I'm having stamina issues with my girl and I don't mean pre-ejaculation. Sex just feels more difficult physically speaking than when i was younger and it fricking blows. Even with something as basic as missionary I always have to lay on top of my girl. I can never straighten my back out and frick her while grabbing her hips or something. My knees and especially my inner thighs just can't take it and it gets uncomfortable.
Don't get me started on Doggy. I wanna like it but I feel so lifeless, on my knees thrusting into her as hard as I can but there's not nearly as much power as there should be. Then I lose my erection.
I love my girl. She does everything I want. Cooks for me, calls me Daddy both in and out the bedroom, adores and loves me. She loves to get rough and let me smack her around and choke her but I feel like my body is not at the level it needs to be. She deserves more. What routines/exercises can I do to help improve my sexual fitness and frick like crazy for long periods of time without getting exhausted? I'm so fricking sick of doing basic b***h missionary because its the only thing i can do consistently. I'm currently only doing squats, deadlifts, and overhead press. What else should I be considering? This also includes diet stuff to help with better erections.
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unironically do yoga and and cardio. what you're describing isn't normal for a healthy male even for age 35+
Its normal. The older u get the more you realize. Most likely, most men just want to bust a nut and mix that up with wanting good sex. Theres nothing sexy being next to a naked 22 year old. Or a even a 19 year old with more than one parter.
>Theres nothing sexy being next to a naked 22 year old.
Wot?
>It’s normal to be physically uncomfortable during normal sex after 35
You’re either very young, a virgin, or (most likely) both.
Should not be an issue. I’d do some cardio for sure. The doggy thing sounds like you have anterior pelvic tilt. I’d look it up. It’s tough to fix in my experience. They recommend a lot of meme stretches but doing lots of abs hamstring and glute work is more important for fixing it
>I'm having stamina issues
>What routines/exercises can I do to help improve my sexual fitness and frick like crazy for long periods of time without getting exhausted?
I'm amazed that you wrote this out and could not figure it out by yourself. The answer is cardio you fricking muppet
>The answer is cardio
Goodbye gains, I barely knew ye
>Like if you tickle someone gently, then all of a sudden you smash their foot with a hammer, the pain from the hammer smash overrides the pleasure of the tickling.
Terrible analogy and you never had sex.
>The answer is cardio you fricking muppet
SAY THAT TO MY FACE YOU LITTLE b***h
>thrusting into her as hard as I can
what does this achieve, as apposed to thrusting less hard but at the same speed?
The vegana would be getting similar stimulation, the only difference would be the way the your hips feel on her buttocks and the resultant forces transmitted through her body when they make contact.
The higher forces from the hard thrusting could override the feelings she is getting specifically in her vegana from the penile stimulation, distracting her from getting veganal pleasure.
Like if you tickle someone gently, then all of a sudden you smash their foot with a hammer, the pain from the hammer smash overrides the pleasure of the tickling.
Transferring force to the clit moron.
virgin. Girls like getting knocked around more than they like penetration alone
From missionary, the clit get squished and bounced, and feels great from power thrusts. From doggy, power thrusts hit a deep spot that feels almost like burning, it's nice when it's tapped quickly but painful if slow
lmao imagine falling for the sex psyop
This so much. Ive always drowned in pussy but now in my mid thirties I realize that there was no lasting addition to my life from any of it, non of these women benefited me with anything, there is no return on being high sexual market value as a male unless you are willing to go gay. And before you say the moments were worth it, no they weren’t, it was just another day another pussy, routine so to speak, and as far as routines go it simply was not productive.
Yeah sorry to break it to you but it's not about thrusting as hard as you can.
I guarantee you that when you frick her sensually and slowly it is WAAAAY more hot and she will cum intensely. Doggy is exciting but nothing like sensual sex
>She deserves more
Give me your address and I will help
My wife has symptoms of BPD and bipolar disorder. When we were dating the manic sex was intense. Now that we got all her issues completely under control she isn't very sexual anymore. We basically just have a free use policy so I can get what I need, but she hasn't had an orgasm in probably 6 months. I saw her Google searching stuff about it, she's even tried jerking off and that doesn't work. Is there a way to get her back there without putting her in a bad place mentally? She isn't on any drugs.
>My wife has symptoms of BPD and bipolar disorder.
What did you think BPD stands for?
can't tell if stupid or just dumb
Borderline personality disorder =/= bipolar disorder
But they both equal a reason not to marry someone.
She has been diagnosed with both but she doesn't have either anymore
>BPD
She belongs in a dumpster
In college I had a bpd gf who had a rape kink and let me free use her. I miss that. Could frick her for hours while she slept comatose on meds. She hated anal, but found it hot if she woke up with my cum in her ass.
Fond memories.
females cant cum. she was just mentally ill and convinced herself that she was cumming
furthermore females hate sex, they get nothign out of it
sex for a female is like mowing the lawn for a man, it just has to be done once in a while
She always could orgasm from clit stimulation, now even a vibrator won't do it
naww women cant cum
before feminism it was widely agreed that women didnt enjoy sex
then came feminism.. and suddenly women LOVE sex and cant enough of it.. yeah right man
>before feminism it was widely agreed that women didnt enjoy sex
women fricked up by saying they enjoyed sex. Before they could leverage sex to get something out of it because they didn't enjoy it. Now if women enjoy sex so much we don't owe them anything for fricking them
>females cant cum.
Lmao, what possessed you to tell on yourself like this
mate, if you got scammed into thinking ur girl came, then youre just dumb, thats all. naive
i beg to differ, sex is awesome. i dont cum all the time, but usually at least once a week. we have sex once a day at minimum, unless we were super busy during the day and have to get to bed early. its been like this for 4 years and it seems to get better with time. at the beginning id just have sex to satisfy his needs but i eventually opened up and told him what i liked.
just the act of sex is super satisfying without cumming. women arent like men and don't need post nut clarity to behave normally, there's no female version of a blue ball. god i miss him.
idgaf what your personal opinion is. women CANNOT cum its physically impossible
You'll get there one day little buddy
what part of physically impossible dont you understand? do you know what biology is? theres no mechanism in their body that faciliates an orgasm, it simply doesnt exist. you moron
Saying moronic shit more than once doesn't make it true
>women CANNOT cum its physically impossible
Obviously you've never felt a cumming pussy squeeze your wiener, gushing pussy cream, almost pushing your wiener out due to overwhelming pleasure. Have sex incel.
theres no such thing as pussy cream. thats called an yeast infection. and women still cant cum, but feel free to show me the medical science that pinpoints the chain of events and organs in the female body that faciliates an orgasm. Oh wait you cant, because it doesnt exist
have sex incel
Go get a booster shot science boy. Then ask your mom if she cums when she rides my dick.
>at the beginning id just have sex to satisfy his needs but i eventually opened up and told him what i liked.
So it took you months to enjoy sex because you won't open your mouth. Kek. This why i can't take women's complaining about not enjoying sex seriously. They do it to themselves. Either they won't say anything or they're too incompetent to figure out how their own bodies work and need a man to do it for them
>god i miss him
Ohnonononononono
Are there similar studies for men? Because I miss a certain her too
It’s difficult to see. They will hate you if you tell them the truth.
Skill issue
Well for starters, stop the free use policy. You are conditioning her to disassociate arousal from sex.
>7
She's on antidepressants isn't she?
My gf is thin and hot, but she started shit talking to me when we have an argument and she won’t shut the frick up. She will even make fun of me. She never cleans my home because she says it’s not her house despite her sleeping her 4-5 days a week and eating rice cakes on my bed and always leaving plates on the table after eating. Whenever I bring it up she told me that my house was a mess before she met me and that she helped me cleaned it twice(4 months ago was the last time) she told me that she has a house of her own to clean ( she lives with parents) and they even have a female cleaner from Phillipines or something.
We are getting married in August
>We are getting married in August
Hahaha. Why marry a sociopath, pathological liar? Why set yourself up to failure like that? Stop this madness and jump ship while you can.
>We are getting married in August
Kek please get that b***h under control before you commit to a life of misery.
Nightmare fuel. You need to beat her or just leave
leave man, sounds miserable. she doesn't respect you. it's cliche but looks do eventually fade, hot but mean women are never worth it.
she sounds like a BRAT. Research how to be a brat tamer and you will have a happy life. Or know that you can't do it (not many can) and call it off.
Brat taming is not worth the effort/borderline impossible. Just find a girl who’s sweet and submissive from day one. They’re out there.
Do not marry this woman, holy shit. It's too late now that you're engaged, but this is the kind of girl you string along until her bullshit outweighs her hotness. She will never change, she will never clean a goddam thing (since that's the topic here) and she will antagonistize you in every argument you ever have rather than actually trying to resolve or compromise anything ever.
Sounds like she needs a good spanking. Don't be afraid to slap her from time to time, she'll become a better person
Talking from experience
Nah I frick her well last night she told me by herself that she wants to suck my dick
> We are getting married in August
To a woman who don't want to clean and that's being a b***h about making YOUR life/environment, the one (of the supposed man of her life) a little bit easier. Even tho it's even in her own interest?
Holy fricking kek. You guys are fricking crazy I swear.
>We are getting married in August
DUDE, the dating phase is literally the only time a couple is supposed to balance differences, learn how to live with each other in harmony, all that stuff.
And yet you are going to get yourself shackled to her when there's a SERIOUS issue going with the relationship?
