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I said I was going to start working out today and again I did nothing.
The day isn't over yet.
Give me the hardest, most frick-awful thing you got, barkeep, because I am having a shit day. Know why? Because my wife all but told me she doesn't find me physically attractive and probably never will. I put so much effort into getting fit, doing everything I can to be both happy with my physique and be her ideal male body type, all with the hope that she would one day blush and lust over me. But no, apparently that will NEVER happen, and it's sent me into a fricking spiral. Not only am I hurt that she just doesn't desire me the way I desire her, but because I am a man who has spent too much time on the internet, I can't help but see the parallels between my situation and the plots of most fricking NTR/cuckshit porn, and that scares the bejeezus out of me. I understand that a lot of you frickers are just gonna laugh at my misfortune, but I just needed to get it off my chest.
If you're gonna get cucked then just say frick it and do whatever you want. Try open and honest communication and if it don't work, well, better to go out on your own conditions.
Also post body.
>Also post body.
I don't have a picture and I won't for a while. I am not at my goal body yet, I still have a beer gut and I look like a DYEL. What threw me off the most wasn't her saying she isn't currently attracted to me physically - I wouldn't frick me as I am. It's that no matter how toned or thin I get, she wouldn't get hot and bothered for me.
Technically I have no definitive proof it's happening, but the paranoia is strong right now, especially with this new revelation.
>I find it very, very strange that your wife would tell you, in so many words, that you do not turn her on and never will, very bizarre indeed.
One of the things I love about her is that she is blunt and honest, but in situations like this it makes it a lot worse because she isn't saying it to be mean, she genuinely means it.
>If you don't have kids already
We have a one year old daughter, so divorce/separating are out (not that I want to, because I do genuinely love her - I know it sounds pathetic but it's the truth).
>kill her
It’s the only way
Or lawyer up and divorce her. Plenty of men have been divorced or cheated on. It fricking sucks, but that is instantly better than living in a cuck relationship and being okay with it. There’s plenty more women who are much better a person than her and will make you happier human being. Sorry you’re going through this anon, please don’t allow yourself to be in a cuck relationship
Believe it or not but that's actually a horse
Bait, but why would you be married to someone like that lmao
I'm not sure what to tell you. On one hand, 95% of women do not lust over their long term spouse. Although, I believe a lot of that is to do with people becoming out of shape and comfortable. I find it very, very strange that your wife would tell you, in so many words, that you do not turn her on and never will, very bizarre indeed. A loving wife would either pretend to and enjoy doing that for the man they love, or would actually be attracted to them once they're in good shape like you claimed to have achieved.
Personally, that's grounds for a serious, SERIOUS re-evaluation of the relationship for me. If you don't have kids already, I know what my decision would be. Frick living the rest of my life in a relationship with a woman who doesn't find me attractive.
Sucks. My wife has yet to even comment on my gains. Totally opposite situation from yours though as I don't find her attractive anymore... but I'm anchored w kids.
Keep doing you. There are more girls out there, and we've got the upper hand on them as far as time goes.
I'm living with this girl, have been for years. I don't find her attractive anymore. Leading is going to be rough, but at least we don't have kids. That would make it 10x worse.
That sucks man, what specifically does she find unattractive about you?
Is divorce an option, or can you just agree to frick other people while staying married for [reasons]?
Either way, don't give up, keep improving whether that b***h appreciates it or not
When she told me something similar she was about to start an affair with someone else. With someone who was shorter, fatter, less fit, who was smoking (which she really hates) etc. Fortunately, it didn't happen. However my takeaway from that story was that most women really doesn't care about the looks that much (if it's about serious relationships at least), and they are going to find that particular person attractive who they have an emotional connection with. There were other occasions, too, when we were arguing over something for months, and she said something similar what your wife said. But it's also her way to hurt me if she's mad. If she's all lovely and in a good mood she drools all over me. So yeah, try to do something about it before it's too late.
My current problem is that I've realized that she hasn't given me a bj in years, while I eat her out almost daily. When I told her she twisted the conversation in a way that it was I whi felt guilty. But she said she just doesn't like the smell, the hair, and at the end the taste. It hurt really bad. I have lost the sende of smell so I cannot judge, but I always have a shower before sex anyway. Then it was her who requested to keep it hairy. Anyway, I cut it, but she just didn't notice and still doesn't care. It hurt my confidence deeply, because we are on good terms now so it was honest. Makes me wonder whether wiener worship is just a porn thing or not, after all... I just want to be loved, man...
Anyway, take care! You've got this!
>I've realized that she hasn't given me a bj in years,
Amateur mistake, you kiss her, stand up and slip it in her mouth.
You lick your wife's pussy regularly and then wonder why she doesn't respect you.
Anon at this point you deploy frickboy manipulative tactics.
She doesn’t respect you and admitted to contemplating an affair. So frick it
Here’s what you will do
Stop eating her out. Fake sick, say you’re tired, whatever. No compliments or anything. She’s no longer someone you think of in a sexual light just some person you live with. Gradually get colder and more distant (aloof mainly).
Then start spending time alone out of the house, zero explanation as to where you were if you can help it. Maybe even “I was with a few buddies” and then ignore her if she presses you for more. Outright ignore her no response.
Never show emotion, be stonewalled and indifferent to her in every way.
Start improving your looks, get into a skin care routine spend time in the morning looking your bets before work. If she questions this, again, shrug it off and say you just “care how you look big deal.” Followed by silence.
Then you need to consider either actually cheating on her or continuing this so she does.
>optional
If she asks you to eat her out say “I don’t really like the smell but I was thinking you could throat me off this time.”
If she doesn’t, simply and calmly say “okay” and get up and leave. Go out, spend a few hours out doing whatever. Or go stay at a hotel alone for the night. Put you’re phone on do not disturb in that time. If she gives you shit gaslight and act annoyed.
The fact she told you she contemplated an affair is grounds for you to leave btw.
>she twisted it and I felt bad
Black person this is classic manipulation she doesn’t value or respect you. She only cares about her. Frick dude why are you still in this? I doubt you actually love her and you just fear being alone. Do what I said above. I highly recommend you cheat but keep all evidence nonexistent. She’ll know but she’ll have no proof. And it usually makes them act in line.
You dodged a bullet. It's fun, the sex is great, and its nice when someone notices you, but women always catch feelings and they aren't happy with the exit plan of just stopping.
>When I told her she twisted the conversation in a way that it was I whi felt guilty.
you have to improve those verbal skills b
Grim
Would you mind explaining what happened, anon?
What did she actually say?
A lot of us got negative reactions from spouses who felt threatened that we were on a trajectory that would make us "too good for them" in a few months.
First they poke fun at how much time you spend on it.
Then they subtly try to tell you it's gross to them.
Then they cry and try to make you swear you won't leave them.
Then they join you.
The owl finally got me.
I have become the owl.
>Stacy I simped for months tells me specifically that she will text me in two weeks when she comes back in town
>3 weeks and no contact from her whatsoever
give me some Slurpin' Semen buddy, I am not deserving of anything better
It's your fault. And I did the same thing. Have an ex, she was living out of town we broke it of. I meet her the other day, feel like there is still attraction and I text her later that day.
>Of course Anon, I do care about you, especially when I see you in person I remember all we had together
>You know I'm specializing surgery, I work a lot, I won't be available for 2 weeks, after that I'll text you that we get together I promise.
It's been 32 days. All this pain is self inflicted. I deleted her of instagram, I played myself. I don't have options, I don't know how to create them, that's why I get fricked over - women can smell it I swear.
>a month later
>deleted her from Instagram
The only bad thing about this is that you closing the door first, so soon after the deadline, shows that it upset you into irrational behaviour.
Of course if you are permanently closing this door and just moving on with your life this is rash but based, but it doesn't seem like you've moved on.
It's a big move to try cutting somebody out of your life who was at one point important but you painted yourself into this corner and have to own it now.
don't get in touch, don't accept any attempts to get in touch.
Thanks Anon. I just had time to reflect, and even I do miss her I just had to realize she's bad for me. She always leaves me on the sideline, always puts me in this position where I'm waiting for something. I can't do that.
Also, I wouldn't have done it, she said two weeks, now its over a month. She could've just written you know, I'm busy, I'll get to you, whatever. This way it was just radio silence.
I know she will eventually text, most likely when some dude fricks her over. But I told myself I'll just write her. "Thanks but I'm not interested anymore, you didn't keep your promise and I'm done making up excuses for your behaviour". Might be b***hy, but frick me I feel b***hy.
Good lad, this is probably a good mindset to have toward her. It is her that fricked up, I guess I just vicariously want her to feel like she missed her chance with you, and regret it, but thats just me projecting, thats where my head is at.
As long as she's out of your life none of this is a concern, you did a good thing for future anon, and i hope it feels better soon man
Thanks for the kind words Anon. I hope your life goes well as well. I wanted to marry this girl and be serious with her now but its good that she showed her cards and how she can behave
Be b***hy. It's not your fault.
