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Was just about to post this in the other thread, thanks for the fresh bread barkeep. I'll have a water I guess, not in the mood for much atm
My birthday is in 2 days and I'm wasting my life. I feel so empty and lonely all the time. I've got a relatively great job considering my situation, but I still live with my parents and I don't know how to get out. I don't even like my job anymore, I'm just sitting in my empty office browsing IST.org and watching the days go by, daydreaming I'm living inside the image on my calendar. I do the bare minimum amount of work and feel exhausted when I come home. To the point where I barely have energy for my workout. I push through anyway obviously, it's the only time in the day I actually enjoy. But tbqh the only thing I look forward to every day is going to bed so I can /think/ about a life I'll never have.
I don't know where to start to change this, I have literally zero life experience. I keep making plans in my head but none of them are realistic. I don't even want to participate in society anymore, it's so soulless
Oh and I also realized recently that I've never been complimented by the opposite sex, or very rarely at least, I don't remember the last time that happened. So that's been laying heavy on me this week. Plus, sometimes I feel like my oneitis has been playing me like a damn fiddle, but then I remember I've never mattered and we don't even talk that often anyway, but then I'm all like "what about when x happened" and I start over, it's a vicious cycle. Pretty depressing tbh
Anyway, that's it for me today
Do you think you could possibly be depressed? Might be worth talking to a doctor
>Do you think you could possibly be depressed?
I know I'm depressed
>Might be worth talking to a doctor
How is a doctor going to help me? Give me pills? lmao
Thanks for the (you) tho, don't have much else going for me atm
>Give me pills? lmao
Well it could help you, how can it make you feel worse than you already are? Plus I think doctors (in the UK anyway) try and go down the psychological route before prescribing anti-depressants.
>how can it make you feel worse than you already are?
Idk man, I've seen too many instances of people being fricked over by prescription drugs. I don't want to get hooked up on that crap
>psychological route
If you're talking about therapists and whatnot, my parents did send me to one when depression first hit me at 15 yo and it absolutely did not help me. Granted, my parents were in the room practically holding my hand but still. I don't think it's going to be any different this time. Posting in these threads is much better (and cheaper) imo
I got screwed up on antidepressants a while back. The NHS psychiatrist that finally set me on the road to recovery said that it was far easier and cheaper to chuck patients on tablets than it was to assign the patient to talking therapies. He also stated that the vast majority of studies indicated that psychological therapies had a far better long term success rate.
He managed to push through Cognitive Analytical Therapy for me (at a time when budiets were being cut hard locally) and that started my turnaround.
Budgets. Sorry, phone posting.
I'm glad to hear you were able to get out of it anon, hope things are going good for you now. I will never waste time and money on therapy though, I don't need it. I just need to get my shit together and figure out how to get out of the hole I made for myself. The more I think about it, the more I'm convinced I don't need professional help at all. What I need though is a friend (or better yet, a SO) but that doesn't seem to be working out too well for me haha, so I'll make do without
Anyway, hope you have a good weekend anon
Thank you anon, pretty contented now despite life throwing the odd curve ball...
Good luck.
I've been suffering from depression for 8 years when i went to a doctor. She did a blood test on me and basically just told me i am healthy and sent me back home. I felt like a complete idiot, talking about my depression for the first time after so many years and not getting taken seriously. That was one year ago.
I do think talking about it could maybe help, but a doctor is the wrong adress for that. They are not going to help a young, heterosexual man. And don't take any pills, ever. I would rather be depressed than a zombie with no emotions who only thinks he is happy.
I have learned over the years that nobody can help you, but yourself. You just need to figure out how.
Same feeling here, except no oneitis
I feel you anon, try to make friends or find a social group to attend to. Maybe some gym classes, idk. I’m in a similar boat.
>except no oneitis
giwtwm, it's the worst thing in my life rn but I've already cried enough about it in other threads lmao
I will definitely try to follow both your advice anons, will need to find something interesting to do, I don't know yet. Don't know about sports, never been much interested in such things but I'll keep it in mind. I really do need friends and none of the lads at work seem to like me so I'll have to give up on that side
Thanks for validating my opinion anon. Modern medicine is just pills pills pills that make you dependant on society. I wish I had the balls to become a hermit innawoods but that's part of the unrealistic plans I mentioned in my first post. But I digress
>nobody can help you, but yourself
Exactly. Need to get off my ass and do it
Hope you've been doing good this past year anon, I wish you the best. I unironically think threads like these are the best for talking about heavy stuff. It's free, you can say pretty much anything, and you can't be afraid of driving anyone away. Point is, I'd be glad to read your ramblings if you haven't already posted
Thanks anons
To be honest, my last year wasn't that bad. I got a new job that is pretty decent, i made new friends for the first time in over 10 years. I started lifting regularly, found a few new hobbies. But for some reason all of that means nothing to me and i can't stop thinking about how nice it would be to just fall asleep and never wake up again. Maybe i just felt too bad for too long. I don't know if chronic depression is an actual thing, but if it is, maybe i might have it.
I had the intention to kill myself tonight. I thought i would get drunk, frick a hooker and then off myself. But i felt like this on many days before and all of them ended in me being still alive at the end of the day.
Yeah sounds like you do have chronic depression. I guess after a decade it really fricks up your mind. It's good that you're getting better though, maybe after a while of this you won't feel empty anymore. You might even stop having suicidal thoughts, never know
I wish you all the best anon, don't give up. If it got a bit better, it can get a whole lot better. Just gotta be patient and persevere
Anon listen to me. First of all, good fricking job on absolutely staying away from prescription drugs. Really good fricking job. Barely does biology have any idea about what goes on in the brain, let alone medicine: we are not ready to create medication for anything brain related, we only have dangerous toys right now.
Second, and most important, is you are missing a community. Not IST or other internet shit, an irl one. By far the easiest way to go around this is, if you are about 25 latest, a sport club. Try to steer away from the basic football, basketball, tennis and other more "normie" sports, as other than being saturated with dumb zoomers these have an enourmous pool of talent which started earlier, and clubs can't really care to teach an older dude from (mostly) scratch. Aim for something niche like fencing, archery, or some more obscure martial art. The crucial caveat is it must be something you genuinly find cool, or would like to become good at otherwise no point at all, you won't stick around for much. With the more niche sports, the coaches are a lot more willing to put in work in young adults, and due to the smaller sizes and character of the sport you are more likely to interact with fewer people more often, good for starting friendships. It is important to note fully joining such a community takes more than just a few months, depending on how outgoing you are. After you attend a few competitions, find out the club's habits (such as going to the kebab place next street after training), you can start partaking in them. Slowly but steadily you will have good friends in a good (sport) environment. I am basing this of personal experience, will go into detail if someone asks but im done writing for now.
I'm finally over her. It just hurts things turned out the way they did, her being secretive and defensive and getting into shit I told her would only end up bad. Now she's in a cell for maybe the next 2 years for stealing and dealing weed.
I tried my best to help someone who could have been so happy if only she could trust in me.
Breaking my diet with some JD premixed cans and Chinese. Might be working part time down there next month since I worked up the courage to ask about any jobs since my current one is shit.
That's all really, gonna go for a jog tomorrow and then some medicine ball jumpsquats
Planning on quitting my wage cage job even though I'm under 1 yoe, it's just so mediocre and I'm not really gaining any career skills and it just fricks with my education, hours too long blah blah.
Increasingly, I'm rejecting the material in favor of the not readily available. Everyone wants money and to be hot, but those can be snatched away easily. I chase after what most either won't or simply can't see. The kitty is my inspiration. I can be happy easily, because all I want is already here for me. I just need to enjoy it.
>Planning on quitting my wage cage job even though I'm under 1 yoe, it's just so mediocre and I'm not really gaining any career skills and it just fricks with my education, hours too long blah blah.
Best thing you can do for life fitness.
> Increasingly, I'm rejecting the material in favor of the not readily available. Everyone wants money and to be hot, but those can be snatched away easily.
Ive been poor, its AWFUL.
IMO Maslows hierarchy of needs. Join the middle class then dont worry about money. If your below that its a dildo up ur ass
How does one find purpose? Getting better at stuff like chess or drawing, getting physically stronger and more defined muscles and gaining knowledge from books do not make me feel better. I am starting my master's degree in October. I am 22. I have no close friends. Having a social life for me is hard because I am poor and can't go out regularly like other people my age. I am pretty much a hermit during this summer. Completely alone. How does one find purpose inside himself? Something to make me feel like living when I wake up in the morning
>Having a social life for me is hard because I am poor and can't go out regularly like other people my age
I don't think that's the reason. Hanging out is free.
>Purpose at 22
Imo your goal right now should be to find yourself a low effort holding pattern. Like how planes save gas and glide over airports until they can land. You're too young to find meaning, you haven't seen enough yet. The only thing in your control is how you handle the waiting process until you do have enough wisdom to answer important questions. The smart strategy imo is to just focus on being natural. Stay in your lane, be natural, do your own thing. That strategy works cuz it's a) low effort, so won't waste any brainpower and b) people respond positively to it, so they'll be attracted toward you and want to give you things. Those things they give you will equate to experience, which equals wisdom. The secret to wealth: if you have a persona as someone who's willing to receive gifts, people will give you gifts.
I'm good, background thinking lately has been about fate vs agency. I've gotten so many lucky breaks in my life, leaving me grateful but wondering how much of a role I have in my own success. Like, do people laugh at my jokes because I'm funny, or just because I'm tall? I'm trying to integrate luck with hard work. The other day I had a problem at work, it fricking sucked and I hated it, very painful. But I stuck with it and solved it. The project result ended up subpar, honestly, but I'm proud of it, and I'm happy I received the lesson that you sometimes gotta do stuff you suck at and don't enjoy.
Thank you for the advice. I find it very wise. I need to keep in mind how young I actually am. I just need to follow my instinct because deep inside, I know what I have to do
>. I am 22. I have no close friends. Having a social life for me is hard because I am poor and can't go out regularly like other people my age.
Get a job if you don't have one, get a better one if you do. Or just go to college. You'll socialize there a lot, easy because everyone forced to be there.
Unironically go touch grass. Like go find a public park where there's a lot of people and hang out there. Or join an ultimate Frisbee group or something. There's tons of shit that's free to do out there that has people, go do it and get off IST.
fricking bullshit lmao maybe if u want some 95 iq curries
I'm an expat and I currently am facing similar issues and the terminator anon is right
every single "public" event is full to the brim with south asians or africans
I am on IST typing stuff on IST on a saturday night. I just stopped doing shit anymore, havent interacted with anyone in over three weeks and I dont aim to. I'll just work and hit the gym unless a miracle happens, and it wont. its just shy of impossible to meet proper people and make friends after uni.
I think part of the problem is you're putting pressure on yourself to have your lifes purpose figured out by 22. Damn man, you've only really been conscious for what, six years or so? And most of that time was a hormone addled blur of depression and masturbation, if you were a normal teenager.
Go easy on yourself, enjoy life. If a bit of structure and discipline is something you feel you need, just engrain it as part of your daily routine (e.g. the drawing), also get feedback and validation from a likeminded community, even if its purely online (not ideal but better than nothing).
>im too poor to have friends
holy cope batman.