Marriage is supposed to only happen after the relationship is fully stable, you are not supposed to start trying to change the relationship AFTER marrying, this is why so many of them ends up in catastrophe.
Do you want to end up like Brendan Fraser, you absolute MORON?
It is a shame I can't portray how fuming I am through words.
Why are you so harsh bro? I love her. I forgave her from a lot of things
perfect punchline
>We are getting married in August
no u aint homie
Dont listen to cardio morons. Do SS.
Foid sex is all in the head, she is used to/needs strong emotions to orgasm, read sex god method book or whatever.
You need to rewire your brain. Keep yourself in the mindset of engaged curiousity at all times. Condition yourself to view life with detached but engaged curiosity. It will take months or years but it's worth it and it's ultimately the only way to fix that shit. Meantime valerian root (ethanol solution, 30 drops 3x a day, makes you very calm after a week), phenibut, viagra, whatever chemical crutch. I have this same shit but with PE which is even worse. Don't discuss it with her. It won't solve shit, and it will just make the sex experience less exciting for her.
Thanks bro. I have high hopes for Phenibut but we'll see.
I've already talked with her about it. luckily she has had a bf before that she was together with for four years and had this problem all the time. But I get your point, it is not really sexy to bring it up.
She's sedated you dolt.
get her off the brain damage meds, moron
>Now that we got all her issues completely under control
> She isn't on any drugs.
we both know you're lying
you don't just "cure" these kind of mental issues like magic
her libido was very obviously killed by her mental illness drugs, at least be honest when asking for help
this is what I was thinking reading it. Mental illness drugs will kill libido. That being said dating a woman with untreated BPD sounds like a nightmare. You’re fricked either way OP
sorry to hear this man. you said she's not on drugs so that's the main suspect dismissed. then she cannot even orgasm from masturbation so I would conclude that it's not a lack of attraction. given her wild combination of mental illnesses I would however start wondering if she ever had orgasms with you to begin with or just faked them all along. and the "manic sex" for her was her being manic about securing your love, not about physical arousal.
I do not feel sorry for you at all. you know what you're getting into. anon got bait and switched and that sucks. you're doing this to yourself knowingly.
BPD is psychopathy for women. Its ogre before it started, unironcally
>wifing up a BPD bipolar woman
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Holy shit are you me? My manic pixie dream girl kinkster ADHD tomboy gf with BPD pretty much instantly lost sex after I moved in and she got on some new heart medication.
You married a huge prostitute and she's losing interest.
Using this thread to get some more help/advice from fellow anons. Posted this in a /feels bar/ thread a few days ago.
I've finally managed to start "dating" my gym crush. For now it is a friends-with-benefits-thing but likely to develop into a relationship. The first time we were gonna have sex though I couldn't get it up. After that we've had sex three times successfully but maybe tried six or eight times in total over three or four different occasions. I've never had this issue before and I think I know what it depends on: I've been wanting her for long and am now nervous of being abandoned/losing her instead. I think of the whole deal as having to perform rather than just having fun.
What I've started doing: no fap, mindfulness, talked with a friend about it and asked for advice here. I got some good advice from some anons to just focus on my own pleasure and I feel like the pressure is starting to decrease but haven't had a chance to try it with her yet. I'm wondering if anyone else has some good suggestions as well as practical advice on how to not give a frick? I have no problem getting hard otherwise so I know it is just in my head. She turns me on but the moment I go to put it in I go soft and my mind starts to race with negative thoughts.
I've also ordered Phenibut but it won't arrive until Friday. Been wanting to try it for a while but this thing pushed me to order it.
Happy for any advice from you guys. I am 31 years old, 185 cm, 80 kg and in decent shape.
sweet summer child
women don't want sex, they want the threat of sex, aka Potency
relationships are built on this potency hanging in the air as a constant, which is dependent on your semen retention
you have sex to reproduce, and you tell the woman, I'll frick you as much as you want, but you're going to be pregnant each time
checked
I think I get what point you are trying to make but how does this help me practically to calm down and not be nervous? As I said I haven't had this issue before but with all the other women I've been with I've never crushed on them at the beginning, it is something that has grown over the course of time instead.
>women don't want sex,
The more prime a girl, the more she wants sex. Of course "women" dont want sex.
>The first time we were gonna have sex though I couldn't get it up.
Lol. Dude. How old is she? I realized all issues arent me and its the girl.
Stop jerking off to porn, supplement zinc and l-arginine, dont skip leg day and cardio and do some kegels. If you are feeling uptight eat some pussy until you are turned back on.
I already do all of this.
Then its all in your head.. simply discuss with the woman. If shes cool she will understand and before you know it, it will work just fine.
If not, you two may not be sexually compatible even if you find her attractive. I swear some of my best sex has been with people that are not stereotypical attractive but I am relaxed and comfortable around.
Thanks, I think you are right. I am quite sure it is just in my head. As I mentioned in my first post I've come to the realization that I like this girl and see sex more as a performance/work rather than having fun. It makes it hard for me to relax.
same but I'm 23
Bro one thing I want to know is how did you approach her? I'm getting mired by many cardio bunnies in different gym cause I have a good looking face tbh but I don't have the balls to approach any.
How did you tackle this?
Gym crush is maybe the wrong word. I met her while climbing. I asked if she wanted to climb top rope but instead we bouldered together. She wasn't my gym crush at the time but she started talking about dancing and we exchanged numbers. Long story short it turned out she had a bf, I had just gotten out of a LTR so I was happy with just hanging out with a girl that wasn't my gf. during the fall she and her bf broke up. We had some flings, that was when I started crushing on her and then a month or so ago I just gave her an ultimatum because we would be all lovey dovey without anything else.
unironically de-center your dick. Dudes who think sex = penis in vegana and that you must make that experience the important thing to focus on are wrong. PIV tends to feel the best for men, so they wrongly think that PIV is the best part for women during sex, and that it's the "main activity" you are both aiming for. That's completely wrong.
Use your hands, use your mouth, and ramp her up. Pay attention to how she reacts; learn the G-spot and how to finger properly (no, it's not jamming your fingers in and out as fast as possible). Learn to be good at oral. Learn to sensually run your hands and tongue all over her body. Be slow; be intense. PIV is more of the dessert on top for women when it comes to sex (obviously not all women; some women love and only want PIV, but I can tell you for a fact, most don't, and it's generally lackluster if its all you do). Most women don't want you to bang them for 20 minutes straight; they start getting bored/the friction makes them sore, etc. If you want a woman to be addicted to you for sex, learn to make them orgasm first (everyone is different, so you'll have to figure out her buttons- my current partner orgasms easily from a particular rhythm of rubbing her clit, past partners have required both G-spot and clit simulation, etc). Orgasms will make her vegana VERY sensitive, and when you go to actually frick her, it's way more pleasurable for her. Bonus is since she's already cum, she will be satisfied regardless of how long you last, so you can focus on enjoy your fricking instead of "omg is she enjoying this?".
I've had a hookup tell her roommate that I was the best sex she ever had, and I never even put my dick in her (forgot condoms, didn't want an accident). It's easy to be good at sex if you throw away the concept that PIV = the main act of sex for a woman. Of course it's amazing, but she'll enjoy it 10x and actually be satisfied if you make her orgasm first.
Easy mode: Get a hitachi.
rare actual good advice
>and how to finger properly
ok but HOW
you mostly just stroke the area to the side of the clitoris. but first
start off kinda palming the whole vulva and let her hump your hand
press and make circles on her clit area. through panties ideal in the early stages
when she's warmed up she'll move your hand skin to skin
don't start rubbing (sliding) until lubrication shows up
again, your main groove is the side of the clit. the thing itself is too sensitive, it would be like a girl rubbing her palm against your pee hole. make a u turn over the top to switch sides
at this point you can run your fingers up and down her labia and she might push into you for a little penetration
once she's fully wet you can start going across the clit, you can use your whole hand for this as long as it's wet. avoid the tip and certainly don't push down against the length of it, that would be like accordioning your dick. but you can push the thing around side to side
by the time she wants your fingers inside her she's ready to be fricked so that part is brief. you'll want to stroke the front wall behind the clit, it's all connected, the G-spot is there a few inches in
"All orgasms are clitoral" is a feminist lie, Freud was right and there is a deeper veganal orgasm but not every girl is sexually actualized enough for it. that one responds to pressure against the back wall late in the game when you're balls deep with her feet by her head
happy trails camper
Pretty good response, I'll push back slightly on a few points.
>you mostly just stroke the area to the side of the clitoris.
100%. The clit is sensitive and moves all over the fricking place (it actually does when it becomes engorged and more sensitive when she gets closer to orgasm), I feel like I'm chasing the fricker but the side rub works really, really well. On the clit is too sensitive, side up-and-down rubbing the clit tends to get the most consistent results.
>by the time she wants your fingers inside her she's ready to be fricked so that part is brief.
Very woman-specific. For some women yes. For my current partner, 100% fingering stage is more foreplay, and making her squirt for a while is prior to fricking her. Other hookups, you are 100% on the nose. Figure out what your partner wants. Try small variations, see how she responds.
>"All orgasms are clitoral" is a feminist lie, Freud was right and there is a deeper veganal orgasm but not every girl is sexually actualized enough for it.
