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I’m going to have to go to the university’s gym this fall since I’m transferring. It’s literally over
Is it that shitty? They have to have something to work with
I was just told by the wife I’m getting laid tonight since she went to the gym with me today and “wanted to jump my bones because my muscles look different” . I don’t believe here. I will update with the results later if the thread is still up.
She says shit like this a lot and then gets tired and goes to bed. *
Why wait, just bang it out right after gym if she's ready to go
idk how you guys deal with this shit, I'd probably """"rape"""" my wife ifs she did that (I dont actually believe this is rape, but the left has deceived epopel into believing it)
Update: now she claims I’m getting a BJ
Is this the fate of all marriagecels? your wife rewards you with sex when she feels you've earned it? sounds toxic as frick
No
>married for 8 years
>kids 6 and 4
>frick at least every day, twice on Wednesdays and Saturdays.
The trick is staying in shape, making sure that foreplay NEVER stops, and marrying someone who's as big of a pervert as you are
You lucky bastard. My wife is on antidepressants and she has zero sex drive anymore, we haven't fricked in MONTHS. I am fricking dying here.
That sucks anon rape her maybe
Update: just got down on her knees and sucked my dick until I came in her mouth while watching Fast and the Furious 9: the Space one then drunkenly made some Mac and cheese (bulking)
Life is good bros WAGMI
>While watching fast and furious 9
You're a literal homosexual. Your wife isn't interesting enough you need to blow your load from looking at Vin Diesel?
Also in general stop letting your wife manipulate you with sex, it's pathetic.
based and unmarried pill. i know marriage with the wrong person can be a psychological warfare with literal succubi on the other end
>He didn't get pussy
Man, you got a downgrade and were happy about it?
>motorbike at mechanics, been busted for just over a week so I've been stuck at home between work
>the sadness has come back again and I've stopped cooking and wasting money on slop
>getting words mixed up and forgetting them more. It's been happening for a while but it's either getting worse or I'm just noticing it more
>cute thin girl I'm somewhat interested in isn't interested in me
>fat coworker who doesn't want kids is interested me. I'm not into fatties but I know she gyms. The nokids is a dealbreaker.
>went skydiving again, this time with coworkers and I felt nothing, no adrenaline, no fear, no joy. Just meh.
I'm going to start swimming again when I get my bike back, probably start going back to the gym. Frick, I hate cooking though. The world just feels kind of grey at the moment, I'm going to have to just start trying random shit and hope I find something that will bring me joy
How's having a bike? I'm very tempted but live in an inner city shithole and have decent odds of being hit by a junkie in a stolen car
It's great. Freedom of travel, can make it pretty comfy for long rides, ease of buying/selling so you can try different bikes a lot. You can be a frickwit and do stupid shit if you want. Park wherever you want and generally people don't care. Really fuel economic if you're just doing small trips in your inner city shithole. I think the positives far outweigh the possibility of getting hit by a junkie
Is it bad if my motive is degenerate or evil? I spend too much time web browsing, so I wrote up a list of goals and keep them open on my phone so I'm productive and feel shame if I try to shitpost without adequate work put in. My plan is to edge for a week, get stoned (I haven't done it for years at this point) and then spend a whole day edging for a super big orgasm at the end of June if I stick to my goals.
It's been working mostly well, with the long term goals at the bottom being what I aspire to the most, but the ones on top are the stepping stones to them. So is hedonism and vengeful attitudes and shame really such a bad motivator then if it works so well?
You do you man, as long as it works for you
Sorry chud, but the bar has moved to somachat.com/fit and the theme is the native built in radio on the site
>discordtroony shilling again
IST really is full of all sorts of shilling today
Epic
how do you cope with the idea that you'll never meet someone as beautiful as that other person who also shares the same values as you( and that other person)
Or how do you cope with the feeling of absolute self inflicted defeat?
All I've got is diet and exercise, no job/friends/hobbies because I've been stuck in fightflightfreeze mode for the last 3 years.
Quick rundown:
Buy house
Get laid off
Get a new job
Feel absolute hatred for boss chimping out at another employee because they couldn't find a file in 5 minutes
Leaf
Covid hits
New job
Absolute moron mode for the boss who my whole body says is /physically perfect/ and see my values reflected in her actions
Can't stop moron mode trying to get her attention
Great shame, quit
New job
Watch dogs
One coworker absolutely hates, can't understand why, she won't explain, triggered into fight flight mode but strangling her would be legally wrong so leaf
New job
Watching dogs
Lose house because lmao I haven't paid bills because I'm a dumbfrick moron
Jon to far from home base so quit
Feel absolute defeat
Only some college, centered around computer aided drafting
No jobs in my area that I have qualifications for.
anyway would need to carpool with mom for a while to save up for my own car insurance
Year of therapy JUST started showing the first results in which I can see the connections between my past, my values, and my actions/reactions.
I am feeling content which is better than slightly sad. I woke up at 3am (went to bed at 7pm) and felt peckish and went to the kitchen, picked up a mats bar, and after a minute of holding it put it back and grabbed peanut butter and vita-wheats instead. My self improvement is getting better and my cravings for bad food is being curbed. I’ve lost 2kg over the last 2 weeks and it wasn’t hard at all now that I am on ADHD medication and can function normally. Thanks for reading my blog
Fricking hell, barkeep, just gimme a rum and coke.
Having a lot of goddamn trouble keeping up mentally with my nine month old. I love her dearly but FRICK lately I just feel regret having her in the first place, I just want to be free and I'm never gonna get that again. And of course I feel like garbage for thinking that in the first place because I'm her father, that kind of thinking is shitty for someone who supposedly cares about her.
Damn, sorry bro. But can’t help but feel glad I don’t have a daughter. People post all their highlights on instagram or whatever about how they’re so happy to get married and have children and what not. But then I hear so many men say they regret it, and it’s always in private and said in almost a whisper.
You want to know sick irony? My wife and I decided to have a child because we thought we were happy where we were and felt ready to bring new life into the world, because it came from a place of love instead of necessity. And now that she's here, I realize too late that there was so, so, SO much more to life than the little niche we carved out for ourselves...and now, I have no time to explore any of it.
you are so full of shit you moron. you are just like those loser guys who get their first girlfriend and suddenly think that because one girl likes them, suddenly they are upset about "how much pussy they are missing by being tied down to one girl" and want to break up with her or try an open relationship or some shit. you have a child a suddenly you think that now your life is over and completely handcuffed because you have one
i feel bad for your wife and your daughter who have to be married/raised by a IST browsing father who thinks this way. fix yourself.
There are
>so, so, SO
many possibilities and life paths where you have a fulfilling life with your family and you're focusing on self-indulgence
A parent can be a good parent doing just about anything in life. The only door that's truly closed off to a good parent is the ability to be selfish.
You're not wrong, and on some level it is my fault for not taking the time I had to self-indulge, so I really have no right to complain about feeling trapped.
We made the decision about two years ago, but due to complications with my wifes medications we struggled for a bit to actually conceive. My wife was 31, I was 32.
And don't get me wrong, I don't hate my daughter or anything. Despite how it sounds, I do genuinely love her and want whats best for her. It just gets hard sometimes, because she's so young and needs constant attention, there are many times that regret rears its ugly head and makes me feel depressed. Logically I know it will go away, but it doesn't make it easier while I'm in the thick of it.
I sympathize man. I think it’s just a matter of time like you said and you’ll come to accept it. I do think more guys should wait longer since male vs. female biological clocks are very different. Shit, Al Pacino just fathered another one and he’s 83. And there’s new women turning 23 every year. It seems to me that the men who are very happy to be fathers with no regrets are the ones who do it in their 40s and 50s. But 32 or 34 is not that bad at all. There are guys who had to settle down in their early 20s, and they were absolutely not ready for it. All the best man, I think your heart is in the right place despite that other anon slating you
May I ask how old were you and your wife when you decided to have a child?
Anyway, it’s fair for you to feel regret. It’s quite a common emotion actually, but not publicized due to the shame. But I guess you have to accept that it’s a decision you willingly made for yourself in the past. Some decisions are irreversible and this is one of them. And this was something that your past version wanted. It’s too late to go back now, so you might as well do the best you can for your child going forward.
You need to embrace a new mindset or misery is guaranteed from this point out for you. Abandon fantasies of happiness, they will only sadden and delude you.
Find satisfaction in upholding your responsibilities. Crystallize your values in written word and promise to yourself you'll uphold them, and forgive yourself when you fall short so you have the strength to keep striving towards your ideal. Pick your sacrifice and don't look back.
I have a 3 and 1 year old. It's really hard. You get hardly any sex or time for yourself (only stolen moments you pay for later). I've never been more at peace. I'm not happy all the time, but I can't imagine anything more worthwhile. If you put in the work they deliver the goods.
Why is the thread going so slow, did everyone go on somachat?
had to subtly friendzone a cutie at work. she was constantly dropping hints, started touching me more, squeezing my bicep and lingering around me. told her i have a date this weekend and she was noticeably down afterwards.
she’s cute but i’m not in the right position mentally yet.
Yesterday I decided to cut my balding head of ''hair''. I now have a buzzcut. I went to the gym without a cap for the first time in years. Goddamn it felt good bros, I literally didn't care and I actually liked the look. Thought the bald spot would be extremely noticeable but it's not. I regret not doing it years ago man.
Today I got hit in the feels though. Lots of bad thoughts running through my head. I'm upset over shit that happened a decade ago. I know it's in the past but I cannot get this shit outta my damn head. Hopefully tomorrow will be better.
You did something good for you though, even if you didn't feel like it or you had something else on your mind. Any mentally engaging or strenuous task really helps me stop ruminating if I can make myself just do it, and that's what you did. Keep it up anon, it'll pass
>31
>been single for 8 years
>diagnosed autist
>ex of 3 years was an abusive alcoholic
>literally scared to be around people drinking alcohol, even if it's just one glass
>that represents >99% of socialising opportunities
>basically no human contact outside of handshakes and doctors in those 8 years
>everyone around me is in a relationship
>soon they'll have no time for me
>parents are getting older
>soon they'll be dead
>I'll be alone on this Earth
Unironically when do I cut my losses and throw myself off Beachy Head?
I was you, I didn't have a gf from 23-35. You need to really try, because every day is harder than the day before. You're at the very end of the window where you can still find someone who isn't damaged.
>You're at the very end of the window where you can still find someone who isn't damaged.
and you dont think op himself is damaged?
Started my new job and that's going pretty well, gotten nothing but praise so far during my training period
went on a series of dates this week that all sucked. 2/3 dates were at least 30-40lbs heavier than their pictures and all 3 had used filters on their pictures as well.
2 of them were just above 30 and were batshit insane/drank almost twice as much as me on both dates. I'm never going on a date with a woman who's over 30 ever again.
Just a water tonight, tender. Can't risk whiskey dick, I have to frick my girlfriend soon.
I'm in love with a girl I saw in a video of an Omegle screen recording. Being able to admit that is one of the greatest things about a truly anonymous website.