I feel like the people around me are holding me back. I am self employed, own a home, have been working out consistently for months. I am doing well, better than I ever have, but I live with two roommates who are complete lazy slobs. One is obese but has a very good paying job, the other is in fastfood and has begun acting more and more like a Black person. I just feel like my life would be much more enjoyable if I could wake up and every sign of their presence would be gone from my house. The extra cash is nice every month but at this point I think it's making me soft, without this safety net I think I would push myself business wise to increase my income and my mental wellbeing would be much better.
Tall milk with some powdered milk for me.
Everything is going great, its legs day and I'm ready to go. Just waiting on my son to get home to go lift.
Worst thing on the day is my son wanted to try some other protein powders. And bought a brand named ghost and some awful flavor that I've been biting the pillow and using.
I am experiencing some kind of personality crisis. For the last couple of years I've been slowly finding hobbies and reading books to try to build some kind of personality for myself. I found writers and book characters that inspired me to be more like them and I also let my hobbies (working out, for example) define me. I like everything I do but I feel like I let other stuff define me and I am simply empty on the inside. If I was to quit all my hobbies tomorrow I would simply be an empty shell. I feel like all my ideas and beliefs are not my own. Is this normal? Have any on you gone through this? I am in my early 20s btw
You might just be an npc, sorry bro. I've had strong beliefs from a young age and sought out material that aligned with my worldview. But really we define ourselves, ask yourself what kind of person you WANT to be and just become that.
So there never has been a short warlord? A short capitalist baron? Your height has nothing to do with being "high value" unless you decide value purely on the whims of used up prostitutes.
Okay but nobody ACTUALLY respected these people, everyone would laugh at them behind their backs. They were just scared of being killed by other henchmen
How to actually stop being low value male? Lifting hasn’t really helped. I’ve never dated/had sex and my friend group is turning on me for being low value. What do? I’m age 20, 5’7 and 170lbs tubby. I don’t get what I’m doing wrong, fat people have sex and have friends, deformed people do. What’s so wrong with me? Is it because I’m short?
A high value male possesses power. Power over others, power over nature, power over one's self. Do you possess anything like that?
Well no I’m 5’7
i'm 5'7 as well and i've had 2 gfs
it may depend on where you live, girls in russia are less critical about height
my advice, if a girl cares that much about something that can't be changed she's not worth your time
I’m in uk I’m normally quite short where I go
I know but I don’t know how to develop personality, I have hobbies and stuff but not much has changed
I’m not uneducated I have 13 b/c grades and did plumbing course in college and studying law for college level
Good for you but you still sound like a dumbass. Learn to play the guitar or to paint or something like that, it makes you smarter. And read some books about whatever, then you can larp as an intellectual and girls are dumb enough to fall for that trick all the time.
Also stop being fat for the love of christ.
Same and had 5 gfs.
More money + you'll have to compensate with personality like how a chubby girl tries to get guys by being nicer (only you'll have to figure out how to be cool)
Well you stop being fat first of all. Then you stop being stupid by getting studies, reading, developing skills. And also you stop being poor. Get a job, sell weed, whatever.
If you're fit, cultured and have some cash to spare getting laid happens with little provocation.
I've failed my progression since Sunday. I just cannot manage to do the last 8-rep pull up set. Had some rest, and tomorrow I'll attempt again but it's annoying.
Managed to run four times this week as a part of marathon training and hoping I can stick to it.
And the thing that plagues me the most... I feel like such a loser. On Sunday went out with the guy that asked me out at the calisthenics park. It was alright.. At the end he kissed me. It felt like he was eating my face for minutes. Why am I so bad at this. But the reason I don't really want to see him is not that, we just don't have a common language. We stayed on the superficial level, like coworkers having lunch, for two hours. What am I to do. I will never have another chance at it. Nobody will ever be that bold to approach. And I'm unable to avoid him since we live in the same place. Why is everything so dumb and ugly.
Sorry for the blogpost, just had to get it off my chest. Am not a guy, for those of you who were ready with the >homosexual.
Good luck tomorrow.
Also goes on date with guy. Can't connect. Doesn't realize maybe a lesvian. 50-50 on still being homosexual.
But he will get over your lack of interest. Life goes on.
Do you have anyone to talk about your hobbies with? Had a coworker who sounded kind of like you, and prior to him going out to places where other people interested in the same things, he felt the same way. Making friends with the same interests legitimized them to himself.
Part of your job as a sexual being is to manage your own attraction to guys. If he's doing something that turns you off, either manipulate him to stop doing it or ignore it. He won't notice, honestly, we never notice when women manipulate us. As for ignoring us, if he starts crying about his past or whatever, and you find him pathetic and disgusting, but you want to stay with him long term, then just zone out and stop listening to him. He'll stop eventually. You gotta manage your own arousal. If he kisses you awkwardly then just zone out, think of what's going on at school or work or something. And when you get a chance, manipulate or guide him into how to kiss better. Use your unique brain that's a) good at thinking about stuff that's outside the current situation and b) good at managing other people's behavior
Man I'm not a witch capable of magically changing others' behavior. I can barely manage my own behavior. And I can't "make" him be interesting. Otherwise I'd just be talking to myself.
The zoning out while kissing is something I've done but it doesn't feel very healthy or honest.
Figure it out
>b***h I was about to hang out with dropped me probably for another guy
>got a date with a friend the other day and didn't capitalize because muh spaghetti
it sucks but at least got the work outs done and got me a new uniform so it's not that bad even if my back is killing me again, we on it, homieaaa
Finally fixed a lower back injury I had by figuring out the right way to stretch my glutes. Been in pain for over a year and now I finally have full mobility I can't deadlift over 405 anymore, but I think I might be able to. I might just pack it up and stick to high volume Romanian deadlifts.
Barkeep, I need to find a job/career.
It is ruining my mental health. I'm passionate about two industries that are dead and dying: literature and film. I feel like I have to finish my book or else my conscience won't let me be in peace but I have no hopes of ever making money off of it. I honestly don't know how to make it. I wish I knew what I wanted to do so I could pursue that with intense focus but I don't so I'm cycling the same negative loops over and over.
Drinks for this feel?
If I could time travel and tell my younger self anything it would be reddit tier advice; travel more and study language and get a job that nets you money while traveling.
You want to write and do literature, journalism is fake and dead but my cousin covers Russian Hockey sports drama as his travel job. You could still find something like this but you probably have to go out there and find it.
Make shitty short films on YouTube
Study something tangentially related. My only passion was music but then I discovered I had an affinity with most things art related. I started studying architecture without much hope and ended up loving it. If you like literature you probably have an affinity with careers that involve lots of reading, like law or psychology. I'm not necessarily suggesting those, it's just the first two that come to mid.
nta but in a similar boat. i find sociology and psychology infinitely interesting but it’s a uni only course. i’m a college drop out at 23, feelsbadman. just need to find a job related to it i guess
Here's a tip if you want to be a writer: never use the phrase "off of" again.
how to deal with mires and flirting from taken women? i’ve finally gotten jacked by normie standards and it’s insane how much more attention i receive. if i wasn’t addicted to porn and didn’t have a moral compass i would smash so much poon
>met a girl for about an hour
>super cute great personality
>immediately into her
>has a bf
>moving this week
Think the universe was reminding me how lonely I am
don't you find it funny, lad? I'm lowkey enjoying the ride as a little Job (with a way easier life though)
It is. At the very least it reminded me I need to stop being a shut in and actually go outside and meet new people.
nice, I got kinda mired by a woman the other day but she has a bf, I'm thinking about reaching her
give me some irish coffee, thanks
been watching better call saul and it may or may not be gaslighting me into working in law, i have a degree but i don't quite want to work there, want something peaceful and preferably from home for now
as for lifts, i've hit FOUR dips prs, from 14 to 16 to 18 to 20, it feels pretty amazing, considering it's my favorite exercise too
and also a dumbbell bench pr, did 21kg dumbbells for 15 reps, previous record was 14 for so long
and speaking of dumbbells, i bought some weights for my home gym, so i'm advancing from 21kg to 26kg, interesting to see how i'll fare with them
as for my personal life, gf left me about 4 weeks ago, threw a year old relationship into the dumpster, but it's fine
i remember how i cried for 2 days straight when that happened, how i just feel more angry than sad
more importantly, i feel kind of hopeless in this regard
if a person who's told me all year round how she's gonna be with me forever and never leave me fricking leaves me, how can i trust anyone with this
hopefully my trust issues get fixed by some based goth mommy that just falls from the sky to specifically me, a 170cm manlet, i guess
I no longer feel anger even when I should. I used to have a hair trigger and would get worked up over most things. I worked on my anger issues, telling myself to calm down, it isn't a big deal, etc. But I feel like I've removed anger from my emotional repertoire. In its stead, I feel sad. You insult me to my face, and I'd just feel a sense of melancholy instead of the rage I used to feel.
My wife is entitled and stubborn and I often fantasize about divorce. Also fantasize about death.
A root beer float, I'm still hungover from the show I went to last night
The only real issue I've got right now is my sex life with my fiancee. It's the usual story, we were wild about each other in the beginning, now 7 years later we have sex maybe once a week, and it's just kind of routine.
I've talked to her about how frustrated I am, and I feel bad because she's just always tired and distracted from work, but nothing has changed. I don't know what else to do.
>complaining about banging once a week with someone you love
NTA, but if I'm only getting it once a week then i'mma go find some somewhere else.
>Get fiance pregnant
>Lots of seggs due to hormones
i solve problam
All these feel threads do is remind me of yet another week that I have completely wasted and ruined and spent completely miserable and wanting to kill myself. Not a single second of happiness with each passing day week month and year. Another week gone by that I was too afraid to commit suicide to free me from this horrific god awful life. The Friday when I never have to see another one of these terrible threads on this horrible board will be the best Friday of my life
When our based barkeep quits posting these, I'll be there to post the feeding trough, with the best of the best American Goyslop and corn based products for anons to converge around. To remind you another week passed.
I am okay. Mentally speaking I’m doing way better than I have in years.
However that’s just the start. I’ve stood up in the hole I’ve been stuck in now it’s time for me to start climbing out of it.
Today I started applying to an apprenticeship but will have to wait on highschool transcripts to arrive in a week to turn it in. If I pass the aptitude test and get accepted I will begin working on January which is a big step for me. I’ll be able to recover my financial situation in about 1 year and finally leave the nest.
Aside from that I need to get my physical health in order. It’s a matter of consistency as I know what to do. I’ve done this in the past before falling into this hole and reverting back to my former 17 year old self. Get my diet in order, go on walks every day, cardio once a week, lift 2-3 times per week. And that’s it the fat will melt, I’ll muscle memory the lost gains back, 6 months to be down to na out 230lbs 6’2”, about 12 months to be in the teen body fat %’s, about 1.5 years to look actually good again and have my gains while being shredded probably would be about 195lbs @ 10%. Time frame doesn’t matter though and I’m mostly concreted with the fat. I just have to make that my lifestyle and not think about it, be consistent and before I know it I’ll look and feel 1000x better.
My ex texted me last Friday then told me to please ignore it immediately. I texted her back yesterday saying I hope she’s doing well and she said
>okay you too.
And I felt nothing. So that’s a good sign. I’m not sure why I’m mentioning this, I guess I’m proud that I’ve moved on. I was hesitant to text her back because I thought it would make me sad. But it didn’t. In the future I won’t even respond.
