some people are just built like that. you need to feel it through a kiss to determine if there’s chemistry or not. you’ll come up on someone eventually. keep going champ
some people are just built like that. you need to feel it through a kiss to determine if there’s chemistry or not. you’ll come up on someone eventually. keep going champ
This is true. I've kissed 4 women, only with one it actually felt like real shit and I could kiss her forever. I slept with her and graduated virginity and never saw her again.
It could be nerves. It can help to talk about this stuff (being nervous, awkward) before going into the making out. Talking can help break the ice and get you out of your head. Could also be the girl, and if you were honest with yourself you'd say you don't find her attractive. Your problem isn't really unique. Plenty of dudes struggle with these same issues.
What are some good jobs for me to look into? All I care about is money, not having to interact with or deal with many people, and good work life balance.
you don't moron.
You acquire experience, certs and skills.
lemme spoonfeed you some more:
Experience - you take shit tech jobs literally anything you can get
certs - google it
skills - pick up books about coding, learn to code shit on your own, research job positions you want, the kind of skills they want, get books or sign up for classes that advertise they teach those skills.
the fact that you’re asking a feels thread for that advice instead of doing the research yourself already shows that you’re not cut out for a le tech job
you don't moron.
You acquire experience, certs and skills.
lemme spoonfeed you some more:
Experience - you take shit tech jobs literally anything you can get
certs - google it
skills - pick up books about coding, learn to code shit on your own, research job positions you want, the kind of skills they want, get books or sign up for classes that advertise they teach those skills.
This anon knows what's up. It's real, and it's the best way to make it right now. Tech jobs are overpaid in general because most tech workers ironically aren't confident about their skills at all, have 0 social skills including networking and negotiations, and highly skilled ones are not exempt.
I got all the way to six figures with no education or certs at all within a single year and now I'm going to get just that, certs and experience.
Well, find something you're interested in.
Do you like websites? Hosting stuff? Embedded software? Hacking? Customer support? Whatever. Just pick anything at all and then google "how X works".
For example if you like websites, you'll find out the basics. How the internet works, what TCP/IP and HTTP are, what HTML is, then what CSS is, then what PHP and JS are, then what frameworks are.
You can get a basic job with just wordpress for one. Get any shitty minimum wage job, when I started out lots of con artists wanted me to write Javascript in their mom's basement. Watch something like 5 udemy courses and create on portfolio website, you're good to go and more productive than most who are just starting out.
Get the minimum wage shit job and do minimum shit effort, utilize the time to instead read stuff and learn. Barely survive for a year doing that and make sure to learn all you can.
By then, put your CV on steroids. Outright lie about your experience and skills; recruiters don't know shit. Land the highest wage you can get; the technical shit is out at this point, this is about social skills. Read up on job hunting and negotiations. When you do get a job, just do your best at first; you're guaranteed to be better than you expect despite having lied a bit. Find a workflow there and resume your learning. At this point try to network more as well.
Now that you're earning some more money, save up and get certifications. Depending on what you ended up doing, there are a few. Aim for a good one.
It shouldn't be too hard to budget, and if you decided well, you are now worth a decent amount in the job market. Start pressing your boss to learn more, take up more responsibilities, grow more. Of course you've always said this is your goal in interviews.
If your boss doesn't listen to you, start looking for better jobs, stating you need new challenges and skills and will hold a job that does that. Instead aim for a high pay.
I couldn't spoonfeed you any more, get rich
5 months ago
Anonymous
Nta I’m the original in this chain asking for job ideas, how exactly does one start learning?
Would you recommend one starts with python, and googles/YouTube’s simple projects such as a clock or snake game, follows the project (literally some dude just telling yo y exactly what to type), and rinse & repeat while taking some notes on stuff like common lines and inputs until memorized? And that’s it, just memorize as many of the commands as possible and then once on the job use google and shit to get the work done?
I do not think, even if I learned some basic C+ or whatever, that I would be able to have a job and just know what to do. Idk how that even works, am I emailed an assignment to code for the next 2 weeks? If I’m told exactly what to do I could google for the answer I guess. But I wouldn’t see >you need to make our web page have a link right here that looks like [this] on the front end for the users and that link needs to open to [this page] and there has to be a field to enter email and a copy of their license
And just know where to start and how to get to work on that. I’d have to extensively google one step at a time, find someone on YouTube holding my hand through each step even knowing a good bit about the language it’s using
And if I couldn’t find the answer for whatever specific thing I would be fricked
5 months ago
Anonymous
>how exactly does one start learning?
Decide what you're going to learn.
Decide broadly, but not as broadly as learning "tech". Pick something like software engineering or system administration, those are broad things with very entry level positions you can land and many paths to follow from there.
Start with learning theory. See my last post, understand the internet before you get into web dev or computer architecture basics if you're going for C++.
You don't really need to learn to code, not right away. You're not trying to be a great programmer, you're trying to make money. If it seems that your place in the market is that of a great programmer, do whatever it takes to be that.
Google what different jobs consist of and what technologies and skills are important for that job.
If you do go for a youtube step by step project for whatever skills you'll need, be prepared to learn next to nothing. You could do it to get familiar with the tools and workflow, but don't invest much in it.
Don't stress over maximizing learning efficiency and make sure you're feeling satisfied with the result whenever you're hitting a milestone. This is a hint this job suits you.
Do not take too long to start seeking a job. Two reasons for this; you'll already be better than you think, and you'll need job seeking experience. It's really hard to land your first job but only then.
You'd be surprised how little is needed for a shitty minimum wage tech job, and how much the good ones pay. You don't need a degree for those, just skill. You can have a degree without skill and vice-versa, the connections you'll just have to work harder for without one.
Assignments are usually very easy. They won't risk getting sued for unpaid work. There will be interviews as well and you will be made to feel inferior during those; don't be discouraged, they're trying to fool you to work cheaper.
Everyone uses google exhaustively. Seniors too.
Never listen to IST for non-technical matters.
5 months ago
Anonymous
Thanks dude I’m going to do a bunch more research.
I do look at those jobs form time to time but something that sketches me out is the requirements in the postings. It will have like a huge list of all these reqs and then on top of it say “3-5 years experience”
5 months ago
Anonymous
There are most likely some more relevant sites for your interests and area. The x years experience thing is never ever important, I don't think I've ever applied to a job where I'd fit that and if your skills are up to it they'd be dumb in their trade to disallow you for it and you'd be dumb to compensate for less money over it.
https://i.imgur.com/zrR6up0.jpg
Just got passed over for a promotion at my cybersecurity job, boss has been stringing me along for a year saying I was next in line and smashing it etc. etc. which motivated me to work so fricking hard that I basically put everything else on the backburner.
Can't believe I was stupid enough to believe that shit. In hindsight it's so easy to see how I was being manipulated.
Still hurts, this autismo computer hacking job is basically all I have. The only other thing I do is lift and compete in fricking ping pong of all things.
Considering resigning and finding a new place to work, will weigh out my options. The iron is faithful, people are not - time to start lifting seriously again.
We all have to learn the hard way anon, but there's never ever a good boss. Not only are you financially the weak one and the endangered one as you can go unemployed and broke or even homeless but the company won't go bankrupt over your ass, you're also guaranteed to be more moral no matter what you may think. And that's why you're going to be betrayed and exploited time and time again.
It's how the market works. It rewards this kind of treatment, everyone who couldn't keep up failed. It's like evolution.
It's also psychopathic and the neoliberal system is a deviation from staples of all past significant economies and societies, an inconsiderate individualist worker bee trap we've been conditioned into accepting as the norm.
However there is no alternative right now and you can accumulate just enough wealth that you can live comfortably if you're smart enough, put in all that is required in effort and time and sacrifice, and you'll see that it's neither a lie nor without cost in time.
5 months ago
Anonymous
WordPress and frontend shit will be first to be automated by AI
5 months ago
Anonymous
Absolutely. I'm not telling him to do that all the way to his 40's, just do it for a little while and get in the industry.
>All I care about is money, not having to interact with or deal with many people, and good work life balance.
A good career option would be a professional matyre man, who realizes that world will not be tailor made for you. If you want money you deal with people. Otherwise you sound like a child who says you want all the candy but will not eat the dinner.
Last month I starved my gf from initiating sex. I even declined her only move. Yesterday she was in a mood for it but didn't initiate, only to find out her period started in the evening. 'Lesson learned', she said. I then pounded her throat for an hour while fingering her. It had to be memorable.
i am fit now and people want to communicate with me
i thought i can't hold a conversation because shyness
but after trying a lot of supplements including alcohol and prescription drugs i've realized its me being dumb
Sick and tired of pretending life isn't complete fricking dogshit at 30 if you haven't made it. There's no turning it around at 30, it's done. No you don't age like fine wine, literally everything in your body is going to shit. Wrinkles add character? like frick they do.
There's teenagers getting pregnant and you have to watch "charisma on command" youtube videos like people can't immediately see through that bullshit. Other 30yr olds are taking their kids to school and you can't even muster up the courage to talk to a woman. And it doesn't change either. You have to be born with that ability. You just can't be social awkward past the age of 25. Its a red flag.
Frick the gym too. Any muscle you think you will gain could have been made in 1/3rd of the time in your teens. That's when it really mattered. Yeah having a good body at 30 is great but having it at 18yrs old is better.
Friends, if you still have them, wont be around that much. If they have kids, you are just a 3rd wheel and a burden.
"Just travel bro"
Frick that shit. what? spend thousands to go to a place where no one wants you just so you can get overcharged at a tourist trap? Frick off c**t. Think the locals give a shit about the millionth frickin tourist taking up space?
>you have to watch "charisma on command" youtube videos
Who the frick started this meme? It's a channel for 14 year old edgelords, stop acting like men have to watch it
Last month I starved my gf from initiating sex. I even declined her only move. Yesterday she was in a mood for it but didn't initiate, only to find out her period started in the evening. 'Lesson learned', she said. I then pounded her throat for an hour while fingering her. It had to be memorable.
She will leave you
https://i.imgur.com/PmwwUc7.jpg
I'm sitting in my house drinking wine all day.
My crush that was working at the shop next to me quit her job and I will never see her again. I hesitated making a move. Hesitation turned to habit and months passed without making contact.
I am depressed now because her and the gym was my only reason waking up and looking forward for better days.
It is what it is I guess
Thanks for these threads
>months passed by
Were you really attracted to her tho? What store was it? Also lift
So yesterday had a chick over I’ve been seeing since summer but once every two weeks. She was my rebound because I had a major break up with my ltr gf. Should I bone her bros? She is mid and I don’t wanna risk it her falling in love with me
She was an average cute short shy girl. I liked her a lot. Mostly her personality.
As for your question If you think you are gonna hurt her feelings I wouldn't make a move especially if she is an introvert girl. I wouldn't wish this kind of heartache upon anyone. We are stronger than females so we can endure a little bit of extra loneliness better than they do
>men can handle loneliness better
depends how you define it i suppose. Men are more used to enduring misery.. women are better at processing and avoiding emotional misery
>lazy
make her jealous. jealousy makes women do anything. if you make her jealous and she doesn’t start reclaiming your dick as hers, you need to check out of the relationship because she’s already on her way
>make her jealous
Yeah, I don't have to work very hard for that. It also coincidentally happened yesterday afternoon, we ran into a girl I get along very well with.
>do cardio for tbe first time in forever >feel amazing >suddenly get very depressed >look at housing and realize I will probably never afford 1 and everything I look at will be even higher when I do have the money saved >thinking on getting a weekend gig selling cars if possible >still feel like shit even after eating healthy
Thanks cardio.
nice dubs, are you in europe? i heard owning is basically impossible in certain countries, in burgerland here it's still possible but mainly outside major cities
Midwest. Cities are fricking AIDS but occasionally something nice shows up in Bumfrick, Nowhere. Very nice, but very far.
>feel amazing >suddenly get very depressed
this is me every time i do cardio. it makes me feel good then i realize im a total piece of shit, why should i be feeling good at all? then the depression sweeps back over me and i finish my run only because it hurts and i want to hurt myself more
The cardio depression has fricked off. I don't think weightlifting and cardio mix at all. That or very, very light amounts.
>feel amazing >suddenly get very depressed
this is me every time i do cardio. it makes me feel good then i realize im a total piece of shit, why should i be feeling good at all? then the depression sweeps back over me and i finish my run only because it hurts and i want to hurt myself more
Im not used to it. I'm really cautious and internally assume they're either faking it or want something from me. I also feel like I'm inconveniencing them somehow.
Quit drinking because I blacked out at a holiday party and still drove home 20 minutes through the city
Also because I keep getting withdrawals
I'm so bored
My crush that was working at the shop next to me quit her job and I will never see her again. I hesitated making a move. Hesitation turned to habit and months passed without making contact.
I am depressed now because her and the gym was my only reason waking up and looking forward for better days.
white pages/pipl/spokeo if you know her name and get her address. show up to her house with some flowers and ask her out. if she freaks that you found her address somehow (she probably will) just lie and tell her that you have an uncle in the CIA or something
Not too good barman, back into lifting this last week, after a long hiatus. Cleaned up my diet and was finally feeling a bit better about things. Then the dark cloud came back yesterday, suddenly feeling borderline suicidal again. It's hard when you start fixing all your shit in life but the emotion never really shifts that much.
On paper I'm the most successful I've ever been but the extra pressure over the last years has really had a dent in my personality and I just want to withdraw from the world and start fresh, but can't.
Was exactly where you are. Like got up from rock bottom like 3rd time in my life.
Emotions shift slower, true and the only cure is setting up a very strick regime, and then find somethibg that brings you happiness at least once a month. Like travel, get a dog, party, compete. Regime will not allow depression to return while happiness will develop better neural connecrions.
Brains need like 90 minimum to change so if you want to reform as a person, youll need like solig half a year to year.
Dont worry - the sooner you start, the sooner youll be good. Trust yourself, its just brain, it needs its own 'gym' a d results also come with time, just keep exercising
>WAAAAAAAAAH MY FEEEWINGS WAAAAAAH >I COME TO THE EXERCISE AND FITNESS BOARD TO TALK ABOUT MY GIRLFRIENDS FEEEEEEEEEEWIIIIINGS >WAAAAAAAAAH SOMEBODY PLEASE VALIDATE ME WAAAAAAH
wrong board, chuckle fricks. Black pill threads go here:
>feeling cold and angry and lonely >walk to barnes & noble through the snow listening to music >get there, start looking at books >young lady comes over in a bigass coat and gives me a long hug out of nowhere >feel the bitter incel rage and resentment drain out of my body like pulling the plug on a filled kitchen sink >almost break down and cry right then and there
It really do be like that sometimes
I asked her why she hugged me like that when we didn't know each other, she said that I just looked like I was freezing and wanted to warm me up
She didn't touch me in any of my no-no areas. Just wrapped her arms around me and buried herself in my chest without saying a word. I wish I could have live in stasis within that moment forever. It definitely would have been taken differently had a man done that to a woman, however. It wish it wasn't like that, I wish we could change that somehow.
>feel the bitter incel rage and resentment drain out of my body like pulling the plug on a filled kitchen sink
this was me when i got my first gf. then she cheated on me and the now the faucet hasnt turned off and the sink is overflowing
That happened to me too about 5 years ago. That was the first real intimate moment I've had since then. It's almost like I forgot what it was like to be human.
>feel the bitter incel rage and resentment drain out of my body like pulling the plug on a filled kitchen sink
this was me when i got my first gf. then she cheated on me and the now the faucet hasnt turned off and the sink is overflowing
My mate began therapy a while back and now he tries to therapize everyone he meets. It's annoying. I'm annoyed. Can't have a normal conversation with the man.
Let me tell ya something. Nowadays, everybody's gotta go to shrinks, and counselors, and go on "Sally Jessy Raphael" and talk about their problems. What happened to Gary Cooper? The strong, silent type. That was an American. He wasn't in touch with his feelings. He just did what he had to do. See, what they didn't know was once they got Gary Cooper in touch with his feelings that they wouldn't be able to shut him up. And then it's dysfunction this, and dysfunction that, and dysfunction vaffancul.
He can go and talk with his therapist. I don't want him parroting whatever she told him every time I say a damn word like he is a therapist.
Imagine this. Why do you feel that way about Gary Cooper and stoicism? What's your relationship with your dad?
Nta… but I was Gary cooper’d >from young age taught I don’t matter and my feelings don’t matter, made to feel disposable and like no one cares about me >no friends, no gf, not even close with my family (told to man up over everything, never listened to or taken seriously, the one or two times I tried to express feeling shitty for help treated like I was being a burden by parents) >learned, no one gives a shit how I feel, but what I can do. I learned that if I’m doing well and achieving, being successful, THEN people treat me like a human and seemingly care about me so long as they think I’m happy >get first Gf at 21, easily manipulated me because dumb former virgin >convinces me to share my feelings and communicate and shit >actually felt really fricking good >relationship downhill fast, ends, can no longer be my old self calm quiet and reserved except the occasional witty joke/burst of autism just constantly trauma dumping on everyone like a c**t >want to “communicate” with everyone even male friends like some kind of homosexual >no one likes me anymore >forget how to be normal and like my old self
I hate this. I’d say it’s made me better though, because I’ve been relearning how to socialize. I was only quiet and reserved because no real personality and nothing to ever say. Learned to stop sharing feelings like a troony, but I suck as just normal socializing I feel like whenever I open my mouth people are disgusted no matter what I say or how I say it. Makes me want to go back to quiet reserved guy tbqh, everything was simpler. I did better socially oddly enough, less drama, more respect, got laid more somehow..
This chick I’ve crushed on two years ago is moving in the city…
I’ve been talking with aniother chick, but I’m really tempted to try to go out with this first one. Although I got rejected by her in the past.
Even if I get rejected now, it’s a meh, wouldn’t be surprised.
Other than that, daily thoughts of suicide, war is knocking on our door. The economy is down the gutter, corrupt politicians sold our country long ago. Country is in heavy debt to the IMF. The industry that I work in is not looking good, been stagnating for the past few years.
I’m desetisized in the sense that I don’t feel too much anymore, except for stress, anxiety and feeling inadequate.
Born to enjoy life, forced to suffer.
In tone with the war, give me a Moscow Mule.
My "friends" have ghosted me, they went out last night and didn't invite me. Haven't heard from any of them for over a month.
I think spite maxxing is going to have to be my new mindset. Focus on my career and fitness. I'm not a normal Black person anyway, my loneliness will breed contempt which will motivate me. Can anyone relate or do I sound like a homosexual?
