I feel you dude. I've gone out solo plenty before. It's always awkward at first but I seem to fall ass backwards into conversations and make friends half the time. Having a few but not too many drinks helps.
I've gone a couple times alone, but it never really gets me places. I talk to some people and it's nice, but not much more. Feels like it'd just be better to have a group, especially since girls look for social validation. I added a few fellas I met on NYE there on IG, maybe I'll see if they wanna go tomorrow night for the Valentine's rave shit, there'll be tons of thirsty gals there. I always see the pics posted form the nights I miss and get frustrated when I see qts I coulda tried to hit up.
Not a bad idea. I agree having a group makes shit easier and gets rid of any of that anxiety. Hit them up but I wouldn't let it stop you if no one wants to go or something.
I've gone solo a couple of times, if you really want to feel adventurous I've found I can socialmaxx on half a tab of acid, but if you're alone you might get overwhelmed and/or scare the hoes
yesterday had great night with one qt. she is giving me all the signs (lips, eyes, giggle, hair ,etc). she even mired by back and said how she wanted to touch my body after we first met
then had drinks with this other qt who is not that pretty but still managed to get into kissing and more
finally feels like i'm making it bros, i'm so happy.
How do I stop being a loser? Everyone thinks I’m weird despite trying to socialise more. My friend group of a while is slowly turning on me, women aren’t interested in me, dating apps don’t work. People just think I’m off the second they meet me. I don’t even think I’m ugly I’m around average looks but 5’7.
Friends can turn on you if they perceive your status is increasing more than there's. If this happens it's time to form new bonds and ghost old friends who try to bring you down.
I think it’s the opposite honestly. I’m socially awkward, even my friends have said it for ages now. I do try being more social I just can’t seem to be a likeable person for some reason. I’m not rude or anything, just quiet/boring. Women aren’t really interested in me either. I thought I was really ugly at first but according to others I’m average face wise. People just think I’m weird
Lot of death and illness going on with my older family right now. Shits been stressful. Gotta lift today but maybe I'll grab a drink later. I want to be as strong and as healthy as possible for as long as possible.
I have been going through this for the past few years as well anon. It's rough. Only advice I can give is to be sure to make the most of the time you have with the people who are still in your life. When my dad was extremely sick I had the chance to go see him and didn't because of some stupid shit (I was in the middle of moving and was behind schedule) and a few days later he died. I don't know if I can forgive myself for that.
I'm in my last semester of university. I've never asked out the cute girl who's been in all my classes these past 3 years. I've always been too afraid that she'd say no, and then I'd be stuck seeing this girl every day who now thinks I'm a creep. Now that it's the last semester I don't see any point in trying, even if she said yes we'd only have a few months together before graduating and going our separate ways. The worst part is that she may actually be interested in me, but I've always been too much of a pussy to try anything. I'm going to graduate soon and then never see this girl again. To any of you reading this, please don't end up as I have.
You can figure that part out after she says yes, now go ask her out and stop being a moron. You'll feel better about yourself even if she says no, trust me
Got a dog a month ago didn’t do the due diligence and gotta find it a new home. Just wanted something to alarm system the house at night and go on runs with. It don’t bark, is destructive when ignored, and has lots of separation anxiety. Wife was sad until it diarrhea’d all over the couch this morning.
I've kind of accepted being asocial, the only discomfort I feel is when everyone at work talk about their weekend and I'm like, yeah, I studied again... Then everyone pities me. Quite annoying.
I do like people, but keeping them long-term is tiring and not worth it. The eternal problem.
If only there was one person I like.. But no. Modern love is a meme
Just cutting weight. 700 to 1000 cal deficit daily. I'm 4 weeks in, and would like to do another 4 weeks but it's getting heavier. I thought it would be easier after a couple weeks but I'm getting impatient. Also sucks to try and continue to lift the same amount of weight and same intensity, it's just not possible.
>mom did her best as a single parent, took care of me as best as she could and things were alright until she met some guy online and took me all the way across the country to live there for a few years, fucked up big time because the dude was really abusive >after coming back lived with my aunt which was a whole other round of suffering until I turned 18 and everything smoothed out as best as things could >mom and I didn't talk very much even when she moved back as well, just not very close at all but I wasn't resentful of her. Just kind of disappointed in how things turned out. >ffw to now and mom gets horrible cancer, insurance fucks her over as well as a retarded doctor misdiagnosing it as an infection >in only 7 months she's at death's door, only did one round of chemo and it fucked up her brain so bad it literally made her bilnd, possibly deaf, and destroyed her cognitive functions altogether >everyone is telling me now that she's being transferred to hoHispanice that I should visit her, but if I don't want to no one will hold it against me due to how horribly destroyed she is now
Half of me is too scared to see her and the other half doesn't see much point anymore considering she won't even know who I am or if I'm even there. But it feels really cowardly at the same time to not do it as well.
I don't know what to do.
Go see her. Find closure. Forgive her and forgive yourself for ny resentment or feelings about it all. Don't live a life of regrets and what ifs. Its gonna be tough but it's gonna be the right thing in the end
Hey anon, my mother passed away this January from cancer and I can tell you right now that no matter how she looks, see her. It could be your last memory. I was too scared to visit my own when I learned she was so fucked up on opiates she'd have no idea I was holding her hand. My point is that soon she'll transition from this world to the next and be set free of any pain, but you'll have to shoulder it for the rest of your life. Make it easy on yourself, and act so that you can remember yourself beside her, perhaps in her very last moments. Stray strong man, WAGAMI.
Had a falling out with someone involved in my biz last night because he was being an arrogant prick and I told him so. He didn't take it well, told me that he "does all the work while I sleep", to which I told him THAT'S THE FUCKING ARRANGEMENT BECAUSE I'M THE INVESTOR AND HE'S THE MANAGER.
He blew up over the hard truth, called me a bunch of names, to which I told him that it wasn't becoming of a 54 year old man who just got off drugs 2 months ago and who is living with his mom.
Fun times.
Man, I really miss this one girl we had insane mutual chemistry, but I 100% burned that bridge when she fucked around on me. I know I shouldn't wish I could have her back, but I've never met anyone ever again who as so effortlessly on my wavelength to be together. I wish I could replace her but I haven't been able to.
Making sure you don't go back to destructive/toxic people in your life is a good thing. If she cheated on you then it's good you have no path back to her to allow her to do it again (she would). You'll eventually find another girl who you click with again and that one won't backstab you and you'll be glad that you torched the bridge back to the other one.
Bridges are two ways, they allow people to cross to you as well. You can say the magic incel word that has integrated itself into your very brainstem through self-identification if you like, but if you think you should retain relationships with abusive people then you're just objectively giving bad social advice.
I got hit with the 'I like you as a friend' line.
Knew her for a few years and thought I'd try. now our regular contact is gonna drop because I overstepped fuck
I need to become more conscientious, and more disagreeable. Recently I've had a lot of stuff happen where I should have shouted at someone or punched them in the face, but I just pretended not to care, and to be invested in their development. This is conventionally moral but disadvantageous in the city where a lot of ppl seem eager to take advantage of softness in a predatory way.
I was at the barber the other day and tried to just look at the ground so that he shut the fuck up. He was indian and trying to tell me how his wife would nag him since his friends cheat on their wives? "you can have two girlfriends, buddy, as long as you keep them apart and- OOOOOPS!" He had accidentally shaved a bald patch onto my fucking head. "Don't worry buddy, it just looks uneven because I havent done the other side yet. I fix... I fix!" 20 minutes later I walk out of there 30 bucks drained and looking like an actual crackhead. a reasonable man would have slashed the guys fucking tires or demanded another haircut for free. Godamnit.
They always find a reason. Money, time, purposeful misunderstanding, it doesn't matter. Even when I'm right I don't push back enough.
And yes, in the end every decision is super subjective. People here don't get judged by measurable results, they get judged by how loud they can talk in meetings.