Sort of. I get what you are going for. but the clit- organ is HUGE but hidden and is really what works for most women. Maybe 1-2 hookups ever were vegana oriented for me. Most were clit + vegana/g-spot. When women get more relaxed with you, they tend to become more open to things and come faster/easier, but some women straight-up won't orgasm from that back-wall vegana. Nerve endings are differently placed. We all have a mess of different nerve locations; if I stroke the bridge of my nose, I feel it on the roof of my mouth, because my nerves are wired that way. Everyone is different. Current partner of forever, I can make her squirt like a fricking geyser in <2 minutes, but she doesn't have that penetration-orgasm like past partner had. But holy hell, she's bottomless and after her 5th orgasm only wants more orgasms.
>I can make her squirt like a fricking geyser in <2 minutes
buddy, squirting is just pissing and your girl has a problem holding her bladder closed.
fricking gay. Cant believe IST is shitted up from all these "Mens Magazines with articles written by females" shit. First we have a "feels thread" and now we have this shit.
So now we need a PhD to have sex. God dammit im gonna die a virgin at this rate
This is actually very helpful advice for everyone here. For women, sex is WAY more than just penetration, there’s a complex layer of buildup that they love. Knowing how to find your girl’s clit and giving her a good oral session is the key to really warming her up to the penetration. Every time my wife and I frick, I always make sure to do 10+ minutes of kissing, ass grabbing, eating her out, etc.. Sometimes she will cum before we start fricking, and other times she will beg me to start fricking her so that she can cum on my dick. Worrying too much about your performance during penetration or the size of your dick is such a fricking waste of time when the overwhelming majority of women will cum in response to foreplay and emotional stimulation. Focusing too much on the penetration or if you’re big enough is completely gay because gay men are the ones who obsess over dick size, not women. I know this is easier said than done, but it helps a lot to actually get a long term committed gf to experiment with and to test what really can get a girl off. Every person is different, but generally you can always rely on finding her clit and focusing on that during oral while slowly increasing the intensity of your licking
>Dudes who think sex = penis in vegana and that you must make that experience the important thing to focus on are wrong.
Ah, so thousands of years of humanity reproducing is wrong, then? moron. Don't listen to this dumb homosexual, people. There's a reason the pussy and the wiener are the most sensitive areas on women and men.
I am the anon you responded to, thanks for the advice.
I took this approach when I was with her last night without having read your post. I could feel as we were making out that I got turned on but just had that feeling in the back of my head that it would not work. Hard to explain but sometimes it is just there. I told her I was too much in my own head and just wanted to focus on her. I've never had any problems making women come from oral so I went down on her and kept at it until she came, after that she had that post orgasm glow and it made me relax. After 20 minutes or so of cuddling I got hard and she went down on me. I felt like I could have had sex but reminded myself that I should just focus on my own pleasure and in the moment it just felt good and I didn't want to interrupt it. So I just came in her mouth and she swallowed it. I feel like it made me relax more overall without worrying about PIV as you call it, thanks again bro.
Stop fricking around and get a viagra script. You’ll be spinning your wheels for months if not years otherwise. Also viagra sex is just better—you’ll never go back.
What about BlueChew?
Companies like Roman and Blue Chew are scams that use social media to capitalize on guys being nervous to ask their general practitioner for viagra. Go to a doctor. He’ll give it you and it’ll be way cheaper.
Women only want sex to last 10 minutes max.
They are sick and tired of death griped porn addicts who need an hour of pumping while thinking of degenerate shit to cum.
As for everything else, its flexibility issue so do yoga and stretching
>Women only want sex to last 10 minutes max.
>They are sick and tired of death griped porn addicts who need an hour of pumping while thinking of degenerate shit to cum.
Prime girls can frick for hours. Like 5 hours. We are all stuck with roasties.
Longest I've gone was 2 hours, but that was because we were both tripping on 1.5 tabs of acid. The bedroom was filled with flowers and lit with ambient warm lighting. Best way to describe the visuals was like the sex scene montage in Fight Club but warm and joyous.
She came a couple times but I had blue balls the whole night, still a lot of fun.
Can someone please explain what foreplay is to me, because I feel like my interpretation is far different than what my girlfriend considers foreplay, and when I ask her she just tells me to "figure it out". And not for lack of trying, either - I've tried sensual massage (which always just turns into a regular, non-sexual massage because her back always hurts), kissing her neck and shoulders, going down on her (which she almost always refuses on the grounds that "she feels gross", like I give a frick), and other little things like caressing her body and making out with her, all of which she says doesn't work for her. Like, is there some magical thing that I'm somehow completely ignoring for foreplay? What the frick else am I supposed to do to get her in the mood?
Am woman that has sex with my boyfriend, so here are my opinions. You're welcome.
Sounds like she is just insecure and unable to relax around you to even let herself get into the mood. All the examples point to this... feeling "gross" and nothing working for her, and massages becoming non-sexual. This is kinda a her problem, and it doesn't really seem like she's interested in figuring it out ESPECIALLY if she's passing the responsibility for you to figure it out... like bruh, she also has to put in some work. Your frustration makes complete sense because deep down you understand that she is not putting in the work of mentally opening up and being vulnerable with you to let the sexy shit happen. She just mentally blocked it out. I can't really think of a way to bring this up to her lightly since she will probably try to guilt you into feeling bad about wanting a basic need met. Sorry lad.
Sometimes when i'm too wet I stop feeling anything because there is no longer any friction. It can be as simple as wiping the fluids off to get it going again. Again, same case with the other anon where she needs to fricking explore herself. Buy her a clit stimulation toy and just tell her to figure it out and make herself cum. If she doesn't even know how to.. how tf are you going to help. I genuinely feel sorry for men when I hear stories like this, the lack of effort on their side is giving me second hand annoyance.
>Again, same case with the other anon where she needs to fricking explore herself.
I hear so fricking many of these stories, what I want to know is why do women need to be convinced at all that sex is fun?
If you're doing all of that and genuinely taking your time to turn her on and she's not physically responding, then she is probably just not particularly interested in sex (with or without you). Especially if she isn't willing to communicate what would work for her - that's the barest of bare minimums. Check your hygiene, make sure you're not pissing her off somehow all day, make sure your housemates and pets aren't in audience, if she's on SSRIs it fricks up sexual function etc.
If she jerk offs, she could try starting that way and having you step in. If she doesn't jerk off, she's probably just super low libido and you've got a decision to make.
women arent interested in sex with any man
women exclusively partake in sex to keep a high value man around. doesnt matter tho sooner or later it always dries up, and then the man has to decide whether to be in a sexless relationship or break up
Foreplay is building anticipation but it sounds like she's not into you and you're a stand in BF
Is she by any chance built for BBC while you have no BBC to offer? You don’t have to reply to me, just consider it in private and know that I want what’s best for you.
Sensualism, teasing, building anticipation.
My gf seems unable to cum, but she becomes the most wet of all girls I've been with. Even others who came from penetration weren't this wet.
I've tried various positions, oral, etc
She told me she has never had an orgasm in her life. Not tried any toys
Wat do?
inb4 dick size
Try toys then. She can try them on her own if she's shy about it, or ask you to explore with her
Cumming deeply feels like peeing (even with non squirting) and it's incredibly hard to keep holding onto that feeling because it feels like you're going to make a mess even if the tank is empty. It takes trust to let go and that's hard in the moment
This exactly what it feels like to get fricked in the ass as a man if you're relaxed and into it. Urge to pee, sometimes some cum even comes out, and nice anal contractions. I keep asking harder until I can't take it anymore. It's the best feeling.
It makes me so angry that we've basically cured aids.
The more you know. That's quite enlightening, thanks anon. Rubbing on the clit doesn't feel like that normally, it feels more like a deep ab tense almost
Sounds orgasming is a female problem not mens
When she stops letting you hit it, it becomes your problem lmao the bar is "tries to make them orgasm", not "succeed at making them orgasm", yet many miss even that
100% correct. I have a theory that many ladies struggle to reach orgasm because they're too inactive enough to have the mind-body connection required to activate the required muscles for orgasms. Ladies can't tell how they orgasm if they don't know what they like
Buy a Magic Wand Rechargeable.
How old are you and her? I realized its the girls fault and not mine. Older girls= not turned on. That freshness and brightness isnt there and my erections arent rock hard.
its amazing how feminism managed to brainwash everyone into thinking that sex is a two way street
sex is exclusively for the mans enjoyment, and women reluctantly do it to keep their man pleased
now that women dont really need men anymore, its no surprise that men arent getting laid
Even letting a girl ride u is gay af and u shud still be thrusting her if shes on top.
That's true for some women. Current gf loves sex. Just gotta find the right one.
I bet you have quite a bit of sex with an attitude like that
i have more sex than you do, dyel incel
women dont cum, i know this from firsthand experience as a 9/10 male with a good income and ideal dick, if they dont cum for me they dont cum period
Women don't care about sex because most men are bad at it. I've met a few hypersexual women.
Throw a real prime girl at any man and his sexual issues disapear. (ED, premature ejaculation, no arousal, no interest in relationships, every sexual issue)
RDLs, bent over rows, hip thrusts, stretching, but most importantly, tons and frick tons more of cardio
No man, its the girls fault. Not his. Shes too old.
No joke, kettle bell swings and loads of them. It's great cardio and works your posterior chain. It's straight up fricking exercise.