I can't even begin to approach the subject with my girlfriend. She's cute, but every night if I think I might have to frick her, I edge to my Omegle oneitis for an hour before she comes over. I will go soft if I stop thinking about her for even one moment. Not ED, it's genuinely just that I only have love for one woman. I feel that I am doing a grave disservice to my girlfriend, even though she's a c**t anyway. Help.
>Be me
>27
>Great job, educated, make a lot of money
>No friends
>Try to make friends
>Everyone loves me but I find them all boring and weird
>Meet some girl
>Complete tomboy, same sense of humor, fit
>immediately start crushing on her
>She tells everyone that she's not here to hook up, just make friends
>Invite her to hang out
>we talk until 2am
>she asks me to hang out
>talk until 2am again
>this continues
>lots of drinking and even her crashing on my couch
>we even take a spur of the moment trip to Europe together
>same room, again don't frick because she doesn't really flirt with me, we're just friends
>Try to cut her off because I'm getting too into her
>she keeps wanting to talk to me and snapchatting me her working out
>She's moving away in two weeks
>I've offered to help her pack and drive with her to her new place
>she's excited
>literally everyone that's seen us together tells me that we're infatuated with each other and act like a couple all the time
>She doesn't initiate any physical contact with me. Just lots of staring into my eyes
>Feeling like absolute dog shit that our time is ending
I know a lot of anons here will call me a simp, or a friend zoned loser and maybe that's true. But for the first time in my life, I met someone that I really connected with and who I never regretted being around. And that's far more valuable to me than fricking.
This experience taught me that maybe I'm not alone in this world, but I think it's probably too late for me to really push something like this further because it took me 27 years to experience these feels to begin with.
I will enjoy these last two weeks as best as I can, and then move on.
>This experience taught me that maybe I'm not alone in this world, but I think it's probably too late for me to really push something like this further because it took me 27 years to experience these feels to begin with.
Happened to me later than it did for you, and I ain't giving up, even if it does end up being too late.
>I will enjoy these last two weeks as best as I can, and then move on.
You won't be seeing her again anyway, why not give it a shot, while being clear that being just friends is a-ok for you too?
>Happened to me later than it did for you, and I ain't giving up
That's great anon. You shouldn't give up. I just reached this conclusion because I never really had experiences or developed this part of my life during childhood. And now it's all hitting me out of the blue and it's made it clear that I cannot handle this.
>You won't be seeing her again anyway, why not give it a shot?
I'm unsure what "shot" I could take at this point. I think anything I say will jeopardize the relationship we have right now. She's insisted that we'll remain friends online at least. But also that she wants to meet more people so she can "find someone"
>it's made it clear that I cannot handle this
Exposure therapy - first time's the real big hitter, second time is easier, and so on.
>anything I say will jeopardize the relationship we have right now. She's insisted that we'll remain friends online at least.
Yeah true, if it's likely you'll keep in touch and remain friends, there is more at risk indeed.
>But also that she wants to meet more people so she can "find someone"
Brutal, but as you say, the move here is to keep the friendship but move on for the rest.
Yeah I think it's a sound play. I'll let it go on to it's natural end I suppose. Let it play out. As for the initiating physical touch, that's relevant because she said she tends to initiate that type of thing in relationships. At least being a bit touchy feely to signal that she is interested. And there's none of that with us. So yeah. Just friends. Unsure how I don't understand boundaries though. I think I'm pretty good about that.
>>She doesn't initiate any physical contact with me. Just lots of staring into my eyes
Hey man, just for the record - many, many women will not initiate physical contact with you. Like, probably most. They are expecting you to do so. It's not fun for them to do that in the same way that it's probably not fun for you to bend over and have her slap your ass. I know you're saying she was clear that you two were just friends, but friends don't stare into each others' eyes. I have multiple close female friends. She doesn't understand boundaries and neither do you. You're lucky she's leaving sooner rather than later, honestly.
I had similar incidents with two girls. I dated both in the past and had a somewhat serious relationship with one and a serious with the other.
I'm sure getting back with either wouldn't have worked or been the best.
Yeah you're probably right. I don't think I should be in a relationship with anyone period. Just gonna keep lifting and working on my career.
Hey I just had a thought!
Maybe there are really people on the other side of all these posts? Like we could really start a conversation with each other! A conversation with actual people!
>pic related
me on the left
Hello anon how is your life going?
can you rotate your apple
I can imagine your wife getting fricked by BBC in 4k
> he has to imagine it
lol I bet you're jealous.
I never bother people at the gym but one guy's lat pulldowns (or at least I think that's what he was trying to do) was so fricking bad, like he was literally jumping up and down the seat to move the weight down, that I had to ask him about it because I thought he was a newbie. Turns out he he's been lifting for 5 years (which you would absolutely never be able tell he is pure dyel mode) and claims he knows what he's doing so I left him alone. I guess I should've known because he was a wearing one of those tanktops that are meant to show off your lats and back and I doubt a newbie would wear one. Regret saying anything and should've kept my mouth shut but at the same time how do you look like pure shit for so long and not question how you train?
He hasn't been lifting for 5 years, probably just had a gym membership for 5 years and comes once a week to do moron sets. If you're pushing yourself and actually 'working out' and breaking sweat in a commercial gym you're in the minority of people there, most of them are and will remain goy cattle.
Oh boy idk where to begin. Father was recently in the hospital, scared the ruck out of me since he’s had heart issues in the past. Was unrelated to his heart and he’s okay now.
My ex texted me AGAIN. I responded this time. My head is spinning. This girl… holy frick this girl makes no sense and I’m now feeling confused and anxious and shitty over her again.
Before we dated, when we barley knew each other, her brother died. She was practically a stranger to me at this time but she texted me wondering why I wasn’t there for her and acted like I had some wild audacity to not be talking to her.
Years later we date, she moved to another city 5 hrs away. We both did stuff that was a little sketchy. Albeit mine was just referring to her as “[city name] girl” in a text to my bro and hers was she flat out threatened to cheat on me by saying “fine I’ll keep someone else up then.” I didn’t think she meant it. But she acted like it was my fault after, which lead to me losing trust so I left her. She’s hmu every 3 weeks since then. It’s been like 8 months.
NOW I responded this time, just telling her to stop. And I honestly don’t know what to make of what’s come of it. She’s told me she misses me yadda yadda. I walked her through what my problems were and why I left, AGAIN. Convo came to an end all seemed fine. At this point I feel like we’ll stay in lose contact, things will be chill, and eventually we’ll try again when things are better.
She flip flops, today says she doesn’t even know why she’s in contact with me. Small argument began because I called her out on how ridiculous this is, she practically begged me to talk to her and now that I did is saying she doesn’t want to anymore. I left it there.
I feel like she’s playin games with me. But at the same time I feel like shes just a bit nuts but truly misses me. Yet she doesn’t exactly make it easy to be in contact with her, it’s always drama and a fight and tiring as hell.
Cont
Cont.
I had JUST basically gotten over her completely, without even needing to frick a new girl. Now I’m back where I was. Before she texted, I had some motion and was getting out my rut. Then it knocked me back on my ass. Been trying to get back to that motion this week and pick myself back up again.
Before this I had genuine drive and could see a light at the end of the tunnel for the first time in years. I had (still do) plans to get shredded again, get my gains back and more, make some money and move out, and go back to school for a couple years. I was planning to be in amazing shape and have my own place to be able to frick the 18-23 year olds on campus while working towards my career, relive my college experiences ages 18-22 with the knowledge and experience I have now and make the most of it but mainly focus on school and work.
Now I’m confused over this b***h. It’s like she texts me just to have drama and okay games. She never texts me just to say “hey how are you” but instead seemingly just to relive the break up. Idk what she’s expecting from me. Does she think I’ll apologize for her chasing me away? Does she expect me to go “Omg I’ve been so lonely without you I miss you please let’s get back together”?? She’s so fricking inconsist—
THIS is what she wants from me isn’t it? To get me all twisted up and hung up over her again. That’s how it feels. I’ve even told her this today. It just feels like she’s playing games with me and doing this just for fun.
if she can cause you emotional turmoil, she wins
simple as
Thank you. I think I let my wiener take over which is why I responded. I’ve been crazy horny the last week out of nowhere. I’ll go back to ghosting her. I guess that leads to either peace of mind again, or she’ll cave and finally admit she lost me and give me closure.
Btw, this b***h has her timeline fricked up. Early on before we ever had issues I told her it would be cool to eventually work towards moving in together. When I called her out on her flip flopping and game playing she said “you’re the one flip flopping you said you wanted to move in together and blah blah blah. . .” As if that was something I had said today or recently at all. I told her “why would I move in with you? You’re batshit insane.”
she's gaslighting you, whether she believes it or not
don't give her an inch, and that includes by putting too much effort to "convince" her of her wrongness
she's doing it on purpose or batshit insane, in both cases you shouldn't give her the benefit of doubt more than for a short while at the start
Dude idk what the frick she’s doing or why. I’ve given so many benefit of the doubts and chances all this b***h wants is drama and I genuinely don’t know if she’s just insanely immature or bat shit insane or straight up dumb. She’s hot, but not hot enough that I’m going to deal with this shit. I blocked her everywhere.
Maybe I’m the one who’s nuts, but I would think if she was genuine she would approach it more appropriately. Okay, most women don’t like taking ownership of their frick ups sure. But to immediately start a fight and make absurd claims as if I’m the one who’s all over the place just to ultimately tell me we shouldn’t talk anymore? Frick that. I want a b***h who’s hot, but who doesn’t make me feel so shitty and like I’m being played with and tormented.
if she didn't fix her shit after some benefit of doubt, you *were* being played with and tormented
>I blocked her everywhere.
gj
Thank you bro. I’m genuinely mad right now. I called her father and told him to keep her in line. Probably a b***h move on my part instead of just cutting ties and moving forward like it’s nothing but whatever.
>called her father and told him to keep her in line
she made you (over)react, that's another win for her since it makes you look bad in front of her father
with b***h Personality Disorder people, depriving them of their power over you is what hurts them the most (and is most fair), which is how you can channel your anger into greyrocking/going NC
just have a look at all those ghosting greentexts and such
Yeah I regret it.
How do I come out on top. Just move on, leave it in the past where it belongs, and achieve the goals I already set for myself?
s'all good, it's just part of the journey toward learning how to handle woman personality disorder better
getting too upsetti-regretti about it is another win for her. funnily enough, it's like she's a free trainer for developing emotional stability
>how do I come out on top
if you think you can handle it, you can try to get some ass and bail, but it's most likely not worth the extra drama if you're not dying of thirst
just go NC, block her on everything, and remember that responding to her provocations is a win in her book, while being unperturbed is a win in yours
Hey thanks again man. Now I see the light at the end of the tunnel again. My only way is forward. I simply must crush my goals.
Hell yeah brotha
prognosis: daddy issues
suggested treatment: run
Lmao. Literally kaughing my ass off at this. You are so pathetic. Hung up on an ex… I tell my exes to eat shit and die and go frick someone new. Do that you gay
dude you're letting her drag you into the woman battleground: the argument and israelite sophistry/pathos tricks
she'll continue to frick around with you for as long, and as much as you let her get away with it
if you don't want this, go NC or grey rock or whatever, but giving her things she can use ain't gonna help you out of this
Cut your losses, this is BPD behavior.
