I literally lay in bed for hours ruminating on every cringe encounter I had in my life and beating myself up over it. It's so fucking over my cringe attacks are now killing my gains and health
I cannot sleep at night
I literally lay in bed for hours ruminating on every cringe encounter I had in my life and beating myself up over it. It's so fucking over my cringe attacks are now killing my gains and health
>can't sleep because of hunger
Just at night? I ruminate and analyze every single wrong micro movement I did my entire life 24/7. I'm crippled with cringe all day non stop
Actually same but I can cope with the daytime cringe, I can't handle sleeplessness
I try to go to bed early but it always fails, because I end up ruminating on everything I said or done. Not taking supps, not diagnosed with depression only social anxiety. 25 years old
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I am sedentary most of the day because im a wfh wagie. I used to run and lift but because of the recent lethargy due to sleeplessness I can barely wake up in the morning. I have slowly tried to implement a workout routine with dumbbells at home to get out of this rut but just started yesterday
Some things are chicken and egg type cycles that'd are hard to get out of. Like having less energy because you're too sedentary, so you don't workout, which would actually boost your mood and make you feel more energised in the long run.
Another thing you can try is a brain dump in the evening. Just get a pen and paper or a plain word doc and just write everything that's on your mind. Don't worry much about mistakes or logical flow just get whatever's worrying you or on your mind onto the page.
i'll repeat
>when do you go to sleep
>take any supplements or not
>do you have diagnosed depression / some other condition
HOW DO WE FIX THIS BRO? I AM DYING. MY LIFE IS FUCKED FROM ANXIETY AAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
give more info
when do you go to sleep
take any supplements or not
do you have diagnosed depression / ome other condition
Ahhahahhaha how anxiety is even real hahahah bro just stop thinking negative thoughts just think nice ones dumb ass bitch
What's your daily routine?
Do you workout during the day, are you sedentary, do you read or meditate? And what have you tried so far?
What is that cute lil fucker?
Looks like a penguin shedding its juvenile plumage.
lil bro bussin lookin fresh af fr
but you seem to be coping well, im not feeling good also i dont have any other options
Go exercise. If you do that enough you won't have the energy to think about stuff.
One time when i was in school i faked a panic attack just to get attention. Another time i was making fun of something and immediatelly got called out off doing the same thing and the whole class laughed at my expense. I think the cringe situations you go trough the less you care
>the most cringe
I have almost zero anxiety, because I see the majority of society to be subhuman losers who are so beneath me it means nothing to me if I'm perceived weirdly by then. You fucking animals are pathetic.
ohh this fuckin moron ass piece of cocksuckin gay ass retarded little shit excuse for a god damn keyboard, can't fuckin figure out when to leave my fuckin words alone now? fuckin thing is designed for shitskins who talk like apes, god damn it. fuck this bullshit, bitch.
Unfortunate. I’ve started working out at 6:30 am and it makes me feel good for the rest of the day
see a therapist
this
they can give you tools and exercises that are a little bit more helpful than "just don't think about it lol"
>in college
>late to class one day
>only seat open is next to this short cute girl I've been checking out
>she's 5'4, blond with very pale skin and green eyes, petite with perky boobas
>sit next to her
>she drops her pen and it rolls down the floor
>get up and get it for her
>hand it back with a smile and firm eye contact
>eye contact lingers, she smiles back and then looks down meekly
>realize she's super shy because I've never seen her talk to anyone
>we just sit quietly during class and then when class ends, we leave without interacting
>next class, I sit in my usual spot
>she comes to sit next to me despite tons of open seats
>don't say anything or even make eye contact
>we do this for 6 months, I look forward to it every time
>never say anything but feel like ONE DAY I will finally say "hi" and we will start talking
>decide to skip class once and go home early
>get on the bus in front of campus - there is nobody else on it
>go all the way to the back and sit down as the bus idles
>see her get on
>we make eye contact for 0.05 seconds and then I look away quickly
>she comes all the way to the back and sits RIGHT across from me without a word
>bus starts moving - we're the only 2 passengers
>I stare out the window with my mind racing
>she is forcing my hand, there is no way I can't talk to her now
>5 minutes go by, is it too late?
>bus goes under an overpass and we make eye contact through the window reflection
>I quickly look down and then back out the window when the light is back
>realize it's too late
>feel my heart sinking as I realize I'm living through a moment I will regret for the rest of my life
>brain is screaming NOOO SAY SOMETHING gay!!!!!!!
>can't do it
>my stop comes
>fumble out of the seat awkwardly staring every direction but hers
after this, she never sat near me or looked in my direction ever again
this was 15 years ago
Good.
