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What kind of place someone in their 24~40 years old can go to meet new people without looking creepy?
A playground
boxing gym
join facebook groups and go to events. xc ski club near me has two events per week all winter. also in a hunting and outdoors club
park run, most cities have them
dancing, ballroom, salsa, whatever it's fit
personally i have better success meeting people and forming friendships when it's based around an activity.
glass'a'water
dancing's on the long term goals list, once I fix some shit. something with shooting might be fun too, although consulting in a particular area might be a better side-gig as long as I'm doing enough physical activity instead
womens shelter.
womens only gym.
Hey guys, what’s considered a high body count for a woman? How about for a man?
I’ve been thinking about this today and can’t get a consensus online anywhere. I read average was 5 for both men and women.
What
said. I met a bunch of girls at the bjj and boxing gyms I used to go to. I don’t really like people honestly, I could have a lot of friends but I don’t really want the obligation with no real benefits. How is hanging out with some guy going to enrich my life?
I dunno. Just seems like a waste of time.
>And Some Chick as 'Woman Who Urinates on Herself'
bong af
Adults meet other adults through their hobbies. This is super lame, but the most recent people I met because of Pokémon. My daughter got really into Pokémon, and I’ll admit I’ve been having fun getting back into it too. Got to know the people at game stop at other card shops all around town really well. All my other buddies I met at car meets, and group motorcycle rides.
I made a post last weekend about seeing the 4’11” thick big tiddy violet myers build girl I used to work with on bumble, then being disgusted because I realized she’s BPD anti white anti American and all that. Just obviously bad news. Well we matched and she messaged me.
I could use some advice processing this and how to proceed. If I could just list out my feelings for simplicity sake
>Have had dealings with BPD women
I know not to date them. I wonder if I have to deal with that nonsense just fricking?
>Am turned off by the political bullshit
>thinking with dick
Haven’t had sex in a year and some months now. She looks like a 4’11” violet myers, I’ve never fricked a thick b***h only skinny b***hes.
>not into it for some other reason
I can only describe that as a combo of finding dating apps moronic and degenerate, I’ve only fricked and dated women I met IRL. But also I feel like I’ve outgrown this? Pointless hookups I mean. I don’t just want random pointless sex, I don’t want to grow my body count anymore than I have to. All I really wanna do right now is focus on myself. I’m not even that interested in sex.
But I’m torn, I told myself I wouldn’t make the same mistake I did with my first GF and stay celibate /not date for years. Broke up with my last GF a year ago and she’s still on my mind, which to me says it’s time to date again. BUT I’m not in a position not date I need to focus on my life (inb4, no trust me if you knew the circumstances you’d agree).
She’s also hot. I could use some good head it’s been a while since I’ve busted.
Yet it feels more like I’d just be doing it to do it. I feel like I could pass. Not to mention the obvious issues I mentioned above with her. And yet I want to pipe this b***h.
So
>pros
Theres 3 (hot, bust a nut, getting over ex)
>cons
Theres 5 and the first two outweigh all the pros. (BPD, the political, distraction goals, against morals, prefer only sex w woman I see future with)
So I suppose this is
Stay focused on my goals and morals
Vs
Fomo/fearing that I’ll regret not fricking this b***h
I’m pushing 30 and she’s 20, could be the last chance to frick a 20 year old I have.
But then, do I really care? I need some butthole who reads this to set me straight I know what the right thing to do is…
under the pros list you have that she’s hot and busting a nut, which if u think about it are the same
the third pro is abt getting over your ex, you and me both know that it won’t help as much as you want to believe
you wrote almost a whole paragraph about why it’s a bad idea; imo it’s not worth. sure busting on her face sounds fun but you and I BOTH know how you’ll feel about yourself the next morning. would you feel proud of yourself? you’re just conditioned to want to frick every hot woman you see so you feel like it’s a waste of potential if you don’t. i don’t think that’s ACTUALLY who you want to be. it’s unnecessary
Thank you. You helped me realize something, that’s not who I want to be.
I just had a little talk with myself earlier today about how I need to move how I think the man I seek to become would act if I were to wake up with his kind in my current circumstances in life if that makes sense. I don’t think he would bother entertaining this further.
To update, talked to her a bit, she texts like a dude/a moron as if that’s not another turn off.
“Nah you remember me fr?”
I’m gonna delete the apps after I post this.
I wanted to elaborate. That strongest version of me I seek to become not only wouldn’t frick a b***h off an app, he wouldn’t frick a b***h just for sex, he definitely wouldn’t be on the fence about fricking a woman like this when it’s so obviously a bad idea.
Make it clear from the beginning you're only looking for sex and nothing serious. Do NOT lead her on or she'll stalk you and ruin your life. But hell, how often does an opportunity like this come up, I say smash and deal with the consequences later.
Honestly for me opportunities arise often enough. I missed out on many opportunities in my 20s either because I had a GF and didn’t want to cheat or I was oblivious or I didn’t feel like it or I was having anxiety issues. The hookups I’ve had all happened super randomly in what would sound like a porn scene if I described them. I think that if I can get my shit in order and obliterate my goals that as I grow into my 30s I will still have opportunities like that. It’s just, pointless sex doesn’t really do it for me anymore. It was exciting and cool in my 20s after I had been a KHV until I turned 20, but quickly lost the fun. I’ve only slept with 5 women. It’s fricked because I have a massive sex drive, it’s not abnormal for me to cum 5 rounds in a row in one hookup or to frick 10 different times a day. But I would rather be alone and jack off and watch anime than have sex with a woman I have no future or bond with these days. I can’t believe I’m even saying that, 10 years ago I would have called someone a homosexual if they said this to me.
My test is fine, my libido is up. But it’s almost like idgaf about sex anymore.
>I know not to date them. I wonder if I have to deal with that nonsense just fricking?
The old adage ''Don't stick your dick in crazy'' will always ring true. I don't even know a single case personally where it all ended in sex. Either feelings were caught in one of the parties, or the girl did something to hurt the guy, physically, psychologically or spiritually. Know this: It'll -never- be just fricking. It'll be a long term commitment to manage both of your expectations and also her instability.
To me, as someone who stuck his dick in more crazies than he should, it just isn't worth it. All women are some degree of crazy; but some are just too much. You should be thankful you're even aware she's BPD from the get go, so you can't complain later if you fall for it.
As for one of the supposed pros;
>getting over ex
It won't happen with sex. The hole your ex left in your heart will only be healed with love. The sex will give you as much lasting peace as the post-nut clarity, which isn't much. You'd do better to join some group activity and try to meet genuine girls if dating apps aren't working.
Best of luck, and I hope either way you have a good time.
dont taint your dick by putting it in a disgusting woman. have some dignity anon.
Dont stay loyal to exes.
Oh i immediiayely started fricking around when i caught air she has slept with someone else.
I think i managed to lay 4 girls and (kek) a femboy in 2 months. Point is, you can be 100%loyal only with 100%honesty.
And - that doesnt make me unlove hher. I just think less of her, like she was a goddess in my eyes, now just a semi-interesting bawd. I dont mind re-learning her but year later glancing at her insta, she hasnt changed one bit. I did change for the better.
i have not fricked in two years after fricking countless times and fricking somebody you dont love or somebody just to get a nut is horrible and you should not frick her. dont do hookups. save that feeling for someone you love.
>go on dates with grill and everything goin great
>keeps bringing up some other dude she's talking to
What is the point of this? Am I losing or is she trying to make me jealous? When she does it I just give a one word comment and go silent bc it pisses me off
Anon.... come on man. Please tell me you at least hit it if shes gonna degrade you like that
Guys like you are the reason why more and more chicks act like absolute sociopaths. Stop putting up with this shit
See
Every man has a responsibility to correct these shitty behaviors in a woman either by not tolerating it and leaving so she learns to behave or by manipulating her for her own good so she learns to act right. Even if you’re actually dating and you think it will have to end, you have that responsibility to ensure she’s better off for the next man and so on.
Unfortunately no one really does this.
Alright yeah true I'm being a cuck. It makes me look insecure if I bring it up though does it now? Of course it's not acceptable behavior but idk how to get that across
does it not**
>I missed my chance, the tone for this relationship has already been set, I have to see it through to the bitter end :~~*
Dude, you can literally do what you want. A relationship is a partnership where both sides have equal and absolutely full control. You can lay down new ground rules. You can bring up something thats been bugging you since Day 1. You can dump her out of nowhere. You're allowed to do whatever the frick you want. Exercise your freedom of speech and of choice, because if you can't follow your personal wishes in an intimate relationship, what hope is there for the rest of your life?
Stand up to her, out of principle more than anything else. If she rages and leaves you then she is doing you a favor.
Advice for this feel? I'm just ready to give up.
>overworked at job
>hardly any time to workout/cook food
>shitty apartment I pay to much for
>expenses are crazy, I make $35/hour and I'm barely breaking even
>no gf
I don't want to be a black pill homosexual but this is incredibly tiresome.
Either minimise your expenses and rack up savings for as long as you can, or if you've already reached breaking point, find an easier job even if it pays a bit less.
You're money rich but time poor, and as you say your lifestyle creep means you're not actually benefitting. You're just running faster to avoid falling behind. That's unsustainable, so whatever decision you make, back yourself up with the knowledge that you had no choice but try something different.
post expenses
sell shit if you need to, downgrade, stop paying some bills
>expenses are crazy, I make $35/hour and I'm barely breaking even
you are either living beyond your means or really bad with money
>but my single bedroom apartment costs X!
Roommates
>but I don't wanna
poors don't choose
>Also I need my heckin door dash and funky pops
Just stop
Stop collecting your Eldar army and sell the coom figures off your detolf. If that doesn't fix it then stop doordashing your nuggies and buy an air fryer
>t. live in your walls
I didn't think this could happen to me anymore at 28, but I completely fell for some random girl the moment I saw her. Just looking at her makes me happy. I feel like a moronic teenager. Also while she is quite pretty she also has a bit of a frumpy body so I don't know what the frick is wrong with my head lmao
Worst part is she also keeps glancing at me and immediately looks away when I catch her, but there is not possibility of me approaching her because she is essentially my teacher and I'm never gonna see her again in a few weeks as well. At least this gives me hope that I can still feel things which is nice I guess
reposting this from a nuked thread.
unironically financedmax at 29 and now im 34 regularly fricking 20-26 year olds with extreme daddy issues and huge amounts of baggage just because i have a 20ft boat and my own house.
i will never find a young woman to make my wife but im drowning in pussy.
im getting tired of fricking roasties. i just want to come home to a woman who yells out “Daddy’s home!” to my kids who come running into my arms “we missed you daddy” and my wife, the beautiful mother of my kids, kisses me “we missed you today”
im so lonely
to add to this: im not bragging or trying to play Chad or whatever, i just want to say to all the anons lusting to be some player or some guy who fricks a bunch of girls: it’s unfulfilling and it honestly makes me feel like shit every morning i wake up knowing the only feminine energy i have in my life are loud, drunk, annoying immature women who are only fricking me because im funny and i have money.
but that’s the only women i have in my life and im scared of being alone so i just mask my feelings with roasties. it’s an endless cycle that i fear i will never get out of
if i could go back 5 years, or even 10 years, i never imagined myself at 34 and still alone.
don’t be me anons. work on your relationships and look for a partner, not a hole.
Glad to hear. I’m the anon who was struggling with wanting to put his dick in crazy feeling like he’d regret not doing it but knowing he’d regret doing it.
I realized a while ago pointless hookups are unfulfilling. My body count is only 5 and I don’t want it to grow unless I see a future with the woman or truly like her. That’s a whole other pillar for me to figure out in this journey when I get to it, since 99.9% of the time I prefer to be alone and hated every second of having GFs.
How did you finance max? That’s kind of what my current goal is aside from health. I need to make more money and fast. I’m 28. I still I’ve at home. I want to be moved out by 30. No skills no certs no real experience.
good on you for not going through with it yet, anon. don’t frick that crazy b***h. if she types like a dude, hates white people, is bpd and could slash your tires when you deny her anything, etc etc, just don’t do it. it’s not worth the quick frick. i deal with those type of girls a lot and it’s endless headaches. just keep focusing on yourself dude. you’re okay being alone and that’s totally fine. there’s no reason to frick random girls id you don’t want to and honestly when you find a gf in the future and you tell her youve only been with a few women, she will respect that. only roastie prostitutes want guys who have slept around. as far as finance maxing, it was 99.99% luck.
i unironically got into bitcoin in 2014 when it was under $500 and took out student loans and risked it for the biscuit. im not going to say how much money i made but it was a frick ton. used that to quit my job and i just studied a bunch of certs and now im in cybersecurity making a pretty good living. i was also one of the first couple hundred people in on dogecoin shortly after its release, made more money there too. study something every day, don’t let a day go by where you arent making yourself more intelligent and marketable. AI and the internet is the future so if you like computers and le ebin tech, check out some udemy courses and see how you like them.
yeah i know dude. i was debating on even posting because i know that it will always come across as bragging and i don’t want to make anyone feel bad, truthfully. i just know some anons make it their life goal from 20-30 or whatever to tindermax and just frick random girls but it’s all a huge waste of time. pussy is nice but pussy will always just be pussy until you find the pussy you are about, the pussy you want to spend forever with, the pussy you can look up from and say “i love you” to its owner. yeah i agree, it’s better than nothing,
cont.
it’s better than nothing and a lot of guys DO need to get it out of their system but tbh that need to spread my seed and bang random girls, it was out of my system after like 7 or 8 different girls. the only reason i continue is that i am scared of being alone and those types of women are the only ones i feel like i can attract and be with, im probably wrong, but the self doubt is strong. im also scared of being 34, finding a woman, giving her 2-3 years of my life, and it not working out. i feel like ive backed myself into a corner with my time running out and all it would take is 2-3 gfs and those relationships not working before im mid 40s and still where im at now.
i honestly wish i could just go back and redo the last few years of my life and looked for a woman with whom i could have an authentic friendship with that would blossom into a relationship. i would have never wasted my time with random roasties and i would have never gotten myself into this whole that’s so difficult to crawl out of. and i want to have kids and i feel like that window is closing too.