>I've had a lot of stuff happen where I should have shouted at someone or punched them in the face
Nah, that sort of thing only ever comes back on you.
please help me IST i beg you,
i began my fitness journey after my long-distance girlfriend of 3 years left me (she was having sex with random dudes behind my back) and it wrecked me, my life came crashing down and i went into depression binging on food and jerking off as my only source of happiness in this world (i had lost all my friend and hobbies during the relationship)
now ive made some progress and negated ton of the baggage i had on me (lost 35 lbs, re-connected with friends and all that) but still every other night the pain keeps coming back and devastating me thinking what a joke my existence was, it has been 6 months since she left and 2 months till i became semi-sane and it hurts so bad every other night and i think of her everyday, i still have some way to go to be attractive like lose more weight and gain some muscle and that will take me 6 months of consistent effort, however i breakdown in pain knowing how much more she has ecperienced than me and how i was made a joke and betrayed, and how i have nobody, and get urges to just give up and eat junk and jerk off.
please help me fit, say anything to give me hope on this joureny, tell me if i will make it
You need to realize that your experience is not at all unusual or unprecedented. Even those of us who are successful by whatever terms you'd define it live some part of our lives within a joke. And alienation, betrayal, and pain are all just things you have to endure. Banking on a long distance relationship is kneeling in your grave blindfolded with your ass in the air, naked, cheeks spread. No shit someone is going to sneak up on you, fuck you with lightning-speed, then stick a shotgun up your ass and pull the trigger. You didn't lose as much as you think you did, it sounds instead like you're exploiting the experience as a means of avoiding responsibility (like commitments to your health, work, family, or future). Get back on your feet you maggot, if you sucumb here; in this place that you're in, then you're the type of person to deserve it.
>woman betrays her boyfriend deliberately to cause him harm >NOOO YOU'RE NOT ALLOWED TO BE SAD WHAT ARE YOU A BETA??
Do faux-alphas even read the shit they write? You wrote something that wouldn't look out of place on the back cover of some sort of "Le Epic Man's Manly Guide to Manliness" book.
I get what you're saying man and I know how that shit hurts. However you need to pick yourself up as fast as possible and not enjoy the misery for the reprieve from responsibility that it provides. I had a long distance relationship go to shit 2 years ago, much like the dude is describing; it ended after our last zoom call when she climbed up onto her bed to get something off her shelf and inadvertently exposed a bite mark bruise on her butt/ leg. It felt really good to wallow in the sadness of that for a couple weeks and watch sunsets, drive around listening to music, or walk around in the dark and stare into the water. But you gotta admit after awhile that you cant just attach yourself to things that are dead and the sadness becomes appealing on its own for the lack of responsibility or whatever
You're not alone man, similar situation happened to me and probably countless other men out there. i'd say don't blame yourself but feeling down about a situation like that is inevitable, instead own your sadness and just accept it as a part of your story. You got traumatized so it probably wont ever go away, but overtime you'll learn how to cope with it better. godspeed anon and keep up the progress
Joined kickboxing gym to get some social gains, but I'm so shy that I almost haven't connected with anyone. They set up some extra activities like dinners and bowling, but I simply didn't go because I feel so uncomfortable.
The next one is karaoke night, but how could I ever go to that when I can barely turn to a group of 12 people and say: " rest well, see you tomorrow"?
The 5'1 blond girl smiled at me towards the end and said hi! She's very bubbly so no, it doesn't mean anything. some people are simply open and I take so long to break that barrier and become acquainted with someone. That girl joined a few weeks after I did and she already made friends with other girl and is close with some of the guys. I know women bond easily but still...
from build and knuckle pigmentation I'd guess your family is from the phillipines, vietnam, or southern china, you moved to north america at a young age and are now 17-20 Your body, clothes, and house appear clean, well-groomed and orderly. Get the fuck off this website. Your parents want you to pursue law, science, medicine, or engineering, and the way that you fuck that up now is by getting your brain destroyed by the internet and slutting around, therapy leads into depression, anxiety. Even if you arent as smart as many of your friends or people in your classes you can still have a good life. Jesus christ gtfo the internet
>I know women bond easily but still...
This is a meme. Most women these days have fried out their bonding capacity by the time they hit 18 through hookups and social media.
There’s a shy girl in one of my classes I have a crush on, and I’m too shy to say anything, plus I don’t want to make this last semester weird if she isn’t into it. I suspect, though, that you are more social than you think and you just have to break out of your shell a little bit. It is hard to talk to people when they don’t say much. You can say anything at all, or at least try to hold a conversation. I presume that if she did that, it’d be a little easier for me to try and talk to her and see what’s up, you know? I’m sure the guys are eager to chat you up.
Unless you're going straight from kickboxing to karaoke, have a drink or two, pick a song you can sing in your sleep, and go for it. I did an ABBA song and had a lot of fun running around the stage getting drunk gorls to sing along with me. Did an Avril Lavigne song later as well. I can't sing for the life of me fwiw
Man I'd love to do a karaoke night cause they're perfect for picking up girls. Getting a girl to come sing with you is the best way to develop a fast bond doing something a bit nervous or intense together but handling it by making it fun. Instant convo starter an fiend maker.
Unfortunately, the karaoke night at the club in town is fucking Thursday and I have a career.
I have OCD and it makes me have constant intrusive thoughts about certain women when im just trying to focus on progress, basically im frustrated 24/7 and the cortisol is probably going to age me 30% faster
Feeling resentment for my parents lately for letting me hit 325lbs before I even left school >told me if I ever lost the weight and I had loose skin they'd pay for the surgery >now I'm 170lbs at 23 they pretend they forgot, oh well just look like a deflated balloon for life
I mean they did a lot of other things right for me, but the constant bullying and physical damage from being such a fat child will leave me with emotional and physical scars for life. I just can't fathom how they fed me all that fast food for so many years and never had second thoughts about it. It was basically child abuse.
Step Brothers honestly, it's a normie favorite and it'll help keep the tension low
Although if y'all start getting to 3rd base then the screaming might become a distraction
She isn't really into that kind of comedy, and I was thinking of something a bit more serious anyway. Last time I was in this situation I watched 500 Days of Summer with my date and that worked out well, and it could probably go over well even now since my current date is also a bit of an art hoe (what can I say, I have a type), but I'm not sure about lightning striking twice.
She also likes thrillers and bond movies though, and we've gone to second base already which makes me believe that something steamier and more erotic might also do the trick (especially considering that she has already shown me her two-shelf long collection of erotic fiction), but I guess it's always better to undershoot than to overshoot on that one. She likes tasteful eroticism and passion but sleaziness is a big no-no from what I gathered.
>wake up, tell myself "today feels different" >slog through work, but excited for gym because gym crush is usually there Friday >get there, she's not there >literally only middle aged roasties and DYEL zoomies >whatever, 1.5 hrs later get ready to leave >back-up gym crush arrives, but immediately waves at another guy as she walks over to the racks >fuck off >no plans for weekend, another weekend of being alone
this is the most depressed I've ever felt
>hit chipotle for that after gym muscle fuel >diva looking shitskin does a pause when I shake my head a little to move my hair, then continues to me and hands me my food and just walks away >I say thank you confidently, and she says you're welcome facing the other way, in a way too self important manner
As a gym goer I thought I should never touch this board but I feel like telling a story from last year >At gym sees new girl >she has gaming headphones and a tablet >fascinates me for some reason >goslings out like usual >super buff gigachad notices >bro just talk to her >actually listens to his advice goes decently well found out she a Xbox player >she starts to leave after her workout >I work up the courage and ask for her Xbox tag >she said something like can you put my Xbox game tag on her tablet notes so I did
It been nearly a year nothing and I think she was in my area on vacation but it sucks that I never got a ending and I’m a sucker still occasionally thinking I’ll get that friend request
I've had visual snow for as long as I can remember. I've also been trying to quit my job for about 2 years but keep coming up with excuses not to including ramping up my hypochondria. My latest hyperfixation is palinopsia which is a perfectly normal adjacent symptom for visual snow, I don't have the normal version but I think I see more motion blur than normal in certain conditions.
Normal standard of care is to see a neuro and get a fucking CT scan and I can't be assed- the small voice in my head keeps saying though "But bro what if it is bad?". I have no other symptoms except fo rbeing a hypochondriac.
If I go through with all the diagnostics it could be a month of suffering at my fucking wage bitch job and loosing out on more of the freelance work I pain stakingly dug up to get an appt, get the referral, get the appt get the scan and so on. Considering how shit health insurance is now I think I should just leave the job and pay a hospital bill if I do end up keeling over.