She WILL frick up your life.
I just wanted to spit out a whole tirade how It seems like a incapable of anything and failed person like a failed state, but is it actually any helpful to b***h and moan? I'm 31 yo, I just wanna change myself and can't keep a word given to myself. I believe that our consciousness and ego/identity is not the same. Ego/identity is just a trail of previous actions. You can be determined for 2-3 minutes and almost start being productive and then you slip into good old degenerate behaviour for infinite time again.
Found an interesting job, w great team and fricking it up. Got myself serious depression, didn't train properly for a month. Wfh, so has become house dweller and becoming philosophical about how one can change himself. Nietzsche giving me some hope, that you have to try overcome and not become a nihilist.
Been fricking sick with some viral infection. Have had a fever for a week. Doctors said they can't find anything wrong with me. The pressure in my head is insane, my ears constantly ringing. I was on a great weight loss track and lifting. If I try to walk, I'm immediately exhausted. Fever goes in between 99.5 f and 103f. It's been a week of this shit. And the idea of having to start all over at the gym is exhausting to think about while being sick. But I am going to stick to it. Being sick for a whole week or more fricking sucks. On top of that, I have two little kids also fricking sick.
get ginger and put it in your tea with lemon
give a prayer to God you will be alright godspeed
Got a speeding ticket when my budget is already extremely tapped.
is it easy to not speed?
Its not easy to not speed when law enforcement never enforce it in my town since their police department is half staff. I made the wrong choice driving through a white neighborhood. Fricker almost caught me reckless. He was pissed that I wasn't reckless driving.
>when law enforcement never enforce it in my town
sounds like you took a risk you could have easily not taken while in a precarious financial situation (I've done it too)
disciplinemaxx: if getting a ticket would be rough, drive below the limit so they can't catch you on that one at least
>was supposed to go out with some friends tonight to this festival thing in our city
>everyone said "ok" yesterday
>today the two girls who have boyfriends, said they couldn't girl
>One of them actually said that if the other girl wasn't going neither did she.
>My guy friend said "We'll hang out another time then"
just...it's impossible to set anything up with women. Btw, these are the same female friends that have never introduced me to their hot friends. humm
Anyhow, I asked my cousin if he wanted to go tomorrow, so let's get it .
>the two girls who have boyfriends, said they couldn't girl
trans aint easy
>>One of them actually said that if the other girl wasn't going neither did she.
they're fembrained alright
>have a slew of shit I could get fired for if anybody cared to look, but nobody's cared so far
>stressed about it a while, good job, like it a lot, just did some dumb shit
>Have begun to accept the possibility I'll frick this up too
>Of going back to seeds and stems again
>Of going from steak to beans
>Of being ground back down into fine powder, and dusted on someone's jeans
>I'm fine with whatever happens now, I think
>There ain't a wave that'll keep me down
>I'll still go the gym
>I'll still beat the tide
>I'll still wake up, my legs will still work, my arms will still swing, my mind will still think, and I'll have to keep going, ain't another choice in sight
>So if it happens, you know what, it happens and that's that
My 10yr old dog needs a tumor cut off his spleen. My dad is getting old, talks about his tinnitus, talks about a big CEO who blew his head off about it. That worries me. Whatever happens to me, I'll be fine, it don't compare
I'd like to fade away some days, but the truth is I have to stay in my hole. I got the life I have. Hemingway said something about everyone should live their damndest, even if they're a bench warmer or third fiddle. Leave me to gather that I will have to just enjoy the ride, no matter my place, no matter my role. We all gotta sing and dance until that curtain chops and leaves us in the dark. Dance you bastard monkey dance.
Fricked up my foot, it's not broken or anything, but I probably can't work out for a week.
I did get some vicodin which I'll stretch out for months.
I am quite sad today, guys. I don't know what I am supposed to do or desire. I keep lifting and it's great, it's great to see my strength and body progressing. Yet, I still feel stagnated in life.
All these precious moments are going by and I have no idea what to do with them outside the gym. The gym makes sense, but what about everything else? What should I fill my time and life with? Entertainment? Is that it? College? I am doing it and I even kind of like it a little bit, but, hell, I don't feel like that's it.
I guess people will tell me to find other people and make friends and fill my life with them, but I am not great at it. I try, I tried all my life and I am honestly tired of it. It's too hard for me.
Is there something else I can do or search for?
holy frick i feel this so hard rn. I don't know what I want to desire anymore.
Connect with the people in your life, spend time with them, especially those where that time together feels better. Experience life in general. Hone a craft.
I'm completing my first developmental edit of my fiction book. at 130k words now. I like the story, but it really hangs over my head and drags on me as to how much work I really have left to complete a product that I am happy with. And there are some big changes I'm going to make so that the story is better and the characters are developed properly. But it's just so much typing. Can't wait to finish this and never write a book again.
Man, I feel you. I can only imagine the work this must take. I always contemplate th idea of writing a book, but that shit is way to much work, time and effort. If I ever write something, may it be poems
7 months since my last relationship and 1 since the girl I was talking to didn't work out
Want to start shooting off some messages and get back to finding a girl
But also on a cut, sleeps been bad, not a lot of motivation and I know I'm not on the top of my game
Need to spend the energy I do have keeping up on work
Still have at least 5 weeks till I hit my target weight
I just want a cute committed gf to hold hands with while she sits on my face
>water as always
so... i got invited to a party with the girls and boys of the boxing club... The issue is that its been years since i went to a party. And even then i almost never went...
should i try to make a move on one of the girls or should i keep my dick outside the gym people to avoid awkwardness?
frick that b***h and frick the awkwardness too
>
I just got paid 2 days ago. After rent, utilities, electric I went from about 1200 to 100 USD. Still gotta get gas ,food and this has to last me another 12 fricking days. Only thing i'm looking forward to is a job interview to bump me up to $20 a hour. Guys how to cope with being such a poor gay? Well I guess rope is only 20 bucks...
maybe freecash dot com
You can open brokerage accounts as part of some of the promotions and find some extra money that way.
They'll pay like 25 bucks for robinhood opening, 40 bucks for webull opening, and a bunch more if you do the stuff for casinos. just make sure you're not using a vpn or cookies.
cookie blockers*
Whiskey please.
I have been questioning my own sanity lately.
I don’t know why, but I don’t have much attachment to real life things and individuals.
A friend of mine could die, and I wouldn’t care.
A known relative could die, and I wouldn’t care.
I only care about my sister and parents, but the rest are just things that can be discarded.
I know this sound edgy as frick, but I really hate myself for this lack of attachment. (Though, my dad pointed it out that my sister and him have it too)
Anon I'm not sure if you actually have experienced a loss of someone you thought you felt nothing towards but if not then odds are that your disconnect comes from not actually processing what it'd be like. If not then spending time around, and having deeper conversations with people aswell as spending less time on the internet helps with empathy
>t. autist who thought the same thing then had a family member die and realised I care more than i could've known
Water, please.
Just got back from a Denver trip with the wife, had a harder time keeping up with my diet with all the celebratory food but I managed until the last day, my "cheat" day (I generally don't cheat because I definitively do the slippery slope thing with food). Got me a Hopdoddys burger, and christ alive the calories on that thing were fricking astronomical.
Also learned the positive side of peer pressure, we went to visit my wife's family and at one point we all discussed the idea of doing a group couch to 5k and 10k afterwards. My wife didn't want to, but eventually gave in because everyone around her was doing it - I wasn't expecting to get her to exercise so soon, so this is a nice bonus.
It's why stuff like the local church (or equivalent) is good at keeping the whamen in check
Bros there is a hot Latina girl at my gym. How do I talk to her?
Tell her that she's pretty and has good form, but say it in Spanish.
My wife is mad at me for drinking too much, so I'm going to drink more.
Club soda with lemon.
I keep putting off my drive and discipline for life. Porn addicted, being lazy at my new job, slacking on personal projects, not making an effort to socialize. I get stuck in paralysis by analysis and im ruining my life and feel stagnated. It's also not fair to the people who believe in me and helped me get this far.
I want to talk to someone, but my dad gets annoyed and already has high blood pressure. My friends have their own issues and I'm not sure they would care. Even therapy hasn't worked, they're just as messed up as I am and it's up to me to get better anyway, so why pay someone to listen to me b***h about my problems? I'm 27 and still feel like that awkward chubby 12 year old who acted like a victim all the time.
Self bump, would like some other man's perspective
Do you have any passions or at least hobbies? With all that money, it wouldn't hurt to throw yourself into a project that could get you out of your comfort zone. Also consider volunteering, it gets you out of your own headspace being of service to others.
I do have passions/hobbies but I'm torn between doing the "financially responsible" thing and investing that money and buying a 4x4 - an extremely dumb financial choice but something I think will help my mental health (provided it's not a complete shitter and won't end up costing big $ in the short term. Which is possible with a risky purchase such as that)
Been a bit up and down lately.
Overall I just don't envision a timeline where I don't kms, most likely at the end of the year
Do you need a friend?
Don't know what I need any more.
>28
>100k savings, but inflation's cucking it all away
>Terrible lifts
>Social & sex life could be worse, but both feel unsatisfactory
>Career is floundering
When I was trying hard, it was hard to define why. Have just stopped trying in life. Nothing feels worth it. Doesn't even seem like there's a pathway to living a happy, fulfilling life
>When I was trying hard, it was hard to define why. Have just stopped trying in life. Nothing feels worth it. Doesn't even seem like there's a pathway to living a happy, fulfilling life
I'm 31 and in my recent severe depression and suicidal thoughts phase that started when I turned 30 and is still going today, I realized that I've literally never had any goals in my life. Not to be social, not to have a good career, to have property, nothing. My entire life has just been going day by day with no foresight or motivation to work towards anything
Same here, I’ve never had any aspirations. I am 25 and have never even had a job. I have no hobbies or interests either because all I did in my school years was play video games and even they aren’t interesting to me anymore. I just sit at my computer all day waiting for the day to end.
Further to this. Rage and sadness used to fuel my workouts. I don't feel anything any more. Have started doing more cardio and feel bursts of this, which help my effort. But overall I just feel overwhelming apathy. I'm in a position to buy a house but can't be fricked going all the way with it. Sought finance etc., but deep down I feel like I'm not going to stick around so wtf is the point. It's all just going through the motions for nothing
I know fit is huge into nofap. I am considering doing it not because it will really help me in any way, but because it is getting really distressing seeing my very large penis when I ejaculate and thinking about how I'm a kissless virgin over 30 years old and have never used this penis for anything besides jerking off and pissing. My dick is so large and rock hard when I cum and it just sits there shooting it into a towel. I'll never have a girl sucking it and being amazed at how big it is or anything like that.
>kissless virgin over 30 years
If you have an income, do nafap for two months than aim for a right out of college girl. I met my wife when I was 28 and she was 21.
How did you meet her?
