Come take a seat. Have a drink, on the house. It's been a helluva week, hasn't it? Go ahead and let it out.
Stop procrastinating and begin your healthy life today!
Come take a seat. Have a drink, on the house. It's been a helluva week, hasn't it? Go ahead and let it out.
>ex was insanely hot stacey
>also treated me like shit
>butter fave type girl is into me
>very sweet, lots of green flags
>am no longer attracted to anything but the best since dating a stacy
>don’t get much pussy in general, regardless of attractiveness
what do i do
Keep working out and stop caring about women. Contrary to popular belief, the less you chase and focus on self-improvement, the more likely you are to end up in a relationship with one.
I see people say this all the time and I’m convinced all it ever does is remove people autistic enough to follow this advice from the gene pool.
Or, it would build a man over the years with resilience and character. A man that's walled alone and put in the work. That's all women want anon. They want a man that's capable, or has put in the work.
I've never seen anyone fail that put 100% into self improvement. The pay off will show itself in money, status, self respect. However, I have seen men lose everything in the pursuit of pussy. Its a no brainer.
You’re telling dopey looking spergs to do something that will result in them never speaking to a woman ever again.
>he can't put in 6 months of ground work alone for a lifetime of gains and pussy
Alright mate, keep cold approaching without the tools to back up your position and try to hang on if you get any bites. A man that's put in the foundation work doesn't need to do this. Women will actively approach you if you've done the work.
yeah don’t reply to me again
you people all type like you’re copying from a script
npc tier drivel
>6 months of ground work alone for a lifetime of gains and pussy
>Women will actively approach you if you've done the work
man these scams become more and more obvious
I think what he was trying to say was to not improve yourself for the sake of others' approval, as what other people think is out of your control and if you put in the work to try appease them and not for yourself you will be miserable.
I mostly agree with this, but telling young spergy men to not care about women is still awful fucking advice. The 4chinz demographic is autistic enough to actually listen to what you say and just ignore/avoid women altogether.
Wait... we.... we're not supposed to do that?
Stacies looks will fade. Your looks will fade.
I know this feel too. I am not super fit but I look decent and I get a decent amount of attention from girls who seem very nice and decent but are pretty low below my general standards for looks. They're not ugly or anything, just a 6 compared to the 8 or 9 I have been with. It sucks too cause almost invariably all of the gorgeous girls I have known have been coupled with terrible personalities or huge character flaws. I know the world's big but it feels so small from our spot.
I felt something similar when I managed to score a ''Stacy''. I did not enjoy her personality and realized I did it more for the social aspect. ''Look, he's banging THAT''. Making out felt pointless, got more joy from masturbating. She wasn't a horrible person or anything but I realized then and there putting pussy on a pedestal isn't worth it.
You have to switch your brain to being able to date the sweetie instead. You have no idea how amazing it feels to be told how much they love you and how attracted to you they are on a daily basis.
Meanwhile ex went the drugs and orgies route and can fuck off.
I did heavy squats today (lmao3pl8 5x5) and stopped at the store on the way home. If I drink 250ml whiskey will is helps with the DOMS?
>it helps with the feels
>If I drink 250ml whiskey will is helps with the DOMS?
Don't delude yourself anon
Yeah I know it won't but there's that little voice that lies to me and says "it'll help brah". Ah well, only one way to find out.
You’ll throw your gains in the toilet if you do more than two drinks
no it'll make it worse
go even if just to meet some people/maintain your social groups
yeah it is unfortunate man
iktf for sure, not sure how to truly fix it sometimes
A girl I know is having a party tonight, she invited me. However it's always kind of wierd because she flirts with me, even though she's got a bf. He's a really great guy. I'm reluctant to go to the party for reasons you can likely imagine. However it'd also be one of my few opportunities to meet new people outside my university major. Do I go? Or just read instead
Go, use her to get introduced to other people, make friends, flirt with other girls
All is fair in love and war, also just because she's flirting doesn't necessarily mean she wants you, sometimes it's just fun to be flirtatious and it helps feel desirable. I flirt with pretty much every woman I'm slightly attracted to even though I wouldn't date most of them. It's good social skills practice
Ex of 2 years that I tried remaining friends with has a strong victim mentality and anytime I disagree with her, she would take it like an insult or an attack on her. Finally blocked her today, in hind sight I should have never dated her or any woman that always has a victim mentality. Feel bad but I think I did the right thing? Thinking about going monk mode and avoid women entirely, any tips bros?
Yeah man, you gotta avoid people who are nonsensical like that. Good work Anon
I'm breaking up with my girlfriend tomorrow. We're meeting up for the last time. 4.5 years and it's over. I keep having flashbacks of random good memories and it physically hurts. This is for the best for both of us. It just hurts to lose someone who knows you so intimately.
At least I have you guys. None of us know each other but we share thoughts and feelings we wouldn't even tell our loved ones. I'm thankful for that.
Know those feels man. It's worse when they're actually a "friend" as well as a gf. It's a double edge sword that stabs you on both sides.
What's the break up over? Is there any chance of salvation? My advice, don't stay friends. It only cuts deeper and you'll never fully recover if she's part of your life.
It's a combination of things. The most important is that we got older and she's ready for kids. I have suffered from a horrible disease that left me crippled and broke. I've just started getting better recently. I am physically, emotionally and financially drained. Having to care for another human would not just be a nightmare but irresponsible.
On the personal level, she completely changed her views and attitude due to social media and Americanization. She's an immigrant and was apolitical and a genuinely caring person. That changed when she got addicted to TikTok and consumed the most toxic leftism/feminism content possible. She stopped taking care of herself, flat out told me she was going to do what she wanted to do and that I didn't have a say. She seemed weirdly proud of herself the more selfish and sloth-like she became. Needless to say, she wasn't wife material anymore. Like I mentioned, I mostly remember the good stuff right now. When I zoom out and think about how the relationship has been the past year, it becomes easier to carry out this breakup.
>That changed when she got addicted to TikTok and consumed the most toxic leftism/feminism content possible. She stopped taking care of herself, flat out told me she was going to do what she wanted to do and that I didn't have a say.
Happens more than you think mate. Once women become consumers of this shit the relationships is always going to suffer. From experience, they become extremely hypergamous and anything you had to offer initially now isn't enough. If you're not in a financial or physical position to have children it's best to focus on yourself and improve your position.
Wishing you the best brah. Break ups are hard but things will get better for you. Just need to keep moving and doing your best with the hand you've been dealt.
This is unfortunately a pretty real take. My wife has been really into that shit the last year or so, and she suddenly turns every argument into a patriarchy/oppression dialogue.
She told me a few weeks ago that I'm not good enough for her, and, because she's been going through some stuff, I've been shouldering nearly everything alone while she watched those damned videos. I pointed this out and dared her to do better and you know what she said to me?
This woman looked me in the eye and said
> No man is good enough.
And then proceeded to say it was because of how conceited we are.
Jesus man how do you fucking marry someone who is capable of turning out to be a lunatic like that? If you haven't got kids, GTFO before it's too late
Got two, so no out. Cliche, but it wasn't always like this.
She's honestly said way worse shit to me than that lately. It's such a surprise thing to me, I'm really not sure where to go from here.
You might just have to threaten divorce at this point, that is if counseling is out of the question. Although God forbid you get a female therapist because we both know who's side she'll take.
outright don't accept a female one, imo
>My wife has been really into that shit the last year or so, and she suddenly turns every argument into a patriarchy/oppression dialogue
This is a critical point in any marriage or relationship. It's a point whereby you need to lay down truth with absolutely no fear of the reprocusions, or accept she's lost her inner dialogue and is now a walking bot. The problem with social media is the delusions that come from it. Women tend to digest everything that's presented to them at face value, they then compare it with their existing life and feel inadequate. As a man it's your duty to provide and guide the marriage. Once you've lost the reigns to tiktok anything you do will be considered inadequate by the new standards.
Take her out for a meal anon. No announcements, just one night during the week come home and tell her where she's going. Guide her along and tell her what's happening here. Don't get upset or mention anything about your feelings, tell her you don't appreciate the bullshit and you want things to be better. Be hard, direct, and fair.
If that doesn't work, end it.
Glad to hear man. I hope things go well for you. We're all struggling one way or another. Just keep going and have faith in the process.
wow thank you andrew tate
I appreciate the advice, but I don't really see that having a purpose.
Honestly, she slipped out the door on this, and she doesn't value me. I don't see this headed anywhere but zero.
The way I see it, you either:
- shut up let yourself get crushed by her dumbassery (remember what s0is go through? That. She might decide that she's gonna bang other dudes on your dime, and if you say no, she'll make your life hell, then divorce you anyways)
- cut sling load
I suggest you watch this video regardless of your choice
If she's acting out like that in your face, it is well within the realm of possibility that she's already seeing someone else and planning to dump your ass. Best be prepared.
Thanks brother, it is hard but you only get one life. On a positive note, I'm down 8 lbs this year and even though I can't work out I got a yoga mat to work on flexibility. We're all gonna make it, even if that looks different for each person.
Dude, you’re only dating. Good riddance. There’s so many decent single girls looking for get married than there are decent single men. Especially when they’re immigrants.
TikTok algorithm will always try to feed this type of crap to women. My wife who is conservative leaning showed me the crap she gets on her feed. Just women who are completely indoctrinated into the demonization of all XY chromosomes.
She reprogrammed her phone to get rid of most gay and feminist content by selecting “not interested” for the video. Pretty sure these apps are being used to weaken our society.
If it’s helpful, maybe ask your wife what she’s hoping to gain by believing in this crap. If you have children, divorce is horrible. It crushes everyone involved.