Why does it have to be this fucked?
Perhaps I'm retarded, but I think I'm afraid of women, I struggle to trust any of them, it's as if all I've been to any of them is either invisible, repulsive, or a punchline in their sick social games, I'm unsure that I'll ever be able to trust anything genuine from a women, should it ever occur
That's the thing- most normies don't do gym, they go to work and leave and go spend 20$ for shitty tacos and awful margaritas and have "fun".
Gotta find ways to get out to go and see people.
fwiw being in on a friday night isn't a bad thing if you have something you like doing or with someone you love (aside your mom but make sure you know how to move out at some point)
I wouldn't and don't mind being in on a Friday night, its just that its every single night the same thing. I want to pick up more hobbies and activities and make friends, meet girls, live life.
Water, with apple cider vinegar.
I've been especially paranoid and bitter the past few months, but even more so since starting this new job. Haven't been training as much as I should.
I need to make sleep a higher priority, but I always get bored at night and hate being alone with my thoughts for too long
I want to fucking kill myself. My schooling has beenextended by 6 months so it's half a year before I become a real person instead of a broke student bitch. I am broke so I can't fucking go kick boxing like I want. My hair is thinning and I can't afford treatment. I am so fucking anrgy everyday, the only thing that has me feeling better is the gym while I'm there and drinking and doing cocaine. I just want to start kickboxing and have a job and not be fat.
I don't have money for cocaine or alcohol either these days, forgot to add. I have nothing to make me happy. Gym is free because it's my mom's condo but I don't live with her. All I can afford is my necessities, rent, and protein
I'd drop the protein for fin bro. You can always make more gains but you can never get your hair back. It's really ducking cheap. I mean you could buy 2 week supply (14 tabs) for like 10 dollars and make it last 2 months by splitting it into 4ths
Save your hair man it's more important than gains
I'm in canada, everything is expensive here. Plus my dick already works like shit, just started working good so I'm certain I'll get sides. I want to build an LLLT helmet and take rogain.
I’m on accutane and it’s affecting my running. I’m getting sore shins and knees way sooner than I used to when I ran while not taking the medication. I haven’t run in three years but when I was running regularly my best running time was a mile and a half in just over 9:30 and I weighed 155 lbs. I’m 29 now and weigh the same. I want to do an eight mile charity run in June but I’m worried I won’t be able to run as good as I used to due to the accutane.
I can do two sets of 50 push ups on the perfect push up handles followed immediately by 60 ab rolls with only a two minute rest in between each set. I’m usually screaming on the last 10 push ups. Am I in good shape?
Because that doesn’t work. It’s severe cystic acne caused by genetics. Nothing else worked prior to me taking the Acctuane. My diet has always consisted of red meat, milk, eggs, grains (healthy cereals, oatmeal), fish and white meat. I don’t touch fast food.
How do I cope with being kind of ugly and short? If I was good looking I think I would have a chance with women since it would make up for being short. If I was tall or regular sized me being kinda ugly would be diminished a bit
Post workout Guinness, bartender. Thanks
Had a medical issue preventing me from lifting, but I was able to start back up this week and it has been a god-send.
The medical issue didn't kill me, and thanks to the teachings of Aurelius and the Stoics: there was no fear of death. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
Day 41 of nofap, spring on the way... life is peachy.
>leave unhappy relationship with a good girl that refused to work on her anxiety and depression >back to the world completely devoid of virtue and morals
I don't want to go back to that unhappy relationship, but man what I wouldn't give to not be out here wading through shit trying to find something worthwhile
>get barely any matches on dating apps >not super ugly, take care of my body/hair/dress well >have had gfs and hookups before >only fatties and dogs have liked or sent sent a message back in months
bros how do i meet cute women irl? is it just a bad time of year?
Then find out. We're not your neighbors. We don't know where you'd get girls from. If you spent less time on here and more time figuring out the answer to that question maybe you won't ask it again next week
I've already spent time scouring the city for them anon. It's like qts don't leave the house. Trying to be in the same place at the same time as them is like playing the lottery.
A lot of them don't, or rather they do but they don't do anything interesting, and that's outside your control so you might as well not worry about it.
As for scouring the city, I'm sure there's somewhere you haven't thought about unless said city has a population of 1000. I got a date at a book club and she found out about the club because apparently someone posted our club to tiktok and it doubled the female population overnight. I had no idea this was going to happen but it worked out for me, for now. If it doesn't go anywhere with that girl there's at least 3-4 places I know of that I can talk to girls and find someone else. Sometimes all you need is to broaden your opportunities.
When it all feels lost and you even feel confused and letdown by God(not that he would but life is rough), or moreover even more lost from what he wants-I have no clue; anons what do you do? I didn't think I could feel lower then it hit and here I am, bitterly at peace with a plan in mind
I am 31 and what I have realized is that I am incapable of being an adult. I’ve seen social media normies have that “adulting” joke phrase where they do all the things expected of adults but pretend like it is hard for them and say how “adulting is hard”, but I’m not talking about that, I mean like I’m literally incapable of being an adult.
After leaving the life handholding that childhood and really even college provided, I basically just got completely lost. All the basic things that adults practically unconsciously do as they develop through their 20s and 30s seem so unattainable to me. Living on their own and moving apartments/buying a home. Getting into and sustaining romantic relationships, marriage, children. Having pets and keeping them alive. Interviewing for, getting, and transitioning between different high-profile jobs. Going on vacations they plan by themselves. Actively joining social groups and stuff with people. Even something as simple as buying your own automobile to drive to conduct your life. All these completely basic life tasks seem completely and totally foreign and impossible to me. I have accomplished literally nothing and my life is basically indistinguishable from a 10 year old’s. I even see people in their 20s with youtube channels doing shit and can't comprehend it.
I don’t know if this is autism, or adhd, or some form of another actual mental illness. I’ve heard the term "failure to launch' and I guess it pretty much fits me, but the worst part is that I see no possible way to recover from depths this low. I am so unfathombly behind in development to people 10 years younger than I am that I don't even see a point.
You're viewing these things through the filter of social media or people talking about them. Everybody constantly fucks up. They fuck up when they move, they buy houses way over market, they get cucked by their landlord, they file their taxes wrong, they miss their flight on vacation, they stumble over their words in every interview.
Sounds like you need to just go and do a bunch of shit. Once you interact with enough people in enough situations you realize the average person is a completely incapable retard that is barely able to feed and dress themselves. One of the main reasons why so many people are in horrible relationships is because they can load off half their chores and responsibilities on each other. Nobody has any clue what the fuck they are actually doing and just do it anyway. No need to be perfect anon.
I’m one of the more social people at my office and I’m basically friends with everyone. Female coworkers frequently pop in to ask if I want to grab lunch or go for a walk, male coworkers invite me to join lottery pools and whatnot. But I feel super lonely whenever I leave. I don’t have anyone’s number, we don’t hangout outside work. I honestly don’t have close friends that live near me so most days I just go home and wait for the next day. I feel like such a loser.
Dude go hang out with your coworkers, especially the girls if you're single. You're complaining about no close friends nearby, how about you fix that then? I was in your shoes, started hanging out with coworkers. Got me a few friends and dates.
>I was a manager at at restaurant to be fair.
Yeah, that explains it, thanks for the clarification. I was personally thinking more of an office-like setting.
Honestly, how do you do this? If I get rejected I’ll still have to see and interact with these people every day. There’s a couple girls that I think might be down to go on a date but I feel like I wouldn’t wanna take that risk unless I was certain they’d say yes.
Girls get asked out on dates all the time, just keep things professional if they say no, assuming you can trust yourself to not pine after them. You can trust yourself, right anon?
Why don't you invite anyone to events? Invite female coworkers to lunch. If you like sportsball it's too late for the Superbowl but maybe invite the office to watch basketball when that starts up, etc.
Is there an etiquette of sorts to having sex at a friend's house when you've been invited to stay with them for a while? My wife and I are going to stay for a week at this couple's place in the near future and we really don't want to hold out for the entire length of our stay there. We will be sharing the spare bathroom with two other friends who were also invited, so that's probably out of the question, and getting it on in the spare bedroom is not something we're a 100% on, especially considering that those two friends will sleep in the rooms adjacent to ours. I'm also thinking about what I would want in a reverse situation and I definitely wouldn't want some other guy's nut or ass sweat on any of my sheets. Maybe we could ask to go the spare bathroom after the two other friends are done but that might be a bit too forward.