Her older sister had a party and she was wallflowering. I was already pretty hammered so I went balls to the wall taking about anime and shit (LOGH) and she thought it was earnest and charming. Seven years later and we're married.
This shit looks pretty gangsta. Happy for you anon.
im too ashamed and humiliated of my life to talk to any women
its not monstrously huge its only like 7 7 and a bit. it just looks verybig
Having a very large penis (> 8 inches) isn’t a good thing for sex. You’re never going to be able to penetrate fully or forcefully because you’ll hit her cervix before your thighs even touch. She’ll never be able to deepthroat you to the hilt. For most girls, it’s just going to be painful and not in the pleasureable way. You’ll have to stick to size queen niche fetishists.
I had a concussion about a month ago and I'm having bad lingering effects from and I'm really worried.
What kind of effects?
Paranoia mostly. It's gotten so bad I've considered suicide a few times
It's nothing to have a nice day over anon. Have you been seeing a doctor or therapist about this?
I've tried therapy but it hasn't been very helpful. I'm considering seeing a neurologist but that would cost an ungodly amount of money so I'm hesitant to
I see the dilemma you're in and I offer you two things, if you can't afford the doctor then you can afford to listen to the Bible anon. I know it's cliched and over done but there is a certain calming power to it that's helped me through thick and thin. I suggest starting with NKJV, it's a bit easier to understand. Here's a link to a dramatized version with a dark screen so you can listen to it while you're sleeping:
Otherwise if you don't want to listen to it, you're going to have to learn how to live with it. I'm not a doctor or a therapist so I can't give you more than simple advice like this.
finally started talking to girls on tinder. idk if it's newfound confidence but it's nice. don't know if it'll lead to anything but at least I feel like less of a b***h
going to a wedding in a few weeks, got my suit ready but still having difficulty pairing a fragrance with it. It’s an evening wedding in hot weather (+90F) and I’ve never been to a wedding in heat this hot.
I have the following fragrances
>Yves Saint Laurent Y
>Yves Saint Laurent Le Homme
>Polo Red
>Dior Sauvage
>Dolce and Gabbana The One
>Tom Ford Ombré Leather
>Tom Ford Oud Wood
picked up a travel size of Tom Ford Tobacco Vanille, really liked it. Any recommendation? IST is terrible for anything not niche
just put on deodorant
Go Tobacco Vanille
My motherfricking man. But yeah evening wedding? For sure the Tobacco Vanille. Great night scent.
To my nose it suits the evening timing + warm weather. But also...I'm this guy, so I dunno if you wanna trust my opinion
I’ll give it a go, I’m assuming I might have to ease on the quantity since it’s strong
Y is great and fresh/spicy
Replace Homme with La Nuit and you’ll have a sexxoo scent that would be great for the wedding.
D&G The One is SEXXOO but weak projection; no one will smell it besides the bridesmaid you’ll bang and even then you’ll probably have sweat it out by the end of the evening. It’s better as a scent to wear when you know you’re sealing the deal with a lady.
I think Tom Ford is mostly overrated but for a wedding I’d prob pick the Tobacco Vanille. Dont wear Oud unless you’re going to a sword flinging arab wedding. My favorite tom ford is Noir Extreme.
appreciate the input, I'll have to try La Nuit out. Y is my daily fragrance, went to happy hour with coworkers today and it was surprising to hear them tell me they smell it on me after hugs
Sauvage wasn’t my choice, it was a gift from my mom and I’m too stubborn to toss it away. I loan it out to friends if they need a fragrance when we go out, mostly to get rid of it, but also to help attract more people my direction because of the lack of offensiveness
>giving out decoy frag
Smart guy.
Y is a great daily. Would work as an evening scent but there’s more interesting stuff out there.
La Nuit is better than Homme in every way. Homme just looks and smells like white wine to me. La Nuit is very sexy and it’s my signature, though I wanna try to cop Jazz Club and Bleu de Chanel
Forgot to mention, throw Sauvage in the trash. Such an NPC meme and doesnt even stand out or smell particularly good
just water, buddeh
>15
>be total fgt , vidya all day erry day
>be in some school rock band
>get first gf because of this
>absolutely disaster, never cared, we didn't even fricked. it was nice to see girls liked me
>get second gf
>played vidya together, again never cared, we fricked at least
>cuck her with first gf
>went back to second gf, she didn't wanted me back and cucked me after a while
>felt bad because I ended alone but karma i guess
>22
>college
>get third gf
>first year was literal porn dream: sex all day, fantasies, alcohol, drugs, lingerie, screams. she did everything with me
>after that, started being a complete prostitute but didn't wanted to end it because of wild sex
>after almost 10 years of bullshit
>she tried to kill herself because bpd
>we fought her dad together once
>had an abortion and didn't told me
>probably cucked me on daily basis
>realize I don't deserve this shit so finally man up and end her
>after almost 2 years I still miss her
>some therapist said that I was "victim" of a narcissistic bpd person because my mom was shit with me
>felt like shit after I realized deep down, she was right
>consoom IST , rsd, pua, mtw , tate, mansphere bs through the way
>realized women are not worth it and most of relationships die after 1-2 years tops
>meet 2 more girls: ghosted one after we fricked , the other one ghosted me after we fricked
>today I literally made some girl cry at work because the "no simp" mentality that is literally ingrained in my brain now
>as I write this I thing I crave the feeling of women crying and suffering because of me
>realize i'0m the very same fgt but a sadistic fgt instead
>next step is getting my own place and then calling my ex gf back just to frick with her a couple of months
we all gonna make it bros
just make sure it doesn't break your soul
>next step is getting my own place and then calling my ex gf back just to frick with her a couple of months
King. Bpd girls are an absolutely wild ride and I would have it any other way.
wouldnt*
I don't deserve this shit so finally man up and end her
brutal
you sound moronic
How pathetic of a human you are becoming, fix your shit loser
Whatever you have that will make me unconscious please.
>I will never find love
>I will never have friends
>I will never get a job
>I will get alzheimers from the vax, but won't have anyone to forget
>30 years old
>have never attended a wedding
>have never attended a funeral
>have never worn cologne
>have never worn a suit
I told them single or couples, and that's it. You get two egress windows, but we don't do that because you know what? It's not the same space. It's the Chareston baby! People from California just won't understand. They want over $200,000 for it, but we don't have debt.
Double shot of whiskey please
>33 single dad with 2 kids
>meet 19 yo cutie
>she is into me but has bf
>we talk a lot and flirt but it won’t go anywhere as long as they are together
>starting to affect me mentally
I’ve never had a problem with women. I could easily just stop talking to her and find someone else but I don’t want to. She isn’t like most zoomie women I’ve met recently and she is insanely attractive. Probably just going to wait it out and hope I don’t lose my fricking mind first.
>33 year old single dad
>trolling for 19 year old bawds
stop it loser
Thanks for the input anon. I’ll keep that in mind.
Actually curious how did you meet and start regularly talking to a 19 year old at 33? Did you go back to college or something? I hear stories about this but never believe them becuase it kind of sounds like bullshit
>I hear stories about this but never believe them becuase it kind of sounds like bullshit
its actually extremely common on fit to be single in your 30s and fricking the hottest teenage girls. its shocking really.
You didn't answer my question, how did you meet her? Are you some weirdo hanging around colleges? Do you have a wagie job where you met her? Did this 19 year old get into a bar with a fake ID? What is the story?
That wasn’t me but I didn’t go out of my way. She was all over me in class and we eventually started talking outside of class. What fricking moron would say no to that?
Ya I started my degree like 5 years ago just taking night classes. Met her in my class before graduating this semester.
I feel like this is sarcasm but regardless we aren’t fricking. Some chics are just into older dudes.
Gotcha. Hope you finish your degree soon anon. I'll say I wouldn't want other guys talking to my girlfriend and I'm guessing you feel the same way. Plus, if she's talking to you while dating someone else she'll do the same thing to you
>she’ll do the same thing to you
Kek this exact thought has crossed my mind. I’m not looking for anything serious. Me and my kids mom split like 6 months ago and I was hoping for an easy frick and kind of just got caught up in more I guess.
GF finally gives me permission to sleep with other girls due my high libido. I love her to bits but sexual compatibility is a big deal for me.
Found the opportunity to hookup with a 8/10 chick but ended the convo before it could go any further. Don't know if my libido is dying, feeling guilty, or etc.
youre a pathetic degenerate and so is your "girlfriend"
Fat lesbian confirmed unless body is posted.
>workout, done
>hawaiian bbq, ate
>shit, taking
>shower, next
It’s a gamer night Friday lads
>28 years old
>own a home and rent out the rooms
>comfy remote job in low cost of living area
>broke up with girlfriend one month ago because I found out she slept with married men before. (And lied about it cause she was still talking to one as a “friend).
>break up with her because this board has redpilled me
>unironically disgusted at sex now
>30 day no nut/no fap since we broke up
>feel stern and serious all the time when I’m alone
>pretty positive and upbeat when I’m with friends
I’m talking to her again in august bros. I miss her every day. She wants me back so bad. The disgusted feeling I have for her will never go away. We probably will not be together.
>>28 years old
>>own a home and rent out the rooms
remote job in low cost of living area
what does any of this have to do with the rest of your post? why do people like you always need to brag about your wealth?
Because literally the only thing autistic STEM engineers/programmers like that guy have in their life is their WFH careers and income. It's the main source of pride
*only
source of pride
To paint a broader picture of me. where you can know some parts of my life are good but relationships are still confusing. Some things money can’t buy.
>entire comment crying about your girlfriend
>btw everyone i own a home that i rent out and have a remote job where i have low cost of living, just fyi i am rich and never have to leave my house either, just wanted you all to know
>sits here judging everyone who posts
And what else are you doing with your life? Money is a measure of a man’s choices. I’ve made good ones and also bad ones. The bad ones are female usually.
>comment
Black person
>why do people like you always need to brag about your wealth?
Because it's made up. Search the archives. It's been proven most of the people make shit up like that to demoralize regular posters.
It's friday night. Perfect time for third world homosexuals to shitpost and demoralize. Ignore it.
A vodka pls
I have no idea on how to cope after one of my family members became a prostitute.
I was lurking those days in a scort website and saw a cousin of my family announcing her "services" for 500$.
I am strongly considering changing my last name to avoid association.
my grandma died and didn't do my regular pushup routine
i'm 27 years old and i'm stuck at another dead end job.I think my will to live is dying everyday but i never noticed it. I'd never dare turn back, because it hurts.
but today is one of those days
turn bk to what
Sorry about your grandma anon. Hope things get better for you.
thanks anon
i just became 1 year sober. No drinks, nothing.
but maybe just this one. I dunno.
sometimes i feel like i just woke up in this body after a long sleep.
You’re welcome. Btw the drink won’t help. It’ll just make you feel worse. Do what you gotta do though.
>t. 7 years clean from a heroin addiction.