>Pretty sure these apps are being used to weaken our society
it's a chink app, and I doubt they missed stuff like https://edition.cnn.com/2020/03/12/world/russia-ghana-troll-farms-2020-ward/index.html and how the entire culture war shit weakened america
they can just claim it's an engagement-maximizing algorithm and that's true, regardless of whether the side effect is deliberate or not
I’m pretty saddened that TikTok actually affects marriages.
There’s that one video where a Chinese official is giving a speech about their intentions to break down our culture and such. I can’t find it but anyway, it probably is true. I do understand workout the conspiracy theories, just the algorithm in itself is enough to give the bad ideas to the right people.
yup, one term that I like is ESR's "prospiracy": http://esr.ibiblio.org/?p=67
you don't need a cabal of hooded lizards conspiring, if it's just a side (or main) effect of stuff that would benefit certain entities, doubly so if some of their ideologies are sufficiently viral - in this case us allowing women to reach critical mass and not nipping in the bud stuff like their victim mentality combined with the marxism-but-for-sexes reskin
It seems victim mentality is almost a given for some. I mean I’ve heard about some low key feminist ideas that started getting popular somewhere in 2010. But now it’s just spread like a disease where normal doesn’t exist anymore. At this point I’ve grown tired of the trend, however it seems nobody else wants to move on from it.
You watch, the term “trauma” is now being pushed. And anyone can claim victim because of it. It’ll really reach a boiling point on that one soon.
What happened, man?
I've been lifting weights for over 13 years. I've personally trained multiple people for football, military service, and law enforcement. When I give advice here I get a bunch of geeks who don't even lift calling me a retard and then proceeding to give bad advice. It's frustrating and makes me not want to help people.
We're not all like that, man. I'm glad for the 1% of us who knows something here. Thanks for your service in those qtddtot threads.
Help me, I did stronglifts for awhile but stopped to focus on cutting fat. I need to work arms heavy but I’m kinda clueless. I’ve heard so much conflicting stuff
Finish your linear progression and then cut after for maximum muscle gains. Cutting weight is simple, just look up the vertical diet and try a template. Pull out carbs in 250 calorie increments until you are losing weight at a comfortable pace.
Flame them right back, put these zoomers who know nothing in their place.
If you’re really saying the truth, you probably answered 80% of my questions in qtddtot
shut up retard
Dunning Krueger man, that's just how human beings are. Don't let it get to you, their confidence is just a front to distract from their ignorance and insecurity
nice larp retard
>Decided to take a shot on a qt. at the cafeteria
>Ask her what she's watching on her phone
>She acts confused takes her air pods and just says "my show..."
>Autism engages and mind goes blank
>All I a can do is smile while trying to think of the next thing to say
>She smiles back
>Panic say never mind and 360 my way out of there
I didn't realize how bad my social game has gotten. I really need to figure out how to approach girls outside of bars.
You tried. You realize the impetus to try is the greatest barrier for most of these artists, right?
I haven't had a shred of sexual desire in half a year. I honestly don't feel much of anything anymore. I'm not motivated towards any goal.
Any time I think of living my life out, I just think, "You know, I've seen enough"
But I don't feel motivated to die either.
You're going to die anyway, go do anything.
Considering you are here on IST, you clearly have some desire whether you believe it or not. Go do some pushups till failiure
>Over the last 2 days
>Right ear has been harder and harder to hear out of
>Think its just water, so at this point just try and rinse it out
>Try a cotton bud + olive oil
>Try a hot water bottle
>Look it up, find out about SSHL and freak out
>Apparently you can just go deaf in one ear overnight
Wtf do I do? I live in the shitty UK, where the dumbfuck NHS apparently doesn't even have appointments on weekends.
Should I go A & E?
>Oh yeah, your ears can just switch off permanently one day
>should be considered a medical emergency
there's your answer, hop over to the A&E and justify it with that screenshot, best case scenario doc checks you out and it turns out to be something harmless that'll be back to ok quickly
Thanks for making me aware of this.
It's fucking terrifying
Seriously what do I do?
You go deff.
If you haven't been to a doc yet, though, go retard. Cause, you aren't a doctor and you shouldn't self diagnose.
you probably have an extremely common affliction of too much earwax. that should have been the first result when you looked online about your ear being harder to hear out of. how the fuck did you immediately jump to some conclusion like that you retard?
I clean my ears out regularly though
But yeah, I'll phone in the off-hours line as soon as it opens. Right now it's 2am here.
>I clean my ears out regularly though
probably too regularly dingus, it's super easy to get it infected, which leads to a wax build up and temporary deafness
it may seem clean but the wax is literally against your ear drum which you should NOT be hitting with a qtip in the first place
Alright then, thanks
Really hope it's just this
ear is clogged. you dont need to go to doctor. get a foaming peroxide based solution used for cleaning out ear wax blockage. avaialble at pharmacist
you can also use just hydrogen peroxide. just a few drops
>I clean my ears out regularly though
yeah that's the problem, a qtip is the same size as your ear canal, you just push all of the earwax into a puck basically. Never clean your ears with qtips. if it doesn't wash out with some peroxide then they have basically a little super soaker at an urgent care or whatever to clear it out
Are you on SSRIs by chance? When I was on the max allowed dose of Lexapro I had the craziest ear symptoms. Tinnitus, sudden deaf for a while, twitching muscles. Shit was fucking crazy. It all stopped after a year of withdrawals.
But those side-effects sound crazy, glad they cleared up.
You failed the test regrooters, no refunds!
I never got the vax though
you should phone 111 its pretty useful
better to tell them your symptoms than IST since they will be able to advise you properly on wether its worth going to a&e and they may also book you a slot to get seen at a&e (in theory) quicker
I got a DUI when my mom died and now I have spent over 10,0000 dollars getting my license back now having done the interlock and the insurance 3 times, but, it gets better cause last week I had 1 day on Thursday to actually get my license back in my state and the fucking dmv was closed on Thursday so now I am driving to work and back with a fucking sus license hoping to go I don't get pulled over on my way to/from work.
Get away from alcohol Anon. I don't see it genuinely help anyone that uses it.
Same for sugar, porn, and masturbation.
I haven't drank in 2 years.
Shut up fag
I hope you never get your licence back you piece of shit. You're going to kill someone when you inevitably DUI again.
>Taking a PSCI elective for last semester
>Get put in a simulation where you run a country
>Essentially a watered down version of Civ V
>Made advisor, can't make decisions
>Start pressing buttons to see what happens
>End up accidentally wasting resources because apparently there's a bug where some decisions can be made independently
>Teammates are pissed at me even though it was an accident
>Now my feelings are hurt
Coping right now by playing TF2 and ended up fapping, but now I feel like shit and stressed out as well.
Who has a 'rope plan'. Like not that you are actually suicidal, but if your life doesn't improve by a certain date you are just going to resign the match?
Not a particular date, but I have the mode of exit all figured out.
Why would you remove yourself from the match? If you're struggling its growth. Embrace the struggle anon. It will make you stronger and you'll look back on it with pride.
A lot of young men that "check out" just don't understand what life is about. Life is meant to be a test, one that breaks and moulds you. It's not meant to be easy. If it was easy there wouldn't be any glory when you finally make it.
Keep going. No plan Bs
Not the anon, but I think you're assuming that I'm facing something too hard to overcome.
I don't care about the outcome is the problem. The game has no emotional or logical motivation for me anymore.
If you don't care about the outcome why would you check out? I'd imagine checking out involves some serious decisions (unless you're mentally impaired or terminally ill).
Any "exit plan" or "check out" plan is pure copium. If you didn't care you would have done it already. Just focus on small things you can do to improve your postion.
>If you don't care about the outcome why would you check out?
im not that guy but if he's saying that even if he succeeds at his "goal" he wont even care, then whats the point of living or doing anything?
>if he succeeds at his "goal" he wont even care, then whats the point of living or doing anything?
That's the issue. If you only focus on the end outcome you deprive yourself of experience of overcoming the obstacles. Its called being results orientated. Have you ever stopped to think how good things could be during a period of struggle? How lucky you are to face it, despite the odds and likelihood you won't be able to overcome it? That's the meaning or your life. It's to fight for your position, to overcome and learn during the times of hardship. Not the results, the process itself is everything and you won't understand it until you've done it.
You'll be OK anon. The sun will rise again tomorrow. Try to take some pleasure in hardships. There's always someone that has it worse.
>If you didn't care you'd have done it already.
That's actually a good point, and gives some motivation, but not in the way you'd intended. Thanks
Imagine a chess game versus a grandmaster.
Average unmotivated guy:
>I am just going to lose!
>You can play your best and stave that off as long as possible. You can do the best you can and strive and that's enough.
But that's not what this anon is saying, so the counter is invalid.
>The game of chess neither excites nor motivates me. The very act of moving the pieces is a waste of time and that it will all end in ruin only subtracts from the worthiness of the endeavor.
Thus, there can be no motivation to play the game.
If you don't like chess, then you find another game. You don't just fuckin have a nice day in the head.
It is impossible for one to be completely unmoved by absolutely everything existing in this world.
Its just shameful to keep going after awhile.
yeah if I dont have a job in my field a year after graduation I go to the ukraine
I mean I'm definitely suicidal and I have already "resigned the match". My date to do this should have been when I hit 30 in December 2021 with absolutely no life development or accomplishments. And here I am a year later in the most severe depression and misery I have ever faced but I'm too anxiety-ridden to even think about attempting suicide because the thought terrifies me.
I have seen overdosing on sodium nitrite has been a popular way in recent years.
If you're that deep in the hole, and the game of life is just that shitty, there is nothing stopping you from using riskier strategies, or outright playing outside the rules, just saying. Be daring, cunning and dauntless. Get creative, maybe you'll succeed. And if you don't, what's the worst that could happen? You were planning to die anyways.
