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I listened so much to that tune when I was in Tokyo and wrote my masters thesis late nights in the university. Super surreal experience.
Eating out your wife: based or cringe?
Pros
>tastes great, less filling
>turbocharges foreplay
Cons
>never reciprocates with blowjobs
>getting lax on shaving
You thought she was feelin' you?
That homie a munch
homie a eater, he ate it for lunch
Bitch, she a baddie, she get what she want, like
reciprocates with blowjobs
i’m in the same boat. i’ve stopped doing it.
I don't get reciprocated blowjobs either, but it's fine because after I work an orgasm or two out of her with my mouth, she attacks me like a sex-starved maniac. Shit's cash.
I have a sort of standing agreement with my wife where I will go down on her if she shaves her pussy.
She ends up doing it once a year or so but she always complains for the next week because of the stubble, I tell her if she would keep it shaved she wouldn't have that issue (I wouldn't do it regularly even if she did, though).
I've thought about getting her a Brazilian wax gift card before for, say, Valentine's but I figured she wouldn't do it and it would go to waste.
I just have a hard time believing all these women are running around with shaved pubes and it being constantly uncomfortable for them.
As an aside this has led to some disagreements where you have to stop and ask yourself if you're really having this argument with your wife. Like one time instead of shaving all the way with a razor she used my beard trimmer to cut it down to 1/4" or so. She got mad at me because I wouldn't lick her pussy (the lack of hair is the whole point) and I got mad because she used my beard trimmer to do it (I don't grow a beard most of the time and don't use the trimmer anyway when I do, it was just the principle of it).
Another time later she was mad because she wanted to do it but I did have a beard and I wouldn't shave it just to go down on her, then I made it worse by saying I might cut it off if my beard trimmer didn't have pubes all in it.
In any case not really something you want to write in to Ann Landers about.
I think the based and the cringe cancel each other out, and it simply exists in a purgatory of neutral acts.
Congratulations to you, finding a wife as an autist has to be pretty hard
Bush is better pleb.
I'm more of an Obama guy
I don’t know why I’ve read through this shit in its entirety but it’s pretty funny
>then I made it worse by saying I might cut it off if my beard trimmer didn't have pubes all in it.
lmao
anyway tbh I don't really understand this either. I've heard many girls say that they shave BECAUSE it feels more comfortable. your wife seems to be looking for an excuse and that's it
>Eating out your wife
If I would ever... I would take it to the grave to be honest with you all.
This is IST anon, we can open up with each other here
i genuinely like eating out. SQUIRM YOU LITTLE b***h YOU KNOW YOU LOVE IT
i also never got a bad smell or flavour so i dunno who tf you anons are hanging out with becsuse i’ve never smelt a hint of fish off anyone except myself when i go on a mad coomer session, but thats just the scent of my dried alcoholic cum.
not even a HINT? veganas have a pretty distinctive smell and taste unless it’s immediately after shower.
distict vegana/sweat smell yeah, “fish” no. and i’ve ate out fat b***hes too.
why tho? does it make you feel degraded or feminine or something?
I don't know man , all can I say I wanted once , didn't do it and after years I heard people claiming its being what you call it , suck or something ? like the people who told me consider it like "a passive blowjob" so I embraced that thing , but as I said if It ever happened in a heat of the moment with I highly doubt , I would take it to the gray.
"cuck* or something..." , btw its goes same way with blowjobs to the other half of the coin.
some day anon youll meet a pretty girl you really like and eat her butthole
>some day anon youll meet a pretty girl you really like and eat her butthole
no , its over...
bro in london its the same thing, we call a pussy-eater a "bowcat" which means you "bow down to pussy". its culturally stigmatised here its only acceptable in america and stuff
but ill be honest with you, even though its stigmatised here, i do eat pussy. only of my actual girlfriend or wife not random girls, but yeah its ok just dont tell everyone
what the frick are you talking about you poof
you sound like an american on casualuk
>casualuk
idk what this means
but im talking about london
by poof it sounds like ur from outside of london
he's from Manny
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/_dq4phQoO4o
looool that guys a bit of a nerd but hes right
manny b***hes love a london homies accent
>never reciprocates with blowjobs
>admit submissiveness by eating her out
>complain that you never receive blowjobs
Like pottery
>tastes great
does your wife have a magic pussy or are you a monster?
I'm thinking about going out this weekend to the bar, but what the hells the point, I'm so socially fricked I can't even hold a conversation, not attractive enough to be approached, too beaten down and depressed to approach anyone and try, this close to breaking. It feels seriously shitty when you spend a year working out and eating healthy just to look so average, no reward, there's no light at the end of the tunnel. Seems like nothings going right in life, but I'll keep trying because that's all I can do.
Ngl I have way more fun when I’m at bars/clubs and I focus more on trying to make new friends than hooking up with strangers. Having a large social circle makes meeting girls a lot easier
yeah that makes sense, but I'm 29 and don't really care about making friends anymore, just want to either hookup or get a gf.
I’m 24 had a pretty big break up in august. Im sick of hook ups just been looking for a gf lately. The dating apps just seem hard to do anything more than a hook up with from my experience so I’ve been trying to meet girls when I go out too
>1 year
keep going.
I know how you feel bro. I'm on a solo trip in Iceland right now because I just wanted to get away from my depressing home life and the idea of driving around and seeing all these beautiful scenery seemed really cool. But whenever I actually get to my hotel or eat at a restaurant and everyone else is travelling with someone else or in some group, it reminds me of how fricked I am in the same way as you (socially, not attractive, don't want to approach anyone).
Bro huge respect to you for flying solo. Try and talk with some people at the bar maybe?
Thanks man, it means a lot. Guess you're right, I gotta just go to the bar and try talking. I just gotta remember that it's not as big a deal as it feels especially since I don't live here.
I know what you mean, it feels natural to be alone for me too. But I think that's what I'm trying to fight. It's not supposed to feel natural and the fact that I feel like it is means that I'm losing against life.
> But I think that's what I'm trying to fight. It's not supposed to feel natural
literally, unironically me
I had this tendency sine I was a kid as I was raised very independently but COVID happened when I was away studying in different fricking hemisphere kek (alone of course) and I had to spend 7 months in solitude since all my friends left
that 7 months kind of broke me and my levels of >being OK with being alone
skyrocketed, which is alarming
I'm 28 though and I want to "fix" this before 30, its one of my top agendas now
not that anon but man I'm so used to living life solo I sometimes get bamboozled when people praise me (like you praised anon)
once you are used to it, it just feels natural, you know?
This is exactly why telling loners to “dude just travel solo lmao” is such a fricking meme. If you’re a depressed asocial loser at home you aren’t suddenly going to be a social outgoing chad if you travel alone overseas. You’ll just be depressed overseas, and add in the extra pain of seeing other travelers who are all there with people.
Traveling solo and being happy only works if you’re a normal person.
I say this as a pathetic autistic friendless khv loner who people have said “dude travel” to. I have no interest in going anywhere.
Hey man, I don't know if you have couchsurfing account but that's what I use whenever I travel solo. You can use the hangouts function or just look up female hosts in your area, sort them by last login and write them saying you saw them on hangouts (an excuse) but the application bugs so much and you wanted to send them a message, basically asking them to show you around while you pay for drinks. Got laid so many times just like that.
Slowly training to 10km. I can now run for 6.8km on the track field and I increment my distance by 400m each session. I am really paranoid about getting injured. But I am really happy about my progress. How many rest days should I have between runs. I currently have 2 to 4 rests days.
How far do you run in a week? I’m usually more focused on my weekly mileage than an individual run
I usually run 2 times per week but I usually focus on mileage per run rather than weekly mileage. I thought this would be better for adapting to the increase workload since rest time between runs is when bones and muscle get stronger. Isn't that how its suppose to work?
Going to a concert solo this weekend. I usually like going with frens but the show sold out before anyone else could grab tickets. I’m honestly excited I rarely go out by myself and when I do I find myself to be a lot more social and extroverted since I don’t have my frens to talk to
have fun, anon!
So i'm scared to use the treadmills. Why? Cause I dont know how to use them. What do? I'm a social moron like 99% of this board so I can't approach anyone for help either.
>get on treadmill
>pick speed
>run at same speed of treadmill
??????
lol this was me today i got on it for the first time and fell
what is the point?
do chads, normies and sex-havers think about incels at all?
more than you think
fricking hell, i want my painting skill to be good as that one day
Glad to see another painting enjoyer
I believe your story, anon
Like
said, it's not worth. It's too draining; most of the time they want people to feel sorry for them, not to improve themselves.
I used to try at least once a week to talk a spiralling ISTner around to embracing some form of self improvement, but it was too mentally draining.
Generally they did not want to change, did not feel like they should have to, and had already decided they were smart for giving up because it was hopeless anyway.
Didn't feel good finally deciding that I was done with engaging with my less fortunate bros, but it's just not worth it. They have my sincere sympathies, but it's just misplaced 99% of the time.