I'm sorry anon. I truly wish your grandma had done your regular pushup routine.
thanks for the joke anon, you brighten my evening. Just a bit
how would you deal with grief and time then. I wouldn't say i'm wallowing in my own self pity, but i have done a lot of reflection in this evening than i did in 27 years
Staying busy usually helps me. It doesn’t have to be productive, just something to take your mind off things. Drinking will help for a few hours but it eventually will just make things worse again. Sometimes even just having a good cry can help when you feel extremely overwhelmed with emotion. A death of a loved one isn’t easy but I promise drinking won’t help shit.
As someone who has lost many family members and friends, descending into hedonism to make yourself feel better is the worst thing you can do. Be good to yourself by taking extra time out of your day to make your favourite meal or go on a walk in nature at sunset or sunrise rather than by falling back into your old habits thinking they'll bring you comfort. Even if you aren't religious think about your grandmother looking down at you, acknowledge that she would want you to be happy and healthy, and try to make her proud.
I need a whiskey and coke.
Been having a rough time of it lately. Three weeks ago I had a seizure, and ever since the world's come crashing down on me - I went and got an EEG, and got an epilepsy diagnosis the same week. I can't drive anymore and it's making me depressed. Mother constantly worried for me, doctors trying to pressure me into taking meds.
The worst part is I don't even think I have epilepsy. I've been doing research and none of the signs and symptoms match up, and that's on top of the fact that non-epileptics can have seizures too. But I feel so claustrophobic, like the world is trying to lock me away into a padded cell and never let me live my life and be independent, and it's really taking a hit to my morale. Last week I spent the whole 7 days doing nothing but self-destructive hedonism. which made me feel even worse.
I'm genuinely considering just stepping outside the law and just living my life as it was before the seizure and drive again. I can't work and I can't be autonomous if I can't drive. It fricking sucks. This whole thing sucks.
I developed psychosomatic seizures for a period of a few years a decade ago, so if that's what you think it is, here's my little spiel:
I eventually fixed it myself through intense introspection, reading lots of philosophy, and a particularly effective LSD trip. Realized that it would occur due to a triggering event, usually something which brought up past trauma. I was mostly fixed after going into a meditative trance on a LSD trip and had the whole "God tells me what to do to fix myself" moment (as someone who considered themselves atheist, lmao), but still had a few minor seizures after that. Probably took 9 months or so for me to fully recover after that point. What helped the most besides having a particularly lucky psychedelic experience:
>EXERCISE!
>healthy diet
>smoking cigs/weed? stop
>limit masturbation to once every few weeks
>trapped in negative relationships? free yourself
>read stoic philosophy, nietzsche/dostoevsky, ancient hindu/buddhist philosophy
>meditate on the nature of existence
>meditate on the potential of humanity
>meditate on YOUR purpose you wish to create
Shit's complicated, the cause of psychosomatic seizures (anecdotally) is due to a whole constellation of factors which create the environment in your body and mind to facilitate seizing as an adaptive response to trauma. It's kind of like a protective mechanism, like an animal playing dead, going haywire. So the way to fix it is to remove the need for that mechanism by adapting in different ways and ultimately creating the body/mind environment that allows you to discover and build new coping mechanisms for that past trauma. Hope it helps anon, godspeed
>been talking with coworker for a while
>have lunch together, go for walks, chat all the time in each others offices
>she has someone that she calls her “friend” and sometimes “boyfriend” but constantly switches between them
>her and I make plans to get drinks
>tells me she’s excited to hangout more then says “friends <3”
Am I psyching myself out that I have any chance of anything beyond friendship? I can’t tell if she’s teasing me or if I’m just moronic and seeing what I want to see. Im fine staying friends but I’m still a guy and wouldn’t mind more, nawmsayin
>someone that she calls her “friend” and sometimes “boyfriend” but constantly switches between them
she's looking to either
a) upgrade
b) use you by leading you on
or c) she doesn't have a bf, and is sending mixed signals
some women, istg
Why not just be forward and ask her upfront? Women like to be led.
update: we’ve been chatting all day and she’s asked me to hangout twice for different things. Im excited for the near future 🙂
Be upfront you fricking coward.
And say..?
why would you be interested in a woman like that?
she sounds like a snake from what little you've told me, engage at your own peril
>everything is going great
>finally have a week off
>visit hometown
>snap ankle first day here
>all my plans here are fricked
>can't exercises lower body for 6+ weeks
nice
This will be a minor blip in your overall fitness journey. Make sure you get back at it when you’re healed.
>he didnt do weighted ankle rotation extensions
IM TIRED OF ALL THESE DYELS
>new gym manager
>it's a w*man
>she squats 3.5pl8
>training to go armed security
>can only afford to go to the range once a week
>my aim is getting better, slowly, but i still jerk my hand when i squeeze the trigger
>people are starting to ask why i haven't got the job yet
Feels bad. This dude in my hiking group made a little snarky offhand comment about it the other day and it pissed me off. It's none of your business motherfricker, I wasn't talking to you. Your homosexual ass has never shot a gun in your entire life. He always makes these little comments to people just to chip away at them & I usually ignore it but this shit has been stressing me out and it just wasn't the time for it.
Frick that guy, I'll help you out. I shoot a lot and I'm actually armed sec too
>flinch and how to mitigate it
Basically you're tensing up and subconciously breaking your wrists down causing you to shank shots low.
>grip, the most important fundamental followed by trigger control and sight alignment
>efficient trigger reset
>sights and predictive/reactive shooting
Look into Ben Stoeger's stuff with reactive and predictive shooting. Ben is also one of the big instructors for dry fire and practical shooting in general, he knows his stuff when it comes to dry practice and it's insanely important.
>doubles drill
Good exercise to play around with your grip, trigger control etc and see what outcome you get based on what you're doing.
Hope some of these help
Im starting to get over my ex i think. I dont know how to meet people now though, we were together for 3 years. I downloaded hinge but i dont get it, what am i suppose to say to get a response? Im not expecting a ton of matches but theres gotta be some strategy to get my foot in the door.
I dont think i like dating apps and i wish things were better.
>forgot my gf’s birthday
>she’s rightfully so pissed off
>pick her up yesterday saying to bring clothes
>still pissed off in the car
>”where we going anon?”
>refuse to tell her
>she starts becoming all giddy
>go to this restaurant she loves
>afterwards go to fancy hotel room i reserved
>literally jumped my bones as soon as we stepped inside
>has been very affectionate and caring since
women become so predictable
That's cute af. She sounds like a good gal, didn't hold it over your head when you fixed your mistake.
>broke up with gf, mostly friendless and socially awkward
>28 years old, move home with parents to save money and study for certs so I can get a new job
>decide to be more social, try to meet women
>4 months go by, make a few more friends and get some experience dating women
>realize that I've spent so much fricking money socializing and dating. I have not met my savings goals
>have not met my physical goals because I've started drinking more
>have not even gotten lucky with any of the women I've taken on dates
>realize all of the time that I wasted on this shit
God I've wasted these last few months on fricking BULLSHIT. I need to lock the frick in and dedicate myself to the monk-mode. This desperate attempt and normie-dom was fricking pathetic. It has distracted me from my higher priority goals, and I've use it as an excuse to not be stricter with my budget, schooling, and the gym.
Life is about balance and I have not been balanced. I'm a grown fricking 28 years old man still worrying about this shit. I need to get a fricking grip.
FRICK.
Anon me and you are in the same boat. It sucks feeling stuck and like your spinning your tires but it sounds like youre moving in the right direction.
I totally failed my last semester after i got broken up with. It set my plans back a year because of some of the classes i need to retake.
The worst for me is i dont feel established in any facet of my life. Job sucks, ive got years of school ahead, no money, no support system anymore. Im getting ground down a lot faster than i expected but ive got no one else to blame but the man in the mirror.
Sounds like you are going through something tougher than me to be honest bro. Thanks for the kind words, and I wish you the best on your journey. It will all pay off in the end if you stay consistent and keep yourself responsible.
Not tougher, just different. Sorry i just b***hed about my life. Keep it up and good times will come. Thats what i think youve gotta believe anyway.
Good luck pal, im rooting for you.
>Sorry i just b***hed about my life
no need to be bro that's what the thread is for. Best wishes for you too man
>realize that I've spent so much fricking money socializing and dating. I have not met my savings goals
got another one, chabers!
Lads does anyone have experience with a biceps tenodesis surgery?
The surgery entails relocation of the long biceps tendon to the humerus bone...
I want to play baseball again and I'm 27
I was a mediocre pitcher but I just want to get back into it playing in an amateur league.
I'll be in a sling for 4-6 weeks and full recovery takes atleast 4 months...
Man I just cannot fix the pathways in my brain. I've always thought that I'm saying and doing something wrong. I'm 26, and every single little interaction I've had since 12, I overanalyze and think that I said something cringe. I always think that people secretly can't stand me, and that they talk about me behind my back. I isolate myself because of it then feel lonely. I've been trying to get better by meeting new people.
Just recently, I went to a new friend's birthday dinner, then to a game night at their place. I had a decent time there, but ALL I can think about is how I got a pity invite and how nobody there actually liked me. I met this friend through my brother, so I'm insecure that I'm just a pity little brother associate.
There's a girl I've gone on a few dates with. I'm paranoid that she's just using me for attention and food, even though we've been on cheap dates and talk for hours.
It's just fricking tough man, I want to get better but it's taking so fricking long to get right. It's exhausting.
Just wanted to vent.
I member being like that. Not surprising, given my childhood. Got better on that front over the years, probably by having more situations that contradicted the self-cucking narrative. Good on you for being ahead of me with the girls, compared to when I was your age.
Yea, I was bullied for being fat in middle school. I hit puberty and bulked up but I never healed because I was scared to put myself out there. Thanks though, it's good to know it can get better. What do you do to help?
>What do you do to help?
you have to replace the mental frame that's been there for so many years due to trauma. It's by no means easy but it requires active and conscious effort. You have to realize and tell yourself in an honest way that framing social situations as "they don't even want me to be here right now" is a lie that you are telling yourself. It's a coping mechanism that served it's purpose but has absolutely no benefit to you now. Your mind does that because that's what it learned to do in response to trauma to avoid it in the future. Can't be traumatized if you avoid social situations altogether - checkmate socialites!
So first, you recognize the automatic framing that occurs in your mind. You observe it when it happens, and then you override it with a different, positive framing. Again and again. Slowly over time, with conscious effort, you can adjust to a positive framing. Given enough social situations there's still going to be moments which would reasonably reinforce the former negative framing - but those situations should be the exception, not the rule. It's going to be a mix of conscious effort on your part to sort of rewire your brain (which is difficult), and going into the right social situations which will reinforce that rewiring. Good luck
Were you abused or bullied as a child?
I'm exactly like you, same age even.
I'm just now unpacking how my insecurity in the present was programmed into me when I was little. Being made to feel unwanted when you're a child fricks you up long-term.
FWIW I've begun recovery work and found people to talk to who have recovered. You can fix the damage that was inflicted.
Are you me?
I'm driving for seven hours today. Do you guys have any good spooky audiobooks to recommend?
Holy fricking shit bros, my mother dreads to see me. i have a bigger sister and she is always favoring her. doing everything for her and she negleted me like a motherfricker. i even do some work for her and just pays me and doesn't talk to me and every interaction with her is just a small talk. Shit is insane. Btw i make my own money and buy my own food but i get literally zero support.