Holy shit, imagine what kind of beautiful relationship you could have had
Then again, it could have ruined your life and you would be much worse off than you are now. You never know
Truly sad. I had a lot of stupid situations like this as a teen and adolescent. I feel you, but more importantly, have you changed? You could look her up you know
>I literally lay in bed for hours ruminating on every cringe encounter I had in my life and beating myself up over it.
Have you tried not doing that? No, I am fucking serious. You have to take control of your thoughts. Don't be their fucking slave you pussy. You have to realize that when you go to bed SLEEP is the #1 priority. Nothing else matters. Let your mind deal with all the bullshit when you are asleep, that's what this rest period is for. These day, when I get an unpleasent thought I just tell myself: "No, I don't want to think about that right now. Now is not the time." and it just disappears.
Kek enjoy your breakdown beating people on a berserk rage or crying like a bitch out of the blue
You still process most of it in your sleep and there is always time to deal with problems and emotions, it's just not when you are trying to sleep.
It's not healthy or cathartic to stay awake nights thinking about shit that happened in high school.
Only lay down when you are ready to sleep, get exercise, and eat at the same time every day. You will feel tired and fall asleep at the same time every day.
I create a fantasy universe in my head and when it's time to sleep i think about it an expand the lore and history and the narrative, works really well for me.
I often catch myself ruminating and make the decision to instead to think about the culture and history of an alien species in my fantasy, puts me to sleep like that.
Sounds pretty lame but i used to have the same problem and don't anymore, it's my equivalent of counting sheep.
I do this but in the universe i have a beautiful wife and a family who loves me deeply and i create scenarios full of happyness with them
I do this.
Wouldn't recommend. Everytime you indulge in this you put the dream further apart from reality.
This is literally me. I can't sleep at night until I fap. I got used to it since i was a teenager. I've been struggling on nofap. Even after a full day's worth of school, going to the gym and doing hw til midnight I didn't fall asleep til 2am after I cave in and fapped. Anyone here managed to solve this problem? Should I see a specialist?
I miss my bpd ex so much is unreal bros, it’s to the point of I sleep at 6 in the morning and think of everything we had together. She wanted me back for so long but I said no because it was a crazy relationship but now that off the rollercoaster I’m having a major depressive episode. I’m waiting for my parents to die then I’ll prolly kys. The good thing is that I made gains during the break up
Are you literally me? My only problem is that my mom is the healthiest person I've ever met and people in our family tend to live long anyway. I'm looking at about another 30 years and right now every day feels like it could be the last
How old are you?
im 30. i loved her so much she did everything for me but she talked to another guy when we were dating and i had to break it off. the other guy also shit talked me and i have beef with him now although i mog him. i blocked the ex and she was calling me from other numbers everyday.
what makes the honey is their energy i think, they bring so much joy and pain to your life that it becomes addictive, when i benched 100kg for the 1st time single i was euphoric. after i met her and benched 120kg i didn't feel anything because i only had joy from her. even money dont matter anymore. also i lost all my productivity since brekaing up but im a beta sensitive guy, i was always like this
Literally me
My bpd ex was a 10/10 too. I heard she got into drugs so that’s probably not true anymore
Same. Last I saw she started smoking cigarettes, so I give her another year before crashing into the wall at mach10
>Bpd
What makes those girls like honey and you're a fly?
Go for some brutal night runs. It'll work itself out.
Reminder that this behavior stems from narcissism. You shouldn't care this much that you farted in front is Stacey in 2007, but since your value your image so much it still pains you to this day. Get over yourself. Be cringe. Everyone is. Stop thinking you're a hotshot that shouldn't be embarrassing.
This.
Everybody does embarrassing shit, but some ruminate on the past and let it fuck with the present.
Literally just stop caring. That's all you have to do.
Digits of wisdom.
But how does one actually stop caring? I know rationally that it shouldn't bother me, but that still doesn't change the fact how I feel and I still feel like every mistake I made is like a life threatening mistake.
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Experience. Get off IST and go outside. The problem with IST and the internet in general is that you're not vulnerable. You can exit any conversation at any time cringe-free. Now you rely on the internet for easy social interactions instead of going outside and getting experience with being cringe.
I am outside, regularly. That's exactly where these problems happen. I cringe at myself even with the most basic grocery store clerk interaction, even though I'm perfectly aware that person forgot about my entire existence in like 5 seconds after I left the store.
>If you know rationally it doesn't matter then you should be able to understand emotionally
Those two things seem in disconnected with me. I can know rationally that no one cares, but that won't stop my heart from pumping like crazy just for touching the door knob to enter my workplace nearly every day again and again.