NTA but that's actually really based and motivating advice
i do, its not looking good for me
I gave myself a deadline like that. I spent years thinking that the animation industry was too dogshit and corrupt to be worth joining even though making stories is the only thing I've ever been passionate about. Tried to make a career plan for a job I could tolerate but I ended up realizing that doing so would just result in me roping myself within a year.
Decided to pick up art as a genuine career again and I gave myself a deadline of 30 years old to make it, I'm just shy of 22 now so I have more than enough time. Honestly seems silly but this roundabout method is forcing me to commit to something I love instead of something that'll just get me by while my soul rots from the inside.
why would you have one?
if I get some disease that makes it so I don't enjoy life, I guess I'd look into MAID. but as is, I enjoy life. I like jerking off, consuming content, hitting the gym. and it's almost spring so I get to ride my bike again
yeah I wish I was married or at least in a relationship (turning 28 in a month) or had more friends, but those are solvable problems
if I'm 45, divorced, and don't see my kids, maybe I'll find a bridge, but that's future me's problem
No deadline and no plan but it's not an option I've closed off entirely. Last year I came close but therapy has helped a lot
It's not great but it's better than taking a trip to Canada
Not a deadline but I've sort of accepted killing myself as a 'rational' option that I might take one day. Like I've familiarized myself with the concept, in the sense that - life can give you both joy and suffering, but death is 100% neutral. So if at any point in my life I'll feel like I don't have any hope for happiness anymore and that I've had enough of the suffering, I'll just make my exit and that'll be that.
35-39 is the cutoff date. I'm 23 now, finished uni recently, got into my master's program and getting a job hopefully within the next 4 months. I live in a balkan shithole and the women here around my age are painfully shallow and uninteresting. to add insult to injury, I'm a manlet here so almost all of the lifting I do is pointless. it's too early to give up but it almost feels like a complete waste of time. my gut feeling is usually right about these things and this is the one time I seriously hope it is wrong.
last time I was really in the hole, started looking up local suppliers of nitrogen tanks, masks, hoses, valves, the usual stuff
and local places where I could rent a storage space large enough for me and the stuff, as well as renting a car etc to get them there, since it'd be risky for the housemates, and a bit sus to drag a tall ass heavy ass N tank up the stairs
thankfully my inability to finish a project and passivity lead to that failing too
my propensity for worrying helped me think up all the ways I could end up maimed and in a much worse position *and* unable to finish the job, if I were to choose other methods - jump in front of a bus, roofs of buildings tall enough are locked, etc etc
that was over a decade ago, I got somewhat better after
a week ago I had an event that kinda got me thinking, went to the train station to see what the speed of the trains is at the furthest point of the platform - looks fast enough to do the job if I'm in enough of a need (comparing to a webm of someone that did that), but I'll probably keep on kicking for now at least
If you're going to put this much effort into killing yourself may as well just improve your life instead
I overthink and underdo stuff, 80% of the effort on 20% of the effect, and then I give up due to the obvious lack of progress. Same with that sui period, same with the rest of my life. In the past at least, it's likely I have the capacity to change, and I might as well give that a shot.
You just have to keep starting again. I've "given up" or quit the gym more times than I can count. You haven't failed as long as you just get up and start again. Sure you won't be as far along as someone who never quit, but you'll be way better off than someone who never started.
yup, perseverance (with a reasonable amount of reorienting, not overdoing it) is what's seen in the lives of many people that "succeed"
I ain't giving up just yet, and once I start lifting again I expect things to pick up even more, ideally before shit gets more complicated
now I just have to decide if I'll wait 3 or 7 days after this cold's gone to get started, given my recent uncanny ability to get injured by simple shit
Fatty here. This is my first week in my hopeful weight loss journey. I've done good so far, but I feel like I'm going through withdrawals, and I hate myself so much.
One week isn't a long time. The more you learn about how shit certain food is, the more you will want to get away from it despite it being tasty. Keep going
The best part of my day is that moment right before I fall asleep. I really can't stand being awake anymore.
>In my dreams, she smiles and says she loves me and kisses me in the way that she used to
I miss enjoying sleep.
I'm 24 and picrel is me.
Been in a 6 going on 7 year relationship with a lovely thick girl with autism.
She was my first and vice versa SUPPOSEDLY (I have to get that disclaimer out before the skinny fat annoying doomers try to say something about that).
Now that I'm no longer obese and have more muscle I'm seeing more girls get more touchy and comfy with me.
I act awkward because I don't know if I want to entertain it, and also because I know there's a chance I can escalate it and I want to be fair and loyal to her.
Thing is I envy her, my dad, my little bro, and even you reading this for having more sexual partners than me (when we had a break in high school she sucked off a couple other guys but didn't like it)
My girlfriend claims ironically she envies ne since im really attractive now in her eyes and because of life opportunities I have (I'm rising up as an actor, and I have a close relationship with both parents despite them separating brutally when I was a kid. Her family life was more wonky)
How do I cope with this feel?
I love her to death and I don't feel this way about other girls since they're more untrustworthy and dangerous, but I hate seeing opportunities to increase my confidence go by
Times like this I wish I was a tree, so I don't have to think and just be.
I just want to know for certain that I'm capable of getting girls,and that I didn't just get lucky with her (although yes I feel lucky to have her andeveral friends of mine told me I'm lucky to have someone love me unconditionally).
Are these mires?
>when I was 16 working at an urban farm a Caribbean girl abruptly told me I have a really nice face. I asked her in disbelief twice and she got annoyed and kinda raised her voice and repeated what she said, I felt like Tobey Maguire Peter Parker and stood in shock and appreciation
>in my previous college a gnomish girl who loves black guys like myself said I had a nice haircut
>a really fat dark skinned girl there also randomly somewhat jokingly told me to pull my dick out (my girlfriend was annoyed at this)
>the mixed girl I acted in a few plays with told me I was jacked in the dressing room. When we embraced on stage on a bed as the lights went out she started feeling my biceps. She also had her cleavage put in the room and said "hiiiii" in a sing song voice
There's more but I gotta clock out and head home first
Thats pride and vanity speaking. Personaly i wish i never had sex or watched pornography
Do not do it purely for the sake of boosting your confidence because it will not. Sex is just sex and as you are acknowledging here, you mainly want to do it to prove that you are capable and to validate yourself. It sucks that your girl sucked some dudes half a decade ago but if you value your relationship then stop entertaining the idea. The devil does not come bearing horns and a tail; he comes dressed up as everything you have ever wanted.
Inversely, if you do not care at all about hurting your girlfriend then I would indulge. You are young, physically and socially desirable and you will not get the opportunity to mess around like you can at your current state. The only drawback is that, from my own experience and the experiences of friends, hookup culture is very empty. The physical act is incomparable to the validation which one derives from that act; keep that in mind.
Bro if you have a problem with your girl sucking off some dude 7 years ago you are DEFINITELY going to have a problem with some random hoe that you pick up. If girls are hitting on an autist like you they've probably fucked 20+ dudes. Stick with the girl that stuck with you idiot.
I'm prone to anxiety and I recently found out that alcohol can cause anxiety the next day and that explained a lot for me. I haven't drank for the past two weeks but now that I'm paying more attention to how substances affect me I'm starting to think I should stop drinking energy drinks too. Pre workout certainly causes a spike in anxiety for me. It looks like I'm gonna have to become one of those lameoids that only drinks tea. Yay.
>inb4 someone says tea has caffeine
26 and already feel like my nightclubbing days are gone. I'd rather just sit at home with my Discord friends and play games with them instead of going solo into a club with the hopes of hooking up with some girl since I don't know how to meet anyone outside of a club setting.
Am I just pissing my youth away?
Hooking up is a bit of a meme man.
What part of the country are you from?
Leafland. Though where I live its mostly families and elderly. The university students only conglomerate on a few clubs every Friday and Saturday night.
Some of them I know IRL and they introduced me to the others
>I'm 29 and never went to a party or club
You're doing alright. Also, you're fine to mature out of things.
How do you meet discord friends?
There are better ways of meeting women Anon.
Yes it's wasteful of your time.There are much better things to do with it.
Anyone else feel like their own personality is just fake and artificial?
I stopped being a neet shut-in about 6 years ago and got a job and a social life. I have legit friends, real friends, and a community that actual cares about me. I know how to spend time with other people, hold a conversation, do activities with friends, etc. It's great. Starting out was a little rough, but I decided to cultivate an "entertainer" personality so that I wouldn't be socially invisible.
Now I'm enthusiastic, outgoing, can make good jokes every once in a while and can tease people without it coming across as mean-spirited. People like me, as far as I can tell. The problem is, I never got past the part where I felt like I was acting. My whole personality feels like an artificially-constructed coping mechanism and while I don't even dislike "playing the role", it still feels like a "role" and not really "me". I don't know how to be anything else though. Does anybody else know this feel? Am I literally just retarded? How can I stop being such a gay?
>transitioned from neet to normie
>haha i feel fake
Imposter syndrome is real, man.
What you have the power to do at any time though is decide who you are. Just because you started as acting doesn't mean you can't truly become it.
People in general need to stop looking for some hidden meaning in themselves. You are not a NEET masquerading unless you say you are. Simple as. There's no hidden secrets under the floorboards unless you want them there. You are you.
I hear you on the impostor syndrome thing, but it isn't obvious to me that my problem is entirely emotional and not also philosophical.
For instance, I don't know whether or not there's a real distinction between my "raw personality"/"self"/"identity" and how I choose to act around others.
If there isn't any distinction, then how am I any different from anybody else? That makes it seem like all I am is just some kind of will that makes decisions.
If there is a distinction between how I act and "who I am", then why is it so hard to get in touch with myself beyond my outward actions?
I don't get it.
>I don't get it.
sounds like youre being a gay imo
Checked and based philosophy enjoyer
But I do have a bone to pick with that because the thing we call ourselves is the software uploaded to our hardware that makes sense of our experiences.