Your folks have done good things for you. You'll do good things for your children. Ascendance is a multi-generational project. There's no such thing as a self-made man, there is such a thing as hard-won success in families. Don't feel bad for those who have less than you. Life isn't fair. Help them if you can. But it's up to them to build a life for their descendants, and up to their descendants to build upon the life they were given.
You're forever small, and you know your lowest point, and that will keep you strong. Never lose that.
I'm a woman and it's even worse. Everything you talk about is feelings and everything is in therapeutic terms. I want to talk about hobbies and interests and ideas. I fricking hate women but I can't be friends with men bc they all wanna frick me. It's some real clown world shit esp when I consider only men to be legitimate people.
Some of IST is just lurking women who think the same way. Journal for ur sanity to stay on top of ur goals and aspirations, and keep looking in life for those striving to do the same. WAGMI
>but I can't be friends with men bc they all wanna frick me
Oh no, what a terrible situation you’re in. Keep LARPing because absolutely 0 women are literally this fricking moronic
Is casual sex using someone? Is it OK to use someone if they consent to be used? Is it OK to let someone use you as you use them? Is it bad to flirt, without meaning for it to go somewhere?
I got issues with the gf.
She doesn't have many close friends and doesn't really go out and hang.
She met a new "friend" a couple months back at work who was this married lesbian that would mooch off her and constantly put her down whenever something good happened to my gf.
This b***h also told several rumors about me to my gf saying I was a piece of shit or that I was trying to hook up with random women.
The lesbian friend's wife is a sleazy b***h that has tried touching and hitting on my gf while we were hosting a party at my apartment.
I've talked with my gf about the situation and we both seemed to come up with the same idea that these b***hes were toxic.
However, when her friend invites her and I out to dinner or to get drinks my gf is still enthusiastic about going out and gets disappointed when I'm not cool with hanging out with these b***hes.
I don't want this to lead to resentment later, but I don't know how to express to my gf that she needs to hang with a better crowd.
Your gf has self esteem issues and lesbians recognize this. They are actively working on getting her to sleep with them, cheat on you, destroy your relationship, and revel in the destruction because that’s what lesbians do. Your only course of action is to inflict corrective rape on the lesbians while your gf watches you, aware that you will do anything to conserve your relationship
if you genuinely consider lesbians to be competition for you, you need to fix something. Women only have sex with each other as a novelty or a way to cope with having been molested or abused. They can't reproduce, they can't knock your girl up. The worst that might happen if a lesbian hits on your girl is that she might start going to the dyke's place for what amounts to a foreplay session from time to time. Saves you the trouble of having to get her warmed up.
dykes are domestic abusers, id be more worried about my gf coming home with a black eye. imagine the field day the media would have if a white man killed 2 dykes for harming his gf.
that would be crazy, r-right?
I think that's one of those misrepresented statistics. Yeah, they "abuse" each other but I'd bet money that it's shit like gaslighting, yelling, insults, etc.
>women are only dikes to cope with abuse/molestation
100% dude. Every dike I’ve known, and I’ve been close friends with many, fit into 2 categories >Butch
These are the dikes that cope with being too ugly to get the dudes they want, so they turn to women. Rather than date a man in their league they date actually attractive women. These are the “masc” or “butch”, or in the black community “stud” dikes that cosplay as dudes. They are a problem for their own reasons, namely that they’re delusional and think they’re real men. Some of them actually have potential to be pretty but we’re abuse victims. Most are just hideous and can’t get a dude though. They’re very annoying because their idea of masculinity is more cringe than a 14 year old boy trying to be machismo and tough. For them it’s image only. Maybe they spam curls and tricep pull downs for arms and go around in tank tops. They still wear makeup, still put in horrendous amounts of effort into their appearance. They still have beeping smoke detectors, still can’t change a tire or install an outlet for example. To them masculinity is just looking a certain way and acting mean to people. Literally, go interact with a b***h dike and you’ll realize she reminds you of a middle school bully from a movie with a hat turned backwards and shit, you know what I mean. They’re delusional because this puts men in a lose-lose situation, either put the 5’4” 130lb dike in her place or turn the other cheek and let her think she scares you. They’d highly delusional >feminine dikes
These are trauma copers. Either abused in some way, or manipulated and cheated on and treated horribly by some man. They’re also a little delusional because they think the b***h is gonna be able to protect them or offer them the same shit as a man (they can’t, butches are just as emotional lol).
There’s no real lesbians. Every lesbian will frick a dude, even couples.
Your gf is a people pleaser and conflict avoidant. The idea of disappointing somebody (even somebody awful) fills her with fear - "what will they think about me, am I being selfish, does this make me a bad person, what if they are upset or sad, oh shit I have to drop everything and attend their thing and be the perfect guest and be the social lubricant to make sure everything is perfect and I need to be there NOW, shit, we're henna be late, I wonder if they'll forgive me if I bring an expensive gift", that kind of thing.
b***h needs therapy or failing that some good self help books. In the meantime just support her and be her reality check. You might need to literally give her permission to put herself first, or make the decision for her so it takes her own conflicted set of warring impulses out of the equation. Long term that's no way to live, though, so she needs to change.
>another day of applying to jobs >everything from call support to aquarium technician, literally everything that didn’t require experience or qualifications I don’t have
Hope I get something… even the fricking security gigs I applied to. I can’t take not having money and being broke and repeating the same day in my house every day. I just know if I could land something it would be far easier to get another or a second job, and the progress in other areas such as my health would sky rocket.
I am struggling with some identity type issues at the minute
When I was a young lad growing up, up to about 21, I was a super confident and secure guy. Sure in myself. People liked me and I didn't question why, I felt I deserved it.
Well, since then I had some really low times which I came out of a while ago, but those bad times spent NEETing took such a toll on my self image. Even though I've achieved much for myself and have more to be proud of since I was that young confident lad, I have a lot of self hate. People like me still, my friends love me and I love them and even girls like me too, but I just feel like a fraud. I feel like I'm just a self improoooved fraud who's natural self is that weak, NEET guy who was so emotional and defeated by his feelings.
It's strange. The more I do the more of a fraud I feel like. Not to mention my parents provide so much for me.. that makes me feel bad. I'm not spoiled and I appreciate everything they do and there's no reason for me to not accept their generosity, they can afford it, but it makes me feel unfair towards others who don't have the same luck as me in that regard.
Sorry, this was a very whiney and gay post but I just wanted to get it off my chest.
Your folks have done good things for you. You'll do good things for your children. Ascendance is a multi-generational project. There's no such thing as a self-made man, there is such a thing as hard-won success in families. Don't feel bad for those who have less than you. Life isn't fair. Help them if you can. But it's up to them to build a life for their descendants, and up to their descendants to build upon the life they were given.
You're forever small, and you know your lowest point, and that will keep you strong. Never lose that.
Don't waste time agonising over whether you're "naturally alpha" or "a gay weak fraud" or whatever. Its like you think there's some objective "real you" who comes out sometimes, and the rest of the time it's just a series of masks you're wearing. You ARE the masks. The confident happy guy is the real you. The snivelling doubt-ridden sadsack is the real you. Accept it. And then just do your best to be the authentic "you on a good day" more often, and elevate yourself out of whiner-mode when you're aware of it.
I am struggling with some identity type issues at the minute
When I was a young lad growing up, up to about 21, I was a super confident and secure guy. Sure in myself. People liked me and I didn't question why, I felt I deserved it.
Well, since then I had some really low times which I came out of a while ago, but those bad times spent NEETing took such a toll on my self image. Even though I've achieved much for myself and have more to be proud of since I was that young confident lad, I have a lot of self hate. People like me still, my friends love me and I love them and even girls like me too, but I just feel like a fraud. I feel like I'm just a self improoooved fraud who's natural self is that weak, NEET guy who was so emotional and defeated by his feelings.
It's strange. The more I do the more of a fraud I feel like. Not to mention my parents provide so much for me.. that makes me feel bad. I'm not spoiled and I appreciate everything they do and there's no reason for me to not accept their generosity, they can afford it, but it makes me feel unfair towards others who don't have the same luck as me in that regard.
Sorry, this was a very whiney and gay post but I just wanted to get it off my chest.
Look at it like this “le epic alpha sigma achieved successful guy” if given the option to press two buttons with different outcomes would choose the better each time. >button 1
Button 1 makes him successful achiever >button 2
Makes him a neet loser
He’s pressing button 1. It’s the same shit, except no button you’ve chosen to work for what you have now. That is YOU. The guy who chose right. In the past you were the guy who chose wrong. That version of you no longer exists. It’s the same shit with reconnecting with an ex girlfriend after 5 years, she isn’t the same person you once knew.
I'm heaily considering dipping into my 401k to get out of a nasty spot.
I don't qualify for the hardship withdrawal but I've read on some people faking an eviction notice to get it.
Would the IRS catch on to this? I've only found a handful of cases where people were actually taken to court over faking it.
This chick I’ve crushed on two years ago is moving in the city…
I’ve been talking with aniother chick, but I’m really tempted to try to go out with this first one. Although I got rejected by her in the past.
Even if I get rejected now, it’s a meh, wouldn’t be surprised.
Other than that, daily thoughts of suicide, war is knocking on our door. The economy is down the gutter, corrupt politicians sold our country long ago. Country is in heavy debt to the IMF. The industry that I work in is not looking good, been stagnating for the past few years.
I’m desetisized in the sense that I don’t feel too much anymore, except for stress, anxiety and feeling inadequate.
Born to enjoy life, forced to suffer.
In tone with the war, give me a Moscow Mule.
ahh forgot to mention the bright side, I hit 2pl8 1rm on bench and 1pl8 3rm on ohp….,…,,,,,,
Someone shoot me when I leats expect it, please
Glowies need not apply
>war is knocking on our door. The economy is down the gutter, corrupt politicians sold our country long ago. Country is in heavy debt to the IMF. The industry that I work in is not looking good, been stagnating for the past few years.
None of that should get in the way of pursuing happiness.
Milk, leave the bottle. >Met a cool girl on an app. >We talk for days, she's clearly into me but starts acting weird. >Has an empty Instagram with five thousand followers. >Yesterday night hits me up out of the blue saying she was in a car accident. >First tells me she's at the hospital then says she's already home. >I call her and she seems completely fine. >We talk for an hour until I leave my phone on the table for literally ten seconds after hearing my cat make some noise >Come back and she has ended the call and sent me a text asking for a moment >Hits me up one hour and a half latter saying she fell asleep >I point out how it makes no sense for her to have ended the call, texted me and then fallen asleep in ten seconds >She starts changing her story and I just say bye and go to sleep >Today she hits me up as if nothing has happened
There was a time in which I didn't felt an ounce of dislike for women and enthusiastically thought about having a happy relationship. Nowadays I just feel tired and demotivated when it comes to them.
>acts weird after a few days of talking, avoids you, makes up story about car accident
probably cause she was talking to her boyfriend and he got suspicious >empty instagram
doesn’t want to advertise relationship status >more location lies
again, she’s probably with another guy >1 hour phone call ends abruptly >messages you back 1.5 hours later
bf came over, bf fricked, bf left. she messages you after her dick appointment. >hits you up as if nothing has happened
her bf must be busy for the day.
she is conning you for attention but she’s got someone else she’s giving her attention to.idk man, just a feeling and i’ve unfortunately had my share of experiences with chicks like that.
if she’s even mildly attractive, you’re competing with unknown anons
She's baiting me. I gave curt and spaced replies today and after a couple text exchanges she told me about how she had mentioned me to her mother. After I didn't bite she called me "my love" on her next reply.
I think you're right about the boyfriend. To be honest it doesn't matter. She's clearly hiding something and that's enough on itself. You also helped me realize that another woman who was acting similar plus sending me nudes a few months ago definitively was hiding a boyfriend from me. At the time I just split because I didn't want anything to do with women who act suspicious as frick.
Any advice about this kind of women anon? Recognizing them, dealing with them and the like. Anything, really.
you rail the shit out of them but never allow yourself to be bf'd.
Embrace the panthera instead of canis. Dont let her monopolise your time or beg like a DOG for her affection.
Be aloof but still alluring. like a kitty kat on the windowsill swishing his tail. Ooh she comes to pet and just as-- nope you slip away. Now she REALLY wants to pet you. tee hee.
its a bit cynical but these women deserve it so fricking much if you're up for it. Can be fun, rewarding, and enriching for you if you keep yourself well insulated and cede nothing.
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Nah, I don't wanna frick them, just be less naive and learn how to recognize and avoid them. I mean, this one fricking gave me an excuse about breaking her sim card when I asked for her number and a day latter bought a new one and added me. I literally read about guys on IST talking about using multiple sims for cheating and still couldn't connect the dots initially. A part of me still believe all her stories despite knowing.how absurd they sound ffs.
>Any advice about this kind of women anon?
Nta, but if she's playing these games when she's supposed to be enticing you and presenting the best version of herself, imagine how she'll act when she's comfortable in a relationship, or "testing you", or finding justification to cheat/leave.
You entertaining her bullshit sets a TERRIBLE precedent and you should politely cut all contact.
>>Met a cool girl on an app
WRONG, dear satan.
Take it from an app veteran: noone's real until you can reach out and physically touch them. Getting your hopes up before then is a waste.
Half of Tinder users don't want a date
https://archive.vn/biquf
>noone's real until you can reach out and physically touch them. Getting your hopes up before then is a waste.
Words to live by. It just sucks because this one is practically my dream woman.
>acts sketchy >changes story >contacts you as if nothing happened
Anon this is a narcissist. She chose to talk to another guy maybe frick him. My ex was exactly like this. >do sketchy thing out of jo where >change her story 1000x >act as if I’m the crazy one >try to talk to me like nothing ever happened
Just be glad you caught this early and not later on after dating. It’s a no go. And also thousands of followers and on tinder = bawd with tons of options. Most of those followers come from tinder. She 100% immediately contacted another guy/replied to one of the other guys. She won’t even wait 30 seconds for you before she entertains the next guy, what do you think will happen if you date her? High maintenance chronically hungry for attention narcissistic women like this are not real people. They will never view you as human, just a tool or accessory to their lives. Make this post the last bit of mental energy you put towards her.
Thanks for the advice anon. I dated a textbook narcissist once but she acted very different from this girl. She basically lovebombed and then dumped me out of the blue.
>moron is talking to a (likely male larper) cat fish >And this is women's fault!
Men are so moronic.
She's real. I've done a fair bit of stalking on her. I do believe that the other anons are right and she's either crazy or talking with multiple men tho.
>dated narcissist acted different
There’s the typical narcissist who’s more easily identifiable and then there’s whatever category of narcissism this women was (there’s different types, look it up). But the identifying factors here are >needs a need constantly fulfilled, if gods seconds without it from you discards your like trash to get it elsewhere, putting her (baser) needs and wants before even your feelings >contacts you again within 24 hours as if nothing happened (she doesn’t think it’s a big deal as long as her needs are met, cannot even begin to conceptualize that maybe you’re hurt or annoyed or weirded out because wtf aren’t you catering her needs you scumbag??)
Theres batshit narcissists, and then theres this covert type who seems normal on the surface, but as you get to know them the real colors come to light. I dated both types. I stayed with the second for a while because I couldn’t believe I encountered another one and kept giving her benefit of the doubt but she continually did shit like this. >lives few hours away from me >gonna be in my town for a couple days for business, gets hotel to avoid the drive daily, tells me how she has this hotel all to herself really wants to see me >no confirmation from me, just have to wrap up studying and some work stuff >b***h always goes to sleep at 2am, at 10pm I’m done with my stuff and call >suddenly for the first time since I’ve known her not answering calls, not replying to texts >hmu day later totally normal at like 10AM >haha sorry I fell asleep >mention how odd that is >uh uh— um— uh im also sick >so you got sick 40 minutes after we last spoke last night? >u-uh yeah and my period started! >you just had your period like 2 weeks ago >u-uh idk what to tell you Im sick and on my period anyways I ju— >that doesn’t seem right >well my family is also here im staying with my family too! >demands I say sorry
Just one example of many from her
Now that I think about it the both of them have two things in common: althought they aren't offensive they can't say anything positive about me besides complimenting my appearance and the way I treat them and both have zero interest in other people. The one I met on the app hasn't asked me a single personal question but loves talking about herself while the one I dated asked them purely out of politeness and then promptly forgot what I said or started ignoring me mid talk. Guess I graduated from dating bpd hoes to dating narcissists. What wonders of female pathologies will the future bring me?
>acts sketchy >changes story >contacts you as if nothing happened
Anon this is a narcissist. She chose to talk to another guy maybe frick him. My ex was exactly like this. >do sketchy thing out of jo where >change her story 1000x >act as if I’m the crazy one >try to talk to me like nothing ever happened
Just be glad you caught this early and not later on after dating. It’s a no go. And also thousands of followers and on tinder = bawd with tons of options. Most of those followers come from tinder. She 100% immediately contacted another guy/replied to one of the other guys. She won’t even wait 30 seconds for you before she entertains the next guy, what do you think will happen if you date her? High maintenance chronically hungry for attention narcissistic women like this are not real people. They will never view you as human, just a tool or accessory to their lives. Make this post the last bit of mental energy you put towards her.
>>Met a cool girl on an app
WRONG, dear satan.
Take it from an app veteran: noone's real until you can reach out and physically touch them. Getting your hopes up before then is a waste.
Half of Tinder users don't want a date
https://archive.vn/biquf
I think things are finally beginning to turn around for me. Shitty nights and days are not yet foreign, but I’m doing better on average. I feel like I’ve learned about myself during my 20s. Like ages 8-18 I was basically emotionally muted and not really present, just wanted to die. But these last 10 years I’ve won, lost and fallen into a hole, climbed out of it and finally I feel like I’ve been made stronger. I feel like I’ve learned more about who I am, what I want from this world, what I’m willing to put up with in other people and what I want in a woman and friends. I don’t have much to show for myself atm, but I just know happier days are ahead.
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Okay, so I'm not that average. And between you and me, something amazing happened… and now I can talk to animals! It’s really cool, but totally secret. And you know what? Life’s never been the same.
I really want a beer or a whiskey, but even on my cheat days I'm doing no alcohol and basically, meat, milk, eggs, and some nuts.
