of getting laid naturally I’d hold off on it, or maybe just pay a hooker to be your conversational partner so you can get used to talking with attractive girls. I’ve anecdotally heard it’s worked for some people.
I want a family.
Talking up a hooker would be nice in order to get at least a perspective on what the grill wants during a fug. I appreciate the advice.
>Talking up a hooker would be nice in order to get at least a perspective on what the grill wants during a fug
Idk about that one as I would assume each girl likes different things. Even hookers have their preferences, one liked her breasts roughly licked, groped, and sucked and I tried that on a different one and she told me to chill out because it was painful lol. If you want a family though yeah definitely don’t go this route.
Condoms have been largely effective, Im still clean and I’ve been doing this since I was 25. Though, to be honest STDs generally don’t scare me as much anymore, if I was a gay man taking it up the pooper I’d be a lot more worried about the risk, but most of the shit at risk for as a straight male isn’t life threatening. My only regret is not getting the gardasil shot before doing this as I found out that you CAN’T test HPV on a male, you know by symptoms, so even though my tests come back clean I could still have it. And gardasil would stop the cancer causing variants. So honestly if you get gardasil and use condoms, you’re at an incredibly low risk. Especially if you pay a lot of money to see a high class one as they have a reputation to maintain and word gets around in prostitutemonger forums. Hell if you go for the pornstar companion route they will only see you if you’ve been tested by talent services, hence, everyone they’ve been with is clean.
I’ve been doing this since 25 and I’m 27 I should say. *
Also I forgot, if HIV scares you (and again it shouldn’t as even if you have unprotected veganal sex the odds of transmission are low, let alone with a condom), you can get a prophylactic by telling your doctor you’re gay. That will completely stop the virus from infecting you, almost like a vaccine but it doesn’t stay in your system long so you’d take it the day of. There’s honestly never been a safer era to prostitutemonger.
>he thinks you can’t get aids from a female hooker
Wrong, I think you can’t get aids from fugging women, lol. Just wear the thing that is impermeable to viruses, shrimple as. https://www.aidsmap.com/about-hiv/do-condoms-work
But if you’re tearing up some dudes ass yeah of course the thing that primarily gets transmitted from blood is going to be transmitted. Don’t be a gay and you’re good.
>HPV
isn't this only if you eat pussy though?
You can get it on your genitals too I’m pretty sure, but not as much of an issue for men as women as it won’t give you dick cancer (at least not that I’ve read…). But certain strains do cause warts I’m pretty sure.
Yup just looked it up and can cause warts in both, and unfortunately it does increase the risk of penile cancer RIP. Always use condoms folks
nta but doesn't the STD risk kind of scare you?
>t. 26 khv considering taking the hooker pill.
Is this from a post-apocalypse movie or something?
Why are the plants all fricked if the hose is working?
Tonight I'm drinking and listening to 90s-2000s alternative
Did you know The Fray are from Denver? I'd have assumed they were Irish for some reason
>Drop the feels
Last May, I broke up with my MILF girlfriend because I met a beautiful nurse with thick thighs and butt.
We started dating last month, she's sweet, shy, and she even let's me use her Mercedes. Needless to say, life is really good, until a couple of days ago.
My MILF ex-gf is a cardio freak who goes to the same gym as me. But I haven't seen her since the break up, until two days ago.
She was wearing a body suit. Her lats, arms, glutes, quads, and calves are now big. She also flirts with a lot of the guys on our gym.
The worst part of all, I just learned last week that she knows and talks to my parents. They go to the same church.
Water please.
Anon's I want to know, are any of you just tired? I feel like my whole life i've been in some rat race that just never seems to end. Everyday all I say is that I want to go home but I dont know where that is anymore. And I've done objectively well for myself.
>27
>in good enough shape to be able to run a 5k
>own property
>In the top 5% of income earners at my age.
>decent relationship with friends and family.
I'm a khv but I don't think getting a girl would make me feel any better. Yeah i'm lonely sometimes but I just feel tired. I've traveled to several countries and all that did was make me sad in other countries. I don't even know what I want at this point.
Also I guess if anyone anon is reading this and wants to know how to make money, go into accounting. It's a simple job and even a dumbass will start making 6 figs after 2-3 years in any large public accounting firm. Just be ready to work 80 hour weeks that will suck your soul. If you play your cards right you can make decent money 4-5 years into your career.
>works 80 hour weeks that sucks his soul
>why am I so tired
Gee I don't know anon
Seriously though, change careers or smth. You're obviously not enjoying yourself there. I can say I know that feeling because I do work in accounting myself, though the money definitely isn't as good, it's just a small company lol but my point still stands. Most careers are soul crushing, but I think if you do your research you might find something interesting. The money won't be as good since you'll have to start from the bottom, but there comes a point where I think your mental well-being and happiness is more important than having a 6 fig salary
Obviously don't quit your job because some anon on IST told you to, but look into it for sure and if you find that it actually is the cause of your depression and you would feel better somewhere else then do it anon. Wishing you luck
Also
>are any of you just tired?
By God, I'm exhausted. Partly because of the reasons I stated above. I'll need to follow my own advice
where is a safe place to ask women out? I get the feeling they would record me on tiktok when revealing they are underage if I did it at a movie theater.
A bar. That's literally the only safe place. Anywhere else you have no idea how old the girl is and if she's 17 rather than 18 you just stepped on a landmine.
do women go to bars alone? I thought that wasn't safe for them.
Nope, they go with their friends. You will need to be able to navigate that. Have fun.
They go in numbers for safety, but also to wingman, I danced with a fat chick and we were vibing but her skinny friend came over and separated us gradually
I can never tell if girls actually like me at the gym I go to so I completely stopped even trying. i just look through everyone at the gym. It kinda sucks to be honest.
I allegedly peed in a friends shower and now he wont invite me back to his house
>be me
>years since I last had sex
>bring girl to my place today
>she has hot and horny as frick
>I was too nervous
>couldn’t get it hard
Just
rip
don't worry anon it happens to plenty of people. happened to me too and I wanted to kms for years
find a girl you're comfortable with and it wont happen. random casual drunk sex might be out of the question, but someone you can do a lot of foreplay with and feel at ease shoud do
The girl was nice tho, apparently she wants to keep going out with me.
But I’m nervous it will happen again, or that she will tell her friends.
I’m feeling like a little b***h to be honest
>or that she will tell her friends
why would you give a frick about her friends?
just tell her you're nervous and shit, honesty gets rid of all tension. it can be a total turn off for some girls, others don't care at all, others feel nervous as well and that can build rapport. but the only other alternative to letting yourself be vulnerable and honest is viagra
ngl telling a b***h you didn't get hard cuz you were nervous can permanently shut her legs, but imo it's better than taking a pill or trying to force it.
>why would you care about her friends?
I see them often, and I would get really fricking awkward around then
>just be honest and say you are nervous
I did, she understood and tried to make me comfortable, but it didn’t work.
It was pathetic seeing this hot girl on top of me and lay there with a soft dick.
>The girl was nice tho, apparently she wants to keep going out with me.
that's the key element. if you're doubting then it's over. the girl problably likes you, that's why she doesn't care about that. some girls actually enjoy delaying the prize.
Just do your best to be charming and go down on women.
Either one of those things should buy you some time/ patience.
Both in tandem should be fine.
Happen anon. How old are you?
23, the same thing happened when having my first time at 17, it’s not age related
This happens to me occasionally. No big deal if you don't get a complex about it
I've only had 2 drinks (light beers) in the last month.
Frick my childhood friend died last year and I found out only two months ago and it's kinda hitting me now and I'm all fricked up over it. I haven't seen him in years, but he became reclusive and out of shape. I was really concerned. Now he's fricking gone. I found out by a local park bench with his name inscribed on it. I was sitting there today expecting one of his family members to appear but I got up and went home. Then came back later and saw a flower there. Frick, I missed them. Frick man I'm sorry I wasn't there for you. I go back to that bench a lot and sit and contemplate things, to realise I'm still breathing and I that everything is temporary but I need to make the most of it. I struggle with suicide, tried to hang myself twice and failed, and it makes me realise that despite my pain I'm selfish for even trying and taking life for granted. I really have improved in life and I'll make a separate post about it later but I just need to vent. I'm sorry man.
This is unrelated but a friend of mine pissed me off really bad and I ran a bake sale from the bike shop I was working at and saved the profits until I was able to donate ($500) a garbage can to the local parks system. It got a plaque that said “Dedicated to Anon’s Middlename Friend: not dead, just garbage.”
A bench was like $1500 and I thought my choice fitting.
We’re friends again and I haven’t told him about it yet.
Hahahaha that's awesome. You made me feel a bit better.
I’m glad I could bring you some joy, anon.
I’m a serious fricking goofball and it’s one of my few redeeming qualities.
Sorry to hear that. I've lost a few friends, and got a few I don't talk to anymore that I'm worried about. Life gets complicated and tough and no one really gets it right
Remember that the end doesn't make the good memories and their impact any less real. Both your impact on your friend and his on you, and you can still channel that into more good in this world.
Also sorry to hear you're having a tough time. It sounds like that contemplation is a good thing though.
I go on a run every once in awhile past the cemetery and always look over at an old buddies headstone as I'm going past. Makes you remember the old times and keep pushing forward for the luck of still being here
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I'm changing careers at 32 years old. I interviewed for a new job on Friday morning. Starting at the bottom sucks but wish me luck anyway anons.