I feel like I'm in a sort of similar situation, I broke up with my gf over lack of attention while she was abroad, then when she came back we kind of had attraction again and fricked a couple of times, then she lost interest romantically/physically again, then she fell in love with a guy but it didn't work out.
I went from well"she doesn't love me I'll end the relationship" to "well maybe fwb?" to "so good friends? But she's still flirty sometimes but then doesn't want to do anything romantic like kissing or sex?"
And it's getting tiresome. All this hot and cold, one day I'm feeling appreciated and attractive to her then a week later she doesn't see me that way anymore then one week later we're making out again and I'm choking her, she's into it but just doesn't want to sleep with me???
I then decided, again, that she didn't love me/wasn't interested in what I wanted and left her to her own devices which was good for like two weeks but now I'm kind of missing our connection again. Sure, the sex etc. too, but also just cuddling and talking about our lives and shit. I'm going to see her again next week probably and I have no clue how that's going to go, she constantly changes her mind (or rather, decides in the moment that now she's attracted again). I kind of want what we had (relationship of ca 2 years, was very sweet, she's really pretty and supportive and major plus has no giant bag of issues, of course not nothing just a somewhat normal human amount of personal problems).
No clue what to do. Obvious choice is to just break off contact but we have a large overlap in friend groups so I will have to see her in the future whether I like it or not. Especially seeing her from afar being cute hurts.
What do anons?
She can't text you when she's out of town? Is she texting from a landline?
It's cool, dude. A chick gave me the same line, but she was going to Germany for a month and would get in touch with me after. Best thing you can do is not text first. You don't want to seem way more interested in her than she is in you.
>She can't text you when she's out of town? Is she texting from a landline?
we were supposed to meet after she gets back, she'd tell me when
>Best thing you can do is not text first
yes, i understand this
>You don't want to seem way more interested in her than she is in you.
don't even care at this point, absolute tired of this endless hide and seek where to idiots try to pretend they care about each other but always in a panic to not seem to care more than the other
>human female says thing, doesn't follow through on it
You're a man anon, you need to learn this lesson. Women are children. They do not have a "word" you can hold them to. They will say literally anything and everything then do the opposite later. Their whims are blown about on the wind. They have no resolve.
don't know if anyone will read now but I messaged her and she had to stay for longer, so we will see each other next week
better to bite the bullet than be a blackpiller I guess
You going out for drinks or what?
we'll go out for running, that's how we linked up in the first place
it's our favorite thing together
On the house? Well whiskey on the rocks.
Doing good fitness wise. Still having some trouble waking up early on off days though.
Lets check in:
I haven't had sex since September and I don't have any options so this is not going to change anytime soon. I'm such a massive homosexual that I catch myself thinking about all the things I usually do with a girl I like, so sex is not the greatest thing I'm missing.
Be honest gays.
let us go out and meet some girls
Lemme get a big ol’ glass of ice water.
It was my birthday last week and that sunk me into a very bad manic depressive episode, it never fails.
I did enough drinking for a while this week.
I’ve had a revelation, though.
I’ve got to stop reading the news.
Being so aware of how painfully fricked we are (mostly economically) and reading about it for hours on end every day cannot possibly be healthy.
I’m constantly thinking about just how fricked I am and how I can’t change anything on this bigger scale that it’s bled into my own small life and has caused me to become lazy and boring.
So, I’m going to put my head in the sand and work on changing the little things that can actually make my own personal life better.
Maybe one day I’ll be mentally healthy enough to keep up with current events, but right now we’re fricked, I can’t change anything, and I need to work on fixing what I can and making my own life something enjoyable.
Today I woke up, walked my dog, cleaned my house, and made plans to go hang out with someone.
That’s all time I would’ve spent browsing current events and making myself more depressed.
It’s just day one, but things might be looking up.
>I’ve got to stop reading the news.
Good choice. You will lead a much healthier life not caring about things you can't change
Thank you, anon.
I’m gonna go mow my lawn and then brush my dog out, maybe give lil’ homie a bath.
Today hasn’t sucked, I hope tomorrow is okay, too.
That is a hairy beast
Damn, that happens to me around the summer/fall as well, which is around my birthday. It feels very cyclical
I did it, anons.
I haven’t looked at a single current events article, and I feel phenomenal mentally.
Brushed my dog, bathed my dog, took him for another walk, mowed my lawn.
Someone invited me out to go drinking and I turned them down.
That’s not really what I’m struggling with at the moment, but it felt like a good decision.
Literally none of my circumstances have changed, but today has felt different than those in recent past.
Let’s see how tomorrow goes.
I see no point to my efforts to be successful.
I'm fit, I have enough to by a house back home, ok career, still have my hair, extrovert. But I live in a foreign country, am short and I want to go home.
I get mired often, but 0 swipes on the apps. My friends back home have kids, some are already at their second child, some divorced. And I'm here, alone.
where are you from? where did you move to? why did you move? why dont you go back home if you have the money?
went clubbing with friends. they got substantial female attention. I didn't. wasn't completely bad though, better luck next time I guess
Taller than you?
Do they smile with teeth showing?
yes and yes
Am I supposed to be making an effort to be smiling with my teeth showing?
I laugh and smile normally (I think), I’m not trying to conceal my teeth or anything.
But if you put effort into showing your teeth I I feel like that makes you look like a moron.
Well anons I didn't know I could actually feel it again, it happened so suddenly I didn't have time to process it. I wish I could trap that feeling in a bottle like a strong cider and open it occasionally to smell the sweet aroma of it. But I know it'll just fade away like in the last six months. It was as if my heart had started beating again but I had never realized it had stopped. Or as if I could see colours again where it had seemed all faded before. It felt like a dream, I can't even be sure it actually happened. That was Wednesday, I hadn't felt it since December 21st. I'll keep the date stored in my memory with the others
All that for a 10 minute phonecall. Give me something strong that tastes nice barkeep, I want to forget how pathetic I am
Wtf are you on about?
>What did you feel?
Love. You kids will understand when you grow up
Never felt it. Am 35.
If I feel it it will be too late, wasted my life
My condolences. But if you want my honest opinion, I think it's better never to have felt it than to feel it while never receiving it back. Hard to tell tho
Hope you can find a purpose outside of it anon. Not sure which one of these posts is yours, but I wish you the best
Thanks. I will try to do everything that one should do, if the love part does not work then at least I did everything else best I could do.
Some people just miss the mark
That's the spirit anon, don't give up on life
I suspect I'll have to accept this fate myself as well eventually
Don't worry too much, even the strongest version is fleeting. It fades.
What did you feel?
I had a horrible throat/ear infection in the middle of the fricking summer and have had to take steroids and antibiotics for 10+ days. That shit fricks with your stomach to no end. Better than not being able to swallow without severe pain but damn, this is unpleasant.
you have my condolences
>failed a lift and dumped the bar in front of the prettiest girl in the gym
It's so over. Now we'll never grow old together.
how to waking up early? And by early I may say 4h45am.
>Very loud alarm clock
Jk just go to bed reasonably early and just repeat while keeping the wakeup and bedtimes consistent
I think im legitimatly moronic
High five broskie.
Training is wrecking me for an entire day, I'm injury prone AF and I keep waking up after 3-5 hours sleep and struggle to get back. I'm so fricking sick of this. I can't even cut because that just makes my sleep even worse
Get blood and hormones, thyroid and sex, tested. Get heart tested, ekg and ultrasound.
Drink water, cool off before sleep, try to sleep in 22, don't eat before sleep, make your room very dark so you can't see anything
>Blood and hormones, thyroid
Fine
>sex
What?
>Heart
Yeah, I'm talking to my doc about this next. Pressure is ~110/70 60bpm at rest at least
>try to sleep in 22
What?
>Don't eat before sleep.
I'm usually eating 3 hours before sleep
>Dark room
I've got a sheet over my windows, I can't really see much of anything and have to rely on memory for where things are
>Water
I get plenty
Sex hormones as in testosterone
22 as in 2200 hours. 22:00
vape weed
>only work out once a week
>do all my lifts in a 3-4 hour session
>but i decided to be cheeky and bought UFC gloves and punched the gym bag for 40 minutes
>biceps are sore, triceps are mildly sore, knuckles are scrapped
i hope i recover for my regular gym session tomorrow.
>Been sweet on this lass for about half a year
>Decided to get her a birthday present because simp
>Find out she's having a birthday party and I'm not invited
lol. lmao.
give it to her anyway
And then what
tell her happy birthday
This made me kek out loud but you probably did have to say that because users on this board are so inept
okay mr social butterfly tell me how it would play out receiving a present from someone you don't value enough to invite to a gathering
exactly, it's so weird you can turn it into a hilarious thing
I’d politely say thank you and would possibly re-evaluate my stance on them. Maybe anon just didn’t make an outstanding impression.
As long as you don’t act like a maniac about your feelings being unrequited, everything is gonna be okay.
You guys act like every social interaction is some high stakes tomfrickery.
If it doesn’t work, it doesn’t work.
