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Lay on me your burdens anons. I have completed shoulder day and I will carry them for you. And if I cannot, my lord and savior Jesus Christ will take it the rest of the way.
I'm going to the dentist on Tuesday
I haven't been to a dentist since 2013
I'm scared
what if I told you that the dental assistant will smile at you and maybe even brush her titty across your arm
Is she cute
Should I schedule an appointment too
based. it seems like doing the right thing means treating a horrible person well.
my work mistreated me so i am quitting. i want to get back at the company on my way out; but it seems like that will just hurt customers.
of course the buttholes still there don't care about customers and will blame everything on me (they already do).
the person on the way out shouldn't have the most professionalism, should they?
you are in a tough spot. i believe that when people hurt other people (and make no mistake there are people that enjoy doing this, especially in the corporate world) they will eventually get theirs one day. This goes for companies too.
Whatever helps you find peace, do that. It's important you move on to bigger and better things, anon. If that place isn't healthy for you, you are already doing the right thing in getting out.
>nearly k-holed last weekend at a dj set
>a girl there fell in love with me and asked me to marry her
>she took my phone off me and put her snapchat into it
>dont want to message her because we were both stupid high i think
if you have the time you could text her something light hearted and ask her out. if you're already fit, sent her a body pic. give it a chance with a sober mind
>Comfy WFH job
>Okay Anon you have to come in to the office 2x a week now
>Fug.jpg but fine whatever
>Go in to office
>See the hottest grill I have ever seen sat across from me
>Comes over and introduces herself, we talk for about 15 mins about classic office smalltalk
>Have to go and fap on lunch break because boner
Office life isn't all bad bros
Now how the frick do I talk to her I've forgotten how to talk to people by working at home
Just talk to her like you would 1 of your female cousins. Just don't go into it with the mindset you 2 are gonna fugg later on. Don't shit where you eat.
where else am I gonna shit, work is ez pickings when you only come to office twice a week
Until things frick up and she decides to screw you over because she is mad.
>Just talk to her like you would 1 of your female cousins
You mean I should ask to play doctors and nurses with her?
based, nice bro. I know somebody w a wfh thing and they were making people either move across the country or resign -.- GL w the grill.
>jerk offd to a beheading video again
>god the shame i feel right after
>but jesus christ the ecstasy when I cum is like heroin
>its not like i intend to do it, but it always seems to happen
>i don't know if i can stop
>I dont know if i want to
What years of loneliness and porn addiction does to a motherfricker
i have a wife haha
>i have a wife
that is even worse. women are turned on by violence; so it could be related. also watch out she doesn't divorce rape you
>CPPS and Half Flaccid starting to get better.
>Slowly starting to get better
>Tip of dick and sack still feel "cold"
>Libido still dead
>Do my stretching and strengthening exercises every day
>Even have to stick a therawand up my ass to massage the Levator Ani muscles.
>Still busting a nut earlier than I like.
>Still morning woods are on and off
>But getting better
I trust in the lord and savior Jesus Christ to navigate me through this time. Because of this injury I was able to find god.
Theres a greater purpose in everything that happens to us all.
We made it another week.
>>CPPS and Half Flaccid starting to get better.
care to explain the dick injury and the exercises to improve dick health?
I am confused. I thought I was normal. I thought I was a decent guy and pretty interesting. But I am alone and struggling to find people to socialize with. I join groups but the conversation always fades away from me to other people and I have to keep interjecting or no one will ever mention me again.
I had a group of friends but they picked me and now we have drifted apart. I am at a point where I have a problem and I don't know how to solve it.
I tried to make online friends to soften the loneliness but I hate these people so much and when I find a group that seems good I frick it up by saying something weird and then I disappear. I don't care about online friends far away I only interact with people online in hopes of finding people that could end up real life friends.
For the past few weeks I've been talking about how I recently quit my trade job as an electrician. Well, recently this past week I got rehired at my last electrician company. I started Monday, I lasted a day and a half before I quit and walked off the jobsite. I really can't do this trades stuff any more, frens. Not just because of the physical exhaustion it puts me through at the age of 28, but because the people you work with drain you of any decency you have and make you as much of a monster as they are. I know not all tradesmen are bad and some are pretty cool but the majority of them just suck. They suck.
As it stands right now I'm coming up on a month of unemployment and tbh, it has been quite nice. I could probably go at least another year before finances really became an issue. It's a weird feeling: on the one hand I do want to get another job to have money incoming but on the other I have been so relaxed these past few weeks to where I really have no overwhelming sense of urgency to get a job. NTM I've been working jobs I don't like because "it doesn't matter if you like your job, just make that paper". The only thing that could really motivate me to go back to work is if I could keep this state of mind I have right now (or at least the majority of it.
I think what I might end up doing is putting in a shit ton of applications this weekend, do nothing but enjoy myself all of next week, and if I don't hear anything back, go back to my company I quit earlier this month and just accept my fate as an electrician trying to find the joys in life. Maybe after passing my Jman's I'll go back to college or move into a rinky dink apartment to afford a nice, large house in 5 years or so.
On a more positive note, I got back on Tinder and have a potential frick buddy coming over in ~5 hours. Maybe the lack of pussy is what is causing this lack of a desire to work. Maybe "no pussy no work" is truer than I'd like to admit. Hope you all have a great weekend.
>Maybe the lack of pussy is what is causing [bad habit]
I can relate. I'm going through the same shit right now. I was having a bunch of negative thoughts until I realized I just need some pussy. It's all so simple.
I haven't had (good) pussy in about 3 months and I hate life, the world, and myself, so perhaps there's some truth in that
THE b***h FRICKING BAILED!
Actually, she said she was feeling a bit under the weather and we'd be good for tomorrow. However, if this is going to be like a situation I'm all to familiar with where something "comes up" again, I swear to Jesus Christ himself I am going back to the Church, serving God and only God, and never touching my dick again. I thank God I was able to manprostitute around on pre-2020 Tinder before hoe-flation kicked in. I've gotten it out of my system and most women are fricking shit. I completely sympathize with blackpilled zoomies. Shit really wasn't this bad a few years ago.
>THE b***h FRICKING BAILED!
babby's first Tinder match
Anon I'm no stranger to this but it has become increasingly more common now than in the past.
>people you work with drain you of any decency you have and make you as much of a monster as they are. I know not all tradesmen are bad and some are pretty cool but the majority of them just suck. They suck
i have found all boomers are like this. horrible people that were handed everything by the GI generation and now frick over anyone and everyone
Excuse the long post, but I'm in a bit of a pickle:
I'm in a serious relationship with a woman who's 15 years my senior and I don't know how to introduce her to my parents and family. I'm 23, she's 37. We've been dating for around 2 years now, having met through an internship I got where she was the HR/hiring manager person. I really don't know what my parents will think about me dating a woman who's so much older than me. She (my girlfriend) is also understandably worried about what they'll say and keeps telling me that it isn't a good idea to tell them just yet.
As much as a love her, I struggle to even call her my "girlfriend". Obviously that's what she is, but it just feels weird given how much older she is. I'm not about to call her my "partner" though, frick that. She likes it when I call her my girlfriend in public because people always look shocked. That's not to say she looks noticeably older than me. She looks very young and is extremely beautiful, like way out of my league. If she weren't so pretty I probably wouldn't have even considered getting involved with her, as shallow as that may sound.
I told my friends about our relationship very early on, and their opinions on the matter are mixed. One of them was extremely opposed to it and even still outright refuses to talk about her if she's ever brought up. The reactions from my other two friends were more mixed. There are the obvious milf jokes that get thrown around a lot, but they're way more supportive than my other friend who clearly wants nothing to do with us (not that we aren't still great friends).
At some point I need to tell my parents. I could totally see myself marrying this woman, she's perfect. She can cook, she doesn't mind cleaning, she's (by my standards) fairly wealthy, and most importantly she likes being around me. I'm not about to secretly marry her without my family knowing, not that I plan on getting married before I finish my degree. What do?
>I'm in a serious relationship with a woman who's 15 years my senior
>I'm 23, she's 37
I promise I'm not moronic, I just turned 23 two days ago lol. Up until then it was always a clean 15 year difference.
>marrying a 37yo
I mean as long as you don't plan on having kids you ought to be fine. Would hate for you to see your son grow up here or worse /LULZ/. As for your family, just say frick it and introduce her. Worst case scenario it becomes a funny story you and your uncles can joke about 5 years down the line if things don't work out. My uncle who is a total Chad brought several different women over to family events over the course of me growing up and nobody gave a frick. Maybe it's because my family is more relaxed. Do whatever you like. Also, since we're on IST.org, I must know: do you 2 do any mommy roleplaying?
>I mean as long as you don't plan on having kids you ought to be fine.
She's likes to jokingly tell me that she "doesn't need any more kids" whenever it gets brought up. I'm pretty sure that's off the table.
>Also, since we're on IST.org, I must know: do you 2 do any mommy roleplaying?
I'll spare you the details for the sake of my pride but she's definitely the more dominant one in the bedroom.
>I'll spare you the details for the sake of my pride
>wheredoyouthinkweare.jpg
Cmon, anon. The bar needs some good stories.
It's really nothing too outlandish, it's not like she's pegging me. I just don't like Iike talking about this stuff in detail.
Yes, she has made me call her mommy before. Many times. That's probably the most common non-vanilla thing she's into. There's no weird age play aspect to it even though she definitely likes to call me good boy/bad boy.
I wouldn't say I hate it, but I just kind of want to frick her when it comes to sex. I enjoy foreplay but the roleplay stuff is kind of hard to get into at first. I'm actually pretty thankful she's confident enough to take the lead when it comes to this stuff because there's no way I could do it.
Listen homosexual stop gloating, and also stop being a little homosexual b***h about it.
Either marry her or leave her.
10/10 fricking mad.
>respond to an anon's question
>stop gloating homosexual
Can you at least try and help with my original question? It isn't as easy as just asking her to marry me, and like I said in my original reply I want to finish my degree first. My family is fairly conservative so I have a real reason to be concerned about what they'll think of our rather abnormal relationship. They're not super hardcore Catholic conservative, but more "stern" and old-fashioned if that makes sense.
I already answered this. We don't do anything other than what I described before. Real life isn't like porn, anon.
NTA but I would suggest not marrying her. It's likely that in 5 years or so you'll want to have kids and she won't be able to, never mind that she's already told you she doesn't want to. It might never be an issue but 23 is too young to be sure you'll never want kids.
>roleplay stuff is kind of hard to get into at first
Such as?
She is just using you to feel young. Be ready to breakup with her.
Ask the gf what she means by "it's too soon", because if she means "it's too soon for me to want to confront your family as I'm not yet totally secure in this relationship (despite it being 2 years)", then that's fair. If she means it's too soon as just some blase type of excuse, rip the band aid off and just do it homosexual. At least bring her up to your family.