I'll have some scoops of mutant mass with another scoop and water with mutant mass
I'm too much of a pussy to ask girls. meanwhile even the ugliest dyel around has some decent chick at his side.
also they seem to get nervous when I talk to them. not like they wanna run but more like they stutter
This is great, all the dumb banter in this thread and the few anons that are real as frick sort of simulate our own little weird dive-y corner of IST.
This should be a regular thing, but weekends only so that the purists don’t get upsetti spaghetti.
Met some friends after a long time to watch Oppenheimer and one of them asked if i've been going to the gym because i looked pretty fit
It's just small talk but felt so motivating, considering that i feel barely improving since i start a few months ago
As someone who’s recently lost 40lbs acting casual but appreciative when someone comments about it makes my frickin’ week.
It’s the best motivation.
That’s why I kinda feel for the anons who post b***hing about their weight loss struggles who aren’t even doing CICO right…
If they’d only work hard enough to get just a taste, they’d never need motivation again.
That's the most generic, unexciting woman I've ever seen and her name is ~~*suspicious*~~
She is not israeli. And she's a Goddess of fertility.
4-month repeat blood work for elevated liver enzymes tomorrow lads, wish me luck. Don't drink. Don't vape nicotine products.
i posted this in the last one but it’s still haunting me.
>go to party with my gf friday
>my gf and her best friend have the same outfit on
>i am more than a little drunk
>i walk into the kitchen and see my gf
>wrap my arms around her middle and at the same time kiss her neck
>she giggles, turns around and it’s her fricking friend
>”you got the wrong one anon”
>doesn’t mention it for the rest of the night
>contemplate telling my gf but decide against it
>wonder if she is going to tell my gf eventually
Good God. Tell your gf now!
It's soo much better it comes from you rather than her friend.
Kek, this is such a minor thing to worry about. It wasn't intentional, your girlfriend's friend just thought it was funny, they're aware they had the same outfit on so you could have confused the two from behind, and there's nothing for anyone to be that upset about.
I am so fricking horny now that I have started exercising and lifting weights again. Like an animalistic pure horny but at the same time it feels healthy. I'll get my 90 days pornfree no matter what.
It was my birthday yesterday. I spent the whole day with people whose company I don't really enjoy just so I wouldn't be alone
That's tough man. You have a year to put yourself in a better position for next birthday.
lastweek i asked a cute girl i crossed the road with her number, I was bit nervous while doing but surprisingly she did, after days of thing about the message i should send her, I found out that she blocked me in whatapps. Not gonna lie i feel disappointed and push me to recall all my past failures with girls which are many , i want to vomit It's all tiresome. The silver lining is i am going to use this to push and get serious about my mental/physical improvements
Around women, lies are a given. You thought because a human female was nice to you that she genuinely liked you, but in reality most women can't breathe without lying.
It happens dude, no reason to fixate on the why when it comes to women. You'd never be satisfied with the answer anyway. Be proud that you mustered up the courage to talk to her despite your nervousness. That should be a win in your book, that you made the effort.
Women are scared and have anxiety around random men. She will most likely do that to many men who ask her out and she doesn know or feel comfortable around. To not upset the man so he doesn't stalk or kill them. Don't take it personal.
I'm struggeling with findom, I almost sent again, been clean a few months. Feminism, female teachers and femdom porn messed me up, my femdom fetish is strong. I try to regain my masculinity, instead of debasing myself, but my programming is hard to break. So cringe.
Anon, what the frick is wrong with you. Stop paying women to exist. It's not even pathetic because I know that you get off on it feeling pathetic, it's just stupid.
Yes correct it's stupid, I'm trying to improve but my dick makes me moronic. I shouldn't put women on a pedestal and enable the bloated ego of western women. I need to regain self control.
I don't know how to let go after a conflict with someone. Big, small, doesn't matter. I just replay the situation a thousand times in my head and the rage keeps building up when it's already all over. How do I learn to let go? Sick of this endless loop, it's no way to live.
i know this feel. this is anxiety anon. my guess is you have your mind on idle too much, learn to occupy your mind with something else. also consider that msot people have probably forgotten about said interactions so there's no need for you to replay them constantly. read up on the spotlight effect.
do this daily for 3 weeks
you can't control your thoughts, but you can control how you react to them
let the thoughts pass and exhale the anger
Thanks for the link.
getting your shit kicked in might help you get over it you little homosexual
Your words mean nothing to me, I am now in control of my emotions and distanced from my thoughts.
wienersucker.
im bored. weight loss is going good, uni starts again in september, still enjoying manga etc etc, but im just bored as frick
You can worship her
white women dont move me, im still bored
Just some water, I'm fasting today.
Also, I'm using this a push ups roll. Don't mind me too much.
My life is starting again; I'm stoked. Divorce almost finalized, and I'm moving to Mexico to study Spanish and hopefully get kidnapped by a Latina. I'm ready for adventure
I couldnt hold it anymore yesterday, lads
>Best friend from university 15 years ago
>barely see each other those last 8 years
>hes traveling here and there, has a van with his gf etc
>ring him up like twice a year to see whats up
>worth noting im always the one calling
>get invited yesterday "so yeah we're staying at gf's parents house"
> her parents are charming
> my friend vaguely says hi, spends the whole afternoon sleeping (headache), refuses a beer, goes cooking by himself or help the parents
> his gf is more occupied with her friend's newborn baby
> im just here, existing
> drove 1.5h for this
fastforward bbq time at like 8pm
>his mom stops for a moment, looks me dead in the eye
>"are you okay, anon?"
i cried
i had to let it all out, told them flatly i wasnt supposed to be there, they were lovely and welcoming and it broke my heart to be faking my happiness. I told my friend that he really didnt need to invite me to family dinners where a toddler is crying, my only friend literally sleeping while im going for a walk with his gf's parents i dont even know.
Everyone should have a mom like that, who has seen so much she knew something was wrong with me
we're all just here to find love
it's good you said what you were feeling, so they knew what they meant to you
This old university friend has become an increasingly distant acquaintance, and yet you still consider him your only friend. That's kind of tragic to be honest, and I'm not trying to be unkind. I think the experience you mention should be a wake up call. Time to give your social life a spring clean and a refresh.
It still sucks that this "friend" couldn't even fake interest after he invited you and you drove hours to see him. What a c**t. What was his excuse when you pointed that out to him?
>This old university friend has become an increasingly distant acquaintance
Yeah i realised almost as soon as they dated tbh
>and yet you still consider him your only friend
Im not sure where my original post wouldve led you to think that. He was my best friend from university but i have quite a load of other friends (all equally busy/living far away tho)
>What was his excuse
He didnt really say much. He was about to start telling me he didnt choose to get a headache but i cut him straight 3 words in, i know him and his mentality so much now I couldnt even let him have an opportunity so play the victim card.
Its pretty weird to say but its sort of relaxing now : the last spark of interest in this friendship died, i think. Its not out of the blue, theres been numerous times of me visiting and hes just acting way more arrogant when his other friends are around, im fed up with being the clown when we used to have such a connection. Thats all, i need to let this go.
Lift heavy stone
Will make sad head voice quiet.
>" I told my friend that he really didnt need to invite me to family dinners where a toddler is crying, my only friend literally sleeping while im going for a walk"
Anyway - good for you man, cut away the dead wood.
oh i get it now, probably poorly phrased it
I meantmy only friend at this place. Other people were his gf, her parents, and a random girl with her baby
Hey man, I will tell ya- people grow and change.
We’re constantly doing it, and while it does hurt when those that we’ve grown and changed with forever eventually divert onto their own route, it was bound to happen.
People have their own lives, and we can’t be there for all of them.
Change is inevitable, and dwelling too hard on the past can lead to resentment.
With close friends from youth it hurts exceptionally because you developed alongside each other and reveled in camaraderie.
You’re through the difficult adolescent times now, and not everyone needs their close friends like they used to.
The best thing you can do is be your best self and remind them why you were friends in the first place, but expecting things to be the exact same as they were years ago will never yield good results.
So, go on and be your best self.
Trying to bend other people to your will and having nostalgic expectations will only get you hurt in the end.
I’m sorry the dude was being a dick.
Maybe send him a text or a card in a few months saying something about how all the change caught you a bit off guard and you may have been working on some personal things, and invite him out to get lunch or a beer (something intimate/ not a group).
Maybe it goes well and you guys hit that rhythm where old jokes still hit the same, who knows?
In the mean time work on making yourself into someone you’d like to spend time with, that can never hurt.
I’m guessing he’ll want a break from his life at some point anyways, just let him know that you’re still there.
I’m probably gonna get called a fricking simp, but friendships have their ups and downs.
Patience is the most important thing in these exchanges, because you can’t force someone to want to spend time with you, you just have to be your best self and hope they haven’t changed too much.
The spark is still there, you just can’t force it.
>t. I’m this idiot and I’m obviously great at friendships
This is unrelated but a friend of mine pissed me off really bad and I ran a bake sale from the bike shop I was working at and saved the profits until I was able to donate ($500) a garbage can to the local parks system. It got a plaque that said “Dedicated to Anon’s Middlename Friend: not dead, just garbage.”
A bench was like $1500 and I thought my choice fitting.
We’re friends again and I haven’t told him about it yet.