Next I need a sleep study. Pretty sure I have sleep apnea and it’s ruining me. I’m slowly but surely fixing my life and getting my life back in order though 🙂
Just some pineapple juice, thank you. Doing better at the moment, the last few weeks have been rough. I've been slowly coming to the realization that people love to complain, but never actually do anything. My dad and my closest friend both go on and on about how they're fat and out of shape, but when I suggest going to the gym or adjusting their diets it's just excuse after excuse. I can offer advice and encouragement all day, but if you don't want to put in any effort, how can you expect anything to change? It sucks because I want them to be healthier and in shape, but I don't think there's really anything I can do. Idk, maybe I just care too much.
Yep that’s me. Complain every day about how pathetic and humiliating my life is yet continue doing literally nothing because I don’t see a point
>girl I'm seeing casually asks for my bodycount
Yeah, no
Tease her. Say something ridiculous. "63 thousand, but it doesn't count because o was in Bali" something like that
I've told her "Not as many as I'd like to". She was pretty annoyed with the answer, but eh
Can you explain what the issue is?
Strategies:
>be honest
Don’t give a shit and be honest. You have to truly not give a frick though. Whether that’s because yours is low and you know hers is higher or vice versa.
>lie
This can be for if it’s high or low and you want to hide it. Say 4. 3 is too commonly said. 4 is believable. The goal with this strategy though is to determine her body count. It gets your experience out of the way so you can then gauge if you believe she’s lying about hers.
I’m kind of torn because I do believe it’s a good conversation to have at some point to decide whether you want to continue seeing them, but at the same time they lie too much.
>oh only 2 guys haha btw I’m not gonna mention I’ve sucked 30 dicks because that doesn’t count and also I’m not going to include the random hookups and ONS I’ve had because only relationships affect body counts tee hee.
Hibiki 12 year, neat please.
>posted about oneitis moving back home from out of state
>known her since grade school
>had a one night stand when I visited her
>got over her/seldom contact for a couple years
>texts me with intentions of moving back to our town
>surprised I want kids when asked
>notice she's showing signs of getting baby crazy and is constantly mentioning kids despite never wanting them
>talking regularly now, always dropping hints like "oh will you do X if I move back to town?", etc.
I feel like everything is going somewhat well for me after a long while, started new job, still living at parent's house (I moved back from out of state also), getting in the best shape of my life currently and my oneitis is fueling me to go harder even if she ends flaking.
I have a new smile there barkeep, gimmie something with some lemon in it.
I can't tell you how much people take their smile for granted, it feels so good to be able to look at not just women but men in the eye and garner atleast the basic respect. I used to avert eyes with my teeth, and you can tell the pained look onpeoples faces. Like, "damn this guy is funny but his teeth are fricked.". Friends where still friends with me despite how bad it got, and I thank GOD they are still my friends. I can't wait to smile with them in pictures man, just little shit like that. Just so that I can remember the good times, I used to avoid photos in the past.
God promised me a smile and he delivered, so I'm just thankful for what I got right now. It's looking up.
Been struggling with nofap for years and now I am finally over it ig. I met this chick on discord and we started talking. Things transitioned to sex, ended up making up a shit ton of bullshit lies about how ive fricked multiple girls and she believed me, but ig in my subconscious it made it so I actually wanted to make those things happen and now i feel like a different person. I dont understand how it happened but I dont feel any urges anymore and feel like I will eventually make it happen. Its fricking surreal
You left one life of degeneracy to plunge yourself into another.
Eh, at least you can tie yourself down in marriage instead.
Id rather be fricking ripe 18 year old pussy than jacking off to hentai anyway, seems like the most logical thing kek
why the frick is IST better than IST for discussing metabolism and biochemistry
asking for a friend also give me the entire bottle of canadian whiskey
cause science gays cite trash studies if they have any interest at all and have no empirical data
>ISTgays getting stifled by lack of critical thinking
Sad!
Any anons pay 50% of monthly income as rent? How do you do it?
Alternatively any anons able to share experiences with having roommates who weren’t people you knew before hand? Any tips to make that possible? Did they bring people over constantly did you see the roommate often did they respect you your space and your things?
50% is surreal. I know it's reality in many places now, but that is no way to live, under no circumstances. Moving is the only option in the long run.
That’s the goal eventually. I’m torn about it.
My options are as follows:
Get second job or work 6/7 days per week for OT so that rent ($1500) is 30% of monthly income and not 50%, eventually get enough annual raises until any over time is a treat to my wallet and 40 hours will have $1500-$700 be 30%.
Or move to new state.
I love and hate where I’m located.
>blacks
>dirty in many areas
>hoods/poor neighborhoods and middle class areas are strewn everywhere so they’re all 5-10 minutes from each other
The blacks will drive an extra 10-15 minutes just to come shop at my publix instead of their own. I’ve been to the one that would be theirs and it’s noticeably shittier.
An okay option for me may be to move to the west coast. But idk what rents look like over there. It’s definitely cleaner and less black people, but that’s been changing too because even black people don’t want to live near black people.
Thanks barkeep, think I will start with a Duvel, then work upwards...
The blonde's eyeing me up again. After a few weeks of pretending I didn't exist, last week she was surreptitiously tracking my movements around the arena. Yesterday she was overtly looking at me until I was within 10m, then looking away. Seemed sad.
I've done enough to break the ice with her. If I spend time chatting with her she's bouncy and happy, preens a bit, then she retreats the next time. Shyness? Feeling she shouldn't be sending signals to someone significantly older? She's 25...
I should know better but this is gnawing at me.
Something with pineapple please.
>my sister goes on her honeymoon last year in bali and has a great time
>comes back and struggles to get a good job
>decides to quit everything to travel around southeast asia for 8 months
>her and her husband guilt trip me for not visiting them, saying that I only live once and shouldn't be obsessed with my job
>I want to succeed and don't want to be poor
am I an butthole?
your normie sister probably has the cushion money from her husband
typical woman thing thinking that she can coast through life by not making money just because she has a pussy. Yeah a lot of women do live like this but for you and most guys, we need to cut the bullshit and make money
the dogshit traveling stuff is useless since
- it drains money
- seeing bunch of random arhitecture doesn't amount to anything in the long term
- doing hand signs while trying to speak to random SEA-monkeys gets boring fast
She doesn’t. Her husband is a gas station manager. They’re pleading 1/2 to 1/4 of their meager life savings on this trip
Posted this in another thread, I need advice because I don't know what to do. My best friend from high school hasn't wanted to hang out for like eight months, and everyone I've talked to seems to think its my fault, and I legitimately don't understand why. We discussed doing some hot swapping with our girlfriends last year, and I got to frick his 8/10 big titty goth gf, but I didn't let him frick my girlfriend (I'm not a cuck lmao) and all of our mutual friends say that was a fricked up thing to do, but isn't swapping inherently cucky behavior? Like, my friend is the one who suggested it, meaning on some level he wanted me to frick his girlfriend, right? Meaning he's a cuck, or at least likes cuck things? Am I wrong about that?
>Like, my friend is the one who suggested it, meaning on some level he wanted me to frick his girlfriend, right? Meaning he's a cuck, or at least likes cuck things? Am I wrong about that?
no you are not in the wrong, what kind of idiot let's his gf get fricked by another man, he deserved
he probably watched too much cuckolding porn
>help me justify my shitty actions in obvious larp
Lol get real.
I’ll tell a real story of cucking a childhood friend.
>fight with gf day before Valentine’s Day, break up
>get high and hit up random b***hes I know on Snapchat just for entertainment not expecting anything
>tell thick latina gym b***h she’s a weak dyel and that she needs me as her trainer
>she’s down
>okay first lesson is intense cardio hope your ready devil emoji
>mfw she’s down and wants to meet up right away
>link, hook up, after says she feels guilty because she flaked on some guy because he was ugly and short while I’m tall and hot
>year later reconnect with friend is known since we were 5, hadn’t spoken since 5th grade
>become bros again fast
>find out we both know that girl
>oh I hooked up with her on Valentine’s Day
>No that can’t be true because on Valentine’s Day I had a dinner date planned with her and she flaked on me
>awkwardly sit there as he connects the dots
>turns into a seething homosexual, everything after that is a dick measuring contest with him, starts doing typical beta passive aggressive nonsense and being belittling
>starts dating a girl who looks like an ugly version of the gym thot
>does shit to rub it into my face like I care (was happy for him more than anything) like when all friends are over his house he fricks her in his room
The difference between mine and yours is that I didn’t know he had a date with this woman, I hadn’t spoke to him in over a decade at that point. What you did was a scam. It’s akin to “you give me money and I sell you car. Thanks for the money now I speed off in car.” Obviously your story is a larp because no one lacks that self awareness. If it was real it would have been
>lol I lm a dick I did this to my friend I tricked him into getting cucked
If it’s real the ONLY way to get him back is to sit in a cuck chair and watch him rawdog your b***h, who’s likely cheating anyways.
Life is good.
I feel like the culture changed. Maybe that’s just getting older. A couple years ago everything felt more centered around passion, enjoyment, exploration, creativity, etc. Would get outside a lot more, stay up late with friends, would go to parties, on hookups, do graffiti, whatever.
Now we’re all trying to make a living. The guys I knew and know are all busting their asses at office jobs or else cashed out in the trades. The ladies have taken up 9 to 5s also, or else are looking to marry a wealthy guy. No hookups anymore. The only people I know who travel are couples that married early or passport bros going to east Asia. No one really does anything.
I long for someone to be close to but I have a hard time accepting women’s flaws. Or I often notice manipulative shit in their behaviour which undermines the trust I have. For example using sex as a barter chip or subtle insults intended to diminish the weight of my arguments during any sort of negotiation (a lot of dating is just negotiation).
Look the point of all this, for the young guys on here:
Stop beating off, get away from TikTok, YouTube, IST, anything too deliberately “refined” or intellectual. What matters is learning to live with yourself and with nature in an honest and straightforward way.
Keep your apartment and business clean, keep up with a couple good friends and go on hikes or for drinks with them. Don’t worry about buying a boat or any social media bullshit like that. If providence blesses you with a woman as a companion, only be kind or else be nothing at all. If something stinks just leave. Women are smart enough to figure most stuff out in a couple seconds so if you have to spend any time arguing or explaining, they’re playing you for a fool and your efforts will only be steps to condition you on the path which ultimately leads to complacency/ acceptance.
Travel is cool, art, reading, sports, nature. Get out whenever you can boys. Also for fricks sake eat healthy because everyone peaks somewhere within 22-34 and if you can avoid being old by 25 it’s 100% worth it.
great advice, especially appreciate your previous post about "no one does anything"
I have a lot of PhD friends at a top university nearby. They're all relatively wealthy, attractive(ish), well-read, social, etc.
All they do is work and travel. That's their lives. Half of of them (or more than half) don't seem to like working either.
When they travel, they hike & dine. That's also it.
I don't know, maybe I'm missing something.
It’s been a wild summer of me trying to avoid my bpd ex who has been stalking me/ sending me emails and my childhood friend went on a date with a chick yesterday and saw my ex at a bar with her friends and somehow I delft depressed because my life is kinda on stall without her and even tho I went on two dates with 2 girls I still miss her.
How do I cope? And how do I get rid of jealousy of watching other people living it? I mean I’m happy for a bro when he benched 2pl8 and give him advice but I can’t stand people dating so easily. I ignored her so much btw that she so me today and didn’t even say hi
HELP
I don't drink but I'll tell a story.