I honestly think the etiquette is similar to using the bathroom. It’s expected that it happens, but people don’t talk about it. Just bang one out with your wife and keep quiet. Some of the best sex I’ve had was when I had to be sneaky and cover my gf’s mouth to keep her from making noise.
>Ask the cute tomboy I've been friends with for a few months if she wants to hang out after class >Sorry anon I have a girlfriend already, I don't think she'd like us going on a date
I will never forgive ~~*them*~~ for ruining tomboys.
>girl at work I'm close-ish with just had a sudden breakup with her shitcunt bf >somehow in the conversation call her a bit of slut
Holy fuck what is wrong with me, cunts. I wasn't even trying to be insulting, I was just going to say she'd have a line of guys waiting and she has pick of the litter. How do I cure autism? Being social hasn't fixed it
It probably wasn’t as bad as you think it was. Sometimes I’ll make a joke that might go over the line and I’ll feel bad about it, but it really probably wasn’t as awful as I think it was. I’ve learned it’s best to treat them like they’re your mom or sister, you’d be fun but wouldn’t disrespect them.
i don't know your situation but if you've tried everything and shes not being cooperative, break up. putting yourself that low doesn't benefit anyone and is not healthy at all. do the right thing man
today was the first day i started working out again since covid. it felt good to do but was really demoralizing how much i had to drop the weights down.
>ski trip with frens Sunday >attempting 3pl8 bench for the first time Monday >getting pegged for the first time by gf on Valentine's Day
exciting week ahead
I wish I had a friend who could introduce me to lifting. I can't figure out how to get started on my own, and hearing about all the different ways you can get hurt makes me want a dedicated spotter while I learn the ropes.
And nobody here speaks English so I don't think I can get help from the guys at the gym, or at least not much worthwhile help.
I hate valentines, new gf I don’t care about that much is so hyped for it but I told her its a capitalist scam and that I don’t really believe in celebrating it. She said she gets that but probably is disappointed about it. I should probably just break up with her. Im afraid she might go crazy or hurt herself cuz she has issues and is obsessed with me. Fuck
My brother joined the gym with me and was pretty much there with me every workout from July through November. Then he got the coof and hurt his rib from coofing so much. Then he missed a full month at the gym. From mid November to early January. Then when he got back he was far behind me because I didn't miss a single day even though going alone took some getting used to. Then oh he didn't feel well, and he caught some other cold for a week and a half. Then he came back but oh he aggravated his hurt rib so another week till I see him and oh I wanted to go tonight but his wife was doing something so he couldn't leave the house until 10pm but I was at the gym at 9. He said he'd be there later. I lifted extra long and was there till 10:30 he never went. I don't want to tell him to suck it up and get the fuck back in the gym but I don't get it, he's failing. Last time he was there his form was even terrible and I tried to tell him but he doesn't listen to me.
I'm just gonna keep doing my thing and leave him in the dust if he won't listen to me.
Help. What do I do when I'm just not getting any stronger. I mean same reps, weight and RIR as last week. Do I just have to add more sets? I'm sleeping well and in surplus too.
Depends where your at strength level wise/routine plus a lot of other factors. If your at an intermediate level your not always going to be able to add weight to the bar each week.
>invite qt friend to an engagement party >"this feels like a date" >"yeah I guess it looks like one, I enjoy talking to you" >you're weirding me out anon"
Why the fuck does nothing go my way. Literally got a "Wyd" text from her a week before and we went vinyl thrifting and went to the bar multiple times but this is crossing the line?
>I guess it looks like one
That was your chance to clarify you meant it as a date (which you should have done when you asked)
You did cross a (relational) line, you need to be clear about that otherwise shes not going have any clue whats going on.
Yeah but it's not an anime, I don't entirely want to date her but I also don't entirely want to be "just friends". She's my best friend's friend as well so it's kinda fucky but we get along excellently. She sent me a text saying "I'm glad we cleared everything up" even though absolutely nothing was cleared up and I didn't reply to her.
>"I'm glad we cleared everything up" even though absolutely nothing was cleared up
I dunno why this made me kek, she's taking control of the situation I guess you beta fuck
Finally got back to the gym after being off for a week, I felt like I sprained the right side of my back, but other than that I feel fine.
Serious question: how do you guys deal with being lonely as fuck? I bawled like a moron once I got back from the gym, and just crawled into bed and slept. I'm so fucking lonely and as much as I try to push it out of my mind, it's still a problem for me.
>everything is going extremely well in my life on paper (career, finances, property, exercise, hobbies) except I still have crippling insecurity/anxiety and absolutely zero experience with women at 25
how the fuck do I fix this?
God fucking damnit same boat here, I just want the excitement back from dating new people and getting the “I want you” look they give. Had a girl tell me yesterday at a social event that she was bummed out having flirted with me half the night only to find out I had a girlfriend. And now I’ve been bummed out all day. Not because I wanted her but that I miss being wanted like that
I'm 30 now, I just want to get married and have kids. The women my age and younger are retarded cunts who play games. The only woman who I'm vibing with is in her 40s and she has 3 kids close to my age. I'm not gonna pass on an opportunity for companionship though.
I hate my job. Every time I feel motivated to improve myself so I can quit it, I feel burned out because of the bullshit. And then I get poor work reviews claiming "I'm not improving my knowledge/skills enough".
It's all so fucking tiresome.
something about this bar is telling me to domestically abuse my wife. i'll pass
I have become Jack the Ripper but for the 2023rd century
I want to go to the club downtown to meet girls but I've got no one to go with.
I feel you dude. I've gone out solo plenty before. It's always awkward at first but I seem to fall ass backwards into conversations and make friends half the time. Having a few but not too many drinks helps.
I've gone a couple times alone, but it never really gets me places. I talk to some people and it's nice, but not much more. Feels like it'd just be better to have a group, especially since girls look for social validation. I added a few fellas I met on NYE there on IG, maybe I'll see if they wanna go tomorrow night for the Valentine's rave shit, there'll be tons of thirsty gals there. I always see the pics posted form the nights I miss and get frustrated when I see qts I coulda tried to hit up.
Not a bad idea. I agree having a group makes shit easier and gets rid of any of that anxiety. Hit them up but I wouldn't let it stop you if no one wants to go or something.
I've gone solo a couple of times, if you really want to feel adventurous I've found I can socialmaxx on half a tab of acid, but if you're alone you might get overwhelmed and/or scare the hoes
yesterday had great night with one qt. she is giving me all the signs (lips, eyes, giggle, hair ,etc). she even mired by back and said how she wanted to touch my body after we first met
then had drinks with this other qt who is not that pretty but still managed to get into kissing and more
finally feels like i'm making it bros, i'm so happy.
How do I stop being a loser? Everyone thinks I’m weird despite trying to socialise more. My friend group of a while is slowly turning on me, women aren’t interested in me, dating apps don’t work. People just think I’m off the second they meet me. I don’t even think I’m ugly I’m around average looks but 5’7.
Friends can turn on you if they perceive your status is increasing more than there's. If this happens it's time to form new bonds and ghost old friends who try to bring you down.
I think it’s the opposite honestly. I’m socially awkward, even my friends have said it for ages now. I do try being more social I just can’t seem to be a likeable person for some reason. I’m not rude or anything, just quiet/boring. Women aren’t really interested in me either. I thought I was really ugly at first but according to others I’m average face wise. People just think I’m weird
Plus most of them are off to university now, so they can easily just make new friends. My area is dead, only thing to do is drink.
Jesus Christ its friday already?
Lot of death and illness going on with my older family right now. Shits been stressful. Gotta lift today but maybe I'll grab a drink later. I want to be as strong and as healthy as possible for as long as possible.
I have been going through this for the past few years as well anon. It's rough. Only advice I can give is to be sure to make the most of the time you have with the people who are still in your life. When my dad was extremely sick I had the chance to go see him and didn't because of some stupid shit (I was in the middle of moving and was behind schedule) and a few days later he died. I don't know if I can forgive myself for that.
That's hard man. I hope in time your pain lessens and you can forgive yourself.
