I used to feel sad and lonely on Friday/Saturday nights but I don't even notice anymore. It's been so long since I went out and did anything that I barely remember what it was like when I did.
My brother we're not made to be alone.
Just try to socialize with people more.
Not forcely with normies you can't stand but try to meet new people you would find nice, in hobbies you share.
just stop desiring it. focus on something else. it's like masturbation.
try being social, get bored of trying and then you will start realizing how stupid it is to try to be friends with everyone
Deal with enough people on a daily basis and you'll want solitude
Helps if you got stuff like a nice plot of land, a boat, and other hobbies and interests to enjoy alone
Hypothetically, if a close woman friend keeps asking what your type is, and may have said you are her type at one point, she may just be wanting me to find a girlfriend and be part of the excitement from encouraging a friend to find love, right? Women seem pretty nonchalant about these things sometimes
who the frick knows these days
back in my day, that would be a clearcut sign to ask her out
that said, relationships from friendships haven't seemed to work out - at least not in my friend group. Good relationships, but don't last too long - I guess women look for different things in friends vs partners.
women are secretly rooting for you to succeed in winning them over but will punish you if you frick it up, do with this as you will
yeah, also this.
they want you to succeed, but are grading you on a secret scale that they will never reveal.
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>went to bar last week >met up with dude i met there a couple weeks ago >seems cool, introduce him to my friends >he buys people drinks is generally sociable >my friends start talking to him more throughout the night >get jealous and try to ditch him even tho i invited him to hangout with us >we go to dance floor and i try to dance but no one is paying attention to me just talking to this guy or the other chicks there >this dude starts talking to this bar maid i like who’s in the group >they start flirting and she lets him have some of her drink >sperg out and keep telling him to leave but he couldn’t hear me bc of the loud music >leave with all my friends and try to ditch the dude and kick him out of our group >text him to never talk to me again and that he’s a loser and no one likes him >responds with “lol ok bro we were all just chillin calm down” >fricking butthole ghosts me and now won’t make eye contact with me at the bar >acts like I’m not even there, talks to all my friends and other people at the bar like nothing happened >since then I’ve been trying to get him banned from the bar for being a creep and i keep talking shit about him but it’s not working
Why did this dude i was nice to have to outshine me. He didn’t need to be so personable and buy drinks. The chicks were just magnetized towards him it’s so unfair no girls were checking out my dancing skills. I hate this fricking butthole. I asked him what he did earlier that day and nonchalantly says he was a boat with his dad. Rich gay butthole I’m gonna get him banned from the bar tonight hopefully. He won’t even respond to my texts now butthole.
>Why did this dude i was nice to have to outshine me.
You are autism-level sperging out. I flirt with all women - it's just a type of being friendly.
You really, really overreacted, and should honestly consider therapy or at least a little introspection.
Hopefully you got me in a good troll.
I still think about the first girl I messed around with once I got in shape. She was a chunky Greek girl, jet black hair to her shoulders and greens eyes, about 30 pounds over weight. Was the first women I was with where I was the more desirable one if that makes sense. She lived in a little prefab home on her parents property who were LOADED. We would hang out and drink her parents booze and swim in thier pool. She was really really sweet. First few times we had sex we used condoms, by like the 4th time i wanted to raw dog, ive never had unprotected sex before. I remember the conversation we had when talking her into letting me cum in her.
>anon we gotta use a condom >why? >I'm not on the pill >and? >what if I get pregnant? >you'd have to marry me and raise my children
Never had a women look at me the way she did when I said that, wasn't even trying to be slick, just wanted to feel what it was like raw. It's still the most passionate sex I've ever had, she wrapped her legs around me and held my face while I cummed in her. Also, only women I'm sure wasn't faking her own orgasm. I ghosted her after fricking her 5 or 6 more times, thought I'd swing up to a hotter chick ya know. She never got pregnant, I facebook stalk her to this day. I've had a lot of shitty relationships since her and never had a women want me the way she wanted me or treat me as good as she did. I often wish I never ghosted her and got her pregnant and we got married, my life would be so different now. The real kick is as it turns out im way more into a size 12 then a size 4 because even when I had the gym girl I day dreamed about Sandie.
>I ghosted her after fricking her 5 or 6 more times, thought I'd swing up to a hotter chick ya know.
U. R. moronic
Shoulda stuck with her and just leaned her out. Mediterranean chicks get thin as hell (with big breasts) once you get them back to their traditional diet.
Can anyone who knows real estate tell if/when house prices/interest rates will go down? I had several opportunities to buy from 2019-2020 but didn't because I wanted to save a fat down payment. Now, after the stocks I had dipped, I'm sitting here with my thumb up my ass in a lukewarm "meh" feeling towards life. Career, health, sex life when I want, etc are all good but I cannot allow myself to be happy unless I have a nice house. The worst part is that I don't even want to raise a family. I just want a comfy place I can relax in after work, lift weights, and play vidya.
>when house prices/interest rates will go down
interest rates aren't going down until after the housing market crashes.
Prices will drop with the crash, then interest rates will slowly be lowered to try and recover it. I don't believe that it can be predicted - I would have thought it would have happened by now. The entire system is so corrupt. I think that the ~~*banks*~~ will keep things stable until a Republican is in office, then let it crash. As long as Israel is fighting a war, they won't let it crash - they don't want us to stop the cash. Look at ~~*Yellen*~~ saying we can fund 2 wars.
Hey I feel that, man. I work like 60+ hour weeks normally, and this weekend is the first weekend I get off in the last month. Don’t worry bro, it gets better. Might not seem like it now but it does. God saves those who call on him.
Come take a seat. Have a drink, on the house. How the hell are you doing?
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I'm doing good. I have pretty hardcore OCD, but I do my best to fight it and my life is in the best place it's been for quite some time. I'm dating again. I'm financially stable, doing quite well in fact.
I'm drinking one of those "margaritas in a can." Feeling good. Just want to do anything I can to spread the good vibes.
>went to bar last week >met up with dude i met there a couple weeks ago >seems cool, introduce him to my friends >he buys people drinks is generally sociable >my friends start talking to him more throughout the night >get jealous and try to ditch him even tho i invited him to hangout with us >we go to dance floor and i try to dance but no one is paying attention to me just talking to this guy or the other chicks there >this dude starts talking to this bar maid i like who’s in the group >they start flirting and she lets him have some of her drink >sperg out and keep telling him to leave but he couldn’t hear me bc of the loud music >leave with all my friends and try to ditch the dude and kick him out of our group >text him to never talk to me again and that he’s a loser and no one likes him >responds with “lol ok bro we were all just chillin calm down” >fricking butthole ghosts me and now won’t make eye contact with me at the bar >acts like I’m not even there, talks to all my friends and other people at the bar like nothing happened >since then I’ve been trying to get him banned from the bar for being a creep and i keep talking shit about him but it’s not working
Why did this dude i was nice to have to outshine me. He didn’t need to be so personable and buy drinks. The chicks were just magnetized towards him it’s so unfair no girls were checking out my dancing skills. I hate this fricking butthole. I asked him what he did earlier that day and nonchalantly says he was a boat with his dad. Rich gay butthole I’m gonna get him banned from the bar tonight hopefully. He won’t even respond to my texts now butthole.
Man you seriously have to question your choices. No wonder everybody preferred him to you, he was being nice and you just an butthole because you felt threatened by him. You act like a bitter loser, and it's not even a debate. You must learn to lose.
I must confess I've never experienced my crush being stolen by another man under my eyes, but this guy started to rizz her fair and square. This chick isn't yours, she's not your property and you don't own her, you literally have no moral right to declare war on this guy. He rizzed her because he was more attractive than you. And if you're not enough aware of that right now, it probably means that you're not aware you're awkward and cringe neither, and it may be the reason why you feel people ignore you.
You could just be bitter about it but hold it on, and stay friend with that guy, you would actually have benefited this situation, if he's the cool guy everybody likes. You could have been "the one who brought this cool guy in" and have good times around him. You could have met a hot girl at a party he would have made and invited you, but instead you chose (do we really choose our reactions and feelings? not so sure but you get the idea) to be the bitter loser who wants to ban the nice guy for cryptic reasons at best in the eyes of others, because he couldn't pick up that bar maid at worst, while he was the one bringing him in the group in the first place.
People will probably resent you for trying to ban him without reason. You'll just pass for the hater, what you actually are.
Sorry buddy, but you're wrong on all the line right here.
You're clearly not gonna make it with that shitty loser spirit.
You must really operate a 180° right now or things won't be better and you'll probably even suffer from your own choices.
I must confess you don't inspire sympathy. Sometimes people there are lost and you want to help them but you just don't look nice.
Somebody posted the exact same situation from the perspective of the other guy a few days ago.
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I want to believe two IST morons randomly met up in a bar and are now mortal enemies, but I know that this is just some kind of turbo autist who made both posts
Mainly because he's real and you're fake.
You're a chud. Not that your looks are bad, but inside there's nothing, you just observe everything, you just see status and are not actually enjoying the ride. You don't spread joy or you aren't deep, therefore chicks don't gravitate towards you. Need to learn to actually be yourself. That doesn't mean acting like a spastic moron, that means being ok with yourself.
Also being happy for a friend hitting it would let you hit as well, but now you're just acting like a spoiled child. No pussy gets wet from spoiled children.
You've got long ways to go, you need real lilfe experience.
Try not to murder anyone in the mean time, like that looser, what was his name... You know the one who thought he's a catch.
I'm finally doing it lads, after almost a year of slowly digging myself out of a depressive shithole I put myself in, I'm actually back at the gym. And not only that, but I'm on my way to getting a driver's license too. It feel great to be retaking control of my life.
I'll have a seltzer water with lemon.
Got back into lifting and just did 175lbs on the bench at 5'8", 175lbs BW. Squats felt good too. I'm doing heavy bag and high rep calisthenics on off days.
Career wise, I'm stuck. Waging in a warehouse currently and I've fricked up my chances of working in white collar due to my own sperginess. Thinking I might either >save and try to get a degree in mechanical engineering >save and go to trade school OR >stay in my industry and hop an employer will overlook my spotty work history
Please advise.
Where do you live? Couldn’t you just go straight into an apprenticeship, and have your job pay for trade school? That way you would make money as you learn.
>Where do you live
'Murica. >Couldn’t you just go straight into an apprenticeship, and have your job pay for trade school
Depends on the trade. For electrician, I'd have to apply and take a test, then pass the interview. It would be a 4 year program so I wouldn't get on my own until my 30s. frick, I should have started earlier.
Interesting. I live in leafland and for electrician you need 9000 hours to write your ticket exam. 750 hours at college (three terms of 6, 8, 8 weeks) done whenever throughout the rest of the 8250 hours. Your pay starts at a bit over minimum but jumps about 3-5 dollars every 1800 hours worked.
t. electrical apprentice
Use the trades to pay for college. Stay a permanent apprentice and, depending on tbe company, you can make $23-25/hr. Do not do this shit life long unless you can run your own business after 6-8 years of experience. Along with possibly becoming a functional alcoholic with alimony. >t. Former sparky
Trades suck.
>Use the trades to pay for college. Stay a permanent apprentice and, depending on tbe company, you can make $23-25/hr.
You mean go to school part time while she doing trade work? Thing is I'm already late 20s, and need to get in a career path ASAP >Along with possibly becoming a functional alcoholic with alimony.
Sounds like you had it rough. How old are you and what do you do for work now?
There’s this girl I’ve wanted for a long time. Big tiddy goth. I feel like she really does want to be with me but she seems kinda distant at times. I feel like I’m in a good spot but it’s going so slow and I’m not trying to freak her out. I really like her and I can tell she’s Atleast attracted to me.
At the same time there’s another big tiddy insta thot who wants my dick. I got her number, we’ve been texting, probably gonna get drinks. Problem is, if the big tiddy goth finds out I’m like 90% sure that’s gonna frick me over and ruin my chances to smash/be with her.
My penis says “frick both of them” but my mind is telling me that this is a bad idea. Am I gay?
Dick both of them into the next century you moron. Do it until they find out about each other. Then see if they want to hook up together. If no, dump them both and move on. Big tiddy goths and Instagram hoes are literally disposable and their only value is taking dick. Enjoy it while you can.
I agree with both of them
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In a weird spot.
There’s this girl I’ve wanted for a long time. Big tiddy goth. I feel like she really does want to be with me but she seems kinda distant at times. I feel like I’m in a good spot but it’s going so slow and I’m not trying to freak her out. I really like her and I can tell she’s Atleast attracted to me.
At the same time there’s another big tiddy insta thot who wants my dick. I got her number, we’ve been texting, probably gonna get drinks. Problem is, if the big tiddy goth finds out I’m like 90% sure that’s gonna frick me over and ruin my chances to smash/be with her.
My penis says “frick both of them” but my mind is telling me that this is a bad idea. Am I gay?
. You give them way too much credit. Fricking the Instathot must not be that hard, also goth b***h is being picky and on top of that you aren't in a relationship, I don't see this as immoral. Do you really think both of them would have scrupules to frick Chad on the side?
You're not gay but you sound incredibly naive.
motherfricker I know how women are. I’m only single because my fiancé decided to be a prostitute.
But I’m tired of going thro this cycle of “getting my heart broken, frick random prostitutes, rinse and repeat until you feel something.” With the goth girl i feel like we’re both vibing on a much deeper level and all of my friends keep telling me how much of a good couple we would be.
Realistically? I’m probably gonna frick both of them. Even tho I’m not cheating I still feel kinda weird about it. Like I actually respect this girl wtf
And you wonder why you go through cycles of fricking around, catching feelings, and getting hurt by them.
Women aren't for respect, they're for fricking. Want to respect something? How about you learn to respect yourself and stop looking for something where it'll never be.
Dick both of them into the next century you moron. Do it until they find out about each other. Then see if they want to hook up together. If no, dump them both and move on. Big tiddy goths and Instagram hoes are literally disposable and their only value is taking dick. Enjoy it while you can.
Put the goth b***h out of your head. They are psychic vampires and their ethereal parasitic bonds will be there long after the sex ends.
Embrace life.
Shun all who don't.
Got engaged to the gf, moved into a nice house with her, plans to marry next week
But planning on leaving my job that I've had since I've graduated very soon and for some reason that scares me more than anything else going on in my life
Work as a programmer so tend to get self conscious when it makes me feel like a fricking idiot
Why marry? You can live togethere and have kids without marriage. The courts will rape you if it doesn't work or she wants to cheat you, no fault divorce was a mistake.
I just want to protect your ass from out if control feminism.
Baby steps. It can be as simple a a daily goal like a walk a day, us that success to build on. Use good habits and self control to build your life.
You will have setbacks, but embrace them and get back up every time. Failure is a good chance to learn and grow, have a growth mindset.
I just don't know what career to pursue. I need to move my life forward and the clock is ticking.
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>fix life >am now a foreveralone beta in a chad body with a good career >no longer have a bunch of excuses or avenues of hope left to explore
Be careful what you wish for anon
My goal is to get a good job, become financially stable, and eventually buy a house. I just want a nice house so I can cook and enjoy my life for a change.
>fix life >am now a foreveralone beta in a chad body with a good career >no longer have a bunch of excuses or avenues of hope left to explore
Be careful what you wish for anon
I still think about the first girl I messed around with once I got in shape. She was a chunky Greek girl, jet black hair to her shoulders and greens eyes, about 30 pounds over weight. Was the first women I was with where I was the more desirable one if that makes sense. She lived in a little prefab home on her parents property who were LOADED. We would hang out and drink her parents booze and swim in thier pool. She was really really sweet. First few times we had sex we used condoms, by like the 4th time i wanted to raw dog, ive never had unprotected sex before. I remember the conversation we had when talking her into letting me cum in her.
>anon we gotta use a condom >why? >I'm not on the pill >and? >what if I get pregnant? >you'd have to marry me and raise my children
Never had a women look at me the way she did when I said that, wasn't even trying to be slick, just wanted to feel what it was like raw. It's still the most passionate sex I've ever had, she wrapped her legs around me and held my face while I cummed in her. Also, only women I'm sure wasn't faking her own orgasm. I ghosted her after fricking her 5 or 6 more times, thought I'd swing up to a hotter chick ya know. She never got pregnant, I facebook stalk her to this day. I've had a lot of shitty relationships since her and never had a women want me the way she wanted me or treat me as good as she did. I often wish I never ghosted her and got her pregnant and we got married, my life would be so different now. The real kick is as it turns out im way more into a size 12 then a size 4 because even when I had the gym girl I day dreamed about Sandie.
Just water, please.
Met my bro's gf at his housewarming. It's grim. Danger haired hambeast with cutting scars. Was the only woman there dressed like a hoe, got drunk as frick and spent at least one hour stumbling around and breaking things. Possibly more, I decided to split before things got worse. The guy is soi incarnate so I suppose some of you will say he got what he deserved but he's a really nice and well put together person who should at least have a decent woman at his side, looks apart. It sucks seeing my childhood friend like this. He was very patient with her antics and you could see how devoted he is. His whole demeanor only demonstrated care and worry for her wellbeing. I don't doubt he would still be like that even if she set his house on fire.
I also disliked the way she kept looking at me and how she pressed her whole body against myself while saying goodbye.
On the way back I thought about how the bros with whom you could frankly discuss how much their woman is bad for them are the ones who'll probably never need your words, while guys like my friend need them but are too delusional to hear.
>childhood best friend who grew into soi incarnate but is with a trashy prostitute crazy b***h but is super patient with her and devoted
Same exact situation to a T except the moron 100% deserves it in my case because he as a mid 20s-late 20s man let it go to his head and he thought he was hit shit for bagging (READ: getting used by) a 4/10. You know that machismo shit most guys go through in their teens when they get their first GF or lose their virginity? Yeah imagine that X10 and for a grown man. I’ve tried to help the dude so much, I’ve told him to cut it off and he just wouldn’t. The dude has cried over this woman so much just in their first year, they’re like 3 years into it now. He moved her into his apartment within the first month of officially being BF & GF, he had spent a year prior sharing her with her previous BF and actually buys her lies that she wasn’t having sex with the guy. The more he refused to take my advice the worst his situation got. And oddly enough he would brag about how alpha he is and use it to put anyone else down. Full on negging to elevate his own social proof. I shouldve called him out on this and said something like >dude you got your first GF, she’s on a wienertail of antidepressants, self harms, tries to kill herself every other week seemingly to control you, puts her hands on you, she has you doing the monkey dance to get some pussy from her on occasion while she does what? Sit around? Make your life so stressful you’ve called me crying more times than I can count? And facially speaking she’s a 4/10 on a good day. So why do you think this ranks you above any of us in this imaginary totem pole social hierarchy you insistently try to imbue?
I’ve told him a nicer version of that 1 on 1 but he never listened. He dug his hole deeper and deeper and now he can’t leave, doesn’t even want to anymore he’s accepted his fate.
>childhood best friend who grew into soi incarnate but is with a trashy prostitute crazy b***h but is super patient with her and devoted
Same exact situation to a T except the moron 100% deserves it in my case because he as a mid 20s-late 20s man let it go to his head and he thought he was hit shit for bagging (READ: getting used by) a 4/10. You know that machismo shit most guys go through in their teens when they get their first GF or lose their virginity? Yeah imagine that X10 and for a grown man. I’ve tried to help the dude so much, I’ve told him to cut it off and he just wouldn’t. The dude has cried over this woman so much just in their first year, they’re like 3 years into it now. He moved her into his apartment within the first month of officially being BF & GF, he had spent a year prior sharing her with her previous BF and actually buys her lies that she wasn’t having sex with the guy. The more he refused to take my advice the worst his situation got. And oddly enough he would brag about how alpha he is and use it to put anyone else down. Full on negging to elevate his own social proof. I shouldve called him out on this and said something like >dude you got your first GF, she’s on a wienertail of antidepressants, self harms, tries to kill herself every other week seemingly to control you, puts her hands on you, she has you doing the monkey dance to get some pussy from her on occasion while she does what? Sit around? Make your life so stressful you’ve called me crying more times than I can count? And facially speaking she’s a 4/10 on a good day. So why do you think this ranks you above any of us in this imaginary totem pole social hierarchy you insistently try to imbue?
I’ve told him a nicer version of that 1 on 1 but he never listened. He dug his hole deeper and deeper and now he can’t leave, doesn’t even want to anymore he’s accepted his fate.
>I also disliked the way she kept looking at me and how she pressed her whole body against myself
Same shit. This b***h (I won’t lie the ass is phenomenal she looks like Gia Paige in recent years with a more busted face, that overweight build where she holds most in her ass but is still just fat) has “accidentally” sat and did a little wiggle thing on my lap multiple times then like slid off to grind her ass on my wiener going “oops heehee I thought you were [friends name].” She’s tried to twerk on me while out multiple times, she does that whole huge and pressing her breasts against me hard and hugging ever so slightly too long and tightly. This b***h has tried to non discretely make an attempt at casually placing a hand on my thigh in conversation, but placed it a little too high up and firmly squeezed. And I can’t say shit about it, the dudes gotten so delusional if I do he’ll blame me, defend her actions, try to twist it that I’m the delusional one.
This dude really is soi incarnate too. Constantly brings up how much he loves biden, blames anything bad from the last 40 years on trump (even Reagan’s doings which killed the American dream), blames trump for bidens decisions while verbally throating biden off. Literally has cheered for biden. If you don’t 100% shit all over trump, even just saying “yeah idgaf I’m not looking to discuss politics on my night off,” or you don’. 100% praise biden, the dude throws fits tard screeching how you’re a “trumper” and all this shit.
>childhood best friend who grew into soi incarnate but is with a trashy prostitute crazy b***h but is super patient with her and devoted
Same exact situation to a T except the moron 100% deserves it in my case because he as a mid 20s-late 20s man let it go to his head and he thought he was hit shit for bagging (READ: getting used by) a 4/10. You know that machismo shit most guys go through in their teens when they get their first GF or lose their virginity? Yeah imagine that X10 and for a grown man. I’ve tried to help the dude so much, I’ve told him to cut it off and he just wouldn’t. The dude has cried over this woman so much just in their first year, they’re like 3 years into it now. He moved her into his apartment within the first month of officially being BF & GF, he had spent a year prior sharing her with her previous BF and actually buys her lies that she wasn’t having sex with the guy. The more he refused to take my advice the worst his situation got. And oddly enough he would brag about how alpha he is and use it to put anyone else down. Full on negging to elevate his own social proof. I shouldve called him out on this and said something like >dude you got your first GF, she’s on a wienertail of antidepressants, self harms, tries to kill herself every other week seemingly to control you, puts her hands on you, she has you doing the monkey dance to get some pussy from her on occasion while she does what? Sit around? Make your life so stressful you’ve called me crying more times than I can count? And facially speaking she’s a 4/10 on a good day. So why do you think this ranks you above any of us in this imaginary totem pole social hierarchy you insistently try to imbue?
I’ve told him a nicer version of that 1 on 1 but he never listened. He dug his hole deeper and deeper and now he can’t leave, doesn’t even want to anymore he’s accepted his fate.
Just water, please.
Met my bro's gf at his housewarming. It's grim. Danger haired hambeast with cutting scars. Was the only woman there dressed like a hoe, got drunk as frick and spent at least one hour stumbling around and breaking things. Possibly more, I decided to split before things got worse. The guy is soi incarnate so I suppose some of you will say he got what he deserved but he's a really nice and well put together person who should at least have a decent woman at his side, looks apart. It sucks seeing my childhood friend like this. He was very patient with her antics and you could see how devoted he is. His whole demeanor only demonstrated care and worry for her wellbeing. I don't doubt he would still be like that even if she set his house on fire.
I also disliked the way she kept looking at me and how she pressed her whole body against myself while saying goodbye.
On the way back I thought about how the bros with whom you could frankly discuss how much their woman is bad for them are the ones who'll probably never need your words, while guys like my friend need them but are too delusional to hear.
Legitimately super weak. This was once my best friend like a brother almost. The dudes so incapable of anything mechanically inclined that me replacing a bolt on something of his which broke had him freaking out over how handy I was. I literally just replaced a screw essentially and the dude starts telling people I have contracting skills and will offer my services for free.
I could have looked past all the weak shit, BUT I haven’t hung out with him in years without the trashy GF being around. They’re ALWAYS together 24/7. He flat out refuses to do anything without her. No genuine bro time with the boys in years when he’s there. If we all hang and we want to do something, like vidya, or watch an anime, or hike, the guy starts b***hing saying we’re excluding his GF. All he wants to do is what she wants to do. Watch some shitty cringe TV show, sit in a circle and listen to her talk and ramble about nonsense. Then if we do that and someone pulls out their phone the dude stands up and loses it saying we’re ignoring his beautiful GF I can’t even make this shit up. This woman ruined what, despite the soi shit (which got worse when she came along mind you), was a great friend for us.
I really hope your bro gets out of that situation so you don’t lose him man.
Your friend sounds like mine except mine leans more right. Instead of a soi beard he has a closet homosexual moustache. His wife allots him dedicated friend time which is like 2 hours every 5 months. She can take trips with her friend to a different state leaving him with the kids but he'll feel bad if she is by herself any longer than the timeframe. He actually stayed at my place because she got so pissed at him for looking at porn. By porn, I mean just a picture of a naked woman. >inb4 muh coomer porn maymay
Dude was working 2 manual labor jobs in the summer (is a teacher) to make ends meet and couldn't get the sex. No shit he's gonna goon off elsewhere.