Yeah i understand.
Thanks for the input anon. We saw each other every now and then those last years and it always felt like the original years were dead BUT there was still some smiles and funny references to and old joke etc.
This time was literally the last straw, commiting hours of groceries + driving, being promised a "bring your swimmingshorts were going to the lake" which was eventually canceled because "meh its hot and im tired"
Whatever
I cried and it felt good
Tequila sunrise, please.
Guys, bros, gentlemen, I need to know, what the frick is happening to me? I am 32, I have been dieting and doing cardio for three months and seeing weight loss results...and my brain is suddenly fricking everywhere all at once. I am hornier than I was when I was a teenager, even though I am a married man with an infant daughter. And yet my inner paranoia of getting cheated on, something that I have NEVER felt before, has become overwhelming, to the point that I'd honestly call it a phobia with how bad it's gotten. I've alternated between overwhelming terror of it happening and unyielding rage at the perpetrators of a situation that hasn't even happened - and at the rate I'm going, it's gonna destabilize everything. My wife knows about this and has done everything in her power to assure me she is faithful, and I do believe her, but the paranoia is still there - particularly the idea that she could somehow be blackmailed or coerced into an affair, even though that only happens in shitty porn plots. I don't know what to do.
just let your wife frick a Black person while you watch in the corner and get it out of your system.
I would unironically rather kill myself than do that.
You're projecting, you idiot. You are tempted to cheat and you assume your wife feels the same way. If you're not getting enough sex, either discuss your needs with your wife or beat off more.
>even though that only happens in shitty porn plots.
That's your answer. Cut porn out of your life, other than the other detrimental side effects porn alters your understanding of reality and causes you anxiety by tricking you into thinking the things you are seeing are in any way real.
should I reach out to older friends?
I'm 21 and somehow managed to end up with only 3 real life Friends that all are not able to make time to hang out, they all cancel plans so often that I ended up thinking that they dislike me, a fear that turned out to be in my head after having a heart to heart with one of them, maybe it's because they all have gfs and stuff.
After school I was unemployed for 3 years and then landed a crazy job, so instead of going to school and having a life I instead was a NEET that only went outside to lift. Now I feel like I'm missing out on life.
What do I do bros. The last 3 months I've been outside 6 times. People say just go outside and one day It got so bad that I just did, it was extremely weird and it made me feel even worse.
I wish I could just meet a girl that is in the same position like some kind of movie.
People say go to places that other young people go to but I don't like clubs and stuff. So why not go to places where people with the same interests hang out? Well, what would those places be. Anime conventions? That's not something where people go regularly.
I wish there was some kind of place for nerdy gays would hang out, maybe online but that sounds cringe.
Yes. I had an old friend that I hadn't seen in 5+ years reach out randomly over Steam a few weeks back. We chatted briefly but it didn't progress since we don't have much in common anymore, regardless it still felt good to reconnect with him.
So last thread I was all in my feels
Short version
>roid
>get emotional
>ghost new gf
>call my ex and get back together
The backstory on it, we were going to get married which was very scary for me and I basically pussied out and deliberately made her hate me, she begged me to stay, it really destroyed her and I truthfully still loved her at the time but pretended I never did. She is actually perfect. But I connected losing my youth with her, only to discover it had already passed, and instead I simply lost a good woman for no reason. I tried to date again and get over it but I just felt like I was cheating the whole time, like others were her imposters, no one could compete.
I went on a trip and just kinda stared into the water for a hot minute thinking about things that's when I decided to legit dumparoonski the current right then and there, and get the ex back, who I just should've married bros.
I have such an incredible sense of relief from it, I feel like I have so much clarity. Roids either fixed me or fricked me up we're gonna know when the cycle ends
I have to cancel my gym membership because I am too fricking poor, I am now reduced to bodyweight workouts. Life sucks, but it is what it is.
I used to loiter around the door past staffed hours and just piggyback someone when they went in. There's always a way
My gym always has staff at the door though
I’m having a hard time coping. I feel so blackpilled. I need to move, move states, find a job or career that makes decent money, and continue getting fit. It feels like so much work and the rewards seem like a long shot at best. I feel like I’m walking up show in the dead of winter.
missed my shot with a petite redhead fitgirl because of my anxiety. she even told me she’s on some injectable birth control and doesn’t need condoms.
Here we go, another attempt to stop drinking
Going on 30 now, still single. Didnt go out this weekend and the loneliness came back.
Hey man, I’m doing it too.
I really need a hobby or something because after drunk watching tv for so long my attention span is kinda fricked if I’m not impaired.
It’s weird complaining about being too sentient, but that’s often why we drink in the first place: to numb.
Your chemical imbalances are probably way out of whack, too.
It takes about two weeks until you’ll finally feel sort of “normal” again, but I urge you to give yourself a fair shot.
If you keep torturing yourself by half quitting and then getting that insane dopamine rush by relapsing, you’re not doing yourself any favors.
It will suck, but try to convince yourself that you’re worth it.
That’s where I’ve been struggling.
>I really need a hobby or something because after drunk watching tv for so long my attention span is kinda fricked if I’m not impaired.
Same
I already managed to quit for six months before, but I relapsed. Gonna try to stick with it this time.
Still feels like I am going nowhere fast right now. Met this girl that seemed to be fun and because she was nice to me I instantly started imagining a future with her. Turns out she was already married
I’m glad you made it 6 months man, that takes some fortitude.
One of the things that I’m struggling with is the fact that I really don’t want to be one of those “I don’t drink” nerds.
I feel like it’s off putting to those around me and I should be able to have “just a few” for special occasions.
I’ll do okay a couple times and then go off on a fricking bender.
What kind of a way is that to live though, if you’re too much of a moron to have just a little bit of fun?
I’m torn.
Because life should be worth living.
I need to find something that validates me other than alcohol, but it’s just so easy.
I’m sorry if that was kind of unrelated, I’m just spitballing.
Help me score with this older milf from hinged dating app. I replied to her prompt like so, she matched with me 1am last night but didn't send anything. Am I going to have to take her out for drinks or can this be a casual sex encounter first?
Ya might’ve goofed, she hit you up at 1am, my guy.
Not to say the whole operation is bungled but you could’ve had a sure thing if you’d played that right.
Maybe think of an ice cream pun related pickup?
Don’t say lickup line though I thought about it and that’s too dumb.
“I was trying to think of an ice cream related pun, but I’m all out of lickup lines. How’s your day going?”
You’ll have to have a lot of conversational savvy to get yourself out of that hole, my guy.
She didn't hit me up she just matched with me but I see what you're saying..
Yeah I mean if she’s sitting around matching on dating apps at 1am… Ydg?
I wish you luck, anon.
Go read through the 31 flavors of baskin robbins and try to come up with something.
>a thief broke into the ice cream shop and stole all the 31 flavors. It was a Baskin-Robbery.
Help me work this into an approach
Heyy, you match the description of a woman who’s suspected in the burglary of a local ice cream shop. It was a Baskin Robbery, and I think you stole my heart.”
idk
There’s more work to be done, other anons are welcome to shop that.
Nice but I think the you stole my heart is little cringe and unnecessary
He said she’s old.
I would never say that to someone my age, haha.
Older women like corny stuff, especially from young dudes.
I hope anon isn’t one of those goofballs who’s brain has been rotted by porn and thinks a 25 year old is a milf, haha.
I mean,
>I was just reading the news and it looks like someone’s burglarized a local ice cream parlor. It was a baskin’ robbery! Among the items missing were the 31 flavors and my phone number. I’m sure you’re familiar with the flavors, but here’s a description of my phone number, let me know if you see it around.”
but you’re already talking on an app so idk how much better off you would be other than proving that you’re mildly clever
OK, go with
"Let's frick, you old b***h"
It succinctly lays out your intentions and expectations, and subtly negs her making it subconsciously apparent that you are inviting her into your frame rather than vice versa. Furthermore the forthright language attests to an abundance mindset on your part, and the fact that you weren't too harsh or explicit cultivates the sweet spot of "wienery and funny". The brevity keeps her guessing - mystery is an aphrodisiac.
You're welcome anon, I've just handed you dynamite.
Ok just so I know, how old is “older?”
My friend said he was dating a milf and I had to contain my autism when he was dating a literal 50 year old woman with a kid his age. He actually meant it.
Most morons mean like a 28 year old woman lol
I can't bring myself to study for an exam on Wednesday, It's not that much to be honest but i just sit here and doing nothing. It baffles me have my mind just can't start.
I’ve been doing the same thing.
I do it with papers, I do it with studying, I do it with homework.
I know that I can pull it together at the last minute and get a good grade, but it’s causing me to be a B student and not an A+ one.
I’m so fricking bad about it.
I will put off something for weeks and it’s literally all I can think about but I cannot bring myself to work on it.
And I’m paying money to go to school, I’m moronic for not trying.
If I figure out the secret, I’ll keep you posted but I just wanted to let you know that you’re not the only one m8.
Here’s what sort of works for me.
The one thing that sends me into a productivity frenzy is locking my phone up and not using my usual goof off websites.
Sometimes if I deny myself the ability to mindlessly scroll or relax I will go hard in the paint but it’s always house cleaning or exercising, never the schoolwork.