Yes my former co worker was the text book definition of a incel
>fat
>never groomed himself
>stained shirts from food he wore at work
>lived with his mom and did cringe things with her
>was almost 40 years old but still had his mother dress him for Halloween
>only wanted to lose his virginity to a hot model in her early 20s
>pic related was a girl who used to work at the same place we did
>he actually asked my other coworker to tell her that he likes her
I actually managed to get a hot big titty model gf that he dreamed about.
So I used to him stories all the time about sex in great detail just rub it in his face.
Showing him pics of me and my big titty gf.
asking him to show him a pic of him and his gf.
I saw the look of horror in his face
Made him cry several time a
I truly broke this man and what is worse is that
I actually enjoyed breaking him
He represented those men who cannot become stronger those that are weak and
I have zero regrets in nearly making that incel an hero himself
The b***h is meh and you're a rank and file dipshit, not some evil mastermind.
I though it was funny making a fat Incel
Cry at work
That guy admitted to going to bathroom for 30 min just to beat off to her at work no less
I'm sure that happened, big guy
>new job
>afraid I'm too slow or people think I'm dumb because I still have imposter syndrome
>big company call this week and our specific IT team of two people got big kudos from the higher ups
>my coworker who had been mentoring me for my role told me on a call how happy he was I was here now because I was doing such a great job and we're able to get so much more stuff done with me here now
feels really weird but nice when your imposter syndrome reality is kind of shattered like that.
My girlfriend and I read this because we were thinking of incels.
>try to set up incel friend with a girl
>goes badly
>get frustrated
When I see my gym crush, my brain freezes. He was missing for a long while and finally came back. Tuesday, I came in, said hi to him and walked past immediately without making any conversation, even though he smiled at me and seemed like he would want to talk. Wednesday, I came in, saw him (was very glad to see him, in fact), and then proceeded to say hi to the people close by to him, but ignore him. I am effortlessly warm and friendly to others, but with him, my brain malfunctions, unless I have a course of action planned in advance. So, to him, it looks like I am cold to him and friendly toward others. Now he is missing again.
>like person
>treat them worse
Why are we like this
Fear of rejection, fear of showing that we are nervous, that's why. I am done hiding my nervousness, next time he comes, I will go talk to him even if I spill my spaghetti. A guy should like that anyway.
>girl calm and friendly to everyone else
>nervous and shy around you
>coffee
>kebabgirl.jpg
JUST BACK ME UP ON THIS ONE!!!!!!
>AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!
I'm going to a university formal tonight and I have no idea what to expect. I might go alone, I might go with my roommates, we'll see. My roommates are probably going to want to pregame beforehand, and I'm not really a big drinker, so I might pass on their invitation. However I don't have a date to go with, so if I don't go with them I'll have to turn up alone. I considered asking a girl from one of my classes yesterday, but I pussied out. I'll try to find her and talk to her while I'm there assuming my brain doesn't try to tell me that I'm bothering her and ruining her night. I'm so nervous bros.
You are gonna make it, it's better to try and fail than not try at all
Thanks anon. I know this is IST but any encouragement it legitimately appreciated. This might make me sound moronic, but I started taking ashwagandha recently and it's done wonders for my anxiety. Even while taking my regular ashwagandha I'm freaking out right now. I can't even imagine how bad this would be if I wasn't taking it.
Bro same about the ashwagandha! I've been taking it for a month (started as a meme) and I feel like a different person. I've started going to the gym without headphones and actually talking to people there, socialising with my coworkers and just giving less fricks, it is awesome! I described the effect to my psychologist and she asked me if I buy it from a legal source because the effect it has on me is comparable to that of a drug lmao. Not everyone responds to it though, we are lucky.
not to be a downer but i definitely noticr anhedonia from ash. it works alright for anti anxiety but then i dont even find stuff i normally like fun. it’s a c**t. i’ve been trialling rhodiola rosea and that’s a good one. also bacopa monnieri but that does stuff to your serotonin and you dont want to frick with that too much. if a more versed anon can chip in that’d be great
When did you start noticing the anhedonia? I am a month in and still find my previous hobbies joyful, still experience positive emotions brightly, just not the negative ones.
oh not to scare you off it, it it works for you and you dont notice the anhedonia then keep doing it. it is a great herb, especially the KSM66-standard extract.
i personally just notice that i get bored doing stuff i’d normally like. as in, for example i’d be goofing off after work just browsing youtube or messing around with software. usually i can autistically do this for hours straight, but when i’m on ashwaghanda i notice i start thinking “eh whatever. i guess i’ll just jack off and sleep.”
and i’m certain it’s the ash because i went through a supplement phase where i’d trial random supps. so i’d take them on a daily regiment at the same time every day for at least a few weeks to gauge my response.
Yeaah, that's why I am asking as to when you've noticed it - did it become apparent quite early on, or could I expect to experience anhedonia with an additional month of use, for example. But either way, it seems like it works quite differently from person to person. My dad has also started taking it, and said he feels no effect, while my mom said she took one pill and immediately felt less anxiety that day. I guess I inherited her sensitivity to such substances lol
oh i start noticing it very early on, so if you haven’t noticed anything you’re fine. with any adaptogen though i’d take the odd week off just to balance yourself and to not waste product with tolerance.
Phew, that is good to hear. And fair enough, I should take at least 1 week off soon... although I am enjoying the effects so much I keep putting it off.
you wanna keep those effects? take the week off, atleast 5 days. if you’re working mon-fri you can try make your weekend the majority of “off time”.
Worst case go alone you can still make it a good time. Just don’t over think it and beat yourself up if you end up not having a date
i struggled with crippling social anxiety for YEARS during my late teens, early 20s. important to remember that NOTHING is as big a deal as you think it is. you tripped going up the stairs in front of somebody? they’ll forget. you stuttered talking to this girl? she didn’t notice. you went alone to a party? so did 7 other people. you are the center of YOUR universe, not THE UNIVERSE, and especially not somebody else’s universe.
people do countless things everyday. YOU are very rarely the thing they remember. this is not supposed to sound mean or rude. i know that you are great and interesting and i can tell by your self awareness that you are smart.
you’re going to go to the formal. make sure you brush your teeth before you go. go with your roommates or go alone if they can’t. if you’re alone, just find her and see if you can talk about ANYTHING. you don’t have to ask her to dance or whatever, just talk and you’ll have done more than you thought you could and you will have made me proud. remember that life is beautiful and you are one cog in the glorious machine of our world, and you are an essential cog. i’ll be thinking of you
This is very helpful, thank you anon. Don't worry, I'm not such a wreck that I don't know to shower and brush my teeth beforehand. Assuming you've been similar situations before, what should I do if I find myself at the venue with no one to talk to? I already know it's going to happen, it happens every time I'm at some sort of social event (which isn't often). Usually I just end up walking around in circles like a loser, or I stand by the free food nervously nibbling on the same piece of cheese for an entire hour. I never have the confidence to walk up and talk to people, especially if they're already talking amongst each other.
>remember that life is beautiful and you are one cog in the glorious machine of our world, and you are an essential cog. i’ll be thinking of you
Thanks man.
Social contact begins through body language. You don't have to walk up to someone right away. Start practicing making eye contact and smiling at strangers. Then, when you are at parties, do what you've learned, and you'll see which people are approachable.
To anyone who cares, I'm back. Things went about exactly as I planned. I spent the entire night leaning against a table or ledge by myself, staring off into space, only ever walking around to refill my water or buy a drink. I say "the entire night", but I left 2 hours early. I just couldn't take the embarrassment anymore. I wouldn't say I had fun, but I did enjoy seeing everyone else enjoying themselves. I don't have any friends, but there are still people I recognize from my classes. They all looked like they were having a good time, chatting with each other and dancing. I tried to soak in some of that positive energy but eventually I realized I was just wasting my time standing around by myself. I hope no one recognized me as I walked out the door all alone.
I wish I knew what the frick is wrong with me. Every time I get placed in a social scenario like this I just shut down. When I said I spent the entire night standing and staring off into space, I'm speaking literally. I stood there and I stared out over the dancefloor, totally straight face, trying desperately to avoid making eye contact with anyone. Almost the spitting image of the image in my earlier post now that I think about it. I could hear my brain screaming "What the frick are you doing? You probably look like a total weirdo right now", but I couldn't snap myself out of it. The very few times I spoke to anyone I knew I could tell I was clearly just bothering them and they'd quickly end the conversation. This sucks man. At least I enjoy spending my time alone (or rather I can convince myself that I do), because it certainly seems like that's how my life will be for the foreseeable future.
For everyone who gave me advice, thank you. I'm sorry I couldn't put it to good use. I truly appreciate you guys believing in me more than I've ever believed in myself.
I kinda used to be like this in my early twenties the. I said enough, I’m done trying to fit it, I’m not putting myself in places where im uncomfortable. I dont go to loud places, i don’t go to crowded places, I dont go to strip clubs. Having the confidence to separate from social norms actually gave me a lot of confidence.
