What can you do when you're 23 ans failed college two time already?
Sorry if this isn't really /fit related but generally a lot of anons here give good advice
>Be me
>End high school at 19
>Try a year of law school (in Europe you can go straight to a bachelor's degree after high school)
>Literally stopped after two weeks
>I was just a neet during that year (my parents aren't poor and i'm ashamed to say it but i can pretty much live with them and my brother without doing anything for a really long long time)
>Try a year of economics at the same university
>Stops after one month
>Works and learns to code
This year i enrolled in a CS bachelor but looking at the program I just think I'm just too moronic and won't succeed, 60% of the curiculom is ultra abstract maths
The point of my post is : How do you not give up on something when it gets hard?
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Take manageable course load if you can
Nothing you're talking about is hard you just have to learn that life is mostly boring and be consistent
I failed college 3 times and now studying again getting straight A's. Don't give up, anon.
Thank fren, my problem isn't even the fact that i failed, the problem is that i don't even try
I just give up too quickly and think that i'm a moron and i might as well just save my time and don't try to do something that i'm pretty sure to fail at the end
You have a problem with dealing with the possibility of failure in anything that seems unfamiliar to you, so you cope emotionally by not trying at all. Your brain is lazy in this regard, if it finds ways to cope and self rationalize
>heh I saved time and effort by not doing anything at all
seems familiar?
>How do you not give up on something when it gets hard?
By accepting the failures and successes that come with it
Also did you learn CS for the money?
not really, I just figured that if I'm already spending 12h+ a day on my PC, I might as well learn to use it properly
Ah okay
My friend took 1 programming and 1 math course last semester and he did really well, maybe try that if your uni allows it
>I just figured that if I'm already spending 12h+ a day on my PC, I might as well learn to use it properly
this is the right mindset
no OP but I'm genuinely passionate about CS, but I can just never seem to fricking focus, and then after learning something without constantly revising forever I seem to forget it all within a month, it's a real issue
Too much money and no motivation huh?
Same,never had to struggle and never been ambitious so I get lazy easily.
I was in a similar sort of situation except I was already far into an engineering degree. I was already behind on completed courses etc, but then motivation tanked completely at one point and I spent 2 years achieving absolutely nothing.
In stead of feeling ashamed and trying to plan out massive work loads in short timeframes to catch up which inevitably failed every single time and just made the shame/anxiety aspect worse which spirals into further failure, I learned to accept myself, put my health and wellbeing first, took everything slower and gradually started making progress again by making plans more realistic to who I am and how I behave versus some idealistic version of myself where I turn into an academic work horse overnight. Slower progress is infinitely better than zero.
>Slower progress is infinitely better than zero.
Top tier advice OP.
They say, there is two pains: the pain of discipline, and the pain of regret. You will always experience pain, its just which way do you want it. Are you truly not capable of applying yourself and finishing school? Become more disciplined and finish, or learn to live with out the degree. Hard things are usually worth it.
Nobody cares about your math scores, do the bare minimum in them that you need to pass. They're mostly a vestige of the early days of CS where it was highly theoretical. Unless you're planning on working on the bleeding edge of computation (which judging from this post you won't be) it's completely irrelevant.
My advice is to get good at programming and software development, learn to write good code and practice algorithms. This is the part most people struggle with and prevents them from getting a decent job. You can ace your math classes but if you're writing dogshit code and can't do a leetcode easy you're fricked.
>How do you not give up on something when it gets hard?
I deeply enjoyed CS in college, it was really fun and I got along with my professors which made it a lot easier. Try to make some friends in your classes and focus on your work if you're not a social person. Friendships make everything more tolerable, it's like someone to share the burden with.
Also if you enjoy it you won't find it hard, it might be challenging but it's super rewarding and should be fun along the way. It's similar to weight lifting. A lot of normies will see someone benching 315lbs and think "wow that's hard" and then go sit on the couch and eat a bag of potato chips. However, the guy lifting that weight just enjoys lifting for the sake of lifting, he doesn't just enjoy the part where he lifts 300lbs, he enjoyed the days where he hit 135, then 225, etc.
You gotta love the game, not just the destination.
>t. work as a software dev
Also accept the fact that some people have basically "completed" life by 25-26yo so what?
Most of those people are gonna be burnt out in their 30s when you are completing your life.
>19 finished hs
>1 year of law
>another year wasted
Literally me
Have you tried actually studying and learning the shit you need to learn? It's not magic, you don't just go into class and automatically be an expert on everything lol.
Also math is easy and fun, once you get the hang of it.
tl;dr you have to actually try.
this is basically me except this cost me 80k in burgerland to fail for 2 semesters
>in Europe you can go straight to a bachelor's degree after high school
As opposed to...? moron, unironically play sudoku