Shoot your shot, though.
don't, IRL is not a romcom
or you can try going full moron and give her the birthday present, you'll at least give her at the worst a weird chuckle
Don't keep going. There is only pain down this road, find another, and next time try to be more proactive, 6 months of being sweet on this one evidently was too long and not forward enough
And like other anon said, life is not a romcom.
You cannot win over a girl by declaring your love or with gifts.
Those things are only valuable from somebody she already wants to get them from. Evidently that is not you. Learn from this please.
Things are never going to get better anons will they? No matter how much I progress I made I find myself in a deeper hole than before. Such is life I guess but im tired anons. So tired.
Same. It's always something, and I always put more effort than others with worse results.
People say I have the look, the money, health, career, confidence. It was all from nothing, all by hard work and planning, risks, got 0 help, got 0 leg up from genetics or who I know or where I am from. I legit talked some introvert guy in the gym to be my buddy, later I got my first job trough him and his business partner
Youth unemployment was 50% the in my shithole. Once got sent off when one of the guys that was interviewing me saw my last name (he knew my dad and his alchocolism)
Born fat short ugly, no hot water in my household till I was 14, no internet till I was in college and I am a webdeveloper now.
Now I get mired, yes, but it took decades. Nobody sees that part.
Where did this all get me? I'm nowhere, honestly, nowhere.
We are doomed to not be happy my man. I'm in a similar situation to yours. Got an okay job that I can live by very well. Got an okay car. But what end? Why I'm not feeling satisfied. I work almost 300+ hours every month to not be alone and stay alone with my thoughts.
What will be the thing that gonna make me say I made it. I have no idea what I should strife for. Im just grinding and grinding but feel like I haven't made a progress in any meaningful way.
i lost like 10 kilos in a month bc a cute girl was visiting my town soon and she says i look great and i even kissed her a little bit, wagmi!
still want to loose another 10 so i can show her my abs
I think she’d appreciate it if you learned how to differentiate between “lose” and “loose.”
It doesn’t matter how much weight you lose if you out yourself for having a room temperature IQ when you’re trying to tell her about it.
Congrats on the weight loss, though.
I’d recommend swimming and long walks, that helped me a lot because it kept me occupied (not eating).
Dieting is like 95% of weight loss, at least for me.
sowwy im a spainard my bad aieeeeeee(and also very stupid)
but ty for the tips
>hottie I fricked a couple weeks ago isn't talking to me
>chubby girl I set up a date with off Hinge in order to cope forgot we had a date set up
Gimme a beer
the absolute state of modern dating
Yeah, it's a huge pain in the dick. I'm gonna try and talk to a gym cutie today who motivated me to do more reps by doing more reps herself the other day.
I walked five miles to get beer today. I am now about to drink said beer.
(There was beer closer than five miles away and I have a car but decided it would be healthier to walk to get it)
Enjoy!
Smart man. Keep doing that. You'll thank yourself in the future.
White man's burden, Lloyd, my man.
sorry anons, haven't seen a pushup thread in a while so ill roll here...
Immediately after meditation for about 10 minutes my mind feels amazing. Usually my mind is constantly jumping from one thing to another and I’m always distracted. After meditation it’s finally quiet but it never lasts. I’ve been doing it for long enough now that I can switch to frame of mind if I make the decision (not perfectly of course). I’m going to have an experiment tomorrow and try to stay in that state from when I wake up until I go to bed. Anyone tried this? I’ve heard it described as just applying meditation to everything, so instead of focusing on the breath the meditation object is driving, washing dishes, talking to someone etc etc
My add is so bad meditation is impossible.
The closest I can get is by going on long walks, which I would recommend to any other anons sharing my plight.
Im really uncomfortable around my family. Idk why. I’ll sit there and have panic attacks and just stare at my hands or the ground and be quiet.
I think its largely because my parents divorced when I was 7, then seemingly prioritized their new significant others and any children they had over me. I can accept that and fine I’m just no longer comfortable around my parents because of it.
My father has atleast expressed regret over it and displayed undertansidng/acknowledgment that him doing that fricked me up. And I live with him, so I’m at least comfortable talking to him in passing. But I’ll exit the room if he enters it and talk to him from the doorway.
My mother is a fricking dipshit and is oblivious that she did this and that it was cruel and selfish. Shes the type of moron who watches leftie news outlets and with no logic to back it up says trump is bad or tries to say BLM is good, because the news person told her. Shes a moron. She’s always meant well and tried to do good but I can’t help but think shes largely to blame for my parents divorcing. Plus sheds never once and never will apologize or own up to fricking up by prioritizing her dating life while I grew up. And the dudes were typical asswipes who hated another mans offspring being in the picture.
But the same goes for my older sister and thats what makes me feel truly bad. I have no obvious reasons to feel so on edge and uncomfortable around her. She invites me to hang with her and one of our parents or her boyfriend often. Keeps trying to get me to hang with her boyfriend just the two of us every other week. And I always say no. This weekend is her and her boyfriends birthday and I’m not going. I feel bad. I dont dislike her boyfriend I think he’s a good guy. But Im just not really interested in hanging out with him or getting to know him even if he may very well marry my sister one day soon. Shit I don’t think Id even go to their wedding. Im simply uncomfortable being with my family.
I just wish shit would be normal again and I felt like my family was my family like I did as a little kid.
After they split, my mom has this new guy who’s a piece of shit dates a few others who clearly hated me. My father has this lady and her kid move in with us, and she was horrible and actively turned my father against me to the point he wanted nothing to do with me.
Custody was 50/50 1 week 1 week which is a shitty set up because you’re constantly uprooting packing your shit and never getting settled or comfortable in what should be your own house, just to have some shmuck berate or belittle and harass you while you’re there.
And then on top of it my parents are super neurotic. Which has made me neurotic.
There was a time I felt like a normal person with them. I felt at ease, and they were a source of comfort for me. Now though? Now they’re all, sister included, a massive source of anxiety.
And I’m the one who suffers from it the most, who has to feel bad about it too. This isn’t my fricking fault this isn’t fricking fair and yet I’m the one who’s responsible for fixing it. And I don’t know how. Tried therapy for 7 months and it didn’t help, the homosexual ended up hitting on me so I canceled my sessions last week.txwwys
Pal, I'm no therapist but it seems obvious to me that as long as you're surrounded by the houses, people and memories of your unhappy childhood, you'll be stuck in the role of a displaced unhappy child with abandonment/self esteem issues. Move out, work two jobs to afford a shitty rented apartment if need be, but stand on your own two feet and face the world as a man. Leave your childhood behind and move on.
Also
>txwwys
What did he mean by this
Thanks man. I’ve been suspecting that being in the same house that I experienced the majority of the for lack of better word harassment and bullying from my fathers girlfriend is adding to this. As well as being almost 30 with nothing to show for myself.
I feel that if I move out I’ll be able to naturally connect with my family again. I’m working on it. Did the math and some planning today, if things go right and according to plan I could potentially be moved out mid next year or end of the year.
Need to get job, upgrade to other job (going to go trades with apprenticeship), save, pay small amounts of debt off, then for comfort get $20k saved up.
I feel this way too. It's a result of being neglected/abused and not feeling safe around anyone who was involved. Being uncomfortable around the people who did this, even if it was 15-20 years ago, is 100% normal. It's like asking a Vietnam vet to live in a hut in the jungle with some asiatic family. Is he going to be on edge 24/7 and constantly want to run away, no matter how nice they are to him? Absolutely.
I feel this same way about my family. My brothers try and include me in things and I genuinely think that my mom means well nowadays, but the collective bullying and abuse I got from all of them growing up combined with no real change in anyone's behavior except for mine has made it so that the only reason they don't outwardly bully me is because now I'm big enough to crush all of them at once. It's likely why I became obsessed with gaining as much weight as possible and lifting as hard as I possibly can all the fricking time. I want to get so big that no one dares ever bully me again.
We are shaped by our childhood trauma. It's okay that you feel this way, fren. Spend the time that you can around them, sometimes even at your detriment, and then excuse yourself. Don't let them tell you that you're "selfish" for wanting to leave early. And, most of all, don't ever allow them to hurt you. You are recoiling from being around them because all they have done up to this point is cause you pain. I'm sorry for that.
YGMI
Worn the frick out from work. Got yelled at this week for something moronic and it was so busy that I didn't have any down time to study for school. My lifts are doing good, I'm hitting push/pull today. I even walked in front of a mirror at work and saw I was filling out my shirt better, especially as my upper limbs have been lacking for a while. I got a possible job opportunity with the screening set for next week. It'd be at most a 13k increase over my current salary, but I'd have a longer commute so I'm skeptical if it's worth it.
Honestly I just want to go and hit up a new nearby dispensary, buy a disposable dab pen and tune out for the weekend, but I have responsibilities. I'm really worn out this week though, it was exhausting.
You sound like you have your shit more together than 90% of this thread.
I don’t know how to combat burnout, but I wanted to say congratulations.
Someone somewhere is proud of you, and it’s me.
I wish I had it together.
