I'm not obese but currently overweight. What do i do to stop feeling insecure about my own image to actually go to a gym and build my physique?
I don't want to do it for pussy, i just want to get strong and see how much my body can take it.
But i don't want to be looked at by other people (because currently i hate myself)
What do i do IST ?
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Just go anon, or find a park with calisthenic bars and exercise there.
Start doing this at night.
It can be any park, also start cycling. Do it at night when the streets are empty.
Take the nightpill, you'll be a ripped psychopath out of place in the day before you know it.
Cut to lose weight, and in the mean time, just do calisthenics at home. Try the Hybrid Calisthenics routine. It's good for beginners with little equipment, but eventually you're gonna want to move on to a more serious program.
wear a hooded sweatshirt and overear headphones. throw a baseball cap in there too. then just go to the fricking gym
This is the first step in making it.
If you cannot overcome yourself, you cannot conquer everything else.
As someone who was mildly anxious but finally bit the bullet and joined a gym a couple months ago, you will realise within 2 minutes of entering that nobody there gives a single shit about you. Just go in when it's quiet and start doing something basic like the treadmill. Try a new machine or exercise each time you go, get a feel for the place. Any anxiety should go away very quickly and hopefully you'll even start looking forward to it.
People always say this but I stare at everyone and judge them hard
that's because it's boring between sets and there's nothing to do except people watch
it doesn't really mean anything
The last thing anyone in the gym is worried about are other people. If you're fat you're pretty much flying under everyone's radar anyway. Just throw on a hoodie and some sweatpants. headphones, and zone out. Please don't let insecurity rob you of precious gym time anon. You aren't gonna like how you look without going through some uncomfortable changes.
picrel doesn't go to a lot of churches.
there's a big difference between what people are supposed to do and what they actually do.
the only one I've been to that applies that standard is a rural church of no more than 20 parishioners.
I imagine gyms are much the same way. Past certain numbers you're always going to get buttholes in the mix.
Home gym master race by the way.
The most earnest worship is done in solitude.
kek all the people around me who go to church are the most judgemental they can be
I noticed this aswell, why are they like this?
The same reason people are judgmental in /fph/.
Are they protestants?
so does the gym also have pedophiles or is that just a church thing?
well I imagine there are gays in the gym, sure
The church thing was a scandal in the media because it's the fricking church but public schools are a much greater source of abuse statistically, and the child's own home even greater
>spiritual strength
You're a women aren't you?
Imagine screen capping your own basic ass thread with some supportive replies in the shot.
Im thinking cringe
Church is by far the most judgemental place ever
I have bad social anxiety and it kept me from lifting and even running for a long time. I was too worried about what people would thin’ and if I’d be ridiculed.
It is absurd because the truth is unless you have a reason to stand out no one actually cares about you. Especially at a gym full of overweight DYELs. We all think we’re the main characters and everyone is watching us but that’s just pathological thinking and a consequence of having an ego. No one is going to care or stare at you. Period.
To make it easier you can always prepare ahead of time: come with a plan. Have your set exercises and sets and reps on an app or piece of paper. Study how to do them on YouTube and reading ahead of time. Over-prepare and visualize what you’ll do. Then go in and do it. Sounds ridiculous but flitting around from empty machine to machine and doing random sets and reps will just make you feel more self-conscious and ridiculous. Alternatively start day 1 with a trainer.
These people are trying to make you feel better which is good but the truth is people will judge you there. There are plenty of pictures posted here of gym people who they laugh at.
Getting over it will make you so much stronger. Try your hardest. Come up with ways to ease your anxieties.
We're all on our own road and own journey. Those super fit folks you think are staring at you could just as easily be folks who were 500 pounds a decade ago and are rooting for you.
The important thing is you're on your journey and moving forward. Better than 80% of folks out there.
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Half the people in the gym are out of shape middle aged office workers. The other half are gymbros who only give a shit about looking at themselves in the mirror for their pump. None of them care about you. Go to tthe gym.
Watch some videos about getting fit and buy a couple weights.