Maybe try
>throw on some music
>do some dishes or clean a bit to get in a productive gear
>start your schoolwork and do it for 30 minutes
>clean something else for a bit
>back to schoolwork
>alternate 30 minutes on/ off until success but don’t be afraid to keep working if you’re in the groove
The key I’ve found is to take breaks but not even give yourself the chance to get sucked into something distracting.
Give yourself a break but remain productive.
If you actually make a dent in things you’ll be able to lie down with your technology at the end of the day and it will be euphoric, but the time for work is now.
Good luck, homie.
>2018
>Fricked up, no hope, feeling completely lost and useless
>Go to therapy
>See gold star of David necklace on therapist
>Say "I don't think this is going to work out"
>Just leave
>Go to gym
>Sign up
>Easy 400% increase in life since that day
Thanks therapy
I just realized after a long fricking time with depression and drinking that I've wasted a huge amount of my fricking time being fricking depressed over my ex after our breakup. Two years of dating some girl who I think never really loved me at all and decided that she was a they/them and started dating a troony. She even told me that she had low self esteem before she met me and being with me was the first time she had someone she could trust. Once she got confident enough, she just exploded at me at how I was making her feel like shit all the time for looking down on her. I stuck with her through her depression, unemployment, and other shit she was going through in life with. Despite all that, I really did like her a lot. We shared a lot of interests and could talk about shit that we both enjoyed.
Two more years spent being depressed over the breakup where it fricked with my job and friendships. Everything was going great when I was with her. I got so fricked up from the breakup that I stopped talking to people, stopped working out, and started drinking. My doctor told me my health wasn't the best for someone my age and I lost a lot of the muscles and body I had put my effort into.
Why the frick did I let someone this fricking insane ruin my life like this? I want my four years of my life back.
>decided that she was a they/them and started dating a troony
I thought this was a meme. Where did you find this chick lol.
As someone who ruined six straight years of my life being a depressed butthole, I too wish that I could get those years back.
It really, really fricking sucks.
But, I’m trying to take a stoic approach to things and appreciate that I cannot change the past, I can only move forward and be better.
Today is all that matters.
I’m just having a difficult time accepting that, and I keep dwelling on all the time I’ve wasted.
There is nothing to be gained from moping but it is insanely difficult to just ignore.
I’m thinking about finding some stoic reading or something to help me wrap my head around things, I would suggest you to do the same.
Hmmm
>low self esteem
>super needy and dependent when she's low
>overly critical and denigrating when on a high
I think we have the same ex, anon
She one of those Tumblr people too, your ex? I wonder how common this type of shit is.
She's still just as miserable in her new relationship too. If anything, I'm just annoyed that I wasted so much time being fricking down over someone who is fricked in the head and really can't be fixed. I guess I should be lucky that I never got around to putting a ring on her and having kids. Can't imagine someone like that raising kids with her.
Say what you want but those tumblr girls can FRICK.
It’s polar opposite, they’re either damaged prudes or damaged freaks, but when it hits it hits.
Just don’t delude yourself into thinking it’s worth it in the long term.
At least you’re not a woman, homie.
If it makes you feel any better at least you didn’t waste valuable years on your biological clock.
Imagine how fricking crazy you would feel if you wasted some of your prime childbearing years being hung up over someone.
I would be super fricked up if I destroyed my chances of a true companionship and family with someone, I’d probably never forgive myself.
So, it could be way harder.
You can still get your life together and find someone youthful who appreciates you and start a family if you so choose.
We all have the same ex
Likely bpd, never initiated sex, super defensive, hyper-critical, black/white moral compass, unable to apologize, but most importantly
>super needy when low
>denigrating when high
why does it keep happening to us bros? Do we just ignore red flags or are we pussies?
>Unable to apologize
Holy frick. This is so true. Why is this always the case?
I think women are just shit at apologising in general. I think their brains function differently. They do something, shit goes south, you get upset. They're oblivious to the cause and effect of their actions, all that registers is the shift to the emotional dynamic. Hence their apology is limited to some variation of "I'm sorry to see you're upset" and their solution is some superficial peace offering while not addressing the underlying problem.one iota.
idk man, I think it's more than just women. My bf is like this. Refuses to see things my way or respect my boundaries. Is not sorry because he doesn't care about them in the first place. Won't address the problem, because he's right.
>She even told me that she had low self esteem before she met me and being with me was the first time she had someone she could trust. Once she got confident enough, she just exploded at me at how I was making her feel like shit all the time for looking down on her. I stuck with her through her depression, unemployment, and other shit she was going through in life with. Despite all that, I really did like her a lot. We shared a lot of interests and could talk about shit that we both enjoyed.
Bro i got married to an american girl and went through the same thing. Introduced her into so many hobbies, never abused her like her exes. Never argued, I was basically her support beam and she climbed while i stagnated, you can see where this is going. She dropped me at the first sign of weakness. it's like my best friend wasn't even real that entire time, it was just a facade, i was nothing more than a stepping stone so she could propel herself upwards.
I considered her my best friend, we did everything together, spent so much time together. And she ended it just like that. There were some red flags at the start of the relationship that kicked in my gut instinct, i ignored them when i shouldnt have and now im paying the price. I treated this girl with love and respect and at the end i am shamed, reduced to nothing and she moved onto someone else and was probably in contact with him before she dropped me.
Ive made good progress with myself, but betrayal is really fricking hard to get over, especially someone you speak to everyday. You will make it, i believe in you champ, get those years back with me. Just never get comfortable again.
>stepping stone
he'll constantly ask favors and talk about his hobbies until I'm basically just interested in his life and there to be helpful... then he goes "you have no passion for anything". Yeah... go figure, you filled it all up with yourself, so that only you matter. Do you feel me?
im not following, are you saying your partner is choking you? If it means anything she introduced me to mtg and other hobbies. We shared a lot of stuff together
we also share a lot together, but how do I explain it, it's all his stuff. Like he expects me to drop everything and spend hours in a practice room w him. Which I sometimes do. But sometimes I don't have time for...
You should try and talk to him about it. One of the reasons my relationship failed too is lack of communication on certain things.
You. You’re who this post was for.
Thanks for the redirect
>Just never get comfortable again.
Dont bring the baggage this bad one handed you into your future. Don't let others taking advantage of you change your very nature.
nta but "getting comfortable" in the long term is rarely a good thing, especially where relationships are concerned. even if you don't get outright cucked, you can still end up growing stagnant very easily, which if you're a man is pretty much the worst thing you can do at any point in your life.
Getting comfortable is bad. Just keep your edge, you can relax, just not too much.
Not that anon but I’m trying to take the discomfort pill. it’s not going down easy…
You're confusing "getting comfortable" with "getting lazy".
there's nothing to confuse here, because they're the exact same thing
love is not unconditional and someone who doesn't have the possibility that they're not measuring up to the standard they need to at all times is bound to have not only their relationships fail, but also never live up to what they could've otherwise
you need to understand that making something of yourself still means living in hell, anon. accepting comfort will just trade your emotional discomfort and maybe even paranoia for regret
get over yourself lol. you don't live in hell. you never have and you never will.
>you don't live in hell. you never have and you never will.
we all live in hell, anon. sometimes we just manage to distract ourselves from it for a while. the only reward if you manage to make it to old age is to realize that it comes for everyone eventually, maybe just later than if you were a born into being a coal miner working long hours for company scrips and getting black lung 100 years ago
your hell is being dumped. that's not hell.
>your hell is being dumped
that's not what I'm referring to, it's more the relationship of living things to the way the universe is structured. the best idea humanity ever had to subvert it was to make up fairytales about gods and afterlives, all of which eventually failed as people realized wishful thinking isn't enough to make things any different
get over yourself, dork.
again, it's not just me, it's all of us popping in and out of various states of denial about it
once old age sets in the pleasant denial phases will become less and less possible, and then it'll all be over. there being no afterlife isn't a bad thing, because no logical afterlife could actually be better than just nothingness (realizing this is actually all the buddhist "enlightenment" concept is)
dork lol
sounds like you just have no argument against it
which, I don't know why you'd want to in the first place, because it means that death is better than life, and we're all going to die anyway
why dont you juss have a nice day then? hint: it's because you know you're talking shite.
>why dont you juss have a nice day then?
because suicide is the ultimate selfishness
think Ian Curtis, how much more the world got out of his suffering while he was still alive to sing about it, not even mentioning that he left a wife and kid behind. his existence was tormented but the world was a better place purely from him being able to express it in a way that nobody else could, great art and actions are literally only possible in a world where suffering outweighs everything else and nobody is ever satisfied for long
why is selfishness inherently bad? why would it matter to you if you're already dead? your argument is crumbling under your own lack of conviction in ending your life.
You arent Ian Curtis homosexual, there are much less people who will be hurt by your death.
>You arent Ian Curtis homosexual, there are much less people who will be hurt by your death.
but it's still a non-zero amount
>why is selfishness inherently bad? why would it matter to you if you're already dead?
it wouldn't, but it would matter to others, which should be enough to at least wait until your parents are dead if you're going to do it
>but it would matter to others, which should be enough to at least wait
why? we're all going through hell after all. the perpetual state of hell was what you used as justification to never accept "comfortable", why is it no longer a good enough reason to justify suicide?