Legs day. Waiting on leg press so I continue working out. See cones by leg press.
Girl using it had shit herself on it and left. Poor jannie had to clean it.
Just don't feel like a leg day without squats presses and lunges.
dad's work van got broken into but they just took a backpack full of sweaty clothes. it was a wealthy neighborhood too. nowhere is safe anymore
*pssssssss*
Lol there’s about an 80% chance they were nigs not from your neighborhood.
I better stop leaving my fishing backpack in my backseat they’ll think it’s hot valuables in it. Technically it does but some stupid Black ain’t gonna know how to use or sell them
Friend had a Playstation 5 box that he went to throw away, but left it in his car a few days. Had a baby and changed their diaper and put the dirty diaper into the box. Went to stop at his apartment dumpster and 2 black dudes i guess thought it was a new Playstation since he grabbed a trash bag with some work stuff first and the box was alone in the back seat.
While he was out they opened the door, grabbed it and ran.
My wiener is huge. I stretch out women so much that they’re sore and can’t wait walk straight for a week. I am GOD.
Feel for unattainable pussy once again
>slightly taller than me
>Older than me
>Way to pretty for me (I’m a chudcel looking ass)
I don’t even feel in love just straight up fricking frustration
How can I redeem my character after constantly ghosting people and responsibilities whenever I go on bender? It's like the fourth time, can't keep a job, and my family lost respect for me a while back
I am in love with a prostitute. She posts dirty pictures of herself on instagram.
Campari is fricking expensive
>Water, as always.
i have decided that im not gonna care much about sociallizing and im not even gonna try to date until i lost the weight (im obese).
Kinda shitty but im tired of playing the social game in hardcore mode.
Today i started the meme diet of extended fasting with only carnivore refeeds.
All my life i was obese and Its no the first time i try to lose the weight.
Tbhs, im kinda tired of this shit, but giving up feels like dying to me.
I hate uni but I also hate working.
I hate adult life so much, and since I'm ugly, I can't even enjoy the only good part of it.
it was my birthday yesterday. i have no friends, I miss my c**t Chilean ex because im lonely
To some small extent we are your friends. Happy birthday dude.
Liquor and sausage/cheese is dumb fricking good
I have a solid 5-year plan.
I just need that small thing called a career.
Feeling pretty down. I just want to work, prove myself, and all that jazz and I'm unsure of where to go since I've been kicked around by life for so long. And yes, I know that no one cares. It just sucks.
If in doubt working for the government is always a solid career option. You get underpaid but once you figure out the system you can just underwork. Then just let the bennys that don't have an exact price take care of the rest.
This is me. I work for the government and make $55k. Interviewing for another job at a different agency making $80k
I'm a teacher with 6+ years now and I am making 56k so in same boat. Technically accounting for inflation I believe I am eating a 7% real income loss.
Same boat mang just gotta keep moving forward.
Damn it, I've been trying to get a reasonably beautiful girlfriend or fwb, though I still haven't found a woman who likes me...
So all I do is:
>go to the gym and I've only been getting compliments from other guys at the gym:
"You look like you lift heavy", "You've grown"
>working part-time and going to college, though I'm a few years older than my classmates than my classmates.
>hit the library too
>mostly play acoustic guitar by myself due to being a few years older than them, I've overheard music teachers say that I play on an intermediate level.
>do groceries and cook: rinse and repeat.
>I use to go to bars, clubs and festivals too by myself or with my bros: Though I've realized that bars, clubs and festivals aren't my thing.
I seriously want a gf or frick buddy though.
I've tried dating apps too, though I'm getting the impression that a whole lot of women use dating apps for validation and attention, because they just don't reply or send a message: even when we've matched.
Where and how should I look for a reasonably beautiful girlfriend or frick buddy?
Also, how do you Anons flirt with women?
Of course she doesn't need to look exactly like pic related.
Anyone?
>I've been trying to get a reasonably beautiful girlfriend or fwb
lmao so is every single other man on the face of this planet, but there are few beautiful women.
You're going to have to go out with your friend group to bars/clubs or find a girl at the gym. That's about it.
How am I
suppose to stand out against other men, when it comes to women?
I'm sure you know how fricking fierce the competition is for us men in today's world.
It doesn't matter how smart/dumb, beautiful/ugly, wealthy/poor, etc said woman is: she wants a guy who makes bank/a lot of money (I'm a college student who works part-time..)
Women want guys who are handsome and taller than them, I'm reasonably tall though weightlifting and all these skin products haven't done much for my face.
Personality, charisma isn't as important as most people say it is:
You could be the most charismatic guy on the planet and have the best personality, though if you're not handsome and make a lot of money, then women in today's world won't want to be with you.
I've seen guys like this get rejected A LOT in real life, on dating apps and social media.
I believe social media and dating apps are mostly to blame for women having incredibly high standards nowadays.
It seems impossible to meet a woman who actually likes you for who you are as a man in today's world.
Am I gay? So it seems. So it seems
Just a coffee. As black as it can be. I need to think.
My bro recently ended with this furry onlyfans prostitute and now she's accusing him of rape, but I know very well he didn't do shit since he's a total beta.
Now, I know what you're all thinking but here's the thing. He's my big bro (by 6 years) and I incorrectly assumed he knew better so I didn't say anything when they started dating.
I even found his twitter and he clearly has suicidal thoughts but I just don't how to help him or if I even can.
Man, I gotta say, much as I hate to admit it, my hairline receding and thinning fricks me up. I'm otherwise tall and handsome, but I spend fricking way too much time looking at my thinning hairline in the mirror, taking infinite pictures. Tonight some 40 year old woman tried to guess my age and guessed right around 33 and she said "I'm looking at the hair" and it made me right fricked when I came home.
Shittiest bit is I've been doing different min/fin regiments for more than a year now trying to improve it and it's still slowly disappearing on me plus now I deal with finasteride fricking around with my libido. Frick boys. I know I shouldn't care but I do. It's such a big part of your look and what kinda girls you can get. I'm not ready to go full on cope and shave it completely.
I don't know much about this subject, and my hair is receding as well, but maybe look into plugs.
worked for JPEGMafia.
Expensive but finance bro grind and you'll get there.
love jpeg, got injured from one of his moshes a few years ago and i wasn't even in the pit
Yeah I dunno man, the expensive trip to Turkey for the save is still basically a temporary solution because unless you continue railing finasteride all the rest falls out anyway.
It's a petty and vain thing to be so concerned about, but also it does determine some amount of your life quality.
Why do you care so much about the hair? I joke about my grey/platnium blonde hair right at the widows peak as stress from work
Because it looks bad and how I looks matters to what kind of partner I can get.
Then find a better hairstyle that is more suiting. Then realize what kind of man girls expect out of you and figure out how you should respond moron. Every girl thinks I am some nerdy idiot until call them a b***h and that they deserve to be on a leash or bring out the alcoholic in me.
This girl from the gym is into me but I'm not really sure if I should entertain a girl I'm not fully into. I don't want to hurt someone, or use a well meaning person as a frickbuddy. I'm contemplating just talking and seeing where it goes, but I also recently flew too close to the sun when my oneitis got my number but the talking went nowhere, so the feeling of really being into a girl is still recent. My dumbass is also still holding on to the hope that maybe she will ready for something next time I bump into her, if that ever fricking happens.
Also decided I'm gonna go back to school, so that's kind of exciting. It feels nice finally having some real direction in my life to focus on again. Lately it's just been gym and aimless living.
Quick update. Said girl I'm not super into sent me DM today wanting to hang out. I said I wasn't sure if I was looking for anything and didn't want to lead her on, but that I'd still be down to hang out. Hopefully I don't hurt her if we end up hanging out, because she seems nice. I'm not even that excited though.
Hopefully its not selfish. I figured why not, because its been a while since I've been on a date and maybe she will be cooler than I think. But she just doesn't seem to have that spark I look for, and I'm not sure if I should entertain anything at all if I don't feel anything.
sounds like you are capable of being upfront about your intentions, so just make sure if things do continue you feel comfortable asking her if she wants more and also that you're mature enough to be honest with her about what you want. it might hurt her if it's not the answer she wants, but that just a part of relationships/dating. just don't use her for sex if she clearly wants more with you.
Frick that. I’ll use women all I want, simp ass homosexual. Women are literally walking veganas for men to use as they wish.
I don't have anybody to talk to about my interests. My girl is a good sport and tries to listen, but I know it's really boring for her. My best friend has to suppress yawns when I talk about the books I've been reading.
I don't have any problem talking about whatever other people care about, but it increasingly feels like I have no outlet for my stuff. I've just learned to shut up. Feels bad
iktfb
I try to tell people to read books, anything, or try some different things to watch/listen to.
Always the same, no one reads anymore. No one cares about history or the human condition.
Every yuppie I meet with an iPhone and more money than sense always exclaim, "Have you seen Ted Lasso?!". At least that's been my experience the last few months/years. Just an example. Anything that isn't simple and close to the normie world just doesn't exist.
It sucks bro. When my buddy's birthday came up I got him a game he wanted, and Roadside Picnic (he likes the Stalker games). For the past two weeks he's been talking on and on about the game but he hasn't even touched the book. Like I'm glad he's getting enjoyment out of his gift but damn I just want to talk to somebody about a book.
At least my girl reads. I'll never get her into history/anthropology/contemporary events stuff but she's open to literature as long as it's fiction.
I finally got into a relationship with the girl I've wanted for so long. She's the best thing that has happened to me in a long while. But i used to watch a lot of ntr and cuckshit porn before this and though i haven't seen any of it since I have gotten together with her, I still find myself waking up at night unintentionally jerking off imagining that with my girl.
I'll go 6 feet under before even involving a guy for a threesome, let alone becoming a goddamn cuck.
How the hell do I stop this man?
Stop touching your dick moron
>How have you been?
we need a heinkein here , like you wouldn't believe....
I'll take a club soda with lime.
My son will be born in November. I'm stoked. Looking forward to raising a man. My mental health is great, my physcial health is great, but my financials could be a lot better. My wife is currently on maternity leave, so I'm the only source of income now (67k per year). I have about 60k in an investment fund and about 5k in savings. I'm just stressing over money and need more of it. He's not even here yet and I'm trying to figure out how I'm gonna afford it.
you're a good dad
Money is the only thing that I've had success at. What do you currently do and what is stopping you from moving upwards?
Currently a videographer and photographer. Trying to get my personal business running, but struggle to acquire new clients. Tried email marketing, social ads, cold emailing and cold calling. Still haven't tried door-to-door though.
Pitching content creation with a monthly retainer of 3k.
the 67k salary is coming from an agency I work for, but I want to branch off and be on my own.
Do you have clients in your area for what you're going for? If so, have you checked to make sure your rates are comparable as well as services?
I'm almost middle aged and I'm active and in shape for the first time in my life the last two years. Which is great; I'm way happier with how I look and feel. I kinda want to try picking up a sport but after a lifetime of being whatever the polar opposite of athletic is it just feels intimidating and hopeless. I'm a thirtysomething man and can't play a functional game of fricking catch.
Bombay tonic.
You could try something non-competitive at first. If it bores you, you can move up from there. Just in case you didn't think of that already.