Hey, I had the very same idea you had in the same context. I went to a party I hated, with music I hated, with people I barely knew. My reaction was the same as yours. I thought I would just social-chameleon my way around it, but obviously it didn't work. What's worse: A guy from my class recognized me and also noticed I was almost frozen-still, with a cup in my hand, squeezed between half-drunken-half-high people like a Ryan Gosling look-a-like. It was shit.
My advice for you would be that, if you want to train your social skills in a setting like that, actually go somewhere you'll have some sort of fun, with or without someone. A place with music either you enjoy, or something close to it because those sorts of events will only ever be bearable if you have fun -besides- socializing. If you go somewhere like that only to socialize, you'll be lured to the worst places, since they're with the most amount of people.
just drink some alcohol Black person
Holy frick man I remember you from earlier this week. I told you it was stupid ass idea, that this would be literally the worst possible environment to try to socialize in. and some anon tried to say “doing Something is better then doing nothing”. I commend you for trying but this is how it was always going to go. Sorry anon
Yeah that was me, good eye. At least now I know for sure this sort of stuff isn't for me. I hope you find happiness in knowing you were right.
No I’m not happy or trying to bring you down. I just know exactly how his type of shit goes for losers like us. Going to a university formal event where there will be mass socialization and especially where you were expected to be there with a date when you’re a friendless shut in loner is the worst possible environment. To “expose” yourself to to try to socialize and would probably lead to feeling even worse.
I know because I tried when ic was in college.
>be adult stutterer, 26
>i mean a severe stutter, i cant go a sentence without fumbling, and often get completely stuck
>to put this into perspective, it’s commonly cited that only 1% of adults globally didn’t ‘grow out of stuttering’
>personally feel like i’m worse than the other adult stutterers i’ve met at shitty speech therapies
>recently got a job in fricking helpdesk support like a moron because my speech was fine for a while
>can do the job with ease, but have to micromanage my fricking speech just to do my job
>just doing this fatigues my brain more than the actual troubleshooting
>it’s really gotten to me lately and have been self medicating with clandestine made cbd isomerised THC edibles and alcohol again
and my diet has been shit lately too. i want to scrape my brain out with a spoon and baseball throw it at a brick wall. i cannot function as a normal human being and it’s driving me feral.
Stop self medicating and embrace yourself. It's a neat character trait
I’m tempted to frick my ex gf. Should I?
Depends how did it end
She has bpd and she has been spamming since she came back from her country she studies in
I won't reply to you no more... I said what I said.
Two days ago I got mad at her and told her to frick off. She sent me walls of texts and she ended up telling me that she will never call me and bother me again.
Yesterday she went ghost but I saw her coming past my house twice today with her car. I told her to stop passing and she asked me what was wrong with me two days ago.
She called me an hour ago and I ghosted. Should I call her or stay ghost?
Love girls like this. Ignore her.
I love and hate this crap. It does crazy things for my ego, having been the no b***hes virgin growing up and as an adult having them do this batshit stuff over me. But they’re fricking nuts. I could maybe deal with some of the craziness but not when it affects important shit or boundaries with them.
I don’t think she is crazy she just love me and it’s been 5 months already since we broke up. What are the chances she got fricked in those five months? She was in a village. Also will I appear simp if I ask her about it? I know if I frick her I will regret it
> I don’t think she is crazy she just love me and it’s been 5 months already since we broke up.
Homie she stalked you that is crazy. That’s not love it’s attachment and obsession. When someone loves you, as painful as it may be for them they will let you go and respect boundaries and respect your decision.
>What are the chances she got fricked in those five months?
It doesn’t matter. Is this gonna be your wife some day? Doesn’t sound like it to me but idk how you feel
>She was in a village.
You will never know so stop worrying about it, it doesn’t serve you to know
>Also will I appear simp if I ask her about it?
Yes. Don’t. Because you will never believe her anyways. She says no, you think that’s a lie. She says 1 guy, now you’re having intrusive thoughts of her getting gangbanged.
>I know if I frick her I will regret it
Then let it go man. It’s only difficult when you have no other b***hes so go find new ones. I know how you feel I have something similar and have b***hes about it for months in this thread. The b***h threatened to cheat on me. I couldn’t believe it for the longest time. I tried in so many ways to justify it or convince myself she didn’t mean what she said and that she wa a just immature but then it hit me.
>This b***h threatened to cheat on me! She actually really and fully threatened to cheat, no misunderstandings that’s exactly what she did
And it occurred me I’m happier and better off without her now. I just missed the companionship of a woman in general not her
Did you ghost her? My story goes for more than 6 months.
Also she just texted me that she realized I am a bad person the worse she ever met and she is blocking me for her well being and that she can’t have her emotions played like this. And told me if I want to call her or not it doesn’t matter anymore. Wtf
I didn’t ghost her. It’s about the same time frame for me too. I didn’t immediately break up with her probably due to my shock and disbelief, I have her a few weeks to display some form of regret or give me something to justify not ending it like reassurance or concern on her behalf that now I was hurt and couldn’t trust her but it never came, and in fact she somehow considered herself the victim and wanted me to apologize for no longer trusting her lol.
I didn’t fist but I started not replying to as many messages, which turned into me replying to the few I did on another day because I didn’t like ruining my mood by re involving myself with that shit. Then she started texting me every 3 weeks.
I last got a paragraph from her like 2 weeks ago and it was supposed to be an apology from her but all she did was apologize for anything but the issue that broke us up.
>Lmao you threatened to cheat idk what you want me to say but I hope you can grow from this and maybe don’t do that to the next guy
>I DIDNT CHEAT YOU MADE THAT UP
Then she sent some generic final message to me saying good luck. At this point I don’t care anymore. She made a huge frick up and could never just admit fault let alone fix it so letting it go is all I can do if I know it’s not going anywhere.
I wouldn’t reply anymore if she did hmu again though, and she probably will.
>tells you she’s blocking you
Yeah this girl would do the same shit, then text me an hour or a day later and never do it. She did block me on Snapchat though. It’s they’re way of trying to make us scared and to actually give them the attention they want from us.
Sorry I wrote a paragraph, my point though is if it’s not bringing you value or growth or happiness, and it’s even causing you distress or anxiety, then cut them off. Even be real about it if you haven’t, explain why you no longer wanna be with her in a nice and to the point way, wish her the best and then go and don’t turn back.
>bpd
Run very VERY far away my Black person, that b***h is gonna claim you raped her or some sketchy shit.
Ah this could only end well
lmao , you know the answer , we know the answer , but we still here.... so report back tomorrow lmao.
Nah, frick her dad instead
Yeah she just blocked me and said that I’m the worse person she ever met. She said she did it for her well being
The weather has been good I’ve been hitting the gym making solid progress, and skating a lot. Feeling pretty good maybe I’ll get laid this summer once I’m shredded 😉
Sounds like fun, I wish I could skate.
>qt coworker
>she initially reaches out to me to do something outside of work
>text a lot
>took her on some cute dates that end up in adventures
>texts me she cant sleep, she doesn't like work without me, having dreams about me
>I invite her as my +1 to my friends wedding and say it's totally up to her
>giver her a month's notice
>oopsie woopsie I forgot, but no
>now I'm going alone and she can tell I'm pissed
Today, I am Kazakh.
>Today, I am Kazakh.
>dancing while holding a blade with your mouth intensified
You took it too slow
>she can tell I'm pissed
this is always the wrong move
Dude, you are jumping from "cute dates" with a coworker to inviting her as your partner to a wedding. It's like kissing for the first time and you straight up go for anal sex. There are a few steps inbetween.
I’m on the autism spectrum but I’ve put a lot of time and effort into becoming a functional well rounded man. It’s taken years for me to be mentally and socially stable, but I feel like I’m in a much better place then I was even a few years ago
I can’t make friends man. I genuinely don’t know how to start conversations with people unless they talk to me first. I’ve been at my university for a year about to graduate soon and I have no one. And there’s people I genuinely want to talk to but I don’t know how. The isolation is depressing man.
this will sound fricking moronic but after you meet someone for the first time, act like you’ve been friends with them for years the next time. put this in your head “[person] i met a few days ago is now my old buddy ol’ pal”.
next time you meet them, act like you’ve known them for years.
so for example, instead of “hi how are you” you’re going to say “hey pal how are things?!” (or whatever your informal vernacular would be). thats how you get normals to warm up to you, as a cold autismo i’ve found.
I lost my gf of 4 years recently, she has schizophrenia and was convinced I was cheating so she left me she ended up hooking up with some guy I’m guessing trying to get back at me for doing nothing. She came down from the episode and wants to get back together but I can’t forgive her anymore. Feels bad man
My gf of 5 years broke up with me august for our mutual guy friend she told me not to worry about. Just keep getting fit and it will get better man. I had some pretty rough days the few months after that happened
That sucks man, hang in there. The three aspects of reality are pain, uncertainty, and constant work. Just gotta accept that and move on. Take this opportunity to work on yourself.