Im i a whiney b***h or in the right?
Why are you asking moral support from a Mongolian basketball forum?
You are not obligated to talk to your mother if your mother doesn’t want to talk to you
>You are not obligated to talk to your mother if your mother doesn’t want to talk to you
all im saying is that im treated unfairly while i was the succesful one in the upbrining. my sister is 34 with bpd and she still gets milked by my mother while they neglected me and never ask me if im ok
That’s just how it is, man.
Shit like that happens more than you think.
We can do nothing but suck it up.
Going to break up with my girlfriend of 2 years tomorrow morning
I know she'll be really hurt and I feel bad right now
did you both found a new boyfriend?
No
Did you found an english teacher?
Test
I have no charisma. No rizz. There is nothing likable about me.
I recently talked to a zoomer at the gym and it blew my mind at how friendly and sociable he was. I'm 24 years old and was a NEET for many years so my already barely existent social skills never grew. I can talk don't get me wrong. I just ask questions and try to build up from that, but conversation never flows well from me.
Is it too late to change?
It's never too late to change friend. Social skills can be developed at any time.
Thanks anon. I really hope so. I don't know what to do to improve tho. Social skills aren't as straight forward as learning a standard skill where I can learn by trial and error. I just don't know how people can be so confident, successful, funny and likable.
I am 34 years old and I asked a girl out for the first time in my life a few weeks ago. She said yes, we've had a couple nice dates where we just chilled and talked about our life, and kissed a few times. If I can do it, you can do it.
I'm skinny fat and recomp sounds too difficult, so I'm starving myself back to starting weight. Apparently, everything I eat contains a lot of fat. And I don't know what kind of cabbage shit I need to eat when I wake up to be normal.
>cabbage shit I need to eat when I wake up to be normal.
Take psyllium husk. You'll be normal within a day or two.
Finally will get my driver's license next week. And I have already saved the money to buy a cheap used car. Things are looking up. Next up is finishing paying my debts, which aren't that bad and I'm will be on my way to move to a better and more fulfilling job.
need advice of someone whos older and made it
I'm starting to think life is only about money/power and strength, dehumanizing myself and feeling undeserving of girls or respect until I'm far ahead of the curve. Am I just overthinking it or seeing reality?
If you feel undeserving of girls in that way now, you're still gonna feel undeserving of girls later.
I'm not saying you can just wake up and be an obese slob and have women crawling over you, but you should change your mentality.
When it comes to making it, do it for yourself, not women.
Why does every girl I date always end up having a mental illness of some sort? BPD, ADHD, suicidal depression, bipolar, etc. etc. My whole dating life feels like I am a one-man psych ward always playing therapist. As a young lad I just put up with it, my kind heart thinks I can fix them, my conversation style has somehow become textbook cognitive behavioral therapy without me realizing. Looking back, they actually made big improvements in their mental health just by me being with them. I was actually a big help. But I/she still fricks up, hence them being exes.
Just got a new gf, and surprise surprise, she has recently revealed she's a wienertail mix of those aforementioned mental frickups. I'm so tired of this bros, I do not know what dating a normal non-mentally ill girl is like. Why do I attract only this kind of woman? Is every girl fricked up or it's just me?
There are two things from my experience.
First:
>. As a young lad I just put up with it, my kind heart thinks I can fix them, my conversation style has somehow become textbook cognitive behavioral therapy without me realizing. Looking back, they actually made big improvements in their mental health just by me being with them. I was actually a big help.
You are a somewhat put together person with your shit together, so while the relationship makes your life worse, it makes theirs much better. They can fricking tell. That's why they go for you, that's why stay with you.
Second:
These types of girls are 10x more aggressive and assertive than normal girls. Once you get accustomed to this, it's hard for you to pick up on normal girls. My friends would always tell me "Why didn't you go for that girl? She was cute and into you" and it's because I've been a magnet for BPD girls my whole life, so it's very very difficult for me to recognize normal flirting signs. I made it to my 30s with several long-term girlfriends, none of whom I'd asked out first.
Conclusion:
You need to make a conscious decision to pursue sane women. Otherwise you will repeat the pattern. I'm trying to break it myself.
Well at least you didn't make kids to one like I did.
now I can't even leave her without damaging my kids life
Let me continue ranting,
I am so sick and tired of always walking around eggshells worrying if the most subtle wrong word choice will set her off, tired of staying up all night to keep them from cutting themselves, coordinating search parties with her friends and family when she runs off to the beach threatening to kill herself, maintaining a clinical facade like a therapist instead of being a normal human being when she's venting.
Ah, thanks man. your reply came in while I was typing the above. You are a big eye opener. I know these types are a lot more loud and aggressive, but I never thought about being unable to pick up quieter signals from normal girls anymore. Explains why it seems I can't attract a normal girl anymore. I hope the damage to me isn't too bad at this point, I'll try to pay closer attention to those now.
I'm trying to find a way to safely end things with the 'new gf,' and go for this one quiet, shy, (hopefully) sane girl I've been crushing on for some time. But I think she's intimidated by me previously being in the company of comparatively hotter, but fricked up and aggressive girls. It's a small school so word goes around quickly.
Any advice on how to safely breakup with someone with that wienertail of mental illnesses?
>eggshells
Yeah I feel you on this. The thing is, even if you don't say anything, she'll wake you up at 1AM to start a fight anyway. You will never be able to relax, you will never be able to be yourself with these girls, and you can never fix them.
>paying attention to normal signs
It's really fricking hard, in my 30s I can do it but very slowly. If I meet a girl at a bar, I have to outsource things my friends, like I am Christian de Neuvillette and they are Cyrano, they tell me what to say or what to do. People who don't know me well think I'm actively turning down women when I do things on my own.
>crush
Throughout college, I had crushes on a few girls. Looking back, every single one of them was into me. They were constantly going out of their way to talk to me, to touch me, to be near me, but I was busy trying to dump my gf, and my gf was busy threatening suicide and getting her friends to text and call me every time.
If you're attracting hot BPD girls, you're not bad looking, you're just vulnerable to this and kinda clueless. Odds are this girl is at least open to going on a date with you. But she's quiet and shy. She won't make it hard but she's not gonna throw herself at you like a BPD girl would.
>breaking up
Never figured out a good way to do it. If we were good at this kind of conflict we wouldn't find ourselves in this situation.
But the fastest strategy I've observed is this:
Break up in person one night (ideally a Friday/Saturday night so you don't frick up work/classes), let her scream and scream and scream as she does, let it keep going until you're too physically tired to continue (because she will never stop once she gets going), then say "ok I'll stay with you" so you can get some sleep. Then do it again immediately the next morning or afternoon. She'll be too exhausted and her energy will be sapped to start a second freakout two days in a row.
Kekked at the last one, but now I'm terrified, but a man's gotta do what he needs to do.
Thanks man for the talk, I feel a lot better now. Wish me luck with my crush, her best friend is always trying to push us together. So I guess that is a good sign to go ahead. Just need to survive (literally) the breakup.
I'm considering this, and would like this, too. But sadly I only have this small window of opportunity before this girl graduates, I need to make a move now.
I think I'll be fine. I've been using my CBT on myself without realizing it to stay sane and healthy amidst all the suffering; I feel normal, no troubling distorted thoughts or potentially-lasting trauma (I hope) and I have psychologically adapted well on the fly. I'm just tired that's all.
And I have never felt tired being around this girl, she is that pleasant to me.
>I feel normal, no troubling distorted thoughts or potentially-lasting trauma (I hope)
You're biased because you're rating yourself. Try therapy and see if you can get a second opinion on your mental state.
Will do. I'll hit up my old shrink from my teenage days. I used to be really depressed myself, but Doc really helped and I got over it entirely. Been taking her lessons to heart all these days for myself and others. Thanks anon.
Maybe, just maybe, anon, you don't need another girlfriend. You need to repair yourself and build a mental bulwark against all the damage done to you in the past. No sense at all in leaping from one girl to another, since it will do everything except heal you. The loneliness will hurt, but it will make you all the stronger. Avoid caving to the pressure and go find what makes you happy, instead of waiting on someone else to provide that for you. You can start with baby steps by doing one nice thing a day for yourself (even if it isn't glamorous, like getting groceries from the store). Just take some time to recover, man.
You have a savior complex. It’s not that you attract those types, you are attracted TO them.
I refuse to believe that normal people have a "wienertail mix" of multiple mental illnesses. I'm tired of seeing this shit all over the place nowadays where apparently everyone who is normal has depression, anxiety, ADHD, some shit like that yet magically live perfectly fine normal lives with friends, relationships, family, decent job, live on their own, go to the gym, have no problem with general life upkeep living like a real adult, etc.
I'm so tired of seeing this shit.
I'm the same way. Let me guess, you feel the need to protect and take care of them?
When I met my most recent ex I remember (in my head) explicitly acknowledging every red flag she threw and they just made my feelings for her stronger.
Something about pausing her pain, even if I knew on some level that I was a band-aid on a bullet wound, was gratifying to me.
How do I stop fixating on girls that most likely won't date me. It's bad for my mental.
Give me a whiskey sour while you're at it
That used to frick me up too lol For me, I just think of them as a beautiful view that you'll pass by on a road trip. Enjoy her presence as much as you can while it lasts, but you know you'll be moving on and never looking back.
Not great. I was on a good path, <1400 calorie days, losing weight slowly. Starting drinking on the weekends, and weighed myself day after memorial day cookout. Gained nearly 20 lbs since my last weigh in. Some bloat, some an excess of fibrous food that would pass through, but no denying that my weeks of constant hunger we're just for nothing. They were worse than I could possibly imagine. Down to 0mad and <1000 calories now. Guess I can't get anywhere unless I suffer constant painful hunger.
>Guess I can't get anywhere unless I suffer constant painful hunger.
What exactly are you eating to make you so constantly hungry? You ARE loading up on protein, right?
A little rice, a little beans, and a frickload of chicken breast. Top generously with salsa and hot sauce
>finally get motivated
>it goes into overdrive
>work out every day
>feeling stronger than ever
>suddenly
>possible injury
>second rest day in a row
>feels like my entire body is turning into rust and all my gains are disappearing by the minute
>want to die
I’ll take just water, please. I don’t drink alcohol.
My uncle is friends with this mechanic. I took my mum’s car to him to fix a problem with it. He fixed it. I called the mechanic on the phone to ask him how much I owe him. I told him I’m my uncle’s nephew, and he recognised me, and asked me if my uncle was bothering me (as a joke; it’s a saying we have here). I then phoned my uncle to update him on what happened, how he fixed the car, and so forth. I mentioned to my uncle( also as a joke, just passing it on) that the mechanic asked me if he was bothering me, to which my uncle jokingly replied to me to tell him to eat shit (a joke).
When I went to pay the mechanic, I, the complete moron that I am, told him that my uncle tells you to eat shit in the most botched manner possible. The guy didn’t take it too well. I felt he was hurt by the saying. I paid him, thanked him for his work, and left. For the love of God, I do not know why I told him that. I thought the mechanic would take it lightly, seeing as the two were friends.