Unironically how I feel coming to this shithole website
You guys are good to hang out with
why can my brain not accept that there are girls who genuinely find me attractive and like me for who i am. why do i have to sabotage myself every time.
I think I've fricked up 2-3 possible relationships because of that too. I was a bald fat dude and girls somehow were talking to me pretty flirty but I thought to myself that I was such a fricking ugly loser the girls would never see me that way.
They were giving out pretty clear signals now Im thinking though. You could feel the tension in the air but I never took a step and now they are all gone and no girl ever spoke to me that way in years.
I have a girl im interested in even though Im much much better looking I have a feeling that there is no way she will look at me that way and she is just being friendly to me. I dont know man Im almost 25 and never had a date with a girl and at this rate I will off myself at 30.
i feel you man. i keep holding onto this hope that eventually it’s all going to work out. obviously nothing will change if you aren’t actively working on it. atleast we are aware of our flaws. worst part is that i’ve had two girls straight up ask me out but then both rejected a second date. it’s a small sample size but still fricks with me.
i suppose it’s a confidence thing. gym helps. i believe we are going to make it anon.
same here
I rationally know that lots of women find me attractive. But it still doesn't feel like that for me. Even if they smile or stare at me. If they flirt with me. In my head I somehow feel like I tricked them into being attracted to me and that sooner or later they find out who I really am and run away
Get out of my head. I was always the second-rate loser in my earliest dating experiences, but now that I'm much more attractive (my last girlfriend even confirmed this) my brain just can't process attention properly. Ironically, this leads to women walking away and me feeling like a loser all over again.
Just water with some lemon and ice, bartender friend.
I’m a recent civil engineering graduate. I graduated last spring. I’ve been applying to jobs for quite a while now. I think I applied to over 200 jobs. No luck. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I’m mentally drained, friends. I’m defeated. I’m still going to the gym to have some semblance of personal progress, but other than that it’s just me applying. I did an internship for three months, but I still don’t know why I’m not being accepted to ENTRY LEVEL JOBS. THE WAITING. MY GOODNESS THE WAITING AHHHHHHHHHHH. EVERY SINGLE APPLICATION TAKES TIME TO GET A RESPONSE FROM.
DEAR ANON, WE WOULD SINCERELY LIKE TO THANK YOU FOR APPLYING TO OUR COMPANY. AFTER CAREFUL LOOK (YEAH RIGHT) AT YOUR QUALIFICATIONS, WEVE DETERMINED THAT YOU DO NOT FIT THE REQUIREMENTS FOR THIS POSITION. BE REST ASSURED THAT YOUR FILE WILL BE RETAINED SHOULD FUTURE JOB OPPORTUNITIES MATCH YOUR QUALIFICATIONS.
Every single email (at least, to those who send you a rejection) is like this. Every single one. What must I do, anons? I’m a Sydneygay btw.
I'm struggling with porn addiction. It makes me numb and it makes hard to leave the house and interact with people. But without it it's just... Boring... And if I don't indulge in it I feel like I'm missing out in something.... You see I'm deeply into lewd texting online, and it feels like I'd miss out on some sort of fun with these strangers. I know it's not healthy. But I don't know what to do. Wish I could ask for help from someone irl but it all sounds way too stupid when I say it out loud, I'm afraid nobody would take it seriously, just like my suicidal thoughts.
Other than that, I'm worried about my leg because I overtrained it recently and it heals pretty slowly, but I want to get ready for a half marathon in September... Hope I can do it...
Go to a meeting. An AA meeting, if you have to, just to say it in front of people and figure out of its all in your head stupid or not. Lots of guys have porn addictions. I started looking at porn online nearly 20 years ago when I was still a kid, and I don't think I've had a single healthy relationship that I didn't frick up in that whole time.
Have the house to myself for a few hours. In the past I’d be getting high right now. I won’t lie if I had normal weed on hand I’d be smoking instead of posting this. But instead I’m sober. Been a good 5 months.
I do have delta 8 weed but I don’t trust it and the highs made me feel paranoid. Oh well.
I should be proud. I feel okay without that boredom/sad mood crutch now. I no longer need it or feel like I do. Even if I’m craving it a little right now. Plan was to never quit for good, just take a long break to focus on my shit, and perhaps after I’ve made progress I’ll smoke once a month.
I'm glad for your progress, man, but don't go back. Ever. It's a slippery slope. You might say "oh, I do it in moderation", but no. Just don't do it. Please. For your own sake. Be strong.
100%
I can quit if I want to but then I realize why I'm doing it to begin with and start again.
As far as delta8 goes, there are good vapes. People try to poo poo it, but it's basically the same thing + they have shops on every single corner where I live. It's like a cbd gold rush out here.
This one place by me has the mike tyson brand stuff, and it's ok. The purple one actually tasted really good. Part of my preworkout stack too.
I'm pretty sure that synthetic cannibinoids are often passed off as delta 8.
Yeah I realize that. I planned to do it on vacation but then that would probably ruin my vacation.
Also
idk what this weirdo is doing
My gf left me after 16 years. Just started to train again to handle the pain instead of drinking me to death.
I’m also about to lose my job, have literally no friends and also no family anymore or money. Mid 30 btw.
How fricked am I?
>My gf left me after 16 years.
Shoulda put a baby inside her. How old are you?
She wanted it so bad like a few years ago. I told her that I first have to find a new job, to earn more money, to this, to that.
Now I was ready and she left me literally while arguing about it.
I’m mid 30.
Just ignore her and she'll probably try to come back in a few days.
You're the guy at the start of every late 90s, early 2000s romcom.
You're gonna be fine. You will get in shape, you will sort your head out, you will find new employment that is fulfilling, and when you're up and running, you'll get to decide who comes with you
Thanks anon, your words really mean a lot to me.
Lost my V-card
Frick do you know where? You don't want someone else cashing that shit instead of you.
is it weird to tip your barber? there is not really a tipping culture in my country. i get compliments on my hair and beard since going to this guy. he’s a based muslim, hates lgbt and and we talk like mates for the entire cut. besides from it being potentially weird it also it sets a precedent which i don’t know how to feel about
tipping your barber is kinda based but once you do it you have to do it forever from that on
I've been feeling like a deformed freak recently. I thought I was OK looking for the longest but I stopped blocking out how asymmetrical my jaw is from TMJ, my bottom 3rd is gross. I bet people feel revolted looking at me. Worse part is it's my fault, when I was 16 I had cavities all over my left side of the mouth from not brushing, and my c**t mom wouldn't fricking take me to the dentist after asking multiple times so I just chewed on the other side exclusively while my jaw should have been developing. Plus mouth breathing. There is no way my bite can go from being seriously diagonal to the right, to aligned straight like I just had surgery by doing fru fru face "exercise" right? Anyone have experience with this?
Asymmetrical is fine, it might maybe make you look a little worse in pictures, but in real life no one cares.
I can only really smile on one side due to crossbite every girl I've ever dated absolutely loved my smirk. Old colleagues I haven't seen in years tell me they knew it was me because of it.
IST loves to feed blackpills to anyone insecure, but the reality is the difference between a "defect" and a cute quirk is just confidence and a decent body. Own that shit
Thanks. Yeah I'm a little skinnyfat right now so hopefully getting leaner helps things.
Something fun tonight. Like a virgin margarita!
As of this week Im 11 weeks pregnant. Feeling a bit nervous while awaiting the genetic testing. Still struggling with naseua but having more good days than bad! Ive finally been able to start lifting again in a limited capacity. Did OHP yesterday and bench press today. Feels a bit lame to literallly only do one exercise per day, though its better than nothing. Hoping as things move into the 2nd trimester the lifting can improve frequency, and I can possibly restart yoga classes.
Congratulations anon, I pray you have a safe delivery
Someone farted or shit their pants in the gym today. I tried going outside for a few minutes and I wasn't able to go back in. It was so bad. I could not complete my workout.
>been with my gf for 2 months now
>first relationship, still not sure but it’s going alright
>always been close with this omega qt at work
>blonde, thicc but also slim, has a long term bf
>we ‘harmlessly flirt’ a lot at work
>she will squeeze my bicep, playfully punch me and is generally touchy feely
>notice her becoming more affectionate after revealing i have a gf
>just play along with the game, like it’s forbidden but fun
>today i’m in the break room making a sandwich
>i have my back to her when she walks in and stands very close to me
>turn around and she’s just looking at me with these eyes
>in my mind all i want is to frick her right then and there
>she comes even closer and just puts her arms around my neck
>i instinctively put my hands on her hips
>we look at each other for a few seconds
>i tell her we can’t do this
>she replies with i know
>few more seconds pass and she lets go
>just looks at me with a smile while she leaves the room
>making a sandwhich at work
the frick why dont you make the sandwhich at home?
NTA but getting paid for making a sandwich sounds better lmao
He’s either Brazilian or lying
Wish I had omega qts at work. I work as a high school teacher and all my colleagues are men or older women.
I feel shitty. I deal with pretty intense self hatred. I typically can hide it but it's getting to me. I'm currently convinced my friends are avoiding me. Not sure if that's real or in my head.