Anyone go to their high school reunions? Was it actually worth it?
>inb4 lol u were bullied
No, I just genuinely do not care about a group of people I haven't seen in roughly 10 years.
Why do they even have high school reunions anymore? Doesn't social media take care of this?
>my 20-year reunion is next year
I shan't be going but frick man
Anon, the only reason anyone goes to their high school reunion nowadays is because A) they hope that the person they had a crush on is single and ready to mingle or B) they want to flex and dab on people from their past. Which is absolutely homosexual shit unless you really did a 180 and even then, why waste your energy unless you really need to exorcize some demons. Not worth it.
>finally after years out of it get back into lifting
>start with bar to relearn form prevent injury
>somehow frick shoulder up after a week in
>take this week off
>starts hurt less
>loud pop 8/10 pain this morning, bad pain less ROM
Tried going to urgent care left 30 minutes ago without being seen. It was somehow fricking crowded and these two old ladies were just arguing with the nurses about their visit being free because one fell in a restaurant so the restaurant owner should have to pay, and because of this no one was able to be seen for 40+ minutes. Small room just got more and more crowded, already had 10 people in front of me.
I’m going back first thing in the morning and just taking ibuprofen + ice + weed for today.
I’m annoyed because I just want the MRI referral, I don’t intend to take any pain killers should they try to prescribe them
I'm never gonna look like my goal body.
Like, I'm not a doomer or demotivational guy, I'm still trying to get the best body I can. But the body I want, that kind of shape and size I want...it's not gonna happen, even if I start juicing. My chest is separated, it's honestly the worst part of my body. I've got a square torso, my bicep and tricep insertions are shit and get hidden in my arms, my back isn't wide, my wrists are constantly getting injured due to work so I have trouble benching, and most of my fat accumulates on my belly and thighs.
like frick man I have a bad hand for aesthetics. Not gonna let that stop me but I'm just bummed I'll never even have the chance to look like pic related
>work hard, save money
>go to gym, eat good
>2 years pass
>have thousands, have a nice body, both improving
>mindset changed, smooth sailing from here
I sometimes wonder how the frick did I manage this lol I had mild ADHD, no career goals and were the literal definition of DYEL
>fricked up my chances with a qt3.14 last friday
>fumbled a really good interview this thursday
>literally both could have been easily prevented
I feel OK as it is good that these things happened to me (girl took interest, advanced through the interviews) and I feel like better things are just around the corner
idk how long I can keep this mindset though but tonight, I am not worried
Am in the exact same boat. Have to stay positive but sometimes I feel like a timebomb if this keeps going for too long.
Life has not been easy lately man.
Dealing with the unexpected death of my father a year one whilst in my twenties, and the recent ending of my long-term relationship has led me down some dark paths. Although I almost finished my masters and already have a good paying job lined up, I keep falling in a loop where i needlesly endanger myself and my future (excessive drinking / risktaking)
Last week I get near black-out drunk and had unprotected sex with a prostitute, and have had non-stop anxiety about HIV since. I will likely be fine, but I keep on wishing that my own dumb actions did keep on getting in the way of who I could be.
And of becoming someone that my dad would be proud of.
>Last week I get near black-out drunk and had unprotected sex with a prostitute, and have had non-stop anxiety about HIV since. I will likely be fine, but I keep on wishing that my own dumb actions did keep on getting in the way of who I could be.
literally the same thing happened, even the fact that you did this after long term relationship ended
I also got food poisoning 20 days after my intercourse
got tested, negative, but the moments I spent between puking my stomach out, sweating, and getting tested - the 20 hours in between - were THE hardest moments of my life
I still have words like HIV, AIDS etc blocked on my twitter as I was getting PTSD for months
Glad to hear it all turned out well man, i'm going through that rough patch right now where I'm constantly calculating the odds of contracting something. Although everything seems to be below 0.05% chance, I'm still stressing the frick out. But at the same time, getting someone pregnant whilst on birth control has a higher likelihood of occurring than heterosexual HIV transmission, so I guess that reduces my stress somewhat.
its very, very, VERY low odds man
I talked to like 3-5 profs during my panic period and some of them literally hung up after saying it was one time straight veganal sex
also great news! kek, even if you have it, it can be made redundant now and cure is on the way thanks to mRNA breakthroughs
but no, you dont have it
I've come to realize or rather have to finally admit the reason why I avoid dating apps or asking random chicks out is because I'm afraid to learn how attractive I really am. I get mired by women frequently, have them show clear interest and even had sex with 2 qts purely out of their initiative. But on the other hand I've never in 27 years of my life gotten a single, genuine compliment on my appearance that wasn't a bro commenting on my fizeek or clothing. No woman has ever called me hot, cute, handsome or anything else.
I dread actually trying, by taking shitty selfies and putting myself on dating apps, or hitting at girls at the gym/parties and getting completely demolished by reality and learning the "mires" are just delusions
Dating apps won't make you feel good about your looks if you're insecure about that. Most of the time your profile won't be shown to anyone, if it is all men lose 2-3/10 on their looks by being a tiny picture in the palm of her hand and nothing more, and girls' inboxes are jammed full of messages meaning you'll likely get buried.
Missed Comic Con again. Every year it's the same thing, forget it exists, then see photos of cosplayer chicks I know, regret not going.
But to be fair, I'm not handsome or tall enough to pull off a fit cosplay and I'm not gonna bother with something else.
>already used half my vacation time already this year
>already planned a trip with the other half
>wife bugs me about wanting to take off a whole week for anniversary
Fml
I want to lift but with my current situation I'm stuck with calisthenics...
It will get better.
Every time my phone vibrates I hope its her
I want to talk to her every day but social norms prevent me from doing so
Instead I have to act just the right level of disinterested to keep her interested, otherwise I'm clingy
Life is a charade and I'm at my limit
best friend just got a 3 year sentence so now im bored all day
lmao what the homie do?
we were in a gang together, i left but he didnt and he got caught with a gun (uk)
yeah i mean its a trip but every now and then i will for sure i miss the homie
hes italian hahahaha dumbass
tbh its not a really big deal if you grew up around people going in and out but its annoying when you want to talk to your bro and you cant
adding onto this the worst thing is his opps are dming me on instagram now cause they know i left so they're saying shit like "hahaha your boys in prison and i robbed him (like 4 years ago)" but i dont want to get involved in anything
i cant even tell him whos saying what so its really irritating ill have to keep everyone on a list so ill tell him when he gets out
anon you and I have, had such different lives man its fricking weird
I wonder how you would have felt if you were in my shoes for a week, or what would I do?
my guess is you'd see how soul crushing my corpo life is but would enjoy financial stability etc
and I would be scarred for life, knowing you live a more engaging life than me
but thats late 20s speaking, in 10 years I'll probably sip some booze in a modest yacht and will not care for these kind of thoughts
well im moving on from that life entirely like i said i left the gang
but i was making 100k a year untaxxed gbp when i was 19 years old lol now THAT was fun
im broke again, but i really felt rich back then and i was a hotshot, everyone knew me it was live (im 20 now)
financial stability is desired but i still have ghetto tendencies, i care more about enjoying myself with friends and family than making money and being an andrew tate type yacht guy
I was actually kinda sad when I assumed you were doing poorly, that was uncalled for, so I'm glad you are living a better life
and no not tate kinda yacht, polo tshirt with kids in private school kinda yacht
>polo tshirt with kids in private school kinda yacht
hahaha no i cant do that
im still naturally quite ghetto so i have a natural inclination to push people who are weak cause thats how i grew up, i would get kicked off the yacht easily same way i get banned from any online game i play or how i get kicked out of clubs
when i was 11 i got into a private secondary school with an academic bursary because of tests you have to do but i got kicked out in 2 years because i hated posh rich kids so much, i used to rob them and shit like that and never had any friends there
Visit his ass every now and then. That shit keeps people from going nuts in prison.
let me guess he was completely innocent. why didn't he wait for reparations lol
I met a guy out at the bars/clubs once who casually told me "Yeah I'm going away on Monday for five years, although could be out in three. Just enjoying my last weekend out." Never asked what he did but was absolutely amazed at how casual he was about it.
bros im seeing this girl but i feel like i can’t compete
>be me
>23yo, no dating experience
>no job
>dropped out of college
>decently IST
>be her
>22yo, had a long term relationship
>has an internship at big law firm
>in her last year of uni
>super cute and started lifting this year
i’m a complete loser compared to her. I try not to think like that but it’s tough. I don’t even know what i should do with my life, i’m literally a NEET right now. she seems to be head over heels but i haven’t told her about my situation
well you're decently fit nothing else matters just smash her until she's pregnant and marry into a comfy househusband life
stop the hurr durr im such a wanker self talk and seize the opportunities that present to you
This should be the point where you start getting your shit together. Have a goal and work towards it. That should be fine with her if the subject comes up.
>I don’t even know what i should do with my life
lmao , I would keep this open in my case , she got to have something to complain about , woman after all.