I’m not sure if you’re the anon I replied to but either way this just seems way too common these days. I really think men are choosing a miserable situation purely because they cannot cope with loneliness. It’s almost like they know they’ll be cheated on and probably divorced but they’re okay with that if they get to either have kids or spend some of their life with a woman.
Which sounds like lunacy to me. If I date a woman and she’s unbearable or I’m not happy at least 70% of the time I just break it off, maybe if I think she’s hot enough give her some chances to see if anything can change.
And I do get it, I want a wife and kids, but I would much rather be alone than end up with some c**t who makes my life miserable and shitty. It’s like they lack basic self respect.
>"Bro. I'm not going to tell you how to conduct your love life. But there's your world with this chick and the world outside of that. I'm just telling you to tie a lifeline to that world outside of your relationship with this chick and never forget that line is there."
Failed nofap on day 12 unfortunately, but I'm taking it as an opportunity to improve upon my last attempt. Considering I was still edging and looking at porn the whole time basically I was bound to relapse but I won't soon forget the feeling of euphoria and zest for life I haven't felt in years returning after not fricking my hand for less than 2 weeks.
Although the euphoria is a double edged sword I feel, there's so much I want to do within the space of one day that I feel disappointed with how quickly the time flies. I think I'll need to approach this in a more structured manner this time around and give myself a daily agenda.
I've got a close female friend. We shared a house for a few months and during a rough patch for her we got closer, discussing shit all night every night etc. She even says I'm her type at one point and keeps asking for mine In a short time, we both become best friends. Problem was I ignored any possible romantic signs because she had just broken up with a friend. Few months later we all fell out over unrelated drama.
During the next year of no contact I reflected and ruminated a lot, realising I had developed feelings for her. She contacts me out the blue to apologise and catch up. We do and she explains her life's troubles during a period of reflection, shortly after breaking up with her recent bf. Even says the time we spent in the previous year was her happiest in recent memory (while still keeping everything in a friend tone).
Over the following months, the problem now is that I'm close friends with her again, while recognising I have strong feelings for her. It didn't hurt last year because I wasn't honest with myself about it and I thought I'd never see her again so my feelings would be safe. Now they're in turmoil cause we're friends again and lately she's started "platonically" hanging out with her ex (my friend). As a result, my mind is stuck between strong feelings that I should have acknowledged and spoken about last year (potentially reciprocated) and not wanting my friendships to blow up again. What do?
Feels kinda fricky getting over someone and then being dragged back in after I accepted feelings I thought I wouldn't have to actually act on since we weren't in contact.
>We shared a house for a few months >I ignored any possible romantic signs because she had just broken up with a friend >She started "platonically" hanging out with her ex (my friend)
Holy frick, are you even a real person? How much of a pussy do you have to be to live with a girl for months and you don't even try to frick her?? Now she went back to her ex and you are still attracted?!?
I'm not trying to insult you, the reality of things is that you're a pussy, beta, simp, whatever and that she used you for attention.
SHE IS NOT INTERESTED IN YOU, MOVE ON and get a reality check. Think about what you can change to become more of a man.. biologically and mentally.
It is not normal for a girl to consider you "a friend" unless you are both in a relationship. If she does, she wants your attention just to feel wanted by someone, could be you or a homeless guy. I remember a girl I knew once told me that she would always go in a certain alley just to get attention from some fricking homeless people.
This is how their instincts work, if they don't feel wanted they flip out and become bi, gay and whatever.
Again, SHE DOESN'T WANT YOU, MOVE ON AND FOCUS ON YOURSELF
Her ex is your friend.
You added that right near the end.
This indicates you have either extreme boundary issues or your use the term friend very loosely.
Can anyone who knows real estate tell if/when house prices/interest rates will go down? I had several opportunities to buy from 2019-2020 but didn't because I wanted to save a fat down payment. Now, after the stocks I had dipped, I'm sitting here with my thumb up my ass in a lukewarm "meh" feeling towards life. Career, health, sex life when I want, etc are all good but I cannot allow myself to be happy unless I have a nice house. The worst part is that I don't even want to raise a family. I just want a comfy place I can relax in after work, lift weights, and play vidya.
I say go for it. Even if you get a shitty loan, you could refinance once things get less rocky in the future. Sometimes when you refinance you can get extra and have some bonus cash to spend if you want.
I own a home. It's an old one, had bad pipes made out of clay and lead, needed repainting and etc. but it's been a good feeling to own land.
I had the chance for a 1200sqft for 160k house on a lake but it needed work like hell done on it. Like 5 years worth. I'd afford it with what little stock I have but after I'd have nothing left. Even after fixing it up my idea is to sell it then. I might say frick it in 2024 and pull the trigger. Frick retirement and a family IG.
I have a feeling they will cut rates decently by the end of next year. There's no way they can continue servicing the massive debt at these rates and half the debt will be reissued by the end of next year. They are addicted to low rates and QE, it's the only way to keep the debt pozi going
Had a great dinner and drinks with a date last night. I messaged her the next day that I liked her and interested in a second date. It's out of my hands and now up to the Gods.
I'd say I'm doing fine OP. Some little things are getting better for now.
I live in the country side with bad internet and fiber will arrive finally, I'll be able to play online and stream. I try to do some black work and recently had 2 customers. I had a little flop because they didn't want to renew the experience but at least I did this. I see this as experience, and the more I'll practice the more it will goes well, I stay optimistic.
As I said it's only the little things. I still don't have a woman, a serious work and my big project, owning a yard in the country side, is far from being done, but the daily life is starting becoming more agreeable. I hope those bigger things will turn on at a moment.
Hit the gym regularly makes me feel better too. I started socializing slowly with some guys there.
West isn't saved yet but it'll come.
Have you tried joining a church that gets together and talks after the service? Try it, no need to lie about what you believe, tell them you don't believe in God if you don't believe.
You need to connect to others to enable your potential futures. Whether you live or die, there are infinite futures awaiting you.
Trust your feelings. Stop listening to those who don't want to elevate you.
That's plenty of time to know. Going to church and asking some dipshit kid for advice won't change it either. I'm in the same boat and didn't even ask God to help me out of it. What will happen will happen. Some of us are losers and suns of us are winners and I don't think any of us are on the winning side. Hopefully God comes around for you in the meantime.
Anon, I'm going to reddit space because this is long but I hope it will help you and anyone else.
11/5/22 kicked off for me what would be the darkest period of my life. Long term relationship of 6 years ended, no house so lived with parents, lost most of my social group, "prestigious" yet low-paying job. I have spent the last year digging myself out of the deepest depression I've ever felt. Yes I was suicidal for much of it.
In May i took a brief trip to a place i love and at a farmers market saw a woman giving tarot readings. I thought, why the hell not? She was extremely accurate about my whole situation, career stuff, etc., and told me that I could do anything I wanted, that I had manifestation energy all around me. I thanked her and went on my way.
Later i stumbled upon a masterclass by Vishen Lakhiani that I watched out sheer desperation and it really clicked something in me. I had to get my mind right and stop feeling so sorry for myself. Yes I was still very very very sad and suicidal but this was the start. I started reading a lot of books: >The Code For Extraordinary Life >Project 369 >Breaking The Habit Of Being Yourself
and listening to others in audiobook format on YouTube, like lectures by Neville Goddard and Florence Scovel Shinn.
I know it sounds fake and gay, but now: >I own a house that I have fixed up nice and can rent or sell in the future for income >I picked up an old career I had set aside and though it's been hard work getting back into it, my income is starting to double >relationships from the past rekindled >legitimately in the best shape of my life, visible abs even
I'm still a sad sack of shit who doesn't have a lot of friends but I'm working on it. >tl;dr journaling and meditation and visualization actually work
Nta but I'm fricking up manifestation. I start dreading the mechanics of manifesting something or doubting the process. For example, let's say I wanna manifest someone back in my life again. I'm afraid said person will only come back to hurt me or that I'm basically infringing on their free will thorugh manifestation. That's not even going into the most absurd things which people claim you can manifest. Like, there are people who insist you can retroactively change your eye color and things like that. Wouldn't that butterfly effect your whole life? Maybe you never met your gf because a couple years before some other woman liked your ocean blue eyes and you ended up dating.
Anyway, any tips/advice?
There's a lot of crazy hacks on YouTube who say shit like changing your eye color. They're doing it for ad revenue.
Listen to that link i posted to get a better idea of things. It's about changing how you see the world and things will fall into place. Think from a place of "I already have it" rather than "I want it".
I already know I'm an butthole, so I'll keep it short.
I seriously dated someone last May until July, even though I already have/had a fiancée.
My fiancée and I got married last August, but the woman I dated doesn't know about it. Lately I've been receiving texts and a couple of calls from her, asking about what happened.
So, yeah, do I come clean and give her closure? Or do I keep on pretending she and I never happened?
Well would you want closure if you were in her shoes?
If you keep ignoring it it might blow up in your face later, assuming you live in the same city. A simple text could fix that.
Here's the thing, she looks like picrel but dirtier (left shoulder tattoo, tramp stamp, nose piercing, smoking, fake lashes etc).
I only went out with her because she's different from the kind of women I normally get involved with.
I wasn't expecting her to text and call after not speaking to her again in almost 3 months. I thought she was used to this sort of thing.
Honestly who cares what she wants. You got what you want out of her, she needs to grow up and move on. Cut her off and focus on your relationship. The only reason I'd say to do anything about it is if it threatens your current relationship, but the more you interact the worst it's going to get. Ignore the anon that says to tell the truth, she's just a prostitute, not worth fricking your current relationship up for.
Thank you anon. I really wasn't expecting her to be clingy, since she's not the "good girl", church going type.
Then she clearly has feelings for you. Appearences can deceive, if I was in your shoes I'd just text her that it's over, so she can move on. Maybe I'm just an old boomer, but ghosting sucks.
Honestly who cares what she wants. You got what you want out of her, she needs to grow up and move on. Cut her off and focus on your relationship. The only reason I'd say to do anything about it is if it threatens your current relationship, but the more you interact the worst it's going to get. Ignore the anon that says to tell the truth, she's just a prostitute, not worth fricking your current relationship up for.
some rakia shots please >next saturday going to gfs house >formal introduction to parents to declare 'intent' >been together 5 years >will basically be proto-engaged >she's down for a prenup or just to have a ceremonial wedding without the BS paperwork because we're too cheap for divorce lawyer shenanigans >parents like each other >might need to go to africa to buy goats and cattle for dowry though >both U.S citizens by the way, just children of immigrants
It's looking fricked
In the last year two of my friends died. One was my roommate, known him since HS. He was walking home and got hit by a car. The other went and shot himself, almost a year to the day when my first friend died, that was last month. My gf and I had a talk tonight and we're discussing splitting up. I just yesterday got prescribed SSRIs to control my panic attacks and OCD symptoms. I'm really quite drunk at the moment, I drank a 6 pack and a lot of homebrew wine. I quit booze back in June but this has put me over the edge. I guess with this post I'm just screaming into the void. My animal instincts tell me that I should strip nude, run into the woods, fight God and let him kill me. The other part knows I need to sit right here, go back to work tomorrow and keep going.
I'm 23 yo. My whole life has been like this. My father left when I was a baby. Had an abusive stepdad that ruined my psyche for 8 years, got ruthlessly bullied all throughout school. I never had anyone to show me how to stand up for myself so I'm just a gigantic moron.
I don't want to see myself as the victim, I just want to be myself and not have to worry about it. But every single moment of my young life has been marred with some kind of abuse or trauma. It feels like such a fricking shame because I actively strive to see the beauty and purpose in the world, I try to get meaning and joy out of every little interaction I have. I love people and hope the best for them, I unironically love you anons. I'm drunk so I'm just talking out of my ass, but I had already been considering ending it, and I'm scared of what the drugs will do to me. Just in case I just want to say, MJM and BCT you're my best friends and you made this life tolerable, if anything happens, I'm most sorry to you two.
Don’t permanently solve temporary problems. You’ve already identified much of the things that trouble you. Now you just need to make slow and steady progress to recover from those traumas. You can.
I thank you anon, because I'm not going to do it tonight. I still have faith in myself and circumstance. Maybe this is all just a test from God, maybe the man that comes out on the other side will be something new. I still wish I had what it took, what it takes to change this planet, I don't want anyone to feel this way. Maybe all of this is a cry for help and I was never going to do it in the first place, I cannot tell the difference at this point. My farts smell bad. I can't stop imagining what it's like to just cease, to not be, ultimate freedom from this flesh hell. I wake up every day and find myself in it, in the depths of flesh hell, I feel no attachment to this awful earth where we kill and rape and justify. I think my mother and siblings are why I stick around.
I’m going through an intense post-breakup experience and I vacillate between being totally crushed and also feeling really fortunate that the relationship happened and I am learning from it.
Anon, I'm going to reddit space because this is long but I hope it will help you and anyone else.
11/5/22 kicked off for me what would be the darkest period of my life. Long term relationship of 6 years ended, no house so lived with parents, lost most of my social group, "prestigious" yet low-paying job. I have spent the last year digging myself out of the deepest depression I've ever felt. Yes I was suicidal for much of it.
In May i took a brief trip to a place i love and at a farmers market saw a woman giving tarot readings. I thought, why the hell not? She was extremely accurate about my whole situation, career stuff, etc., and told me that I could do anything I wanted, that I had manifestation energy all around me. I thanked her and went on my way.
Later i stumbled upon a masterclass by Vishen Lakhiani that I watched out sheer desperation and it really clicked something in me. I had to get my mind right and stop feeling so sorry for myself. Yes I was still very very very sad and suicidal but this was the start. I started reading a lot of books: >The Code For Extraordinary Life >Project 369 >Breaking The Habit Of Being Yourself
and listening to others in audiobook format on YouTube, like lectures by Neville Goddard and Florence Scovel Shinn.
I know it sounds fake and gay, but now: >I own a house that I have fixed up nice and can rent or sell in the future for income >I picked up an old career I had set aside and though it's been hard work getting back into it, my income is starting to double >relationships from the past rekindled >legitimately in the best shape of my life, visible abs even
I'm still a sad sack of shit who doesn't have a lot of friends but I'm working on it. >tl;dr journaling and meditation and visualization actually work
Here's one of my favorite ones. Give it a listen.
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A huge part of my depression is my age, late 30s. I thought I had my life figured out.... when my ex broke up with me, it also affected my job bc I no longer lived in that city. So in one fell swoop I lost a career potential and a life partner. At 37. It seems hopeless right now but it's not. Get in good shape and who cares about your age. I did have to make peace with the fact that I won't have kids which was a hard pill to swallow. >you can still-
No, I will not. My parents had me at an old age and it's not good. I won't do that to a kid.
I'm the youngest surprise baby, so while my siblings all got to go move far away and live dream lives, i kind of got stuck staying close by to be there for them. When my oldest sibling was my age, parents were young and he didn't have to worry about them. The fact that they're in their 70s and have no other family colors every decision I make.
You're a good man to take care of your parents while your siblings moved away. I remember when I was a kid, my mom was the only one willing to take care of my grandpa while my aunts and uncles were doing their own thing. I was always proud of her for that.
Ask "are you gay?"
If she's in any way interested she'll say no, and ask you if you're gay and why you asked. Just say you overheard her say 'my girlfriend' one time.
Tell her chinchillas rock.
lesbians arent real. they are traumatized by men usually raped or molested, they dont frick other women much at all, like, your just rubbing two donuts anyway.
I bought two 25lb plates for home gym, it cost the same as a gym membership fee for a month. I think I'm going to need to buy a cage but not sure if I can afford it. Things are dark.
I love my girlfriend, but she's gotten more and more unstable recently. She screams at me, hits me, bites me and starts shaking uncontrollably whenever something goes mildly wrong. I know I have to leave her because I can't take it anymore, I'm just sad because it'll be the end of our relationship.
gonna greentext because it's a long story otherwise >had to move into an apartment with co-worker >"it'll be fine providing she can communicate" >it is not fine. >despite that there is some good times, eventually roommate tells me about her best friend >holy fricking shit this girl is gorgeous >walk into apartment with them on phone together >holy shit this girl is funny >holy shit this girl messaged me >finally met her at a party in the apartment >fricked her that night, went poorly >I lost confidence since I knew anything that happened would immediately get reported to my roommate, and also she was in the other room >was so bad we both agree it was the worst sex of our lives >but we keep texting somehow >roommate nuked her friendship with her as a result for some insane reason >asked her out for drinks, propositioned her for sex twice, all polite declines, but for some ungodly reason she keeps texting me really engaged with the conversations
i'm just looking to complain anons, it's frustrating that I've been denied hanging out with someone I had a lot of chemistry with on account of my roommate being insane, but I also know that if the sex was better maybe I might of had a chance of making that happen on my own. She was the first time I didn't pay for sex which sucks too about this whole thing.
>gets worst sex ever >keeps texting >seemingly has resulted in the end of her friendship >keeps texting >has been asked out, and propositioned, and declines >but keeps texting
I am fricking bewildered.
I’m not capable of loving or trusting women anymore after getting my heart broken two years ago
I just got back from living and working in another country for three months and got so much genuine female attention there. But I was too chickenshit to make up my mind about one and pursue her as passionately as I used to with girls in the past
I’m at a loss completely. I wish I felt even an iota of what I used to feel for a beautiful, cultured woman laughing and smiling at me across the table and didn’t just resent every single one that came into my life
You can only see other people through yourself homie. Don't let what is inside of you negatively affect the outside. Most importantly is to not hold onto painful things for so long .If it hurts your supposed to let it go, not squeeze harder.
sorry, bro.
I never had that problem because I just viewed women as something fun to put my dick.
Ended up falling in love with my future wife - we've been married for 10 years.
I guess all I can say is try to find a good one, and then you won't be so jaded.
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hooker send me photo of her butthole. i would like to stick my tongue in a girls butthole.
100€
the butthole looks really tasty. but god knows how many stds i get. on the other hand all women i have been with were anti anal.
shall i do it bros?
>hooker
you are 100% going to get herpes, hepatitis, and/or some other life-destroying disease.
>georgia
if you arent from north florida, dont come here unless you are going to atlanta. everyone in the state not from atlanta hates atlanta and the arrogant homosexuals living there who think they are better than everyone else. it is the south's version of new york city.
the cost of living in georgia outside of the atlanta area (which is generally considered to be within an hour of atlanta) is very low, but that is because the wages here are awful.
Ohio was fantastic from an economic standpoint. Cheap houses, good schools, lots of high-paying engineering and other industrial jobs.
I do not miss the winters.
>BPD prostitute ex is on the pipeline to become a stripper
Lmfao.
Same b***h I posted about a couple weeks ago who randomly texted me saying she blames me for her life being shitty and accused me of doing all the shit she used to do to me. She unblocked me on Instagram after I blocked her number and the account showed up in recommended so I looked at her profile before blocking her. She’s dressing in lingerie and doing erotic twerk dance lessons at some fake fitness dance gym thing for prostitutes and gay dudes, posting it online. Same lingerie she used to wear when I fricked her actually lmfao. I find it to be fricking gold just genuinely hilarious the whole absurdity that I spent years feeling like a depressed wreck because it ended, that I wasted so much time and energy on THIS thing. I cannot believe how immature and naive I was to date this but looking back it was all so obvious and I was delusional. And yet seeing this, I can’t help but laugh at myself. I won’t lie I would rather see her doing better but it’s not really any skin off my back either
Unfortunately apparently she moved back to my immediate area. I hope I never run into her. Some anon asked me if she knew where I lived and I said it didn’t matter if she remembers but that’s because I thought she lived over 3 hours away. Now it may be an issue. I honestly worry what would happen if I saw her IRL
>Same b***h I posted about a couple weeks ago who randomly texted me
I was lucky enough to never have awkward post-breakup communications. The only text I've ever gotten from exes were shit like "hey, my brother is trying to get internships - know any good places" or "my dad wanted to know if you still had that parts car - he says he needs a new block."
I’ve visited georgia and the surrounding states many times during my life man. >Atlanta
Yeah I only went there once and it’s all Black folk and homosexuals and Black personhomosexuals the jokes are true.
I wasn’t gonna move to georgia I was just mentioning it as a reference for what I mean when I say “good outdoors.” Like actual forests and woods and mountains and shit.
The thing with NC or Oregon is it gives me mountains, forests, AND the ocean still. The best I got in Florida are crowded beaches covered in litter, or swamps and some nature preserves that are right next to highways (as in you see the cars because it’s quite literlaly right off the highway) unless I were going to make a 5 hour drive to one of the few good beaches or nature areas. I’d prefer to only have to drive an hour or be able to have that shit in my back yard.
The plan is buying a plot of land of minimum 10 acres.
>NC or Oregon
Western NC is super, super nice - but has gotten really expensive.
Most of Oregon is too damn rainy.
TN is still god-tier, but getting expensive/crowded.
>Ohio was fantastic from an economic standpoint. Cheap houses, good schools, lots of high-paying engineering and other industrial jobs.
why do so many of you ohio people try to move to georgia? i see your plates everywhere during the few times i cant avoid going to the atlanta area. its always either minnesota, ohio, new york, or wisconsin plates in that area. its fitting for a place that rural georgians dont even consider to be part of georgia.
Not him but I am currently in Ohio and things are not looking good for the future of the state. My biggest concern now would but if I were to raise children in this state and getting them a good education.
>My biggest concern now would be if I were to raise children in this state and getting them a good education
Just accept that no matter where you go, all public education has been subverted by marxists and alphabet soup. Either be such a strong influence on your kids that you can shake off the marxist programming, or look to homeschooling or even shell out for private school.
Something has to do.
I’m glad we share the same plan with buying land. I want to get self sufficient enough, in a place with minimal or no major taxes like land tax state income etc (there’s a few) and then retire young. MAYBE start a business grow it then take a massive cut to just pay some shmuck a decent wage to manage it for me so I can mostly focus on working on my land. Raise animals, some crops, build a pond and stick it with game fish for fun, get a wife and full her with kids, homeschool them raise them with the good values I want and little influences of that city bullshit I abhor so much…
>story
I’ll just rattle off a list rather than write out paragraphs >first time we fricked she lays her forearm on chest and points to one scar at a time and goes “this one’s from… and this one’s from when my dad left… and this is from so and so.. and this one’s from this guy… and this. . . .” >threatened suicide, constantly. Casually told me week into dating she was gonna off herself that day until she met me (I believed it and still do worry she will do it) >suicide threats aimed to control so elaborate I didn’t even know about some and found out she told my friends she was gonna do it, after she b***hed at me that my friends had police do a welfare check on her at her job lmao >once took her to small beach party with my friends, she disappeared, we frantically search, she comes back with a cop to shut it down >after a year of not hanging with friends finally hung with my friends again, wasn’t texting her 24/7, so she cut herself sent me a video of her arm and tried to convince me I did it to her >tons of emotional and mental abuse/manipulation >on my birthday she slapped me, punched me in the nuts, then hit me in the face because her mother annoyed her >once tried to blatantly flirt with a friend of mine in front of me, calmly called her out so she started crying to avoid blame and make me look like I was mean to her
Cntd
For me it would be a slow buildup but I think eventually I can see myself with pigs, chickens, and maybe a garden or a little plot with some veggies or other crops
The idea is that I would unfortunately still need to go into the city to work but in return I can reduce a lot of the costs on somethings
I could see myself with chickens, maybe ducks, goats. I honestly don’t believe I have it in me to slaughter a mammal I raised though. Chickens I can do I’ve done it before. My plan would be to get a chest freezer, hunt the bag limit on deer and harvest all the meat I could organs included, do a ton of fishing for food too. Preferably, I’d have a huge stocked pond where the fish reproduce and maintain numbers on their own so half the week I could eat fish, the other half chicken and deer.
I don’t eat pork (not a israelite or a muslim, I just like pigs), but goat tastes great. I think if I could man up about I could raise myself the occasional goat to eat
>why do so many of you ohio people try to move to georgia?
No idea. I moved to follow work - I work in Nuclear Power. I ended up in GA for 4 months to help finish up the new reactors in Vogtle. I'm semi-retired now, so fully remote consulting shit - spend my time in MS, LA, TX, with about 6 months just driving around in an RV.
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Appreciate your effortposting, anon. Even if the replies weren't directed at mine I admire your care and empathy towards crafting a response.
>care and empathy towards crafting a response.
eh, a lot of people find IST when they're going through some shit. I know what it's like to not have anyone to really talk to outside of the internet. > can't talk to parents, they're old and don't want to worry them > can't talk to wife, or rather don't want to dump my stress onto her > don't want to bother friends with my drama, they have their own shit
this is a pretty good place, really, and getting IST is a great way to just feel better about stuff - it's something you can control, work towards, improve
Now that I'm an 'old guy' - 35 - I just see people going through rough shit, but I'm old enough to know that you can always get past it.
who the frick knows these days
back in my day, that would be a clearcut sign to ask her out
that said, relationships from friendships haven't seemed to work out - at least not in my friend group. Good relationships, but don't last too long - I guess women look for different things in friends vs partners.
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yeah, also this.
they want you to succeed, but are grading you on a secret scale that they will never reveal.
[...] >Why did this dude i was nice to have to outshine me.