You are, at a baseline, a social monkey whose brain is literally streamlined for navigating tribal interactions.
Maybe you don't see yourself as part of the tribe. I know I was outcast in my youth, so the NEET type was my tribe for a while. I've moved on from that, but I still have a vulnerability and sympathy for them. Perhaps, you likewise have that opening from the scars of previous interaction; I don't know.
I don't believe there's some spirit or "true self" or other things at the bottom of me that can be labeled as such. I am a living organism to complex to understand myself is all.
If this isn't working for you, it isn't working, but I see the philosophy aspect as difficult to navigate without considering what you are in the mix.
>Those who can’t acknowledge and forgive themselves are destined for failure
Another week of hell and realizing that there's just no point anymore.
I wake up and I'm miserable. I spend the week miserable. I get home and I'm miserable. The only happy part of my day is when I'm lying in bed at night in the dark before going to sleep. I used to like if I woke up in the middle of the night and seeing I had 2-3+ hours of sleep to have, but now I dread it because when I do it takes me 30-60 minutes to fall back asleep because with the silence and darkness of night I lie there thinking about what a completely worthless failure I am, how I've completely wasted my life, and how I will never recover.
I'm over 30 years old so it's clear there's no restitution from the lifetime of waste I have created for myself. A lifetime bereft of any accomplishments, any happy memories, there's nothing positive to look back on for 30 years of life.
>I'm over 30 years old so it's clear there's no restitution
If you continue to think like this you'll be the same at 50. Quit your bullshit job, get at much money as you can and go overseas. Spend a year traveling alone and you'll build a new perspective on life.
If you're already dead inside there's nothing to lose. FYI - 30 years old is absolutely nothing. If you're saying this shit at 60 then there's a problem.
>dude solo travel lmao
why do people always say this, especially to miserable or loner loser types?
they don't have any actual advice to give and are regurgitating.
telling people to travel is absolutely worthless advice.
>stays at home to mope in self pity
This is obviously the better option of the 2. Kek
Vs spending money to go somewhere foreign and mope in self pity
i understand the sentiment of going out to do an adventure if you're some lonely loser, like you think that it will give them some zest for life. what i dont understand is what people who suggest this thinks that this will achieve in reality. do you guys think that someone who in their home country is a probably to some extent shy, introverted, socially avoidant, anxious, shut-in, etc. will go to a foreign country where they don't know any people, places, or even the language, and suddenly they're going to become some extroverted, ambitious person?
come on, you have to be realistic here. the reality of what happens to most of these people, if anyone does it at all, is they likely just go to the foreign country and act the same way there, except now there's the insane added stresses of having to communicate and get around without knowing people, places, transportation, money, living situation, etc.
the only people who can really travel solo are secure adults.
i always laughed at my friend who was a mormon and they had him go to juarez mexico for his mormon mission, he came back not being a mormon anymore and hating mexicans.
one of the things he wrote me about witnessing was a school bus driver kidnapped a bus full of kids because they hadn't been paid, and he said the police were ramming the bus lmao
>get at much money as you can and go overseas. Spend a year traveling alone and you'll build a new perspective on life.
The thought of traveling alone absolutely terrifies me. I already have avoidant personality disorder and I'm terrified of doing things alone in my home city/state/country so I hide away from everyone. When I think of traveling, which would have to be alone, I am sweating even right now just imagining it. Me traveling through a foreign country alone. I'm basically a child in my life and behavior now despite being 30, I can't even imagine the terror of solo travel
I know tons of people even normal people do therapy now. I am probably the poster child for needing therapy considering how mentally ill I am with all my social problems, depression, terror anxiety. But at 30 what's even the point? And no normal therapist could even relate to our social isolation retardation.
What do you guys think about therapy? I'm thinking about going.
a gnomish invention to steal money from gays and upper middle class.
Nothing wrong with talking anon. Sometimes we just need to vent out a bit. Can't hurt to try.
Try once and see if you get a good guy. I went for a bit and my therapist was solid as fuck, it was an older dude who was super into mountaineering.
Also have had bad experiences, years prior to that I went to two different ones at different times, both were doughy and resentful women who in hindsight were totally demoralized, thank god circmstances prevented me from spending more time with them
How did you find your therapist? My last one was through my doctors office and she wasn't very good.
don't see women for therapy
it is valueless. a woman cannot understand the reality of a man's life, regardless of any amount of learning
If you manage your expectations, therapy can be really helpful. Tried it for about a year when I was on the brink of suicide weekly and it definitely helped. Therapist was a young woman, recent college grad. Was pretty much just a person I could be completely honest with in the absence of social repercussions, and it was helpful. Got me out of the hole without any meds. It’s worth a try bro.
I had 0 expectations, went because my sister went and I saw it helped her.
It did help me become more aware of my behaviour around other people.
Also, I would just talk about what happened in the past few weeks and the therapist would just give their outsider opinions - I consider them opinions.
These helped me alot, making me realise that I do some things very wrong when interacting with people and that some people around me do just as bad or worse…
For me, it’s actual self improvement. They keep telling me that I need to know who I am and help me with that.
Starting by defining my personal values, describing those specifically and some easier to undestand psychology “classes”.
One important thing I learned from this is that by describing the emotion you feel and reason you feel it, it’s easier to cope with impulsiveness and the intensity of anger for example…
They never told me what to do.
>One important thing I learned from this is that by describing the emotion you feel and reason you feel it, it’s easier to cope with impulsiveness and the intensity of anger for example…
yup, and CBT and meditation (as well as many self-help books) also focus on tools that increase self-awareness - what emotion/mood/feeling am I feeling right now, what thoughts are almost-consciously running through my head; what might've caused them, how are they affecting me, do I spot some distortions/self-psyops that might be cucking me, and are there alternative thoughts/perspectives that might be more productive
then one can practice, and reward oneself every time they notice that shit, aiming to occasionally (and the more often) improve the thoughts
Bros in relationships, does your girl acknowledge if she makes a mistake? Or if you try to set a boundary or mention something she did that you’re not okay with where she was just plain wrong, how does she repsond? Is she understanding and owns it, or does it just tune into a fight and she acts like the victim?
Genuinely don’t know if this is the norm and they’re all like this or what.
My ex was super immature and this was ultimately the issue that caused me to dump her. She flat out verbally disrespected me on a few occasions. First time I let it slide because it seemed more like a shit test thing to make me jealous, second time she instantly realized she fucked up and apologized but the thing she said wasn’t just fixed with “sorry”. She ended up playing victim and trying to gaslight.
She called me days ago, texted me “hey” and then “sorry Anon I’ll leave you alone” last night. Contemplating responding but at the same time I just want to focus on my life. Idk if responding is the best option to keep future pussy there or ignoring is
This is the norm from what I've experienced. You do have an opportunity here to step in and say that she crossed a line and you're out for good if she does it again. Make her look you in the eye and agree before continuing though.
I don’t even want to be in a relationship right now. I really need to prioritize myself. I have a lot of shit to fix. So idk what to say.
I’m not gonna go see her. I wish there was a perfect response that was short, told her she’s fucked if she’s gonna reach out and not even apologize, and left the option in the back burner for later
My girlfriend is the opposite, she always thinks she's in the wrong even when it's objectively me. It's kinda sad to me. I will openly tell her, "No babe, that was out of line on my part. You have every right to be upset."
she made you feel disrespected..if you respond to that "hey" and go over or whatever..who is in control?
the big man you who thought he could put the little girl in her place?
or does the little girl control the big man with just a text message
yeah, my ex was like that. would half-heartedly apologize when confronted with something, and then would expect it to be like it never happened.
i just fucked my wife super super super hard and i have to fuck her so hard to get off because her pussy just isnt shaped well for pleasure...probably second worst pussy shape i have experienced. bottom quartile for sure.
and because of her huge non hugging pussy i'm fucking this bitch like "cole train" from gears of war and shes just barely making a sound
anyway i nutted and now im going to read manga
There are better shapes? I just assumed they were all low friction.
there are absolutely better shapes. i fucked this one girl 3 times and thinking about the way she felt makes my eyes want to roll back in my head.
i've fucked 28? girls i think, yeah, they can feel a lot different. my wife specifically stated that her gynecologist said she has a long vagina because she has very wide hips. so just not tight and not shaped conducively for me. oh wlel
Huh. Cool. Only ever had one. I just assumed they all felt like masturbating with a limp hand.
that one girl, if i could see her again right now, i'd propose
also even though i normally had to fight super hard to cum with a condom i fucked this one girl who made me cum with a condom on like 3 times in under 5 minutes. i was laughing one day after i quick nutted in her with her being like >:| and im like "you wouldnt understand even if i explained"
This is the worst and amazingly hardly talked about. This is why i like single mothers they have pussies so good some guy couldn't pull out. Fucking an arab one at the moment who's pussy absolutely milks me dry.
I thought I was being effective at minimizing distractions by doing the whole "monk mode" thing. But I've recently come to realize I was just using it as a cope for a non-existent love/sex life.
I'm kind if at an impasse
>work toward what I currently comprehend as my "purpose" in life to an insane autistic degree (i.e., cutting out all music that isn't religious in nature, reducing my exposure to other forms of media to minimize the chances of seeing sexually explicit imagery or situations)
>give up the current sense of purpose and try to fix the social life in hopes that it would fix the dysthymia and lead to a satisfying sex life
I'm not concerned about marriage and kids because I can't have kids. It would purely be relationship on its own merits.
I need to think hard about what path to take, and not ruminate on the road not taken once I decide.