>the perpetual state of hell was what you used as justification to never accept "comfortable"
then you just misread, the reason to never accept "comfortable" is that it keeps you from doing anything worthwhile during your life. the fact that you live in hell anyway makes the discomfort worth it, because regret would be a lot worse.
maybe the specific language is what's tripping you up which is 100% my fault, it's like, you'll never make it to heaven in your life (like comfort baits you into thinking you will) but if you refuse to ever get "comfortable" with another person you can trade the hell of regret for the purgatory of just never being truly comfortable during your life
Will you gays quit arguing about absolutely nothing and let this pretty cool thread die in peace?
Nobody fricking cares, get on with it and read half of the advice in the thread.
Get a hobby.
how about mind your fricking business rather than trying to peddle people shitty "advice" they don't actually need?
What?
I think you accidentally responded to the wrong person.
nothing is worthwhile because life is hell though. you're just an imbecile who's caught out because all you know how to do is parrot shit you read in meme images and heard on youtube video essays. you don't hold these views, you just think that presenting as if you do makes you cool. that's why you won't have a nice day, because you know life is better than death.
>nothing is worthwhile because life is hell though
strawman and you know it, never said anything to that effect
>you're just an imbecile who's caught out because all you know how to do is parrot shit you read in meme images and heard on youtube video essays
that's 100% projection on your part
>that's why you won't have a nice day, because you know life is better than death
again, you'd have to be 100% self interested to do this. it's like saying, "what, you wouldn't torture a person for a million dollars? I guess that means you're wrong about having a million dollars being better than not having that money!"
We're only working off your autistic logic here mate. You're the one who posited that we exist in a perpetual state of hell. I do accept your concession though, however embarrassing it turned out to be.
>You're the one who posited that we exist in a perpetual state of hell
we do, but you seem to struggle with the idea that some hells are worse than others, injecting nihilism where there is none to be found
Your concession was sufficient, Lewis.
the frick are you even talking about?
you just didn't get any of it because it wasn't a youtube video essay or whatever bullshit you're used to getting your opinions from
>living in hell is better than not living in hell
This was what you claimed. I took is as a concession, because what else could it possibly be?
>parroting my own "youtube essay" insult back at me
What was that thing you said about projection? kek
in hell is better than not living in hell
>This was what you claimed
again, only if you completely ignore morality, which you still haven't given a single good reason to do so. the burden of proof is on you for that since it's the entire cornerstone of your entire argument, that morality can and should be ignored for the benefit of the individual.
define moral good
Let’s say you typed out a response to this post, and didn’t post it.
Give us a break.
I accept your concession again. Watching a militant atheist claiming morality is objective was pretty funny.
I’m not even the guy you’re arguing with lmao
>actually I'm just a different autist
damn u got me there bro
Hehe
that wasn't even me, just someone who correctly pointed out that the argument we're having is extremely boring.
plus, I'm not even an atheist
Define moral good or you're conceding that you're parroting shit you saw online and everything you've posted was a LARP.
>Define moral good
frick that, way too complicated
let's just say that not leaving a mess for others to clean up is a moral obligation, you didn't ask for it but nobody else did either, so frick it you're just stuck with it and that's that
burden of proof is on you to explain why you should be able to violate that moral obligation and contribute to making things worse than they already are just because life's a b***h and then you die
>frick that
I accept your concession. It's crazy that it took so long, but I couldn't have asked for a more direct, humiliating and final "I was LARPing all along" than you just gave. Thanks. I'm off to beddie byes now. Try not to seethe too hard in your inevitable reply (because your fragile ego just got obliterated by catching you out lol)
holy schizo
The duality of man
>I want my four years of my life back.
Good or bad, you can't get time back. The only thing that matters is where you are going, not where you have been. Keep your head up! I was cheated on after seven years of worshipping my ex, a year later and I'm happier and more successful than I ever would have been with her. Love yourself the way you love others and you'll be fine.
Let me guess. She is an antisocial neet, can't shower or take care of herself, has severe insecurity problems, has some family problems, and looks mid at best but you convinced yourself she's beautiful. Sounds like my ex.
What is BPD chicks? Keep seeing this shit come up with insane girlfriends.
Bi Polar Disorder. Look it up.
Glad it isn't just me. What initiated my breakup was one day she suddenly lost her shit and said "maybe we should break up" a couple of times out of the blue. That, on top of a lot of references to suicide, upset me and I took space. Not two days went by and she freaked out about how I was ignoring her and I clearly didn't want to be in a relationship.
Don't date crazy fellas... If she clearly has low self-esteem and/or a bad relationship with her family it's best to not get attached. Lesson learned.
And if you stop lifting, stop dating her. It means she doesn't want you to be happy.
Borderline Personality Disorder, actually
Borderline personality disorder
Could also be narcissistic personality disorder. It's a damned pandemic. Narcs love to go on about how damage they are and how they have "low self-esteem" when in reality it's just a smokescreen for their truly self-possessed nature.
Narcissists are unable to have healthy relationships because they inherently see everyone in the world as either worthless or useful but never with true emotional sentiment. Sometimes if they can see traits they either wish they had themselves or actually have in another person, they may treat you as an extension of themselves which isn't much better. Listen to your guts, people. Trust your instincts. Most people can spot a borderline/narc if they just pay enough attention and don't get blinded by the lovebombing or "reeling in" stage.
Self-obsessed** jeez
>Narcs love to go on about how damage they are and how they have "low self-esteem" when in reality it's just a smokescreen for their truly self-possessed nature
whenever I read this kind of thing, I wonder if I'm a narcissist just by sheer nature of having chronic low self esteem that nothing ever seems to fix
NTA but i read somewhere that narcs like to wear past trauma as some sort of medal and my ex did this. I wasnt aware of narc traits at the time. Also the lovebombing was real too, i had never experienced that before and enjoyed it. It makes sense now looking back at it, will be easier to spot for the next one.
FRICK I love her.
Finally hit a 95kg bench recently, and I'm feeling really good about it.
6'0, 89kg
Here's a picture, I'm not where I'd like to be yet but it's good enough so far. I'm training for my uni's rugby team, tryouts next year are supposed to be pretty tight.
Friendly advice: consider doing something else with your hair. It might be curly naturally but I don't think it suits you.
Yeah, it is curly naturally - and it's difficult to manage.
I've tried a few different things, but recently (about 2 days prior to that picture) the barber really fricked my shit up. I don't have a very good head shape for the style in your pic or mine, and I know that.
I think I'll try growing it out a little bit again, it looked much better in some of my other photos when it was a little longer.
got banned from my gym today cause of sexual assault charges against me. false charges just to be clear but honestly even if I had done it that shouldn't impact my ability to go to the one place I feel safe and able to heal from my emotional wounds. I've been harassed for five goddamn years by my ex, gotten exiled from my music scene, targeted by the legal system. and now they came for the gym. I fear my workplace is going to get targeted next or maybe people will email my landlord or something idk. I'm so tired of losing things and people and spaces over shit I didn't do. I'm not a threat to the people around me. I'm not dangerous. I don't talk to or stare at or harass anyone in public. I can't escape this shit unless I move cities but I don't know where to go
yeah all those unrelated things together kind of suggests you are the problem and it is specifically something you're doing that is attracting this attention.
Tell us the story.
I’m pretty curious and I feel like you’re definitely gonna leave some things out, but let’s hear your side of it.
I’m always intrigued by these scorched earth campaigns waged against dudes and I’m wondering just how much “nothing” it takes to get one opened up on yourself.
it's either one or the other:
-genuinely unlucky dude with a crazy ex
-"everyone's out to get me I'm so unlucky" guy who pretends like he didn't have anything to do with the things that "happened" to him
it's good to hear him out tho
Who's "they"? "They" came for the gym? Someone cares enough about your demise that they would specifically do that?
Green tea please
Lazy Sunday, slightly hung over, no responsibilities until tomorrow
Painting some car parts, it's the ultimate
>have patience, take it slow, do it right
filter. I'm getting better at it but still need to not get hasty in the middle stages
Should probably talk to a certain girl, but haven't really been feeling it this weekend. Might just send a
>Hey I'm tired but hope your weekend went well, let's talk tomorrow
Hope your Sunday is going well anons
Golf shirt narcissist ex anon here
I did it
Posting here to say not only do I not feel a thing towards her anymore, I've progressed in basically every aspect of my life along the way.
>got a raise
>kids I'm coaching doing well
>lifts going up
>reading and becoming closer to God
>hanging with friends more
>not touch starved
>able to flirt and talk to women like my old self again, uninhibited
>no contact with the c**t except for a few minutes a week where I basically ignore her and feel absolutely nothing but slight disgust
>friends and family complimenting both my physique and demeanor
I feel free mentally, physically and spiritually. Special thanks to the anon who tore me a new one a week ago about it.
I feel like I'm actually losing brain cells talking to my bf (I think he's a narcissist, he admits it). I just need to drum up the courage to break it off... he has some of my stuff. We are in the same hobby circles. Idk what to tell people. I'm glad you got out of whatever your situation is. I bet the fog has cleared up a lot.
It took months for the fog to clear. I didn't know she was a narcissist until about 2 months after the breakup, where previously we were friends for 11 years then together for 7 months. She is good at what she does.
I'd recommend a YouTube channel called something like exposing the narcissist with Clarise. Every video was 100% accurate on what she did, how she did it then it also explained why she did it and what to do about it.
Best of luck to you.
My bf is a little more subtle than the average description of a narcissist. One moment he's confident, the next he's full of self doubt and begging for attention. I think he's covert. Thank you for the channel reference!