My self loathing is kind of weird.
I understand that I have redeeming qualities but I bring out the worst in everyone that enjoys them.
If I’m having a good time with someone it is because we are actively fricking up our lives and I know that they likely hate themselves afterwords much like I do.
And then I left that feeling fester.
And then my self loathing causes me to make more shitty decisions until I isolate myself from everyone, eventually coming out to rinse and repeat.
>”love of my life” broke up with me late last year to “focus on herself”
>been adjusting to life without her, not been doing good but getting better
>check her Instagram out of curiosity
>see some new guy she’s dating
>back to square one, feel so sad, angry and bitter
If it's any consolation, it's unlikely that she'll ever have any relationship/marriage last.
Thanks man, karma will come for her one of these days, just unfair I’m suffering while she’s out enjoying life but that’s love I guess
that sucks but how long did you date?
my graveyard shift makes scheduling time to workout near impossible to do consistently. everyone talks about "it only takes an hour", this shit is way to difficult to do with insomnia and constant changes in energy levels and sleep cycles
I try to will myself through it, I just can't frick
Busted a very fat nut (15days no fap) to my friend's IG story she posted with her fat breasts. She was fat but lost weight, but she was looking thicc.
I never found her attractive, even after the weight loss lol.
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My mom knows im into fitness stuff now and bought me a bunch of muscle milk protein shake bottles. Apparently they're shit tier but free protein I dont have to mix myself which is nice.
Haven't gotten a gf in 6 years. Guess not technically an incel because a rather attractive girl was hitting on me and then added me on LinkedIn. I didn't engage because she was into hookup culture and thus not really gf material.
pretty clueless on how tf I should meet girls since I work from home.
Hinge, the gym, mutual friends, church, coed sports etc
>church
I've seen this a lot but have never seen young single women at church. Church is old people and young families.
>coed sports
I've never seen an attractive female playing adult sports unless they're doing it professionally.
Gym is the best bet for anyone on this board. I have a home gym but have considered getting a gym membership on the side just to meet girls because otherwise I got nothing going on.
>Hinge
we don't really have it here, but I've used Bumble and it's terrible. It's 99% 28yo+ stuck up prostitutes. No thanks.
>the gym
homegym master race, hate gym thots trying to get attention.
>mutual friends
don't have many friends. I have this one female friend who has like 4 hots friends, but she very clearly keeps them off from me, never introduced them or anything. I only see them on her IG stories.
>church
This is my last chance. I've been considering doing voluntary work there. I got to Mass on Sunday and there are a few(very few) cute young girls there. Catholic girls are prostitutes too, but hey hopefully they are better off than these atheist dogs out here.
>coed sports etc
I tried kickboxing, and there were like 2 cutes chicks there, but they had bf's. but those women are masculine af, so I quit...
it was girl in picrel.
She was brushing her legs against mine, etc. She's been living by herself since she was 16. She's 23 now. Our mutual friend, let it slide that they had both been clubbing and they were making out with with dudes at the club. My friend actually started dating the guy she met at the club, but picrel didn't lol.
She also has a few small tattoos and smokes cigs, which are red flags for me.It's sad because we were vibbin hard, she was really sweet and smart.
based anti-hookup moid
How can I grow some pair of balls?
Been on a second date with a cute girl but I still didn't kiss her. It feels awkward to physically touch so going for a kiss feels even more awkward. I know she likes me and complimented me on my physique. I never have the problem to touch girls when I'm drunk though. Tomorrow is our third date and if I don't grow a pair of balls by then I'm gonna lose my shit.
Why don't you just go for drinks/wienertails on a date? that's what I do. And 2 shots beforehand for good luck.
Have high alocohol tolerance, I can't just drink 3 wienertails back to back, when she would only get one. But the shots beforehand I might try, thanks.
>t. eastern european
I usually kiss on the first date. Unless she kisses you first you should probably ask permission.
How do you ask for permission without it killing the mood
>be fit and have a good lifestyle
>get a new good paying job but the manager is a fat moron who only got the position because he hung on to the company for decades
If you aren't free from the influence of the weak are you really as strong as you could be anons?
It is not enough for me to be strong the weak must perish
Ill take a double screwdriver.
I got divorced and I'm waiting for my annulment to be approved but it won't be done until early 2025. So I won't be remarried until 2027 at the soonest. Which means I'll go without sex from Feb 2022 until 2027 if I'm lucky.
Had a busy day at work yesterday and got picked for mandatory overtime today. I only have Saturday off and it's back at work on Sunday. Yesterday got me wondering what I'm even working for. Got no gf, got no kids, few friends and just a cat
I refuse to ever work on a Sunday. Become Catholic and make it a big deal. Supreme Court literally just ruled that they can't make you work Sundays
I’m probably gay
You probably are.
I'm generally sleeping at 9, I can try to push it back
>sex hormones
Yeah, thats all reasonable, test presumably would only be higher if I was sleeping properly though
>Watermelon Bacardi
Today was a good today , chill and easy , feel relaxed to be honest.
>mfw craving some drinks and club/bar...
also Ill bump this thread with tunes friday after all:
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>Canadian
>spend time on OKC talking to literal 10/10 foreign girls from south america/spain/italy but it can never really go anywhere due to distance
I'm on the other side of this
wtf are foreigners and people from across the country doing putting their location to my city?? Getting into a ldr with a guy you met on a dating app seems moronic and going to visit someone that is far away because you like them while texting, calling or sexting seems like delusional behavior.
OKC isn't location based, you just change your own range limit to "Worldwide" and there you go.
I like to fantasize about being loved. Other dating apps are a graveyard but global OKC means getting an infinite pool of hot girl to talk with and pretend anything is ever going to work out between you two.
Bros I'm sitting on the couch next to my fiancee and she just grabbed her 4th slice of pizza. I could only manage 2, they're huge slices with extra cheese and pepperoni. This was a cheat meal for me but I felt bad about the calories anyway so I went for a 3 mile run while the pizza was coming and she stayed on the couch and watched TV.
It wouldn't be so bad if she didn't whine so much about her body and gaining weight. I mean, I guess it's nice that her ass is blowing up but she's starting to get a tummy on her.
I should've listened to you guys, they completely give up once they know they're settling down.
Pray for me
>at friends house
>he orders his wife and himself two pizzas
>decide I’ll have a cheat meal, order my own and save the rest of what I don’t eat
>it’s a mom and pop place and a single pizza is like 36” fricking massive and $30 before toppings are added
>get my pizza
>fat frick goblin friend demands I give him a slice even though he has two entire pizzas, politely say suck my balls
>after my two slices I’m done, leave room to use bathroom
>come back and the entire family has eaten my pizza within minutes
>pretend I don’t even notice, then and there my plan was conceived
>start spending 3-4 days a week hanging with these friends, every night I order a pizza and eat 1-2 slices while the entire family just takes the rest without asking me
>get a membership at this shop, pizzas are now 70% off (works out to be that much in savings by the end of this) plus was getting paid a lot hourly on top of my commission at my job at the time of this
>I only come through with my pizza lage at night after I know they’ve all eaten all their meals for the day
>over the course of 6 months I watch them all gain 30+ pounds
>one day I arrive everyone’s gone except his younger sister in law
>just turned 18, she had a thing for me
>offer her a slice, but I cut her off and say
>how about some sausage
>literlaly just stand up and whip it out
>mfw it fricking works
>Mfw she’s throating me off while I drop pizza grease into her head
>Mfw I finish on the pizza and she eats a slice
>Mfw they all get home 20 minutes later and instantly dig into my cumza
If I wrote a book of all the devious shit I’ve done in my life anyone to read it would believe it were fiction. I wouldn’t even believe this story and would reply larp if I read it.
And the sister in law's name? Albert Einstein.
They do. You have to shatter her confidence. I know it sounds horrible, but she believes that you'll always just be happy to be with her and her 'personality'. Her body is just something that changes and you need to get used to that 🙂
Make her a bit insecure. Or move on. She's hunkering down and is deriving her pleasure through food, and you can't be her therapist. You can try talking to her more and see if her emotions level out and things get better, but I have a feeling she isn't mature enough to deal with her emotions fully, so loading up on pizza is the solution.
You could build a slam pig. How many cans of ravioli would she eat in one night, if she could?
just overall feeling like shit
missed yesterday's and today's lifts
havent gotten a call back from any jobs yet
send friend a text message asking a question, still no answer more than a month later
ask other friends if they want to hang out, 2 months later still no response
ask other friend if he wants to hang out, all i get is excuses
im becoming hateful again
pray for me anons
Don't hate yourself, and don't hate those people, but do think about leaving them behind. They don't value you.
