What's the best ISTactivity that lets you socialize/make friends? I considered joining a basketball group or building a local hiking group.
What's the best?
What's the best ISTactivity that lets you socialize/make friends? I considered joining a basketball group or building a local hiking group.
If you know how to play basketball - or any sport of interest for that matter - then good idea. Otherwise you'd be better off playing alone until you're proficient enough to hoop. I don't really think hiking is a very social activity, not a lot of IST activities are tbf
>I don't really think hiking is a very social activity, not a lot of IST activities are tbf
It is if you go with a group. There's also less risk if you frick up bad enough to get the first aid kit out, and it's more fun.
>Otherwise you'd be better off playing alone until you're proficient enough to hoop
If you get a group of friends to play in the lowest division of basketball it's still fun, and in a couple of seasons you'll be good.
Yeah, playing basketball with people who don't know how to play is one of the alternatives that I considered mentioning. The other alternative is playing with someone who is actually good and having him carry you and show you the ropes. Still though, if you actually want to get better then you need to practice on your own because your friends won't be there all the time
practice making small talk or making friends in situations that are low-stakes. The gym is actually a great place for this, because you'll see a person from time to time but not every day likely. By low stakes, I mean a social setting that is separate and compartmentalized from your main life like family, friend friends, work, school friends, etc., and the gym is a great place in that sense. If you're awkward or not particularly charming in these practices, there are no real consequences and at worst you gained some practice and are slowly overcoming your social anxiety or whatever by exposure. But you really only have something to gain if they enjoy talking to you or you get closer. I've met a lot of people this way.
Otherwise, running groups are good because there are bound to be very attractive women and it's exactly the sort of activity where you can run alongside someone for a while and chat without being distracted, but it's also not weird if you fall into long silences. There's no eye contact necessary (or possible), there's no feeling weird about standing awkwardly or having awkward body language or whatever, because you're running... it's nice that everyone there is just facing the same direction and accepting that everyone else is sweaty and making funny noises, so it's easy to get comfortable with other people and break the ice. Or if you're into calisthenics then you can go to public outdoors workout spots--- they seem very accepting and social. Yoga is also really good in the same way running is, because everyone is doing embarrassing and revealing poses while wearing next to nothing, which is actually a good way to overcome anxiety or awkwardness around the other people. Obv you can't talk during the class but people can and do chat after. Just don't be a creep and noticeably stare at women during the class. Plus as a lifter I highly recommend yoga as a supplement to lifting, it is wonderful for restorative work on joints and muscles
>practice making small talk or making friends in situations that are low-stakes. The gym is actually a great place for this
What do you say?
>Plus as a lifter I highly recommend yoga as a supplement to lifting, it is wonderful for restorative work on joints and muscles
any idea if it's useful for connective tissue too, specifically tendons and ligaments?
golf will make you high quality friends that last for a lifetime
why is this frog image so comfy?
anyways, i agree with this gay
the good news is that golf attracts a wide range/variety of people, many of whom are quite successful in life (you are who you surround yourself with). the bad news is, just like anything, there will be douchebags but especially in golf where the money/power has got to their head
t. worked at a country club for several years and hate myself for never learning to golf
I used to be on a golden path to one day golf with fellow engineers.
All that is over now. It sucks how much I let destri frick me up in life
Destri?
How would you go about golf if you were starting out? Would you just drive your golf cart up to people and ask them to play?
Find a martial arts gym/box. One that does hard sparring, preferably.
Oversocialized American homosexual
Friends friends friends I need friends wahhhhh friends I need so many friends I can't live
Punk ass little b***h
I work from home, lift from home, pretty much dont socialize at all unless I come to realize I haven't seen anyone in a week and should probably have an excuse to try something around other people
Fricking weak b***h
Stop watching sitcoms
what do you do?
I LIFT AND I BATTLE WITH EASTERN EUROPEAN BEAUROCRACY SO THAT I CAN WORK IN THIS ABSILITE SHIT HOLE
I DONT NEED FRIENFS BECAUSE IM NOT A HYPER. SOCIALIZED SITCOM WATCHING LITTLE b***h
>t. insane homosexual who has 0 friends and chooses to cope
Imagine needing friends as an adult
Ngmi
That shit is for hs and college, where basically there's nothing else to do because you're always around people
Grow the frick up you fricking Peter pan homosexual
FRICK YOU HEALTH DEPARTMENT GIVE ME MY FRICKING DRIVERS LOCENSE SO I CAN CONTINIE MY LIFE, THAT I KNOW HOW TO LIVE BETTER THAN ANY OF YOU PATHETHIC GOVERBMENT moronS
Lol homosexual absolutely destroyed by modernity. Continue your atomized existence and die alone, schizo.
>need friends
Wasn't aware I said that. Nice projection.
Strangely enough, since moving out of my home town I've made most of my "friends" via IST.
Was shitposting on IST and some guy noticed I was in his city so I gave him my email, and then he invited me to a group chat with a bunch of other anons in my city.
Apart from that almost everyone else is girls from dating apps, of which there are many.
I'm not good at making male friends
>see someone walking
>start walking next to them
I dont know how to explain this to you,
Friends are a mass media myth
No one had friends in the ancient world, that was for women, who kept up on gossip
Men collaborate in war and productive work they don't have friendships which is an inherently feminine concept that is being pushed by nefarious forces to weaken the collective body
I'm not happy with my life.
It's empty.
I have a software engineer work from home job.
I go to the gym and lift daily, this in nice.
And that's it.
I don't have social life, I don't have hobbies, I don't like watching movies, I never had sex, I can't talk to women.
What am I supposed to do?
Kill myself?
Fly to like Brazil and get wasted and bang some hoes
Ez fix next question
I'm also a software engineer that works from home and works out at home. Going on trips is generally the best way to cope I've found.
Go to a new city/country and go sight seeing etc and dress sharp, talk to attractive women you see in the day, go to the clubs, get good pictures taken and try dating apps, also if going to somewhere escorts are legal I'd do that before going to the clubs just to loosen up and if all goes well you meet a girl you just hangout with during the trip and maybe keep in contact with. Else you just stick with the escorts. If low on money go to SEA, maybe South America, otherwise Spain/Germany/Eastern Europe
Whatever you find interesting dive into during your spare time. I like crypto so I'll code projects related to that for fun sometimes and I run a few accounts on social media where I just shitpost making money with others autists.
Besides that videogames can be fun to play alone or with a group online maybe on weekends.
I tried bjj a few months but it felt just so gay. I wish boxing was more popular. There's so boxing near me but when I go on trips usually I'll scout for somewhere with a week or two week trial and use it up while I'm there.
Go join a martial arts club. Bjj attracts nerds and tech bros, maybe you'll find some friends with common interests.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Laelius_de_Amicitia
https://ndpr.nd.edu/reviews/aristotle-and-the-philosophy-of-friendship/
http://wiki.epicurism.info/Friendship/
>flagrantly lying about ancient male views of friendship
Either a demoralization glowie or an ignorant useful idiot.
Bump. I made a similar thread but this seems like the better one.
>0 suggestions
It's over, isn't it?