I have seen improvements myself
I want to know why i cant keep a rock hard erection for at least 2 hours.
gotta stretch bro. i feel like as a weight lifter we tend to think stretching gay yoga shit but it’s a requirement once you’re older than like 24. jesus christ my posture… this shit needs to be worked on just as hard as you trying to reach a PR. god i hate my stupid nerd neck. for fricking you’d want to loosen up your lower back and hip, and hip flexors.
Anyone else performs just fine without condom but loose erection quickly when wearing one? Any advice?
Stop using condoms idiot. Experienced girls will know it feels better for everyone without them anyway, and if she's really into you the threat of pregnancy is only a turn on
A thread full of sexperts.
> see this thread
> used to browse this board religiously last decade but grew out of it bc I'm a leftist
> be a habitual porn user
> been with a former /cgl/ and IST user for almost 8 years, married for almost 5
> both present as normies
> I fell out of the gym and she got chubby because covid
> became an architect and enjoy her body even more
> consistently have sex 2-3 times a week
> she only gets clitoral orgasms, get her the suction rose vibe thing
> toys are partners, not competition
> enjoy each other's company
> either missionary, doggy, cowgirl, or the "side " position idk what it's called
> she's gotten progressively better at giving head
> she's vanilla and I'm a freak, we've compromised
> I tie her up sometimes and she dresses up as Velma and sits on my face other times
> lets me choke her
> lets me titty frick her
> just wants my cum in her or on her
> using less and less porn because it is harmful and I used to have death grip
> still beat my meat to fugtrup's Mei and a few other animated porn creators cuz that shit is cash
> sometimes watch porn with wife. nothing too crazy.
> have healthy conversations about how certain acts are hot to watch, but would never do irl
> have open communication about needs often
I take:
•Catchall men's multivitamin
•Lecithin
•Ashwagandha root
•Vitamin D because I live in the pnw
Habits:
Work out 2-3 times a week with a buddy for general health.
Walks after my WFH days
Drink a lot of water and make at least one pot of tea (no sugar or cream) with honey a day
Eat a lot of celery
Sexual habits:
Open communication on if we want to bang it out or jerk off that night or on a certain day due to scheduling.
I ejaculate roughly 5x a week either through sex or masturbation.
Biggest thing is open communication on what your needs are. Accept that your person will not be perfect, but, neither are you.
We're all gonna make it.
unsurprising that the self-declared leftist and their partner quit the gym in 2020 and now exercise just twice weekly but routinely look at cartoon breasts together
anons w/ families must train their sons to hit the gym, resist leftism and porn at all costs
this thread is immature. looking at porn will destroy your spiritual energy, if you can’t respect yourself then how will you be able to be intimate with someone else? OP should quit porn and jerking off, do cardio, simple as. some anons would really rather spend an eternity reading pubmed abstracts rather than accepting the established fact that blowing your sexual energy into a screen entangles a person with evil spiritual forces and cycles of abuse and render intimacy unattainable
Which 1 of you fans is gonna post body first?
>Biggest thing is open communication on what your needs are. Accept that your person will not be perfect, but, neither are you.
It's amazing how many people are in long-term relationships and couldn't tell you the first thing about their partner's sexual wants because they just don't communicate, mostly because of fragile sexual egos I think. So many dudes think they must paint a goddamn Picasso the first time they have sex or else it's over, which is an insane mentality. Obviously the first time is a shit-show of light fun figuring stuff out.
My partner and I have been together 12 years now, we frick 2-3x a week still (it's actually gone up since we were horny rabbits in college), due to the fact that we talk about sex all the time in a non-judgemental way. We'll be cooking dinner and talking about "did you like that thing I did last time or no? Oh it wasn't great, okay you like when I fingered you like this better, kk. Want to try this out? How do you feel about piss? Not your thing, but you want to try out being gagged? Okay we'll try it out next time", etc etc. We took those "what are you into" sexual things early on (yes, no, maybe later) and we just open communicate about sex all the time. At this point she's a goddamn rockstar and can suck the soul out of my body, because I helped her learn what felt absolutely amazing to me. Likewise, I know exactly how to push her to orgasm/pleasure/etc because I can read her body and reactions, and we talk afterwards if something was particularly noticeable. We pretty much do a post-sex Q+A lol, and it's great. One or both of us will casually jerk off next to each other if the other isn't up for sex; it's honestly great just being so comfortable with each other. Her libido skyrocketed when we started REALLY communicating well about sex.
Genuinely makes me happy to know occasionally there are anons on this board that are normal. Frick me, I need to get off this website.
>there are anons on this board that are normal
Normal? Dude, were you here during the FIRST sexual health thread. It was cucked as frick. I even screen shot it but i reformat my computer, it was that bad. Married men are cucked as frick and the two posts you responded too reek of cuck energy. You think it is healthy to a man's hormone levels and "fighting spirit" to be with an aging female 24/7? That thread was fricked, it was some dudes saying they weren't getting sex from their wives (typical) and the responses were comical. It was from married men or possibly females (the responses were so gay), it was like "are you doing things for her? try picking up some extra chores around the house, and when she sees you doing those things, she might have sex with you." LOL what. and it was an endless wall of those. like what the frick? Married men can be married for so long, that they don't even know how cucked they are and how many dumb things they let slide from their females. They let it slide not purposely like a simp but more like "its not worth an argument" and add this over like a decade and the man's spirit is crushed and you can almost always sense this in posts from married men. They have this really really extra calm demeanor as if they have lost all testosterone.
That's a lot of words. Post the screenshot. If this is bait, take a creative writing class. Your writing fricking sucks.
Bait? Are you moronic, what part of that post sounds bait? I swear a lot of the replies in that thread were females or men that have been married for at least 12 years.
Your broken English and way of formulating sentences just proves you're a trollbot
Go eat some shit, pajeet
T. married cuck. Cleans the toilet mops the floor.
simps got MAD over this one kek
you're right, it is scary.
Yeah its like some unspoken thing married men agree to. Its like "lets not tell sex dries up with marriage or that our wives do many moronic things we dont even notice or bother to call out anymore or that she is no longer attractive."
most married dudes itt seem to have solid sex lives
Its hard to explain. Its lacks this certain energy. You know how when youre young, you see older men and think "loser boring?" I think marriage brings that out. And theres literal anons itt saying their wife bait and switch.
>think "loser boring"
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I think that overly calm demeanor can also be described as boring. Like girls are boring creatures and not boys or men, so when youre with them for like 10+ years in a marriage, it definitely dulls the frick out of you and younger boys/men notice it. Theres a reason boys think girls are gross before the thirst took over.
Bro it’s pretty obvious to any guy here who’s been around the block long enough that you’re projecting your insecurities
>Married guy explains how he and his wife have great sex lives
>”N-n-no!!!! It must not be great, you’re lying!!!”
You’ve likely built up some straw man in your head of older married guys being spineless twats who suck at pleasing their woman. The “calmness” you speak of is literally just security in one’s self that only really comes with life experience and wisdom. You’ll get there, just continue to improve your fitness and pursue the things you love
>life experience and wisdom.
Its not. Its not the same as the attitude of someone giving lifting tips like in other IST threads. As soon as its a marriage topic, the whole thread energy shifts into this "heh touch grass" tone as if the marriage is his identity. Its hard to explain.
pure brainrot
Brainrot is noticing things
Lifter giving lifting advice on IST is fine. Even health and diet is fine. But as soon as its marriage, the tone shifts. Its like the married men's entire demeanour shifts and it reek of very dull boring cucky almost reddit energy. And remember, almost all men are married and most of the male population is unfit and unhealthy yet health and fitness topic posts still dont have this "touch grass" tone.
>Bro it’s pretty obvious to any guy here who’s been around the block long enough that you’re projecting your insecurities
Why would i be insecure around married men who you know already have a set life when im not even insecure around men like Rich Piana or other wealthy people? You need to compromise for a marriage and in modern times, that compromise isnt the same as 70 years ago and its cucked. If youre over 20 year married, il give you benefit of doubt cause 20 years ago, it was better. If youre less than 5 years married, dude.
LIFE is all about compromise, dumbfrick. inb4 "I never compromise" no, you do in some way or form.
like the other anon said, it's painfully obvious who's actually had a consensual relationship with a woman and who hasnt.
all you redpill mgtow morons really need to take a long look in the mirror and just think about the absolute horseshit you're spewing. Trust me, it's not gonna get you laid or into a loving relationship with a woman. Just date other men if you hate women so much.
>LIFE is all about compromise,
With friends, you call it a day/night and see you next time. Dont pretend 2 decades+ of compromise with a female isnt go to drain you of something.
I can't. I really can't. it's painfully clear neither of you haven't touched a woman.
A loving relationship lasting 20 years, experiencing new things, exploring new places, encouraging each other to be their best, fricking like animals, and growing old together sounds delightful.
Yes, you make compromises. That's part of a loving consensual relationship. But that's what forges you into a better, wiser person.
Is this how zoomers really think now? Am I the one that's out of touch now?
>A loving relationship lasting 20 years, experiencing new things, exploring new places, encouraging each other to be their best, fricking like animals, and growing old together sounds delightful
It sounds delightful after you have been doing it for 20 years. Lol. Notice how when asking young boys what theh want to grow up to be, no one says "a married man." Lol. Its almost like being a modern married man equals cuck. I see it and i can read it. The married man took a bigger compromise than the married wife.
This is so moronic. Life isn't all about mindless fricking. Get a hobby.
> Its almost like being a modern married man equals cuck.
why, because you've observed some shitty marriages and attention prostitutes online nagging their husbands and they look miserable?