Value yourself, do some lifting, or take a long walk and think about what you wish life was like, write it down, and see if it does anything.
ok man, ill try this
I can't promise it won't be lonely on the other side, but lonely without anything to lose is a better place than lonely while worrying what other people might think of you.
i should take my own advice and go out and walk. It does help, and so does just externalizing your thoughts, but it doesn't get easier the further you go. The weight is just the same. I suppose that's why we lift.
i go on walks all the the time honestly
i guess i just have to get used to doing things alone cuz obv i dont have friends
wagmi
if you ask a girl out and she's not sure and her dad calls you and says "i think you two should get to know each other better first", what does that mean (very rural trad people)
religious folk who think you're just trying to get in her pants
they know i'm not about that
Vodka.
Friend just told me that he started dating a guy (he was straight before).
I always thought he was girlish with how much he complain about everything that other men usually don't give a shit about.
Anyway, he was worried that I might be disgusted with him.
I was not. Not because of muh supportive gay right, it's because I genuinely don't give a shit because of my apathy. Though, I got annoyed when he talked about his relationship in front of me like a moronic third wheel.
Had an oracle Esq vision while sleeping last night
>On vacation in dream-europe
>meet up with 2 other people in a train station
>first Chad and I start talking about what we want to do on our trip
>talk about typical bro things like fitness, playing sports and handling crazy chicks
>convo keeps going and discover we like a lot of the same niche movies, books, anime and cycling
>Stacy joins the convo and asks to tag along because we sound like fun
>Chad takes charge has a whole itinerary planned out
>restaurants, landmarks, parties, festivals
>Stacy doesn't do much but look pretty and get is into places
>frick it not like we should expect more out of a young attractive blonde
>trip moves along while stacy and chad get closer and close
>she is hanging onto his every move
>amireallyhavingavisionaboutgettingcucked.jpg
>something flips in a random European city
>realize that Chad was literally the old me
>the me that was full of life and hunger for new experiences
>the me that said what he wanted and went after it
>wake up
>immediately out of the mental rut that I was in for the last two months
> Actually feel lighter and don't seem to drag my feet anymore
utter to "we are so back" out loud to myself
Frick yeah dude, this is the type of shit I love to hear. I had the same realization recently, I hope you're looking forward to living life as much as I am
I've microdosed psilocybin twice this week, hoping it does something positive. Not sure what I'm expecting, though
Man, fitness is a struggle. It's really hard for me to get big. It's also really hard for me to get lean. I've been skinny fat, less skinny and more fat, and less fat and more skinny. I can dial in my diet and training and I can only adjust the slider a bit. I'm starting to think I'll never be bigger than 180 lbs and I'll never be under 15% bodyfat. I'm probably just overthinking everything. People in my life tell me I look great. I'm pretty athletic. I hit 1/2/3/4 not long ago. I can run a pretty fast 5k. But IST would call me a pussy skinnyfat dyel. I know it's a lot of bullshit here and I don't take it too seriously, but it sucks to hear. I just want a bit of positivity. IST was my guide for years and is the reason I stopped being a 130 lb pussy. It sucks that this place is so negative towards everyone.
>Positive and productive day
>Nobody to hold at the end of it
....bros...
I just want to do my night ride and let the negative emotions disappear but there's gonna be a thunderstorm and I'd rather not become asphalt crayon.
are you cute?
Yeah and that makes it even more annoying. I want a partner, not these vapid social media obsessed women. I'm so sick of all the modern shit and wish people could simply be human again. I just want live on a farm or sailboat or something at this point.
I want a bf who doesn't have social media ;_;
Started supplementing Judo with lifting. Been great so far
A large glass of milk, please. I want to lose weight quickly but I am dealing with many personal issues that cause my self control and will power to fluctuate and I'm moody, irritable and constantly fricking up my diet. Repeat this cycle over and over. How do I break from this all or nothing mindset? I'm tired of being slave to my emotions.
Meal prep and don’t buy any junk food, you can’t eat it if you don’t have any. You can do this anon I believe in you
I've been drinking a bit too often this week, but I'll have a beer, only three left in the fridge
Business is going great, not making crazy money, but I live cheap and can save >80% working 3 weeks a month
Talking to an ex again, we could really make it if both of us can chill out and be a bit more accepting of things not being exactly our way. I don't fully control that of course, but I'm trying.
Either way, it's nice to have someone to chat with in the evenings
Finally have everything I need for apply for a long term visa and move where I want to be, that'll still be at least a three month process I'm sure
Lifting/diet isn't exactly perfect, but it's the best and longest routine I've ever kept to
Read a chapter of the Bible every day so far this year, meditated for 10 minutes a day 2 weeks in a row now.
I honestly think I'm on the path to making it, just need to be patient and keep putting in the work.
Talisker tonight, I think.
Training alongside the blonde again last week, first time in a while. Has been watching me at the start of recent sessions but then disappearing off with her group to do event specific work. Holds my gaze long enough to know that we're both aware that the other's looking then concentrates on her own training.
Spent a while chatting to her during the week's second session, her face lit up, looking happy as we discussed recent results and goings on. That smile, those eyes...
Big regional comp coming up. I'm on team duties, she's competing.
there's this new crackhead at the homeless encampment behind the abandoned building at the end of my block and this dude is so fricking fit. it's crazy like dudes on here slave away in the gym for years and don't look like this dude. i think he's puerto rican. he has like perfectly proportioned muscles, pecs, everything. he's always going around with no shirt and shorts. i don't get how someone who does hard drugs all day can look like he spends four hours a day in the gym. he's either an undercover cop or something, or he just got our of prison after doing a long bid. it's wild man he could be like a fitness model.
I try to be a good person, but I feel like a ghost; no one gives a shit what I have to say, and when I try to speak up no one cares to listen or just shrugs it off.
What did I do wrong? I haven't made any enemies, I'm just a scared b***h who got bullied as a kid.
I don't know what to do with my life.
>killed 1 and injured 2 while driving drunk
>somehow got zero prison time and two months in jail
>went to prison for 4 years for manslaughter
>can't get a job or become a pro fighter anymore
I have no friends and my family abandoned me. I have nothing and my life is meaningless.
time to rope
find an Orthodox church homie, u always got God
>killed 1 injured 2
At least you get to retire as a pro fighter with a pretty gnarly record
unironically kys. Consider it karma for taking another life
got zero prison time and two months in jail
>>went to prison for 4 years for manslaughter
What?
Bartender, be honest with me.
Am I a weirdo for not having a snapchat/instagram/tiktok or whatever? Every girl on a dating app spams their account, and I just don't give a shit about any of it.
Hey do you have discord? Lol
I want a guy with no social media. I think it's a red flag when they have it, particularly snapchat.
Thank you Anon but I don't want any dickpics.
I'm not a dude
discord pls
Sent 😉
>I want a guy with no social media
>do you have discord?
Yes, generally you need at least one. Snapchat often comes off as weird if its your only one though since its known as Nudes: The App.
you dont need it bro, its not goo for you, i finally got away from social media addiction, you dont want to start
>broke up about a month ago on good terms
>still think about her sometimes but have no delusions about dating her again
>texted her happy birthday
>she didn't even reply
Still hurts man
Been a great week but got to keep working so I'll settle for a vodka LLB.
>First week back at university
>Classes look both ez and interesting
>Research project is progressing
>Have managed to become well known among the other students. Heaps of offers to do group work together and hang out after class
>Hit a Bench PR
>About to book tickets for 3 month holiday around New Years
Everything's coming up milhouse. All I need is to sort a job for next year when I graduate. Alternative is to do 1 more year to get a masters but would prefer to start working.
Another Tequila/Lime/Soda when you get a chance.
GF went to visit family for a few days. I like when she goes- I get to be alone for awhile. I also work from home, so its extra nice to have complete freedom.
But the loneliness is crushing sometimes. I listen to a lot of podcasts but I really don't talk to anyone. I haven't said a word out loud at all today, I haven't left the apartment since last...sunday? I'm in my 30s, but I really don't have friends anymore. I used to, but text chats die off and sprout up less often. I'm often left on read. I don't really have more than a distant, shallow relationship with family or anyone else.
Everyone else I know socially in some capacity is worried about hustling in their careers and buying a house/car/having kids, and its all they ever talk about. I don't have much cross over in interests with people I know anymore, and I can feel they don't take me seriously or think of me as someone worth engaging in because I'm not doing the same things.
It's sad. It makes me sad.
TL;DR: don't try and be a normie. All normies care about are normie things. They can't see the world any other way.
🙁 are you lonely man? Stop being a homosexual. You have a gf and chose to stay at home instead of her families, enjoy the solitude.
Yes. I still put myself out there and try to be social now and then, just get burnt out because it usually goes the same way as it always has.
She flew down to see them for a week, the solitude is nice. I was a shut-in during and after high school for 6 or so years, so it just gets a bit painful to come full circle and feel like not much has changed but the scenery. Amor fati, I suppose.
I was at a bar in my small city doing DoorDash the restaurant was busy so I had to wait 6-7 minutes. So I sat down at the bar and started looking at stuff on my phone. In walks this girl about my age sits alone at the bar right next to me, I’m avoiding eye contact I’m not feeling social. She orders a drink and stumbles her words, the bartender is agitated at her gives her some shit for it. She looks down and whips out her phone. We sit there for 3 minutes… I could tell she was hurt by his comment but I was too afraid. I went outside and waited on my phone for a minute until my order was ready.