I'm doing my best to enjoy the time I I have with everyone. Visiting relatives I hadn't seen in ages was nice. Life is just too damn fragile.
I'm in my last semester of university. I've never asked out the cute girl who's been in all my classes these past 3 years. I've always been too afraid that she'd say no, and then I'd be stuck seeing this girl every day who now thinks I'm a creep. Now that it's the last semester I don't see any point in trying, even if she said yes we'd only have a few months together before graduating and going our separate ways. The worst part is that she may actually be interested in me, but I've always been too much of a pussy to try anything. I'm going to graduate soon and then never see this girl again. To any of you reading this, please don't end up as I have.
You might as well try anon
What's the point. I don't even know what I'd do if she said yes.
Act now and figure that shit out later.
If you don't act you will regret it. You know this.
This, go for it anon if you really like her you've got nothing to lose
you will regret it more if you don't try, and if you do and fail, treat it as an experience to learn from instead of being a moping gay
You can figure that part out after she says yes, now go ask her out and stop being a moron. You'll feel better about yourself even if she says no, trust me
Got a dog a month ago didn’t do the due diligence and gotta find it a new home. Just wanted something to alarm system the house at night and go on runs with. It don’t bark, is destructive when ignored, and has lots of separation anxiety. Wife was sad until it diarrhea’d all over the couch this morning.
Good on you for re-homing and not just keeping yourself and the dog in a bad situation.
Women are weak.
Im fucking based
If you actually were, you wouldn't have to declare it. You've lost, anon.
I've kind of accepted being asocial, the only discomfort I feel is when everyone at work talk about their weekend and I'm like, yeah, I studied again... Then everyone pities me. Quite annoying.
I do like people, but keeping them long-term is tiring and not worth it. The eternal problem.
If only there was one person I like.. But no. Modern love is a meme
Just cutting weight. 700 to 1000 cal deficit daily. I'm 4 weeks in, and would like to do another 4 weeks but it's getting heavier. I thought it would be easier after a couple weeks but I'm getting impatient. Also sucks to try and continue to lift the same amount of weight and same intensity, it's just not possible.
But I am looking better.
Asian massage parlors.
Anyone IST bros have experience with these? My calves ache from squatting too low and are tight in that area.
Yeah I landed a good job abroad and I have to hop on a plane after 5 years traveling away 6 hours from here. How fucked I’m I?
>mom did her best as a single parent, took care of me as best as she could and things were alright until she met some guy online and took me all the way across the country to live there for a few years, fucked up big time because the dude was really abusive
>after coming back lived with my aunt which was a whole other round of suffering until I turned 18 and everything smoothed out as best as things could
>mom and I didn't talk very much even when she moved back as well, just not very close at all but I wasn't resentful of her. Just kind of disappointed in how things turned out.
>ffw to now and mom gets horrible cancer, insurance fucks her over as well as a retarded doctor misdiagnosing it as an infection
>in only 7 months she's at death's door, only did one round of chemo and it fucked up her brain so bad it literally made her bilnd, possibly deaf, and destroyed her cognitive functions altogether
>everyone is telling me now that she's being transferred to hoHispanice that I should visit her, but if I don't want to no one will hold it against me due to how horribly destroyed she is now
Half of me is too scared to see her and the other half doesn't see much point anymore considering she won't even know who I am or if I'm even there. But it feels really cowardly at the same time to not do it as well.
I don't know what to do.
Be a man about it and visit her, gay.
Go see her. Find closure. Forgive her and forgive yourself for ny resentment or feelings about it all. Don't live a life of regrets and what ifs. Its gonna be tough but it's gonna be the right thing in the end
Go see her please , you’ll always regret it otherwise
Hey anon, my mother passed away this January from cancer and I can tell you right now that no matter how she looks, see her. It could be your last memory. I was too scared to visit my own when I learned she was so fucked up on opiates she'd have no idea I was holding her hand. My point is that soon she'll transition from this world to the next and be set free of any pain, but you'll have to shoulder it for the rest of your life. Make it easy on yourself, and act so that you can remember yourself beside her, perhaps in her very last moments. Stray strong man, WAGAMI.
Had a falling out with someone involved in my biz last night because he was being an arrogant prick and I told him so. He didn't take it well, told me that he "does all the work while I sleep", to which I told him THAT'S THE FUCKING ARRANGEMENT BECAUSE I'M THE INVESTOR AND HE'S THE MANAGER.
He blew up over the hard truth, called me a bunch of names, to which I told him that it wasn't becoming of a 54 year old man who just got off drugs 2 months ago and who is living with his mom.
Fun times.
Man, I really miss this one girl we had insane mutual chemistry, but I 100% burned that bridge when she fucked around on me. I know I shouldn't wish I could have her back, but I've never met anyone ever again who as so effortlessly on my wavelength to be together. I wish I could replace her but I haven't been able to.
Learn not to burn bridges when leaving.
Ignore this
Making sure you don't go back to destructive/toxic people in your life is a good thing. If she cheated on you then it's good you have no path back to her to allow her to do it again (she would). You'll eventually find another girl who you click with again and that one won't backstab you and you'll be glad that you torched the bridge back to the other one.
>Leaving bridges intact and never crossing them, is toxic, or something
Examplery incel moment
Okay, retard.
Bridges are two ways, they allow people to cross to you as well. You can say the magic incel word that has integrated itself into your very brainstem through self-identification if you like, but if you think you should retain relationships with abusive people then you're just objectively giving bad social advice.
>3. Fig. to make decisions that cannot be changed in the future
>THIS IS ALWAYS A GOOD THING
have a nice day retard.
I'm blown away by the depth of your arguments.
Good, kill Xirzelf metaphorically, gay.
you sound like a pretentious fag tbh. The ultimate redpill is to leave without creating a big scene
Cool but no one said to make a big scene. Reading comprehension.
>Take back your cheating ex bro
Fuck off gay
my valentine said no
What happened? Can you explain in detail?
I got hit with the 'I like you as a friend' line.
Knew her for a few years and thought I'd try. now our regular contact is gonna drop because I overstepped fuck
Celebrate migtao day, brother.
Mind?
I need to become more conscientious, and more disagreeable. Recently I've had a lot of stuff happen where I should have shouted at someone or punched them in the face, but I just pretended not to care, and to be invested in their development. This is conventionally moral but disadvantageous in the city where a lot of ppl seem eager to take advantage of softness in a predatory way.
I was at the barber the other day and tried to just look at the ground so that he shut the fuck up. He was indian and trying to tell me how his wife would nag him since his friends cheat on their wives? "you can have two girlfriends, buddy, as long as you keep them apart and- OOOOOPS!" He had accidentally shaved a bald patch onto my fucking head. "Don't worry buddy, it just looks uneven because I havent done the other side yet. I fix... I fix!" 20 minutes later I walk out of there 30 bucks drained and looking like an actual crackhead. a reasonable man would have slashed the guys fucking tires or demanded another haircut for free. Godamnit.
Same. All of my ideas at work get shut down by retards who are more assertive than me
What's their rationale? Like do they usually presume it to be self evident, or so you work in a place where that stuff is mostly subjective?
They always find a reason. Money, time, purposeful misunderstanding, it doesn't matter. Even when I'm right I don't push back enough.
And yes, in the end every decision is super subjective. People here don't get judged by measurable results, they get judged by how loud they can talk in meetings.
>I've had a lot of stuff happen where I should have shouted at someone or punched them in the face
Nah, that sort of thing only ever comes back on you.
please help me IST i beg you,
i began my fitness journey after my long-distance girlfriend of 3 years left me (she was having sex with random dudes behind my back) and it wrecked me, my life came crashing down and i went into depression binging on food and jerking off as my only source of happiness in this world (i had lost all my friend and hobbies during the relationship)
now ive made some progress and negated ton of the baggage i had on me (lost 35 lbs, re-connected with friends and all that) but still every other night the pain keeps coming back and devastating me thinking what a joke my existence was, it has been 6 months since she left and 2 months till i became semi-sane and it hurts so bad every other night and i think of her everyday, i still have some way to go to be attractive like lose more weight and gain some muscle and that will take me 6 months of consistent effort, however i breakdown in pain knowing how much more she has ecperienced than me and how i was made a joke and betrayed, and how i have nobody, and get urges to just give up and eat junk and jerk off.
please help me fit, say anything to give me hope on this joureny, tell me if i will make it
Read the Sticky and focus on YOU, bro.