Get real and touch some grass, anon. this mindset is toxic and you will die alone.
Recently engaged, dates for 3 years. Frick 4x a week. Slobs my knob like it's her last meal and lets me choke her until she almost passes out.
Try again.
>Frick 4x a week.
Try fricking 4 new girls a week and you know what the real playee shit is.
Been there done that in my younger years. Consistency is better. Try again.
No, stop using mental gymnastics and thinking a woman is a commodity like a car. The fact that you do think like that is alarming and again, comes off as you hate women. I wonder if your mother knows of your moronic views.
Jesus frick what has become of this place? I remember when it was just funny memes and lifting advice. none of this mgtow/redpill/manosphere bullshit that everyone knew, was in fact, bullshit.
>wonder if your mother knows of your moronic views.
Of course she does. Shes a boomer. Having lots of kids back then was so they can help out later and not some modern trad larp lmfao.
4 new girls a week for years consistently? Goddamn.
>thinking a woman is a commodity like a car
They are. Girls marry for commodities hence the term betamale provider. Lol.
Bro have you genuinely never been in love?
I think its really important for a man to get married before he gets rich.
You can love girls or you can understand them.
clearly you dont
absolutely not every week. 4 was the max. it was mostly 1 maybe two in short bursts, then maybe a consistent FWB and be "exclusive"
Any woman you attempt to go for will see right through you. You will die alone, loveless and hopeless
okay giving you the benefit of the doubt. you've seen ten maybe twenty marriages like this. Compared to the billions of successfulmarriages out there correlation does not mean causation
Clearly i do.
Yeah not consistently. Never wanted exclusive or fwb cause im the guy she would be "dating up" to and im not a simp.
See through me? What am i hiding?
The successul marriages are everywhere. Going in public and you see marriages, the male demeanour isnt something i like to see. I see the compromise on the male. The man compromises more. A female doesnt compromise anything in marriage.
why is your sentence structure so goddamn weird?
this. this is why I'd bet that this weirdo is just a trollfarm pajeet
>trollfarm pajeet
trollfarm jeet. Jeets are as bad as you think, but they would never let their females run amok in their countries.
whatever you say, Pajeet
The fact Pajeet is in your vocabulary and that Pajeets were non-existent 10 years ago shows you how far down (you) have fallen.
>Any woman you attempt to go for will see right through you. You will die alone, loveless and hopeless
All the single moms and abused women say women aren't that perceptive
>Compared to the billions of successfulmarriages out there correlation does not mean causation
If you define successful as staying together sure. You don't know out of those marriages how many of them were actually miserable
Not the person you're replying to, but there are many things I didn't mention because i don't want the married men getting defensive. All in all, 90% of men are betabuxers betamale providers that their wives didnt like when she was an 18 year old. Marriage isnt some huge accomplishment. Girls settle down and lower their standards a lot, and men just cling onto whatever girl comes their way.
>Any woman you attempt to go for will see right through you. You will die alone, loveless and hopeless
THIS is why i say married men or cucks reek of their certain attitude and energy. What you just said is such a female or married man thing to say.
>Any woman you attempt to go for will see right through you
I aint hiding, in fact, im better than most men. Most men have to gobble up each piece of shit a girl shits out or she leaves. I can be genuine. Im not even the average man that pretending that she isnt only with me cause she has a wall and wants me for marriage aka betabux. most men wont admit this and try to go the "im a man and i provide" meme when girls already work now. lol.
>oh it makes me feel so good to be around this girl because i want to frick her, guess ill give up my dignity while she strings me along and fricks Jamal on the side
post body dyel cuck
>instantly thinks about black men in relation to a theoretical gf/wife
Brain damage
>you will die alone.
Id rather throw out junk than to keep it in my room. I can buy a new one.
>you've observed some shitty marriages
I observed groups of married couples and seniors and parents and friend's parents and parent's friends and i can see married men when in public. Its not a good look. Girls collectively are laughing at us. They will never tell us, cause they need us to marry, but its part of the girl code.
>they look miserable
Since you used that word i will to. I didnt want to cause i know its gonna make married men defensive. But married men dont look like totally miserable, but they lack brightness and liveliness and bounce in step and and from an outside perspective and one who isnt blinded in marriage, you can literally see that marriage over the man. Its an aura that surrounds him. An extreme example is the look of that white dude that married the asian chick. Im sure he says the same things you do too.
I wish I could show you your posts 10 years from now when you start realizing your mortality and want to get married but are alone. Yeah, when you get older your priorities change and you find meaning and purpose in ways that 20 year olds will never really understand or have any grasp of. It’s not some “loss of life/energy”, it’s just becoming mature and it happens to literally every human that has ever lived. You’re acting as though you have some secret wisdom, but you’re literally no different than any other young guy who has not matured and thinks he has it all figured out. I hate to break it to you, but you are indeed not the main character
>loss of life/energy
You are commited in every way to a being that is literally lesser than you in every sense. If you had a friend like this, you would notice it.
>becoming mature
Oo female tactic. Shame men. Every male that doesnt marry is one less male for a girl to leech off of.
Lmao bro you are full blown schizo. Marriage is actually 100% about continuing your bloodline. It’s honestly pathetic how young guys are willingly refraining from marriage or any committed relationship because “muh prostitute women”, yet by doing this you are quite literally ending your lineage. Imagine that: despite living in relatively one of the most cushy civilizations to ever exist, you’ve chosen to completely end your lineage because Rollo Tomassi told you that women are after your money. Bro, it is 100% your own fault for not being high value enough to attract an actual high value woman who isn’t going to leave your ass. Cope all you want, by taking such a hardline stance against marriage you are just living in complete reference to women, a complete slave mentality. You are not immortal. You are eventually going to be in your 30s and 40s completely alone, clutching your pearls of “women are prostitutes!!!”
>Marriage is actually 100% about continuing your blood
Dont need a marriage for that.
Its not muh prostitute woman. Lol. Why should i date down.
You actually do need a marriage for continuing your bloodline because the entire stability of civilization relies on the unity of the complete family unit. Check out the black population for a good example of what happens when fathers are completely removed from the household.
Yeah, marriage will age you, and life will age you regardless. And yes, females have a wall that they acknowledge, hence why they are usually not deluding themselves into thinking that marriage is unnecessary. You’re free to make your own choices in life, but to somehow think that the union of marriage is some unnecessary thing nowadays despite it existing in the overwhelming majority of civilizations throughout all of history, you’re obviously clueless. Tired of seeing instability and large increases in crime in your country? Well, it all starts in the household. The stability of a nation depends on the stability of the family unit. If you remove fathers from the household, you literally get inner city black neighborhoods. So yeah, the culture of nation is dependent on preserving one of the most timeless, universal traditions. It’s the citizens’ responsibility to change the culture of a nation. You are failing at life and failing your ancestors by willingly discontinuing your bloodline. To be honest, if you truly believe the things you do, it’s probably best that you don’t reproduce
Your shit sounds good on paper maybe in an east asian country. Not the west. In the west, men are cucks. Look at a girl on street today and compare her demeanor to the girls in 1947 mr and mrs universe. It doesnt matter if a girl likes/loves/ patronizes me, she needs to cause she has a wall.
Literally everything you said just now projects how low your self esteem is. There is an increasing movement of millennials and Zoomers who are not deluded anymore by feminist bullshit and are now acknowledging the validity of traditional, conservative values. Because of this, there are actual traditional women out there. Don’t believe me? Go to fricking church lol. It is your own choice to become a cuck. I would strongly suggest moving out of the city if you are currently living in one and to instead move to the suburbs or a rural area. Urban areas breed cuckery and spineless men
>there are actual traditional women out there
There are lots. More than enough for me. But girls date up, and im the up, why should i date down regardless of how trad she is?
> But girls date up, and im the up
yeah, I have a 12-inch wiener, built like a freight train, make seven figures a year, and in a poly relationship with two fit goth girls.
lmao your schizoid posting is hilarious.
>how low your self esteem is.
If my self esteem is 0, i will get girls that are -2. Im still right.
The west is cucked and feminized as frick. lol. In the east, there is this huge respect your elders and man knows best and not a "western female democracy." Go watch a Korean movie movie or Chinese movie see how still male dominated it is. Democracy and equal say by both male and female is a compromise for the male, not the female. Reality is, girls are shaped by the culture, and the current culture now compromises men and encourages female moronation until things blow up. Like Boeing and other Didnt Earn It shit. You want a wife, fine? But don't pretend girls arent collectively voting for reinforcing dumb ass things in society right now. You think your "Trad girl" doesnt benefit from the moronation of other females. Sure your Trad Wife might say she is against it, but she still benefits from it. At best, your trad wife is patronizing you, which is what most men get. in the long run, girls never win. They lose once they turn 25.
>Go watch a Korean movie movie or Chinese movie see how still male dominated it is
or a Spanish movie not meant for North American audience. Hell, even Biden's national Trans day was only for Americans and he didnt show it to Hispanic Americans. It shows you how cucked westerners are.
>Go to fricking church lol.
Kek anyone's who has been to college parties knows church girls are the biggest prostitutes. Or you can pick up a born again virgin who decided to be a Christian because she's hitting the wall.
>Check out the black population for a good example of what happens when fathers are completely removed from the household.
But they're still continuing their bloodline and they aren't married. Are you moronic?
>You are not immortal.