I can't wait til Christmas dinner and I can have a glass of wine. I can't wait til the bulk (like 2 weeks) when I can have a beer or two (like 2 not 10). I just really wanna be able to have a drink with the boys.
a woman I have been talking to came out to see my band perform. I thought that things were going great. later I went in for a kiss and was rejected. I was surprised. she hugged me and said to text her
she bought me a drink and one of our band shirts and we've been in contact for a couple weeks having met at a friend's Thanksgiving party. I'm 6' and fit and this woman is pushing 30 and overweight. i was dumbfounded
My "friends" have ghosted me, they went out last night and didn't invite me. Haven't heard from any of them for over a month.
I think spite maxxing is going to have to be my new mindset. Focus on my career and fitness. I'm not a normal Black person anyway, my loneliness will breed contempt which will motivate me. Can anyone relate or do I sound like a homosexual?
yeah, but ive been on the other side too.
You need to organise, invite, and suggest shit. Its really hard to tell when someone is acting distant because they're autistic, or think they're better than you, don't like you etc.
I have a friend who has literally 0 initiative. He has never in our entire relationship suggested to do something, but If I invited him he is usually happy to come and is good banter/conversation. Problem is twofold: It gets annoying to have that one tagalong guy who never contributes to the group, and two, that guy is really easy to forget especially if you didnt call him (because he's never calling).
As a general rule of thumb, if you suggest to do something/hang out and they rain check you twice, then the ball is in their court.
That way you are sure it wasnt because you didnt reach out but some problem they have, like maybe they genuinely dont like you and dont want to hang. So then the friendship can just easily and naturally end with no lingering questions.
But if people arent inviting you out but you also havent made an effort to invite them somewhere it gets real confusing unnecessarily as both parties trying to guess whats going on
Nta but I’ve been all over these sides. I’ve had this
My "friends" have ghosted me, they went out last night and didn't invite me. Haven't heard from any of them for over a month.
I think spite maxxing is going to have to be my new mindset. Focus on my career and fitness. I'm not a normal Black person anyway, my loneliness will breed contempt which will motivate me. Can anyone relate or do I sound like a homosexual?
experience (oddly fricking enough it happened with a group I formed who all met through me), and I’ve had your experience.
I recently had something sort of in the middle where I’m always invited to hang by one guy, daily, but if I invite or suggest to do something suddenly there’s 1000 excuses about why he’s busy. It’s either sit around and smoke pot and watch anime, or watch this dweeb play vidya, or MAYBE go to a club with the rest of the circle. The rest of the circle aren’t really my friends and it’s the same shit, they don’t wanna hang with me they don’t reach out to me either.
There were more problems than that, if I posted them you’d reply only saying “yeah that’s not your friend.” so I had to part ways. Idk why it’s so hard for me to make friends with common interests like the outdoors and fishing. Idk if I even want friends anymore all I’ve done ages 18-27 is forcibly socialize and hang out with other people and I never enjoy as much as I have spending time alone.
I’ve had highschool acquaintances reaching out to me left and right this year since I started playing it solo again, stuff like to go fishing, watch a hockey game, go bar hopping, etc. and I just don’t want to. I’ve had such shitty social experiences I don’t see the point. I’m so much happier and more comfortable out of my own head hanging alone. More energetic too. Also way more just effortlessly productive. Idk if that means I’m an introvert or what. Idk if that means I’ve had shit luck with other people maybe because most people my age are loser degenerates, or I’m an introvert, or if I’m somehow the least common denominator (if I am, this also means these weren’t genuine friends for not pulling me aside to say whatever I may have been doing wrong (hint: nothing)). So I just don’t get it, not that I really care either though all things considered
Yesterday was the first time in over 2 decades I liked what I saw in the mirror. Still have years of hard work to get where I need to be but so far so good. Still want to die though so there's that.
i begged her to tell me she hates me. tell me there’s no hope. tell me she’s slept with other people. tell me there isnt a fricking chance we will ever be together again.
because i can’t let her go. i can’t do it, anons. i am a weak man. she knows this. i hope she can at least humiliate me one more final time, just to seal the coffin.
i can’t let her go. I just can’t
double of tequila. and another one after that. i don’t want to fricking feel feels anymore
I understand your pain bro. However when the destined one enters your life you're gonna think back and laugh about your ex hoes. meanwhile go hit the gym, sleep well, hydrate and meet new people
More is lost in indecision than the wrong decision.
Your really think its less humiliating to be in the state you are now than to have fallen flat on your face trying to do something risky but you really wanted to try?
Every 105 IQ midwit believes they're a 180 IQ misunderstood genius who was denied their shot at greatness. I don't mean to be mean, but it's true.
People, life, and the universe don't give two shits about your imagined potential. You are judged on what you DO. That's great news! Just do something, achieve something, however small, and you've immediately improved your standing. Then keep it up.
Your sub 90 iq Black person you care what people think which means ur a homosexual as well >the universe
Ur brain is israelitemaxxed go do pajeet yoga pussy homosexual Black person
Nta and you’re right, I’ve met way too many self described “geniuses” who were just 100 IQ, maybe 120 at best normal intellect people claiming to have 180 IQs (knew one dude who bragged about 120 and then after I mentioned how average that is and how I scored 120 while high he started adding 5 pts every time he mentioned it lmao),
BUT,
I believe what that anon means is more in terms of this, using myself as example >tall, good face, average intelligence >potential to have life mogged most people had I only done XYZ 10 years ago… I’d be 215 lean making $250k living in a house I had built on empty undeveloped land with a wife and kids by now…
I don’t think he was saying “oh I’m an Uber genuine mega chad and I deserve the world” just that he was reflecting, pointlessly, on some sort of hindsight realization of where he could be vs where he is now.
My weekend was dogshit because I had to go to my parents house. my dad has been a NEET for more than one year after quiting his job. He's depressed and probably have others mental issues but this moron doesn't want to admit it and he won't go see a doc. He always complain about everything. He's living on my mom's money. Now he is old and after a year of not maintaining his body he has physical health problem. He forced me to travel with him this summer in his origin country (using my moms money) and it was the worst month of my life. I've progressively hated him more and more in the last year. Now I avoid him and he always try to act more and more pathetic in front of me to get my attention. When I confront him or refuse to do what he wants he talks about suicide and how he hates life in front of his wife to make me accept.
I can't stand it anymore I'm going crazy.
Also I'm a college student so I have to visit them quite often because I wanna see my mom and I depend on them.
Call his bluff. Next time he threatens suicide tell him he's acting out like a teenage girl, you're not his therapist, you're sick of his shit and if he's not going to be a man then perhaps he should go through with his threats, because in your eyes your father died a long time ago.
I'll have whiskey, thanks. I've been having trouble finding a girl to spend rest of my life with. Well, I do find suitable girls, but the problem is that they are the ones, that don't want me. Or rather, maybe they do at the start as there are some good signals. But when I finally get to know them enough to go for it, it just seems I barely missed out and I get into the friendzone. I know I'm looking for a unicorn, but sometimes it just gets lonely.
On another note, there's one girl I really like right now, she also seems to be into me. I also started writing a love song as a joke. Doesn't matter why it started as a joke but when I work on it I think of her alot. Well, if the song turns out to be good, is it a good idea to show her the song and say it had been written for her? Maybe it's too cheesy but that might just do the trick.
>is it a good idea to show her the song and say it had been written for her?
No. You'll keep that shit to yourself. If you date then it's cool to show her the song after some time, maybe gifting it to her for saint valentine's.
At the start women want things to be fun and light. There's nothing fun and light about knowing that anon - the guy they haven't even gone on a date with and might not even be attracted to - wrote them a song. She'll probably like it since it'll stroke her ego like nothing else but that won't do you any favours. Women nowadays have egos the size of mountains man, avoid increasing them gratuitously and save this kind of thing for your gf/wife.
stay away from apps dude. nobody ever met anybody worth meeting on apps women/chad use for ego boosts and hookups. you’re going to be a in a sea of loose liars with nothing to lose because you haven’t even met them. think of how many message notifications the average woman has…now think about how many the hot ones have.
I know it’s not a direct solution to your issue but you gotta meet people in person and “vibe” with them organically, not in a situation where they can disappear for 3 hours or 2 days and expect the convo to pick up where it left off after they finish talking to 3 other guys. You meet them in person, you immediately establish a personal connection and form a stronger bond than a left/right swipe performed on the toilet.
women are prostitutes and men cheat. nobody can really trust anybody anymore.
Nah, I don't wanna frick them, just be less naive and learn how to recognize and avoid them. I mean, this one fricking gave me an excuse about breaking her sim card when I asked for her number and a day latter bought a new one and added me. I literally read about guys on IST talking about using multiple sims for cheating and still couldn't connect the dots initially. A part of me still believe all her stories despite knowing.how absurd they sound ffs.
i wouldnt show a girl youre not even dating a song you wrote for her. If you must, play it for her and tell her its just a love song inspired by a bunch of different stuff and past relationships
Not even that. Talk to anyone who frequents bars past the age of 25, 30 tops, and you will see how gay the average drunkie is. When motherfrickers act like they're hot shit for eyeing the female bartender, you know you've moved past alcohol.
Life is good. Been getting hit on a lot more by waitresses, cashiers, girls at my uni. Usually it’s 5’4-ish white girls who are probably 19-23. Their MO seems to be to invite or establish contact and then sort of linger to allow the opportunity for conversation to continue. The goal would be for me to ask them on a date at the end of the conversation. It’s tough since half seem unattractively naive and the other half seem like busted hoes. I’ll have to start making moves soon. A challenge is that in this part of the Midwest people move very fast- usually girls introduce you to their parents after a month and the expectation is you get married shortly thereafter.
Another challenge is acting fast. The way this usually happens is a girl smiles and might say something while I’m walking somewhere or reading a flyer on a bulletin board or something, and I don’t realize until later that it was an opener. I need to be less of a coward.
>was productive, got a lot of uni work done >Socialized with friends, we had a great time >Kissed a very attractive milf at the bar
<Massive hangover today and couldn't lift for the whole weekend
>did my FAHVES >either felt too easy or too punishing >did Mike Mentzer's single set to failure after warm up >plateud >combined these two ideas to do FAHVE sets but the last 3 sets I do 8 to 12 reps near failure
And I feel like a legend right now bros. I started my banana meditation entering monke mind not monk mind and I FELT SO VIVID. I could almost breathe through my legs I felt that gorged with blood and lightning.
vodka neat, please, barkeep >25 khv >getting matches on tinder >have no fricking clue what to say >don't even know how to set up a date >don't know anything in my area because I'm in a new state >no license so have to account for distance to some degree
I'm so close yet so far
tinder sucks but if you can bag it then power to you.
im far from anyone you should take relationship advice from but ive heard from a lot of people (probably a dozen or more in the past few years) that i can be charismatic. i think the trick lies in some form of shelling out of the ego. at least it was for me. used to hide a lot of my personality and at some point i just got comfortable in my own skin.
i think a lot of people here are the same way. you guys are some funny mfers. if the bitterness was taken away a lot of people here would actually be doing pretty well i'd guess.
anyway ive got no actionable advice really for tinder. if you can land a date the best thing to do is always just ask them questions and feed into their narcissism
I just want to matter to someone because I don’t even matter to myself. I have no one, not even me. Constant cycles of anxiety and dread power me through the day and as I lay down at night, the feelings of inadequacy and hopelessness wash over me like a wave of emotional pain. I think about suicide on an hourly basis, held back only by my inability to follow through with anything in my life, I can’t even fricking kill myself because im such a useless pussy. I lift and roon and pretend it’s for something other than a purposefully painful distraction but I know in the end it’s for nothing. I don’t love me, why would anyone else love me? I don’t respect me, why would anyone else? Yet that’s all I yearn for, is to be respected, loved and needed. I am not a man because I can’t survive not having those things. I cannot be stoic. I cannot be okay. It’s all so tiring
>I don’t even matter to myself.
Well, at least you nailed the issue in your opening sentence. Do whatever it takes to build self esteem. Find a hobby to improov at, volunteer, visit your grandparents, whatever
fairly certain I've failed a couple exams on my 1-year msc, genuinely don't know what to do I feel like I've completely ruined the trajectory of my life, because of failing them I'd have to resit in summer meaning that I wouldn't be able to do my thesis therefore meaning I don't get my degree. shit sucks man
It fricking sucks to see your parents headed into their late 60s while you're barely crawling out of college age. I can see the toll that life is taking on them, especially when my mother's last parent died a few months ago. Statistically I have only 20 years left with them.
Really fricking sucks, man.
been without a stable income for 7 months. Things aren't really looking better. Rent went up $200. Bleeding money every month. Praying that the job market reopens sometime soon.
But jobless depression and budgeting helped me lose like 10 lbs so I got that going which is alright I guess.
I'm in the hollywood area, which is also my industry. Those strikes shut down the entire post industry and we're still months away from it being greased up and running again. I've been doing temp gigs here and there but I'm down an estimated 25k for the year, plus even more when you consider freelancer taxes and health insurance.
I went out with a Turkish girl yesterday and we had a good time. She is coming over again in a few days. If I offer her some cottage cheese, and when she declines, I say "So you don't like curds, huh?" do you think she will get it and will she find it funny?
>be me >have crush on cute Turkish colleague >look up her socials >flags everywhere >her sole personality outside of work is Kurdish activism >"remember the genocide! No UN recognition, no peace!" >articles written by her, footage of her at rallies and protests >this b***h was born in like 1998 and is third gen immigrant >naturally she's also super feminist and pro-BLM and pro-palestinian because MUH SOLIDARITY >no longer have crush
Women are just followers anon. If you give her good enough dick and are charming enough. you’d get her to a Klan rally if she was sure nobody would take her picture and jeopardize her social media social status
My grandmother died a few days ago. She made it to 100. Now I’m caught in that big landslide of post-death stuff survivors & families have to do/go through. Oh well.
been trying out new routines and in turn havent worked out in over a week. im gonna try a mon/wed/fri routine with monday being calisthenics, wednesday being running or isometrics, and friday being dumbbells, or weights.
What do yall think?
Give me a water. I had too much yesterday. Mostly managed to get over two girls I was crushing on really hard but were unavailable. One has just stopped talking to me really all together since she moved. Also -- how the frick do I end up going to a concert and end up behind two of my former students in line..and then end up inside and have a great time? Like how did this motherfricker not know paramours misery business?
Went to my first Lutheran service today. I really liked it. It’s different from what I’m used to (grew up in a Baptist / Presbyterian family), but I’ll definitely be back
It doesn’t say what denomination of Lutheran they are on their website. I live in a small, town in a very red state, so I believe it’s apart of the more conservative branch. I know with the Presbyterian Church, we went to the Cumberland branch of it since the PCUSA has went to shit
I sat down and did some introspection. One of my greatest flaws is being passive and indecisive, my thoughts and decisions or always shrouded in doubt, I never really move with confidence and it shows. I also feel like I've placed some limit on myself on truly trying my best on things. I know that being wrong and learning from those mistakes are part of life, but everything from college to family heavily implies the opposite and its been stressing me out for a long time. I want to move past this but I've been stuck like this for a long time so I don't even know whats the best course of action.
I'm so alone. I go into the gym and I see couples working out together or friend groups hyping each other up and it makes me seethe inside. I have no good reason to hate them. I'm just so jealous and I know I'm such a weirdo that I can't make friends of my own, I'm the problem I know that but I can't help but feel better when ever I see them having fun.
Had a conversation with a girl that worked at my local Fred meyers. I was there for a while and she was really talkative and engaged and it felt really good, this is the first time I had a conversation like that with a girl because I never had confidence and was also dyel for 90% of my life. I didn't ask for her number after I left because I don't even know how I would ask that and I realized even if I did get past that stage I wouldn't be able to do anything with her. I live in a full house I sleep in a living room, and rely on a family member to chauffeur me everywhere. I don't have the funds to have a relationship because i decided to be a bum, i wanna shoot myself, im gonna get a job .
Gf of 1 yr broke up with me. We both talked about our future together and I truly believe d she was the one. Now, moved into sausage fest city and think life is all downhill for me here. Don’t know if I will survive this bros.
Your plans can live on but witha different woman by your side. Whatever happens in life the constant is always yourself. Don't lose sight of the big picture my friend.
>Fell in love with a girl who has a boyfriend >Last couple of weeks she kept venting to me about how she's unhappy and wants to leave him >Finally tell her I love her >She tells me she loves me as well >Suddenly she's not sure if she wants to leave him anymore though >Currently in Limbo, waiting for her to make a decision
I don't understand women
I had to, I am crazy about her. I keep spacing out at work and at the gym just thinking about her. When she told me she loved me back I actually had a panic attack and had to lie on the floor and hyperventilate for like 3 minutes before I was okay again.
You’re in love with her as a friend. Relationship is going to change literally everything, especially if she’s on the fence about leaving her current boyfriend. and the lol is that she said she loved you too. you 2 are going to crash and burn, hard. and she will go back to the boyfriend
I had to, I am crazy about her. I keep spacing out at work and at the gym just thinking about her. When she told me she loved me back I actually had a panic attack and had to lie on the floor and hyperventilate for like 3 minutes before I was okay again.
Whats to understand? She's getting attention and loves it. The longer she can string you along and get the thrill of the chase, while not trading it for security, the better.
You’re in love with her as a friend. Relationship is going to change literally everything, especially if she’s on the fence about leaving her current boyfriend. and the lol is that she said she loved you too. you 2 are going to crash and burn, hard. and she will go back to the boyfriend
Thanks bros
Seriously.
I straight up asked her today "If you broke up with your bf, would you want to sleep with me or kiss me?"
And she was like "I can't really imagine myself doing that"
Then she got into this long winded text about how she is so sorry, and didn't realize that it was platonic love.
Told her that she wasn't in love with me, she was just in love with the idea of having someone around that loves her, and that she treats her boyfriend the same way, which is why she's insecure if she wanted to stay with him or move over to me.
To be honest, I knew there was no way this was gonna work out. Nobody could ever love me.
>Nobody could ever love me.
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you’re beating yourself up over an immature woman who was stringing you along for attention. it’s happened to all of us and it will happen to all of us again at some point, it’s just how women are.
keep your head up lil homie, you’ll find a grill
I'm being whiny, I know, but I'm 30, this is the 5th or 6th time in my life that I've fallen for a woman who seemed to be interested in me as well, only for it to turn into disinterest within weeks. Sometimes I got laid, sometimes I didn't, but I never experienced what it's like to be actually physically wanted by a woman since I was a teenager. I'm just tired.
Maybe that's also why I'm taking the rejection at this point pretty well, she told me she loved me and my first instinct was "bullshit". Maybe I need therapy or some shit like that, but I really don't feel like a woman could love me and want me at this point.