You are autism-level sperging out. I flirt with all women - it's just a type of being friendly.
You really, really overreacted, and should honestly consider therapy or at least a little introspection.
Hopefully you got me in a good troll.
[...] >I ghosted her after fricking her 5 or 6 more times, thought I'd swing up to a hotter chick ya know.
U. R. moronic
Shoulda stuck with her and just leaned her out. Mediterranean chicks get thin as hell (with big breasts) once you get them back to their traditional diet.
[...] >when house prices/interest rates will go down
interest rates aren't going down until after the housing market crashes.
Prices will drop with the crash, then interest rates will slowly be lowered to try and recover it. I don't believe that it can be predicted - I would have thought it would have happened by now. The entire system is so corrupt. I think that the ~~*banks*~~ will keep things stable until a Republican is in office, then let it crash. As long as Israel is fighting a war, they won't let it crash - they don't want us to stop the cash. Look at ~~*Yellen*~~ saying we can fund 2 wars.
Appreciate your effortposting, anon. Even if the replies weren't directed at mine I admire your care and empathy towards crafting a response.
I'm not feeling well, honestly. Not physically ill, but a sort of regretful sense. I left my former job to try my hand at sales and I hate it. The product, the company, and the people are cool, I just hate chasing a quota every month. I've tried and tried but still can't seem to get any traction. I want to move into project management but no one is interested in me. I even paid for a new resume to be professionally done, no luck though.
I'm particularly unhappy because it's the kind of fate I was trying to avoid: being stuck in something I despise with no glimmer of hope on the horizon. Working out is one of the few things from which I derive joy, even that is losing its luster.
>"I deal with anxiety and depression and mental illness too, we all do" >"It's something I talk to my husband, friends, coworkers, large family, and active social circle with"
>talk to friend about old school friend group >recount stories of one guy in particular who was a huge c**t most of the time >"yeah but dude he confessed to me that he had like big self image issues and was super insecure" >meanwhile this guy had like 3 different gfs by age 20
>one guy in particular who was a huge c**t most of the time
the most popular chad in my school had a tiny penis. I saw it by accident when he was getting out of the bath, and his ex girl said mine was much bigger. Its a 99th percentile penis but only one woman has ever seen it in full flight.
same here. most popular guy famously had a micropenis, everyone knew even the teachers joked about it. but his dad employed 90% of the population in the region and basically 100% of all families from the school. every single girl was fighting to jump on his kidney bean. even to this day
Go to a pawn shop or even Guitar Center, etc and get a musical instrument. Devote time every day to practicing. Even if you have absolutely no musical talent, it will be a new hobby and you may find great joy in it.
I think I fricked up, a girl friend I was supposed to go out with on monday told me she can't because her mom needed her help with something in their business, I told her maybe another time and then in the morning asked her around what time would she be free that day (in hopes that we could go out in the evening, we were supposed to go out in the morning) but now I feel like a desperate tard. Thanks for reading my blog
You could've offered to help out too if you're really into her, but right now I think it's best to give her space and ask if it all worked out on her end later. Showing concern for their problems goes a long way, even of they don't believe it's 100% honest.
>go on date with girl >have a great time, she's hot, we stay out later than planned >she texts me when she got home >keep talking >any time she has a glass of wine she arranges to meet up again >next day she cancels because 'her dog is too sick'
Her dog is sick but this has happened twice in a row now. She'll have a drink because its Friday night or something, we'll arrange to go out and then she'll wake up the next day and cancel because of her dog, supposedly. I have no idea what is going on.
It could be a genuine coincidence, or she's just not that into you and just using you. I've gone through this with someone as well. She would hit me up while intoxicated wanting to meet up, but I could never get her to go on a date with me sober.
Ask her if she needs some kind of help with the dog the next time it happens. I guess you can also offer for you two to hang out where she can look after her dog, if you think she's not just making up excuses.
next time she drunk texts you ask where she is and if she wants to get another drink go to a new bar etc, presumably she's with her friends. she wants to see you when she's drunk, don't think too much about it.
literally every person I know is more or less unhappy and I am talking about these people with a house, family, healthy etc. is this it? is this all life has to offer? trying to be less misserable than the person next to you.
Most people are fat, unhealthy, don't workout, eat like shit, don't get enough sleep, and are addicted to social media and other substances. If a fat bastard tell you what kind of supplements to get at your local GNC, do you listen to him? If some BPD girl tells you what is mentally healthy do you listen to her?
It really seems that (what I’ll refer to as normie culture) is all about your image. It’s all about appearing to everyone else that you’re super happy, while actually having a shitty miserable situation.
Which is weird because.. why choose to do that when you could simply have an actually happy situation and not have to fake it lmfao. Refer to the king paragraphs above about bros with shitty women. They all talk about how happy they are and spam pics on social media where they look happy, but behind closed doors they’re miserable. It’s weirdo shit to me genuinely just goofy clown mode.
Like for fricks sake this seems like a no brainer to me
Choices are >settle with a fat woman who probably makes you fat, drains your energy and makes you hate your life, get in deeper and deeper maybe marry her maybe have kids too late to escape now >man up and learn to be happy alone, use all your free time and money to do things which bring you joy, value, and happiness and just maybe meet an actually good woman in the process, but if you don’t, you still will have had a fulfilling happy life much better than what most settle for
It just seems as obvious to me as drinking water when I’m thirsty instead of motor oil
NTA but I rationalized that it's important to rely on the few things that make you happy even if you aren't destined to have some things like love or wealth
At the very least I'm gonna become enlightened enough to escape the cycle of reincarnation after this run
Florida, and form what I’ve heard parts of Texas you’d actually want to live, are NOT the move if you enjoy having financial comfort.
I’m looking to move out of Florida but I can’t find the right place.
I want somewhere with nice outdoors (like the tennessee, NC/SC, Georgia areas, or even parts of northern cali or Oregon). But where wages & COL make sense.
I’m considering Oregon but I absolutely hate the types of people there. Those extreme liberals. It’s not even just how the think speak and act they fricking look gross they all look like they have STDs. I would fear that if I met a woman up there with my same values, she would more than likely have friends who are in the sissy woke liberal camp of things and give her bad influences and advice. “Haha he’ll never know it’s not even cheating anyways you guys have only been dating for 18 months and it’s not right to restrict yourself that’s patriarchal thinking, you’re not a prisoner go hook up with that random guy”. Otherwise, beautiful nature and great wages for my field.
And I could deal with living in a liberal place, just not one like Portland. Inb4 just don’t move to Portland: I would still run into those extreme examples too often and just seeing them IRL would ruin my day.
>georgia
if you arent from north florida, dont come here unless you are going to atlanta. everyone in the state not from atlanta hates atlanta and the arrogant homosexuals living there who think they are better than everyone else. it is the south's version of new york city.
the cost of living in georgia outside of the atlanta area (which is generally considered to be within an hour of atlanta) is very low, but that is because the wages here are awful.
I’ve visited georgia and the surrounding states many times during my life man. >Atlanta
Yeah I only went there once and it’s all Black folk and homosexuals and Black personhomosexuals the jokes are true.
I wasn’t gonna move to georgia I was just mentioning it as a reference for what I mean when I say “good outdoors.” Like actual forests and woods and mountains and shit.
The thing with NC or Oregon is it gives me mountains, forests, AND the ocean still. The best I got in Florida are crowded beaches covered in litter, or swamps and some nature preserves that are right next to highways (as in you see the cars because it’s quite literlaly right off the highway) unless I were going to make a 5 hour drive to one of the few good beaches or nature areas. I’d prefer to only have to drive an hour or be able to have that shit in my back yard.
The plan is buying a plot of land of minimum 10 acres.
6 months ago
Anonymous
>The plan is buying a plot of land of minimum 10 acres.
Thats my plan too, frick the goddamn cityBlack folk, I will get the land, get the biggest double wide as possible, and try to achieve some form of self sufficiency
Oh it was tons of fun for the first few months. But that’s easily outweighed by all the bullshit I endured during, and for the year after.
Yeah dude she’s fricking nuts. I’m sick and tired of it and don’t feel like spending more energy on this, re telling some of the stories I posted this month in the previous thread when she texted, but I could tell you some genuinely deranged and fricked up stories.
I'm interested, tell us your story
6 months ago
Anonymous
>Thats my plan too
it really helps if you can land next to something like a woodlot or a national/state park. I have a cabin that's only on 1.5 acres, but it was carved out of 4000 acres of timberland. I'm really cool with the owners, so it's basically like I own 4000 acres. No neighbors, they let me hike there, let me cut up deadfall for firewood.
They don't let me hunt, but so much wildlife walks across my land that it doesn't matter.
I have 20 acres out in southwest Texas, but with no trees that can feel almost small (until you start to walk it.)
6 months ago
Anonymous
God I want nothing more than to be like Hickock45 and just be able to frick around with my guns on my land on my own shooting range
6 months ago
Anonymous
>just be able to frick around with my guns on my land on my own shooting range
you don't need a ton of land, just something rural where people don't b***h about gunfire.
I use suppressors, so that isn't too much of an issue. If you have good terrain, you're set. My cabin in the woods I set up a really nice walk-through range in a gully. It's extra fun with friends because you can sit in a deer stand at the back and watch them walk through it. I really want to put up active targets controlled from the stand that will pop out. It's all close-range, but still a lot of fun.
Out in TX I just shoot at a friend's place - he's got 600 mountainous acres.
Not him but I am currently in Ohio and things are not looking good for the future of the state. My biggest concern now would but if I were to raise children in this state and getting them a good education.
>things are not looking good for the future of the state.
what's going on?
North-East Ohio (near the Perry nuke plant) seemed pretty stable.
I’m glad we share the same plan with buying land. I want to get self sufficient enough, in a place with minimal or no major taxes like land tax state income etc (there’s a few) and then retire young. MAYBE start a business grow it then take a massive cut to just pay some shmuck a decent wage to manage it for me so I can mostly focus on working on my land. Raise animals, some crops, build a pond and stick it with game fish for fun, get a wife and full her with kids, homeschool them raise them with the good values I want and little influences of that city bullshit I abhor so much…
>story
I’ll just rattle off a list rather than write out paragraphs >first time we fricked she lays her forearm on chest and points to one scar at a time and goes “this one’s from… and this one’s from when my dad left… and this is from so and so.. and this one’s from this guy… and this. . . .” >threatened suicide, constantly. Casually told me week into dating she was gonna off herself that day until she met me (I believed it and still do worry she will do it) >suicide threats aimed to control so elaborate I didn’t even know about some and found out she told my friends she was gonna do it, after she b***hed at me that my friends had police do a welfare check on her at her job lmao >once took her to small beach party with my friends, she disappeared, we frantically search, she comes back with a cop to shut it down >after a year of not hanging with friends finally hung with my friends again, wasn’t texting her 24/7, so she cut herself sent me a video of her arm and tried to convince me I did it to her >tons of emotional and mental abuse/manipulation >on my birthday she slapped me, punched me in the nuts, then hit me in the face because her mother annoyed her >once tried to blatantly flirt with a friend of mine in front of me, calmly called her out so she started crying to avoid blame and make me look like I was mean to her
Cntd
>in a place with minimal or no major taxes like land tax state income
I paid for my land in Texas from tax savings alone in less than 2 years. (No state income tax - saved a fortune.) Kinda BS that high income tax states let you write it off on your Fed taxes, so CA or MA will get money money, the feds less, while I have to pay more to the Feds.
>story
That's why I have my rule about moving as slowly as possible - that kinda crazy can't be hidden very long. Chicks will let you frick them just to you will feel guilty, or they can try to hold it over you.
> started dating this chick > didn't frick her > break it off when the crazy started showing > she yells, "you just wanted me for my pussy" > laugh and say, "uhhh, we never had sex..." > you could see the confusion - she had apparently tried that to guilt so many people in the past that she forgot we never fricked, somehow
Not sure it I was smart or just shy, but that process worked well for me - playing it slow.
One friend met a chick, thought he'd get a one-night-stand, she tried to trap him with the sex thing, he said no dice, she filed rape charges.
He got out of it eventually.
6 months ago
Anonymous
I luckily learned my lesson, and learned it very well from that wacko. I now know to take it slow and actually vet women. Second girl I dated wasn’t on that level, but she hid her level of crazy extremely well for the first few months. As soon as it started seeping out and I saw that’s how she was around the 4th month mark, I noped out. Started seeing many similarities (she wasn’t cut herself and blame me crazy, just like do some over the line shit and demand I apologize for having a problem with it/ insinuating she was capable of doing wrong crazy).
So in a way I’m thankful, I think it will save me ending up with the wrong woman and wasting my time. Glad I got it out the way while I was still young.
Honestly, that b***h was all the lessons I should have learned in highschool packed into one person in a limited time frame, with extra lessons no one should even have to learn at all.
6 months ago
Anonymous
> didn't frick her > break it off when the crazy started showing > she yells, "you just wanted me for my pussy" > laugh and say, "uhhh, we never had sex..." > you could see the confusion
Kek very similar story to mine. She was incredibly mad that I was the only guy she was trying to manipulate that hadnt gotten handsy. She needed them to only want one thing, it's how she justifies treating people so badly, so when I wouldn't, but she badly needed me to, it was very frustrating for her. >JUST LEAN IN ONE TIME SO I CAN JUSTIFY ABUSING YOU, YOU FRICKING PRICK
6 months ago
Anonymous
I’m the guy that anon replied to and similar here, she got mad I was the only guy she was trying to frick/manipulate who didn’t question or comment on her scars. Can we just appreciate how insane that is, and telling of why many women self harm in the first place?
Not all obviously, some self harm and hide by doing it on legs where it’ll rarely be seen. But those forearm skin deep surface cuts, that shits usually for attention.
6 months ago
Anonymous
I’m glad we share the same plan with buying land. I want to get self sufficient enough, in a place with minimal or no major taxes like land tax state income etc (there’s a few) and then retire young. MAYBE start a business grow it then take a massive cut to just pay some shmuck a decent wage to manage it for me so I can mostly focus on working on my land. Raise animals, some crops, build a pond and stick it with game fish for fun, get a wife and full her with kids, homeschool them raise them with the good values I want and little influences of that city bullshit I abhor so much…
>story
I’ll just rattle off a list rather than write out paragraphs >first time we fricked she lays her forearm on chest and points to one scar at a time and goes “this one’s from… and this one’s from when my dad left… and this is from so and so.. and this one’s from this guy… and this. . . .” >threatened suicide, constantly. Casually told me week into dating she was gonna off herself that day until she met me (I believed it and still do worry she will do it) >suicide threats aimed to control so elaborate I didn’t even know about some and found out she told my friends she was gonna do it, after she b***hed at me that my friends had police do a welfare check on her at her job lmao >once took her to small beach party with my friends, she disappeared, we frantically search, she comes back with a cop to shut it down >after a year of not hanging with friends finally hung with my friends again, wasn’t texting her 24/7, so she cut herself sent me a video of her arm and tried to convince me I did it to her >tons of emotional and mental abuse/manipulation >on my birthday she slapped me, punched me in the nuts, then hit me in the face because her mother annoyed her >once tried to blatantly flirt with a friend of mine in front of me, calmly called her out so she started crying to avoid blame and make me look like I was mean to her
Cntd
6 months ago
Anonymous
https://i.imgur.com/A80xfFM.jpg
>The plan is buying a plot of land of minimum 10 acres.
Thats my plan too, frick the goddamn cityBlack folk, I will get the land, get the biggest double wide as possible, and try to achieve some form of self sufficiency
[...]
I'm interested, tell us your story
>most likely sent nudes to other people/cheated on me no proof but I’m sure she did no reason to believe this creature was loyal LMFAO >made me believe I had a small dick (i do not, not slangin kielbasa or anything but turns out I’m above average in length & girth now that I’ve measured, sex with the girl I dated last year also confined it I was hitting cervix and causing her too much pain at first) >would call me fat, when years before meeting her I lost over 100lbs and was genuinely lean for once in my life. Was always the fat kid growing up yet it hurt way worse coming form the girl I was dating to hear that especially after I had lost the fricking weight >would tell all mutual friends and anyone I knew I was abusing her
https://i.imgur.com/InYoHJe.png
sorry, bro.
I never had that problem because I just viewed women as something fun to put my dick.
Ended up falling in love with my future wife - we've been married for 10 years.
I guess all I can say is try to find a good one, and then you won't be so jaded.
[...] >hooker
you are 100% going to get herpes, hepatitis, and/or some other life-destroying disease.
[...]
Ohio was fantastic from an economic standpoint. Cheap houses, good schools, lots of high-paying engineering and other industrial jobs.
I do not miss the winters.
[...] >Same b***h I posted about a couple weeks ago who randomly texted me
I was lucky enough to never have awkward post-breakup communications. The only text I've ever gotten from exes were shit like "hey, my brother is trying to get internships - know any good places" or "my dad wanted to know if you still had that parts car - he says he needs a new block."
[...] >NC or Oregon
Western NC is super, super nice - but has gotten really expensive.
Most of Oregon is too damn rainy.
TN is still god-tier, but getting expensive/crowded.
>TN getting crowded and expensive
I know, it’s a damn shame. NC won’t work although I love it, my field is paid pretty low there.
I’m fine with rain I like it, but not constant rain. Rains a lot here but we get sunshine about half the year at minimum.
https://i.imgur.com/qJ2eIqK.jpg
>Thats my plan too
it really helps if you can land next to something like a woodlot or a national/state park. I have a cabin that's only on 1.5 acres, but it was carved out of 4000 acres of timberland. I'm really cool with the owners, so it's basically like I own 4000 acres. No neighbors, they let me hike there, let me cut up deadfall for firewood.
They don't let me hunt, but so much wildlife walks across my land that it doesn't matter.
I have 20 acres out in southwest Texas, but with no trees that can feel almost small (until you start to walk it.)
Sounds nice bro. Hoping to get myself a nice chunk, 10-20 acres would suffice for me. I think 50 is the most I could manage depending cheat it takes to upkeep if anything at all
6 months ago
Anonymous
Christ, all BPDs are exactly the same.
>BPD mom >grew up being told I'm selfish and bad >spend my whole young adult life trying to prove this wrong, by being a doormat for anybody who'd tell me I was good and kind >get involved with abusive BPD women because that kind of treatment is what I thought love was
>move abroad, meet and get married to a really thoroughly good woman who is patient with me when I lose my shit >wants me to get therapy though, because she wants me to be able to leave all this behind and be happy >I don't get therapy but I do start reading a lot of books >after a year, realise that not only is my mom BPD but the bad women in my life, and some of my friends as an adult were too >I'd always attract these fixer upper friends who were moody and conditional with me, again, thought that's what love was >immediately phase all the bad people out of my life >let my mom know im going through some things, and that right now it just helps me not to be around anyone I knew growing up, so I won't be around >2 months pass >mom sends me an abusive as frick email about how my pain is fake, she's been crying night and day since I told her, that she kept every gift I ever sent home to her but how they just feel worthless now >no empathy, no pathway back to normal, just lashing out and didn't even sign off or even finish the thought
I keep drafting replies that take me 3 hours before realising its not worth it.
I am convinced that she is the way she is because of her upbringing, her family have always been horrible to her. But I just can't bring myself to try and work through this with her. I just want it to be over and if I just leave her email hanging that'll be the end of it.
6 months ago
Anonymous
Pretty similar man. >moved and met a worthwhile woman who’s understanding and patient and genuinely wants the best for you, pushes you to better yourself
Dude I’m happy for you. Where did you move that you found her? I’m bordering between moving somewhere rural US or just moving to a new country entirely. Somewhere that people are still normal where I could raise a family and not worry about what influences they’d have from society. The way I see it is only like 20% (being generous, more like 10%) of women in the US are worthwhile still.
6 months ago
Anonymous
I actually met her in my own country and we moved to hers, Italy. Been together 13 years, 10 years married this week. Thanks very much bro, im so long out of the dating game that I can't imagine how bad it must be, but I think a lot of how bad it is, is a product of quick iterations.
Early on in our relationship I thought we might not be right for each other for reasons that quickly turned out to be really shallow (didn't like each others hobbies, some things she said to sound cool were hurtful, I was too quick to take anything as impending rejection).
Maybe these days people just don't see it through, and so they don't realise what they could have together, because there are 20 other potentials in each of their inboxes? Idk, 35 year old boomer musings. Thanks again bro
I'll have a whey doppio with a side of deca, thanks.
Last week I was really rude to a supplement store owner that was trying to help me just because I thought I was a know it all and felt offended someone said I was wrong about something. Turned out I had been wrong, and even if I hadn't been it'd still.make me a complete butthole.
Last thread I mentioned it had been bothering me and that I wanted to apologize the next time I would be around his store, i. e. today. Well, I did end up going there, trying (and fumbling it all the way) to apologize for what I did. He accepted my apologies and I even offered a peace offering of sorts by buying stuff from him and he threw a bone back by giving me a discount.
I think it went well enough, but to be honest the whole thing is still bothering me. I'll keep working on keeping my ego in check like anons recommended, but I fear this will still happen again in the future a few times before I finally fix this character flaw. I hope I'm wrong and this was the last time, though.
im finally content bros
i frequented these threads for two years, as I was an extroverted expat who was struggling with making genuine connections
2 fricking years I was dealing with lack of social life
now I have friends from higshcool and college in my country, we hang out all the time, and they are girls so they have girls with them as well
I'm finally feeling OK again, now that I get to see and do shit. I havent been in these threads for weeks now, and I just wanted to drop by and say I hope everything goes well for you lads. it will. stay strong!
>Do internship in cooperation with school because it is part of the curriculum >Do assignments >Put in more effort than other students >People at my internship are happy with my rapport and advice >Still get a 3/10 score because I didn't do what the teachers wanted
Wtf is the point of combing school with internship. I have a friend who litterly filled his entire rapport with complete lies and he got a fricking 8/10. This homosexual litterly copied all the fricking models straight from the book and only changed the names of some things. One of the tasks required a model based on data and that homosexual litterly used a Random Number Generator for it, while I had to put in extra effort into gathering real data.
Why the frick do schools exist? What is the point of being honest at school when can just cheat and get really nice scores?
Thanks for listening to my ramblings, also female teachers can't teach anything about business and industry.
Teachers just skim your shit because they dont give s frick. Chalk it up to underpay/overwork and boredom from looking at basically the exact same assignment/essay 100s of times.
It's been a while since I looked at a picture of my ex and when I did I felt like I was seeing her more objectively and noticed she's fatter and uglier than I realized.
I hit a new max on incline bench, and even did several sets with the new weight. I guess my block was mostly just mental, but I could say that for a lot of things.
Then some white trash fricking methhead keyed my car, so that sucked. At least it didn't get broken into like a lot of others at my apartment.
I'd like to thank the anon who gave me advice last week on getting my cat to come home.
She got outside and got startled and took off.
Beside myself with worry all week, because its been freezing, raining the whole time.
I changed my bedding and put the old sheets out, and my stank drew her home tonight, and I got her to come inside again with some food.
If I wasn't such a tough guy, I'd be crying.
For the first time in a long while, I actually feel like things are going to be ok
My cat is my best friend. I've had her almost 16 years. She's known every dog I've ever had and loved and mourned and now it's just the two of us left. I'd be an absolute wreck if she disappeared. Glad your kitty came home.
Tell me if i am being a schizo right now, but i feel like most of my problems could be fixed if i were just a few years younger. I think i have a plan for my foreseeable future, i just need more time. I am almost 30, but most people think i am in my early 20's. I am thinking about pretending to be 22. Obviously it won't work with people i already know, but i am considering moving away anyway next summer. I know it sounds stupid to care so much about a few years of age, but i wasted so many years being a neet and now i finally have my shit together.
Pretending to be younger than you are is "ok" if you keep it internal.
Don't lie to people, just continue looking young and looking after yourself and nobody will really ask questions.
In the meantime, have a plan to catch up with where you think you should be at 29.
But don't lie, because if you get caught out there's no reason good enough to not make you look pathetic
>t. Pass for 28 at 35 because good hairline, take care of my skin and gym, nearly caught up to where i think i should be, career wise
Pretending to be younger than you are is "ok" if you keep it internal.
Don't lie to people, just continue looking young and looking after yourself and nobody will really ask questions.
In the meantime, have a plan to catch up with where you think you should be at 29.
But don't lie, because if you get caught out there's no reason good enough to not make you look pathetic
>t. Pass for 28 at 35 because good hairline, take care of my skin and gym, nearly caught up to where i think i should be, career wise
Agreed. I am 37 but very often get mistaken for 25 or even younger. I'm in the process of changing/expanding careers and while I'm not necessarily going to lie to people about my age, I'm not going to go out of my way to correct them either >how?
Been lifting and eating right for 20 years. Minimal alcohol, occasional cigarette, but generally straight edge. Exfoliate, hyaluronic acid.
My FwB is strongly implying she's going to break things off since I'm not willing to take it to another level. I should be happy, she's MILF with kids, but I'm going to miss those blowjobs
It was a pretty sweet deal, I got to bang her twice a week while I had enough time to pursue Tinder girls. I can still try to salvage the relationship, but I genuinely like her don't really want to lead her on
Chances are she'll cave in when she sees you're going to be able to walk away.
She's mad for the anon penis, she'll compromise.