There's also definitely something to be said about the kids angle. She may not want any, but somewhere down the line you may and being tied up with her obviously limits your chances.
It depends on if it's a "what do I doooooo bros?" in regards to the erection or to the relationship.
If the latter, talk to her again and tell you really like her and you were nervous and it's just a thing that happens to men. If it's just the erection thing you care about, I'll take this opportunity to plug IST and tell you to read / watch Mushoku Tensei, the MC actually had his ED become a major plot point that was actually handled rather well in my opinion.
tl:dr; trauma and needing someone who loves you rather than just a casual thing (because the love takes care of the performance anxiety).
>says wants a relationship
>has sex
>then asks her out
You got the order wrong. I'm not just saying this because I'm some puritan, but doing it that way a woman's mind is liable to spin some stuff about how "he's only willing to date me because of sex" or some variation.
Also sex increases bonding and that led to you hurting yourself before getting a good feel for her (which would have been more likely with the relationship).
As far as advice, here:
https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/this_is_your_brain_on_heartbreak
tl:dr; painkillers because psychosomatic connection.
When the woman is older and/or makes more money in a marriage the chance of divorce increases quite a bit. You aren't even married yet and it'll be tough to have to have kids. You might think you don't care as most 23-year-old dudes don't want them but that might change when you hit your 30s.
Honestly, I think you're being played, since you're you're just starting to build yourself and she is essentially done romantically speaking. Society will start to see this more often: older women who fell for feminism which tricks young women into being "career women" who just spend their life climbing the corporate ladder. They think it'll be like how it is for men only to realize most guys don't want an older woman and don't give a shit about her career. Guys want to marry a younger woman to start a family with who doesn't have decades of baggage from sleeping with tons of guys.
Maybe it'll work out for you but I think you're making a mistake and I've seen this happen quite a bit.
I dated a 32 year old when I was 21 in college. she was great, and we still keep in touch from time to time, but you are definitely going to have to wrestle with the fact that you're in different stages of your life and always will be. she went through things that I was completely unequipped to handle or even help with, and it definitely drove a wedge between us.
If you really are serious about her, there are realities you are going to have to come to terms with. In all likelihood, she's going to die a good bit before you. I know at 23 the last thing you're thinking about is what you want the last decade of your life to look like, but it's a very important and honest discussion you have to have with yourself.
>she's going to die a good bit before you
dont women statistically love longer then men?
>I could totally see myself marrying this woman
at her age she can't have kids and if she does manage to, they will be moronic.
chris-chan's parents waited and had him at an older age for example.
i know it is hard to think about things logically if she is putting out well (which older women know they have to do to keep a man).
However, there is all risk and no reward for you in marriage. it's not like your starting a family and she can still divorce rape you.
the fact she used her position of power in the workplace to start seeing you is a red flag. she knows it is wrong. she has likely fired males employees for less. but did it anyway and expects no consequences.
That's a sign of narcisissm. also remember her sex drive will go down in her 40s and one big fight can change everything with women.
my advice is to keep her a gf (since you say you love her); but don't even move in with her so you are not considered common-law (a back-door israelite trick to still divorce rape you)
call her "mommy"
honestly rip off the bandaid, if you legitimately love her the sooner you introduce her, the quicker they will get over any reservations they might have.
She sounds amazing and I hope you have a happy life together, tell your parents if they love you and want you to be happy, they'll accept her.
I read the post yesterday , I just came to post to say it reminded me of some Skins episode with that guy that used to live in tree house fricking his teacher or what not , anyway I think you are in awkward situation honestly , in my opinion drop that for obvious reasons , I don't even know how you got yourself in that scenario.
If you're willing to accept that it's too late for kids and the beauty you love so much will vanish in the next 5 years, then go on.
Vodka please.
I had a meh weekend. Gotten bad sleep and had a bad diet. Gonna go back to healthy again next week.
>tore my pec benching
>weeks of no range of motion after surgery, just now taking off caste with 80% movement after 6 weeks
>last week spill an entire cup of water on my PC and fried a bunch of parts
>currently at $750 replacing everything
>surgery bills keep coming in, currently at $2,500
>zero (0) b***hes at the moment
All in all I'm feeling good though. Life will get better. I'm so sexually frustrated that I'm going to burst though. It's bad.
i want to die but first pour me a handle of cheap vodka
>meet cute grill at class monday
>we hit it off instantly
>there’s chemistry and we decide to hang out after class
>goes well and we both clearly are into each other
>today we have class and she asks to study together afterwards
>we go to my place and start making out instantly
>go to bedroom and i can’t get hard
>no biggie, i start eating her out and 10 min later she goes to give a bj again
>still can’t get hard, she starts apologizing and then crying
>i tell her it’s not her fault but she is inconsolable
>puts her clothes on and leaves
how do i even recover from this. deserved for being a coomer i guess
Honestly the only way I can see you salvaging it is
>check in on her because clearly she blames herself for what happened, show that you still have interest in her if you still do
>go on nofap cold turkey RIGHT NOW, you need to rewire your brain asap
this happened to me a few times when I was a virgin and super nervous.
In the end I took a viagra and stayed hard that way. Once I'd done it one time I was fine.
Just need to find a way to relax.
Just talk to her, ask to try again but take it more slow and organic this time. Maybe put a movie on, get a bit hot and heavy with her on the couch, build the anticipation before you frick.
you're just low t bud
there’s no way a mentally stable girl bursts out crying because a random guy she just met can’t get hard. Don’t take it personally brother, count ur self lucky
It's a right of passage for a young man to have a thing with a crazy chick for awhile.
I dunno I get really hard but can't cum which is both a blessing and curse because it involves apologizing profusesly and building her confidence back up or they'll burst into tears when I don't nut
I'm going to assume you're some dumb frickin zoomer that ruined his hormones with steroids or some shit.
Why don't you try not being a prostitute and fricking prostitutes
My first THREE attempts having sex I couldn't get hard. I quit jacking off and now I'm a normal well adjusted (sorta) dude who's had a few gf's etc. Imagine how shameful and embarrassing that was, but three times. I still look back and cringe once in a while but you'll recover dude it's nbd.
>sparkling water
I think I had a wake up call today to not touch alcohol ever again , tried to stay in the "just two glasses of wine" , "just two beers" , but can't , its going downhill from there to early morning of degeneracy...
wishing everyone great weekend and glory to the LORD and Jesus.
Revelation 18:4
Proverbs 21:23
Blink 1:82
Nevr 4get 9:11
Beverly Hills 90:210
have tea. everyday. take it seriously
>cute girl has been flirting with me for about a month
>keeps shyly dropping hints that she wants a relationship and it was really cute
>I kind of held off because I didn't know her all too well
>one day, we're flirting and I just say "frick it" and give in
>sex
>ask her out and she says yes
>ghosts me for over a week
>comes back only to basically tell me to frick off
>turns out she's done this to dozens of guys before
Lifts for this feel?
Lie to her and say you have an STD
bitches ain’t shit but hoes and tricks, it happens brother. you’ll find a good girl eventually. try to not develop feelings too fast and treat prostitutes accordingly
She's a b***h and she used you for validation. Hell, at least you got sex. Laugh about it and move on.
i'm like this in a way. i flirt with the idea of dating girls in my head but after facing the reality of having to make space and time in my life to have them around, i just pack it up and go. hopefully i will be less moronic when i lift enough
>have gf
>want hot girl at the gym
>didn't make a move out of loyalty
>want out of the relationship
>now probably too late bc she seems uncomfortable around me (probably thinks standing near me and asking to share equipment was flirting and I have rejected her by not making a move)
Break up with gf first obviously. For all you know that will go terribly and will affect your behavior in some subtle way she'll pick up or will serve as motivation to you to get another and you'll stop caring if she "seems uncomfortable".
Can you give examples?
Either way, experience will be gained over time so don't fret too much. Even the most moronic person learns after enough time (well, for most morons anyway).
>wanting to look at prostitutes / women
I once dealt with the ownership thing too. When I looked around in my life, I realized I felt quite possessive about all my other possessions, i.e. actual objects like cups or computers or whatever. Detachment towards those and learning to stop hoarding things / collecting things made me less possessive towards people, as well as having accumulated so many bad experiences I stopped wanting to associate with people in the first place. The latter is probably the brunt of it, but for obvious reasons I can't recommend that.
I moved in with my gf about a month ago and I keep fricking every single chore and I feel fricking useless.
I think there may be actually something wrong in my brain because I always think things the wrong way and come up with wrong conclusions.
I feel fricking moronic.
>went to the mall to buy a gift
>filled to the brim with zoomer prostitutes
>literally the hottest teenagers possible dressed like complete hookers
lol are men not supposed to stare at these prostitutes?
its empowering sweaty
Found out a couple of days ago that my wife is pregnant again - we already have a one year old daughter so we get to do the "two under two" thing, which is fun. I'm now officially stressed to frick, because not only do we live paycheck to paycheck but two young kids means I'm not going to have much in the way of free time, meaning my ability to lift and pursue my goals is going to be severely hampered. I don't regret our choice to have this second baby, but I can't deny that I'm extremely anxious about it.
So a rum and Coke for me, bartender.
With hand-me-downs, clothes and stuff shouldn't be too much of a problem. If space is a problem they can share the room, and food isn't much more expensive going from three to four, you should be cooking and buying in bulk already. You'll do fine, papa anon.
As far as lifting, you don't need that much time honestly. The rest of your free time may suffer for a few months yeah granted.
It's going to be okay.
I have nothing to say as far as advice or help goes but I also know that feel. Here's hoping it gets better for you lone anon.
Come post back in a day or two and let us know if adding female flesh to your life cured your ails.
Only thing I look forward to is listening to music and jerking off when I get stoned on the weekends. I wanna quit my job so fricking bad, but I'm holding off till relatives visit and then leave so I can spend entire days away from them.
Oh well, could be worse. At least I'm not a vatnik getting blown to bits or castrated for a bunch of greedy israelites while my women prostitute all over the place.
what do you do when you think a girl at the gym is into you but you didn't make a move and now it's weird between you?
>what do you do when your imaginary maybe gf breaks up with you
Either wave and say hello or ignore her completely.
Stop being a pussy.
Yeah I said hi to her last time but she just said "sorry" because she was in my way.
Another time I saw her walking around and kind of followed her (I would have probably walked that way anyway) in case there was a chance to talk, then she turned around and I tried to make eye contact but she looked away, then I smiled, then I looked away, then I think she tried to smile back but I had kept walking. I haven't been in a situation like this since my teens. I'm usually ok with women. It's kind of funny now I've written it out.