>be fat
>be insecure about gym people seeing that you're fat
>go anyway
>other regulars notice an out of shape noob has join their ranks
>might get approached by someone if your form is terrible and risking injury but there's no malice behind it
>word hard and stay consistent
>improove considerably within months
>become encouraged by your progress
>work harder and cut all remaining slop from your diet
>make even more progress
>get complemented by regulars who have witnessed the transformation
>get complemented by no gym normies who think anyone with a hint of muscle is the incredible hulk
>even more encouragement
>start getting mires from femoid regulars who have taken notice of the work you put in
>much healthier in day to day life
>the insecure fatty doesn't exist anymore
This could be you
If even this is too much for you then you were ngmi
Just walk around the park or your city with headphones in you'll lose a lot of weight about 1-2 hours walks a day, unless you really ugly/poor/socially moronic then maybe go to the gym
had the same issue, cant say anythig but go!
literally everyone is insecure at the gym, that's why they go, also you'll find people looking way worse than you there trust me
>But i don't want to be looked at by other people (because currently i hate myself)
Black person, nobody that likes how they look goes to the gym. You'll just be one among many there.
Nobody makes fun of the fat guy at the gym, they only make fun of the most jacked guy in the gym, and obviously this is playful and comes from jealousy not hate
I've been at that point. I just pumped my self up and went. No person said a word, even though I looked like shit. Now I'm fit. Stop imagining that people are watching you.
Start walking, half hour each day, 15 minute away from house 15 back, get one 5 pound weight and use while walking switching hands occasionally. 2 months join gym, you'll be ready.
OP here, thanks everyone for advice <3
There’s always people that look better and can lift more weight. Nobody cares. I’ve been lifting weights for 20 years and I’m telling you, it seriously doesn’t matter. Unless you’re a hot girl, nobody is paying attention to you for longer than 2 seconds. I always root for fat people, but that’s just me.
can you go late in the evening or early in the morning? You'll feel much more insecure if u go at peak hours like 6 PM
just go before it closes
just wear headphones and dont look at anyone.
I go and I'm fat. I see other fat people and I compare them to me and think "if he or she is doing it so can I". I don't really think people are going to "judge" you but there will obviously be people seeing you.
If you're not obese, there will certainly be fatter people than you at the gym. Nobody cares.
Wizardchan IST
The way to get over the feeling is to go to the gym in spite of it.
It's not that you don't go to the gym because you're insecure, you feel insecure because you are not going to the gym.
You won't ever change feelings without acting first; feelings are mostly responses to what you do or do not do. Even in cases when they're not, the only place you can intervene and change them is by doing something.
i'll be honest I do laugh at fatties when I see them at the gym, because most of them will be gone after 2 weeks at most.
if you actually stick around for longer than that, you will start to gain my respect. my respect is incredibly important, as without it you will not be able to function in life nor get a mortgage or get a car loan.
You wanna see my pecs, bud. Thats what you get, lift heavy, bench heavy, and youll get them juicy pecs like me.
Just do it OP
I threw up my chocolate milkshake on my first day at the gym as a 110 lbs skeleton (5'10). On my first day the place was packed with big guys and hot prostitutes who openly stared at me as I struggled to squat 20 lbs. Now I am doing better. Do someone else remembers my first day? I dont know, it doesnt matter. Start today and what you fear now wont matter at all in 1 month
I assure you that most people won’t think twice about you. A bunch of people will notice you and think to themselves how great it is that you’re there. A handful of people will judge you. The people who judge are literally stupid or are somehow mentally unwell. I’m not exaggerating. Most people will be supportive or neutral. Don’t worry about a few buttholes.
When I started I would only go at night when there were less people & would only do cardio so I could lose weight.
After a year of this I started feeling more comfortable with my weight and started using some of the machines, & now even my friends go with me and we go barbells, etc.
So either go at night and fix your weight or form a group with your friends so you're too busy focusing on each other than to care what other people think.
Absolutely no one gives a shit about you for more than a few minutes.
No one cares. Just start showing up and ignore whatever anxiety you feel and it'll go away with enough repetition. For the first 3 months you should be doing a simple, uncomplicated routine. Because your main exercise is showing up to the gym. Gym is never a question for me now.
Not giving a shit about what other people think is part of making it. We believe in you, bro
I have the same issue but I'm a troon and I get overly paranoid about people clocking me. I can't hide my chest at the gym