Seriously though, what more does she want that you won't give her? Does she want to be married? Have you take on her kids? Seems like she's already at the endgame, risking what she has with you seems pretty daft.
I've been dating/banging her for around 6 months now. Initiially she's told me she knows it's just sex but eventually she fell for me. I like her, I like seeing her, but I'm not starting a serious relationship with a divorced single mother few years older than me. Yeah, I'm giving her a good dicking and it's a pretty strong motivator to keep things where they're at
>new gf >together for a few months >after each argument realise I like her less each time
It's over inane shit and I thought the first 4 months are meant to be the best. Is it all downhill from here?
Should I simply go to a legal brothel to shed my overdue v-card as I approach 30? I can't really stomach people in my area and don't think the dating game is guaranteeing anything.
>exercise every day >stop vidya >stop fapping >stop drinking >still depressed as frick
Yesterday I took 7g of shrroms and 2 10mg w33d edibles, I got so fricked up I couldnt even see and I literally lost track of what life even was
I had to cocoon up in a blanket and just stare at the wall, but I couldnt even tell where it started and ended cuz everything kept moving, growing and returning into itself
> Went to a MMA fight the other night > guest of the state boxing commissioner, so VIP ringside seating > figure I'd dress up a little, being ringside and all > was seated with a few other fighters (I used to fight) > ring girls sit with us, chat them up a bit > ring girl squeezes my arm with a flirty smile > she looks a little disappointed after said squeeze 🙁
It's not fair, I'm well over 1/2/3/4 - but at 6'4" all the muscle on my arm is just spread out.
In unrelated news, I'm now starting with arms accessories every time I lift.
>my trip to Japan was a month ago, things didn't go as expected but I had a great time despite the setbacks, and what were those? An awful cold and language barriers >been really trying to control my spending with credit, I just try to limit it to anime figures only >have not had a drink since being in Japan, honestly not even interested in drinking right now, I love beer and wine but I feel that it drains so much energy from you. Especially if you're hung over. I've took medication to recover from the japanese cold so once that's done I'll go back to having a few drinks on weekends or every other one. >but I feel like my gains would get affected since I do feel like the reducing drinking has done wonders for me.
So yeah, just get me a coffee boss
Also I have some renewed hope about getting my own piece of land
>BPD prostitute ex is on the pipeline to become a stripper
Lmfao.
Same b***h I posted about a couple weeks ago who randomly texted me saying she blames me for her life being shitty and accused me of doing all the shit she used to do to me. She unblocked me on Instagram after I blocked her number and the account showed up in recommended so I looked at her profile before blocking her. She’s dressing in lingerie and doing erotic twerk dance lessons at some fake fitness dance gym thing for prostitutes and gay dudes, posting it online. Same lingerie she used to wear when I fricked her actually lmfao. I find it to be fricking gold just genuinely hilarious the whole absurdity that I spent years feeling like a depressed wreck because it ended, that I wasted so much time and energy on THIS thing. I cannot believe how immature and naive I was to date this but looking back it was all so obvious and I was delusional. And yet seeing this, I can’t help but laugh at myself. I won’t lie I would rather see her doing better but it’s not really any skin off my back either
Unfortunately apparently she moved back to my immediate area. I hope I never run into her. Some anon asked me if she knew where I lived and I said it didn’t matter if she remembers but that’s because I thought she lived over 3 hours away. Now it may be an issue. I honestly worry what would happen if I saw her IRL
Oh it was tons of fun for the first few months. But that’s easily outweighed by all the bullshit I endured during, and for the year after.
Yeah dude she’s fricking nuts. I’m sick and tired of it and don’t feel like spending more energy on this, re telling some of the stories I posted this month in the previous thread when she texted, but I could tell you some genuinely deranged and fricked up stories.
I'm doing bad frens. I don't think I'm going to make it. Life hasn't been kind to me and I cannot cope with the trauma. My dad used to fly into a rage and trash the house. My mom was emotionally abusive and drank too much. She got me drunk for my first time in middle school. After highschool I got a TBI and my mom ended up taking advantage of my brain injury to trap me around her. She lied about it and told people I made it up and tried to use the symptoms of it to get me a bogus mental health diagnosis. I was able to find a doctor who would listen to me and protected me from her using any of the involuntary treatment laws against me, found me to not have a severe mental illness and diagnosed the brain injury again. My mom stole so many years of my life during this you wouldn't even believe me if I told you. I've now relapsed into addiction and depression. I want to die but I don't even have the motivation for it, plus I'm too much of a coward to actually kill myself.
>what do you do for a living?
I work in local government, particularly with DMV stuff, Business licensure, and unfortunately taxes
Just so you know I dont hate any of you anons despite knowing full well that I may as well be a mortal enemy for some too
I just wish it was easy to have a private sector job with this much stability, benefits, and constant raises
I'd be great if you'd guys get out of your comfort zones and actually use your insider knowledge to foster a gov't culture that isn't libshit poison. That's why, I, at least, detest government workers.
There's not much I could do but I can wink and nudge every now and then but I still have to play office politics.
I'm almost 40. I've got a remote white collar job and I've been going to the gym 5 days a week for 4 months now. I'm divorced, no kids, and live alone in my apartment.
I can't seem to feel joy in life and I think about suicide every day. I don't know what to do anymore bros.
>I'm divorced, no kids, and live alone in my apartment.
There's your problem
Do you pay any alimony? If not then relocate to a cheaper CoL area (as much as I hate you frickers I can accept that there is a great advantage to this) and start renting out your apartment if you own it
>I can wink and nudge every now and then but I still have to play office politics.
That's something at least. Good on you.
>I still have to play office politics
I envy people who can do this. Worked defense contracting with gov't employees and games you play with them torn my brain in half.
get into the mentality of pic related, it helps.
And do you want to know something crazy? I am only one of two rank and file guys in my department and most people on my floor are women
get into the mentality of pic related, it helps.
And do you want to know something crazy? I am only one of two rank and file guys in my department and most people on my floor are women
And here's pic related
[...] >women with measurements
Yeah it’s crazy dude. That b***h thought I was 3” (actual 7” no cope measuring). She also thought I was 6’5” and I’m 6’2” lol. Next Gf thought I had a 10” dick she was either flattering me or on the opposite of that measurement issue. The way she was during sex I’d say she was genuine though >maintaining land, goats
I’m definitely going to have to do much more research. This would be like 5-8 years down the line for me.
And that’s a problem for me with the goats. I’ve done farm work and they’re too similar to dogs in the way they can show affection to us for my tastes. That’s why I don’t think I could do it if I raised it. Keep them around to help maintain, sure. But kill one of the frickers after raising it and getting used to it being around that would be the saddest meal I’d thoroughly enjoy. I’ll eat the frick outa some goat someone else slaughtered though >what do you do
Electrician. Could make $50/hr in some states, would be making under $30 in others. I have to find the ideal place where COL is what I consider normal (rent being under $1000, a normal lower middle class house not costing half a mil, etc) and where I can make at least enough for comfort. Or preferably enough that I can get by until I have self sufficiency and have cut a lot of my costs like food and electricity down
women truly are moronic, and they are the most cute when moronic
I'm almost 40. I've got a remote white collar job and I've been going to the gym 5 days a week for 4 months now. I'm divorced, no kids, and live alone in my apartment.
I can't seem to feel joy in life and I think about suicide every day. I don't know what to do anymore bros.
>women with measurements
Yeah it’s crazy dude. That b***h thought I was 3” (actual 7” no cope measuring). She also thought I was 6’5” and I’m 6’2” lol. Next Gf thought I had a 10” dick she was either flattering me or on the opposite of that measurement issue. The way she was during sex I’d say she was genuine though >maintaining land, goats
I’m definitely going to have to do much more research. This would be like 5-8 years down the line for me.
And that’s a problem for me with the goats. I’ve done farm work and they’re too similar to dogs in the way they can show affection to us for my tastes. That’s why I don’t think I could do it if I raised it. Keep them around to help maintain, sure. But kill one of the frickers after raising it and getting used to it being around that would be the saddest meal I’d thoroughly enjoy. I’ll eat the frick outa some goat someone else slaughtered though >what do you do
Electrician. Could make $50/hr in some states, would be making under $30 in others. I have to find the ideal place where COL is what I consider normal (rent being under $1000, a normal lower middle class house not costing half a mil, etc) and where I can make at least enough for comfort. Or preferably enough that I can get by until I have self sufficiency and have cut a lot of my costs like food and electricity down
>Electrician. Could make $50/hr in some states
look into any nuclear plants near where you'd want to live - the vast majority, obviously, are in rural areas where land is cheap. Nuke pay is glorious. That's how I was able to semi-retire at 34 and go fully remote as a consultant.
I don't even know how to HAVE sex. I'm a 29 year old kissless hugless handholdless dateless virgin. I literally don't even know where the veganal hole is and just found out a few years ago women have TWO holes around that area not including the actual anus. Like serious, another hole (urethra) near the vegana that isn't the fricking anus? It was mind-blowing to me when I did some brief research (including studying simple picture diagrams of the anatomy of a vegana) and it's still mind-blowing to me today.
I don't even understand the process of how to even GET to the sex part, like what do you even do when you two are alone - do you both stare at each other until one of you asks "is it sex time?" and invite the other to take off their clothes? Am I allowed to lick her nipples before I stick my penis in her vegana? Do you think she'd like that?
Frick that, how do you even get to THAT point and even court a woman? Do I just scan the room I'm in and look for a woman giving me a very friendly smile and ask if she's sexually attracted to me? I don't have a car or a home that I can just bring her to (I live with my grandmother who's a hoarder and my room is also a mess), I can just ask her for me to take an Uber to her place or we can meet at a cheap motel somewhere right? I've never used an Uber before, but I may have to. Do you think she could pick me up and drop me back off after? Or maybe she picks me up and I get an Uber back home after?
Also, I'm a grower 100% and my penis is like 1.5-2 inches long flaccid but around 6 inches when fully erect that's enough right? I was thinking just chewing a few Bluechew to make sure I can actually get it up because I'll probably be concerned about my hideous body the entire time I try to actually have the sex (which presumably can't be good for the psyche or the ability to maintain an erection)
Look up the following >in misdionary put legs on shoulders >at some point put both legs together over same shoulder >push down on her pubic mound and hike fricking, not hard but firmly
This would at least make you seem like you have some idea what you’re doing. Look up pussy anatomy.
Many informative videos on pornhub, xvideos.
Porn is evil but don’t be afraid to try shit you’ve seen.
Listen to her, pay attention to her reactions. It will take some experience to git gud
Can you bros share with me your best reaction images? Post the image and >mood you’re conveying when you post it
I used to have a big collection but I lost it all.
Last year I became really close friends with a girl I was flatting with cause he hanged together a lot after she broke up. Unfortunately though, towards the end I realised I was developing feelings and since I was denying them, I got kinda awkward around boundaries. As a result, she figured that I actually disliked her less than the close level of friend she saw me as since I was being overly conservative. I know she finds me attractive, even saying I'm her type when we spoke about those things, but I don't think she'd date me.
Fast-forward one year later and we caught up to make amends, she had messaged me and apologised for the hectic time last year. Few months later till now, I feel really bad because we're close friends again and a) she doesn't know why we truly fell out last year and b) holding feelings is depressing as frick.
I only have one week left until I move town for a few months and I don't want it following me. Should I just bite the bullet, probably kill the friendship and tell her how it really was?
This won't be nice to hear, anon, but I think it's really over by now. Whatever moment there was passed.
It's not good timing for you because you're going away, so nothing can really happen in a long term way.
I think the best thing you can do is really take the time to be ok with just being her friend and do your best to turn your attention to another girl for the months you're away.
And hey, when you get back and you're thinking more neutrally, maybe one night you two get to talking and you can let her know about what was going on with you before.
Resist the urge to think about that night going any other way. No confessions, except in the past tense as a funny anecdote to explain your weird shit behaviour.
Because it is actually over already, and even if theres a 2% chance it's not, you need to proceed as if it is.
You need to move on with your life. There are so many other people on this planet to have a oneitis, even if it doesn't feel that way right now.
But then if she feels the same way you've got another issue of trying to start something long-distance. I'm no stranger to this feeling anon, you need to ask yourself are you going to be happier living with disappointment or regret? There you will find your answer
Reckon I should just mention I need to clear up something and that the reason behind falling out was that at the time I realised I started liking her and so put walls up to avoid wrecking anything? And how that ended up being accidentally perceived as just not being a close friend. If I can remedy my guilt in the past tense I feel like that's less destructive to today since we're close again and I live without walls up
Thanks bro. I'll just ask that I need peace of mind on something and explain the reasoning. End of the day, I reckon if we can't handle that we may not be as good friends as I thought anyways. Will report back in a feels thread in a couple of days
But then if she feels the same way you've got another issue of trying to start something long-distance. I'm no stranger to this feeling anon, you need to ask yourself are you going to be happier living with disappointment or regret? There you will find your answer
Hang with her. Have a few drinks. Be comfortable and flirt a little. Maybe have the sex. Then tell her afterwards that you actually have had a crush on her for a while. Have sex again.
2 years ago, I got blindsided by divorce. Literally tricked into going on a trip for my wife, got locked out and told to never return. All my things, my car, house. Everything was sold or thrown away. Massive debt was secretly incurred in my name/
I still live with my parents, dont own a vehicle, and am trying to work on getting funding for an education. at 29 years old.
My main thing is i forget how to approach and interact with women.
Im not as broken as before, im able to be happy again. I dont focus on the pain, or need someone to hear me vent. im over it. Im regaining the love for the things i used to do.
Its just been 2 years of being alone, in my room. ignoring messages on tinder or facebook because i felt too depressed.
i want to put myself out there, but i havent dated since 2014.
i literally forget how to have a conversation with women, or anyone. Evenmore, i feel like i dont know what a healthy relationship looks like.
All i want to do is retreat to my room and be invisible.
and i know this is unhealthy.
>TL;DR
I forget how to talk to women. can any kind anons share their conversations, introductions, their first steps in getting to know a woman, just general conversations of what normal man/woman conversations look like between partners. anything.
You had it rough dude. I'm sorry.
I don't have any tips because I can be pretty awkward, I can get by and put on a little act and talk to women out and about but tbh every time I do I'm fricking freaking out inside.
What I will say is, please realize that 29 is still YOUNG. Please be selfish and prioritize YOU. Do not go back into dating with the mindset of looking for a life partner right off the bat. I know you will get back into dating and find your rythm but just feel around, go out with these girls, have a good time and frick them but please do not wife up any of them until you've had a good run of a couple of years.
You're in a good spot anon, you're young and healthy and you have nothing holding you back. The world is yours man i know you'll get out of this funk just take it day by day man.
other humans become less dismissive of you. women don't actively avoid you and make a scene to others about avoiding you, some men will actually pay slightly more attention when you chime in. that's about it.
>Was fat in HS. Not obese or anything but definitely unattractive. >Started lifting the summer between HS and college and got fairly fit; experienced attention for the first time. >kept lifting and getting fitter and fitter; could essentially go into any bar/party and guarantee I wasn't leaving alone if I didn't want to.
A startling difference.
I recently had a thyroid issue; while i was still in great shape and lifting as usual,
hypothyroidism was making me bloate. Once I got it sorted out with a supplement, i lost about 25 pounds in six months and am leaner now than I was in college. And holy crap the change in people's behavior.
People are so, so much nicer in general when you're attractive. Not just like at the grocery store or whatever, but also in terms of job opportunities and other important things. It's hilarious and very blackpilling at the same time, and it's really made me realize that staying fit and lean is actually something to prioritize not just for personal health but also career-wise.
i mean, getting advantage working on customer service or even sales makes sense. If you felt difference in something more mind related like IT then that is pretty blackpilling.
Being lean and fit will make you look you have your shit together. Having your shit together will give the impression of being more competent regardless of career.
Unless you're a mall Santa I guess, then you need to look the part.
Being lean and fit will make you look you have your shit together. Having your shit together will give the impression of being more competent regardless of career.
Unless you're a mall Santa I guess, then you need to look the part.
Agreed. In my case, I am a university professor and also perform as a musician on weekends / over breaks. Not open mic stuff but high-paying professional gigs. Being fit has payed off exponentially in both scenarios.
>be tech bro >make 100k a year >autistic gymcel >27 years old but never had a gf >massive coomer >spend 10k a year on high end escorts >have a favorite girl I invite to my condo from time to time >she recently told me she wouldn't mind seeing me when she's "not in the office"
I'm really thinking about asking a hooker out. What do I have to lose at this point?
>go to my friend's house >sister (9/10) was there, knew I was coming >came out in bikini >muhdick >she wasnt swimming, showering or tanning >talked quite a bit, she was smiling a lot too
Damn was she doing this because she's trying to frick or am I being too optimistic? Am autistic. >inb4 the bro and sis are banging
oh damn, guess you'll never know right? here is a thought for you. Why don't you just see for yourself?
frick me dead guys, maybe flirt a little bit or something
Like will you literally die if you have a go?
all this shit is moronic
Stop being scared of rejection, worse thing in the world she could do is what?
You can mess with girls like that anyway.
"That's a cut outfit but it's a little conservative for my tastes. Do you have anything you like to wear?"
Need balls of steel to go there, though. And generally getting involved with women like that on any level is a bad idea.
>hardcore sociopath
Nta but why is this such a good example? Idk what better way to articulate this but BPDs, sociopaths, psychopaths, NPDs, etc they all have this innate ability to do something so… ballsy? Whether it’s physical or verbal and it ALWAYS seems like such a normal thing when they say/do it to the point it’s hard to call them out on it because like their demeanor and convictions give absolutely zero indication that they’re doing what they obviously are. It’s so easy for them to then play dumb or gaslight should you call them out. Like they’ll do X thing but it genuinely comes off as innocent from them despite being blatant. It’s like it’s so easy because they don’t see other people as people or real humans… almost like they way you could taunt a video game NPC… Frick I can’t word this how I want to..
Do you know what I mean? Does anyone reading this think they can better articulate what I’m attempting to describe in a more clear and concise way so I can use your words in future discussion on this subject? THIS is the thing about this subject that most fascinates me
Having dates NPD girls, they all do the same shit. Like the same specific book and play the same mind games. Literally said the same shit to Garner sympathy
Weird maniacal laugh, eyes change color.
They always tell you how awful they are beforehand, and you always think. "Sure b***h, let's see" and it is pretty bad
I’ve had my fair share, if you scroll up a bit you’ll see some harrowing accounts of my ex that I posted. But I’ve met a handful of people who fall into that camp of BPD, NPD type stuff and what I described here
>hardcore sociopath
Nta but why is this such a good example? Idk what better way to articulate this but BPDs, sociopaths, psychopaths, NPDs, etc they all have this innate ability to do something so… ballsy? Whether it’s physical or verbal and it ALWAYS seems like such a normal thing when they say/do it to the point it’s hard to call them out on it because like their demeanor and convictions give absolutely zero indication that they’re doing what they obviously are. It’s so easy for them to then play dumb or gaslight should you call them out. Like they’ll do X thing but it genuinely comes off as innocent from them despite being blatant. It’s like it’s so easy because they don’t see other people as people or real humans… almost like they way you could taunt a video game NPC… Frick I can’t word this how I want to..
Do you know what I mean? Does anyone reading this think they can better articulate what I’m attempting to describe in a more clear and concise way so I can use your words in future discussion on this subject? THIS is the thing about this subject that most fascinates me
they all have in common. I don’t know how to better articulate it other than that anons example of >comes out in bikini, very obviously doing it on purpose because she’s not swimming, tanning, or showering and knee I was coming over >proceeds to act completely normal and now anon isn’t even sure if he’s the crazy one
That girl may not be NPD, BPD, sociopath etc and could just be a bawd but it fits into what I’m describing. It’s like these people are so ballsy and able to do and say the shit they do while making it come off as something totally normal because they have no shame at all. Having no sympathy I think comes with it, but the lack of shame I guess I never considered. Like if a normal person were to try the things they do, he would have massive gives and tells about what he’s doing. That’s it, they do these things and have zero “tells” that’s the part that’s genuinely so weird but fascinating to me
There's one I know that I kind of want to help mask better. Feel like saying that they over emote when attempting to display empathy, it's over the top and looks fake to anyone.
It's not like their evil really, seen them do more good than the average person just they can't give a frick about anyone else but themselves.
It seems to bum them out at least, I don't go near them anymore but to say they aren't worth your time isn't true
Just don't tell them anything or piss them off
Italian soda with cream, please.
I'm this close to finally solving my sleep apnea. The last problem I have is that I wake up immediately after falling asleep because my throat relaxes even through a CPAP. If I use a sleep aid to sleep through the event or miraculously stay asleep, I end up having a great night of sleep.
If anyone has any ideas of anything I can try, please let me know.
pic related shows what I'm talking about and is taken from a sleep study, a cluster of arousals the millisecond I fall into N1 sleep.
>at house party >hostess's birthday >roundtable, i go grab a drink >offer her some, invite to drink with me as the others are designated drivers >"i want to, but he won't let me", gestures to her boyfriend >weakling personality dude, nothing remarkable or impressive, clearly beta >pulled her aside later >told her i found it so weird that she lets her bf decide what she can or can't do >rationalizes and replies as if she saw no problem in it
Lol how can relationships like this happen where people let others so blatantly order them and control them. I can't imagine her father (he was there) being ok with a dude bossing around his daughter.
>I can't imagine her father (he was there) being ok with a dude bossing around his daughter.
please let go of the idea that women don't like this, they aren't men and enjoy it
having choices makes them nervous
you're a gay, the world isn't a sitcom
women aren't men
also the fact that you give a shit about it outs you as an envious b***h boy
I'm blatantly some Indian cardiobunny's gym crush. She's pretty cute but I have a girlfriend. I always catch her looking at me in the gym and she's done a few obvious things that are tells. Like one time she came up and grabbed dumbbells and pretended to do curls next to me but it was obvious she's never done them in her life and just wanted to get near me. She also took the treadmill right next to me once when every other treadmill in the gym was open, and today she actually came up and tried to start conversation over some bullshit but I ended it early since I know I shouldn't be getting friendly with women, plus she had a thick accent and spoke very softly and was honestly hard to understand.
I feel like I'm pretty underappreciated by my girlfriend but at this point I've accepted that I can just never bring myself to break up with her as she's too ingrained in my life. I like getting female attention but it feels bad at the same time knowing that I can't touch these women and I have to come home to my lazy fat girlfriend.
I wonder if she's aware that I'm 100% aware of her advances.
>I can't touch these women >I can't
Are you a woman? >She's too ingrained in my life
Is she paying your food bills or something? I cannot imagine a scenario where a hoe is too involved in my life to get dropped
Nah she doesnt pay for shit shes horrible with money. Its because my family loves her and after we moved I'm basically a hermit with no IRL friends.
>Fat, lazy girlfriend
Once adjective can be suffered.
Two cannot.
Be a man and leave, but not into the arms of a curry.
Maybe I just should though I've been getting better about staying connected with online friends and feel less lonely lately. The indian girl was really cute but I doubt we have anything in common since I'm an autistic degenerate and I'm sure she's pretty traditional.
My current situation is kinda similar. I already know what I'm going to do though, just need to put the plan into action.
>be with gf for 5 years, both nomads traveling the world together >went through deep shit together >living together 24/7, we start becoming the same person, inseparable but also losing all attraction >have sex only once a month or less for the past 2 years >i start wanting to settle somewhere, gf still wants to travel >when i tell her im going back home for a bit, she decides to go travel on her own for 3 months
>start rediscovering being by myself in these 3 months >working out regularly again, book few personal coaching sessions at local gym >coach turns out to be cute fit arab lady >from the get go think she's way out of my league so just go through the sessions relaxed >time to leave home country for thailand approaches >last coaching session ends, we exchange numbers "in case i come back to continue the lessons" >after lesson she messages me to meet her behind the gym >i finally understand whats happening and go autistic mode >somehow she was so into me she overlooks the spaghetti and we arrange to meet up the next day, last day before i fly out >end up going to hotel >combination of her hotness with me being so nervous, tired and cucked by the thick condom makes me somehow pull pornstar-tier performance >i frick her nonstop for a good 40 minutes >we say goodbye quickly and i fly to thailand the next day
>during the next weeks we keep talking everyday for hours >slowly get up to saying we love each other >gf meets me back in thailand >absolutely no attraction or sex drive from me towards gf >gf keeps complimenting my body, while she grew chubby >try to bring her with me to the gym but she keeps finding excuses >straight up says it's impossible for her to lose all the fat she put on >keeps complaining about her job and basically have lazy defeatist attitude >still acts like us being together is a guarantee
you got this bro
i had a similar situation for 4.5 years
ending it is hard, but it's like graduation day
that chapter of your life is over
onto the next
as for the ayyyrab
if it begins dirty, it ends dirty
and with muslimas it's downright filthy
she'll frick her cousin and give you the clap dirty
I was joking about indians because the men swarm any white women in their vicinity.
If you like her thats fine by me, make a irl Rally out of any potential daughters you could have with her.
i mean he slept with another woman during those 3 months so I think they're even
I think thats an online only thing because the indian people I see IRL arent like that at all. I live in an apartment complex that has a giant Indian community, like 30% or more (it explains why I have an ESL indian girl checking me out of all things). They dont even look at the white women, most of them I think are either already married or only consider Indian women to be viable partners.