I could have so easily energized her and made her night with my little social games and stories. I’m such a piece of shit for always leaving nice girls out to dry. I’ve repeated this mistake so many times now.
My brother is dating a troony and it's making me sick to my stomach. I always figured he was gay but not this gay. And he brings it around my family, my grandparents will spend their last years watching him become more and more degenerate. I unironically think he's the bottom.
>finally over c**t of an ex, only emotion I feel when I see her with her poor victim of a 'boyfriend' is pity for him and disappointment for her
>lifts continue to increase
>cardio improving slowly but surely
>have a Bible study/cuddle session with a female friend once a week so neither of us are touch starved and we get closer to God
>prayer and meditation have my mind feeling free after months of pain due to ex
>going on a long hike tomorrow
>getting mired from friends/family weekly
It's been a while but it feels good to feel good.
I'm going to basic training in a couple of weeks (leafstan). I'm not looking forward to larping as a normie.
Wish me luck
A good friend of mine just got charged with soliciting a minor for talking to a girl on a dating app who lied about her age. Turns out she was only 15 and a detective showed up at his house to interogate him. Now he has the choice to either pay $2500 to settle out of court or fight the charge in court. How fricked is he?
He needs to get a lawyer. Seems like a connected guy would probably get him his moneys worth if she really lied.
That sounds like a hustle, tell him to get a lawyer
I switched my gym up because there were too many blacks and geriatrics at my old one. Monday I start in my new gym. Seems alright but it has an uppity vibe which is okay because there is more mid 20s and Milf pussy walking around to push me to the limit.
I’ll have a water BTW.
I posted here a week or two ago about being at the point psychologically where my only reason for not killing myself was that it would hurt my parents.
In the last few days I've had a genuine breakthrough about the importance of healthy anger. I was contemplating a compulsion I feel to alienate people since I wanted, on some level, for them to treat me like the autistic loser I viewed myself as.
I'm not going to write my bio here but basically I went through some stuff (nonsexual) when I was a child that planted the idea in my head that everyone will inevitably leave me. Thinking about that period of my life, I suddenly became angry at every adult in my life at the time for not even pretending to understand why I was being difficult. It would not have been hard for any adult who knew me then to connect my outbursts to what was going on, but they just left me to grow up thinking I behaved that way because I was defective and malicious.
Abruptly, listening to that inner critic voice telling me about every mistake I've made and why each of them, individually, made me unworthy of love, I became enraged.
>Black person, what the frick are you talking about? Wow, a girl laughed at me when I asked her out when I was in ninth grade, that's worth killing myself over? Imagine saying that to a teenager when you're in your mid-20s you fricking homosexual.
Obviously I have made bigger mistakes than being cringeworthy when I was 15, but the point stands that even trivialities like that triggered the suicide voice, and this exhibits why the suicide voice does not deserve an ounce of my attention or respect.
The point of all this, I suppose, beyond thanking you guys for being here right when I needed someone to give me the final push in the right direction, is that no matter what mistakes we've made, we are all worthy of being loved and we are all worthy of being happy. The only person who can give or revoke permission for you to be happy is yourself. WAGMI.
>worthy
You got spooked brother. Other than that good post my man you’ll make it.
Went super high volume on single leg calf raises
Have such bad DOMS in my right calf I'm walking like I've got a peg leg
>thought I had mild scoliosis
>couldn’t front squat without a tendon in my knee slipping
>stalled in deadlift due to fear and discomfort
>turns out my left hip flexors are insanely tight
I’m so happy it’s something simple
Even one week of stretching every day is noticeable already. My left lower back has some strength imbalances but once it catches up I’m gonna be hitting PRs again
I can’t coom during sex. Haven’t tried without a condom in recent times when I started getting laid again. Do condoms cause this?
I can't come during sex either. I think it's a combination of condoms and years of masturbation reducing my sensitivity.
As long as she's enjoying it, I wouldn't worry about it. I've literally faked orgasms before, or she lets me jack off onto her face/breasts.
Does it to me sometimes.
My cat is dying
Pray for her
Prayers for lil’ homie/ homegirl.
I don’t believe in much but I did just close my eyes and send some positive thoughts that way.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart
Thanks, fren
It's unbelievable how much joy these furry little creatures can provide. I love her deeply
Well States a 1900 calories diet 3 weeks ago, the first Weee was a fricking pain becouse i used to eat like 2500 calories per day, cut with the bad habits like smoking and drinking and started again with the calisthenics… currently height its 6.0 and weight like 220…
With all that i still feel like shit like none of this fitness trip matters and also im never be able to stop smoking, the anxiety its to high and its been 2 days that i cut the diet and i feel like a failure
Also the girl that i was into told me show loves me but show cant be with me cuz she want to focus on herself
Yo bartender gimme a corona foo
Based Laloposter.
Yeah, that's fricking rough dude. At least smoking helps drop weight.
Keep working on yourself my man. There are plenty of women out there and you deserve to be the best you you can be.
Thanks anons i will take your advices and apreciate the support
We are gonna get it, maybe not today or tomorrow but we are gonna make it
This thread is probably gonna die soon so obligatory wagmi my buddy.
Dieting gets a lot easier when you see
the results.
One last thing I would recommend is to only weigh yourself once a week.
It helps one to realize the results, you’ll get bummed out with how your weight fluctuates on the day to day.
I picked Wednesdays right in the mornings idk why.
I’m 6’3” and went from 225-180 in six months. The first three months I was rigorously counting calories at 1700 per day which was an insane deficit compared to any daily TDEE that I had read and I struggled to lose weight. I lost maybe 10lbs in three months.
It wasn’t until I started eating 1100-1200 calories per day, then I was losing about 10lbs per month for those last three.
Everyone is different, but I guess my body doesn’t frick around with extra calories or something.
Try 1200 calories a day, and I’d also recommend walking (for extended periods of time) and listening to a podcast, or if you’re really feeling crazy swim up to a 5k.
I only did that (swim a 5k) a handful of times while dieting but it makes you feel like a demigod.
It takes forever.
I broke it up into 10 separate 500s and took breaks.
The point of the long walks or swimming is that it takes forever and you can’t eat while doing it, and it takes your mind off how insanely hungry you are.
my full recommendations
>1200 calories per day
>only water
>obvi no booze
(If you seriously fricking have to, vodka and ice water chaser. 100 calories per miniature, you can have six. That’s half your calories for the day)
>long walks to keep you busy
>swim to keep you busy
>gym to keep you busy
>no snacking
>chicken breast marinated and then roasted in the oven is your best friend
>avoid carbs
>sleep as much as you can, day naps tell hunger to suck it
When I was dieting I would walk to the store every day to get my kitty a can of wet food (about 8 miles there and back).
Typing all this out has made me realize how lazy I’ve been getting since I’ve been “bulking.”
based anon getting drunk and swimming 5ks while developing an eating disorder
how much willpower did this take? this seems like a crazy persons approach to losing weight.
lol
Not him but idk it does seem a little extreme but I kinda wish that every fat frick that complains on this board about “boo-hoo CICO doesn’t work” would try as hard as that anon
180 at 6'3
sknejlington
I forgot to add
>that’s cool dude focus on your self too
I believe in you, anon.
Walking helps with the anxiety a tremendous amount.
Also you can still smoke, we don’t care about that.
Keep your simple pleasures, just get to looking good and see how you feel.
One stress at a time.
You can do it, b0ss.
My dog just died, do any of you think she will go to heaven? I just can't stand the thought of her last moments of consciousness being spent crying in my arms. Please no being mean
Have you ever read the rainbow bridge poem?
“Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
“When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
“All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
“They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
“You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
“Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together….”
Yes, your dog will go to heaven.
Thanks man, you made me cry but I appreciate it
i kissed my gf’s best friend in the neck by accident. they decided to wear the exact same outfit + hair for whatever dumb fricking reason. was a little bit drunk and wrapped my arms around my gf’s middle and then kissed her neck. she turns around and it’s her friend. idk why she let it happen, she simply said “you got the wrong one anon” and didn’t speak of it anymore. how fricked am i
>lift, have a good diet, make progress, etc for couple of months
>lose interest, start smoking ciggies, drinking beer on the week, hard liquor on weekends, eat nothing but frozen pizzas, slowly stop going to a gym
>repeat again in couple of months
Wtf is wrong with me?
some things are better, not much is worse. overall a positive trajectory
Stuck. Share a room with 8 month old and mom. Average about 5-7 hours of sleep per night. Work Fri, sat, and sun at night so I get about six during the day. I use kettlebell five days a week but I'm stressed all the time. Kid screams when not held, mom doesn't work, and old sibling is getting jealous. Building house in November so I'll move out of this apartment soon. Baby will have is own room. But I'm still massive in weight. Wanna lose 50. Please help.
wtf, is he your son and wife? or are you a cuck?
if he's your son, man up and stop b***hing(be happy) if he's not your kid, literally kys rn
Can any IST bros share stories about uprooting and leaving to another state? Leaving your hometown, moving out for the first time etc.