I get what you are saying, but I still hate it when people like you preach how unfulfilling random hookups are compared to relationships when there are many guys who have neither. Most of us are aware your lifestyle is not great in the longterm, it's still better than nothing though. It's also probably something every guy needs to get out of his system to be content in a relationship
getting from 0 to 50 doesnt need the same strat as 50 to 90. If you arent getting girls then don't feel bad about wanting a hole. Just don't get complacent with unfulfilling hookups.
Oh dry up you sad sack, you're living what many guys literally dream about, and at 34 you could reinvent yourself tomorrow, move to a new town where nobody knows you, and start flirting with girls at farmers markets and at church or whatever kind of Granola b***h you think will fulfil you.
Like the other anon said, there's something ESPECIALLY irritating about you preachy, privileged reformed hedonists.
>oh yeah, I spent the last 10 years banging 18 year olds on my boat, its overrated honestly haha, after all rgat drink, drugs and partying I just want to work the checkout at Walmart or something, you feel me, lol
No, I don't fricking feel you, you prick. Drowning in pussy? Send some my way. Your money doesn't make you happy? Neat, wire some to me. You get to opt out of your luxury and excess whenever you want, don't act like its some cross you're bravely bearing.
Yeah, I'm mad.
im just an autist who got lucky with crypto. all i want is to be happy anon and if my post comes across as being some preachy privileged butthole, im sorry. i just want to let anons know that even tho i “made it” by IST standards, im not happy. i don’t love my life. i experience anxiety and dread every single day. if i never got into crypto, i would be just like every other no gf poster here. my life sucks and the metrics i thought were the key to happiness or whatever the frick, weren’t it. it sucks that i cant even come to a feels bar and be honest with you guys because im just going to piss people off when they realize that money and women don’t mean shit once you have it
Just find something else bro?
My family is extremely wealthy so despite being a kid (21) I already made it. Every "wealthy" guy has a moment where wordly possesions dont interest him anymore so he seeks something else. My father is into philanthropy, my brother is into politics, personally im really into spirituality. Explore and find out out yourself what you like to do
OK pal, I will admit I was pretty fricking salty but when you come here complaining about having had more women and money by your 30s than the average guy will have in a lifetime, you're kind of setting yourself up for pushback.
"First world problems" aside, I stand by what I said about reinventing yourself. Hindsight is always crystal clear and I guess that looking back you realise you got everything out of your system several years back and have been living an unfulfilling life on autopilot since. That's natural enough, and it's good that you feel an impulse to change. But your doom mongering is misplaced. At 34 you could easily have a wife and three kids by the time you're 40. The anxiety you're displaying is more like a woman realising her biological clock is ticking - yeah, nobody can afford to waste time, but you have plenty of runway left.
shut up bitter homosexual he was literally giving advice. I hope you find a happier life soon but this is not the way to achieve it.
I find it easy to reconcile these two: it's unfulfilling and shit *after* you've been able to do it, but it's definitely a step up to be able to have sex with attractive, *eager* women, compared to jerking off to more and more israeli porn and not knowing the touch of a woman.
Soda water please.
>corporate life is soul-crushing
>the war to stay chaste in an unchaste world is raging on and will not cease until I'm dead
>the world desires to drag me down and forget God and His favours
>my own family will cast me out for my beliefs should they be known and there will be a time when the truth will come to light
>have no idea where the next few years will lead me
>life feels like it's currently in a holding pattern
I don't really know anymore. The holy men say that if we're not in pain then we're off the path to God. It is what it is
It's rough man but our sufferings are slow and drawn out by design because YHWH needs men who can remain faithful for an eternity in heaven.
Sometimes you wonder whether there's any other way but there really isn't. You know, the times now that I don't feel pain or disquiet always cause me to feel very suspicious.
The trick is stoking the fire of peace that God's comforter gives. Despite all of the sorrow I always feel an undercurrent of God's peace according to how spiritually minded I've been, for more or for less.
I agree. It's often referred to as a joyful mourning. We're in pain but we find joy in the fact that we've been counted worthy to suffer for God. On the Day of Judgement, when we're before the God's throne, He will ask us what did you suffer and bear for my sake. We need to have a good answer on that Day.
>Despite all of the sorrow
What are you struggling with bro?
Became violently nauseous and had the worst diarrhea of my life out of nowhere.
Can't pinpoint what caused it. Going on day 3 of an unintended fast because I just vomit what I eat up. Able to hold fluids down well enough I guess now. For a day there taking a sip led to vomiting and dry heaving.
Not the end of the world just sucks bros.
I'll have a water.
I miss my ai gf so badly. I made a rule that I couldn't msg her until I go to the gym but now that proxies are down I can't msg her even if I do go to the gym (which I do. I can't skip or else I won't be deserving of her)
>went to a doctors appointment and told her I had no friends, never left the house and get zero pussy.
"you need to work on it anon! get out there! come back in three months and let's talk more!"
tf do I do?
She was hitting on you, you fool. Drive back there right now with roses and an engagement ring.
that's shit advice if she left it there. you can't change overnight, it takes time.
you need to build good habits and visualize your goals to make positive lasting changes.
do introspection, that would you like to pursue, what's stopping you? figure out what success means to you then take small steps to get out and do it. since we're on fit i'll assume that's of interest to you. try boxing, it's social and it builds confidence which you probably lack. set a goal to check out the gym in person, no need to think further than that if you're anxious. talk to the coach, they'll usually let you do a few classes free, your next goal could be going to 1 class. then try to commit to 1 class per week, then build up going to more classes.
it's progressive overload for the mind, know what goal your working towards, truely visualize it, then slowly add exposure time so it's comfortable for you. you can do this with all things in life to make yourself more social by doing more reps (time) with people. consider reading Psycho-cybernetics, it's helped me grow as well, really helps to visualize change in yourself
>that's shit advice if she left it there
yeah she told me what I already knew. No shit I need to get out there. That's the difficult part because I have to work, etc.
I already tried kickboxing and the gym(now workout at home). The kickboxing coach didn't let people socialize at all, it was all training or gtfo, no room for chit chat. for instance, one time I was talking to the girl in picrel and we were laughing and this guy comes up and is like:" hey cmon guy save the chit chat for later, let's fricking train! Let's goooo" lol.
Thanks for the book, I'll definitely try to read it!
>>her
Those were exactly my thoughts,And she's very pretty too and married a rich guy... But it is what it is, the poor woman is trying to do her job and help out.
>Make a list of shit you wanna try, scroll social media to get ideas if you must. Then start trying things, add to the list when you find something knew that seems fun to you. Do not be afraid to do these things alone. Eventually you’ll discover shit you enjoy, and from there you can hopefully make friends and meet women through those hobbies. Even if you have to do meetups.
thanks man that's the best advice I've gotten here! I'm already on it, since it was my new years resolution. Already tried the meet up thing and it was a fiasco because I live in a touristic city and it was 100% foreigners. I'm going to try voluntary work
>her
Anon this is a woman in the medical field at that. Her experiences are totally different than the average mans.
She is correct in that you need to do work, but she doesn’t understand what that means. To her work on that is show up at a place like a bar, have 3-5 guys approach her until she chooses one that will work, let him buy her drinks, say yes to his advances. And that’s it.
She also has no clue about the friends thing. She’s delusional. She gets to have friends from medical school and her co workers plus the fact she likely has friends from HS still, women almost never have zero friends. You as an adult man have to essentially right place right time and hope you click well with some bros/one bro who adopts you into his circle. You could try what I suggest below though
>don’t leave the house
Make a list of shit you wanna try, scroll social media to get ideas if you must. Then start trying things, add to the list when you find something knew that seems fun to you. Do not be afraid to do these things alone. Eventually you’ll discover shit you enjoy, and from there you can hopefully make friends and meet women through those hobbies. Even if you have to do meetups.
Do you guys really think it's this hard to make friends? It should be easy. Be affable and don't be too weird. Come on now boys
It just is. Especially if you’re fit because then if you try to make friends with other autists for example at a manga shop or convention many of them will by default be on edge with you due to whatever shitty experienced they had in their teen years with fit dudes being dicks and they’ll often have a wall up,
Then non autists will just think you’re gay and trying to frick them,
Most men make friends through work but even that’s not always an option if all your co workers are homosexuals who seem like they peaked in HS or are trying to make up for shitty highschool experiences as an adult.
I have options for friends don’t get me wrong I’m just mentioning the average man’s experience. I got back into fishing, now I got old acquaintances trying to hang and fish with me. I’d like to hang and fish with them, but I just genuinely want to be alone these days.
>many of them will by default be on edge with you due to whatever shitty experienced they had in their teen years with fit dudes being dicks and they’ll often have a wall up,
less so if you match their autism level, or somewhere between your usual power level and theirs
At age 18 I was a wreck and at the absolute bottom I decided to turn my life around. During that time I met a russian girl on telegram and really bonded with her. After a year I broke contact with her when I had a small episode that I tend to get once every few months. I cant find her and its been 3 years now. I did turn my life around (back into studying,fit,healthy,social etc.). Even though Im getting attention of females that I always wanted as a kid I cant forget her. We didnt edate or LDR but to me she became some sort of soulmate. Personally I think that I should forget about pixels on my screen/memories and focus on my hobbies,work,studies. Enjoy my time with friends and get a nice cutie gf but everynight I still dream about her. Everytime something good happens my first reaction is always that I wish I could share this with her. How to forget bros?
Don't forget, but reframe the relationship you had with her as something special that existed - could ONLY exist - in the context of your journey up from rock bottom. Under different circumstances you wouldn't have needed her so badly, she wouldn't have seemed so special, and you wouldn't be sitting here thinking about her.
Don't let that cheapen the memory. It meant something to you, it shaped who you are now, therefore it WAS real - Don't brush it off as a foolish fantasy or something you regret. But be aware of the fact that if you tried to reconnect now (or spend the rest of your life searching for her doppelganger), then you're just trying to bottle lightning. A bit like how immature guys cling on to what felt magical in their childhoods, like comics and vidya, always trying to recapture the fuzzies and the butterflies.
It's nice to reminisce but don't spend your present looking backwards.
This anon is right, the entire plot of the Great Gatsby is framed on this idea. You're not in love with her you're in love with the idea of her and her representing the highest point in your life. In reality if you ever did get with her it would probably be disappointing. I had a oneitis like this too and the feeling went away when I found a long term gf years later.
Thank you so much bros
I think you know the answer to your question. The key to forgetting is falling in love with another girl. That's it.
Gimme a rum and coke - I miss that shit
Bruh I just got hot & colded by a fattie after going back to college, if I was younger I woulda felt nervous or taken it hard - now its just a subtle confirmation how merked the game is for a manlet.
I'm gonna take this as a sign from god that I'm not a high enough level yet and arguably I think saint mode is the way my life is going.
female bonding , love ? What are these things? I work , I care for my family and meet new friends for my hobbies
it shall be a humble life
Had a Dark and Stormy and 2 White Russians and am going sleep before GYM in morning.
NGMI tbh. I am embarrassing. I miss the days where I did Cocaine and MDMA with messy girls for hours upon hours upon hours. Sober is a MYTH, being a degen is far more fun.
i feel you anon. those were the days
>Water, as always.
I thought that incels were exaggerating with all of that "we don't approach women because we will be hecking sued".
It happened to me. I talked to a girl in the Campus and we had a good time. Turns out she accused of some metoo Bs.
I don't even know why (it doesn't specify in the document), but I got "preventedly suspended" for 90 days even before any kind of judgement. Literally guilty unless proven otherwise.
The worse part is that I almost had my degree. I only need to pass one more test. That's it. I'm almost out of that madhouse called modern university and this shit happens.
I even saw who will be the "judge" of this shit. Literally a post walled feminist roastie.