Sorry the joke flew over my head, honestly forgot about the whole bobs and vagene jokes because I think thats coming from porn addicts online exclusively.
It makes me wonder if the Indian girl checking me out is married honestly. Thatd be pretty hot.
girl i like is in town for thanksgiving from studying a few states away. we didn't disclose that we had feelings for eachother until she'd already left for school. in the course of our chats she's let on that she's put on weight since she left. frankly i don't care, I've seen recent photos and she's still gorgeous. she's intelligent, just the right anount of sass, hates leftists and is from my same ethnic haplogroup. i want to her to be my wife and make babies with her.
rent is about to go up $600 for me, one of my roommates is moving to the other side of the country. NGL I'm excited to be living alone with my boyfriend for the first time, but I'm really fricking worried about the costs of everything. Work has been horrible this year and I've been in a job desert since the summer. I'm down $25k from what I made earlier this year.
Things just look kinda bad. I've never really been in a situation like this before.
Getting death threats from a homeless guy (and to my family i guess) i know somewhat well again, dunno if i should go to the police or if thatll just make it worse
Piss and shit in a cup then ride past on a bike and throw it on him. Or call the cops and say he has drugs on him, 99% chance he actually does. They will want to search him anyway, probably looking for an excuse.
>finish another shit weekend where i did nothing on saturday and today i just did my outdoor hobbies which are more to just waste time and leave the house more than anything >have a week of my humiliating job on the docket for this week >going to do my best to refuse to go traveling to see family for wed-sun thanksgiving because i haven't seen them in 4+ years and haven't developed an iota of my life in that time and i cannot face the sheer humiliation i wil feel going there as the autistic loser in his 30s still living with mommy and daddy with no gf, wife, kids, or career to discuss
I'm so sorry. I know that feeling so well.... except in my case, family came to see us so I couldn't avoid it. I ended up buying a house and it has made a world of difference. If you can find an apartment you can afford, move. Even if it makes you poor. You need to do it for your mental health. You can still visit every day if you want. The self esteem you will gain will be worth it.
>feeling stressed from work >every workout the past week I get an exertion headache with every working set >staying hydrated and ensuring I warm up properly hasn't fixed it >have to reduce intensity so I can actually finish the workout
I hate this so much I want to go back to loving my workouts again
>live with parents at 24 >super cash because no rent and i make decent money >they're very invested in my life and frequently present, making dating and living my own life more difficult >basically everything in my life is solved now except for having a good woman
I love them, but I feel constrained because they don't let me have a free schedule. I know "i'm an adult" and shit, but staying in their good graces is essential for me to keep reaping the benefits. Also, does it actually frick me over in dating to not have any real issues for girls to latch onto and claim they can fix for me?
I moved out when I was 24. My parents were and still are a big part of my life. Our relationship actually got better with less interaction (I see them 1-2 times per week) and I was able to grow a lot as my own person as well. They will definitely appreciate you taking a step towards your own adult life and you will too. Obviously you're an autist because you're here, so you need every mental advantage for your confidence with women. Moving out removes a mental hurdle and will help you, and you need all the help you can get. Most women don't care if you're still living at home, but many expect you to be working towards moving out or have a real excuse other than "rent free b***h". You won't regret moving out and will be a better man for it.
The only issue with moving out is that the advantages of staying home right now are astronomical:
>live in hcol area, saving 12000-24000 a year on rent >live 20min away from work >can actually save money and spend on more of my hobbies/experiences >get a huge amount of space to myself (free office, bedroom, couches >see my dogs every day
I just would rather have these things now than to move out and become "le better man". At the same time, I still get a little jelly wondering how others navigate their independent lives and how they character-build in less certain scenarios. I want to slip out eventually for sure, but I hope to stick around for a few more years. My dad is almost 61 and plans to retire around 64/65, I think I can time a move around that. By that point, I'll have more experience and a presumably higher salary to go with it.
>wants a good woman >doesn't want to be a better man
Ask yourself what "good woman" is going to put up with a dude who doesn't want to move out until he's 27. Not happening.
>try online dating >have 10 likes and 0 matches after 3 days >constantly bombarded with incentives to buy premium stuff
What the actual frick is this shit? I knew online dating was bad, but holy shit. I'm decently handsome, IST, good career, hobbies etc. I been legit approached in public a few times by women. But I get treated like some random neckbeard online.
Is all online dating just a grift for women to get validation and desperate men to lose money?
>I knew online dating was bad, but holy shit.
Back in the day it was pretty decent - then they tried to make it into a purely money thing. It's more like youtube now - with the ads they try to keep you on there as long as possible. They'll show you a really pretty girl every so often (one that isn't even active or is a bot) just to keep you going.
One of the guys who works for me says that OKCpuid likes to throw a troony in every so often.
I wish the fitness dating sites had more people using them, but females have plenty of men to pick from on normie sites. The main point of the fitness sites is to filter out fatties.
I don't give a shit, I'm married, but I do weep for the next generation.
https://i.imgur.com/wd3v4vR.jpg
I was joking about indians because the men swarm any white women in their vicinity.
If you like her thats fine by me, make a irl Rally out of any potential daughters you could have with her.
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Thats what I meant.
>I was joking about indians because the men swarm any white women in their vicinity.
I got the joke, anon. I appreciated it.
Bobs and Vageen turned into Balls and Peen
My money might be going up which is the only thing that keeps me going now. With my stretch marks and loose skin, it doesn't matter how much weight I lose and how much muscle I gain, I will never be able to make it without enough money to get the gyno surgery, loose skin removal, laser my stretch marks, tighten up my jaw and neck, and get dick fillers. I guess in the meantime to make it feel like I'm doing more I can start doing jiu jitsu on my dick to get meager girth gains.
>spent 5 years stagnating rotting away depressed over ex >move on in 2022, finally over it >see her and bust out laughing, been genuinely losing my shit all day that I was so sad over this low value trash prostitute >not even attracted to her genuinely looks gross, acts grosser
Never thought I’d see the day. Wish I had good things to say about those I’ve dated, but also not posting this to shit on her. Just genuinely proud of myself for FINALLY coming to my senses
I don't have any beef with any of my exes - it makes me pretty sad seeing how one of them went from being the literal prom-queen to looking like trailertrash in like 10 years.
How the frick do you guys lift with a headset?
Earcups get all sweatry n shit
Buy Shokz (bone conduction headphones) unless you need to block out gym noise, then use do wireless earbuds.
Ended up getting the Shokz for work (building a nuclear power plant, so loud as shit, earpro all the time, bone conduction works with earplugs in. I just paired it to my radio. By the time I was done there at least 90% of my engineering group used them.
They're nice for running because you can still hear everything around you - I consider that a safety thing.
Jack and coke, please. Life’s stressful but really good. I love this time of year. How are you, OP? They have you working on a Saturday night, again?
I'm doing okay fren. Just finished work for today.
How to accept being alone? No friends, mo hoes. Just focus on my grind without being sad about loneliness?
no hoes* only yourself
Just focus on the gym and improving yourself. Easier said than done but it's that simple
Another Saturday night alone. Loneliness is my biggest struggle. I feel you, anon.
I used to feel sad and lonely on Friday/Saturday nights but I don't even notice anymore. It's been so long since I went out and did anything that I barely remember what it was like when I did.
Develop a good relationship with yourself so you can at least enjoy the company of the person you are most often with, which is you.
My brother we're not made to be alone.
Just try to socialize with people more.
Not forcely with normies you can't stand but try to meet new people you would find nice, in hobbies you share.
You're either born for it or you're not
t. single 99.9% of my life and rarely contact family
just stop desiring it. focus on something else. it's like masturbation.
try being social, get bored of trying and then you will start realizing how stupid it is to try to be friends with everyone
Deal with enough people on a daily basis and you'll want solitude
Helps if you got stuff like a nice plot of land, a boat, and other hobbies and interests to enjoy alone
Hypothetically, if a close woman friend keeps asking what your type is, and may have said you are her type at one point, she may just be wanting me to find a girlfriend and be part of the excitement from encouraging a friend to find love, right? Women seem pretty nonchalant about these things sometimes
women are secretly rooting for you to succeed in winning them over but will punish you if you frick it up, do with this as you will
who the frick knows these days
back in my day, that would be a clearcut sign to ask her out
that said, relationships from friendships haven't seemed to work out - at least not in my friend group. Good relationships, but don't last too long - I guess women look for different things in friends vs partners.
yeah, also this.
they want you to succeed, but are grading you on a secret scale that they will never reveal.
>Why did this dude i was nice to have to outshine me.
You are autism-level sperging out. I flirt with all women - it's just a type of being friendly.
You really, really overreacted, and should honestly consider therapy or at least a little introspection.
Hopefully you got me in a good troll.
>I ghosted her after fricking her 5 or 6 more times, thought I'd swing up to a hotter chick ya know.
U. R. moronic
Shoulda stuck with her and just leaned her out. Mediterranean chicks get thin as hell (with big breasts) once you get them back to their traditional diet.
>when house prices/interest rates will go down
interest rates aren't going down until after the housing market crashes.
Prices will drop with the crash, then interest rates will slowly be lowered to try and recover it. I don't believe that it can be predicted - I would have thought it would have happened by now. The entire system is so corrupt. I think that the ~~*banks*~~ will keep things stable until a Republican is in office, then let it crash. As long as Israel is fighting a war, they won't let it crash - they don't want us to stop the cash. Look at ~~*Yellen*~~ saying we can fund 2 wars.
Hips have been hurting for the past week
I am an egg.
Fricking kill myself.
Young fry of treachery!
Answer me this: why are you alone?
After you answer to me, ask to yourself, how can I fix this?
Just finished a 16h shift. Tommorow I have the day off but I will be alone mostly all day. I miss my ex a lot
Hey I feel that, man. I work like 60+ hour weeks normally, and this weekend is the first weekend I get off in the last month. Don’t worry bro, it gets better. Might not seem like it now but it does. God saves those who call on him.
God bless, anon.
I'm doing good. I have pretty hardcore OCD, but I do my best to fight it and my life is in the best place it's been for quite some time. I'm dating again. I'm financially stable, doing quite well in fact.
I'm drinking one of those "margaritas in a can." Feeling good. Just want to do anything I can to spread the good vibes.
>went to bar last week
>met up with dude i met there a couple weeks ago
>seems cool, introduce him to my friends
>he buys people drinks is generally sociable
>my friends start talking to him more throughout the night
>get jealous and try to ditch him even tho i invited him to hangout with us
>we go to dance floor and i try to dance but no one is paying attention to me just talking to this guy or the other chicks there
>this dude starts talking to this bar maid i like who’s in the group
>they start flirting and she lets him have some of her drink
>sperg out and keep telling him to leave but he couldn’t hear me bc of the loud music
>leave with all my friends and try to ditch the dude and kick him out of our group
>text him to never talk to me again and that he’s a loser and no one likes him
>responds with “lol ok bro we were all just chillin calm down”
>fricking butthole ghosts me and now won’t make eye contact with me at the bar
>acts like I’m not even there, talks to all my friends and other people at the bar like nothing happened
>since then I’ve been trying to get him banned from the bar for being a creep and i keep talking shit about him but it’s not working
Why did this dude i was nice to have to outshine me. He didn’t need to be so personable and buy drinks. The chicks were just magnetized towards him it’s so unfair no girls were checking out my dancing skills. I hate this fricking butthole. I asked him what he did earlier that day and nonchalantly says he was a boat with his dad. Rich gay butthole I’m gonna get him banned from the bar tonight hopefully. He won’t even respond to my texts now butthole.
I hope this is a troll and you aren't such a petty b***h irl.
Man you seriously have to question your choices. No wonder everybody preferred him to you, he was being nice and you just an butthole because you felt threatened by him. You act like a bitter loser, and it's not even a debate. You must learn to lose.
I must confess I've never experienced my crush being stolen by another man under my eyes, but this guy started to rizz her fair and square. This chick isn't yours, she's not your property and you don't own her, you literally have no moral right to declare war on this guy. He rizzed her because he was more attractive than you. And if you're not enough aware of that right now, it probably means that you're not aware you're awkward and cringe neither, and it may be the reason why you feel people ignore you.
You could just be bitter about it but hold it on, and stay friend with that guy, you would actually have benefited this situation, if he's the cool guy everybody likes. You could have been "the one who brought this cool guy in" and have good times around him. You could have met a hot girl at a party he would have made and invited you, but instead you chose (do we really choose our reactions and feelings? not so sure but you get the idea) to be the bitter loser who wants to ban the nice guy for cryptic reasons at best in the eyes of others, because he couldn't pick up that bar maid at worst, while he was the one bringing him in the group in the first place.
People will probably resent you for trying to ban him without reason. You'll just pass for the hater, what you actually are.
Sorry buddy, but you're wrong on all the line right here.
You're clearly not gonna make it with that shitty loser spirit.
You must really operate a 180° right now or things won't be better and you'll probably even suffer from your own choices.
I must confess you don't inspire sympathy. Sometimes people there are lost and you want to help them but you just don't look nice.
Good response
>sperg out and keep telling him to leave but he couldn’t hear me bc of the loud music
Somebody posted the exact same situation from the perspective of the other guy a few days ago.
I want to believe two IST morons randomly met up in a bar and are now mortal enemies, but I know that this is just some kind of turbo autist who made both posts
Mainly because he's real and you're fake.
You're a chud. Not that your looks are bad, but inside there's nothing, you just observe everything, you just see status and are not actually enjoying the ride. You don't spread joy or you aren't deep, therefore chicks don't gravitate towards you. Need to learn to actually be yourself. That doesn't mean acting like a spastic moron, that means being ok with yourself.
Also being happy for a friend hitting it would let you hit as well, but now you're just acting like a spoiled child. No pussy gets wet from spoiled children.
You've got long ways to go, you need real lilfe experience.
Try not to murder anyone in the mean time, like that looser, what was his name... You know the one who thought he's a catch.
Incredible bait. Well done
I'm finally doing it lads, after almost a year of slowly digging myself out of a depressive shithole I put myself in, I'm actually back at the gym. And not only that, but I'm on my way to getting a driver's license too. It feel great to be retaking control of my life.
I'll have a seltzer water with lemon.
Got back into lifting and just did 175lbs on the bench at 5'8", 175lbs BW. Squats felt good too. I'm doing heavy bag and high rep calisthenics on off days.
Career wise, I'm stuck. Waging in a warehouse currently and I've fricked up my chances of working in white collar due to my own sperginess. Thinking I might either
>save and try to get a degree in mechanical engineering
>save and go to trade school OR
>stay in my industry and hop an employer will overlook my spotty work history
Please advise.
Where do you live? Couldn’t you just go straight into an apprenticeship, and have your job pay for trade school? That way you would make money as you learn.
>Where do you live
'Murica.
>Couldn’t you just go straight into an apprenticeship, and have your job pay for trade school
Depends on the trade. For electrician, I'd have to apply and take a test, then pass the interview. It would be a 4 year program so I wouldn't get on my own until my 30s. frick, I should have started earlier.
Interesting. I live in leafland and for electrician you need 9000 hours to write your ticket exam. 750 hours at college (three terms of 6, 8, 8 weeks) done whenever throughout the rest of the 8250 hours. Your pay starts at a bit over minimum but jumps about 3-5 dollars every 1800 hours worked.
t. electrical apprentice
Or if you get into some of the good places or the union (ew) then you can be making 50+ leafbux an hour
Use the trades to pay for college. Stay a permanent apprentice and, depending on tbe company, you can make $23-25/hr. Do not do this shit life long unless you can run your own business after 6-8 years of experience. Along with possibly becoming a functional alcoholic with alimony.
>t. Former sparky
Trades suck.
>Use the trades to pay for college. Stay a permanent apprentice and, depending on tbe company, you can make $23-25/hr.
You mean go to school part time while she doing trade work? Thing is I'm already late 20s, and need to get in a career path ASAP
>Along with possibly becoming a functional alcoholic with alimony.
Sounds like you had it rough. How old are you and what do you do for work now?
28 and data analyst.
Knew a sparky who moved to the sticks. Dairy country. Literally only worked 3 days a week. 25 acres. Nice house. Living the dream.
In a weird spot.
There’s this girl I’ve wanted for a long time. Big tiddy goth. I feel like she really does want to be with me but she seems kinda distant at times. I feel like I’m in a good spot but it’s going so slow and I’m not trying to freak her out. I really like her and I can tell she’s Atleast attracted to me.
At the same time there’s another big tiddy insta thot who wants my dick. I got her number, we’ve been texting, probably gonna get drinks. Problem is, if the big tiddy goth finds out I’m like 90% sure that’s gonna frick me over and ruin my chances to smash/be with her.
My penis says “frick both of them” but my mind is telling me that this is a bad idea. Am I gay?
Having women atracted to you makes you more atractive to women. I say go for it.
I agree with both of them
. You give them way too much credit. Fricking the Instathot must not be that hard, also goth b***h is being picky and on top of that you aren't in a relationship, I don't see this as immoral. Do you really think both of them would have scrupules to frick Chad on the side?
You're not gay but you sound incredibly naive.
>Fricking the Instathot must not be that hard
Sorry
>Fricking the Instathot without goth b***h noticing must not be that hard
Fixed.
motherfricker I know how women are. I’m only single because my fiancé decided to be a prostitute.
But I’m tired of going thro this cycle of “getting my heart broken, frick random prostitutes, rinse and repeat until you feel something.” With the goth girl i feel like we’re both vibing on a much deeper level and all of my friends keep telling me how much of a good couple we would be.
Realistically? I’m probably gonna frick both of them. Even tho I’m not cheating I still feel kinda weird about it. Like I actually respect this girl wtf
>goth girl
>Respecting women
And you wonder why you go through cycles of fricking around, catching feelings, and getting hurt by them.
Women aren't for respect, they're for fricking. Want to respect something? How about you learn to respect yourself and stop looking for something where it'll never be.
Dick both of them into the next century you moron. Do it until they find out about each other. Then see if they want to hook up together. If no, dump them both and move on. Big tiddy goths and Instagram hoes are literally disposable and their only value is taking dick. Enjoy it while you can.
Put the goth b***h out of your head. They are psychic vampires and their ethereal parasitic bonds will be there long after the sex ends.
Embrace life.
Shun all who don't.
Got engaged to the gf, moved into a nice house with her, plans to marry next week
But planning on leaving my job that I've had since I've graduated very soon and for some reason that scares me more than anything else going on in my life
Work as a programmer so tend to get self conscious when it makes me feel like a fricking idiot
Why marry? You can live togethere and have kids without marriage. The courts will rape you if it doesn't work or she wants to cheat you, no fault divorce was a mistake.
I just want to protect your ass from out if control feminism.
dude he just has to invite the government into his personal relationships. Why? he just does!
Dont' try and understand bootlickers
I wanna see my lover more often but school gets in the way and everything's very stressful. I just want to have sex and relax
I hate everything about my life and I’m getting to an age that nobody cares about me anymore.
I’m going nowhere and it’s not even easy.
I don't know how to fix my life.
Good luck, bro.
Baby steps. It can be as simple a a daily goal like a walk a day, us that success to build on. Use good habits and self control to build your life.
You will have setbacks, but embrace them and get back up every time. Failure is a good chance to learn and grow, have a growth mindset.
I just don't know what career to pursue. I need to move my life forward and the clock is ticking.
My goal is to get a good job, become financially stable, and eventually buy a house. I just want a nice house so I can cook and enjoy my life for a change.
>fix life
>am now a foreveralone beta in a chad body with a good career
>no longer have a bunch of excuses or avenues of hope left to explore
Be careful what you wish for anon
I still think about the first girl I messed around with once I got in shape. She was a chunky Greek girl, jet black hair to her shoulders and greens eyes, about 30 pounds over weight. Was the first women I was with where I was the more desirable one if that makes sense. She lived in a little prefab home on her parents property who were LOADED. We would hang out and drink her parents booze and swim in thier pool. She was really really sweet. First few times we had sex we used condoms, by like the 4th time i wanted to raw dog, ive never had unprotected sex before. I remember the conversation we had when talking her into letting me cum in her.
>anon we gotta use a condom
>why?
>I'm not on the pill
>and?
>what if I get pregnant?
>you'd have to marry me and raise my children
Never had a women look at me the way she did when I said that, wasn't even trying to be slick, just wanted to feel what it was like raw. It's still the most passionate sex I've ever had, she wrapped her legs around me and held my face while I cummed in her. Also, only women I'm sure wasn't faking her own orgasm. I ghosted her after fricking her 5 or 6 more times, thought I'd swing up to a hotter chick ya know. She never got pregnant, I facebook stalk her to this day. I've had a lot of shitty relationships since her and never had a women want me the way she wanted me or treat me as good as she did. I often wish I never ghosted her and got her pregnant and we got married, my life would be so different now. The real kick is as it turns out im way more into a size 12 then a size 4 because even when I had the gym girl I day dreamed about Sandie.
pain
Just water, please.
Met my bro's gf at his housewarming. It's grim. Danger haired hambeast with cutting scars. Was the only woman there dressed like a hoe, got drunk as frick and spent at least one hour stumbling around and breaking things. Possibly more, I decided to split before things got worse. The guy is soi incarnate so I suppose some of you will say he got what he deserved but he's a really nice and well put together person who should at least have a decent woman at his side, looks apart. It sucks seeing my childhood friend like this. He was very patient with her antics and you could see how devoted he is. His whole demeanor only demonstrated care and worry for her wellbeing. I don't doubt he would still be like that even if she set his house on fire.
I also disliked the way she kept looking at me and how she pressed her whole body against myself while saying goodbye.
On the way back I thought about how the bros with whom you could frankly discuss how much their woman is bad for them are the ones who'll probably never need your words, while guys like my friend need them but are too delusional to hear.
>childhood best friend who grew into soi incarnate but is with a trashy prostitute crazy b***h but is super patient with her and devoted
Same exact situation to a T except the moron 100% deserves it in my case because he as a mid 20s-late 20s man let it go to his head and he thought he was hit shit for bagging (READ: getting used by) a 4/10. You know that machismo shit most guys go through in their teens when they get their first GF or lose their virginity? Yeah imagine that X10 and for a grown man. I’ve tried to help the dude so much, I’ve told him to cut it off and he just wouldn’t. The dude has cried over this woman so much just in their first year, they’re like 3 years into it now. He moved her into his apartment within the first month of officially being BF & GF, he had spent a year prior sharing her with her previous BF and actually buys her lies that she wasn’t having sex with the guy. The more he refused to take my advice the worst his situation got. And oddly enough he would brag about how alpha he is and use it to put anyone else down. Full on negging to elevate his own social proof. I shouldve called him out on this and said something like
>dude you got your first GF, she’s on a wienertail of antidepressants, self harms, tries to kill herself every other week seemingly to control you, puts her hands on you, she has you doing the monkey dance to get some pussy from her on occasion while she does what? Sit around? Make your life so stressful you’ve called me crying more times than I can count? And facially speaking she’s a 4/10 on a good day. So why do you think this ranks you above any of us in this imaginary totem pole social hierarchy you insistently try to imbue?
I’ve told him a nicer version of that 1 on 1 but he never listened. He dug his hole deeper and deeper and now he can’t leave, doesn’t even want to anymore he’s accepted his fate.
>I also disliked the way she kept looking at me and how she pressed her whole body against myself
Same shit. This b***h (I won’t lie the ass is phenomenal she looks like Gia Paige in recent years with a more busted face, that overweight build where she holds most in her ass but is still just fat) has “accidentally” sat and did a little wiggle thing on my lap multiple times then like slid off to grind her ass on my wiener going “oops heehee I thought you were [friends name].” She’s tried to twerk on me while out multiple times, she does that whole huge and pressing her breasts against me hard and hugging ever so slightly too long and tightly. This b***h has tried to non discretely make an attempt at casually placing a hand on my thigh in conversation, but placed it a little too high up and firmly squeezed. And I can’t say shit about it, the dudes gotten so delusional if I do he’ll blame me, defend her actions, try to twist it that I’m the delusional one.
This dude really is soi incarnate too. Constantly brings up how much he loves biden, blames anything bad from the last 40 years on trump (even Reagan’s doings which killed the American dream), blames trump for bidens decisions while verbally throating biden off. Literally has cheered for biden. If you don’t 100% shit all over trump, even just saying “yeah idgaf I’m not looking to discuss politics on my night off,” or you don’. 100% praise biden, the dude throws fits tard screeching how you’re a “trumper” and all this shit.
Legitimately super weak. This was once my best friend like a brother almost. The dudes so incapable of anything mechanically inclined that me replacing a bolt on something of his which broke had him freaking out over how handy I was. I literally just replaced a screw essentially and the dude starts telling people I have contracting skills and will offer my services for free.
I could have looked past all the weak shit, BUT I haven’t hung out with him in years without the trashy GF being around. They’re ALWAYS together 24/7. He flat out refuses to do anything without her. No genuine bro time with the boys in years when he’s there. If we all hang and we want to do something, like vidya, or watch an anime, or hike, the guy starts b***hing saying we’re excluding his GF. All he wants to do is what she wants to do. Watch some shitty cringe TV show, sit in a circle and listen to her talk and ramble about nonsense. Then if we do that and someone pulls out their phone the dude stands up and loses it saying we’re ignoring his beautiful GF I can’t even make this shit up. This woman ruined what, despite the soi shit (which got worse when she came along mind you), was a great friend for us.