Marriage will definitely age me. Even girls admit this in "why are zoomers aging like milk" youtube comments. Girls admit many things indirectly. They admit they wouldnt marry if they didnt have a wall.
>You are not immortal
Yes i am. Countess bathory? I fricked her. I used to take milk and virginal blood baths with her.
>Marriage is actually 100% about continuing your bloodline
Kek no it ain't. Marriage is entirely about societal stability so it doesn't collapse. It prevents women from going after only the top tier men leaving the men they don't want who are also ones putting all the work into maintaining society dissatisfied which is a recipe for anarchy and revolution. If you don't believe women want the top tier men go look on Facebook how many cities have are we dating the same guy groups. It also stops men from status increasing behaviors aka wars, conquering, stealing resources and getting as many women as possible by doling out one pussy per person and giving them a family to worry about more than getting more pussy. Bragging about being marriage is bragging about being on societal welfare for dudes who can't get pussy.
>It prevents women from going after only the top tier men
lol, its its almost like the bottom 90% of men are worthless and no amount of fancy shenanigans can avoid that. haha. So girls are literally forced to "settle down." No wonder they lash out in so many ways after getting married and not always at their husband but at society for "preventing them from going only after the top tier men" which is what they will always want. haha.
>. Bragging about being marriage is bragging about being on societal welfare for dudes who can't get pussy.
you said this better than i could have. The best I can say is "top 10 top 10 top 10 top 10 girls want top 10" but the person I'm speaking to just ignores this and pretends they are in the top 10 and as if they aren't just playing the role of dutiful betamale provider servitude cucking.
You said this better than me and if I started like this, the discussion would not have happened cause i didn't want to triggered the married men right from the start. Look how defensive they got as soon as I said young boys see older men aka married men as "dull and boring and lame" and that a wife, aging and no longer attractive is detrimental to a Man's biology.
>Bragging about being marriage is bragging about being on societal welfare for dudes who can't get pussy.
This but i never mention it. When married men say "im gonna go frick my wife and everyday" like thats supposed to mean something lol.
I tried to have a discussion with married men on why a marriage will dull a man. And it pretty much turned into a bunch of female propaganda thrown at me. Anyways, back to the beginning, the FIRST sexual health thread for SURE was cucked af and I'm almost certain there are cucked men and females here.
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you're just spewing moronic nonsense not having a discussion, Pajeet
I bet you're dyel status
>I bet you're dyel status
that not what ur mum said
>I tried to have a discussion with married men on why a marriage will dull a man. And it pretty much turned into a bunch of female propaganda thrown at me
Not sure what your shit is about, but I've been with my current partner for 16 years ish. Nothing dulled. Not married, but eventually (it's a formality to make our parents happy more than anything). We're each other's rock. It's great. She has her own shit she's doing, I have my own shit I'm doing, and I've never stopped progressing. I'm fricking thriving. I have so many goddamn hobbies I don't have enough time to do them all. She's amazing and my best friends, makes me laugh like a motherfricker. She got into puzzles, I called her an old-ass lady, she showed me competitive puzzling and we had a hell of a fun night drinking and trying to "competitively" complete a puzzle she bought while we were abroad. I have a massive garden, my goals is to grow 100% of the food we eat in summer (currently at like...60%). She wants chickens and planned and started building a chicken coop for next season, but we needed a sled for the saw so she made that recently. Stardew Valley is our shit, we are going to play 1.6 release this weekend on a new farm. Getting my motorcycle fluids all changed out Sat. morning and I'll be off to the Blue Ridge Mountains next weekend. She hates that I ride because I might die, but she's fine with it; more jealous that when I do solo motorcamping trips she's not there, although we have a few trips planned this summer. I dunno man, I'm so fricking satisfied with life."Marriage will dull a man" - I'm more ready to do shit than I've ever been. I get up at ~5:30 every morning, workout, and get to doing shit. She is motivation to be the best man I can be because holy shit she's amazing, and I would be a fricking goober if I wasn't her dream man.
>Nothing dulled.
did you even read the thread first? I said YOU are dulled and don't even notice it similar seniors hanging around other seniors and thinking its normal to have back aches and be taking many pills is normal.
>Nothing dulled.
>I'm fricking thriving.
>She's amazing
>She's amazing and my best friend
>She's amazing and my best friends, makes me laugh like a motherfricker.
>She got into puzzles,
>So many goddamn hobbies I don't have enough time to do them all.
>She is motivation to be the best man I can be
>Shit she's amazing
>I would be a fricking goober if I wasn't her dream man.
>holy shit.
>holy shit she's amazing
The 50 year old eachothersrocker
>Nothing dulled.
>I'm fricking thriving.
>She's amazing
>She's amazing and my best friend
>She's amazing and my best friends, makes me laugh like a motherfricker.
>She got into puzzles,
>So many goddamn hobbies I don't have enough time to do them all.
>She is motivation to be the best man I can be
>Shit she's amazing
>I would be a fricking goober if I wasn't her dream man.
>holy shit.
>holy shit she's amazing
This is something I feel like a lot of single guys don't seem to get about happy longterm relationships - it really, truly does feel like they become a part of you, that the love and devotion you feel from them on a daily basis gives you the strength to do anything. It might not always feel like butterflies in the stomach, but in many ways it's so much better: it is contentment, happiness with the knowledge that you will never, ever feel that gaping wound of loneliness in your heart. Even when they drive you crazy, or when they piss you off, those moments pale in comparison to the good times where they make you laugh, comfort you and truly make you feel loved.
>This is something I feel like a lot of single guys don't seem to get about happy longterm relationships -
if you read the thread, no one was saying these married men arent happy.
>but you’re literally no different than any other young guy who has not matured and thinks he has it all figured out
I hear this a lot but 90% of males are undesirable to girls except for marriage. This means getting married isnt really a positive for most men, they either dont want to admit betabux or that their wife would not have married him if she didnt have a wall forcing her to "settle down."
>Am I the one that's out of touch now?
You have been marrried 20 years, ofc. Just like how you view boomers or your parents as out of touch. Or seniors
>the absolute horseshit you're spewing
I was mainly talking about the touch grass tone and how all married men have with dull boring demeanour to them. Its as if thats a compronise for marriage cause a man cant be too lively and adventurous cause a girls body does break down a lot sooner than a males and that would make the huband not compatible anymore(Not taking account for weight after marriage) i think senior metaphor is a good one cause you dont notice it, only young boys or men do.
>it's painfully obvious who's actually had a consensual relationship with a woman and who hasnt.
Almost all men are married lol. Its as if it doesnt actually take much.
>it's not gonna get you laid
Its takes a lot more to consistently get laid with new pussy and not "get lucky" than to get married.
Like I said, just date men if this is how you think about women.
Everything you morons are spewing about marriage, dating, sexual health and women comes off as you just hate women.
Just hop on grindr
>women comes off as you just hate women.
Thats the misunderstanding married men always come to. Speaking of money, girls tend to "date up" so another compromise is i "date down." Lmfao. If im richer, why should i date down. And if im near the top and most girls arent near, wth? Sure theres many men like me in in this bracket, but most men are simps. And if im wealthy and not a betabuxer, a girl is not a good investment. Lease dont buy. Another compromise is that girl is a depreciating asset.
>you just hate women.
Why are they entitled to be liked?
Funny how it's only the men doing the compromising
Jesus Christ. It’s amazing how 20 year old boys think that they somehow have it all figured out. Yeah, marriage requires compromise, what the frick did you expect? Literally every marriage throughout every single era of history required compromise, except that relatively today life is very cushy and you basically have no excuse to not get married and reproduce. Thousands of generations of your ancestors survived plagues, warfare, and countless atrocities for you to be like, “omg modern women are prostitutes and I’m like totally based for not marrying any of them”. This sort of mentality is from an inability to break free from your Peter Pan syndrome and refrain from chasing tinker bell (substitute for the real thing). Accept your mortality and commit to one woman. You’re not based for choosing to not reproduce, you’ll be discontinuing your bloodline after your ancestors basically sacrificing everything for you to be here. If you’re afraid of money hungry prostitutes, that’s your own problem for not being high value enough to attract a high value, trustworthy woman. Traditional women are out there despite Rollo Tomassi telling you that they aren’t
I think these are good metaphors, try to understand the following:
>You know how when youre young, you see older men and think "loser boring?"
>I guess its the same as seniors hanging with seniors, pills and illness is normal cause everyone has it.
If you view it this way, then you wouldnt think im projecting or insecure. Cause im not. Like would a 12 year old boy see a dull 55 year married man and feel insecure? If a young boy called you a boring old man, would you say he is insecure and projecting? (Zoomers dont count, cause they are insecure af)
(YOU)
bruh quit samegayging.
>They have this really really extra calm demeanor as if they have lost all testosterone.
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Being married with a girl for so long brings out these really robot like npc tone and demeanuor in men and in their posts. Its like overly calm and lol its hard to explain. I guess being married for so long really does test your patience. Like girls are so moronic and a marriage wouldnt last if you called her out for the 50 moronic things she does each day.
>men with a good sex life who have their kinks fulfilled seem pretty calm
No shit? Really?
Lol you know that wasnt what i meant and now youre doing married cope thing. Its not like "calm" its more "dull npc robot calm" as if marriage has sucked the enthusiasm out of him. And when married try to sound smart, they give off this "touch grass" tone as if their whole identiy is revolved his marriage. And since married men over 40 hang our otjer married men, they kinda dont notice how dull they are. I guess its the same as seniors hanging with seniors, pills and illness is normal cause everyone has it.