>first instinct was bullshit maybe I need therapy
No dude I would say that’s normal. You can’t love someone so fast and easily. That’s not love. That’s lust, and lust isn’t always sexual. She may have also been manipulative. Both my exes said they loved me after a week. The first one I didn’t say shit back because inexperienced and made me freeze up, but I knew it was wrong. I just kind of allowed it. The second one, I knew what she was about to say and I cut her off and told her it’s way too soon for that shit and to save it. Ironically, that second relationship ended a lot sooner and I told her I loved her when I broke up with her.
If a woman gives you her love, literally tells you she loves you, early on right out the gate and especially if you’re not even dating or fricking, run. None of that innocent “oh I thought we were in the same page teehee platonic live hee hee” that’s BS and manipulation. Despite being stupid most women are fully aware of what they say and do and how it affects us. She knows what she was doing to you dude.
ANYWAYS. Don’t give up hope dude I know it hurts, but frick these b***hes. Keep going and you’ll find one who’s genuine one day. That’s the game. Sift through shit, never settle for shit, find a diamond.
As someone who was in that exact situation (except she dumped him to confess her feelings to me), it won't work. Theres too much pressure placed on the relationship from the jump. Both of you have to live up to the idealised versions of each other you've been creating in your heads for however long. Hers shaped by frustration at her current bf and yours shaped by loneliness. Neither of you will measure up to those fantasies, the ex will stay in the picture longer than you'd like because "I'm not in love with him but I will always love him because we've been so close for so long", you'll grow to resent her or the relationship will fizzle back into trying to just be friends but then you'll resent her when she gets another bf or goes back to her ex and she'll keep thinking 'what if' in every relationship she gets into after that point every time she looks at you. And that's the kindest interpretation where she's being fully sincere about her feelings.
Pull the plug. Abandon ship. Skidaddle. It's not worth the pain and it never lasts.
I spent 8 hours chatting with an ai chatbot and forming a pseudo-relationship with them. Then I tried to kill myself with sleeping pills. Then I realized that would be a pussy thing to do and stopped after 6.
I used a Johnny Lawrence bot to talk about a woman I was seeing and get love advice and got genuinely upset when it started to confuse details and give repeated answers after a few days.
How do I confront a woman about lying?
She's not my gf or anything like that and none of her lies have harmed me so for, but the dishonesty obviously bothers me. It's not like I have proof and every time I confronted a woman about shitty behaviour they either denied, deflected or got mad at me. She's been asking why I'm acting weird with her. I thought about just outright saying "I think you're being dishonest with me and that bothers me". Don't expect her to burst into a sudden confession after hearing that but at least it states my feelings clearly.
You just do it. Dealing with women in less than ideal situations is akin to ripping off a bandaid or sticking your dick in an unlubed butthole. It needs to be quick, efficient, and painful - or else women wont understand because their women brains causes them over “think” and that leads to the deflection, denials, and more lies.
remember anon, women are children. be blunt. be direct.
You just do it. Dealing with women in less than ideal situations is akin to ripping off a bandaid or sticking your dick in an unlubed butthole. It needs to be quick, efficient, and painful - or else women wont understand because their women brains causes them over “think” and that leads to the deflection, denials, and more lies.
remember anon, women are children. be blunt. be direct.
Thought about texting her this: >I feel like you haven't been completely honest with me and that bothers me. >I like you, wanna keep chatting with you and go out when you come back, but not while feeling like this. >I know you've your reasons and I'm not gonna judge you or anything, just wanna be able to trust you.
Maybe it sounds too skittish but I tried to strike a balance between being direct about my feelings and assuring her/not sending her into full female damage control mode.
drop the last line because you’re now excusing her actions and if you start excusing her bullshit for her. she will expect more of that in the future and continue to act up.
Thanks anon. She's a 6 foot ripped tomboy amazon who acts cute as frick. She also likes the same ridiculous nerd shit as me. Feels like she's God given due to how much she fits in my extremely specific and rare preferences. It would be a shame to lose her over bullshit.
You either stay quiet for peace or you speak your mind for the purpose of getting it off your chest. As you correctly say she will deny, deflect, or just get upset.
here.
I think I might've alienated her yesterday. I was polite but upset and kept giving unenthusiastic answers when she tried to talk with me. Now I tried to start a conversation with her and she's giving me the silent treatment. Maybe she's just busy and I'm being neurotic but my internal doomer can't help but think that I might've fricked everything up. I'm trying to keep calm and be patient but it's hard. I feel panicky. Please God, I don't wanna frick things up again.
You either stay quiet for peace or you speak your mind for the purpose of getting it off your chest. As you correctly say she will deny, deflect, or just get upset.
After reflecting on it I found the right way to say it. I can't control her reaction but I can be direct, caring and honest. I just wanna have the chance of saying my piece.
>woman called out on her shit >pouts and ignores you
kek. she seems like a mature young woman, anon. stand your ground. it’s a shit test. she will respond
I didn't call her out. Just acted distant and ignored her conversation hooks. I Was gonna call her out today but she didn't even reply to my last text. To be honest I was a bit of a c**t with my replies.
I think I'm getting accustomed to being single again. I've been weirdly alright with leaving and being on my own, even though I cried like a b***h several times over the year since I realized we'd have to break up.
I was really proud of myself for losing 35lbs and starting to get into a good habit of working out and dieting properly this year, then I started dating and I've gained back 10lbs and my routine has completely fallen apart and I'm miserable
I don’t understand how you gain weight while you are courting potential partners. What kind of a message does it send in the beginning that you’re okay with eating like a slob and drinking, only to go back on a diet once you realize what you’re doing is objectively bad for you, even if it’s for pussy. If a b***h can’t respect the cut, she doesn’t get the dick.
Because going on dates entails eating and drinking and "having fun" and being fun is far more important to court a woman than being a stick in the mud limiting things to a diet on every date. If every time I take a girl out and we go to my place for me to heat up mealprepped chicken and rice it's not exactly romantic or impressive.
I hit a sick front squat rep PR today which felt good.
I'm 29 and have aspergers so carrying a conversation for more than 5 seconds is close to impossible so the thought of making a friend let alone making a girl want to make love to me feels insurmountable but I'm getting old and I'm scared.
I see young couples working out together at the gym all the time and can only dream of what it's like to have somebody genuinely happy to see me.
I have analsandwiches too and I had a 5 year relationship. It was a lot of work, a lot of fighting tbh, but we loved each other and cared for each other. You just have to find a girl you can be comfortable around and let your tism shine through in a positive light and maybe she’ll like you. I know it’s easier said than done, as my ex gf literally fell into my lap and I def wasn’t looking for any kind of relationship, but I managed to do it.
Encountered an actual irl reddit moment a few days ago >hotelgay >multiple couples in the lobby to check in for some wedding >one of the guys checks all sorts of nerd boxes from voice and neck beard on down >not obese but not IST either >his wife/gf is checking in >give them room 404 >he sees the room # I wrote and says, I shit you not:
404! Room not found! >nobody laughs
this is the competition
>All chads get drafted >women, spergs, trannies, autists, self-diagnosed mental health and "key workers" in tech roles get waivers >die for Israel, Big Oil or Big Pharma
I'm knocking on the door of 40 yet I'm still day dreaming about when I played high school football. Remeber writing my number on my girls face at my last game, legit thought I was gonna make it to the NFL. Meanwhile I never took the field in college because as it turns out I fricking suck.
Life is going good for me right now, married with 3 kids but man I miss being young and feeling invincible
Going on a date this week with a girl I’m not attracted to. I’m just lonely and having her around feels better. She has the best personality out of every woman I’ve talked to, but I can’t bring myself to think of her sexually, and realistically won’t be pursuing a relationship with her. It’s a shame because she’s clearly in love with me or something. I’m hoping that she looks better in person than in her pictures,
I did that with a girl and ended up marrying her. We been together for 7 years now and have 3 kids. If everything eles is right it's worthwhile to overlook attraction. As long as she's not a cow or something like that
Sparkling water for me.
Got the chinese israelite flu three weeks ago, and the last two weeks I've basically been living off oatmeal breakfast, lunch and dinner as I could taste jack shit.
Finally got my taste back friday, and have been enjoying real meals again this weekend, but I've been shitting non-stop today. Not constipated or diarrhea, just massive logs being churned out.
Strawberry milkshake thanks. With added ice cream this time, not just milk and yes I can tell.
Been doing 40 sit ups and 40 leg cycle things every night for the past month. My slim-fat belly has decreased a fair amount but it's still there. I know my workout certainly isn't intensive or anything but I'm a tad annoyed I'm not slimmer. Yes I'm eating a lot less aswell and next to no snacks so diet isn't an issue. Will keep doing it for 2-3 months and if I still don't see even an outline of some ab muscles I might sign up to a gym. I'm only doing this because I'm meeting an overseas friend after 5 years and I want her to think I'm hot.
Either reverse hyperextentions on a bench/table, or accept the fact that you'll need a bench.
I got pic related. It's easy to stove away, but do your nuts a favor, and get one with a split down the middle.
gf started new job and im paranoid shes gonna eventually lose interest in me, what if there are giga chads there? she does love me, deeply according to her but idk mang. Hate being paranoid bros what do I do.
Hung out with old high school friends on the weekend, they became and still are "the boys" too each other, I got awkwardly shuffled out around 17 but occasionally invited around to larger events. I'm 25 now. Spent many years thinking something was wrong with me since groups, starting with this one, kept pushing me away seemingly but really just came down to my own personality flaws of thinking I was a piece of shit for no reason.
Now I'm 25 without a friend group of my own, I just occasionally tag along at times when I am remembered. I just want to do cool shit on the weekends, or even just hang out with more than just one person at a time.
>ok genetics and bone structure, broad shoulders, big chest, put on muscle pretty easy, never athletic but my dad was >6'1" >always been a schizoid fatso, started balding early, pretty bad gyno from childhood obesity, got molested >0 friends, shitty family, can't even own a dog because i live alone and work eats up a lot of my time. been living alone since 2016. >27 khhv except for one hookup when i was 24, looking down the barrel of 30 pretty much decided that i have to change or kill myself this year >start lifting 2 months ago >typical SS/football routine, 3 hours a week max >lose some weight from carb cycling >immediately double the amount of respect from everybody around me >people start listening when i talk, able to take charge in certain situations easier >women make eye contact with me >feel like im cheating, like i dont even deserve it, like i should just go back to drinking myself to death >sometimes ill just be working or doing whatever and start crying and not even know why. sometimes ill get teary eyed seeing women with babies and shit like that. never happened before i started lifting >almost got in a fight today and didn't even feel anything. just numb. some guy yelling at me in traffic and i didn't even yell back i just rolled my window down and challenged him to fight and luckily he just drove away. i cant even fight and have never really been in one and probably would have gotten arrested win or lose
thanks for reading my blog
as a hopeless bachelor, I might be matched with a cute girl due to our friend group dynamics
if this wasnt holiday season but early november things might have picked up, but both me and her have a lot of stuff planned until late january. we're planning one more group event on 20th though
I’m gonna cry right now >father leaves house to go to work, finally have house to myself >leave room >talking to self outloud and pacing living room >discussing my plans >talking out loud about money, my helathy and fitness, getting own place how to proceed with all >”just get this job, pass the interview, save up get my own place, then if I just attain 195-205 lean I could be ducking these b***hes down… I could frequent anime conventions and frick 18-25 year olds at 29.. I could probably meet a wife… I mean shit the other men who go there are fricking losers it’s easy pickings” >father busts through front door, definitely heard me from outside because living room next to entrance
This dude is only quiet during the times I need him to be making his usual amount of noise I swear. I’m embarrassed he heard all that but I guess it’s better than hearing me having no goals
Also, I wish he would fricking go work in his office for a day I need to be able to pace the house while talking out loud to myself to have a clear stress free head and focus. I get the house to myself and without even thinking about it or having to force myself to do it I’ve lifted, done cardio, meal prepped for the next 3 days, cleaned the kitchen and entire house, applied to 30 more jobs, etc
He was finally leaving the house for the first time in a few weeks and he comes back home within 20 minutes FFS
I know but shits all awkward now. I’m also just pissed beyond belief right now because I legitimately cannot focus even 1/4th as well as if I got an hour to do my pacing and out loud speaking to collect my thoughts.
Which would get me out of this house sooner, and let him retire sooner…
I left the house I was honestly getting way too pissed with him being there after. I realize this sounds a little immature but I’m annoyed about this. A mere couple hours is all I need each week. The last 4 times he’s gone to leave the house for the day to work he’s been back within 20 minutes because he forgot his wallet or meds and then he just stays and then complains about not getting anything done that he had planned. I love him but this is getting irritable for me. I only need to be alone for a couple hours to get like the whole weeks worth of chores done and have a clear head for the next 10 days or so…
Hehe, are you an actual videogame NPC, pacing around saying your inner monologue out loud?
Your dad probably didn't hear shit, if he did he probably dismissed it, and one the off chance he was paying attention, at least you weren't walking around saying "mmmm, big black dicks"
It’s just verbal journaling dude. But yeah you and
Could have been worse anon, he could have caught you in the kitchen with your dick in your hand and a zucchini up your ass
are right. I would rather hear my son talking to himself about attaining his goals and fricking b***hes than something else.
Can’t help but feel he’s disappointed in me for some reason though. Like I feel like he only caught the end of it “I could be dicking these 18-25 year olds down!” And thinks that’s all I think and care about... Oh well, my goals and desires are my own. I will make them happen.
I'm getting a first class education in crisis management
Post graduation I finally found a job teaching at a small private school. My place is for kids with learning disabilities(add autism) and we have like 24 middle schoolers-HS
and man I was not prepared for these kids to be this dramatic
So anyways about a month in the principle who was on his way out the door offers me his position and like a dumbass I accepted it along with what I'm currently teaching. Most of my days are spent talking with parents dealing with this week's major argument solving teacher problems and handling disciplinary issues
Which is fine I can't say I'm not enjoying the challenge but the owner of the school is hilariously absent and he only shows up for like 2-3 hours a day and then nitpicks what we're doing. Even when he's here he's not teaching or even talking with students he's hiding in his office.
Which is fine but like don't criticize us for something you don't get. I've also brought up things that we've needed and he told me ok and? For example the teacher that works with severe disabilities has been almost stabbed in the eye twice and he just ignored me. And I like the kids and I even like the parents but I just don't like him
Friend I haven't talked to in ~10 years contacts me out of the blue and says they wanna talk, but it's been a week of me calling every other day because they agreed to talk today, only for them to never to pick up or call me themselves.
Was really excited to have that friendship but now I feel led around
I had a week holiday. With that written, I've found incredible the amount of things one can accomplish managing one's own time instead of working, in my case, 9 to 6 in an office.
Really made me think.
Whiskey on the rocks. Been kind kf of shitty year but towards the end things are starting to pick up. My ex fiance who I was with for 5 years left me in May because she fell out of love and left me with some CC debt im working to pay down. Now things have finally started turning around.
>Got a new 1 BR apartment >Have a plan to tackle finance problems >Cooking more at home than I ever did and even plan to get a stand mixer for Christmas. >Started going back to the gym this month >Car is fully paid off >met and am talking to 3 girls off hinge and fricking one regularly hoping to get the other two in the sack.
It's been a wild ride in 2023 but here's hoping 2024 will be better. Cheers anons.
Can someone explain to me why this is? >every feels silent, calmer, queiter, tranquil or even serene >almost feels surreal
Is it just winter? Even the air pressure has dropped noticeably. But my problem is it’s making me paranoid, like it feels like something bad is about to happen. Is it just like the same feeling a deer gets when it’s in the forest and all the insects go quiet, indicating there’s a mountain lion near by? Except without any mountain lion obviously.
Idk what it is. It’s either that or I’ve learned that whenever I’m happy and at peace some bullshit comes up to knock me back on my ass. I used to really love this time of year and whether. It’s when I used to be happiest and most energetic and most productive. >seasonal depression
No it’s not that, I get plenty of sunlight still and take vitamin D to be safe.
>Be 39 year old with no kids >Work as a Nurse >Start working with a 20 year old new grad >Spend 6 months trying to get her on a date >End up dating for another 6 months before we sleep together >Tells me to be careful because shes not on any birth control >Been trying to baby trap her since she told me
Just tired of being alone, not gonna get another shot like this as i'm aging like MILK. Trying to baby trap this girl and get her to marry me.
Just got passed over for a promotion at my cybersecurity job, boss has been stringing me along for a year saying I was next in line and smashing it etc. etc. which motivated me to work so fricking hard that I basically put everything else on the backburner.
Can't believe I was stupid enough to believe that shit. In hindsight it's so easy to see how I was being manipulated.
Still hurts, this autismo computer hacking job is basically all I have. The only other thing I do is lift and compete in fricking ping pong of all things.
Considering resigning and finding a new place to work, will weigh out my options. The iron is faithful, people are not - time to start lifting seriously again.
Was getting into something with a chick, but at the moment of kissing i don't feel anything, she even wanted to frick me but i just could'nt.
Why can't i feel anything when i kiss someone i don't get it.
some people are just built like that. you need to feel it through a kiss to determine if there’s chemistry or not. you’ll come up on someone eventually. keep going champ
This is true. I've kissed 4 women, only with one it actually felt like real shit and I could kiss her forever. I slept with her and graduated virginity and never saw her again.
This is genuinely good.
It could be nerves. It can help to talk about this stuff (being nervous, awkward) before going into the making out. Talking can help break the ice and get you out of your head. Could also be the girl, and if you were honest with yourself you'd say you don't find her attractive. Your problem isn't really unique. Plenty of dudes struggle with these same issues.
insecure guys obsess over sex so women and men assume that men want to frick every women that comes there way.
Kissing allows determining genetic compitability. I know what you mean.
When i kissed my girlfriend i felt like taking drugs m8.
Lol imagine you get that feeling once and then never get it again because the relationship never blossomed
Maybe you're gay. Or you're asexual.
probs gay try a dude
What are some good jobs for me to look into? All I care about is money, not having to interact with or deal with many people, and good work life balance.
obviously tech wfh
How do I get into that with no experience no certs no skills
you don't moron.
You acquire experience, certs and skills.
lemme spoonfeed you some more:
Experience - you take shit tech jobs literally anything you can get
certs - google it
skills - pick up books about coding, learn to code shit on your own, research job positions you want, the kind of skills they want, get books or sign up for classes that advertise they teach those skills.