>want to be martial artist like my father before me
>Have to work 2 jobs to support fiance at 19/20
>20-22 mom is laid off from hospital, move in to support her
>22-23 work as mattress salesman to pay bills, gym is always closed when I get off work
>Become my heaviest during this time
>24-26 work my way up in restaurant to become KM
>can finally afford American top team classes and have the availability to go
>Get 4 classes in
>I'll be turning 29 this year and still want to have a short martial arts career
>I know my biological clock is ticking
>I just want to live my life with what gives me joy
>Miserable work life
>Been sick twice since January
>Losing progress on cardio
>Ive lost 8lbs
I'm still trying to stay positive
I sent my mouth guard mold in last month, hopefully I'm healthy in March and can start training at the gym again
Trying not to make any excuses are accept setbacks this year
Hoping to be sparring by this July/August
Maybe get a into a point kick boxing weekend tournament
I just want to know I got to live my dream even if it's for a shorter while than I wanted, thanks for letting me get this off my chest, I hope we all make it.
you probably aren't going to be a martial artist but you can teach martial artists to kids and watch that dream flow into countless people throughout your life span.
I’ve been trying to get fit for 2 months now (new years resolution). I weight 190 at 5’8” and my pants were not fitting anymore. I’d had enough.
2 months in and now I weigh 174 and can bench 180. Im lifting 6 days a week, eating super high protein, counting calories meticulously. But I have been on a plateau for the last few weeks. I still think I look pretty fat, and im starting to feel too hungry at times. Im starting to worry I won’t be able to get a six pack. I feel like I have fat stores in my belly that will never go away, and that my muscles will reach a natural limit. I know I don’t have any basis for this, and I just need to keep pushing. But the last week or so has been hard and tiring. Going to bed ever so slightly hungry is like Chinese water torture.
Typically for heavy lifting and someone in your position, you don't need to train for 6 days a week.
Training hard for even 4 days a week will still make you stronger and allow you to recover well, which is what's important in lifting.
I find that eating foods with fat (e.g. gravy) fill me very well and leave me satisfied for longer.
Keep going Anon, we're all gonna make it.
She blocked me on all social media platforms for absolutely no reason out of literally nowhere. We didn't see or talk with eachother for weeks and the last time I saw her we were vibing and she was laughing and touchy and shit. I genuinely do not get it.
>She blocked me on all social media platforms for absolutely no reason out of literally nowhere
regardless of how common this behavior is in your generation, this is the behavior of a person who has absolutely zero value
ask yourself what person will they stop at if they can do that to any one person. this is why ideas like charity are philosophically important in life-- that you should offer teh same thing to the downtrodden as you do your friend
if a person will "ghost" a love interest. someone who had the potential to be the next most important person in their life to their children..who will they not ghost?
>if a person will "ghost" a love interest. someone who had the potential to be the next most important person in their life to their children..who will they not ghost?
It really hurts, but what you say makes alot of sense. This made me feel better, thanks reddit-spacing fren.
it should hurt its fucked up behavior, people used to genuinely not do that to each other very much, like 20 years ago.
>We didn't see or talk with eachother for weeks
she felt like you abandoned her dumbass
No one should care what women feel like. Unless they say no then you should stop immediately.
thats bullshit any normal person has the ability to have a few weeks gap communicating
stupid to expect everyone to be up everyones ass all the fucking time
who the fuck takes weeks to communicate to someone they were just intimate with? especially without them knowing if you're busy or not id just assume the person ghosted me and move on as well
You are an autistic idiot and this simple concept completely goes over your head.
You cannot simply disappear then reappear into people’s lives weeks later and act like nothing happened. I know you dont leave your room for months at a time but human relationships do not function like this, doubly so for romantic relationships.
>You cannot simply disappear then reappear into people’s lives weeks later and act like nothing happened
yeah, you sure as fuck can up to and including your college years and a couple thereafter
Ok gay try it and let me know how many people maintain contact with you.
you said you don't get it and we told you your mistake stop making excuses for yourself. not everyone is fine with being the last priority on your list of things to do for the month
>dating girl like 6 weeks
>not official, no meet the parents/friends or yet but feels like its building to a relationship
>her sisters were in town for a friends wedding, but she wasn't invited and going on a dinner/movie date with me tomorrow
>now she's invited short notice because of cancellations
>texts me sorry and to reschedule for sunday that she can't "pass up this opportunity"
>she'd also been traveling the past few weekends seeing family but we fuck a lot during the week
She's also really hot/ and a little out of my league and probably only seeing me because of my pretty flawless overall game so far, but this is a tough one how to handle it
First inclination is to not even respond to the text and not text her for days. Risk is she just gets attention somewhere else and even drops me as she's hot
If I act like it's no big deal, I'm a little bit of a pushover, or am I if I don't have strong grounds to be upset if she's not officially my gf?
This really annoys the shit out of me but it probably shouldn't and I should probably just go out and meet other women, take a day to respond and then reject her reschedule out of self respect BUT again that's a big risk because I'd like to stay attached
How do you respond to her text?
and all the indicators are she likes me and chasing me so far in the developing situation and probably she's not fucking other guys
I leave her bruises on her tits/ass. She spends me pictures often. She responds more enthusiastically and more frequently. She says she misses me if I don't see her for 3 days and desperately wants to fuck. She otherwise makes big time commitments to me and spent Vday with me
>>her sisters were in town for a friends wedding, but she wasn't invited and going on a dinner/movie date with me tomorrow
>>now she's invited short notice because of cancellations
doesnt make sense
there would never be any situation where a girls sister would fly into town for a friends wedding and the other sister wouldnt be invited. i smell a rat. just absolutely no does not pass the shit test
you are being toyed with abort. i dont even need to read rest of post past that
It makes sense because she wasn't close to the same friend and there's a big storm that caused cancellations
I know she's not mah girl at the moment, which gives me little justification to act butt hurt about it, but at the same time it's a tad disrespectful
bro listen, i wasnt arguing...i told you...your girl isnt going to a wedding
end of story. anyway
im 40 dude
thx for the "you dont get it" from some dude crying on fucking IST about girls or whatever but im cool bro, yes you can absolutely just dip out and come back into peoples life
people with the guts to face life understand that other people gamble with and miss opportunities as well
it sounds to me like you have the safe perspective of people who have never risked or earned anything.
fuck off 🙂 you can tell me something when you have what i have immaterially
yea i definitely envy the 40 year old crying about getting blocked by a woman in a feels thread on IST, numbskull
>shit your pants and start drastically confusing everyone
>autistic IST geriatric giving friendship advice
Yeah no wonder everything you post is stupid as fuck. Kys my man.
lmaoi god damn the dudes who actually come here to cry are sitting around in the thread getting legitimately big mad because apparently dudes supposed to crawl inside this girls uterus after he fucks her
let me relay a thought to you my bro
young women dont particularly always love that behavior
anyway youre hopeless as fuck and will try to argue when youre never smelled pussy, ima eat my chinese food on u bitch made ass bros
>40 year old typed this post
I TELL A bro DONT DICK RIDE DONT BLICK RIDE
> Let me relay a thought to you my bro
young women dont particularly always love that behavior
anyway youre hopeless as fuck and will try to argue when youre never smelled pussy, ima eat my chinese food on u bitch made ass bros
ok i read a few lines farther to make myself kek
>refers to a wedding of a sisters friend as an "opportunity"
kek thats not ya girl
Theres a few correct responses here if I’m gathering this correctly, is something to the effect of not being pleased about having to change your plans short notice/your time messed with. But not directly said like that. Honestly if possible best case is to just do your prior plans without her and bring a different girl instead. You said yourself it’s not official yet.
Idk how to convey this boundary to her but that’s what you need to do.
You can/should try to make her stick to the original plan. It’s a fucking siblings friends wedding. Not a siblings, not a friends. A siblings friends. If she’s being honest and is going to that, then she’s selfish because that’s pointless and just for her to go have fun instead of sticking to the plans you expected that she confirmed with you already.
In all honesty the smartest way to proceed is this bro:
Wait to see social media pics. If she doesn’t post them you can definitely find pics of the friends wedding.
However, lies are often based on truth and there could be a sisters friends wedding except she’s not actually going to it…
Honestly dude if you’re already thinking like this then it’s time to end it. Better now than later. Similar shit with my ex went down, she was easily the hottest girl I’ve ever gotten, and for a while I genuinely didn’t care about her and just saw her as sex, so this shit was easy for me to navigate.
>worried she’s cheating because her plans suddenly changed like that?
>that’s just a hot bitch I’m fucking, I’ll go get an Asian massage today/fuck a tinder girl/other source of sex
Caught feels after a while, then it was harder to cut off. Pussy isn’t worth it man. Find a girl who you feel comfortable and at peace with, not one who makes you anxious she’s seeing other guys instead of you regardless of where you are in the relationship. And one who wouldn’t cancel plans with you over something as small as a siblings friends event…
Thanks. I honestly believe her based on the minute details and the weather cancelling flights and her telling me her sister's going days before this.
The problem really comes down to: do I have the equity or right to demand she stick with the plans if she's not my gf? What basis do I have to be butthurt? It's a little fucked up by her, but how much?
idk if this were 3 weeks ago, I have zero basis to be mad at it.
It feels like overreacting and trying to get her not to go makes me look needy when I am not in a position to make demands
"That' a bit fucked up tbh, but ok have fun with your sisters"
Idk that's about the best I can come up with to not overreact one way or antoher
I wouldn’t say that’s fucked up. Purely because for most women I’ve dealt with that turns it into a fight and makes me the asshole. Something more like “I really don’t appreciate our plans being canceled on short notice. But okay have fun.”
And then stop talking to her completely, tell her you already made other plans if she accuses you of ignoring her. Be nonchalant about it. “Hey my bad I already made other plans.” If she prods of pushes for more info just make some Bs up tell her you’re with your friends but don’t specify this until she prods about your new plans if she does.
Basically gets the messages across that you don’t appreciate having plans cancelled short notice, and that you’re still going to enjoy yourself and be happy with or without her.
Or say what you wrote idk this girl or how she responds to stuff only you do.