I've never met a man who told me I should get married, and considering I worked retail I've had quite a few men who asked if i was married.
Kinda angry schizo energy here but
>married men. They have this really really extra calm demeanor as if they have lost all testosterone.
this is definitely real and noticable on the internet. "muh wife" and "the wife" posting where guys commiserate with each other. very gay and depressing. I think that has more to do with a collapse of patriarchal authority in the developed world and it doesn't mean that marriage or relationships were always or will always be cucked
>this really really extra calm demeanor as if they have lost all testosterone.
I’m a freak too. Hard to compromise on a vanilla girl. I’ve been with other freaks before and it’s amazing. But nobody has it all I guess.
> toys are partners, not competition
dude this is one of the gayest things I've ever read
> Haven't had sex since wife got pregnant with our now 4 month old baby
> Wife says she doesn't want me to ask because it makes her feel guilty
> Wife says she doesn't want me to physically initiate because it's too high pressure
> Wife will not physically initiate
> Wife tells me I am not allowed to be upset about any of this
Any suggestions on how to get this ball rolling again?
Give it time or unironically marriage counsel. You can't convince her yourself.
divorce papers and a coathanger
Good fricking luck. There is no winning against a pregnant woman. Ride it out until the kid is about 2 months, is all too can do, and then of she still won't then you can complain.
Kid is already 4 months old.
Does marriage counseling actually do anything for anyone?
>Does marriage counseling actually do anything for anyone?
Of course. Women (and to a lesser extent man) can't always hear or agree with what their partner is saying so even if you are rationally in the right, hearing it from a third party like a counselor can make her understand.
In general though hormones are fricked up for months after, if she had a healthy libido before it would probably come back eventually. If it doesn't you need to let her know the lack of intimacy is an issue for you and a need that doesn't get fulfilled and you would like to get another opinion or open the subject up seriously.
She was pretty low libido before, but we had somewhat regular sex. Ramped up during infertility though to where we only had sex once a month but we had a LOT during that time period. Honestly feel like maybe she's just done with our relationship.
Don’t start putting pressure of the status of relationship on line because you can’t have sex yet bro, she’ll detect it and be turned off even more so.
There is a litany of long term heath problems cause by childbirth.
>Pelvic Floor Disorders
>Perineal Trauma
>Pelvic Pain
>Sexual Dysfunction
>Postpartum Depression
>Urinary Problems
>Hemorrhoids
>Increased Risk of Pelvic Prolapse
Childbirth is gnarly. Give it time, and talk about it with a counsellor.
Just cheat anon, you’re fricked
Oh shit, I misread. Thought she was 4mo pregs.
Some other anons have addressed most of the relevant points. She probably feels fat, insecure, tired, etc. Reassurance is important here, as well as just talking about your own feelings (not needs - men don't get to have needs). Also, you're doing your fair share of the work, right? Not just slacking off and playing Xbox with your bros while she does 100% of the baby and house work?
The fact that the sex stopped as soon as she was pregnant is pretty damning, though. Did she just use you for your sperm? Did she ever actually desire you, or did she just desire what you could give her? Don't phrase it like this, but this can be a key point in counseling - it feels like she just used you to get what she wanted, and now she has it, etc etc.
And to add on, she can and will use the kid(s) as an excuse to deny you sex forever, if that's what she wants to do. Don't expect this to just go away on its own.
She's pretty baby focused so I do more work than she does. I haven't gamed with the boys since 2014.
I feel like she did use me. It sure was fun getting used though
Ok, I see where this is going. At 4 months she should be back in the office, back to work, whatever. I assume that isn't the case? At 4 months the kid naps half the day and (if you're lucky) sleeps all night, and can be set down and ignored for a few minutes while shit gets done.
So what I'm imagining here is you go to work and then come home to a pigstye, and she tells you all about how tired she is from taking care of the kid.
Let me tell you, brother, I was the stay at home parent. My kids are preteens now, so I'm back in the workforce, but man, taking care of infants is fricking easy. It can be emotionally draining because the job never stops, and you have to revolve your whole life around their needs, but there is ample time to get shit done and still goof off. The baby does not need 24/7 attention, nor is that even good for them.
I'm making a lot of assumptions here, but I think you're being scammed.
She's actually back to work, but she doesn't do anything to help in the evenings. Then she's too tired after for intimacy.
We're 4 months post and she isn't having any of this.
Thanks based incel poster! Now my marriage is SAVED!
You know, I think the most annoying part to me is that I would do literally anything for her. Like, I would and have toiled doing shitty work under a hot sun for days to give her something she wants, but twenty minutes that ends in an orgasm is too much work to reciprocate.
Look up marriedredpill.
She probably has a lot of body image issues and her hormones might be fricked up from the physical stress of child birth. Has there been any stressful subjects on her mind? Finances, heath, family problems?
You’re not trying to knock her up again are you?
We dealt with infertility for 3 years. Had to use ivf
She wants another one really badly.
Finally, an answer that is legit.
You gotta reassure her bruh. the other option is family counseling
Talk to her? Tell her how not having sex makes you feel. Don't phrase it as "I gotta nut" but as "without the sex I feel like we're not as intimate anymore"
Tried. She told me it's not her job to make me feel happy.
she's lucky there's a little child in the game, so breaking apart is a terrible idea for the little one
if a woman ever gave me this kind of ultimatum if it were just the two of us, the relationship would have ended right there
so I have to put all the effort to make both of us happy by myself? what the frick even gave her that idea? did she forget healthy relationship is about equal mutual effort?
It's so over. Unironically one of my worst fears is being tied to a frigid woman like that. It's like that moron who had anal with some lover and drowned his kids. Imagine being in that kind of situation
The the reverse is also true anon. Don't spend money on her, only the kid.
its joeover
my friend is in this exact position and when i asked him about what he is gonna do:
>'im going to 'cheat', i told her directly, for me the marriage is over, absolute no intimacy
>the main binding is the kids, if they hypothetically were abducted by aliens, the relationship/connection would end immediatly'
its joeover friend, do everything for your kid and the minimum on your wife so you cant get charged, maybe, just MAYBE, she will realize, i highly doubt
women dont want sex. women get absolutely nada out of sex
the biggest lie feminism created is that women are able to orgasm. Spoiler: they cant orgasm
women will have sex with you up to the point of having you locked down, afterwards sex becomes pointless for them since they arent getting any pleasure out of it anyways
I hear you.. I have a four year old and its better now. Was rough the first 18mo due to a complicated birth, pelvic floor issues, sex hurt her and sheer exhaustion.
Dont push it but if I am being honest my wife will suck me dry the more I help parent. I take the kid 1-2 times per week on solo daddy/son missions like trampoline parks/bike rides, etc and give her that 3-4hr break she needs.
Seems like the days I do that she's down to frick/suck
I will try the excursions, but I'm not hopeful. I already do more than 50%. Is it a bad sign that I've never had a blowjob? She thinks they're degenerate.
women dont like sex. sorry you had to find out this way. blame feminism propaganda i guess
>Is it a bad sign that I've never had a blowjob?
slightly bad sign... do you eat her pussy or is she one of those that gets self conscious about it?
No oral whatsoever. She can cum from penetration alone, so she has come to believe putting your mouth on genitals is immoral decadence.
>She can cum from penetration alone
Well that is cool and only about 10% of women in my experience. Give it time.. 4mo is really early if you arent back to fricking at 12-18mo then you have yourself a problem.
Having a child is the biggest relationship test ever. We almost split like twice in the first two years. Hell I left for three days just to get away from her.
Now shes chill and its gotten much better.
>You should wait another year on top of the year you've already been celibate in your marriage
Bleak
Also, she's the only one I've been with, so I'm batting 1000 on orgasms from dick only. Probably helps that she's small and I'm large.
jerk off in front of her to porn or instagram bawds
your marriage is over bruh, thats her way of saying she isnt attracted to u
Was she a virgin at marriage?
This is the only thing that matters.
absolutely don't. every story about marriage counseling you will hear from a man is that the counselor sided with the woman to make everything somehow the man's fault. marriage counselors don't make any money from fixing marriages.
>calls me Daddy both in and out the bedroom
That's fricking weird, man. I'm not reading the rest of your deranged blog. Just lift.
Kettlebell swings
Check your blood sugar levels Op. ED is common for pre-diabetics. Taking Apple cider vinegar tablets before food can help stabilise it.
What’s your diet like?
>She deserves more
Agreed. Time to prep the bull, my pale friend
it sounds like you're an out of shape fat frick and need to focus on cardio. I would suggest running a couple of miles twice a week to start, and work up to three or four times per week, with a couple of LISS sessions and eventually one or two high intensity sessions. the other anon who suggested yoga is probably right too, hopefully you will learn some body control and stop fricking like an autistic wildebeest
Sex threads and street fighting threads are le comedy gold, bunch of experts sharing 9th grade insights and tongue in cheek remarks
Absolutely insane to think there are some guys reading this shit thinking it even remotely resembles reality
Are you telling me these posters don't actually sex for continuous days stopping only to hydrate?
I'm not outright denying these posters all having a history of >5 knife fights against a pack of armed gangsters but have a few reasons to doubt the legitimacy of their claims
Only reasonable post ITT
>bunch of experts sharing 9th grade insights
a 9th grader has better insights on girls, and a 10 year old has even better. a married man has the worse.
and you're barely in kindergarten lmao
post body, Pajeet
>and you're barely in kindergarten lmao
lol got many girls when i was in kindergarten lol
Speaking of sexual fitness...