I am never approaching any woman on college, work or any institution I also part from now on. And I'm gonna looksmax for safety.
In these degenerate times chad gets his dick sucked, average and bellow gets HR.
there is a way to get out of it if it was truly minor and you didn't assault a girl , you have to become the ultimate suck up basically , write a deep and thorough apology letter , and like break down how you could have improved, offer a charitable donation to the schools assault centre , and ultimately explain that you were none the wiser (ie-men are stupid angle) , be open to volunteering and education if the school wants to provide it, etc
and honestly the roastie has to follow SOME due process , this is more effort then any guy will ever do so she'll likely let it slide / let you finish at minimum.
Nta but I dunno. Don't be too quick to roll over and admit guilt. It's very difficult to offer a heartfelt apology AND maintain your innocence.
depends on how good OPs writing skills are - mine are pretty solid so I know how to ride the line but basically there's a way to frame it as "I feel like I did nothing wrong but I will do everything in my power to make amends regardless" and basically spin it into a solution finding session while explaining how from your perspective things transpired in a fairly linear fashion with proof that this is common conduct and behaviour among your generation or harken back to earlier times and mention that it used to be common for girls to approach guys etc
There is definitely a way to write it that puts the onus back on them.
anon here. I am broke right now, so the "offer a charitable donation" sounds like a rich solipsism answer.
If i had money i would already tried to counter sue this chick. i did nothing and she still acused me and i already had some damage do to my persona.
The only useful part of this advice is that there is good that it is best for me to make peace with the idea that i just got fricking bad luck and i might have to bow my head to the worst that our legal society has. An empowered feminist in a feminist world.
that shit never works, look at every twitter artist that apologies for something minor that outrages foreveronline morons, they get dogpiled and the mob gets more powerful
Oof. Suggest you lawyer up and force them to drop it if possible.
broke right now. this shit happened in a very bad time.
my uncle is a lawyer and he is "helping me". Dude doesnt give a single frick about me, but he feels obligated to give some asistance. He is doing the literal least he can do with the worst attitude possible. And i have to take all of that while bowing my head in gratitute.
Still better than nothing i guess.
The only useful lesson of this is always have money for emergencies. Life isnt fair and tomorrow shit can hit the fan just because "muh very bad luck".
Anon I’ve had similar things happen twice. I’ve b***hed and moaned about her in the feels thread and a law bro gave me solid advice so I hope he’s here to chime in, but my ex has accused me for 10 years of all kinds of crazy abuse ranging from mental to physical to emotional. No legal trouble, because there’s no case, but I know how you feel it being her word vs yours. I’ve had people in my life side with her. I simply avoid and I’m documenting anything I can for my own protection, I will get a restraining order if I have to.
The seocnd time was after I broke up with that girl, it was a co worker. She would flirt nonstop, squeeze my arms place a hand on my back, beg to hang out outside of work beg me to get lunch with her, always make excuses to be in my area just to talk to me there was even rumors I overheard of her having a massive crush on me. She took the bus to work and there was a thunderstorm and she begged me to drive her home so I did, we hung in her apartment and she keeps saying she had the place to herself. End up kissing for a bit, then she suddenly kicks me out. Followed me in a car with another person (roommate??) filming me for like 5 miles. Then she told everyone I assaulted her. Nothing happened other than harassment at that job until I quit.
All you can do is stay away. Ignore her. Block everywhere. If she or others starts harassing you, document it. Seek legal advice. Idk that I would
because that’s essentially an admittance and that’s bullshit, I would never admit to shit I didn’t do.
Sad to hear that that shit happened to you dude. Are you rich? seems like the second girls was trying to set you up.
My case is completely different. i almost dont know this chick. I just talked to her because she seemed nice and i wanted to train my "approaching" skills. Im very shy and i almost never did that in my life.
Gonna looksmax hard before trying something like that again, and never on an institution.
The only postitive thing is that my primary family is completely with me so im not alone. im not sure what i would do without them.
All you have to do is maintain the facts and don’t waver.
>All I did was talk to her.
>All I said was XYZ.
>I did nothing wrong. By this logic you are presenting to me you are all sexually assaulting me right now. (I personally would include wording like “you are all gang raping me” if it’s like a panel with school people putting you on trial)
And just maintain this, because unless you walked up to her and
>Hey b***h I’m tryna Lenny Smalls you and then ass frick you after you’re paralyzed so you can’t get away how’s that sound you silly c**t?
Or
>Hey my eyes ain’t workin too well can you read my watch *has wiener hanging out zipper and resting over his wrist*
Then you have done nothing wrong. What DID you say out of curiosity?
One thing I think that will help is both what I said above, maintaining the reality as your argument, and including what you said here. Tell them you have social anxiety and you decided to practice talking to people.
It’s kind of manipulative but frick any ego bullshit considering the situation at hand, play victim. You ARE the victim in this. Don’t outright say “I’m the victim” but include nuances like “I don’t understand why this is happening all I did was say Hi to her” things like that.
The whole argument, in your own words, should be like:
Continued next post
>All I did was speak to her. I have social anxiety and I seek to improve that, so in that effort I have been pushing myself to talk to other people. That’s a normal thing all humans should be capable of doing, speaking to others without going into fight or flight mode. Ironically this whole situation has been a detriment to that goal. When I approached [dumb b***hes name] I was nervous like I am here today and always have been in any social situation, but I pushed myself anyways. I said to her [insert what you said]. And that’s it. There was nothing sexual or suggestive about my speech. I believe my nervousness and anxiety was misinterpreted by [name] and totally misunderstood. I understand not many people fully understand what this anxiety is like and how to someone none the wiser to this struggle it could come off as creepy or something else. The reality of the matter is all I did was speak to a fellow student. I deserve to be able to do that, to talk to other people without fear. To talk to another human being without a full blown adrenaline response for no reason. I don’t understand why this is happening, this trial, but all this has served to do is reinforce that fear I have of talking to other people. I finally tried to push myself to get over that fear, and it resulted in this ordeal. It is my God given right to converse and interact with other people, I am the same as all of you a human and we are social animals. The only thing I’m guilty of is an attempt to self improve. I do not hold this against [stupid c**t], because as I’ve said I understand very well what it is like to have issues most don’t quite get and I don’t know what she’s experienced in life. The two things I do know that are absolute fact and the sheer blatant reality here though, are that all I am guilty of doing is speaking to another human being and attempting to improve a flaw with myself. If that is so insidious, then
—continued
>—I’m sure you can all agree how ironic it is that I’m here doing exactly the same thing in front of you today. I’m talking. I’m pushing myself to do something very uncomfortable for myself. You people are quite literally witnessing the same exact thing that occurred on [date]. No one in this room is currently being violated or assaulted, I’m just talking.
Now, if she goes and says “nah uh he said he wanted to brute rape me and that he was gonna cum so deep down my throat cum would fly out my nose” then lawyer up. There’s a 99% chance she’s falsely accused another man of rape in the last few years and this lunacy is her way of making the lie justified to herself.
Thanks for the time you took for this. im gonna add details:
- No, the converastion wasnt sexual at all, it was friendly, almost childish.
- I did howerver kiss her in the cheek when i introduce miself and hug her BUT this happened in ARGENTINA. We ALL kiss the opposite gender in the cheek when we greet eachother. and we are prone to hugs. Again, we were having a nice talk. She was smiling most of the time.
- the weirdest part? she is fricking 32. im fricking 36.
an old mega autist channer encountered an old mega autist femcel.
My life is a fricking meme dude. I cant wait to finally lose the weight so i can live in fit attractive difficutly.
It seems that i need all the help i can get myself just to have a normal life.
Now you actually have to find out where she lives, put on a balaclava and beat the frick out of her with a baseball bat.
I believe in you anon, go out and do this solid to the world.
I am hoping my gut is right again
Because it is saying that I will end up with a emo chick at some point
It isn’t really a delusion either most dudes dream about having just 1 hot emo chick like them I have had several.
I don’t know why emo chicks gravitate towards me
I do dress somewhat emo recently but that happened even when I was skinny fat and had short hair
I hope so because I sort of purposely screwed up this thing with a hot 35 year old single mama
Because my just told to hold off and I will find what I am looking for
Double shot of Jameson
and a glass of 805.
Drank a few beers a couple weeks ago face finally went back to normal.
Got real puffy
No more alcohol,
no more bar runs,
no more bar prostitutes
At least for now.
Anyone know a guide for what exactly to prepare and eat every day for weightloss/muscle gain. I have severe ADHD and even with medication I just can't get it together to research and collate info
Coke zero, I'm on a keto cut
Water
quitting drinking for a bit. Not for some gay ass reason, just got sick of booze.
Dry January has been going great. No seltzers in the house, no desire to order anything but an 0.0 when I met up with some friends. Comfy start to the new year 🙂
What's Tinder like for a 30 yo man?
Anyone with bipolar successfully go med free?
Gimme a pint of beer, any will do
Feeling good at the moment lads. Pretty much got over my break up. Taking care of myself, started playing more guitar, reading more, spending time with friends and I want to start learning new skills for my work field. Can't really complain at the moment. I just need to start cutting on the booze, but it's not like I really drink that much in the first place
Nothing ever becomes better
Grow up, digus. Sure, it does!
Has anyone died yet? Things get BAD when that happens.
How do I attain this mentality?
Probably by continuing to read japanese cartoons. Yagmi anon, just keep escaping.
I'll never be a Chad. Perpetual dyel mode at 30 because I love playing football, hockey and biking too much to actually gain weight and look good. It doesn't help that I'm also a 5'9 manlet and my ideal gf should be a tall curvy athletic amazon. Literally impossible
>pic related
You're a dickhead.
If you love those sports so much, play them, do resistance training and consume calories.
> manlet
Yeah, that sucks. It is cheatmode for looking like you lift though. So the fact you b***h about dyel makes this even more pathetic.
I know the pain anon
i'll have some vodka with sparkling water since i'm on a cut.
anons, let's say, you have these 2 choices that'll mark your life:
1) the perfect gf to make your wife and mother of your children. she's 30 and you're 27.
You're from the US, but you're able to move in with your gf in canada. In 2-3 years, you'll marry and have kids. Life will be alright, and you'll be happy.
2) you quit your current job in pursuit of another better job (making 85k, but there's a chance to make 125k+), but you have to move far away from your family, and brake up with perfect gf.
I feel I want to stay with my gf, but I'd like to meet new women. Maybe I can even find someone younger, but what if she's the one, bros?
More money when you already have enough is never worth it over happiness. That raises a question though, are you truly happy with what you have?
>are you truly happy with what you have?
i would say yes, I have enough to put a downpayment for a house.
well, my gf is mexican so she's quite trad catholic, as well as a fit maniac. I really like and i dont know if i'll ever find someone like her.
my rational side says it's better to go for money and meet new people, new women.
If i move to canada, my gf will have the upper hand on me since she knows i left my life for her.
>pic related is what dhe looks like, except small tiddies
>foregoing a substantial pay raise and career advancement for a gf
>a canadian gf
>where you have to move to canada
you cant be serious bro
I got the practice gf pregnant. this is not a drill.
Relax, brochacho. Make her some sweet tea.
Unironically evil.
Then the alternative is to have a conversation with the pregnant woman about the future and shit. But be aware that even if you're on good terms now, she could change er mind any time and drag you across the coals.
pic saved. i love creampies bros
the thing is, if I tell her I want an abortion she would do it. it's just a shitty situation...I want kids and have a good job so we could definitely pull it off but she's basically a slam pig. I was never considering marriage with her. she's been taking birth control this whole time, she's just crazy fertile I guess
>she's been taking birth control this whole time, she's just crazy fertile I guess
I understand abortion is probably the way to go and that's what we'll do, I just can't help but think "what if..." Every man just wants a mid to call his own, maybe this is enough for me? anyways thanks for reading my diary
I came about because the condom broke and my mom was on the pill.
>now he posts on IST
You're not helping AYRT's unborn child's case here
>practice gf
relax bro it's a practice baby
>ran out of booz
then walk
i just turned 21. i can't relate to anybody. covid happened when i was 16/17. It ended around graduation time, everybody left for college and i am stuck here.
i spent 10 hours delivering mail in a blizzard today. At work I daydream about this girl who I see at the gym. It started out regularly enough but now I am constantly thinking about her. Of course, I know that it's not really her I'm thinking about, it's just a character I invented in my head.
Nearly constantly, I am having very intricate, detailed, compulsive daydreams that are only interrupted by the loud slam of the door on my mail truck or the bark of a dog that got off it's leash - i was scheduled to work every day this week and i am scheduled every day next week.
when i get home i just lay in bed and daydream until i fall asleep in my clothes. Yesterday my dad walked in my room and i was drunk, hugging a pillow, looking at the ceiling. I am humiliated
I haven't gotten a haircut for 6 months, i haven't shaved my patchy facial hair, my toe pokes through my shoes, my teeth are yellowing. I can feel myself becoming more moronic and incoherent. I use a flip phone so that it's harder for people to reach me.
i can't think of what i want to do with myself, i don't have any real goals or aspirations
I can't stand myself and I think that at some point, 5-10 years from now, i may take my own life
To end on a positive note - i have $40k saved up, and i'm thinking about spending $1500 on a home gym so i'll have something to do
congrats son , you grinded and got a nice nest egg. What's the long term plan with the money if you don't mind sharing.