>Have a drink
Have a Blackni
rum over ice please bartender. fricking depressed, not even 25 and I'm feeling manic that I'm running out of time (losing my hair fast), will probably hang myself if I'm still alone and doing the same routine in my 30s. I recently started going back to college and I've had multiple women ask how old I was and have disbelief at my actual age because of how I look, going to all the social 'meet new people!' events and at the end seeing everyone else pair off just makes me feel incredibly alone. hell, one of my old friends who's studying at the same place joined me with a group that I sort of fell in with, and they all immediately took to him and I just had to sit idly by and force myself into the conversation. I guess I'm just tired of living like this knowing that no matter how I am as a person how I look due to factors out of my control fundamentally make people less receptive, not fat but just my height and hair means I'm always on the fricking backfoot, women are defensive by default which didn't happen when I was younger
At least you're putting yourself out there
I wish I could go back to college. Wasted my entire uni life staying at home and not socializing. Now I work from home and don't even have the options to meet new people any more.
Try to make the most of it, eventually someone will take to you if you make the effort.
I only went back because during my undergrad covid happened ripping that time away from me and I'm bitter about it
>I wish I could go back to college. Wasted my entire uni life staying at home and not socializing. Now I work from home and don't even have the options to meet new people any more.
you wre never going to meet people though, you're going to be alone for your entire life
>goes to college and never socializes
>could get a job where he goes into an office to meet people, uh no actually im just gonna work from home and continue meeting no one
dont worry im sure the millions of dollars stock portfolio from your software engineering job will make you happy though.
What is your major, anon?
don't wanna dox myself but compsci at a fairly major european university
a few days ago I discovered my ex just had a kid
she left me because she didn't want kids back then and felt bad for me to waste time with her (allegedly, but probably true)
for 7 years I didn't knew anything about her and now this happens
for the first time in my life I cried like a baby that just lost his parents
why do I have to feel bad if everything is in my head? why are humans so fricking weak to emotions? I hate this world
>everything is in my head
kek. fell for the emotionless meme
emotions are the bulk of human experience
if you didn't have emotions, you wouldn't want anything in the first place. you wouldn't want to lift, wouldn't want to heal from that bullshit, wouldn't want to find the woman that deserves you.
the world is big and full of joyful shit so go find when you're done moping
Anyone ever take a year to just put their head down and hustle on their life, cutting off social life and anything else to just 100% focus on your goals? I don’t think it’s a bad idea.
I just planned out from now until December next year. I’m going to exert all of my will power on making my goals happen. It’s only two goals. Lose about 100lbs, get a certain job and pay off some debt then save $30k. If done correctly December 2024 when I turn 29 I will be back in shape and shredded, have recovered all the gains I’ve lost, and be ready to move out. The most important things to me right now are literally just
>health and to look good again
>money/job and moving out
I’m really not sure what happens when I get there.
Reducing social life can be fine but don't cut it out altogether. Social skills are like muscles, if you don't use them you lose them.
I’m hoping to get my social fulfillment from work. I don’t have any friends, cut the last ones off. Not a whole changed because of who and how they were, I actually got worse socially from spending 22-26 hanging with them. Sparing details but they were lousy friends and just plain losers.
I just hope when things come to fruition and I’m 195 lean, have my own place, that I can do okay with women. I’ve dated and had hookups but I’ve never approached a random woman and done a proper date. The gfs I’ve had were FWB before we ever dated. I’d like to do differently, and I get so nervous every time I’ve tried. But I can tell it’s largely in part of not being where and who I want to be. I was wienery when I was fit in college, over confident. I have to imagine a lot of my confidence will come back if I attain close to my old physique and am doing okay financially instead of being broke and fat. Maybe then I can find and approach autistic women in a bookstore or something.
>I actually got worse socially from spending 22-26 hanging with them. Sparing details but they were lousy friends and just plain losers
i think this is common. boomers isolated in their boomer houses and held everything outside that house with contempt.
most divorced and their paper thin friendships were based on getting drunk or eating together.
how can generations after them learn about healthy social relationships in that environment?
that's why younger generations have stunted social skills or don't value friendships. plus social media has actually isolated people more
>that's why younger generations have stunted social skills or don't value friendships. plus social media has actually isolated people more
Most of these people had been very social from age 14 onwards into 20s. They were the people going to parties, always hanging out with others, dating in HS, just constantly socializing. And they never really grew up, they peaked in HS. Two people out of that group were cool, one moved away and bought a house in another state and is starting his family, the other I just don’t have the same interests as. All the others just want to smoke pot and get drunk every night, or go out to get wasted at clubs. And there’s more issues than just that, they have obese b***hy girlfriends who are a pain in the ass to be in the same room as. They’ve basically committed their life to providing off these women to maybe in return get the opportunity to run errands for some lazy sex while they text/scroll. The women also (understandably) don’t respect them. Not even joking on that that’s exactly what their sex life is.
My point there were a lot of reasons to leave them behind, I outgrew them. They’re all well socialized, but behave like high schoolers, and with half of them there was this never ending imaginary popularity contest where they’d sabotage others by talking shit. Even I was shit talked. Any chance they saw or made to try and inflate their own self worth. You could very obviously sarcastically say something like “I’m gonna quit my job bro I think I’ll be happier broke” and they’d run and tell everyone “anon said he’s gonna quit his job this moron actually believes he’ll be happy with no money hahaha his parents must pay for everything”. It was never ending. Shit the main one doing that shit had everything handed to him including his rent paid until age 25.
It stunted me socially spending time with people like this. That’s not normal and if it is I don’t care to be around it.
me and my girlfriend split last week, i don't know what to feel about it. The thing that get's me the worst, is the feeling somebody else is going to be fricking her and i still feel the "ownership" thing about her
lads?
It will go away when you frick someone else
Without sounding like a lib, women aren't your property. Congrats on learning the lesson now rather than after several years of investment or even marriage. Remember this feeling and take it forward to your next partner, because she sure won't
I want to have a second kid but my mortgage runs out in December and I honestly don't know if I can afford to do it if I have to pay 10% interest
Don't let finances be your first thought when deciding whether to have kids. Without wanting to advocate the welfare state or whatever, sometimes you just have to commit to a course of action and have faith that you'll find a way. Whether that means working more, working harder, selling some of your shit, or leaning on the generosity of friends for a bit (and paying them back in kind when the time comes). There's no perfect time to have a kid, but laying on your deathbed wishing you'd had more kids is no solution either.
I'm not hard up for money really, but I've always had plenty of breathing space. A second kid is affordable but it would mean I don't have a safety net, which makes me anxious.
If it's one kid then we can still go on overseas holidays and I can buy her a car and help out financially when she's older. With two I doubt I'll be able to.
My doctor prescribed me tiny 25mg antidepressants to help with insomnia, headaches and low to feel less fatigued and become able to lift again. But the first day the side effects left me sleepy to the point where I had two coffees and took three naps and it still didn't help. It made me viscerally angry and I never took them again.
But now the mental illness is back stronger than ever and the fatigue won't let me do or think about anything. It's still not bad as that one day though. Doctor said the side effects only last the first few days but holy shit, I don't think I can go through that again. I have to take a blood test before going to the doctor again and I can't even do that
blood test sounds like a very good idea, definitely do that
I hated my antidepressants and would advise against them, they made my life much worse and I don't think my brain has ever recovered
As stupid as it sounds, getting to the clinic and waiting an hour or two for my turn with nothing in my stomach sounds like a nightmare in the state I'm in
>feel less fatigued
He's probably thinking their all stemming from low grade depression (which does cause headaches if you weren't aware). The catch is as of last year or the year before, SSRIs were fairly conclusively proven to be of no statistical benefit to depression and honestly royally frick you up. I can not recommend staying off them enough.
+ obvious advice of "make sure you're getting enough vitamin D (8k -10k IU) and Iodine.
Just scrolled down and read your post about sitting in the clinic on an empty stomach. This will sound weird maybe, but I would suggest getting into one meal a day or fasting or whatever beforehand, so that you're already used to a prolonged time of not eating but getting used to it on your own time when you're comfy.
Nofapping typically includes no porn.
Porn has documented effects on the brain, and if you were watching it just because "bored" then you're likely addicted with the proper usage of the word addicted.
It was amitriptyline. I saw the study on SSRIs and depression (and also that CBT doesn't help depression a lot either) but I assumed since the dosage was so small he was just relying on the sleepy effect to help me sleep at night and target my headaches. But the fatigue doesn't really go away even when i have good sleep. I'm kinda hoping they'll give me better pills but that's probably naive, right?
Good sources for iodine other than salt? We're eating low on salt because mom has hypertension.
At this point I feel like every tiny hack like vitamins and minerals isn't enough I need to punch God
Not getting enough salt/potassium could cause fatigue too.
Have your mom try supplementing potassium (the keto electrolyte supplements are pretty good)
Most people with high BP is because they hardly get any potassium because all their sodium is from processed foods or added sodium. Seriously most people are massively deficient in potassium
>went to the doctor for sleeping tablets
>they made me sleepy
>FFFFFFFFUUUUUUUUUUUUU-
most aware goypill user
ok what's your solution basedbro other than "have a nice day" or "do cocaine"
not him but like, touch grass, work out, eat properly, spend time under the sun, have sex, the regular stuff
that's what cures health problems. not pills, those are for symptoms
>touch grass
believe or not i do that. i have multiple parks and gardens around me
>work out
i do that at least once a week, but brainfog keeps me from it every now and then
>eat properly
i eat better than you americucks
>spend time under the sun
i do and it doesn't help shit
>have sex
got me there, i took a break from tinder because i was running on low libido and premature ejaculation i couldn't bother to groom myself and play woman mindgames and ALSO i'm broke because i have no job so i can't even pay for condoms
>he uses condoms
NEVER take antidepressants. Under no circumstances.
Nofap is the only thing I needed to get disciplined lmao
Bro I was so fatigued at some point I had no sexual desire for a week. I would watch porn out of boredom and I wouldn't even get a boner. Nofapping against my will, and it didn't work for discipline.
On the upswing honestly
>left my job that was making me miserable and have enough money saved up to be out of work for a few months
>working on my art grind daily, skill is growing significantly faster than I envisioned and I should be starting some animations in the coming weeks
>can still bench 225lb despite having lost 40lbs of bodyweight working that job
Given we're in a recession I won't be able to maintain this lifestyle for more than a few months but I'm milking every second of it on reaching my dreams
Only thing I can hope for is that by the time I'm industry ready we'll be out of this shitty economy and the unions are a lot better than they are now
At the gym now. Gonna head home shower, have some coffee and then start prepping for a concert tonight. Gonna slam some mushroom tea and hope it doesnt hit until I start getting inside.
>went out to church youth group
>get there but lights are out and door is closed.
>wtf
>go around to this other building where sometimes events are held
>peep inside and there's the Priest, and a few members of the youths but mostly old people having dinner (at 21h40 ?)
>wtf homie
>walk back home
damn a homie is trynna find some community but the catholic church is probably not it. I'm sad, I don't have friends and I feel God working trough all of these shitty encounters. Maybe He wants me to be alone so I can focus on my art.