I hate that it’s like this but you really do have to think of them as a dog. Also yes don’t overreact to anything ever it will dry them up and it’s a losing battle at that point.
Here's her response. I'm feeling no contact for now if actually explaining why she's wrong in detail is too needy and it's best to let her figure it out.
or go back to your original line of not appreciating it and I have plans
At least I have salvaged the chase dynamic either way. No contact may spur her to chase more in my favor
Anyways thanks fit for some good advice for a change
What era mobile is that bro
Even if you're not upset letting a girl think that she made you upset is a mistake from which you cannot recover .
That could be true if you're chasing her as it shows you can be manipulated
I'm not going to show I'm upset, but if a girl is chasing you more, the thought of making her upset will cause her to make good on it and learn your boundaries
*the though of making you upset
because she wants to please you, and she generally has
You made a huge mistake and you’ll soon realise, even if it might look like you won it’s obvious you lost (to her anyway)
>not being a doormat means you actually lose in her eyes because supplicating betas are what women respect most
Nah, you're a retard simp. The response is justified, cool and emotionless and sets reasonable and needed boundaries. If a girl doesn't respect that, it's best to find out sooner. Don't poison the well with your reddit advice
you're a retard, I have nothing else to say to a subhuman like you
How did he lose if he stops talking to her after that message? Kek what are you on about?
Bailing on plans last minute to go do some dumb insignificant shit like a friends siblings mailman’s dog’s wedding is the sign of a retard and there’s no reason he should continue pursuing her unless she voluntarily invites herself over to his place to suck the soul out of his dick.
Ive ghosted girls for less. The fact that he even responded to this girl is already overkill.
You gotta give people at least one chance dude
If she were to do it again THAT'S when you cut contact, it's called having compassion and it's something us non-morons have as a basic emotion
Yeah this. You can set a boundary and tell her it's annoying without sperging out over a reschedule - she didn't even cancel. What would you do if a guy friend rescheduled? You would be like you suck bro but you presumably wouldn't end the friendship over it unless it became a persistant annoying thing because you're an emotionally healthy adult that has other friends (other dating options too) and understands that sometimes plans change.
Yeah, this was good advice to help me realize the insignificance of the event she's going to and she's in the wrong even if she's not my gf technically
>unironic rk9 thread
IST is dead
Zizz, take me away from this place
I regret getting her pregnant. Having a girlfriend is boring and love fades. I’ve never wanted a kid But I played with fire. Does an emergen-c ensure a miscarriage?
>Does an emergen-c ensure a miscarriage?
Yes but only rectally.
your pullout game weak frfr
I just can't bear the weight of life anymore, it's getting tougher and tougher to find motivation to go on. I have dreams, I have goals, I have steps, but those steps sometimes seem so steep and impossible, so far away that makes it not worth it... fuck
Sup fit, tomorrow I'm travelling for my first ever boxing competition. Its a novice tournament for beginner first time players. I've been training almost four months now twice a day, 6 weeks for some time. No idea what to expect but I'll try not to loose the first match miserably
Whiskey on the rocks please.
>idk if she likes me or just likes the attention
>she’s actually done shit for me and seems to kind of care
>I actually enjoy being with her and her personality
>I know I’m not good enough yet but she makes me want to keep being better too
I hate how this girls living rent free in my head, I just wanna make her happy. Fuck why do I gotta be so mentally weak.
take it as a heisenberg situation - she either is or isn't, but
>seems to kind of care
"I assume she does, it's good to have someone restore your faith in humanity; but if it turns out she doesn't, it's no biggie since it's always been a possibility"
>I enjoy being with her and her personality
then enjoy the time together, without any deeper thought
>she makes me want to keep being better too
that's the best, use her as a muse to invest in yourself and make yourself even better; but again - for yourself
if she ends up tagging along for the ride, great
if not, you're in a much better position for the next candidates
so take her as your muse for now, someone that for now seems agreeable with your tastes, without putting the pussy on a pedestal
Gay cringe moron you’re taking this shit way too seriously.
Ask yourself what this girl has done for you except make your little dick go up that you would voluntarily relinquish so much to “make her happy” and have her live in your head rent free. Dumb coomer. You deserve your suffering.
On the plus side, I don't suffer from low sperm count.
On the negative side, I got a 30+yo asian pregnant and now she wants me to marry her and move in with her to save her reputation.
I also have a much younger girl interested in me, I like her personality but shes too fat, in hindsight I should have taken her hiking until slim and ignored the older one.
Coconut water, please.
I've been "tired" for months now. At the gym, at work, with family, with friends if I'm hanging out with them. I feel like I suck out the good energy when I walk into a room. Don't really engage in any of my interests and just scroll in my free time.
Idk, just don't look forward to waking up most of the time. I don't want to write in my journal because it's already full of negative shit. Honestly, using this godforsaken site hasn't quite helped either, but I like being able to say shit without getting cancelled or judged by people IRL.
Oh well. I have a cardio and weight sessoon in the am, then errands, then maybe hit the bar solo (seltzer and Red Bulls only, don't worry).
Pic rel is what I need to strive for
>I don't want to write in my journal because it's already full of negative shit.
does gratitude, even if begrudgingly and mechanically, work for you? e.g. I'm pretty upsetti at the life I (and a bunch of other factors) have fucked myself into, but then I see someone and think "man I'm glad I don't have a lazy eye/chronic tachycardia/gerd/debilitating hip pain/seasonal allergies/silly nose and ears/chud shit and I'm glad I'm better now than I was years ago" and that sorta shit. Doesn't have to make me feel notably better, but it does raise those thoughts in the brain, so it's not only the negative shit going in there unimpeded
>does gratitude, even if begrudgingly and mechanically, work for you?
Not really because I don't have control over not having cancer or losing my family, or any other genuinely terrible shit that could happen. Saying it could be worse is like saying it could be better - doesn't really help in my specific situation. If it's outside of my control, it barely registers as something I should be grateful for because I didn't really earn it's you know? Like, I'm glad my life's not worse, but how much of my life not being shit is due to external factors?
>Like, I'm glad my life's not worse, but how much of my life not being shit is due to external factors?
that's pretty much it for me
for me it's a "well damn I'm glad it seems I don't have cancer (for now (*knocks on wood*))"
or more precisely it would suck a whole lot more if I got cancer'd
>Saying it could be worse is like saying it could be better - doesn't really help in my specific situation
for me personally it gives me some perspective, since my brain tends to focus only on the "what could have been if I didn't fuck up that badly and those things outside of my control were better in ways X, Y and Z", readjusts the Overton window if you will
however, whether it works for you, and whether it works for you right now, is a wholly different situation since we're different people, of course
shit sucks tho bro, hope you get out of this rut in a positive direction
went to a party, it was great. I'm now at the age where most dudes my age have some interesting life experience, it was really neat talking to some of the guys there about their work and stuff. I think they thought I was gay but there were hardly any women there anyways. Also went drunk driving afterwards. Hell yeah brother!
>decided to go to uni while friend left school for wagie job
>graduate and make £28k a year. No real progression in sight
>friend is business manager for McDonalds making 30k+ excluding bonuses.
I wonder where I went wrong
>wtf why aren't I earning £100k straight out of uni
Shut the fuck up anon and look at graduate schemes (times 100)
How does this happen so often in the UK? Stories of shockingly low wages
28k is actual poverty
entry scheme roles are usually shit tier because they are just that, entry to higher roles
yeah but you're not working for the fucking clown at least
I started as a barely paid intern and after a little more than a year I started making 40k by exploiting turnover
sometimes all you have to do is just be there and look like a smart guy
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I would expect this place to be more high T but it's exactly like LULZ. Superstitious problems, one after another. So hopeless
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I'm finding it hard to get stuff done these days.
Am I depressed, idk. I've done so much the past 6 years to improve my living situation (and it has improved)... Yet I'm just miserable.
I don't think I've had a week go by without suicidal thoughts.
I'm also questioning whether I want to continue working out. I don't enjoy it, never did and don't think I ever will.
It's not like I'll look good if I continue. The health benefits are there sure but it's just a boatload of effort to do something I don't enjoy
I think im training wrong
I should be a lot bigger after 2 years now
Granted im at my home gym
Also no gf for 5 years now sucks, at almost 32
i hate dating apps
im gonna end up single
i literally dated a girl from IST but i still despise any and every dating app there is
>dated a girl from IST
lmao how do you even do this?
Dating apps should not be your main source of meeting women.
I'm 35, lost my job and apartment and can't for the life of me find an affordable flat. I paid very little rent in my old apartment because I had been living there before rents exploded and my landlord couldn't raise it as much as he wanted to. Now I would pay at least twice, probably more for it per month. I am curently living with my mother again. It's a big apartment but obviously I can not bring anyone here. I know I need to take this step by step, get a job first, then find an apartment again, and only then can I think about dating but who knows how long that's going to take.. I feel like I am fucking stuck now. Getting a new job is a lot more difficult these days, too.
Been having vax related anxiety recently. Is there any data on covid vaccine side effects / general unexpected deaths arising more than 1 year after receiving your most recent dose? Pretty clear to me at this point that lots of people my age group are having adverse reactions to the shots but those seem to all be in a 1 month window after receiving a dose. "Unexpected deaths" seem to be rising even though I thought nobody is having booster shots any more. This has got me concerned, I got 2 pfizer doses in summer of 2021 (biggest regret of my life even though nothing happened) and seem to be in the exactly the same condition physically, so wondering if I'm at all at risk now or if I got lucky.
There's really no logical reason for the covid vaccine to be harmful. What good reason is there to make 80% of the world population seriously ill? Been two years now since I got it and I'm perfectly healthy. I don't know anyone who's suffered long-term illness after the vaccine. My fucking grandma who's in her 80s got it and she's still waddling around doing grandma stuff. I think you're going to be fine.