You need to realize that your experience is not at all unusual or unprecedented. Even those of us who are successful by whatever terms you'd define it live some part of our lives within a joke. And alienation, betrayal, and pain are all just things you have to endure. Banking on a long distance relationship is kneeling in your grave blindfolded with your ass in the air, naked, cheeks spread. No shit someone is going to sneak up on you, fuck you with lightning-speed, then stick a shotgun up your ass and pull the trigger. You didn't lose as much as you think you did, it sounds instead like you're exploiting the experience as a means of avoiding responsibility (like commitments to your health, work, family, or future). Get back on your feet you maggot, if you sucumb here; in this place that you're in, then you're the type of person to deserve it.
>woman betrays her boyfriend deliberately to cause him harm
>NOOO YOU'RE NOT ALLOWED TO BE SAD WHAT ARE YOU A BETA??
Do faux-alphas even read the shit they write? You wrote something that wouldn't look out of place on the back cover of some sort of "Le Epic Man's Manly Guide to Manliness" book.
I get what you're saying man and I know how that shit hurts. However you need to pick yourself up as fast as possible and not enjoy the misery for the reprieve from responsibility that it provides. I had a long distance relationship go to shit 2 years ago, much like the dude is describing; it ended after our last zoom call when she climbed up onto her bed to get something off her shelf and inadvertently exposed a bite mark bruise on her butt/ leg. It felt really good to wallow in the sadness of that for a couple weeks and watch sunsets, drive around listening to music, or walk around in the dark and stare into the water. But you gotta admit after awhile that you cant just attach yourself to things that are dead and the sadness becomes appealing on its own for the lack of responsibility or whatever
You're not alone man, similar situation happened to me and probably countless other men out there. i'd say don't blame yourself but feeling down about a situation like that is inevitable, instead own your sadness and just accept it as a part of your story. You got traumatized so it probably wont ever go away, but overtime you'll learn how to cope with it better. godspeed anon and keep up the progress
Joined kickboxing gym to get some social gains, but I'm so shy that I almost haven't connected with anyone. They set up some extra activities like dinners and bowling, but I simply didn't go because I feel so uncomfortable.
The next one is karaoke night, but how could I ever go to that when I can barely turn to a group of 12 people and say: " rest well, see you tomorrow"?
The 5'1 blond girl smiled at me towards the end and said hi! She's very bubbly so no, it doesn't mean anything. some people are simply open and I take so long to break that barrier and become acquainted with someone. That girl joined a few weeks after I did and she already made friends with other girl and is close with some of the guys. I know women bond easily but still...
from build and knuckle pigmentation I'd guess your family is from the phillipines, vietnam, or southern china, you moved to north america at a young age and are now 17-20 Your body, clothes, and house appear clean, well-groomed and orderly. Get the fuck off this website. Your parents want you to pursue law, science, medicine, or engineering, and the way that you fuck that up now is by getting your brain destroyed by the internet and slutting around, therapy leads into depression, anxiety. Even if you arent as smart as many of your friends or people in your classes you can still have a good life. Jesus christ gtfo the internet
>I know women bond easily but still...
This is a meme. Most women these days have fried out their bonding capacity by the time they hit 18 through hookups and social media.
There’s a shy girl in one of my classes I have a crush on, and I’m too shy to say anything, plus I don’t want to make this last semester weird if she isn’t into it. I suspect, though, that you are more social than you think and you just have to break out of your shell a little bit. It is hard to talk to people when they don’t say much. You can say anything at all, or at least try to hold a conversation. I presume that if she did that, it’d be a little easier for me to try and talk to her and see what’s up, you know? I’m sure the guys are eager to chat you up.
Unless you're going straight from kickboxing to karaoke, have a drink or two, pick a song you can sing in your sleep, and go for it. I did an ABBA song and had a lot of fun running around the stage getting drunk gorls to sing along with me. Did an Avril Lavigne song later as well. I can't sing for the life of me fwiw
Man I'd love to do a karaoke night cause they're perfect for picking up girls. Getting a girl to come sing with you is the best way to develop a fast bond doing something a bit nervous or intense together but handling it by making it fun. Instant convo starter an fiend maker.
Unfortunately, the karaoke night at the club in town is fucking Thursday and I have a career.
I have OCD and it makes me have constant intrusive thoughts about certain women when im just trying to focus on progress, basically im frustrated 24/7 and the cortisol is probably going to age me 30% faster
Feeling resentment for my parents lately for letting me hit 325lbs before I even left school
>told me if I ever lost the weight and I had loose skin they'd pay for the surgery
>now I'm 170lbs at 23 they pretend they forgot, oh well just look like a deflated balloon for life
I mean they did a lot of other things right for me, but the constant bullying and physical damage from being such a fat child will leave me with emotional and physical scars for life. I just can't fathom how they fed me all that fast food for so many years and never had second thoughts about it. It was basically child abuse.
What's a good netflix and chill kind of movie to watch with a date? Something that will set the mood right yet isn't explicitly pornographic.
Step Brothers honestly, it's a normie favorite and it'll help keep the tension low
Although if y'all start getting to 3rd base then the screaming might become a distraction
She isn't really into that kind of comedy, and I was thinking of something a bit more serious anyway. Last time I was in this situation I watched 500 Days of Summer with my date and that worked out well, and it could probably go over well even now since my current date is also a bit of an art hoe (what can I say, I have a type), but I'm not sure about lightning striking twice.
She also likes thrillers and bond movies though, and we've gone to second base already which makes me believe that something steamier and more erotic might also do the trick (especially considering that she has already shown me her two-shelf long collection of erotic fiction), but I guess it's always better to undershoot than to overshoot on that one. She likes tasteful eroticism and passion but sleaziness is a big no-no from what I gathered.
Does what I wrote above help?
What kind of person is your date?
>wake up, tell myself "today feels different"
>slog through work, but excited for gym because gym crush is usually there Friday
>get there, she's not there
>literally only middle aged roasties and DYEL zoomies
>whatever, 1.5 hrs later get ready to leave
>back-up gym crush arrives, but immediately waves at another guy as she walks over to the racks
>fuck off
>no plans for weekend, another weekend of being alone
this is the most depressed I've ever felt
>hit chipotle for that after gym muscle fuel
>diva looking shitskin does a pause when I shake my head a little to move my hair, then continues to me and hands me my food and just walks away
>I say thank you confidently, and she says you're welcome facing the other way, in a way too self important manner
WTF
>Went for a drink with a buddy
>Saw a girl across the bar
>Recognized her as one of my tinder matches I never wrote to
>sad
That's the perfect opportunity to talk to her and not just be another guy in her inbox.
She was on a date with some dude and I was pretty buzzed. Also never done a cold approach, wouldn't know what to say.
As a gym goer I thought I should never touch this board but I feel like telling a story from last year
>At gym sees new girl
>she has gaming headphones and a tablet
>fascinates me for some reason
>goslings out like usual
>super buff gigachad notices
>bro just talk to her
>actually listens to his advice goes decently well found out she a Xbox player
>she starts to leave after her workout
>I work up the courage and ask for her Xbox tag
>she said something like can you put my Xbox game tag on her tablet notes so I did
It been nearly a year nothing and I think she was in my area on vacation but it sucks that I never got a ending and I’m a sucker still occasionally thinking I’ll get that friend request
what the fuck
Coors light and a zyn for me Barkeep
I've had visual snow for as long as I can remember. I've also been trying to quit my job for about 2 years but keep coming up with excuses not to including ramping up my hypochondria. My latest hyperfixation is palinopsia which is a perfectly normal adjacent symptom for visual snow, I don't have the normal version but I think I see more motion blur than normal in certain conditions.
Normal standard of care is to see a neuro and get a fucking CT scan and I can't be assed- the small voice in my head keeps saying though "But bro what if it is bad?". I have no other symptoms except fo rbeing a hypochondriac.
If I go through with all the diagnostics it could be a month of suffering at my fucking wage bitch job and loosing out on more of the freelance work I pain stakingly dug up to get an appt, get the referral, get the appt get the scan and so on. Considering how shit health insurance is now I think I should just leave the job and pay a hospital bill if I do end up keeling over.