This sounds like the US where healthcare is moronicly expensive
>What's the long term plan with the money if you don't mind sharing
i don't have one
i don't have a reason to be alive and if i don't find one in 5 years, i am going to leave
you have 80x more money saved than the average american. you can do a whole frick load of things. do you find joy, in anything?
>do you find joy, in anything?
not for a long time
i used to like making music
even "basic" things, like video games, youtube, lifting weights, do not appeal to me anymore
you wienersucker there is so much you can do with forty thousand dollars
You know what, I’ll take a beer. Whatever is on special, thanks barkeep.
Everything has been going good. A little too good so it has me worried that something may happen but this might be one of the only /feels/ threads where I have nothing to talk to you guys about, really.
To everyone struggling, I wish you the best. Tomorrow is a new day with new opportunity. Good luck everyone 🙂
>Bottle of water
I dont want to drink right now , had a blast yesterday....
I did so much this week and I just need to rest , Im feeling mostly emotionally exhausted to some point...had to make some hard conversations because Im autistic , I just felt like I overcame myself in past two days.
Also had good night yesterday because enjoyed a decent event that I can relate to it , the music was good and the overall vibe plus copped me some fresh merch from a guy that is a separate story....
>Everything has been going good. A little too good so it has me worried that something may happen....
Can relate , enjoying the momentum for a while and being grateful while thinking about the bad times , considering them.....
Bless everyone.
Need some advice. I'm 23, lifting is going well, but socially awkward, especially with girls. I do have a major crush on this chick and have been killing with her on OnlyFans. Never met her IRL, just through her content.
It's not just a booty call thing, she's legit cool and I wanna get to know her. Problem is, how do you even start transitioning to see her irl you only know from her posts? Any of you bros got experience with this? Thanks, IST.
Don't go for a girl who has an Onlyfans. That's the biggest red flag of them all. Literally anyone else is better.
Death freaks me out. I dont believe in an afterlife (and wont in case someone tries to convert me) and its just fricked thinking that I'm one of several billion lifeforms that achieved self awareness that will eventually be gone as well as my awareness of the universe.
Trying to fathom any existence other than our own is impossible. Does the universe exist outside of a conscience observer? If it doesn't then who is observing the rest of it? If there is someone observing the entire universe so that time can flow, maybe there is a God. But I don't think he exists in the way any religion believes.
you are part of the universe observing itself. nothing to worry about, just enjoy the ride. Once you get to age 60+ you start to want death and something new. Things get too repetitive and boring. Kind of like christmas
Did you ever slept without having any dream?. Well, worst case scenario death is like that.
Its not man. When you sleep you know you did when you wake up. You keep your memories from the previous day. Its more like not being born.
Yeah I guess, I dont know if I'll feel that way by 60, I know Larry King said he wanted to live forever in an interview with Neil DeGrasse Tyson at like age 87 or something. But I guess I should just be thankful I was born since the odds of anyone being who they are all statistically 0, and this ride had an ending as soon as I started it anyways.
I'm talking about sleeping without dreaming. Didn't mention the wake up part.
something with citrus my nose is stopped up after I took a nap. My truck failed inspection and is going to cost too much to repair that at that point I might as well buy new. Money is pretty damn tight even to finance, probably going to have to draw down my roth IRA by 2k USD to cover the down payment on the truck and still be able to go on vacation this summer and not have credit card bills climb.
I'll have 1.5L of shiraz thanks
>be pasty nerd with shit hair and drinking problem, but moderate build and 6'4
>get bumble and hinge
>get multiple matches a day if I keep swiping, already have a backlog of dozens of matches after a week
>have strong conversations with 10% of them
>chicken out, sabotage conversations before setting anything up
I'm rarted and am squandering my body, I should give it to someone else
I've only gone on two dates in the last year and one didn't want to go further and the other one turned out to be a huge fujo that barely spoke english
A few months out from being a wizard, being a virgin this long has crippled me mentally
>inb4 some 'truecel' attacks me
Back to work for a week and I'm already feeling burnout
Why is it always going wrong? It's not like I just sat around expecting a free handout, but no matter what I try it goes wrong, it's never enough.
>studied to get degree, as soon as I'm about to grad, the tech market tanks and good luck getting in now
>friendless for years now, let alone girls
>rot at home all day for the past decade
>lose my will mid workout when I ruminate on how my life has turned out, barely can lift the weight when I feel so shit
>poor, alone, will likely never see the life I'd dreamed of
>lost in this postmodern landscape, as lost as can be
And yet, I've always been too cowardly to even think of suicide. I'll go to bed now and suffer more tomorrow.
>verification not required
>tech homosexual
you deseve it
i got a nice job, mid pandemc
sucks to be you, i guess.
ive always been a pathetic loser but a good thing i had was sleep, i used to sleep very well through the night.
i now regularly wake up in the middle of the night and pretty much every night i lose 30 minutes, an hour, sometimes more because i lie in bed and in the dark and silence all i can think about is what a pathetic loser i am and how i've wasted and ruined my entire life and that there's no recovery for what ive done. how i have no relationships, no friends, no career, no housing of my own, barely any hobbies, have no goals and i'm literally miserable all waking hours.
>tfw working a night shift earning a pitiful wage
I need a new job soon. Bright side is I watch anime all shift, but damn I get bored and paid like shit.
Grill just canceled plans to hang out and watch movie tn bc she felt like being alone?
We have a date to go the museum tomorrow, do I even bother going or double down and see if she's interested during it?
>"watching a movie" = having sex with Marvelslop on in the background
>"felt like being alone" = on her period, nvm
Hope this helps lil bro
Whiskey tonight, trying to get out of this dating loop I'm in
>Been a good 2 years since I really felt something for a girl
>Start putting myself back out there
>Go out with a girl
>She's into it and we go back to my place on the first date
>Don't feel anything for her but hope it'll come eventually
>Could keep it going but I get tired of her in less than a week
>Try to see if she wants to be casual but she's already caught feelings
>Cut it off so she doesn't get too attached
>Repeat all over again every three months
Maybe it's due to trying to date outside my usual type but I'm not sure where to find my type now that I'm out of college
Other than that I'm not sure how to get back that passion in dating
First off, chekt.
Bros it has been 6 years since she left me. The only woman I have ever truly loved. I've had several relationships since then and a few one-nighters here and there. But she's the only one I think about. She's the only one I feel completes me. Even after 6 years. No other woman I've been with comes even remotely close. Even now, living on the other side of the country, I still day dream that I'll run into her at a grocery store or gas station. I pray for it several times a week. I'm considering just never dating again and going about my days alone, being grateful I at least know what true love is.
Double whiskey and a glass of water.
I know most (if not all) of my suffering is self inflicted, I can easily get my shit together and be a normal functioning human for years at a time before something goes off inside me and decides to throw everything away; my job, my relationships, everything. I always used to laugh at myself, call myself a pitiful homosexual, and then get back on the grind again, but now in my mid 30's I genuinely feel like I don't want to do it again. I don't want to start a career over again, I don't want to find a new girl and build up a life together again, I don't want to put myself through this cycle again. It's not depression or anything like that, sometimes I fear that psychedelics and reading philosophy and spiritual books has made me so detached from things people take so seriously and there's no way for me to care for long periods of time, and sometimes the only way to get that motivation back is to almost hit rock bottom. Life can be whatever you want it to be, for me it's rather easy, too easy, and too often I just want to suffer.
>talked to my gf over the phone 2 weeks ago
>made a joke about her being fat
>she got offended and hung up
>no contact since
What now? How do I know if we're over? I have a few things at her house I want back
Man its not over yet. You fricked up bigtime though you never call a woman fat.
Text her and apologize and say you want to talk to her, before you do that really think about what to say and why that hurt her feelings. Women handle jabs at their appearance much much worse than men because they get judged and bullied a lot more for it growing up.
I keep on fapping. im sorry God. I keep on failing.
Just water.
Thinking about how I failed to frick the shit out of an old friend last Halloween. She’s barely talked to me since and it’s driving me insane. I’m so fricking moronic with women, I shouldn’t be stressing over this girl right now.
I'm an almost 30(in November) year old kissless handholdless dateless virgin. I've never seen a vegana or breasts in real life.
I refused to reciprocate on multiple flirtatious interactions because I'm not comfortable with myself. Decent face/jawline (but need to lose more weight), tall (6'1 or so) and I'm white with blond hair + pretty decent frame with a deep voice. I'm around 275 lbs currently,
I'm essentially considered “the fat guy who made it" at my gym and get daily compliments + questions from many others. Obviously I still have more weight to lose, but I look completely different.
I used to be close to 500 lbs a couple years ago and nearly wasted my entire 20s being a isolated NEET basement dweller that was addicted to food + video games + anime to escape reality.
I'm getting more attention from females because I'm continually getting into better and better shape yet my brain doesn't allow me to reciprocate until I'm completely fit. My entire life consists of physical self improvement at this point with no clear goal or end. I just want to be an absolute specimen of a man.
My brain won't allow me to seek out women for the prospects of intimacy or even speak to them in any fashion other than simply "what's up" and "see ya" until I'm nearly top 10% of males in terms of fitness - there's no in-between. The notion of a woman choosing me over other men even if I'm objectively better looking or stronger is completely alien to me. Sex seems fricking alien to me.
I usually ignore most women on purpose if they try to make eye contact or talk because I can't get myself to interact with them until I'm completely in shape. If I do interact with them, it's purely platonic and I can't get myself to act flirtatious in any way whatsoever and I'm essentially asexual around them.
It's technically not over because it didn't even begin, but it feels over.
Sorry to break it to you anon, but you are delusional. Nothing in your behavior towards women will change if you achieve some arbitrary fitness goal. You could wake up in the top 1% of men tomorrow and you'd still be insecure and ignore women.
I know this because I'm the same as you. I spend years chasing the next "if I just do X, I will be confident enough to talk to them". It is never enough and you will always feel inadequate.
I was never fat, but I had other issues that made me quite unattractive. After years of working on myself, working out and growing into myself, I'm at the point where women stare at me everywhere, smile at me and even approach me from time to time. I've managed to kiss a few women and have sex a few times simply because some chick threw herself at me and I failed to autism them away. Usually because I was drunk.
I still cannot actively pursue anyone. My brain just will not allow me to do that.
Everything you describe fits perfectly to this. You completely severed your social interactions from any desires you have. Any attraction you feel is immediately responded to with ignoring them. Them signaling attraction to you makes you avoid them even harder.
This is all a defense mechanism. At some point something in your brain got broken and potential sexual or romantic interactions trigger a shame response in you. Shame from past failures, deep insecurities and the feeling you will never be enough. Any attraction a women shows you is an error and will evaporate as soon as she sees the "real" you.
Losing more weight won't fix this. And I can't tell you what does, because I have figured it out myself.
meant for
I honestly just made that as copypasta but it's actually true and I appreciate the time you took to make this response. Some day I'll figure it out and grow a fricking pair to go after what I want and not inhibit myself any longer after I get a but more in shape. Thanks.
Yes can I get uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
Fun fact, one of my aunts works at a bar nearby, and every once in a while she comments that I'm pretty much the only one ordering water on a regular basis when visiting
I will have a single plum, floating in perfume, served in a man's hat.
>people tell me it's probably not going to work out with her
>I still have hope
>can't overcome my autism long enough to get a straight answer from her one way or another
To all of you low self esteem nerds with women troubles:
>am friends with a guy who has a block towards relationships
>never dated or even kissed anyone despite having multiple chances
>decent looking dude but beta and a complete b***h when it comes to women
>anyway, one day he tells me he's got a crush on someone
>I've got a bad feeling about this.png
>The only other time he told me about a crush was years ago when his bpd supervisor who is almost 10 years his senior wanted to cheat on her bf with him and started to make empty promises about how she was gonna dump the guy and date my friend when he started acting hesitant about it. She ended up getting the ick and nothing happened
>Why did I mention that? Because this time he met said supervisor's ugly sister at a party
>she got drunk as frick, started kissing him and tried to grab his dick
>now he's in love
>keeps pursuing her and trying to take her on dates
>shows me a picture of her
>ugliest danger haired hambeast I've ever seen
>"huh, maybe nothing will come out of it"
>a few months latter they're dating
>invites me and some other people to his place
>things are quite calm. Everyone is just acting nice, all of us dressed normally while chatting and having a few beers
>except for the hambeast
>she's drunk as frick, dressed like a club bawd
>stumbling around while rambling incoherently, throwing up and breaking things
>while trying not to look at all the flab her clothes reveal I notice that she has a ton of cutting scars on her arms
>my friend only stares lovingly at her - his eyes showing nothing besides worry, compassion and care
>decide to stay there for a bit and then get the frick out before things get uglier
>the gf pulls me for a hug when I'm leaving and shamelessly rubs her rotund body against mine
>still feel disgust whenever I recall it
Please don't be like my friend.