Now you've got to tell yourself that it doesn't matter. You still think it's a big deal. When you are physically reacting, that is when you need to use your mind and calm yourself down. Don't let your emotions run wild and dictate eveything. You aren't hysterical. Nobody is going to change instantaneously. You need to work on it.
>that is when you need to use your mind and calm yourself down.
That's all I do. And in most cases I manage to calm myself down, I am fairly functional at least from the outside. But the cycle goes again and again every day.
Guess I don't know how to help ya then, bud. Good luck with it.
If you know rationally it doesn't matter then you should be able to understand emotionally that it doesn't matter. You take yourself too seriously. You laugh at others for making a misstep, learn to laugh at yourself.
During Christmas I hung out with an ex I haven't seen in over a decade and we hit it off. New Years I got incredibly drunk texting her absurd, dumb, crazy shit and had to apologize the next day. She said it happens and didn't care. I, however, let it eat me up for a couple days because I was so worried. She didn't ghost me and we still talk. I think back how dumb it was of me but I can't let it drag me down to hell forever.
This is a pretty good sign you aren't exercising intensely enough.
Depression and anxiety here. Here's how I solved my decade long rumination induced insomnia (before diagnosis):
Melatonin 2mg, 30 min before bedtime
Hours and hours of interesting podcasts
At best you sleep, lose track with the podcast and realize sleep episodes can go unnoticed (as one wakes up like one falls asleep, i.e. ruminating), at worse you learn interesting things. For me it's interesting things, for some it's stories, pick your poison.
Have experience with something like this.
A therapist diagnosed me as probably being depressed since I was ~12, this was when I was 28. So yeah.
There's a bunch of other advice that seems like it'd work. But what really helped me was having a goal that I could push towards. It was really rocky, and it took years. Having a goal helps clarify what is and isn't important. You ruminating is your mind reminding you of things you can fix. They matter, otherwise you wouldn't be thinking about them. But some of them don't matter that much, and until you set your sights on a goal and let that guide you, you have no idea which ones are and aren't important. You have a goal important enough and then that motivates you to also deal with problems like ruminating. You can fix your shit, to some extent, slowly, if you really try. And then you won't have reasons (or maybe even time) to ruminate.
Not him but he could very well process negative emotions the way BPD people do. I do. I inappropriately feel deep shame instead of mild embarrassment, for instance. Having goals didn't change anything to it. On the contrary, I still didn't recover from failing to reach them a few years ago.
They were not really yours and you rated ruminating over irrelevant things more preferable to setting your goals
Today's goal is to go through day to day life and not kms. So far I succeeded, life is so much better woohoo.
Unironically, this. Started two weeks ago,
and I'm only plagued by my own retardation for 20% of the waking day
I have the same problem, I think is complex ptsd + heavy anxiety + avoidant personality disorder
you are me
learn to forgive your cringe
you did the best you could at the time
If you don't make mistakes, you don't grow as a human. What is important is learning from them so you aren't going through life repeating the same mistakes over and over. Once you've learned, do not dwell on the past. It is fruitless.
look towards (not at) the sun for 5 minutes in the morning and evening, preferably when the sun is at it's lowest in the sky. it sounds woo-woo but it really helped me fall asleep faster at night
Hey OP I experienced the exact same thing when I was coping with my ex gf breaking up with me. Did the following for a week and my sleep was fixed
>journaling
This was the single most important thing I did. Every night before sleeping, I would write down everything on my mind on a notepad. Completely eliminates the angst and existential dread that kept me from sleeping
>phone off and away from reach
Before journaling
>ice baths
This may sound counter intuitive, but after tensing up in the bath, I felt much more relaxed. I filled the bath with freezing cold water, dipped myself inside for a full minute, warmed up for a minute, and repeat. Should also give good T gains.
>play classical music
While journalling
>Same alarm every morning
Build a regimented schedule
This worked for me, good luck anon, WAGMI
Unironically pic related
how do you have a good sleep (and life) routine when you work shift job? it's a fucking nightmare bros. One week of waking up at around 4am to be on time for 5am when my shift starts, the other I work until 10pm, and I'm home at like 10:45pm. I constantly sleep too little, have fragmented sleep because i wake up anxiously thinking it's time to get up, only to check the clock and see that only one hour had passed and I'm laying there awake unable to fall back asleep. Sometimes when I have eatly shift I try to sleep after work to catch up but that fucks my routine even more. I am constantly tired and sleepy to do anything, can't focus on anything, I miss workouts,etc. Any advices?
Nothing. Try getting out of their. Whatever money you are making isn't worth it.