I’m a fricking moron. I didn’t want to embarrass my uncle, and I didn’t intend to stain the relationship between the two.
I was thinking of going to him on Monday to apologize to him. I learned my lesson: don’t ever pass a message like that forward, no matter how close people are.
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH why do I have to be such a social moron????? I just want to go back in time and not say ittttttttt.
is it normal if a girl rejects/friendzones you but still looks at your IG stories and likes your posts?
It means she wants to make sure you think about her so she can string you along for free stuff.
thanks! I never opened her IG stories or engaged with her since in hopes that she would get the memo.
We had dinner with some friends, and she stood up while talking to me, reaching upwards for something, to make sure I saw her belly button trough her cropped sweater lol. I felt like that was on purpose cus there was no need for her to get up
>beautiful Saturday
>never leave the house as usual
Can’t wait for a whole summer of this. Hopefully this is the year I kill myself
what's going on big guy?
What constitutes a happy life?
I am starting from scratch and my goals are simple. Lose fat, surpass my old college physique, move out, get a dog, explore some hobbies.
But the more I plan and look into it, it seems moving out will not be a possibility for me until after I finish school. Rent is absurd everywhere.
I’m fine working full time while in classes but even that won’t be enough with available wages. It’s pretty damn demotivating thinking I won’t leave the nest until I’m in my 30s. I would much rather live with my parents than have a roommate but I’d prefer to have my own place.
But even that overwhelming feeling of realizing it simply may not be a possibility any time soon aside, after I do achieve these things… then what? I move out as a socially stunted adult and havent really been able to date much in my 20s or do much other than school and work and I become a 30 year old gymcel with very little experience in life socially or otherwise? What, I become a recluse lifting in my garage gym and hanging with my dog? I genuinely do see the point. Where does happiness come from?
I cant find joy in things I once did like fishing, hiking, photography, reading, even video games. Largely because I have more important things to fix and need to get my ass in gear.
Idk. I feel like if I cant really socially thrive and remain socially stunted by living at home I’ll never have a chance to really meet a woman who’s worth it and have my own family.
I do have friends but Ive grown away from them. Different interests. They like going clubbing and shit, I hate it and it makes me depressed any time I’ve gone. Just isn’t my vibe.
Idk what it is I want out of life. I want to be in shape again, be moved out even if it means struggling and being financially uncomfortable at first, have a dog, take it on hiking trips with me every weekend, have a gf who has some of the same interests who isn’t like the BPD girls I’ve dated in the past.. but that’s it?
>What constitutes a happy life?
Different for every person. But I would say for most people a happy life is a handful of things. Usually having friends, having a relationship, having a decent financial situation that includes not having to worry about food/shelter/amenities and having some hobbies that you enjoy. I can't tell how old you are though.
I’m 28. I’m late to the game after some major setbacks through my 20s.
Think I am developing a crush on a coworker I stand zero chance with, but a part of my mind is refusing it to happen at the same time. I just cant deal with this shit over and over again man
>Lost a close friend a few weeks ago
>been depressed
>walking around aimlessly a lot cause I don't want to be home and I want to lose weight
>buying out a lot cause I don't want to cook
>live near a jimmy johns
>its the only thing near me that I can really fit into my diet
>getting a sandwich for lunch almost every day
>get to know the lady that practically runs the store solo
>go in there one night and she says you don't have to order anything
>she starts a convo with me
>2hrs fly by, convo finally dies so I leave
>start chatting with her when I go in there
>super chill, nice convos
>tells me I can come in around close for free bread so I do a few times
>last couple times I went in there she gives me shit about buying sandwiches too much
>assume its just banter
>go in there tonight thinking maybe ill ask her to drinks because she complained a few times her friends are never down to go out with her after work and there's a bar down the street
>she freaks out on me and accuses me of stalking her
>says she sees me walk by the store all the time
>in the morning
>in the night
>I have to walk by the jimmy johns to go to the park to walk, or to my friends apartment, or to the coffee shop, or to the other restaurants I like
>I can never go back to jimmy johns
tfw I'm a stalker because I'm depressed and like sandwiches. I feel like all the progress I made getting over my friend has just been undone. I've never been accused of stalking before, feels really shit boys.
i refuse to believe this is real. this is like one of those stories incels online say about how they never speak to women because they will accuse them of rape
forgot to mention they called the police after I left, I went to talk to a good acquaintance at her work down the street and saw them talking to the cop.
Bro I am very anti-incel, I am a very outgoing sociable guy and I get to know everyone I interact with in my area, I even have a bad rep in some places for taking too many of their employees out on dates. I've never had an interaction with a woman this negative in my life.
I was so shocked when she accused me of stalking her I really didn't know how to respond, I just kind of left stunned, didn't really defend myself except to say that I live nearby so it makes sense for me to walk by. Shit has left me kind of shook man, I'm sitting here rethinking every frickin interaction I've had with every woman in my area.
are you ugly, be honest
Honestly? from personal experience I think I'm not ugly, I wouldn't call myself a male model or anything but I have a baby face and no real blemishes, I shave my head and I think that's really my biggest set back, but I'd say I'm a 6, 7 on a good day cause I've been asked out by women quite a few times in my life and from what I see other people say that's pretty uncommon, I also get compliments like "you have a great smile" and many girls call me cute, so I'd call myself a solid 6 imo. I think when I finish cutting and have better muscle definition and no fat gut I'll be a 7 ez pz
I’m neither of the guys you’re replying to (I don’t suck wiener) but watch out bro. I have similar experiences being asked out often like you and while I’d rate myself a 6 I’ve been told and even overheard women rating me as a 7. Maybe it’s because I’m tall and have a good shoulder:hit ratio. I once posted about this and some absolute schizo went on a rant and destroyed the whole thread because
>(paraphrased) no! 7 isn’t a real rating! No one is actually a 7 you’re just like me you’re ugly!!! You’re a delusional incel!!! 7 is a rating people give because they’re trying to be nice but don’t want to make it too obvious!!! You’re ugly!!!
I abandoned the thread right after someone proved by the image file name he was using that he was a diagnosed schizo from another board. I’m sure he lurks here still.
>buzzcut hairlet
>fat gut
>baby face
>frequent eater of fast food
jealous?
should've have laughed at her and said I just wanted to taste dem sugar walls psycho b***h sayonara
happy friday anons. doesn't mean much to me because i work weekends but it's okay. i didn't get to go to the gym as much as i would've wanted this week which is affecting me mentally but i've been trying to keep up with home workouts. next week i should be able to go 4-5x which will be great and i'm looking forward to it. today i had 3 eggs, 2 slices of toast, and a banana with a glass of milk for breakfast and a tuna sandwich with pickles for lunch. might just do chicken with orange sauce and rice for dinner cuz it's quick, easy, and effective. hope you all are doing well.
Hope you're doing well too fren
Frick I have an exam tomorrow and I have to spend all day revising now because I wasted the week beforehand frick frick frick
I only have myself to blame.
Suffolk University or Reading University?
Which one's better, Brit here. I gotta choose by Thursday.
Got divorced recently. Very ronrey, but I don't know what to do about it. It's not like I don't have friends, but I don't want to be a sad sack constantly hitting friends up to hang out, plus we're all late 20's/early 30's so its not like alot fo them are hitting the town or whatever, plus most of the friends I kept in the divorce are on the homebody side of things. I'm on dating apps and stuff and get a matches with girls I find attractive but frick me if I know how to open with that shit, and I'm much too awkward to do the bar approach, also I don't want to be the lame divorced guy at a bar alone. Do I want to actually date? Am I just horny and lonely? I do not know. But the end result is I spend alot of nights alone on my couch, which isn't the worst thing in the world I guess, but over the course of months it can get kinda heavy. Also just turned 30, which adds to the ennui. I realize that is still young in the grand scheme of things, but still, spend the past 7 years with her and now I feel very untethered.
Ça Ira I suppose.
Bad thoughts only happen indoors. Bad thoughts happen when you are unhealthy and your biological needs aren't met. If your mood isn't a solid joyful/peaceful hum 24/7 there is something wrong with what you are doing. Of course outside negative circumstances can change that even if everything is perfect, but not having those standards met will make the pain of outside negative circumstances much worse. That's all I will say, go down the rabbit hole. And remember, when (if) if you stop eating processed foods, replace the calories with healthy home cooked minimal seedoil meat and other healthy calories. A mistake many make is eating few calories after removing shit from their diet. 3,000 cal a day should be the goal. No milk
>suicidal thoughts have gone from "i want to kill myself" to "i need to kill myself"
I need to get off this website, but after work, exercise, some skill practice it's all I have the energy to do
I need to get socialising again too
>Please wash your hands in between sets
You normies need to kys bunch of slack jawed homosexuals
Sorry I couldn't hear you over the sound of my boyfriend blowing me (shit is SO cash).
Maybe it's the caloric deficit, or all the HIIT cardio, or the saw palmetto, or my sudden onset of depression, but for the first time in my life, I actually have no libido. The idea of jerking off or having sex sounds disgusting to me. I think it's been two months since I've done anything sexual. I tried to get a boner a bit ago but I couldn't get it all the way hard and it kinda hurt. I should probably talk to the doctor, but honestly with a demanding career, 3 young kids, and a chronically ill wife, a sex drive is the last thing I need and it's been kinda nice, freeing even.
My girl and I are going to separate colleges, in 3 months she’ll be gone. I want to marry her, but she’ll be 9 hours away. Is a long distance relationship possible? Or will I have to accept that she’ll be gone forever? I’m very sad. Time never really was on our side.
College?
Have you learned NOTHING?
It’s a mostly female college. 3 women for every man. It’s a slim chance but it’s a chance nonetheless. Besides, I love her.
How old are you?
18
It's over, legitimately
Whiskey neat. Leave the bottle
Got stood up at my date tonight bros. Waited over an hour for her to show up. At least the waitress comped my margarita.
Love from kazahkstan
Did she confirm before the date that she was coming? Why would you wait an hour for her?
I tried breaking up with gf of 2.5 years
We're going to take a break for a month
I'm crying like a little b***h at the moment and can barely type
I was dating a single mom for 3 years and we broke up a few months ago. Most people didnt know because we work together. Today she had a birthday party for her daughter and invited my (female) roommate and not me. Like i know were not together but i really cared about and loved that kid. Ive been mostly down since we broke up but tonight im really hurting.
Gatorade or maybe a saline IV
The latest personal crisis in my life is girls' softball.
I coach my older daughter's 10u rec team, we had a decent season this spring. Won games we should have, lost games we should have, got lucky at the end and knocked off the best team in the league (a semi-travel team that plays down) where the girls were focused on the game and most had at least one breakout moment or clutch play. Ended on a high note.
League had planned on making an all-star team and playing in some travel tournaments over the summer. Get the girls together for a few practices, there is a lot of potential but as always with rec ball hard to keep them focused.