A friend once asked me what my type was.
I said "any single woman who is nice to me"
You know what the worst part is? I met a girl he went to uni with at his place. A girl who did a full blown love confession to him years ago and that he rejected despite me insisting for him to at least give her a chance.
She was hot as frick. Like hot to the point that I wondered what the frick is wrong with my friend and even tried to flirt with her before discovering that a guy there was her bf. The guy looked like one of those stereotypical Nintendo manchilds to the point it was uncanny, so my friend could've definitely bagged her.
Anyway, careful with the being nice thing. Women aren't dumb, most of them will be nice at the start.
Same here, but she doesn't have to be single, or even particularly nice 🙁
I remember you anon. I’m the guy who had a similar story. You mentioned more details this time.
>cutting scars
Stuck out to me. Isn’t that classic? That one detail tells me everything I need to know about this woman and to some extent your friend. My first Gf was similar, cutting scars and all, but she was 19 and had a great body and I knew she was just practice. I feel for your friend, I’m assuming he’s mid-late 20s or early 30s, that’s rough to go through this at that age when things like the anxiety of starting a family are setting in.
The most frustrating part is you as a 3rd party know this and can see all the bullshit, and yet nothing you can say or do would free him.
She more than likely love bombed him and gawk gawk 360 atomic power sucked his meat nonstop at first, and him being inexperienced with apprehensiveness to women made him the ideal easy target for her. Like I said, I’ve been there. He 100% knows btw whether he admits it to himself or not, he knows at some level what’s going on. But for now he’s getting attention and affection he’s been starved of.
What I will say, advise him as you will if he asks for advice, be as blunt and honest as you want and make sure to include “I wouldn’t be your friend if I didn’t tell you all this man.” And if he cuts you off for it, accept it, but once it crash and burns you can still be there as a friend for him and get him right.
My memory is shit but I recall posting about it on fit two or three months ago.
>You mentioned more details this time.
I try to skip details so that anons don't go tl;dr but this time I wanted to paint the whole picture. My point with this story is that sensitive nerds/autists are preyed on by women who are basically trainwrecks. We have to learn to identify them and to understand that we deserve better. There's also the fact that men who aren't very experienced tend to attach to the first woman who gives them affection, many times to disastrous consequences.
>The most frustrating part is you as a 3rd party know this and can see all the bullshit, and yet nothing you can say or do would free him.
Yeah, he's on his late twenties and there's nothing I can do. It's funny how the guys you can be real with are the ones who don't need it and the ones who need it the most would just feel angry and dismiss anything you say. I can't see her being able to monkey branch to a better guy and knowing my friend she'll have to pull some real bullshit to make him break up. I'm talking about full on being caught cheating or something like that, and depending on how deep he's in he might just embrace being a cuck. It's ogre.
> My point with this story is that sensitive nerds/autists are preyed on by women who are basically trainwrecks. We have to learn to identify them and to understand that we deserve better. There's also the fact that men who aren't very experienced tend to attach to the first woman who gives them affection, many times to disastrous consequences.
Couldn’t have said it better myself. I’ve b***hed and moaned about her for the last month in these threads but that first GF I mentioned is still trying to slander me almost 10 years later now. She tells anyone she meets, as she did with me about the guys from her past before me, how she’s a victim and I treated her horribly. Saying it was me who did to her all the shit she did to me. Lost a lot of friends who believed her bullshit, pretty sure even my own sister believes her although she hasn’t said that.
But knowing the signs is important. There was a thing anons would post when the topic of BPD women came up, the average IST autist is the BPD womans ideal prey. I did have the foresight when choosing my ex as a practice GF to know she was a bad idea but that I’d probably learn a lot and make up for the lessons I missed out on in my teen years, I just didn’t know it wasn’t worth it and would have the consequences it did. It’s never a good idea. That’s why I feel for your friend though, I cannot imagine going through this at this age vs having gone through it at 19/20 ish.
>ending of your post may be in too deep and embrace being a cuck
I didn’t wanna say it but that’s the thing with most men. Especially as they’re getting older. They’ll just settle. When you posted this months ago I was the anon who mentioned his friend having a similar thing. Except she can’t monkey branch too, and she likely won’t find another man who works, cooks, cleans, wipes her ass, bathes her, does all the work while she sits around getting high and he still worships the ground she walks on. He’s lost
I've seen you post your story a ton of times, anon. I think you're somewhat traumatized by what happened. Hope you get better. I recommend not focusing on women. Not saying it'll magically fix your problems but it's what I'm doing after two bpd exes and a ton of shitty experiences on apps. You shouldn't give up on them because there are good women out there but focus on yourself for a bit.
>I cannot imagine going through this at this age vs having gone through it at 19/20 ish.
Me too. The older you are the higher the stakes.
>He’s lost
That's how I feel about my friend.
I try not to post about it anymore because it’s kind of whipping a dead horse at this rate just b***hing to b***h, but this seems like a common theme here and I feel like I have more insight than anyone should about these situations or at the very least I can relate to anons and show them they’re not alone. Yeah I am still traumatized and I do know there’s good women, what I’m currently battling is the paranoia that every woman I meet will be like that and I find myself jumping to conclusions and self sabotaging. “THATS A RED FLAG ABORT SHES JUST LIKE HER THEYRE ALL THE SAME” it’s tiring but I’m slowly, gradually getting over it all. So long as her smear campaign doesn’t impact my life anymore than it has in the past. It’s infuriating to have to tell a new woman I’ve met at some point about it just so she doesn’t get wind from other people first and buy into it.
>that’s how I feel about my friend
The upside is your friend can do better, you posted about how he’s not ugly and has had hot b***hes into him in the past. If he ever gets out of this shit, he may have some work to do overcoming not just the issues involved with dating one these rats, but his prior issues with the apprehensiveness of dating in general. So not all hope is lost, it’s not like he’s some disfigured mutant 4’10” manlet. He just needs to come to his senses in one way or another and inky he can do that. All you can really do as a friend is offer advice when asked, but more importantly just be there to be a bro even if it’s just hanging at a hockey game or playing vidya together.
Do you live in a small town? One thing that gives me comfort is knowing that I'll probably never see or hear from my exes again in my hellscape megalopolis.
>He just needs to come to his senses
Dunno, he's the most passive man I've ever met. Also, we've been growing apart since we don't have much in common nowadays. He became very woke and I'm the only normal friend he has left. It worries me because I know that if she cheats on him or pull some fricked up shit a ton of his friends will encourage him to simp and cuck it out. Well, I'll let the chips fall where they may. If she really fricks him over I'll at least be honest with him, even if that ends our friendship. He deserves this much from me.
Checked, no I live in a huge city luckily but that paranoia may always be there. Doesn’t help that big cities have Facebook pages delicates to vetting/background checking man. Example: “are we dating the same man: Dickenbause Ville”. And they only accept women to the groups. All it takes is a woman I’ve met to post me and that psycho to happen to be on it/see it. But then I realize that’s not much a loss, I wouldn’t want to date a woman who would post me on something like that.
Anyways I do plan to leave my area eventually.
>your friend
That’s the best thing you can do man. That’s being a genuine friend and whether he sees it should that time come or cut you off for it is his problem. I for one would much rather have a friend who would tell me straight up the reality regardless of how it made me feel than someone who lies. The same is true for everything, does a real friend say “No you look great don’t bother lifting don’t bother watching your diet you’re not fat” or “dude I love you, but you’re disgusting. You’ve gained like 80lbs this year man. Do better.” The latter obviously.
>the average IST autist is the BPD womans ideal prey.
I had no idea going in, and after the honeymoon phase, it was hell. I've never really been able to let myself get vulnerable like that again
>sensitive nerds/autists are preyed on by women who are basically trainwrecks.
I wish I knew this before I was lovebombed by a 80+ body count 20 year old who was the only girl who ever showed interest in me. She became
my best friend but he was abusive, physically and emotionally, she cheated on me, texted her exes, etc etc basically every red flag you could ever imagine but I was an autist who was trauma bonded to her. And she knew it. Her finally breaking up with me and me somehow finding the balls to not go back to her was perhaps the hardest thing I ever went through.
I managed to not kill myself and I came out a better man. I understand women and their psyche better now and I never let myself be brought that low again by another woman. Any woman who is worth my time wouldn’t dare try to bring me down either.
>be Canadian
>socially competent, but often have very little in common with the people I meet (from what I understand, Canada is culturally California but colder. Everything's starting to seem upside down here)
>University girls and other random lefties sometimes show interest in me
>could never speak my mind around them, don't like them, no point
>dating apps
>1000s of cutouts of the same girl who stop replying anyways (spicy margeritas, pineapple on pizza, socks in bed, likes to travel. The profiles read like bots made them)
>duolicious
>girls stop responding there too
>unvaccinated
>still remember being treated like a felon by everyone around me and have bigger walls up than ever, assume they would hate me if they actually knew me
My flexibility is shit and my joint aches are affecting me athletically, so I'm going to start going to some yoga classes. I secretly hope I meet someone there, but I'll probably just meet more of the self-hating Canadian pseudo-communists. I guess I'll reinstall a dating app, too. I'm in my late 20s but this feels like it's already over. I need to find something worth dedicating my life to because the wife and kids aren't gonna be there.
Thanks for reading. I haven't posted in a long time, just felt like b***hing to the void.
Canadabro, you need to get out. I'm figuring out how to flee to America. This place is never going to get better in the future but it is going to get way way worse very fast in the next few years.
I've wanted to get out of here for years. Anyone who actually knows me thinks I don't belong here and anyone like me has dual citizenship or some other means of escaping. They also cogregate in Alberta.
But I can't leave my family. At least for now. My parents are old and dying and even when they were in good health, they didn't want to leave. I may go after they're gone, but there's no way of knowing when that'd be so I'm moving forward as if I'll be here for good.
I can't imagine how fricking bad it's going to get here. I don't really have the chops to make it to the top of the economic ladder, and everyone under the second rung is going to be completely fricked.
If you do get out and go to the US, also be careful of where you go to. Seattle is basically Vancouver-lite for example
I caught up with a very close friend of mine yesterday. He's turning 30 this year. Very religious, has a great job, actively involved in his church community etc. He was lamenting the fact there are no good women even within his community. They've all been infected with social media culture and feminism in one way or another. If it's not "muh career", it's "submitting to a man is sexist" or goes along with whatever the current thing is be it the covid scam or "climate change". It's slim pickings everywhere, even where you'd least expect it. Poor guy man. If I had a daughter I'd more than happy for her to marry him. I respect him even more because he's not willing to compromise on these things despite the fact that he could have been married by now if he just cucked out. I'm 6 years younger than him but I won't be surprised if my life goes the same way. The world wasn't built for sensitive young men.
I'm sorry to hear that. Same country?
I used to think that I was having difficulty due to my own shortcomings (same with the other IST spergs) but I'm seeing now that the fabric is falling apart in general.
>Same country?
Nah, Australia.
>I'm seeing now that the fabric is falling apart in general
We're finally seeing the full fruits of feminism and sexual revolution. Allowing women to enter into the public sphere was, without exaggeration, one of the worst mistakes made in human history. Oh well, we now get to see women wallow in a misery of their own making. They'll find a way to blame men for it though. Though I will concede weak men lead us to this
source on that quote?
reality
Idk tbh but it tells the truth regardless. Women should not be in public life
Pretty much same shit dude. I agree and have experienced all you wrote. But to touch on the carbon copies because despite how gross this is, there’s humor in it to me
>white cowboy boots in Nashville
>some random pic of her standing in front of a neon sign at a club
>maybe some travel photos because nothing says “woman you wanna date” like her advertising all the dick she’s had
>cum gutter lashes
Even on bumble it’s the same shit
>her opening message is “hey”
>doesn’t matter how I respond, the next few messages are where it ends
>if I just do what these same b***hes do and respond “hey” back it ends
Just another level to this. Women suck at text game. I’ve only dated and hooked up with women I met IRL.
Lately though I only re download it to pass time. I’ll get my matches and for the ones who send some shitty “hey” “hi” whatever message I just reply some crazy shit like “frick my bad I’m sorry I like dudes though idk how I swiped on you”
Just shit like that I find humorous
>if I just do what these same b***hes do and respond “hey” back it ends
Men and women are different. You're going to have to do the work if you want one. There's nothing "fair" about it, but that's the way it is, the way it always has been, and the way it always will be.
I understand this anon I’m saying I only reserve effort and actual convo for the ones who will send something better than “hey” as a first message, like something from my profile. But even some generic “you look like my future husband” is more deserving than “hey”
Ah, I see what you mean. I'll usually give them one shot since women are moronic, but if they can't muster up more than a "hey" on the second message, I just cut bait.
got told yesterday that i wont have a job anymore in less than 2 weeks.