The thing about this type of relationship (I find it difficult to call it abusive) is that it's addicting. I'm chasing a high. A high hope that it'll all be normal again and we'll be happy together and improve our lives and make music and get a house. And every time it breaks down, I'll get that hope again and again. Just a little more. I'll move in with him. I'll convince him. I'll research it, how to make this better. I'll do everything, but we're so fundamentally different, I'm such a prime candidate for abuse and he has enough childhood trauma that he refuses to properly address- why am I so hopeful? I'm in a good situation to leave now, why do I want it to work so badly? I've been mindbroken. He says he's suffering the most, but I've come to learn that's just another part of the "woe is me competition." He's not the one wondering what he did wrong, frantically googling, "signs of narcissism. NPD. Is my partner a narcissist. Narcissist spouses. What is F.O.G. ? Does abuse cause brain fog? Circular conversations" and trying to figure this shit out himself. No, he's just fuming while not responding to my messages to "protect himself" and later denying that he ghosted me at all. What is fricking wrong with me.
Did you take LSD or something anon
She finally did enough crazy shit for me to not miss a single thing about her, and I was finally about to let go and let whatever happens happen.
I just found out after I posted (and I wasn't hunting for this info) she's getting kicked out of her trailer, she's making a 15 year old watch her special needs kid so she can go frick the guy she was cheating on me with and I'm hearing she's possibly on pills.
Yoo, I don’t know how or why but I’ve got an unshakeable gut feeling that she’s going to start messing with dirty lil’ blue 30’s (which are never real anymore, always pressed and cut with something) and that’s going to go very poorly.
I hope you’re ready for a family gathering, anon.
My grandparents were Romani people and sometimes I have strange dreams, and when I was young my grandma would tell me what they meant.
There were bells in my dream but they were far away, distant almost like they were from another town.
I was worried that someone I knew would fall ill or pass soon, but somehow I feel like this is all connected.
Been a few bullshit months. I haven't posted in over two or so years. Last time I posted here was 2016 with a sob story of what I was going through. IST actually responded, where my family wouldn't. I remember somebody posted that GOOD Jocko video, and it helped me straighten my shit out. Got a well-paying job, a gf, completed my military service. But it's been downhill for months now.
>Lose uncle in February 2022. Hospital said 'rona, it was an exploded liver due to alcohol though
>My mother, his sister, been feeling garbage ever since
>No other family to speak of, except for my brother, who has moved out
>Basically am my mother's emotional support for over a year now
>Still being given shit, and unable to move out
>Due to uncle's inheritance, we're able to afford a house, yet I can't do it, because it's not in my name, it's my mother's
>Mother tells me to decide when I want to move out, yet shoots down every decision I've come up with
On top of all that
>Got a bad gastroenteritis which developed into severe allergy to pepper, basically can't eat it, in December 2022
>'rona in January 2023, developed precordial catch syndrome due to office job
>Negative gains ever since, lost 5 kilos in 2 weeks, made it back in pure fat
>Gf and I had to go long-distance due to studying abroad
>Realized she was stalking me through other people's stories on Instagram => no trust, which is fundamental in long distance as I understand
>Friends have been ghosting a lot recently, haven't been out of the house except to workout (cali-gay) and company parties (where apparently I'm being stalked)
Basically, I feel like I'm not being trusted by anyone, yet am expected to be supportive. She could be railed by a gigachad and I wouldn't know, because I'd trust what she says. The important thing is, I can't speak to anyone about all these things, not even my brother, because they wouldn't understand. Job has been very stressful lately too, due to us being in production
Hang in there. You know what they say about nosy partners. If they suspect something of you, it's because they're guilty of it. Seen so many stories of partners who regularly stalk or snoop their partner's phones getting caught cheating when the same is done to them. Why doesn't she trust you? Is she generally a paranoid person or is she hiding something?
>long distance studying aboard
Bro, im not memeing or making BBC jokes, i 100% guarantee she is not staying faithful and in the impossible scenario that she is, it would be because of equally impossible luck.
You cannot afford to remain committed while she's off 'growing' on her own. She'll come back saying she or you changed and break it off in the following months anyway, TRUST me bro. I do not care who she is, from where, what kind of upbringing, other circumstances etc. because it does not matter.
In the end you lose, not her. Long distance benefits her in every way and you in 0 ways.
As someone who was the person who a partner cheated with (aka not their partner, but I was the side b***h. it's sort of gray - I didn't think he was cheating- but let's just say that for simplicity), you're probably right. Go to another country, meet new people, not surveilled by your partner or family or any connections you might have had in the other place, so bedazzled by your new life and freedom that you start to worry that your partner is having too much fun by himself...
Let's just say, with the person in question, he quickly realized how much he was missing out on in his old life. It's easy to hook up in college. Many freshman thirsty for validation, love and contact.
yeah im not even blaming her, it is what it is. Im just imploring he sees the inevitability.
i went to a euro school with a popular study abroad program and every. single. person who came in with somebody back home did the inevitable at some point. 0 of those relationships survived.
How do I get a track and field gf bros
>trains 5x a week so no time for boys
>cares more about breaking PBs than you
>probably molested by coach
Sounds like a horrible girlfriend, why would you want this? If you want sex with a fit girl just find a fit escort?
>Sounds like a horrible girlfriend, why would you want this?
nta but having a gf that doesn't:
>rope you into a bunch of social events with milquetoast people you don't give a frick about
>slowly come to monopolize your time
>lack an understanding of why you spend so much time training, wanting you to do it less
on top of staying in shape just by virtue of sticking to her own training regimen sounds amazing
My dick hurts from being violently deep throated by a tinder girl.
That's all.
tight bro
think i've got the 'pression. shower once a week. clean my teeth once a week, if that. havent changed my bedsheets since christmas. putting on a bit of bodyfat. not really enjoying much at all lately. need something to kickstart me back into normality.
literally wash your dick, like juden peterstein says.
Also read his book for a little perspective. Just keep in mind he's kind of a homosexual himself but not likely as much as you are. Plus you just need the perspective, not ultimate truth.
Read other philosophy to, really helps reframing your mind and thoughts to make some changes.
>Read other philosophy to
>inb4 he reads schopenhauer and just gives up even more
washing your dick once isn't gonna help you wake up on time and brush your teeth every day.
>wake up on time
This is definitely a huge part of the problem.
Indeed. It is also something I struggle hugely with and it literally fricks everything up. Wake up at 12pm
Bros I literally set 2 alarms, one of them is the sonic bomb and the other is my iPhone. I had set them both up yesterday but still woke up at 12. Asked my dad what happened and he said I disabled the Bomb. The button to actually disable the alarm is tiny and the snooze button is massive, but somehow I conditioned myself to hit it anyway. If I had been slightly more awake I would have hit the snooze but I don’t remember this. Oh and as I was getting ready for the day my iPhone alarm went off - silently. I know for a fact I set it up to not just sound but also vibrate. iShit is the goddamn worst.
It's gotten so bad recently I slept thru my alarms till 2pm. You are probably seeing my meltdown in other comments, but it's mostly bc I've been up until 3:30 am texting my partner. I'm actually so paranoid he's gonna find this but he shouldn't go on IST.
oh yeah I woke up at 2pm yesterday and I said wtf it's 2pm? My dad said I called you and you said you were awake... I was like, shit I must have forgotten. So often, someone has a normal conversation with me, I go back to sleep, and wake up with absolutely no memory of it. It was funny in HS when I would get up, get ready for school and ask, "wait, why is there soup on the table? Who made this?" My parents would say, "you said you wanted it.... you don't remember?"
Weird shit can happen when you're not fully awake. The worst part is, even you don't realize it when you're in that state.
The trick is to put your alarms across the room. Somewhere that you have to get out of bed to get to them.
Go get some blood work done and make sure your body is functioning properly.
Being that exhausted is a sign that something isn’t right if you’re not just being a lazy NEET.
I have periods of being a lazy NEET tho
That being said, I am occasionally paranoid that I'm anemic, but they did say my iron levels were fine. I also have ADHD if that says anything.
I’m anon that got the dubs and I think it’s normal given that on weekdays I have fricked up sleep due to stress. Its so fricked up in fact that sometimes I’ll wake up before the alarm even if I laid down at 2am the previous night. Then on weekends I turn into the heaviest sleeper to catch up I guess. I just want to be a moderate sleeper dammit.
I won't be reading his israelite book.
reading literature you disagree with still helps you gain perspective and benefits in solidifying your own values and beliefs.
Plus is sort of generic self-help advice but done with high verbal IQ and synthesising very high quality primary sources.
You're defying trips and dubs? On your head be it.
i feel like a rat walking in circles, everything i try to do is useless and just brings me back to the old cycle again.
ive been trying to quit my porn addiction for 3 years and 7 months and the maximum i could go without porn was 4 days. i have no fricking idea what to do, i tried changing my lifestyle with new habits, trying meditation/conscious breathing, read easypeasy, filled my day with stuff to keep me busy, trying to do my best to chase my purpose and achieve my goals, but nothing seems to stop me from going back to porn. i tried willpower lots of times, but its not enough to make me free. if you are not an addict, thank god for it. this is hell. i dont know what to do, anons.
>moving to another state in march
>job hunting every day
>working out every day
>black pills aren't working anymore
feels good
While we’re all in our feels can anyone recommend some stoic philosophy?