Everytime I "try" to get out there and socialize it's failure, and it always feels forced. There's no place for me to go to.
I don't really see the problem? Was it your first time going? They most probably had this dinner planned for a while now
Anyway, I think cathlarpers are cucked so you're not missing out much. I wish we had more spaces for socialization though
it would be my second time attending. At the end of sunday mass, the Priest said it would be friday at 21h30. So I don't get it...
Doing manual labor for years is taking its toll on me. My body is always fricked up in at least one way at any given time. I wouldn’t mind so much but the only things I have to look forwards to are lifting, skateboarding, and other physical activities; if I can’t do them I get pretty depressed.
the numbness persists despite my life objectively being on the upswing, how upsetting
>Girl I met last week texted a bit
>fooled around
>Said she wants to see me after her work period is done (11 days in a row, so that'd be Sunday)
>left on unread since 2 days ago
She did ask for patience, but still I'm worried she'll burn me even though she promised not to.
I'm not a big texter either. I would not fret too much about it until the appointed time comes. It's been just two days anon, chill.
Not to mention the stress can make you find new avenues you wouldn't have considered before, such as food banks, church charities, etc., which could lead you into new connections that you would have mentally shut yourself off from had you not have been desperate to get there.
But yeah, again don't fret too much. The poorest of the poor have children and they make it to adulthood even with all the added malice and abuse that often accompanies said poorest of the poor.
>It's been just two days anon, chill.
Turns out it's Monday... She did explain that she requires patience so I don't want to push it. Just thinking of shooting her a text Monday night to make sure she knows I'm still alive.
It being monday or sunday doesn't change what I said. If I have your post right, you're saying that her work ends on the 25th, and you're going to text her on the 18th, right? Eh. I would personally wait until the friday before, so the 22nd, with some variation of "hey, we're still on for monday?" in a sort of "I'm making plans for the upcoming week" thing. I know you don't want to be forgotten, but making plans a week out is still kind of rough for some people.
Also just to be a bit of a dick,
>Hey I need some patience okay
>Sure no problem
>How much patience though?
>Hello?
>Are you there?
If she doesn't text you at all or she forgot or whatever, then you weren't that big a deal to her in the first place, and poking her more isn't going to change that.
A lot of salt sources don't have iodine in the first place, such as sea salt.
>hypertension
Swap out her sodium chloride for potassium chloride. It's what fixed my hypertension.
Your body uses potassium to help regulate it's sodium levels, it's likely she's not getting enough potassium if "low salt" is helping or the prescribed treatment.
As far as iodine, I buy liquid iodine over ebay, lugol's if you want to know the specific kind.
What fixed my depression was going 50mg for three months (note to start off slowly, building up by like 5mg a day because your body needs to get used to it). It was part of a cleanse of sorts. I know use it as needed, i.e. when mood dips down for no reason I'll put a few drops on bread or whatever, like 40mg or something.
Note that the daily recommended amount is something like 225 mcg, so my 50mg was like... 200x the recommended dose lol.
The reason I mention the strength here is because there's different concentrations, and to get the right amount to do the thing I was wanting I had to search for the super strong stuff, like 7.5mg per drop, whereas there are some that give you 1/50 of that.
22 years old, am a newbie, discovered IST in early 2022 learnt some things about how diets and the human body work. Started eating sardines and potatoes, learnt that oatmeal and potatoes are "good" carbohydrates whereas bread are "bad" carbohydrates. Took the things I learnt on IST and applied them to my life, fast forward to September 2023 am fatter than ever, balding and with a current weight of 97kg.
people are gonna seethe but reddit is a better source for scientifical information than IST. this site is fun but it's full of morons
oatmeal and potatoes are better than bread in the sense that they have complex structures and fiber (great for gut health!) whereas flour and sugar have simple sugars that are absorbed too quickly by the body resulting on energy spikes and drops
however, when it comes to weight loss and gain, all that really matters is calories. calories in, calories out. count them if you can, but you can just focus on eating less and/or burning more
>all that matters is calories
Also not true, see the second video linked here
Over the decades, calories consumed increased only by like 250 or so, whereas the type of fats consumed changed drastically, and as a result the obese is now 2/3 of the population.
People did not fundamentally change over the last few decades, their diets did.
You're right in that you can still fight back against it a la calories / exercise, but it's not something that the default person had much of a problem with in the first place several decades back.
Oh, also, to
, the balding isn't affected by the oils or the obesity, that was going to happen to you regardless, my sympathies there. That's no one's fault.
>good carbs
>bad carbs
no wonder you're fat you moron.
Watch these two videos, they go into scientific explanations of things instead of just "carbs lmao".
Robert H. Lustig, MD, UCSF Professor of Pediatrics in the Division of Endocrinology; https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dBnniua6-oM
Here's a screenshot from the second video, see pic related (well, actually it's a screen shot from another video from the guy on the same subject, this shows up at 20 minutes in the linked video not 30).
While the other anons are to blame in ways for passing off bad info to you, it's equally as much on you for swallowing wholesale that bad info without understanding it.
And even then, they weren't entirely wrong. Go and grab any bread you find on the shelf and what do you see it's made with? Rapeseed oil probably, or canola oil, or basedbean oil, I guarantee you. Now go back to the second video and see what's going on, it's covered in just the first 15 minutes.
>sneed oils bad
so what do I do with this info? what does this even mean? I already just boiled my eggs, barely eat any fried foot (fry some stick sausages once every 2-3 weeks)
Is olive oil harambe??
Not him but im fairly positive olive oil and butter are good. I'm too lazy to link the article but it talks extensively on how extra vierge olive oil can even be used to cook, as long as you don't put your fire on high (which you shouldn't anyway because you're likely cooking in a non-stick pan which can't even handle high heats without it becoming toxic for you)
Coconut oil is good in moderation from what i've heard.
>what do I do
you watch the included information you moron.
i included all the information you need to know in the video and you still refuse the spoon feeding.
You'll get fat off of accepting any spoon that gets near your mouth but will vehemently refuse any which gets near your brain and you wonder why you're fricked?
good: olive, coconut, butter, lard
bad: sunflower, canola, rapeseed, basedbean, etc.
this isn't a "list of random shit good or bad", all the vegetable ones are made of seeds and all the good ones aren't, it's very simple if you know basic botany (what is a seed) or chemistry (what is a polyunsaturated fatty acid)
lol did you forget the part where you workout or ?was it just the potato knowledge you took away
You need to go back
>bipolar stacy that rejected me two times, asked me out for coffee yesterday
awww shieeet, here we go again!
Anon, please just frick and move on. She had her chance and blew it. Now you’re second option for her. Or, if you do decide to proceed otherwise with this woman, drag it on as casual/FWB for as long as you can before getting into a real relationship with her. Had the same exact thing happen. Asked this 9/10 out, she said yes and flaked, asked her out again, rejected, asked out once more and she laughed and said no. Immediately dropped and moved on and she spent I shit you not 5 years trying to get me to give her attention and asking me out. Finally dated her, went to shit fast partially because I rushed into a relationship with her instead of vetting her for a few months.
>Anon, please just frick and move on
no, sometimes woman drama is better than no drama
still had fun with her and nice memories up until now, this year without her would have been a boring wasteland. And yeah she definitely gets lots of attention for her prettiness
I'll report back Sunday since that is when I go out with her
>woman drama is better than no drama
It’s entertaining for a couple months tops. You know who enjoys endless drama? Women. The headache isn’t worth some pussy.
Ill have rum. neat, no ice.
IDK where to start anons, it feels like this year has just shat on me
>Been payed on time by work approximately once this year
>If it wasnt for my second job would have been in the deep shit
>Despite this boss wants me to do more work for her
>Dont like the job, its cleaning which translates as backbreaking work (that has caused me hip and lower back injuries) cleaning up other peoples shit
>Days feel really inefficient too, we start at 8 and usually finish around 5:30 - 6, but I only usually get payed for 5 - 6 hours as the rest is spent travellig or listening to the boss procrastinate
>Found tooth decay in one of my wisdom teeth, need it filling. Despite me rarely eating goyslop and doing my best to do everything right
>Today notices a chip in an incisor, dont even know how it got there
>Army rejected my application on the grounds of having ADHD (never been medicated once for it)
>Havnt had a GF or even slept with anyone for 8 years now, been too busy studying then grafting and caring for my mom
>Constantly exhausted, still struggling through to the gym though
tbh I do wonder why im even still going sometimes, I have nothing left to live for save some anime I havnt watched. My brother showed me his backpacking photos and whilst I was happy for him I felt profoundly jealous that ive never had the chance to go abroad. Im 29, I hate my life, and it seems everything I do to try and improve it fails, every step forward I take sees me knocked back 3. Im doing everything right, and despite that nothing is working out. Im tired of this. I want out.
also, I regret not going to Ukraine when the war started. I let myself be threatened and blackmailed to not going and I have regretted it ever since. Even if I had died I would have at least gotten out and lived a little. And seen some of the world
Dude, get a better fricking job immediately
Shes a childhood friend, and the business is having cash issues because of clients not paying (but we still go to work for them dont ask me why). But ive told her I dont want to continue, ill help her for a bit longer but im moving on.
I want to do something important, or failing that, something I can do. I used to enjoy blacksmithing and woodwork, and I was thinking about making and selling wooden crafts, and maybe volunteering with the local Mountain Rescue. My main problem are my qualifications, I only went to college and never went to uni, which is now basically mandatory for any none-menial job in the UK, and my qualifications are in IT and now outdated.
Just kinda need to find the motivation to do it.
Your boss is taking advantage of you. If you don't get paid on time once then quit immediately. Time spent traveling to worksite should also be paid if it's half your day.
30 KSV on my 5th beer
Please point finger at me and laugh. I still think about the only girl that ever hugged me which was like 18 years ago when I was in middle school.
I also still think the other girl that ever payed attention to me in high school, she was like 3/10 but super smart and with top grades.
Let me get rémy martin with a glass of diet coke on the side.
I decided to go to an in state commuter school to save money on tution. I sometimes experince fomo around not living in a dorm where I can live freely and wildly with other guys my age. That sounds kinda gay now that I say it out loud. It'd also be a lot easier dating and having sex if you're dads not hanging out by the couch in a wife beater and underwear. I guess it hasn't been a deal breaker since I did get a couple of dates with girls that have their own place and we just met there. It would be a nice option to have nonetheless. I think I've had enough of being frugal. I'm planning on moving next summer. I've got about 13k saved up right now. I make 1200 a month on a partime job. Im hoping that 1200 a month plus federal student aid will be enough to live on my own for a year at least. After a year I can hopefully get a kushy software internship that pays 20 an hour and then in a year after that Ill have graduated and can live on my own with my degree. What made you anons finally move out? Anyone going through or went through something similar?