>coding
Nevermind thanks anyways
the fact that you’re asking a feels thread for that advice instead of doing the research yourself already shows that you’re not cut out for a le tech job
This anon knows what's up. It's real, and it's the best way to make it right now. Tech jobs are overpaid in general because most tech workers ironically aren't confident about their skills at all, have 0 social skills including networking and negotiations, and highly skilled ones are not exempt.
I got all the way to six figures with no education or certs at all within a single year and now I'm going to get just that, certs and experience.
Pls explain, I'm desperate
Well, find something you're interested in.
Do you like websites? Hosting stuff? Embedded software? Hacking? Customer support? Whatever. Just pick anything at all and then google "how X works".
For example if you like websites, you'll find out the basics. How the internet works, what TCP/IP and HTTP are, what HTML is, then what CSS is, then what PHP and JS are, then what frameworks are.
You can get a basic job with just wordpress for one. Get any shitty minimum wage job, when I started out lots of con artists wanted me to write Javascript in their mom's basement. Watch something like 5 udemy courses and create on portfolio website, you're good to go and more productive than most who are just starting out.
Get the minimum wage shit job and do minimum shit effort, utilize the time to instead read stuff and learn. Barely survive for a year doing that and make sure to learn all you can.
By then, put your CV on steroids. Outright lie about your experience and skills; recruiters don't know shit. Land the highest wage you can get; the technical shit is out at this point, this is about social skills. Read up on job hunting and negotiations. When you do get a job, just do your best at first; you're guaranteed to be better than you expect despite having lied a bit. Find a workflow there and resume your learning. At this point try to network more as well.
Now that you're earning some more money, save up and get certifications. Depending on what you ended up doing, there are a few. Aim for a good one.
It shouldn't be too hard to budget, and if you decided well, you are now worth a decent amount in the job market. Start pressing your boss to learn more, take up more responsibilities, grow more. Of course you've always said this is your goal in interviews.
If your boss doesn't listen to you, start looking for better jobs, stating you need new challenges and skills and will hold a job that does that. Instead aim for a high pay.
I couldn't spoonfeed you any more, get rich
Nta I’m the original in this chain asking for job ideas, how exactly does one start learning?
Would you recommend one starts with python, and googles/YouTube’s simple projects such as a clock or snake game, follows the project (literally some dude just telling yo y exactly what to type), and rinse & repeat while taking some notes on stuff like common lines and inputs until memorized? And that’s it, just memorize as many of the commands as possible and then once on the job use google and shit to get the work done?
I do not think, even if I learned some basic C+ or whatever, that I would be able to have a job and just know what to do. Idk how that even works, am I emailed an assignment to code for the next 2 weeks? If I’m told exactly what to do I could google for the answer I guess. But I wouldn’t see
>you need to make our web page have a link right here that looks like [this] on the front end for the users and that link needs to open to [this page] and there has to be a field to enter email and a copy of their license
And just know where to start and how to get to work on that. I’d have to extensively google one step at a time, find someone on YouTube holding my hand through each step even knowing a good bit about the language it’s using
And if I couldn’t find the answer for whatever specific thing I would be fricked
>how exactly does one start learning?
Decide what you're going to learn.
Decide broadly, but not as broadly as learning "tech". Pick something like software engineering or system administration, those are broad things with very entry level positions you can land and many paths to follow from there.
Start with learning theory. See my last post, understand the internet before you get into web dev or computer architecture basics if you're going for C++.
You don't really need to learn to code, not right away. You're not trying to be a great programmer, you're trying to make money. If it seems that your place in the market is that of a great programmer, do whatever it takes to be that.
Google what different jobs consist of and what technologies and skills are important for that job.
If you do go for a youtube step by step project for whatever skills you'll need, be prepared to learn next to nothing. You could do it to get familiar with the tools and workflow, but don't invest much in it.
Don't stress over maximizing learning efficiency and make sure you're feeling satisfied with the result whenever you're hitting a milestone. This is a hint this job suits you.
Do not take too long to start seeking a job. Two reasons for this; you'll already be better than you think, and you'll need job seeking experience. It's really hard to land your first job but only then.
You'd be surprised how little is needed for a shitty minimum wage tech job, and how much the good ones pay. You don't need a degree for those, just skill. You can have a degree without skill and vice-versa, the connections you'll just have to work harder for without one.
Assignments are usually very easy. They won't risk getting sued for unpaid work. There will be interviews as well and you will be made to feel inferior during those; don't be discouraged, they're trying to fool you to work cheaper.
Everyone uses google exhaustively. Seniors too.
Never listen to IST for non-technical matters.
Thanks dude I’m going to do a bunch more research.
I do look at those jobs form time to time but something that sketches me out is the requirements in the postings. It will have like a huge list of all these reqs and then on top of it say “3-5 years experience”
There are most likely some more relevant sites for your interests and area. The x years experience thing is never ever important, I don't think I've ever applied to a job where I'd fit that and if your skills are up to it they'd be dumb in their trade to disallow you for it and you'd be dumb to compensate for less money over it.
We all have to learn the hard way anon, but there's never ever a good boss. Not only are you financially the weak one and the endangered one as you can go unemployed and broke or even homeless but the company won't go bankrupt over your ass, you're also guaranteed to be more moral no matter what you may think. And that's why you're going to be betrayed and exploited time and time again.
It's how the market works. It rewards this kind of treatment, everyone who couldn't keep up failed. It's like evolution.
It's also psychopathic and the neoliberal system is a deviation from staples of all past significant economies and societies, an inconsiderate individualist worker bee trap we've been conditioned into accepting as the norm.
However there is no alternative right now and you can accumulate just enough wealth that you can live comfortably if you're smart enough, put in all that is required in effort and time and sacrifice, and you'll see that it's neither a lie nor without cost in time.
WordPress and frontend shit will be first to be automated by AI
Absolutely. I'm not telling him to do that all the way to his 40's, just do it for a little while and get in the industry.
>All I care about is money, not having to interact with or deal with many people, and good work life balance.
A good career option would be a professional matyre man, who realizes that world will not be tailor made for you. If you want money you deal with people. Otherwise you sound like a child who says you want all the candy but will not eat the dinner.
Last month I starved my gf from initiating sex. I even declined her only move. Yesterday she was in a mood for it but didn't initiate, only to find out her period started in the evening. 'Lesson learned', she said. I then pounded her throat for an hour while fingering her. It had to be memorable.
How come you chose to do that?
i am fit now and people want to communicate with me
i thought i can't hold a conversation because shyness
but after trying a lot of supplements including alcohol and prescription drugs i've realized its me being dumb
I weighed in at 190 when i wokw up this morning, before eating or drinking anything. Feels good!
Why?!? Bros, why won't my tendinitis ever go away?
Poor doggo, is he ok
Daily reminder that we’re all going to make.
And I’ll have a cup of coffee please.
Sick and tired of pretending life isn't complete fricking dogshit at 30 if you haven't made it. There's no turning it around at 30, it's done. No you don't age like fine wine, literally everything in your body is going to shit. Wrinkles add character? like frick they do.
There's teenagers getting pregnant and you have to watch "charisma on command" youtube videos like people can't immediately see through that bullshit. Other 30yr olds are taking their kids to school and you can't even muster up the courage to talk to a woman. And it doesn't change either. You have to be born with that ability. You just can't be social awkward past the age of 25. Its a red flag.
Frick the gym too. Any muscle you think you will gain could have been made in 1/3rd of the time in your teens. That's when it really mattered. Yeah having a good body at 30 is great but having it at 18yrs old is better.
Friends, if you still have them, wont be around that much. If they have kids, you are just a 3rd wheel and a burden.
"Just travel bro"
Frick that shit. what? spend thousands to go to a place where no one wants you just so you can get overcharged at a tourist trap? Frick off c**t. Think the locals give a shit about the millionth frickin tourist taking up space?
Just sick of the lies......
>you have to watch "charisma on command" youtube videos
Who the frick started this meme? It's a channel for 14 year old edgelords, stop acting like men have to watch it
Kek not true. I started making it at 35. You are just a loser with a loser thinking, Work on that
Another weekend went by bros..
Why wasted?
Pretty gud
She will leave you
>months passed by
Were you really attracted to her tho? What store was it? Also lift
So yesterday had a chick over I’ve been seeing since summer but once every two weeks. She was my rebound because I had a major break up with my ltr gf. Should I bone her bros? She is mid and I don’t wanna risk it her falling in love with me
She was an average cute short shy girl. I liked her a lot. Mostly her personality.
As for your question If you think you are gonna hurt her feelings I wouldn't make a move especially if she is an introvert girl. I wouldn't wish this kind of heartache upon anyone. We are stronger than females so we can endure a little bit of extra loneliness better than they do
>men can handle loneliness better
depends how you define it i suppose. Men are more used to enduring misery.. women are better at processing and avoiding emotional misery
Lmao you are such a wiener sucking homosexual holy shit
You deserve the worst from this world
>You deserve the worst from this world
Sure. I can handle it
>She will leave you
Hahahaha
Because she recently told me that she's been horny and too lazy to initiate. Not too tired: too lazy.
>lazy
make her jealous. jealousy makes women do anything. if you make her jealous and she doesn’t start reclaiming your dick as hers, you need to check out of the relationship because she’s already on her way
>make her jealous
Yeah, I don't have to work very hard for that. It also coincidentally happened yesterday afternoon, we ran into a girl I get along very well with.
This. Wife is constantly on me since I started lifting regularly, and it’s always after we go out and do something and she catches someone mirin.
There is hope i been there not too long agov4tygs
>do cardio for tbe first time in forever
>feel amazing
>suddenly get very depressed
>look at housing and realize I will probably never afford 1 and everything I look at will be even higher when I do have the money saved
>thinking on getting a weekend gig selling cars if possible
>still feel like shit even after eating healthy
Thanks cardio.
nice dubs, are you in europe? i heard owning is basically impossible in certain countries, in burgerland here it's still possible but mainly outside major cities
Midwest. Cities are fricking AIDS but occasionally something nice shows up in Bumfrick, Nowhere. Very nice, but very far.
The cardio depression has fricked off. I don't think weightlifting and cardio mix at all. That or very, very light amounts.
>feel amazing
>suddenly get very depressed
this is me every time i do cardio. it makes me feel good then i realize im a total piece of shit, why should i be feeling good at all? then the depression sweeps back over me and i finish my run only because it hurts and i want to hurt myself more
when does my gf come back? she left 8 months ago, when is she going to be bored of Chad and his friends?
What does it feel like to be loved, bros?
Very weird.
Im not used to it. I'm really cautious and internally assume they're either faking it or want something from me. I also feel like I'm inconveniencing them somehow.
Quit drinking because I blacked out at a holiday party and still drove home 20 minutes through the city
Also because I keep getting withdrawals
I'm so bored
I'm sitting in my house drinking wine all day.
My crush that was working at the shop next to me quit her job and I will never see her again. I hesitated making a move. Hesitation turned to habit and months passed without making contact.
I am depressed now because her and the gym was my only reason waking up and looking forward for better days.
It is what it is I guess
Thanks for these threads
talk to her now, homosexual. what’s stopping you?
he must've never gotten her number
many such cases
I don't know how to find her. She doesn't have social media. She looked very shy I don't think she has many friends either
I will. Thank you bro
white pages/pipl/spokeo if you know her name and get her address. show up to her house with some flowers and ask her out. if she freaks that you found her address somehow (she probably will) just lie and tell her that you have an uncle in the CIA or something
Go to the gym gay
Things will never get better.
Tongue my anus. Things WILL be better.
Dude stop coping it's over.
I just went to the diner for lunch and the latina waitress kept touching me, like uncomfortably so
Tequila and tonic pls
burbon on the rocks, splash of bitters
Not too good barman, back into lifting this last week, after a long hiatus. Cleaned up my diet and was finally feeling a bit better about things. Then the dark cloud came back yesterday, suddenly feeling borderline suicidal again. It's hard when you start fixing all your shit in life but the emotion never really shifts that much.
On paper I'm the most successful I've ever been but the extra pressure over the last years has really had a dent in my personality and I just want to withdraw from the world and start fresh, but can't.
keep lifting, and lift heavy and get sunlght and sleep
Was exactly where you are. Like got up from rock bottom like 3rd time in my life.
Emotions shift slower, true and the only cure is setting up a very strick regime, and then find somethibg that brings you happiness at least once a month. Like travel, get a dog, party, compete. Regime will not allow depression to return while happiness will develop better neural connecrions.
Brains need like 90 minimum to change so if you want to reform as a person, youll need like solig half a year to year.
Dont worry - the sooner you start, the sooner youll be good. Trust yourself, its just brain, it needs its own 'gym' a d results also come with time, just keep exercising
>WAAAAAAAAAH MY FEEEWINGS WAAAAAAH
>I COME TO THE EXERCISE AND FITNESS BOARD TO TALK ABOUT MY GIRLFRIENDS FEEEEEEEEEEWIIIIINGS
>WAAAAAAAAAH SOMEBODY PLEASE VALIDATE ME WAAAAAAH
wrong board, chuckle fricks. Black pill threads go here:
Reported for being a gay outside of /lgbt/
Will be drinking later to compensate for not having a stairmaster.
>feeling cold and angry and lonely
>walk to barnes & noble through the snow listening to music
>get there, start looking at books
>young lady comes over in a bigass coat and gives me a long hug out of nowhere
>feel the bitter incel rage and resentment drain out of my body like pulling the plug on a filled kitchen sink
>almost break down and cry right then and there
It really do be like that sometimes
I asked her why she hugged me like that when we didn't know each other, she said that I just looked like I was freezing and wanted to warm me up
that's sexual assault
She didn't touch me in any of my no-no areas. Just wrapped her arms around me and buried herself in my chest without saying a word. I wish I could have live in stasis within that moment forever. It definitely would have been taken differently had a man done that to a woman, however. It wish it wasn't like that, I wish we could change that somehow.
That happened to me too about 5 years ago. That was the first real intimate moment I've had since then. It's almost like I forgot what it was like to be human.
>feel the bitter incel rage and resentment drain out of my body like pulling the plug on a filled kitchen sink
this was me when i got my first gf. then she cheated on me and the now the faucet hasnt turned off and the sink is overflowing
What? Since when do women just go and give random people hugs? Seriously wtf
Not totally out of the ordinary. Happened a lot at concerts I went to in the past
This sounds like an anime episode. Not something that would happen in real world lol
Tell her that your dick is especially cold
My mate began therapy a while back and now he tries to therapize everyone he meets. It's annoying. I'm annoyed. Can't have a normal conversation with the man.
Let me tell ya something. Nowadays, everybody's gotta go to shrinks, and counselors, and go on "Sally Jessy Raphael" and talk about their problems. What happened to Gary Cooper? The strong, silent type. That was an American. He wasn't in touch with his feelings. He just did what he had to do. See, what they didn't know was once they got Gary Cooper in touch with his feelings that they wouldn't be able to shut him up. And then it's dysfunction this, and dysfunction that, and dysfunction vaffancul.
He can go and talk with his therapist. I don't want him parroting whatever she told him every time I say a damn word like he is a therapist.
Imagine this. Why do you feel that way about Gary Cooper and stoicism? What's your relationship with your dad?
Nta… but I was Gary cooper’d
>from young age taught I don’t matter and my feelings don’t matter, made to feel disposable and like no one cares about me
>no friends, no gf, not even close with my family (told to man up over everything, never listened to or taken seriously, the one or two times I tried to express feeling shitty for help treated like I was being a burden by parents)
>learned, no one gives a shit how I feel, but what I can do. I learned that if I’m doing well and achieving, being successful, THEN people treat me like a human and seemingly care about me so long as they think I’m happy
>get first Gf at 21, easily manipulated me because dumb former virgin
>convinces me to share my feelings and communicate and shit
>actually felt really fricking good
>relationship downhill fast, ends, can no longer be my old self calm quiet and reserved except the occasional witty joke/burst of autism just constantly trauma dumping on everyone like a c**t
>want to “communicate” with everyone even male friends like some kind of homosexual
>no one likes me anymore
>forget how to be normal and like my old self
I hate this. I’d say it’s made me better though, because I’ve been relearning how to socialize. I was only quiet and reserved because no real personality and nothing to ever say. Learned to stop sharing feelings like a troony, but I suck as just normal socializing I feel like whenever I open my mouth people are disgusted no matter what I say or how I say it. Makes me want to go back to quiet reserved guy tbqh, everything was simpler. I did better socially oddly enough, less drama, more respect, got laid more somehow..
He was gay, Gary Cooper?
tell me about the ducks
I'm a woman and it's even worse. Everything you talk about is feelings and everything is in therapeutic terms. I want to talk about hobbies and interests and ideas. I fricking hate women but I can't be friends with men bc they all wanna frick me. It's some real clown world shit esp when I consider only men to be legitimate people.
R/kys Black personisraelite
Some of IST is just lurking women who think the same way. Journal for ur sanity to stay on top of ur goals and aspirations, and keep looking in life for those striving to do the same. WAGMI
>but I can't be friends with men bc they all wanna frick me
Oh no, what a terrible situation you’re in. Keep LARPing because absolutely 0 women are literally this fricking moronic
>I'm so attractive, stop hitting on me boys, tee hee
Is casual sex using someone? Is it OK to use someone if they consent to be used? Is it OK to let someone use you as you use them? Is it bad to flirt, without meaning for it to go somewhere?
all that’s fine and dandy. it gets into using territory when you know she wants a relationship and you string her along for sex
Stop being an accessory to the oxytocin burnout humanity is facing. Just jerk off dude
Yeah it's all fine. All means to an end in that context for both parties.
You're assuming here that all women want is longterm commitment and offering them anything short of that is underhanded trickery.
>yes
>yes
>yes
>no
I got issues with the gf.
She doesn't have many close friends and doesn't really go out and hang.
She met a new "friend" a couple months back at work who was this married lesbian that would mooch off her and constantly put her down whenever something good happened to my gf.
This b***h also told several rumors about me to my gf saying I was a piece of shit or that I was trying to hook up with random women.
The lesbian friend's wife is a sleazy b***h that has tried touching and hitting on my gf while we were hosting a party at my apartment.
I've talked with my gf about the situation and we both seemed to come up with the same idea that these b***hes were toxic.
However, when her friend invites her and I out to dinner or to get drinks my gf is still enthusiastic about going out and gets disappointed when I'm not cool with hanging out with these b***hes.