Shit is pretty hard right now but in the spirit of moving forward I feel like if I read a bit of philosophy each day between my pull up sets at home, that can’t possibly make things worse… Right?
Meditations by Marcus Aurelius is the go-to entry book for stoicism I think.
>Got fired recently
>Payments coming up
>Have no health insurance
>Drinking a lot, some bad eating habits
>Hot as frick here
>Constant mucus running down my throat
>Suddenly get lightheaded and feel pain in chest that disappears after 30 minutes and drinking water
Bros, am I having a heart attack or is this an anxiety attack. Have been sleeping like 5 hours for the past few days too.
Go to the fricking doctor moron
Can't. Would cost too much money and actually frick me over into homelessness if I go to the doctor.
I don't know the difference between general anxiety, a panic attack, and a heart attack but it sounds like one of those. Also you sound like a fat frick.
It could also be acid reflux, I used to have it and the chest pain feels like it could be heart related for sure. Acid reflux is also one of those things that’s more common if you’re stressed or fat
I ate a frickton of spicy food last night and have been stressed as frick. But can that also cause chest pain and lightheadedness?
It wouldn’t have caused the lightheadedness but yeah spicy food is bad for reflux and would have caused the chest pain. Maybe the lightheadedness is something else, like lack of sleep.
Chest could definitely be acid reflux. Even simple over the counter meds can help with that. The lightheadedness is probably dehydration, if a drink of water is solving it.
How much do you weigh?
That was not a panic attack, and it wasn’t general anxiety.
I’m also uninsured but I have admitted myself to the ER for various reasons over the years.
This sounds like you might wanna sober up and go do that.
Get sober first, because the doctors will treat you like a fricking moron (you are) and won’t take you seriously.
Plus your body likely won’t respond well to the sudden sobriety and you’ll look even more like shit, thus more likely to get actual treatment.
God, healthcare in the US is such a joke.
This is a very stupid exchange to be having in the first place, medical care shouldn’t be this unattainable.
5'7"
175 lbs
Would you date a girl in her early thirties that lives basically like a teen? I'm talking living with her parents, never worked, spends a lot of time with her family. I've been talking to her lately and she doesn't come off as bratty but she's definitely not like other girls her age. Like the girls from my office would eat her alive. She's cute, looks young too.
Why isn't she working? Best case scenario she goes from leeching from her parents to leeching off of you which will get pretty shitty pretty fast.
She's been studying for ages, wants to start something else after I guess. Her father supports all this it seems.
She doesn't seem like the kind of girl that other anon was dealing with, much more conservative. Basically she seems delayed but has a strong family support.
If she's in her thirties that's a lot more than just a delay lmao. Sounds like some moron you'll have to emotionally coddle and support just like her parents if things get serious but what do I know.
Yeah, that's been my fear. Seems stable, emotionally but we've just started talking. I don't know how she handles stress and shit. She had a boyfriend, but says they ended because he was too demanding.
Probably demanded her to be an actual adult in her 30's. I'd just be careful mang next thing you know your too attached and you've got this albatross around your neck that occasionally sucks your weenie. Just don't end up like all the other bozos on here getting mind fricked by shitty women.
>too demanding
Yeah she also said the same thing about life in general and a job.
What exactly do you think you’re getting into other than a wet hole?
>inb4 anon gives it a go and then spaghettis the frick out of things by saying “man everyone on the internet talked mad shit about you they sure were wrong”
Man, I don’t know how many people you need to hear this from, but get out of your relationship.
Quietly siphon your things away from this person and keep records of your exchanges.
If you can get them to type and send you crazy shit, you’ll have a recourse for when they inevitably try to ruin you for leaning them (if they’re a narcissist and you guys share hobby/ friend groups and you want to keep them, this is important).
Don’t try to make them say crazy shit, be cool about it.
If they start acting crazy, maybe say you need a bit of time and excuse yourself quickly.
This will probably get them to bombard you with shit.
to recap
>get your things back without drawing too much attention to the situation
>keep records of what has been sent or said
>maybe record a conversation when they’re acting particularly batshit
>make sure you’re all good financially (as good as you’ll get)
>if you need a friend to stay with, line one up
>break it off and make it very clear that things are over and this has been taking a toll on you for a while
>go full no contact
You’ll probably run into them at social functions and just act like you’re cool.
If they explode at you, just tell them that you’re sorry that you don’t share the same feelings and that you’ve explained things already and that you’d like to be left alone.
The one thing I can’t stress enough is to get some kind of proof that they’re a narcissistic nutjob because this person will try to sabotage every single one of your mutual friendships.
Your relationship has been pretty fricking uncomfortable to read about, it shouldn’t be hard to find proof about how shitty it’s been.
Muster up some self respect, good luck.
Wrong person.
This person and all their other posts was who that was for.
I do keep some records. Sometimes I'm too spent, tired, and confused to write things down, regret it later. It's hard to record calls because sometimes they last hours and I would have to screen record, but I have records of texts, and some of the verbal exchanges we've had in my diary.
He's not the type of person to explode first. He would shut me down. Basically if I ignored him first, all would be well.
Issue is, even the breakup is a competition. If I break up, that makes me the bad guy.
Most of the things he says in conversation seem logical on the outside. What he's really doing is intentionally misinterpreting my words and actions, and often assuming my intention without asking me or allowing for open and honest communication. Everything has to be translated. What does he *really* mean? It would be hard to "catch" him in something. I have several pieces of open admissions of his. "Yes, I did that to prove to myself that you don't care about me." "I'm probably a narcissist." "I stopped doing that (calling me names)" -with proof that he DIDN'T stop doing that "That one doesn't count because we were fighting."
That's all I can really think of for now. Saying nothing doesn't work. It ends up being my fault because part of his issue with me is that I'm absent, unaffectionate, doesn't reply to his texts (often I just forget or, I literally have no idea how to respond to his bs and am at a loss for words). This happened last time. He refused to have a proper communication over it, and obviously, it was my fault for not trying (I tried).
Well, stay calm because whoever freaks the frick out in public (or private, really) is gonna look like the problem.
That’s a big thing for folks like that, to push someone’s buttons until they boil over and then gaslight them into thinking they’re acting irrationally.
Stay calm, you’ve got this buddy.
You deserve better.
Yeah he does that, I always fall for it. When I stonewall him, I'm not doing enough. I'm telling you, there's absolutely no winning except to send a scheduled text message every day "hello baby good morning I was just thinking about you" "Yes I completely agree I'm a fricking moronic prostitute and I have no idea what I'm talking about, let's drop it."
Yeah dude, you deserve better.
That’s no person you want to move through life with, that sounds abysmal.
Any ideas as to how you needed up in this situation or why you put up with this kind of behavior?
I put him on a pedestal and he put me on a pedestal... yeah IDK if there's much else to it. Like I said I think we're both scared of leaving, I just don't want to be the one to do it and neither does he.
I gotcha.
I just got out of a 7+ year relationship with my high school sweetheart and it really is scary to get back out there.
Not just dating, living. Alone.
But it was time to admit that we were both bad for each other.
It’s hard to admit after all that time.
We weren’t really dragging each other down so much as holding one another back, but to some people it all sounds the same.
It’s scary to get back into the world after being comfortable and having a support system for so long, but that’s no reason to keep putting up with the kind of stuff you’ve been posting, buddy.
I hope you actually have a good time discovering how to love yourself again.
It gets lost after all those years of trusting someone else to do it for you.
Holding each other back is a good way to describe it, except I have the potential to give him significant help as a ticket to stay here. He'll probably make a joke about it someday about it being my only use, I'm just waiting.
I'm hoping that if we do break up, I will go on a major glow up streak. I'm talking hobbies, Youtube channel for said hobbies, skincare, exercise, job, retirement savings, fricking everything. I can just feel it waiting in me. I will just feel really bad that that had to be the catalyst. And yeah. I need a support system that I built myself. Not him only.
Man even if you don’t go dump homeboy immediately it seems like this thread may have gotten you thinking in the right direction.
Beware though, the glow up stuff does take a lot of effort.
After the initial buzz of independence wears off you will feel lonely, and that’s completely normal.
It’s very important to just keep working hard to make yourself into someone you’d like to hang out with.
It’s a stark world out there when the loneliness sets in, but keep working at it and be happy by yourself and it will eventually lead you to a healthier and more stable relationship in the future.
Dude this reminds me of this friend I had that was so obstinate that it was unbearable.
She argued with me for 45 minutes about how she was certain that the broil setting on an oven cooked things from the inside out “like a microwave” (not how a microwave works either lol).
One day we were arguing and something just clicked in my head.
I said “you were right. It was wrong of me to argue with you.
What we were arguing about wasn’t important, and there was no way I was going to change her mind.
From that day on, any time I saw her start to get geared up, I just dropped things and said “wow, you were right, I was wrong. My bad, dude.”
I have no idea how she didn’t see what I was doing, I think it’s because she genuinely believed she was right, that hard. Just blinded by it.
I didn’t care, I was never going to change her mind anyways and I wasn’t arguing any more.
This went on for YEARS.
Other friends in the group caught on, and I told them to try it, they just had to seem genuine about it.
The day she finally realized that the last several years of people conceiting defeat was all sarcastic and just to placate her annoying personality was… It was truly beautiful.
I watched a psyche snap.