I can't get it up for my wife. Like at all. When we kiss, I don't get a semi. Sunday was the first time we had sex since November and it was because I was napping and starting grabbing her while half awake.
On the other hand, I am able to get it up for my girlfriend, consistently.
But on the other/other hand, when I frick my friends I have a hard time getting it up the first time we do it so it leads to me body worshipping them.
Divorce and marry the girlfriend so you can frick the wife
Anyone here has an already made and easy to follow program for kegel exerices?
Seconding this for ED
For me cardio matters more than meme shit like kegels
Is walking like an 30-60 minutes enough?
>verification not required
not the one you replied but I had one of the worst ED as a 20y/o that i fixed within 6 months roughly
went full autist with cardio (mostly done on stationary bikes):
>1-2x per week HIIT 4x4 protocol @ 85% HRmax
>3-5x per week 45 min @ zone2 HR
>Is walking like an 30-60 minutes enough?
depends on the walk, if it is challening like a smaller hill and your HR gets within zone2 then yes, otherwise no
think about italian farmers in sardinia walking up their hills -> great cardio -> lower cases of atherosclerosis -> good indicator of heart health -> good erectile functionality and lifespan longevity
Kegel exercises give you secret super powers, Anon. You just have to keep doing them and never stop.
im dating a girl rn who is 30 and a virgin
im a couple years older and slept w maybe 20 ish girls since 18
its sort of a pain because i think you cant really connect intimately without sex
plus never know she might be crazy into sex or crazy anti sex once she has it
bunch of fricking redditors. women dont fricking like sex. get it into your onions brain
she only does it to please you, and you have to be deserving of it otherwise why would she bother?
itt: she cant cum and shes not horny because youre dyel beta frick
Skill issue
huh?
wait you think women can cum? hahahhaha
>maybe if I type haha more
Skill issue
For me, it's when my husband draws me a bath. There's something about hearing a happy home while relaxing that makes me want to expand the family
Oh I get it, you're just trolling.
nobody really thinks like those, right?
Deadlifts / Squats (heavy hip dive movements) running, and overall strength really changed the game for me. Erections are very strong also.
What is wrong with all of you? I see shit about your dicks not working and having dogshit relationships full of fighting and no sex drives and all this shit, why are you with people you hate? My fiancée and I love eachother and are constantly horny. She loves to please me and I love to please her, it’s like symbiosis.
My bpd ex was horny af but we fighted a lot. You don’t fight with your girl?
We have arguments but we treat eachother respectfully
Thats great for you, but most of us Arent amish
>you have to be Amish to have a functioning wiener
Bro who hurt you
Start cycling, helped me tremendously with that.
I don't mean become a roadbike lycra-homosexual. Buy some old rigid MTB (90s are king), fit all-terrain tires and ride it. One hour twice a week with at least one smallish hill will do the trick.
bike seats cause ED
Only the wrong one or one that's set up wrong.
Also two hours per week shouldn't be an issue.
I like being 35 because my sex drive is starting to cool off but I'm still potent as hell. I never goon for hours or coom multiple times in a day. I never get thrown into a horny frenzy by IST images. I need to bust a fat nut every 72h the same way I need to shit every 24h. It's just a bodily function. By myself or with a chick, I cum when I want to. It's great.
I'm 34 and I'm hornier than I've ever been. I JUST busted, 21:00 (it's 21:25 now), and your post made me remember to maybe do it again. Might go to the bedroom and do it again.
Then I'll do it again before sleeping and maybe when I wake up.
It's like this every day for me
>calls me Daddy in and out the bedroom
what kind of a couple is OP and his girl?
cringe.
What does it take for a woman to deem you worthy of sex?
190cm tall
18cm length wiener
15cm girth wiener
seven figures salary
All these posters saying their girl gives them head and I can’t even get my girl to give me head. I think she has some type of trauma regarding it or just doesn’t enjoy doing it. I’ve spoken with her about it a couple times but when the time comes for sex she doesn’t do it. I offer head and she says no that she doesn’t like it. Sucks because I’d love to have that for once.
You need to decide whether it's a deal breaker or not. Don't settle for bad sex and don't settle for a woman who can't give you want you want.
Ultimately it sucks I cannot get head, but otherwise she’s too good to me everywhere else. Overall the sex is good and I feel it’s unlikely I’ll strike this good in terms of a relationship elsewhere. I just feel envy from other anons and I sort of feel inadequate as if there’s something I lack being the reason I can’t get all I want.
I probably wouldn't trade, but I've never really wanted a BJ.
>5.5 inches length
>4.4 inches circumference
I have a literal pencil dick, should I just kill myself
I will never be able to please a woman, meaning I will never be able to find a very long lasting relationship
nah, just find a woman that prefers clit over penetration
yes do a flip
I'm about the same... maybe thinner 🙁
I'm ok with my length I just wish I wasn't a pencil
Go to r/gettingbigger
most people in long lasting relationships literally don't have sex. what you have to worry about is getting cheated on by women with a sex drive. fortunately for you most women basically have none.
i cant visualize what that circumference looks like but that really doesn't seem small. that might be a bit bigger than the global average. there's billions of dudes getting laid with dicks smaller than yours
Aside from the obvious cardio and yoga that everyone is pointing out here, try Angion Method.
God I wish that girl were me.
it's easy to spot who's consensually touched a woman in an intimate way itt
Try some cardio and pushups. Lose weight. And you can always get some sex furniture. Those wedges are pretty good I hear
are you all really falling for this pajeet posting nonsense?
The problem here is your probably a fat powershitter who is unhealthy. Squats deadlifts don't make you healthy just cuz ur strong your not healthy if your cardio sucks.
Can someone actually help me in a specific position to NOT bust?
>fine in every position unless it's a new girl then I get too overexcited and have to pace myself
>with EVERY girl the moment I get her into the mating press, her feet bent to her face or as close as possible, looking into her eyes
Almost immediately once our breathes sync up I just have the biggest urge to almost immediately nut. I go from pumping fine in rythym to full on stuttering basically having to stop completely and restarting.
I've tried holding my breathe, looking away, going slower but holy shit nothing works. Love the position and use it as a finishing move so don't want to get rid of it.
I’m 32 and a kissless virgin, I’m terrified of the idea of any sort of sexual encounter because I will reveal what a sexless pathetic loser I am. I will die (hopefully via suicide) without ever having sex.
Having some trouble and its fricking me up not sure if I've injured myself or diabetes or what
I have not had a normal erection since September of last year. My first child was born in June and I was horny as frick and started having sex with my wife as soon as she was able to after child birth. One day in August I just wasn't waking up with wood and wouldn't get very strong erections even when I tried and watched porn
There was a little pain, I could and still can ejaculate but my erections are even weaker. My penis slightly curves to the left and that made me think peyronies but the curve is no where near as severe as what I've seen online. To further complicate things I am a type 1 diabetic, did not seen my endocrinologist for two years after COVID but since I got my Continuous glucose monitor in early 2023 my blood sugars are the best they've ever been, with an A1C of 6.0 compared to the low 7's and high 8's I'd known since college.
Talked to my endo and she very awkwardly brushed it off as anxiety related to birth of child (starting three months after the child was born lol) and I could tell it was making her uncomfortable, seeing her again this month. Went to a urologist who was recommended but has so far been useless
He prescribed me 5mm of sildenafil which did absolutely nothing for me, even when I took 3 pills. He keeps telling me its nerves
I will say, the only time I've had gotten anything close to a normal erection in the last few months is when I fantasize about sex with older women, like at least 50 years old up to 75 and that is the direction my taste in porn has escalated in the last few years, so I have been trying to go no fap. Its difficult because I just want to feel something, not that normal sensation or feeling is gone when not jacking off. I workout regularly but do not drink enough water
Meeting with a GP that was recommended to me and seeing where that takes me. I don't know what to do.
5mg sild is too low, baseline dose is 10x that (50mg)
Tadalafil at 5mg is great every day but some people don't respond to anything below 10mg.
Go to bed early, wake up early and ride your bike for an hour. In my experience hormone levels fluctuate strongly so sometimes you have to ride the wave when test levels are the highest. You should get a hormone panel regardless.
Why make this thread on fit? 90% is gymcelling sexless sub 6ft chuds. Manlets don't have sex unless it's bottoming for superior males
>Why make this thread on fit?
Fit is beta. It has a feels bar thread and now a thread that was meant for sexless marriages. IST like a mens health board with articles written by females. Which id actually happened to male spaces. There are many many reasons to dislike females regardless of what married men will try to "take the high road" larp you with.
bros I need help, when I fricked for the first time it hurt like crazy, eventually was diagnosed with something called short frenulum, I went to surgery and they removed the frenulum but the other day a girl gave me head (quite good at it actually) but my pp still hurt (the surgery was 2 months ago so its fully healed) any advice on how to have a more resistant pp? I dont care about pleasure or cumming anymore I just want it to not hurt
Blindfold her so she can’t see you and can fantasize about being with someone she actually wants to frick with
>Blindfold her so she can’t see you and can fantasize about being with someone she actually wants to frick with
and put on some cocoa butter on your body first.
or wear a fluffy outfit.
Sounds like a case of homohomosexualry.