What changed for you? Confidence wise. Independence wise. Happiness wise. I imagine stress and anxiety may have lifted in some regards but increased in others, how was that?
Where did you move from and to and why?
Dumb 28 year old still living at home and broke. Working on making moves to be able to leave in 1-2 years, but will likely have to move to another state if I want anything bigger than an overpriced studio.
>go with a girl on a date
>tells me that not having a previous long relationship is a big red flag and go rejected by this reasoning
on one hand at least she was at least being honest in her roastie ways
As someone who just got out of a ten year relationship (I’m only 26) this makes me fricking stoked.
I have some dumb idea that I’ll tell a girl that and she’d think it’s cute and wanna fix me.
I know I’m being optimistic but sometimes that’s all we have.
Translation: I don’t want you to be overly attached to me and I want you to have experienced the bullshit headaches I come with and know how to navigate and handle them
On one hand this is just how it is, as a man you are supposed to be experienced and a lot like landing a job you often need experience just to start getting experience as twisted as that is. On the other, she saved you wasted time and massive headaches because 90% of this was a dealbreaker she wasn’t shit. I can nearly guarantee that she wouldn’t be capable of explaining why that’s a problem for her.
>it is
>I’m asking why though
>because it just is *guffaws as if it’s a stupid question*
>okay but explain why
>it is because it is lol
>so you don’t know why
>I do, because it is
>do you can’t even elaborate and have no explainable logic behind it
>insults
Honestly depending on how old you are I can see not being in a long term (year +) relationship kind of a red flag.
That means you don’t know how to manage your autism well enough to keep someone around.
Or you’re a demanding little b***h.
There’s lots of reasons, honestly.
But I don’t think it’s necessarily a reason to walk the frick away from someone, maybe just keep your guard up.
NW be never had this issue but then I rarely get into relationships. I’m too comfortable being alone but it really seems you have to never fully commit and in some form have other people lined up to be able to bounce into a new relationship within a couple months.
Just ask her are you two dating just because she expects you to frick some other girl for 800 days mininum and if so why you shouldnt just go back. Why she doesnt teach you if youre behind.
What is this bullshit. I guess difference between making it or not is just the icks or feels.
My guy have you ever touched a woman
As annoying as that is, you can still 100% pull if you get to know people and they both like you and find you attractive. There have been girls that know I have never been in a relationship yet would still be willing to frick with me.
For me I was an anxious, socially isolated Catholic for most my life, so I wouldn't pursue often. It's come back to bite me because I do wish I had some experience, but you can definitely work around it.
Just found out my 54-year-old father reads IST - and that he calls Goblina 'mummy'.
It's over.
why would an old guy like me when milfs have way bigger milkers? makes no sense
it was raining. Well i fricking went to outdoors gym with my chinese camo raincoat on and chinese weebshit looking meme sweater. I was working out. Then some boomers walked to the machines, said they better be careful to not work out and left like some pussies.
Do the gods smile on you old man, i doubt that is the case. You have not brought honour for Hercules with your gains today. May Zeus smite you dead for choosing the fat mans road like a coward.
Been getting chest pains lately. Guess my time's almost up. It's been real guys.
Post body
It's from oral minox not obesity.
Honestly I kinda thought you’d be jacked to the gills.
Bummer though. I’m sorry, dude.
I’ve tried to kill myself many times and I get very relaxed when there’s turbulence on a flight because I think it might finally be over, so I would welcome chest pains.
I hope you’ve either enjoyed or really hated your life, homie.
Everyone's got a time I suppose. I don't have much going on anyhow. I've heard stress and loneliness are worse on your heart than smoking so it's likely a combination of factors.
Two pints of Coke Zero, please.
I live in the future. Everything's a plan towards something, but the present moment is void of joy. Just a grind. Nothing to smile about.
Old fashioned please.
Story time IST
I recently took out this sweet girl for some drinks and board games (was our second date). We had a really good time, laughed a lot, kissed and everything was going pretty well tbhwyf.
Then of course I invite her home and she agrees. Which I honestly think maybe was a mistake on my part cuz my place was kinda dirty and the bedsheets hasn't been changed in a while but whatever, i digress.
We get back to my place and end up in my bedroom, taking each others clothes off etc. but I can feel I'm being a little bit timid and honestly felt like i'm not being dominant enough to turn her on. The problem is usually when I have sex with girls I get a little too rough, i always throw them around, spank their ass, pull their hair etc, i also usually finish on their face. Basically I enter full demon mode, and I guess some women seem to enjoy it in the moment, but I also find that it creates a kind of weird dynamic afterwards which makes it kind of hard to date, since I have humiliated them in a sense - and outside of the bedroom I really just wanna be best friends with my gf. The duality of man I guess. Am I the only one?
Anyway with this woman, because I was scared that I might scare her away with being too rough with her, I ended up being really passive while we're undressing and during foreplay, and I guess this kind of dried her up as she told before we even start suddenly something to the likes of "I can't do it right now". Then we cuddled a bit but she ended up going home 10 minutes later. We still text but I'm scared she thinks I'm a b***h now because I didn't "take" her and was too passive.
I'm rambling but any advice on how to make up for this?
Send her a hug emoji.
I’m bored. I’m a bit lonely. Usually I would smoke weed and everything would be better but I quit a while ago. I’ve gotten better at coping with this low feel I routinely get.
But I have nothing to do, the only thing I do is fish, I’m otherwise neet and I don’t even really find video games interesting anymore. All I play is fortnite and that’s just for the fast paced match after match. I can’t get into a good RPG with a story like I used to. I’m considering getting RDR2 since it’s on sale but idk. It sounds fun to be cowboy man hunting wildlife and doing silly antics like delivering certain people to that secret club in the woods. But realistically I feel I’ll grow bored and just wish I was actually out in nature hunting and fishing for real.
I would go back to classic WoW but I know after level 40 I get bored of it and restart a new character, was never into the raiding dungeons and all that shit.
Wish OG maplestory was still a thing.
Tried skyrim again, couldn’t play longer than 30 minutes before growing bored of it, I’ve played it too many times. Same goes for souls games.
I need a job. But I also need hobbies and shit to do in my free time.
she ghosted me today bros
she said she would never leave
why? why me?
It's not just you mang, all girls do this. Part of the game now. What they say is irrelevant.
a part of me died. i cant live anymore without her bro. i just keep crying i cant. i cant go to the gym. i just feel like so fricking terrible
It's okay anon, you'll likely never find anyone like her ever again, and if she's that much of a liar then that's a good thing.
Yeah I’ve been there too. You can and you will live without her.
I spent 5.5 years thinking about my ex every single day often all day long. Stagnating. Being depressed. Losing progress. Then, finally I stopped caring as much, then a little over a year after I started to stop caring I met a new chick and got laid, dated her for a short while. And boom I rarely think of the first ex. She took my virginity at 20 after 2 decades of being kissless virgin.
Now if I saw her on the street I’m not even sure I would recognize her. I think back, and I realize I gave her way too much credit. She wasn’t shit. She was a typical BPD manipulative girl who bombed me with way too much affection to build my attachment, only really added sex to my life and nothing else.
Just know my man, it gets better. The timeline is different for us all. I suspect I’d have moved on sooner by dating again sooner rather than 6 years later. Take a few months to do things you enjoy especially if you didn’t have the time because of her. Find peace being alone. Then get out there and begin dating again.
>typical BPD manipulative girl who bombed me with way too much affection to build my attachment
As someone with BPD, is this what I’ve accidentally been doing to women for years? That would explain a lot about why women act crazier than me sometimes.
if you have to ask, then probably.
Something I learned the hard way too. “Forever” just means until I’m finished with you when a woman says it.
my best friend whom i love has been at a party the entire day and i'm getting withdrawal symptoms from having not talked today
Doesn’t sound like they’re just your friend
I turn 28 this year.
I think I'm now at the age where older women just as a regular guy instead of a young stud.
The best sex I ever had in my life happened when I was a 19 year old college student and I managed to score with a recently divorced 35 year old.
Last weekend i've had an alcohol for the first time in around 6 years and ever since then i can't stop thinking about having more.
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An energy drink for tomorrow morning. Wife is out of town so it's vidya tonight. I've been exercising and eating a whole lot better and seeing great results. Finally got over my coward-ass fear of going to the gym. Probably will wake up and head over to the gym early since I went to mass already.
No social interaction
Only job that I can apply for will not help reduce massive debt hole I've gotten myself into
Family hates me and I hate Family so goddamned much
Broken car. Can't fix it because tools got given away after losing house.
Can't set up Wright rack because Family refuses to let me fricking do anything
Only source of exercise is walking
Can't even fast because fighting with family every fricking time I see them and the only source of dopamine I have is food
I swear to fricking God I'll kill myself or them.
Clearly I'm not fricking good enough to exist but I fricking hate them so goddamned much.
I just want a cute loyal husband
Everyone's a prostitute