I don't want this to lead to resentment later, but I don't know how to express to my gf that she needs to hang with a better crowd.
bump
Your gf has self esteem issues and lesbians recognize this. They are actively working on getting her to sleep with them, cheat on you, destroy your relationship, and revel in the destruction because that’s what lesbians do. Your only course of action is to inflict corrective rape on the lesbians while your gf watches you, aware that you will do anything to conserve your relationship
You are literally at war with these lesbians. I think in a way all men are at war against all lesbians, so act accordingly.
if you genuinely consider lesbians to be competition for you, you need to fix something. Women only have sex with each other as a novelty or a way to cope with having been molested or abused. They can't reproduce, they can't knock your girl up. The worst that might happen if a lesbian hits on your girl is that she might start going to the dyke's place for what amounts to a foreplay session from time to time. Saves you the trouble of having to get her warmed up.
dykes are domestic abusers, id be more worried about my gf coming home with a black eye. imagine the field day the media would have if a white man killed 2 dykes for harming his gf.
that would be crazy, r-right?
I think that's one of those misrepresented statistics. Yeah, they "abuse" each other but I'd bet money that it's shit like gaslighting, yelling, insults, etc.
>anons gf comes home one day
>declares she's now LGBT
>cuts her breasts off, takes T, stops shaving
>anon now has a boyfriend
>"harmless"
>women are only dikes to cope with abuse/molestation
100% dude. Every dike I’ve known, and I’ve been close friends with many, fit into 2 categories
>Butch
These are the dikes that cope with being too ugly to get the dudes they want, so they turn to women. Rather than date a man in their league they date actually attractive women. These are the “masc” or “butch”, or in the black community “stud” dikes that cosplay as dudes. They are a problem for their own reasons, namely that they’re delusional and think they’re real men. Some of them actually have potential to be pretty but we’re abuse victims. Most are just hideous and can’t get a dude though. They’re very annoying because their idea of masculinity is more cringe than a 14 year old boy trying to be machismo and tough. For them it’s image only. Maybe they spam curls and tricep pull downs for arms and go around in tank tops. They still wear makeup, still put in horrendous amounts of effort into their appearance. They still have beeping smoke detectors, still can’t change a tire or install an outlet for example. To them masculinity is just looking a certain way and acting mean to people. Literally, go interact with a b***h dike and you’ll realize she reminds you of a middle school bully from a movie with a hat turned backwards and shit, you know what I mean. They’re delusional because this puts men in a lose-lose situation, either put the 5’4” 130lb dike in her place or turn the other cheek and let her think she scares you. They’d highly delusional
>feminine dikes
These are trauma copers. Either abused in some way, or manipulated and cheated on and treated horribly by some man. They’re also a little delusional because they think the b***h is gonna be able to protect them or offer them the same shit as a man (they can’t, butches are just as emotional lol).
There’s no real lesbians. Every lesbian will frick a dude, even couples.
Nice fanfic, bro, save it for lit
Your gf is a people pleaser and conflict avoidant. The idea of disappointing somebody (even somebody awful) fills her with fear - "what will they think about me, am I being selfish, does this make me a bad person, what if they are upset or sad, oh shit I have to drop everything and attend their thing and be the perfect guest and be the social lubricant to make sure everything is perfect and I need to be there NOW, shit, we're henna be late, I wonder if they'll forgive me if I bring an expensive gift", that kind of thing.
b***h needs therapy or failing that some good self help books. In the meantime just support her and be her reality check. You might need to literally give her permission to put herself first, or make the decision for her so it takes her own conflicted set of warring impulses out of the equation. Long term that's no way to live, though, so she needs to change.
>another day of applying to jobs
>everything from call support to aquarium technician, literally everything that didn’t require experience or qualifications I don’t have
Hope I get something… even the fricking security gigs I applied to. I can’t take not having money and being broke and repeating the same day in my house every day. I just know if I could land something it would be far easier to get another or a second job, and the progress in other areas such as my health would sky rocket.
I am struggling with some identity type issues at the minute
When I was a young lad growing up, up to about 21, I was a super confident and secure guy. Sure in myself. People liked me and I didn't question why, I felt I deserved it.
Well, since then I had some really low times which I came out of a while ago, but those bad times spent NEETing took such a toll on my self image. Even though I've achieved much for myself and have more to be proud of since I was that young confident lad, I have a lot of self hate. People like me still, my friends love me and I love them and even girls like me too, but I just feel like a fraud. I feel like I'm just a self improoooved fraud who's natural self is that weak, NEET guy who was so emotional and defeated by his feelings.
It's strange. The more I do the more of a fraud I feel like. Not to mention my parents provide so much for me.. that makes me feel bad. I'm not spoiled and I appreciate everything they do and there's no reason for me to not accept their generosity, they can afford it, but it makes me feel unfair towards others who don't have the same luck as me in that regard.
Sorry, this was a very whiney and gay post but I just wanted to get it off my chest.
Your folks have done good things for you. You'll do good things for your children. Ascendance is a multi-generational project. There's no such thing as a self-made man, there is such a thing as hard-won success in families. Don't feel bad for those who have less than you. Life isn't fair. Help them if you can. But it's up to them to build a life for their descendants, and up to their descendants to build upon the life they were given.
You're forever small, and you know your lowest point, and that will keep you strong. Never lose that.
Thanks anon.
Don't waste time agonising over whether you're "naturally alpha" or "a gay weak fraud" or whatever. Its like you think there's some objective "real you" who comes out sometimes, and the rest of the time it's just a series of masks you're wearing. You ARE the masks. The confident happy guy is the real you. The snivelling doubt-ridden sadsack is the real you. Accept it. And then just do your best to be the authentic "you on a good day" more often, and elevate yourself out of whiner-mode when you're aware of it.
Look at it like this “le epic alpha sigma achieved successful guy” if given the option to press two buttons with different outcomes would choose the better each time.
>button 1
Button 1 makes him successful achiever
>button 2
Makes him a neet loser
He’s pressing button 1. It’s the same shit, except no button you’ve chosen to work for what you have now. That is YOU. The guy who chose right. In the past you were the guy who chose wrong. That version of you no longer exists. It’s the same shit with reconnecting with an ex girlfriend after 5 years, she isn’t the same person you once knew.
I'm heaily considering dipping into my 401k to get out of a nasty spot.
I don't qualify for the hardship withdrawal but I've read on some people faking an eviction notice to get it.
Would the IRS catch on to this? I've only found a handful of cases where people were actually taken to court over faking it.
Why don’t you just take out a loan on it?
The loan isn't enough to help me
What about your parents?
This chick I’ve crushed on two years ago is moving in the city…
I’ve been talking with aniother chick, but I’m really tempted to try to go out with this first one. Although I got rejected by her in the past.
Even if I get rejected now, it’s a meh, wouldn’t be surprised.
Other than that, daily thoughts of suicide, war is knocking on our door. The economy is down the gutter, corrupt politicians sold our country long ago. Country is in heavy debt to the IMF. The industry that I work in is not looking good, been stagnating for the past few years.
I’m desetisized in the sense that I don’t feel too much anymore, except for stress, anxiety and feeling inadequate.
Born to enjoy life, forced to suffer.
In tone with the war, give me a Moscow Mule.
ahh forgot to mention the bright side, I hit 2pl8 1rm on bench and 1pl8 3rm on ohp….,…,,,,,,
Someone shoot me when I leats expect it, please
Glowies need not apply
Stop reading/watching the news. It's distressing and you can't change anything.
>war is knocking on our door. The economy is down the gutter, corrupt politicians sold our country long ago. Country is in heavy debt to the IMF. The industry that I work in is not looking good, been stagnating for the past few years.
None of that should get in the way of pursuing happiness.
Milk, leave the bottle.
>Met a cool girl on an app.
>We talk for days, she's clearly into me but starts acting weird.
>Has an empty Instagram with five thousand followers.
>Yesterday night hits me up out of the blue saying she was in a car accident.
>First tells me she's at the hospital then says she's already home.
>I call her and she seems completely fine.
>We talk for an hour until I leave my phone on the table for literally ten seconds after hearing my cat make some noise
>Come back and she has ended the call and sent me a text asking for a moment
>Hits me up one hour and a half latter saying she fell asleep
>I point out how it makes no sense for her to have ended the call, texted me and then fallen asleep in ten seconds
>She starts changing her story and I just say bye and go to sleep
>Today she hits me up as if nothing has happened
There was a time in which I didn't felt an ounce of dislike for women and enthusiastically thought about having a happy relationship. Nowadays I just feel tired and demotivated when it comes to them.
She has a boyfriend
I thought she was just conning me for attention. What made you think that she's specifically hiding a boyfriend?
>acts weird after a few days of talking, avoids you, makes up story about car accident
probably cause she was talking to her boyfriend and he got suspicious
>empty instagram
doesn’t want to advertise relationship status
>more location lies
again, she’s probably with another guy
>1 hour phone call ends abruptly
>messages you back 1.5 hours later
bf came over, bf fricked, bf left. she messages you after her dick appointment.
>hits you up as if nothing has happened
her bf must be busy for the day.
she is conning you for attention but she’s got someone else she’s giving her attention to.idk man, just a feeling and i’ve unfortunately had my share of experiences with chicks like that.
if she’s even mildly attractive, you’re competing with unknown anons
She's baiting me. I gave curt and spaced replies today and after a couple text exchanges she told me about how she had mentioned me to her mother. After I didn't bite she called me "my love" on her next reply.
I think you're right about the boyfriend. To be honest it doesn't matter. She's clearly hiding something and that's enough on itself. You also helped me realize that another woman who was acting similar plus sending me nudes a few months ago definitively was hiding a boyfriend from me. At the time I just split because I didn't want anything to do with women who act suspicious as frick.
Any advice about this kind of women anon? Recognizing them, dealing with them and the like. Anything, really.
you rail the shit out of them but never allow yourself to be bf'd.
Embrace the panthera instead of canis. Dont let her monopolise your time or beg like a DOG for her affection.
Be aloof but still alluring. like a kitty kat on the windowsill swishing his tail. Ooh she comes to pet and just as-- nope you slip away. Now she REALLY wants to pet you. tee hee.
its a bit cynical but these women deserve it so fricking much if you're up for it. Can be fun, rewarding, and enriching for you if you keep yourself well insulated and cede nothing.
Nah, I don't wanna frick them, just be less naive and learn how to recognize and avoid them. I mean, this one fricking gave me an excuse about breaking her sim card when I asked for her number and a day latter bought a new one and added me. I literally read about guys on IST talking about using multiple sims for cheating and still couldn't connect the dots initially. A part of me still believe all her stories despite knowing.how absurd they sound ffs.
>Any advice about this kind of women anon?
Nta, but if she's playing these games when she's supposed to be enticing you and presenting the best version of herself, imagine how she'll act when she's comfortable in a relationship, or "testing you", or finding justification to cheat/leave.
You entertaining her bullshit sets a TERRIBLE precedent and you should politely cut all contact.
She's crazy, abort.
Should be easy for you to treat her mean, Satan. (Checkd)
She may be crazy yeah.
>noone's real until you can reach out and physically touch them. Getting your hopes up before then is a waste.
Words to live by. It just sucks because this one is practically my dream woman.
Thanks for the advice anon. I dated a textbook narcissist once but she acted very different from this girl. She basically lovebombed and then dumped me out of the blue.
She's real. I've done a fair bit of stalking on her. I do believe that the other anons are right and she's either crazy or talking with multiple men tho.
>dated narcissist acted different
There’s the typical narcissist who’s more easily identifiable and then there’s whatever category of narcissism this women was (there’s different types, look it up). But the identifying factors here are
>needs a need constantly fulfilled, if gods seconds without it from you discards your like trash to get it elsewhere, putting her (baser) needs and wants before even your feelings
>contacts you again within 24 hours as if nothing happened (she doesn’t think it’s a big deal as long as her needs are met, cannot even begin to conceptualize that maybe you’re hurt or annoyed or weirded out because wtf aren’t you catering her needs you scumbag??)
Theres batshit narcissists, and then theres this covert type who seems normal on the surface, but as you get to know them the real colors come to light. I dated both types. I stayed with the second for a while because I couldn’t believe I encountered another one and kept giving her benefit of the doubt but she continually did shit like this.
>lives few hours away from me
>gonna be in my town for a couple days for business, gets hotel to avoid the drive daily, tells me how she has this hotel all to herself really wants to see me
>no confirmation from me, just have to wrap up studying and some work stuff
>b***h always goes to sleep at 2am, at 10pm I’m done with my stuff and call
>suddenly for the first time since I’ve known her not answering calls, not replying to texts
>hmu day later totally normal at like 10AM
>haha sorry I fell asleep
>mention how odd that is
>uh uh— um— uh im also sick
>so you got sick 40 minutes after we last spoke last night?
>u-uh yeah and my period started!
>you just had your period like 2 weeks ago
>u-uh idk what to tell you Im sick and on my period anyways I ju—
>that doesn’t seem right
>well my family is also here im staying with my family too!
>demands I say sorry
Just one example of many from her
Now that I think about it the both of them have two things in common: althought they aren't offensive they can't say anything positive about me besides complimenting my appearance and the way I treat them and both have zero interest in other people. The one I met on the app hasn't asked me a single personal question but loves talking about herself while the one I dated asked them purely out of politeness and then promptly forgot what I said or started ignoring me mid talk. Guess I graduated from dating bpd hoes to dating narcissists. What wonders of female pathologies will the future bring me?
>acts sketchy
>changes story
>contacts you as if nothing happened
Anon this is a narcissist. She chose to talk to another guy maybe frick him. My ex was exactly like this.
>do sketchy thing out of jo where
>change her story 1000x
>act as if I’m the crazy one
>try to talk to me like nothing ever happened
Just be glad you caught this early and not later on after dating. It’s a no go. And also thousands of followers and on tinder = bawd with tons of options. Most of those followers come from tinder. She 100% immediately contacted another guy/replied to one of the other guys. She won’t even wait 30 seconds for you before she entertains the next guy, what do you think will happen if you date her? High maintenance chronically hungry for attention narcissistic women like this are not real people. They will never view you as human, just a tool or accessory to their lives. Make this post the last bit of mental energy you put towards her.
>>Met a cool girl on an app
WRONG, dear satan.
Take it from an app veteran: noone's real until you can reach out and physically touch them. Getting your hopes up before then is a waste.
Half of Tinder users don't want a date
https://archive.vn/biquf
>moron is talking to a (likely male larper) cat fish
>And this is women's fault!
Men are so moronic.
I think things are finally beginning to turn around for me. Shitty nights and days are not yet foreign, but I’m doing better on average. I feel like I’ve learned about myself during my 20s. Like ages 8-18 I was basically emotionally muted and not really present, just wanted to die. But these last 10 years I’ve won, lost and fallen into a hole, climbed out of it and finally I feel like I’ve been made stronger. I feel like I’ve learned more about who I am, what I want from this world, what I’m willing to put up with in other people and what I want in a woman and friends. I don’t have much to show for myself atm, but I just know happier days are ahead.
[Cont]
Okay, so I'm not that average. And between you and me, something amazing happened… and now I can talk to animals! It’s really cool, but totally secret. And you know what? Life’s never been the same.
Lol what the frick is this a wild thornberries reference? Was my post cringe? I’m just happy that I’ve begun to crawl out of my hole dude
I was just joshing dude, happy for you
I really want a beer or a whiskey, but even on my cheat days I'm doing no alcohol and basically, meat, milk, eggs, and some nuts.
I can't wait til Christmas dinner and I can have a glass of wine. I can't wait til the bulk (like 2 weeks) when I can have a beer or two (like 2 not 10). I just really wanna be able to have a drink with the boys.
a woman I have been talking to came out to see my band perform. I thought that things were going great. later I went in for a kiss and was rejected. I was surprised. she hugged me and said to text her
she bought me a drink and one of our band shirts and we've been in contact for a couple weeks having met at a friend's Thanksgiving party. I'm 6' and fit and this woman is pushing 30 and overweight. i was dumbfounded
>I'm 6' and fit and this woman is pushing 30 and overweight
hoeflation strikes again
bro I don't remember hoeflation being this bad even a few years ago. shit is radically out of control
My "friends" have ghosted me, they went out last night and didn't invite me. Haven't heard from any of them for over a month.
I think spite maxxing is going to have to be my new mindset. Focus on my career and fitness. I'm not a normal Black person anyway, my loneliness will breed contempt which will motivate me. Can anyone relate or do I sound like a homosexual?
Nobody cares about your problem man. This is a stoic board, keep that shit to yourself homosexual.
You are extremely gay
Seething like that isnt very stoic of you, Aurelius-cel
stoicism is walking in on tyrone fricking your wife and silently leaving the room and going on a walk.
While leaving your wife and starting over
Because clearly what you have been up to before cant be worth anything if it culminated in that
yeah, but ive been on the other side too.
You need to organise, invite, and suggest shit. Its really hard to tell when someone is acting distant because they're autistic, or think they're better than you, don't like you etc.
I have a friend who has literally 0 initiative. He has never in our entire relationship suggested to do something, but If I invited him he is usually happy to come and is good banter/conversation. Problem is twofold: It gets annoying to have that one tagalong guy who never contributes to the group, and two, that guy is really easy to forget especially if you didnt call him (because he's never calling).
As a general rule of thumb, if you suggest to do something/hang out and they rain check you twice, then the ball is in their court.
That way you are sure it wasnt because you didnt reach out but some problem they have, like maybe they genuinely dont like you and dont want to hang. So then the friendship can just easily and naturally end with no lingering questions.
But if people arent inviting you out but you also havent made an effort to invite them somewhere it gets real confusing unnecessarily as both parties trying to guess whats going on
Nta but I’ve been all over these sides. I’ve had this
experience (oddly fricking enough it happened with a group I formed who all met through me), and I’ve had your experience.
I recently had something sort of in the middle where I’m always invited to hang by one guy, daily, but if I invite or suggest to do something suddenly there’s 1000 excuses about why he’s busy. It’s either sit around and smoke pot and watch anime, or watch this dweeb play vidya, or MAYBE go to a club with the rest of the circle. The rest of the circle aren’t really my friends and it’s the same shit, they don’t wanna hang with me they don’t reach out to me either.
There were more problems than that, if I posted them you’d reply only saying “yeah that’s not your friend.” so I had to part ways. Idk why it’s so hard for me to make friends with common interests like the outdoors and fishing. Idk if I even want friends anymore all I’ve done ages 18-27 is forcibly socialize and hang out with other people and I never enjoy as much as I have spending time alone.