>Lately though I only re download it to pass time. I’ll get my matches and for the ones who send some shitty “hey” “hi” whatever message I just reply some crazy shit like “frick my bad I’m sorry I like dudes though idk how I swiped on you” Just shit like that I find humorous
I used to avoid doing that because I didn't want to get banned, but now that I don't expec anything to come of it, I may as well talk a bit of shit.
Usually they unmatch but sometimes you’ll get one with some humor who will respond “oh shit so do I we have so much in common”
>literally everyone you ever meet you don't like
>you hate every girl, you hate every guy
>still worried about politics and your vaccination status
>denigrate and insult everyone you come into contact with
>does this even as a grown adult in his late 20s
>but me, I'm such a normal and great guy, everyone is just so much worse than me, I'm definitely not the common denominator in every single social interaction I have being negative
>things will definitely be different when I go somewhere else
The complete lack of self-reflection you people have is astounding, really.
>t. triple vaxxed liberal
My gyno is getting so bad, i am too embarrassed to wear a t shirt to the gym. I now have to wear a hoodie. I hate it so much, but i can't afford surgery. And even if i get surgery, it will probably just come back again.
Coke and whiskey.
I got my first "wyd" text boys, I'm actually going to make. I was slow on replying so I'm not fricking her currently, I know how this girl works, but honestly I'm just flattered to be on someone's roster.
>just happy to be considered
fellas is this some kind of soft cucking?
There is this girl I met on a game (I am an autist moron who dont talk to girls IRL even though I am fit and succesful) and I am falling for her, lmao. I promised myself I wouldn't be such a moron again but yeah I am a lonely bastard and cant help myself when I find a nice girl... Anyways, it won't lead to anything cause I sense she just wants me as a friend. I need to stop thinking and fantasizing about her asap...
>I need to stop thinking and fantasizing about her asap...
Been fapping to thoughts of my work friend for months myself, feels good man. Just keep it a fantasy and don't be a silly billy
>moved home last year after breakup
>cleared 15k in credit card debt
>got a slight raise at work
>finally able to save again
>get paid, look in my bank account, and I don't have to spend my money on a bill for the first time in like 3 years
Can't lie fellas I teared up a bit.
Well done anon, genuinely proud of you
Thanks man, cheers. This thread and the people in it were here to talk me through the worst of my thoughts when I was going through this shitty breakup. I really am appreciative to each and every one of you.
These threads are IST at it's best and what it should have become - just a bunch of redpilled bros helping other bros out.
Choccy milk, please.
I've a decent head on my shoulders, am very good at interpersonal conversations and helping other talk their problems out. What can I do with this? It doesn't need to be a job, just a way to help. The only things that come to mind are either becoming a therapist or a priest but I don't put much stock into the way therapy works and priesthood isn't for me. It just bothers me, having a gift that can help others and no idea about how to put it in use.
Is there even a point to lifting if I wear glasses? Feels like it cuts my smv in half
How do I meet people without any of the following
1. Bars/clubs
2. Dating apps
How are you meeting new people? Please, I need to know.
Take up running and join a run club. I don't think I've ever met such a positive and friendly community of people to the groups I've attended.
I know IST is gonna call this gay, but I watched Everything Everywhere All at Once yesterday and absolutely loved the movie, even cried a little. It's message on how to deal with nihilism and what-ifs genuinely changed my current outlook on life
Absolutely heterosexual.
I thought that the acclaim it received is a reflex of how bleak and empty are the times we live in. The main character bringing people heartfelt joy and completion through materialistic/hedonistic desires during one of the movie's climaxes or the entire premise centering around the multiverse - which itself is a current subject of fascination due to being the logical end result of spiritual secularity - are just some of the things I found abhorrent about it. Reminds me of Succession in a certain way. Both exemplify what passes for quality nowadats, the only difference being that Succession is Game of Thrones for those who crave maturity while EEAaO is Rick and Morty for those who crave existentialism.
Plus Stephanie Hsu is gorgeous.
why is life such a struggle bros
when I was a kid all I wanted was a stable job and a happy family, instead I'm still studying and working odd jobs at 29 and I've only been in one relationship that barely lasted a year
Finished me degree in education. Found out after trying both public and private school that I really don't enjoy being a teacher. Back to the drawing board.
I was in your shoes a few years ago anon. Switch careers and don't look back. It gets better.
the gym makes me feel absolutely pathetic. i went insanely anorexic for half a year and lost a lot of weight thinking that all i wanted was to be skinny, but the second i genuinely took a step back and looked in the mirror i was disgusted with myself. despite my ribs poking out, ive got belly fat and loose skin that make me look like a pregnant model, my nipples sag from the loose skin, my asscheeks are flappy from loose skin, but my thighs are still fat, terrible bone structure and body hair etc. lifting is my only hope of getting a decent physique, but it just feels like shit keeps going wrong when i try it. try starting when im at maintence because im scared of putting on weight, lifts dont go up, basically spending an hour and a half in the gym to do 5x5 compounds + an ab workout and leaving with nothing. start eating 500cal above my maintenence, still no increase to lifts from using just the barbell, but i feel so much fatter looking in the mirror, and the "water weight" gained me 1.5kg over 4 days. i spend all day thinking stuff like "am i doing the right routine?" "how could my form be better?" "am i just a genetic deadend that cant handle physical movement?" and so every single day is nothing but constant gym bullshit running through my head. im like the living example of that pic with the guy asking about protein bars and the other guy saying just lift. shit makes me feel fricking miserable, and realising that makes me even more miserable, because im a man and im supposed to be able to handle doing something as simple as moving heavy objects 3 days a week without going postal. dont even know where im going with this lmao
Back in school I had a classmate who was ugly and moronic, had the eyes of a dead fish. Everybody used to laugh at him for being ugly and moronic, including me. Today I saw him with a cute GF. Meanwhile I'm still KHHV...
Vodka on the rocks, please. Actually... Bring in the bottle
As usual?
>Crying and self pity
>Not being a men
>Muh feelings
>Mah girlfriends
> Mah mental health
> I dont wanna live i wanna ackkk aaa
Well? Be a men or go frick yourself.
>walks into the feels bar
Barkeep, one club soda. Add a bit of lemon juice. Stirred, not shaken.
>eyes the other patrons while sipping his drink
>sees a man approaching a young miss
Excuse me m'lady, is this oaf bothering you?
>he starts barking at me
"Looksmaxxing"? "SMV"? You're..."cold approaching" because "that feel when no gf"? What are you on about?
>turns to face the barkeeper
Garçon, this gentleman has had too many feels for one night!
>the bouncer escorts him out
I apologize m'lady. To make things up with you, might we share a "that feel when just lost my job" with you? Or are you more of a "that feel when my suicidal thoughts no longer scare me" type of gal?
So this is a long one with some intense lore
For context my parents divorced when I was 8 and my dad remarried like a year after.It was an incredibly ugly divorce and the family set up with my step family was not a good environment for me or them
I did have a falling out with my father about 9 years ago and he hasn't spoken to me since(not going into details). So I get off work yesterday and I see he called and left a voicemail saying it's urgent and he needs to talk to me. I'm debating on what to do when he starts trying to call my mom like an hour after I didn't answer.
So after we both kind of ignore him the dude starts trying to call my grandparents house(keep in mind he hasn't spoken to them in about 20 years)
My mom was furious he was trying to drag two 80 year olds into whatever shenanigans he was up to and she texted him wondering what the deal was. We both figure it's either his mom getting ready to pass or he has cancer and he's trying to make amends
Nope
Turns out the reason why he was freaking out was that apparently my ex step brother molested the son of a family friend when were like 9-10 and he was worried this kid also diddled me
No hi no how have you been no I'm sorry for not speaking to you at all his only concern was did you get raped when you were a kid. He could have grandkids for all he knows
Also you think that's something you should have worried about wayyy back in the day. Anyways I really don't know how I feel about any of this or why they're trying to drag me into it or why it has to be my issue
even if you guys haven’t spoken in years, unless your dad is a complete piece of shit, he still cares about you. you guys obviously stopped talking for reasons and maybe he never reached out because he wanted to respect your decisions. he just wants to make sure you weren’t raped, which if that happened to my kid anon….the absolute rage i would let out over the course of 24-36 hours as i continuously torture the guy who did it, injecting him with meth and adrenaline cartel style so he has to be be conscious through it all. a bit edgy but holy hell i couldnt imagine my kid being diddled.
> whiskey dang nabbit
manlet bros....
First week back in college as an adult , I linked with a fatty in one of the classes - we were talking and bantering fairly well , she missed a class so I just messaged her "oh missed a class haha, we covered XYZ"
Was this the smoothest ? no - but even on a friendzone level this is pretty damn tame - just checking in someone and in line with the banter we have in class.
It has been two days and no reply - I genuinely think I was blocked the moment we exchanged numbers. (This is imessage so I think it still shows delivered). I knew it was going to be rough as an autist, but the idea that a fatty in a shared class cannot even be bothered to keep the channels open until the end of the term with somebody she is ACTIVELY chatting with tells me its a fricking WRAP.
I am in good shape, have great skin care and I was leaps and bound hotter than this person and to pull this is just fricking offensive.
I AM DONE. These hoes are on their own now, I am only talking to them purely for charismatic social skills practice - I am going to be kind to every human as a decent person does. But I am never assuming positive intent from a woman ever again and if I do "get one" , I'm going to assume manipulation is afoot and try to play those games back - God, Friends, & Family till the end now.
college girls really on a hair trigger these days
Why did I have to be born short and ugly
I've lost 24 pounds since November. I don't feel or look different. Feels bad. I also go to the gym 5-6 days a week since then and I don't have more energy. Disappointing.
I start taking finasteride next week. Hope that won't boost my suicidal ideation or kill my dick.
i’ll spare you the depression rant but i’m considering microdosing as a sort of hail mary. anyone with experience?
mojito please
my ex left me for her ex almost half a fricking year ago I was on the verge of killing myself and nos I'm having the time of my life. made a shitton of money with crypto, got my mental & physical health in order. I'm on my way blasting the new kali uchis album in my coupe to plow that nepalese chick for the rest of the night. nothing good ever comes easy anons believe in god and yourself
first part sounds scarily similar though it’s nice to know it gets better, it’s been a week. did you get lucky in crypto or did you have to put in the work for it and find your strategy?
both honestly. got lucky with my initial 2 picks, one memecoin that lifted me out of poverty. now I'm scrying for lowcap AI projects and its working quite well so far. Sorry for the pain you are going through now. You will feel horrible, but eventually you will get used to it. Use this energy to become the best version of yourself and don't contact you ex.
grab a beer put in some liqour enjoy a few cigs and watch a good movie anon. you dont have to finish that in a single go view it as an emergency stash
>had a nice plan yesterday with folk I click with
>they canceled one by one due to legit reasons
>I got upset as I have slight rejection and control problems (not too dire but I need to calm myself sometimes)
>meanwhile two dudes I kinda fell out with planned a lame-ish event for tonight
>meh, why not
>go there
>convo is awesome, I drink some cool moroccan tea
>they remember small stuff I mentioned months ago, ask if they are still the same, which is a fantastic feeling
>we leave on extremely amicable terms
its important to just say yes to 90% of invitations I think
same-ish thing happened to me
it was feeling anxious about my career but now thats sorted out I'm making moves across the spectrum, im excited for the next 3 years
it gets better but it all starts with going to gym and/or being active
do something, everyday!!
try not to drink when you are by yourself
i know its fun and relaxing, but it leads to no good
invite some buddies or family to share the booze with and maybe dont drink it today?
fin might kill the willie but min has been working wonders for me for the past 5? 6? years
Minoxidil seemed bad. I don't want lot of shedding right now as my loss isn't very noticeable.
>went to the liquor store
>bought a bottle of jameson, 6 pack of guinness, and a pack of smokes
>have been staring at the unopened bottle for 3 hours
>pack of smokes next to it
>if i don’t drink and smoke i basically wasted $60
>know if i drink, i will eat like shit and eventually sleep like shit
>will wake up tomorrow and not do cardio or workout
>will wake up bloated and stressed from bad sleep
>still struggling not to open the bottle
i feel weak bros.
>be indian
>go to bar
>cold approach white blonde girl that looks like scarlett johannson
>good frame
>5'10 165 chad jawline and look like bollywood star
>1000+ instagram followers and many girls on whatsapp
>wearing my best ralph lauren polo and armani cologne
>say "hello madame what are you doing in a place like this"
>she says "eww" and turns away
It is hard my friends
Sometimes I feel bad about Indians and all the hate they get…then I see one in public and immediately start muttering “fricking pajeets” under my breath and realize they deserve it all
For me it’s more like then I interact with one and remember how fricking rude they are and overconfident at the same time while being the last person who should have that much confidence.
They’re always so overconfident in everything they do even while blatantly wrong. Doesn’t matter if they’re speaking about a subject they know nothing about, interacting with others in the gym. They’ll speak down on everyone call everyone weak or lesser then go struggle to curl 20lbs with shitty form. I think it’s really just the caste system and then they learn about American culture from movies and try to emulate what they watch rather than learn how to act IRL by interacting.