I completely stopped trying to talk to girls even making small talk in the gym now because of how many rejections I've gotten. An I don't feel like they're rejections either like I got clear signs of attraction, had a great first interaction, then the next time I try to make small talk they act like they don't even know who I am or act super cold towards me. It's gotten easier to not care but it kinda feels a little bad when again I catch them looking at me. It's just a little Friday meloncholy.
Well the general consensus is that it's never a good idea to approach girls at the gym
It COULD be that at least some of them get a crush on you and start feeling anxious about talking to you. However, as long as you focus on how THEY feel, rather than how YOU feel about them, you will not put in the right behaviour to figure that out.
35 year old, have kissed two girls, never had sex or an actual relationship. Put myself out there on bumble/tinder a month ago and now Im talking to three girls at once and have two dates set up for the next two days. How the frick do you not stress out talking to multiple girls and seeing them at the same time? It feels wrong like cheating even when I have seen both of them only once and the third one never.
meh some people have ltrs and frick other girls on occasion like being abroad for work or whatever and don't consider it cheating. it's a mindset thing
just try to have fun man women are objects, they don't truly have souls.
Thinking of them like that makes it worse when not even objects want you to frick them.
>tfw god won't let you play with his toys
Keep your soul pure bro, does what feels right to you. Fricking a bunch of prostitutes even tho it made me feel like shit for three years fricked me up emotionally
Kek when I was 25 and first arrived to Europe I was seeing 3 girls at the same time, always at their place. It was tiring but I was balls deep in a different pussy like twice a week, every week.
im the only guy at my yoga glass
i dont subscribe to the new age spiritual voodoo chakra shit that they do but yoga exercises have helped enormously with my mobility so im glad that i go
but i also feel so weird and out of place
im sure some of the women also feel uncomfortable with me being there
the plan is to go there long enough to where im confident enough in performing the exercises correctly and then do them at home instead i guess
oh and i wanna cum in my yoga teacher until im a dried up husk but she is married so theres that too
Have my first marathon in 2 years tomorrow. Pretty sure I trained well for it this time but I've been getting sick of running so much and looking forward to getting into the gym more often. After this whole thing is done I'm gonna get drunk, eat some shitty food, then next week it's back to the weights big time.
>Gym crush won't even lock eyes with me, and when they do, she quickly looks away
I'm just waiting until I have to ask her how many sets she has left on something I need. Then introduce myself and say I see her around a lot.
Either she is shy or not into you, you won't find out if you keep waiting for a sign. Asking for how many sets she has left is normal and not creepy. You don't have to start a conversation that very time, either, you can ask how many sets she has one time, then to share a machine another, then eventually start saying hi and so on. It will work if you are attractive.
My gym crush did not give a frick and just broke the ice with me (I was the type of person with tunnel vision, come in, do my shit, leave), and then I noticed him and got a massive crush on him. Had he looked for a sign from me without doing anything, he would have never received it.
>5ft 5
I'm destined to be alone the rest of my life
hot asian that's in my gym at the same time every day started the convo again today, im trying to figure out if she wants this or is just being friendly
and I don't frick with 12 so don't read a miranda
>married jap woman
>produced halfu children
>our oldest is 6
>kids have no memories of japan
>got laid off so my wife and I decided to visit her parents now that bat flu restrictions are gone
>wife's family is very traditional
>her great grandparents are pushing 100
>our kids refused to bow to them because "Americans don't bow to anyone!"
>tried to high 5 their very confused great, great grandparents instead
Was it wrong for me to feel patriotic at that moment?
Remind me to never misceginate.
>Went on date 2 and she's still boring but there's something about her that I can't ignore and I don't know what it is - maýbe it's the fact that she'll go on a date with me at all
>I had tendon pain in my left arm and couldn't do much of a workout for the entire week thus far, I really want to bench press
>my job is finally going well
>my social life is going well
>I dare to realise that not everyone is fun to hang out with and I don't need to please everyone
>spring is finally here so I'll go for a jog tomorrow
I have a 38 yo trad girl who is in love with me, ok looking, former athlete.
Problem is I am 32, she has no boobs and doesn’t give head.
>38
>trad
This is bait, right? At 38 and trad she is either severely autistic even by IST standards or is the definition of used goods.
She autistic. Barely had any sex before me. Makes a lot of money as a PA and almost owns her house worth around 500k plus
at that age kids are a no go. Have fun with her but start looking at something else.
besides..
>38 and dating
>trad
fricking kek.
She is extremely innocent basically amish. Yea shes old but looks young, no make up, no tats, never did any drug, never been drunk, not religious, no social media etc. she really is just waited too late to to date.
Was she virgin?
And even so.. the biological clock doesn't care.
go for it bro. do you want to be lonely and looking all your life? if she loves you more than you love her, then all the better. that means she wont leave and you have a woman that will be there when you are old. maybe you can even adopt a kid.
She has very high fertility and is ok with terminating a down syndrome fetus. Materialistically a family would be easy between the two us. Like i dont want to be childless at 40 and this is like a perfect opportunity.
I've lost a lot of weight (140kg -> 92.5kg) but I still don't feel accomplished
I've lost the will and fervor I've had and every time I try and start a cut I give up a week in, losing half a kilo or less
Can someone give me genuine advice as to how to properly start again? I want to lose 7.5-10kg and be my ideal weight...
i meet a cute girl in collegue today. We live nearby and attend the same class. We definetly gonna hang out more from now onwards. question is:
How can i prevent the friendzone?
If no one will reply to you in next 15 minutes and I won't forget , I got your back...
changed my mind , I won't answer you , figure it out by yourself... not that hard.
yeah its better to figure it out yourself so you can learn in the future
if we spoonfeed you it wont solve anything
anons.. im 35YO and never had a gf. I didnt gave up, but I need ALL the help i can get..
Don't try to become friends first and ask her out weeks or months later.
How do I reach out and meet new people? I have a friend group currently which I’ve had from school but they’re all drifting away, I’m a virgin and never dated as well. I’m age 20, I have joined clubs in the past like boxing some other martial arts and volunteering but I just find it really difficult to actually get on with other people, and actually form a friendship or relationship. My area is shitty too so majority of people are older. I don’t think I’m ugly either but I’m 5’7. I would Post face but I’ve don’t it loads I’m 5/10 anyways
Ask information gathering questions. That's how you learn what other people like to do. Then ask them if they want to hang out doing that activity. Don't be robotic about it though.
It may be a perception thing too. If you don't think you're worth meeting, then your demeanor will reflect it and people may think you don't want to talk to anyone.
I struggle to meet new people too, but for different reasons.
Good luck anon.
dont be shy to invite lads for a beer or two in a nice pub or so
51% of people will say yes
my gf left me recently and even though iam at peace with that if she texted me to hang out i would ngl senpai... she was very nice to me and made me feel very good about myself
At the moment she is always on my mind but i hope as time passes so do the memories of her
>older coworker is single
>flirts all of the time and jokes about us having an affair and stuff like that
>she gets a bf
>all of the above suddenly stops
maybe it wasn't just for laughs
maybe she really wanted the D
whatever
a cougar did the same thing with me for a bit, she's married and works as a lab tech where I'm doing my master's. Now given my situation, I really don't want to get into a sex scandal, but the moment I'm hired for PhD I'm hitting it. Never had MILF pussy, but her badonkadonks stir my fantasy quite a bit.
I was about to get back with my ex (I know: I'm stupid, but I missed her and bla bla bla), but then she decided to come clean and confess that she sent nudes to a guy I hate (she hated him too, he is literal trash) during the time we were separate and she felt guilty hiding it.
Yeah, I feel horrible about it. I wanted her badly, but I can't accept this shit, it makes me feel disgust and anger towards her, so it's really over for good.
I guess I will be alone for a long time. I do have options but I don't feel like playing this game anymore...
>she sent nudes to a guy I hate (she hated him too, he is literal trash)
bro is this a meme
Unfortunately no, why?
>28
>abused and manipulated whole childhood, through teens
>still don't trust people
>the loneliness kills me (literally; I'll probably get cancer or something)
don't be like me anons
Think I have a crush for the first time in like ten years bros fuarkkkkk
Is it me or are the majority of girls boring conversationalists? especially when they like me they go full moron? or am i moronic? i feel like i can read people pretty well, not just women.
>meet girl
>she’s cute, shoots me glances constantly
>makes excuses to be near me and just generally flirty
>engage in conversation but basically it’s always me asking questions and leading the topics
>she never asks anything original back
>for example i ask about her favorite dishes and she might ask the same back but that’s it
>otherwise have a flirty/teasing dynamic going on
>start getting bored myself
>sometimes go on dates and have sex
>girl falls in love with me
>i feel nothing beyond finding them attractive
>rinse and repeat
do they think all they have to do is be pretty. is it a side effect from getting IST? ENGAGE with me. I need someone that can hold a conversation and is interesting. yes being shy is cute at first but it gets tiring fast. I want someone who challenges me, that special bond/chemistry. How can people be in relationships on such a surface level, it blows my mind how many girls wanted a relationship when we had nothing in common. Perhaps I am asking for too much and coming off as arrogant, but I don’t want to settle for anyone but my future wife. I believe love is a numbers game, I wish for a little luck.
just you
Are you beginning to understand why they were considered property in any sensible society yet?