I really hope your bro gets out of that situation so you don’t lose him man.
Your friend sounds like mine except mine leans more right. Instead of a soi beard he has a closet homosexual moustache. His wife allots him dedicated friend time which is like 2 hours every 5 months. She can take trips with her friend to a different state leaving him with the kids but he'll feel bad if she is by herself any longer than the timeframe. He actually stayed at my place because she got so pissed at him for looking at porn. By porn, I mean just a picture of a naked woman.
>inb4 muh coomer porn maymay
Dude was working 2 manual labor jobs in the summer (is a teacher) to make ends meet and couldn't get the sex. No shit he's gonna goon off elsewhere.
I’m not sure if you’re the anon I replied to but either way this just seems way too common these days. I really think men are choosing a miserable situation purely because they cannot cope with loneliness. It’s almost like they know they’ll be cheated on and probably divorced but they’re okay with that if they get to either have kids or spend some of their life with a woman.
Which sounds like lunacy to me. If I date a woman and she’s unbearable or I’m not happy at least 70% of the time I just break it off, maybe if I think she’s hot enough give her some chances to see if anything can change.
And I do get it, I want a wife and kids, but I would much rather be alone than end up with some c**t who makes my life miserable and shitty. It’s like they lack basic self respect.
>"Bro. I'm not going to tell you how to conduct your love life. But there's your world with this chick and the world outside of that. I'm just telling you to tie a lifeline to that world outside of your relationship with this chick and never forget that line is there."
Failed nofap on day 12 unfortunately, but I'm taking it as an opportunity to improve upon my last attempt. Considering I was still edging and looking at porn the whole time basically I was bound to relapse but I won't soon forget the feeling of euphoria and zest for life I haven't felt in years returning after not fricking my hand for less than 2 weeks.
Although the euphoria is a double edged sword I feel, there's so much I want to do within the space of one day that I feel disappointed with how quickly the time flies. I think I'll need to approach this in a more structured manner this time around and give myself a daily agenda.
I've got a close female friend. We shared a house for a few months and during a rough patch for her we got closer, discussing shit all night every night etc. She even says I'm her type at one point and keeps asking for mine In a short time, we both become best friends. Problem was I ignored any possible romantic signs because she had just broken up with a friend. Few months later we all fell out over unrelated drama.
During the next year of no contact I reflected and ruminated a lot, realising I had developed feelings for her. She contacts me out the blue to apologise and catch up. We do and she explains her life's troubles during a period of reflection, shortly after breaking up with her recent bf. Even says the time we spent in the previous year was her happiest in recent memory (while still keeping everything in a friend tone).
Over the following months, the problem now is that I'm close friends with her again, while recognising I have strong feelings for her. It didn't hurt last year because I wasn't honest with myself about it and I thought I'd never see her again so my feelings would be safe. Now they're in turmoil cause we're friends again and lately she's started "platonically" hanging out with her ex (my friend). As a result, my mind is stuck between strong feelings that I should have acknowledged and spoken about last year (potentially reciprocated) and not wanting my friendships to blow up again. What do?
Feels kinda fricky getting over someone and then being dragged back in after I accepted feelings I thought I wouldn't have to actually act on since we weren't in contact.
>We shared a house for a few months
>I ignored any possible romantic signs because she had just broken up with a friend
>She started "platonically" hanging out with her ex (my friend)
Holy frick, are you even a real person? How much of a pussy do you have to be to live with a girl for months and you don't even try to frick her?? Now she went back to her ex and you are still attracted?!?
I'm not trying to insult you, the reality of things is that you're a pussy, beta, simp, whatever and that she used you for attention.
SHE IS NOT INTERESTED IN YOU, MOVE ON and get a reality check. Think about what you can change to become more of a man.. biologically and mentally.
It is not normal for a girl to consider you "a friend" unless you are both in a relationship. If she does, she wants your attention just to feel wanted by someone, could be you or a homeless guy. I remember a girl I knew once told me that she would always go in a certain alley just to get attention from some fricking homeless people.
This is how their instincts work, if they don't feel wanted they flip out and become bi, gay and whatever.
Again, SHE DOESN'T WANT YOU, MOVE ON AND FOCUS ON YOURSELF
Her ex is your friend.
You added that right near the end.
This indicates you have either extreme boundary issues or your use the term friend very loosely.
Can anyone who knows real estate tell if/when house prices/interest rates will go down? I had several opportunities to buy from 2019-2020 but didn't because I wanted to save a fat down payment. Now, after the stocks I had dipped, I'm sitting here with my thumb up my ass in a lukewarm "meh" feeling towards life. Career, health, sex life when I want, etc are all good but I cannot allow myself to be happy unless I have a nice house. The worst part is that I don't even want to raise a family. I just want a comfy place I can relax in after work, lift weights, and play vidya.
I say go for it. Even if you get a shitty loan, you could refinance once things get less rocky in the future. Sometimes when you refinance you can get extra and have some bonus cash to spend if you want.
I own a home. It's an old one, had bad pipes made out of clay and lead, needed repainting and etc. but it's been a good feeling to own land.
I had the chance for a 1200sqft for 160k house on a lake but it needed work like hell done on it. Like 5 years worth. I'd afford it with what little stock I have but after I'd have nothing left. Even after fixing it up my idea is to sell it then. I might say frick it in 2024 and pull the trigger. Frick retirement and a family IG.
>if/when house prices/interest rates will go down
the minute you leave the city limits? Why not get a wfh and live outside the city?
I have a feeling they will cut rates decently by the end of next year. There's no way they can continue servicing the massive debt at these rates and half the debt will be reissued by the end of next year. They are addicted to low rates and QE, it's the only way to keep the debt pozi going
Just a Mineral water with lime.
Had a great dinner and drinks with a date last night. I messaged her the next day that I liked her and interested in a second date. It's out of my hands and now up to the Gods.
I'd say I'm doing fine OP. Some little things are getting better for now.
I live in the country side with bad internet and fiber will arrive finally, I'll be able to play online and stream. I try to do some black work and recently had 2 customers. I had a little flop because they didn't want to renew the experience but at least I did this. I see this as experience, and the more I'll practice the more it will goes well, I stay optimistic.
As I said it's only the little things. I still don't have a woman, a serious work and my big project, owning a yard in the country side, is far from being done, but the daily life is starting becoming more agreeable. I hope those bigger things will turn on at a moment.
Hit the gym regularly makes me feel better too. I started socializing slowly with some guys there.
West isn't saved yet but it'll come.
>no job
>no money
>no life
>nothing
I've already prayed to God to change my life around, I'm giving it till Dec 31st 11:59 and then i'm done.
>killing himself one minute before the year of the dragon
Imagine
What have you tried?
Have you tried joining a church that gets together and talks after the service? Try it, no need to lie about what you believe, tell them you don't believe in God if you don't believe.
You need to connect to others to enable your potential futures. Whether you live or die, there are infinite futures awaiting you.
Trust your feelings. Stop listening to those who don't want to elevate you.
That's plenty of time to know. Going to church and asking some dipshit kid for advice won't change it either. I'm in the same boat and didn't even ask God to help me out of it. What will happen will happen. Some of us are losers and suns of us are winners and I don't think any of us are on the winning side. Hopefully God comes around for you in the meantime.
Anon, I'm going to reddit space because this is long but I hope it will help you and anyone else.
11/5/22 kicked off for me what would be the darkest period of my life. Long term relationship of 6 years ended, no house so lived with parents, lost most of my social group, "prestigious" yet low-paying job. I have spent the last year digging myself out of the deepest depression I've ever felt. Yes I was suicidal for much of it.
In May i took a brief trip to a place i love and at a farmers market saw a woman giving tarot readings. I thought, why the hell not? She was extremely accurate about my whole situation, career stuff, etc., and told me that I could do anything I wanted, that I had manifestation energy all around me. I thanked her and went on my way.
Later i stumbled upon a masterclass by Vishen Lakhiani that I watched out sheer desperation and it really clicked something in me. I had to get my mind right and stop feeling so sorry for myself. Yes I was still very very very sad and suicidal but this was the start. I started reading a lot of books:
>The Code For Extraordinary Life
>Project 369
>Breaking The Habit Of Being Yourself
and listening to others in audiobook format on YouTube, like lectures by Neville Goddard and Florence Scovel Shinn.
I know it sounds fake and gay, but now:
>I own a house that I have fixed up nice and can rent or sell in the future for income
>I picked up an old career I had set aside and though it's been hard work getting back into it, my income is starting to double
>relationships from the past rekindled
>legitimately in the best shape of my life, visible abs even
I'm still a sad sack of shit who doesn't have a lot of friends but I'm working on it.
>tl;dr journaling and meditation and visualization actually work
Here's one of my favorite ones. Give it a listen.
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Nta but I'm fricking up manifestation. I start dreading the mechanics of manifesting something or doubting the process. For example, let's say I wanna manifest someone back in my life again. I'm afraid said person will only come back to hurt me or that I'm basically infringing on their free will thorugh manifestation. That's not even going into the most absurd things which people claim you can manifest. Like, there are people who insist you can retroactively change your eye color and things like that. Wouldn't that butterfly effect your whole life? Maybe you never met your gf because a couple years before some other woman liked your ocean blue eyes and you ended up dating.
Anyway, any tips/advice?
There's a lot of crazy hacks on YouTube who say shit like changing your eye color. They're doing it for ad revenue.
Listen to that link i posted to get a better idea of things. It's about changing how you see the world and things will fall into place. Think from a place of "I already have it" rather than "I want it".
Work is going really well. It’s been going really well for a while and they are phasing me into managing projects.
Personal life is mediocre. I have no hobbies and only leave home to get groceries and go to the gym.
Started Boardwalk Empire and like it. Really liked Sopranos.
I already know I'm an butthole, so I'll keep it short.
I seriously dated someone last May until July, even though I already have/had a fiancée.
My fiancée and I got married last August, but the woman I dated doesn't know about it. Lately I've been receiving texts and a couple of calls from her, asking about what happened.
So, yeah, do I come clean and give her closure? Or do I keep on pretending she and I never happened?
Well would you want closure if you were in her shoes?
If you keep ignoring it it might blow up in your face later, assuming you live in the same city. A simple text could fix that.
Here's the thing, she looks like picrel but dirtier (left shoulder tattoo, tramp stamp, nose piercing, smoking, fake lashes etc).
I only went out with her because she's different from the kind of women I normally get involved with.
I wasn't expecting her to text and call after not speaking to her again in almost 3 months. I thought she was used to this sort of thing.
Thank you anon. I really wasn't expecting her to be clingy, since she's not the "good girl", church going type.
Then she clearly has feelings for you. Appearences can deceive, if I was in your shoes I'd just text her that it's over, so she can move on. Maybe I'm just an old boomer, but ghosting sucks.
>just looking for permission to pussy out
kek sounds about right
Honestly who cares what she wants. You got what you want out of her, she needs to grow up and move on. Cut her off and focus on your relationship. The only reason I'd say to do anything about it is if it threatens your current relationship, but the more you interact the worst it's going to get. Ignore the anon that says to tell the truth, she's just a prostitute, not worth fricking your current relationship up for.
Tell the girl you got married. Please don't ghost her. She will wonder what she did wrong forever.
Its over.
60 years from now, when I'm still old, alone, garbage, I'll regret not having killed myself instead of making this post.
If you still breath it's not over, why are you so afraid to try harder?
>60 years from now
Another fricking doomer zoomer
some rakia shots please
>next saturday going to gfs house
>formal introduction to parents to declare 'intent'
>been together 5 years
>will basically be proto-engaged
>she's down for a prenup or just to have a ceremonial wedding without the BS paperwork because we're too cheap for divorce lawyer shenanigans
>parents like each other
>might need to go to africa to buy goats and cattle for dowry though
>both U.S citizens by the way, just children of immigrants
Never in my fricking life thought I'd be here.
It's looking fricked
In the last year two of my friends died. One was my roommate, known him since HS. He was walking home and got hit by a car. The other went and shot himself, almost a year to the day when my first friend died, that was last month. My gf and I had a talk tonight and we're discussing splitting up. I just yesterday got prescribed SSRIs to control my panic attacks and OCD symptoms. I'm really quite drunk at the moment, I drank a 6 pack and a lot of homebrew wine. I quit booze back in June but this has put me over the edge. I guess with this post I'm just screaming into the void. My animal instincts tell me that I should strip nude, run into the woods, fight God and let him kill me. The other part knows I need to sit right here, go back to work tomorrow and keep going.
>prescribed SSRIs to control my panic attacks
You're still young, anon. Things will get better.
Just embrace the struggle, it'll make you stronger and more resilient.
I'm 23 yo. My whole life has been like this. My father left when I was a baby. Had an abusive stepdad that ruined my psyche for 8 years, got ruthlessly bullied all throughout school. I never had anyone to show me how to stand up for myself so I'm just a gigantic moron.
I don't want to see myself as the victim, I just want to be myself and not have to worry about it. But every single moment of my young life has been marred with some kind of abuse or trauma. It feels like such a fricking shame because I actively strive to see the beauty and purpose in the world, I try to get meaning and joy out of every little interaction I have. I love people and hope the best for them, I unironically love you anons. I'm drunk so I'm just talking out of my ass, but I had already been considering ending it, and I'm scared of what the drugs will do to me. Just in case I just want to say, MJM and BCT you're my best friends and you made this life tolerable, if anything happens, I'm most sorry to you two.
Don’t permanently solve temporary problems. You’ve already identified much of the things that trouble you. Now you just need to make slow and steady progress to recover from those traumas. You can.
I thank you anon, because I'm not going to do it tonight. I still have faith in myself and circumstance. Maybe this is all just a test from God, maybe the man that comes out on the other side will be something new. I still wish I had what it took, what it takes to change this planet, I don't want anyone to feel this way. Maybe all of this is a cry for help and I was never going to do it in the first place, I cannot tell the difference at this point. My farts smell bad. I can't stop imagining what it's like to just cease, to not be, ultimate freedom from this flesh hell. I wake up every day and find myself in it, in the depths of flesh hell, I feel no attachment to this awful earth where we kill and rape and justify. I think my mother and siblings are why I stick around.
she sent me a selfie of her and her new crusty-nosed boy toy
I’m going through an intense post-breakup experience and I vacillate between being totally crushed and also feeling really fortunate that the relationship happened and I am learning from it.
I am this anon
A huge part of my depression is my age, late 30s. I thought I had my life figured out.... when my ex broke up with me, it also affected my job bc I no longer lived in that city. So in one fell swoop I lost a career potential and a life partner. At 37. It seems hopeless right now but it's not. Get in good shape and who cares about your age. I did have to make peace with the fact that I won't have kids which was a hard pill to swallow.
>you can still-
No, I will not. My parents had me at an old age and it's not good. I won't do that to a kid.
>My parents had me at an old age and it's not good
In which ways it wasn't good?
>t. Fellow boomer parents haver.
I'm the youngest surprise baby, so while my siblings all got to go move far away and live dream lives, i kind of got stuck staying close by to be there for them. When my oldest sibling was my age, parents were young and he didn't have to worry about them. The fact that they're in their 70s and have no other family colors every decision I make.
You're a good man to take care of your parents while your siblings moved away. I remember when I was a kid, my mom was the only one willing to take care of my grandpa while my aunts and uncles were doing their own thing. I was always proud of her for that.
I want family and kids. I am 36. We were planning already as soon as we got married and moved.
i live as healthy as i can and judging by how early 20s girls look at me i feel like im gmi
>36
I think the girl I like might be a lesbian, what do I do?
Ask "are you gay?"
If she's in any way interested she'll say no, and ask you if you're gay and why you asked. Just say you overheard her say 'my girlfriend' one time.
Tell her chinchillas rock.
lesbians arent real. they are traumatized by men usually raped or molested, they dont frick other women much at all, like, your just rubbing two donuts anyway.
Fiancée and I broke up yesterday, dated 5 years.
Sorry but you can get through it
Thanks anon.
I am 36 and idk.
I'm completely depressed
Have left the house like twice in the past month just for food. Have lost all motivation to do anything
I bought two 25lb plates for home gym, it cost the same as a gym membership fee for a month. I think I'm going to need to buy a cage but not sure if I can afford it. Things are dark.
my son made his barbells out of concrete and pvc pipe, works well
I love my girlfriend, but she's gotten more and more unstable recently. She screams at me, hits me, bites me and starts shaking uncontrollably whenever something goes mildly wrong. I know I have to leave her because I can't take it anymore, I'm just sad because it'll be the end of our relationship.
write down all the things you hate about her because I broke up with my gf and all I remember now is how much she loved me
Have you talked to her about it?
gonna greentext because it's a long story otherwise
>had to move into an apartment with co-worker
>"it'll be fine providing she can communicate"
>it is not fine.
>despite that there is some good times, eventually roommate tells me about her best friend
>holy fricking shit this girl is gorgeous
>walk into apartment with them on phone together
>holy shit this girl is funny
>holy shit this girl messaged me
>finally met her at a party in the apartment
>fricked her that night, went poorly
>I lost confidence since I knew anything that happened would immediately get reported to my roommate, and also she was in the other room
>was so bad we both agree it was the worst sex of our lives
>but we keep texting somehow
>roommate nuked her friendship with her as a result for some insane reason
>asked her out for drinks, propositioned her for sex twice, all polite declines, but for some ungodly reason she keeps texting me really engaged with the conversations
i'm just looking to complain anons, it's frustrating that I've been denied hanging out with someone I had a lot of chemistry with on account of my roommate being insane, but I also know that if the sex was better maybe I might of had a chance of making that happen on my own. She was the first time I didn't pay for sex which sucks too about this whole thing.
>gets worst sex ever
>keeps texting
>seemingly has resulted in the end of her friendship
>keeps texting
>has been asked out, and propositioned, and declines
>but keeps texting
I am fricking bewildered.
I’m not capable of loving or trusting women anymore after getting my heart broken two years ago
I just got back from living and working in another country for three months and got so much genuine female attention there. But I was too chickenshit to make up my mind about one and pursue her as passionately as I used to with girls in the past
I’m at a loss completely. I wish I felt even an iota of what I used to feel for a beautiful, cultured woman laughing and smiling at me across the table and didn’t just resent every single one that came into my life
You can only see other people through yourself homie. Don't let what is inside of you negatively affect the outside. Most importantly is to not hold onto painful things for so long .If it hurts your supposed to let it go, not squeeze harder.
sorry, bro.
I never had that problem because I just viewed women as something fun to put my dick.
Ended up falling in love with my future wife - we've been married for 10 years.
I guess all I can say is try to find a good one, and then you won't be so jaded.
>hooker
you are 100% going to get herpes, hepatitis, and/or some other life-destroying disease.
Ohio was fantastic from an economic standpoint. Cheap houses, good schools, lots of high-paying engineering and other industrial jobs.
I do not miss the winters.
>Same b***h I posted about a couple weeks ago who randomly texted me
I was lucky enough to never have awkward post-breakup communications. The only text I've ever gotten from exes were shit like "hey, my brother is trying to get internships - know any good places" or "my dad wanted to know if you still had that parts car - he says he needs a new block."
>NC or Oregon
Western NC is super, super nice - but has gotten really expensive.
Most of Oregon is too damn rainy.
TN is still god-tier, but getting expensive/crowded.
>Ohio was fantastic from an economic standpoint. Cheap houses, good schools, lots of high-paying engineering and other industrial jobs.
why do so many of you ohio people try to move to georgia? i see your plates everywhere during the few times i cant avoid going to the atlanta area. its always either minnesota, ohio, new york, or wisconsin plates in that area. its fitting for a place that rural georgians dont even consider to be part of georgia.
Not him but I am currently in Ohio and things are not looking good for the future of the state. My biggest concern now would but if I were to raise children in this state and getting them a good education.
>My biggest concern now would be if I were to raise children in this state and getting them a good education
Just accept that no matter where you go, all public education has been subverted by marxists and alphabet soup. Either be such a strong influence on your kids that you can shake off the marxist programming, or look to homeschooling or even shell out for private school.
Something has to do.
For me it would be a slow buildup but I think eventually I can see myself with pigs, chickens, and maybe a garden or a little plot with some veggies or other crops
The idea is that I would unfortunately still need to go into the city to work but in return I can reduce a lot of the costs on somethings
I could see myself with chickens, maybe ducks, goats. I honestly don’t believe I have it in me to slaughter a mammal I raised though. Chickens I can do I’ve done it before. My plan would be to get a chest freezer, hunt the bag limit on deer and harvest all the meat I could organs included, do a ton of fishing for food too. Preferably, I’d have a huge stocked pond where the fish reproduce and maintain numbers on their own so half the week I could eat fish, the other half chicken and deer.
I don’t eat pork (not a israelite or a muslim, I just like pigs), but goat tastes great. I think if I could man up about I could raise myself the occasional goat to eat
>why do so many of you ohio people try to move to georgia?
No idea. I moved to follow work - I work in Nuclear Power. I ended up in GA for 4 months to help finish up the new reactors in Vogtle. I'm semi-retired now, so fully remote consulting shit - spend my time in MS, LA, TX, with about 6 months just driving around in an RV.
>care and empathy towards crafting a response.
eh, a lot of people find IST when they're going through some shit. I know what it's like to not have anyone to really talk to outside of the internet.
> can't talk to parents, they're old and don't want to worry them
> can't talk to wife, or rather don't want to dump my stress onto her
> don't want to bother friends with my drama, they have their own shit
this is a pretty good place, really, and getting IST is a great way to just feel better about stuff - it's something you can control, work towards, improve
Now that I'm an 'old guy' - 35 - I just see people going through rough shit, but I'm old enough to know that you can always get past it.
Appreciate your effortposting, anon. Even if the replies weren't directed at mine I admire your care and empathy towards crafting a response.
You need to read "the subtle art of not giving a #@%!" as your problem is you are giving away too many fricks to people that have hurt you.
Also, try some lion's mane mushroom.
I am a fat 38 year old alcoholic.I just decided to clean up my act. From now on: only beer.
I'm not feeling well, honestly. Not physically ill, but a sort of regretful sense. I left my former job to try my hand at sales and I hate it. The product, the company, and the people are cool, I just hate chasing a quota every month. I've tried and tried but still can't seem to get any traction. I want to move into project management but no one is interested in me. I even paid for a new resume to be professionally done, no luck though.
I'm particularly unhappy because it's the kind of fate I was trying to avoid: being stuck in something I despise with no glimmer of hope on the horizon. Working out is one of the few things from which I derive joy, even that is losing its luster.
>"I deal with anxiety and depression and mental illness too, we all do"
>"It's something I talk to my husband, friends, coworkers, large family, and active social circle with"
>talk to friend about old school friend group
>recount stories of one guy in particular who was a huge c**t most of the time
>"yeah but dude he confessed to me that he had like big self image issues and was super insecure"
>meanwhile this guy had like 3 different gfs by age 20
>one guy in particular who was a huge c**t most of the time
the most popular chad in my school had a tiny penis. I saw it by accident when he was getting out of the bath, and his ex girl said mine was much bigger. Its a 99th percentile penis but only one woman has ever seen it in full flight.
same here. most popular guy famously had a micropenis, everyone knew even the teachers joked about it. but his dad employed 90% of the population in the region and basically 100% of all families from the school. every single girl was fighting to jump on his kidney bean. even to this day
i need motivation to stop gambling too much money and getting a different fricking hobby instead of gambling
Go to a pawn shop or even Guitar Center, etc and get a musical instrument. Devote time every day to practicing. Even if you have absolutely no musical talent, it will be a new hobby and you may find great joy in it.
Start warhammer bro
I think I fricked up, a girl friend I was supposed to go out with on monday told me she can't because her mom needed her help with something in their business, I told her maybe another time and then in the morning asked her around what time would she be free that day (in hopes that we could go out in the evening, we were supposed to go out in the morning) but now I feel like a desperate tard. Thanks for reading my blog
You could've offered to help out too if you're really into her, but right now I think it's best to give her space and ask if it all worked out on her end later. Showing concern for their problems goes a long way, even of they don't believe it's 100% honest.
>go on date with girl
>have a great time, she's hot, we stay out later than planned
>she texts me when she got home
>keep talking
>any time she has a glass of wine she arranges to meet up again
>next day she cancels because 'her dog is too sick'
Her dog is sick but this has happened twice in a row now. She'll have a drink because its Friday night or something, we'll arrange to go out and then she'll wake up the next day and cancel because of her dog, supposedly. I have no idea what is going on.
It could be a genuine coincidence, or she's just not that into you and just using you. I've gone through this with someone as well. She would hit me up while intoxicated wanting to meet up, but I could never get her to go on a date with me sober.
Ask her if she needs some kind of help with the dog the next time it happens. I guess you can also offer for you two to hang out where she can look after her dog, if you think she's not just making up excuses.
next time she drunk texts you ask where she is and if she wants to get another drink go to a new bar etc, presumably she's with her friends. she wants to see you when she's drunk, don't think too much about it.
literally every person I know is more or less unhappy and I am talking about these people with a house, family, healthy etc. is this it? is this all life has to offer? trying to be less misserable than the person next to you.