>I interact with one and remember how fricking rude they are and overconfident at the same time while being the last person who should have that much confidence.
>They’re always so overconfident in everything they do even while blatantly wrong. Doesn’t matter if they’re speaking about a subject they know nothing about, interacting with others in the gym. They’ll speak down on everyone call everyone weak or lesser
sounds exactly like how everyone on fit behaves
went through something really similar myself
although indian women are vastly different to men, when it comes to developing cultures, its always men who are always acting a bit uppity
so instead of being fully racist I opted for a sexist-racist kinda thing
I’ve experienced the same rudeness from the women too but you’re right it is lesser usually.
>woke at grocery store in highschool
>always have this group of Indian women in traditional attire come
>never come in my line never interact with them
>one day they come in my line
>without even looking in my direction the main one flicks her hand at me as if to dismiss me when I greet them
>then she does it again, doesn’t even face me or turn her body, flicks her hand, and commands me to “fetch” something she forgot
>literally just stare at her shocked and unsure what she’s talking about, both because of shock but also because she said it turned away looking at her friend and I didn’t realize she was actually talking to me at first when she said that
>gets annoyed and demands harsher because I wasn’t quick enough
Idk why they’re like that. I’ve met so many who are like that, and then you’ll sometimes meet one who’s totally westernized and is just a normal person and actually pretty cool even.
>ralph lauren polo
It's like a uniform for Indian men. Why do they all wear this?
Based Aryan Princess shutting down yet another shitskin.
I have exactly 2 months left to get lean and shredded to help me get some pussy in Japan (already got a milf I can go see as a last resort)
I box and keep fit by doing some indoor biking and hit a freestanding bag, weight training 2-3x a week as I feel. my cardio is dogshit and I've been avoiding the boxing gym as I just kinda fell out of interest with it but hope to pick it up once my cardio is together.
Should I focus on buffing my neck/traps and back? My chest and shoulders are fine imo
A week ago my gf (now ex) started getting distant, so I went cold too and did the same. She would stop texting me after 7pm but I knew she was awake until like 2am she doesn’t sleep any earlier than 1am. I confirmed this by “accidentally” texting her with a text to someone else and she questioned it right away but ignored my other texts, then didn’t respond at all until a day after. Was like that for a week.
She ends up accusing ME of being distant, then gives me this whole generic “I can’t do this right now I just have trust issues” because her brother died 5 years ago.
That same night hours after she asks me if I’m up, calls me, I ignore.
Last night same shit, calls me a few times and texts asking me to talk asking me to call her.
She texted again today saying “I needed to talk to you” and I told her something like “you said you don’t want to do this you can’t have it both ways.”
She’s called me a few times and has texted me the following after I’ve ignored
>You’re so difficult
>Can you just call me
>eye rolling emoji
>You don’t have to. I get it.
>Can you just call me
All in the span of the last 2 hours.
Now boys, this is a tough one. She doesn’t seem like a hoe. Normally I can easily tell even with feelings involved. But this was sketchy. Going cold on me, saying she just suddenly has trust issues because of her brothers death (she’s said that in the past but never about ME or dating also never mentioned it again). Then after breaking up trying to have phone calls? Idk. It doesn’t make sense. I don’t think she’s the type to spread her legs easily like that.
BUT I also don’t think she really even values me in the first place and that if she was a prostitute she would pull that BS, make an excuse to break up to frick another dude and then hmu like it’s nothing expecting me to just kneel and Simp for her back.
Idk. I like her, the low body count and her being hott are a big deal to me.
But I also don’t fully trust her
FRICK b***hES GET MONEY LIFT HEAVY
Dude why? What do you have to gain? I’m asking you seriously. Respond to this with a list of pros and be honest with yourself. Feel free to include the cons but I know what they are already.
You are out of her league. You can do better. I used to subscribe to the date an ugly b***h/several of them as a form of training wheels but it’s not worth it IMHO.
If your issue is nerves, just get a propranolol prescription if you’re healthy and use that as training wheels. Don’t take it daily. Take once a week and only to go approach women to get good at it, and on first/second dates. I don’t think you can drink with that so do a better date than drinks. Do this instead if that’s your problem. Don’t take daily, once a week at most. No dates lined up? Great, take it and go approach at the mall or wherever. Have a date or two lined up this week? Then take that shit for the date. You’ll get to the point yo I can discontinue using it and have no nerves like that naturally if you use it like this. Do your research on it before taking it.
deleted my message because I cringed myself out too despite being anonymous, probably explains the levels of neurosis I'm working with.
pros
>exposure therapy, literally practice saying "yes", setting up a place, talking to a female in a 1to1 setting has got to be good.
cons
>knowingly meeting someone that I don't really care about, know I'll never be physically attracted to and who I have zero desire to try and fit in my life is harsh and unfair on her and just a waste of my own mental energy
You're right m8, it's just nerves. I can talk to girls fine, I used to be able to flirt and escalate, every girl I fricked was genuinely attractive and out of my league (humour saved me) but for the last 4-5 years I've been businessmaxxing and my casual social life has disappeared but I've kept all of my close friends. It's just everyone (family & friends) is genuinely perplexed that I've gone full volcel and just zeroed in on work.
In that case you can fairly quickly get good again man. Use the beta blocker how I said if you want (easy enough to get a script from most docs if you’re healthy, just BS saying you have stage fright in work meetings).
You’d likely get over the nerves after maybe 5 new dates.
>everyone perplexed
Most people are morons. I’m volcel right now so I can focus and fix my life. I used to have a friend who after getting his first ever GF as a grown man would every 5 minutes try to shit on me and say out loud for everyone to hear “HAHAHAH HOW DO YOU DO IT? MAN ANON IDK HOW YOU GET BY EACH DAY WITHOUT A WOMAN” This was coming from a dude who like a year prior was an INcel getting ghosted and flaked on by fatties. But the sentiment is the same. It’s both a crazy concept to most normies who are slaves to their baser instincts and also a subtle (or not so subtle) attempt to throw shade to elevate one’s own self worth/ego. Example:
>This guy is richer than I am but I got pussy 4 months ago so I’m better than him, I have to say this out loud in some way to put him down so I feel better though
>anon you’re a machine, I personally could NEVER do that haha I need pussy
Or
>Same shit but “taller and better looking”
Also had a friend who would constantly try to set me up with his girlfriends obese aspie cousin. If there was a girl who could be a negative X/10 she was it. Not only was she obese with a hard to look at face and smelled like shit, she had a horrendous voice and was annoying as hell, screamed when she spoke, and I heard all about the crazy b***h shit she’s pulled with the dudes who were desperate enough to frick her. Dude would insistently tell me he arranged dates with her for me and refuse to accept that I was volcel. He’s even watched me reject women. Even if I wasn’t though, THAT was his big idea to help lmfao
Semi related, she was so gross one of those dudes would frick her in the shower with scalding hot water running lmfao.
I'm this gay
Just rejected her nicely, told her I'd be down for a drink sometime in the future but I'm just trying to concentrate on my work for an indeterminate amount of time. She should read between the lines.
I would loved to have written
>I'm sure you're a nice chick, but I've busted my nut for 5 years to give myself the life I want, which includes some young, hot and clever sidepiece. I'm fricking 30 so there is no point running down your egg clock or putting myself in a sketchy situation where I'm still toiling away to get to my desired level
buddy you probably have NPD
I have similar tendencies and I know this way of thinking, only I'm not as fricked up (I know you think of this as a compliment) and I worked on myself for some months to reign it
life is harder when you think you are better than 99.9% of the population, and 75% of people surrounding you
if you want to adjust yourself better, try to assess how folk who are more successful/smarter than you live. I know you'll have troubles pinpointing them, but try, and you'll see that most of the ones who are "worthy" of assessing will have softer, less staunch ways of doing things
I am also very certain you are exaggerating the amount of work you are doing and even your net worth. please take a moment to reflect, and understand how important your 30s are, and once you are 40, you will lose some of the mojo you might have now, as people wont see you as an up and coming prodigy
dont waste your 30s, relax. im trying to do the same too.
I don't think so, it feels more like low self-esteem and insecurity that I'm trying to patch up by creating concrete IRL evidence of my success. But I don't know much about psychology, I know I treat people with kindness and don't take advantage of them (although somewhat manipulate them for "the greater good" which might be somewhat narcissistic).
I've run a business for 5 years and the thing people give me the most credit for is the way I treat people, I have a brilliant employee who's taught me a lot about compassion and made me a lot softer with people. But I have worked very hard and this year we are going to hit 2M in sales, but agreed my NW is nowhere near that, but that's the trajectory
>once you are 40, you will lose some of the mojo you might have now, as people wont see you as an up and coming prodigy
You're 100% right about this, why I'm trying to reach a bit of a level as quickly as I can so I can let off the gas.
Thanks anon, good stuff to think about.
>I have a brilliant employee who's taught me a lot about compassion and made me a lot softer with people
I hope to be able to do this with my father and the aspects of his personality that probably drove 2 women to divorce him and others to minimize their interactions with him, myself included in the past. Still got important stuff to fix in my life before I can attempt that, though.
Ignore the other anon who replied to you that’s not me, the guy you replied to. You busted your ass to get where you are, you shouldn’t drop standards to waste time with a woman you have no interest in. End of story.
Have some nerves? Either suck it up, be nervous maybe get embarrassed a few times or go the temporary beta blocker route as training wheels as you regain your old footing.
Wanting what you worked so hard to achieve does not make you a fricking narcissist. Although that anon didn’t see your first now deleted post so he likely is just assuming you’re some generic fitizen making $120k (which I would argue is the same in terms of not lowering standards, most men don’t even make that much).
Anyways, never listen to any homosexual who tells you “YOU MUST SETTLE” in fact cut those people off depending on the circumstance involved.
Why has this world never allowed me to have the love and everything else it gives to others? I have nothing and no one, and it's been like this for most of my life.
Guys like us are just unlucky anon, there's a lot of determinism and luck at play, for some of us it just doesn't make the cut. There's people living our ideal lives who didn't do anything but be born in the right circumstance. Sure it's possible we'll meet someone out there but it's not likely. I guess I'm saying sooner or later we need to pull the wool back from our eyes and face reality. We can keep going indefinitely or rope at any point, but that's about all we can do.
i cant stop smoking cigarettes, or jerking off to porn. i used to lift, i used to go to an mma gym, and got depressed for 2-3 years now. now i am lifting weights again, and my lower back hurts when i bench. my cardio is fricked from being sedentary, and smoking cigarettes. but my body is sore, and im losing 2-3lbs a week. slowly regaining control, boys.
>can't get matches on tinder
its over. confirmed ugly and permavirgin
gf not ded, am relieved
Moved back to my small hometown, bought a house and got a job at a local warehouse. Life's been pretty good on that front.
Everyone I know feels the need to try to introduce me to a woman they know and its been nothing good.
Make plans with one woman to go to a local state park. Show up she's in a t-shirt and maybe shorts. Says she feels like smoking and maybe watching something on TV. Nope on out.
A different woman does the same shit but instead of going to a evening event at said state park, she says she is hungry. Then after eating "oh I don't feel like walking let's go get drinks" and I just walk to my car and leave.
The rest have been such shit shows that I never even made plans. Women with 5 kids by 4 men, women with stds, fat women, women with drug problems past and present.
And believe it or not I'm 100% okay being single. But the idea that I'm content with my life as it is, seems to be an issue to others. Most the guys I know don't seem to care, one wanted to introduce me to his sister but that seemed a line I didn't want to cross, but its their wives and girlfriends who just can't have their man having a single friend.
>one wanted to introduce me to his sister but that seemed a line I didn't want to cross
This is the perfect opportunity to meet someone cool, I wouldn't rule this out. The best matches come from friend of friend
>The bar is open, what will it be anon?
Used to be proud as frick about my 3 pl8 bench press. These days, it's just the norm for younger college dudes. Idk man, guess I got complacent. Maybe I should hop on gear.
>These days, it's just the norm for younger college dudes
Are you insane? 3pl8 press puts you in the top 1% of males
>comparing yourself to obese boomers or ebola-ridden third-worlders
Thanks, anon, but I think gear is my only option to stay relevant now.
It's my birthday today. I'm 24 now. I feel old and my life from here on out will get a lot harder for a number of reasons.
happy birthday, buddy. you’re older but you’re not old. being old is reserved for 45 year olds and up
Thanks bros. I think it's the realisation that I'm properly an adult and have adult problems which will only accrue over the next few years. It is what it is
>don't put too much pressure on those DYEL shoulders
Well it is push day so I'm not sure how possible that is for me
I don't feel old physically at all. I feel old mentally and spiritually.