>I kinda want to try picking up a sport but after a lifetime of being whatever the polar opposite of athletic is it just feels intimidating and hopeless.
I was forced to play sports in the military for after work PT. I got in trouble more than once and almost written up for appearing like I'm intentionally not trying because I had no experience playing anything and I was afraid of getting hurt from it. The only time I played okay was volleyball but even that I have no ability to control the ball so my hits were very random. There's a certain amount of body /spacial awareness that becomes non-existent if you never engage in team sports from a young age.
Surprise me barkeep.
Cute girl at college I’m trying to hit. I’m a 19yo virgin addicted to porn, will getting off porn help my case?
Just getting off porn is pretty good but it's not the final solution. I feel like it's about getting confidence mainly. Start doing some hobby or anything that you feel you're good at or have even a chance of getting better at.
Thank (You) anon, very sound advice. I appreciate it.
An absinthe. Whatever's available, but I'd prefer Swiss if you have any.
Cute girl shot down an approach. I wasn't hedging my bets on her anyway, but that was my only attempt in the past five or six years. I have to remember that effort is just as important as anything else and that I can't stop the search. You know how it is, though. It would be too easy to slink back to comfort and forget about everything. This drink is just to help me sleep instead of stay up late.
Better make it a flight in that case.
tomorrow high school water polo scrimmages start for me to officiate, havent officiated a game since last november. then after those i have to go officiate soccer matches.
Coke zero with a glass thanks.
I posted earlier in the week on the Monday spirit thread, long story short I've spent my last two months preparing to off myself since I've spent over two years completely immobile in my career and in my romantic life.
I've applied to literally over 100 jobs. I have a bs magna cum laude, an ms from a literal top 5 global university in my field, and 10 years of experience with references and can't even get an interview for anything that is slightly better than what I'm doing now. I make 6 figures but live in an area where that's basically minimum wage and don't even have a nice vehicle except my paid off older truck.
I filed for and got a divorce 8 months ago from a manipulative woman and its been over 2 years since I've even kissed anyone. I'd enjoy spending time with someone right now but I'm abhorrent to all women. I lift hard, and sit at a muscular 190 at 5'10" I used to think I was attractive as in college I had plenty of girlfriends. No matter what I do in person, on dating apps, whatever I can't get anyone to even speak to me. The last date I went on was with a 45 year old unfrickable woman I wasn't remotely interested in who told me about her literally hundreds of sexual partners. I can't even get one. I didn't believe incels before, but if you are not 6x6x6 and a solid 10 out of 10 you actually don't exist. Period. I went from utterly against their thoughts to an unwilling full convert.
The only thing I see at this point is to end it. My house is in order and I'm dropping my dog off at my ex wife's place and heading in to the woods to let the animals consume my body. Have a will and letters typed up and i've cleaned and organized my house for the people who have to dispose of my pointless crap. It'll be nice to not have to live this pointless fight any more.
And yes i've been through this. Go to therapy every week but can't tell them about this because I'll get locked up. Tried talking to my friends but they just tell me its all good and something will happen soon.
Nothing happens, nothing gets better. The world will be a better and happier place without my existence except for the prostitutes that I've given a small amount of attention to. They'll have to find another piece of shit to drag along and abuse.
I dont know why women gush about their sexual partners on dates. Its got to be some female physique thing. That said, the modern dating game is stacked against men. Most people believe its only possible to date using the internet now but with so many different apps the small number of women are split and get tons of attention while men just get bots to force them to pay pig. But IRL can be somewhat intimidating until you just say whatever the frick you want.. which only works when its not people you work with/related to.
i think everything will be okay anon. post face. it can't be that bad
Not going to do that on here as I don't want a legacy of being that guy who offed himself on an internet board. I just got professionally photographed for an event through my job and even I felt disgusted when I got the print. My first thought is now I understand why people won't even interview me when they've got a troll on linkedin staring back at them. Much safer to onboard a nice diversity hire or woman who will tik tok about her job.
>Much safer to onboard a nice diversity hire or woman who will tik tok about her job.
>some suicidal incel loser ends up being racist and a misogynist
haha pathetic fricking loser, when you have a nice day the world will truly be better off
have a nice day homosexual
you'll be okay. take your money, go to thailand for a year and go frick some prostitutes. you'll feel better
>graduates magna cum laude with masters from top 5 university
>stupid enough to say shit like "I make 6 figures but live in an area where that's basically minimum wage"
yeah kys
That's exactly the plan.
I work in a field that requires you to be on site. Last year was about $140,000. I'll break it down for you:
140000/12=11,666
11,666*0.65=7582
My rent is $3300/month for an unremarkable place. I have to pay $500/month for garage parking space so the hobos won't frick in my truck. That's essentially one paycheck gone.
Internet, utilities, trash, natural gas, recycling, water, sewer, auto insurance, rental insurance comes to about $500/mo.
Groceries for one person $500, gas $250. Student loan payments are $400 but I double pay to try to get those lower so $800. Probably spend $300 on dates, or trying to get a date a month. Gym membership and cell phone bill combined is close to $200. My very minimal credit card payment is usually around $200
That leaves me with about $600 left over after everything. God help me if my car breaks down and I'm not even counting my health insurance coming out of my paycheck.
>I MAKE 140,000 A YEAR, THIS IS BASICALLY MINIMUM WAGE
>My rent is $3300/month for an unremarkable place. I have to pay $500/month for garage parking space so the hobos won't frick in my truck.
Have you considered not living there?
That's why I'm trying to get a job anywhere else. I've even said I'm willing to take a massive pay cut to move to a place like denver or salt lake. I'm amazed when I even get a rejection, its mostly just radio silence.
>im planning my suicide, ive updated my will, i will go into the woods to kill myself, dropping off my dog, etc. im killing myself asap
>haha ackshually im planning on a massive life change to move to a completely different city and state for a new job that will take lots of time and planning to execute
yeah frick off you attention prostitute
That blows man. I think I end up with more savings than you as a teacher making 56k and purchasing a home well under priced.
>Probably spend $300 on dates, or trying to get a date a month. Gym membership and cell phone bill combined is close to $200.
Lol lmao
If you're going to have a nice day, why not have fun with it? Why make your death as unremarkable and mediocre as your life? Go do something fun, man.
Move to a different country first. Like southeast asia, specifically bangkok, then to phuket. You'll live like a king.
Work at a tourist spot or at a hostel. Your soul needs it. Frick the US.
I guess. I think I'd rather an hero than spend time around insects.
Like bugs? It's really not that bad. Plus it's CHEAP af and the women there love Americans.
What about Tokyo or South Korea?
You have the freedom right now to ditch everything and explore the world. Don't ruin it over your "looks" or lack of job.
Tokyo is not CHEAP, what are you talking about?
For a megacity tokyo is pretty cheap. Granted Chinese megacities are even cheaper. Tokyo you're looking at probably half the price for quality as places in US/Europe.
If you're staying in a hostel, sure. Otherwise, it's pretty expensive. Food is as expensive or more than in the US. Alcohol is way more expensive
You can get breakfast easily for 3-4$ and get a high quality meal while in the US you'd pay 10$ per meal easy.
Maybe I did Japan wrong, but breakfast was almost non-existent outside of the 7-11/Lawson.
bro wtf lol you're in a rut not in a situation worth ending your life...
are you in prison, are you homeless? Your situation is not even remotely bad.
second this, six figures? should be able to budget 5k and go to thailand and frick hookers for dirt cheap while living like a king
Bro get your ass overseas now. The US is not normal at all (anglosphere generally).
where would you recommend?
If you’re in the US just go to Mexico City first. It’s close. Check out South America as well. I’m not really into SEA but that’s also an option. If you are competent with Spanish all the better.
Also you sound educated enough to be able to get into a digital nomad type situation. That will be a game changer for you.
Huh, actually hadn't considered that, thanks!
Juicy juice please, flavor doesn't matter
>Got asked about my goals again
>30
>noticing creases on my face
>starting to get some pudge when I sit down around hips and stomach
>muscle mass seems to be declining despite keeping up my regular lifting
>hair thinning
Man, no one told me that it went down hill this suddenly.
I have lived long enough to finally find what
I Was looking for
It hasn’t been a year, yet the me from a year ago feels like totally different person.
I am glad I’ve lived a hard life
Without i wouldn’t be nearly as self reliant and resourceful as I am today.
Things are going pretty well for me, about to start college and I got a girlfriend two weeks ago. However, there are some redflags that I see in her, namely she is a little chubby but has shown interest in losing the weight and going to the gym with me (she said it out of the blue). Also, her car is pretty filthy, which I feel says a lot about a person. The sex is pretty good so I am a little worried that it might be altering my judgement skills lmao.
Their cars are more often filthy than not (gets better as they get older). That's not a particular red flag, I don't think. Housework can also be a bit of a mystery...
"Home is behind
The world ahead"
That really hits, doesn't it. Just bourbon btw
I've come to the realization that women and sex are not real. What do I do with that information?
read philip k dick
Hi Lloyd. A little slow tonight, innit?
Had a shit ass week as per usual. This isn't really IST related but it's about meds so close fricking enough. Anyways my bipolar meds have been causing me to feel flat and I fricking hate it. I miss my manic episodes where I'd clean the entire house top to bottom and cause me to apply to dozens of jobs in a single day. Now I have fruit flies it's so dirty in here god fricking dammit. I want to ditch 'em but being med-free is a double-edged sword. On one hand, the meds take away the depressive lows and the dangerous impulsive behavior, while on the other hand, I am becoming more and more complacent as the days go on. It's like I have no more motivation to do fricking anything. I've become so fricking LAZY and I hate it. Also these fricking meds cause my leg to bounce involuntarily while sitting it's maddening. Why did my dad have to be a basket case heroin addict, anyways? I never even met the bastard before he ODed. Oh well. At least the gym gives me temporary fulfilment from the lonely, aching void.
I enjoy nothing in life. Can’t remember the last time I was glad I woke up. Maybe as a kid.
I’m apathetic towards all events. Happy events? Happy for 5 minutes at most. Sad events? Sad for a few minutes, then back to feeling nothing.
I’m like a husk, I don’t have many friends, and those that I have I barely see.
I sometimes have violent thoughts in which I get killed or I kill myself.
Other than that, life is good, I earn good, have a decent body/face. I had extremely low self esteem growing up, due to always being told what’s wrong with me.
It’s me, my existence, I wish death upon myself.
Cold water
Man, I relate to everything you wrote.
I still feel like a husk, but recent events have shown me that really, I am just incredibly disconnected from my emotions. The fact is that nobody really cares how I feel and even if I could indulge in the full spectrum of my emotions, it would put me in a worse/unproductive state.
Fitness is a nice distraction, but ultimately you can only spend so many hours working out each week. It's moronic but I'm slowly considering abusing steroids and drugs in some sort of drawn-out suicide ritual. I think it would be a pleasant way to go before hopefully my organs give out.
>I am just incredibly disconnected from my emotions
Yeah, that’s me. I got a car recently, I don’t think I was happy for more than 5 minutes, as I’ve said. No, I don’t watch porn, it’s frankly unenjoyable.
I’m talking to a shrink, and they understand my apathy. They told me that what I lack is a social circle and to feel that I belong somewhere.
I have parents, I can’t just off myself, not even over a period of time. I want to live my life, at least try to enjoy it. I have the impression I’m emotionally castrated.