Just live with your parents bro, don't use loans to live on when you can just live there for free...
Is it actually possible to "meet a girl at church"? Are you supposed to just chat with them after the service is done, or go to the fricking ice cream socials and shit?
I don't know if it's just my church but I've never interacted with anyone else besides "hey, happy sunday, good to see you". I don't know where the social aspect comes in at all.
Idk. I genuinely have no clue how to approach someone when I have an obvious intention like dating or fricking them. I can barely approach men to make small talk (not a gay) without sperging. It feels so unnatural to me. I just wait for women to come to me, and they definitely do, but it’s rare and if I could approach I’d be way more successful, meet women more often.
exactly anon...I'm
. I started going to church here in Europe(catholic) but there's literally no concept of "community" there. Christianity is falling because these homosexual priests aren't paying attention to the news. They should(like it happened in the past) have events where young Christians meet, so that in the future you would have more Christians.
I started going to the parish "youth group" but still there were some old people in there? anyway we just sat in a circle around the priest and he talked and talked. Zero community.
>inb4 begome prodestandd
I'm Portuguese and virtually all protestant churches are Brazilian,so no. I won't. Maybe I'll try the orthodox church.
I downloaded Tinder.
I have a gf but there's always some bullshit. So I'll try my luck, see if I can have fun with someone else. I'm tired of waiting, of spending days alone because some bullshit came up. I feel so left alone and like a dumbass for letting this shit slide for so long.
If I get mad she ends up coming to frick right away, but I'm getting mad every week just to get laid. It's so wasteful.
why are you with her anyways? feels like she isn't bringing anything to the relationship some other b***h can't bring
Cause she's a good person. She brought a lot to the relationship before, but she's been very neglectful for more than a year. I almost dumped her decemer last year, but we talked things through and shit. She made some compromises which obviously lasted for a week, but we had some fun and I just let it slide like an idiot.
I don't mean she's a good person like I pity her, tho. I'd feel zero blame if I dumped her. I mean it like she's honest and kind and that's so rare in women. But that alone is not enough.
>she’s a good person
>she started being neglectful for over a year
Choose one
>she’s kind and honest
>but is neglectful
Choose one
Yeah whatever I'm not gonna excuse her. She's had shitty behavior and despite her virtues, I'm wasting my time with her. I'll just look for someone else and frick her in the meantine sometimes when she's not feeling like being a slob all day.
>downloading tinder to improve your mental health
Yeah good luck with that one my dude.
It's not to improve my mental health. That's on point. It's just to have fun and get laid. I literally typed it's to see if I can have fun with someone through it.
I have zero plans tonight and will probably spend it alone in my apartment drinking and watching Twitch/some movie
there's a local astronomy group doing their weekly meetup tonight, but it's 90% middle aged or older dudes (based on images I've seen)
is it worth it to go out for 30 minutes, shoot the shit with random dudes, and then come home? I have no friends within 30km of me, so most of my weekends are alone unless I travel to meet up
>is it worth it to go out for 30 minutes
I'd say yes. If you stay at home and watch Twitch or whatever; you'll stay at home and watch Twitch. But if you go out, your roll the dice on what you could run into, talk about or see. Odds say everything that you expect to happen would happen for better or worse but you should break the routine at least once in a while because nothing will ever happen unless you leave the house. Just do it, it's only a hour out of your day at worst.
Go man. Astronomy is fricking awesome
Going to "Emo nite" to listen to pop punk from when I was in high school and maybe might get some new stuff after it got revived in 2016. My pregame is a psychedelic tea + rum conconction so I am going to pull into the parking lot start crushing and hope it doesn't kick in until I actually get inside.
>someone is launching a psyop here and several other places I post
>I've noticed it and now I can't unnotice it
>I can't point it out without identifying myself either
ESTOY LOCO
gang stalkers
No it's just one person.
we are many
about to leave for date with a girl i've been talking to and fantasizing about for months. i feel like i'm going to throw up
Would it help if I said whatever happens happens, there's no free will, and all you can do is enjoy the experience?
>fantasizing about a girl
you have to be over 18 to post here
I've decided to stay in and drink
there's time tomorrow to be social
Getting tired of being single, how do you even meet girls now days if youre a normie, should i just ask a girl for her number at the gym? I looked on reddit about this (i know i know) and basically every answer was an agressive no dont do it, asking the few semi normal people who browse this board what to do....
I had to set up something with my Friend and my GFs cousin since while also IST he was severely autistic. If you can't find a grill you need to get a friend group/friends. If you're not good with people try learning charisma on command and seeing how to interact and be funny.
it's a low chance but you lose nothing. however, you should find better ways to meet girls cause if talking to random girls at the gym is your first choice you're sex life is pretty much doomed
however go for it anyways who knows. I personally don't like shitting where I eat tho, it's the last place I'd shoot my shot after work/university for mental peace
solid advice, also my sex life is non existent, but and i fricking know everyone says this, im not even bad looking, im going out to bars tomorrow with a friend, gonna give that a shot instead of gym, the thought of going out gives me anxiety though but gonna power through it...
the best shot at having a sex life is socializing a lot. it's tough out there for introverts, but fitness goes a long way. if you've been working out honestly, you should mog 99% people who go to a bar. it's an easy game once you're past the anxiety
honestly im hoping it does, pic rel is where im at right now, im not massive but have abs and shit and a decent jaw, thanks for all the advice so far bros its honestly pretty good
you're defintiely above average but you oughta get bigger and leaner if you want to get laid on body alone
ugly dyels get laid every night tho no reason to be insecure, but you're still a way from showing off rights
Don't listen to
Your body is perfect imo. Not built like a steroid junkie but not dyel either. Perfect balance.
I made that post thinking about me, a six pack abs social moron who got laid on that argument alone until I found a gf
it's not that you can't get laid if you don't look perfect, but if you wanna laid on body *alone* it takes a longer way. he still mogs most people, specially if 20+
strategy is the same tho. difference is the result. girls who are looking for a ons will jump into it, while girls looking for a relationship will blue ball you into a next date
also diet is easy as frick it's literally maths no reason to frick that up
is a night out a good way to find a nice gf? also yh ik its just counting calories, my point was i get full and cant eat a lot (2.5k+)
>is a night out a good way to find a nice gf?
not really, a nice gf is a bunch of night outs, a bunch of being heres and theres. in the end you end up meeting gfs in ways you couldn't replicate if you wanted to. it's the random chance of interacting with many women in many contexts
Dont try to be another person, or else you will become a person stuck with playing the actor, be yourself and try to go out with friends, or get in jobs where people are of your age (like me and its fricking working), if you are not severly autistic you can make it with some effort, just dont jump immediately on the israelites.
For randos, make a connection and talk to them first so they want to continue talking to you. Then, instead of asking for theirs give them your number. Puts the ball in their court. Don't be an idiot and give it to every girl because you want your dick wet. Desperate isn't a good look.
Despite being a virgin im not looking for ONS or anything like that, im genuinely looking for a long term gf, and yh i agree i need to get a bit bigger but i swear its fricking hard my appetite is full after like 1800 calories
You're still going to have to cast a big net to find a person you want to be with. My advice wasn't for ons, it applies to anyone you'd be interested in irl. The whole point is finding a connection and not temporary mires that feel good for all of 10 minutes. This is how you get actual reciprocation instead of ghosting.
Your body is fine dude, chill. Looks are what draw them in initially, but being a fun person to hang around is what keeps them.
I refuse to believe that this isn't "real love", it's just amazing how great this feels. I don't even care that it's never going to happen, I'm happy enough as it is (actually I do care but I'll pretend not to for the next few minutes)
That is all.
The only time Ive hung out with someone outside of work/school is with this guy I met at a random club on campus. We got high and went to a punk concert, it was a bunch of local bands that played. I'm not that into punk music, I mean I do like hardcore and rock type shit but the music we heard was pretty forgettable to me. I did really like the experience though. That was also the first time I smoked weed. I wish I had more friends that wanted to do shit outside of class though you know. Anyone know how to fix this? I feel like Im always initiating offers to hang out.
>go to therapy
>help a little bit, understand myself better
>nothing major
>lifting heavy and often
>turn into a fricking greek philosopher
>thinking about my life, past and future
>memories come flooding back
>resting after set
>legit lying on the bench crying
I don't think I'm gonna make it. Life sucks too much. It doesn't feel worth it anymore.
don't feel too bad for yourself. your living in the end times. but it isn't fun, cool or exciting things like another world war.
it is the death of the world as we know it by a thousand ( economic) cuts.
so don't worry anon. most of us won't make it. just try to get as far as you can and do as much good to other frens as you can
YES I WILL THINK ABOUT IT I WILL THINK ABOUT IT CONSTANTLY.
I WILL NOT STOP THINKING ABOUT IT. YES HAHHA IT DOESN'T FEEL BAD.
What can I buy in real life that will make me not think?
Tobacco, booze, weed, whatever.
Give me the suggestions.
Try writing
I need some laughs from a shit week. anyone got the classic screencap of the ISTizen getting swole going scary face blocking people in the work elevator ?
I made a post about this in another thread that got jannied, but here we go. I'll also have a water please
>meet and develop a crush on a girl in my fluids class
>got her number
>she's great to talk to in person,one day we spent an hour just talking about our shared interest in history, but she's very cold over texting. She responds very fast, but it's either short or one word
>told by one of her friends that she isn't the type of person to be texting a lot
Should I ask her out or not?
Considering you barely know shit about her: YES. That's the point of a date dummy. The fact she responds fast is a good thing. Stop being a pussy.
I am a shut in engineering student that legitimately has no idea how to talk to women. I legit need help with how to navigate this
>I legit need help with how to navigate this
I don't know how to tell you this but....you're on IST. It's gonna be a mixed bag. Nobody can tell you what to do and how to do it because nothing is really guaranteed in life. The real question is what do you want out of this. Then you can proceed from there. Just have have some confidence in your choices. It's okay to frick up, we're only human.
I know I’m on IST. I’m just saying overall I need help navigating this. She is 100% wife material if I do manage to date her, it’s just idk if she likes me that way. She laughs at all of my jokes, she responds quickly to almost all of my texts, and we’ve talked for hours in our study group, but has ghosted me twice when I tried to playfully text her. I
Just fricking ask her out in person you fricking pussy.
Goddamn it.
Ok, I will
>it’s just idk if she likes me that way
Bro this is some high school level thinking. You're severely over thinking this. Going on a single date does not equate to being in an exclusive relationship. It's for the purpose of seeing if you two are compatible. You don't have to overanalyze every interaction, it already seems like she has an overall positive view of you. Ask her out to a museum or botanical garden date--something where you two actually get to communicate. Don't stress it. Go for it. If she says no, yeah it'll suck for a bit, but at least you won't be agonizing over it. If she says yes, then you get a date.
yeah do it homosexual
getting laid doesn't get any easier than in university (assuming you're in university). EVERYONE is trying to frick everyone else, and you'll regret not trying to hit it
She’s super religious, so if I date her, I won’t get any action
Need some feedback please, bros.