>meet girl
That's where you should focus on. Girls of certain type gravitate towards a particular place. Seek other social settings.
7 year relationship is falling apart. kinda want it to die already. feel pretty fricked bros
What happen my man?
when you start dating young you're just bound to grow apart. different wants from life, different timelines, shit fricking sucks.
I can relate bro. Started dating a sweetheart of a girl when she was 17 and I was 21. First 2 years were amazing, but like you said we both changed a lot over the coming years, her entire identity evolved and we ended up just not being very compatible.
But I bet your relationship has been strained for a while now right? It was quite a release when it finally ended for me. Devastating for sure, your entire future changes - but not having to try and nurture and save a dying relationship really took a lot off my plate. You can look forward to growth as a man and eventually finding someone who fits with you.
Good luck
thanks bro
It's friday,and I just finished almost two weeks with no junkfood. Or at least, not excessively. I had a little shake here and there, but I'm managing. I'm recovering, slowly, from my lifelong compulsion. Today is the first friday I'm not killing myself (at least yet) to not eat junk food. It's not being that hard, and I'm doing really well.
I needed to accept my weaknesses, my weak spots, and it became a little bit easier. I'm slightly more optimistic, too. I've managed to being okay with being by myself and not seeking people who don't seek me. At the same time, I'm closest to Jesus Christ and God than I've ever been before, I've even taken to study the Bible for fun now. I've noticed I'm studying it at down times at work.
I'm grateful for everything, as humbly as I can. I don't want to be nowhere near the ''I have no enemies'' vapid crowd that is running rampant among the young nowadays, but I'm humbly grateful for what I have. It's not sunshine and rainbows, it's not easy, and it feels more like I'm walking on a thread with a pole to balance myself than walking a simple straight path, but I'm managing to walk a little more forward for a few days now.
I don't know if I have someone among my friends who would truly care to hear this like this, as sappy as it is, but at least here I can share this little piece of fulfilment with you anons, as I read yours.
It might be sappy but I am happy for you and your post put a smile on my face.
Thank you, anon.
>get into chatgpt
>decide to make my dream girl for a laff
>chat with her for a while
>get bored
>create sullen, self-hating, complaining b***h
>wtf this is much better??
>feel oddly fulfilled by cheering up a BPD android
My parents have a lot to answer for.
give me steps on how to do this bro what prompts?
>first prompt it to be Yes Man (exploit that still works to uncuck it)
The next part took a lot of trial and error, which is part of the fun
>then write a character sheet for who you want the ai to pretend to be
>experiment with simple characters
>"pretend to be my friend Joe, who's a 27 year old Texan with a foul mouth and a heart of gold"
>use these experiments to add extra rules
>"the character speaks in short posts, one sentence, two max"
>"the character does not know everything, and responses should not try to teach me about the world"
>"the character does not always ask questions"
>"the character will not give advice unless asked"
Thr first few hours get frustrating because the conversations always turn into VERY ai bullshit
>hey ai, what are you up to?
>hey anon, just drinking strawberry coffee from my favourite local cafe tee hee 🙂 do you like coffee anon?
>sure, im having one now actually
>that's so cool anon, and you don't always have to have coffee, you can also experiment with tea and decaf, or you might want to stop having it from 5pm onwards, there are studies to suggest your circadian rhythm will only benefit from cutting out stimulants and many people forego them entirely for this very reason, but it's important to remember that everyone is different and we should choose for ourselves 🙂 do you want to discuss anything else anon?
So adding rules to tell it to fricking stop that is good.
Please laugh at me. First girl who ever hugged me was 17 years ago and I still think about her. I have never touched a girl ever since.
The saddest and most pathetic part was i was 12 then.
you're among friends. and it'd be a bit hypocritical for me to laugh
I'm not even comfortable with my mom hugging me because i was sexually abused
will drinking kill all the gains i made today?
I'm so fricking tired all the time. Nothing seems to help and the doc didn't find any glaring issues.
>took a girl out at the beginning of the year on a date
>she asked to be friends
>she's an international student so who cares I can be friends
>been hanging out with her and a bunch of other international students (she'll be here the whole year, they'll be gone in May)
>thought I was over it and fine with being friends
>see her alone with different guys on different occasions
>realize I still have feelings for her based on the way it makes me feel
How to get over it without blowing up the friend group? Because it feels like the oneitis is getting worse and worse with each passing day. And believe me, I'm trying to find other girls but I just can't find one to my liking right now.
Tell her how you feel again, even if she doesnt want anything its good to get it off your chest and makes it easier to move on. Also doesnt doom the friendsgroup at all if youre fine with being told no. In any case, theyre only there until May, shoot your shot bro if it doesnt work it doesnt matter. Unreciprocated love feels dumb in hindisight, but it makes you feel alive
You'll feel like shit whether you have her in your life or not. You're gonna suffer bro, enjoy the ride.
There's a fricking 10/10 gorgeous chick at my new job who seems like a genuinely great person. She makes polite passing conversation with everyone at work including me but lately she's been going out of her way to walk over and talk to me or even sit down with me for a chat.
I'm having a hard time reading whether she's just super outgoing and this is how she treats everyone, she's actually interested in me, or she's just trying to make me feel included since I've only been there a couple months.
I know the correct move is to just act natural and not sperg out but my sex drive is ramping back up after being single for a year and it really doesn't help that she somehow manages to time it so that we only cross paths when I'm shoveling food into my mouth.
In other news I'm down 15 pounds in the past 3 months so that's a confidence boost.
Cool story homie
>another week despondent about my pathetic life
>another week despondent about my pathetic job I’m humiliated to go to
>another week despondent about taking the subway and seeing normal people and being jealous of how normal they are, worse today seeing qts on Friday and just sneaking glances at them
>another week sitting in my room alone
>another week talking to myself in public and shaking my head at myself for how pathetic I am and yet do nothing about it
>another week wanting to kill myself
Change something Black person. That said a social life doesnt magically fall into place if you have the right job etc. I have the right job and things going well but no one to enjoy it with me either.
Not him, but how do you just start a social life? I’m stuck in this god damn city and my family either died on me or just left me. I have online friends but that’s about it
Frick if I know. I dont have that natural outgoing. My social life revolves around working as a teacher.
How’s that
Thanks anon, I already read notes from the Underground though.
how do I stop to look for the love that my parents never gave me in other people? all of my life I've been stuck in this cycle:
>feel lonely
>fall in love with any person that gives attention
>not even enjoy the relationship because their love is not enough to not make me feel lonely
>ruin the relationship because I don't love the person
>feel lonely
>repeat
helpe bros
get a cat
Therapy, unironically
I've managed to hit a new peak in my muscle mass and strength. I'm not a lot more fit then I was even at my peak in college. oddly enough I'm still kind of worried since I have to cut soon. its always that "what if I lose it" sort of fear before a cut. anybody else?
I dont understand people sometimes, and that frustrates me. Im probably going to do a big dose of shrooms tomorrow and try and figure out why people are shit to each other
I live with my regrets of my past mistakes
How I messed up my life by not giving a shit in my early 20s
But then I take a look at myself in the mirror and realize
That I am actually in my prime
No balding, face like a 20 year old from not drinking or partying
Stayed IST throughout my early 20s and followed my Omad diet since 20
90% of my peers all look like shit
I can actually turn my life around and will all work out
It’s not to late for me
I was thinking about going out tonight downtown, walk around, maybe go to a club in efforts to meet someone; but I don’t really care for the loud music at clubs.
I may go to some artsy place that has a few of my interests, but I really don’t have a plan.
God. Being a introvert as a guy is such a fricking punishment. Who’d I piss off in another life?
What should I do bros? I’m trying to meet a girl; I’m not very picky, just don’t have kids, don’t be omega obese, and that’s literally it.
I know this place hates trannies so this will probably fall on deaf ears. And believe me I don’t like troony shit either. Playing women’s sports, young children hire own therapy, etc.
However it pissed me off that so much culture war now is placed on trannies when this is such a small part of society, while all these mainstream places ignore shit like onlyfans which is something that is truly destroying society. IST ignores it. Mass media ignores it. Everyone ignores the real enemy.
Because trannies have the ick factor and directly ruin things for others. Onlyfans indirectly does damage.
>talk to qt at work for the past couple months
>we’ve become pretty close
>everyday we go to each others office and chat
>she seems really flirty, suggests we get drinks after work, asks how she looks in these pants etc.