My sister commented on my state recently, she said I should just change my attitude
>no matter what happens, just take it as it is, move on and don’t get stuck
She’s gone through similar shit I went through, but she’s married with 2 kids.
Don’t give up anon, I believe at some point we might end up enjoy living, although I currently wish I didn’t exist. Some days are better than others.
Glad you found something you like anon, keep going. Hinestly, as long as we’re here, we might at least try.
I got hobbies I liked to, but whenever I try to go back to them I have this voice in my head telling me I should be doing something that makes money instead. So I do nothing in the end.
I encourage you to try any hobbies you seem to be interested in, anon.
Good luck
I’ve been stuck feeling this way during most of my 20s and it’s prevented me from crawling out of neet depression. I recently began fixing it. For me it was fishing. I just started trying to do a bit each day. Spend some time walking around casting in nature, maybe catch the occasional fish and get that rush of excitement. It’s started to fix me. Slowly. I’m beginning to enjoy other things again.
I don’t think you have to fish, but spend time each day outdoors.
I’m still pretty fricked up though, this has only kind of scratched the surface of the problem. I feel that it’s turned the knob to the door which needs to be opened and traversed.
I have so many interests and old passions that I can’t seem to just work on. Maybe it’s because I need to work so that the free time I have is more enjoyable? Idk I feel too bored and tired all the time and I know from when I’ve had jobs any free time I had was spent lazing around because I was too mentally tired to do anything. Oh well, I got my fishing at least. It’s better than laying around scrolling until I pass out at night. And catching a new fish or a personal best always fills me with this high that lasts a day or two.
I'll get a lemon, lime and bitters thanks. This has been a really tough year for me. I've been unemployed since January and up until June applied for many hundreds of jobs. I had a fair few interviews, but nothing ever materialised. I jumped through so many hoops and spent so much time and effort dancing like a monkey to appease hiring panels and bullshit recruiting processes but had nothing to show for it. I got really disillusioned with it all, truthfully, I still am. In July I started up a course of study (part time, online - basically doing not much) at a university so I can at least have something in my resume to say that I'm doing something now when I apply for jobs again. Yesterday I looked up a bunch of jobs and found a few I'd be a good match for, I was about to start writing cover letters but then I just stopped and said "nah I'm a white guy, this will a humiliating waste of time". It was a bit of a scary realisation. But overall, I feel like I'm going crazy. Lonely and isolated in my hone alone for so long, very little in the way of social interaction of the past 8 months. Financially it has been incredibly tight but I've scraped by, though all this stress and social isolation is really taking a toll and I'm aging really hard. I don't have any semblance of routine anymore, I just exist. I want to get back into work to give me meaning, purpose, structure, but I don't know if I can. Maybe I'm too far gone. I'm 30. I feel like such a failure, a loser, a deadbeat. It's no coincidence that over the course of this year, all my "friends" showed their true colours and don't associate with me anymore. They were happy to spend time and hang out when times were good and I was making good money, but now that times are tough, they abandon me, which just compounds my descent into madness.
Just mark yourself as black and use more buzzwords.
use chat gpt to write cover letters, I refuse to write any of that bullshit.
i have reached terminal apathy were everyone around me in public is just a NPC cardboard cut out of a human being
zero connection/empathy towards anyone
complete and utter indifference
I actually managed to get a gf and the sex is insane I asked about her from a friend who went to school with her and he said she’s used to be a hoe I’m not sure if I should keep talking to her or if I should just break things off
A classic case of asking stupid questions you don't want answers to
Yep. Many such cases. Maybe he was fishing to find out a red flag because it was going too good. Now virgin is dating a hoe and about to throw it away like she does her panties
this is why I went to prostitutes and tried most variations of girls, so that shit like this doesn't get to me
I'm new to this board (mostly posted on IST and IST and IST)
I'm tired of seeing coombait every 2 posts.
>tfw a few kg off weight loss goal
>tfw face gains, I look symmetrical and nice jawline (still a little fat left but it's coming off)
>studying
>month and a half sober
Life is good
Vodka.
God, I have so many things to do, yet I don’t have the motivation to do it.
I think it’s because of how dull I have become after sleeping 4-5 hours a day for 3 months now.
Give me a shot.
I'm going to do it I'm just going to ask her out I don't care if I get rejected I'm just going to get it over with. There is no friend zone here I barely even talk to her but I see her looking and I'm just going to fricking do it take her to a brewery that just opened up, done.
Don't even wish me luck I'm just going to fricking do it.
I wish you luck
There are actually a lot of women in the world, my man. If she says no, frick it
How to cope with the fact that it was over since the first day of birth?
By fricking King Arthur or your 9 years old wife
I’m a balding DYEL freak who has no friends or interests. All I do is work and lift and idk what else to do with my life.
huge arms but pecs look kinda underdeveloped, you do enough benching?
and no, you are in no way a dyel
Loads of volume into chest. Flat & incline db & cable flys. It’s better than what it was but can still only bench 70kg a for 3x8 lmao. I haven’t made progress in my reddit tier PPL for 6 months.
Frick bros I feel like I don’t have a soul anymore. As a kid I used to be interested in literally anything and now nothing at all. How do you all reconnect with yourself? Monk mode?
>but can still only bench 70kg a for 3x8 lmao
that's pretty amazing man
i myself do dumbbell flat bench with 21kg dumbbells for a maximum of 15 reps, though i got some more weights and i'm gonna be doing 26kg for however much i can when they arrive
>As a kid I used to be interested in literally anything and now nothing at all
hey man, try doing stuff that you haven't done before
go hiking or something
>14kg dbs on curls
that's impressive, what do you mean?
for me at least, i do 8kg-11kg on spider curls and 11kg-13.5kg on hammer curls, all slow and controlled so i really feel that shit in my bicep
I also only lift the 14kg dbs on curls lol. But I do them slower every time I go to the gym (4x12)z Still can never make the jump to 16s though for some reason.
Would a version of you that is 15-20lbs heavier with like 5-10lbs more fat beat the shit out of this version of you? Does everyone here lift to become a male model or something like seriously?
It's obviously because of women:
>woman would turn them down at high bf%
>they workout to go running back to said person
Sounds cucked to me, also gay.
Bottle of whey, please.
I'm an expat, but the housing situation where I live is making me consider moving back home (Caribbean) within a year or so. Problem is that there won't be decently paying jobs in my field. What are courses I can do that won't be too expensive and can be done in a few months that can help me get a job easier? Main field back home is tourism or some shit in government, and I have a background in education and copy editing, and there are no real opportunities for that. Any advice?
Does anyone have tips for getting out of the "trying to make it" mindset and just being content with who you are right now?
I've spent years self improving and I'm actually confident and pretty normal now, I have a lot of friends, I go out quite a lot, but I just can't shake the mindset of feeling like I'm still an outcast and I keep needing to prove myself to everyone.
Every social interaction still feels like me proving to myself and others that I'm confident and normal, even though I've been confident and pretty normal for years.
I feel like I'm going to come off as creepy to any girl I talk to and I desperately have to prove that I'm normal.
Even though my life is in pretty good order I constantly feel like I need to do X, Y and Z and only then will I be happy with my life.
I'm not relaxing and enjoying life I'm just constantly on the brim of feeling like I've almost made it as a normal person but never quite getting there. I feel like a fraud, I act like a normal person but I feel like everyone can tell I'm not a real normal person I'm just a loser who acts normal.
Well, im losing my job next week with pretty much no savings. Gonna go homeless, give me something to drink before I off myself barkeep.
It has come to my attention that the person who I probably delusionally (since we've really, to be honest, been mere acquaintances, and interacted as such, and briefly) thought was my only (if sort-of) friend, who is also 30 years older than me, deliberately did not invite me to his daughter's bat mitzvah, despite my attending the synagogue, which he also goes to, nearly every Shabbat for the past 9 months, and that I proved excellent knowledge of the Talmudic texts, Mishnah, piyyutim, Gemaras, Kabbalah, etc., though I'm a gentile. Despite the fact that I once recommended a skin treatment for his daughter. I feel, betrayed.. and I don't know how much longer I can go on like this, with no friends, barely anyone knowing my existence outside of my longhoused family. No, forget it, I already feel better about it. I'm fine really.
A girl I was dating told me she was “queer and pansexual” and wanted to be in a “throuple” but I felt bad about dumping her so I pretended to be depressed and pathetic so she would leave me first
I'm full on depressed. Last few days I've slept more than I've waked. I wake up and eat, then within a few hours just go back to sleep. Then I wake up sad and tired. I get my lifts in somewhere in all this.
In other news, I just started full body every day five days a week workouts to see what happens. Kinda just throwing shit at the wall. I was doing a bro split forever before this and just want to try something new. Not sure if this is too much for natty lifting and I'm going to burn myself out doing it though.
Good call.
Amaretto Sour I need something sweet.
I stalked my old good friend from high school a decade ago. For some reason we lost contact with each other. The guy was legit my only friend in my class back then. We would do cool shit together like going to concert or go out skating. He was wicked smaht, always thought he would be some top lawyer or IT consultant or some shit. Well it seems that didn't happen. He apparently live at a place for young adults with mental issues. I'm not sure what he's got, but it looks like schizophrenia or something since he dgaf what he post on social media, like borderline porn pics. Shit is depressing as frick bros, this guy was legit the reason why I liked going to school (which i otherwise hated). He was my best bro, it's been more than 10 years and some times out of the blue the last 10 years I would always wonder what happened to this dude... Well now I know and I hate it. Of all the buttholes in that school WHYYY was he the one to lose his mind, goddamnit this shit world is unfair.
>about a year ago my friend needed a place to live
>he gets a gf
>months go by
>she starts coming over daily
>she used to go home when my friend would leave, now she stays for hours at a time
>she starts cooking my food, no apologies
>starts talking about redecorating and rearranging things
>wants to start a garden in my backyard
>mostly just ignored it as inane woman mutterings
>the other day I'm watching tv and she says to me "So anon, have you ever thought about getting your own place?"
>mfw she said this to me in my house that I own
>I said something like "what do you mean" or "Why would I do that"
>she started talking about the benefits of me living alone and that it was something I should think about
Sorry for the gay feminine rant if you read all that. I guess my friend told her it was his house. I don't want to emasculate him in front of his gf but she's telling me to move out. Do I ask him to tell her the truth or just ignore it? She's getting very annoying and I'm starting to dread coming home after work if I think she's going to be here
Your friend is now operating outside of reasonable boundaries with his woman staying around and being a drain when he’s not even home. You gotta have a conversation with him man to man at the very least.
You should have put your foot down long ago. Tell her, in front of him, and be prepared to get outside help involved, with proof you own the place.
He should have told you what he was doing, but he probably doesn't care that much and will push your boundaries to get what he wants.
I told my roommate outright that his girl can't live here when she started staying overnight almost every day. You gotta put your foot down.
>let guy crash at your place
>he is now a roommate
The guy doesn't even have an actual roommate. I have a strong feeling he let this guy crash for free and now he's letting this happen.
Well he's a huge pushover if he's not even getting rent money.