I’ve had highschool acquaintances reaching out to me left and right this year since I started playing it solo again, stuff like to go fishing, watch a hockey game, go bar hopping, etc. and I just don’t want to. I’ve had such shitty social experiences I don’t see the point. I’m so much happier and more comfortable out of my own head hanging alone. More energetic too. Also way more just effortlessly productive. Idk if that means I’m an introvert or what. Idk if that means I’ve had shit luck with other people maybe because most people my age are loser degenerates, or I’m an introvert, or if I’m somehow the least common denominator (if I am, this also means these weren’t genuine friends for not pulling me aside to say whatever I may have been doing wrong (hint: nothing)). So I just don’t get it, not that I really care either though all things considered
Yesterday was the first time in over 2 decades I liked what I saw in the mirror. Still have years of hard work to get where I need to be but so far so good. Still want to die though so there's that.
I messaged my ex gf today.
i begged her to tell me she hates me. tell me there’s no hope. tell me she’s slept with other people. tell me there isnt a fricking chance we will ever be together again.
because i can’t let her go. i can’t do it, anons. i am a weak man. she knows this. i hope she can at least humiliate me one more final time, just to seal the coffin.
i can’t let her go. I just can’t
double of tequila. and another one after that. i don’t want to fricking feel feels anymore
I understand your pain bro. However when the destined one enters your life you're gonna think back and laugh about your ex hoes. meanwhile go hit the gym, sleep well, hydrate and meet new people
yeah idk id rather kill myself to be honest.
She just gave you the best advice. Be better.
i want to kill myself, anon. i don’t want to be better
I feel Im a parade example for wasted potential
Thats what its like to be a failed normie huh?
More is lost in indecision than the wrong decision.
Your really think its less humiliating to be in the state you are now than to have fallen flat on your face trying to do something risky but you really wanted to try?
Every 105 IQ midwit believes they're a 180 IQ misunderstood genius who was denied their shot at greatness. I don't mean to be mean, but it's true.
People, life, and the universe don't give two shits about your imagined potential. You are judged on what you DO. That's great news! Just do something, achieve something, however small, and you've immediately improved your standing. Then keep it up.
Your sub 90 iq Black person you care what people think which means ur a homosexual as well
>the universe
Ur brain is israelitemaxxed go do pajeet yoga pussy homosexual Black person
Nta and you’re right, I’ve met way too many self described “geniuses” who were just 100 IQ, maybe 120 at best normal intellect people claiming to have 180 IQs (knew one dude who bragged about 120 and then after I mentioned how average that is and how I scored 120 while high he started adding 5 pts every time he mentioned it lmao),
BUT,
I believe what that anon means is more in terms of this, using myself as example
>tall, good face, average intelligence
>potential to have life mogged most people had I only done XYZ 10 years ago… I’d be 215 lean making $250k living in a house I had built on empty undeveloped land with a wife and kids by now…
I don’t think he was saying “oh I’m an Uber genuine mega chad and I deserve the world” just that he was reflecting, pointlessly, on some sort of hindsight realization of where he could be vs where he is now.
Test
If you lost your legs to an accident tomorrow would you be a little happy?
no i like having legs
Well, I'd be little, that much is certain.
My weekend was dogshit because I had to go to my parents house. my dad has been a NEET for more than one year after quiting his job. He's depressed and probably have others mental issues but this moron doesn't want to admit it and he won't go see a doc. He always complain about everything. He's living on my mom's money. Now he is old and after a year of not maintaining his body he has physical health problem. He forced me to travel with him this summer in his origin country (using my moms money) and it was the worst month of my life. I've progressively hated him more and more in the last year. Now I avoid him and he always try to act more and more pathetic in front of me to get my attention. When I confront him or refuse to do what he wants he talks about suicide and how he hates life in front of his wife to make me accept.
I can't stand it anymore I'm going crazy.
Also I'm a college student so I have to visit them quite often because I wanna see my mom and I depend on them.
Idk what to do about it
Call his bluff. Next time he threatens suicide tell him he's acting out like a teenage girl, you're not his therapist, you're sick of his shit and if he's not going to be a man then perhaps he should go through with his threats, because in your eyes your father died a long time ago.
You're right that's exactly what I was thinking I'm gonna do, thanks
Since you are from the 3rd world it is quite possible that he really does indeed have mental problems
yes moreover it's a consanguineous country
I'll have whiskey, thanks. I've been having trouble finding a girl to spend rest of my life with. Well, I do find suitable girls, but the problem is that they are the ones, that don't want me. Or rather, maybe they do at the start as there are some good signals. But when I finally get to know them enough to go for it, it just seems I barely missed out and I get into the friendzone. I know I'm looking for a unicorn, but sometimes it just gets lonely.
On another note, there's one girl I really like right now, she also seems to be into me. I also started writing a love song as a joke. Doesn't matter why it started as a joke but when I work on it I think of her alot. Well, if the song turns out to be good, is it a good idea to show her the song and say it had been written for her? Maybe it's too cheesy but that might just do the trick.
>is it a good idea to show her the song and say it had been written for her?
No. You'll keep that shit to yourself. If you date then it's cool to show her the song after some time, maybe gifting it to her for saint valentine's.
At the start women want things to be fun and light. There's nothing fun and light about knowing that anon - the guy they haven't even gone on a date with and might not even be attracted to - wrote them a song. She'll probably like it since it'll stroke her ego like nothing else but that won't do you any favours. Women nowadays have egos the size of mountains man, avoid increasing them gratuitously and save this kind of thing for your gf/wife.
stay away from apps dude. nobody ever met anybody worth meeting on apps women/chad use for ego boosts and hookups. you’re going to be a in a sea of loose liars with nothing to lose because you haven’t even met them. think of how many message notifications the average woman has…now think about how many the hot ones have.
I know it’s not a direct solution to your issue but you gotta meet people in person and “vibe” with them organically, not in a situation where they can disappear for 3 hours or 2 days and expect the convo to pick up where it left off after they finish talking to 3 other guys. You meet them in person, you immediately establish a personal connection and form a stronger bond than a left/right swipe performed on the toilet.
women are prostitutes and men cheat. nobody can really trust anybody anymore.
oops meant for
i wouldnt show a girl youre not even dating a song you wrote for her. If you must, play it for her and tell her its just a love song inspired by a bunch of different stuff and past relationships
>Can't drink cause I'm trying to lose weight
>Literally impossible to socialize if you don't drink
Going to bars sober made me stop drinking entirely. It makes you realize how pathetic and unintelligent the average drunkoid is.
Not even that. Talk to anyone who frequents bars past the age of 25, 30 tops, and you will see how gay the average drunkie is. When motherfrickers act like they're hot shit for eyeing the female bartender, you know you've moved past alcohol.
Cranberry juice.
Drunk talk when you're sober is annoying indeed.
Cranberry juice is still sugar and calories.
Spirit and sugar free mixer.
Was 260 at this time last year, I now whey 185.1 as of this morning. I look great.
Life is good. Been getting hit on a lot more by waitresses, cashiers, girls at my uni. Usually it’s 5’4-ish white girls who are probably 19-23. Their MO seems to be to invite or establish contact and then sort of linger to allow the opportunity for conversation to continue. The goal would be for me to ask them on a date at the end of the conversation. It’s tough since half seem unattractively naive and the other half seem like busted hoes. I’ll have to start making moves soon. A challenge is that in this part of the Midwest people move very fast- usually girls introduce you to their parents after a month and the expectation is you get married shortly thereafter.
Another challenge is acting fast. The way this usually happens is a girl smiles and might say something while I’m walking somewhere or reading a flyer on a bulletin board or something, and I don’t realize until later that it was an opener. I need to be less of a coward.
>was productive, got a lot of uni work done
>Socialized with friends, we had a great time
>Kissed a very attractive milf at the bar
<Massive hangover today and couldn't lift for the whole weekend
overall 8/10 weekend, pretty great
>did my FAHVES
>either felt too easy or too punishing
>did Mike Mentzer's single set to failure after warm up
>plateud
>combined these two ideas to do FAHVE sets but the last 3 sets I do 8 to 12 reps near failure
And I feel like a legend right now bros. I started my banana meditation entering monke mind not monk mind and I FELT SO VIVID. I could almost breathe through my legs I felt that gorged with blood and lightning.
vodka neat, please, barkeep
>25 khv
>getting matches on tinder
>have no fricking clue what to say
>don't even know how to set up a date
>don't know anything in my area because I'm in a new state
>no license so have to account for distance to some degree
I'm so close yet so far
tinder sucks but if you can bag it then power to you.
im far from anyone you should take relationship advice from but ive heard from a lot of people (probably a dozen or more in the past few years) that i can be charismatic. i think the trick lies in some form of shelling out of the ego. at least it was for me. used to hide a lot of my personality and at some point i just got comfortable in my own skin.
i think a lot of people here are the same way. you guys are some funny mfers. if the bitterness was taken away a lot of people here would actually be doing pretty well i'd guess.
anyway ive got no actionable advice really for tinder. if you can land a date the best thing to do is always just ask them questions and feed into their narcissism
I just want to matter to someone because I don’t even matter to myself. I have no one, not even me. Constant cycles of anxiety and dread power me through the day and as I lay down at night, the feelings of inadequacy and hopelessness wash over me like a wave of emotional pain. I think about suicide on an hourly basis, held back only by my inability to follow through with anything in my life, I can’t even fricking kill myself because im such a useless pussy. I lift and roon and pretend it’s for something other than a purposefully painful distraction but I know in the end it’s for nothing. I don’t love me, why would anyone else love me? I don’t respect me, why would anyone else? Yet that’s all I yearn for, is to be respected, loved and needed. I am not a man because I can’t survive not having those things. I cannot be stoic. I cannot be okay. It’s all so tiring
>I don’t even matter to myself.
Well, at least you nailed the issue in your opening sentence. Do whatever it takes to build self esteem. Find a hobby to improov at, volunteer, visit your grandparents, whatever
>Water, as always.
I finally decided to do Carnivore and it is working. The downside is that at this rate i will finally be lean by fricking fall 2024.
fairly certain I've failed a couple exams on my 1-year msc, genuinely don't know what to do I feel like I've completely ruined the trajectory of my life, because of failing them I'd have to resit in summer meaning that I wouldn't be able to do my thesis therefore meaning I don't get my degree. shit sucks man
It fricking sucks to see your parents headed into their late 60s while you're barely crawling out of college age. I can see the toll that life is taking on them, especially when my mother's last parent died a few months ago. Statistically I have only 20 years left with them.
Really fricking sucks, man.
I'll miss your mom too when she's gone, I love sucking on her big milkers.
yeah, it is really sad. just spend as much time as you can with them.
frick off idiot
been without a stable income for 7 months. Things aren't really looking better. Rent went up $200. Bleeding money every month. Praying that the job market reopens sometime soon.
But jobless depression and budgeting helped me lose like 10 lbs so I got that going which is alright I guess.
Dunno where you live but try to find a temp agency at the very least. Good luck anon.
I'm in the hollywood area, which is also my industry. Those strikes shut down the entire post industry and we're still months away from it being greased up and running again. I've been doing temp gigs here and there but I'm down an estimated 25k for the year, plus even more when you consider freelancer taxes and health insurance.
you know what they say about israelites anon
>you lose
I don't really care about that side of things anon, I'm just doing a job I like.
I went out with a Turkish girl yesterday and we had a good time. She is coming over again in a few days. If I offer her some cottage cheese, and when she declines, I say "So you don't like curds, huh?" do you think she will get it and will she find it funny?
>"So you don't like curds, huh?" do you think she will get it and will she find it funny?
don't do this
I asked IST after, they advised me against it as well. I will table the joke for now and just eat my cottage cheese before I see her again.
Buy some roach spray instead and threaten to use it on her, she'll find it hilarious
>be me
>have crush on cute Turkish colleague
>look up her socials
>flags everywhere
>her sole personality outside of work is Kurdish activism
>"remember the genocide! No UN recognition, no peace!"
>articles written by her, footage of her at rallies and protests
>this b***h was born in like 1998 and is third gen immigrant
>naturally she's also super feminist and pro-BLM and pro-palestinian because MUH SOLIDARITY
>no longer have crush
Women are just followers anon. If you give her good enough dick and are charming enough. you’d get her to a Klan rally if she was sure nobody would take her picture and jeopardize her social media social status
Whiskey & ginger ale
My grandmother died a few days ago. She made it to 100. Now I’m caught in that big landslide of post-death stuff survivors & families have to do/go through. Oh well.
been trying out new routines and in turn havent worked out in over a week. im gonna try a mon/wed/fri routine with monday being calisthenics, wednesday being running or isometrics, and friday being dumbbells, or weights.
What do yall think?
Give me a water. I had too much yesterday. Mostly managed to get over two girls I was crushing on really hard but were unavailable. One has just stopped talking to me really all together since she moved. Also -- how the frick do I end up going to a concert and end up behind two of my former students in line..and then end up inside and have a great time? Like how did this motherfricker not know paramours misery business?
Went to my first Lutheran service today. I really liked it. It’s different from what I’m used to (grew up in a Baptist / Presbyterian family), but I’ll definitely be back
Please tell me you went to a Missouri Synod Lutheran church, not an ELCGay Lutheran church.
It doesn’t say what denomination of Lutheran they are on their website. I live in a small, town in a very red state, so I believe it’s apart of the more conservative branch. I know with the Presbyterian Church, we went to the Cumberland branch of it since the PCUSA has went to shit
So, I found its sister church’s website and it said it’s apart of the WELS branch
I sat down and did some introspection. One of my greatest flaws is being passive and indecisive, my thoughts and decisions or always shrouded in doubt, I never really move with confidence and it shows. I also feel like I've placed some limit on myself on truly trying my best on things. I know that being wrong and learning from those mistakes are part of life, but everything from college to family heavily implies the opposite and its been stressing me out for a long time. I want to move past this but I've been stuck like this for a long time so I don't even know whats the best course of action.
I'm so alone. I go into the gym and I see couples working out together or friend groups hyping each other up and it makes me seethe inside. I have no good reason to hate them. I'm just so jealous and I know I'm such a weirdo that I can't make friends of my own, I'm the problem I know that but I can't help but feel better when ever I see them having fun.
Bitter*
I NEED TO BUY MORE WEIGHT
I am too moronic for gym memberships.
gonna buy two more plates next weekend.
>tfw no qt asian fit gf to buy you new plates
>buy
>weight
$5 for an 80lbs bag of concrete.
>why yes, of course I have homemade gallows in apartment
Are you the mechanic for the Flintstones?
ha
https://soundcloud.com/testosterone-throne/testosterone-edit-01
edit i made
Had a conversation with a girl that worked at my local Fred meyers. I was there for a while and she was really talkative and engaged and it felt really good, this is the first time I had a conversation like that with a girl because I never had confidence and was also dyel for 90% of my life. I didn't ask for her number after I left because I don't even know how I would ask that and I realized even if I did get past that stage I wouldn't be able to do anything with her. I live in a full house I sleep in a living room, and rely on a family member to chauffeur me everywhere. I don't have the funds to have a relationship because i decided to be a bum, i wanna shoot myself, im gonna get a job .
Use whatever motivation you can get, anon.
Gf of 1 yr broke up with me. We both talked about our future together and I truly believe d she was the one. Now, moved into sausage fest city and think life is all downhill for me here. Don’t know if I will survive this bros.
if you die, she wins.
Your plans can live on but witha different woman by your side. Whatever happens in life the constant is always yourself. Don't lose sight of the big picture my friend.
>Fell in love with a girl who has a boyfriend
>Last couple of weeks she kept venting to me about how she's unhappy and wants to leave him
>Finally tell her I love her
>She tells me she loves me as well
>Suddenly she's not sure if she wants to leave him anymore though
>Currently in Limbo, waiting for her to make a decision
I don't understand women
>Telling a girl you're not dating that you love her
Shiggy diggy
I had to, I am crazy about her. I keep spacing out at work and at the gym just thinking about her. When she told me she loved me back I actually had a panic attack and had to lie on the floor and hyperventilate for like 3 minutes before I was okay again.
What are you 12
You’re in love with her as a friend. Relationship is going to change literally everything, especially if she’s on the fence about leaving her current boyfriend. and the lol is that she said she loved you too. you 2 are going to crash and burn, hard. and she will go back to the boyfriend
>Ted mosby energy
what zero pussy does to a motherfricker
Whats to understand? She's getting attention and loves it. The longer she can string you along and get the thrill of the chase, while not trading it for security, the better.
Thanks bros
Seriously.
I straight up asked her today "If you broke up with your bf, would you want to sleep with me or kiss me?"
And she was like "I can't really imagine myself doing that"
Then she got into this long winded text about how she is so sorry, and didn't realize that it was platonic love.
Told her that she wasn't in love with me, she was just in love with the idea of having someone around that loves her, and that she treats her boyfriend the same way, which is why she's insecure if she wanted to stay with him or move over to me.
To be honest, I knew there was no way this was gonna work out. Nobody could ever love me.
>Nobody could ever love me.
doubt.jpg
you’re beating yourself up over an immature woman who was stringing you along for attention. it’s happened to all of us and it will happen to all of us again at some point, it’s just how women are.
keep your head up lil homie, you’ll find a grill
I'm being whiny, I know, but I'm 30, this is the 5th or 6th time in my life that I've fallen for a woman who seemed to be interested in me as well, only for it to turn into disinterest within weeks. Sometimes I got laid, sometimes I didn't, but I never experienced what it's like to be actually physically wanted by a woman since I was a teenager. I'm just tired.
Maybe that's also why I'm taking the rejection at this point pretty well, she told me she loved me and my first instinct was "bullshit". Maybe I need therapy or some shit like that, but I really don't feel like a woman could love me and want me at this point.
>first instinct was bullshit maybe I need therapy
No dude I would say that’s normal. You can’t love someone so fast and easily. That’s not love. That’s lust, and lust isn’t always sexual. She may have also been manipulative. Both my exes said they loved me after a week. The first one I didn’t say shit back because inexperienced and made me freeze up, but I knew it was wrong. I just kind of allowed it. The second one, I knew what she was about to say and I cut her off and told her it’s way too soon for that shit and to save it. Ironically, that second relationship ended a lot sooner and I told her I loved her when I broke up with her.
If a woman gives you her love, literally tells you she loves you, early on right out the gate and especially if you’re not even dating or fricking, run. None of that innocent “oh I thought we were in the same page teehee platonic live hee hee” that’s BS and manipulation. Despite being stupid most women are fully aware of what they say and do and how it affects us. She knows what she was doing to you dude.