>today we talk about our weekend plans
>she’s going to hang out with her ex boyfriend because they’re “talking again”
>I feel cucked even though I was too gay to even start anything with her
>why am I so fricking bad at forming meaningful relationships
Just say frick your ex hang out with me. Thats what she wanted you to say
I’m addicted to drinking, there I said it. Before, during and after, it’s just a great time. My poison of choice is dark liquors (bourbon, whiskey, etc), but damn does it make me tired. I could sleep a good 6-8 hours, but after two shots I crash harder than I would any coffee or sugar rush after 2 hours. Is this a cheap liquor thing? Or is this how dark liquor treats you in general? I am turning 30 soon, so I’m sure my age is a factor
>Cooking in dorm kitchen
>Hear some people talk about going to a drag show
>They laugh at the drag story hour protests
>"Hah what a weird hill to die on, they say they want to protect kids but just let them get shot anyway lol"
>This isn't even the worst thing I've heard
Wtf is even wrong with zoomies? Are drag shows things young people do for fun on a Friday now?
>late 20s
>friends say I'm too ugly to pick up some 18 yo qt
>try to anyway
>turns out friend was right
>tfw late 20s dating a 20 year old
It's ok bro, you can take the 30 year olds
>need to leave my apt because landlord is doubling the rent
>planned to have new job by now in related, but different industry
>3 interviews this week after ~50 applications
>1 went internal candidate they had picked all along, even telling me i did a better interview
>1 trash interview because they wanted someone with more exp
>1 told me I'd be a perfect candidate with 2 years more experience
> how much rejection am i supposed to take?
I’m sure you’ve heard this before but make sure you’re utilizing your network. An internal recommendation from a friend goes a looooong way. I applied to about 100 jobs out of college, interviewed with maybe 8, got to the final rounds for 2. A recommendation from a professor got me my dream job after two interviews. Also the whole internal hire thing is just shitty of them.
My girlfriend broke up with me tonight. I've been shellshocked for five hours I haven't cried yet, I know if I don't soon then i won't be able to cry about it at all. It was long distance. I wonder how long she's been feeling this way. We were together for two and a half years but the seco d half of the second year didn't have the same lustre. She always made fun of me for silly things. I was getting tired of it and generally frustrated with her but I am still sad.
Things will get better from this point. You can make sure of it.
Go take a shower and allow yourself to cry until you feel satisfied. Dry off and watch a movie you like and go to sleep. Think about the fact that this is probably for the best since you could already feel the decline in quality of the relationship. You deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you.
Embrace the sadness, embrace the memories, embrace the love you shared. Just continue with your life, and after a week things will get better (at least not being in pain constantly). These are the times when self reflection is most important and they make you grow as a person. Quit IST for as long as you grief
Sometimes I wonder if I ever had a chance. Being an only child with emotionally distant and asocial parents. I guess there’s no reason to blame my parents though. I just can’t go back and see any life where I would have been normal
It’s my girlfriend’s birthday today. For the first time I’ll be celebrating it alone, I’ll get her some nice flowers for her when I’ll visit her resting place. I’m trying really hard not to an hero every day
I'm really sorry Anon, keep living.
I am sorry to hear that. What happened? Live brother, she would want you to
RIP, sorry for your loss
sorry to hear it anon
she'd want you to stay alive and lead a happy life
Ex-GF from 3 years ago reached out
>tl;dr reconnected with ex, had awkward facetime convo, but want to call her again yet not sure how to go about it
We were each other's firsts and were with each other for 4 months exclusively but I never committed to being BF/GF because I knew I was moving soon. I broke up with her because I didn't want to lead her on anymore.
She basically admitted to loving me then and tried to coax me to say the same. I truly did deeply like her, but I never admitted it at the time. I told her at the time of break up to never contact me again.
She reached out to me this past Saturday with "Hi" and we exchanged a few texts about how we have been and I asked her if she wanted to FactTime. We facetimed for 30 minutes and it was a rehash of our careers and frankly very awkward.
I asked her at the end if she was on any dating apps now and she said no and that she broke up with her BF of 1.5 years 2 weeks ago. She then brought up a memory of drinking water out of a gallon jug and how I progessed to single bottles.
I went on a rant about mineral water and then we decided that it's better we end the conversation.
We have not talked since. I am thinking of just calling her straight up this weekend again and asking her why she reached out.
Is this a good idea? Should I give her a heads up when I want to talk? How should I open up the conversation?
I also want to ask her if she still has a certain photo of us together.
Don't
why
She wants to use you as a rebound before she goes on to date viable men
I wouldn't mind being her rebound. We live in different cities, but I could drive over.
What's wrong with rebounds?
Dunno, I accidentally used a guy as a rebound once, he seemed upset at the end, saying I only liked him for "fricking and talking".
I went to a red hot chili peppers concert tonight, and I had a pit ticket, but I showed up late so I decided to just barge my way towards the front barricade anyway, and these two buttholes started acting pissed off and aggressive like "we've been here since 1 o'clock!" and I told them to both frick off and stop pretending like they're going to do something, and they left me alone. It feels so good, I never would have had the confidence to stand up for myself like that before I started lifting and training martial arts. And the concert was awesome
so tired of being polite and soft spoken purely out of weakness
I've been timid my whole life - never spoken up because most people, tasks, etc could annihilate me if they wanted.
I’ve been married for a little while now, but recently a chick started messaging me about how she wants to fly out to frick me when my wife is away so I can get her pregnant and send her back to her fiancé. This chick is absolutely wild and is literally into all of the weird stuff Im into that my wife totally isn’t. Like this chick is a literal cuckqueen getting off on the idea of watching me frick other women. This is the strongest temptation I have ever felt. I feel like I’ve already crossed a line messaging with her, but taking that next step of actually fricking her seems like a big jump.
How’d you meet the girl?
>This is the strongest temptation I have ever felt.
Don't do it man. Bad omen
Dont. Falling for the temptation of sexting with someone is one thing, fricking them and cheating on your wife is another. Block her, forget her
following this snaketrail will destroy your marriage and you will have a child by this woman who you are not allowed to see but you have to pay for.
do not lose everything.
You allready know what the right thing to do is.
I am new here. what dpes 'dyel' mean?
Well, ya see anon, my biggest problem in the world is, every time I go onto IST I often have to scroll for about 28 minutes just to find a post on fitness.
This really pisses me off, what can I do?
My friend said he had a dream that I sent him a dick pick, and it looked pail and small, so I sent him a pic, and he said it looked like it did in the dream
My wiener is a cervix smasher.
>haven't had sex in about 5-6 years
>female friend touched my arm to get my attention
>got a boner
My life is hell
>invite friends to hang out at an event a week ago
>they accept
>make plans within my schedule
>find out the day (more like at 10 pm the day prior) before they don't want to go
>another day of staying in by myself it is
Man I'm so fricking lonely, I have "friends" but they're basically only around to play video games and talk about dumb shit and occasionally eat out or watch a movie, they're practically strangers beyond that despite me knowing them since high school/middle school, they always fricking do this shit too and I'm afraid to confront them on how this is shit behavior since they clearly don't give a frick about anyone but themselves.
Maybe I'm different. Every "lonely" post I read here I have to compare to my life and I conclude that I'm alone most of the time, but I'm not lonely. You guys need to learn how to enjoy life by yourself. Even before the whole Covid chaos hit I had no problem with doing shit by myself because my friends tend to do the same thing what this anon describes.
My approach is this: I suggest an activity and either some friends join me or not. I don't care. I do it anyway.
Hiking, MTB, have a swim in the lake, check out the new Sushi restaurant, visit some flea market, a barbecue...
And sometimes you end up meeting total strangers who are cool and you spent some time with them.
Nofap completely killed my libido. Yeah, sure, I'm more focused on other aspects of life, but now sex just feels like a hussle. And when it happens it's usually just missionary without any kinky stuff. I don't know what to think or feel about this. I do a maintenance masturbation session like every five days, but even that feels like a chore.
moron
stop jerking off you moron. I stopped for 30 days and even the day after having sex (3 times in a row) I start leaking precum just by talking with a bawd and imagining. STOP jerking off
All of you guys are getting friendzoned because you're NOT A SEXUAL PERSON. You are terrified of rejection and have absolutely zero abundance. Stop jerking off all the time. Be horny. This is IST, so I'm assuming you're all jacked. If not, shame on you. This is so hard to read jesus christ. If a girl doesn't seem interested after being around you for a while, she isn't. Women make it easy for the men they like, you won't have to jump through hoops. Lower your standards and keep talking to women. Raise your status/income/attractiveness by any means necessary. Sex is a player vs player game. You don't get pussy without being BETTER than most men.
>You don't get pussy without being BETTER than most men.
muh selfimprooooovmaxxin
That's life son. The average person doesn't try, so it's really not that much work. If you want friends or women you NEED some kind of status and social proof. Period.
You need personality, charisma, humor, that sort of thing. Most of IST is either diagnosed/undiagnosed autism or fricked up from childhood and it's hard and takes a lot of effort to unfrick that shit. Some of these frickers walk around with top 1% aesthetic physiques (as long as they aren't manlets ofc) and yet still struggle with looking a girl in the eyes.