Why does it have to be this fucked?
Perhaps I'm retarded, but I think I'm afraid of women, I struggle to trust any of them, it's as if all I've been to any of them is either invisible, repulsive, or a punchline in their sick social games, I'm unsure that I'll ever be able to trust anything genuine from a women, should it ever occur
>Another Friday home with my mom
How do I fix my social life? I make good money but I just rotate between work, gym, and home.
That's the thing- most normies don't do gym, they go to work and leave and go spend 20$ for shitty tacos and awful margaritas and have "fun".
Gotta find ways to get out to go and see people.
fwiw being in on a friday night isn't a bad thing if you have something you like doing or with someone you love (aside your mom but make sure you know how to move out at some point)
I wouldn't and don't mind being in on a Friday night, its just that its every single night the same thing. I want to pick up more hobbies and activities and make friends, meet girls, live life.
>i make good money
its the first thing you said so clearly its the most important thing to you. good work anon! keep making all that money!
Its not the most important thing to me, I actually don't care about money but its one of the only things going right in my life right now
Water, with apple cider vinegar.
I've been especially paranoid and bitter the past few months, but even more so since starting this new job. Haven't been training as much as I should.
I need to make sleep a higher priority, but I always get bored at night and hate being alone with my thoughts for too long
I want to fucking kill myself. My schooling has beenextended by 6 months so it's half a year before I become a real person instead of a broke student bitch. I am broke so I can't fucking go kick boxing like I want. My hair is thinning and I can't afford treatment. I am so fucking anrgy everyday, the only thing that has me feeling better is the gym while I'm there and drinking and doing cocaine. I just want to start kickboxing and have a job and not be fat.
>has money for alcohol and cocaine
>doesn't have 30 dollars for 200 days of finasteride at 0.25mg/day (1mg tabs split into 4ths) to save his hair
Yeah alright bro
I don't have money for cocaine or alcohol either these days, forgot to add. I have nothing to make me happy. Gym is free because it's my mom's condo but I don't live with her. All I can afford is my necessities, rent, and protein
I'd drop the protein for fin bro. You can always make more gains but you can never get your hair back. It's really ducking cheap. I mean you could buy 2 week supply (14 tabs) for like 10 dollars and make it last 2 months by splitting it into 4ths
Save your hair man it's more important than gains
I'm in canada, everything is expensive here. Plus my dick already works like shit, just started working good so I'm certain I'll get sides. I want to build an LLLT helmet and take rogain.
I’m on accutane and it’s affecting my running. I’m getting sore shins and knees way sooner than I used to when I ran while not taking the medication. I haven’t run in three years but when I was running regularly my best running time was a mile and a half in just over 9:30 and I weighed 155 lbs. I’m 29 now and weigh the same. I want to do an eight mile charity run in June but I’m worried I won’t be able to run as good as I used to due to the accutane.
I can do two sets of 50 push ups on the perfect push up handles followed immediately by 60 ab rolls with only a two minute rest in between each set. I’m usually screaming on the last 10 push ups. Am I in good shape?
Why would you take accutane instead of fixing your sleep and cutting all goyslop out of your diet?
T. had disfiguring acne and bacne and it literally disappeared into nothingness on carnivore
Because that doesn’t work. It’s severe cystic acne caused by genetics. Nothing else worked prior to me taking the Acctuane. My diet has always consisted of red meat, milk, eggs, grains (healthy cereals, oatmeal), fish and white meat. I don’t touch fast food.
Sorry dude they told me it was "genetic" too and it completely disappeared when I changed diets.
Do you go outside and get sun enough? I still have residual acne on my chest but hiking shirtless helps neutralize it- that and cold showers.
How do I cope with being kind of ugly and short? If I was good looking I think I would have a chance with women since it would make up for being short. If I was tall or regular sized me being kinda ugly would be diminished a bit
Post workout Guinness, bartender. Thanks
Had a medical issue preventing me from lifting, but I was able to start back up this week and it has been a god-send.
The medical issue didn't kill me, and thanks to the teachings of Aurelius and the Stoics: there was no fear of death. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
Day 41 of nofap, spring on the way... life is peachy.
>found a bunch of discord servers
>too scared to start talking in them because im a fucking loser irl that is on the bottom of the totem pole
why would you waste your time with para-social discord relationships? are you 16yo?
DLs + pause squats are a deadly combo, feels like my soul's been ripped out of my body
on the plus side my lower back pain's gone
Is that you in the pic?
>friend keeps telling me that I should go out with this girl
>she doesn't like me at all
>leave unhappy relationship with a good girl that refused to work on her anxiety and depression
>back to the world completely devoid of virtue and morals
I don't want to go back to that unhappy relationship, but man what I wouldn't give to not be out here wading through shit trying to find something worthwhile
>get barely any matches on dating apps
>not super ugly, take care of my body/hair/dress well
>have had gfs and hookups before
>only fatties and dogs have liked or sent sent a message back in months
bros how do i meet cute women irl? is it just a bad time of year?
>how do i meet cute women irl?
First off where are the cute women in your area?
I dunno. If I could find them I wouldn't be here.
Then find out. We're not your neighbors. We don't know where you'd get girls from. If you spent less time on here and more time figuring out the answer to that question maybe you won't ask it again next week
I've already spent time scouring the city for them anon. It's like qts don't leave the house. Trying to be in the same place at the same time as them is like playing the lottery.
A lot of them don't, or rather they do but they don't do anything interesting, and that's outside your control so you might as well not worry about it.
As for scouring the city, I'm sure there's somewhere you haven't thought about unless said city has a population of 1000. I got a date at a book club and she found out about the club because apparently someone posted our club to tiktok and it doubled the female population overnight. I had no idea this was going to happen but it worked out for me, for now. If it doesn't go anywhere with that girl there's at least 3-4 places I know of that I can talk to girls and find someone else. Sometimes all you need is to broaden your opportunities.
When it all feels lost and you even feel confused and letdown by God(not that he would but life is rough), or moreover even more lost from what he wants-I have no clue; anons what do you do? I didn't think I could feel lower then it hit and here I am, bitterly at peace with a plan in mind
I am 31 and what I have realized is that I am incapable of being an adult. I’ve seen social media normies have that “adulting” joke phrase where they do all the things expected of adults but pretend like it is hard for them and say how “adulting is hard”, but I’m not talking about that, I mean like I’m literally incapable of being an adult.
After leaving the life handholding that childhood and really even college provided, I basically just got completely lost. All the basic things that adults practically unconsciously do as they develop through their 20s and 30s seem so unattainable to me. Living on their own and moving apartments/buying a home. Getting into and sustaining romantic relationships, marriage, children. Having pets and keeping them alive. Interviewing for, getting, and transitioning between different high-profile jobs. Going on vacations they plan by themselves. Actively joining social groups and stuff with people. Even something as simple as buying your own automobile to drive to conduct your life. All these completely basic life tasks seem completely and totally foreign and impossible to me. I have accomplished literally nothing and my life is basically indistinguishable from a 10 year old’s. I even see people in their 20s with youtube channels doing shit and can't comprehend it.
I don’t know if this is autism, or adhd, or some form of another actual mental illness. I’ve heard the term "failure to launch' and I guess it pretty much fits me, but the worst part is that I see no possible way to recover from depths this low. I am so unfathombly behind in development to people 10 years younger than I am that I don't even see a point.
Maybe some sort of autism/aspergers but most people just wing it, try your best and don't be afraid to fail
are you me? i am a manchild and cant even muster up the ability to get a job or move out.
You're viewing these things through the filter of social media or people talking about them. Everybody constantly fucks up. They fuck up when they move, they buy houses way over market, they get cucked by their landlord, they file their taxes wrong, they miss their flight on vacation, they stumble over their words in every interview.
Sounds like you need to just go and do a bunch of shit. Once you interact with enough people in enough situations you realize the average person is a completely incapable retard that is barely able to feed and dress themselves. One of the main reasons why so many people are in horrible relationships is because they can load off half their chores and responsibilities on each other. Nobody has any clue what the fuck they are actually doing and just do it anyway. No need to be perfect anon.