ANYWAYS. Don’t give up hope dude I know it hurts, but frick these b***hes. Keep going and you’ll find one who’s genuine one day. That’s the game. Sift through shit, never settle for shit, find a diamond.
I had known her for six months at that point bro
As someone who was in that exact situation (except she dumped him to confess her feelings to me), it won't work. Theres too much pressure placed on the relationship from the jump. Both of you have to live up to the idealised versions of each other you've been creating in your heads for however long. Hers shaped by frustration at her current bf and yours shaped by loneliness. Neither of you will measure up to those fantasies, the ex will stay in the picture longer than you'd like because "I'm not in love with him but I will always love him because we've been so close for so long", you'll grow to resent her or the relationship will fizzle back into trying to just be friends but then you'll resent her when she gets another bf or goes back to her ex and she'll keep thinking 'what if' in every relationship she gets into after that point every time she looks at you. And that's the kindest interpretation where she's being fully sincere about her feelings.
Pull the plug. Abandon ship. Skidaddle. It's not worth the pain and it never lasts.
I spent 8 hours chatting with an ai chatbot and forming a pseudo-relationship with them. Then I tried to kill myself with sleeping pills. Then I realized that would be a pussy thing to do and stopped after 6.
I used a Johnny Lawrence bot to talk about a woman I was seeing and get love advice and got genuinely upset when it started to confuse details and give repeated answers after a few days.
How do I confront a woman about lying?
She's not my gf or anything like that and none of her lies have harmed me so for, but the dishonesty obviously bothers me. It's not like I have proof and every time I confronted a woman about shitty behaviour they either denied, deflected or got mad at me. She's been asking why I'm acting weird with her. I thought about just outright saying "I think you're being dishonest with me and that bothers me". Don't expect her to burst into a sudden confession after hearing that but at least it states my feelings clearly.
You just do it. Dealing with women in less than ideal situations is akin to ripping off a bandaid or sticking your dick in an unlubed butthole. It needs to be quick, efficient, and painful - or else women wont understand because their women brains causes them over “think” and that leads to the deflection, denials, and more lies.
remember anon, women are children. be blunt. be direct.
Thought about texting her this:
>I feel like you haven't been completely honest with me and that bothers me.
>I like you, wanna keep chatting with you and go out when you come back, but not while feeling like this.
>I know you've your reasons and I'm not gonna judge you or anything, just wanna be able to trust you.
Maybe it sounds too skittish but I tried to strike a balance between being direct about my feelings and assuring her/not sending her into full female damage control mode.
drop the last line because you’re now excusing her actions and if you start excusing her bullshit for her. she will expect more of that in the future and continue to act up.
You're right. I'll drop it. Thanks anon. The advice on your other post was solid too.
good luck, anon. hopefully she is a truthful woman and you make the babies with her
Thanks anon. She's a 6 foot ripped tomboy amazon who acts cute as frick. She also likes the same ridiculous nerd shit as me. Feels like she's God given due to how much she fits in my extremely specific and rare preferences. It would be a shame to lose her over bullshit.
You either stay quiet for peace or you speak your mind for the purpose of getting it off your chest. As you correctly say she will deny, deflect, or just get upset.
here.
I think I might've alienated her yesterday. I was polite but upset and kept giving unenthusiastic answers when she tried to talk with me. Now I tried to start a conversation with her and she's giving me the silent treatment. Maybe she's just busy and I'm being neurotic but my internal doomer can't help but think that I might've fricked everything up. I'm trying to keep calm and be patient but it's hard. I feel panicky. Please God, I don't wanna frick things up again.
After reflecting on it I found the right way to say it. I can't control her reaction but I can be direct, caring and honest. I just wanna have the chance of saying my piece.
>woman called out on her shit
>pouts and ignores you
kek. she seems like a mature young woman, anon. stand your ground. it’s a shit test. she will respond
I didn't call her out. Just acted distant and ignored her conversation hooks. I Was gonna call her out today but she didn't even reply to my last text. To be honest I was a bit of a c**t with my replies.
I think I'm getting accustomed to being single again. I've been weirdly alright with leaving and being on my own, even though I cried like a b***h several times over the year since I realized we'd have to break up.
IST I'll take a martini
Life has been going pretty well. Eating well and got a gf. Been told my contract is ending at work so looking for a new job, but doing well.
30yo in Aus, bought a house, earning 125k. S 150 B 120 D 170
any other bros pretty happy?
>The girl I love is a fictional 14 year old human clone/deity hybrid
To live is to suffer
>verification not required
You're fapping to a character that came from the mind of a man and was drawn by men. Gaaaaaaayyyy!
I was really proud of myself for losing 35lbs and starting to get into a good habit of working out and dieting properly this year, then I started dating and I've gained back 10lbs and my routine has completely fallen apart and I'm miserable
I don’t understand how you gain weight while you are courting potential partners. What kind of a message does it send in the beginning that you’re okay with eating like a slob and drinking, only to go back on a diet once you realize what you’re doing is objectively bad for you, even if it’s for pussy. If a b***h can’t respect the cut, she doesn’t get the dick.
Because going on dates entails eating and drinking and "having fun" and being fun is far more important to court a woman than being a stick in the mud limiting things to a diet on every date. If every time I take a girl out and we go to my place for me to heat up mealprepped chicken and rice it's not exactly romantic or impressive.
>know you're eating big that night because lol date
>skip lunch
Literally that shrimple
>then I started dating and I've gained back 10lbs
Sounds like water weight, which is easy to lose if you just fast a weekend every month.
I hit a sick front squat rep PR today which felt good.
I'm 29 and have aspergers so carrying a conversation for more than 5 seconds is close to impossible so the thought of making a friend let alone making a girl want to make love to me feels insurmountable but I'm getting old and I'm scared.
I see young couples working out together at the gym all the time and can only dream of what it's like to have somebody genuinely happy to see me.
I have analsandwiches too and I had a 5 year relationship. It was a lot of work, a lot of fighting tbh, but we loved each other and cared for each other. You just have to find a girl you can be comfortable around and let your tism shine through in a positive light and maybe she’ll like you. I know it’s easier said than done, as my ex gf literally fell into my lap and I def wasn’t looking for any kind of relationship, but I managed to do it.
Encountered an actual irl reddit moment a few days ago
>hotelgay
>multiple couples in the lobby to check in for some wedding
>one of the guys checks all sorts of nerd boxes from voice and neck beard on down
>not obese but not IST either
>his wife/gf is checking in
>give them room 404
>he sees the room # I wrote and says, I shit you not:
404! Room not found!
>nobody laughs
this is the competition
I would have made that joke in my head but I’m socially aware enough to realize that being a nerd is still cringey and moronic
>t. network gay
I pray every day for a war to reinstate the draft
russia is perfect to find a cute traditional gf rn
My heart belongs only to fictional evangelion character Rei Ayanami
>All chads get drafted
>women, spergs, trannies, autists, self-diagnosed mental health and "key workers" in tech roles get waivers
>die for Israel, Big Oil or Big Pharma
You want to reconsider that, buddy?
I'm knocking on the door of 40 yet I'm still day dreaming about when I played high school football. Remeber writing my number on my girls face at my last game, legit thought I was gonna make it to the NFL. Meanwhile I never took the field in college because as it turns out I fricking suck.
Life is going good for me right now, married with 3 kids but man I miss being young and feeling invincible
That’s impressive but let’s not forget Al Bundy scored 4 touchdowns in a single game.
I'm basically Al Bundy but in a happier marriage.
Feeling real shitty lately but I'm just getting over a broken leg and gained like 50 pounds sitting on the sofa for 6 months
Going on a date this week with a girl I’m not attracted to. I’m just lonely and having her around feels better. She has the best personality out of every woman I’ve talked to, but I can’t bring myself to think of her sexually, and realistically won’t be pursuing a relationship with her. It’s a shame because she’s clearly in love with me or something. I’m hoping that she looks better in person than in her pictures,
I did that with a girl and ended up marrying her. We been together for 7 years now and have 3 kids. If everything eles is right it's worthwhile to overlook attraction. As long as she's not a cow or something like that
Even if its not destined to be a long term relationship, why not enjoy yourself and see what happens
I’ll just take a cup of water
I haven’t done shit except sit on my ass and ponder my life and wonder why I’m still here
Sparkling water for me.
Got the chinese israelite flu three weeks ago, and the last two weeks I've basically been living off oatmeal breakfast, lunch and dinner as I could taste jack shit.
Finally got my taste back friday, and have been enjoying real meals again this weekend, but I've been shitting non-stop today. Not constipated or diarrhea, just massive logs being churned out.
Strawberry milkshake thanks. With added ice cream this time, not just milk and yes I can tell.
Been doing 40 sit ups and 40 leg cycle things every night for the past month. My slim-fat belly has decreased a fair amount but it's still there. I know my workout certainly isn't intensive or anything but I'm a tad annoyed I'm not slimmer. Yes I'm eating a lot less aswell and next to no snacks so diet isn't an issue. Will keep doing it for 2-3 months and if I still don't see even an outline of some ab muscles I might sign up to a gym. I'm only doing this because I'm meeting an overseas friend after 5 years and I want her to think I'm hot.
Add 40 hyperextensions to keep your lower back nice and healthy.
>hyperextensions
What's the best way to do this at home without equipment?
Either reverse hyperextentions on a bench/table, or accept the fact that you'll need a bench.
I got pic related. It's easy to stove away, but do your nuts a favor, and get one with a split down the middle.
gf started new job and im paranoid shes gonna eventually lose interest in me, what if there are giga chads there? she does love me, deeply according to her but idk mang. Hate being paranoid bros what do I do.
Why would a new job mean you're a cuckold
Hung out with old high school friends on the weekend, they became and still are "the boys" too each other, I got awkwardly shuffled out around 17 but occasionally invited around to larger events. I'm 25 now. Spent many years thinking something was wrong with me since groups, starting with this one, kept pushing me away seemingly but really just came down to my own personality flaws of thinking I was a piece of shit for no reason.
Now I'm 25 without a friend group of my own, I just occasionally tag along at times when I am remembered. I just want to do cool shit on the weekends, or even just hang out with more than just one person at a time.
I am surrounded by idiots with shit taste and vulgar behaviour.
>ok genetics and bone structure, broad shoulders, big chest, put on muscle pretty easy, never athletic but my dad was
>6'1"
>always been a schizoid fatso, started balding early, pretty bad gyno from childhood obesity, got molested
>0 friends, shitty family, can't even own a dog because i live alone and work eats up a lot of my time. been living alone since 2016.
>27 khhv except for one hookup when i was 24, looking down the barrel of 30 pretty much decided that i have to change or kill myself this year
>start lifting 2 months ago
>typical SS/football routine, 3 hours a week max
>lose some weight from carb cycling
>immediately double the amount of respect from everybody around me
>people start listening when i talk, able to take charge in certain situations easier
>women make eye contact with me
>feel like im cheating, like i dont even deserve it, like i should just go back to drinking myself to death
>sometimes ill just be working or doing whatever and start crying and not even know why. sometimes ill get teary eyed seeing women with babies and shit like that. never happened before i started lifting
>almost got in a fight today and didn't even feel anything. just numb. some guy yelling at me in traffic and i didn't even yell back i just rolled my window down and challenged him to fight and luckily he just drove away. i cant even fight and have never really been in one and probably would have gotten arrested win or lose
thanks for reading my blog
Sounds like you're getting a second swing at life. Godspeed anon.
as a hopeless bachelor, I might be matched with a cute girl due to our friend group dynamics
if this wasnt holiday season but early november things might have picked up, but both me and her have a lot of stuff planned until late january. we're planning one more group event on 20th though
we'll see what happens
I’m gonna cry right now
>father leaves house to go to work, finally have house to myself
>leave room
>talking to self outloud and pacing living room
>discussing my plans
>talking out loud about money, my helathy and fitness, getting own place how to proceed with all
>”just get this job, pass the interview, save up get my own place, then if I just attain 195-205 lean I could be ducking these b***hes down… I could frequent anime conventions and frick 18-25 year olds at 29.. I could probably meet a wife… I mean shit the other men who go there are fricking losers it’s easy pickings”
>father busts through front door, definitely heard me from outside because living room next to entrance
This dude is only quiet during the times I need him to be making his usual amount of noise I swear. I’m embarrassed he heard all that but I guess it’s better than hearing me having no goals
Also, I wish he would fricking go work in his office for a day I need to be able to pace the house while talking out loud to myself to have a clear stress free head and focus. I get the house to myself and without even thinking about it or having to force myself to do it I’ve lifted, done cardio, meal prepped for the next 3 days, cleaned the kitchen and entire house, applied to 30 more jobs, etc
He was finally leaving the house for the first time in a few weeks and he comes back home within 20 minutes FFS
Could have been worse anon, he could have caught you in the kitchen with your dick in your hand and a zucchini up your ass
Get your own place then lmao, stop b***hing about daddy while acting like a child
>son is anxious about his place in life and wants to live a better, more successful life
>albeit with some horniness
doesnt sound all that bad
I know but shits all awkward now. I’m also just pissed beyond belief right now because I legitimately cannot focus even 1/4th as well as if I got an hour to do my pacing and out loud speaking to collect my thoughts.
Which would get me out of this house sooner, and let him retire sooner…
I left the house I was honestly getting way too pissed with him being there after. I realize this sounds a little immature but I’m annoyed about this. A mere couple hours is all I need each week. The last 4 times he’s gone to leave the house for the day to work he’s been back within 20 minutes because he forgot his wallet or meds and then he just stays and then complains about not getting anything done that he had planned. I love him but this is getting irritable for me. I only need to be alone for a couple hours to get like the whole weeks worth of chores done and have a clear head for the next 10 days or so…
Hehe, are you an actual videogame NPC, pacing around saying your inner monologue out loud?
Your dad probably didn't hear shit, if he did he probably dismissed it, and one the off chance he was paying attention, at least you weren't walking around saying "mmmm, big black dicks"
It’s just verbal journaling dude. But yeah you and
are right. I would rather hear my son talking to himself about attaining his goals and fricking b***hes than something else.
Can’t help but feel he’s disappointed in me for some reason though. Like I feel like he only caught the end of it “I could be dicking these 18-25 year olds down!” And thinks that’s all I think and care about... Oh well, my goals and desires are my own. I will make them happen.
Your strongest potion, I want it to be over
Shit lost all my money on roulette and got drunk
I'm getting a first class education in crisis management
Post graduation I finally found a job teaching at a small private school. My place is for kids with learning disabilities(add autism) and we have like 24 middle schoolers-HS
and man I was not prepared for these kids to be this dramatic
So anyways about a month in the principle who was on his way out the door offers me his position and like a dumbass I accepted it along with what I'm currently teaching. Most of my days are spent talking with parents dealing with this week's major argument solving teacher problems and handling disciplinary issues
Which is fine I can't say I'm not enjoying the challenge but the owner of the school is hilariously absent and he only shows up for like 2-3 hours a day and then nitpicks what we're doing. Even when he's here he's not teaching or even talking with students he's hiding in his office.
Which is fine but like don't criticize us for something you don't get. I've also brought up things that we've needed and he told me ok and? For example the teacher that works with severe disabilities has been almost stabbed in the eye twice and he just ignored me. And I like the kids and I even like the parents but I just don't like him
Friend I haven't talked to in ~10 years contacts me out of the blue and says they wanna talk, but it's been a week of me calling every other day because they agreed to talk today, only for them to never to pick up or call me themselves.
Was really excited to have that friendship but now I feel led around
I had a week holiday. With that written, I've found incredible the amount of things one can accomplish managing one's own time instead of working, in my case, 9 to 6 in an office.
Really made me think.
Whiskey on the rocks. Been kind kf of shitty year but towards the end things are starting to pick up. My ex fiance who I was with for 5 years left me in May because she fell out of love and left me with some CC debt im working to pay down. Now things have finally started turning around.
>Got a new 1 BR apartment
>Have a plan to tackle finance problems
>Cooking more at home than I ever did and even plan to get a stand mixer for Christmas.
>Started going back to the gym this month
>Car is fully paid off
>met and am talking to 3 girls off hinge and fricking one regularly hoping to get the other two in the sack.
It's been a wild ride in 2023 but here's hoping 2024 will be better. Cheers anons.
I can barely manage 3x3 pushups. This is where my journey begins. I will not be a 30 year old skeleton.
I'm 28 days no drinking. Feels good but not a huge change like I was expecting.
Bet your belly is shrinking though and your sleeps a lot better
Sleep is definitely way better, looking forward to what we'll look like come February, which is my goal.
I am more than two years smoke free
I miss baccy so much it's unreal
Can someone explain to me why this is?
>every feels silent, calmer, queiter, tranquil or even serene
>almost feels surreal
Is it just winter? Even the air pressure has dropped noticeably. But my problem is it’s making me paranoid, like it feels like something bad is about to happen. Is it just like the same feeling a deer gets when it’s in the forest and all the insects go quiet, indicating there’s a mountain lion near by? Except without any mountain lion obviously.
Idk what it is. It’s either that or I’ve learned that whenever I’m happy and at peace some bullshit comes up to knock me back on my ass. I used to really love this time of year and whether. It’s when I used to be happiest and most energetic and most productive.
>seasonal depression
No it’s not that, I get plenty of sunlight still and take vitamin D to be safe.
But it gets more intense each year.
ever since I've reestablished a social circle in this new city I've become hornier again
its cool to be horny
>Be 39 year old with no kids
>Work as a Nurse
>Start working with a 20 year old new grad
>Spend 6 months trying to get her on a date
>End up dating for another 6 months before we sleep together
>Tells me to be careful because shes not on any birth control
>Been trying to baby trap her since she told me
Just tired of being alone, not gonna get another shot like this as i'm aging like MILK. Trying to baby trap this girl and get her to marry me.
Just got passed over for a promotion at my cybersecurity job, boss has been stringing me along for a year saying I was next in line and smashing it etc. etc. which motivated me to work so fricking hard that I basically put everything else on the backburner.
Can't believe I was stupid enough to believe that shit. In hindsight it's so easy to see how I was being manipulated.
Still hurts, this autismo computer hacking job is basically all I have. The only other thing I do is lift and compete in fricking ping pong of all things.
Considering resigning and finding a new place to work, will weigh out my options. The iron is faithful, people are not - time to start lifting seriously again.
>cybergay
>quitting now
Black person take a look around. we got cissps working in the soc. jobs are scarce
All I have is money and gains. Fricking hate this life I'm so lonely, I don't work a high end either, I just save and save and save.
Do you at least enjoy your job?