Most people are fat, unhealthy, don't workout, eat like shit, don't get enough sleep, and are addicted to social media and other substances. If a fat bastard tell you what kind of supplements to get at your local GNC, do you listen to him? If some BPD girl tells you what is mentally healthy do you listen to her?
It really seems that (what I’ll refer to as normie culture) is all about your image. It’s all about appearing to everyone else that you’re super happy, while actually having a shitty miserable situation.
Which is weird because.. why choose to do that when you could simply have an actually happy situation and not have to fake it lmfao. Refer to the king paragraphs above about bros with shitty women. They all talk about how happy they are and spam pics on social media where they look happy, but behind closed doors they’re miserable. It’s weirdo shit to me genuinely just goofy clown mode.
Like for fricks sake this seems like a no brainer to me
Choices are
>settle with a fat woman who probably makes you fat, drains your energy and makes you hate your life, get in deeper and deeper maybe marry her maybe have kids too late to escape now
>man up and learn to be happy alone, use all your free time and money to do things which bring you joy, value, and happiness and just maybe meet an actually good woman in the process, but if you don’t, you still will have had a fulfilling happy life much better than what most settle for
It just seems as obvious to me as drinking water when I’m thirsty instead of motor oil
NTA but I rationalized that it's important to rely on the few things that make you happy even if you aren't destined to have some things like love or wealth
At the very least I'm gonna become enlightened enough to escape the cycle of reincarnation after this run
It's good fellas. The last few years I used to come here and write vaguely suicidal tirades.
This year I finally made it. I have money, pussy, freedom, and health. Anything I could want from here is just an upgrade on something I already have.
I have to move back to the US. Where should I go?
What do you work with? Whre do you have family at?
no family in the US. Looking for zero state income taxes.
Florida, and form what I’ve heard parts of Texas you’d actually want to live, are NOT the move if you enjoy having financial comfort.
I’m looking to move out of Florida but I can’t find the right place.
I want somewhere with nice outdoors (like the tennessee, NC/SC, Georgia areas, or even parts of northern cali or Oregon). But where wages & COL make sense.
I’m considering Oregon but I absolutely hate the types of people there. Those extreme liberals. It’s not even just how the think speak and act they fricking look gross they all look like they have STDs. I would fear that if I met a woman up there with my same values, she would more than likely have friends who are in the sissy woke liberal camp of things and give her bad influences and advice. “Haha he’ll never know it’s not even cheating anyways you guys have only been dating for 18 months and it’s not right to restrict yourself that’s patriarchal thinking, you’re not a prisoner go hook up with that random guy”. Otherwise, beautiful nature and great wages for my field.
And I could deal with living in a liberal place, just not one like Portland. Inb4 just don’t move to Portland: I would still run into those extreme examples too often and just seeing them IRL would ruin my day.
>georgia
if you arent from north florida, dont come here unless you are going to atlanta. everyone in the state not from atlanta hates atlanta and the arrogant homosexuals living there who think they are better than everyone else. it is the south's version of new york city.
the cost of living in georgia outside of the atlanta area (which is generally considered to be within an hour of atlanta) is very low, but that is because the wages here are awful.
I’ve visited georgia and the surrounding states many times during my life man.
>Atlanta
Yeah I only went there once and it’s all Black folk and homosexuals and Black personhomosexuals the jokes are true.
I wasn’t gonna move to georgia I was just mentioning it as a reference for what I mean when I say “good outdoors.” Like actual forests and woods and mountains and shit.
The thing with NC or Oregon is it gives me mountains, forests, AND the ocean still. The best I got in Florida are crowded beaches covered in litter, or swamps and some nature preserves that are right next to highways (as in you see the cars because it’s quite literlaly right off the highway) unless I were going to make a 5 hour drive to one of the few good beaches or nature areas. I’d prefer to only have to drive an hour or be able to have that shit in my back yard.
The plan is buying a plot of land of minimum 10 acres.
>The plan is buying a plot of land of minimum 10 acres.
Thats my plan too, frick the goddamn cityBlack folk, I will get the land, get the biggest double wide as possible, and try to achieve some form of self sufficiency
I'm interested, tell us your story
>Thats my plan too
it really helps if you can land next to something like a woodlot or a national/state park. I have a cabin that's only on 1.5 acres, but it was carved out of 4000 acres of timberland. I'm really cool with the owners, so it's basically like I own 4000 acres. No neighbors, they let me hike there, let me cut up deadfall for firewood.
They don't let me hunt, but so much wildlife walks across my land that it doesn't matter.
I have 20 acres out in southwest Texas, but with no trees that can feel almost small (until you start to walk it.)
God I want nothing more than to be like Hickock45 and just be able to frick around with my guns on my land on my own shooting range
>just be able to frick around with my guns on my land on my own shooting range
you don't need a ton of land, just something rural where people don't b***h about gunfire.
I use suppressors, so that isn't too much of an issue. If you have good terrain, you're set. My cabin in the woods I set up a really nice walk-through range in a gully. It's extra fun with friends because you can sit in a deer stand at the back and watch them walk through it. I really want to put up active targets controlled from the stand that will pop out. It's all close-range, but still a lot of fun.
Out in TX I just shoot at a friend's place - he's got 600 mountainous acres.
>things are not looking good for the future of the state.
what's going on?
North-East Ohio (near the Perry nuke plant) seemed pretty stable.
>in a place with minimal or no major taxes like land tax state income
I paid for my land in Texas from tax savings alone in less than 2 years. (No state income tax - saved a fortune.) Kinda BS that high income tax states let you write it off on your Fed taxes, so CA or MA will get money money, the feds less, while I have to pay more to the Feds.
>story
That's why I have my rule about moving as slowly as possible - that kinda crazy can't be hidden very long. Chicks will let you frick them just to you will feel guilty, or they can try to hold it over you.
> started dating this chick
> didn't frick her
> break it off when the crazy started showing
> she yells, "you just wanted me for my pussy"
> laugh and say, "uhhh, we never had sex..."
> you could see the confusion - she had apparently tried that to guilt so many people in the past that she forgot we never fricked, somehow
Not sure it I was smart or just shy, but that process worked well for me - playing it slow.
One friend met a chick, thought he'd get a one-night-stand, she tried to trap him with the sex thing, he said no dice, she filed rape charges.
He got out of it eventually.
I luckily learned my lesson, and learned it very well from that wacko. I now know to take it slow and actually vet women. Second girl I dated wasn’t on that level, but she hid her level of crazy extremely well for the first few months. As soon as it started seeping out and I saw that’s how she was around the 4th month mark, I noped out. Started seeing many similarities (she wasn’t cut herself and blame me crazy, just like do some over the line shit and demand I apologize for having a problem with it/ insinuating she was capable of doing wrong crazy).
So in a way I’m thankful, I think it will save me ending up with the wrong woman and wasting my time. Glad I got it out the way while I was still young.
Honestly, that b***h was all the lessons I should have learned in highschool packed into one person in a limited time frame, with extra lessons no one should even have to learn at all.
> didn't frick her
> break it off when the crazy started showing
> she yells, "you just wanted me for my pussy"
> laugh and say, "uhhh, we never had sex..."
> you could see the confusion
Kek very similar story to mine. She was incredibly mad that I was the only guy she was trying to manipulate that hadnt gotten handsy. She needed them to only want one thing, it's how she justifies treating people so badly, so when I wouldn't, but she badly needed me to, it was very frustrating for her.
>JUST LEAN IN ONE TIME SO I CAN JUSTIFY ABUSING YOU, YOU FRICKING PRICK
I’m the guy that anon replied to and similar here, she got mad I was the only guy she was trying to frick/manipulate who didn’t question or comment on her scars. Can we just appreciate how insane that is, and telling of why many women self harm in the first place?
Not all obviously, some self harm and hide by doing it on legs where it’ll rarely be seen. But those forearm skin deep surface cuts, that shits usually for attention.
I’m glad we share the same plan with buying land. I want to get self sufficient enough, in a place with minimal or no major taxes like land tax state income etc (there’s a few) and then retire young. MAYBE start a business grow it then take a massive cut to just pay some shmuck a decent wage to manage it for me so I can mostly focus on working on my land. Raise animals, some crops, build a pond and stick it with game fish for fun, get a wife and full her with kids, homeschool them raise them with the good values I want and little influences of that city bullshit I abhor so much…
>story
I’ll just rattle off a list rather than write out paragraphs
>first time we fricked she lays her forearm on chest and points to one scar at a time and goes “this one’s from… and this one’s from when my dad left… and this is from so and so.. and this one’s from this guy… and this. . . .”
>threatened suicide, constantly. Casually told me week into dating she was gonna off herself that day until she met me (I believed it and still do worry she will do it)
>suicide threats aimed to control so elaborate I didn’t even know about some and found out she told my friends she was gonna do it, after she b***hed at me that my friends had police do a welfare check on her at her job lmao
>once took her to small beach party with my friends, she disappeared, we frantically search, she comes back with a cop to shut it down
>after a year of not hanging with friends finally hung with my friends again, wasn’t texting her 24/7, so she cut herself sent me a video of her arm and tried to convince me I did it to her
>tons of emotional and mental abuse/manipulation
>on my birthday she slapped me, punched me in the nuts, then hit me in the face because her mother annoyed her
>once tried to blatantly flirt with a friend of mine in front of me, calmly called her out so she started crying to avoid blame and make me look like I was mean to her
Cntd
>most likely sent nudes to other people/cheated on me no proof but I’m sure she did no reason to believe this creature was loyal LMFAO
>made me believe I had a small dick (i do not, not slangin kielbasa or anything but turns out I’m above average in length & girth now that I’ve measured, sex with the girl I dated last year also confined it I was hitting cervix and causing her too much pain at first)
>would call me fat, when years before meeting her I lost over 100lbs and was genuinely lean for once in my life. Was always the fat kid growing up yet it hurt way worse coming form the girl I was dating to hear that especially after I had lost the fricking weight
>would tell all mutual friends and anyone I knew I was abusing her
>TN getting crowded and expensive
I know, it’s a damn shame. NC won’t work although I love it, my field is paid pretty low there.
I’m fine with rain I like it, but not constant rain. Rains a lot here but we get sunshine about half the year at minimum.
Sounds nice bro. Hoping to get myself a nice chunk, 10-20 acres would suffice for me. I think 50 is the most I could manage depending cheat it takes to upkeep if anything at all
Christ, all BPDs are exactly the same.
>BPD mom
>grew up being told I'm selfish and bad
>spend my whole young adult life trying to prove this wrong, by being a doormat for anybody who'd tell me I was good and kind
>get involved with abusive BPD women because that kind of treatment is what I thought love was
>move abroad, meet and get married to a really thoroughly good woman who is patient with me when I lose my shit
>wants me to get therapy though, because she wants me to be able to leave all this behind and be happy
>I don't get therapy but I do start reading a lot of books
>after a year, realise that not only is my mom BPD but the bad women in my life, and some of my friends as an adult were too
>I'd always attract these fixer upper friends who were moody and conditional with me, again, thought that's what love was
>immediately phase all the bad people out of my life
>let my mom know im going through some things, and that right now it just helps me not to be around anyone I knew growing up, so I won't be around
>2 months pass
>mom sends me an abusive as frick email about how my pain is fake, she's been crying night and day since I told her, that she kept every gift I ever sent home to her but how they just feel worthless now
>no empathy, no pathway back to normal, just lashing out and didn't even sign off or even finish the thought
I keep drafting replies that take me 3 hours before realising its not worth it.
I am convinced that she is the way she is because of her upbringing, her family have always been horrible to her. But I just can't bring myself to try and work through this with her. I just want it to be over and if I just leave her email hanging that'll be the end of it.
Pretty similar man.
>moved and met a worthwhile woman who’s understanding and patient and genuinely wants the best for you, pushes you to better yourself
Dude I’m happy for you. Where did you move that you found her? I’m bordering between moving somewhere rural US or just moving to a new country entirely. Somewhere that people are still normal where I could raise a family and not worry about what influences they’d have from society. The way I see it is only like 20% (being generous, more like 10%) of women in the US are worthwhile still.
I actually met her in my own country and we moved to hers, Italy. Been together 13 years, 10 years married this week. Thanks very much bro, im so long out of the dating game that I can't imagine how bad it must be, but I think a lot of how bad it is, is a product of quick iterations.
Early on in our relationship I thought we might not be right for each other for reasons that quickly turned out to be really shallow (didn't like each others hobbies, some things she said to sound cool were hurtful, I was too quick to take anything as impending rejection).
Maybe these days people just don't see it through, and so they don't realise what they could have together, because there are 20 other potentials in each of their inboxes? Idk, 35 year old boomer musings. Thanks again bro
I'll have a whey doppio with a side of deca, thanks.
Last week I was really rude to a supplement store owner that was trying to help me just because I thought I was a know it all and felt offended someone said I was wrong about something. Turned out I had been wrong, and even if I hadn't been it'd still.make me a complete butthole.
Last thread I mentioned it had been bothering me and that I wanted to apologize the next time I would be around his store, i. e. today. Well, I did end up going there, trying (and fumbling it all the way) to apologize for what I did. He accepted my apologies and I even offered a peace offering of sorts by buying stuff from him and he threw a bone back by giving me a discount.
I think it went well enough, but to be honest the whole thing is still bothering me. I'll keep working on keeping my ego in check like anons recommended, but I fear this will still happen again in the future a few times before I finally fix this character flaw. I hope I'm wrong and this was the last time, though.
Good job for apologizing
Don't be an autist
and don't sweat the little things
>Don't be an autist
I was diagnosed 3 times by separate people with the 'tism
I could post about my sad situation, but it would just go unnoticed and lost amongst all the other sad posts… like tears… in rain.
I'll read it, anon.
im finally content bros
i frequented these threads for two years, as I was an extroverted expat who was struggling with making genuine connections
2 fricking years I was dealing with lack of social life
now I have friends from higshcool and college in my country, we hang out all the time, and they are girls so they have girls with them as well
I'm finally feeling OK again, now that I get to see and do shit. I havent been in these threads for weeks now, and I just wanted to drop by and say I hope everything goes well for you lads. it will. stay strong!
>Do internship in cooperation with school because it is part of the curriculum
>Do assignments
>Put in more effort than other students
>People at my internship are happy with my rapport and advice
>Still get a 3/10 score because I didn't do what the teachers wanted
Wtf is the point of combing school with internship. I have a friend who litterly filled his entire rapport with complete lies and he got a fricking 8/10. This homosexual litterly copied all the fricking models straight from the book and only changed the names of some things. One of the tasks required a model based on data and that homosexual litterly used a Random Number Generator for it, while I had to put in extra effort into gathering real data.
Why the frick do schools exist? What is the point of being honest at school when can just cheat and get really nice scores?
Thanks for listening to my ramblings, also female teachers can't teach anything about business and industry.
Teachers just skim your shit because they dont give s frick. Chalk it up to underpay/overwork and boredom from looking at basically the exact same assignment/essay 100s of times.
IST is the only vice I allow myself to have because it’s my only social interaction
It's been a while since I looked at a picture of my ex and when I did I felt like I was seeing her more objectively and noticed she's fatter and uglier than I realized.
I hit a new max on incline bench, and even did several sets with the new weight. I guess my block was mostly just mental, but I could say that for a lot of things.
Then some white trash fricking methhead keyed my car, so that sucked. At least it didn't get broken into like a lot of others at my apartment.
I'd like to thank the anon who gave me advice last week on getting my cat to come home.
She got outside and got startled and took off.
Beside myself with worry all week, because its been freezing, raining the whole time.
I changed my bedding and put the old sheets out, and my stank drew her home tonight, and I got her to come inside again with some food.
If I wasn't such a tough guy, I'd be crying.
For the first time in a long while, I actually feel like things are going to be ok
My cat is my best friend. I've had her almost 16 years. She's known every dog I've ever had and loved and mourned and now it's just the two of us left. I'd be an absolute wreck if she disappeared. Glad your kitty came home.
Tell me if i am being a schizo right now, but i feel like most of my problems could be fixed if i were just a few years younger. I think i have a plan for my foreseeable future, i just need more time. I am almost 30, but most people think i am in my early 20's. I am thinking about pretending to be 22. Obviously it won't work with people i already know, but i am considering moving away anyway next summer. I know it sounds stupid to care so much about a few years of age, but i wasted so many years being a neet and now i finally have my shit together.
Pretending to be younger than you are is "ok" if you keep it internal.
Don't lie to people, just continue looking young and looking after yourself and nobody will really ask questions.
In the meantime, have a plan to catch up with where you think you should be at 29.
But don't lie, because if you get caught out there's no reason good enough to not make you look pathetic
>t. Pass for 28 at 35 because good hairline, take care of my skin and gym, nearly caught up to where i think i should be, career wise
Agreed. I am 37 but very often get mistaken for 25 or even younger. I'm in the process of changing/expanding careers and while I'm not necessarily going to lie to people about my age, I'm not going to go out of my way to correct them either
>how?
Been lifting and eating right for 20 years. Minimal alcohol, occasional cigarette, but generally straight edge. Exfoliate, hyaluronic acid.
hooker send me photo of her butthole. i would like to stick my tongue in a girls butthole.
100€
the butthole looks really tasty. but god knows how many stds i get. on the other hand all women i have been with were anti anal.
shall i do it bros?
My FwB is strongly implying she's going to break things off since I'm not willing to take it to another level. I should be happy, she's MILF with kids, but I'm going to miss those blowjobs
Losing a FWB is fricking painful.
Just start looking for another one at the start of next year.
It was a pretty sweet deal, I got to bang her twice a week while I had enough time to pursue Tinder girls. I can still try to salvage the relationship, but I genuinely like her don't really want to lead her on
Chances are she'll cave in when she sees you're going to be able to walk away.
She's mad for the anon penis, she'll compromise.
Seriously though, what more does she want that you won't give her? Does she want to be married? Have you take on her kids? Seems like she's already at the endgame, risking what she has with you seems pretty daft.
I've been dating/banging her for around 6 months now. Initiially she's told me she knows it's just sex but eventually she fell for me. I like her, I like seeing her, but I'm not starting a serious relationship with a divorced single mother few years older than me. Yeah, I'm giving her a good dicking and it's a pretty strong motivator to keep things where they're at
>new gf
>together for a few months
>after each argument realise I like her less each time
It's over inane shit and I thought the first 4 months are meant to be the best. Is it all downhill from here?
Should I simply go to a legal brothel to shed my overdue v-card as I approach 30? I can't really stomach people in my area and don't think the dating game is guaranteeing anything.
>is
"is not" I mean
>exercise every day
>stop vidya
>stop fapping
>stop drinking
>still depressed as frick
Yesterday I took 7g of shrroms and 2 10mg w33d edibles, I got so fricked up I couldnt even see and I literally lost track of what life even was
I had to cocoon up in a blanket and just stare at the wall, but I couldnt even tell where it started and ended cuz everything kept moving, growing and returning into itself
> Went to a MMA fight the other night
> guest of the state boxing commissioner, so VIP ringside seating
> figure I'd dress up a little, being ringside and all
> was seated with a few other fighters (I used to fight)
> ring girls sit with us, chat them up a bit
> ring girl squeezes my arm with a flirty smile
> she looks a little disappointed after said squeeze 🙁
It's not fair, I'm well over 1/2/3/4 - but at 6'4" all the muscle on my arm is just spread out.
In unrelated news, I'm now starting with arms accessories every time I lift.
Feel with me, boys.
>that story
my testosterone levels are not enough to feel with you homosexual
kek
>she looks a little disappointed after said squeeze 🙁
arm isolations are a must for a long-limbed dude, my dude.
> injecting muscle enhancement oil
> not injecting actual muscle enhancement oil (roids)
clearly was never going to make it.
Unexpectedly I am glad that this guy got his shit together and saved his arms/life.
>my trip to Japan was a month ago, things didn't go as expected but I had a great time despite the setbacks, and what were those? An awful cold and language barriers
>been really trying to control my spending with credit, I just try to limit it to anime figures only
>have not had a drink since being in Japan, honestly not even interested in drinking right now, I love beer and wine but I feel that it drains so much energy from you. Especially if you're hung over. I've took medication to recover from the japanese cold so once that's done I'll go back to having a few drinks on weekends or every other one.
>but I feel like my gains would get affected since I do feel like the reducing drinking has done wonders for me.
So yeah, just get me a coffee boss
Also I have some renewed hope about getting my own piece of land
>BPD prostitute ex is on the pipeline to become a stripper
Lmfao.
Same b***h I posted about a couple weeks ago who randomly texted me saying she blames me for her life being shitty and accused me of doing all the shit she used to do to me. She unblocked me on Instagram after I blocked her number and the account showed up in recommended so I looked at her profile before blocking her. She’s dressing in lingerie and doing erotic twerk dance lessons at some fake fitness dance gym thing for prostitutes and gay dudes, posting it online. Same lingerie she used to wear when I fricked her actually lmfao. I find it to be fricking gold just genuinely hilarious the whole absurdity that I spent years feeling like a depressed wreck because it ended, that I wasted so much time and energy on THIS thing. I cannot believe how immature and naive I was to date this but looking back it was all so obvious and I was delusional. And yet seeing this, I can’t help but laugh at myself. I won’t lie I would rather see her doing better but it’s not really any skin off my back either
Unfortunately apparently she moved back to my immediate area. I hope I never run into her. Some anon asked me if she knew where I lived and I said it didn’t matter if she remembers but that’s because I thought she lived over 3 hours away. Now it may be an issue. I honestly worry what would happen if I saw her IRL
Get a restraining order or at least the form to get one on hand
This b***h sounds dangerous, and not in the fun kind of way
Oh it was tons of fun for the first few months. But that’s easily outweighed by all the bullshit I endured during, and for the year after.
Yeah dude she’s fricking nuts. I’m sick and tired of it and don’t feel like spending more energy on this, re telling some of the stories I posted this month in the previous thread when she texted, but I could tell you some genuinely deranged and fricked up stories.
I don't drink.
whatever, just dont be a homosexual puritan about it
I'm doing bad frens. I don't think I'm going to make it. Life hasn't been kind to me and I cannot cope with the trauma. My dad used to fly into a rage and trash the house. My mom was emotionally abusive and drank too much. She got me drunk for my first time in middle school. After highschool I got a TBI and my mom ended up taking advantage of my brain injury to trap me around her. She lied about it and told people I made it up and tried to use the symptoms of it to get me a bogus mental health diagnosis. I was able to find a doctor who would listen to me and protected me from her using any of the involuntary treatment laws against me, found me to not have a severe mental illness and diagnosed the brain injury again. My mom stole so many years of my life during this you wouldn't even believe me if I told you. I've now relapsed into addiction and depression. I want to die but I don't even have the motivation for it, plus I'm too much of a coward to actually kill myself.
Yo dawg, I'm not gonna have anything to say that can magic it all away, but if you're out and away from them you're on your own new path.
>what do you do for a living?
I work in local government, particularly with DMV stuff, Business licensure, and unfortunately taxes
Just so you know I dont hate any of you anons despite knowing full well that I may as well be a mortal enemy for some too
I just wish it was easy to have a private sector job with this much stability, benefits, and constant raises
I'd be great if you'd guys get out of your comfort zones and actually use your insider knowledge to foster a gov't culture that isn't libshit poison. That's why, I, at least, detest government workers.
There's not much I could do but I can wink and nudge every now and then but I still have to play office politics.
>I'm divorced, no kids, and live alone in my apartment.
There's your problem
Do you pay any alimony? If not then relocate to a cheaper CoL area (as much as I hate you frickers I can accept that there is a great advantage to this) and start renting out your apartment if you own it
>I can wink and nudge every now and then but I still have to play office politics.
That's something at least. Good on you.
>I still have to play office politics
I envy people who can do this. Worked defense contracting with gov't employees and games you play with them torn my brain in half.
get into the mentality of pic related, it helps.
And do you want to know something crazy? I am only one of two rank and file guys in my department and most people on my floor are women
And here's pic related
women truly are moronic, and they are the most cute when moronic
I'm almost 40. I've got a remote white collar job and I've been going to the gym 5 days a week for 4 months now. I'm divorced, no kids, and live alone in my apartment.
I can't seem to feel joy in life and I think about suicide every day. I don't know what to do anymore bros.
>women with measurements
Yeah it’s crazy dude. That b***h thought I was 3” (actual 7” no cope measuring). She also thought I was 6’5” and I’m 6’2” lol. Next Gf thought I had a 10” dick she was either flattering me or on the opposite of that measurement issue. The way she was during sex I’d say she was genuine though
>maintaining land, goats
I’m definitely going to have to do much more research. This would be like 5-8 years down the line for me.
And that’s a problem for me with the goats. I’ve done farm work and they’re too similar to dogs in the way they can show affection to us for my tastes. That’s why I don’t think I could do it if I raised it. Keep them around to help maintain, sure. But kill one of the frickers after raising it and getting used to it being around that would be the saddest meal I’d thoroughly enjoy. I’ll eat the frick outa some goat someone else slaughtered though
>what do you do
Electrician. Could make $50/hr in some states, would be making under $30 in others. I have to find the ideal place where COL is what I consider normal (rent being under $1000, a normal lower middle class house not costing half a mil, etc) and where I can make at least enough for comfort. Or preferably enough that I can get by until I have self sufficiency and have cut a lot of my costs like food and electricity down
>Electrician. Could make $50/hr in some states
look into any nuclear plants near where you'd want to live - the vast majority, obviously, are in rural areas where land is cheap. Nuke pay is glorious. That's how I was able to semi-retire at 34 and go fully remote as a consultant.