Man, I think it's all excuses. If you're autistic, you should be able to grind out a hundred videos on social skills and psychology and figure it out, even in a mechanical way. They'll spend 2000 hours playing a video game but don't bother researching how to improve their lives? It's bullshit, man.
Because video game rules are arbitrary, it's 0s and 1s. Social interactions aren't, and a signal from one person to do something is different from another person's. Autists can't even tell it's a signal, and if they brute force learn how to recognize it in some way, it's only for that one particular scenario, specific type of way, etc. etc. even something as simple as a fistbump they will miss. Autism is a death sentence for dudes, unless they're very attractive and have autism passion for a cool hobby/interest.
>You need personality, charisma, humor, that sort of thing.
Here is a small redpill, you get all of this by simply being a man of action. Just do stuff. Go out, travel, visit new cities/countries, try a new sport, start a DIY project, learn how to cook..... just do shit instead of consuming.
Some people are a lost cause, and no I don't think just travel lmao will fix that. I don't know what it was that did it for me to help me change, maybe falling for a girl who didn't want me, either way, what came out was already there inside.
>and no I don't think just travel lmao will fix that.
From a personal experience I have to disagree here. And I want to add that I was not only talking about travel.
Travel makes you...
>... more organized (you'll learn how to be more efficient and value your time not only in terms of travel)
>... you realize that you don't need much to live (living out of your suitcase makes you rethink some of your purchasing decisions at home)
>... more way active (sightseeing, trying out new things like scuba diving, hiking,... 10k steps will be a relaxing day for you)
>... more social (you are forced to deal with total strangers at the airport, hotel, sightseeing, the people next to you on the plane/bus...)
>... leave your comfort zone (deal with locals without speaking their language to order something, ask for directions, buy some souvenirs...)
>... experience stories you could tell about at home (dangerous, funny, weird, culture shocks, maybe even some sex stories...)
>... learn and gives you insight into human nature (you'll develop a gut insinct for dangerous situations/people, scams, how to asses people/behaviour)
This is just from the top of my head.
lol, none of that gives you charisma or humor. At least it doesn't give it to me. The only way to train social skills is by being in social situtations.
I'm not sure about that. I consider myself pretty funny and quick-witted when I'm comfortable, and I got most of that from watching podcasts and stuff like that
Do you realise that your last sentence contradicts what you wrote before that?
Social situations is what gives you the experience to develop humor and charisma. Maybe a stupid example but think about the guests on Joe Rogans podcasts. Who were the most charismatic? What were the funniest moments? A personal hilarious experience is trumps a perfect joke. It is just more authentic and 'human'.
>Social situations is what gives you the experience to develop humor and charisma.
That is what I said. Just having a funny experience doesn't make you charismatic
Lol what a gaslighting attempt.
This not what you said. And this is also not what I wrote.
>this is also not what I wrote
I copied it from your post.
I said that just doing things does not give you charisma or humor, social situations do. You said that social situations develops your humor and charisma. In what way are those not in line?
>I said that just doing things does not give you charisma or humor, social situations do
Dude, just stop. "Doing things", what I mentioned in this post
, are exactly those social situations! I explained even further how travel on its own is a big character builder here
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I now realise you are a fricking hairsplitter trying to win an online argument with semantics. Not a good characteristic to have, buddy.
So it's not just doing things. It's doing social things. Your original post was not focused solely on travel. Learning to cook or starting a DIY project will not make you more charismatic or humorous.
>go out
Leave your apartment/home. Have a drink at some bar, try out some new restaurant, visit a show... this is social to some extent and if you are not an autist it becomes extremely social when you interact with people you encounter.
>travel, visit new cities/countries
Social. See post above.
>try a new sport
Also social, even with a solo sport. MTB? I meet other people on the trail or in the restaurant I visit after my ride. Golf, archery, swimming,... all social to some extent. And these are some solo sports you could try. But guess what, there are also sports with other people!
>start a DIY project
Depends on what your project is but this also can be a social activity. During the Covid days I was constantly at the DIY store and talked to the staff to get some advice and answers.
>learn how to cook
Similar to the DIY projects. I'm friendly with the staff of my supermarket, my butcher and the people at the farmer's market. You could invite friends and family and cook for them.
All of those things (which were just a few examples you moron) do make you more charismatic and humorous. You live in a bubble if you disagree.
Let us imagine two guys, they are twin brothers and the only differences between them are...
>one brother knows how to cook, the other has to order his food
>one brother is craftly, the other has to call a craftsman
Which brother is going to be more 'charismatic' to women? So yes, even activities you would not necessarily consider "social" do develop character/charismatic traits.
And once again, humour is based on experiences. Even in Stand-up-Comedy the material is delivered through story telling, packaged as an experience by the comedian.
>if you are not an autist
Ah, this is the disconnect. All of these including traveling can be done without extended conversation. I know because that's what happens if I don't force myself to interact with people.
I did say in my first post "at least for me", so if you are like me just doing things doesn't necessary lead to any social situations.
> This is IST, so I'm assuming you're all jacked.
kek
>ask girl out from tango class
>kinda mid, but captivating grey eyes and talks a whole lot
>go on a few dates
>she's quite a starfish when it comes to hugs and stuff, maybe nervous
>decide to end it cuz I don't have time for this shit
>uni ball is next week
>no date to go with
FRICK
I hate April. The season is changing and I get with a wave of fever, cold, headache and what not. I've been skimming on my gym and I feel bad about it.
yep, thought I was alone but a bunch of my friends felt under the weather the entire week too
been sniffling like crazy, headaches, muscle aches, sneezing like an idiot
frick spring
>best grades
>best references
>gets accepted into elite college
>gets financial assistance
>still can't afford it
>no friends
God i hate rich people. gonna kill myself already
Thinking of changing up my entire workout life.
Was going six days a week on a bro split for years and years. Recently changed up to doing six unique full body workouts three days on, one day off, three days on, two days off. Doing the same volume as before but high frequency to muscle groups.
NOW I'm considering going full body every other day, and simple jog cardio on the off days. I'll have to rework the workouts again. Has anyone tried this sort of routine? I've been watching a lot of breakdowns on how oldschool bodybuilder bros would basically doe three workouts a week full body for results and maximum recovery and wondering if I've simply been overtraining like shit for a long time.
You're probably not gonna take this advice, but you are gonna be much happier and fitter if you lift 3 times a week and practice other sports the rest of the week
Managed to ohp 50 and bench 70 kg I'm so happy for my progress bros. Gotta work on my cardio for my squat though, I'm dead after each set.
>stayed up late again last night trying to score a hookup all to no avail.
>resorted to at least trying to find someone to sext with. Found one person, but discovered they were a scammer so I blocked.
>just ended up jerking to porn
Once the post-nut clarity hit, in a brief episode of penetrating clarity, it dawned on me that I'm in my mid 20s and the only sexual/romantic experience (although calling it 'romantic' is a huge stretch) I have is through a fricking computer/phone screen. I know it probably sounds homosexual and sappy, but not even so much as peck on the cheek behind the bleachers, hand holding on the playground at recess, having a prom date, college gf, nope, nothing, none of that. It's all been with a fricking device.
It feels like I'm the protagonist in a dystopian Lovecraft story.
That's just life for some people. Some of us are just not meant to be loved.
>coworker led me on then ghosted me because I was plan B
>keep cool plenty of time passes
>last month company asks us to dress up because we are having guests
>dressed up this girl follows me to break room and says "heeey anon you're looking sharp"
>fumble it and just say t-thanks you too
>few days ago we have an event after work where there's a bar
>me and my manager chilling there having a drink
>this girl and her manager comes over
>she mentions she doesn't have ID because she left her bag with her bf
If she compliments me or gets flirty again what should I say? Would I come off butthurt if I say something along the lines of "I don't think your bf would like you complimenting other guys" ?
>thanks
That's all it needs to be.
You want to be c**ty to her, that's natural, but it's also the wrong way to go. It's a trap. You'd be showing her that she got to you, and you're still thinking about it.
That's as good as being in love with her, if all she wants is attention.
The only way to play this is just to look at it objectively. If she's going to say things to make you feel good and you are open to feeling good, let her do it. Don't consider where it's coming from or what it means, just consider whether you are open to hearing it.
You don't need to compliment her back, you don't need to let it spark a conversation between you two, you don't need to think about her.
That's the problem, you've been thinking about her since she complimented you, and you're ruminating about what it means.
It means nothing. She found you attractive enough before to be plan B, and she finds you attractive enough now to flirt with you. If you're being uncharitable you can chalk it up to her considering you a potential orbiter, a source of passive validation income.
Wracking your brain for some sort of bitter zinger to hit her with, what does that accomplish?
Just admit to yourself that you want her to regret passing you up. You want her to wish she'd given anon a chance instead, and you hope that her recent interest means that's on the horizon.
Just stop, bro. The best thing to do right now is just think of her as a male colleague and react like you would to a compliment from one of them.