I have been down the travel tournament road before and have zero expectations, I fully understood we'd show up and get embarrassed. And we did in the first tournament yesterday, played four games and got outscored I think 52 to 7, would have been much worse if not for game time limits. Just not competitive at all, it was very hot outside, girls not into it at all. Now we're supposed to do like six more of these over the summer, I don't see it getting better. Definitely not going to get cooler. We have problems (pitching, namely) you don't fix in a month or two.
I keep telling myself this is apples/oranges. These travel ball girls do this year-round, their coaches are paid professionals who often played at high levels themselves. They are in a different class than a cobbled-together rec ball team.
And yet here I am up at 2:00 AM questioning the point of doing all this in the first place. I didn't even set out to coach, I got roped into it, don't particularly like it but someone has to do it. But what's the point when I have a low ceiling as a coach, when the girls have a low ceiling, they don't really seem to care anyway. What's the end goal? If it's to have fun, why not just stick to rec ball? If it's to get better, why not just practice all summer? We are not going to be competitive in these tournaments.
>If it's to get better, why not just practice all summer? We are not going to be competitive in these tournaments.
It's an opportunity to build mental "grit". Being able to lose gracefully and come back stronger, learn from the mistakes.
> a man who doesn't love gives no hostage to fortune, to paraphrase a great scientist.
> a man who doesn't love isn't really a man, to paraphrase you.
That's an exchange from "Altered Carbon". S01E06 to be specific.
I'm fairly drunk right now so this is fundamentally one draft. I'll read it over to prevent typos but otherwise I'm just going to vent.
When I was a child my dad kept telling me that I was the smartest and had high potential, while also being a literal sperg who would vent his sperg rage on me. Thankfully physical violence was minimal. I also had a brother who bullied me for being slower than him and being a disappointment to our father relative to him.
In adulthood I'm wracked by anxiety and feelings of inability to control the situations I end up in as well as inability to assert myself. I know I was supposed to be so much more than I am. I'm incapable of getting close to people because I compulsively sabotage my relationships out of a combination of feeling like other people view me as moronic and are just pitying me when they show me affection, and knowing that I deserve to be alone because I'm incapable of protecting people I care about or contributing anything to the relationship beyond pretending to have my shit together and acting like a rock that people can cling to (I've gotten extremely good at convincing acquaintances that I'm stable as well as reassuring people when they dump their emotional issues on me).
Fact is everyone gets tired of me eventually. I had the potential to change things and I squandered it because I'm too afraid to stand up. My own family is in shambles, my sister is a drunk train wreck and my sperg dad is a slave to his anxiety. I have no close friends, no girlfriend, I bury my nose in my uni work to stave off anxiety but that comes to an end this summer when I graduate so I'm just fricked.
I deserve to suffer. People had faith in me and I let them down at every turn.
Hit the character limit.
I can only relate to people by rapidly figuring out what they want to hear and pretending that I'm the type of person who would deliver that. If I encounter someone that I can't easily lie to (like my brother) I shut down. When I say I compulsively sabotage my relationships I mean it, I figure out how to optimally offend and alienate people and if I don't aggressively police myself and distance myself from people, I eventually act on it. It almost feels like watching somebody else say the things I say.
Anyway that's my blog.
>shut in/work from home/barely go out
>no horny
>went out last night
>today I'm horny af
how do I beat the horny today?
Im 35 and Ive met a girl off fb dating for 3 times now - first date was 4 hours in a cafeteria, second date I took her for a threatre date and we walked back home for like 3 hours and talked about life and how we see things. Last night I had her over - she was nervous at first but I cooked food and we talked for hours and hours again. I think she might be the one and I dont want to rush it at all. Meeting up on tuesday again and i finally feel motivated by potential future for the first time in my life.
How much do i have to lift to get a gf like this bros
Just be rich and have a boat bro.
It's definitely tough to find a cute black girl that doesn't talk all the frickin time anon but anything is possible if you try
talk all the fricking time? Bro that’s not the issue with black girls. They’re crazy like any woman, but they have nasty attitudes. They don’t respond well to shit other women would like you not tolerating disrespect. They think they’re men. They love toxic drama fueled shit. They’re loud and argumentative. They don’t want to let you be the man in the relationship.
I’m just not attracted to white women, and black girls seem to find me attractive so that’s most of who I’ve dated. But frick I don’t think it’s worth it anymore.
You can frick them to sleep and handle all their needs and you’d think they’d submit and be better but no, shit surprisingly gets worse when they catch feels.
Whenever I interact with a girl the first thing I tell them is that I have a gf. I regret it soon as I really wanna frick them shortly after and they want me to frick them too, but having a gf disuades them from giving in.
I still have no trouble making out with them and if I push it enough I would be able to get them to bed with me, but I try to stay loyal. However I cannot help flirting and starting physical contact. I am horny as frick all the time, want to frick every girl I meet and could frick most of them on command.
In the long run, I'm glad I tell everyone I have a gf and don't cheat on her besides some kissing here and there. But I have very little self control. I actively avoid to meet women, hang out just with men and avoid social activities sometimes in which I know there's a high chance I will try to frick someone. I'm self sabotaging my chances with other women before I meet them all the time. I wanna marry my gf and have children with her and I know an adulterous father will heavily impact their lives. If it wasn't for that I would be fricking around all the time. My friends can't present me their female friends cause I try to frick them all the time. I've never had a female friend cause I try to frick them all the time.
I just fapped twice. Last night I touched a girl's boob. She let me.
I've given up i think.
Im just too old.
I have to learn to accept that I am going to be the perpetually single one of the group.
I fricked up when i was younger now this is what i am reaping.
By the way it was my 18th birthday two days ago and nobody noticed.
I'm scared of everything unknown bros.
I realized that's the main issue in my life.
I'm scared of talking to people, of trying new things, of going to new places... I'm even scared of driving, and I cannot do it alone even after taking several lessons and teachers all telling me that I am a good driver.
is there anything I can do?
>is there anything I can do?
realize that if you don't conquer the fear you will never live at all
My wiener is too big for most women.
>get IST
>get gf
>hate gf
ok wtf guys. You said it would be fun and sexo but its basically adult babysitting 99% of the time. Are all women just annoying after more than a few hours? I miss my bros and this shits expensive too. What a waste of time
an important part of it is finding a good women. they're scarce and sometimes you'll feel like giving up on women, but they exist and are worth looking for. don't waste your time with bad womenand pat attention to red flags
It’s feeling hopeless to me. My standards are nothing crazy but it seems rare that a woman can meet them
>be attractive/cute
Literally could be a 6/10 girl, I’ve pulled 9/10s but couldn’t stand them see next
>have a couple things in common and more importantly actually like her personality wise
Last gf didn’t want to hear me speak at all and just wanted to tap my ears off about her life problems nonstop. I’m not even talking about workplace bs and gossip shit, just constantly complaining about the same shitty situations and people nonstop.
>low body count
At this point I’m perfectly fine with her having been with up to 3-5 dudes as long as none were recent.
>loyal
Shouldn’t even have to be listed as part of my standards.
Our grandfathers only had to do 1/4th the amount of work and were basically guaranteed a loyal virgin wife at 18. Now, especially with the financial circumstances in the US, we have to bend over backwards and nearly Jill ourselves just to get by so that MAYBE we can get a post wall prostitute who’s been cream pied by 15 dudes minimum who also is more than likely talking to and entertaining other dudes behind your back in some way or another.
I have a good gf and plenty of her friends are wife material. Some are single, some aren't. It's hard to meet people like them cause they don't often go outside of their circle, but I am a witness to the existence of good women.
I met mine randomly while traveling. I was trying to frick anything that moved and she was moving. There were other moving objects but obviously mostly detective since that's how women usually are. Meet many women and some day you might find a worthwhile one.
Yeah well I’m kind of fricked because I’m shy as hell, I live at home in my late 20s and unless I can get a job paying $70k I won’t be able to move out into even a 1bed where I live. Maybe if I get back in shape and go back to college I’ll meet one. But I’m doubtful.
I could have gotten laid a lot more in college off looks alone if I wasn’t so shy. But the shyness seems to attract mainly BPD girls.
Idk what to do. I don’t like the bar or club scene and I don’t believe I would meet a quality woman there. If I did meet a girl at a place like that, I just wouldn’t be able to take her seriously or relay even have too much respect for her in the first place.
So unless I go to school, which I’m not 100% sure I’m doing yet, I’m pretty much fricked.
I’m wavering between taking a risk and starting my own business and accepting being alone or going back to school to study & grow a business simultaneously.
>I’m kind of fricked because I’m shy as hell
na shyness is not the problem, that sounds as rational as someone saying that he's fricked because he's a manlet or not good looking. except you can actually stop being so shy, which would help, but there are ways to circumvent introversy.
one way is to stop being shy forcefully, such as putting yourself into settings in which you're forced to talk to people (for example, any job that involves attending people) or taking substances that uninhibit you (not the healthiest method but works for lots of people). or also just literally talking to people brute forcing the shy away
there's also meeting people in ways being shy doesn't get in the way, for example through hobbies or online. I have no idea here cause I'm not shy at all, if anything I'm rather chaotic, and while I feel some degree of social anxiety in vertain settinfs, I can be absolutely shameless and brazen in others.
What I do know, however, with absolute certainty, is that being shy is not a problem, but having an attitude like
>I'm fricked anyways
Is a dumbass way of thinking. Drop the self pity.
I made more progress in one cycle of peds, than I made in 5 years of natty lifting. Thinking about the amount of time I wasted, pain I experienced, and general quality of life I missed out on is giving me serious anxiety.
Cycle?
I've been thinking of pulling the trigger
>Dump on my gf of 8 years because love was gone and about to go long distance
>Feel fantastic and pursue female best friend who was hinting interest for months
>Bang said friend and get rejected for dating, claiming they don't want to disrespect my ex
>Continues to act coupley with me, texting daily etc
>Eventually ask for clarity, she's to stay friends
>Ex suddenly arrives back in the picture, doing really good and checks in
>She's moved on, hooking up with someone new
>And I'm back to the beginning with a damaged friendship and a ex who is overly the breakup
I'm pretty scared bros
>go on 4 separate dates this week
>all 4 of them ended up being way heavier than their pictures
Fukken shitty lads. Been out of the gym all last week since I got sick, but I'm better now so I'm gonna go blast it tomorrow after work. Was talking pretty steady to a girl too but had to cut her off because she kept disappearing on the days we agreed to go out. All in I just feel like complete shit, but I'll turn it around. Gonna go to work tomorrow, go lift, and then stock up on chicken, eggs and rice for the week. Also my body is water'd as frick and my muscles feel super flat since I haven't been lifting and just dealing with being sick.
Frick it tho, we ball
I have a coworker I flirt with and she lightly reminds me of my toxic ex
I tell myself they're different people and we are not in that kind of relationship, but I still get triggered when she does something similar that my ex would do that hurt me
Like I anticipate she's going to hurt me so I pull back
So sick and tired of uni. The only "friends" I have are all dating each other now and the group only meets up when its someones birthday, where it feels awkward as frick and we have the same convos every time. I always knew the academic aspect would be tough but its really nothing compared to this social shit. Just can't seem to find anyone to relate to.