Uh…guys?
I don't even know how to HAVE sex. I'm a 29 year old kissless hugless handholdless dateless virgin. I literally don't even know where the veganal hole is and just found out a few years ago women have TWO holes around that area not including the actual anus. Like serious, another hole (urethra) near the vegana that isn't the fricking anus? It was mind-blowing to me when I did some brief research (including studying simple picture diagrams of the anatomy of a vegana) and it's still mind-blowing to me today.
I don't even understand the process of how to even GET to the sex part, like what do you even do when you two are alone - do you both stare at each other until one of you asks "is it sex time?" and invite the other to take off their clothes? Am I allowed to lick her nipples before I stick my penis in her vegana? Do you think she'd like that?
Frick that, how do you even get to THAT point and even court a woman? Do I just scan the room I'm in and look for a woman giving me a very friendly smile and ask if she's sexually attracted to me? I don't have a car or a home that I can just bring her to (I live with my grandmother who's a hoarder and my room is also a mess), I can just ask her for me to take an Uber to her place or we can meet at a cheap motel somewhere right? I've never used an Uber before, but I may have to. Do you think she could pick me up and drop me back off after? Or maybe she picks me up and I get an Uber back home after?
Also, I'm a grower 100% and my penis is like 1.5-2 inches long flaccid but around 6 inches when fully erect that's enough right? I was thinking just chewing a few Bluechew to make sure I can actually get it up because I'll probably be concerned about my hideous body the entire time I try to actually have the sex (which presumably can't be good for the psyche or the ability to maintain an erection)
I need help badly.
Look up the following
>in misdionary put legs on shoulders
>at some point put both legs together over same shoulder
>push down on her pubic mound and hike fricking, not hard but firmly
This would at least make you seem like you have some idea what you’re doing. Look up pussy anatomy.
Many informative videos on pornhub, xvideos.
Porn is evil but don’t be afraid to try shit you’ve seen.
Listen to her, pay attention to her reactions. It will take some experience to git gud
wtf are you me?
Oh and pro tip:
Cialis 5-10mg 30 mins before.
You may not get hard the first time with a new girl. I and many others have that issue.
Can you bros share with me your best reaction images? Post the image and
>mood you’re conveying when you post it
I used to have a big collection but I lost it all.
>slept like shit, gonna commit violence today
frick it here's another one, pretty much my default wtf reaction image
Last year I became really close friends with a girl I was flatting with cause he hanged together a lot after she broke up. Unfortunately though, towards the end I realised I was developing feelings and since I was denying them, I got kinda awkward around boundaries. As a result, she figured that I actually disliked her less than the close level of friend she saw me as since I was being overly conservative. I know she finds me attractive, even saying I'm her type when we spoke about those things, but I don't think she'd date me.
Fast-forward one year later and we caught up to make amends, she had messaged me and apologised for the hectic time last year. Few months later till now, I feel really bad because we're close friends again and a) she doesn't know why we truly fell out last year and b) holding feelings is depressing as frick.
I only have one week left until I move town for a few months and I don't want it following me. Should I just bite the bullet, probably kill the friendship and tell her how it really was?
cause we hanged together a lot*
This won't be nice to hear, anon, but I think it's really over by now. Whatever moment there was passed.
It's not good timing for you because you're going away, so nothing can really happen in a long term way.
I think the best thing you can do is really take the time to be ok with just being her friend and do your best to turn your attention to another girl for the months you're away.
And hey, when you get back and you're thinking more neutrally, maybe one night you two get to talking and you can let her know about what was going on with you before.
Resist the urge to think about that night going any other way. No confessions, except in the past tense as a funny anecdote to explain your weird shit behaviour.
Because it is actually over already, and even if theres a 2% chance it's not, you need to proceed as if it is.
You need to move on with your life. There are so many other people on this planet to have a oneitis, even if it doesn't feel that way right now.
Reckon I should just mention I need to clear up something and that the reason behind falling out was that at the time I realised I started liking her and so put walls up to avoid wrecking anything? And how that ended up being accidentally perceived as just not being a close friend. If I can remedy my guilt in the past tense I feel like that's less destructive to today since we're close again and I live without walls up
Tell her that bro, that way you can have a clearer mind whichever way it works out
Thanks bro. I'll just ask that I need peace of mind on something and explain the reasoning. End of the day, I reckon if we can't handle that we may not be as good friends as I thought anyways. Will report back in a feels thread in a couple of days
But then if she feels the same way you've got another issue of trying to start something long-distance. I'm no stranger to this feeling anon, you need to ask yourself are you going to be happier living with disappointment or regret? There you will find your answer
Hang with her. Have a few drinks. Be comfortable and flirt a little. Maybe have the sex. Then tell her afterwards that you actually have had a crush on her for a while. Have sex again.
I miss him so much bros
Having a couple beers and listening to some light dad music, Gordon Lightfoot and such.
Thinking about the women I've fumbled in the past, what I should of done and what I didn't do. Oh well, tomorrow is a new week. Cheers, /fit
2 years ago, I got blindsided by divorce. Literally tricked into going on a trip for my wife, got locked out and told to never return. All my things, my car, house. Everything was sold or thrown away. Massive debt was secretly incurred in my name/
I still live with my parents, dont own a vehicle, and am trying to work on getting funding for an education. at 29 years old.
My main thing is i forget how to approach and interact with women.
Im not as broken as before, im able to be happy again. I dont focus on the pain, or need someone to hear me vent. im over it. Im regaining the love for the things i used to do.
Its just been 2 years of being alone, in my room. ignoring messages on tinder or facebook because i felt too depressed.
i want to put myself out there, but i havent dated since 2014.
i literally forget how to have a conversation with women, or anyone. Evenmore, i feel like i dont know what a healthy relationship looks like.
All i want to do is retreat to my room and be invisible.
and i know this is unhealthy.
>TL;DR
I forget how to talk to women. can any kind anons share their conversations, introductions, their first steps in getting to know a woman, just general conversations of what normal man/woman conversations look like between partners. anything.
You had it rough dude. I'm sorry.
I don't have any tips because I can be pretty awkward, I can get by and put on a little act and talk to women out and about but tbh every time I do I'm fricking freaking out inside.
What I will say is, please realize that 29 is still YOUNG. Please be selfish and prioritize YOU. Do not go back into dating with the mindset of looking for a life partner right off the bat. I know you will get back into dating and find your rythm but just feel around, go out with these girls, have a good time and frick them but please do not wife up any of them until you've had a good run of a couple of years.
You're in a good spot anon, you're young and healthy and you have nothing holding you back. The world is yours man i know you'll get out of this funk just take it day by day man.
>Water, as always
Question for those that went through a body transformation (skinny fat to muscular and ripped, fat to lean and attractive, etc)
How did your college life changed after the transformation?
other humans become less dismissive of you. women don't actively avoid you and make a scene to others about avoiding you, some men will actually pay slightly more attention when you chime in. that's about it.
>Was fat in HS. Not obese or anything but definitely unattractive.
>Started lifting the summer between HS and college and got fairly fit; experienced attention for the first time.
>kept lifting and getting fitter and fitter; could essentially go into any bar/party and guarantee I wasn't leaving alone if I didn't want to.
A startling difference.
I recently had a thyroid issue; while i was still in great shape and lifting as usual,
hypothyroidism was making me bloate. Once I got it sorted out with a supplement, i lost about 25 pounds in six months and am leaner now than I was in college. And holy crap the change in people's behavior.
People are so, so much nicer in general when you're attractive. Not just like at the grocery store or whatever, but also in terms of job opportunities and other important things. It's hilarious and very blackpilling at the same time, and it's really made me realize that staying fit and lean is actually something to prioritize not just for personal health but also career-wise.
can i ask which career?
i mean, getting advantage working on customer service or even sales makes sense. If you felt difference in something more mind related like IT then that is pretty blackpilling.
Being lean and fit will make you look you have your shit together. Having your shit together will give the impression of being more competent regardless of career.
Unless you're a mall Santa I guess, then you need to look the part.
Agreed. In my case, I am a university professor and also perform as a musician on weekends / over breaks. Not open mic stuff but high-paying professional gigs. Being fit has payed off exponentially in both scenarios.
>be tech bro
>make 100k a year
>autistic gymcel
>27 years old but never had a gf
>massive coomer
>spend 10k a year on high end escorts
>have a favorite girl I invite to my condo from time to time
>she recently told me she wouldn't mind seeing me when she's "not in the office"
I'm really thinking about asking a hooker out. What do I have to lose at this point?
thats so cool how you're a tech "bro" making 100k a year man, you sound like such a cool bro
>go to my friend's house
>sister (9/10) was there, knew I was coming
>came out in bikini
>muhdick
>she wasnt swimming, showering or tanning
>talked quite a bit, she was smiling a lot too
Damn was she doing this because she's trying to frick or am I being too optimistic? Am autistic.
>inb4 the bro and sis are banging
oh damn, guess you'll never know right? here is a thought for you. Why don't you just see for yourself?
frick me dead guys, maybe flirt a little bit or something
Like will you literally die if you have a go?
all this shit is moronic
Stop being scared of rejection, worse thing in the world she could do is what?
She probably wanted to throat your wiener but you autisted out of it. Chance may never come again.
She's either a hardcore sociopath or she wants you.
Check to see if she's thotting on insta or whatever it is the kids use these days.
Insta thot for sure. Probably the former but who knows.
You can mess with girls like that anyway.
"That's a cut outfit but it's a little conservative for my tastes. Do you have anything you like to wear?"
Need balls of steel to go there, though. And generally getting involved with women like that on any level is a bad idea.
Told her in a very sarcastic way that her fake tan looked real, a lil cheeky neg.
>hardcore sociopath
Nta but why is this such a good example? Idk what better way to articulate this but BPDs, sociopaths, psychopaths, NPDs, etc they all have this innate ability to do something so… ballsy? Whether it’s physical or verbal and it ALWAYS seems like such a normal thing when they say/do it to the point it’s hard to call them out on it because like their demeanor and convictions give absolutely zero indication that they’re doing what they obviously are. It’s so easy for them to then play dumb or gaslight should you call them out. Like they’ll do X thing but it genuinely comes off as innocent from them despite being blatant. It’s like it’s so easy because they don’t see other people as people or real humans… almost like they way you could taunt a video game NPC… Frick I can’t word this how I want to..
Do you know what I mean? Does anyone reading this think they can better articulate what I’m attempting to describe in a more clear and concise way so I can use your words in future discussion on this subject? THIS is the thing about this subject that most fascinates me
Lol my milf stepmom would wear some promiscious shit in public. 100 percent sure she had npd
Having dates NPD girls, they all do the same shit. Like the same specific book and play the same mind games. Literally said the same shit to Garner sympathy
Weird maniacal laugh, eyes change color.
They always tell you how awful they are beforehand, and you always think. "Sure b***h, let's see" and it is pretty bad
I’ve had my fair share, if you scroll up a bit you’ll see some harrowing accounts of my ex that I posted. But I’ve met a handful of people who fall into that camp of BPD, NPD type stuff and what I described here
they all have in common. I don’t know how to better articulate it other than that anons example of
>comes out in bikini, very obviously doing it on purpose because she’s not swimming, tanning, or showering and knee I was coming over
>proceeds to act completely normal and now anon isn’t even sure if he’s the crazy one
That girl may not be NPD, BPD, sociopath etc and could just be a bawd but it fits into what I’m describing. It’s like these people are so ballsy and able to do and say the shit they do while making it come off as something totally normal because they have no shame at all. Having no sympathy I think comes with it, but the lack of shame I guess I never considered. Like if a normal person were to try the things they do, he would have massive gives and tells about what he’s doing. That’s it, they do these things and have zero “tells” that’s the part that’s genuinely so weird but fascinating to me
There's one I know that I kind of want to help mask better. Feel like saying that they over emote when attempting to display empathy, it's over the top and looks fake to anyone.
It's not like their evil really, seen them do more good than the average person just they can't give a frick about anyone else but themselves.
It seems to bum them out at least, I don't go near them anymore but to say they aren't worth your time isn't true
Just don't tell them anything or piss them off
Italian soda with cream, please.
I'm this close to finally solving my sleep apnea. The last problem I have is that I wake up immediately after falling asleep because my throat relaxes even through a CPAP. If I use a sleep aid to sleep through the event or miraculously stay asleep, I end up having a great night of sleep.
If anyone has any ideas of anything I can try, please let me know.
pic related shows what I'm talking about and is taken from a sleep study, a cluster of arousals the millisecond I fall into N1 sleep.
I'm sick bros. Been in bed all weekend. Wish I had one more comfy day to wait this out but work in the morning.
I witnessed something so weird. Here goes
>at house party
>hostess's birthday
>roundtable, i go grab a drink
>offer her some, invite to drink with me as the others are designated drivers
>"i want to, but he won't let me", gestures to her boyfriend
>weakling personality dude, nothing remarkable or impressive, clearly beta
>pulled her aside later
>told her i found it so weird that she lets her bf decide what she can or can't do
>rationalizes and replies as if she saw no problem in it
Lol how can relationships like this happen where people let others so blatantly order them and control them. I can't imagine her father (he was there) being ok with a dude bossing around his daughter.
Thoughts, IST?
>I can't imagine her father (he was there) being ok with a dude bossing around his daughter.
please let go of the idea that women don't like this, they aren't men and enjoy it
having choices makes them nervous
you're a gay, the world isn't a sitcom
women aren't men
also the fact that you give a shit about it outs you as an envious b***h boy
>Masculine Chad controls his woman
>Resistor seethes
>"Are you okay? Blink once for no and twice for not really."
Laughable
I'm blatantly some Indian cardiobunny's gym crush. She's pretty cute but I have a girlfriend. I always catch her looking at me in the gym and she's done a few obvious things that are tells. Like one time she came up and grabbed dumbbells and pretended to do curls next to me but it was obvious she's never done them in her life and just wanted to get near me. She also took the treadmill right next to me once when every other treadmill in the gym was open, and today she actually came up and tried to start conversation over some bullshit but I ended it early since I know I shouldn't be getting friendly with women, plus she had a thick accent and spoke very softly and was honestly hard to understand.
I feel like I'm pretty underappreciated by my girlfriend but at this point I've accepted that I can just never bring myself to break up with her as she's too ingrained in my life. I like getting female attention but it feels bad at the same time knowing that I can't touch these women and I have to come home to my lazy fat girlfriend.
I wonder if she's aware that I'm 100% aware of her advances.
She wants you to do the needful, anon. Will you? Will you do the needful, sir?
>Fat, lazy girlfriend
Once adjective can be suffered.
Two cannot.
Be a man and leave, but not into the arms of a curry.
>I can't touch these women
>I can't
Are you a woman?
>She's too ingrained in my life
Is she paying your food bills or something? I cannot imagine a scenario where a hoe is too involved in my life to get dropped
Nah she doesnt pay for shit shes horrible with money. Its because my family loves her and after we moved I'm basically a hermit with no IRL friends.
Maybe I just should though I've been getting better about staying connected with online friends and feel less lonely lately. The indian girl was really cute but I doubt we have anything in common since I'm an autistic degenerate and I'm sure she's pretty traditional.
My current situation is kinda similar. I already know what I'm going to do though, just need to put the plan into action.
>be with gf for 5 years, both nomads traveling the world together
>went through deep shit together
>living together 24/7, we start becoming the same person, inseparable but also losing all attraction
>have sex only once a month or less for the past 2 years
>i start wanting to settle somewhere, gf still wants to travel
>when i tell her im going back home for a bit, she decides to go travel on her own for 3 months
>start rediscovering being by myself in these 3 months
>working out regularly again, book few personal coaching sessions at local gym
>coach turns out to be cute fit arab lady
>from the get go think she's way out of my league so just go through the sessions relaxed
>time to leave home country for thailand approaches
>last coaching session ends, we exchange numbers "in case i come back to continue the lessons"
>after lesson she messages me to meet her behind the gym
>i finally understand whats happening and go autistic mode
>somehow she was so into me she overlooks the spaghetti and we arrange to meet up the next day, last day before i fly out
>end up going to hotel
>combination of her hotness with me being so nervous, tired and cucked by the thick condom makes me somehow pull pornstar-tier performance
>i frick her nonstop for a good 40 minutes
>we say goodbye quickly and i fly to thailand the next day
>during the next weeks we keep talking everyday for hours
>slowly get up to saying we love each other
>gf meets me back in thailand
>absolutely no attraction or sex drive from me towards gf
>gf keeps complimenting my body, while she grew chubby
>try to bring her with me to the gym but she keeps finding excuses
>straight up says it's impossible for her to lose all the fat she put on
>keeps complaining about her job and basically have lazy defeatist attitude
>still acts like us being together is a guarantee
Breaking up tonight
you got this bro
i had a similar situation for 4.5 years
ending it is hard, but it's like graduation day
that chapter of your life is over
onto the next
as for the ayyyrab
if it begins dirty, it ends dirty
and with muslimas it's downright filthy
she'll frick her cousin and give you the clap dirty
>she traveled alone for 3 months
Huge red flag, she probably did some shit behind your back, so dont feel bad about it
i mean he slept with another woman during those 3 months so I think they're even
>even the indian women are creepy stalkers to white men
Kek
not sure if you're a jealous roastie or just a moron but if I didn't have a girlfriend I would have already taken this girl out on a date months ago.
I was joking about indians because the men swarm any white women in their vicinity.
If you like her thats fine by me, make a irl Rally out of any potential daughters you could have with her.
Thats what I meant.
I think thats an online only thing because the indian people I see IRL arent like that at all. I live in an apartment complex that has a giant Indian community, like 30% or more (it explains why I have an ESL indian girl checking me out of all things). They dont even look at the white women, most of them I think are either already married or only consider Indian women to be viable partners.
Sorry the joke flew over my head, honestly forgot about the whole bobs and vagene jokes because I think thats coming from porn addicts online exclusively.
It makes me wonder if the Indian girl checking me out is married honestly. Thatd be pretty hot.
I wouldn't commit adultery or assist in it.
Even if it's cucking some H-1B motherfricker
Do you have Cherry Coke Zero? Hard to find.
Things are... good. No complaints. Just came by to put out some good vibes.
If you're reading this and need some good vibes, I've got lots tonight. Take all you can carry.
girl i like is in town for thanksgiving from studying a few states away. we didn't disclose that we had feelings for eachother until she'd already left for school. in the course of our chats she's let on that she's put on weight since she left. frankly i don't care, I've seen recent photos and she's still gorgeous. she's intelligent, just the right anount of sass, hates leftists and is from my same ethnic haplogroup. i want to her to be my wife and make babies with her.
Good luck to you.
A perfect scenario. Take advantage of it young buck.
rent is about to go up $600 for me, one of my roommates is moving to the other side of the country. NGL I'm excited to be living alone with my boyfriend for the first time, but I'm really fricking worried about the costs of everything. Work has been horrible this year and I've been in a job desert since the summer. I'm down $25k from what I made earlier this year.
Things just look kinda bad. I've never really been in a situation like this before.
Getting death threats from a homeless guy (and to my family i guess) i know somewhat well again, dunno if i should go to the police or if thatll just make it worse
Im so tired bros, duress sucks
Piss and shit in a cup then ride past on a bike and throw it on him. Or call the cops and say he has drugs on him, 99% chance he actually does. They will want to search him anyway, probably looking for an excuse.
>finish another shit weekend where i did nothing on saturday and today i just did my outdoor hobbies which are more to just waste time and leave the house more than anything
>have a week of my humiliating job on the docket for this week
>going to do my best to refuse to go traveling to see family for wed-sun thanksgiving because i haven't seen them in 4+ years and haven't developed an iota of my life in that time and i cannot face the sheer humiliation i wil feel going there as the autistic loser in his 30s still living with mommy and daddy with no gf, wife, kids, or career to discuss
I'm so sorry. I know that feeling so well.... except in my case, family came to see us so I couldn't avoid it. I ended up buying a house and it has made a world of difference. If you can find an apartment you can afford, move. Even if it makes you poor. You need to do it for your mental health. You can still visit every day if you want. The self esteem you will gain will be worth it.
>feeling stressed from work
>every workout the past week I get an exertion headache with every working set
>staying hydrated and ensuring I warm up properly hasn't fixed it
>have to reduce intensity so I can actually finish the workout
I hate this so much I want to go back to loving my workouts again
why are you posting wam porn anon
I screenshotted that 10 years ago because I thought it was funny and couldn't believe it was a real thing.
>live with parents at 24
>super cash because no rent and i make decent money
>they're very invested in my life and frequently present, making dating and living my own life more difficult
>basically everything in my life is solved now except for having a good woman
I love them, but I feel constrained because they don't let me have a free schedule. I know "i'm an adult" and shit, but staying in their good graces is essential for me to keep reaping the benefits. Also, does it actually frick me over in dating to not have any real issues for girls to latch onto and claim they can fix for me?
I moved out when I was 24. My parents were and still are a big part of my life. Our relationship actually got better with less interaction (I see them 1-2 times per week) and I was able to grow a lot as my own person as well. They will definitely appreciate you taking a step towards your own adult life and you will too. Obviously you're an autist because you're here, so you need every mental advantage for your confidence with women. Moving out removes a mental hurdle and will help you, and you need all the help you can get. Most women don't care if you're still living at home, but many expect you to be working towards moving out or have a real excuse other than "rent free b***h". You won't regret moving out and will be a better man for it.
The only issue with moving out is that the advantages of staying home right now are astronomical:
>live in hcol area, saving 12000-24000 a year on rent
>live 20min away from work
>can actually save money and spend on more of my hobbies/experiences
>get a huge amount of space to myself (free office, bedroom, couches
>see my dogs every day
I just would rather have these things now than to move out and become "le better man". At the same time, I still get a little jelly wondering how others navigate their independent lives and how they character-build in less certain scenarios. I want to slip out eventually for sure, but I hope to stick around for a few more years. My dad is almost 61 and plans to retire around 64/65, I think I can time a move around that. By that point, I'll have more experience and a presumably higher salary to go with it.
>wants a good woman
>doesn't want to be a better man
Ask yourself what "good woman" is going to put up with a dude who doesn't want to move out until he's 27. Not happening.
>try online dating
>have 10 likes and 0 matches after 3 days
>constantly bombarded with incentives to buy premium stuff
What the actual frick is this shit? I knew online dating was bad, but holy shit. I'm decently handsome, IST, good career, hobbies etc. I been legit approached in public a few times by women. But I get treated like some random neckbeard online.
Is all online dating just a grift for women to get validation and desperate men to lose money?
>I knew online dating was bad, but holy shit.
Back in the day it was pretty decent - then they tried to make it into a purely money thing. It's more like youtube now - with the ads they try to keep you on there as long as possible. They'll show you a really pretty girl every so often (one that isn't even active or is a bot) just to keep you going.
One of the guys who works for me says that OKCpuid likes to throw a troony in every so often.
I wish the fitness dating sites had more people using them, but females have plenty of men to pick from on normie sites. The main point of the fitness sites is to filter out fatties.
I don't give a shit, I'm married, but I do weep for the next generation.
>I was joking about indians because the men swarm any white women in their vicinity.
I got the joke, anon. I appreciated it.
Bobs and Vageen turned into Balls and Peen
Guys
I love y'all
Eventhough i haven't dated or had sex in over 6 years now
Everyone around me is marrying their SO
I'm gonna lift now llike there's no tomorrow
frick
I havent had any sort of date in six years
Honestly with my current concerns thats not even much of an issue anymore
My money might be going up which is the only thing that keeps me going now. With my stretch marks and loose skin, it doesn't matter how much weight I lose and how much muscle I gain, I will never be able to make it without enough money to get the gyno surgery, loose skin removal, laser my stretch marks, tighten up my jaw and neck, and get dick fillers. I guess in the meantime to make it feel like I'm doing more I can start doing jiu jitsu on my dick to get meager girth gains.
>spent 5 years stagnating rotting away depressed over ex
>move on in 2022, finally over it
>see her and bust out laughing, been genuinely losing my shit all day that I was so sad over this low value trash prostitute
>not even attracted to her genuinely looks gross, acts grosser
Never thought I’d see the day. Wish I had good things to say about those I’ve dated, but also not posting this to shit on her. Just genuinely proud of myself for FINALLY coming to my senses
It's honestly the best cure for oneitis
I don't have any beef with any of my exes - it makes me pretty sad seeing how one of them went from being the literal prom-queen to looking like trailertrash in like 10 years.
Buy Shokz (bone conduction headphones) unless you need to block out gym noise, then use do wireless earbuds.
Ended up getting the Shokz for work (building a nuclear power plant, so loud as shit, earpro all the time, bone conduction works with earplugs in. I just paired it to my radio. By the time I was done there at least 90% of my engineering group used them.
They're nice for running because you can still hear everything around you - I consider that a safety thing.
How the frick do you guys lift with a headset?
Earcups get all sweatry n shit
>using the incel headset
I use wireless earbuds
Yeah but NC??
Just fricking use wireless earbuds dipshit.
Lick my crusty salty unwashed Dick c**t