>give people side effects
>sell them medication to address those side effects
>rinse and repeat
yeah no reason haha
>There's really no logical reason for the covid vaccine to be harmful
I'm pro-vax as a lesser of two evils (at least pre-omega), but let's be real here, the vaxx is mrna that makes your cells produce the spike protein, for the purposes of teaching your immune system to handle it (more quickly)
it can thus have the same effects (cytokine storm, vascular fuckery) as regular covid, although to a smaller extent (since it's a finite amount of mrna as opposed to the vahrus reprodoocing until the immune system can fuck it up)
You should takes meds for that. You know, the kind that makes you stop believing shizo nonsense you found on 4chan
bulked from 158 to 168
i think my routine is fucked
for example my legday today in my homegym is
4x8 70%TM squat
3x8 70% TM DL
I'm almost 29, is it normal to sort of lose interest in things? I don't enjoy video games as much anymore, doing all kinds of random shit like looking at woodworking videos or w/e doesn't excite me as much, dating is just dating.. I dunno.
>is anhedonia normal
depresso aint normal, signals that there's something wrong either in your brain or in your environment, often a mix of the two
> Fall for the gym meme
> Got dark pee that supposedly can be fatal
You should drink water
>slept with woman that my friend's gf has been setting me up with on blind dates (her best friend)
>it's been almost 2 years since I last had sex
>described me to my friend's gf as a generous lover
>told me I'm a lot more fit than she thought
tbh it's the second compliment I really liked, idk what that says about me though
>3pl8 squat and didn't stall yet
It takes so fucking long to make gains anywhere but I'm marching through squats like it's nothing. I don't get this. A-am I just destined to be a power bottom?
legs are fucking massive then? i just reached 0.8pl8
>my sister called me handsome
What the fuck
give her the dick
why delete it anon
Here's a depressing, relevant, upbeat song
beautiful song anon, listening to it now
idk anon I thought it was stupid, posted it again to the new thread
Got my first leg tear, its bad, a girl I was dating and developped feelings (mutually) stopped everything because of her studies. She apparently didnt have time for me and her friends, despite the fact that she we,t clubing last night.
I cant move, I cant do anything other than playing vidya, reading, praying and waiting for my leg to heal up. Doctors said I will heal in 2 or 3 months if Im lucky.
rough, what caused the tear?
I was with friends, drunk and showing off my skills flexibility doing jumping splits.
I did 5 of them, succedded on 4.
I entierly deserve what happen.
i fucked up.
>august last year
>next day hurts going down the stairs
>It still hurts my knees doing anything squat related
AM i gonna be a fucking triangle????
>tfw chronic stomach problems for 7 years now and doctors couldn't do shit for it
I legit don't feel like living anymore. I hate being fucking broken. I know people out there have it way worse than me but this is enough to make me wanna kick the bucket. I really wish my parents didn't love me so much or I would have checked out ages ago. Fml.
I've suffered from Gastro docs for a year, hopping me from one antibiotic to another and doing 1000 different tests and procedures just so they can extract as much money as they can from me.
At some point I just got sick of spending almost every day after work at a hospital and just stopped going.
My issue is thankfully not as bad as yours... I've been watching what I eat, no coffee, no acidics, etc. and been slowly recovering the past 6 months
third guy on the chronic circuit, wasted 7 years of my life on that shit but hopefully it's getting better
may better health and life come to you, anons
Anyone else listen to those "single female empowerment" type pop songs in the gym?
I don't know if it's ultimately detrimental and making me bitter like the women, but I do genuinely feel more encouraged to forego women when I hear them.
>Start lifting and losing weight after saying enough is enough
>Started meditating, self reflecting, after a break up with a girl who fell in love with me too quickly
>Tell myself that I am essentially going to be a monk/hermit for an extended period of time and avoid trying to get involved with women
>Begin nofap and semen retention
>Things looking up, get visible gains, and for the most part I couldn't give af what people thought, or what Stacy to get or if she 'mired
>Lately, realize I am extremely horny, realize I just want to fuck
>Get a casual hookup going, realized again that casual sex is degenerate, and honestly not for me because I am autistic and feel awkward as fuck after the fact. My brain defaults to the "relationship" experience, but as a hook up, I don't want to cuddle and shit like that, I want to go on with my day
>Start feeling empty, and keep lying to myself that I don't want to get involved with somebody, but my horniness and loneliness is starting to be at the forefront of my mind
>Lifts are going great still, but my social gains are weak as fuck
Just had to let it out bros. I don't want to jerk off and become a coomer like I used to be, and this feels like a serious new place in my life in terms of headspace and direction.
But damn, it's fucking hard to not think that I want a nice trad girlfriend. I am losing a grip on the beginning motivation and reason for doing what I do. It is shifting now, and while I am still doing what I started, now I am trying to have that same mindset as the beginning.
Dated a girl for a week and a half
1 lunch + karaoke date, 1 horror movie and sex at mine, and 1 horror movie and sex at hers
We get along incredibly well, she quickly became my best friend.
Yesterday she suddenly told me she can't see a future with me and wants to break up
But here's the rub, she wants to stay friends, we can still have sex, and she isn't actively looking for a new boyfriend.
Wtf is going on?
You probably don’t fit the image she has in her mind of her ideal husband but still likes you
Personally I would only think about doing this if I couldn’t bring the person around my family.
1. Is it a mixed race relationship?
2. Are you heavily tattoo’d?
3. Do you make no money?
>1. Is it a mixed race relationship?
>2. Are you heavily tattoo’d?
>3. Do you make no money?
But I'm white, and she's from rural Japan
Her folks are afraid of gaijin
She said she doesn't care about that though
She doesn’t but Japan is a very traditional culture
Imagine taking a bomb ass black woman home to your mildly racist parents. There’s going to be some underlying tension when your parents confront the prospect of mulatto grandkids.
Sounds like she's a bit scared of intimacy, some kind of avoidant attachment style. Or maybe thinks her parents wouldn't approve. Or maybe she's seeing someone else but wants to keep fucking you. We have no idea honestly and you're not going to know unless you ask her.
But think of it this way, you now have a FWB which is a lot of guys dream so don't turn it into a negative thing.
Also if she became your best friend so fast you should probably try to make more close male friends.
>Sounds like she's a bit scared of intimacy, some kind of avoidant attachment style
Mine has exactly that, and copes with it with how hard her studies are and cant have time for me. She went partying last night.
Yeah I don't know what you mean by "mine" but you gotta let that go. Clearly you're not a priority for her and she's not the kind of girl you want to get hung up on.
She isnt mine, I know, Im trying to rn.
True, I know its over I just either want to end it here and there or hear it from her. Its still ambigous right now, so Im waiting. I still have some pther chick here and there but I cant move because of my injury.
She's not gonna tell you retard. You're gonna be stringed along and feel like shit for months
>cant have time for me
>scared of intimacy
>went partying last night
the relationship is already over, you're just not aware of it yet
Seems like she just doesn't want to commit to you as a "boyfriend".
The way I see it, you got two choices:
1. Keep doing what you're doing without a title/status if that's what you like (with the risk of her moving on to somebody else/you moving on to somebody else eventually)
2. If you actually want to be with her as a relationship/see a future with her, I'd be straight up with her, and if you can't reconcile, just move on anon.
I know people will say things like "just keep fucking and you guys will date eventually", but I realize in life you kind of just need to not compromise on things that are important to you. It may suck if it doesn't work out, especially when emotions are involved. But realize that just around the corner in life somebody equally as good with the vibes and comfort may be there for you, and who could actually want what you would want at the same time.
She wants to keep fucking around. She likes you. Doesn't want to lose you, but also doesn't want to commit. She's thinking she can do better. She's a whore. This is a perfect example of toxic roastie behaviour. This woman is bad and will fuck you up.
Keep her around for sex. Find a different girl and ditch her when you do.
Classic behaviour of a modern woman (aka a whore)
>wants to keep you as a backup option
>wants to reap the benefits from you while providing zero commitment herself
>wants to actively look for a man she thinks is better than you that she thinks she deserves
>sees relationships and men as merchandise: "this one's nice, but maybe I'll stumble upon a better one lol"
And the only, ONLY respectable move is to ditch her immediately. That is, unless you were in fact only looking for a fuck buddy, but if you saw a potential for a serious relationship and she did this, get out
>dated a girl for 10 (TEN) days
Holy fuck you absolute retard simp
She wants to keep you around for convenient sex until she locks down a better guy, a Chad. She'll be moving on from the sex with you part very fast. You probably won't even have sex with her agian
How fucking out of touch can you possibly be when you are fed redpills here? You have no one to blame but yourself you fucking moron.
She's my best friend because ever since meeting we've been chatting non-stop via messages.
She likes everything I like, and I admire the shit out of her because of her achievements.
She's a nice girl.
She wouldn't even let me kiss her until we had a second date.
Primo bait, friend.
I admire her because she was literally ranked world #1 for females in my favorite sport
Well then why are you surprised she doesn’t want to settle for you? I mean seriously think about that for a second. Assuming you aren’t larping, she’s absolutely elite and you’re a IST loser.
I have started making sad puppy noises when seeing women in public.
So far I have mostly gotten puzzled and scared looks.
I cannot believe how easy it is to talk to people/girls.
I went to an art show and started just talking to people and it worked. Asked a girl for her instagram because I thought she was cute and she said "dont do ask me for my insta", so I asked for her number instead and she gave it to me. We're going to get brunch next Sunday.
Social autists, I just want to tell you there's a way out, don't give up hope. Just know that you aren't hopeless if you keep trying.
Sipping on an iced coffee.