Well, that's it boys. I think I'm in love. I've never felt this way before.
I’m one of the more social people at my office and I’m basically friends with everyone. Female coworkers frequently pop in to ask if I want to grab lunch or go for a walk, male coworkers invite me to join lottery pools and whatnot. But I feel super lonely whenever I leave. I don’t have anyone’s number, we don’t hangout outside work. I honestly don’t have close friends that live near me so most days I just go home and wait for the next day. I feel like such a loser.
Dude go hang out with your coworkers, especially the girls if you're single. You're complaining about no close friends nearby, how about you fix that then? I was in your shoes, started hanging out with coworkers. Got me a few friends and dates.
>dating people from your workplace
Shiggydiggy.
A jobs a job dude, I was a manager at at restaurant to be fair. Everybody is fucking eachother.
>I was a manager at at restaurant to be fair.
Yeah, that explains it, thanks for the clarification. I was personally thinking more of an office-like setting.
Honestly, how do you do this? If I get rejected I’ll still have to see and interact with these people every day. There’s a couple girls that I think might be down to go on a date but I feel like I wouldn’t wanna take that risk unless I was certain they’d say yes.
Girls get asked out on dates all the time, just keep things professional if they say no, assuming you can trust yourself to not pine after them. You can trust yourself, right anon?
Why don't you invite anyone to events? Invite female coworkers to lunch. If you like sportsball it's too late for the Superbowl but maybe invite the office to watch basketball when that starts up, etc.
Is there an etiquette of sorts to having sex at a friend's house when you've been invited to stay with them for a while? My wife and I are going to stay for a week at this couple's place in the near future and we really don't want to hold out for the entire length of our stay there. We will be sharing the spare bathroom with two other friends who were also invited, so that's probably out of the question, and getting it on in the spare bedroom is not something we're a 100% on, especially considering that those two friends will sleep in the rooms adjacent to ours. I'm also thinking about what I would want in a reverse situation and I definitely wouldn't want some other guy's nut or ass sweat on any of my sheets. Maybe we could ask to go the spare bathroom after the two other friends are done but that might be a bit too forward.
I honestly think the etiquette is similar to using the bathroom. It’s expected that it happens, but people don’t talk about it. Just bang one out with your wife and keep quiet. Some of the best sex I’ve had was when I had to be sneaky and cover my gf’s mouth to keep her from making noise.
>Ask the cute tomboy I've been friends with for a few months if she wants to hang out after class
>Sorry anon I have a girlfriend already, I don't think she'd like us going on a date
I will never forgive ~~*them*~~ for ruining tomboys.
>girl at work I'm close-ish with just had a sudden breakup with her shitcunt bf
>somehow in the conversation call her a bit of slut
Holy fuck what is wrong with me, cunts. I wasn't even trying to be insulting, I was just going to say she'd have a line of guys waiting and she has pick of the litter. How do I cure autism? Being social hasn't fixed it
It probably wasn’t as bad as you think it was. Sometimes I’ll make a joke that might go over the line and I’ll feel bad about it, but it really probably wasn’t as awful as I think it was. I’ve learned it’s best to treat them like they’re your mom or sister, you’d be fun but wouldn’t disrespect them.
I fucking hate my gf, I'm going to cheat on her
dont do it :/
Why not? The stupid cunt has shown me I'm the bottom of her priorities
Just break up with her you fucking moron
i don't know your situation but if you've tried everything and shes not being cooperative, break up. putting yourself that low doesn't benefit anyone and is not healthy at all. do the right thing man
Break up with her first. You lose less social credits with other women that way
>could break up
>but that's hard, I'mma cheat and take a coward's way out
Debating whether I should smoke some weed at the super bowl party I'm going to, or get violently drunk
Drink 12 PBRs, no more and no less
I'm a Miller lite kind of guy but I like the sentiment
today was the first day i started working out again since covid. it felt good to do but was really demoralizing how much i had to drop the weights down.
>ski trip with frens Sunday
>attempting 3pl8 bench for the first time Monday
>getting pegged for the first time by gf on Valentine's Day
exciting week ahead
>getting pegged by GF for the first time
Someone tell him
I wish I had a friend who could introduce me to lifting. I can't figure out how to get started on my own, and hearing about all the different ways you can get hurt makes me want a dedicated spotter while I learn the ropes.
And nobody here speaks English so I don't think I can get help from the guys at the gym, or at least not much worthwhile help.
I hate valentines, new gf I don’t care about that much is so hyped for it but I told her its a capitalist scam and that I don’t really believe in celebrating it. She said she gets that but probably is disappointed about it. I should probably just break up with her. Im afraid she might go crazy or hurt herself cuz she has issues and is obsessed with me. Fuck
My brother joined the gym with me and was pretty much there with me every workout from July through November. Then he got the coof and hurt his rib from coofing so much. Then he missed a full month at the gym. From mid November to early January. Then when he got back he was far behind me because I didn't miss a single day even though going alone took some getting used to. Then oh he didn't feel well, and he caught some other cold for a week and a half. Then he came back but oh he aggravated his hurt rib so another week till I see him and oh I wanted to go tonight but his wife was doing something so he couldn't leave the house until 10pm but I was at the gym at 9. He said he'd be there later. I lifted extra long and was there till 10:30 he never went. I don't want to tell him to suck it up and get the fuck back in the gym but I don't get it, he's failing. Last time he was there his form was even terrible and I tried to tell him but he doesn't listen to me.
I'm just gonna keep doing my thing and leave him in the dust if he won't listen to me.
Help. What do I do when I'm just not getting any stronger. I mean same reps, weight and RIR as last week. Do I just have to add more sets? I'm sleeping well and in surplus too.
Depends where your at strength level wise/routine plus a lot of other factors. If your at an intermediate level your not always going to be able to add weight to the bar each week.
>invite qt friend to an engagement party
>"this feels like a date"
>"yeah I guess it looks like one, I enjoy talking to you"
>you're weirding me out anon"
Why the fuck does nothing go my way. Literally got a "Wyd" text from her a week before and we went vinyl thrifting and went to the bar multiple times but this is crossing the line?
>I guess it looks like one
That was your chance to clarify you meant it as a date (which you should have done when you asked)
You did cross a (relational) line, you need to be clear about that otherwise shes not going have any clue whats going on.
Yeah but it's not an anime, I don't entirely want to date her but I also don't entirely want to be "just friends". She's my best friend's friend as well so it's kinda fucky but we get along excellently. She sent me a text saying "I'm glad we cleared everything up" even though absolutely nothing was cleared up and I didn't reply to her.
>"I'm glad we cleared everything up" even though absolutely nothing was cleared up
I dunno why this made me kek, she's taking control of the situation I guess you beta fuck
Finally got back to the gym after being off for a week, I felt like I sprained the right side of my back, but other than that I feel fine.
Serious question: how do you guys deal with being lonely as fuck? I bawled like a moron once I got back from the gym, and just crawled into bed and slept. I'm so fucking lonely and as much as I try to push it out of my mind, it's still a problem for me.
>everything is going extremely well in my life on paper (career, finances, property, exercise, hobbies) except I still have crippling insecurity/anxiety and absolutely zero experience with women at 25
how the fuck do I fix this?
I was in exactly that position at 25. Now I'm 27 and I had one tiny experience that ended awkward and shitty and I'm back to square 1.
I'll have some water.
I got a close friend in the hospital. She's been there for over a week. I'm not sure she's gonna pull through bros.
How do you break up with a girl that has done nothing wrong to you out of nowhere?
God fucking damnit same boat here, I just want the excitement back from dating new people and getting the “I want you” look they give. Had a girl tell me yesterday at a social event that she was bummed out having flirted with me half the night only to find out I had a girlfriend. And now I’ve been bummed out all day. Not because I wanted her but that I miss being wanted like that
I'm 30 now, I just want to get married and have kids. The women my age and younger are retarded cunts who play games. The only woman who I'm vibing with is in her 40s and she has 3 kids close to my age. I'm not gonna pass on an opportunity for companionship though.
>all my friends moved out of town
I hate my job. Every time I feel motivated to improve myself so I can quit it, I feel burned out because of the bullshit. And then I get poor work reviews claiming "I'm not improving my knowledge/skills enough".
It's all so fucking tiresome.