Delightfully devilish
That's pretty funny I actually had this exchange with a really angry person on Reddit (I was actually wrong in one thing I said, but he really blew up at me). He went in my DMs wanting to fight, I said sorry sincerely, and he just stopped lol. It was that easy. But it's not that easy with my bf. I find myself apologizing for all kinds of things with very mixed results.
Also, he's not stupid. About mundane things that are not relationship based, like boiling water and science things in general, he's usually correct more times than I am. He's a huge nerd. He's very very smart, I'll give him that. I like smart people. I'm usually the one that's more stubborn about small things.
Relationship discussions are the major problem.
cont.
Most of my friends (still not that close) are through him and I would rather not get involved with them to ruin his reputation, because that technically counts as a smear campaign and I know he can destroy me too over that. I do have my family to stay with.
I feel like no matter what I do, there will be no "full proof" of him being a narcissistic nutjob. Part of me feels like it's all in my head. He's always the first one to point out how much anguish I cause him, and how he will never trust me over xyz event. When I counter with my feelings, it's a "yeah, right." I don't know. How can I tell for certain? What's a really good reason? I don't need to convince him. I need to convince myself.
P.S. I know this is standard speak for IST, but come to think about it, using prostitute and moron to describe me should have been a red flag. I do have it in text but most of it could be interpreted as affectionate, neutral, or in jest. I'm definitely desensitized to it
Oh yo I’d like to point out that the goal is not to ruin his reputation or run a smear campaign.
I’m just saying he WILL be running one about you and you should be prepared to defend yourself and affirm that he is speaking out of spite and anger.
A couple of texts that are a testament to his character should probably help you explain/ showcase why it is that you left him.
He’s gonna preach that it was for no reason and that you’re crazy.
He doesn't do that just because. But he can if he's triggered. I know. He talks that way about his ex. "She knows not to talk bad about me." He said it wasn't a threat, just that we shouldn't have a "bad breakup". But a bad breakup is whatever HE defines it to be. It's so weird. On one hand, he's constantly comparing me to his exes and how much better I am than them (yes I did tell him that makes me uncomfortable), on the other hand, I'm never giving me enough and "so and so always sent me long emotional texts"... well I'm not so and so! And you broke up with her! And you told me you have ammo against her! I feel so safe!
You're right. I should make a folder or something. Just in case...
DO NOT DO IT. SHE WILL FORCE YOU INTO HER DELUSIONS.
t. my mother is the BPD girl who lived with her parents until marriage which did so much trauma to me and siblings that was only cured by them paying for my education
Don’t do it dude.
You aren’t smart enough to use a condom every time and she obviously can’t maintain birth control if she’s NEET that badly.
Just don’t do it man.
Don’t.
Or go get a vasectomy.
kek I just dropped in and wrote that, then immediately after I realized the answer was there already.
Not any of those anons but before this thread I would have loved date a cute NEET girl, in fact her being NEET and having to depend on me would be a plus in a way. Now I’m rethinking that preference jej
Late to the bar thread but here goes. I’ve pretty much given up on gym crushes. 4 years into lifting and I’ve lost count how many women I’ve caught mirin. A few months ago I got one crushes number. Asked her to hang out, she said she was busy and then never reached out again. I’ve had success with women before and when they like you, they never “forget” to text you or ask you to hang out. I’ve also realized I that I literally don’t do anything outside of lifting and working from home. I play piano but I don’t want to play in public. Idk maybe I’ll just travel and see where I land. Anyways thanks for reading my blog.
Why don't you want to play in public?
Music has always been a solitary thing for me. I feel extremely uncomfortable playing around people even though when I go to music shops and play a little people say I’m good. Idk it feels like I’m masterbating in public. Also women don’t really care if you play an instrument, they just care that other people see you playing an instrument. Sometimes I really wish I was gay.
>Also women don’t really care if you play an instrument, they just care that other people see you playing an instrument. Sometimes I really wish I was gay.
pretty sure that's every skill and every hobby, they only care if:
>it makes you more money
>it makes other people respond more positively to you
beyond that, they just have no reason to care
Yea I know. I’m not mad at women. Just mad at the lie society tells men that men and women are the same. I just have to stop being a pussy and get over it.
A friend just came out to me.
I honestly was disturbed at first, but got over it quickly.
The problem starts when the moron describe his relationship and the how the other guy treat him to me.
I don’t want to hear about your love whether it’s heterosexual or homosexual to my single ass.
It’s dying bois
I've seen things in the feels bar you people wouldn't believe. Poured shots for heartbreaks off the edge of a scarred wooden counter. Watched laughter and tears mingle in the dim lights near the jukebox. All those moments will be lost in time, like beer foam in rain. It's almost Monday, boys. Time to grind.
I'm broke. I'm lonely. I'm bored. And my time is running low on the financial end.
I quit my job and have pursued a job in sales and now my back is against the wall to perform. However as much as I wanted to deny it, I think I have to be a bit of an butthole deep down if I want to make it in this career. Perhaps in other areas of my life too. However I've always considered myself to be a pretty good person who wanted to improve the world around me rather than using people like tools, so doing this is going to really shake some things up within me.
Maybe it's true that in order to truly become something good, you have to have a little bit of a beast inside that you learn to manage. Maybe it will be fun to play the role though. Pic related.
Alright, anons thanks. My expectations have been checked and I will proceed with extreme caution. I'm not invested in this girl, so I'll keep a steady pace while I talk to some other girls for better context.
I cant believe how difficult it is to get a girlfriend. Mastering a martial art, getting a degree, becoming skilled in a craft, getting jacked have all been cakewalk compared to the amount of time and effort I've put into finding a GF in the last few years. Bizarre. I hear its even worse for the zoomers nowadays?
>t. 7/10 6ft male
I think you might be a 4/10 who got jacked and feels entitled to the world’s spoils, my guy 🙁
I think the issue with this board is seeing "getting a gf" as some tangible goal that adds value to your life as opposed to something 2 people do when they really hit it off. With this kind of mentality you end up in a shit relationship where the woman has nothing to offer other than being a wienersleeve every now and then, and sometimes even that will fade.
>birthday soon
>feel like I want to kill myself
>nothing feels enjoyable
>don't feel like doing anything
>having to force myself to do my hobbies
>no idea what I'm doing with my life
>just living day by day with no reason
don't need a drink, only need moral advice
>be me 2 months ago
>two day long company trip
>this female coworker I've been rather close with (similar music taste and humor, etc) keeps paying a shitton of attention to me
>convinces my coworker roommate to go drink with the rest of the team and asks if she can sleep in my room instead cause they're drinking there
>agree cause she was always good company
>we start drinking and chatting, later her tone changes and blurts out "what's on the trip stays on the trip" and asks if I want to go further
>she doesn't know alcohol doesn't affect my judgement
>decline saying I didn't get engaged for a reason, remind her that she married a guy quite literally the same year
>just says "damn she's so lucky" and goes to sleep
>acts like nothing happened and is sad the entire next day
am I a shithead for remembering this so vividly and using this as a motivation booster? I like the gal but I'm not gonna ape out and throw away the trust I've been building for years for some one off adventure, even if my girl doesn't find out. Still, even the thought of her going to such lengths fills me with passion to get in better shape and I use that thought to do so, but feel like shit shortly after. Do I just suck it up and try to forget? I can't bring it up with my girl cause she'll definitely think I've cheated on her and that I'm trying to whitewash myself
/moronic blogpost, pic somewhat rel
You’ve handled this situation as well as you possibly could’ve.
Which is fricking remarkable considering the state of this board.
There’s nothing wrong with being proud of your resolve in the face of temptation, or the fact that you’re a big ol’ stud who gets hit on.
If you don’t bring it up with your girlfriend now, just remember that you never can (for the very reasons you described).
Congratulations, anon.
You win the thread.
You shouldn't have let her sleep in your room to begin with. That alone could frick things up with your girl if she found out. Use your motivation where you find it though. No harm in using that as a spark to be better.
Oh shit my reading comprehension is a bit off, I didn’t realize that you invited her into your room.
Bad anon.
Shouldn’ta done that, but you still didn’t do anything.
Honestly with the way things allegedly went, I’m surprised you’re even posting here for affirmation in the first place.
Are you sure nothing happened?
>You shouldn't let her sleep in your room to begin with
yeah I've figured that out afterwards, it's just that either I'm completely blind or women (hell, not even women) never really paid any attention to me, so I didn't even think that's a possible way of things escalating
>Honestly with the way things allegedly went, I’m surprised you’re even posting here for affirmation in the first place.
>Are you sure nothing happened?
Yeah, 100% sure, it's just that the situation itself feels so out of place to me I wanted someone to share it with, and naturally here might be the only place that I'm allowed to
Thanks king, that's reassuring, and no, I've decided that it'll either be one of those memories that will go to the grave with me, or I'll mention it when I'm like 60 years old, at which point it probably won't even matter(if we're still gonna be together that is)
Hey I’m not trying to be a c**t I’m actually just curious, are you on the spectrum?
That would explain the odd reaction to alcohol and level headed approach to the fairer sex.
You have like the superpower version of autism if that’s the case.
Probably yeah, I've never been tested for it but I've been thinking about this for a while already and a good chunk of things seem to match up, it's not as bad as some piece of media describe it but some symptoms are spot on
goodbye you beautiful thread you
One of the threads of all time