I would have told her immediately to get the frick out of your house
It’s your house
I work for a multinational and will be moving to Canada next year. I applied for an internal transfer and had a call about it during the week with some HR lady. It felt like the stage before a job interview where they were just gauging interest. It was going pretty well until they asked for my most recent performance review rating where I only got “good”. I could feel her tone of voice drop. My performance rating was bullshit anyway because I got “very good” the year before and the justification they gave for marking me down was “you do everything really well but you just don’t seem as enthusiastic some other colleagues”. Well yeah I’m on the way out… but apparently still being good at my job isn’t enough.
Also got asked if I do any work in the community and she seemed kind of disappointed when I said no. Probably should have lied about that one
Canada is shit, I live there. Good luck.
Have you thought to just tell them straight up?
>girl I've been fantasizing about, and fapping to pictures of online, contacts me and tells me she would like to hang out
>I'm at the level where this doesn't even excite me and I soft ignore her.
anyone else literally dead inside?
how do I get out of this situation? i still perform really well at work, I don't smoke or drink too much, I easily do 15 pull-ups and do 2x my body weight squats, finances are in order. but something is obviously wrong lmao
She contacted you? How does she know you?
She knows me. I was outside once.
So you fantasize about and fap to pictures of a girl you could just talk to and frick?
Yeah, that's the point of my problem. Wanted to know if anyone else is this fricked up
That's called self-sabotage idiot.
You're doing it because you don't like yourself. Stop. Hang out with her. Stop fapping to her. She not a goddess and doesn't have magical powers over you.
you dont really like her
I'll have a double shot of jack.
>introduce myself to neighbor few months ago.
>she's all over me, says she wants to go bowling, lunch, etc.
>ask her out twice, says yes, then rainchecks
>fed up with it, start barely interacting
>sees me 2 days ago, gets chatty and shit, says she wants us to go swimming together. I say aight,let me know when.
>bump into her yesterday, talk, we decide to go watch movie tonight. Says she'll buy me a ticket and I'll venmo her (I'm technologically pretty illiterate)
>doesn't text later yesterday and she'll probably ignore this ever happened.
Lads, what the frick is wrong with women?
They want to be chased and desired and other shit. Women will lead you on in the hopes you'll fall all over yourself for them.
She's still immature, women with more brains and maturity are more straightforward and don't play games like this. But she does it because it probably worked in the past.
She just rainchecked and asked if I wanna go tomorrow. I just decided to ignore the text. I've learned a valuable lesson here. I'm either getting my dick sucked fast, or I'm out and ain't putting in any effort. Ironically, this is what made some women want to frick me in the past, lol.
Anons I need advice. She just texted again, after I ignored her text, to apologize. Should I just keep ignoring or say "it's ok"? In both cases, I'm not willing to try/do anything unless I know I am getting sex out of it.
I'm in two weeks to Stronglifts but I haven't been hitting my macros and I've been eating at deficiency too. Worried a little, I want to lose weight and build muscle. This is my first time lifting ever. Can't shake the feeling I'm doing it wrong but it's only been two weeks.
Spoke to a friend who's been doing it for two years and he advised I should hit just a little below my maintenence and do some accessories and start walking or a C25K.
I wanna be lean and in fighting trim. I feel like shit every time I step on the scale and see it go to 190.
On the upside I do feel myself getting stronger.
>went on a couple dates with a girl but she got the ick because I like spicy food
>got a nasty cold, running a fever of 103 when I woke up today
>feel bad enough that I can't even play vidya
pretty sure I'm gonna call out tomorrow and lay in bed all day
A brick. Back of the head please, I don't want to see it coming.
It's been shit, just like yesterday and the day before that and the day before that all the way back to my childhood. It is what it is but I don't have to fricking like it.
is it antisocial to distance yourself from lame normies? like, not even cool normies, but lame ones?
I cant stand this group I have. they have no taste, no standards, and act like they are 15 when we are 28
Its not. It'll be lonely for awhile, but no sense being around people who don't make you enjoy yourself.
yeah I feel OK with this route too
I have other friends, a bit scattered around but should be OK
My ex gf just saw me with my best friend I was following him with my car to go a place and my ex saw me following him. Will she think I’m a beta cuck for following my friend?
>Will she think I’m a beta cuck for following my friend?
Lmao you're overthinking this anon, there's no way she saw it like that. Also
>caring what your ex thinks
I'm assuming you guys broke up recently considering your attitude here, but you've gotta stop thinking about her and her opinion of you. Live your life and forget about her
Good luck on your road to recovery anon, I hope she didn't frick you over too badly
Thanks bro, it was indeed brutal
>planned to go to beach with friends long before summer started
>summer starts
>they all flake on me
>in fact some of them went to the beach, just without me
>kinda feel like i wasted my time training and staying lean
oh well, it is what it is
there's always next year, right, bros?
Go to the beach alone you gigamoron. Trust me, you'll be happier for it, especially if lean.
Book a fricking flight and an hotel or airbnb for a week, and go out, be lean and hot, and try to get b***hes. This is your chance to go be a creep or whatever on a beach somewhere far with no one to even remember it should it go badly. Just talk to women, swim, and have a good time.
Godspeed.
i thought of going alone but idk man, i'll have to do that another time because classes start again soon and im trying to get a new job, but youre right
i'll try to fit it on a weekend at some point later this year
Good luck dude.
Thanks man, all the best to you as well.
After a medical related hiatus I am back to lifting.
This means I'll allow myself to browse IST again.
Things are getting better.
>Follow a cut perfectly for 8 weeks, energy levels are effected, but it's fine
>Hit 15% bf, feel like I'm close to finally having abs
>suddenly get completely exhausted, mentally drained
>Think I've just been loosing for too long
>Take a month at just above maintenance, only add 2 lbs
>Start cut again, lose 2 lbs then immediately get exhausted again
Maybe I just need to cut a lot slower from here on out
Spent all day in a crappily lit hotel room trying to get some work done and I've mostly just stared at the screen.
Vodka please
Here are some contexts about my life
>was given to my neglectful grandma to be raised because dad was an abusive alcoholic due to him losing his job as a high salary manager
>unsurprisingly become an autismo and got bullied for it
>adult life
>dad started trying criticize me every time we met
>my body language, my usage of words, my hobby, and etc because he wants me to become a proper corporate man
>tried to stop me from lifting because it’s not “corporate-like”
I am honestly fricking tired.
I already have a load of mental illness due to my upbringing. (Schizophrenia, sadism, and etc)
Lifting is one of the two only things that can bandage this shit. (Beside meditation/Wim Hof breathe work)
If I stop it, I will probably go mental on everyone.
Every day I am more and more convinced that the women’s suffrage movement and its consequences have been a disaster for the human race.
I am completely convinced of that. There is no more convincing that can possibly be done,
The only way forward is a massive genocide of all simps. Without their male orbiters, women are powerless. We can revert the mistakes of the past.
If simps stopped simping, it would all change within a couple of months, maybe a year.
To be completely honest, I do not even blame women. Imagine that you have a corporation where no matter how low-quality your product is, people will still buy it and yield you insane profits. Why would you ever reduce that profit by improving your product?
This is the same situation. If people are willing to marry prostitutes who rode the wiener carousel, or marry women without prenups, then can one really blame women? Are they not doing exactly what they can, which is what all human beings do?
I realize one can say that they should be moral, but that is baffling to me. It's like saying we should change human nature. You can't. What a good society/culture provides is boundaries to mold human nature and direct its energy into something that benefits the continuation of itself, of the country, of the peoples.
Sorry for my blogpost.
Religion solved this but noone is religious anymore.
except Muslims.
Anon, I come from a religious (muslim) family. Quite frankly, I'd rather end up alone and see everything decay than be in a muslim community ever again. Religious christians seem fine to me. All religions have beneficial and detrimental sides. Islam's bad parts outweigh the good ones.
care to elaborate?
genuinely curious
I've been away from that community for a long time (living alone in the US) so I might miss some points, but I'll tell you what I can recall. Also, sorry but I'm not very articulate.
1) Freedom of speech is practically non-existent. If you criticize religion, you're in for very deep trouble. I don't mean the kind of trouble where you land in jail, but the kind of trouble where at best you'll be beat up badly, at worst probably killed.
2) Religion is used in the same way as the current propaganda to control people, except for this caveat. Islam is rigid to the point that there is no hope of any change any time soon. Think old-testament Judaism and how long it took for israelites to become somewhat liberal and fit in a community of normal human beings. I don't mean liberal in the contemporary sense.
3) Whether muslims want to admit it or not, Islam accepts pedophilia, beheading people for not believing in your bullshit, killing "infidels". The real problem is that you have to somewhat accept that these ideas are what a good morality is. The one that really drives me nuts is pedophilia, as I am stern believer in throwing pedophiles into wood chippers.
Also, when I talk about freedom of speech being non-existent, it's an entirely different beast than whatever the worst country in the west has. You have to keep in mind that Islam isn't a religion like Christianity. It is involved with every single minute aspect of your life, and therefore, if you want to criticize anything, you have to tread a very very thin line. Maybe at first, you might think it's a price worth paying for a stable society, and it is, if you're not very intelligent. If you are somewhat intelligent (a bit more than your random sandBlack person), this gets unbearable way too fast.
Islam is extremely liberal, many muslims will use the excuse of "Allah cant see me" to drink indoors alcohol. However, most states will strictly enforce muslim laws to keep control because its very tribal and they would get overthrown otherwise. Look at assad for example. A very small minority religious group but still ran a very prosperous and modernized muslim state until the colour revolution.
I dont know how much issue I have with women riding the wiener caroseul. I don't think women even have that much sex. prostitutes do yes, but not anymore more than normal. I think the bigger issue is that women are over stimulated and split between so many apps to try and force men to paypig.
Saw a nice aryan PAWG at the gym that's been coming to the gym for the past month or so. Tried to make small talk with her about her lifts, compliment her by saying it looks like she's training for a competition. She gives a polite laugh and clearly looks like she wants me to GTFO. I leave her alone, trying to think of a game plan for next time. Lo and behold, she walks in with a Pajeet BF the next time I see her.
>What am I doing wrong
he has money
Is that really it? She's typical gym girl leggings up her ass showing off everything, didn't expect her to have a man.
Stalk him and see what he drives.
Just some normalgay car, Honda something
No, average height average build not jacked.
hard to believe he's a pajeet.
what is he? like 6'2"? lightskinned and jacked?
thanks. a bunch of family members treated me like a workaholic for refusing to join her
I was convinced that a girl knew I was interested after we had gone out together and was interested in me as well.
When I was explicit just for clarity's sake, she was completely caught off guard and it was the first time the thought of us doing anything was ever even introduced in her head.
Every single attractive woman has a deep support circle, a rich and fulfilling life, and suitors interested in them constantly that I can't even get on their radars even if I do get them in my life somehow. I'm self improving every single day to keep up and I can't keep up. I'm working harder than literally everyone I know and I'm still fricking invisible.
i was meditating and for some reason my body felt really good, like my muscles were relaxing and releasing deep tension or something
anyway this continued for a while, until there was a moment of intense pleasure, easily stronger than any orgasm, that i felt spreading from my upper back throughout basically my whole torso
it lasted less than a second though
what the hell was that?
how can i replicate that? (i was way too energized to get anywhere in the rest of my meditation)
anyway ive been completely sold on meditation and will be practicing it and shilling it further
tips on getting started?
should I count my breaths?
basically i just try to focus on the breath at the nose and the sensations in the body
i dont really think im the one anyone should be asking for tips
ahhh I do that also.