I'm currently in junior year for EE... it's kind of fun as a hobby but I just don't want to do the work treadmill for 40 years. It all seems too pointless, like my skills wouldn't be used for anything that would help people. Even working out seems pointless now because the muscles aren't being used for anything useful.
I've been having fantasies of going to join the Amish or (more realistically) getting some land and only working as much as I need to. I just want out.
Anyone else feel this feel?
It could be worth it to take some time off after you graduate anon. I got my undergrad in math and was burned out. I fricked around for a few years working odd jobs and living with friends and enjoying my early 20s. I had the same fears as you. Now, I'm doing my PhD going into my third year nearing the end of my 20s and my attitude has changed. I'll be doing the academia grind that sounded so bad before, but sounds a lot better now. You'll have more motivation to work once you have things worth protecting.
Tips for self learning math? I went down the wrong track of liberal arts. Now wanna learn enough math to do 3d shit in Unity (rip). Not expecting to contribute but wanna have imagination for stuff like rotating triangles. I'm thinking to get some of the old math textbooks from the 1920s or whatever then just drill and kill ten million practice problems from wolphram alpha, sounds cozy but dunno if it'll work
>banned from hinge
I didn't even know that was possible.
Life's good, work's good lads! Started a fasting regimen this week. OMAD with light keto refeeds. Temp's cooling off so I broke out the crock pot and made some BANGING chicken thighs and veggies. Good lord.
I'm slaying shit at work. If I can keep up the progress and keep the team slammin I'm going to ask for a pretty chunky raise.
I'm just FEELING it this week. Going to take it easy this week, couple of heavier workouts, then resume fasting Monday.
We're all going to make it.
>cute tinder match
>actually for once, seemingly, a great personality
>actually able to match a convo
>things seemed good
>suddenly no more response
Oh well at least I have the gym. I can go out to some shit club and lay some basic b***h, but why? That shit doesn’t appeal to me at all anymore
She can have 10,000 of those amazing conversations a week.
You're not even real.
Online dating isn't real.
no more response
how long did you talk for? an hour? a day? a week? if you're vibing, set up a coffee date within the first day or two, then go no contact until you see them
Dating apps can be useful, but most people mindlessly binge. It's not within your control.
I had bumble in an Asian country for a bit and got literally 100 matches a day, after a day or two it becomes kind of sickening in a way, feels a bit like pouring a full jug of milk down the drain or something like that. If she's a decent person then she might just find the whole factory farm thing gross. Ask them out on the same day that you match, if you're texting back and forth live then ideally within the first 20 minutes of conversation
Inna new job. Things are going well. Will probably not find gf this year, though, for a second year now. Kinda lonely but it's better than attaching myself to the first girl who shows some amount of interest, at least
>get to ranch
>drive down winding road that leads to my little compound where the house and pens for animals are
>dog is laying in the spot he always does
>doesn't lift his head and stick his goofy tongue out when he hears the truck coming like he always does
He hadn't been himself all week, but I was hoping it was just something he ate, etc. Almost made it 11 years, but today he was gone. He went peacefully and I was able to bury him in a good spot.
He was waiting for me one last time and I didn't make it in time, bros. I stayed at work an extra hour when I didn't need to. I might have been able to say goodbye. That's what hurt the most.
He was always good like that.
im sorry anon.
You disgusting Black person.
I hope that extra 20$ was worth it
I'm self employed, I didn't make any money the last hour, I was just finishing some cleanup and organizing. It was the end of the week, so I wanted to take care of odds and ends.
Thanks anon. This was him some time back.
>that blurry tail from happily wagging
A good boy indeed. His fur pattern is really interesting too.
ACKSHUALLY it was $9.50 and Mr Shekelberg said if I keep up my can-do attitude I may make Duty Manager one day, so screw you
My condolences. What was his name? Do you have a happy picture of him you would like to share?
You're free to view it how you wish, but it sounds like he stayed where he felt most comfortable and at ease. His last moments were in the outdoors basking in light and life around other animals. Take in grief and mourn him who you've shown unconditional love for, but remember to appreciate the time you've spent together. When these things happen you never feel ready or feel like you have regrets, but this is never something you can truly prepare for. You've given him a full, cherished life and for that you should be proud.
>He died waiting
I bet he felt good doing that though, doing his job of waiting for you. Bet he felt useful and proud. "He's gonna be so proud of me when he knows I've been waiting for him." He's waiting for you up there as we speak.
>He's waiting for you up there as we speak.
I'm sorry but dogs don't go to heaven
All dogs go to heaven.
There were two movies about it.
Sorry cat-gay maybe you should try sucking some other animals butthole all day.
Who /former sex haver/ here? It's been over 3 years since I've had sex and over 5 years now since I've been in a relationship. I don't have any luck with Bumble or Tinder but people keep saying it works for them. I try to go out on my own and do my own shit. It just sucks doing it all the time you know
Yeah, I don't know what it is, but I'm in a big drought too
>I don't have any luck with Bumble or Tinder but people keep saying it works for them.
>Good morning sir, I have had much dating success on these apps, if you are failing to get matches it sounds like a personal shortcoming on your end, I am very average man and all women with tinder account removes clothes for me
My pooposting needs work but I think I made my point
I've fallen in love with a woman in a relationship with someone very close to me. I can't say too much for risk of self-dox but I think she feels the same way. We've been spending more and more time together and she keeps dropping little hints. Part of me wants to say frick it and just take her but it would have pretty serious repurcussions in my current situation. I can't talk about these feelings with any of my friends because we're pretty close knit, it would get out and cause issues. I have a girlfriend of my own but I can't keep her out of my mind lately. Maybe it's the taboo aspect I don't know but it's been affecting me and my relationship pretty heavily.
>be me
>have trouble finding work
>take the only job hiring, and tell myself i will work really hard to improve the situation
>boomers at job instantly dislike me and always cause trouble
> management always sides with boomer no matter the situation
> one time HR told me 'what can we do to a 62 year old (muh boomer) women (muh women)
> that is basically confirms what i suspected for a while. globohomosexual is identity policitics and not about behavior or merit
>move onto a new job and it's the same thing
>i am always hardworking and put in overtime and learn about different aspects of the business to make myself valuable
>but it never matters compared to some boomer that got the job from a firm handshake, can't use a computer properly, and is constantly complaining and blaming others
>i don't want to keep this cycle going
> i think i am done with work, but i can't neet
>i4bw some gay saying i am the problem if it keeps happening
>yes hr does ask why i have alot of jobs with 1 year exp. but why don't they care if those jobs were high turnover? high turnover jobs have to burn out someone and i guess its me
I actually had a pretty good time at emo nite. Except half their playlist was kinda shit. and instead of lemon tekking and chugging with pregame alcohol I should have just pre-gamed and ate the shrooms after I got instead
>pretty much the only activity/hobby/social experience i do is sports refereeing
>doing a high school sport right now with games weekday afternoon thru evening
>decent money but dont get home until 830-9p
>leave house at 8 am to wageslave, gone literally 12+ hours a day every day i do it, basically only have time to shower, eat, rest for an hour, then go to sleep and do it again
>did it tuesday thru friday this week
>usually my weekends are spent refereeing another sport but i took none this weekend because of how tired i am from this week
>good to take a break but i know that as im sitting at home on my ass doing nothing saturday and sunday i will go back to feeling miserable because i will be reminded of how alone i am and how pathetic my life is
Choccy milk, please.
I've nothing. I try to escape from this truth because it hurts, but escaping instead of dealing with it will only make things worse in the long term.
I'm a 26 years old NEET who recently graduated with an useless degree and has problems asserting himself and feeling confident. These past few years I've barely had contact with anyone besides a couple of friends I don't see regularly, a bpd ex I fortunately broke up with and a family that makes me miserable, so any social skill I had pretty much atrophied.
I don't know what I wanna do with my life. These last few years I've put some effort towards understanding myself better and realized that I've a fascination with fitness, nature and mechanical craftsmanship (things like israeliteelery making and watchmaking). If I could go back to college I would probably go for a degree in oceanography or other biology/geography related field.
The reason I'm telling you all this is because I wanna change, anons. I don't wanna spend the rest of my life like this. There's a ton of things I'm omitting for the sake of brevity and I've to be particularly careful about my professional future since I live in a third world country and it's very easy to get stuck with a wageslave-tier job even if you do have a degree. For now I've been focused on lifting and eating well, but I don't know what the next step is. Getting a shitty job just for the sake of having one wouldn't solve anything, but with my degree the only choice left is either studying to be a public servant or learning how to code and praying that'll land me something decent despite the lack of a degree. Barring that I've been thinking about meditating and taking classes in things I've always wanted to learn but I need money for that.
Anyway, any advice is welcome.
Just went through my Instagram followers and I have no clue who half these people are, the other half I vaguely remember from some random party or whatever and I couldn't give a frick about them. What's the point of social media wtf
>What's the point of social media wtf
Picking up hoes and/or going insane.
I am glad to strong enough to endure a difficult life
I wouldn’t be as formidable without it.
the girl i was into told me it wasnt mutual, she was very sweet about it. even offered to stay friends, i dont have many friends but i tried and she still avoids me, so im gonna leave her alone, shes too nice to tell me that but i can take the hint. i dont feel sad that she didnt like me, i mainly feel stupid that i tried, i know better, i know what i look like, ive lost 50 lbs but im still a fat frick. not attractive in the slightest, im still confused as to why we went out in the first place. or why we went out a second time, or why when she got a new number she gave it to me, if there were no feelings what so ever why not just ghost me after the second time we hung out? i think she was trying to get close to one of my friends. idk. im just gonna focus on me and trying to lose more weight. i think i prefer being alone anyways.
Baby sad boy pussy b***h isn't liked by girls.
Whaaaah
Women change their minds at the drop of a hat anon. Don't try to understand why tho because therein lies madness.
Being fat isn't as much of a pussy repellent as you think. A friend of mine weighs 230 lbs and is always fricking new women. That being said you should still lose weight because it's good for you.
Your post makes it sound like your worst problem isn't being fat or lonely but your self-esteem, so try working on that.
Man grow a fricking spine, sign up for martial arts and don't say a word to anyone for your first 30 classes, after that you have permission to speak
She was likely hanging out with you because it's something friends do; you were thinking it was because of romance she was thinking it was because of friends. When it became obvious you two were after different things the distance formed.
Men are more interesting than women, and women know this, so they like hanging out with men, but things get hard when the idea of feelings and romance come up.
Vodka Redbull, thanks. The bigger I get, the more alone I feel. If I'm being honest, I miss the validation I use to get but the mires have seemed to suddenly stop. I know I shouldn't rely on those things but I liked knowing people saw me, since no one ever talks to me.