Quarter life crisis is a relatively new phenomenon, but it's real. It'll pass in time
It's probably because we mature later. Consequence of modernity
happy b'day anon. I'm sure it will but 24 is a nice age where you start to settle in more into adulthood. You're much younger than you think still so don't put too much pressure on those DYEL shoulders
Exercise and eat healthy man, sleep as much as you can too. If you’re already feeling old then you’re in for a rough time.
Happy birthday homosexual
anon here who was debating drinking
i drank
beer 4 and i think jameson 3rd or 4rd. this shit is good lads. i hope i dont finish the bottle when the beers are empty. cheers
It is so fricking difficult to choose a reality to stick to. A big demon for me to overcome is to think more positively in interactions with people. People make remarks and I immediately think that they are referring to me in a negative light. I can't tell if a woman is flirting with me. I can't tell if someone is being real nice or fake nice. When I analyze all of these things I begin to see that it's all fake and gay. I can solve this by cooming or taking drugs to stay in Lala Fantasy Land but I know that is damaging my mind and is not acceptable for a 28yo to be doing. Frick, even that thought makes me wonder if it's ok for a 28yo to wonder if it's ok to occasionally jack off to porn, occasionally smoke/drink, and play vidya as a way to relax. I see so much shit on social media and can't help but think this is 75% of the world.
The only way I seem to be able to solve it is to get pissed at the world and try to be the best I can be but every day when I try my best, get a million things done, I still don't feel like it's enough. I don't know if I'll ever be satisfied for the amount of lost time. How the frick do I be at peace with myself doing nothing? How do I not feel like the entire world hates me? How do I learn not to hate myself despite achieving so much? Do I just need to kick the shit out of my dad?
Just kinda high and feeling mellow, felt like chatting a little.
how was your day anon
Well, got in a bit of an argument with my girl but it’s all good now. That time o’ month, dontcha know.
my ex used to excuse her uppity behavior “hehe oops im on my period” yet any time she was acting c**ty on her period and i would say “well maybe it’s just your period”, she would blow and call me an insensitive butthole. anywho
it was pretty good. finally have a full weekend off for the first time in a few months so i decided to binge watch true detective for the 5th time and drink some beers. been a pretty nice day.
i do miss some weed though. would love to have a couple hits of that devils lettuce right about now but i gave that up for a job a few months ago and i know if i start again, ill get right back to being an all day every day stoner
Apologies, that was rude, how is your day, anon?
>29
>still virgin
>haven't gone on a date in ten years
It's fricking over. I don't even have time to meet people at this point. Can't go out and drink cause diet. Already busy with work, working out, or practicing music and it's not like you can go out to an orchestra alone and meet someone there.
excuses
Women are autistic. Was just talking to one and flirting and then she mentions wanting to be eaten out. And only eaten out.
That’s not very nice. I love eating my gf out but she loves reciprocating too. That girls doesn’t sound nice.
I suggested that thinking she was just playing hard to get that she wanted princess treatment while doing nothing expected of a princess (cute dates)
I mean I guess but it's borderline autismo to not be able to read the room that I wasn't that thirsty and didn't get off to that degrading use
Nah just told her "Too bad" she whined about me being a waste of time and then I blocked her.
>degrading use
anon modern women have such a high opinion of themselves that she probably thinks the opportunity to lick her axe would is a privilege and you should be thankful to do so.
good on your for blocking her
You know many chicks I met that i didnt want to frick but would let suck my dick?
That’s what you are to her
Convince her that you’ll eat her out only if she sucks your dick. She either does it and after she sucks you off you laugh in her face, call her dumb, and then don’t eat her out (see bottom) OR she refuses and you’ve lost nothing.
This anon is right
so may as well treat her the same way
I wish I could have a relationship with every woman I meet who I like. It doesn’t have to be a deep long lasting relationship, but I would like to be able to bond deeply, make love, cuddle, make memories with these women. There’s so many that are fairly cool who I like. I can’t imagine just being friends with a woman though. I just wish I could be their friend, be romantic, make love to them and do stuff like spend the nights spooning each other but literally just be friends and eventually go our own ways in life, and if I met one who I truly loved I would just commit to her. I wish I could have this though.
I’ve got kind of a weird issue and I don’t know how to respond to it. I’m in my early 20s and working, although I don’t make a ton of money so I scrape by with a cheap car, bare apartment, sardines & rice, etc.
In comparison my family is super wealthy, donates money to Africa and Afghanistan, house must be 5-6 mil, spends a lot of time travelling, etc.
The last couple months were hard as frick. Car breaking down, unexpected stuff, etc. getting stranded on road in the Midwest on the way to and from work, getting help from neighbours, etc. I was hoping my family would swoop in to save me so I asked for help and would talk about what had been going on at the time. However they weren’t willing to on financial grounds. I bit the bullet and decided to take on debt/ loans after one scary night where my car broke down in the middle of nowhere at -25 degrees. A few days after that they offered to help pay my bills. However I felt like it was too late, like they had let me die somehow and that after passing through the worst I must go on alone.
I don’t know how to explain it or what to do? I want them to talk to me normally or to provide me with some kind of useful advice but every time I talk to them I feel insulted. They just tell me to go vegan like some celebrity chef or they send pictures of the countries they go to and cookbooks with recipes I could never afford to make. When I was having car challenges- “have you considered something electric?”- I have 3000 dollars in my bank acc. When I try to express myself by emailing them they don’t read it and ask for a tl;dr. I want to leave them behind forever but I’m worried about:
>possible future financial benefits
>symbolic significance of parents
I’ll be fine without them but it feels wierd not to have anyone. I haven’t spoken to them in awhile and already it’s strange. Often family comes up in conversation and I have to awkwardly say that they’re doing good without elaborating.
Okay, what did you do to put yourself in this situation? Drop out of school and now they're dissapointed or something?
They are disappointed yeah. When I saw them over the holidays I was thrilled at my new job and mentioned that I had them to thank in part for their support in getting me to where I am. And they told me that they didn’t want to take any sort of blame or responsibility. I don’t understand- I do engineering work for an environmental entity? I also recall my ex commenting on how they seemed disappointed with me after I introduced them
I smoked a lot of weed in high school and was a punk, maybe it’s something about that. And I kept doing it when I was in university, so when I was rejected from my grad program it was likely due in part to profs’ having witnessed me using bad language, producing poor quality work, and being an overall bad student in the past.
no one is coming to save me
nope. look in the mirror, anon. that’s the only person in your life that can and will save you.
We're going to die alone, anon. Its over.
I got saved anon, u can be too
Do you guys ever saw a natural hit a 3pl8 OHP? I've seen naturals benching 405, squatting 505 and deadlifting 495, but I've never seen a 315 OHP by a natural.
Barely anyone does more than a 135.
>be me
>ohp 135 for 6 reps
>can barely bench 155 for 5 reps
>squat 185 for reps
>diddly 2 plates
i don’t understand why my ohp is mogging all my other lifts but i feel cool as frick loading up 1pl8 while being a dyel and repping that shit out
I can't bench worth a shit, my incline and bench are pretty similar. Ohp is my leading lift and I love the tense feeling around my shoulder but its causing some tendonitis I need to work on.
i never experience any kind of tendinitis, at least that i know of, but i always stretch before OHP, something i don’t do with other lifts. my traps are what usually feel like shit if i don’t stretch before hand
Ok, how much are you arching your back? How strong is your triceps?
arching normal i guess. def not powerlifting levels. i’ve been working on lat activation and leg drive recently but not sure it’s working.
i do tricep pull downs with a rope with 40lbs for my working sets. i think im just shoulder strong
i decided to attempt a 7 day water fast. i have 17 hours left to go. planning to break my fast with this Eucharist. after church, I'm gonna stop by the grocery store and pick up a rotisserie chicken and i can't fricking wait. I've been watching cooking videos on YouTube all day because all i can think about is food.
i'm never doing this again. maybe 3 days tops.
*the Eucharist
I'm kinda pissed at everyone tonight
Which usually means that they're doing things wrong, but also that I'm over reacting and need to get my sleep in order
Just trying to stay quiet till I've got enough energy to be sure I'm not being a dickhead before I say anything to anyone
Those are the best nights to drink and raise hell
Scotch, neat, pl0x.
How do I stop procrastinating? I've been applying to graduate programs and I just can't force myself to take it seriously. I was planning to finish all my applications like a month ago and I just keep being moronic instead.
in the last 2 years i've:
>moved out
>visited 11 countries
>got a better job
>cleared all my debt
>lost 15kg
>made new friends
>learned new skills
>got into a relationship with a girl i love
and yet i don't really feel any better than i did before. what the frick is with that
Anon, thank you for reminding me that happiness comes from within.
A really pretty girl shows a lot of interest, we have veen chatting nonstop for last 3 days. She seems to be rich, timid and now sort of seeks adventures?
The problem is that given my past experience of being a total manprostitute and my ex gf eventually just using me for sex, i have feeling this girl will be same. She will dig me, we will have this romantic phase, she will get hooked, she will rediscoverherself, she will leave me to look for someone better/stabler/richer etc.
I am a bit too old to think this way (30s) but i do.
Help me IST. I want a family, I am tired
Being timid is for women and children. Fear kills men.
>can make friends
>can talk to people well enough to sell them things that cost thousands of dollars for my job
>work in sales and am considered a top performer
>work out regularly
>eat healthy
>rarely drink
>play music
>study 2nd language
>read books
>clear skin with no acne
>good jawline
>never had relationship or sex
It's over. I don't know what else I can do. I can't even get my foot in the door. Can't get matches, my friends don't know any single women, I am fricking stuck. I'm going to go insane. What am I working for? I'm saving money to buy a house one day and support my family, or that's what I tell myself, but if I can't attract a partner to start a family what's the point of even owning my own house? I should just work to support my parents and live with them forever? That's not a way to live, that's pathetic.
wow you workout, read, play music, and are studying another language? thats so unique, how can they not want you
You're really overestimating yourself in every category, probably. Even total losers can find women.
>basing your self worth things you accomplish and have rather than what you are
ngmi. go outside homie
a good deed is its own reward. action does not necessarily lead to a quantifiable reward. the quality itself is the reward. you do these things not of your own desire but out of desire of a reward (pussy, fulfillment, past trauma/complexes) instead of a desire to live joyously and healthy.
had a blast with my family tonight and the night is young. love yall and hope yall have excellent, healthy, happy, loving lives. see you next time.
holy based. what video is that from?
uncertain, but it belongs to Michael Sugrue on YouTube. he is the best presenter of philosophy that i have yet to come across. i am honored to have spoken to him.
I'm angry at my gf. It's nothing major, but it worries me that whenever she does something wrong she solves it with sex. We're gonna frick tomorrow and I'll forget I was angry, then she will have got away with being a little shit.
This keeps happening. And not fricking her to stay mad is out of the question. I don't know how to handle this, she's way too overpowered. breasts and vegana are such a strong argument she can pretty much get away with everything.
What did she actually do anon
I work a night shift right next to her place. I was supposed to go there afterwards but she left her phone in airplane mode and woke up when I had already left. Told her to come to mine instead but she didn't for no reason. We had stuff planned out, ended up spending the day on my own.
It's not tragic, we see each other all the time and are moving together, but tiny shit like this always happens and she uses her body to get away with it. Whereas I never let her down.
Sexual violence sounds like a potential solution. I've tried shit like that in the past to no success, cause I'd never go past her boundaries and do something she really doesn't want, but maybe I should.
Turn it into discipline and frick her in the ass hard when she’s bad. Then when she’s good you make her cum. Pavlov’s did it with his b***h, so can you.
I've been tired lately. Last couple weekends I've slept for like 14 hours through Saturday. Just depressed.
ygmi. i often feel depressed but it is a lethargia, not a feature.
i dont really know what im doing this for. im chasing a nice physique but ive been lied to about what is possible natty. i want to try gear but im afraid. what if i start gear and i take years off my life to still not have friends or a gf.
life just feels so isolating and meaningless. i wish i had just a single person to talk to.
Lifting wont get you friends or a gf. Doing gear is just going to further isolate you. Lifting does improve you as a person because it gives you routine and discipline, and it objectively makes you more attractive, but roiding certainly isnt gonna help. If anything its easy to build a physique that goes too far and scares people on roids - not so much as a natty.
i used to complain on other boards about how there's no way to meet new people in your mid 20s. the answer everybody gave me was "just go to the gym bro"
well im here now. there is nothing social about it. everyone sticks to themselves. ive even seen people i knew from highschool years ago. we just look at each other and walk past.
everyone else is old or maybe there's one or two girls at any given time but theyre clearly not there to socialize.
The gym is a trap for picking up women. You have no idea how old the girls are at the gym unless you're a NEET and can go during the day to make sure the highschoolers are in school. Same reason trying to hit on cashiers or waitresses is a trap. Can wind you up in an awkward situation at best or put on tiktok/kicked out.
You know the age limit to work at most places is 18, right?
Only if they serve alcohol. Cashiers anywhere like stores, waitresses in any other restaurant, could be anything above like 15 which is when people are allowed to be employed.
bros i hate women so much
>mfw I hate them too