I slack off the hardest during my days off from work. Taco Bell binges and such. Yesterday I was super productive and did 3 loads of laundry, marinated meats, rearranged my bedroom furniture. Trying to wind down today and rearrange my living room. Can’t mentally figure out which would look best. Just trying to keep busy before I end up with Uber eats
My girlfriend is in the bathroom crying right now because I said meat is good for you and I answered "yes" after she asked me if I think "I am better than all the scientists" (this was unironically how the conversation went).
She eats meat, too and we've been together for almost 2 years now so she kinda knows my power level, what the fuck is going on?
Ended a short relationship with a hot zoomer girl because of circumstances (distance) and because we didn't really trust eachother and she wasn't getting enough attention from me (kind of valid but she's also high maintenance)
I got back with my on-and-off girlfriend of around 8 years who's closer to me in age, more loyal, trustworthy and I do love her but her family doesn't approve of me at all and she hides our relationship from them because of this.
I kind of just want to be single because I don't know if this relationship has a future because of her family. I also can't stop thinking about zoomer girl and that we could have been good together (without long distance it would have been much easier to manage trust issues and her slight zoomer/tiktok retardation).
It sucks when relationships fall apart more due to outside circumstances than either person really wanting it to end.
>on-and-off girlfriend of around 8 years
>who's more loyal and trustworthy
On and off because of me retard, not her. I've had relationships with other women and she's stuck by me.
I just hate my life so much. I'm 27 and realized most of people my age are more exprerienced i. Life than me and i'm this lazy fuck of absolutely no use.
I'll have a sambucca, chief.
I recently woke up to my dead life. I've not had inspiration, friends or relationships in years and I somehow last week just realised where I'm heading. I'm past 30 now and I really feel like I've wasted my 20s. I dont know where to meet new people or how to connect truly with the people I have contact with now. I also feel like I am boring because of that lack of inspiration to do things.
>I'm past 30 now and I really feel like I've wasted my 20s.
When asked, Edison stated he simply found 2000 ways to NOT make a lightbulb before coming upon the right way. You need to approach yourself in the same way.
You have not "wasted" time. It's just taken you more time than someone else to reach your optimal self. Yes, you're not there yet, but you have to accept the task of getting to that point regardless of where you started.
>I dont know where to meet new people or how to connect truly with the people I have contact with now. I also feel like I am boring because of that lack of inspiration to do things.
These are the same problem, thus require the same solution.
You meet people by getting out of your comfort zone of the house, and experiencing life. You connect with people by getting out of the comfort zone of being around strangers (yes the people in your life now are still strangers), and accepting the potential of facing rejection.
You must be vulnerable to connect with people, and part of that vulnerability is in simply risking saying hello and getting turned down. You must accept that there is a "risk" in that you may sign up for something that sounds interesting, but it doesn't connect with you so you don't do it again.
That rejection is something I always keep in the back of my head.
You're right though. It's just finding things I want to do is hard. I draw a blank when I think of something to do. Go where? Do what? Head empty. Where do people even go alone and don't mind getting spoken to?
nta but for me it was the depresso and tism that opened up some stuff (that I haven't explored enough), e.g.
- I fucking love good looking nature, after being stuck in a place with shittier nature
- memories fade, so I like taking pics of it
- phone pics absolutely don't do it justice
- thus DSLRfag it up and learn some basic photog
- can branch into portraits for selfies or people that haven't seen how they look with the proper equipment, setup, lighting and composition
- can grab some cheap discount train ticket shit and travel around the country to find the few bits of decent nature, then branch off into the cultural shit
this already opens at least a few places and scenarios where I might chat people up, without any expectations, and I've got stuff I'm passionate about in case they're interested too
>I draw a blank when I think of something to do. Go where? Do what? Head empty.
Chiming in here, because while we are different ages, this point is something I am struggling with myself.
I feel like I am a pretty social and easy going person in general. But a big part of my self-growth lately has been the idea of being comfortable alone when it's not my choice to be.
Have you considered any single hobby you may have, or anything you have been curious to try before?
For example, I always enjoyed hiking, and I can find groups on social media that are for single/outdoorsy people that could be new in town or whatever to set up a hike.
Or a drink-making class, or dancing class? All these are free or relatively low-cost options of stuff to try.
But my point is, as I struggle to do things alone (because I just honestly need social validation when I am in any group setting, and it sucks feeling that way because I feel like I become this weird "off to the side by myself" facade of a person in these situations if I don't get that social validation), starting with something you genuinely enjoy doing could help facilitate doing it in a social setting with strangers.
here, I think I'll steal the hiking and dancing ones
>I draw a blank when I think of something to do. Go where? Do what?
You know how a lot of self improover gurus talk about the similarities between life and (mostly Western) RPGs? It's a similar notion to games like Dark Souls -- you may have spun up a particular character class, but fuck around with points to make something that works for you.
You approach your current life like this, and think of the most ideal kind of life you want to experience outside of your career (for now, I'll come back to this). Then think of the baby steps to get there. Like what if you said "fuck it, I want to work as fucking stunt driver for films on the side" but you don't have a license. What do you need to do to get there? Well probably learn to drive normally first so you take adult driving lessons. Then once you're licensed maybe you look into defensive driving courses, followed by offensive driving, this way you pick up safety strategies and skills to apply to work. You talk with people in those classes (accept the potential for rejection) and maybe you work with them and start filming a demo reel of your driving stunts and sending in those videos to film production studios. Suddenly you're working in productions and meey hundreds of people, not even celebrities, and get to practice doing what you love. Then, maybe you turn that into your full time career.
The point is you wouldn't have gotten to that point if you didn't reflect on the relatively insane shit and went for it. I gave you an extreme example, sure, but the big shit is made of little steps along the way.
So think big, then shrink it to the smaller steps, then go for it.
Also, the stunt driver example -- I know a dude personally who did just that.
going to start lectures in few days, this is my second semester that I'll live alone in the dorm and I want to take control of my life, I want to do things that I'll feel happy about after some years:
>study constantly to pass all exams this summer and get good grades and also to hone my future craft
>dress well in uni and have fun with classmates during breaks, obv girls too
>maybe go out to parties sometimes(I'm autistic in those environment but lets see)
>take more care about my skin and hair, like apply oil/honey in them
>buy a good perfume
Do you have any other (better) advices? I'm 21
How and why do so many people have sex
>date this inexperienced and naive girl for 3mos
>i was her first date, bj, 3rd base
>alone in room, makes me promise not to go all the way if things happen
>things happen and she tries to ride me
>keep my word and stop it
>cum in her mouth after doing everything but penetration
>2 weeks later we're no-contact
Damn, should I have fucked her? I kinda regret not deflowering her. Was it worth breaking my word in exchange for that?
Why are you no contact
I've picked up lifting, reading and camping in the last 2 years and this week I've joined an aikido class. But it's those moments where I don't have anything scheduled that I go crazy. Sometimes it's just to fill the 2 hours between fitness and work or a free day like today where I had nothing planned and I just started spiraling. I'll look into seeking Facebook for hiking groups though, that sounds like a nice idea. Maybe even dance lessons, I like music and dancing a lot.
I've come to terms in recent years that I'm just very different than most people. Autistic in the IST sense, but not literally autistic in the clinical sense. I'm pretty social with plenty of friends, but it takes most people a while to wrap their head around my shizoness without getting offended.
I always 100% want to stick to my plans and habits. I always have a plan for every day and only ever do anything social if I planned it ahead and it fits into my schedule. I do this always, even if I don't have any actual engagements. Just shit like going to the gym, cleaning, cooking etc. I hate just "hanging out" with people. I need an activity and plan and then it's fine, but I don't meet people to do just whatever. And when the activity is done I go home. People get weirded out by this. Like when I always rush home after lectures while everybody gets lunch or whatever.
This lifestyle works very well for uni, fitness and all that, but socially it's difficult sometimes because this behavior feels robotic to a lot of people. Especially women.
Anybody else like this?
Yeah, I can also relate to pretty much all of that. I especially hate it when I'm visiting someone and all they want to do is watch a random movie or show; feels like a waste of time to me when we're basically just sitting next to each other without actually doing anything meaningful together.
I also get along with many differents types of people and have had different friend groups which could be categorized into "cool people", "smart/nerdy people", "athletic people" etc., without feeling that I belonged to or got along 100% with any of them.
>I also get along with many differents types of people and have had different friend groups which could be categorized into "cool people", "smart/nerdy people", "athletic people" etc., without feeling that I belonged to or got along 100% with any of them.
Same here. I feel like most people in society build their identity around one thing in their life. Some sport like lifting, uni, their career, some music genre, watching some sport and so on. Sometimes they combine multiple of these, but the main thing is they somehow use them to portray a character to the world. For their own sense of belonging and because it's much easier for meeting new people if they can immediately put you into some category.
I feel like I weird people out since I am very reserved about revealing shit about myself and deliberately distance myself from the general culture of my hobbies/uni.
i dont date because Im afraid the girl I fall for will leave me for a better guy down the line when I get attached
so its always about working as much as posible, dressing better, going to the gym, getting a new car, expanding my social circle etc but it never stops and nothing is good enough but I dont know how to stop caring and just go have fun and have a nice woman by me
You're self-improving on the outside but neglecting your emotional growth. Do you not have a job because you might get fired, not drive your car because you might crash it? Face your fears.
idk if youre still itt, but thanks man, needed to hear this
Trying to obercome deja vu brain and also running up and down stairs to get a firm butthole
I prefer mine to be more elastic
I've been stuck in the snow for 4 days, 8 inches of snow and the city doesn't even have fucking salt for the roads. I'm on day 3 of my water fast and all I feel is dissociation, I'm tired of everything referencing food. Almost down to 10% bf now, I miss talking to people. All I have done is be a gym hermit now for the past 2 years, I don't even have any social media. All I do is hide in this cocoon and expect people to waltz into my life even though I don't even try to go out and meet people.
Why do I damn myself to this?
easiest thing to do, despite the harm it does you