No (you)s, how typical.
Damn dude, you're huge
I had this frickin awesome dream last night where Starlight Glimmer and Trixie were taking turns double teaming on me giving me a bj. I was trying really hard to last but Trixie was using her magic and her tongue to lick my balls while Starlight was going down starting from my tip, then they both started licking my shaft from the side and when I came and they both high fived each other, then I woke up. That is all, and it's times like this when I realize this is why we can't have nice things.
>Trixie
You had a dream about fricking the Trix rabbit?
Feeling alright. Going through it, but keeping it together somehow. Just wrapped up everything for my first song release. The release is anticlimatic since I haven't really promoted it yet, but pretty stoked I'm finally putting something out. I got a lot of adjacent ideas in the works so might make it an EP.
I hope you guys are all well. Hang in there.
I'm still idly waiting for if she'll contact me once she gets out of prison.
Doubt it since she never said anything back after I told her partly I just wanted to pretend this would have happened and caused a drift between us.. don't know when she's out..
It gets easier to forget each week though
>wants a girl who went to prison
Why?
Are you a battered husband?
We both have a lot of difficulties in our lives and we opened up and got to know each other really fast.
Cos of her previous being burned by shitty people, she was too guarded and my anxiety around that made us drift apart.
Ok, I would personally steer clear of someone who has trouble with the law unless they had a good and verifiable reason or it was something dumb like weed possession.
>how a person can be a great friend and an obnoxious gf/bf?
People seem to try to recreate parental relationships with romantic partners (not in a Freudian "you want to frick your mother" sense but because your first experience of love (unless you're very unfortunate) is between you and your parents, and watching your parents together) much more than with friends.
It was theft and possession, intent to supply weed.
She went away for 6 years for muggings at knifepoint in a gang as a teen... I know there are major red flags but she puts up with my flaws too, namely related to paranoid schizophrenia and drinking to deal with it
Sounds like you're codependent
This can only end well
>be me
>have an actual female friend, know her for like 10 years, not my type but a great person, saved my ass a couple of times
>she has some turbulence in her relationship
>basically if you ignore her ramblings the guy was just fed up with her bullshit
>left the apartment 3 days ago and ignores his phone
>she tried calling him 70 times
>says he's an butthole etc etc
>it all boils down to him not wanting to pay her rent, not wanting to get a dumb ass tiny dog, not wanting to text 24/7, not solving her problems
What can I say, I understand the guy completely. Don't you guys think it's so curious how a person can be a great friend and an obnoxious gf/bf?
I think this is a perfect example of why female friends are important. Without insights like this, some of us would be left wondering why we’re the butthole in a situation like that.
>24/7 texting (far too needy, also kills the relationship)
>wants him to pay her rent (not even just paying rent on his apartment and her living their, she wanted him to pay a second rent and especially right now that’s fricked. Even in a shared apartment she should be paying some % of the rent if they both live there).
>rat dog (negligible IMO, just a simple “no”; but this makes me believe they shared an apartment and she didn’t want to 50/50. If he’s paying 100% of rent she doesn’t get to bring animals he doesn’t want in).
And because he didn’t do these absurd things and realized they weren’t compatible, he is the butthole. Makes me smile a bit thinking about how some of my more horrible exes went on to spread lies to our mutuals and convince everyone I was the butthole when I definitely wasn’t lmfao.
But this is also a bit demoralizing. Clearly capable of being a good person, but she still cannot take accountability or even at least just see it as it is, incompatibility, rather she has to paint him as a bad person to cope. I just want a woman who can take accountability when it’s needed.
>I think this is a perfect example of why female friends are important
I agree - I have 2 close female friends, not interested in either sexually at all (really want to make it clear that's not a friendzone situation). They give me a unique perspective I'd lack if not for them, a real window into a woman's soul. Also they give terrific dating advice (just listen what they say and do EXACT OPPOSITE).
>she still cannot take accountability
Just girly things
>incompatibility
That's what I said to her, they're probably just incompatible, there's nothing to fix. She's a great girl, he's a solid guy, but their relationship is just both "trying too hard"
3 shots of rum
I realized that when people say they “can’t wait to do x”, they usually have some sort of feeling of anticipation prior to doing X, and they actually feel good when doing X.
I don’t think I ever felt this way, usually things (everything) felt more like I have to do them, like a chore, without there being anything enjoyable while doing them.
I believe I have insertional Achilles tendinitis in both of my legs. I never really had any injuries or issues until this and I don’t know where it came from. Even walking is starting to cause pain. Based on things I have seen online, it can take a very long time to heal from this.
It’s perfectly fitting that in the most depressed and miserable point I’ve ever been in my entire life that this would happen and I may have to bascially become a neet to heal from it, won’t be able to do my shitty job or doing sports which is my one real hobby. I think this will be what finally drives me to suicide.
Go stand in the river Styx
Im sitting in my house alone on a saturday night drinking whiskey. I've fricked up all my friendships and have no one. Online dating isnt working. I dont know how much longer I can take being this fricking lonely.
I went to a concert last night and had a pretty good time. What some other public events that I can make social gains from?
>roommate came back tonight when they were not supposed to
A juice, please. I've just been alcohol blocked...
Why can i not stop thinking about killing myself? Even if everything is going well in my life. I had a great day today, but then i get home and immediately want to get drunk and throw myself in front of a train.
Iktfb, I felt that way last summer, I had to stop riding my bike in the road because I kept taking stupid risks and realised I was trying to kms "by accident". It's not popular here but I've been taking SSRIs since then. I know what my problem is though, you might need to do some soul searching. Still, do what you have to to keep from blowing your brains out even if it's israeli pills.
>Still, do what you have to to keep from blowing your brains out even if it's israeli pills.
so these "israeli pills" stopped you from killing yourself yet you still feel the need to criticize them?
I was trying to avoid anons sperging out about them but I see that it backfired.
NTA but I've been on them and they gave me brain fog and I couldn't cum.
I would absolutely take that over trying to kill myself though. Don't listen to spergs dismissing them outright, they have utility.
You don't want to be on them for more than a few years though, they're intended to raise your baseline so you can do the soul-searching you need.
Last year i went to see a doctor and wanted to talk about how i feel for the first time in my life. I was hoping to get some pills and just get it over with. However, my doctor did a blood test on me and basically just told me i am healthy and sent me home. Haven't been to a doctor since.
That's weird, maybe the doctor didn't understand. In my country (UK) if you say you are depressed or anxious the doctor has you fill out a questionaire and if you score above a certain level you're automatically offered antidepressants and told how to get therapy. You pretty much have free license to diagnose yourself and you practically have to beg for blood tests. Ruling out physical problems first sounds sensible but I don't get why the doctor would send you away, unless you're in a country/dealing with a doctor where mental illnesses are seen as bullshit or for women.
Counselling should help anyway and you probably don't need a referral. The pills mainly keep you alive/clear headed enough to do what the therapist tells you.
I’ve had a similar experience with doctors as a man in his 20s in America. They seem so annoyed with my presence like I’m wasting their time. It’s made me not go to appointments as often as I should. Like they just don’t care. They usually just want to force pills on me and get me out of their hair. And my brief medical career showed me they really don’t give a frick and I’m right to feel that way. It sucks. Have an eye appointment on Monday and I’m not looking forward to it but I may have a detaching retina so I have to go and not gaf how they feel.
For once since my ex broke up with me, talking with another woman feels nice.
We’ve been texting for the last week now. I may have made too many sexual comments and she got upset thinking that was the only thing she wanted.
Hoping to get a time to hang out with her soon.
Long distance relationships sucks
Today I was so insanely horny after being cancelled last minute by a girl I almost downloaded tinder. I had been on nofap for a few weeks to bust a big load in this one too so I'm pent up as hell. Frick, I just want a wife but b***hes are all hoes and tricks.
Im that anon trying to get an electrician apprenticeship to have an income to start unfricking my life
>get student transcripts, notice how 9th & 10th grade I have mainly Ds and a couple Cs even a couple Fs
>11th & 12th when I actually started doing assignments and putting forth an ounce of effort started getting mostly As, a few Bs/B+’s
Reminded me that when I try, I actually do very well in anything I put my mind to, even if I half ass it I do well
>studying a course I bought for the apprenticeship aptitude test because I haven’t had to do any math in a decade
>start from the beginning and start working way through it
>tfw Im actually grasping it and learning shit I never knew before
I know it’s just basic algebra, but it’s showing me I’m not dumb. I am capable. I’m not sure if I would call myself smart, but I know I’m not dumb. I have had this ongoing issue of not trying hard enough, not being able to focus. But when I do try and I can focus I do very well.
The other part of this is with getting back into a hobby earlier this year, fishing. It pulled me enough out of my depression to make other changes and keep crawling out of the hole. I had to relearn patience. Hadnt fished since I was a teen, spent like 40 days not catching anything fishing every day. Then I started catching stuff and getting good again. The rush of finally catching a fish after going from lake to lake, canal to canal. The rush I get when I catch a new species or set PB. That feeling of accomplishment is what Ive been missing in life. Literally went from laying in bed sleeping all the time stagnating while chores pile up for weeks to lifting again, fishing, going on walks, cooking my own food for the week, handling all my housework in a single day, studying and being able to sit and study for half an hour instead of just 5 minutes.
Idk how else to word this other than I was missing patience and that sense of accomplishment. I even feel it while studying math. WAGMI
And I’m still in the hole btw, but at this point all I have to do is keep getting back in shape, pass this test and interview to get accepted to my local union, begin the apprenticeship and have an income. If I keep this up then December 2024 I should be in my old shape, even better because muscle memory+fat loss, and in a position to move out.
Every week I’m feeling and doing better and better. Like shit, I started playing Skyrim again. Any attempt at vidya a year ago I couldn’t stay focused for over 5 minutes and I didn’t really enjoy it, it felt chore like to me. Now I’m doing the craziest play through going for a 110% where I collect every item in the game from weapons to books to misc shit, send all named NPCs to the soul cairn etc
I feel good. I’m hopeful off the first time in years.
Miller lite for me barkeep.
Whelp, put a good year into cold outreach for freelancing but I think either the economy is fricked or no one needs the skill I have. I've made enough to pay off my student loans at least (they weren't too much) but feeling assmad reading stories about people starting in '14 or '19 and making it fulltime. I've talked to like 2000 local business owners, won a handful but got so much ghosting it sucks ass.
Haven't entirely given up because I hate my dayjob, but now taking professional development for my trade to get a certificate or two and get a new job I can hopefully hate less (and not get stuck on fricking on-call) and working on a product based business.
Started talking to a girl a few weeks back, keep avoiding fricking her- she's great on paper but a slight autist and not exactly what I wanted, but if I let her go will I ever find a smart tall girl again?
Finally losing weight and getting back under 190lbs while keeping my lifts up at the gym, so I guess that's something good to keep in mind.