It happens once in a while for some weird reasons.
I tried looking it up, but it's mostly spiritual answers and etc.
What type of meditation did you do?
Mindfulness? TM?
Sugar free sprite for me bro
Well…since i havent been around for like 2 weeks i cut all my toxic friends it hurts but is the best right now, i gotta get focus on myself be a better man like work hard (work out, good health, cut the bad habits) and study more and get better on my Job, do calisthenics cus is the only workout that i enjoy, anyway i been chatting with this latina girl on my work cute face but she madre it clear that she doesnt want any kind of relationship and honestly idk if im just triying to get laid
Also the only thing ive been strugling is the nicotine adiction i smoke 2 cigs per day and i want to quit
Also my stupid mom is in war with her boss so she tells me all the shit that happends in her work and honestly i dont care and maybe she thinks im her friend or something but im overwelmed with that situation
I'm stuck in a rural town until I move to the big city and it is truly awful trying to meet women in rural america. Maybe it's because I have no hustle and resign myself to dating apps, but I get so excited at any girl who messages me on Bumble.
>match with qt stoner azn teen
>messages me and seems genuinely excited
>i respond and we go back and forth 2-3 times
>she then waits to respond until the next day
it continued like this for 3 days until today I was fed up and set my location to Bangkok and I believe she saw I changed location and she insta-unmatches. Anything that isn't an immediate hookup is just too stressful. The slim margins aren't worth it.
Waited to long to set up the meet.
I tried. I think I was just being used for validation more or less. In the future I'll be more forward. Better to burn out than fade away.
You should have just picked her up to grab some fastfood and go get high in the woods. You fricked up.
frick you, demoralizer
bro, that shit happens all the time on apps. and I know it's hard not to put a lot of hope into it because you have limited chances in rural, but you literally just need to let it go. you are beating yourself up over nothing really. just keep you-maxxing until you gtfo to the city. work on talking to people irl first and foremost, and look at the app shit as just a bonus roll of the dice. this time alone in bumfrick is a blessing b/c if you had a gf you'd be busy with that shit, so take this time and make the most of it.
dating apps are essentially training to level up on how to speak to women. I've essentially adopted a "love me or hate me" approach to women and I fire off some mad fricking dominant type response or talk shit because I just love women who want a struggle with a snuggle.
>be me a month ago
>could do concentration curls with 20kg only once with each arm
>now can do 3 reps easily
Feels fricking good man. Also I made love twice today.
My back hurts.
I want to fricking kill myself. Ive b***hed on here about being ashamed of my body count and being a fricking degenerate. Met a girl I really liked last week who is in my program but two years below me. Suddenly felt excited again about someone and am hoping that this will be my chance to finally be with someone good. Shes literally everything I could want from what I can tell right now. Her mom was a bodybuilder and shes into the gym and literally brought up progressive overload and it was the hottest shit ive ever seen.
But me, being the sick out of control fricking loser moron that I am, matched with this girl on hinge who seemed normal and hot. She followed me on instagram and she has 230k followers from streaming and onlyfans cosplaying as videogame characters. I am not joking. God could strike me dead with a lightning bolt right now. I just fricked the living shit out of her and she just ubered home. I want to die right now.
I am a fricking loser with no self control. I am begging God to make this stop. Please. Help me be a better man. Please. Help me get control of myself. I feel sick to my stomach. I know people will just call me out for "bragging" but I am genuinely suffering. I have a problem. Frick. Frick frick frick frick. Frick. Frick. I feel sick.
you have a sex addiction. get help
My room smells like prostitute pussy and I am washing my comforter because it smells like cheap perfume 🙁 What is wrong with me. I got frustrated because the other girl texts so slow and couldnt give me a definite day to see me next week. My friend is her friend and apparently she really liked me but frick. I cant handle the slow pace of this. I am addicted to instant gratification and instant attention and sex and validation. Some days it makes me wish I never picked up a barbell. Wish I never got fit. Wish I never got disciplined. Frick. I wish I never was born at all when i do shit like this to myself. My life is so fricking empty. My body count must be 90+ now. I was sitting in my programs classroom the other day and there are 100 of us and I looked around and saw how many people that is in a room and I feel disgusted. I dont know how I havent gotten an STD but I feel disgusting. I know this is the worst place to talk about this and I know no one will help me other than me but I just needed to vocalize this and put it out somewhere, anywhere.
Please pray for me. Please God come back into my life.
in my experience, nobody knows anything, everyone is just winging life until they get things right or hurt themselves so badly that they change. you will only be able to change yourself once you experience tangible negative consequences to your actions like being excluded from social groups or rejected by a woman. for me sex is only fun if it's with someone i love, otherwise it leaves me depressed. i learned that after hooking up and realizing it wasn't worth it, so i permanently changed. i hope you can do the same
FRICK FRICK FRICK FRICK FRICK FRICK FRICK. FRICK I WANT TO FRICKING DIE IM CRYING AT MY FRICKING COMPUTER. FRICK IDK WHAT TO DO IDK WHAT DO FRICKING DO
Pint of Carlton Draught please, I'm celebrating.
>be me a week ago
>decide to quit porn fr this time, beat my nofap/noporn streak of a month
>3 days in
>go on date, she's awesome and we hit it off and talk for hours.
>asks me if we want to be serious about seeing eachother
>say yes
Welp, 3 days nofap and I get a gf, it's that simple I guess. Lifting is what got me there in the first place though but nofap/noporn got me across the finish line. WAGMI
congrats anon, hope you are blessed with her not playing any games. Hate to piss on the parade but she might also want to be locked up for holiday season.
thanks, means a lot. She isn't playing games. Australians in our final year of highschool (both 18) so it couldn't be less convenient for us to be together. We just really like each other.
Well best of luck anon, just always be open in university to try things. Girls get shut out quick if you aren't. But also be forthright that you dont like certain people. Just be conscious she might get the ick if you seem controlling and want to isolate her.
some wise words, thankyou anon. Best of luck with the pursuits of your own life as well
What is it about that woman you find so interesting? Physical attraction or something?
I'm a teacher so I am not looking forward to starting back work and making lessons and planning them. Granted I am teaching same thing I have been for 5 years now so its not hard. I just don't want to you know? not until I start working at least. Once I start dealing with students I feel better and energized. My lessons are shit but I think I go the distance on the social aspect of learning.
>What is it about that woman you find so interesting?
She looks pretty good for my tastes, and interesting, and closer to my age. She looks similar to a girl I used to have a crush on back in school so it's probably just that too. My girlfriend is sweet and kind but we have nearly no common interest outside of one or two things, she's 9 years older than me, and the lifestyle different is hitting on me now. I like my fitness and stuff but she does zero and I know if I bring it up it's always the same excuse of "I'm just too tired" like no shit, you're lugging around a frickton of fat, push past it.
I think I'm just more annoyed at my inability to even go up to her and ask "Are you ok after nearly fainting a few days ago, let me know if you need any help at anytime".
Pathetic.
Dumb ass just do it. I say that when I have been doing something similiar eyefricking a girl at the gym a lot last year because I really thought I knew her. But she just had a doppelganger is all.
>Dumb ass just do it
That was the plan then she planted her face in her hands which shut down any faux-confidence I had LOL
Actually true, next time I see her it will be too awkward to bring it up due to the amount of time passed and I will probably never have a reason to chat to her again
"Hey I need some help bailing on lifts, can I ask you some questions? You seem a natural at landing on your face --- kidding kidding, you alright? Get light headed?"
If there's a lesson to be learnt, is that it's hoes before bros. Should've stopped spotting your friend and ran over to her. Frick him, it was a golden chance.
>Divorce is filed
>Attorney thinks I have a good shot at sole custody
>Therapist got my gender dysphoria dx and a letter to my gp to start hormones
This time next year, I'll be a single mom. It's like I'm rerolling my life character I'm so freaking excited you guys.
you dont have to troll for attention here
>usually go to gym at night, 2am-4am times, usually only 2-3 other people there
>some girl there that seems to be very BPD, cutting scars, acts super aloof and in her own world
>for some reason she piques my interest a shitton
>went to gym at 1am during the week with a friend
>she was deadlifting, sat down on her phone doing something
>i was spotting my friend
>saw her in the mirror just tumble forward and pretty much collapse (I'm pretty sure she was completely fine and was just doing her own thing/was tired)
>couldn't go over to help/check up on her due to spotting, some couple went and helped her out
>saw her again today when i went in, was planning to go over and ask her how she is etc and that if she needs any help to just ask me for a spot or w/e
>second she sees me she audibly groans and puts her face in her hands out of what i assume was embarrassment
>didn't say shit and went over and internally screamed my way through my squats and she left 5 minutes afterwards
Don't even know why I think about her so much, don't even know her.
And to top it all off I already have a GF but she's very fat and I'm not physically attracted to her but can't end it because she is the kindest, most empathetic person I know.
Guys I'm so drunk. I think I'm an alcohol addict. My gains are permanently plateaued until I can stop drinking 4 days a week.
you wont be able to quit until you actually want to
>t. quitter
I'm lonely and horny. Other than that things are alright.
Living at home to save money and large expenses keep coming up. Challenging myself to not drink or eat out for 2 months in an effort to save more.
This one girl doesn't want to have sex and that's annoying.
I need to cultivate a better social life so I can meet more women but I feel like it just isn't the right time at the moment.
Just tore my pec so I'll be recovering from that for the next year or so. This inspired me to be much more strict with my diet so I can continue to lose weight,
Work is alright.
I've been reframing my mind to be much more positive lately.
Thanks for reading my blog.
get a lot of money
good idea
Ginger beer would be nice, barkeep. Thanks.
Not doing fantastic tbh. Moved to Los Angeles about two years ago after I finished college. I'll spare you all the sad story but I've barely made any friends (partly due to an injury and bad luck/how spread out this Godforsaken place is and general 'tism on my part) and don't have an actual social group I can hang out with. I picked up BJJ early this year after my knee recovered and have been enjoying it a lot, but haven't really made friends there either. Had a few very long dates with one chick I had a lot in common with, but the day after the last one she texted me that she apparently "didn't feel a romantic connection." Been like a month but still pretty down. Virtually no friends here. never had a gf.
Not trying to be a little b***h. I'm gonna continue to work on myself, and if things aren't better in about six months (I can expect a couple of bonuses from my job then), I'm going to apply to new jobs. My dream company is in the area, but if that doesn't work out I think I'm gonna leave LA and start fresh somewhere else.
In the meanwhile I guess all there is to do is try to lookmaxxx, swipe on hinge, and try to make friends at the BJJ gym. Hope you guys are doing better than I am.
Los angeles seems like it would be an easy place to pick up friends. Or are people really reserved because they have to put on airs?
lmao. People are pretty open, but for example, I'm in a hiking club, and I've had many great conversations with people on hikes, but then it always turns out that they live like an hour away in Pasadena or Northridge or something. My company's pretty small and I'm on the younger side so not a ton of people there either.
Also didn't help that my knee injury took me out of hiking and from starting BJJ for more than a year. Should I have found a different hobby in the meanwhile to meet people? probably, but instead I decided to be a shut in and just work some overtime. Made some more money and worked on a cool NASA project at least.
>don't jerk off for a few days
>depression turns into rage
It's a problem, I ranted to my mom about how Terry Davis was right about people being Black person cattle because I got mad at my headphones.