WAGMI brothers.
How do I cope with intrusive thoughts?
Years ago I distanced myself from a male friend of mine because I started having intrusive thoughts about fricking him, including literally feeling arousal. It's really upsetting for me to be around him.
I know this will sound like cope, but I am genuinely not gay. When I voluntarily think of performing sex acts with him, they do nothing for me, and I don't have these thoughts about any other men. I've read about intrusive thoughts and these fit the profile.
He doesn't understand why I'm distancing myself and I'm too embarrassed to admit this to anyone I know IRL and I feel horrible and I just want it to stop so I can go back to normal.
When do the intrusive thoughts come up?
What are his most admirable traits? What do you feel most insecure about?
Answer or you're just gay.
They come up literally every time I see him.
>whare are his most admirable traits
The intrustive thoughts specifically I guess tend to focus on his mouth and hands sometimes? That's the only pattern I've noticed.
If you mean why do I want to be friends with him, we've known each other a while, he's a funny guy, we have similar tastes in media and sports, normal friend stuff.
>what are you most insecure about
I guess I am insecure in my ability to perform sexually and I have been addicted to porn for like 16 years.
I'm not baiting, everything I just wrote is true and sincere.
>I guess I am insecure in my ability to perform sexually and I have been addicted to porn for like 16 years.
That and I haven't had sex in almost nine years and that fricks with me mentally. I jack off pretty regularly though so it's not like I'm suppressing my sex drive or anything weird like that.
>ask for traits
>oh yeah well his physical features are just so sexy
>what? What am I ashamed about? Not being a cum God
Yeah man you're just gay.
I asked for the things about him that make you respect him.
You dumb fricking Black person.
And the fact that your DEEPEST INSECURITY is not being sexually "enough" for anyone means you're 100% a pole smoker. It's a hugely common facet of homosexualry to "not feel good enough" for people and cope by twisting sexuality.
You've probably been molested and cuckolded your whole life and you're just blocking it out.
Not memeing.
If you had better answers I could have given you a different answer.
But you're just gay.
>the intrusive thoughts focus on these things
>Here is a list of reasons that I like spending time with him that are clearly nonsexual and normal
>I have this incredibly common insecurity
>"yep, sounds gay to me"
Alright bud.
>I like sports and video games
Aren't things that you admire about someone you dumb fricking Black person. They're hobbies. Shit like "he's prideful, always striving for something" or "he's incredibly successful with women, a trait that I want" or "he's very intelligent, always thinking laterally and reaching better conclusions than I thought of"
and
>he makes me laugh
Is one of the biggest rainbow flags you threw out. Half of women frick because "he makes me laugh"
>I have this common insecurity but it's my DEEPEST FEAR, THE THING THAT I WOULD HATE THE MOST IF IT WERE TO BE FOUND TRUE
yeah, not being loved, not being good enough, and specifically not being sexually good enough are all the NO 1 fear of gays.
Alright bud?
Yes hello.
There is a man screaming inside my skull.
I want.
More than anything I've ever felt before. I hate it so much.
>love gf
>addicted to female attention
>get constant female attention
>gf is content with sex 1-2 times a week
Part of me feels like women are just women who cares but the other part I like, damn I want to date/frick everyone I see (who isn’t fat or a 5and below
Vodka neat.
I've failed in nearly every metric as a man. Money, respect, women, family, virtue, etc. But I foolishly want to try another path in life before giving in to the blackpill. I'm looking at different trades and am considering
>HVAC
>Electrical
>Welding
>Machinist/CNC
Are any of these viable for a late 20s guy who couldn't hack it in office jobs?
Yeah.
You won't be as high up as other people your age but that's ok.
>You won't be as high up as other people your age
Of course, I'd be behind the guys that started right after college. But that doesn't bother me anymore. I'm just hoping tradecraft are still viable for a career starting fresh this late in the game
Plumbing/HVAC, pays well, very interesting and lots of specialization opportunities. Any of the trades you've listed are good, machinist isn't a trade though. Electrical might be less intellectual depending on where you end up going and welding is cool but shit for your body
t. Cybersecurity guy training for HVAC because I got bored of the desk
You have to know shit... like how things work... in order to anything on your list.
Electrical would get very boring fast just installing the same shit over and over and over again.
HVAC is very technical, and you need to know a lot. Diagnosing systems is somewhat involved. But no one respects what you do or the complexity of it.
Welding is just welding. You need to practice. A real skill.
Same with CNC. Very technical. You need to know computers and CAD and obviously metallurgy.
The one with the easiest way to make money would be being an electrician or HVAC technician.
>You have to know shit
Yeah, I'm saving up for classes either later this year or early next, depending on the trade/course schedule
>But no one respects what you do or the complexity of it
As long as I get paid lol. That's other people's business
I thought machinist was a trade since it's under manufacturing and skilled labor. Found it interesting so I added it to the list.
>cybersecurity
Nice, why leave though? I'm considering the switch cause I fricked up good opportunities - wish I could still do cybersecurity even if it is boring.
Writing reports nobody reads, doing a job that has no real value and not using my hands except to type on a keyboard. HVAC fulfills the needs of both my mind and body, and from a pragmatic point of view is way more useful in everyday life and for the community I want to build around me
Late 20s trying to join my local IBEW. I looked at them all for a while and this is basically why I decided electrical
>welding
Seems fun, seems like something I can easily turn into a side business if I learn enough. Welding shit for people and charging like $200 for the hour on the side of my job. But its rough on the body, even with PPE you’ll inhale shit, possibly get eye issues. Also can be bad on back over time. Good pay in some areas though. No difference in pay vs electrical where Im located though.
>plumbing
Best paying. But seems horrible on your body. Unless you can guarantee starting your own business I wouldn’t do it. If I did I would do residential shit, start own business. But that would include more fecal matter. Can easily bust six dogs though.
>HVAC
Pay can be great depending on area, requires you to know a little of everything (plumbing, electrical, welding, refrigeration cycle). Seems like it’s easily bad on body. Again, start own business it’s a non issue.
>electrical
Not as labor intensive but still active. Pay is okay. Starting pay in my area for journeymen is $35/hr. Seems like something I personally can grasp easily, from what I’ve read it’s generally easy to learn compared to others. As in you just need to know your codes really. Can still start a business after enough years under my belt.
Although much rarer these days there are places where guys are pulling in up to $20k a month, but that’s with OT. Some local unions will pay double for OT, which I’m sure is the same for the other trades. With OT it would be easy to hit just under six figs assuming you got consistent OT. Thats for commercial btw not residential. And again, it also heavily depends on area.
You could move to junkie capital of the planet in Oregon and get paid like $50/hr iirc. But then youd have to live in Oregon/Portland.
Look into your local unions & how to join them/get apprenticeships. Any of these will pay bills & give you a skill for life
A message to everyone, particularly beginners and intermediates.
When you see yourself in favorable lighting, like in the bathroom, when you look amazing, but then don't look like that day-to-day.
Keep in mind, with a couple more months of hard work, day-to-day you'll look like you do in the bathroom (and of course you'll look even better with favorable lighting).
Stay strong friends!
I shaved and forgot how shit I look without stubble. Egghead with barely any jaw.
I think I'm around 20% bf tho so I may get better but my head is small as is. Scared me into only eating a large bowl of oatmeal for the day and smoking to ease the hunger. Good thing I did it on a weekend where I don't leave my cave.
I've got a fat ass thick neck so no matter what without a beard I look like shit
i just tried one of those "preworkout" mixes and now my stomach feels really weird. is this going to make me take a massive dump? i only used one scoop too.
ok so far i just ripped a fart. maybe that was it. gotta say tho i don't think a preworkout mix is very useful if it makes you feel like you're going to puke and shit while you're working out. should have just slammed an energy drink. this sucks.
man my shoulder is all fricked up, even doing a 45lb kettlebell shoulder press feels like shit
>27 soon
>never had a gf
>started a company when covid hit with a fk it attitude
>ended up making it, golden handcuffing myself
>giving it up in order to get an office job on the offchance I'll meet some woman there seems batshit moronic considering I'll also have to fire 30 people and give up a huge income
>have to drive almost one hour to hang out with the only friend I really talk with
>no socializing outside of that
feels like I took the wrong turn every time. The idea of relationships and getting a woman to like me is an alien concept. Like some game people play I can't even begin to understand
damn, another mid 20s millionaire business owner on fit? thats crazy.
wish I was larping
it up in order to get an office job on the offchance I'll meet some woman there seems batshit moronic considering I'll also have to fire 30 people and give up a huge income
Please tell me you didn't already do this.
ofcourse not. I'm just saying the work from home is getting to me after a couple years and the alternative is moronic
I ran 1.5 miles in 12m 18s today. Finally getting back up there. Also made muffins
Muffins (pic related). Gluten free / sugar free (bit of local honey). Have to eat healthy to have a good heart. Have to have a good heart to roon.
>when i work out my body feels great, strong, alert and after a workout i feel like i could take on the world
>when i dont work out i feel like garbage, tired and slow, feels like my body is rotting from the inside
>dont actually like working out, it's boring and tedious and i have to do it to prevent my body from falling apart at the seams
My wife just said, and I quote, "I really hate to admit it, but Pewdiepie is getting kind of hot.". This woman rarely notices physiques, and she certainly never said something like that to me. I was trying hard before, but now I am going to triple my efforts and I will not quit until I have my dream physique. I will not lose out to fricking Pewdiepie of all people.
turned 22 on thursday. still a KHV DYEL coombrain. this hole is so deep bros
A bottle of cheap bitter wine, please.
I gaslit myself into believeing nobody did me any wrong while growing up, that everyone did an excelent job teaching and raising me. Parents, teachers and professors. I made myself believe that everything they thought of me was right. Teachers made think I have problems, parents made me think whatever teachers were saying is true and fair, never being supportive.
Wasted all my youth believing there’s something inherently wrong with me. Made no friends.
I didn’t develop any hobbies growing up, the only thing I knew was study and work, and waiting for the next day.
Can’t talk with anyone about this, my older sister does the same things my parents did and are doing, and my younger sister is going through the same stuff, more or less.
The only reason I’m still alive is because I have parents and although they made mistakes, they don’t deserve their kid to off himself.
Growing up is recognizing that you exist. Given the things you were given before you achieved self-awareness. Accepting they're neither perfect or ideal and attempting to shave off any behavioral patterns or beliefs that don't push you in the direction you want to go in.
Crush any sense of debt that you feel, and any resentment these things may cause.
Deal with the relationships as they are and work around the things that cause you strife. If conversations around a through w cause discord then only have conversations with those people about x y and z
Don't drown yourself in someone else's river because you need to be on the other side. Mark the deep spots until you have the ability to build a bridge and avoid slipping all together.
Self regulate.
I life weights but I'm sad, I don't get it bros.